I share your sentiment regarding Obama today. I feel positive and strong in our belief and capability to change America and our world.

I will not reveal who I am. On behalf of my family (my husband and parents have valued your posts as well), we thank you for the kind metaphysical kinship you have extended to me on this “gossip site”.

You’re wisdom has restored a lost part of my spirit and voice and I am humbled and grateful, we all are.

Today I am paying forward about $1000 worth of my children’s outgrown clothing to one African-American single mother and one Hispanic single mother who came here with one bag of clothes for herslf and her child.

And I don’t pay forward condescending charity. I pay forward boutique brand freshly laundered gifts honoring the respect and dignity of the recipient.

People of all colors, we can all do what we can.

Obama 2008-2016!!

Yes We Absolutely Can!

I am feeling very good today about Obama’s chances despite all the distractions and controversy created by the Clinton’s new campaign strategist. I hear also that she has a history of being tied to scandal and has destroyed evidence incriminating one of the Clinton’s in the past. Do you know anything of this?

I also like the way you tied in the ways a racist strategy can destroy us at each level of the hierarchy of needs. This is exactly where I wanted to go next.

I see the most visible as the basic needs stage. You take away a man’s basic resources, you take away his ability to move up the hierarchy.

When fixated at the basic needs stage, he or she never reaches security, can’t focus on relationships and family (hence the family breakdown), You can’t build a healthy esteem and can’t become self actualized, give back to the community, or achieve spiritual greatness.

Some may say well what about those who appear to be getting their basic needs met and still can’t move up the hierarchy… Well in my opinion it’s relative… Our materialistic society has expanded the base of our basic needs dramatically.

So now many of us must have a certain level of shelter, a certain level of food, a perfect sex partner a specific car etc to feel like aur basic needs have been met. No to mention now it is becoming a luxury to have clean water and air.

As the culture breaks down it expands our needs for safety and security and so forth.

I think this is connected to the state of America not just the state of Black people or the lingering racist agenda.

Greed is pricing the American people right out of self actualization, self esteem, family stability, and even safety. We are taking steps back as a civilization and possibly retarding societal evolution.

I believe you are so right when it comes to race and poverty the hurdles become the size of the olympic high jump.

If we change our focus, we can change ourselves, if we can change ourselves we can change America, if we can change America we can change the world!

Go Obama!!

YES WE MUST!

However the point I am making is when picking a partner many of us seem to be fixated in the basic life needs category (food, shelter, sex, drink, warmth etc.).

However if we were really thinking long-term and about building strong families we should be selecting partners based on tier 2′s Safety needs (protection, security, order, law, limits, stability).

This creates the path way to family focus and love, which allows you to focus on status. The hierarchy has to be addressed in order you can’t go from the bottom to the top.

There is just no way for us to focus on basic life needs and reach family and stability. We have to first mature to level where security takes precedent over our physical needs.

Monotheistic Proof

(Top) Self-actualization

personal growth and fulfillment

Esteem needs

achievement, status, responsibility, reputation

Belongingness and Love needs

family, affection, relationships, work group, etc.

Safety needs

protection, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.

(Bottom) Biological and Physiological needs

basic life needs – air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.

They are normally depicted as a triangle at the bottom of the base are physical needs, and eventually coming to a point is self actualization.

The concept of the hierarchy is based on the successful maturation of a person from the start to the finish of their life.

The model has to do with there being five levels of focus that we go through as people in our personal evolution (or maturity.)