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a man lovin’ his Mama

beat you Bugsy! U right aint nothing wrong with a man lovin his mama…hope my son will do the same when he gets older!

i love my mama but i have also grown a pair.

i want him to stand on his own two feet though..and make his own decisions not come to me for everything…that can be tiring…not to mention that if he has kids they will do the same thing

Mama’s job is to raise a son right! But he gotta be able to bond with his new wife and grow with her and realize that he is starting family of his own!!

I go to my mama’s house every Sunday for dinner… but i have grown a pair.

mama said don’t trust them hoes..

@sweet n sour..I can’t get with u on that one.. cus I will knock my mama down to get to a white woman…lol im joking

I think it says a lot when black men love thier mothers BUT sometimes I question why black men treat thier wives and GF’s like SH!@…. Now don’t jump dowm my throat. I am not saying that ALL black men treat women like crap but a lot do

I have 4 sons and we will always be close no matter what woman comes into the picture.Love between man and wife and man and mother is special in differentways-no matter how many times one of them chooses to divorce a wife,mom is always there.

I don’t see nothing wrong with listening to Moma. 9 times out of 10 – she’s right. And a lot of people spend their life finding that out the hard way. Diddy – you listen to your Mom if you want too. Obviously, she must be telling you something right – since you are a successful man. And if she has an advice for me – I’ll take it, too.

A man thats good to this mom .. will be good to his woman .. and daughters ..

Cat eyes:

I agree with you but if a son cares for his mother he should care for women in general too. He wouldn’t want someone to treat his mother badly so he shouldn’t either. The love is different between a mother and son, than a wife but respect for a woman in general should be the same

Tee:

Here here!!

Maybe he is aware that he can trust his mother completely. Nothing is wrong with that. It is better to be hated than betrayed.

dont care:

Why do you say that?

You should have respect for a woman no matter if it’s your mother, sister, cousin, friend…… I thought this was taught early on no?

@NIK
“You should have respect for a woman no matter if it’s your mother, sister, cousin, friend…… I thought this was taught early on no?”
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Respect is “earned” not “given.”

Dont care:

I agree. I’m talking about the men that love their mothers, and turn around and treat their wives like SH!@ I don’t get it

@NIK
“I agree. I’m talking about the men that love their mothers, and turn around and treat their wives like SH!@ I don’t get it”
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Well, I guess it depends on how you define “disrespect” than. Also, whether or not the wife “deserved” this alleged “disrespect.”

*shrugging shoulders*

Most gay men don’t.

Ugh! Mamma’s boys make me sick! And Ya’ll should really be talking about the mammas who can’t let their boys go! That’s even worse

When you get married you are supposed to forsake all other and be the head of your household MEN…You are not supposed to beckon so your mothers every call..no matter if she has a man or not…if you do, that will be a sure way of walking down the path of divorce..IMHO

And Ya’ll should really be talking about the mammas who can’t let their boys go! That’s even worse
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@L
I know you have 2 daughters,but when you have a son,we will revisit this topic!lol

@LAUREN
“When you get married you are supposed to forsake all other and be the head of your household MEN…You are not supposed to beckon so your mothers every call..no matter if she has a man or not…if you do, that will be a sure way of walking down the path of divorce..IMHO ”
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You can’t leave yo momma STRANDED!!! Come on now. Momma is MOMMA.

I guess it depends on how far the son takes it.He should be the head of his family first,but he also has a right to spend time with the woman that brought him in the world.

All I was saying that if you consider yourself a man you should respect women? I’m not going to run down case-by-case situations. I’ve been burned by MANY men but I don’t hold a grudge nor do I have a chip on my shoulder. I love my black men, and they should love and respect me back!

@NIK
“All I was saying that if you consider yourself a man you should respect women? I’m not going to run down case-by-case situations. I’ve been burned by MANY men but I don’t hold a grudge nor do I have a chip on my shoulder. I love my black men, and they should love and respect me back!”
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You must not of deserved they respect for them not to give it to you.

Are you fat?

Dont care:

WTF?

i called my mom first after the cops beat me down.

I don’t see a problem with mama boys. I would much rather a mama’s boy over a man that has no respect for his mother

@ NIK
If you are a woman complaining about a man treating you like garbage and yet you stay with him………………………………
A man will treat you according to what you allow.

plain and simple the females on here that have a problem with men who are mama boys a just plain jealous. You can’t take the place of a man’s mother I don’t care how much you have been there for them. You are wife play your role, his mother is his mother

Don’t care:
I obviously have to break this down for you…. I have dinner on the table EVERY night, he has clean clothes to put on EVERYday, I am a good woman and expect some respect. If I have dinner on the table I expect him to home and not his mothers house. I would never try to take away a man from his mother (I am a mother myself) but he (like myself) has a duty at his own house

Cat:

No I’m not complaining about men. I have someone very good in my life. We have a partnership, respect, and an understanding of which role we play in our household and if he can’t uphold is role cause he’s at his mama’s house all the time we are going to have issues.

@CAT EYES…

LOL!!! Please!! If I have a son, and if I raise him right he will love a woman just as good as he sees my husband loving me… I know its hard to let your son go but don’t you want him to be happy at some point.?!

L:

huh?? If a man said to me “You have to chose between your mother and me” I wouldn’t hesitate to call my mother over so we BOTH could whip his ass. You don’t chose between ANYONE and your mother.

Cat:

Yes. I think that’s great. Once a month is different from everyday.

There’s a fine line between men that love and respect their mama, and a mama’s boy! Speaking from experience, I think the mama’s are most at fault if the son can’t move forward and raise his own family as head of household. Mamas should encourage sons to move forward with their lives….. Face it- some men aren’t meant to be married, just need to be happily ever after with their mamas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NIK…

Naw boo…LOL…If you are JUST in a relationship like boyfreind girlfriend/play house whatever then I can see what you mean BUT if you are MARRIED to someone they come before ANYONE in your life…unless you have children…if your HUSBAND’s mother said to your HUSBAND you have to choose me or your wife, how would you feel if he picked her?

Once a month isn’t considered a “mama’s boy” in my definition?

L:

If he picked her:
1.) Thats his mother! he better pick her! Women come and go married or not. Your mother will ALWAYS be there.

2.) Maybe I’m doing something wrong if I’m not that important in his life.

3.) If his mother asked him to chose between her and me, she’s not being a good mother to her son.

Listen, my point is, if you are MARRIED (MEN) go ahead, love on your mamma, take her out for mothers day (as long as your wife is okay with this) take her out for her birthday, but don’t have her calling you 12 times a day, taking out he trash and running errands that’s a bit too much…like i said before you should not be at her service everytime she needs you she must stay in her place once you make those vowels. THere is no love lost…just respect gained.

NIK…

Please look at my last post, that’s not how married life is supposed to be…

Are you married?

lmao @ jj….

*STANDING OVATION!*

@NIK

Maybe he’s meeting his sidepiece at his “Mom’s” house.

Yes I agree with that post. It shouldn’t affect your marriage. I agree 100%.

@ L
You are absolutely right about how your son will love another woman and I hope they all get married some day and bring me grandchildren,but come on,he still has to come let mommy feed him sometimes right?lol!
I’m telling you when you have your son,you will see the difference.I know its weird but for some reason,with girls and boys, a mom’s feelings are different.The daughter is the one who grows up to be your best friend but your son for some reason is always your baby.

@mARQUIS…

Daaaaaaamn thats what I’m talking about though!! That’s so ridiculous and I see that all the time that’s so sad…it’s just not supposed to be like that, people don’t get it…your mamma did her job already, she raised you! How would his mamma feel if she had a husband who was always with his mamma? She would NOT like that!(ormaybe she owuld because she has her son, SMDH!)

Excuse my typos, thanks

Sade:

It just isn’t right? Then when we stop having dinner on the table and stop washin his clothes ect… The first thing out of his mouth is gonna be “NO GOOD WOMAN” lol…. AUGH

L:

I agree with you! DEF….. the ONLY thing I don’t is having to choose between the two…. Other than that… It’s all good

CAT EYES…

I see what you mean…my mother for one is NOT like that…she would like my brothers to go head out and get married and give her grandchildren but don’t come by every day..lol and she’ll tell you that too!

It just isn’t right? Then when we stop having dinner on the table and stop washin his clothes ect… The first thing out of his mouth is gonna be “NO GOOD WOMAN” lol…. AUGH
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True…but you ave a right not to cook dinner if he’s gonna go get it at his mammas house.

L:

I know. But I’m not going to be LESS of a woman, and back off my duties to my household cause he can’t uphold his… Nope

@NIK and L

Hypothetically…. what if your man was really close with his brother or another member of his family. Would it make a difference?

@L
It just seems that girls are more independent than boys-maybe thats where the attachment comes from.For example,my oldest daughter talks about getting her own place,wheras my oldest son just wants to turn the basement into a pad of his own.

Maybe the rest of the stars should be moma boys too. Puffy is I don’t give a damn what a Ni… think rich. Could it be the moma thing?

I love mommas!

Once more, I don’t usually trust people that don’t have good relationships with their mommas.

But then again, I’m a mommas boy so what the hell do I know?

Once more, I don’t usually trust people that don’t have good relationships with their mommas.

@DICooper
Neither do I because as a mother,I know most mothers will stand by their children no matter what.If someone tells me their relationship with their mother is not good,my antenna goes up!

There is nutthin wrong with seeking counsel from your mother….if more kids did this then our society would be a better place….only exception is if your moma is a crack head…

@MIJDC…

Any relationship that you are spending too much time with that is not with your IMMEDIATE family, meaning wife and kids is unhealthy and they should be taking a closer look at that. BUT for some reason mamma is the culprit and she must be stopped! (LOL)

@LAUREN
“Any relationship that you are spending too much time with that is not with your IMMEDIATE family, meaning wife and kids is unhealthy and they should be taking a closer look at that. BUT for some reason mamma is the culprit and she must be stopped! (LOL)”
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LOL. Come on… So how much time in a week should your man be allowed to have with his “distant” relatives? Just a ballpark figure.

I think the solution to avoid all of this unhealthy mama/daddy/parents attachment bullshit, is to marry an orphan straight outta of an orphanage – That means no foster or adopted parents either.

Don’t talk slick about women or mothers.
Because none of us would be here without ‘em.
Neither is perfect and neither are you.

As a mother raising a son, my job is to prepare him to go into the world and learn to stand on his own two feet. I’m not going to be here forever.
Parenting is a partnership with God. You do your best to instill a value and moral core within them and then just hope for the best. But remember, parenting lasts a lifetime. Until one of you is in the ground.

THATs What im saying….i feel women should understand why men would appreciate and honor their mothers…i think a woman that loves a man should be on the same team and appreciate that his mother raised someone she considers perfect enough to marry.

I think the solution to avoid all of this unhealthy mama/daddy/parents attachment bullshit, is to marry an orphan straight outta of an orphanage – That means no foster or adopted parents either.
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Really? Seriously?
Danm, were you an orphan? I mean just because you had two parents or one, doesn’t mean either cared about you. And that’s just as bad as being “orphaned”. I’m hoping you were just playing. Everybody needs love.

Umm….Okay?

Nope! All i’m sayin’ is that to avoid all of that In-Law drama, marry an Orphan straight outta’ tha Orphanage. No pre conditioned Oedipal or daddy issues. You’ll have your perspective mate all to yourself.

Man I just dont care™

I hear ya’! And on the plus side, you won’t have to worry about her askin’ can you loan her mama or daddy money or “can they come live with us” shit.

not ma mama biscuits

Nope! All i’m sayin’ is that to avoid all of that In-Law drama, marry an Orphan straight outta’ tha Orphanage. No pre conditioned Oedipal or daddy issues. You’ll have your perspective mate all to yourself.
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ahh yes, but then you will have the job / burden of filling the void. And can you imagine the co-dependent issues that will befall on you?

Your better than an orphan!

LOL. Come on… So how much time in a week should your man be allowed to have with his “distant” relatives? Just a ballpark figure.
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If it’s more time than your family at home then that there is the problem… IDK why you are asking, not like you are in a serious relationship anyway..lol!

UMMokay?

Don’t lie on god. That is blaspheming. The devil sent marquis De Sade. That is satans’s gift. God does not send people to use racial epithets, curse words and contribute to the degradation of the human race. What you said is sickening. I was not going to comment but your comment is way out of line and out of touch with reality.

pm

not ma mama biscuits
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AND you bet not say her cooking is better than mines!! lol!

OG9086

UMMokay?

Don’t lie on god. That is blaspheming. The devil sent marquis De Sade. That is satans’s gift. God does not send people to use racial epithets, curse words and contribute to the degradation of the human race. What you said is sickening. I was not going to comment but your comment is way out of line and out of touch with reality.
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lol! Not that serious…

@MIJDC…

My point exactly! lol!

@OG9086

You don’t know me or Marquis from a can of paint.
You have no clue what that person has been through.
Obviously something or a lot for them to act they way they do. God teaches to be tolerent, compassionate and forgive. I understand in life it is hard to take the high road but that is exactly what God teaches us to do.

I’m pretty sure some time in your life you have been tolerated, forgiven and shown compassion in for your trifling ways. (YOUR NOT PERFECT)
If it has happened yet, it will and then you will understand.

That is satans’s gift. God does not send people to use racial epithets, curse words and contribute to the degradation of the human race.
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We all have, even you………..

@L

Thank you!!!!

@ DIVINE STYLEZ…

I have to give you a round of applause and a STANDING OVATION!!!

You went to church! And spoke the TRUTH!!!

Hey Lauren

Wassup JB! Long time no speaky…how are you Mrs. Cougar?!

@MIJDC…

Don’t be like that!!

@JB:

Ugggggh well most mamma’s boys will just admit it but they see nothing wrong with it…sad…tragic…

Ugggggh well most mamma’s boys will just admit it but they see nothing wrong with it…sad…tragic…
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Well, I LURV my Momma and I was raised by two AUNTS so in a way I got THREE mommas!!

I’m pretty sure some time in your life you have been tolerated, forgiven and shown compassion in for your trifling ways. (YOUR NOT PERFECT)
If it has happened yet, it will and then you will understand.

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Of course I have been given Mercy, but I am not on the hunt to persecute souls like Marquis De Sade. I don’t intentionally set out to hurt, and crush souls such as Marquis De sade. When someone is shown the right path it an act of Mercy. When someone deliberately chooses the wrong path and torments others in their pursuit of terror such as Marquis De sade that is the works of the flesh. He is the devils soldier.

God takes retribution for his works and does not deliver the wicked. Their soul is cast and there is no room for redemption. Some people who are the devils soldiers have chosen that route. One should never proclaim that a person who chooses to deliberately torment souls is a gift from god. That is untrue.

I have been through the test of time and have had many troubles in my time. Never have I intentionally set out to do the devils work by tormenting souls who had nothing to do with my affliction. That is the difference between the righteous and the wicked. That is what separates the wolves from the sheep.

That was to UMM okay?

Well, I LURV my Momma and I was raised by two AUNTS so in a way I got THREE mommas!!
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That’s great, but listen…it’s NOT cute to continue to breaastfeed at 30 years of age, not saying you do that, but so called momma’s boys do!

@og9086

I hear what you are saying. But….

How do you know Marquis deliberatly chose the wrong path? Maybe that path was chosen for them.
Perhaps, they have not been blessed by someone showing them mercy or a better way.
All I’m saying is we don’t know that person. Why do they tick the way they do. So, instead of closing the door maybe we should be soldiers of God and help that person to find a better way.
There are “devils with wicked souls” all over. God put them here to see what we are made of. Can we really live by his word. If everybody took your attitude the world be a really ugly place.

@MIJDC..

*Raising ahnd slowly*

I am a daddy’s girl…BUT my relationship with my dad is waaaaaay different for any mamma’s boys relationship…

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@LAUREN
“I am a daddy’s girl…BUT my relationship with my dad is waaaaaay different for any mamma’s boys relationship…”
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Elaborate…

@L now u know u ann’t cookin better then mama, females now a days can’t even get the suger ratio right on a jug or Koolaid.

@UMMokay?
How do you know Marquis deliberatly chose the wrong path? Maybe that path was chosen for them.
Perhaps, they have not been blessed by someone showing them mercy or a better way.
All I’m saying is we don’t know that person. Why do they tick the way they do. So, instead of closing the door maybe we should be soldiers of God and help that person to find a better way.
There are “devils with wicked souls” all over. God put them here to see what we are made of. Can we really live by his word. If everybody took your attitude the world be a really ugly place.

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The world is already in disarray. Some have chose the righteious path and some have chose the path of condemnation. It is in the bible. That is gods word. God put his word here to adhere to. He knows what is in our hearts. Some can not be corrected. The have lofty eyes and unclean souls. The devil changed their course for his purpose. He uses those people to torment others. The devil is in pursuit to crush all souls. It is up to the individual to take the right course. Only you can make that choice. It is according to our actions and decisions. Nobody is forcing Marquis De sade to do the devils work. It is the course he chose. If you choose the path of destruction you will pay the price. That is not an attitude, it is gods word.

I think the 2 relationships can co-exist.A man has to take care of his family first but he still needs his mom sometimes.Thank God I love my inlaws so I really like when they spend time with us.I also have lunch dates with my dad

@L now u know u ann’t cookin better then mama, females now a days can’t even get the suger ratio right on a jug or Koolaid.

@pm
So I guess you still go to mama’s house every now and then for good eats huh?lol You know mama’s door is always open!

@OG9086

LOL! You make me sound like the Anti-Christ.

There is nothing wrong with a man who loves his mama. Their is a connection between a man and mothr that cannot be broken. As far as Puffy concerned, he knows his mama has his best interest at heart, so why wouldn’t he be a mama’s boy. She can tell him who to befriend and who to stay clear of. And what woman not to put a ring on it. I ain’t mad a Puffy if he’s a mama’s boy, mama gets the money, and the golddiggers can only wait for a trinket.

There’s a fine line between a mama’s boy and a man that loves his mama. I have no problem with my husband loving and cherishing the woman that gave birth to him and raised him all by herself. Luckily, my mother in law and I get along great and she always says I’m the daughter she never had but always wanted. My husband doesn’t run to his mom every time we have a problem, and sometimes he may ask her advice but he’s a grown man, and ultimately decisions are made by he and I, and that’s how it should be.

@OG

So what do we do with the “devils”?
People are not born bad. They are not born with evil spirits. I don’t believe God “made” anyone evil.
There are people out there that are just so far gone maybe they truly are satans child.
But you have to ask “Why”? Everybody has a story but not everyone has a happy ending.

Any human can show a soulless person compassion. It does not mean their soul is cleansed and that they are forgiven. Only god can give absolution to humans. Oprah has to answer to god as well.
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But every person needs a helping hand to lead them to forgiveness and help them cleanse their soul. As Gods children that is our job, our responsibility.