First.

I wouldn’t f*ck with the Ali’s

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2nd!

Girlie cruising for a bruising

Nope…bronze. Don’t mess with the Ali’s

Single men don’t want to marry or date a single woman with children.

What does Laila’s bank account have to do with this gold digger?? It was her and Curtis who had this baby not her and Laila. I dont care if they are married now.

That’s sad. She marries a man and has to make his child support payments? I wonder if there is an innocent spouse statute in her state.

She just want to be taken care of. Give the child/Children to him. She want her nails and hair done get off her lazy behind and get a job. He isn’t obligated to take of her just the child/children. Use her as an example “IT DOESN’T PAY TO BE A JEALOUS LAZY SKANK”.

@ African Prince… Sorry to tell you that you’re neither first, second, third… LOL.

her ineritance or potential inheritance.”
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Those are fighting words right there…what kind of stuff is that?

Why not get a job and be able to tell your kid that daddy does what he does but mommy works HARD to support you also.

SAD

even though it is fool she has a right to do it…when u take a person to child support u can look into their spouse finances if they are married. so instead of it being 17% of his salary it is 17% of Their salary….damn shame

I am with you nique, that is ridiculous. I wish i would make my husbands child support payments. Only financial record she need is her ex husbands. Those are their children not laila’s. She needs to get it together with her gold digging self.

The Ex is probably also upset that he now has another child (the child with Laila) to support. You know how chickenheads become when there is another mouth the feed. She wants to make sure hers is “taken care of first”.

More important than dating men with kids. PEOPLE…BE CAREFUL WHO YOU HAVE CHILDREN WITH!!

Reason number 21655646984198 not to get married.

@Jade Silver
Would have been first if it wasn’t for my dial up connection lmao

As a woman, what an embarrassment for woman everywhere.

He’s obviously paying his child support. Maybe the
ex-wife should get a job or get a degree, then a job
instead of having her hand out. Geez,
I don’t know both sides, but this doesn’t sound right.

@Lady J
Oh really? Child support works like that too?
**dually noted**

I understand what the posters above me said BUT if Curtis living the life of the *very uber* rich & famous & wealthy then his son shouldn’t just be living the life of the upper class ya kno? It’s like what if his mother married someone rich then her lifestyle is upgraded & so is the sons. Same thing with the father. (I don’t think the mother said it correctly)

For example: If a man was paying $2,000 dollars a month for child support, thats fine because thats all he has. Now if the man marries Oprah then his child lifestyle should be affecte and upgraded just as if his mother would have married Bill Gates
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@L
“She actually unfortunately has the right to do it…

But it probably won’t go through since he was a former NFL player she most likely getting enough money and the courts won’t let it go through. HOPEFULLY!
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What up L?

Naw… I think this goin go through mayne. Don’t she got a make up contract or something? I know she got SOME income. I don’t think she can make a claim to “inheritance” but the income of both she can make a claim on.

@ African Prince…Where in Africa are you from?

Who is to say he is touching Ms. Ali’s money. The lady is Jealous and greedy. Come to where I live with that I need more money. She will be childless and pounding the pavement. Gearing up to pay child support. She just want to keep up the Lazy lifestyle. Time to get those hands dirty.

2 immature girls here took their childrens fathers to court for more money. The guys worked minimum wage jobs but had there hustle on the side. The shopped for the children went the childrens dr’s appt spent time with the children. When 1 girl got caught cheating on 1 of the guys he left her alone bult his relationship with his son the other just told the dad she wanted to be single. So the fellas took care of their responsibilities(children) hooked up with other girls that is when the greed and jealousy came in. child support hearings. So what happens they went back and forth to family court and the 2 guys have custody of their children. The 2 greedy skanks were ordered to pay child support, but the fellas were like no they got this. The fellas are my brothers the children are my nephews.

This is exactly why I don’t like dating men with kids; espicially if they have bitter baby mama’s. Bitter BM’s will do anything to ruin your happiness. I have a friend right now who isn’t rich who has 60% of his wages (FROM EACH CHECK…not a month…EACH CHECK) going to one child when he has two by two different women. Not to mention, the woman he’s marrying has kids of her own so that basically kills them having one together. If he stops working today or tomorrow after they get married, this woman can go after my friend’s wife and take food out of her kids mouth….smh

Thats the thing alot of people on here do not understand about marriage-you are marrying every piece of baggage that person has.In a court of law,the woman honestly does have every right to ask for more in support since his situation changed.I’m not saying I agree with it at all but,this is the reason I tell all my children to NEVER marry anyone with children.

@ bacchus

It’s unfortunate when you gotta deal with a ignorant baby mama. What Laila makes should be none of her concern. Concentrate on the daddy dirty hoe!!!

This is why I always advocate getting a prenup that separates your debt. This way when your spouse has any debts that he/she incurred on their own, you will not be held liable. Hopefully, Laila Ali did this, but if not, she will probably be paying his child support.

But what some women don’t realize they better it doesn’t work that way for everyone. married or never married child support goes by the same rules. Ask 50cents ex girl

@ Whoa
Yep I know. But like I said if the father living GOOD then the son should be living GOOD too.

I think the son is living well and the momma is probably pissed she can’t do what she wants with what the son is getting ex-nfl player there must have been some stipulations. Like no nail and hair do’s no hanging out at the spa, with the income she receives for the child. So why not double it so she can enjoy the Lazy lifestyle. I belive in men taking care of their children. But to me that is all they should be obligated to when a relationship goes cold. Ex’s being greedy sad sad.

That is not how child support works. Some of you are sadly mistaken.

Laila is not required to support he other kids at all, unless he is underemployed or not paying his child support as ordered. Her income is not taken into account as she had nothing to do with the kids at the time of conception.

Please don’t give these gold diggers anything to strive for lest they be disappointed when they learn the truth!

Rockkie,

If she wants the kids to live the good life, she should send them to live with thier dad and Laila because legally, Laila is not required to give her one red penny of her money, let alone her dad’s money. That woman is crazy.

That ex is on some straight bull. No one is responsible for that child but the 2 biological parents. Laila should hire top notch representation and get all up in that ass, legally.
If I were Laila, I would countersue along the lines of well if you want to count my income, let me go ahead and file for full custody. If I am going to pay like the Mother, then best believe I am going to be the Mother!
Something tells me that the court system will shut this bull down quicker than quick.

Curtis son is living well very well. His mom has to get a job to support herself. The judge stated he has been caring for his child and the court child support stands, the ex-girl needs to find a job.

Spite.

even though it is fool she has a right to do it…when u take a person to child support u can look into their spouse finances if they are married. so instead of it being 17% of his salary it is 17% of Their salary….damn shame
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That is not true (here in VA anyway). Only if the person goes to court for Non-support (meaning they are not paying ANYTHING) will the judge ask for the spouses financial records.

Her child is not entitled to live the lifestyle of Laila’s child. That’s why she is mad. Her child is entitled only to the lifestyle of the mother and father as if they were together. If they were together, there would be no Laila hence her money is not on the table.

It’s like people who are married filing seperately on their taxes. Only if your spouse does not pay, will the IRS come after you.

Oh and I bet Laila made him sign a pre-nup to protect her inheritance so his “other” child is not entitled to that either! If the father can’t get it, his “other” child d@mn sho’ can’t get it.

Yep I know. But like I said if the father living GOOD then the son should be living GOOD too.
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Only if it’s his fathers money! The son should live as if his parents were together with the incomes they have now.

Her son is not going to live the life of Laila’s son….Laila’s son was born Rich and Privledge and is part of an American Legacy. Her son was born to an obvious Gold Digger and Foot-ball player.

Totally different lifestyles….sorry, she should get her a$$ in the ring and make her own dough!

cdneal, that is what happened with my 2 brothers. They got custody of their sons since what they were giving them ordered by the judge wasn’t enough. 1 brother was ordered to pay $500. a week and the $250. a week they did and have money order stubs to back it up the girls went back down there asking for more. It was a long process but my brothers have their sons full custody.Minimum wage don’t pay much but they have their other means. My nephews are very well taken care clean,well groomed active in sports. They visit their mothers regularly. Well 1 of them. The 1 the judge halted the visits because she chose to go to the clubs and leave him with neighbors on a set visitation instead of speaking with his father.

Back on my Swag I agree

This is exactly why I don’t like dating men with kids; espicially if they have bitter baby mama’s. Bitter BM’s will do anything to ruin your happiness. I have a friend right now who isn’t rich who has 60% of his wages (FROM EACH CHECK…not a month…EACH CHECK) going to one child when he has two by two different women. Not to mention, the woman he’s marrying has kids of her own so that basically kills them having one together. If he stops working today or tomorrow after they get married, this woman can go after my friend’s wife and take food out of her kids mouth….smh

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Maybe his dumbass should learn to use a condom and stop making babies all over the place. I don’t feel sorry for men like that; he knows where babies come from so do something to prevent it.

As for this situation, if she wants her kid to live the “good life” then she should send him to live with his father.

I agree with a lot of you..when I was single I did not date men with kids either. When my husband and I met; we were so happy that neither of us had any childeren and now we have a family of our own. It can be done…birth control is also your friend.

I wonder how it is going work out for Usher and Tamieka

YES, THE FEMALES KNOW WHERE BABIES COME FROM AS WELL AND THEY MAKE FEMALE CONDUMS AS WELL. NO ONE IS SAYING THAT HE DON’T WANT TO TAKE OF HIS CHILD. WOULD SHE BE ASKING FOE MORE MONEY IF SHE WAS A CASHIER AT SEARS NO!!! SHE IS GREEDY AND JEALOUS.

Joint physical custody will wipe out amy support order. My brother was smart enough to request joint custody. He has the kids throughout the school year, Christmas and Fathers Day weekend. His ex, ha the kids every summer every weekend and thanksgiving. It works out equal time with both parents and no child support for either one… just medical insurance:)

:>)

some black women are just gold diggers

Hey girl, thats good. Im glad my brothers have full custody of their children. There have been too many children being abused and put in foster care behind the father not being with the mother. 3 cases in 2 months here. And my nephews are well taken care of.

@Hey girl

That only works if both parents make around the same amount of money or they agree to it. If not, there is a chance that child support could be ordered.

I don’t think it is going to go her way.

Gold Diggers come in all colors, shapes and sizes.This isn’t a race thing.

I MEANT “GET”

My question is when you have the means why wouldnt you want to help out your child…I mean i just dont get why people are bashing her if you have the means to support your child you should just do it she shouldnt have to after him for the money his situation changed and with that he now has a bigger responsiblity to be there finacially for his child…now all this looking into her personal things no but duh she wants him to pay up and duh it wouldnt be the same if he was with some ghetto girl cause his finacial situation wouldnt have changed its nothing wrong with mothers wanting the fathers of their children to help out if they have the means to

In Florida, law requests only W2 from the individual parent only, not their spouse’s.
Hopefully Conway has a job. Other wise his spouse’s income is “game on”!

Yep I know. But like I said if the father living GOOD then the son should be living GOOD too.
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Only if it’s his fathers money! The son should live as if his parents were together with the incomes they have now.

Her son is not going to live the life of Laila’s son….Laila’s son was born Rich and Privledge and is part of an American Legacy. Her son was born to an obvious Gold Digger and Foot-ball player.

Totally different lifestyles….sorry, she should get her a$$ in the ring and make her own dough!
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Okay so obviously my point was misunderstood not just by you but by a lot of the posters. If Laila & Curtis signed a prenup saying whats theirs is theirs then thats fine. His child support payments should stay the same because his money situation is the same. BUT if they didn’t sign a prenup and all are of their finances are joint now then whats his is hers and whats hers is his. So his money situation has changed and he now has more unfortunately thanks to Laila. And if he now has more money then he should pay more child support. Simple as that! (But I dont think he should be able to get any inheritance unless Curtis is getting some)

The thing is , he IS supporting his child, the bm is just greedy and looking for more. The only way she can go after Ali is if he wasn’t working or NOT providing any support, then she could be responsible since they are married, but he obviously has some income coming in from somewhere in order to pay the support. Also, this greedy chick cannot go after Ali’s inheritance. That is a gift she would receive, and is not entitled to give the bm anything or her husband for that matter, however, each state is different in that regard.

This must be a California law, because it doesn’t work like that. She can try to add Laila to the claim, but any lawyer can get that thrown out. Only the man and his ex wife is responsible for the support of the child. She can only go back in court if she can prove his income has increased by 20 percent.

Just another reason that our people need to stop having kids all over the damn place. What a sloppy mess…

Laila should’ve gotten with me. I’ve got my life together:o)

This some shhhh…

Oh yeah! California is the worst place to get married, due to its’ “NO-FAULT” divorce laws and its’ ruthless child-support laws…This in most part is due to California’s reluctance to pick up the slack via public assistance, i.e.: WELFARE that’s usually issued out to single mothers.

Marquis de Sade

This some shhhh…

Oh yeah! California is the worst place to get married, due to its’ “NO-FAULT” divorce laws and its’ ruthless child-support laws…This in most part is due to California’s reluctance to pick up the slack via public assistance, i.e.: WELFARE that’s usually issued out to single mothers

Sounds like Laila and ol boy should have discussed this prior to marriage and had a solid plan. This is the kind of thing that can reek havoc in a marriage. I can’t believe they didn’t do any research on the law to prepare themselves. I think this was a tactic they were expecting their lawyer to handle.

@Marquis

You can “PRE-NUP” out of child support IF IT’S NOT UR CHILD. The child is entitled to money rec’d by the father…if the father aint receiving no money from Laila..then neither is the child.

Plus Curtis retired from the NFL, he gets a fat check every month. KFed was a bum who was BEHIND on his child support. Also, Britney WAS PAYING FOR Kfed.

I doubt that Curtis has ever needed a dime of Laila’s money.

She wants to live like Laila but she cant.

While common sense would say this is bullshit, the fact of the matter is that this skank may have a leg to stand on in court. In many states, marriage automatically combines your assets, right? Hell, I know my bf’s baby momma has already threatened to ask for more once I finish my doctorate… if he and I are married, that is. Trust and believe, it is making me think about what state we settle down in.

That shows the caliberof woman, that he was dealing with before Laila…

Maybe she should’ve done her research, better…

I dk about dating men with children. That’s not part of any dating, that I know of…But females have different standards, now-a-days…

to me, he would NOT have been acceptable mate because of his previous children and marriage/ relationship. When I was single, I only dated men that had the same characteristics, I was looking for, another reason to take your time settling down….Less fortunate individuals will try you for your paper…

ADVICE: BEFORE you get with him. KNOW his whole situation.

( He might not even qualify, to be with you)

@ always knew

I hear you, but you can’t turn ur back on love and happiness because of an ignorant baby momma from his past… life is too short…. and the list of good black men is even shorter.

Back On My Swag

I repeat, you can’t “PRE-NUP” child support, whether the child is yours or from a previous marriage…If that was the case, Laila and Curtis wouldn’t be waitin’ on pins and needles for a Judge’s decision…At the end of the day, the court i.e. the Judge will always base their ruling on what’s best for the “CHILD’S” welfare.

Octavia

While common sense would say this is bullshit, the fact of the matter is that this skank may have a leg to stand on in court. In many states, marriage automatically combines your assets, right? Hell, I know my bf’s baby momma has already threatened to ask for more once I finish my doctorate… if he and I are married, that is. Trust and believe, it is making me think about what state we settle down in.

Smart girl. Leave California off your list.

@ Skopes & Back On My Swagg

**This how they do it where I’m from…You can read these facts if you want to or continue in your bliss of ignorance**

However, the law on this issue has developed and evolved as stated in a recent Second District Illinois Appellate Court decision, which holds “a trial court may equitably consider the income of a parent’s current spouse in determining an appropriate award of child support.” In Re the Marriage of Drysch, 2000 WL 815278, (ILL.App2 Dist.).

The Drysch decision dealt with the issue of each natural parent’s obligation, under 750 ILCS 5/513, to contribute towards their child’s post high school educational expenses. In determining the amount and/or percentage each parent was required to contribute, the Court held that it was appropriate to consider the financial resources available to both parties in determining whether they could meet their individual financial needs in relation to the Court’s order for contribution towards educational expenses. In this instance, the Court considered Mother’s current spouse’s income in determining her obligation towards contribution to those expenses and her ability to meet her monthly financial obligations. The Court evaluated Mother’s “financial resources” and determined that her new spouse’s significant income was a component of “resources” to which she has access, thus properly considered.

I have no idea what state this is taking place in, but in most states the income is based on the parent’s income, not their spouse. Unless they have joint assets from which income is derived. Otherwise, Laila’s inheritance is of no concern and is not at risk. Her inheritance will not be Curtis’s inheritance.

And if ol’ boy is making No dough..she can’t tap into Laila’s dough. She can only go on his actual income in most states.

**This how they do it where I’m from…You can read these facts if you want to or continue in your bliss of ignorance**

However, the law on this issue has developed and evolved as stated in a recent Second District Illinois Appellate Court decision, which holds “a trial court may equitably consider the income of a parent’s current spouse in determining an appropriate award of child support.” In Re the Marriage of Drysch, 2000 WL 815278, (ILL.App2 Dist.).

The Drysch decision dealt with the issue of each natural parent’s obligation, under 750 ILCS 5/513, to contribute towards their child’s post high school educational expenses. In determining the amount and/or percentage each parent was required to contribute, the Court held that it was appropriate to consider the financial resources available to both parties in determining whether they could meet their individual financial needs in relation to the Court’s order for contribution towards educational expenses. In this instance, the Court considered Mother’s current spouse’s income in determining her obligation towards contribution to those expenses and her ability to meet her monthly financial obligations. The Court evaluated Mother’s “financial resources” and determined that her new spouse’s significant income was a component of “resources” to which she has access, thus properly considered.
And the point of this is what? So what. The court can still deny the request, it just chose to take this route. Trust me, this is foolery at its finest and when you have systems that cater to nonsense (I prefer BS), you get nonsense in return.
Finally, again I state…..IF THE CHILD IS GETTING WHAT HE/SHE NEEDS, WHAT IS THE POINT IN TRYING TO GET MORE BECAUSE YOU CAN….OTHER THAN GREED?
Deal with it. Of course you will always have a means to an end, meaning some foolhearted judge liberal in their thinking, maybe going off old memories of there own battles with child support and pull this kind of stunt, but most, believe that if the child is being supported and taken care of, there is no need for more money or the court’s time. I am saddened to know that my tax dollars are supporting BS like this. Do believe I will be commenting on all things possible to get the word out on this. It is a blatant misuse of authorities. In Texas, just became law that a custodial parents income will be included in the decision for the amount of support rendered when ordering child support payments. And guess what? It has stopped alot of these trifling arse people from filing nonsense claims. C’est tout.

LOL-WHY DON’T SOME OF YOU AT LEAST RESEARCH CHILD SUPPORT LAWS OR CONSULT SOMEONE IN THE LEGAL FIELD SOME OF YOU ARE JUST GOING OFF WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW OR HOW YOU FEEL IT SHOULD BE

REAL TALK-IF A MAN’S WIFE FILES TAXES JOINTLY WITH HER HUSBAND DON’T YOU KNOW IF HE AS OUTSTANDING CHILD SUPPORT THE ENTIRE TAX REFUND INCLUDING HER PORTION CAN AND WILL BE CONFISCATED TO PAY HIS CHILD SUPPORT ARREARS

LOL-YALL ARE TOO FUNNY ON THIS SITE JUST TALKING OUT THE SIDE OF YOUR NECKS LIKE YALL KNOW SOMETHING OR STATING SOMETHING AS A FACT WHEN YOU REALLY HAVE NO IDEA

The way around this is to file your taxes as married but fileing seperately. Besides that an inheritance is only available to those who inherited it. Even Curtis can’t touch Laila’s inheritence

intensemocha, good look, but all states are not created equal dearheart. I am a paralegal here in Texas and well abreast of the laws currently governing supoprt. If you and your spouse file joint income taxes, but you owe, they will not take the entire check, only what your portion would be, that’s all they can do. But if you don’t know, then you could be a$$ed out.
C’est tout.

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JUST GOES TO SHOW YOU THAT YOU ARE AWARE THAT THEY COULD IN FACT DO THIS-HENCE THE POINT I WAS TRYING TO MAKE

IT’S NOT NECESSARILY TRUE THAT YOUR SPOUSE’S FINANCES ARE EXEMPT WHEN IT COMES TO CHILD SUPPORT

@ Skoopes…
“I’m talking about real mothers who will use the child support payments for the child. Even if it means the mother riding around in a Honda (because thats what she can afford) and buying her son (when gets his license) a Cadillac Escalade…”
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are u a comedian? becuz that is HI-larious!!!!!!!
God bless u becuz ima be laughin at that for years!!!!!!

OF COURSE THEY ARE ONLY GOING TO TAKE WHAT IS OWED

BUT WHAT PORTION OF THE RETURN BELONGS TO YOUR SPOUSE-AND GUESS WHAT IF THE ARREARS OWED TOTAL THE ENTIRE RETURN-GUESS WHAT THEY ARE TAKING THE WHOLE DAMN CHECK -YA DIG

SOME OF THIS SHIAT IS COMMON SENSE, A DUH I KNOW THEY ARE GOING TO ONLY TAKE WHAT IS OWED-I’M STATING THE FACT THAT THEY COULD IN FACT TAKE IT TO BEGIN WITH

okay I am a 30 yr old women never had any kids or never been married. And NO im not Gay!!! But after reading this im speechless. Its hard and very rare to meet a man thats never been married or with no kids. OR NOT GAY!!! When men find out that i have no kids they instantly want to knock me up, NO JOKE. I have heard that on many times. I dated a man with kids and his BM was a trip, I just laffed at her. Of course he gets locked up like many brothas and his BM starts texting me talking about thier kids is about to start ballet and it cost X amount of dollars and her b-day is coming up and it would great if i help…WTF!!! Now she is crazy!!! Im so cool on BD and BM.

This is a shame. One of those cases where you only hope that justice prevails and greed does not.

barb:

That wasn’t my quote, lol

intensemocha,

Dearheart, they cannot take the whole income tax. You are entitled to your share. The state can only take what is portioned for the owing parent. If the arrears exceed the parent’s amount, then it will be picked on the next income tax, but they do not touch the non-parent. The state can be sued and trust they will be

dee

okay I am a 30 yr old women never had any kids or never been married. And NO im not Gay!!! But after reading this im speechless. Its hard and very rare to meet a man thats never been married or with no kids. OR NOT GAY!!! When men find out that i have no kids they instantly want to knock me up, NO JOKE. I have heard that on many times. I dated a man with kids and his BM was a trip, I just laffed at her. Of course he gets locked up like many brothas and his BM starts texting me talking about thier kids is about to start ballet and it cost X amount of dollars and her b-day is coming up and it would great if i help…WTF!!! Now she is crazy!!! Im so cool on BD and BM.

Well i’m over 30, male, black, straight, no kids, no criminal record, gainfully employed, and never incarcerated. We sound like soul mates.

“I’m talking about real mothers who will use the child support payments for the child. Even if it means the mother riding around in a Honda (because thats what she can afford) and buying her son (when gets his license) a Cadillac Escalade…”
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are u a comedian? becuz that is HI-larious!!!!!!!
God bless u becuz ima be laughin at that for years!!!!!!
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@ Barb
Actually I know some parents like that. But I was just saying parents who use those $20,000 a month child support payments on their children and not them. Because a lot of the times it would be the mother who is riding around in the expensive car when she works at McDonalds and her son is riding the bus…even though the money is for him.

always knew

“AGAIN, don’t date men with children”

You shoud amend that statement to include women with children, also, that way you don’t sound so gender bias.

@skoopes- don’t get mad, but are you one of those low-income mothers that think everyone owes them?

It sure does sound like it. No offense, but I don’t believe in welfare , any type, at all.
If you want better, then you must get off your behind and work for it..

Regardless whether I am getting with someone or not. I will NEVER pay a mate’s child support bills. That’s just ridamndiculous. And whoever does go along with that ih, has poor self- esteem and is basically an idiot. I wish I would. that just doesn’t make sense to me..

I should take care of your child for you, because I am dating or married to your ex? NO! Laila should’ve been way more careful or selective, in choosing a mate…

Not good at all… That tramp shouldn’t get ish from Laila or any of her ‘inheritance’. You are money hungry, crazy , just like this ‘female’ (I use that term very loosely)…

Hell would freeze over first…THINK ABOUT IT. I KNOW ALL YOU CAN SEE IS $$. BUT IT DOESN’T BELONG TO YOU,BOO BOO… GET OUT THAT LADY’S POCKET AND
GO GET YOURSELF, A JOB..(IMAGINE THAT, TAKE CARE OF YOR OWN RUGRAT)

@SKOOPES

AS A MATTER OF FACT, I DARE YOU TO GET UP FROM YOUR SEAT AND GO TO AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR OFFICE AND ASK THEM IF WHAT I’VE STATED IS IN FACT TRUE

THAT IF A NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT OWES CHILD SUPPORT THAT IF HE FILES JOINTLY WITH HIS SPOUSE THAT THE ENTIRE RETURN IS SUBJECT TO BE TAKEN TO ABSOLVE THE ARREARS

YOUR SO HELL BENT ON PROVING ME WRONG-DON’T TAKE MY WORD FOR IT ASK A LEGAL PROFESSIONAL THEY’RE RIGHT THERE @ WORK WITH YOU RIGHT? LOL

@intense mocha- lmao roflmao

you could be right about child support laws; but I wouldn’t know…

I would NEVER stoop so low, as to have to pay another MAN’S child support.I wouldn’t choose that type of situation, for myself…

See that’s why you are supposed to CAREFULLY choose a MATE. He has to have excellent qualities, if it’s to be a long-term relationship (marriage)…I wouldn’t marry him, if he has kids, he wouldn’t even be an option.

I don’t clean up after other women. PERIOD. I have NEVER dated a man, with children. My concern, in any relationship, is myself. NOT HIS KIDS, HIS EX, WHATEVER. IT’S ABOUT ME. ( AND HIM, IF HE’S WORTHY) Otherwise, forget it. This is what happens when women accept anything…
Laila could’ve done much better…

@ intensemocha: AS A MATTER OF FACT, I DARE YOU TO GET UP FROM YOUR SEAT AND GO TO AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR OFFICE AND ASK THEM IF WHAT I’VE STATED IS IN FACT TRUE

THAT IF A NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT OWES CHILD SUPPORT THAT IF HE FILES JOINTLY WITH HIS SPOUSE THAT THE ENTIRE RETURN IS SUBJECT TO BE TAKEN TO ABSOLVE THE ARREARS

YOUR SO HELL BENT ON PROVING ME WRONG-DON’T TAKE MY WORD FOR IT ASK A LEGAL PROFESSIONAL THEY’RE RIGHT THERE @ WORK WITH YOU RIGHT? LOL

I am right, hahaha

FOR EVERY CHICK OUT HERE WHO WOULD SLEEP WITH A MAN JUST TO GET A CHECK, THERE IS ALSO A MAN OUT THERE WHO WOULD SELL CRACK TO A BABY OR HIS MAMA FOR A BUCK-OR PIMP A WOMAN FOR MONEY-THE MENTALITY IS SIMILAR

SO THE POINT YOU MAKE IS A VALID ONE-GREED EXISTS BUT LET’S NOT GENERALIZE WOMEN AREN’T THE ONLY ONES CAPABLE OF IT

This is precisely why I steer clear of men with kids whose ex-wives are in the picture. Misery loves company, and life is too short to be forced to deal with constant drama. Plus, I have friends who’ve married men with kids from prior marriages, and they’ve unfortunately regretted their decision later on.

Always new, that is not my quote, but that of peewee. I agree with your assessment.

Always new, again that was not my quote. I don’t have any kids, and I am not low-income, lol. That is the privilege of being educated, with no kids and taking care of your business. I do agree with your assessment though.

@ Marquis

Cali dropped off my list when they went bankrupt. Sorry, VA Hospital in Palo Alto. lol

Marquis,

It is time for you to get the f*ck outta dodge. That is ridiculous. I am working TOO damn hard to finally get my degree (and a real job) and pay 9.2% just to the STATE… that doesn’t even include federal or sales tax, right? Sheesh… the Lord only asks for 10%.

I have been through this situation not once but twice. Thoroughly discussed the probabilities with my wife prior to marriage, and insured we filed seperate returns once we got married. Judge in both cases only asked for my financial information and the number of dependents in my current household. Could not get me on back support, because I was handling my business and paid monthly by check. In both cases my baby mamas came up short and the judge ruled that my payments would decrease. Not all men with children are deadbeat Dads. Just communicate your concerns and thoughts with any future mate.

@ Intensemocha

We are not talking about a man who has lost his job or his unable to pay… we are talking about a man who has paid support regularly, which this woman has accepted for all this time. Now her child’s needs suddenly increase because he married a woman with money? Puhleeze.

intensemocha, read ‘this some shhhh’ quote.

So, yeah, I digress. C’est tout.

rotf lmmfao at everyone who is actually pissed off, trying to prove a point…if its not your situation…is it really that serious?…I’m just sayin…

Octavia

I’ll have to think about that. I’ve been a Cali N*gga my whole life. The whole movin’ to the South would be a big cultural change…Sides, where I work has Offices in Atl, North Carolina, D.C. & A couple of other states. (We are their last acquisition), but as of right now, they’ve just had a major layoff & hiring freeze.

Laila knew this man had two children from a previous marriage when she got with him. I get why some of you don’t think this is “fair” but laws in various states have an opposite view.

Example: If he has remarried a woman with substantial means, that leaves his money separate, from his new wife’s money, more available to his first two children.

If Laila’s husband had agreed to more support to his first two children, it would not have come to requesting Laila’s financials. His failure to man-up to his first two children, brought his new wife into this mess.

Note to the Ladies: leave these negroes with kids alone. Unless he has the kind of money to keep all his children living the good life. Because if he does not, the first baby mama, especially if she is an ex-wife ain’t about to have her children getting left overs, while you and him live the good life.

didnt brand nubians sing that song

@ Skoopes

I see your point and agree. You have to raise children to understand how to take care of themselves at some point. My 5 year old thinks that whenever we want and she feels like it, we can go and buy her some more Dora the Explorer items. Her philosophy is write a check. I had to break it down and make it real for her. You don’t just get things because you want them, needs are taken care of first, and you earn your wants.

@ prettyfro

You are correct. Child support court should be the final solution to resolving conflict. Understand it is best to keep the government out your business. One suggestion though, your friend should have immediately petitioned the court for a re-evaluation when he lost his employment. Any changes within 20 percent can be re-addressed.

@prettyfro
Thanks so much for your post. I knew of some of the things you wrote but your post has further educated me regarding the child support system.
Thanks again.

Thanks
I’m glad you guys got something out of my rant!

You’re right though. He should have petitioned the courts immediately, that was his fault. It was just a good way to illustrate how ridiculous this child support system is, and how it has never been and will never be beneficial to the very ones it claims to support — children.

@ Indy

“Note to the Ladies: leave these negroes with kids alone. Unless he has the kind of money to keep all his children living the good life. Because if he does not, the first baby mama, especially if she is an ex-wife ain’t about to have her children getting left overs, while you and him live the good life.”
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With all due respect, I am so sick of the idea that an ex, someone you are no longer with, is not entitled to upward mobility unless they drag you along as well. We are talking about more than just providing for a child. A lot of ex’s and baby momma’s are just bitter and want to hang on to something that has looooong passed.

Hold up, now…I’m thinking, first and foremost, Laila should WHUP DAT A$$!! However, since she can’t (tee-hee), make sure she has a good lawyer to do it for her, which I am sure she does.

Secondly, I had a little change from my Pop’s that I got at different ages of my life, (18, 25, 30) and NO ONE could touch that money unless I gave it to them. It was money bequeathed FROM a parent to HIS child, not DIS HEFFA’S CHILD.

She done lost her ever loving mind!! Fortunately, the best thing Laili and Curtis have on their side is that Curtis IS a NFL retiree, so dat heffa ALREADY getting paid pretty good…which means that the judge prolly ain’t gone give her begging a@@ no mo.

DAYUM, girl! MOVE right along! Or, if you love your kids soooo much and need more money, ask Laila to have a match with you and we buy tickets and you get a cut from it…hayell, I’m just saying, since you need more money FOR YOUR KIDS.

@prettyfro…just saw your post…but, GONE GIRL!! You sho right, chile.

After going through the court, I don’t recall them ever coming back and checking on the welfare of the child, as long as that money is direct deposited into the account and their fees are removed.

I think Curtis’s ex wife/baby momma will be taking him and Laila to court for more child support, lol….

Curtis is a dead beat. Get a job!

laila ain’t stupid. her hands are registered with the state as deadly weapons.

This chick needs to join the “This ho done lost her motherf*cking mind” club with Kelis.

Hoe sit down…I can see if it was his money its his wife’s.

As a father, I don’t mind taking care of mine. Now as a man, Curtis should be out in front of all this to protect the interesrt of his child and his current wife. It should have been fully explained and pushed to his ex that she can take him to court all she wants, but leave his wife out the mix. Even if he had a thought that is ex might trip, he should have brought it to the table with Laila, before they got married, and kept their assets seperated to protect her in the event his ex started on this trip.

Laila is paying like she’s weighting! She need to make him get a job and take care of his kids!

That’s what happens when you marry a man who’s been married and has children. Its an adulterous situation because his ex wife is still alive and her ex husband is still alive. Now children are involved and this is the part of the consequences of their adulterous marriage. Im just saying!!!!

The ultimate TRUTH

That’s what happens when you marry a man who’s been married and has children. Its an adulterous situation because his ex wife is still alive and her ex husband is still alive. Now children are involved and this is the part of the consequences of their adulterous marriage. Im just saying!!!!

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I’m missing the adulterous part where there are EX-wives and EX-husbands. How is it an adulterous situation because your EX is alive, but you not sleeping with them no more? Don’t quite know how adultery is committed with divorced folks??? I’m just saying….WOW!!

@ The ultimate TRUTH

Kinda like what happens when you marry a woman who’s been married and has kids and her ex is still alive so what exactly is youre point???? It sounds as if you don’t think single parents men or women are ever intitled to marry ever again???. This is about a greedy and vengful baby momma and nothing more, shes been getting child support and he’s been taking care of his child with her and he does tele and cable shows, marketing and other sports related shit, he brings home good money so I don’t know where this get a job stuff came from..his support was based on his income and now old girl wants some of his wifes money because she blames her for their breakup and taking her man simple as that. If I felt that way I would have missed out on 30 plus years with my wife and the way she blesses my life to think had I been foolish enough to pass on her cause she had kids, that would have been the biggest mistake of my life..

I concur with SHOMONDO and Jade Silver!!! GET A FREAKING JOB LIKE EVERYONE ELSE YOU FREAKING SCRUB!!!!!

If that man is taking care of his seed them leave him the hell alone. And we wonder why SOME people are killing their baby’s mother or father nowadays in situations like this.SMDH

This is a stupid story. Anyone w/ sense knows that child support order is based on the income of the non-custodial parent and not his/her spouse. The ex can’t go after her assets as long as they are separate from the spouse. Laila’s paycheck is her own. Why the ex have to be a ho?

right?

Intense Mocha, I hate to burst your bubble hon, but you really don’t know what you’re talking about either.

Different states have different child support guidelines. In my home state, a spouse’s income is never considered in child support obligations.

And I know this because I practice family law! The child support obligation is based on worksheets that we use and the spouse’s income cannot be considered.

IF a parent is unemployed, income can be imputed, but not the income from the spouse of that unemployed person. It is usually based on what the person could be making if they are gainfully employed.

What’s funny is, you think you know because you’ve been to court in NY, what is applicable in all states, which is clearly and resoundingly not the case.

At least the paralegal has some form of knowledge and enough sense to know that all states do not act the same or have the same laws. So instead of being a corner lawyer, at least be smart enough to know that you don’t know everything.

you ppl on this blog should be in law school. B/C ya talkin like you got hella J.Ds. Dispensing legal advice is against the law in all states. Unless you are a lawyer or are involved in a similar situation, i.e. you are an ex-nfl player married to a professional boxer who is the daughter of the G.O.A.T. then just shut the F up!! All this arguing back and forth is stupid and your post are longer than the legal briefs on Roe v. Wade handed down from the supreme court. Pls! most of you are pontificating on how you think it should be based on your opinion of the parties involved and no solid legal basis. Believe me the real lawyers in the case got it covered on both sides.

Any judge that would let that ride is wack. This chick is trying to get up on her potential inheritance (Her father is still ALIVE! Whatever.

I’ve been a child support officer for more than 11 years and (here in California) I have seen the court orders and read the notes on more than one case where the non-custodial parent’s new wife’s income was taken into consideration. This is very rare but it would be wrong to say it doesn’t happen.

If it were as cut and dry as some of you say, they wouldn’t have been battling out in court all week. The judge would have considered the first wife’s claim to be ridiculous and against California law and dismissed it almost immediately. There is a reason why that didn’t happen.

@Prettyfro

THE CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM IS NOT DESIGNED TO HELP CHILDREN.

WAKE UP!
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LMAO. If I had a dime for every time I heard a deadbeat parent utter those words to me, I would be rolling like Oprah (or at the very least, Gayle).

Your friend brought that on himself. The problem is that people run from child support enforcement like they run from the IRS. Running DOES NOT make the problem go away. He should have contacted the child support agency and requested a downward mod the day after he lost his job and he would have either been given a $0 order or had it reduced to minimum wage (he still would have owed back support). Fathers and mothers who can’t pay support would be surprised to find out how agreeable we can be….but to find that out they need to make the effort to go down to the office or courthouse and address the issue, otherwise they just might end up in jail one day.

Oh and another thing, I don’t know if your friend resides in California, but if so we rarely send fathers to jail for non-payment of support. They had to have been extremely non-cooperative or fraudulently avoiding making payments. We have too many cases to count where people owe hundred of thousands in back support and are making below interest payments. Very likely your friend isn’t telling the whole story. People love to portray themselves as victims to draw sympathy.

Laila would flo dat chick!

@ Rumpelstiltskin

If you tryin to say i’m ugly…then I accept that also because if i resemble your sister then I also resemble yo mama!

@ What state
I didn’t read all the posts, so I’m not sure what the post you are responding to said. I’m guessing, based on your post, that you don’t practice in NY, but you can’t include a spouse’s income there either. Moreover, any inheritance Laila has coming CERTAINLY wouldn’t be relevant, since that would be separate property in NY altogether (as well as any personal injury awards)

@ the person saying giving legal advice is against the law, you’re right, it is against the law if you’re not an atty, HOWEVER, informing someone of the law is NOT giving legal ADVICE. Giving advice would be making suggestions as to what course of action a person can take AFTER informing that person of the law.

@ BeBe

wow! o.k nobody is callin the FBI or nuthin’. Inform us of the law then. I appreciate it. women don’t realize that even if your man is paying child support you are subsidising the rest of his finances so that’s just like paying it yourself! That’s money going out of your household. I promise you that if a woman was paying child support she prolly couldn’t get no man to move in with her cause most men aren’t going to make up the difference. “oh you paying $1,000 a month child support so you can’t pay half the rent?” “I’m out”!

No, never that boo you are very pretty.

But women do it all the time! Her man is paying 60% of his check for child support so she has to pay most of the household bills cause the 40% that’s left is going to the new Jordan’s and new playstation and wii games.

@ Rumpelstiltskin

That is so sweet of you but in the interest of full disclosure…thats just an avatar. I picked it because i was told it kinda resembles me without the cool blue hair and sparkles. Although I don’t think im too bad for real in real life LOL! although thats just my opinion but since this is a blog this is the place to express my opinion.

And also i apologize about the 2nd response no need no bring moms into this. The cyber dozen’s? bad idea! Too Tyler Perry!

Common sense people. you can not go after anyone inherintance. Laila husband must not have a job!

Makes me wanna go out & get married…NOT.

Marquis and pee wee -

I see that other bloggers have gotten y’all straight on this and cosigned my statement. LMAO…at y’all trying to call me out while being loud and wrong!!!

- Laila’s income is not considered in some states (Only if he is behind in his child support would it be, he is not behind

- A person’s inheritance is not on the table ever! (Especailly a spouse’s inheritance)

- A pre-nup which shows he is entitled to NOTHING would be presented in court to show that their assets are seperated; hence even in a court where it would be considered…it probably wouldn’t be taken into effect because of the prenup.

- If this was the case, I would get a divorce and still be together…either way…chick wouldn’t get a dollar out of me

See, thats why I never date a guy with kids. The ex is always bitter as hell that the baby dad did not marry her. The drama just isn’t worth it.
Anyways, I hope the Ali’s come out on top.

First of all Laila knew what she was getting into when she married the deadbeat! When you get married it’s community property. If THEY could afford to pay more child support they should!

Look at at Witney Houston and Bobby Brown…Witney had to come out of pocket! Please it’s about the kids…..

My childs donor refuse to marry his girlfriend (mother of 2 kids) because they both know she makes the money and his child support would increase! I want them to get married. This little 200.00 a month isnt enough to feed my child. Thank God I dont have to depend on his money!

Ok…what happen to my post? Why are my words all messed up?

Nobody knows the background soo everybody is talking out the side of their necks. How does everyone know he hasen’t been crying broke and giving her pennies. It’s not fair to come after him but it’s ok for the child to suffer. These people making these ignorant comments about the baby mama are just heartless. I know several guys personally who don’t want to give their baby mama’s a dime and they will do whatever it takes to keep them from getting it. They want the childs mother to call and beg for everything…” JR needs some new socks”. And I prey all these so called women on here never get lied to or deceived.

You’re right. Why else would she be gunning for Laila’s money? I hope the courts don’t rule in her favor, because if they do, it’s on. You’ll see this kind of nonsense all over the place.

Ever since the Welfare programs have been cut back, the new thing for the baby mommas to go to court and get their child support from a d or c list celebrity guy. This is the new method of County payments and of course to piss off her baby daddy and his new wife, lol. Revenge is soo lucrative, lol…

Ladies and gentlemen, the word for the day.
STOMP-A-THON. don’t try it sugar.

Here’s the deal. Curtis has been paying his child support for the 3 kids he had with his ex wife. His ex wife has been fighting him since they got divorced. He’s a great father and takes very good care of all his kids. Him and Laila have one child together. The ex wife wanted him back after she saw that he had moved on. He dated Lisa from the Atlanta Housewives for several years before getting together with Laila. He’s a great guy and any woman would be lucky to have him as a husband and a father to your kids.