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Here is a quote from Mo’Nique back in 2007 from a NY Times article discussing her open realtionship with husband Sidney Hicks:
“We have an agreement that we’ll always be honest, and if sex happens with another person, that’s not a deal breaker for us, that’s not something where we’ll have to say, ‘Oh God, we’ve got to go to divorce court because you cheated on me.’ Because we don’t cheat.“
Mo’Nique went on Oprah recently and made some clarifications on her open marriage comment:
“When I said I had an open marriage, people automatically jumped to sex. They automatically went there. But I’ve been best friends with my husband since we were 14 years old. When we say open, we’re very honest. There are no secrets. Often times you have people that are married, but they’re strangers, and we refuse to be those people. I’ve had to sneak and I’ve had to lie, and I don’t want to do that any more. But my husband is so awesome and so fine and so—oh, girl. … No other man can compare.“
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God bess them. it is said they met each other on on the celebrities and millionaires dating site millionairefriends.com. Charlie Sheen found his match there.
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I know that’s right MO!!! I LOVE ME SOME HIM!!!! Thats how we are supposed to be with our men. I can’t wait until I find that one, where I can say can’t no other man compare, but I guess for now I have to settle for saying, “you just like all the rest of them” lmao
That definition makes sense, good for her. It’s good to see married couples still going strong, especially in these days.
im tired of ppl saying monique is dumb for doing this or doing that, if they want to do whatever in THEIR MARRIAGE it their business. if their happy thats all that matters. ***** ruby dee once said her and ossie had an open marriage. where was the backlash to ruby dee. oh wait she gets a p***** because of her age right? LOL
He looks like Ru Paul when not in drag!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! MY EYES!!!!!!!!!!!
Look at her arms – DAMN, NASTY!!!!
Everytime I look at this picture, a big a$$ frown comes on my face
I’m gone…
LOL @ PrettyMissSunshine
I hear ya gurl……..
hey whatever works…she gotta man and i don’t so who am I to speak on it
why is he wearing those big 70s serial killer gl*****es? but on another note .. i believe thats how all relationships should be. personally speaking, i dont think monogamy is an attainable expectation to put out there in a relationship.
ANY MAN THAT DON’T MIND IF HIS WOMENS LEGS R AS HAIRY AS HIS IS A TRUUUUE FIND…I’M HAPPY 4 MO…
mimo!
You *****in idiot. They’ve been friends since they were 14 years old so how the hell do you figure they find each other on a dating site for millionaires?????????????
Anyway she’s an obese ugly woman so of course her man is going to be with other women. She knows that, that’s why she let him do whatever he wants instead of getting hurt when she finds out he has *****ed tons of other women.
I’m glad their marriage is open with being honest and things….My question is how many times is he allowed to let sex happen with another person before it becomes a deal breaker?…or as long as he comes home and tell you its cool with you?…cause in that case yall should’ve made a roommate agreement and slept with each other at the same time…Iono just a lil weird to me, but it’s her marriage so whateva
^^^^^ You speak truth.
Why the hell are you guys visiting again today?? After saying u weren’t gonna come back for them calling maya angelou a “hoe” yesterday?… Hmmm.
I think her first statement about the open relationship was taken in the exact content in which she gave it: he cheats, and she’s not excited about it, but because she loves him so much, she’ll take him any way she can. She just tried to clean it up on Oprah because everyone was giving her static for saying it. If that’s how they roll, then cool, but keep it real, boo.
@Ltown
Word.
*context.
Hmmmm. Hmmmm. It’s open, alright.
http://www.theblackactor.com
If she’s happy f-it. She shouldn’t have to clarify ***** for *****ody.
He’s GAY!
Anybody that respects and agrees with Monique obviously doesn’t understand the meaning of marriage. If you’re going to cheat, there is no point of being married. You can just play house if that is the case.
Pttybrn – it’s sad that you think that way. But not all relationships consist of cheating. It is possible for two people to love and be faithful to one another.
@prettymiss..girl, you are so right. I HATE to see women always bashing brothers. I LOVE to see women talk positive about their man.
awwww…that’s sweet
Cure
Wait…what happened to Professor Oglevee? I thought he was her boo…
c@sign with foxy
he’s gay that’s why she don’t mind….as much as she talks about other women skinny ***** this and that…i just can’t see her accepting him screwing around on her with other broads…since she’s known him since they were 14 she knows he likes men…that is why is not a problem
S-A-N-D-R-A-R-O-S-E IS HATING ON BOSSIP. TALKING BOUT THEY WERE WRONG FOR CALLING MAYA ANGELOU A HOE OR FOR SAYING HOE SIT DOWN. AND TALKING BOUT THEY NOT BLACK OWNED. GO SUPPORT BOSSIP AND MAKE YOUR COMMENTS. DAT ***** MAD CAUSE THEY GET MILLIONS OF HITS WHY SHE GETTING HUNDREDS.
MEN LIE WOMEN LIE NUMBERS DON’T
FALL BACK *****.
Black Beauty,
I agree with your comment completely…and why does she need to clarify if she’s so confident in her marriage and what makes it work?…if that’s how you feel then there’s no need to clarify. She know she revealed something that shows her lack of confidence though she says she has so much of it. What happens if 1 of these women get pregnant or he catches something…I swear some people don’t think until it’s too late..She mind as well be a woman who gets abused cause she sound just like 1…
Who is the winner in this situation. Monique’s husband, I guess he just has too much weight on his hands. (pun intended)
People question this because we wonder if he really has love for her. I don’t know how many men can watch or imagine another man having sex with his wife. What does Monique’s husband actually get out of that???
But hell I guess it doesn’t matter he is living the high life, spending her money, *****ing 120-125lb chicks and getting head from her big ***** the man is truly blessed.
I have a boyfriend, very new relationship, and I have already prepared myself for ***** like this I have a jumpoff, and I am guilt free, my boyfriend is more not cool than cool but there is something about him that makes me stay around.(thug appeal) I have the jumpoff to keep me from getting too involved with the boyfriend. I refuse to be one of these females that allow the boyfriend to beat em up have his baby and the whole nine yards…so I got’s a jumpoff. He keeps me not worrying about what the boyfriend is doing and not acting all psycho. Waiting by the phone calling him all day to see what he doing, nope none of that. But I will never tell my man I got somebody, hell he probably got somebody too.
But I do believe marriage is sacred, but if Monique is cool wit her man OPENLY screwing other people. …shrugs!
@ victory is mine
ahahahahhahahhhah…you stoopid, but I do agree, never thought about him actually being gay…Well snap for the kids. LMAO
she’s in love and she’s found a way to make her marriage work…. Cant hate on that… If the majority of hollywood had half a brain, they would do the same
Her husband reminds me of a cross between RuPaul (like someone said earlier) and a gay Detroit newsman named Charles Pugh.
didn’t she have twins by him?
I would like to know is he allowed to bring *****es in the house. I bet he is driving the car she paid for too and picking up his jumpoffs and spending her money on them hoes too.
What I want to know is if no woman can do him like she can then why does he want other women, obviously you can’t do everything. Think about it!
S-A-N-D-R-A-R-O-S-E IS HATING ON BOSSIP. TALKING BOUT THEY WERE WRONG FOR CALLING MAYA ANGELOU A HOE OR FOR SAYING HOE SIT DOWN. AND TALKING BOUT THEY NOT BLACK OWNED. GO SUPPORT BOSSIP AND MAKE YOUR COMMENTS. DAT ***** MAD CAUSE THEY GET MILLIONS OF HITS WHY SHE GETTING HUNDREDS.
MEN LIE WOMEN LIE NUMBERS DON’T
FALL BACK *****.
Why in the eff would we support Bossip for calling a legend a hoe, when they wouldn’t support Gary Coleman and buy his Saturn off of Ebay. They wasn’t supporting their kind so why should we support them.
@ real talk
but she use to be hoe remember she was a prostitute in her day. plus they didn’t mean it like her comment just fell under that category. Cause after reading her comment i felt like hoe sit down to, it’s just a gossip site that u visit everyday.
@ go support bossip
Here is the email address of someone that is “apparently black at Bossip” jmartin@moguldom.com
Other than that get off of your damn soapbox.
you go girl!
They are well match each other. He is very hot, she is very beautiful and sexy. It is said that they met on celeb mingle.com Is it true?
Not they didn’t meet on your stupid skelton site with a virus, they met on my rival site called burn all these lazy ***** that spam this site.com I hear Monique found a true love match there.
Thats not a marriage!!! People need to respect the laws of marriage ordained by God!!! This world is getting more and more wicked and all we want to do is what pleases ourselves and were becomeing lawless. This world is becoming very close to being like Sodom and Gomorrah if were not careful. We must have rules and we must abide by them. If you say that youre married you abide by the true laws of marriage you dont make up your own. God is not please……can I get an AMEN?!!!! If I dont…… it doesnt matter……I know…. that I know its true……hallelujah!!
@LovelyLady
Bossip was DEAD wrong for writing that post about Maya Angelou and many, many people told them so. I don’t particularly like SR Blog but she is right. Either, the people running this sight are not Black or they are ignorant or insensitive. Most Black people know you shouldn’t disrespect an ICON in our community.
HE-LLO? An open marriage? I’m sorry but that is not a real marriage. She lets him screw around so that she can keep him around as a trophy husband. Like, “look, big girls can get em too” but the reality…really…
Yeah! I bet they share the same men, because this guy looks like a fruit!!!!!
1. Glad she found someone – if it works for her so be it. No need for her to explain nothing to *****ody.
2.Open means sleeping w/other people. Point blank.
3. She meant just what she said…open. No need to try & clean it up. If she would have meant they tell each other everything that’s what she would have said.
4. She’s a hypocrite…I should have said something else that sounded like that. Still she grinded my gears ever since Charm School.
5. I hate when she tries to get deep & doesn’t, make a point & doesn’t or calls people “My sista….”
6. I understand that it’s her schtick & gimmick but why does she always have to play the big woman card and make jokes that big women are always loud, hungry, tired, big or uncomfortable. That’s not true at all…
Well Ms.Rose got her card pulled by some of her own posters because she too, talks ***** about celebs and makes her own disparaging remarks…so cut out the hypocrisy.
Back to Mo’nique, I just see her as a big ole loud, funny, cr*****, heart attack waiting to happen. She’s just too damn big. We know everyone isn’t meant to be a size 2, but she’s ridiculous. She looks like she’d be weezing and outta breath just walking up a flight of stairs.
….all I can think about are her hairy legs. Ugkch, mossy tree trunks.
*Frowning.
He says “Honey, I did it again. I *****ed the white girl next door while you were away on tour” Monique replies “Come here baby, its ok. You dont have to stray no more. Mommy’s home” He says ” I was so scared. I didnt know what else to do. I was alone in this mansion by myself with nothing to do so I went next door, got naked and….” Mo’ interrupts “Stop sweety. Im here. You dont have to ***** that white girl ever again if you dont want to. Im home, baby. Im home”.
Just sit…
I’m glad you brought that up. She thinks that wheezing thing is funny. Not at all…she looks uncomfortable and you hit the nail on the head. Cr*****.
See my previous post:
4. She’s a hypocrite…I should have said something else that sounded like that. Still she grinded my gears ever since Charm School.
Mo is a liar and a sham. She dsnt pay her staff, she has very, very low self esteem and she is not “happily and honestly married”as she tries to proclaim.
Anybody from Mo’s home town can put u up on her game. Her husband loves to swing but Mo was so desperate for a man that she said “just keep it real w/me”. Check on her history on husbands 1&2 and then the guy she was going to marry.
Monique get some real self esteem, lose some weight by dropping that user of a husband!
Her husband is gay. I knew he was gay before they even got married that’s why she believes in ‘open marriage’!!!
She knew what she meant! basically she’s saying if ke went off and *****ked someone else she’d forgive him.
This is cl*****ic low self-esteem fat chick. She doesnt think she can do any better and shes even convinced herself he’s “fine”. Poor thang.
Golden Shoes…
You can tell her self-esteem is good & low. She’s defensive of her weight & her man – that’s why she puts it out there. She’d get the same effect/response if she talked about other things.
As I said:
6. I understand that it’s her schtick & gimmick but why does she always have to play the big woman card and make jokes that big women are always loud, hungry, tired, big or uncomfortable. That’s not true at all…
@Seghana
What are you talking about? How can you say this is not a marriage based off of 2 sentences.
Seghana, Just Sit, and V I completely agree with your statements..
I too am bigger than the average size, but not big to the point where I seem obese or anything, but why are bigger women always portrayed as loud and stuff?..and why does a big woman have to settle for her man sexing other women just so she could keep him?…I wish my boyfriend would try that agreement with me…that would be the end of the relationship cause that’s what it is..like a contract that says you can sex any woman as long as you are honest to tell me and as long as you stick around…smh
SlimChick…
I guess Monique will try to “bop you in the head.” That ish was not funny – at all. She tried to ride that mess out – it was not working. Not.
Her acting career is over. All of her movies are garbage! She should be the one trying to get an endorsement from Jenny Craig. Soon she will be featured in “when the checks stop coming in.”
Lady Arch….
So true. Basically he lives with him & she’s taking care of him. Then she be on that he’s my king, I take care of him, he’s the head of household, I don’t trust no woman around him. WTF?
What she should have said was she doesn’t trust him around any woman and she can say what she want, according to the gubment & income taxes he aint head of household – she is. Lol…
I hope she’s as open minded when he brings home some disease he picked up. Please, she’s free to do or believe whatever she wants, but don’t try and sell it like it’s all good. She has a man that’s not committed to her. Why bother to get married?
Mo reeks of insecurity
& Sandra Rose needs a big “Hoe sit down” her damn self. That fuggly ham is just mad that she can only get an average of 5 responses per post unless she’s bashing her favorite obsession Beyonce.
She’s a real LOSER!
KHIA213…
I can see we have some smart women in here today. Watch later, a few stupid chicks w/low self esteem are going to come up in here posting calling us haters, stupid or some off the wall mess.
*The situation Mo’Nique has created is going to come back and bite her in her big *****.
True KHIA,
It’s good for him to marry her cause then her twins would have the story book “mom and dad” plus they share *****ets while married…well truthfully he shares hers while she gets to show off her getting a good looking man. Plus all that other stuff like healthcare and things that come with marriage…but the love part is clearly not there…it’s a contract marriage.
PANACHE REPORT 01/14
“Rewind: We told you last year that he only married her because she had name status. He tells friends, he’s not really attracted to her but her perks allow him to go to industry events, eat in fine restaurants and meet his favorite celebrities. He started going to swinger clubs to add spice to his marriage, at least this is what he told his wife. One evening, she decided to accompany him. She was devastated, despite her fame, no one at the club wanted to swing with her because they considered her too unattractive. Meanwhile, hubby disappeared and couldn’t be found the entire evening. It was *****umed that he was getting his freak on in a private room.
Fast Forward: Things haven’t gotten any better. Hubby is now more open and brazen with his numerous indiscretions and our female celebrity recently complained to her friends that she keeps receiving hang-ups on her land line. Her friends try to make her see the light but she refuses to even consider divorce. She doesn’t want to be alone. Hubby considers himself a kept man and he spends what money she has, entertaining his other women. Hubby has also gone buck wild, openly flaunting other women in person and trolling internet sites for sex hookups not to mention his sex club and swinger appearance from coast to coast. He seems to be sleeping with everyone but his wife. She has become really depressed regarding his embarr*****ing and disrespectful behavior. Hubby has her so brainwashed that she’s convinced, no one else wants her but him. Hubby was once overheard telling a friend, “I’m not married, she is.” Our female celebrity has burned so many britches in Hollywood in regards to bouncing checks to her hairdresser, publicist, stylist, etc., that some people are happy that hubby is putting her through this public humiliation and shame. Whenever her family tells her to divorce him, her constant reply is: “Divorce is not an option,” he will have to leave me first.” SIDNEY HICKS & Mo’NIQUE
Bossip got this article straight from Mediatakeout.com!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@justwondering
You are absolutely right. I was one of those who posted about the Maya Angelou comment….But I did NOT say I wasn’t going to return to the site. I knew that would be unrealistic for me because I like getting information about our people and at work I only have access to certain Blog sites.
One thing I did decide is that I am not going to support their new venture called “LiveS*****”. I didn’t even look at it to find out what it is.
If anyone else has a suggestion on what we could do collectively to LET BOSSIP KNOW THEY WERE OUT OF LINE. PLEASE LET ME KNOW.
Okay, let me plug my little brother for a second. Please check him out and let me know what you think (sorry to sound like a spammer). But he needs recognition, he’s really good. But then to me he would be. He sings. Click on my name.
@Lady Architect
You have a pretty face. I didn’t know you were a big girl. Size 14, 12?
Monique is getting what she thinks she needs. Life is about choices.
None of us get EXACTLY what they want.
I agree with Monique to a certain degree. “Open” means to be open about everything in the relationship! If you having thoughts about sexing someone- be open about it! Lets talk about that. Let’s see if there is a reason. If your not being fullfilled in the relationship anymore-lets be open about it. If you’ve done something wrong-lets be open about it. Being open in a relationship and marriage is the best way to be. Yes there are going to be some hurt feelings and some damage self-esteems, but I would rather my man being open as oppose to not being open to protect my feelings! Being “open” does not generally mean “open sex”! Take it how you want. But I feel where shes going with this. Shes not accepting anything that he does, just because they have a “open” relationship. She’s being a realist! Every woman knows that being in a relationship is not easy. There are going to be times where you or your man has or have cheated. But you cant just be threw with one another and call it off! You have to work through stuff like that! Especially in a marriage! All Im saying is just dont take the word “open” so literally!
Thanks for the comment Richard. I’m a size 14 and very proud of it…I use to be a size 22 truthfull and only 5-6, but you gotta know when enough is enough. Even at that size I would not settle for a guy that wants to do that cause my self esteem wasn’t like that.
If you have not been a fat girl all your life you do not have an idea of what monique gors through.
pretty girls can have the luxury of calling her stupid but she has an affliction that gives her few options. Many of you say she is better off alone, without having to actually be alone.
Richard I somewhat agree – truth be told, she’s alone now.
@Lady Architect
If that 14 contains large hips, thighs, ***** or all of the above and a pretty face …you have no idea what Monique deals with.
I know plenty of brothas that would deal and be happy.
@V
Youmay be correct but it does not feel that way to her.
He knows where to draw the line. I know plenty of women who are BEAUTIFUL and put up with their men because of finances or kids. As long as they are not publiclly embar*****ed ….
well Richard I know how she feels…It took me a long time to get in a serious relationship cause of weight issues and things…and Monique is not an ugly woman…I think she has a very pretty face..n that’s my opinion, but not being the most attractive person doesn’t mean settle for less and throwing away your morals and beliefs to do so..10mins a day of affection is never worth that cause in the end she can claim she has a huusband, but she never has his complete attention or affection….so that leaves her back to square 1..it’s just that at time she is not physically alone, but emotionally she can still be lonely.
that dont make no sense.
yeh Richard it contains all, but I can still comment cause I went 18years of being told I was too big by doctors and trying all types of pills and regimens…but like I said I never settled for less than what I deserved cause in the end I was still a woman of hardcore beliefs…and knew what I wanted and deserved from a man.
Quit this free promotion of millionaire friends *****..that ***** is wack!!
Bossip should BAN Mimo and everyone else who keeps promoting their stupid millionaire/billionaire dating websites!!!
Ok, I just had to get that off my chest
One Love from Amsterdam City
Lady Architect, that’s wonderful, congrats on your weight loss. Really, us sistahs have got to get a serious handle on the weight issue and our overall. We’re at the top of the list for err thang…HIV, diabetes, heart problems, high blood pressure, cholesterol and on and on it goes. We really need to get a grip, encourage each other and develop an healthier lifestyle.
oops, meant “develop a healthier”
Mississippi Girl
Bossip got this article straight from Mediatakeout.com!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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They get everything from mediatakeout…;-)
darn, i’m typing too fast or something, okay the missing word was health… as in “our overall health”.
Once again, it never fails…haters appearing everyday. She got a husband and family and from all appearances, she is happy, but yet, we still get the “ugly, fat, *****” comments. We get the “he gotta be gay to want her” comments. Are we talking about her marriage, or her weight, because clearly, the lonely haters on this website are confused. U don’t know where your man is at, gotta raise 10 kids all by yourself, but yet, you can EVER SO CLEARLY figure out that a happy, fat, rich woman has something wrong in her marriage. I mean, yes, I do take issues with the “open” marriage because I don’t believe u have the right to step outside a marriage, but thats HER DAMN marriage, not mines, not yours. And it doesn’t have s___t to do with her being fat no more than you not having a man because your skinny does, so quit all the damn hating.
Well, it’s either open or it’s not. The majority of men are going to cheat anyway, so you might as well know about it.
No?
big monique need to lose about 10- 15 pound so she can move better on the 08 betshow this year. you can dance with beyonce
He’s gay, and she’s a beard. If she lifted her head out the plate for a second, she’d see what’s really going on.
She got a husband and family and from all appearances, she is happy, but yet, we still get the “ugly, fat, *****” comments.
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Funny you say this, because a few of my non-overweight co-workers would rather take the elevator to the second floor because they huff and puff up a few flights of steps.
The misconception that only overweight people get out of breath is a dangerous one, and only gives a free p***** to those who are not overweight but are still unhealthy.
But I’d rather see her than those *****ed-out, annorexic, soon to be dead, prescription pill popping, low self esteem having, chicks.
“We have an agreement that we’ll always be honest, and if sex happens with another person, that’s not a deal breaker for us, that’s not something where we’ll have to say, ‘Oh God, we’ve got to go to divorce court because you cheated on me.’ Because we don’t cheat.“
It appears that I was still sleepy when I read that post, and neglected to see the first quote… This is definitely not a marriage. I thought she meant open as in being honest with one another, but apparently, this is the pop culture version of open relationship, as in either one or the other persons involved is possibly messing around with other people. I am not feeling that at all, really. At least she has someone in her life, I guess.
Just Sit – This is TRUE—–> “Really, us sistahs have got to get a serious handle on the weight issue and our overall. We’re at the top of the list for err thang…HIV, diabetes, heart problems, high blood pressure, cholesterol and on and on it goes. We really need to get a grip, encourage each other and develop an healthier lifestyle.”
What’s so amazing to me is that everyone is giving Queen Latifah such a hard time for wanting to lose 10-15-20 lbs using Jenny Craig…
Black folks (women, men, teens, kids) are in denial about their weight and/or health issues…I just saw several shows with kids 8-12 with high blood pressure.
Diets don’t work! Healthy eating habits and exercise will everytime!
Really, I could care less about Mo’nique’s marriage, her husband, etc. My issue is that as an overweight woman, she is deluding millions of overweight women into embracing their fatness and their hundreds of pounds, instead of encouraging them to love themselves healthy.
@Fit and Fab, whether she uses Jenny Craig or her trainer girlfriend or whomeever, I think it’s commendable that Queen is doing something about her weight. Granted, she looks like a big boned chick who will never be a size 8…and that’s okay, I’m glad she probably realized that her ***** was getting out of control and decided to do something about it. Hopefully, she’ll encourage other sistahs to not necessarily waste money on Jenny Craig, but like you said, make healthier food choices and exercise.
MO’S HUSBAND DO LOOK ‘SUSPECT’ IN THE PIC. I THINK HE IS ON THE DL. lol
She should consider arm wrestling…
I don’t think anybody could beat her – Seriously.
People in general need to eat right and excercise.
But the problem is society doesn’t promote healthy eating and excercize – instead, society promotes thinness. In other words, because we as a people view beauty only in smaller sizes, we give unhealthy thin people a p*****. In other words, you can be as unhealthy as you want, so long as you’re not fat.
None of us know Mo’nique, therfore we can’t say whether she eats healthy of not, but for a woman who’s been overweight all of her life, maybe she does eat healthy?
Regardless, I don’t think what she’s doing is necessarily horrible because people still need the confidence to live their lives. It’s hard to believe in yourself when society views you in such a negative light.
That Blind item came from Panache report.Anyway i knew it was her. She is big as I am, yet her self esteem is non existent. Me, I am a BIG sistah. Healthy as all get out. No diabetes, or high blood. Walk more then so called avg sized women. But I am losing weight for me. I refuse to settle for second best because of my size. I am doubtful of them twins, also. Never seen 1 single pic of them. She’s a mess. And the other dude she was about to marry was a str8 up crook and he stood her up the day of the wedding. Someone get this dummy an intervention.. quick!!
Society promote…
McDonalds.
Steak
Pasta
White bread
White flour
Soda
Pancakes
Fried Chicken
Monosodium Glutomate
Aspartame
High Fructose Corn Syrup
Macaroni & Cheese
…..
what she NEEDs to do is – 1) diet 2) shave 3) take them ‘84 gl*****es from dudes face 4) cover up if she ain’t gonna diet or shave
Good read…
nytimes.com/2005/09/01/fashion/thursdaystyles/01FITNESS.html
and another thang .. her and king latifah BOFE needs to lose about 105lbs a piece – seriously – only gay dl men are chubby chasers. it’s a fact
Gotta love that Mo’! Ain’t nothing being friends, lovers and trust each other being married.
nah nah, is it possible to be obese and healthy? I’m not a dietician, MD nor a nutritionist, but it seems like an oxymoron to me. Whether the symptoms of myriad illnesses are outwardly manifested or not, with 50 pounds or more of excess fat in one’s body, it makes you wonder what’s going on on the inside.
Sure society promotes all the crap you listed, but society also promotes eating more fish, fruits and veggies and fitness.
Thanks nah, interesting read indeed. I guess that answers my question…to some extent. However, I think there’s a difference between being fit and being healthy. For example, in college, there was this fat chick that hung around with my group and she could twist like a pretzel, do all kinds of splits etc. Her body was fat and taut. Yes, she was fit, but was she healthy?
The fat personal trainers are probably just there to make other fat patrons feel comfortable and encouraged. But like someone quoted, would you go to a financial advisor who was dead broke?
You go on, Monique! Whatever works for you and your man, God bless you both. It’s hard finding love, so get it where you can. I ain’t hatin’!!
Poor woman, trying to convince herself that it is okay to be obese. Trying to convince herself that it’s okay that this man who clearly does not love her for herself, that it’s okay for him to betray their vows, just so won’t be alone. I’ve been on my own for 10+ years and not because I can’t have a man, I just love being on my own. She is clearly a insecure person due to her weight. She is trying to not only convince the public of her views, worse herself. Seriously, she needs to work on losing a little weight for her physically health and emotional health. Being fat is not easy, and the public is not tolerable of a fat person, only fat people are tolerable of this because it makes them feel better about being obese, which is clearly not good for anyone obese, too many health risks, and face it, very fun people are attracted to obese individuals, it’s just not attractive on anyone.
girlfriend needs to cut way back on the ham hocks and blackeyed peas
yeah, why FAT people stay convincing themselves and others that it’s okay, is NOT COOL! when you were kids and fat, when the other kids said ‘you’re fat, lose weight’ they were right because kids are naturally thin [with the excercising] when you’re an adult and you’re not excercising or not eating healthy – something is wrong WITH YOUR MENTAL ABILITY TO THINK AND REASON
Poor woman, trying to convince herself that it is okay to be obese. Trying to convince herself that it’s okay that this man who clearly does not love her for herself, that it’s okay for him to betray their vows, just so won’t be alone. I’ve been on my own for 10+ years and not because I can’t have a man, I just love being on my own. She is clearly a insecure person due to her weight. She is trying to not only convince the public of her views, worse herself. Seriously, she needs to work on losing a little weight for her physical health and emotional health. Being fat is not easy, and the public is not tolerable of a fat person, only fat people are tolerable of this because it makes them feel better about being obese, which is clearly not good for anyone obese, too many health risks, and face it, very few people are attracted to obese individuals, it’s just not attractive on anyone.
Monique is a beautiful woman inside, she just needs to work a little on that which really bothers her, and work on being alone on your own, truly on your own without some man. After that, she would find the man who she really deserves and who would really love her for what she is and not the $$$ she may have.
so if monique was smaller then what? some ppl on here are always trying to *****yze ***** like their relationship is perfect. if monique and her husband dnt have a problem y do some of yall?
and as another poster mentioned y are some of yall still on here, i thought yall was gonna be ghost, LOL
*****ING LYING ***** HYPOCRITS, LOL
i notice every man with a fat woman is gay right, lol
and flo jo was in excellent shape and she died, im not sayig dnt get healthy but ppl need to stop saying oh lose weight b4 this happen, ***** if its ut time to go, ur going and thats all to it.
@Just Sit and Fit and Fab
1.Love that ‘just sit and be pretty’, sums up things pretty well.
2.I AGREE with you two, I always felt her ‘accept yourself as fat’ routine was idiotic.
Because if you truely loved yourself, wouldn’t you want to be the BEST you could be, rather it is your weight, job, marriage…etc.
@Seghana
AMEN!!!!!!
I am a Christian, with a good sense of humor, I accept everyone and don’t judge. In Genesis Chapter 3, it states “her desire shall be for her husband’ reffering to Eve.
Marriage is not meant to be open people.
Let’s not even look at it from a religious point of view, let’s go the common sense route. Like someone else stated, what is the point of being married if you are not going to be faithful. Any way one looks at it marrige is not meant to be open. And when someone states they have an ‘open’ marriage OF COURSE THEY ARE REFFERING TO SEX. Come on people, she was not talking about being honest with her mate.
Thanks,
Ms. Lovely
Go Bossip!
@ Ms. Lovely
And when someone states they have an ‘open’ marriage OF COURSE THEY ARE REFFERING TO SEX. Come on people, she was not talking about being honest with her mate.
^^^^how do u know this? im sure u polled everybody in this entire world who is married and got ur facts right? LOL BULL***** AND U KNOW IT, LOL
I wish her well with everything she does but….I hope she has an iron clad pre-nup in case things fall short in that marriage I don’t know but something about her man seems off
@bossipkeeps…this is one dumb statement, “ppl need to stop saying oh lose weight b4 this happen, ***** if its ut time to go, ur going and thats all to it.”
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Your perspective is just plain stupid. Sure, we’re all going to die one day, but why go prematurely because you lack discipline to push back from the table or because you’re too lazy to exercise?
@ Just Sit And Be Pretty
thank u for the kind words
so how do u explain flo jo then?
Just Sit And Be Pretty:
My point is healthy living for all…
I don’t know if I want to condemn Monique for her attitude, and also wanting to help overweight women with their self-esteem….because no matter what you do, self esteem and confidence are important. If it wasn’t for her attitude, she probably would not be as successful as she is now, because of the way the industry treat women like her. So, despite her weight, she’s still a human being who should be able to follow her dreams and be happy. And I think her larger than life persona is simply a defense mechanism – which she feel is needed to survive in ruthless Hollywood.
Additionally, Mo’nique or any other overweight woman out there, still need the confidence when making the decision to lose weight. It’s almost hard for a person with absolutely no sense of self-worth to change their lifestyle – because that is a process that requires an “I know I can do it” attitude.
Overall, I think we put more emphasis on looks than healthy lifestyle. Because of this, many young women turn to unhealthy eating habits and or no eating at all!
Yes, society promote healthy eating, but that’s hardly through action. Just look at tv commercials and also what type of food joints you see in every corner.
I don’t completely disagree with you, but I don’t believe in bashing people (I’m saying you are…) and or the societal approach which basically tell people you can live an unhealthy life, just as long as you don’t get fat.
@bossip keeps
Common Sense baby, of course she talking about sex.
and or the societal approach which basically tell people you can live an unhealthy life, just as long as you don’t get fat.
^^^^ITA with this statement, good point.
@ Ms. Lovely, but u said u dnt judge ppl, so what r u doing?
and thats not common sense thats ur OPINION, which everybody on bossip is doing.
@NahNah
You are correct she could be eating healthy even though she is overweight.
The problem is being overweight stresses all the systems of your body.
So at some point she will feel the health effects of carrying excess weight.
Plus healthy eating is not just about eating the correct foods, one also needs to consume them in the correct amounts. It is healthy to eat an apple, it is not healthy to eat 40 apples.
Ms. Lovely
@bossip keeps
Sweetie, I was not judging I was giving my opinion.
sorry just sit, that was supposed to be..
*i’m not saying that you are*
****PRETTYMISSSUNSHINE****
I can’t wait until I find that one, where I can say can’t no other man compare, but I guess for now I have to settle for saying, “you just like all the rest of them”
LAWD HAVE MERCY….TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL SISTAH!! LOL
Ms. Lovely:
You are correct, but who eat 40 apples? LOL
I’m not going to lie, I am addicted to oranges and eat about 8-10 per day…but I had to cut down because I started getting heart burn and teeth problems. So you have a point.
YA’LL SPEAKING SOME TRUTH UP IN HERE…LET ME START FROM THE BEGINNING…LOL DAMMIT!
@NahNah
I know people who are addicted to food and eat that much.
I speak from expericence, I am an ex-fat girl and it is just not the way to be, on too many levels to go into.
Ms. Lovely
P.S. Currently I’m getting fat girls revenge, since I lost the weight, I’ve been killing them hoes. All the skinny girls that got all the boys in school hate me now. I got older and better looking. LOL
What Monique is doing is giving her husband carte blanche to cheat. And when it is reported in the the media that he has, Monique will save face by falling back on her statement that their marriage is “open”. There is no way that any couple can be devoted and deeply in love if there is a mutual “agreement” that other folks can come into your life and sex with them is optional. Sounds like a pseudo marriage to me. But oh well, Mo likes it…..
Flo jo was “allegedly” was using steriods…that’s what happened!
@ Just Sit And Be Pretty
thank u for the kind words
so how do u explain flo jo then?
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bossipkeeps, what about Flo Jo…okay, she was an athlete with a health issue who met an untimely end…WTH does that have to do with the issue were’re discussing? Not understanding your flow of logic…
@ Nah
You know what, you make some salient points. However, my concern isn’t a general “healthy living” for all at the moment. As a black woman, I’m being a tad bit ethnocentric and am concerned about black women. I’m concerned at the many health issues that we face because we are too fat. I’m concerned because we are not taking better care of ourselves. I’m concerned when I get on the train that I’m constantly squished because the woman next to me is overweight…okay, I digress.:-)
I don’t have a problem with big women having confidence or self-esteem because self-loathing is detrimental and doesn’t help matters at all. My problem with Mo is that she’s overly effusive with this “love your fat”, that I think it’s misleading and delusional. And I won’t even get started with the “skinny women are *****es” nonsense she used to spout.
Yes, it takes confidence, and a certain mental determination to decide to lose weight or eat healthy…but at some point, you’ve just gotta make up in your mind to do it. Sure, the media bombards us with fast food commercials and in the black neighborhoods, there all over the place. However, at some point, you’ve got to rise about it all and make changes for the good.
Now I am so curious about Mo’nique’s other men. Someone earlier stated someting about husband 1&2, does any one know?
Ms. Lovley
Monique is a joke. She is a big girl doing whatever it take to have & keep a man. She goes from one man to the other without pausing. I remember when she was stood up at the alter by one man and was engage to another months later. Most women would need time to heal but not Mrs. I NEED A MAN AT ANY COST.
I remember when she was promoting the Parkers here in Atl before the 1st season. She promised that her character would NOT have the big girl sterotypes. Yeah, chasing a man that doesn’t want you for 6 seasons is definiately not a big girl sterotype.
KHIA213
I hope she’s as open minded when he brings home some disease he picked up. Please, she’s free to do or believe whatever she wants, but don’t try and sell it like it’s all good. She has a man that’s not committed to her. Why bother to get married?
^^Exactly.
Yes, you have to be open in the sense of trying new things with each other and being honest, but –although sharing your heart and emotions with someone else is a major betrayal– sharing you body with another person is life-threatening and breaks the purest, strongest display of the bond you make with your spouse.
You can’t be ok with sharing YOUR partner with others, man or woman. That just does not fly.
****REAL TALK****
Girl I never thought of having a jumpoff for that reason…so you don’t have to think about the boyfriend 24/7….thanks for the tip!! lol
****LADY ARCHITECT****
How did you lose the weight? And congrats…I’m currently a 12 and trying to get BACK to my size 6…it ain’t easy, but I haven’t been too focused either.
@Just sit
You are correct, it is not in any way healthy to be overweight. But understand we are a product of our environment and if all we know is eating wrong and being overweight because that is how are family is, it is hard to break that mentally.
We as black women do need to stop the insanity.
Stop the cycle, learn how to eat, move, breathe and be healthy.
I was eating a salad at my parents house not to long ago and my father walked in and said ‘that’s repugnant, how can you eat something so repugnant?’
We need to teach our children about healthy eating and living.
Ms. Lovely
I hear you @ Just Sit.
I knew something was kinda odd…
“Just Sit And Be Pretty” hadn’t got into an argument in a while…
JSABP forever be doing the back and forth with somebody… I don’t care, it’s entertaining sometimes…
****nahnah****
And to think…I was just about to take my ***** to Mcdonalds for a Filet-O-Fish….damn…thanks for ruining my lunch choice…LOL Just kidding… I guess I’ll have a salad…DANG!
An Open Letter To Monique…..
Dear Monique,
One of the Saddest things, is when a person lies to themselves becacuse even ‘they’ cannot handle the truth. I sense you are full of sh*t. I sense everyone knows you are full of sh*t. I sense you know that you know everyone knows that you are full of sh*t. You’ve basically took some ol’ weak woman sh*t and dressed it up to make it seem like your in ‘control’. But your not. You can’t even control how you feel about yourself no matter how hard you try. Why? Because your obiviously looking to all the wrong sources to validate how you feel about you. You desperately need that man to be there…and God forbid he’s not! What happen’s then Monique? Do you ‘then’ feel like the unattractive fat girl with no man? Do you feel unlovable? I see only one thing and one thing only. Low Self Esteem. You know, it IS possible for someone to love you and only you…someone that would be satisfied with you and only you. But you don’t believe that, because deep down you don’t feel deserving of that type of relationship. You husband is playing you. Oh wait
, that’s right, you’ve been friends since age 14, right? So I guess that makes it okay for your so called husband to defile your marriage…whatever Monique. Tell you what, keep on lying to yourself and we’ll pretend that you really are brillant and original. I mean, let’s be real here…how many people have tried this ‘open marriage’ arrangement and watched it blow up in their face? That’s what happen’s Monique..it blows up in your face. Yeah I know, it was supposed to liberate you…make you free and provide you with the security your self esteem so desperately needs. But trust, it will blow up. And the sad thing is, you went and told the whole world your brillant secret to a successful marriage and you will end up looking real stupid. So I guess that means you will hang on to this marriage for dear life, won’t you? Cause’, we don’t won’t to look foolish now, do we? How sweet is that deal for your hubby, spends your money….bottom feeds off the success you’ve had to fight for…and has a carte blanche to sleep with whoever. Sweet! But do me a favor, please no more books and stand-up about how you are secure with being big and fabulous. If you were so fabulous, your husband would desire you and only you….and if his a** should cheat and happen to forget that…you would deal with that sh*t discreetly and make him remember OR you would let his a** go and keep the sh*t movin’. Real easy stuff that a woman of your caliber should know by now. What you don’t do is announce it to the world. When Ozzie Davis and Ruby Dee tried the ‘open marriage’ deal many years ago when they were young and foolish…they found out, that sh*t don’t work! Bottom line: You don’t feel you can keep this man’s attention and affection…you don’t feel worthy. I would venture to say it’s because you a plus sized…but even skinny women fall victim to this powerless mindset. Your husband has really ran up on a fool…like the Neville Brother’s sing, “Everyone Play’s The Fool Sometimes”….but my question is, when will you stop playing the fool?
Ms.Lovely, you’re right, environment does play a role…LOL, that’s why we’ve gotta get out more.
And I agree with you about teaching kids healthy eating and living. We are now seeing a generation of kids with adult health issues…makes no sense.
LOL @ Keepin It Real…awww c’mon, that’s not true. I haven’t beefed hard w/anyone since WesSide and the Mary J clone back in ‘07. Oh wait, there was anonymouse two or three weeks ago…:-)
Anyhoo, Paigey, sorry to spoil your lunch, but get that salad girl. I’m sure you’ll feel better. And just think, that ole fish sammich will always be there…for another day and another time.
PaigeyWaigey:
LOL…Sorry!
But do what you need to do.
Just Sit:
You beefed with Wesside?
@ Just Sit And Be Pretty, of course u dnt understand my flow, because its my opinions just like i dnt agree with urs. it is what is it. but instead of talking about monique what r u doing in ur community to get the message out about living a healthy lifstyle?
****BossipKeep*****Going****
PLEASE DON’T START NO MESS UP IN HERE TODAY…LOL IT WAS SO PEACEFUL..BE KIND AND REWIND.
What’s the point in getting married? They should’ve just stayed single and lived in sin instead of breaking their covenant to each other and God. Celebrities give the most ridiculous excuses for the things they do.
Oh yeah, back to her man. He looks so gay. He has gay face. LOL
It’s so sad that people attack Mo because she is fat and seemingly happy.
Of course she would like to be skinny but everyone was not meant to be slim (Ask Samoans)
But it’s true that our women were not meant to be as slim (Check bone density and races)
Mo knows that she is not as healthy as she needs to be but should her life be crappy because of it?
Why all the venom ladies. You’all are so much harder on each other than men are on u.
What happened to sisterhood?
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^^bossip equals haters, and if they see anyone happy. they hate and dictate
@ nahnah
I hear you. Not all overweight people gorge on cheetos and twinkies BUT there is a simple formula for weight loss: consume less calories than you burn. Therefore, it is very hard for me to believe that someone Monique’s size does not consume more calories than she should and/or gets enough exercise. Of course, that is if she doesn’t have some kinda thyroid issue. I do agree that there are slender people who are out of shape, too. It is just not as apparent.
In response to the “open letter to Monique”
Stats show that swingers stay married longer than so-called monogamous couples. Just an FYI. Didn’t mean to interrupt your rant.
If you believe that all men cheat, then all men will cheat on YOU, because in your mind you have accepted this nonsense.
I can understand if a couple has been married for 20yrs and the guy (or woman) slipped up. However, an ongoing relationship is just plain disrespectful.
However, if she like it, I love it…I wonder if they still wear condoms with this type of relationship???
I’ve heard 30 – 60 minutes of exercise, pretty much every day of the week is necessary for good health. Oh yeah, and 5 – 7 fruits and vegetables per day…
I think both NahNah and Just Sit etc… both have valid points. While I don’t think those ideal weight charts accurately reflect what a black woman should weigh, we are, more often than not out of shape….
@Lovely Queen
If you believe that all men cheat, then all men will cheat on YOU, because in your mind you have accepted this nonsense.
PREACH!
Monique is a joke. She is a big girl doing whatever it take to have & keep a man. She goes from one man to the other without pausing. I remember when she was stood up at the alter by one man and was engage to another months later. Most women would need time to heal but not Mrs. I NEED A MAN AT ANY COST.
I remember when she was promoting the Parkers here in Atl before the 1st season. She promised that her character would NOT have the big girl sterotypes. Yeah, chasing a man that doesn’t want you for 6 seasons is definiately not a big girl sterotype.
@Ms. Lovely:
Yeah, we all know better and so we gotta teach our kids (I don’t have any but I’m saying), family members and young ones around us who look up to us about some of things our peoples didn’t put us on like other groups:
(1) eating healthy and excercise
(2) don’t mess with credit cards
(3) homeownership
(4) importance of education
(5) your credit equals your reputation and if your credit is messed up it will not only affect your ability to get lower rates on various loans but also your ability to get a job at certain companies
(6) have a savings account with enough money to cover your expenses and living habits for 6 months…
And other things like:
- only lend out money that you don’t mind not getting paid back (good way to mess up a friendship)
- don’t live with your best friend (another good way to mess up a friendship)
@Keeping it Real
Word, Word!!
@Octavia
You got through the whole thing?
Why get married if you want to share your most intimate moments with someone else other than the person you committed yourself to? What’s the point, especially when there are all of those STDS. I hope he’s protecting himself. Just be single. She probably accepts the open marriage thing, because she doesn’t think she can get anyone better than him and she knows he’d cheat on her anyway.
To envynone.
Thank you and Amen. I like her comedy and I thought that she was sincere when she spoke about marrying her best friend.I see a bit differently now; kind of a phony.
@ PaigeyWaigey,
im not starting nothing im stating my opinion about this topic just like everybody else.
it just so happen that some ppl dnt agree with what im stating.
why monique got those tiny ***** *****ies and she so big? that dont even look right
the key is definitely a healthy lifestyle….not depriving yourself to fit someone else’s standards…yes you two can have that slice of cake but just know that with that choice comes the obligation to work out…..for most people, if you cut back (not cut out – within reason) and excercise consistently you will lose weight…..one thing that I don’t like is when MoNique or anyone in her position is referred to as “fat” I mean come on….she has feelings to….
Only way I would make that statement is if he was filthy rich. I hope it is his money thats spending, if not then she needs some self esteem.
@ BLack Butterfly
U got the roles reversed. She don’t need money. She needs a w***** who will pretend to love her for her money……Like u :=)
see what it gets you when you fuc wit a fat chic. he’s so miserable. never would i want my wifey saying crap like that
They look happy together. He has an exceptionally beautiful smile. She looks radiant. I don’t like the hair, but he seems happy and she seems happy and that’s all that matters.
That picture makes me happy. I can’t hate.
yea whatever, he’s cute and she knows if she’s away too long he gotta get some action somewhere and she’s too tired of dating, we all know what “open” means if she didnt want ppl to think of sex then she should have said something like “we communicate”
monique is a beautiful big woman. But……she is full of *****. Its something I never really liked about her. She just doesnt a ppear to be “real” to me. anyway I give her a couple more years on the marriage. she needs to sit down somewhere and uit trying to be the damn spokeswoman for big women. isn’t that what we have oprah for? damn. this post should have been up under “ho sit down”
dat is a blue bus thats looking towards the heavens. lol
Just Sit:
You beefed with Wesside?
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Nah nah, yup, up until just before Christmas. Now I don’t even remember what all of it was about, but after the holidays, we just chilled.
See, I don’t take these beefs seriously. Sometimes, I even end up chatting w/folks that I forgot I was beefin’ with…:-)
@Bossipkeeps…no worries…we’re good.:-)
@Just Sit…
You can’t take them seriously because they’re not personal. And like you, I always forget who I beef with. lol
Anyway, wesside and I get along great, so that’s why I asked. We tend to have very similiar opinions, so that helps…
*wondering she is, btw…*
no offense but are all fat women desperate???
I wonder if that will be the case when he brings her home an STD wrapped in satin
cutie pie…
I don’t get it….are all skinny women desparate? are all brunettes desparate? no offense of course…
I don’t know…hmmm…why bother getting married? AND, isn’t this her 3rd marriage?
LOL, I’m 34, and marriage seems like such an overrated experience these days. You can have a beautiful bond with a partner without “vowing to legally wedding…til death do you part”. Maybe the vows should just be changed.
But if Mo likes it, then I LOVE it!
cutiepie:
I don’t know a big woman who is single.
Also, the majority of women who are infected by their husbands were not aware that their husbands were creeping. So perhaps an open relationship is less risky than one where your husband is sneaking behind your back? I dunno, just wondering…
i guess whateva works for her
I hope Mo’nique has invested in some body makeup since this pic was taken.
mimo
God bess them. it is said they met each other on on the celebrities and millionaires dating site millionairefriends.com. Charlie Sheen found his match there.
^^^^^
I guess you did not read the part where she said they’ve known each other since she was 14 years old.
Open means allowed to ***** up and break vows. What a joke!
Monique need to STOP lying, knowing that her man IS gay, thats what she meant about an open relationship, he can bump butt and she ain’t going to be mad, cause she knows what the deal is.
SJS – STAR JONES SYNDROME!
I saw that show…….
I also read the essence article with jill scott interviewing her, where she made essentially the same statement and appeared to be secure and proud of her decision.
I can’t understand why black folks go on oprah and wanna act contrite, deny, and/or try to downplay immoral or ignorant behavior. Or why they feel the need to suck up to Oprah. She ain’t God, my goodness!
But it is good that these hypocrites (Monique, Superhead, Dave Chappelle) recognize that their moral standards are at the bottom of the barrel.
Sheesh, Monique is barely funny….
In addition…Monique went on to Oprah to discuss her new movie and when she was questioned about having an open marriage, Monique stated that she meant ‘open’ communication, and that people instantly *****umed sex. More bullsh*t, b/c I remember when Essence magazine did a story on Monique awhile back and I think Monique made it apparent she was referring to sex. I think she uses the term ‘open’ in all aspects, whether it be communication or sex. It’s obvious that Monique doesn’t value the sacredness of marriage. Why did she even bother getting married if she believed and accepted that her man might and would eventually cheat on her? If that’s the case you could have had the traditional hollywood marriage…you know, where you have a spirital ceromony and live together until you are ready for new d*ck or new Pu**y…..then you split up and become the best of friends. It seems that Monique plays up to the public and needs to convince the world that somebody wants her….or maybe the reality is that she cannot fathom being plus sized and ALONE. There are many woman that will chose to have a man first, rather than deal with themselves…I think that Monique is really unhappy with herself, but as long as she has a man, she doesn’t have to worry about the world knowing that. These are just my thoughts based on what I’ve heard, seen and read about her , from the interviews…from VH1 and form “Skinny Women Are Evil” ( yes, I read the book). I am a size 10, always have been, and I work in entertainment….I see women like Monique all the time, so use to playing up to the camera’s, they forget who they really are. They forget who they really aspire to be, because there so use to slipping into character and by the time the camera’s turn away, these women are tired. Too tired to really get themselves toghether mentally, physically and spiritually. They are burnt out and playing that role of the woman who is happy, is easier to do than looking in the mirror and seeing who you really are. Spending ‘alone’ time with that person staring back at you and taking the time to cultivate the woman you really want to be and allowing someone to give you that exclusive love you deserve. Open communication is wonderful and healthy…but an open bedroom translates into: drama, std’s, low self esteem, and confusion. Come to me with that nonsence, and I got your open…here’s an open door, get the f**k out! Life is to short! Lastly Monique is carrying this *****, she got kids and gotta take care of him too! You got kids eating dirt cookies in Haiti…starving…take care of them, if you want to rescue someone. Cause best believe he ain’t munching on dirt, he’s munching on someone else’s ‘goodies’ and coming back and kissing you on the mouth! How sick is that? I think he ‘looks’ downlow…straight up and down. But who really knows…what I do know is, Monique needs to keep her raggedy marriage details to herself from now on. Preach!
Mo’Nique is dumb.
Here we go with, “Monique is insecure, Monique doesn’t love herself, blah blah blah.” Hell, what do you expect with legions of self-congratulatory hens clucking about how she’s misguided, inadequate, and inappropriate simply because of her weight? Half of you chicks post so many messages on Bossip, I wonder if you ever find time to actually read a book. Maybe you’d do well to “improve” yourselves before you carp about a woman who probably does more in a day than you accomplish in two weeks.
Monique can do whatever she wants but she shouldn’t get it twisted and neither should Will and Jadan or any other proponents of “open marriage”– AN OPEN MARRIAGE ISN’T A MARRIAGE!! By definition MARRIAGE is monogamous commitment. If you care about each other, pay each others bills, have sex with other people, then just say that. IT’s NOT marriage!!! Why is that so hard for people to get???
It’s like making a cherry pie with peaches and still calling it a cherry pie.
@ envynone
Speak it! I’ve always felt Monique was suffering from MAJOR insecurities and this nonsense about her marriage just validates it for me. Anyone who has to overcompensate, as she ooohhh so often does, is really hiding the truth. She knows good and damn well she is not happy being the ‘phat’ girl and she knows that husband of hers is probably a real *****ing headache. (BTW how old is he, b/c he looks awful damn young).Wasn’t her last husband a midget, like 3ft or something. COme on now!
@ Bitter
It’s been my experience that to call women (especially black women) dumb is redundant. Most Black women are synonymous with DUMB! STUPID! WRETCHED! With a host of other adjectives. It’s their nature to make poor decisions that will negatively effect their lives…That’s why they make such good canon fodder for ridicule and they make great semen depositories.
For all the people so concerned with how Monique is promoting being fat instead of fighting against it, tell me, and I noticed one person who also asked this question was conviently ignored, what are the “healthy” men and women doing to fight the fat in your OWN COMMUNITIES? Are we encouraging a fat friend to eat healthy? Are we working out with them? I doubt it, your probaby just sitting on your own wide *****es telling fat people what they need to do.
And for the record, Monique’s “skinny *****es are evil” is taken out of context. If you read her book, (and I know u didn’t, obviously you didn’t) she was talking about the skinny women who are embarr*****ed to be seen with the fat friend, the skinny women who won’t be seen going into Lane Bryant or Ashley Stewart to help them shop. She DID give props to skinny women in her life that didn’t harp on her weight or were embarr*****ed to be seen with her. So I think those of you who keep using this as an excuse to joke about her weight need to understand why she said it, it was not meant the way it has been interpreted. I also challenge all the obvious “health nuts” to help a “fat *****”…exercise with her, diet with her if your so tired of fat people “making excuses” for their weight. I mean, since we got all these damn fitness gurus on the board, we should be able to get something accomplished, right? You know what, nevermind, I won’t even hold my breathe on that one…
@Jus Sit in Judgement
What!? Are u the Mother Teresa of blogs or something? Correct me if I’m wrong, but aren’t you doing what everyone else is doing? Reading gossip blogs about other peoples lives and stating opinions. Maybe you see that as judging, other’s might see it as giving a perspective on a certain situation or an opinion. If you deplore the opinions of others so much, maybe you should stop reading this negative garbage…right?? You’ll be back on BOSSIP before I can even finish this sentence…Take that bootleg indignation on over to SandraRose.com or read a book or something!! (lamo)
I respect Monique, and her husband being honest and open with each other. But in this day and age sex with other people the hell with that! Dam I’m lost for words behind this crap because I have always respected Monique dam. I guess my biggest question is “since when is settling for less is better” or “to be with someone”?
gross
he is gay
I don’t think Mo meant that it was ok for him to wild out and cheat on her. I think she meant that they are so close that if anything like that happened he could come to her and let her know what happened and they could work on their relationship from there. She meant that she wouldn’t leave him because of that. I think that is commendable because so many celebrities get married for the sake of getting married and when tough times come up they jump ship so fast. It’s like how long did your marriage last? Two months. It’s ridicuolus. If her man did cheat on her they would probably go to counseling to see why this happened and how they could fix it. That is something a lot of people should do in order to prove that they want their marriage to work. I don’t think we should bag on them but say we hope for the best in your marriage.
Wow, her husband looks like Jack Spratt standing next to her.
Monique is bull *****ing, in other words, she is saying:
1) her man *****s around and she dont care as long as he her man
2) he spends her money
3) She don’t ***** around, because she always working (TV, movies)
In other words aint no point in being with him…
She dont ***** him! wake up monique!
Fat***** Monique knows she can’t keep that man. Her money is keeping him so she has no choice but to let him do whatever. She’s Fat, She’s hairy and ugly without all that make-up and she is way TOO LOUD. She isn’t fooling know one.
Oh I forgot!! Monique’s man is on the DOWN LOW, He looks so gay. Monique says all this open crap to protect hereself because she knows he’s cheating on her. FAT***** LIAR
Monique has low self esteem, obviously. She sounds like a desperate, brain washed breezie who knows her man is cheating and accepts the *****. dumb ***** ho.
Po’ MoMo… she don’t have no self-esteem left… so she’s letting this man cheat on her every whichaway! SMFH!