Basketball Star Richard Jefferson: I Dumped Her Via E-mail Before Our Scheduled Wedding and I’m Not Gay

Posted on July 16th, 2009 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: Gay, News, Sports

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This story is real messy and something seems a little “fishy”. Why did Jefferson give her stacks after he supposedly dumped her?

Former Net star Richard Jefferson admitted yesterday that he told his beautiful bride-to-be that their wedding was off in an e-mail — stunning her just days before their planned posh nuptials.

Kesha Ni’Cole Nichols got the heart-wrenching message after a tense Fourth of July weekend, Jefferson told The Post.

“There was a lot of stress and tension in the relationship. We’ve been through a lot — but we just couldn’t continue,” said Jefferson, sounding upset during a telephone interview.

But at least Nichols got a nice parting gift — Jefferson, who was traded from the Milwaukee Bucks to the San Antonio Spurs last month, said he’s giving her a “six-figure” settlement so she can start a new life.

“I won’t say a negative word about Kesha. She is one of my best friends,” said Jefferson, who courted for nearly five years.

He said things came to a head when they celebrated July 4 in LA, a week before their planned July 11 wedding at the luxurious Mandarin Oriental on Columbus Circle.

After Nichols boarded a plane back to New York the next day, Jefferson said, he sent her the devastating e-mail.

“Sometimes you might write an e-mail to get your thoughts down right,” he explained.

After Nichols — and the message — arrived in New York, the couple spoke by phone for two hours, Jefferson said.

“It was a conversation Kesha and I had,” he said, adding only that it was “a combination of things” that led to the split.

Jefferson said they haven’t spoken in a week.

“It’s been an emotional time for both of us,” he said. “I know she’s hurt. I’m hurt, too.”

The couple had planned to top off their $500,000 wedding with a honeymoon in London, where they had tickets to one of the Michael Jackson comeback shows.

Of the money he’s giving Nichols, Jefferson said, “I’m not trying to buy her off. She has a lump sum to help her move on.”

He added, “I’ve made my mistakes in this relationship, 100 percent. But at the end of the day, there were some people who were responsible for the demise of it.”

He insisted a rumor he’s gay had nothing to do with the breakup.

“I’m not gay,” Jefferson said. “That couldn’t be any further from the truth. I have nothing to hide.”

Nichols could not be reached.

On July 6, Jefferson told his family the wedding was off.

Kesha told her family and friends the next day, he said.

Because some out-of-town guests were already in, or en route to, New York, they decided to go through with a dinner that was supposed to have been part of the wedding celebration, Jefferson said.

The jilted bride, a former Net dancer, checked into the Mandarin and spent what would have been her wedding night in a luxury suite. A fellow dancer pal of Kesha, Keltie Colleen, wrote on her blog that Nichols was “going through some serious grief.”

None of Jefferson’s family made the trip. “My family didn’t take this well. I’m the last one not to have married,” said Jefferson, the son of Christian missionaries. “My family was looking forward to me starting a family of my own.” Jefferson flew to Paris last week with some basketball buddies. He went “only because I care about her so much that I didn’t want to change my mind after those emails were sent,” he said. “I didn’t want to start missing her and decide, ‘let’s do this.”‘ “It’s so crazy, the divorce rate out there,” Jefferson added. “If you aren’t 100 percent certain about something, you shouldn’t do it.”

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  • aleximaq

    WTF?

  • R&D

    1st

  • http://urbanfrugalchic.com Cynthia

    I WOULD KILL HIM! SWEAR I WOULD!

  • http://urbanfrugalchic.com Khristal

    He is wrong for that!

  • ThAtLaDy22

    HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLD UP! This fool emailed her….whoa….what a real man NOT!

  • jswang

    Good for him. If you not a 100% sure don’t do it. Yeah, he could have handled it a little different but we don’t know what happened on the 4th to prompt him to call it quits.

  • Nique

    And ppl-If you’ve been with someone for more than a 1.5 years and already know you cant see yourself married to this person then its time to move on!!! Stop wasting other ppl’s time!

  • Brooklyn Dub

    I love the last line, “If you aren’t 100 percent certain about something, you shouldn’t do it.”

    If anybody tells you that they are 100% sure that they are doing the right thing when they are about to get married, then they are lying or on drugs.

    It is the biggest decision you make in your life, there have to be doubts (second thoughts) or you are not taking it seriously.

    The bride should take this as a blessing. If RJ didn’t have the balls to discuss this with her in person, then he would have been a HORRIBLE husband.

  • TeeTee K

    I would kill his ass…Cancel our wedding the day before, that’s some real B.S.

  • Sydney™

    “I WOULD KILL HIM! SWEAR I WOULD!”

    I saw this yesterday, and my first thought that it was a “Snapped” episode waiting to happen.

    The whole situation is so tasteless and incredibly insensitive. Not only did he break up with her (his fiancee, no less) via e-mail (what a coward), he then talked about it in the press and disclosed that he had given her a financial settlement, so she can “start a new life.” How does she recover from such public humiliation?

    Well, this should be a big, blazing red flag to the next woman with whom he becomes involved. Engage him at your own risk.

  • Sydney™

    *fiancée*

  • iopsycho

    Days before the wedding…Gay!!!

  • purebbc

    He sent her an e-mail are you crazy I havent checked my email in 2 weeks pick up the phone and handle yours like a man

  • Too funny

    That is crazy. He should’ve figured out he wasn’t ready before 1 week before the wedding.

  • Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    You professional athletes need to stop messing with them cheerleaders in the first place… You guys know they’re only doing that ’cause they’re “gold diggers” looking for a come up…

  • CF98

    I still think she wouldn’t sign a prenup otherwise I can’t think of a better explanation. Regardless while he was foul(pardon the pun) for how he handled it I rather be left at the altar than go through a divorce.

    The fact his fiancee wasn’t that caught off guard says something to me at least.

  • pm

    @Sydney.. u know im playing

  • SEXY GIRLICIOUS

    Seriously tho’ I would NEVER date an athlete. They are SO dishonest and dysfunctional. This HALF-A-MAN actually sent the woman an EMAIL to call off a $500,000 wedding. Hell NO! I think these athletes feel like they rule the world.. NOT!! Ladies, for real, stop swinging on these losers jocks… it’s done went straight to their heads.. BOTH HEADS!!

    Can somebody point me in the direction of the nearest UPS DELIVERY MAN?!?! We can put our lil checks together and do the damn thang!

  • sasha

    wow! ish like dis can get a nucca whacked! lmao! wtf

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    Morning Sydney and Kami…

    No one is ever 100% sure on their wedding day that they are doing the right thing. It’s just you have to know that you are going to have to take the good with the bad. He must have know/felt that she wasn’t the one for him. Maybe his family or she (after 5 years) were putting pressure on him. Sad that he did it via email.

  • the_one

    Ummm, this is some ish, I heard from WENDY, HOW U DOING, WILLIAMS, that this fool didnt tell his own family that is was called off and they all showed up. Although his friend used dude’s black card to take them out to make up for he’s opps I am an A HOLE move I still think he needs help. I heard she stayed at the hotel that should have been where they got married, I guess she was enjoying the last fruits of his labor. Next baller step up.

  • bigdude13

    Is this really the climate to be pissin’ these broads off? Don’t he know they offin’ ni99as. Did he find out she used to work at Dave & Busters?

  • Sydney™

    @pm

    You are? And the “b**ch” references are a joke, too?

    Good morning Jade, Kami :)

    “He must have know/felt that she wasn’t the one for him. Maybe his family or she (after 5 years) were putting pressure on him. Sad that he did it via email.”

    So he sent her an e-mail and went off to Paris? He sounds like a Class A jerk to me.

  • DizzyGuy

    This is sad. You just don’t leave a women like that at the altar.Homegirl could have went crazy and “McNabbed” him. I mean it would almost be justified…thats just not right to waste her time and the family too. You knew you didn’t want to get married. Shame on him.

  • Jazmine

    HE’S GAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!

  • Sanjor

    Good morning all,
    no matter how much she is grieving, its probably a blessing in disguise. I’m glad he didn’t go through with the marriage knowing he didn’t want to be married.

  • Sydney™

    And this Einstein neglected to remember that everything you send through e-mail can one day be available for public records. I’m just waiting for the e-mail to leak.

    I’m sure Wendy Williams will have a lot to discuss on her new show today.

  • The Bear-

    I don’t know if email is the proper way to break the news BUT I agree with him 100% for calling it off. I wish I had been as smart as he is and had not ignored the negative signals that were going off during the week before my wedding.

    Good for you RJ!!!! If it don’t fit… Don’t force it. I learned the hard way.

  • Lady Minerva

    I would be devastated.

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    6am never wrong

  • Kami All Day

    Morning Syd!!

    Damn, its not Friday YET????

  • Teezy

    It was jacked up how he did it, but if he wasnt sure he wanted to marry her it was better to tell her now than 3 years and 2 kids later. That would have been worse. Look at Usher and Tameka!

  • luvchild

    I always suspected him of being gay. I told my bf this a long time ago. So to even here that he was getting married was a surprise. I didn’t know there were rumors that he was gay before though.

  • luvchild

    oops *hear

  • Sydney™

    *for public eyes*

    @Kami

    One more day, girl.

    So there have been rumors about this guy being gay? Truthfully, I know nothing about him except what I’ve read in the past few days.

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ Kami… Not necessarily. Sometimes people get so caught up in the idea and preparations for the wedding they forget about the marriage and the relationship. If you are with someone who is already on shaky ground about whether he’s going to jump the broom or not, you go the subtle route. I don’t think he’s gay. Not all black men can be gay (can they?).

  • Macho

    “Look at Usher and Tameka!”
    YOU SOUND DELUSIONAL. Tameka played her game, have kids from Usher so child support checks. Same thing with Beyonce, she told Jay-z she is pregnant to get married, after that no kid is coming.

  • Jupiter_Butterfly

    him calling off the wedding is not
    a CRIME but the way that he did it was FOUL

  • statim08

    A dishonorable discharge is never pretty. He’s lame and can’t hide it.

  • mojojojo

    but it is a good thing he didnt marry her….if he wasnt sure (or gay) he shouldnt have led her on….but who knows maybe she knew about him all along but just wanted the title

  • Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    Good…

    Together for 5 YEARS???

    That right there tells you that things weren’t all good…

    It doesn’t take that long to know whether you’re going to or want to marry somebody…

  • Angee

    Morning Everybody!

  • CAT EYES

    Anyone has a right to change their mind about getting married any time they want.However, his method was pretty tacky.

  • mz.cee ♥

    @Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    Truth!

    Those pro’s just some airheaded, immature, hurry-come-up retards, no wonder they get Steve McNaired on a regular…

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ Sydney…
    So he sent her an e-mail and went off to Paris? He sounds like a Class A jerk to me.
    —————————————————
    Maybe I’ve dated and been with some dangerous and dubious characters in my life so I’m not really concerned how he did it. Atleast he did it. He didn’t just leave her at the altar to figure it out. That would have been worse. Standing there in your dress infront of friends and family and the groom is a no show. That’s the stuff nightmares are made of.

    I remember I kept calling my husband on our wedding day every hour on the hour just to make sure he was going to make it. When you get married it’s an out of body experience. Some people tend to behave strangely.

  • mojojojo

    @ jupiter_butterfly
    I cosign 1000%

  • mojojojo

    @ 6am
    the way he is telling the business i really dont think he would have a hard time telling the world she was a cheat. i really think he didnt want to go through with it which is cool but the way he went about it was foul

  • Anonymous

    five years and a email that’s a coward move.

  • luvchild

    But ultimately if he didn’t want to marry her that was his decision to make.

    But dang thats a whole lot of money. WAY too much to be spending on ONE DAY!

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ Slide…
    Good…

    Together for 5 YEARS???

    That right there tells you that things weren’t all good…

    It doesn’t take that long to know whether you’re going to or want to marry somebody…
    —————————————————
    Morning! I co-sign. I know many couple who dated for 5 years and more who didn’t even make it through their first year of marriage. A man who waits that long is looking for a better option. When he marries you it’s because he figured you’ve always been loyal and he’s tired of looking. LOL.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    *************************************************
    MAN OF THE YEAR AWARD
    *************************************************

    Congratulations to Richard Jefferson!!

    *if he renegs on the “money for a new life” he can win Man Of The Decade*

  • Macho

    @Cynthia:I WOULD KILL HIM! SWEAR I WOULD!

    why??? Is marriage a debt.? Everybody can change his view few minutes before to exchange the rings; That’s why city majors always ask the BIG question before exchanging rings.

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “I agree. Kesha Nichols received her Karma for her “more than likely” trifiling ways on her marriage day.”

    The trifling one is the person who sent the e-mail that will be leaked any day now (I predict).

  • l thomas

    If he believed this was the right choice for him, that’s great. It’s too bad he didn’t realize it sooner.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “The trifling one is the person who sent the e-mail that will be leaked any day now (I predict).”
    ______________________________________________________________

    Yeah, I agree. She did SOMETHING though, and that was her Karma coming back to get her.

  • mrsmayes

    the bear–

    what do you mean negative signals…if they were going off the week before, i bet they were going off way before hand, and you were too blind to see it. NOBODY changes a week before the wedding, sweety.

  • L

    Morning guys!

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Morning peepe!

    Oh well. He probably did the right thing anyway.

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ Slide… I got the ring 2 months into the relationship and married 9 months later. But I never dated someone more than a year. I don’t believe in let’s try it out and see. You either want to or you don’t. If not, it’s been great and I moved on.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    So for everyone saying her was wrong:

    If he would have stayed then divorced ehr folks would be talking about he cheated or he shouldn’t have married ehr inthe first place. WIth his family being really religious, IMO he did the right thing. Maybe he doesn’t believe in divorce and he wants to know without a doubt that he will be with her forever.

  • http://perryone779@yahoo.com rose by any other name

    I would move on like s— happens and life goes on!!!

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    Morning Whoa! Morning L.

  • The Bear-

    @ Sydney

    Perhaps having personally gone through a very painful marraige where I knew I should have canceled the wedding but instead listened to my mom and married a woman with a horrible attitude problem has made me a little bit biased.

    But I still believe with all my heart that he saw things in her that he knew would make his life a living hell during the marraige and he was wise enough to allow the good sense he has in his head to overule the love he has for her he has for her in his heart.

    I wasn’t as wise, I followed my heart and ignored her bullshit. And OHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! do I rue that day.

  • L

    How long should you be in a relationship before you get an engagement ring?

    6 months?
    2 years?
    5 years?

    And if you wouldn’t mind please give me an explanation as to why you feel the way you feel, thanks in advance
    _________________________________________________

    I don’t think you should be in a relationship for more tahn 2 YEARS without an engagement ring! Longer than 3 is just plain rude and showing that you have no intentions of buying that cow when you can get the milk for free (for lack of a better interpretation)

  • L

    JADE!
    WHOA!
    JB!
    MIJDC!
    SYDNEY!

    HAPPY THURSDAY TO YOU ALL! :)

  • mojojojo

    @ slide
    i feel u cant really put time on it . it really depends on the relationship now if u are together for a year and u two NEVER discussed it i think u should move on….
    1 year the talk
    2yrs planning
    3 yrs u should be on ya way down the alsie….im not going to be with no one for 5yrs and we are not getting married

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtSD7E Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    she is dancer and 6 figures is probably a 3 ear salary for her.
    ______________________________________________

    @Jamilah

    Cheerleaders DON’T get paid for shakin’ their a$$ and shakin’ them pom poms…

    AND they be messing with guys on the opposing team too when they come in town = ho’s… SMH

    Like I said before and we all know the ONLY reason why they are doing that is to snag a professional athlete…

  • http://www.myspace.com/gazfynest Patiently waiting

    yall are wild……..I agree with those saying it may be a blessing to both parties. BUT an EMAIL dude come one I would be ashamed of my own self for that.

    LOL at the person who said this sounded like a plot for an episode of “snapped”

    Feelings and emotions are a trip. that flesh is nothing to play with so yall better wise up for real though. these are not your mother and grandmother’s these new age females is murkin like thugs (don’t condone it) but they not playin

  • CAT EYES

    @ Slide like a fresh pair of gators
    You asked how long should a woman be in a relationship before you get an engagement ring.
    I would say between 1 and 2 years.Anything longer than that,you’re just a cow he’s getting free milk from.

  • Sydney™

    Oops, sorry for the double post!

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    I treat marriage like MOST drugs Just say NO

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey
    L
    Slide
    JB
    Syd
    JAAAAAAAAAAAAAADE
    MIJDC
    Angee
    and everyone else

  • mojojojo

    @ L
    Lauren is that u?

  • The Bear-

    @ MRSMAYS

    I speak from personal experience. There are certain things in life that one may not be able to fully understand unless they’ve been there and done that.

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    What a punk move!!

    Hey Syd, Slide, Kami, Jade, Mojojo, MIJDC, L
    others i’m missing

  • Sydney™

    Good morning, Whoa :)

    @Patiently waiting

    “LOL at the person who said this sounded like a plot for an episode of “snapped””

    LOL, girl, it does. There are some women who would round up their bridesmaids and go on a “search-and-destroy” mission with their hair and nails done and all.

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey Whoa

    I am Legend – you are just gloomy about everything huh? lol

  • Angee

    Hello Whoa, Sydney and everyone else!

  • L

    @MOJOJOJO

    Hey cousin! Yes it’s me…how is babygirl doin!?

  • Divine

    I will gather he got cold feet but he broke up with her completely. I think there is something more to the story. But Its better to not get married than to do it cause more issues in the long run, when kids could possibly be involved.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtSD7E Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    I bet she was lookin’ at $10 million dollar mansions, interviewing nannies and maids, ordered a bentley , SL 65 and a pink Range rover, Had Manolo Blahnik’s, Louis Vuitton, Gucci and Tiffany store managers all on “speed dial”, gave her mother $25k and probably told them they could start lookin’ for a new house or move in with them, all without telling richard.
    ______________________________________________

    @6AM

    LMAO!!!!!!!!!

    The funny thing about you saying that is that I knew a girl who did damn near everything you just said = FOR REAL!!!

    Oh yeah, congrats on getting engaged and Happy Belated Birthday!!!

    But hold up though, are you gonna ask your girl to sign a prenup? (*it ain’t none of business or concern, but whatever…)

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @ sydney,

    You may be right, a woman can look good and throw down in the kitchen, but i bet this one cant and aint interested in learning how!

    ***************
    I agree with 6am on this one but Jefferson did not need to dump her via text, e-mail. He needs that a$$ kicked for that.

  • L

    LOVE YOU 6AM!!!

    (lol)

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    @BE

    Im not gloomy at all..Im just not into all this nonsense…He didnt wanna get married good for him smart man

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    GOOD MORNING FOLKS!!!!

  • Angee

    Ok 6AM!

  • Sydney™

    Hello BE :)

    @6am

    “You may be right, a woman can look good and throw down in the kitchen, but i bet this one cant and aint interested in learning how!”

    Oh, OK. It’s amazing how much some of you have deduced from one photo, or do you know her personally? Perhaps you’ve dated someone who looked like her and you’re having flashbacks?

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ 6am… How am I shining it up?

  • mojojojo

    @ L
    OWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW gurl how u been? hows the baby i know she is big now…and miss breeze?
    Mya is cool she is away for the summer (yeaAAAA)
    @ be
    good morning gurl!

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    Shit, you gotta sleep in different rooms from these hoes now-a-days.

    McNair and that boxer were murked in their sleep…LOL

  • L

    6am is ENGAGED?!!?!?! HOLD UP!!!!!! (lol)

    After McNair…Jefferson probably better get a body guard… (i’m just sayin)

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    Hey everybody!!!!

  • Sydney™

    And I still don’t understand how she’s a “bi**h.”

    Again, projection.

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey Angee!!

    @Sydney – @Patiently waiting

    “LOL at the person who said this sounded like a plot for an episode of “snapped””

    LOL, girl, it does. There are some women who would round up their bridesmaids and go on a “search-and-destroy” mission with their hair and nails done and all.

    *******************
    certainly deserves at least a drive by bust the windows out ya car…

  • http://bossip.com Tamu Chambers

    A person has the right to change their mind at any given minute…He actually did her a favorite by not marrying her…And old girl didn’t do so bad…He’s giving her money as a parting gift…When a man leaves me, the only thing I get is pain and heart-ache…Trust me, she’ll get over it.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtSD7E Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    @Whoa, Angee & BE

    Good Morning :-)

    AND the Lurkers, y’all ain’t gonna holla at me???
    Y’all ALWAYS over there reading the comments and don’t say a thing but just laugh and shake y’alls heads at us… SMH @ you…

    But anyways, I wanna know:

    How long should you be in a relationship before you get an engagement ring?

    6 months?
    2 years?
    5 years?

    And if you wouldn’t mind please give me an explanation as to why you feel the way you feel, thanks in advance :-)

  • HarlemWorld

    I feel as though he could have broke the news better, but something tells me she got what she deserved because he offed her real good…

    My guess is that she’s slept with or is sleeping with other big names and RJ was JUST made privy to this information.

  • Sydney™

    @BE

    “I agree with 6am on this one but Jefferson did not need to dump her via text, e-mail. He needs that a$$ kicked for that.”

    Yes, by a stampede of bridesmaids in combat gear.

  • Angee

    Hey Be!

    I see this is going to be a heated thread today.

  • Divine

    Text messaging is cold-blooded. Using a phone is also cold-blooded.
    AND ADULT goes to any person they at the very least respect and look them in the eye.

    Text messaging and cell phones are for cowards and kids.

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    @Slide…

    Whassup Homie!?

    I already answered that question…

  • Jamilah

    @ Fresh pair of gators

    100k ( I am guessing here) divided by 3 seems like her yearly salary.

    Regardless, she was not bringing anything other than T and A to the table and in a couple of years he would be feeding her family and friends.

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    I dont think it was a bad move 2 email her and break it off …She might go crazy if you tell her in person you see Steve Mcnair hes smart

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    The jilted bride, a former Net dancer, checked into the Mandarin and spent what would have been her wedding night in a luxury suite. A fellow dancer pal of Kesha, Keltie Colleen, wrote on her blog that Nichols was “going through some serious grief.”
    ___________________________________________________

    I would have partied it up!! No sense in crying of spilled milk!!

  • gemini62065

    The way he ended his relationship may not have been the best in the eyes of others…but we really don’t know what led up to his decision. Only the two of them know what could of caused the distance between them. He mentioned that others were responsible for the demise of their relationship and that he recognized that he was not guilt-free. What more can you say…its better to part ways early than fight over money later. You only have one life…right?

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Hi BE honey bunny!! *I’m on the phone*

  • Young Obama

    It’s better that he called it off rather than go forward with the wedding just to please everyone then end up in married to someone who you don’t love, end up getting divorced, baby mama drama, more gay rumors, You get the point. Good move Jefferson!

  • HarlemWorld

    Her friends are laughing [at her] like,

    “well you can come stay with me in the projects, giiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrl.”

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    Hello to:

    Angee
    Be
    Jade
    JB
    L
    Sydney
    Toot-It-Up

    I would of mailed a handwritten letter to dump my fiancee. Email is so “impersonal” and “cold.” SMH.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Good Morning Everyone!

    Sounds like he’s just not feeling her anymore. If he really wanted to marry her he would have a long time ago.

  • ???

    He probably woke up and said…um I want the mother of my children to be something a little more substantial than a Cheerleader!!!! on the real He handdled it the wrong way Obviously…but if you have serious doubts you shouldn’t get married…. hello the divorce rate is 50% the rate of infidelity is greater than 70% and so in the long wrong no matter how bad he handled it …he did the right thing and did them both a favor……..

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    gemini62065

    The way he ended his relationship may not have been the best in the eyes of others…but we really don’t know what led up to his decision. Only the two of them know what could of caused the distance between them. He mentioned that others were responsible for the demise of their relationship and that he recognized that he was not guilt-free. What more can you say…its better to part ways early than fight over money later. You only have one life…right?
    ——————————–
    RIGHT! :wink:

  • free

    he seems to be genuinely sorry this happened but it took him five years to get to this point. he knew he didn’t want to do it after the third year.

    his side of the story has BRIDE’S MOTHER/FAMILY INTERFERENCE all over it. he probably hated family events and them asking him when he was going to make her an honest woman.

    i’m proud of the young man. not an easy thing to do but he seems to have exercised wisdom. she’s getting PAID for her pain and suffering.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtSD7E Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    I got the ring 2 months into the relationship and married 9 months later.
    ______________________________________________

    @Jade Silver

    My South African Queen, looking back don’t you think that was too soon?

    And I say that because you’ve said your husband has cheated on you 4 times (that you know about)…

    Ummmm, now do you think you should have waited a little bit longer?

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    She need 2 eat a sammich or 2

  • Nick In ATL

    I’m going to try real hard to not say “Black men ain’t ish”. I’ll just say Men can be real selfish. Doing what they want for their own benefit ONLY. And not giving a second thought to the other person. But here’s the kicker- also trying to save his own feelings. The worst thing in the world for him will be if he changes his mind later and there’s no going back.

  • Sydney™

    Good morning, Redd :)

    Is it just me or are some of these comments totally different from the ones about that former Playboy bunny (or whatever she is) who married the athlete recently? What was her name? Kendra? Wasn’t he being congratulated on his choice? Correct me if I’m wrong.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    This just in

    Kesha Nichols has applied for cheerleader try-outs for the New York Giants, New York Jets, New York Yankees and New York Mets.

    Carry on…

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Slide

    I got the ring 2 months into the relationship and married 9 months later.
    ______________________________________________

    @Jade Silver

    My South African Queen, looking back don’t you think that was too soon?

    And I say that because you’ve said your husband has cheated on you 4 times (that you know about)…

    Ummmm, now do you think you should have waited a little bit longer?

    Some people marry within 6 months and stay happily married for years. Every situation is different. Sometimes you just know and there is no need to wait.

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    I love Kendra! She works MORE than HANK!

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ ManIJDC…
    This just in

    Kesha Nichols has applied for cheerleader try-outs for the New York Giants, New York Jets, New York Yankees and New York Mets.

    Carry on…
    —————————————————
    Who’s your source? LOL.

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    how u get cheated on 4 times and still married

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    I was engaged about 2 years after dating then about 3 years after that we married so I had a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong engagement!

  • Angee

    Hello Man,

    A handwritten letter huh? Well, I guess that is better than an email :-)

  • NATA

    I DONT BELIEVE HE IS GAY BUT FAREAL IF UR NOT 100 PERCENT THEN DONT DO IT Y GET IN A MARRAIGE AND DONT WANNA BE THERE THEN PEOPLE SAY THEY WOULD HAVE HURT HIM Y THEN GET MARRIED FIND OUT HE IS CHEATING BECAUSE HE NOT HAPPY WITH U AND THEN HAVE KIDS INVOLVED DONT MAKE SENSE IM GLADE HE DID WHAT A MAN IS SUPPOSE TO DO DONT WATE HER TIME AND HIS WISH BOTH THE BEST

  • The Bear-

    @ Sydney

    Do you realize that Kendra likely makes just as much (if not more) money than Hank Basket (her football playing husband).

    He is the 6th wide reciever on the Eagles depth chart… Thats right SIXTH!!!

  • shut up black men! colored turds

    haha one down more to go

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    DAMN

  • Young Obama

    At least she got six figures. He really didn’t have to give her anything but a apology. She’ll get over it and be at his house next week.

  • Sydney™

    @The Bear

    “Do you realize that Kendra likely makes just as much (if not more) money than Hank Basket (her football playing husband).”

    Oh, so that takes her off the “golddigger/b**ch” list, right?

    She doesn’t look like she has a “bad attitude,” does she?

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @ANGEE
    “Hello Man,

    A handwritten letter huh? Well, I guess that is better than an email”
    _______________________________________________________________

    Yes, I’m a gentlemen.

  • serene

    how can u be with someone five years and not know if you wanna marry them. Something else going on there….most people know afta a month….

    Jefferson is full of shyt if u ask me….

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    I’m off the phone chillin like a villain! Where everybody at?

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “Oh, so that takes her off the “golddigger/b**ch” list, right?

    She doesn’t look like she has a “bad attitude,” does she?”
    ______________________________________________________________

    No, she doesn’t seem to have a “bad attitude.”

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    I would of mailed a handwritten letter to dump my fiancee. Email is so “impersonal” and “cold.” SMH.
    ___________________________________________________

    WOuld you have paid the $14.95 to have it sent overnight by UPS, Fed-Ex or the Post Office? Or would you, MIJDC, paid just the first class stamp and hoped it got there before she left for the wedding?

  • moni

    Man, Thats eff’d up!!! i wonder if she gonna “purse strap” him or come up with something more creative, lol

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “No, she doesn’t seem to have a “bad attitude.””

    But, Kesha, does, right? Isn’t that what some of you are saying?

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ I am Legend…
    how u get cheated on 4 times and still married
    —————————————————
    Maybe I’m crazy. LOL.

  • Taylor

    In the end he did the right thing. Don’t get married unless you’re ready.

  • Sydney™

    @L

    “So i guess to say all that..the difference would be Kendra DOES make a living doing what she does best…IDK…IDK…LOL”

    LOL, I guess so. I just think the difference in verbiage is interesting. Very interesting — and telling.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Sydeny

    No. You know how it goes. Sorry fellas but you guys can be so easily led by the worst of the worst.

  • CAT EYES

    @ Slide
    I will agree with you because after only a few months you don’t even know who YOU are in the relationship let alone the other person.
    I will say between 1 and 2 years.That will give you a chance to meet his family(When you marry someone,you’re marrying the family too)and see how he interacts in all situations.I always take time to study anyone that will be a part of my life.My family is very important to me,so in that 1 to 2 years time,he’s getting to know mine too.I was engaged in 1 year and married the next.By thwe time we got married,there were no surprises.

  • Sydney™

    @Redd

    “No. You know how it goes. Sorry fellas but you guys can be so easily led by the worst of the worst.”

    Or they just think the worst about certain individuals — based on an exterior that may mirror theirs.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “But, Kesha, does, right? Isn’t that what some of you are saying?”
    ____________________________________________________________

    Oh, I don’t know if she has a bad attitude. I don’t recall anyone saying that. It really doesn’t matter though because what ever the reason, Jefferson ain’t like her for SOMETHING.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    @ Man

    Cause you know Fisher is sometimey. So to get rid of him and O-dumb-as-shit, will such a better fit for the team. The need some street ballers, run and gun type of players. Then get a big man who runs up behind everyone and does a put back every once in a while. Like Shaq used to do.

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    @JB

    How you gonna mess with what just worked we won a championship in 5 games..Now you wanna get ride of DFISH who won game 4 for us and Odom who was killin all playoffs

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “Oh, I don’t know if she has a bad attitude. I don’t recall anyone saying that. It really doesn’t matter though because what ever the reason, Jefferson ain’t like her for SOMETHING.”

    Oh, OK, I must have totally misread the flowery descriptors of “bi*ch,” “golddigger,” “wh*re,” “bad attitude,” used in connection with this young woman. My bad.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Sydney

    Or they just think the worst about certain individuals — based on an exterior that may mirror theirs.

    I like that! Good point! I could run with that but Im not! LOL!

  • TM30

    If he wasn’t sure about the marriage then it was the right thing to do. Yeah he could have put on a show…only to get divorced a month later, which desecrates the value of marriage. At least he told her before the wedding, he could have literally left her at the alter. Plus, imo, if two people are serious about each other, they don’t need a big show. Just elope or have something small.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtSD7E Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    I’m happy. Honestly.
    __________________________________________

    @Jade Silver

    Alright, cool and I’m happy that you’re happy :-)

    BUT have you STOPPED smoking yet!!!

    You are pregnant and have another human being inside of you and you know about the harmful effects that smoking can do to an unborn child :-(

  • The Bear-

    @ Sydney

    Oh, so that takes her[Kendra] off the “golddigger/b**ch” list, right?

    Well generally “goldiggers/b**ches” don’t marry men with less income and income security that they have themselves Syd. That would kinda sorta defeat the purpose of the whole golddigging game wouldn’t it?

  • Winona Johnson

    Why would you kill someone for telling the truth? So many women coerce men to the altar and then despair because the vows don’t mean anything. Good for him and good for her too!

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ I am Legend…
    how u get cheated on 4 times and still married
    —————————————————
    Maybe I’m crazy. LOL.
    ———————————–
    Nope you’re human. We all do things that make another person think we’re crazy.

  • http://yahoo Just My Opinion

    Were quick to judge. Would it be better to go on with a wedding, to have regrets later. Knowing through each regret, will come hate. Yes, he had plenty of time to be sure, but knowing for certain that you want to make a commitment/like marriage does not come easy. Some times were blinded by the word, not understanding what all comes with it. I pray for the young lady heart to heal as well as his.

  • Realistik

    The brother wasnt ready period. Stop hating you guys now. We rush these guys into marrying knowing very well that they are not ready, but mostly because our biological clock is ticking which is not the case for them. Give the brother a break!

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    a 3rd voice in the relationship will just about ruin it everytime!!

  • CreoleCutie

    He did the right thing by calling it off, even if he did it so close to their wedding date. The truth is, his ending their relationship and calling off the wedding would have been excruciatingly painful no matter how the news was delivered. Even so, relating the decision via email holds a cold connotation that just adds to her pain and gives him some relief from not having to face her in person. I feel sorry for everyone involved, including their families.

  • THISISME

    Wait a second, wait a second let me get this right. Dude on a plain with a bunch of dudes and he decides to e-mail Ms.Fine and tell her the weddings off, and this is the kicker, He says he not gay. Yeah, right!!!

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    You are pregnant and have another human being inside of you and you know about the harmful effects that smoking can do to an unborn child
    ——————————————- :shock: Jade you’re smoking while preggers????

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtSD7E Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    I was engaged in 1 year and married the next.By thwe time we got married,there were no surprises.
    ______________________________________________

    @CAT EYES

    Big Sis, what if he had of asked you to sign a pre-nup would you have signed it?

    Did you know he was the one when you married him or did it take you some time?

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @JB
    “Cause you know Fisher is sometimey. So to get rid of him and O-dumb-as-shit, will such a better fit for the team. The need some street ballers, run and gun type of players. Then get a big man who runs up behind everyone and does a put back every once in a while. Like Shaq used to do.”
    ___________________________________________________________

    Are you “lobbying” for Allen Iverson and Marcus Camby? LOL.

    You should be an agent!

  • Not Jealous of Kim K, SuperHead, Pamela Anderson or that everyday Ho on the corner

    I think if you have any doubts about being married, or the person you are marrying then Don’t Walk down the aisle.

    I do find it tacky to email and then talk to the press about it. He should have looked her in the eyes when he told her the truth, and no one other than the 2 of them should have any info. The response to the friends, press and anyone else should be “no comment.”

    For all those saying she wouldn’t sign a pre-nup, how do you rationalize the fact that he still gave her a 6 figure pre-nup?

  • MDS

    From the book of “who gives a shit” He days in the nba might as well be over – he plays like crap. PS
    I would still do his funny looking azz.

  • Sydney™

    @Redd

    “I like that! Good point! I could run with that but Im not! LOL!”

    LOL, no, I don’t think it’s worth it. Those who will get it, will — those who won’t or want to deny it, won’t. *shrugs*

    @Bear

    “Well generally “goldiggers/b**ches” don’t marry men with less income and income security that they have themselves Syd. That would kinda sorta defeat the purpose of the whole golddigging game wouldn’t it?”

    Why, yes. And I guess Kendra, being a cheerleader, automatically falls into the “golddigger” category, just as she does the category of “pretty b**ch with a bad attitude.”

    Interesting.

    Your “attitude” immediately changed with the mention of Kendra.

    Interesting.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @PM OR SOUL GLO

    LMAO @ THIS!! HA!

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    I see know problem in how he handled this situation. He stated that there were problems a while ago. It appears with is Christian Missionary background and her dancing background they were not equally yoked. He sent her a email while she was on the plane and they followed up with a phone call. He in turn broke her off to get her started. What’s the problem?

  • mojojojo

    @ slide
    u always asking questions lol….please tell us your views…how long does it take for you to discuss marriage while in a reltaionship?

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ Slide…
    BUT have you STOPPED smoking yet!!!

    You are pregnant and have another human being inside of you and you know about the harmful effects that smoking can do to an unborn child
    —————————————————
    I am going to lie to you and say that I have successfully quit. Why are coming down on me today? I have cut down to 5 a day (I used to smoke 20). The doctor advised that I should do it gradually.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY

    What do you have against Kendra? She seems like a cool and down to Earth chick.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    To all the fellas calling ladies Bs and anything else degrading. You really have issues and it usually starts with your MAMA!

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    What it do?!!!!!!
    JB
    Slide
    REDD
    Toot-it-up! (still the best screen name!)
    Syd
    L (“L” stands for legs!)
    MIJDC

    WTH!!!!!!! RJ is a bum!

    That is so ungentlemanly. I wonder how he would feel if somebody did that to his mom or sis.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    @ Man,

    You know I love me some Camby, but I don’t think Iverson can fit into the triangle offense. Nor can Iverson let his pride go sit in a corner when Phil says, no you are not starting.

  • http://www.me.com/gallery/100088 Txhustla15

    Man he should have handled it like a man no matter the situation to the face, he still going to get smashed by my lakers this year anyways and should have brought her to San Antonio since nothing like that is down there…

    However new york law is interesting , almost like Texas

    In New York, assets and debts acquired during your marriage – called “marital property” – will be divided “equitably” when you divorce.

    In dividing the parties “equitably,” judges will consider:

    * The income of the parties both at the time of the marriage and the time of the filing of the divorce
    * The length of the marriage
    * The age and health of the parties
    * The need of a custodial parent to occupy or own the family home and/or household items
    * Any loss of inheritance or pension rights
    * Alimony (called “maintenance”) awards
    * Services of either spouse as a parent, wage earner or homemaker
    * The liquid or non-liquid nature of the property
    * Likely future financial circumstances of the parties
    * Tax consequences to either party
    * Waste or destruction of property by either party

    Pre-nup all day if you are an successful male/female, even when love is involved there are enough Heather Mills and Chris Judds in the world..

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    Jade…

    I know waht you are going through with the smoking and pregnant…It can be hard especially having another little one…I quit about 3-4 months into it…and it was hard…I also stopped for a while after because I was nursing and when I stopped nursing I started back smoking…well everyone would say my babies birth weight woul dbe low but she was a healthy 7 pounds and nursed well..no problems…and I recently quit smoking all together!!! yay!!!!!! so i said all that to say…YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    I’ll be back in a bit guys.

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    Hey Rome!

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    @JB

    Iverson and Camby wow you wanna get real old and extra selfish ..Iverson and Fish the same age and Camby has no skills besides defense and rebounding and hes always injured

  • Sunny

    @ AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    WHAT THE HELL I GOT TO BE MAD FOR. I’M JUST SAYING YALL NEED TO LEARN TO RESPECT YALL WOMEN IN YOUR FAMILY, THEN MAYBE YALL WILL LEARN HOW TO RESPECT THE OUTSIDE BLACK WOMEN. I HAVE A SON AND I WISH HE WOULD GROW UP DIRESPECTING BLACK WOMEN THE WAY YOU DO.

  • http://www.me.com/gallery/100088 Txhustla15

    Lamar Odom is coming back to the lakers everyone knows this , all else out there is the mid level and noone is offering him 9 mil per a year..

    Iverson is either going to Clippers or Grizzlies..smart move would be the Clips

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “What do you have against Kendra? She seems like a cool and down to Earth chick.”

    LOL, OK, I don’t have anything against Kendra, and you know that — I was making a larger point, which I’m sure you got. I would have used another example, but I’m not bringing up her name in this thread.

    There is a stark difference in the language used in relation to certain women, and it has not gone unnoticed.

    @Rome

    “That is so ungentlemanly. I wonder how he would feel if somebody did that to his mom or sis.”

    Thank you. I could be wrong, but I think you’re the first man to post that sort of statement here.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “There is a stark difference in the language used in relation to certain women, and it has not gone unnoticed.”
    ____________________________________________________________

    ELABORATE!

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Rome-y ROME!!! Hey there!! :D

  • CAT EYES

    @ Jade
    I know you might be tired of hearing it but as a woman,I’m here to tell you to tell your doctor he or she is a stupid motherf*cker for telling you that nonsense.A baby has a right to a quality life and giving him or her all sorts of toxins from cigarettes isn’t the way to love them.I’m sure you don’t want to see your child fighting for air because you’ve helped damage his/her lungs.Sorry if I sound harsh but I absolutely hate cigarettes and what they do to people.

  • mojojojo

    @l
    what happen mamma?
    u never answered me

  • The Bear-

    Kendra married a black dude who makes less money than her and no job security (NFL money is not guaranteed). On top of that she treats him like a king. I know what you’re alluding to but trust me this has nothing to do with her skin color. I have never even dated a white woman so don’t bring that stuff to me.

    I do have the ability to judge a situation based on the facts presented and not just focus on skin color. You should try that too.

    Yeah sure I made a bad decision and got married when I shouldn’t have but that don’t mean I don’t KNOW that there are good women out there.

  • Jade Silver (Anthony Hamilton performing live 9 August @ the Coca Cola Dome, JHB)

    @ L (Mrs Philly)…
    I know waht you are going through with the smoking and pregnant…It can be hard especially having another little one…I quit about 3-4 months into it…and it was hard…I also stopped for a while after because I was nursing and when I stopped nursing I started back smoking…well everyone would say my babies birth weight woul dbe low but she was a healthy 7 pounds and nursed well..no problems…and I recently quit smoking all together!!! yay!!!!!! so i said all that to say…YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!
    —————————————————
    I quit at 10 weeks with the first one. I’ve got one more week to that with this one. I only started again after I stopped breastfeeding. My husband also smokes so it makes it hard. I do believe I will quit soon enough. My son weighed over 3kg when our average baby weight is 2,4kg. Thanks for the encouragement.

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    okay, my meetings over….is Richard Jefferson dead yet!!!

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    Hey Romey, Rome!!

  • The Bear-

    @ Sydney

    Kendra married a black dude who makes less money than her and no job security (NFL money is not guaranteed). On top of that she treats him like a king. I know what you’re alluding to but trust me this has nothing to do with her skin color. I have never even dated a white woman (and have no interest in doing that) so don’t bring that stuff to me.

    I do have the ability to judge a situation based on the facts presented and not just focus on skin color. You should try that too.

    Yeah sure I made a bad decision and got married when I shouldn’t have but that don’t mean I don’t KNOW that there are good women out there.

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Rome-y ROME!!! Hey there!!

    —————————————————
    Back it up and dump it…….back it..back it up….Cause we like her!!!!! ;-)

  • Sydney™

    @The Bear

    “Yeah sure I made a bad decision and got married when I shouldn’t have but that don’t mean I don’t KNOW that there are good women out there.”

    Yes, that’s very true — I just wondered why you decided to call this particular woman “a pretty b**ch with an attitude.”

    “I do have the ability to judge a situation based on the facts presented and not just focus on skin color.”

    You do? It must be my imagination then — I could have sworn you’ve posted before about black women and their “attitudes.” Or maybe it was the fake Oshie.

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    Hey Romey, Rome!!

    —————————————————

    JB = Judy Booty!

    LOL!! ;-)

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    BE!!

    ummmmmmmmm……BE = better eat it!!!

    LMAO!!! ;-)

  • Jay the Real One

    If you’re not sure don’t go thru with it. Yeah he was a punk about it but he gave her a six figure settlement so he didn’t just dog her out. She devastated but it’s for the best. He a churchboy who got caught up in a pretty face and good sex.

  • 1morepleez

    It’s a good move. Better late than never.
    Feelings are one thing; your financial independence is another. And it NEVER comes back once you decide to give it up. Good hearted dude, cuz he really didn’t have to drop any cake on her.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    @ Romey

    LOL. Wanna see for yourself I guess.

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey Rome :smile:

    JB!!!!!

    TxHustla

  • The Bear-

    @ Sydney

    That couldn’t have been me cause I’m always defending Black women. Yall are my favorite flavor. lol

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    @ Romey

    LOL. Wanna see for yourself I guess
    —————————————————

    Put it on display!!! :-)

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “Honestly, they shouldn’t be used at all — they’re disrespectful to ANY woman.”
    _____________________________________________________________

    Ioono Syd. I think sometimes the words fit quite well. I’m just sayin.

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    This is one of those “wateva” topics.

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    RJ is the official……(echoing)….”bama of the week……week……week”!!!!

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Rome – BE = better eat it!!!
    ______________
    BE likes :D :

  • Angee

    @Tony Redds

    What did him getting married have to do with him being traded to the Spurs? Or is that humor and sarcasm?

    @Sydney

    “Honestly, they shouldn’t be used at all — they’re disrespectful to ANY woman.”

    Thank-You! To use these terms just in general is foul. I know this is a gossip blog, but damn.

  • The Bear-

    @ Sydney

    I would be remiss if I don’t note that yes indeed the attitude of SOME Black women leaves alot to be desired. But that’s not unique to Black women. B**ches come in all colors, shapes, and sizes.

    Some dudes think that if they get a girl who is not so good looking their safe. Ha HA!!!! what fools. An ugly girl will sometimes cheat on you quicker than a fine one. The females that I know have a man and still try to get with me come in all types.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    RJ just showed good defense. This amounted to nothing more than a blocked shot. She tryed a soft layup and he swatted it into the stands. Message to future prospects, bring your A game.

  • mn77

    @Jade

    I have a friend that had the same issue, the doc told her to quit gradually–and to every one else, the reason is because it can be more stress and problems for you and the baby to stop cold turkey

  • Sydney™

    Or call them “Miss,” as in “Pardon me, Miss, but you look very beautiful today, what is your name?” Or “woman,” “lady,” “mademoiselle,” “madam,” “ma’am” (big must for we Southerners in relation to our elders), etc., etc.

    @The Bear

    “I would be remiss if I don’t note that yes indeed the attitude of SOME Black women leaves alot to be desired.”

    Now THIS sounds like the sentiment in the post I read. Thank you. Oh, and once again, “bi**h” is such a crass, ungentlemanly-like term.

  • mojojojo

    @ slide
    who do u think should bring up the marriage discussion? Man or woman

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    ok I’m back …

    Hey Mo! What was your question?

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    The Bear-

    Some dudes think that if they get a girl who is not so good looking their safe. Ha HA!!!! what fools. An ugly girl will sometimes cheat on you quicker than a fine one. The females that I know have a man and still try to get with me come in all types.
    ———————————————- :lol: That’s true!

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey Redd Tony ♥♥♥♥

  • http://www.me.com/gallery/100088 Txhustla15

    @Be – whats good ma ?

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    “Name-calling is a sign of a severely limited vocabulary.”
    ____________________________________________________________

    An extensive vocabulary is overrated. LOL.

  • http://www.me.com/gallery/100088 Txhustla15

    @Be – whats good ?

  • http://myspace.com/crimiegang snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    Snoopadamus believes he called off the marriage via email because it was the same weekend of the McNair jump-off murder-suicide incident, and that was the safest way to do it.

  • Sydney™

    @Whoa

    “Like I don’t use the term n**** at all. I hate that word.”

    Me, too. And nothing’s worse than being in public — like in a crowded Metro car — and hearing it yelled repeatedly in front of everyone. Very poor image.

  • http://www.me.com/gallery/100088 Txhustla15

    “RJ just showed good defense. This amounted to nothing more than a blocked shot. She tryed a soft layup and he swatted it into the stands. Message to future prospects, bring your A game.”

    LFMAO

  • mojojojo

    @ l
    lol i asked how is the baby and Ms. Breeze? Mya is cool she is away for the summer so i am frrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeee lol

  • Sunny

    @Bear

    We need more men like you around. Teach the rest of these so called boys how to respect a women.(black first).

  • Sydney™

    Hi Txhustla, Snoop :)

    @Man

    “An extensive vocabulary is overrated. LOL.”

    Not at all. Multisyllabic words are very alluring — music to the ears. :)

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    Snoopadamus believes he called off the marriage via email because it was the same weekend of the McNair jump-off murder-suicide incident, and that was the safest way to do it.

    Co-sign my brother…We had this same discussion in the McNair thread. Cut them by text message.

  • http://myspace.com/crimiegang snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    RJ just showed good defense. This amounted to nothing more than a blocked shot. She tryed a soft layup and he swatted it into the stands. Message to future prospects, bring your A game
    ________________

    LMMFAO!!

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @TX – I’m fine..having a fantastic summer! :smile:

    Snoop – Hey Mister!!!

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    @MO!

    You b**** I am soooo jealous!!! LOL! Breeze is good!! She has a mouth like her momma though…LOL So I constantly have to say…that wasn’t nice!

    But other than that things are well…did I send you pics of the new baby??

  • Dave

    First, he did the right thing. He ended it before it broke him. The divorce rate out here is real and men usually take the hit to the wallet.

    Second, he went to the media because we all know that she was going as well. He just beat her too it.

    Third, who cares if they were together 5 months or 5yrs. The divorce rate says that he should take all the time he needs to make sure he is doing the right thing. She’s a strong modern day woman. If time was wasted she can only look at herself. If it aint going to work it aint going to work.

    What is troubling is how all the sisters are responding with violence. In a world where black women destroy Chris Brown and any other “abusive” brother why do our women still feel that it’s cool to be violent with men when they do not get their way? All of the “I would have killed him” comments only serve as a reason why a man would choose to handle things this way….to avoid a dramatic violent scene. Weak, gay, coward, whatever. At the end of the day smart wins.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “Not at all. Multisyllabic words are very alluring — music to the ears.”
    ___________________________________________________________

    It’s inefficient though! Good communitcation is communication that is understood and interpted quickly and accurately. That’s the “four letter” words are so effective.

    LOL.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “Not at all. Multisyllabic words are very alluring — music to the ears.”
    ___________________________________________________________

    It’s inefficient though! Good communitcation is communication that is understood and interpted quickly and accurately. That’s the “four letter” words are so effective.

    LOL. I’m just sayin.

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    LOL @ DARK KNIGHT!!

    WOW yes…that story is way too fishy!

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    Speaking of Dr. King *looking at your gravie*, I read years ago, that as a child, he fell in love with words, and I think he may have actually studied the dictionary. He understood the power of language very well — I think he even talked himself out of fights when kids tried to confront him. It’s one of the many qualities I admire about him.

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    BE- LOL! ummmmm sho ya right! I’m going to my email now! BRB!

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @MIJDC – It’s inefficient though! Good communitcation is communication that is understood and interpted quickly and accurately. That’s the “four letter” words are so effective.

    ***************************
    Did you take this from the habits of highly effective people? lol

    We use this alot when writing policies but I have to say some of these words make things sound nicer..miscreants..lol much better than thugs

  • cherokee23

    I think he did the best thing…in the end it is about making yourself happy and no one else. No one would’ve had to live with that decision but those two and obviously she’s fine with it because you haven’t heard anything from her about the break-up.

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “It’s inefficient though! Good communitcation is communication that is understood and interpted quickly and accurately. That’s the “four letter” words are so effective.”

    “Four letter words” do have an impact, but non-profane language is also efficacious in conveying one’s viewpoints in a manner that is both euphonious and illustrative of the points the individual wishes to make.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “Speaking of Dr. King *looking at your gravie*, I read years ago, that as a child, he fell in love with words, and I think he may have actually studied the dictionary. He understood the power of language very well — I think he even talked himself out of fights when kids tried to confront him. It’s one of the many qualities I admire about him.”
    ______________________________________________________________

    Yeah, I agree. A lot of great leaders understood that “the pen is mightier than the sword.” We all know about Malcolm X’s studying of the history and definition of words while incarcerated.

    Also, Obama’s command of the English language is well documented and he often cites Abraham Lincoln’s mastery of this language as inspiration.
    :D

  • top ramen shotta

    what a bum. SMH

  • Sydney™

    @BE

    “miscreants..lol much better than thugs”

    LOL! See, here’s a prime example — calling someone a “miscreant” may get you a puzzled look, but “thug” may put you in danger. It’s all in the choice of language. :)

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    BE…

    Check ur email

  • Dina

    Some of ya’ll sound like you know a thing or two about “DL” behavior, LOL!

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    Mo…check ur email boo

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “Also, Obama’s command of the English language is well documented and he often cites Abraham Lincoln’s mastery of this language as inspiration.”

    Indeed. Both President Obama and Dr. King have/had the grand gift of oratory and a vast vocabulary.

    Malcolm X is another. The words he used packed an undeniable power.

  • http://bossip.com Dark Knight…………………………..Defender of truth slaver of the wack!!!!!!!

    @ Man, I just don’t care™
    “Name-calling is a sign of a severely limited vocabulary.”
    ____________________________________________________________

    An extensive vocabulary is overrated. LOL

    Thats a very sad thing to say your brain must suffer from an impairment, defect, bug, flaw, hitch, malfunction, misfire, mishap, problem, setback, snafu, snag, something wrong, just plain F’d-up!

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @SYDNEY
    “Indeed. Both President Obama and Dr. King have/had the grand gift of oratory and a vast vocabulary.

    Malcolm X is another. The words he used packed an undeniable power.”
    _____________________________________________________________

    I think the “delivery” says a lot as well. While Dr. King and Malcolm X spoke with unquestioned passion. Obama speaks with a calmness, yet sincere, demeanor that demands attention and respect.

    The same was described of President Lincoln.

  • mojojojo

    i didn’t get it
    send it to mojojojo195@yahoo.com

  • http://myspace.com/crimiegang snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    bye syd, don’t let that miscreant run you off….lol

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Snoop – Hey ♥♥♥♥♥♥

  • http://myspace.com/crimiegang snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    whaddup Be♥♥♥♥

    How was the rendezvous lastnight?

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    Ok I ‘m back. What we talking about?

  • http://www.stewartsynopsis.com/Site%20Index.htm We “Blacks” Are The REAL Hebrew Israelites

    I understand what he was trying to say…but through an email? He could have handled that a bit better.

  • dimondfemme

    hold on did they say that white girl name was “kesha”… wow

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @BE
    “I do remember we had the convo about the book..I subscribe to the concept and require all employees that I supervise to read it”
    _____________________________________________________________

    Yeah, it is one the best “self help” books that I have ever read. At least I categorize it as a “self help” book.

    “The Art of War” is really good too. They have versions reinterpted to be applied to the business world. I think it would be a good read for managers. IMO.

  • http://myspace.com/crimiegang snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    I understand what he was trying to say…but through an email? He could have handled that a bit better.
    ________________

    May i remind you that was the same weekend of the McNair Homicide-suicide. He wanted to live…..lol

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Snoop – my night was super! in fact I had fun 2 nights in a row but I won’t give details…I have non-posting stalkers (hence my Get ya own life motto for the day) smh@no-lifers

  • NOPHACE THE GREAT

    Man, I just don’t care™

    @BE
    “I do remember we had the convo about the book..I subscribe to the concept and require all employees that I supervise to read it”
    _____________________________________________________________

    Yeah, it is one the best “self help” books that I have ever read. At least I categorize it as a “self help” book.

    “The Art of War” is really good too. They have versions reinterpted to be applied to the business world. I think it would be a good read for managers. IMO.
    _____________________________________________________
    ANOTHER GOOD 1 IS THE 48 LAWS OF POWER!!!

  • dbo96

    Most of the haters in here gotta be dumbass broads…..so he should have went through with it and then got divorced…..that’s 90% of yall birds aint married……….

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Whats going on in here?

    Negrodamus you are a mess! LOL!

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    JB…

    Your guess is as good as mine…I can’t piece the puzzle together…

  • CAT EYES

    @ Slide like a fresh pair of gators
    Sorry it took time to respond-this spoiled rotten baby wanted to cuddle.Now that he’s back to sleep,I will tell you,yes,for some reason I just knew me and him were going to be together.My husband told me not too long ago that when he saw me,he saw his unborn children-we just had this flow from the very beginning-hard to explain but I still had to take time to know his family and thingslike that and my parents had to give their blessings too.
    Yes, I would have signed a prenup because I was always very ambitious so I would always have my own anyway.
    Slide,I hope I wasn’t too harsh to Jade about the smoking thing-I just hate cigarettes with a passion-maybe its because in my childhood years,my parents had friends in North Carolina and their sons worked at Phillip morris tobacco plant,and they would give them free cigarettes like they were doing them a favor-man those cigarettes killed them-ione died from emphysema,the other one has throat cancer.So imagine a poor baby fighting cigarette smoke in a womb?

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey JB!!!

    @MIJDC – The Art of Ware is my serious handbook at work…yep

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    I’m back….(not that it matters)

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey Redd!!!

    Hey Whoa :D :

  • John

    She’s good-looking but it takes more than that…..

    Via email????MAN…

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Negrodamus

    Thats a good look to have out here. Especially in this day and age.

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Nophace – ANOTHER GOOD 1 IS THE 48 LAWS OF POWER!!!
    *******************
    I’ve read that, in fact I’ve used it in a class that I teach.

  • http://www.joetheplugger.com Manuel

    if he is gay…….he just got lucky!!!!

    because this broad was gonna take him to the cleaner…

    whatever happened to “1 night stand”

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    Hey Whoa … and it always matter that you are back miss. You one of the peeps who got something fun different to say … You , Snoop , and man I just dont care be straight killing up in this piece !

  • John

    Am I the only male who despises women with hyphenated last names?

  • NOPHACE THE GREAT

    BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Nophace – ANOTHER GOOD 1 IS THE 48 LAWS OF POWER!!!
    *******************
    I’ve read that, in fact I’ve used it in a class that I teach.
    _____________________________________________________
    If they took it all in…they’ll be very productive in the future!!

  • Spuddie

    Just for the record, my parents dated for 5 years, were engaged for 1 year and have now been married for 46 years. I think it depends on the person you are with. And yes, they are happily married for 46 years. They reallyare each others’ best friend.

  • NOPHACE THE GREAT

    John

    Am I the only male who despises women with hyphenated last names?
    _____________________________________________________
    U are definitely not the only one. I feel that with the hyphenated last name they are going in with the notion that if it doesnt work out they can just drop that name like it was nothing

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    Speaking of a lack of knowledge and articulation can`t wait for the great ” NEFFIE & FRANKIE SHOW ” ! Freakin must see TV.

  • wifey06

    1.together 4 years
    2. 1 week before something ain’t right so they split
    3. he pays her some money
    4. He GAY!!!!

    No man is giving her any money b/c she got dumped ( he saying all this nice crap and it is only his side of the story he cn fill in anything) he paid her hush money!!!!…..

    Juts like Ye did Alexis. How come no one at all has seen Kanye ex? They pay them off…..

  • http://bossip.com Dark Knight…………………………..Defender of truth slaver of the wack!!!!!!!

    @ Man, I just don’t care™

    My Bad! No need for the name calling you can put that ish in neutral no need to beat me over the head!

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    Hey Whoa … and it always matter that you are back miss. You one of the peeps who got something fun different to say … You , Snoop , and man I just dont care be straight killing up in this piece!
    ———————————————–
    Aaaaaw *kiss on the cheek* Thx honey! :wink:

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    NOPHACE THE GREAT

    John

    Am I the only male who despises women with hyphenated last names?
    _____________________________________________________
    U are definitely not the only one. I feel that with the hyphenated last name they are going in with the notion that if it doesnt work out they can just drop that name like it was nothing
    ——————————————-
    Aaah the curse of feminism. LOL. no hyphen for me (if it happens)

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    @BE wuddup?

    I sooo need some lunch right now. I swear I burn my breakfast in no time. And that excellent pizza next door is caaaaaalling me!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    U got me!! lmao!! I see u made it out the house 2day so he must’ve not did the job right!! LMFAO!!!
    AS SOON AS UR READY TO EXPERIENCE A REAL ____ LET ME KNOW

    He did a very good job actually. Put me right to sleep. I have to work honey!

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Am I the only male who despises women with hyphenated last names?
    ____________________
    I’m hyphenated. If you establish credit and such in your maiden name it makes it easier for you. I’m sure this is why alot of women choose this route, since they are getting married later in life.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @TOOT-IT-UP
    “Aaah the curse of feminism. LOL. no hyphen for me (if it happens)”
    ______________________________________________________________

    You are almost too good to be true sometimes. I swear.

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    BRB, my stomach is on E

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Whoa – nothing much..baffled by people’s obsession with reading a blog they don’t post on and commenting….in fact I’m quite salty about that..lol

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    @ Whoa

    I aint washing my cheek for a week. Thank you.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ BE

    What Happened? Do you have a stalker?

  • http://myspace.com/crimiegang snoop bloggy blog ( When you lose, don’t lose the lesson)

    nothing much..baffled by people’s obsession with reading a blog they don’t post on and commenting….in fact I’m quite salty about that..lol
    _____________

    Be, did i miss something?

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Redd – the worst kind of stalker, a lurker who never posts but someone I know. Always saying things I posted. I hate the sh*t which I told the person on more than one occasion. Either post and make yoourself known or stop memorizing all my posts. It’s like eavesdropping or snooping through my mail

  • NOPHACE THE GREAT

    BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Am I the only male who despises women with hyphenated last names?
    ____________________
    I’m hyphenated. If you establish credit and such in your maiden name it makes it easier for you. I’m sure this is why alot of women choose this route, since they are getting married later in life.
    _____________________________________________________
    I can definitely underdig that!! Makes sense

  • Alloyboy

    Too bad Kobe didn’t have the balls Jefferson did.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    I CAN DIG IT MA!! IM J/K!! I wouldnt want to disrespect him & especially not YOU!! U know I have all the love in the world for you!! So u do u and make that $$$ but just know I GOT THIS TONGUE READY WHENEVER U ARE!!

    You dont even know me and you have love for me?? Or do you know me?? And stop throwing that tongue at me please!!

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Snoop – Be, did i miss something?

    ****************
    see post to Redd at 12:21

    I mean if I was going to be that nosey I would at keep it to myself. Not ask questions about a post. I know this is public but it is just weird to me.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @THE LADIES

    Would you ever leave a man at the alter or right before the wedding? Be honest!

  • Lady Architect (Breezing Through)

    Hey people

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @LADY A

    Whats up lovely?

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    Hey Lady A!!!

    @MIJDC – if I found out he was gay or had another family, not just because i’m scared.

  • Lady Architect (Breezing Through)

    Man, I just don’t care™

    @LADY A

    Whats up lovely?

    Hey Songbird…no more notes for me?…Anyways I started my countdown…woooo!!

  • Del

    wrong would’ve been going through with the wedding and being absolutely miserable for a yr or two and and then getting a divorce in which she probably wouldn’t get the ”6 figure settlement” because he would have a much better 
    legal team since he makes 15 million a year,

  • Lady Architect (Breezing Through)

    Hey BE!!!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Man

    I couldnt hurt anybody like that. I wouldnt even put my family and friends through that. If I didnt want to marry you I would just tell you prior to.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @LADY A
    “Hey Songbird…no more notes for me?…Anyways I started my countdown…woooo!!”
    _______________________________________________________________

    LOL. I was hoping you didn’t notice my lack of notes!! I can’t make them on this computer that I’m on (laptop)!

  • Lady Architect (Breezing Through)

    @man…
    ok I’ll accept that one…

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    Alright, I’m out. Bout to go to lunch with a friend that I haven’t seen in a minute. Talk to you later.

  • Angee

    @Man

    Like Be said, if I found out something horrible at the last minute.

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    @ Lady A

    Are you throwing a kiss at me ? Thank you in advance if your answer was yes. But I`m figuring if it aint me it`s prolly Snoop …

  • Lady Architect (Breezing Through)

    Weddings cost a lot if depending on the type of ceremony you want…The engagement process should be the time for any of you finals questions and concerns not at the alter….To me you walk up that aisle you betta have your mind correct.

  • Lady Architect (Breezing Through)

    I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    @ Lady A

    Are you throwing a kiss at me ? Thank you in advance if your answer was yes. But I`m figuring if it aint me it`s prolly Snoop …

    lol I’m simply blowing a kiss….that’s all…your welcome though

  • Lady Architect (In the mood for some blue roses)

    BE,
    to me…if they wanna look..let them…nosey people always find something they didn’t really want to know….then igg the calls

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Whatever – and then what? don’t you know the sun is hot?

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Hey Lady A!!!

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    @ Lady A

    Ok cool. Yo I aint fronting but from the looks of your grav you gotta a pretty face . And unlike a lot of other gravs it`s actually you ! KUDOS !

  • BE (Get ya own life please!!)

    @Lady A – to me…if they wanna look..let them…nosey people always find something they didn’t really want to know….then igg the calls
    ***********
    true..nosey people irk me though

    I’m out to lunch!

  • yooo

    good choice bro,leave this hungry azz hos

  • Lady Architect (In the mood for some blue roses)

    I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    @ Lady A

    Ok cool. Yo I aint fronting but from the looks of your grav you gotta a pretty face . And unlike a lot of other gravs it`s actually you ! KUDOS !

    Thank you…just add about 5 shades of darkness to it now…I’ve been tanning…lol

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Yo yo yo YO!!!! I’m back (belly full). Don’t tell me yall done bounced?

  • Elle’

    His appraoch was all wrong and I am sure that the embrassment that she is experiencing is unreal. However, at least he did not go through with something not sure if he could really be committed to the health of their relationship. This could be a biggest jerk move I have ever seen in my life. Neverthelss, at least 2 or 3 years from now we will not be hearing about these two going through a bitter divorce!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    No I dont know u and yes I do have love for u (cyber crush) & whats wrong wit throwing the tongue @ u? LMFAO did I just say cyber crush? LMFAO

    You are silly a cyber crush. Im not going to front you got to me yesterday!

  • RazeKane

    This whole episode is tacky from a suspect dude. Always knew he was a cad but, damn ole boy is a real low class nicca with no balls to confront her straight up. Yea thats the least he can do by forkin over a hundred thou. She’ll probably do her boo hoo’s then go enjoy her money.

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    @ Lady A
    Darker the berry the sweeter the juice … your stock keeps going up and up !!

    Yo I needs a sammich ! I`ll be right back .

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    What we talking about in here?

  • http://bossip.com Dark Knight…………………………..Defender of truth slaver of the wack!!!!!!!

    @ 6am
    CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! From the south!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • john hope franklin

    let old school get in here…
    he could have been man enough to tell her. hell for that matter he could have at least told his family and friends…
    passing out the black card aint pimpin pimpin when you too punk to open your mouth…

  • john hope franklin

    What up lady a?
    glad to see you back free around here…

  • Asian Male

    I would have no date her for ghetto name spell

  • LADY ARCHITECT (OH SO SLEEPY!)

    Hey John Hope Franlin

    Red and Poke…get a cyber room…lol

  • john hope franklin

    @lady a
    u in the DMV? nice pic

  • john hope franklin

    ROTFL @ asian male

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    LADY ARCHITECT (OH SO SLEEPY!)

    Red and Poke…get a cyber room…lol
    _____________________________________________________
    SHE’S NOT READY 4 ME!!! IM TRYNA TELL HER THE TONGUE IS VICIOUS!!!!

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    Yes, I think he should’ve manned up and told her but here recently, I can understand why he didn’t.

    1. Steve McNair
    2. The boxer Gatti.
    3. He probably knew that giving her the money was similar to throwing a bone at a vicious dog…it would calm for her a bit.

    At any cost, if he felt the marriage wouldn’t work, I’m glad it was to be. We have a vicious divorce rate as it is but, weren’t they together five years?

    He didn’t realize before now?

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    u woulda gave that thing to me on site yesterday wouldnt you? I didnt get any work donr either but u did benefit from the convo yesterday when u got home didnt u?

    I plead the fifth! LMAO!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Red and Poke…get a cyber room…lol

    LMAO!! Thats him!

  • Marquis de Sade

    @ 6am

    Congrats on the upcomin’ wedding.

  • What”sUp

    Arguing over signing a pre-nup a week before the wedding is serious business. If he had gone thru with the wedding and divorced a couple years later, most people would have been saying what a gold-digger she is and fool he was to marry her without a pre-nup, which would have placed her in a position to ask for millions and millions. He said that they were already having problems. The could have continued as a couple but not as a married couple where a contract is involved. He had friends and lawyers talking to him. Nowadays prenups are no longer iron-clad. There’s still room for the lawyer to argue, especially if a kids are in the picture.

  • smitty

    LMAO

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    THAT ANSWERS THE QUESTION MA! LMAO!!! So where u located?

    Where are you located?

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    I have to eat! I’ll be back….

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ BMW–

    Hi!!!

    To answer your question at this point in my life I’d have to say love but before I tie the knot, I’d have to know a few things about his financial situation.

    1. His credit score.
    2. His debt ratio.
    3. His spending habits.
    4. Would we combine incomes yet maintain one separate account.

    Now believe me, if I’m seriously considering marriage, I’d be willing to share my information just like I’d expect him to share his.
    ( 9 times out of 10, I’d already know his but I have to get it from the horses mouth to see if he’s telling the truth. Thank God for a best friend who works for the I.R.S. Lol!!

    Trust me, these things should seriously be discussed. By the time you’re into the marriage, it’s almost too late.

  • Wow

    If he did it by following his own mind and heart…then he is a real man

  • john hope franklin

    @made in n.y.
    there is no such thing as common sense…

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Hello?

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ Marquis de Sade–

    The government has recently forced me to enlist in the services of Pookie and ‘Quan via cable. I saw a documentary on you the other night on the history channel. This was more in depth than what I read a few years ago.

    Vicious man. Just vicious.

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    @ Toot-it-up!

    Help me out.

  • Billy Blog Thorton

    Good for him. This chick looks sneaky and reminds me too much of michelle malkin…former fox news commentator. She was a major b!tch. This chick is probably a b!tch too. LOL

  • NOPHACE THE GREAT

    @ ROME
    I’m in Charlotte in two weeks….cousin getting married…..i’m one of the groomsmen. Does that mean I have to get one of the better gifts from the registry…anyone?
    _____________________________________________________
    I’m a cheap dude unless its on my wife and kids. I wouldn’t get them one of the better gifts but thats just me. LMAO

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ Rome–

    Go to Things remembered at the Concord Mall.I’m sure they have one at that mall. Anywho–get you at picture frame for about $20.00 and have it engraved. The engraving is free.

    Trust me, you can’t go wrong with this gift. I’d probably have his and her names engraved with the date of the wedding as well.

    Good Luck!

  • ttll

    after she spent all that money on that freakin wedding he probably saw red flags!!! why do people spend that much on a wedding? if you want to marry eachother bad enough, you’ll do it in a broom closet if you have to.

  • Just My Opinion

    He could have made the announcement in a different manner however I commend him for realizing and admitting his doubts prior to entering the marriage. Too many people today take the plunge into marriage and are quick to seek a divorce. The definition and purposed of marriage has been destroyed in this country! I am not marriead yet, but when the right man (white,asian,latin)enters my life I will know it is meant to be. Just my opinion…

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ a picture frame….

    BTW–I’m singing in 3 weddings over the next month and one in October. That’s what I did for all of them except one–that’s because they’ve not paid me my down payment yet!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Im in the midwest. LOL!

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    **AND a picture frame….

    Damn!

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ 1TruDiva – What’s up, big Sis? I saw your comments the other Day and you broke camp before I could shout at you. I see why you keep it 100. When you been through a lot, you know a lot. Wanna let you know, I’m pulling and praying for you.

  • Bob B

    7-11….Lucky for him ..he got out smart man..not the right way to do it ..but she probably pushed him in to getting married.

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Hey Diva :D

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    OK So here is something that is kind of messed up:

    On MSNBC there is a report about Steve Mcnair. He left no will. His wife is now the administator and list herself and THEIR two sons. She did not list his other two sons. And the judge granted it. So as of right now his other two sons aer assed out unless she steps up and says hey, I got you.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    OK So here is something that is kind of messed up:

    On MSNBC there is a report about Steve Mcnair. He left no will. His wife is now the administator and list herself and THEIR two sons. She did not list his other two sons. And the judge granted it. So as of right now his other two sons aer assed out unless she steps up and says hey, I got you.

    No problem here. She’s been taking care of them all along. I don’t think she’ll neglect them.

  • Divine

    Listening to the interview, “I know I wasn’t perfect in the relationship…but a lot of people were involved”
    Definitely tells me he found out somethings about her he didn’t like…Hence the fact that he broke up with her compeltely and not just cancelled or postponed the wedding.

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    Hey Whoa!
    BE–
    Redd and,
    Just My Opinion!
    NOPHACE and the rest of the crew.

    Who else is here? Is everyone out to lunch?

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Whoa

    Shut-up LOL!!!

    @ Poke her

    I am not lying I am! I have to go to a meeting I will be back in a few!

  • L bka Mrs. Philly

    Good afternoon people.

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    Be back in a minute

  • http://bossip Whoa! aka Toot-it-up!

    Hey L

  • NOPHACE THE GREAT

    @1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!
    _____________________________________________________
    wuddup?!
    what u know bout Concord Mills? lol

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    @ This is some shhhh

    What I amsaying is why didn’t she list herself and all 4 kids. SHe only list the three of them as his only heirs. She didn’t say anything about the other sons. So technically they would have to go to court to fight the ruling if she didn’t take care of them any longer.

  • DR.FUNK

    Good for him.Marriage is DUMB anyway.His story is unusual in the world he inhabits.Women who date ballers usually sandbag that wallet with a baby.How the hell did he dodge that bullet? I’m actually okay with the “severance package”.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    This is from the article

    NASHVILLE, Tenn. – The widow of slain former NFL quarterback Steve McNair says in court documents that her husband left no will and a judge in Nashville has ruled that she will oversee his estate.

    Davidson County Probate Judge Randy Kennedy granted Mechelle McNair’s request to administer the estate and gave her 60 days to file an inventory of her late husband’s assets. She says in court documents that she did not know her late husband’s worth, but documents contend it is “of sufficient size to be administered.”

    Mechelle McNair listed herself and her two sons, Tyler and Trenton McNair, as the heirs to the estate. McNair also has two other sons from a previous relationship.

  • Just My Opinion

    Hey everyone!

    @1TruDiva

    How far are you willing to travel for weddings? (magic price amount??)

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    @ This is some shhhh

    What I amsaying is why didn’t she list herself and all 4 kids. SHe only list the three of them as his only heirs. She didn’t say anything about the other sons. So technically they would have to go to court to fight the ruling if she didn’t take care of them any longer.

    Because she is not aware of what his assets are, and they needed to put this in affect to get moving. Also, it’s to keep the baby mama on standby. She has been raising them as her own for a long time. I don’t think she is going to cut them off. Since he left no will, she’s got to dig in.

  • goldi b

    super duper guy i tell ya.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    I read the article, and at first I was pissed. Ol girl been thru a lot and was put on blast. The article seeks to questions her motives, but she’s left to clean up Steve’s mess. He could have had all this straight with a will and trust funds, instead of chasing cat.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    Also, it’s to keep the baby mama on standby.
    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((

    That is what I was thinking. Baby Mama Drama

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ JB

    Yep, let her know to not come sniffing. Play your position and I’ll take care of them when we straight. If not, get your legal team together and bring to the courthouse.

  • Divine

    @JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))
    I was just listening to them discuss this on radio in Nashville.
    It’s SHAMEFUL that Steve was selfish to think he was so invicible that he didn’t leave a will.
    It seems that the NFL Players Association would advise them to have a will. That’s just smart when you have that kind of money.

    Anyway, Mechelle is WRONG for not naming his other kids to the estate.
    But I’m sure she has some lawyers advising her.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    Plus to get in front of the straglers, that ain’t came out the wood work yet.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    This some shhhh…

    @ JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    I read the article, and at first I was pissed. Ol girl been thru a lot and was put on blast. The article seeks to questions her motives, but she’s left to clean up Steve’s mess. He could have had all this straight with a will and trust funds, instead of chasing cat.

    I am sure this had to do with RJ dumping girl. Outside forces can also include this mess too.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ JB – You know it. I would have called it off from South America. He knew it would have been groud zero if he showed up in NY, telling her he want to talk.

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ NOPHACE–

    I STAY riding up down that way. I have three older brothers that relocated to Charlotte so I go there a lot.

    @ Just My Opinion–

    It all depends on how far I have to travel and my out of pocket expenses. I’m very reasonable, though.

    @ JB–

    I gotchu some magazines the other day from the injection room.

    let’s see–I got Essence (a month old) a redear’s digest (I took it ’cause I know you like Denzel) And a sports Illustrated (actually, I got the SI’s)

    **cybering you the magazines**

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    This some shhhh…

    Plus to get in front of the straglers, that ain’t came out the wood work yet.

    Mama McNair’s cousin sister uncle brother baby daddy Pookie talking ’bout, “Steve said he would always take care of me”

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    1 Tru

    always looking out for a sista!!

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    This some shhhh…

    Plus to get in front of the straglers, that ain’t came out the wood work yet.

    Mama McNair’s cousin sister uncle brother baby daddy Pookie talking ’bout, “Steve said he would always take care of me”

    Now that we’ve heard about his track record of caking, he may have some future baby mama’s issues. Neva know.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    What up, Sis, you can’t holla at a brotha?

  • typical

    And some advice ladies, and men as well i guess. unless there is a sound reason such as schooling or serving in the military abroad there is no reason for a courtship to extend beyond 2 years with no marriage plans. so 5 years and still no wedding? that was a red flag right there!!!

  • rome a.k.a. (Sotomayor needs a new consultant on those ugly ass jackets!!)

    Yo ladies! puhlease come over to the John Legend girlfriend thread………I need some help! come on JB, Toot-it-up!, L, where is SYD and Lady A when you need them?!!

  • cosign above comment

    What difference does it make. You know it’s coming. In the end if you can’t end it mutually as friends and the female is kinda crazy it’s just going to be more words, yelling and wasted time.

    Why not just break it off, no going back. If you know inside it’s not going to work and you don’t want it to work. Why slam your head against the wall and keep talking.

    Just do.

    I hate the back and forth ish. People waste good years of thier lives with people who they KNOW aren’t right for them.

  • Pam

    listen what richard has to say.

    danpatrick.com

  • Rachel

    Why is this IDIOT still screaming this to anyone that will listen? As if dumping someone by email is a grown up way of breaking off a relationship. A REAL MAN would have faced her!

  • Yvonne

    He didn’t do the break-up thing right, but giving her a six figure settlement was mighty fine in my eyes, plus she gets to keep the engagement ring(which I’m sure was expensive) because he broke it off.

    If she use the money wisely, she might come out better than being married to him.

  • typical

    @dont know about that
    there is most certainly a time limit, as i said barring reasonable barriers, a couple talking everyday, meeting maybe once a week, doing things like holidays together have a clear idea of the type of person they are dealing with, whether they have spouse potential or not, after 2 years one can tell, beyond that is waiting for the person to change, waiting to see if someone better will come along, etc. 2 years is enough time.

  • HOW U DURRRRIN

    He is GAy as Neyo and Kanye at a Ballerina contest

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    It’s 2009 folks. What good is all this technology, if you can’t use it? Appears to me that RJ knows his way around a PC and cell phone.

  • Rrrrroe Ski Love-

    The only thing that the future bride should be mad about is that Richard J only gave her about $100Gs, and she saw herself having 100mil. I thought that was very honorable of him to give her the money, most brothers would have said just keep the ring.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ Its6amHoGetOut

    You got you a Samoan, my brotha? J/K..

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    @Mookie

    You are 100% correct and I am proud as they come!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    @This some shhhhh

    When you said that all I could imagaine was Dog the Bounty Hunter! (What is it brah?)

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    BACK UP IN HERE LIKE SWIM WEAR ON DELLA REESE

  • is what it is

    @ typical

    just like an overbearing female to tell a man when to be ready for something as important as marriage

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    I know. That’s fonky.

  • ……

    That’s not the real 6am.

  • http://Bossip NY Hoody

    Dude is GAY you dont relaize you don’t love someone a week befor you’re going to marry them.
    IM not surprised damn near the whole NBA(alleged)
    is bi-sexual or gay.

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    ……

    That’s not the real 6am.

    Damn, we need some ID in this piece or a security question. What was the color of your first car, type shit.

  • Awesome-O-3000

    @ Mookie

    That’s the dumbest thing I have ever read.

    Try again, with a little more effort next time.

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    My first car was not at car at all. It was a white Tomos moped and I still have it in storage on the ground floor of my condo.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    What are we talking about?

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    although it was messed up how he handled it.he’s right,if your not fully commited dont do it.ill rather the heart ache of breaking it off than the heart ache of the divorce.

    whats good family?

  • Awesome-O-3000

    MoCars, Man – What up fam?

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    whats good in the hood peeps?

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    Awesome-O-3000

    @ Mookie

    That’s the dumbest thing I have ever read.

    Try again, with a little more effort next time.

    —————————————————

    Mookie ain’t black….that’s some a$$hole tryin to get people riled up. Come on who the fu#k named Mookie…..stereotypical as hell.

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    awesome

    aint shit,bout this money. who this cat mookie poppin shit?

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    Wut up Awesome?

    Where are the females?

  • trs

    *peeping in*

    What’s the subject?

  • Awesome-O-3000

    @ Man

    Nothing happening here fam. Just making it another day.

    The ladies are MIA today.

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    trs
    i seeee you. whats good mommy?

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    And i’d like to thank everyone for their congratulations.

    Umm lets see, if she didnt wanna work i’d have no problem with that because im kinda old school that way, i make enough to support us both and i’ll make more. In fact i may ask her to stay home for the first 5 years of my childrens lives as i dont really trust a nanny to raise them during these years. Her degree is in childhood education anyway.

    love 6am

  • Awesome-O-3000

    I guess I spoke too soon.

    Afternoon Suga Lips

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Whats going on in here? That meeting was depressing we are in a serious recession yall there is no money!

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    THE BEAUTIFUL TRS HAS ENTERED THE BUILDING!!! WUSSUP HUNNY?!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    What can I do for my BABY to help her stop being depressed?

    Im not depressed its just sad that there is no money and the less fornutate are about to feel it! As long as they keep depositing my check Im good!

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    TRS!!!!! :-) :-) :-)

    where you been all my life?!!!!!!

  • Just My Opinion

    @Its6am….

    If your wife has a degree in early childhood education you would be better off having her stay at home. Those degress are a dime a dozen and pay very little. By the time you subtract the cost of daycare your wife’s salary would almost be non-existent. Just my opinion…

  • Awesome-O-3000

    @ Mocars

    I feel you. Seems like the trolls are multiplying. Gonna make me get out my Conan sword and go to work.

  • trs

    @ MO

    All the foolishness chased a lot of the regulars away. You’ve seen it so you know what I mean….

    You know it’s bad when Freaky Friday falls off! LOL

  • trs

    @ Rome

    Hey hubby!!! I saw you representing in the other thread! You so smart!!! :)

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    awesome & trs
    ok! im glad im not the only person who noticed this.

  • Awesome-O-3000

    You know it’s bad when Freaky Friday falls off! LOL
    ___________________

    So sad.

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    nooooooo! freaky friday cant fall off,thats the bond that keeps us togetther.lol

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ This some shhh……

    Baby, my apologies! I was ironing so I was in and out.

    I’m sliding back in here like the “Lectric slide!!

  • trs

    WOW @ 6am!!! LOL

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Rome

    Why dont you tell trs how much fun you had yesterday! LMMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Awesome-O-3000

    DIVA!!

    How are you today ma?

    All the beauties are filing back in. Slowly but sure.

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    Did 6am just call somebody pasty?!!!!!!!!!

    Bwaaaaaaaahahahahahaha!!!!!

    You sick son!!!!!

    LMAO!!! I’m not condoning but that sh!t was funny!!!!

  • trs

    @ Awesome

    You know it’s bad when Freaky Friday falls off! LOL
    ___________________

    So sad.
    ———————————————–

    I KNOW!!!! We can NOT let that go down tomorrow!!! It’s on and popping at 12 sharp!!! LOL

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    @ just my opinion,

    You wanna know whats funny, my place of employment British Petroleum has an on site child care center, but i wouldnt want my child in there, theres just something more decent about a wife being at home raising you child while you bring home the bacon (if thats possible). these are thinks we both talked about.

    Now what i do know is once im married my expenses will at least almost triple, my condo is two bedrooms, big enough for two but i wouldnt wanna raise a kid on the 14th floor with a balcony. So i know Im gonna have to buy a house in the next 2-3 years and anything decent here is $700k

    love 6am

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ This some shhh……

    Baby, my apologies! I was ironing so I was in and out.

    I’m sliding back in here like the “Lectric slide!!

    I was on life support and feeling cold. You had me worried.

  • Awesome-O-3000

    @ 6am

    HELL YEAH!!!!

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ Awesome!!

    Hey neighbor!

    Hiya durrin?

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    nooooooo! freaky friday cant fall off,thats the bond that keeps us togetther.lol

    —————————————————

    Stange but probably true!!! LOL!!

  • Z Harlem is My Playground

    what up

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Damn 6am Held no punches!

  • POKE HER FACE(FL)

    ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    nooooooo! freaky friday cant fall off,thats the bond that keeps us togetther.
    ____________________________________________________
    AGREED!!!!!

  • trs

    HEY DIVA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

  • http://bossip.com Dark Knight…………………………..Defender of truth slaver of the wack!!!!!!!

    @ 6am
    Why can’t we have “white intertainment TV? Or “white history month?” Because you racist blacks will cry about it and call US racist
    —————————————————-
    First you’d probally need to spell it right entertainment not intertainment! Now down to business 6am you just refuse to do the Spike Lee to save your life when someone gives you a positive shout out you should send the same. Your a New Boy with the brain of Flava Flav crossed with Mr Bentley with a dash of Bow Wow! Your smart figure it out!

  • Awesome-O-3000

    @ TRS

    I KNOW!!!! We can NOT let that go down tomorrow!!! It’s on and popping at 12 sharp!!! LOL
    ______________________________________

    “Setting my alarm licking out my tongue like Bobby Brown”

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    HEY TRS!!
    (this damn laptop won’t let me make hearts or anything!)

  • Z Harlem is My Playground

    Hey Ms. Diva…how you holding up?

  • trs

    Hey Z!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Rome

    Why don’t you shutup!!!????? LOL!

    LOL!! I told you that is my sis!

    @ trs

    He wasnt too bad he just showed his a$$ a little bit. LOL!

  • trs

    ♥♥Hey MIJDC♥♥

  • BE

    ok..

    Hey Awesome and TRS

    I think I saw everybody else today

    Oh Hey MO

  • Z Harlem is My Playground

    Hey TRS…love the lip color!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    @ Mookie and BMW,

    look up, that wasnt me from 2:50 until 3:27

    I thanked everybody who congratulated me.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Now why u gotta throw my boy under the bus like that? Y dont u tell trs how much fun YOU HAD YESTERDAY?! LMFAO

    Sorry Rome I couldnt resist!

    @trs
    I showed my a$$ yesterday too. It ended up being Freaky Wednesday i dont even know how it got started but it went down!

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    Damn, this thread lit up like Vegas.

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    what other posts are on here?

  • Awesome-O-3000

    Hey BE

  • trs

    @ Rome

    Baby I ain’t do nothin….but lemme ask you this.

    Why the hell Man get the hearts and all I get is a damn hello???!!!
    —————————————————

    My sis told me alllllllll about how you cut up yesterday so you better prepare for your punishment!

    And MIJDC ALWAYS has hearts for me!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    I do live in Ohio! Born and raised!!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    Im gonna visit other posts, but i hope this explained every question, i’ll dip back in from time to time.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Mookie

    No. What did I do to offend you?

  • BE

    Hey Diva

    you know you don’t need help getting at no body!!!!lol

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    Hi Z!

    LMAO @ NOPHACE!!

    I DO come down on ‘em kinda hard!!

    Lol!!

  • trs

    Hey BE!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Just My Opinion

    @Its6am…

    Ok I can appreciate your response. You know I am imagining your outer appearance as I read your posts and it is probably not accurate. Can you paint a visual image of yourself or grace us with a photo?

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ BE–

    I know, right! Lol!!!

    It seems to me that when I get into a cyber beef, everyone just BACKS up–goes into “lurk” mode.

    I have to call everyone back with the “there’s nothing to see here, there’s nothing to see!

    Lol!!!!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ trs

    Real bad we all did! I finally gave in on what we talked about before so I dont think Ill be needing the thing you told me to get.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @TRS
    “And MIJDC ALWAYS has hearts for me!”
    ___________________________________________________________

    … I have a LOT more than internet hearts for you!!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    now Im gonna go visit other rooms.

  • Awesome-O-3000 (Broman the Barbarian)

    I enjoyed yesterday. It was a nice pick me up. lol

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ Mookie

    You dont know me bruh so I would appreciate if you would fall back!!! You can think what you want to think about me!

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    hi be

    wow! i left for a minutes now its like mardi gra up in here..

    grabs cup of hennessy and joins in.

  • BE

    @Diva – we be laughing and lurking…lurking and laughing!

  • trs

    @ MIJDC

    *cheezin*

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    Man, I just don’t care™

    @TRS
    “And MIJDC ALWAYS has hearts for me!”
    ___________________________________________________________

    … I have a LOT more than internet hearts for you!!

    —————————————————

    See what you started………”Every night I gotta fight to prove my love”!!!! LMAO!!!

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    ay mookie…fuk autta hier (in my rosie perez voice)

  • trs

    I enjoyed yesterday. It was a nice pick me up. lol
    ————————————————-

    I am mad at ya’ll! The one day I don’t show my face up in here you all cut up without me. I thought we was family?? SMH.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ trs

    Yes he was!!!

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    trs

    @ MIJDC

    *cheezin*

    —————————————————

    OH! you cheezin?!!!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    Oh and just my opinion,

    I meet about 4-8 different sets of sista’s who saved up their money to vacation here every week, If im in a club and they say something to me im always courteous to them, but i do tell them right off the bat that im engaged and shes somewhere in the club with her girlfriends grading other women on what they’re wearing.

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    sorry thats “money”

  • rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    Gotta go I’m dog sitting till Sunday for a friend and I gotta let the dog out before thesh!t all over the place!!! EEWwwwwwwwww!

    LOL! Catch yall 2morrow………12:00

    Dueces II

  • trs

    @ Rome

    OH! you cheezin?!!!
    ——————————————-

    YEP!!! Don’t you be talking noise after you showed out yesterday! You are sleeping on the couch!!!

  • Mookie

    rome a.k.a. (Big girls get all the love today!!!)

    Gotta go I’m dog sitting till Sunday for a friend and I gotta let the dog out before thesh!t all over the place!!! EEWwwwwwwwww!

    LOL! Catch yall 2morrow………12:00

    Dueces II
    —————————————

    Thats ok, your friend called and said that you do not have to let your mother out. bye

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    Mookie

    You are acting like a jealous B! We are just having fun out here HATER!! I cant stand men who are jealous of females! MAN-UP!

  • BE

    @Rome – Good night!

    @REDD – chilled, yes! no lemon or salt

  • Awesome-O-3000 (Broman the Barbarian)

    Yes. But this is not he same guy from before. He will never get it! This is someome I met a year ago at a cookout and next thing I know we are on the side of the house making out! I refused to give him my number becasue he was just too damn charming. We finally saw each other and he was not taking no for an answer and the rest is history!”
    ______________________________

    That’s messed up. It’s true that ladies know if they want to give the man the cookies within 5 minutes of meeting him. Let the dudes that aren’t going to get it go, getting his hopes up and stuff.

  • trs

    @ Awesome

    It’s true that ladies know if they want to give the man the cookies within 5 minutes of meeting him
    ———————————————

    YEP!!!!!!!

  • BE

    @Awesome – i thought that they were in the wrong thread or something…..lol football player…

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    That’s messed up. It’s true that ladies know if they want to give the man the cookies within 5 minutes of meeting him. Let the dudes that aren’t going to get it go, getting his hopes up and stuff.

    No its not like that you guys dont know the whole story. I dont string men along thats why i have been single because the men who were trying to get at me I wasnt feeling.

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    be

    sorry love, but we dont mix henny and soda around here.either str8 or with ice.but for you,anything goes.

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    Thats my stalker at 4:33 ya’ll, but let him keep wishing he was me.

    To my stalker fake 6am, if youre gonna impersonate/worship me you gotta type more interesting shit.

  • Awesome-O-3000 (Broman the Barbarian)

    @ Man

    Yeah, dude trying to date out of his league. Prolly was all anxious like the dude from Waiting to Exhale. Grrrrr

    @ BE
    lol. I couldn’t let that slide. I could see if it wasn’t clearly stated what sport he played. Hell, it’s the first word of the title.

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    Yall still here?

  • Just My Opinion

    @Its6am…

    Alright I guess you supplied a fulfilling answer. So this young lady of yours must really treat you well. Have you ever cheated on her? Sorry if I am touching on personal issues but it is very rare you find a committed black male who is looking to settle down. Just my opinion…

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    @ 1TruDiva – Quite as it’s kept.

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @MOOKIE
    AND
    @ROME

    Please don’t “cut and paste” your ENTIRE conversation. You can remember what each other said a few posts back. It is redundant.

    Thank you.

  • trs

    @ DIVA

    You are so cute Diva!!!! Great list…and it was accurate too! :)

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    I am legend– Me likes. Seems to be an honest person that has thought provoking post on intelligent threads.

    The rest of the threads? Shyts and giggles–just like me!

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    @JUST MY OPINION
    “but it is very rare you find a committed black male who is looking to settle down.”
    ____________________________________________________________

    Where the hell you get THAT from? GTFOH!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    @ TruDiva

    You are too funny!! LMAO @ Whoa and BGs!!!!

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    tru diva

    really!ou’ll call me around tax time to break bread together? ok lemme give you my number.lol

  • Awesome-O-3000 (Broman the Barbarian)

    @ Diva

    I got you ma. Let me go find my wallet… lol

  • vixxxen

    hes ugly ne ways LOL

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ Awesome–

    LMAO!

    Seer what I mean?

  • JB (Lakers – Odum – Fisher = Sweep))

    I feel so honored. Diva You know there is no need to pay for magazines when the doctor’s office has them. Or go to Barnes and noble and read for free

  • BE

    MO – I can’t drink H straight…makes me grow chest hairs

  • BE

    Diva – you forgot me :sad:

  • http://www.gaymen.com Jeff Stansberry

    Richard is kinda cute. I wish I could date him but I have not come out of the closet yet.

  • Awesome-O-3000 (Broman the Barbarian)

    @ diva

    Lol, just doing what I do best. lol

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    NAW, AFTER YESTERDAY…UR A BAD GIRL!!
    BE READY 4 2MORO!! ERYBODY HAVE A GOOD NIGHT, BE BLESSED!!

    I guess I am SMH @ you for doing that to me! Oh and dude does need to thank you! LOL! Goodnight!

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    ladies,quick question

    are capricorns and gemini’s good matches?

  • http://www.gaymen.com Jeff Stansberry

    Anybody know any gay clubs in the Baton Rouge area? I will pay for our drinks.

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    I feel sorry for people who have to try and tear someone else down to make themselves feel better or for fun. I would much rather uplift someone no matter who you are. Its a good feeling.

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    ay mookie……..suk ya mada

  • http://www.myspace.com/jcstansb Man, I just don’t care™

    where did everybody go?

  • BE

    6am – congrats on your wedding and stop writing novels (although I did read this and I think I knew the story already)

    Good night all

  • Redd Foxxx(Pretty Wings)

    GoodNight all! Once again its been real!!!

  • trs

    @ 6 am

    No offense, but if you were my man I would have done much more than pop you in your eye. You got off easy!!!!

  • ..*MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOhoes*..

    6am
    you lucky she didnt come at you with the kife.or else it would have been a job for DOG THE BOUNTY HUNTER.

  • http://www.gaymen.com Jeff Stansberry

    6am you are obviously internally gay. Date a man since your heart desires and your family from the south will slowly accept it for what it is!

  • Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    @trs

    You good for Miami or do you need suggestions on places to eat and places to party?

  • http://bossip.com This some shhhh…

    Gotta dip.

    1Tru – see ya.

  • Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    if she didnt wanna work i’d have no problem with that because im kinda old school that way,… In fact i may ask her to stay home for the first 5 years of my childrens lives as i dont really trust a nanny to raise them during these years.
    ____________________________________________

    @6AM

    I feel the same exact way and am trying to put myself in a position to do the same…

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals—Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud’s concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    @ BE—

    I’m sorry, I forgot you!

    I’ll catch ya tomorrow!

    Whattup, slide!

    This some shhhh..
    See yam hun! Take care!

  • jasmine

    better one day of disappointment, than a lifetime of unhappiness.

  • damon

    @jasmine above.

    I totally agree. at least now she knows wha she would have been dealing wtih!!!

    take that cash and have fun. you wouldnt have made that much money that fast any other day. definitely not dancing on the sidelines.

  • Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    @TruDiva

    Hey Sweety :-)

    I got you in my prayers ok…

    Keep your head up, you’ll be just fine :-)

  • philly

    smart dude..now he can marry a sista

  • Monica

    I feel for the girl. I would be devastated if this happened to me. But a six figure settlement would make me feel a little beter.

  • C

    What a punk Beatch!

  • Moreaces

    A email,, That was a true punk azz move,, I feel for her, but she is better off with out this heartless loser

  • Sanjor

    @6am
    Your friend in Birmingham, AL, Corliss, does her last name begin with R?
    **back to lurking**

  • john hope franklin

    yall stupid as hell in here lol

  • ……

    :yawn:

  • tate

    if he is gay, i am happy that he didnt enter into marriage built on a lie.Cudos to him. all of these down low brothers need to bring their asses out the closet!!!

  • ll

    Usually couples who date that long don’t stay together. When someone is right for you you know it. I doesn’t take 5 years unless your are trying to force it. As far as the money goes. She wasted 5 years of her life for nothing. Who knows if she even has a job or a place to live. I think if he has been supporting this whole time it’s only right no to just put her out on the street. Rich men do this kind’na stuff all the time. Doesn’t mean he’s gay.

  • Muahz

    this decision just saved his life…

  • Muahz

    wtf.. that is not me advertising for HelensDiet… that got posted w my comment… thats wrong!

  • sepia830

    Where are they at in that photo that justifies him wearing slacks and a plain white tee? And where is her booty? Inquiring minds want to know….

  • Just My Opinion

    @Sepia830

    Not every man needs a booty of mass proportions on his woman! Variety is the spice of life and too many of my sisters are walking around overweight with the mispeception of thinking they are “thick.” To each his own! Just my opinion…

  • The Bear-

    This is 2009 people. An email is today what a 4 page hand-written letter was 10 years ago.

    At least he didn’t send her a text like: “Tel UR peeps dnot bothr comin… wedngz off, TTYL” .

  • Oshie is Livin La Vida Loca

    lol @ The Bear

  • Oshie is Livin La Vida Loca

    Lil Joker looks happy as usual. I am spaced out on these vicodins!! lmwao

  • The Bear-

    Come to think of it I’ll bet that she’s one of those types that never want to listen to you and always gotta out talk a brother. So he probably figured that the only way he could get to say everything he wanted to say without her interupting was to send an email.

  • The Bear-

    Vicodins??? Oshie ain’t you learn nothing from Michael Jackson? And Elvis?

    Is that ur booty girl? lol

  • Oshie is Livin La Vida Loca

    Elvis is my idol so he has me livin la vida loca. I have popped two and have another broken in half sitting on my coffee table calling my name!!

  • black gold

    good for him that he did not marry!

  • Six Figure Settlement is not enough

    He should have given her a million. Six figures is not enough. If he was unsure, he did the right thing by cancelling, but he did the right thing the very wrong way.

  • tg

    He mentioned the divorce rate. He divorced her before he even married her. But I guess it is better to be sorry now than regretful later. I wish her the best. Some people say time heals all wounds – well, obviously, in her case – do does money. Who leaves the woman you spend 5 years with and then your bride to be 5 days before the wedding and then give them a 6 figure parting gift? Sounds a LITTLE suspect to me, too.

  • http://www.bossip.com PhillyinDubai

    The barbie probably didnt want to sing a pre-nup.

  • injera70

    He finally started thinking with the right head.

  • SimpleTOM

    “She wasted 5 years of her life for nothing. ”

    what job could she have done to make over 1 million in five years?!? she does not look like she has NASA potential. she prolly works at dave & busters too. she is the winner!

  • leave-it-be

    ======== HIGHLY SUSPECT????? YA EMAIL HER???? THEN YOU CALL IT OFF FEW DAYS BEFORE THE NUPTUIALS???? HE TALKS GAY, PLAYS GAY, NOW HE REALLY IS A PUNK FOR DUMPING HER IN THAT WAY…. HOPE HE SITS ON THAT SPURS BENCH UNTIL HE RETIRES!!!!!! NO GOOD BUM*&^%$#@!@

  • Azeron

    Jefferson claims that he broke up with her on Monday July 6 after he had sent an email discussing his issues with getting married. He says he sent emails to all his people informing them the wedding was off July 6 and her people July 7. He says the wedding was not two million (two or three hundred grand and that’s still a lot) Hopefully, this woman realizes marrying Jefferson would have been disastrous.

  • FACINGREALITY

    He probably got introduced to her REAL SELF once she thought she had him on the hook for marriage with the planning of the wedding. And she also probably thought she shouldn’t have to sign a prenup since they had dated so long and were together during the time that he signed his latest contract.

    I have to agree with the poster that it doesn’t take 5 years to determine if you love someone or not. Those relationships usually don’t survive a marriage.

    It is quite obvious that once you say I do to someone – they immediately begin saying – I don’t anymore.

  • Silken Dove

    He wants a sista.

  • rachel

    She is a sista!

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    [...] Nichols, the bride that was dumped through e-mail by Richard Jefferson, was on “Good Morning America” interviewed by Diane Sawyer. She says that a lot [...]

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