1st!

1st?

he is such a cutie but damn never knew he had acne on his forhead like dat i thought your dad diddy do proactive try getting some from him.

silver….

awwwwwwwwwwwww dayum….2nd then! lol

I guess he told his pops how he felt Nite and Day…

Nite and Day…

That boy has NONE of his mother’s features. He is Al B.’s son, through and through.

LOL @ Just Sayin

I thought Al B was involved in this boys life.

He didn’t write this ish! Diddy did

good luck to him…the first step to solving a problem is recognizing it…he had a problem with no dad, so since he has recognized it, he can hopefully be a great dad when it’s his turn and make a career for himself AND HOPEFULLY DIDDY WILL NOT BE HIS MANAGER!!

Why don’t shiddy share his pro-actin (or what ever dat ish is called) with dude.

Hi he get razor bumps on his forehead.

Ohhh dis love is NOT so good.

What a wonderful young man he’s turned out to be. One thing to hold on too for everyone who’s w/o their father. There is a Father in Heaven who loves you!!

negro plz!!
kid just ventin’
still gotta top nite and day album
diddy got him on that battery…

This kid is clearly the best thing Al B ever did. Go claim your son.

LOL @Just Sayin You crazy fo real man, crazy fo real LMBAO.

Dem is heat bumps on his forehead.

This boy poured his heart out over what so many of our young people are going through in the black community, absence of their fathers, and all you can focus on is the acne on his forehead? You’re trife. He seems to be an articulate, grounded young man who knows where he’s going despite his circumstance.

A damn shame..

It’s good that he had a father in Puff. As far as Al B., that’s a damn shame. I wonder what his response is going to be to this? No matter what he does, it’s not going to make up for what he hasn’t done.

Yeah, he needs to talk to Jessica Simpson about Proactiv, that’s a damn shame on his forehead.

He got a uni-brow

Wow. . .I thought Al B. had a closer relationship with his son. Sad. Boys (and girls) need their fathers.

LOL @ Just Sayin

You know that was Christopher Williams (Al B’s twin) in New Jack City, right?

“Scotty Appleton: I wanna shoot you so bad, my d**k’s hard!”

I can see Ice-T saying that now! Oh, and Chris Rock had some classic one-liners, too (“it just keeps calling me”) and Vanessa Williams (not the Miss America/Soul Food one — “Rock-a-bye, baby”).

Quincy is the splitting image of his father — down to the unibrow.

Yeah, he needs to talk to Jessica Simpson about Proactiv, that’s a damn shame on his forehead.
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He can just go to Diddy for that

What circumstance is he going thru? His biological daddy is a deadbeat, but Diddy has stepped in his words, and got his back. So I hardly think dis youngin here is suffering but so much, and he is gettin to pursue his dreams, based on dis wack azz track dat keep playin everytime ya click on dis post.

He looks just like his Daddy…

It’s a damn shame when Diddy is a better father than you Al. Be a man and make a public overture to your child.

oh wow! as much as i can’t stand diddy he’s doing right by this young man when his bio-father can’t be bothered. this song is good and his style is waaaayyy better than a lot of this crap we hear on the radio. too bad some of you mo fo’s can only be concerned with the temporary acne on this young man’s forehead.

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Just Sayin

I guess he told his pops how he felt Nite and Day…

Nite and Day…
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Hilarious…

SMH@ Diddy being his father figure. That may cause problems later on in life…

To Be Continued…

Great song keep your head up

@ Sydney

Quincy is the splitting image of his father — down to the unibrow.

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LOL I was just about to comment on the unibrow.

How’s it going Miss Lady?

He’s a great writer, that’s for sure! I can appreciate the fact that he can string together a series of words into a sentence that portrays his thoughts and feelings without sounding like a damn idiot. Education is key, folks!

Yeah, it’s about time somebody busted the Black men that are abandoning their children. And who better to put them on blast then their off springs. I hope all of the children start putting these men on blast. It’s horrible how Black men walk off and leave their children. Other cultures of men do it too, but I’m not concerned about them, I’m concerned about our young Black boys and girls growing up without a father ushering them into adulthood. A lot of the problems within the Black community stems from the absence of the Black man. Any man could step in and be a role model, grandfathers, uncles, friends, etc. but no one rarely does, at least not on a grand scale the way it should be. There are PLENTY of single fathers who are doing the darn thing, but still there’s way too many young men and women without fathers. It’s really f’d up. I don’t care for Diddy, but if he stepped up, manned up and gave this young man the love, care, hugs, and guidance required to become a young man, I love him for that. Al B Sure, I don’t know what you’re going through, but nothing is bad enough to keep you from your son. Even if you and the mother didn’t get along. I know women can be extremely bitter and angry and make it impossible for a man to have a relationship with his children, but in those cases, you should take that foolishness to court. And women, get over your anger and bitterness and allow the men to be a part of their children’s lives. Some women are so busy being angry, that they don’t realize it’s not about them, it’s about insuring the children have a mother and father who loves them especially for our sons because they have a hard rode in this country.

@me (the original)

Hi Miss Lady! I’m fine, how are you?

Quick piece of useless trivial — Diddy is the only man who did an ad for Proactiv, right? I remember that commercial he did with Vanessa Williams, I think. He talked about keeping his skin pretty and smooth, lol.

@ Shay

Thank you Shay u said it!!! How ignorant we are that this child is pouring out his heart and all we can do is speak on his skin condition or what Diddy does in the bedroom.(we r sic ppl) My son is going thru this right now so I can relate ! I can only hope my son will be this mature when he gets to his age!

@ Manhattan, I SAID THE SAME THING TO MYSELF-LOL

Has his mother ever been married? What the hell was this woman thinking? She didnt learn after the first one. Stop popping out babies with men you arent married to. These kids neeed fathers so it makes sense to find one. And no that doesnt include some dude that visits on the weekend.

So deep; but also true, not just for him a lot of our men feel this way!

Kim was in love with some Al B cause she gave her heart and her genes to this one here…

Yeah Glok look like he would get da bend over and spread treatment in da joint and not put up much resistance. Take dat, take dat, TAKE dat LOL.

@ Sydney™

Wow. . .I thought Al B. had a closer relationship with his son. Sad. Boys (and girls) need their fathers.

LOL @ Just Sayin

You know that was Christopher Williams (Al B’s twin) in New Jack City, right?

“Scotty Appleton: I wanna shoot you so bad, my d**k’s hard!”

I can see Ice-T saying that now! Oh, and Chris Rock had some classic one-liners, too (”it just keeps calling me”) and Vanessa Williams (not the Miss America/Soul Food one — “Rock-a-bye, baby”).

Quincy is the splitting image of his father — down to the unibrow.
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Unibrow…

How did I miss dat?

@Reign,

Sorry dear but before you talking about Black men abadoning their father why not talk first about black females abadoning having kids in a marriage? You females need to stop making children so causally. Establish a home first then have children.

why did he bring up Barack Obama? lol

@MArquis de Sade,

Thank you. I swear black females make babies like stray dogs.

Spay and neuter your pets.

@ Kigali (I Love Stay-at-Home Wife/Mothers

it takes two… it takes a unmarried man, to impregnate an unmarried women.. so comeone.. don’t put allthe blame on women.

wow. i can relate. (i guess you have to give kudos to diddy)

@ Sydney

Alright..just relaxing a bit before I go get pounded on by a bunch of 5 and 6 year olds still on a sugar rush from Easter LOL.

And yeah, I remember that commercial now!! You’d think he’d have given young Quincey here a tube or ten of the stuff!!!

Al B. Diddy ROFL

KILUGLY!
NOBODY NOT TRYING TO FUK YOU NOT EVEN YOUR DOG DUKE….. BYTCH, GO NEUTER YOUR MOTHA BYTCH !!

Yes, he does have Diddy as a father figure But, I myself can attest that although I had a stepfather in my dad’s place, there is just something about the love of your real father, to this day, I love my real father more than anything although he wasnt there, so now when he shows up for Birthdays and Xmas with these awesome gifts (guess making up for lost time)..All i do is TAKE DAT TAKE DAT!!And say. Thats MY daddy.

@Strange Program

You can put the song on mute if you don’t want it to hear it when you refresh.

I think Al Roker did a recent documentary on the importance of fatherhood, and it’s an issue that some prominent black men have addressed recently. Ed Gordon (he has a daughter), formerly of BET, has a site daddyspromise.com, which is directed towards fathers and their daughters. And I’ve heard of the “daddy hunger” that a number of fatherless kids feel. While Quincy was fortunate to have a prominent male figure in his life, a lot of kids don’t, and it can be very painful.

SMDH.. that letter is powerful. and hopefully it’ll help many thats living with that type sh!t.. AND whoeva mentioned the acne will no doubt have kids wit no dad or have no dad of their own. There’s nothing wrong with having a lil empathy.

@me (the original)

Yeah, I saw footage of the Easter egg roll yesterday at the W.H., and the kids were adorable.

I remember that Diddy commercial, lol.

i saw a show on UNIVISION yesterday while flipping channels.. it was a show for dudes.. it showed them how to handle a baby and how to feed and all kinds of good tips.. let’s educate more and critize less. That letter articulates some vicious feelings. dont be on the recieving end.

@ kigali

lol.. ur always on top of that sh!t !!!! i always tell my gf.. stop defending what u didnt know and what u thought u could do and take note of sum solutions. SMFH

@ Sydney Yes, yes mute has been utilized for dis dribble here. You like the song, seriously? Sydney, I can tell you a deep thinker, not that theres anything wrong wid dat.

AND whoeva mentioned the acne will no doubt have kids wit no dad or have no dad of their own

@ MY BAAD So you wish dadlessness on tho’s teasing bout his connect four forehead, thanks for the well wishes on behalf of all of those who are’nt empathetic souls like yaself

Awww Damn another dead beat! He’s the spitting image of Al B. Sure too…

When my biological didnt bother

@MY BAAD,

I dont know why females dont make the connection between the kinds of men they get pregnant by and the kind of father he may be. Female just set themselves up for failure. You want the best outcome, find the best man.

@ Jai

I think Quincey is old enough to know (or would know) if something was going on to prevent his father from seeing him. He’s not a child anymore.

@Strange Program

I had to put the song on mute, but, yes, I like that he was able to put some very painful emotions down on paper and set them to music. I think divulging feelings about situations that cause us pain is probably one of the hardest things a person will ever do. You can tell he put a lot of time and thought into his writing, and he’s clearly a young man with a lot of promise. He’s certainly not alone with what he’s been able to overcome, and I think his words will touch other kids in similar situations. It’s brave of him to open himself publicly like this, and very mature.

I think kids should express themselves in positive ways as much as possible, whether it’s through words, music, art, etc. In order to deal with pain, you have to air it.

@M-Daddy

When I date back I recall a man off the family tree
My right hand Poppa Doc I see
Took me from a boy to a man so I always had a father
When my biological didn’t bother
Taking care of this so who am I to bicker
Not a bad ticker but I’m clocking pop’s liver
But you can never say that his life is through
5 kids at 21 believe he got a right too

One.Of.The.Best.90′s.Hip.Hop.Songs.Ever.

No question.

my question is:

***HOW WILL CHANCE COMBS (diddy’s atlanta baby you never see him with)FEEL ABOUT DIDDY NOT BEING IN HER LIFE????

Kigali (I Love Stay-at-Home Wife/Mothers)

@MY BAAD,

I dont know why females dont make the connection between the kinds of men they get pregnant by and the kind of father he may be. Female just set themselves up for failure. You want the best outcome, find the best man.

That’s the problem with most of these black females today – THEY WANT BIGGIE OR TUPAC WITH A COLLEGE DEGREE, BUT IN REALITY, THAT’S AKIN TO TRYING TO FIND THE ELUSIVE DODO BIRD – IT DOESN’T EXIST!

POIGNANT LETTER BUT SAY IT AINT SO AL B. SURE!

THE KID IS GONNA BE F*CKED UP IN THE HEAD BEING RAISED BY TWO WOMEN….KIM PORTER & SHITTY DIDDY

Awwww that’s cute its gd he spoke up bout it
i hope daddy takes an interest.

I think Diddy is reason behind Al B not coming around and so is the letter.

what a well written-insightful piece. amazingly enough, this is a testament to the parents that HAVE been in his life… i’m impressed. shocked, really. i thought kim and sean would f-up anyone they came cross.

Wow. That’s horrible. I’m VERY disappointed in Al B. I guess he just a father on MySpace.

@Strange Program

No offense, brother, but I don’t think the song was meant for you groove to, if you catch my drift. It’s for him to air out some emotions, and that doesn’t make him “soft” at all. It’s how you become stronger.

@pm,

Its why I feel very sorry for black females. I honestly believe they use these children they have in a last ditch effort to mean something to these men. They will never get a real commitment out of them so they settle for being the baby mama. I cant be his wife so I will be his baby mama. That must be so hurtful.

*for you to groove to*

@ strange prog

@ MY BAAD So you wish dadlessness on tho’s teasing bout his connect four forehead, thanks for the well wishes on behalf of all of those who are’nt empathetic souls like yaself
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wishing dadlessness??? never!!.. i c u must b one of those aforementioned. either ur too young to understand this boys plight or u have bastard kids or u are one. simple as that. i get it. ur on joketime but this is a serious issue. show empathy for others or expect no empathy for urself and ur cause.

how can some people be so damn stupid…this young man is dicussing the shame of most black fathers in this country….and some of you fools talking about acne…some black folks are so stupid..and yes i am black

A whole lot of folks typing like they really know. However, as in most cases there are three sides to every story and I’m quite sure Al B. would have some interesting insights into the why and how of his childs story.

But he’s probably unlike many of these “celebrities” today and don’t want to out his momma like that.

This, as well as countless other stories today, highlights the fact that prior to making babies folks should be firmly into MARRIAGE! Not saying they all last, but on the whole, children born to married couples tend to do better in life and have better mental stability vs. single mother raised children.

At this point, the proof of this is undeniable…

ps.. i havent heard the song. but its all fun and jokes until u get ur song and letter for deadbeat dadness.

First of all, you should never put anything like that in writing. YOU CAN NEVER TAKE IT BACK. Sounds like this should have been a personal conversation he should have had instead of putting it out there for the world to see. I’m sure on day, he’ll regret it, especially the day his father dies (or the day Diddy dies) and he’s consoled by his bio-father. Anyways, there are 2 sides to every story, in Al B. Sure’s defense, I hope it wasn’t bitterness that lead Kim to keeping her son away from him. You never know.

@ Sydney Yeah aite, he not trying to maybe see how dis song goes over to da masses, to pave da road for other music ventures?? He only doin it to get out his true feelings and emotions…UMMM HMM if you say so. Have you ever been called shockingly naive?

@ dragged into this

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!! thats chris williams!!!!!!!! all that sarcasm down the drain. lol

wow… well at least he had a father figure in Diddy..

@ mr davis

a letter gives the boy time to collect his thoughts into an understandable format. to have a convo in person would be putting everyone on the spot. i think a letter not only gives the boy time to collect his thoughts but it will give al B time to collect his as well. Now AL B, should surely have the convo in person.

as a father of a 16 year old girl, there is nothing short of physical DEATH that would keep me from seeing her and being a part of her life..no matter who was in the way trying to prevent it, I would always make a way to talk or see her. I know mom’s can be stubborn and othet things at times, but the fact is even that could not stop me from being in her life..truly fellas, there are no EXCUSES aside from death, to not see and spend time with your child. when you do not, songs like the young man made to his father, will be made about you..

@Strange Program

“Yeah aite, he not trying to maybe see how dis song goes over to da masses, to pave da road for other music ventures?? He only doin it to get out his true feelings and emotions…UMMM HMM if you say so.”

I’m saying that I think there’s a deeper meaning to the song, other than bringing people to the dance floor. It’s very personal.

“Have you ever been called shockingly naive?”

I’ve been called “sheltered” — Is that the same thing?

Wow, that letter touched me…esp. the last paragraph. I really understand where he is coming from since I didn’t have a father in my life, that messed me up in so many ways including my relationship with men. Anyways, thats beautiful how Diddy took him as his own and Diddy says he has six kids (counting Quincy) so atleast he had a father figure. Only thing I like about Diddy, hes seem like he is a great father.

@ Kigali

Yep it’s been said thousands of times by many “outside” groups (who of course quietly support non-marriage amongst Blacks) that the biggest impediment to Black people has been the aversion and marginalization of the institution of marriage.

Many have convinced themselves through self supporting rationalizations such as “I don’t need no man” and “Well I grew up without a Father so my kids won’t need me”, that living life in this manner is somehow acceptable.

It’s a very one sided outlook and is supported by the abysmal statictics that speak to the volumes of Black children being born into “families” without Fathers… Yet many STILL to this day belive this is somehow OK!

Many will point to the few examples of folks who came out of these environments and gained some measure of success, but contrast against the whole, these people are the exception and not the rule…

@ stranger prog

touchy touchy??!!! u r quite the point spinner. i c u showing that empathy, REGARDLESS if u had to make me into the bad guy to do it. congrats!! BTW i didnt c u intially mention the acne. Howev, empathy was all that was neccesary. Q thx u

Hey Every body

@ MY BAAD Da above was not for you. I’m new to dese parts in a way and I see name calling is how alot of folk get down on here, when somebody disagree wid dere view. Have not noticed you doing that, not that you care one way or the other, but I cared enuff to let ya know anyway. EMPATHY rite?:)

hey JB!!

@ strange prog

thx for the clarity .. i got u.. and i do care that im not seen as a name caller. EMPATHY IT IS!!

@ Sydney Yes, dats pretty much da same thing. My sister is sheltered and always looking at da brite sunny side like you appear too. I aint mad at my sis or you, good to know such trusting souls are around:)

I love his song…. and Al.B Sure u should feel real stupid…. As much as I hate Didy I have to give home props for takin care of another mans child like his own… I hate to say it but that shows a real man.

Ohh and Quincy’s sweet 16 was off the freakin hook…… Diddy made it rain and thunder up in that butch lmao….

@Just Saying……WAY TOO MUCH TIME ON YOUR HANDS!

FOR MY OTHER BROTHERS ON THIS SITE….IT’S NOT TOO LATE. STAND UP AND BE A FATHER! AND FOR THE LADIES….IF U ARE WITH A MAN WHO IS NOT DOING RIGHT BY THERE KIDS, YOU ARE TO BLAME ALSO. NO EXCUSES…..STAND UP BLACK MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ strange program

u gotta separate the “?” from “:)” thats whats stoppin ur smiley.

@ anonymous

co-sign (my 1st today)

@ Anon Just want to let it be known its a new day in alot of ways, and dats not a good thing. Moms aint what dey used to be. Plenty of men are raising dere kids without da mothers emotional or financial involvement/support. If ya dont know NOW ya know.

@Strange Program

“My sister is sheltered and always looking at da brite sunny side like you appear too.”

LOL, what happened to you?

@MY BAAD Gotcha. Good Look:)

I meant

lol

@Ms. Davis:
CO-SIGN 100%
Al B. Sure is a f*ck up, but this is a letter that should have been sent, marked personal and confidential.

oh well.. I hope this letter helps them work it out. Resolution mofo’s. RESOLUTION!!!!!!!

@ Glok9n: The real glok !!!

can you please die……….pleeeeeease, for me.

LETS HAVE A PITY PARTY FOR ALL THE FATHERLESS BASTARDS THAT POST HERE~!

@KIGALI…I DON’T HERE QUINCY COMPLAINING ABOUT HIS MOTHER….HE COMPLAINING ABOUT HIS FATHER. YOU ARE RIGHT, KIM HAS MADE SOME BAD DECISIONS BUT I BET SHE IS ALWAYS THERE FOR HER SON AND OTHER CHILDREN! WHAT MEN DON’T REALIZE, IT DOESN’T MATTER ABOUT THE WOMEN, IT DOESN’T MATTER WHETHER YOU LIKE HER OR NOT……IT IS ABOUT THE CHILD. IF YOU DIDN’T WANT TO BE A DADDY THEN “WRAP IT UP”!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Al outta write back

Dear Diddy’s son, get some ProActiv. Take care. Al

Well written indeed. U don’t need maury 2 tell u that’s clearly al b.sure’s kid. Leave his acne alone guys, he’s going through some things.

attention grown ups: he’s a kid, he’s supposed to have acne.

Wow well said

@THAT ONE GOIRL, IS THAT WHY YOU HAVE BALD TEMPLES? ARE YOU GOIN THRU SOME THANGS?

@pm,

Its why I feel very sorry for black females. I honestly believe they use these children they have in a last ditch effort to mean something to these men. They will never get a real commitment out of them so they settle for being the baby mama. I cant be his wife so I will be his baby mama. That must be so hurtful.
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So feeling sorry is equated to downgrading women. Do you ever, have you ever just went to a school or a community center or talk to your kids friends (I remember you saying you had kids and that your husband wouldn’t let them dress in skinny jeans) about having sex? Do you sit down with them and degrade women the way you do on here?

Also you knock Kim down for her choices, but I have not seen you say anything negatvie on here about Nicole Richie (two kids out of wedlock), or what about Solange who married her son’s father only to end in divorce, or better yet Madonna who is trying to adopt a child even though she is divorced mother with three kids who by the way had Lourdes out of wedlock? Or will you not say anything about them because they are: 1) White, 2) Have money, 3) Celebrities who have such good morales including premartial sex, drug use, just to name a few.

Well no Diddy isn’t the best role model but Quincy has been around him since he was probably a new born so Diddy is all he knows. And his mom Kim didn’t want to be lonely. Any way, just because Quincy looks like Al B. doesn’t mean that when he spawns kids they will look like Quincy those kids will looks just like those fast little heifers a xerox copy, lol…

Oh I forgor one thing to go with what I said earlier. Kim has stayed with Diddy throughout everything. And She is just as wealthy as any celebrity thanks in part to the child support that diddy is paying her for her kids.

And when youa re gettingon her, get on Diddy himself for making babies with Mika, Misha what ever her name is, Kim and the secret baby Chance that is no longer a secret. Tell men to stop playing games like Jody and grow the hell up. If you want no babies, wear a rubber.

@ jb_1030 (Says what straight man wears gold sneakers? Ask Day 26!)

Oh I forgor one thing to go with what I said earlier. Kim has stayed with Diddy throughout everything. And She is just as wealthy as any celebrity thanks in part to the child support that diddy is paying her for her kids.

And when youa re gettingon her, get on Diddy himself for making babies with Mika, Misha what ever her name is, Kim and the secret baby Chance that is no longer a secret. Tell men to stop playing games like Jody and grow the hell up. If you want no babies, wear a rubber.

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COSIGN

Tears that was super sad Al B Damn! Al be Sure not to be a dad!

HE NEED A FATHER TO TELL HIM “SON RAPPIN IS NOT FOR YOU”.

SMH and *tear*. So sad. Lil Al B going to be just fine!
His father will regret this! This almost made me cry real talk.

Misa, Justin’s mom!

Vahlon

Misa, Justin’s mom!

THanks, couldn’t remember her $35,000 a month child support name

I’m absolutely amazed that here is a young man pouring out his heart to you – and he didn’t have to – and all you can think of is his forehead – trifling. I mean really, is the fact that he has acne really important in the scheme of things?

all i can saw is WOW

WOW. I LOVE THIS THANKS SOOOOOOOO MUCH. WHOA WOW YOU SAID ALOT. YOUR MOTHER DID A GREAT JOB. YOU ARE A GOOD MAN. NO THANKS TO DAD.

DIddy Role MOdel PLAYA EEZE!
Now say it slow PLA LEEEZE!

DEEP!!!
HOPE THEY PLAY THIS ON FATHER’S DAY FOR THE DEAT BEAT DADS.

Al B Sure should be embarassed

@ Kigali (I Love Stay-at-Home Wife/Mothers) – I agree with you. It does take two to make a baby, but this IS the womans body and they are going to be the ones carrying it. They need to be more responsible about who they lay with.

Additionally, I can’t remember who made the comment earlier about it being mean calling kids bastards out of wedlock but the simple fact is it’s the TRUTH. Back in the day, it was shameful to have a kid in those conditions and that’s what we as African Americans have gotten away from. I’m not standing on my soapbox like I have always been safe etc. because I haven’t. I have been blessed to not have any kids out of wedlock, but the fact is I would have wanted to get married. We really as a people need to get back to where we were and a lot of black women really need to focus on the partners they select, due to the sad but true fact they are the ones carrying it and if things don’t work out, possibly be stuck alone…..

@ Kigali

“Sorry dear but before you talking about Black men abadoning their father why not talk first about black females abadoning having kids in a marriage? You females need to stop making children so causally. Establish a home first then have children.”

No, let’s talk about these no good fathers FIRST. And just so you know, MEN (BLACK and WHITE) can abandon their kids while they’re married. Like someone said before, it takes TWO to make a child. Barack’s no good dad left his mom and Al B Sure did the same. The women (BLACK and WHITE) always put their kids first and take care of them. It is not the woman’s fault (BLACK or WHITE) that the man doesn’t want to support the child physically, financial, emotionally. That’s no excuse. That’s ignorance.

And just because you are married, does not mean the kid will grow up in a happy home. Look at all the white people you worship that have kids outside of marriage: Bridget Moynahan, Madonna, Bristol Palin, and more.

Kigali, no matter how hard you try and fight on this subject, you will not win. The devil never wins. Read the Bible.

I asked my father once why he was never in my life and he just said that “it was just easier that way”. Less hassle, less stress and less guilt. It was a upsetting to hassle with my mother and his wife. It was stressful traveling a long way to see me for a short time and it always made him feel guilty. It was just easier to leave well enough alone.

So when my father died, my stepbrothers and sister called me and asked if I would come to the funeral. I told them “no” because “it was easier that way…..less hassle, less stress and less guilt. It was just easier to leave well enough alone.

Finally, I understood that I was not worth the trouble and neither was he.

Wasn’t he just on that show last year where the children of famous parents showcased their singing skills? His dad critiqued his performance and seemed supportive. Who knew? This is really sad because although he grew up in material comfort, he wanted his biological father’s involvement in his life. He seems grounded and intelligent and not bitter.

deeeep.

@Scott

I’m sorry you experienced that estrangement from your father. Wow. I started to tear up.

Fierce Kitty
@ Kigali
And just because you are married, does not mean the kid will grow up in a happy home. Look at all the white people you worship that have kids outside of marriage: Bridget Moynahan, Madonna, Bristol Palin, and more.

I have said the same things. Even listed Anjelina Jolie and Halle Berry. It seems like when you come at her (she said she had kids, unless he is gay) correct and giving them the information but with white women or rich women they never come back. Or say it is bette to have money and be a single parent than to be black and poor. But aren’t valuse and morales the same across the board. I don’t get this person. I wonder if they are that preacher’s wife who admonishes everyone while her husband is getting it on witht he church secretary or with the Minister of Music.

@Scott ..damn

Sometimes, it’s painful for children to accept that their parents have failings or weaknesses. So how ever much you would like to, you can’t change their behavior or their feelings.

Every person usually makes decisions in light of what they are supposed to do at that particular time. They don’t normally look 10 or 20 years down the road.

This young man needs to look towards his mother for half of the blame. When you have someone who has all these kids without much commitment for different people (you wonder).

I feel for him, but this has to stop in the Black community.

@Scott

May I ask how you feel now about not attending your father’s funeral? I apologize if that is too personal.

Thanks for sharing. That was very affecting.

Qunicy is resentful of his father and rightfully so. I am glad Diddy tried to be a father to Quincy during his biological fathers absence.

It takes more than a support check to be a father. A good father instills wisdom in his son. A good father trains his son to be a good upstanding man with values, and morals. It saddens me when a parent abandons their children. Emotionally it takes a toll on these children and they become bitter and resentful. It is hard when these children need parenting or guidance from their father and he is unavailable. The end result can be costly.

When these children reach adulthood they have nothing but animosity for their long lost parent, and any futile attempts at reuniting is often met with disdain.

A proper rant for a young man.It does’nt appear that he’ll use it as a crutch for failure…and someday he & Al will have a chat.

You know the old adage about if you want to know what a man or woman truly believes, you look at where they spend their time and where they spend their money. Being a father is the same. My father didn’t spend any money or time with me so I must not have been important or meaningful.

It’s OK and I’m waay past the acceptance stage.

When I didn’t attend my dad’s funeral, I refused because of a rather selfish and stupid reason. I did not want his family to think that I had missed something or I wanted something from them. It was a struggle for my mom and me. Lots of lean years.

But looking back, if my father had died today, I still would not have gone.

Hopefully, we have no hard feelings…we’ll hook up in another lifetime and maybe we’ll get the relationship right then. Sometimes you are just a victim of circumstance.

@ scott

Just say what it is you arent a victim of circumstance but ranther held “unforgiveness” in your heart towards your dad. you say he didnt provide financially or emotionally so what my dad was there money wise but not emotional wise and have done some crappy things in my life but i promise i would go to his funeral if he dies out of respect showing im a bigger man. you arent a man if you cant forgive you are just a little boy holding a grudge.

@Scott

“we’ll hook up in another lifetime and maybe we’ll get the relationship right then. Sometimes you are just a victim of circumstance.”

That’s true. Life is very hard sometimes. I hope that you are able to heal and that you have the support of people around you to overcome the absence you experienced.

And you should never doubt how “important” and “meaningful” you are.

Tell me,

What would have been the point of me attending my father’s funeral?

A funeral bring a sense of closure for the family. I didn’t need any closure because I never had a beginning. There was nothing to close. Nothing to say good-bye to and nothing to mourn. It was like a stranger dying.

I might be a little (or lots) dense, but I don’t get it.

@ jb_1030

“I have said the same things. Even listed Anjelina Jolie and Halle Berry. It seems like when you come at her (she said she had kids, unless he is gay) correct and giving them the information but with white women or rich women they never come back. Or say it is bette to have money and be a single parent than to be black and poor. But aren’t valuse and morales the same across the board. I don’t get this person. I wonder if they are that preacher’s wife who admonishes everyone while her husband is getting it on witht he church secretary or with the Minister of Music.”

LMAO. You are too funny. I better Kigali is one of those people.

I completely agree with you: values and morals are the SAME across the board. No matter what race.

I also noticed that about Kigali: When you come at her with a valid point, she has NOTHING to say. I’ve done this in the past and she never responds back to my posts. Like I said before, the devil never wins.

@Scott

A funeral does’nt just bring a “sense of closure” millions of ppl attend funerals as a sign of respect unless you are directly connected to the person. Not going to your father funeral is as bad as your father not being in your life. For instance i had a cousin who i knew for 3 years and never saw him again and he was murdered, i attended the funeral out of respect for him even though i couldnt cry or feel like what you call a “sense of closure” you attend a funeral out of respect for the person. saying “he wasnt there for me so im not there for him” is nothing more than a fancy way of saying you had a grudge. i cant understand how you can say a “stranger” its your freaking father right or wrong its your dad man seriously.

don’t like the acne

@Sydney,

I know its really sad what happened to her. Hopefully, our community will pay her murder some attention. Supposedly, another male Youtuber was so scared by his rants, he contact the detroit police. They ignored his warnings. Already our community is backing away from this issue–repeatedly his rants in the media has been described as anti-government, anti-atheists, with no mention of his anger with black women or his stalking of Asia.

Really, I don’t hold a grudge. I thought that it would be inappropriate for me to attend my father’s funeral. Disrespectful to his wife and family.

He got where he was going without me.

*post by the brother YouTuber*

@fierce kitty

Kigali’s vulgar, dehumanizing response to your civil articulate post is exactly what I’m talking about. His words are a shinning example.

What in the hell does his acne have to do with anything? Diddy and Kim did a good job with him.

@sydney

I think that his parents were just happy that he wasn’t in the streets running wild. They probably were comforted by the fact that he was nerdy and a home body. Also its hard to get help for adults who are mentally ill. Our system is designed to protect their freedom and rights. They have to be a proven threat to themselves and others.–But to his parents credit, they have honestly talked about their son’s illness, instead of making excuses.

@leeha,

My words dont hurt children as much as the life choices of black baby mamas. So if you care about black children, you will take a hard line against those who hurt them the most.

@ Kigali

Don’t twist the bible to suit your desires. Those people that were indulging in barbaric behavior by stoning women were not advised to do so through Jesus. Jesus intervened on a woman’s behalf. She was involved in illicit acts with a married man and Jesus spoke to those people who were preparing to stone her. He told the people he who is without sin cast the first stone and then he proceeded to tell the woman go and sin no more. Jesus did not seek retribution through a vicious act of violence.

There is no excuse to go on hate crusades against women who have become lost along the way. We do not know their personal struggles that led them to this destructive path. Their may be a light after all of the darkness. Maybe that woman that you despise because of her mistakes may turn her life around and cleanse herself of her former life. Don’t condemn a whole race because of some women who have lost their way due to desires of the flesh. Everyone has flaws.

Jesus did not correct others through abuse. He corrected others through guidance and love.

It is blasphemous to twist the bible to suit your life of bitterness and scorn. Kigali you have a lot to learn before you try to admonish others.

BLACK PEOPLE STAND UP!

Pleeeeeeeeease come help us save THE GAME tv show. Go to the cw’s site and go to the GAME thread “One Million for the Game”. Deadline is MIDNIGHT! We need 1 million posts to save the show! You can just copy and paste repeatedly! You’d be surprised how much we’re all coming together. PLEEEEEASE COME HELP! There are almost NO black TV shows anymore!

BLACK PEOPLE STAND UP!

Pleeeeeeeeease come help us save THE GAME tv show. Go to the cw’s site and go to the GAME thread “One Million for the Game”. Deadline is MIDNIGHT! We need 1 million posts to save the show! You can just copy and paste repeatedly! You’d be surprised how much we’re all coming together. PLEEEEEASE COME HELP! There are almost NO black TV shows anymore!!!

Can I put my good my nothing pops on blast on these here internets? LMAO

Oh please cry me a river your rich fool, I dont want to hear any complaints. Im 27 and you know what I did? I got over it and became a real father to my son. At least you know who your dad is snotnosed rich punk.

^ good for nothing

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FINALLY THE TRUTH COMES OUT!!
GOOD FOR YOU QUINCY!!! DON’T LET HIM USE YOU AND PUFFY THEY WAY HE DOES EVERYONE ELSE!
AL B SURE! HAS ALWAYS BEEN OUT FOR HIMSELF AND NO ONE ELSE! FUNNY, HIS CD IS HITTIN THE RADIO TODAY TOO! ALL OF YOU WHO SUPPORT AL B SURE! SO FONDLY YOU DO NOT KNOW HIM!

You know guys, if you ignore the ignorance flowing through some of these comments, they’ll quitely go away. Commenting at them just fuels the fire.

@Sydney..
I know it hurts that we are hated so much. I read some of the posts last night and its sick. I’m wondering why his page was taken down, but hers is still up there.

I hear that it is very hard to have someone committed.

@Angelika,

Is Jesus the “Get out of jail free card” for black females? Commit any kind of gross negligence of their own bodies, against their own children and claim Jesus. Maybe you need to switch religions because you black females are to nihilistic for Christianity. Do Islam for a few generations, maybe move to Saudi Arabia so you can learn to control yourself. Because right now, Jesus has become too much of an excuse for you to be clueless tramps.

@ Baron

Quincy was abandoned emotionally his father. it is evident. The reasons why will not soften the pain of not having his biological father around. He does not have to sit down and rehash why his father made those choices. Excuses does not matter to Quincy when his father is not their at the tender young age of 5 or 6 to teach him to ride a bike. Excuses don’t matter to Quincy when he had an important event and Al was absent. Excuses does not matter when Quincy’s birthday comes around and his father couldn’t even reach him by phone to wish him well.

It does not matter if Kim found someone else who has the financial means to support him. It is unconscionable to leave your offspring with nothing but distance and photos.

If Al B sure was intimidated by Diddy’s presence that is Al’s flaws. The measure of a man is not through his bank account. It takes so much more than finances to raise children. Quincy had the finer things in life due to Diddy providing these lavish things for him. It is apparent Quincy is resentful because of Al’s absence.

The lavish things that diddy provided did not fill the void of Quincy not having his biological father around.

@Rosie313fromtheD

Thats the thing.it doesn’t go away. They keep posting and when they go unchallenged people start agreeing with the few things they get right, ignoring all that they get wrong. And Rosie being you’re from the D, i know u heard about the murder friday of Asia McGowan.

@Leeha

Thanks for the information on the female called Asia. There are many people suffering from mental illness. I could go down the list of crazies from the past to present. No matter how you feel, no one gives you the right to take another person life.

He should have just killed his own punk ass.

and if you read into this a little further, Puffy is basically promoting him as the new Al B. In yet another attempt to upstage him with his own identical looking younger son.

@ scott

mannnnnn im so wit u on that..im going through almost the same now. the letter hit me kinda hard. my father had a stroke a few weeks back. he’s never really been there. i can remember summer visits and such but i dont remember too much support. its ill visiting now. if he passes, i dont know if should go to the funeral. all my moms side of the fam is concerned about his well being and now i’m like… ummm i dont know if i want to be part of this.

Its not to late Al B, step up to the damn plate and claim your beautiful son…no matter how broke you are man. Ok fine didy stepped in and took control since you weren’t there…now is the time nicca…show them haters you back on the block..REPRESENT !!!

@ kigali

u be sooooo on point with that yo. u jus go a little too far with ur metaphors.. lmao!!! ladies/men stop with the excuses. its jus as easy to stop the cycle as it is to give excuses!!!

Aw, I wish him well. Good job, Kim.

…and Puffy

This is all very sad to me. I hope Quincy does not grow up to be like Puffy at all. I hope he grows up to be a man with integrity, class and character.
Unfortunately he never had anyone around him to show him the way. What Al B does not understand is that his children just want “HIM”. They do not need money, or material objects just his love. Al B has been breaking his back to build that bank account and it is for nothing. His kids are screaming for his attention. I hope he wakes up one day and realizes that money does not measure the man or a “hit” record. I hope they can mend their relationship one day.

Yeah AL B. …if you are reading this..I want you to use that job you have as a DJ in some other state and give a goddam shout out to your son. C’mon man do something dude.

Some of you need to stop saying “Black Women” and just address the women out there who are spitting out babies without rhyme or reason.

Are there Black women who just sit around and have babies all the time? Yes. Do ALL Black women just sit around and have babies? NO. Kill the generalizations, address the ISSUE and go from there. Otherwise, you’re not too different from Anthony Powell.

Wow that is so sad.

Im stunned.

@Angelika:
Co-sign. Kigali is a practicing warlock so that is why he (pretending to be a she) denouces the woman so strongly. God gave the head of household anointing to the man. God made man first. Man is the protector, both spiritual and physical. The woman is his crown. NO DISRESPECT TO SINGLE HOUSEHOLDS. Someone so steeped in witchcraft wouldn’t get it. Ignore Kigali, let the cancer take care of it.

@ My Badd

Cause you’re one of the more sensible posters on here, I am going to assume you’re not blindly following the BS being spewed. Again, I know you know that there are “some” Black women living foul, just like there are some women living foul in all races, but the entire blame DOES NOT lay with ALL Black women.

Also, despite the beliefs of some, MEN ALSO take some of the responsibility here.

If you’re “hitting it raw”, you’re just as responsible as the person you’re with for the life you bring into this world. That child is just as much your responsibility. Do your damned best to be there for your child, and let nothing get in the way of that. Otherwise you’re equally responsible if your child becomes a statistic.

What a fine looking young man ….. he got it from his poppa

@ About It

Somebody needed to inform Kigali about her behavior. She puts herself on a pedestal while admonishing others about their sins. She is abusive, unclean, vulgar, hateful, vicious and mean spirited. She is induging in loatsome acts according to god. She is not in gods favor or superior to these women that she despises. God is the ruler, the estimate of hearts.

correction

She is indulging in loathsome acts.

@ me.org.

Also, despite the beliefs of some, MEN ALSO take some of the responsibility here.

If you’re “hitting it raw”, you’re just as responsible as the person you’re with for the life you bring into this world. That child is just as much your responsibility. Do your damned best to be there for your child, and let nothing get in the way of that. Otherwise you’re equally responsible if your child becomes a statistic.
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Abso-fkn-lutely!!!! However, a man cant go raw without a puss to stick.

this is like that riddle..
what came first the chicken or the egg?

Will women learn to lift their expectations before a man learns to take care of responsibility?

u can have one without the other but it is fkn rare

dam i’ll be back when i get home ppl.

Kigali is no authority on these women. She does not know what transpired in those womens lives that led them to makes those unwise decisions. She certainly does not know where they are going after all of the poor choices. Some women go to school and earn their doctorate degree after having children at an early age out of wedlock despite all the odds and people telling them that they would never amount to anything.

Don’t judge others by past mistakes.

Anyone can turn a life of sin around with gods help, the will and determination. Don’t let naysayers Like Kigali fill you up with rhetoric that you will never amount to anything due to statistics.

Al B only started spending time with Quincy once Kim Porter moved out to LA. Before that he never saw him. Kim even put Al B on blast a few years back on the radio when the dj asked her about Al B Sure! and she responded I don’t know, tell him to call his son and say hello.
This goes way back and I think Quincy feels used lately by his dad. Al B will take whatever picture he can and release it on the web to show the world he is with him, but it is not true. He never picks up the phone. Even when his own kids call.

cornnny

Baby Boy should run as far away from Diddy as he can possibly get and not look back.

As for Al B., step up to the plate and recitify things with your son. Shame on you. He seems like a good kid.

You know..I don’t understand the reasoning behind some of you saying he should “run from Diddy.”

Granted, Diddy has his issues but he’s not unlike anyone else. We ALL have faults.

You say how “smart, articulate and educated” Quincy is. Call him a “good guy”, a “gentleman” and other stuff. Other than a few cracks regarding his acne and disliking the song, the majority of the posts here have been positive regarding Quincy. Who do you think molded him to be the person you’re gushing about? PUFF. Quincy says this himself. So if the finished product we see before us is satisfying (and apparently it is, read the posts), then we need to recognize and give respect to those who created said product, not blast them.

I for one will not be buying any CD’s from Al B Sure!

I such a shame how the readers have NO dayum heart! NONE!! This is a young man who has poured his heart out…and boy can I relate…but all in all..people shouls at least have a heart! This young man appears to want to be a better man than his father. Instead of supporting that..all you come up with are some cracks about his acne?? OMG..plezzz…come on folks!! You can do better than that!

@ My Badd & kigali

I agree 100% with both of you, but Kigali you are not reaching these women with your strong talk. I’m sure most on here are in the position with which you speak and you going at them like that only makes them madder. In other words you are talking to a brick wall.

Still I agree.

@ me.org leeha jojo

we ALL saying we need to step our game up!!! Like YESTERDAY. Thats whats up..

Obama aint gonna do the ish by himself

Also- i jus heard the song. i likes dat. he’s expressin himself positively and productively. thats whats up!!!

wow what a message from someone so young, cmon you fathers man up, kudo’s to diddy.

At least diddy was in his life to teach him the right from wrong. To help mold him into the man he’s going to be.

Any BOY can make a baby, but it takes a MAN to raise one.

HMM, YOUR ROLE MODEL, OR , EXCUSE ME, YOUR “REAL DADDY” IS A MAN WHO IS KNOWN TO BEAT WOMEN, GAVE YOUR MOMMA 3 BABIES, STILL AINT WIFED HER, IS A KNOWN WOMANIZER, HAS CROOKED SEVERAL ARTISTS OUT OF MONEY, IS ARROGANT AND, TO AN EXTENT, IGNORANT, PROBABLY SPENDS LITTLE TO NO TIME WITH HIS CHILD IN ATLANTA, AND IS AN OVERALL JERK…SORRY SON, BUT YOU SHOULD HAVE ROLLED THE DICE WITH YOUR BIRTH FATHER. AL B SURE PROBABLY FEELS AS THOUGH HE CANT COMPETE WITH DIDDY’S MONEY AND GIFTS, THOUGH THAT IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO NOT BE IN YOUR CHILD’S LIFE. THE IRONY, YOUR MAMMA WANTS DIDDY TO PLAY DADDY TO YOU , YET SHE HAS STATED THAT HER CHILDREN WILL NEVER MEET, NOR BE AROUND CHANCE (BABY IN ATLANTA) WHO IS DIDDY’S BLOOD DAUGHTER? UMM, YEAH, ONE THING I CAN SAY, YOUR BIRTH MOMMA AND BIRTH DADDY ARE NOT ALL TOGETHER CLEVER; HELL, OUT OF THE THREE, I GUESS YOU WOULD LOOK UP TO DIDDY.

@@@@@@@@ WELL HIS FATHER GOT THE RIGHT NAME>>> AL.B SURE= I’LL B. SURE NOT TO BE THERE SMH WHERE IS AL ANYWAY???? BOY LOOKS JUST LIKE HIM, CAN’T STAND DIDDY THOUGH!!!!

Its so unfortunate that he has so much anger for his father… Its also a shame that his mother doesn’t seem to mind men in and out of her life…

It takes a man to realize that his children deserve for their mothers to be wives to their fathers, and not just get the woman pregnant and leave.

Bottom line, yes there are trifling black men out there, but it ends with us sisters. If you want to be out there sleeping with everyone and everything, take birth control! Yea it takes two to tango, but only ONE to prevent conception. So don’t rely on the man to control whether you give birth. It’s your body, you control it!! Damn

<<<<<>>>> BO-RING!!!!!!

Maybe you could appeal to her maternal instincts and ask her to allow your half siblings to establish a relationship with their sister Chance who lives in Atlanta.
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I disagree with this sentiment. Diddy created a situation that had animosity before Chance entered the world. He cheated on Kim and had another child. You can’t expect Kim to put her anger aside and try to arrange play dates for those children. They are toddlers. The only thing that is expected is for Diddy to arrange his time equally in being there for his children. If Diddy wants the children to meet, I am sure he will arrange it. It is not Kim’s place. There is too much animosity there. When the twins and Chance are older maybe they will reach out to one another and establish a relationship only time will tell. There is no need to force a relationship now when they are babies and not even in the same vicinity.

No Quincy you are growing into man hood, but you are not a man yet, it takes of development to evole into man hood, lol. Hon, you’re still a youngin, lol….

Opps, I meant it takes years development to evolve into man hood, sorry !

that child is gorgeous. the acne will clear up. the daddy issues won’t. God bless him.

uhm, al b is in the picture with his son…look in the background. This is why this type of stuff should be handled privately…not publicly. Realy, what can you or I do about this?

I can’t get all excited about Diddy being a dad to Q, when he has a daughter that he seems to ignore, but I am glad Q at least had a man in his life. Too many kids, boys and girls, do not…

@ will
Let Scott deal with the death of his father in his own way. Your way should not be perceived as the right way or only way to do things.

@ Scott
You made the choice that you felt was needed at the time. I am sure you made your peace with it. At 40, I am done with doing things that are “expected” of me, I refuse to anything because I feel obligated, so as long as you are good with your decision, that’s enough for me. Thank you for sharing your story.

@kigali
Just a question. I am 40 year old black woman, unmarried with no children. I am well educated and I have an excellent job with wonderful benefits, a supportive family and great friends. If I chose to have a baby now, without being married because I feel that I am financially and emotionally able to do so, would I also fall in the category of the black women you seem to hate?

@ baeyaki
It is just meant to embarrass his dad. What we can do is aid in that.
@ COMPLEX BEING
You are right there is not excuse for not taking care of your child just like there is not excuse for not using birth control on both parts.

@ Rhea Nichole

If you are having a child knowing full well that their daddy ain’t sh!t, then their mother ain’t sh!t either. You sound like an intelligent woman who wouldn’t even think of doing that though.

damn alot of black men without a father?? what a shame.

@Sanjor
Bottom line, yes there are trifling black men out there, but it ends with us sisters. If you want to be out there sleeping with everyone and everything, take birth control! Yea it takes two to tango, but only ONE to prevent conception. So don’t rely on the man to control whether you give birth. It’s your body, you control it!! Damn
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You are making waaaay too much sense. You must be a racist. LMAO

@………..

Kigali is not speaking from a genuine place. She is full of hatred due to her past. There is not a loving bone in her body. A person who wants to see children thrive because of their lack of home training will try to uplift and encourage not tear down. She is a bitter person because of her unhappy upbringing. A person can’t encourage others to do well with hate speech while belittling others. Her behavior is atrocious.

Sure there are a lot of loose women as well as promiscuous males who do not treat their body as sacred. It takes two to create a child.

A woman who chose to bear a child because the man has adoring features has no substance to her character. This kind of woman is not the norm. It is distasteful to attack all women who are black because of some women who can’t control themselves

A man who choses to bed numerous women just because he can will not prosper. He does not get a pass for his immoral behavior. A man is doing himself a terrible disservice by behaving in this way. He is suceptible to disease, children who will hate him, as well as poverty. It does not fare well for the man to indulge in promiscuous behavior as well. Men and women should take responsibility for their behavior. It is wrong to excuse the males for being loose. A man with virtues knows how to control himself and conducts himself in a respectable manner.

I blame all of this on the evil black woman and their leader Kim Porter. SMH.

I need 2 correct the age of AL.B.Sure son B-DAY BASH, it wasnt his 15th, it was his 16th…MY BAD:)

He is so fine, I didn’t even read his letter…Damn, imma go back and read it now.lol

Why he got all them rat turds on his forehead?

There are a lot of men who treat women with little regard. They only see the physical attributes and that is how they chose their mates. It is wise to become friends first. This way you can see his true character.

Acts of intimacy without knowing one another only clouds your judgment. You can determine if a man will be a good father by having good looking features or a good job.

Everyone has needs but it is wise to hold off on those desires when searching for a mate.

Honestly you can judge a book by skimming through its contents by reading the first few chapters. You don’t have to buy the whole book to determine it wasn’t worth your time.

He needs Proactive!

The imposter is getting on my nerves. How can I imposter when someone is impostering me?

Correction to my last post:

“If we were on a site with a majority of black readers I would refrain but let’s be real with each other.”

I meant to say weren’t. Basically, I would not call “us” out in front of “company”.

he is so cute! loved that piece very well put!

@stupid

After all your ranting you reference God. Way to put everything back in the hands of the lawd!

WHY DO YALL KEEP SAYING he looks like has dad, we already know that,damm let it go and he has kims eyes!…also shame on AL B I wonder if he keeps in touch with the kid he has with stacey dash?

He looks like his dad.

@….Really, seriously with the black man’s love for interracial love, are black women the ones who are known for choosing a mate because of good hair? I’m keep going at u until u turn back into Kigali. I noticed u always create alias when people start poking holes in your ideas. Thats how I know u are a coward. If u hide on the internet, I can’t imagine what a punk u must be on the streets.

@ Reggie08
This dude is just being a spoiled brat. There are plenty of males forced to grow up without their fathers being present.
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Wooooooooow, wanting you father around makes you spoiled? I would hate to see what kind of parent your are or would turn out to be. I guess your response is just a sign of the times.

Over course his daddy was absent. How the hell you gonna compete with Diddy livin’ in the house. “Hey son, come go to Chuckie Cheese with daddy.” “WTF you talkin’ about? Chuckie Cheese? My daddy diddy is takin’ me to Paris on a yacht and that’s jus this weekend.” I bet he tried ’cause I could have sworn that I read he was involved in the boy’s life in the early years, but gave up. I can’t wait to hear Al’s reply. It’s not like he’s in hiding. Isn’t he a dj in LA

CUTE PIC BUT I FEEL HIM ABOUT THAT SONG BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS AND IF HE FEELS DIDDY HIS DAD THEN SO BE IT SOMEBODY HAD TO BE A DADDY TO HIM.

Translation:

Daddy Diddy had tha dollars so I love him.

where did everyone go?

@ Man

Not trying to bait you. As a man how do you feel about women who have babies out of wedlock? Women sleeping with me knowing that they are married? Women sleeping with man to get pregnant for the child support? Women holding mens children as a bargaining chip? I would like to hear your opinion. I am very open minded

Why can’t a boy want his biological’s attention and love?

@…
“Not trying to bait you. As a man how do you feel about women who have babies out of wedlock? Women sleeping with me knowing that they are married? Women sleeping with man to get pregnant for the child support? Women holding mens children as a bargaining chip? I would like to hear your opinion. I am very open minded”
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I guess it just depends as to the circumstances for all of the scenarios that you listed. For all of the situations I don’t really think they are inherently bad.

Sometimes people have to do the “lesser of two evils” and I think minorities in general are faced with having to make such decisions more often.

That being said, how do you feel about those situations and who do you think is responsible and why?

@ Toucheaway
Why can’t a boy want his biological’s attention and love?
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Because that means he is “spoiled” in the minds of some people.

@TOUCHEAWAY
“Why can’t a boy want his biological’s attention and love?”
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He needs to develop “inner strength.”

1. if he wasn’t told that Diddy wasn’t his father he wouldn’t even know the difference

2. it’s a slap in the face to those that DO love him. It’s like he is saying their love isn’t enough.

3. Needs to focus on the things HE can control. He can’t make his father care about him.

sad. come on al b. i hope diddy didn’t have anything to do with this production

What’s so corny about wanting his father? Wanting to hear from him? Wanting to know if he loves him?

Just lurking about and reading some of these posts tells me how deeply in need of therapy some of us are. Look at his skin? He’s got acne? He’s got a unibrow? WTF, people?

I know what it is–it’s his honesty about how he feels about his father’s abandonment. It makes some of you uncomfortable, maybe because that helplessness hits so close, either consciously or unconsciously.

To attempt to neutralize the emotions that I’m sure this brings up for some of you through the use of sarcasm, teasing and other things children do when they are uncomfortable with feelings tells me that a lot of people on this board have their own “Daddy Thing” and should talk to a professional about their reactions to this young man’s plea to his father.

@TOUCHE
What’s so corny about wanting his father? Wanting to hear from him? Wanting to know if he loves him?

Just lurking about and reading some of these posts tells me how deeply in need of therapy some of us are. Look at his skin? He’s got acne? He’s got a unibrow? WTF, people?

I know what it is–it’s his honesty about how he feels about his father’s abandonment. It makes some of you uncomfortable, maybe because that helplessness hits so close, either consciously or unconsciously.

To attempt to neutralize the emotions that I’m sure this brings up for some of you through the use of sarcasm, teasing and other things children do when they are uncomfortable with feelings tells me that a lot of people on this board have their own “Daddy Thing” and should talk to a professional about their reactions to this young man’s plea to his father.
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ROFLMAO!!

OR…. he could just be whining a whole lot about nothing.

@Man, I Just dont Care

The other Oshie is looking for you over in the Beyonce thread!

@ Man

@TOUCHEAWAY
it’s a slap in the face to those that DO love him. It’s like he is saying their love isn’t enough.
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I disagree. You only have one father. Wanting your father’s love and attention is not a slap in the face to anyone.

@LEEHA
“What is wrong with demanding that black men…. ?”
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That’s EXACTLY what Kigali wants you to do…

@ Man
You are trying so hard not to piss women off. I know you don’t buy into all this victim bs. The only victims are the children.

@man

I agree with u soo much. But on kigali i disagree. He doesn’t want women to demand that from men. Kigali believes that birth control is the sole responsibility of women. He never ever calls for men to be more responsible but he demands that women be. I believe everybody, men and women, have to be more responsible.

@Man I Just Don’t Care:

That’s exactly what he’s saying. His father’s love, AL’S LOVE, is what he is needing, wanting. HIS FATHER! HIS! THE MAN WHO MADE HIM!

Yeah, this Sean cat’s got money, BUT HE DIDN’T HELP TO CREATE HIM. It’s different, believe me.

Is he discounting Sean’s love? Not that I heard in the song. But really, his father’s love is the love he has questions about, not Sean’s. He wants to know if he did anything to make this man not come around him. And he wants to know why this other man had to step in like he did. Out of pity? Who wants pity? He’s really questioning not so much the truth of the love he’s received, but the motivation for it.

Oh, and I don’t think anyone had to break the news to this child that Sean wasn’t his father! LMAO! I mean come on!

@…
“Who is left holding the bag? Let me give you a hint, it’s not the baller.
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So, it is your posistion that since women are “left holding the bag” they should bare more responsiblity for birth control and selection of sexual partners?

@ leeha
@man

I agree with u soo much. But on kigali i disagree. He doesn’t want women to demand that from men. Kigali believes that birth control is the sole responsibility of women. He never ever calls for men to be more responsible but he demands that women be. I believe everybody, men and women, have to be more responsible.
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I agree both parties are responsible. I am just pointing out the fact that only one party can get pregnant. Let me ask you, if you get pregnant today and your husband walks out and wants nothing to do with you and the baby who is left? Get it? You are responsible for what happens to your body just like a man is responsible for what happens to his. Unfortunately, men can’t get pregnant.

@ Man
So, it is your posistion that since women are “left holding the bag” they should bare more responsiblity for birth control and selection of sexual partners?
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Absolutely. I man would f*ck a jelly donut.

@….
dude give it up. typo or not, your true colors are showing. And by the way with child support, the baller is left holding the bag. God forbid that baller contracts a disease from running up in some woman bareback. And I’m sure many married women are just realizing how weak their men are that they let any old chick drag them to bed on the first night. Or being a man, do u think boys will just be boys?

Damn, son. Mamma and Daddy need to git right. He has a right to be angry- his momma and daddy are still playin!

@ leeha

I don’t know how many times I have to tell you, I am a woman. And, if you are truly a woman with a child, you know that child support is nothing compared to raising a child. I guess you have never been to the emergency room @ 2 in the morning. Or, been up every few hours with a newborn. Or, have to deal with the everyday problems that children have. Child support? Finances are cool but guess what? Quincy had the finances all he wanted was his father. Imagine that.

@ Man

Do you have any kids?

@…

Do you have any kids?
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You didn’t answer my last question:
“Hmmm…. so a man has no control over his sexual urges and there is nothing that can be done about that.

A woman makes poor sexual decisions and we need to correct them because they can be changed.

Is that what you are saying?“

@ Man

I’m not saying men don’t have control over their urges. How many men exercise their control? How many men use birth control? How many women use birth control? How many men get pregnant? All long as you keep giving people an excuse they will use it.

@ Man

Do you have any children?

@ Man

How dumb would this sound?

A man gives a woman AIDS. The woman says to the man “It’s your fault, you should have used a condom”.

@…
“I’m not saying men don’t have control over their urges. How many men exercise their control? How many men use birth control? How many women use birth control? How many men get pregnant? All long as you keep giving people an excuse they will use it.

Do you have any children?
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So you acknowledge that men are capable of controlling their urges but why don’t you prompt them to use more control that you are aware that they possess?

What “excuse” are people taking? I’m not following.

No, I do not have kids. Not sure how that is relevant. Do you have children?

@ Man
Maybe you are not understanding what I am saying. Men can’t get pregnant women can. Women know this and need to take responsibility for…THEIR OWN BODIES. Imagine that.

@ Man

I am not letting men off the hook. I am just putting women back on where they belong.

AL B SO WACK. THIS KID’S PAIN IS STRONG
HE STILL WANTS HIM IN HIS LIFE YOU CAN HEAR IT IN THE SONG.

http://dirtyco-operation.blogspot.com

@ Man

I asked if you had children because I wanted to know where you were coming from. I am married with 2 children and yes both children belong to my husband.

@Man
Yes, it should be 50/50. Is it?

@…
Yes, it should be 50/50. Is it?
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You know, that’s a good question. From your perspective, how would you allocate the “responsibility percentages?”

Example: Men 55/ Women 45

@ Man

The perspective is that if the person whom is pregnant and who they are pregnant by. I can say what I want. How should it be? Ask yourself that question. You were obviously smart enough not to get yourself into that situation.

@ Man

It is very obvious that we are both bored. I would carry on the conversation except I have to be up in 4 hours.

It’s all love.

@…

Didn’t understand your last post. Let me rephrase it…

As a percentage, how much responsibility would you allocate to a man and how much to a woman in regards to birth control?

@…

yeah, I gotta get up in “am” too. Later…

I hope he didn’t write this just to make money; but with Diddy as an influence. Hmmmmmmmm….

@ leeha

“Kigali’s vulgar, dehumanizing response to your civil articulate post is exactly what I’m talking about. His words are a shinning example.”

I know, right. His/Her/Its insults don’t work. She uses them to get around my valid points. I try to be civil with beasts.

“f u care so much about black children, u would also comment on the behavior of black males, specifically in this post about a young black man who is addressing his father’s behavior.”

I see you’ve noticed Kigali’s pattern. He/She/It always uses black women as a scapegoat for EVERYTHING. I think she worships black men too, including dead beat dads.

@ Angelika

“You have the eye of the beast there is no need to preach the gospel to you. You are unclean an full of the evil. You are under the devils control. You can’t correct others through abuse. That is the devils way.”

Preach. You described Kigali so well.

@ me (the original)

“Kigali would have you believe that everything from the Bubonic Plague to the flat tire you might have gotten last week is the fault of the Black Woman.”

LMAO. I fell out off my seat on that one! Too funny!

Its pretty sad when even your family is dissin you on the inernet. Al B need to wake up.

i have heard lots regarding Mr. Sure and now to see it i n black and white from his own son?????? Swoosh,
this is very sad but I cannot support dead beat dads so i also will not be buying Mr. Sure’s new record.
@shari
@Shari

Damn him for putting Al B’s business in the street like that!

Thats heartbreaking. Damn. I wonder what Al Bs excuse is for being a deadbeat. God bless that boy.

KIGALI, I WONDER WHY YOU WERE NOT SLAUGHTERED IN RWANDA!

ANY THOUGHTS?

There are always 2 sides to every story, let’s hope AL B Sure gives a response.

@ Raise the Bar Folks

“KIGALI, I WONDER WHY YOU WERE NOT SLAUGHTERED IN RWANDA!

ANY THOUGHTS?”

Hilarious! You made my sides hurt on that one.

Wow!!

@ Sophia

You’re a loser. Go away.

This probably crushed me reading, it was like i wrote this. I feel this dude’s pain. I have lost ALL respect for Al B Sure.

Hats off to this guy for doing thangs the right way

As sad as the situation is , it’s happening everyday in America. I applaud the author of this , although I find it hard to believe that young B. Sure Jr. wrote it , but hey “Whatever”. Al. B on the other hand needs to do some soul searching and see what he can do to mend hsi relationship with his son.

“I don’t need no dad. I got Barack Obama” ….this is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard in my life.

Another screaming to sell track: business !!!!
This wannabe singer or rapper will be famous because he was raised by Diddy?? Just like Obama’s dog “BO” is now a US star.

Alaina:
I originally thought the Barack comment was out of place, too, but if you think about it, no it’s not.

What better role model for our young boys (and girls) to look up to than our nation’s first Black president? Why shouldn’t our kids emulate Barack? I’d much rather see my students hold Obama as their role model than Young Joc, Jeezy, Wayne, Boosie, Kobe, Jordan, etc.. etc…

He’s a perfectly positive, intelligent, role model… I love it.

“bringing”…that is

Born, Al B Sure! has a new single out too hitting the airways this week. Quincy is obviously very hurt to do this on the same day his dad is releasing his single. breaks my heart to read this.

this kid has zero to lookk up to or learn from in the adult dept. all 3 adults in his life are big children. they all need to grow up and quit being selfish and self centered wich is ovious that is what they are. i hope quincy grows up to be a respectable man with a real family.

True Patrice, but there are market savvy/money hungry people out there. I understand his pain. But you can not tell me that this young man is not being goaded into releasing this or is being used in some way. This is a sad situation for all. Someone has been waiting to capitalize on this.

IT’S FUNNY HOW THIS LETTER SPECIFICALLY IS FROM A CHILD ADDRESSING HIS FATHER AND SOMEHOW THE FOCUS AND THE BLAME SHIFTS TO THE MOTHER OF THE CHILD

LOL-IT’S HARD TO FATHOM THE IDEA THAT SOME BLACK MEN EARNED THE NAME DOG BECAUSE OF HOW THEY ARE PROCREATING OUT HERE LIKE DOGS PISSING ON TREES WITHOUT A CARE IN THE WORLD

THE SOLUTION TO THE BLACK COMMUNITIES PROBLEM IS ALWAYS THE BLACK WOMAN-LOL THE EXACT REASON THE BLACK COMMUNITY IS SO FUGGED UP NOW BLACK MEN NOT WILLING TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS

EVERYTIME A WOMAN IS PHYSICALLY PRESENT IN A CHILD’S LIFE SHE IS TAKING FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR HER ACTIONS-THAT ABSENT FATHER IS NOT

OH YEAH-I FORGOT BLACK MEN AREN’T SMART ENOUGH TO WEAR A CONDOM, OR SPOT A HOE, OR FIGURE OUT THAT THEY SHOULD SUPPLY THEIR OWN CONDOM & PUT IT ON THEMSELVES

LET ME GUESS WHEN YOUR D$CK IS HARD YOU CAN’T THINK STRAIGHT, THEN AFTERWARDS WHEN A BABY POPS UP YOU MAKE UP ALL THESE CONSPIRACY THEORIES ABOUT HOW THE BABY GOT HERE-IT’S ALWAYS AFTER THE FACT SOMETHING YOU DIDN’T WANT-YADA YADA

STOP BEING LED BY YOUR D#CKS AND YOU WOULDN’T BE A VICTIM OR GET PLAYED SO MUCH

DAMM! That sent chills thru my body, because I can definetly relate to what he’s saying I to was fatherless!!! Keep ya head up Quincy and stay in the positive lane!!!

WHAT ABOUT CHANCE COMBS??? Puffy only sends money but does not visit the little girl what so ever because of KIM so go figure!

Being fatherless is painful and confusing and the question of “Why” never goes away. Money and creature comforts neither mitigates nor answers the pain and the questions.

. . .umm. . .doesn’t your stepdaddy have an endorsement deal with proactive. . .? there’s no excuse. . .dude.

AL B SURE! IS A LIAR AND DOES NOT CARE WHO HE DESTROYS IN THE PROCESS!

As a grown man who did not have a father figure in my life I can tell you that money and monetary things cannot replace your biological father’s love.
I hope you and your dad can mend things and before you put your business out there like that, think about the future and how looking back on this will make you feel? He still is your dad right? Be Cool. Blessings.

@loveandpeace

Very well stated. I am feeling you on your response.

Please leave Al B alone. This is a family matter and should have been handled in private. This is not right! Not right at all…

WESTCOASTLOVE we missed it- tell us again!

I like the song and im glad he is ok so many young man and women share this story….and you have to be strong because you will have children and you can make different choices for their future than being abscent …also i love when he said i dont need a father i have barak obama……the prez has no idea how many young black youth he has inspired by running for and winning office

Wow.

DO NOT BUY THIS PRICK’S NEW CD ON HIDDEN BEACH. HE IS A DEADBEAT DAD AND HUMAN!!!

wow it must hurt to not have yur dad that way. deadbeat label will stay with you for life I dont think quincy was joking. this is sad, I cannot imagine my life without my dad. he is sooo cute!

there is always 2 sides to every story but no excuse for a deadbeat. I do remember though when al b sure wrote that song forever my lady for jodeci was about kim porter pregnant with quincy. maybe she left him and he never got over and took it out on the child. who knows, it is sad for both parties.

I just listen to the lyrics this is heartbreaking. makes me appreciate my father, good beat too.

*shrug* i guess Al B. really iz a Dope on a Rope…smh

@ Jai

I think Quincey is old enough to know (or would know) if something was going on to prevent his father from seeing him. He’s not a child anymore.
Heck Yeah!

These people are ignorant and boring. No character or class! What kind of man has a son put him on blast like this?

Al B. Sure will probably try to say that this is all a “MISUNDERSTANDING.” He told Kim that she was “OFF ON HER OWN (GIRL)” to raise their child. Bad thing is his son thought about his father “NITE AND DAY.” All that time the boy was calling out for his dad to “RESCUE ME.”

Another absentee father strikes again.

Wow he looks just like his father when he was young

LOOOOOOOOOOOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

damn, looks like al b gave birth to this child all by himself!!

[...] A Letter To My Father, Al. B Sure. [...]

Quincy’s like Al B. but inside he’s like Kim, but in guy form, lol…

I guess when you father don’t wanna give you the time the only way you can let him know how you feel is to put him on blast. You should’ve called Al B.

Damn!!! My dad was a deadbeat too but I could never put him on blast like this. I can appreciate his pain and he is still young, why didn’t anyone try and stop this boy. Where is his voice of reason?

So sad. They lyrics are heartbreaking. I am so sick of deadbeat dads!

Its about time the kids speak up for themselves. Well done son.

Well done Quincy!

There are 2 sides to every story. So quick to judge?
Where is this boy’s mother and why would she allow him to post something so personal and private???? towards his father? He sounds somewhat spoiled to me or maybe it runs in the father/sons blood? Like father like son. Dad is spoiled and so is son??

[...] fact that Quincy felt the need to reach out to his biological father Al B. Sure via the internet for the second time [...]

i feel for this young to get this letter, again for the second..speaks volumes..diddy need to step in help mend these wounds between father and son..well al b. sure will be on tv soon on tv one in june..what would destroy a bond between child and parent? the grown ups…