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hey yall!

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Not having a vehicle and being unemployed is a definite sign that he is an unmotivated person. As soon as you hear that it is time to run.

‘Sandpaper on the retinas…’ AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAA!

That’s pretty great and I agree with all of the above, have witnessed all of the above, and sprinted away from all of the above. It’s the bare minimum, and some no class having heffa will keep them around just to say she has somebody, let her keep the trash

i remember this CUTE guy i knew, but he fell into almost every category on that list. LMAO i noticed quickly, and ran the other direction, but i know some poor girl(s) in philly are taking care of that dude, I KNOW because he’s cute and women will do almost anything to say they have a ‘man’ that comes thru THEIR door a few times a week, sad but true. (i thank god for my hubby)

@ Treasure

Hard Worker? Are you talking about the same dude who was doing it bum-style and living off of Superhead for a bit?

FOR REAL?????

Any ambition that punk had was abandoned long ago. The only hard work this dude puts in is the walk from his car to the crack house.

Have I mentioned I hate Bobby Brown?

TEAM WHITNEY ALL DAY.

I love Whitney and I knew she was making a mistake when she got involved with this clown.

now a woman and be a worthless goldigger all day but when a man does it he wrong…Team Kfed and Bobby milk those hoes dry for all the men in the world..

@pm

Any man that asks or needs money from a woman is a jigalo. PERIOD. Every man I know that is a REAL man has said that a man should never ask a woman for money…

Goddamn. k-fed can get it all day and all night…

@pm

gender roles has definately been reversed. men used to take care of women, now men expect women to take care of them????? NO WAY JOSE!!!! (and its a shame but black men are KING for this mentality)

It’s the cute scrubs that gets these naive girls. He already knows he don’t have to do shit. LOL, at the “transistion” and making an album part. I see that on Divorce Court a lot and it’s usually a brother.

To Funny!

pm

now a woman and be a worthless goldigger all day but when a man does it he wrong…

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It’s wrong no matter who does it. Male or female.

pm, you ever hit up ebaum’sworld and listen to that crank call a radio station made to a redneck down South telling him that they were gonna go in a new direction and start reaching out to the Black community so they would start attending more NASCAR races? The disc jockey told the redneck ‘Soul Glo’ was gonna be a new endorser and they had a sound byte of the commercial playing in the background. ‘SOOOOOOUUUUUL GLO’!!!!! They were telling him the commercial would be playing at the races on tv. You should listen to that. The redneck got heated and was cussin’ like a mutha. “Can’t we have ONE sport to ourselves?!?” It’s the funniest crank call ever.

Top 10 signs the woman you’re dating is a scrub.

Let’s get it……

#11: She thinks getting her GED is some sorta code of Honor cuz she stay statements like “Ni**a I gotta GED!!!” lol

Damn, Brooke. It’s like that?

#12: She’s appeared on ‘Judge Joe Brown’ as a defendant.

@Brooke (The Chocolate Godess) Back from NYC

you are a disgrace!!!! how can you be a woman, going in on other women, knowing good and god-d@mn well women get played and used more than men. i guess its true whem its said that WOMEN ARE WOMEN’S WORST ENEMY!! JUST SHUT UP CHICK!!

Don’t listen, Brooke. I’m loving you right now.

and to think I knew of folks like that. sad

#13. She frequents meeting rooms at prisons to try and find a man.

@AWWWW.. I will have to listen to that, i love a cheap laugh

Okay I’ll play I guess…

7. She has babies by non-black men for the “good hair”.

8. She lives with her mom who lives with grandmom in a 2 bedroom apartment. Not a husband in sight.

she knows the state welfare system so well she could be a social worker.

Brooke, block out the extra clucking. I’m telling you you’s down for a brutha even when he’s hit hard times. That’s a rare, true ride or die —– and you would get the best kinda loving for holding it down like that, gurl. Mwah!

The worst sh*t is when people sit there and feel sorry for themselves and expect you to feel bad for them, lol…

Get A Job!

Are we up to 14? Okay, 14: Her mama, grandmamma and great-grandmamma have all been receiving, non-suspended, welfare benefits going three generations back.

What about when someone asks to put some sh*t in your name? i.e. Car, Cell phone, etc.

**Brooke (The Chocolate Godess) Back from NYC

-never do i cyber argue, i state the truth and move on.

@Brooklyn, Stand UP!™

thats called being in a relationship, if thats the case. every couple (married/engaged) i know have things in each others names. *shrugs*

The list is correct, but it needs its equal to describe scrub women. Let’s be objective, here.

14.SHE KEEPS PAPER TAGS ON HER CAR, GETS IT TOWED, AND AGAIN..PAPER TAGS.

15. SHE OWNS A BOOST MOBILE CELL PHONE

16. ASKS YOU TO PAY HER LIGHT BILL WITH YOUR CREDIT/DEBIT CARD CUZ SHE DOESNT OWN ONE.

15. They got her picture up on ahotmess.com

hahahahah @ Boost mobile “Churp Where u at?” lol

What about if she asked someone else to carry the kids on their tax returns and slit it cus she didn’t work all year.

17.SHE EATS BETTER THAN YOU AND YOU WORK A 9-5. WHY? BECAUSE SHE HAS HER GOOD OLE FOOD STAMP CARD. SHRIMP ANYONE?

@PM..TRUE.

18. SHE BUYS ALL OF HER “NAME BRAND” CLOTHING AT THE FLEA MARKET.

‘I’m not babysitting my own kids?’ LOL. That’s right up there with Black dudes proclaiming, “I TAKE CARE O’ MY KEEDS!”

who told K-Fed that tail on his forehead was cute?

my gag reflex kicks in whenever i see a pic of this idiot.

Ever saw a one sorta like this one on ___ WealthyRomances com ____ It’s where romancing with the rich singles!

19. SHES OFFENDED BY ALL OF THE #’S ABOVE!

@Philly

Oh yeah, and the lease, lol… Forgot about the most important one.

She knows a gaggle o’ boosters on a first-name basis.
“You want a pair o’ Jimmy Choos? I’ll tell Scribble. I gotchu.”

she switched churches cus they stop payin her light bill.

Sookie

who told K-Fed that tail on his forehead was cute?

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(Raising hand slowly) lol. I like the new edgier K-fed.

16. She gets all her furniture from ‘Rent-a-Center’ then moves to a new address without telling them.

AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

‘I’m not babysitting my own kids?’ LOL. That’s right up there with Black dudes proclaiming, “I TAKE CARE O’ MY KEEDS!”

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LMAO

ok what about: She wears designer clothes, drive fancy cars, but live in a rat/roach infested match box apt in the projects? lol

I can never understand that. Beamers, Mercedes, Escalades, Lexus’ parked next to a decayed, paint-peeling, neglected ol’ house.

lol, why this is turning to ‘how to scop a WOMAN SCRUB”! Women are called worthless everyday, cant we just have OUR DAY and make fun of SCRUB MEN for once???

@Brooke (The Chocolate Godess) Back from NYC

Yeah, the weathers been pretty sh*tty these last couple days

No worries for me though cause I’m off to Vegas in less than two weeks, WooHoo!!!

she got the kids a stolen xbox for christmas and it was in the pawn shop by new years

Of course its always women making fun of other women as usual!

How about a dude introducing you his kid but forgot to mention the one he actually got when he was 17

Interesting.

Why are men so up in arms about this? A similar list for women was already posted yesterday, so what’s up?

18. Chick does her Christmas shopping at the 99 Cents Store.

I met this dude who wanted to invite me to dinner! i told him i wanted to get some sushis and he was like damn, that sound sophisticated.

‘Sushi sounds sofristicated’ – AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA!!!!

ROTF!!LMBAO!!! @ Pm 2:11 post……switchin churches cause they won’t pay the light bill!! That’s a Good one!! LOL!!

…..she gets mad at her grandma cause she ain’t taking better care of her kids!

…..she thinks a job is a waste of time.

20.shes on welfare but KEEPS fresh braids.

21. Her cell #changes biweekly.

22. She hits up a different neighbors house every other day with all her kids in tow – “Gurl, what you got to eat?”

20.shes on welfare but KEEPS fresh braids.

I know right…that’s $200 + a pop

Oooo Oooo I got one… you’re on Section 8 and they over pay your rent so you get a REFUND check every month…real talk..young and healthy b*ith is getting paid for being on the system…certified BS…Damn im really needing #3…LMAO!!

22.HER ACRYLIC NAILS ARE ALWAYS BLACK/BROWN UNDERNEATH. (why some of yall looking at yall nails?)

Yo yall are going in.. Ok LADIES!!! CAlling all LADIES!!! can we bash the fellas for once. Complete:
You know ya man is a scrub when:____________________

23.ALWAYS MAKES A SCENE AT THE STORE WHEN RETURNING STOLEN GOODS. “LET ME SPEAK TO YO MANAGA!!”

A professor at my school (a brutha at that) wore clogs like every day. Then again, he had a man purse too. You know what, he was a good dude but he’s not the best example. Moving…

I’ve never understand WHY people put random family members and boyfriend/girlfriends on their cell phone plans. For starters, I don’t think I have ever seen an episode of Judge Judy or Judge Mathis that did NOT include a cell phone dispute. And the folks with NO money to pay the bill, always want to run up these ridiculous bills into the thousands of dollars. LMAO It just makes no sense to me. There are too many options now anyway – if you can’t fund a pay-as-you-go phone, then maybe you don’t need to have one. Just common sense to me…

@christie’s secrets

we’re not letting the dudes off the hook comepletely.
How about when a dude brags about how he has never been to jail. Was he suppose to go by now?
OR
His pants are sagging and he wears a t-shirt down to his knees like it’s cute.

Y’all ever see people pick a receipt out of the trash can at ‘CVS,’ go searching for a product on the list, bring it up to the cash register and tell the clerk that they’re returning it?

I’ll play!

23.SELLS A PORTION OF HER FOOD STAMPS TO AFFORD GETTING A FULL SET FRENCH MANICURE.

24.HAS THE BEST COOKOUTS.

LOL@ PM

LOL @ pm

lol@pm, you stupid

I heard stories of women who let people use their cards for the same value in cash.

You ever lived next door to somebody who never took their hooptie to the shop but had his cousin or whatever do all the repairs in the driveway – next to your house? Their changing the oil – done in the driveway. Their changing a battery – in the driveway. Installing a new stereo system – speakers and all – done in the same place. And the music was blaring the WHOLE time? I couldn’t stand that shit. Then they’d invite their extended family to bring over THEIR hooptie and do the same thing right there.

LOL @ all of you guys responses, lol…

See, Lady Next Door, that’s why I come here. Where else am I gonna learn this kinda shit?

@AWWWW
YES! AND ALL HIS BOYS HELP OUT..BUT THE CAR NEVER MOVES.

I have use the recession as an excuse to extend all my bills knowing good and well I had the money to pay them.

Dude is a scrub..when he has a problem paying child support because he TAKE CARE OF HIS KEEDS..

Like, OK if you take care of them anyway….why you so mad about the child support

OR

Dudes who think taking care of their kids is buying Pampers ONLY or giving them their older kids hand-me-downs.. Like “Lil Man barely wore these and he can’t fit em no more – So I said I’ll give em to my younger son”

Gator boots with the pimped out Gucci suits (With the Gucci suits)
Ain’t got no job, but I stay sharp (Eh Eh Eh Eh I stay sharp)
Can’t pay my rent, cause all my money’s spent (I can’t pay my rent)
But that’s okay, cause I’m still fly! (Uh oh Damn cause I’m so fly)
Got a quarter tank of gas in my new E class (In my E class benz)
Cause that’s alright, cause I’m gon’ ride (Mmmhmm)
Got everythang in my momma name (We got everythang in my momma name)
But I’m Hood Rich da da da da da

LMAO

Ladies, another thing I learned the hard way. If your man is REALLY REALLY good in the bedroom (I mean make your toes curl, twist you up like a pretzel, and have you speaking in tongues), you better find out where he learned those moves. Some of these guys get lots and lots of practice whenever you are not around.

@ CHAKA

Number 10 is so disrespectful FOR REALLLLLL!
Its like it okay to look but dont be TURNING YOUR HEAD in front of me BASTARD! DISCRETION IS THE KEY…

I’m talking about somebody who worked for a cousin of mine and I was there to supervise. I know how y’all think already. I had to clear that up.

South Florida has some of the scariest crack heads you have EVER seen! I swear you will actually see me sprint from these people.

Sheeet, Chaka. If a dude is on a date with a girl and she whip out a box of condoms? If that box o’ condoms is 3/4 empty, that’s a red flag.

@Chaka

thats not necessairly true cuz there are some women who are great in bed, doing flips arches and all that and they dont need extracurricular activities and practice to learn all that. (Look at me tryna salvage the truth) lmao

Darkesthourglass, you know them ghetto mechanics too? Those annoying bastards blowing out twenty years of built-up exhaust all over the side of your house.

Brooke, tell me more about them flips and arches.

I didn’t know Hannibal was on the writing staff. I suspected a few people – just from their writing styles. Who else is on the staff?

Thanks, Kami. Be safe.

AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

Brooke, tell me more about them flips and arches.

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Sheeet, how da hell will I know, I am a prude in bed, lol

@AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!! again, lol

I didn’t know Hannibal was on the writing staff. I suspected a few people – just from their writing styles. Who else is on the staff?

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If I tell ya, I’d have to Kill ya. lol

lol @ this thread

Too funny!

*lifting wine glass and swaying hips*

A scrub is a guy that can’t get no love from me
And is also known as a buster
Always talkin’ about what he wants
And just sits on his broke ass
So (no)

I don’t want your number (no)
I don’t want to give you mine and (no)
I don’t want to meet you nowhere (no)
I don’t want none of your time and (no)

If you don’t have a car and you’re walking
Oh yes son I’m talking to you
If you live at home wit’ your momma
Oh yes son I’m talking to you (baby)
If you have a shorty but you don’t show love
Oh yes son I’m talking to you
Wanna get with me with no money
Oh no I don’t want no (oh)

@Sydney Couldn’t have said it better myself..

@AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!..I think Sydney is on the writing staff… she is the voice of reason ..

lol @ Brooke

Classic TLC, girl! Relevant then, still relevant now

Sydney, I thought you gave up on this site.

pm, I’ve always suspected the same. But I believe she has denied it in the past.

lifted up the hood of my car*

Wait wait Syd Let me give the outlude:

If you got more than one baby father
Oh yes girl, we’s talkin to you
If you strip all week to go clubbin’
Oh yes girl, we’s talkin to you
Buy a dress to front and take it back to the store
Oh yes girl, we’s talkin to you
Wanna smoke wit me, wit no money
Oh no, I don’t want no

No pigeons
No pigeons

all blogs post the same stories its the people that keep u comin back.

You know TLC is guilty of ushering in a whole plethora of male-bashing songs. Destiny’s Child took it to the next level.

@ Syd

I honestly thought Sporty Theives version of No Pigeons was WAY funnier. Real Talk.

Reece is the only one who’s admitted being on the staff. I still suspect a few others. Marquis de Sade – definitely.

Scrub:

Man who wears Paco Jeans

Hey Awww!

LOL, I’m cutting back. I just couldn’t resist commenting on this thread. I have thta song in my head now. Also, there was that jam, “Ain’t nuthin’ going on but the rent. . .You got to have a J-O-B if you want to be with me. . .No romance without finance. . .”

Brooke? Is that you Brooke? What on God’s green earth…where have you been?

AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

You know TLC is guilty of ushering in a whole plethora of male-bashing songs. Destiny’s Child took it to the next level.

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Yea I honestly dont like how DC got Bashed for BIlls Bills Bills. All they were saying if you use my car put gas in it, if you use my phone pay the bills. But as usually yall men are so defensive and never use your ears!!!lol

Re…Madvillain

Brooke? Is that you Brooke? What on God’s green earth…where have you been?

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Yes is Me Miss RE!! I’m Here to save the DAy lol.

@Sydney™ well I know Kigali/Maquis got to be on to run up the numbers..is RE she is too funny

Sydney? My Malcolm X…how art thou?

@Awwwwwshaddaaaaap
*side eye*

I see you’re still getting your craig mack on…

@Awww

OK, you have to admit that “No Bills” was catchy, lol. The number of so-called “male-bashing” songs is totally dwarfed by the number of songs railing against “bi**hes” and “ho*es.”

Yup, you named one of the writers. There’s another one I’ve spotted as well.

O, the late Gwen Guthrie. You had to admire her hootspa. Had to be about 300 pounds singing about ‘fly girl like me/ needs security.’

Brooke! How I have missed thee!

Lol, your gravie is lovely. How are you?

Me and Sydney go way back. She calms the demons like tropical waves washing over jagged rocks.

“DAMN CHAKA .. “I FEEL FOR YOU” HAHAHAHAHAHA!”

LMAO!

lol @ Re

Malcolm X? Those are big shoes to fill, girl.

Re…Madvillain

Brooke! How I have missed thee!

Lol, your gravie is lovely. How are you
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I Totally missed u too. I been well (could be better) but thx, ur Gravie is always super A-dior-able u have the prettiest skin tone. How’s the hubby??

You go ahead and take that one. I got more.

@Sydney

Okay, how about Al Sharpton? His gator’s are small. I would say Jesse cause I like him better, but he makes up words and I don’t get down with that.

I’ve also been the victim of a man who hid a kid from me for 4 years and had to find out via myspace, is that on any list on this fuggin thread? lol

I’ve never looked at another woman while I was on a date. God knows there were times I wanted to – but I maintained. It’s just low to do that.

@Brooke

I don’t think I heard that version of No Pigeons, girl. I thought the whole male vs. female songs war funny at the time.

@pm

Yeah, and SMDH, too. I have to admit, she has made me laugh out loud more than once. One day, she wrote that something “fried her chicken extra crispy,” and I cracked up.

Brooke’s got stories. Only 1TruDiva can beat you when it comes to funny scenarios you ladies have been in.

You’re not down with Jesse’s prose, Re? It was my duty/ to tap that bootie…

lol @ Re

What about a woman (since I am one)?

@Awww

“Me and Sydney go way back. She calms the demons like tropical waves washing over jagged rocks.”

Wow! Very nice metaphor.

@Brooke
Oh he’s alright love…getting ready to graduate…

I’m going to step outta this thread for a minute…it’s good chatting

Oh, and thanks for the gravie comment!

@AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

LOL, oh no…he gets a LARGE epic fail stamp…it makes me laugh, but it scares me too…

I gotta go, too. Have a good afternoon, all.

Brooke, I just scrolled up and read you were defending ‘Bills, Bills, Bills.’ Yeah, well they were also landblasting bruthas talking about ‘you trifling/ good for nothing type o’ brotha.’ Calling us scrubs and what not. Thank God for Angie Stone who retaliated with ‘Brotha’ to put those outta-pocket heffas back in check.

Bye, Syd.

Again with the ‘large epic fail stamp’ – What the duck?

Don’t be a stranger, Syd. Let a brutha know you’re alive.

AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

Brooke, I just scrolled up and read you were defending ‘Bills, Bills, Bills.’ Yeah, well they were also landblasting bruthas talking about ‘you trifling/ good for nothing type o’ brotha.’ Calling us scrubs and what not. Thank God for Angie Stone who retaliated with ‘Brotha’ to put those outta-pocket heffas back in check
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Ok boo so lets take this scenerio. Say me and you are in a relationship… You been unemployed for months, ya car got repossesed, you not even looking for a job cuz u know every 2 weeks I’m paying ya rent and cell phone bill. You use my car to go hang out wit ya homies. You dont offer to cook clean etc, and I am not supposed to call u a good for nutting mutha fuc**er? lol

AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

Brooke’s got stories. Only 1TruDiva can beat you when it comes to funny scenarios you ladies have been in.

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I’m actually gonna write a book about a celeb (from a 90′s R&B group) I was dating as a minor. Its will be juicy. Stay tuned

I’ve never been in that scenario, Brooke, so I can’t judge on that. But let’s say I’m out in the streets one night coming home from work and some knucklehead brandishes a .357 and pops a cap in my ass. Wouldn’t you be open to nursing me during the length of my convalescence?

I see you’re already well aware of 1TruDiva’s vibe. That statement sounds just like something she’d say.

AWWWWWWWWWWWSHADDAAAAAAAP!!!!

I’ve never been in that scenario, Brooke, so I can’t judge on that. But let’s say I’m out in the streets one night coming home from work and some knucklehead brandishes a .357 and pops a cap in my ass. Wouldn’t you be open to nursing me during the length of my convalescence?

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I will do everything I can to protect you If I know your worth it, and the problem wit alotta dudes these days are that they not worth it, which is why I gave up on the 27-45 group and went with the 60+ LMAO.

{thinking out loud} Eww the thought of my man wit a bullet in his bootie, yuck. LMAO

60+? What are you saying? A bottle of viagra is the third party in your relationship?

So what ur saying that it is IMPOSSIBLE for a man to get it up on his OWN after 60? don’t be so closed minded buddy. lol

How about this. I worked with a woman once who married someone in the department. About two years into the marriage, the husband suffered a stroke. It limited him somewhat. He had to walk around with a cane and his speech was slightly affected. Not long after, the wife who was quite a few years his junior, bailed on him. She decided it was too much to handle and she divorced him. They still worked in the same department afterward which was bizarre. Anyway, her behavior changed my perception of this woman significantly. It just seemed so cold. In a similar scenario, would you have stayed? Or bailed?

yall are cracking me up with this list!! omg!!

16. She gets all her furniture from ‘Rent-a-Center’ then moves to a new address without telling them.

ROTFL. DEAD.

lol @ best you ever had

You should look into it. ‘Specially when they get that stock of new computers. LOL!

LMAO!!!

@Re…

Scrub:

Man who wears Paco Jeans

I can’t breathe. LOL!

What about southpole jeans? That’s slightly scrubish as well… along with anything worn in junior high: avirex, mecca, enyce, fubu, NO.

I must emphasize after reading everyone’s input that ANYONE and I do mean ANYONE that is offended by any of the things listed most definitely falls into that category….bar none!

ROTFL!!!LMBAO!!! Brooklyn Stand up! That joke is hilarious!! Them DAMN husbands!?! LMAO!! That’s real good…….thanks for sharing that one! ;o)

I’d be dragging my one good leg all over creation following you waving my cane yelling, ‘Nat pucking heppa deserted nee.’

Not to just jump in the convo but @Awwww, I’d have to say I’d stay with him. In the wedding vows you both say ‘for better or for worse…etc.’, I would think that could be the ‘worse’ part…

So, where’d you meet this guy, Brooke? One of them old folk’s home up in Brooklyn?

Thank you, Caramel Cat. That’s what I would expect someone who respected marriage vows to say. Brooke would be checking the insurance policy and finding the highest cliff to roll me off from.

@Awww…lol, you are funny. I can understand Brooke’s point but that’s why you marry someone for the right reasons. When you marry for the wrong reasons then anytime stuff gets rough or unbearable you’ll be ready to bounce. But, if you marry for the right reasons (hopefully you love this person) then it’s not as tough to deal with the ‘worse’ times because you know you’ll be blessed with ‘better’ times as well. A permanent disability is definitely hard and can weigh heavily on someone who may be young and vivrant but that’s when you have to take a long look at yourself and seek inner strenght and proceed to finding other things in the marriage that make you happy…it’s a lonely cold world out there, so if you’re able to find anyone that will love you and treat you right, it’s best to hold on to them…real talk

Caramel Cat (formerly c from stl)

@Awww…lol, you are funny. I can understand Brooke’s point but that’s why you marry someone for the right reasons. When you marry for the wrong reasons then anytime stuff gets rough or unbearable you’ll be ready to bounce. But, if you marry for the right reasons (hopefully you love this person) then it’s not as tough to deal with the ‘worse’ times because you know you’ll be blessed with ‘better’ times as well. A permanent disability is definitely hard and can weigh heavily on someone who may be young and vivrant but that’s when you have to take a long look at yourself and seek inner strenght and proceed to finding other things in the marriage that make you happy…it’s a lonely cold world out there, so if you’re able to find anyone that will love you and treat you right, it’s best to hold on to them…real talk

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So lets take this scenerio. You husband did a horrible illegal thing and he is sentence to 15 years in prison, do u stay?

@Brooke,

I have to say that I would have to make the tough decision to stay. When I took vows with my husband I didn’t have the option of saying: ‘for better or for it you can’t hang anymore’. I understand you’re sentiment, honestly, but when you take the steps to MARRYING someone you take all those things into account. Now for a boyfriend or babyfather, I don’t think so…

*if you can’t hang…typo

At least Kevin stepped up to take care of those children when Britney was running the street buggin.A real scrub would’ve pawned them off on somebody else,whether there was money to be made or not.

@Brooke

I actually was about to say what you just stated. When you are ready and you find that person that you feel passionately about it won’t even been an issue to have to deal with a life altering situation. I’m not saying that I’m perfect or that I don’t have desires to look at other men or not stick it out but I can tell you that the right person will have you focused on you all’s PARTNERSHIP. You will feel like the marriage is just that and that both of you are in it to win it and to bail is just a sign that you didn’t love that person that much in the first place…. I can honestly tell you though if I was in a horrible accident and was deformed or disabled I don’t know if I’d want my husband to stay for the same reasons why you said you wouldn’t want to stay. But, if the situation was reversed I would sincerely WANT to stay with that person because I loved them. It’s crazy…

unfortunately I dealt with a fool that had problems 1-10 and he was the best lay I ever had…hands down! It’s a shame that these men have all these problems but can BRING IT in the bedroom…smh

Caramel Cat (formerly c from stl)

@Brooke

I actually was about to say what you just stated. When you are ready and you find that person that you feel passionately about it won’t even been an issue to have to deal with a life altering situation. I’m not saying that I’m perfect or that I don’t have desires to look at other men or not stick it out but I can tell you that the right person will have you focused on you all’s PARTNERSHIP. You will feel like the marriage is just that and that both of you are in it to win it and to bail is just a sign that you didn’t love that person that much in the first place…. I can honestly tell you though if I was in a horrible accident and was deformed or disabled I don’t know if I’d want my husband to stay for the same reasons why you said you wouldn’t want to stay. But, if the situation was reversed I would sincerely WANT to stay with that person because I loved them. It’s crazy…

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Damn Caramel, thats deep, and so true. I honestly think a man will leave quicker if a wife was deformed in some freak accident than a wife will leave her hubby. And for that my love, this jam is dedicated to you and your husband:

I’ll love you when your hair turns grey girl
I still want you if you gained a little weight, yeah
The way I feel for you will always be the same
Just as long as your love don’t change (no)
I was meant for you and you were meant for me, yeah
And I make sure that I’ll be everything you need, Yeah
Girl the way we are is how it’s gonna be
Just as long as your love don’t change

@Brooke

Ahhhhhh….classic Musiq Soulchild…I love that song

And I agree that men will want to leave quicker. They are visual creatures…

LMAO… DEAD at that whole list!!
That was even better than the “Gold Digger” list!

Why Men WHYYYYYYY????? LMAO

Yeah well I stayed with my scrub all while he used me for my stacks and would always send me to voicemail when I called him and never return my calls. I even went sometimes a month without talking to him (and he knew he owed me money, still does to this day) but when he finally did call I was ready to fall back in love with him all over again….sad but true. Thank the good Lord Jesus I woke up came to my senses, and escaped that situation disease and child free….

Have a good one Brooke, I’m about to bounce from the office…TTYL on another thread….

Lata Caramel. Nice blogging wit ya hun.

On the Gold Digger list we were hung up on the woman’s looks and race to be funny. I guess it’s more fun to make fun of scrubs than gold diggers because scrubs can do better if they want to.

I would like to add #11 to the list:

If your man is over 35 years old, but does not have a 401k or similary retirement plan, and is still cashing his paycheck at a liquor store, he might be a scrub.

The whole cashing the check at the liquor store thing. I’ve never seen it but heard about it. Where I’m from, people cash their checks either at the check cashing place or Walmart or have direct deposit.

How about a man is over 30 and still sporting cornrows and plaits. Or a dude blasting rap music from their cars, cursing and all, everywhere they go. Now that’s a scrub.

What about the 40 year old man who still lives at home with his mother? You know the ones who uses the excuse that he just resides there to help out with the bills. 9 times out of 10 he is enjoying the comforts of home, paying no bills, enjoying home cooked meals without contributing to the groceries or household utilities and taking advantage of the elderly.

I didn’t see that scenario mentioned so I just thought I would bring it up.

There are a large variety of scrubs. Erykah wasn’t calling Tyrone for nothing.

Darkest Hour Glass:

Or a dude blasting rap music from their cars, cursing and all, everywhere they go. Now that’s a scrub.

Wow. I know a man over forty that lives near me who does exactly this.

@Kierra J.
I know guys like this. Pretending to be there for “mama”…yeah right. What I hate is when a guy thinks I’m actually gonna visit him at his mom’s and I’m not his fiancee or wife. Just disrespectful. I don’t date guys who live with others (roommates, friends, family), regardless of finances. If there is a homeless issue on your end or theirs, deal with that and holla at me when i can visit one on one and “think” about whether I want to move in if we become serious. I can’t see that when you and mama and tyrone and biggie nem all live together. No thanks. I want to see if you can maintain a spot solo. That lets me know something.

No seriously D’Angelo is straight scandalous for now acknowledging that he was in a relationship with Angie Stone, acting like he was single to mingle, lol. And the sweet yet sad part is that Angie wrote a lovely song, it was either “Brother” or “Brotha”
And the sad part after the down turn of his music career, guess he’s trying to get back with ? Most like Angie, but she has a new man in her life now, I’m sure. I don’t knoww if there is such a thing as a perfect guy, does he even exist ?

Opps, D’Angelo is straight scandalous for not aknowledging, sorry !

Oh one time I was in line at Mcdonald’s ordering some food after work, and there was guy in front of me he took his time deciding what to order then he turns around and asks me if I had a dollar so he order a drink, well I gave him five dollars and told him super size it ! Lol, this was before Mcdonald’s stopped that campaign after some obese people had the nerve to sue Micky D’s, lol….

What about female scrubettes?

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GLAD IM NOT A SCRUB……..WHATS WRONG WITH SHADES IN THE CLUB??

@ Brooke…I know! It is sooo sad. I love mine more than anything in the world, but I know that I can do better and he really doesn’t deserve me. Not to mention he has done me soooo wrong! I recently just moved an hour away to get away from him and his problems. I just wish he’d get it together, but I don’t think it’ll ever change. And he could put it down like no other, but found out it’s because that’s all he does and found out about 2 others. Makes me sick….EFFING SCRUB!!!!!

To BKLYNZ OWN:

FYI, Shades in the club are tacky unless you are Ray Charles. It just comes off as pretentious and stupid when someone is trying to keep a “low profile” in a place that already has dim lighting.
It just screams “I’m trying very hard to look cool and mysterious. Is it working?”

The answer, sadly, is no.

Some guys didn’t have any intentions on being thrown in scrub status. Maybe it was a situation that was the cause of him becoming a scub, like for example: A guy is going to work he’s in a hurry and boom he gets hit by a city bus and he’s immediately injured and he to draw workmans’ comp, file a law suit, and go to physical therapy 3 times a week, wait for the out come of his legal case, et cetra. So one never knows a guy/girls reason why they in the scrub category.

Really motivating read this. As soon as cleaning my window blinds I take them down and put them in the bathtub with Dawn dish washing liquid. I let the soak and the rinse till the water runs clear. You might need do this a couple of times. The blinds are easiest to handle once they are pulled all the way up once you take them off the window. Loosen them in the tub.

the homeless people in our area would always use food stamps to satisfy their hunger”.-

food stamps are great because it is instant food and you can consider it also as free lunch ;’*