Quote of the Day: “I Didn’t Want to Be a Chocolate Girl”

- By Bossip Staff

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Not to place all of the blame for Kelly’s low self-esteem on Bey and her camp but we can definitely imagine that the spotlight always shining on Bey’s bright @ss didn’t help much.

Kelly Rowland had a difficult time at school because she suffered an “identity crisis” as she was growing up.

The former Destiny’s Child star was raised in Houston, Texas and was the only black girl in her class. The singer admits she found herself longing to fit in with her peers, and even dreamed of lightening her skin color.

She tells Britain’s Heat magazine, “There’s so much peer pressure, growing up I had an identity crisis – I went to a school that was predominantly white and I was the only black girl. I remember thinking, ‘I don’t want to be as dark as I am, I want to be a little fairer. I didn’t want to be me.”

Rowland credits her band mate Beyonce mother, Tina Knowles, for helping to restore her confidence. She says, “She sat me in front of the mirror and said, ‘Girl, look at how pretty you are’. She made me feel comfortable in my own skin.”

The singer finally shook off her insecurities as she reached adulthood, and the experience encouraged her to work with charities to help young women boost their self-esteem.

She adds, “When I got older, I embraced who I am as a woman. I look in the mirror and I’m like, ‘I like Kelly. Kelly’s not so bad.’ I think that it’s important to instill that in our girls, to know that they posses something special and that everybody’s not supposed to be the same.”

Poor Kelly didn’t like being chocolate brown growing up. Glad she didn’t go the Michael Jackson route and end up looking like a freakshow

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  • Jade Silver (the truth shall set you free)

    Love thyself.

  • brooklyn kid

    she is a beautiful woman

  • lady

    I am glad she was able to embrace her beauty because she is very lovely…but let’s be honest the music industry now is very shallow and if Kelly where a few shades lighter she would probably be more sucessful…it’s sad but true.

  • Allison Mae

    by the way, i don’t think kelly is beautiful, i think she’s beyond it!!!

  • upeople

    Whoa with the insult to Mike at the end.

    Kelly is gorgeous.

  • Jupiter_Butterfly

    shes beautiful the way she is.

  • saucefry

    It’s a shame she has a “weak mind”, she did not get that from Beyonce. Getting a t!t job and not being satisfied with your body, is a mental issue.

  • michelle

    um… michael isn’t a freak show! he had vitiligo. so he couldn’t control it. who the hell would bleach their self white if they new all the uneccessary drama and attention he brought especially as a big time celebrity like him.

  • Jay the Real One

    Can they please sing another tune? Boo hoo I wanna be white smdh

  • BE HAPPY!

    Kelly felt like most chocolate girls have felt at one time or another. She was being honest and you have to appreciate that most people are insecure and never get confidence.

  • NIK

    I don’t understand why people have a twisted belief that darker skin is less attractive? We have women bleaching thier skin to feel more beautiful?? I’m a light skinned women but I’ve seen stunning chocolate women! The darker the berry the sweeter the juice right?

  • Nique

    @tb

    Who is that in your gravie??

  • Choc

    She is such a beautiful girl. It is sad but true that so much emphasis is put on the complexion of women in our community. Why can’t we celebrate our complexion range from cocoa to cream. It really is a beautiful thing.

  • NIK

    @Nique
    I mean look at Tiny!!!! WOOF!
    __________________________________________
    LOL LOL LOL NO YOU DIDN’T!!! Does she have a speech impediment???

  • Tabby

    @ NIK

    My response always was WHAT ARE YOU SAYING DARKSKIN WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL. I have yet to hear a man answer that question.

  • Breaking the monotony (Billy Jean)

    @ Nik

    Yeah well I’m light but I’ve had WHITE men come up to me and say “you r beautiful to be blk!”…WTF!!!!!!! am I suppose 2 except this as some backhand “compliment”???????

    UNEXCEPTABLE PPL!!!!!!!!

  • http://dicooper.spaces.live.com/ DICooper

    Lost

  • Nigga Said

    You have to start with the man/woman in the mirror and ask them to change theire ways, first. If yu feel what Im saying let me here you say Shum-on!!!

  • Almost famous

    I can identitify with what Kelly went through. I am brown, and my friends in High School were light skinned. The boys didn’t come on to me, they came on to my friends. The compliments I received were “You have nice teeth.” I’m not a horse damn it!

    But as I got older, I realized, I love me. I am beautiful, on the inside and out, smart, creative, and have a wealth of qualities to share with the world!

    Society told us, black was whack and light was right. WE STILL DO IT TO OTHERS AND OURSELVES! Just because you don’t see it in your circle, doesn’t mean it’s not happening.

  • tb

    @ Nique
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    IDK…I just put in my email addy too fast one day, left out a letter and someone else’s avie came up and I just kept it. Thought it would freak ppl out when they actually found out that I was, in fact, a black female…See ppl never know whom they are talking to.

  • NIK

    Breaking the monotony (Billy Jean):
    Yeah well I’m light but I’ve had WHITE men come up to me and say “you r beautiful to be blk!”…WTF!!!!!!! am I suppose 2 except this as some backhand “compliment”???????

    UNEXCEPTABLE PPL!!!!!!!!
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    WHAT!!!!! NO FCKN WAY!! I’m not a violent person, but he might have gotten a right hook for that one. We are beautiful!!! I think women of color (latina, asian, black (all shades) etc…) are SSOO beautiful. Not to say that white women aren’t, but women of color are BANGIN!! come on

  • tb

    @ Almost famous
    @ Tabby
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    I got no love in high school either. I got the same thing…pretty smile, pretty eyes, but that was it. I had lite friends as well and they got all the love. But, as I grew up I saw what was really what.

  • tb

    @ @ Almost famous
    ********************
    I was tall, had a fly shape (still do) all that, but I got no love…not even from my family. I have both really lite ppl in my family and very dark ppl in my family. The lite ones were treated like Gods and the dark ones were treated like pee-on.

    Point – I have a cousin…I was taller than her, prettier than her, had a better shape than her (and still do)….she was and is shaped like a 2 liter pepsi, yet my aunt that can’t have kids picked her to be in a mother and daughter fashion show. My aunt is really lite, was never able to have kids…she told me that ppl would not believe that I was her daughter it was better if she went with my cousin even though my cousin was a troll. (Those are the ppl I keep my son away from) They totally ruined my self-esteem while I was growing up. Now, I make more money than then, drive a flier car, and have a bigger home…now they want to jump on the bandwagon.

  • NIK

    Almost Famous:
    I can identitify with what Kelly went through. I am brown, and my friends in High School were light skinned. The boys didn’t come on to me, they came on to my friends. The compliments I received were “You have nice teeth.” I’m not a horse damn it!

    But as I got older, I realized, I love me. I am beautiful, on the inside and out, smart, creative, and have a wealth of qualities to share with the world!

    Society told us, black was whack and light was right. WE STILL DO IT TO OTHERS AND OURSELVES! Just because you don’t see it in your circle, doesn’t mean it’s not happening.
    ________________________________________________
    I know exactly what you mean. I am of mixed race so I’m on the “lighter” side. I grew up in a predominately white community and never got “that” guy that the little white girls got. I never got “that” hair etc… Until I moved to the city where everyone was like me, or ever darker than me. I turned into one of “those” girls where MY skin was like everyone else and so was my hair. I quickly realized that “darker” women go through the same thing I was going through. MY people, where I felt more comfortable in my own skin was doing the same thing that the white people I grew up with did to me? It’s not fair. It’s everywhere, and it’s disgusting. I’m so afraid of what my daughter is going to see when she looks at herself in the mirror. She’s only 5, but God help me.

  • Somer

    Kelly need to STFU! She is not even dark. This is the 3rd time this pitty story was given to the press. Anything to stay relivant in the press.

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