Romance is dead cause these dumb broads will call you corny if you try to bring flowers, candy or just take ‘em out for a walk in the park. They only pay you attention if you roll up with a phat ride with big rims and ignant music like “Gucci Mane” blaring out the tinted windows. Only when they hit their late 30′s & 40′s and after their va jay jays look like beat up roast beef and they got kids as old as the men they date then they want romance.

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Tivo is right, but mainly referring to you deep south heffas, i can surprise my girl and bring her flowers and she’d cry, that dinner sh*t she calls me and tells me where we’re going, that means she’s paying and i show up.

Romance is dead because all the women are fat and ugly. Also, fools are respecting strippers as real humans so everything is lost. You want love go find it with Flava Flav and Ray J.

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ROMANCE IS NOT DEAD.IT’S JUST THAT WOMEN AND MEN RUSH IN TO A REALATIONSHIP BEFORE GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER.

Romance is not dead, but when are people going to realize it’s about more- it’s about the soul connection with another soul that inspires you to understand the mysteries of our being, serve humanity, banish the ego… I’m talking about one soul-two bodies. Now that’s romance.

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SKEPTICAL88
WHAT DOES FAT AND UGLY HAVE TO DO WITH ROMANCE BEING DEAD.

Romance is definitely not dead if you’re a man or woman of quality. I think when you’ve been with someone for a while it’s not so much about flowers and candy but little things you do to make your partner’s life better and to show your appreciation for that person.

nikkiii>>>amen. Whatever happened to becoming friends first and then moving on. I’m amazed at how many men and women hop in the bed before the know the person’s last name, and then, God forbid, wind up pregnant by a man they hardly knew.

Romance is not dead, you just have to find a person who is not threatened by your independence and is willing to let you be you. Too many men and women want to change the other person. Too many men and women looking at the outward appearance of a person (yes, I know many times looks are the first thing that attracts us, but sometimes when you get to know the person, their looks don’t seem as important), but if we get to know them, their character, and their integrity, we might be more likely to couple up with the right person. I know I have.

Note to black women: I’m not trying to start an interracial conversation here, but open your horizons; don’t just look at the package (not THAT package, if you know what I mean), but the whole person even if he isn’t the race, color, etc. you might desire. Give a person a chance. He might just be the best thing that came into your life. I know from experience.

Romance is dead. I try to be good and respectful to women and it gets me nowhere. I am constantly overlooked and treated as a ‘friend’. I decided not to date at all, and if I end up being single for the rest of my life, so be it. I’m just tired of trying to have a meaningful, healthy relationship without screaming, cursing, and fights…because honestly, most women like the drama. I don’t do that. Love notes, flowers, candy–its all futile. Pointless. Love yourself first.

I’ve been married for 5 years and of course my wife says she wants more romance and affection what woman does not but I’m just like every other man I want to get laid more often than twice a week,hell I tell her lay me more often and the romance will be more often cause I would know the end result,Men are form Mars and Women are from Venus!

Insider>>>excellent points!

There used to be a time when men wanted independent women. What happened? Are men that insecure that they want to play the role of king but they lack the skills and tools to be the king? Is it that they want their egos stroked and they need to feel like they are the only ones that can call the shots in a relationship? I will gladly “submit” to a man that is taking his place in that position, i.e. BEING a man and not a whiny little boy. I think a lot of women would.

Could it be that maybe we are running into the same kinds of men/women because we keep hanging out in the same circles? If you are a guy and you keep finding women that only want thugs, money, and such, change your position. Go around a better quality of women. Same for women. If you are running into thugs and men that have multiple babies by the same/other women, maybe change your circles because from a woman’s standpoint, I don’t know any female who wants a loser, i.e. a thug, just money (most of the women I know make great money themselves), and all the other things I hear men describe. They want good, loving relationships because they are very good women.

Romance will NEVER be dead,

especially if you pick a guy that

is your friend, cares for you and wants you

He will go out of his way to do things for you…

That in turn, makes you do *special* things for him..

Real relationships still have romance, sometimes DECADES into a relationship..Look at Ossie and Ruby Dee..and yes, I will be married until either of us passes…

Chivalry won’t die unless REAL MEN do…

“Are today’s womn too independent for today’ s man to court and woo her? ”

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Hell yeah. If you treat a woman good they will call you weak and cheat on you with a man who treats them like shit.

Sad that this is even an issue in the Black community. Where are all the Black lovers? Were are the black couples on Friday and Saturday nights? I can tell you, their somewhere screwing not on dates and out together in public but hoveled up in a bed somewhere screwing. Sad

Romance is not dead!!! If you truly love your mate unconditionally then naturally you want to do things for them to make them feel special. Which leads to gift$, dinners, Intense loving making, get-a-ways and the little things that make them smile. Now, the key here is RECIPROCATION. How receptive and appreciative your mate is determines if your romantic gesture was successful…BUT having them return the gesture simply amplifies the Romance to a whole another level…

Romance isn’t dead if you’re in a committed relationship, otherwise we tend to think differently…

Romance isnt dead, courtship, a component of romance is weak…stop giving it up so soon and let the man woo you. I know this idea it dead to many who visit this site, but it works.

Romance, will never die!

@ TIVO you are 100% right.

if chivalry and courtship is dead its because those chicks indeed killed it. If woman have anyone to be pissed of with, it should be those women who go out of there way to kill a gentleman’s spirits.

u kindly ask them to dance, they do everything short of dissing ur mom. You introduce yourself and they laugh and call u corny. But when a thug dude approaches in baggy jeans and tattoos, they get a better response. Why not adjust too what women seem to like.

Ladies, if u want things to change, you need to check ur girls who are contributing to this trend.They r ruining it for you. Dont just laugh with her knowing she is wrong for what she did. Men are only making adjustments in order to gain success.

it’s not all chics so the ignorent one’s that are saying this are pathetic and need to expand their horizons. Stop being materialistic and obsessed with looks and the other insignificant things and maybe you will attract the right kind of people in your lives. Ever thought it’s the type pf people you are drawn to or vice versa which is the reason why you feel romance doesn’t exist anymore?

Elle, that’s what I’m talking about. Where are you guys finding these women who reject you because your are decent? Like I said, you might be hanging in the wrong circles. Any woman who rejects the kindness of a man or woman has issues.

@Bill Bigsby

“u kindly ask them to dance, they do everything short of dissing ur mom. You introduce yourself and they laugh and call u corny. But when a thug dude approaches in baggy jeans and tattoos, they get a better response. Why not adjust too what women seem to like.”

And where are you meeting these women, a club?

@2am

“stop giving it up so soon and let the man woo you. I know this idea it dead to many who visit this site, but it works.”

I agree — a man should conduct the wooing and pursing, not the reverse.

As far as chivalry and romance, I’ve been sent flowers unannounced at work, had doors held open for me, romantic dinners, received letters expressing emotions, with no encouragement, so, no, I do not believe chivalrous gestures no longer exist. I do, however, think women, and men, should employ the gift of discernment when determining which individuals are worthy of courtship. If you want romance, you’re less likely to receive gentlemanly treatment from a man who disrespects women, such as referring to them as “bi**hes,” “broads,” and other misogynistic terms, and who doesn’t display common courtesy. Conversely, men, if a woman doesn’t comport herself as a lady, she may not be a person you can expect to be appreciative of your charm and decorum. If a woman doesn’t thank you for holding the door open for you or treats you rudely, that’s an excuse to revert to ruffian behavior that is beneath a true gentleman.

Using common sense and good judgment go a long way.

*that’s not an excuse to revert* Please pardon the typo

*Using common sense and good judgment goes a long way*

well said @ purehazelranae….

Hey!!! We as black males have to realize that alot of our women still love and seek romanace, and we cannot let these shallow thinking females dictate our feeling (that are natural by the way) toward our women. To be quite honest with you I love to romance and pamper at times..lol and it is not a shortage of women who love to get it ‘ya dig’! I don’t know why some guys settle for women who don’t love themselves enough to realize that they are put here to be adored and cherished. ‘Looks’ may play into the equation, but if you let “just” good looks “go” and look around for yourself you’ll see that there are plenty more finer women than just “good looks” who love themselves and will alow you to love them back, without considering you as, being “lame”.

@ mane

You are so right! Glad to know they are still chilvarous men out their who appreciate and cherish women.

CHIVALRY AND ROMANCE ARE BOTH DEAD, AND WOMEN KILLED THEM BOTH!!!

@SLIM @
SKEPTICAL88
WHAT DOES FAT AND UGLY HAVE TO DO WITH ROMANCE BEING DEAD.
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It’s kind of hard to woo a chick I ain’t attaracted to……..(JUST SAYIN’)

In all honesty here…good “romance” is a byproduct of good FINANCE anyway.Right? I mean as a man my base goal is to see a woman nekkid with minimal financial outlay & effort.I’m sure I speak for 99% of all men to that point.Modern women know this & yet are still TURNED OFF by a man who makes an effort towards “romance”.Why?…Because even the plainest Jane feels entitled to be with a “baller”.Compound that with the fact that her mother is probably a divorcee’ these days.Mom probably had little good to say about men when girlie was growing up.I’m sure any conversation to this effect started with:”Your worthless father was sooo romantic when we started going out…”It probably ended with:”Check his stacks first baby.All that flattery is bullshit.” As I said in my last post…Not sure if there’s a fix here.

DR. FUNK SPEAKS THE TRUTH, THAT SUMS IT UP, MY BROTHER!!! ON POINT AND TO THE ISSUE!!! KUDOS!!!!

ROMANCE is most certainly NOT dead! And I thank God on a daily basis for blessing me with my husband. And believe it or not, I pray for my fellow sisters, even those I don’t know, that God would bless them. We have too many broken black homes!!!
Anyways, every Saturday my husband and I do something just to spend quality time together and fall in love with each other all over again! Lol hopefully we’ll keep the romance alive after baby gets here

I mourn for the little cherub with the arrow in his back.

@ MaRRied_MoMMy2B:
WELL you can obviously appreciate the things your man does for you, but I Have found that women in general are unappreciative of men who care and try to take a vested interest in them…In short, I think that as long as you spend a wad of money on them, The world is your oyster, But When you arer broke, they will screw you over in a heartbeat….That’s why I made it a point to never be financially strapped in life at an early age….NOW I have my pick of any female I want for thr most part…..And being good looking doesn’t hurt either…..LOL!!!

TYPOS: ARE*, THE*,

Romance is not dead. I met a wonderful man a month ago. He opened doors, took me to a nice resturant, we conversed, walked around the lake, held hands. He was very respectful. All around gentleman. We have went on several dates since then and he is still as romantic and still a gentleman. Like other posters said many of yall MUST be in the wrong circles.

I definitely do not think romance is dead. I just think people have gotten away from the true courtship process. I am glad met my husban when I did and I appreciate him daily.

i’m glad to hear that there is still romance out there…for some…

Not with my man…he is a true romantic and so am I. He’s a strong brotha…harding working and honorable.

The man literally makes me blush and giggle.

ROMANCE IS STILL ALIVE.BUT IN TODAYS SOCIETY…..MONEY EQUALS ROMANCE……CHECK THE DIVORCE STATS….WHY ALOT OF COUPLES GET DIVORCED?? FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES. WHAT HAPPEND TO THE GOOD OLD DAYS,WHERE WE COULD JUST HOLD HANDS, WALK AND TALK AND HAVE A GREAT TIME.GONE!! NOW ITS I GOTTA TAKE YOU TO AN EXPENSIVE RESTURANT OR GET YOU A NICE GIFT TO ROMANCE YOU.BULLSHIT!ITS COMMUNICATION AND THE LITTLE THING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY THAT COUNTS AND THEN ALL ELSE FOLLOWS.

I feel exactly the same way as the first comment by Tivo. You’re great Tivo by the way for expressing the right thing. Kudos to you!

the last chick i tried to be romantic with took my kindness for weakness and tried to use me. i hope it is not dead but for me , it’s in a coma

Happened to me too. Was dating this girl, surprised her with flowers,a card and a gift at a restaurant date we had one night.
She kind of liked it, but she said it made me look “sweet” because I was expressing how I loved her.
So since then, I don’t buy sh*t for no women.

I don’t think that romance is dead… you’ve just got to be ready when it comes around. In the right frame of mind and it a good place mentally when Cupid strikes… it is truly a blessing from above.

@Jinny

You are absolutely right!

Most of you are sounding young by what you are saying. It’s ez, ladies, do not be “ez” and sleep around, and guys if you want a good girl look for one in the right places, not the club, ladies the same… Simple.. If you are under 25, get yourself (life) together and focus on this later, trust me..:) ” If you keep doing the same thing and expecting different it’s your fault”

Lol, damn this is funny cause my girl said i am not as romantic as i used to be just yesterday night.LOL

tivo said it right,next topic please……

Romance is not dead. If a woman knows her worth, she waits for the fella who feels that she’s worth the time, energy and effort. Most men know that the time, energy and effort should not be waisted on women who rejects being treated like ‘a delicate flower’ (what a foriegn guy called AND how he treated me).

Romance goes both ways, indeed, but I’m sure most “real’ men just prefer the ‘happy sex’ they get from a valued, protected and nutured woman.

@ladydeedee…
Romance is not dead. I met a wonderful man a month ago. He opened doors, took me to a nice resturant, we conversed, walked around the lake, held hands. He was very respectful. All around gentleman. We have went on several dates since then and he is still as romantic and still a gentleman.
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i think you’re confusing romance with “trying to get on.”

theres a difference. dont be fooled.

YESSSS YESSSS. IM GLAD THIS SUBJECT WAS BROUGHT UP. ROMANCE IS DEAD. NOW DAYS ITS ALL ABOUT GETTING YOUR KICKS AND MOVE ON.WHAT HAPPENED TO ROMANCE? LADY DEE DEE YOU ARE LUCKY. GOD BLESS.

Jinny, and Moon light on Water is speaking nothing but the truth!
These young girls/guys do not have role models anymore. We use to have songs like Janet Jackson “Let’s wait a while” and Whitney Houston “Saving all my love” Now we’re d@mn near pulling it out there that we would sleep on the first date! So young kids thinks its okay and the guys feel they don’t really need to step up their game because they could easily get what they want…I don’t think Romance is dead but a lot of people have been brainwashed and just plain lazy

Romance isn’t dead, it just went on vacay to Miami, lol.

Opps, I meant the word remember, sorry !

Don’t Play yourself, I liked your poem, even though it was insulting at the same time it was funny ! Lol.