me and my friends compliment each other all the time

@ DanieIm not a woman but I am Black and baby YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

Black women, no, people, hate.
We are not a culture that compliments or gives another their due anyway. The ‘crabs in a barrel’ mentality is too entrenched.

Not true.

I love you sister!

i compliment black women all the time, but first you have to establish a self worth. If you don’t feel you are worth anything how are you going to uplift someone else. It starts within you first Black African Princesses!!

@ CHIL E. PALMER

Thanks so much

Here we go!

I compliment Black women all the time. The women I kwow and some I don’t.

real friends can appreciate one another without there being any jealousy or as you say “hate”…

I LOVE SISTAS CUZ IM SISTA!!

Sorry guys, but this is all too true. I am a black girl at a predominantly white college, and i see it all the time. White women shower their friends with compliments (even if the friend is not looking her best) and we talk shit. Furthermore, I have yet to hear a black women compliment me on anything. I think that it is a pride issue. Black women are to proud to recognize the better aspects.

Everyone hate and no one hate more than the white man and history is very evident of that…

I shower my friend with compliment and support so I guess that is to each it’s own…

honestly, black GIRLS do because they’re insecure, young, and jealous. black WOMEN don’t becausee they’re confident people and they’re very secure in their own skin.

it’s hard to hate, when all of you go to the same plastic surgeon…..they all know wassup…..

White women do hate as well
But in our times the black women developed and truly redifined the art of hating more.
But its a scientific fact when you have limited resources to share among a group of any kind they do the crab in the basket mentality

Black Girls need love too

I compliment ALL races.

white men and black woman the most bitter hatin for no reason demographic out there

This is NOT true!!!!!

I work with non-blacks. I’m the only black person in my dept. There are 3 blacks in the entire building…..
THERE IS NOOOOO DIFFFERENCE!!!!
I REPEAT…
THERE IS NOOOOO DIFFERENCE!!!!
I really wish people would get that through there heads. I really do.

That’s not all black women; some do give compliments. Last week I was wearing this bomb pair of shoes and I got no less than 20 compliments from sistas and brothas that day. I stopped at the grocery store on my way home and this one chick walked up to me with a “High 5″ and said “girl, you know you are wearing the hell out of that outfit and those shoes. Do it”. So sistas do give credit where it is due. I know I do. However, there is that small percentage that will turn up their noses at you and talk nonsense, no matter how spectacular THEY KNOW you look. Those are mostly bitter, unhappy women who don’t have a positive outlook on anything at all. So a compliment from them should matter not.

growing up in a very mix area i found that women act the same regardless of color. White women could compliment her friend then stick her friend’s man’s stick in their mouth. Chics are caddy regardless of color. It is what it is

I compliment my black, friends, co-workers, family all the time, And I have my black female co-workers back at work, I got their back, not stabbing them in it.. You have the haters, and you have sisters that would do nothing but the best for their black sisters,

Yes, black women can be quite hateful and there are reasons for it. The European standard of beauty has a lot to do with it. My sister has light skin and long hair. A woman in her 40′s that she works with told her “I used to beat up girls like you in high school.” The woman was giving her a real hard time for no apparent reason other than her looks. Some black women suffer from so many insecurities that they can’t help but take it out on other black women. If you are prettier, have longer hair, lighter skin, get more attention from men, etc., other black women will have a real problem with you. Society has made being a black woman with dark skin and nappy hair synonymous with being ugly. Feeling ugly will cause you to act ugly. Until we change our perceptions of beauty, this type of behavior will continue.

I believe there is no huge difference. I also believe that black women are more vocal about their opinions towards other black/white women. I hang out with both races and I tend to notice that black women are the first to point out the flaws in another woman rather than her accomplishments. It’s so sad… They’d rather talk down about someone than to give him/her praises for what they have done. It sounds ugly but it is the TRUTH. that is all…

True or False….talks about which race does what and what continues to divide people off all races…

TRUE

They do hate i am light skined-black women with nice hair i drive a nice car etc… An i find that most not all black woman are angry for no reason. I have smiled at someone to get in return rolled eyes an the “look of death”. It really sad that this day an age we are still going through this.

This topid is corny, especially since if you are a beuatiful BLACK woman with self esteem you will hvae no reason to “hate” on someone constantly, now in EVERY race women talk about each other, that’s just how WOMEN are by nature.

@A.G.

You sound like a fool.

WILLIE LYNCH

this country is fill with blackwoman from all over the world, but i find that american blacks are jealous set of woman.
they are jealous of each other, they never have anything good to say about you, and they are lazy.
and continues to blame whites for everyhing under the sun.

True… BlackWomen are very hateful twoards one another, it’s very pathetic/sad/ignorant…

I have very supportive girlfriends and our friendships have lasted years. You just have to surround yourself with positive people.

*Sigh*

I really do wish people would get out more, and see/meet/talk to other black people, not just the ones in your own “pathetic/sad/ignorant” little circle.

And stop trying to judge an ENTIRE race of women based on your own micro-community, or even worse, based on an internet message board!

Thats because white women now how to hate with a smile.

All women are vain by nature, and color or ethnicity doesn’t make a difference. You see this “hate” as you termed it, in all cultures amongst women and as far back as the bible. I don’t know what planet you live on where white women are utopian and so filled with love and beatitudes for their white friends but on this planet and in the real world white women like other female life forms feel jealousy and envy too especially since the debut of “The Rock of Love” we now see white girls hating all the time. Let’s see, you have the grossly uneducated and illiterate but can’t stand each other white chicks of the “Housewives of Orange County” and their inbred bunch of cousins in New jersey who all appear to be missing the same dna strand yes that’s right you guessed it those fab white women with the combined IQ of a shoe the white “Housewives of New Jersey” who too carry the torch of hate. I would mention the “Housewives of New York” but their all so busted but they too seem too be so filled with hate. It appears that my cup runneth over and I only used one show that is the tip of the iceberg that shows on tv that white women like all the rest spew hate, jealousy, envy etc. Women, Men, Mammals, the animal kingdom this appears to be a struggle that happens on earth!! Trying to make it appear as if only Black women go through this is laughable at best.

@ wasted

Sorry guys, but this is all too true. I am a black girl at a predominantly white college, and i see it all the time. White women shower their friends with compliments (even if the friend is not looking her best) and we talk shit.
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Sorry Ma’ but I would rather THE TRUTH (i.e: ‘shit’ as you called it) vs. MEANINGLESS EMPTY COMPLIMENTS any day! Yes, there are some black women who (are not happy with themselves and) just love to cut eyes @ other women for NO REASON. However, i’ve seen that with ALL women, not just the negritas!
The beauty about ‘my circle’ is that we CAN compliment wholeheartedly AND talk ‘the shit’ to each other w/o anyone feeling away about it tomorrow!
What I don’t like is how EASY it is for all races, incld our own, to put ALL the negativity of the world on a BLACK WOMAN!!

Hate is a form of insecurity, Sistas hate on eachother because it makes them feel better about themselves… Hopefully oneday it’ll get better… It’s also one of the reasons why brothas fool with other ethnicities, too much selfishness/bitnerness on the Sistas behalf!!!!!

& Jasmine – Don’t let them give you the blues. We ALL have flaws that can be focused. Everyone gets their article, their time in the spotlight. You are a beautiful Black woman!!!

@ ALL MY BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN — FIRST TO ADMIT WE ARE NOT PERFECT AS MEN. WE TALK, AS WELL! WE MAKE MISTAKES. SCREW ALL OF THE NEGATIVITY. IT’S PEJORATIVE AND AIMED TO LEAVE YOU FEEL DOWNTRODDEN. DO NOT. GOD GAVE YOU THAT BACKBONE. THE MAN HAS TO USE IT, ESPECIALLY IN A SOCIETY SO HELL-BENT ON CASTIGATING US. YET WE CAN’T PLAY THE VICTIM ROLE. WE ASK YOUR FORGIVENESS FOR OUR SHORTCOMINGS. WE FORGIVE YOU FOR YOURS. IT’S TIME FOR A HEALING. THE LORD WANTS US TO HEAL THE NATION. NO ONE ELSE WILL DO THIS BUT US. THINK FOR YOURSELVES AND STOP BEING SHEEP! YOU DON’T HAVE TO HATE. WE ALL HAVE LOVE. SPEAKING FOR MEN AND NOT BOYS, WE ASK FOR FORGIVENESS FOR ANY NEGATIVITY THAT WE PROPOGATE, & UNDERSTANDING WHEN IT’S NOT US WHO INITIATES IT BUT THE OUTSIDE WORLD. DON’T TAKE IT OUT ON US. CONTINUE TO LOVE. ONE DAY, JESUS IS COMING BACK. NONE OF THIS WILL MATTER. ALL WE WILL HAVE IS GOD. LOVE. GOD IS LOVE. I’M OUT. ENJOY YOUR WEEKENDS, MY QUEENS AND PRINCESSES. THE THRONE IS STILL YOURS. (ONLY1ADONIS. GOOGLE MAIL ME. WRITING A BOOK & WOULD LOVE THE FEEDBACK). ONE LOVE FAMILY.

@onion61

EXACTLY!!!

No diffference, whatsoever.

Some of US have convinced ourselves that white is right/good/better..SHAMEFUL. Sad state of affairs.

Black people really need to get out more, then they would realized that people are people, no different, no better, no worse. Then all this comparison crap would cease, because we would ALL know better.

I guess the reason why we’re so ‘hated-on’ or talked about is b/c we’re such an eclectic, culturally-rich, influential people!
TE AMO MI GENTE!
Love my people!!

@ Wasted – that should be your clue that you are hanging with the wrong kind of people.

I compliment ALL the time! It could be the fact that I Love who I am and have a positive outlook. I dont think it’s a color thing I believe it’s about how ANY woman feels about herself and if she’s secure within herself Giving a compliment to another woman is second nature. Why HATE anyway!? SMH @ the pettiness of ANY woman that does Get ya A game up and start Loving YOU!

I love everybody…but white people get to much credit and want us to believe these types of things…I work around whites all day and they are JUST AS MESSY, BUT FRIENDLY.. POLITE BUT SNAKISH SO PLEASE THEY DO IT BETTER THAN US WE JUST HAPPEN TO BE A LITTLE MORE REAL AND THEY WILL SMILE AND COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER AND THEN TALK ABOUT THE PERSON THEY JUST COMPLIMENTED..NOT ALL WHITE JUST LIKE NOT ALL BLACK PEOPLE SUCH A BIAS PEICE.. ALL PEOPLE DO THAT SHYT.

I THINK BLACKWOMEN SAD TO SAY HAVE INSECURITIES WHICH I DONT KNOW WHY WE ARE SO BEAUTIFUL HONESTLY I THINK IT STEMS FROM MAYBE BLACK MEN WHEN I GUESS WE NOTICE WHAT OUR MEN LIKE WE LOOK AT ANOTHER WOMEN AND WONDER IS THAT A WOMEN HE WOULD LIKE AND ITS ON FROM THERE THAT’S WHAT I NOTICED BLAME SOCIETY WE ARE TOLD TO LOOK A CERTAIN WAY AND IF WE SLIP UP ITS ON VERY SAD BLACK WOMEN WE ARE BEAUTIFUL ANY SHAPE OR SIZE YA DIGG!!!!

All black woman do not hate on each other.. just the young immature ones. My mother and me can go to the mall right not and talk about who looks good.

ok now, the european standard of beauty has some to do with why black women hate. but if black women know that and recognize it as a problem, WHY NOT FIX IT?!

Kigali: Tu es rwandais? J’espere que non, tu ne merites pas de porter le nom d’une telle grande ville avec tes propos haineaux. Je suis desolee que tu as un tel image de la femme noire, mais va te faire soigner au lieu de nous faire chier avec tes commentaires primaires a la con, reduisant tous les misere du monde aux femmes noires foncees grosses, comme si toutes les femmes noires foncees etaient grosse ou laides! va faire un tour au senegal mon gars!

Worth repeating

Some of US have convinced ourselves that white is right/good/better..SHAMEFUL. Sad state of affairs.

@BlackDiamoncenter

A lot of the hating in all cultures stems from insecurity. When you don’t know who you are, what you have to give to the world and where you’re going insecurities come about. All people have them. It aint just a black or black woman thang. = )

Yup. Some of them be hatin.

The said thing about it is.. Black people are ALWAYS giving each other ways to better their self esteem. If Big girls are insecure about their size.. they have Ashley Stewart for yall to look good.. They have make up now that is specifically for woman of color now.. Carol’s Daughter.. things like that. There should be no reason why black woman have low self esteems and feel like they can’t compliment another woman.

@PO10TiAL

Your theory ASSUMES that have
“black woman have low self esteems”

@Ms. Tiffany..how did I know someone would find a way to blame it on the black man ..smdh

From my experience it has nothing to do with color. Some women are caddy by nature and it’s all about the drama. Hating on how you look, wearing, friends or man. That’s why I have two female friends that have similar mentality as myself we’ve been friends for 30 years. We support each other always. Outside of that 95% of my friends are men and outside of my gay men friends it’s “DRAMA FREE”.

The difference is, White women will be nice as pie to ur face but bishy as hell as soon as ur back is turned, Black women (and people)are straight up u always know where u stand. Generally. Next thread.

^^^^^
Additionally, as study was done a few years ago(Oprah based an entire show on it), and according to the study’s findings, no race of women had lower self-esteem than American WHITE woman….

Like I said, ya’ll need to get out more.

Kigali: it is not true that there has always been a preference for fair skin women amongst black people. That is true amongst certain African countries (Ethiopia, Northern Sudan, Somalia) but not in all African countries. Asians, Indians, etc. yes, but originally it had nothing to do with the white standard of beauty. The first European/Arab explorers who went to African countries remark upon certain tribes of black people having a preference for “darker” skin people! I studied anthropology, if you want me to cite my sources I will. Furthermore, Africa is so diverse it is impossible to generalize with “black people always did this” or “always did that” you have bantus, nilotics, pygymies, and people mixed with semitic. Each individual African tribe/region has their own prerference. Some worshipped one god, some worshipped Allah, some were Christian before the Europeans, some had multiple gods. IMPOSSIBLE to generalize.

I am a black woman and it race doesn’t matter all races do the same thing it’s just that people are more facinated with the black race to put us in everything…..I know a lot of black women who is arund to help others and try to bring them up and help them out I know a lot of black women that has helped me out without even knowing me so it’s not a black thing……all races does the same thing

@lady luck how do you know that a white woman would never say that…. ?

@Kigali (Self Criticism is Great)

You may or may not be right about the whole letter thing. I can’t agree with you until I’ve looked that up myself. However, I can and will still say that I believe part of the “hating” mindset comes from our past history. I never said that was the total case but I do believe it to be part of our problem. I also just posted that insecurity is a lot of the basis too. We as black women face insecurities just like any other race. We all know that to a great degree women are just catty creatures anyway. I STILL don’t agree with Essence for saying black women are more catty than white women. I’ll refer to my other post and ask “Have they not seen Young & the Restelss?” True, it’s a tv show but like I said I work in corporate america every day and Y&R is one of the realest depictions of how white people get down on a day to day that I’ve seen in my life!

well, all the black women I know compliment eachother all the time. Actually, I’d say black women are tighter than most.

Choc, that is true with white women though , they will smile in your face and talk behind your back, and i have seen white women see a skanky looking whire woman and turn their heads like they dont see her, but let it be a black woman , see black women get it from both ends,, so black women lets not be so damn caddy and do like the white women .. smile at our in-perfections!!

@southern sway THAT’S FOREAL AND WE NEED TO STOP FALLING FOR THAT BULL… EVERY RACE DOES THE SAME THING… PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. OUR RACE IS JUST SENSATIONALIZED.

@LADY LUCK ARE YOU FOREAL?

cantria and Ok

They call people haters to make the shut up but a confident person would never let another person label you especially one who knows nothing about you…Another thing they are trying to label us has having attitude because we all won’t lay down and deal with the status quo.. Why should anyone just sit back and deal with anything, I do not like to conform to the world standards in most things or with people stands because they are not the ones that make me happy from the inside out.. All of this is just another way to scapegoat someone or a race all together… They are trying to eliminate the strong so that they can even more manipulate the weak…

As I say all my good friend are secure in themselve and all look damn good. I like that because it allows all of us to display our beauty, although we r of different shapes and sizes..We really do look good…I can’t befriend sum one who is not feeling good about themself otherwise they just hate me because I do…

@BLACK DIAMOND CENTER

BUT YOU SAID WHITE WOMEN MEANING ALL AND BLACK WOMEN MEANING ALL..UNLESS YOU SAY THE MAJORITY OR SOME …THAT IMPLIES NOT ALL.

@ Choc

I agree

@COPORATE SHAY SHAY

Wut up?

I know how to agree to disagree……Enjoy sistas!!

@ baby gurl

“They do hate i am light skined-black women with nice hair i drive a nice car etc”.

Im soo tired of chics making it seem as though they are “hated” on because they are light skinned. I am dark skinned and I drive a 08 charger on 24′s. I have a nice body and keep my hair done. I get the same looks from mexican, white,chinese, mixed breeds, so this is not a skin color or race thing. This is about FEMALES in general.

Every female has probably cut their eyes at a pretty chic at one time or another. Or has had a friend make a undeserved insult on another female for no apparent reason. The only way to stop this is to shut it down. The last time my friend made a “hater” comment I busted her out and asked why she hates someone that she doesn’t even know. She felt embarrased and hasn’t done it since. We need to stop tolerating the hate and it will slowly disappear.

@ Jazmin,
Thank you. I am a very open minded person, and try to see every side of things. This for instance, I understand from each angle. But yes, point of the matter is, quit dwelling upon it, and just focus on a more positive light! Just sad, many don’t try or give it a chance…

@PO10TiAL

Your theory ASSUMES that have
“black woman have low self esteems”

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Why would women feel the need to put down another woman? LOW SELF ESTEEM. I’m sticking to why they hate.. and why they shouldn’t. Like I said previously.. all black woman do not hate on each other.. just the young immature ones.

I think (hope) there is some sexual tension there sometimes. LOL.

Oh hell. here we go again.

@LOVELYLISA

YOU HIT THEN NAIL ON THE HEAD….. LIKE MY CHILDREN FOR INSTANCE THEY USE CORRECT ENLISH AND SOME PEOPLE SAY …THEY TALK WHITE…EXCUSE ME ALL WHITES DO NOT TALK CORRECTLY AND ITS CORRECT ENGLISH NOT WHITE ….WE GIVE THEM TO MUCH CREDIT FOR SHYT.

I am a black woman and race doesn’t matter all races do the same thing it’s just that people are more facinated with the black race to put us in everything…..I know a lot of black women who is around to help others and try to bring them up and help them out,hell I know a lot of black women that has helped me out without even knowing me so it’s not a black thing……all races does the same thing

@ Not the One

Thank you hun. I’m glad someone agrees.

Please read correctly ppl….notice I stated that ” White women hate silently” meaning they hate but on a different level….I just keeps it real ….like I said” I can agree to disagree”…enjoy

@LADYLUCK OK LOVELY LISA EXPLAINED WHAT I WAS GOING TO SAY PERFECTLY… YOUR ONE ENCOUNTER CAN’T SPEAK FOR AN ENTIRE RACE OF BLACK WOMEN AND YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH 2 WHITE WOMAN CAN’T SPEAK FOR AN ENTIRE RACE OF WHITE PEOPLE.

@BLACK DIAMOND
WHAT IS THE MAJOR DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SILENTLY OR NOT?

@llani, you are right that is the difference in black women and white women , white women (let me say mostly) are not as vocal about caddiness but they are the most fake and will talk about you , try to sleep with your man and all that, black women are more vocal with their dis-likings, but iw ill say white women will look at you when they are with a black man they look at you with a eye roll to get your reaction , but yet they say the black women hates to see them with a black man so they are fake also but in a different way!

@MAN I JUST DON’T CARE HOW DO YOU KNOW THE LEVELS? i MEAN THIS CONVO IS INTERESTING BECAUSE IM TAKING CULTURE DIVERSITY AND WHAT’ HAPPENING RIGHT NOW IN THIS THREAD IS WHAT LEADS TO STEROTYPING AND RACISM AND DISCRIMINATION..EDUCATION IS KEY.

Do you all know how many black women there are in the U.S?
Do you all realize that even if you you know 10,000 Black women (which is doubtful), that waaaay less than 1% of the population of black women in the U.S.

Get out, see the world.

@cBiracial Bombshell

I see you and agree with you. I am a very open minded person just because I guess. I’ve always been that way since I was young. True, I talk about people like the next person. Like if I see some ran over a** shoes…I’ll say it but to the point of hating on someone…NO. I love to give and recieve compliments and big up all of my black female counterparts.

@KOKACOLA
THATS BECAUSE REALLY THEY THINK BEING LIGHT SKINNED IS SOMETHING THEY MIGHT WON’T ADMIT IT BUT TO EVEN SAY IT MAKES IT OBVIOUS…WHY WOULD SOMEONE THINK SOMEONE IS HATING ON THEM BECAUSE THEY LIGHT SKINNED.. MAYBE YOU UGLY OR SOME … THAT’S WHY THEY LOOKING..CUZ WE ALL KNOW LIGHT-SKINNED DON’T EQUALLY PRETTY.

Another reason why black folks will not get anywhere as a people. We are always criticizing each other. We are either too light, too dark, too ghetto, to proper, too fat, too skinny, too nappy too straight. There is no in between with our own people and then we put each other down. Black women vs. Black men. Black women vs. Black women. Light skin vs Dark skin. Good hair vs. Nappy hair. Seriously our people have problems that we need to deal with without putting each other down. You can’t expect other races to accept and respect us when we don’t do it ourselves.

Damn i guess the next time i make a statement i should make sure i state NOT ALL WHITE and NOT ALL BLACK yall, just the ones i have encounterd, but i thought commen sense would say that .. how in the hell can any body say all of anything.. of course im talking about the ones i know,, how the hell would i know all to make that damn statement!!!

@LOVELY LISA
“The discussion is based on the subject comparing white women to black women.
If you don’t care, then you are in the wrong thread.”
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thank you but I was responding to the post of someone else. You need to read before you respond.

I don’t see the purpose of teraing down another sister. She trying to survive and thrive the best why she know how just like I am. Somethings are highly questionable, but it doesn’t have to go to the level of hate.

Thank goodness my sister-friends and I are tighter than small drawers on obese people.

Where is this coming from?? Black women are the most sweetest and compassionate people, especially to eachother. I am a black woman and I get compliments from black men and women all the time! Black women bond with eachother and and are really supportive. Black women don’t have attitudes like people are always saying. We are just expressive and like to be respected. I love my sisters and always get love back so I’m not too sure about those articles..

Oh, and white women will dress each other down. They just do it differently.

and with the way black men run around hatin on other brothas doing better than or jus tas good as them – and the white man too for that matter – i’m shocked this topic was limited to sistas. atleast a sista won’t hate on someoone by shooting them up or killing them in the streets.

P.S.A. = ‘Caddy’ is a golf term. ‘Caddiness’ is NOT a word. It’s ‘CATTY’ and ‘cattiness’. PLEEEEEEEASE GET THIS STRAIGHT. Damn it’s annoying. Hate to be the Grammar Police however some things are inexcusable. My 4 y/o is cognizant of the difference. (OK, breathe.)

False, white women are just as bad, they go for the jugular. They would sleep with your son if you let em…Where do you think we got it from?

@LADY LUCK
“Damn i guess the next time i make a statement i should make sure i state NOT ALL WHITE and NOT ALL BLACK yall, just the ones i have encounterd, but i thought commen sense would say that .. how in the hell can any body say all of anything.. of course im talking about the ones i know,, how the hell would i know all to make that damn statement!!!”
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That’s the standard argument to a general statement about any group of people. “Not all” or “Not EVERY” and “blah blah blah.”

It was implied that you weren’t refering to 100% of the black female population and anyone with common sense would have known that.

Half of the posts regarding black women in any way start off with “Not all black women…” or “Not every black woman…” when the whole world already knows that.

BTW. I am ‘light-skinned’ myself. Black women I know are usually pretty confident and I don’t really know any ‘dark skinned’ girls who think I look better than them because I am lighter. If you’re black and think all black women are hating on you because you’re lighter, I think it’s you with the problem. Why do you need for others to compliment you again??

The COMMENTS on this website continue to highlight the fact that a large number of people find it difficult to love themselves

Those with SELF-HATE issues will have difficulty showing love towards others

The sad thing is that these people do not realise that hate and negativity can lead to SELF-DESTRUCTION

Examples
HATRED towards
1)Black American men/women
2)White folks,Africans, Biracials,Hispanics etc
3)Successful woman trying to make a difference
4)light/dark skin
5)Hair types
6)Black Americans from the South
7)Those that have a good command of the English language

The LIST goes on and on

All groups have those that they dislike but LOYALTY still exists towards people of their own kind

The only people that are BASHING their men/women on you tube EN MASSE are Black Americans

This in itself shows that the LEVEL of hatred has reached an all time HIGH

There are some that cannot STOP hating

GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL THAT’S WHO RUN THE WORLD DUDE.

let me preface this by saying NOT ALL black women, but most black women are insecure and thats why they are always back biting other women, not just black women.

since they are young they are taught that they are uglier than ligther skinned women of any race. and that breeds insecurity also when black women or anybody for that matter let them self get fat and ugly its a sign of not loving themselves enough to care for themselves thats another symptom of insecurity but in all reality that just adds to their emotional problems, that food we eat affects us and how we feel.

if we all just take care of ourselves more a lot of this garbage can just be cut out of our lives.

I give credit where it’s due…color dont matter to me…I think ALL women put each other down BUT in different areas….

Some white women take pride in their bad shapes,flat butts,weight and put each other down..Black women joke you if you dont keep your looks real…natural hair,butt,nails etc. …I’m sure their is more but that’s what I’ve seen heard and experienced…

Neither I nor any Black woman that I know have an issue lifting up other sistahs of any hue. I will acknowledge that some women, not just Black women, are catty. Essence only addressed this issue as it pertains to Black women because we are their primary readership. In any event, people who cannot acknowledge good things in others come from a place of insecurity. They cannot see good things in themselves, so they seek to build themselves up by tearing others down. This is not a new phenomenon or issue, and not unique to Blacks or women.

@LADYLUCK I TAKE THE DUMMY BACK THAT’S JUST WHAT THESE THINGS ARE MEANT TO DO. DIVIDE PEOPLE. SO I AGREE TO DISAGREE. BYE

WAKE UP, SHEEPLE!! Racists of ALL colors are being exposed & DYING ON THE VINE. THIS IS A NEW AMERICA. ANYONE THAT THOUGHT OBAMA WOULD DO ANYTHING EXCEPT FOCUS ON AMERICANS AS A WHOLE ARE SADLY MISTAKEN. “My President is black” blah blah blah. YOUR PRESIDENT IS EVERYONE’S PRESIDENT. He’s not here for YOU, Einstein. Check the immigration policies. Healthcare. “NO SSN, NO INSURANCE, NO PROBLEM. SPEND THE LEGAL PERSON’S MONEY.” The fastest growing demographic is the Latino contingent. This country will look vastly different in 10 years! IF YOU HAVEN’T LEARNED TO ASSIMILATE BY NOW, GOOD LUCK! Being Afr.Amer./Nat.Amer, plus being a fluent Spanish speaking recruiter for gov’t. jobs, I have a unique vantage point. All this sniping & hatred are a distraction from the REAL issue. SELF DESTRUCTION. THERE’S A REVOLUTION OF ENLIGHTENED, EDUCATED PEOPLE, ORGANIZING BENEATH EVERYONE’S NOSES, TIRED OF RACIST RHETORIC FROM ALL SIDES. STOP BEING DISTRACTED BY THIS B.S. LEARN TO ASSIMILATE OR PERISH. Taking it back to the streets, “shit’s about to get thick”. WE ARE ALL ONE.

This is a microscopic look at a larger problem.

White people smile in your face and talk about you/stab you in your back in the worst way. Therein lies the problem.

White women hate on each other just as much. And so do other races and ethnicities.

And BB – seriously? Basing your statements off what you see on YouTube? That’s ridiculous.

@FTW…YOU BETTER NOT LEAVE AGAIN…I WILL STALK YOU…..AND BOIL YOUR PET ON THE STOVE.

LOL!

I dont see why this post is geared against Black women when we all know the consequences of Black men hating on each other are a whole lot more severe and ignorant. (obviously not all Black men) but just in the same way not All Black women hate on each other, lack self esteem blahblahblah.

Like i said, Black people are generally more direct than Whites and that can easily be mistaken as hate an its true some Black women can take it too far smh but on the whole if i step out wit my edges rough (which i never do haha)or somethin aint right i would prefer to get told by my homegirl than false smiles and laughs behind my back, thats not hate.

Im jus tryin to take something presented as a negative and turn it into a positive

Every women has the tendency to do this…. I read the article and I was surprised my friends and I do not act this way….. we may laugh at others but hating is not relevent you never know what someone had to do to get to where they are High or Low in life. but once again these are Human Triats that have been in existance since the beginging of time and I do not see it changing, you have to adapt and grow and some people never do so whatever…

what would like be with out Haters! BORING LOL

So not true
BLACK women dont just tear each other down.
WOMEN in general do
trust I’m around alot of white people at work and its the same thing.
Ive been complimented by black women as well as white women
Actually just this morning a black woman and a white woman on two different occasions stopped me in the street and told me I looked nice.
This isnt a race issue because “haters” dwell in every race

@FTW…WHY WAS THAT STATEMENT ABOUT YOU CHANGING YOU NAME PEPPERED WITH SARCASIM?

YOU ARE SO CRAZY….DON’T WORRY YOUR SCREEN NAME DOES NOT MAKE YOU…..YO! FTW..STOP TRYING TO GET ME TO BE ALL PHILOSOPHICAL ON A FRIDAY…I GOT SOME AIR PLANE BOTTLE OF HENNY…..YOU WANT TWO?

GEEEEZ…..

and pleaze stop these race discussions. Racism will never die but when we stop talkin about it so effin much its impact will become less powerful

whassup mIDJC!?!?

Well it’s true. I don’t know why though I guess it’s a multitude of different things. Black women just hate on other black women. And it’s not just the ugly ones.

MOST of the drama black women are in revolves around some damaged negro sub-male piece of crap.

The reason black women are so angry towards each other is becayuse most of them are competing for the attention and affections of black men. They just don’t trust that another woman won’t take the few “eligible” men out there. They don’t see themselves as having many options so they get very territorial.

Black women who are liberated from the clutches of the “black community” tend to be VERY supportive of each other. They are not paranoid that another woman will steal their shine because they realize that they have their own attributes that make them appealing.

Black women need to seriously think about why they hate other black women. 9 times out of 10 it is because you think she can pull a better man than you or has a lifestyle you THINK is better than yours.

Black women are beautiful, wonderful women with so much to offer the world and ALL men. If we would just let this toxic anger (fueled by the irresponsible, racist and narcissistic black men in our “community) go, we can form TRUE bonds and be there for each other.

I love the black women in my life that are FREE FROM THE CLUTCHES. Old, young, dark, light, big, small they all radiate love and warmth and it’s just wonderful.

Sisters, free yourself. Don’t waste your life taking the anger of the failed black man out on your fellow sisters.

I HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR YEARS, AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN ARE FULL OF HATE AND HATE EACH OTHER. EVEN MY BLACK FEMALE FRIENDS SAYS THIS AND WILL RATHER HAVE BOYS AS HER FRIENDS THAN BLACK WOMEN. MOST OF THIS BLAK WOMEN BE HATING AND HAVING THE GUT TO COME SAY IT TO UR FACE EVEN WHEN THEY ARE DAMN UGLY THEMSELVES.LOL

I dont know what White women do because I dont hang around them but I can tell you this much they just like any other race of women hate on each other as well. It has nothing to do with race it has to do with ones self-esteem and self worth. No matter what race you are, if you hate yourself your gonna hate other people.

yeah its sad on here 2day!! Since MJ died there has been no freaky friday!!!
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@ CHILL…

Where you been freaky friday was on and poppin last week

@Bebe
Stop the SCORN and get with the program

Black American Men/Women are on the Worldwide web expressing their HATRED for each other EN MASSE

They even have Movements(WOS,BMV)

No other group is doing this

If you are not aware of it you might end up being part of the black females DEMOGRAPHIC that will end of single(70% according at present)

True. I hate to say it, but true some of the time. I used to try to speak to other Black women and ask them where they got their stuff from, start up a conversation and possibly make friends if we worked together or something. And they would look at me like I was stupid or try to be dismissive, so I eventually stopped. Don’t get me wrong, I run across Black women who you can tell that their shoes and hair are cute, and they will tell you the same, a lot. But, at the same time, there are too many Black women who act like that article says. And it is hard to make friends with Black women, if you don’t already know them. I don’t know why, but it is true.

With you lady’s permission i’d like to add my two cents on this topic, now it wont be pretty, but it’ll be the truth, do i have your permission?

@FTW…I DON’T SMOKE WEED…***COUGH*** ANYMORE…LOL BUT, LETS JUST GET OUR BUZZZ GOIN’

YA DIG!!

LOL!

I need a good black educated man location birmingham,al

THIS IS SO STUPID… White women dog each other behind their friends’ back AFTER cheesing in each others face and giving a compliment. Black women give it to you straight. That’s real… and I don’t spend a whole lot of time complimenting anybody on how they LOOK cause as I feel this world is OVERLY focused on looks anyway.

This is why I stopped reading Essence… STUPID and isn’t the topic of this article a form of BW hating on others? Really, why even bring WW into the discussion? BW aren’t WW and we don’t want to be! Come off of it Essence. This is like the BM saying is BW’s fault they date WW.

YUCK ESSENCE YUCK

DISGUSTED!

@6am….

You can say anything you want baby I’m always open to your commments because my love for you is everlasting!!

HAVE ANY OF YOU EVER THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SINCE YOU ARE AROUND YOUR KIND MORE ;THEN IT WOULD SEEM LIKE IT IS WORSE IN THAT CULTURE.. BECAUSE HALF OF US DON’T BE AROUND WHITE OR ANY OTHER CULTURE UNLESS IT’S AT WORK… OR IN PASSING.

I’m so glad I allowed my Essence subscription to lapse. . .After the Diddy/Kim Porter cover, it was downhill from there. . .

Get real.

L

yeah its sad on here 2day!! Since MJ died there has been no freaky friday!!!
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@ CHILL…

Where you been freaky friday was on and poppin last week
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very true. My bad I 4got it was on and poppin THAT DAY!

BM are always trying to bring up 70% of BW being single but 65% of them are single too…BM want to seem like they are so desired but they really aren’t if they were 65% wouldn’t be unmarried..

@SYDNEY
“I’m so glad I allowed my Essence subscription to lapse. . .After the Diddy/Kim Porter cover, it was downhill from there. . .

Get real.”
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I loved that cover. Beautiful black couple. IMO.

@Me

I think you can make your point without resorting to calling black men gorillas. That is something DAMAGED black people do.

But yes, I agree that the rate at which BM kill each other has a lot to do with the powerlessness they feel in this country. Many cannot even leave a square black radius out of fear of a)another black man killing them or b)a racist cop killing them or c)a racist latino killing them.

But instead of them UNITING to fight opression they would rather play the blame game and blame BW for their failures.

The only thing black men unite around is SEX. That is the ONLY thing they will “support” each other over. They will high five each other over some coochie but won’t even help each other get jobs.

So let’s be real about who isn’t supportive within our “race”.

@me
u just reminded me of a girl i took on a date just last week.she was african american and had nothing good to say about african american men. in my mind i was like damn do they really hate each other like that and that was a major turn off. and i am not african american.

WHY DO BLACK MEN KILL EACH OTHER OFF LIKE FLIES?

@ME
“BM are always trying to bring up 70% of BW being single but 65% of them are single too…BM want to seem like they are so desired but they really aren’t if they were 65% wouldn’t be unmarried..”
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ROFLMAO!!! Are you serious manyne?

I want you to think about this REAL hard. You don’t even have to respond, just think about it. How many black men do YOU know that are TRYING to get married?

Um… yeah.

THE SAME REASON WHITES KILL THEY GRANDMAS

MOST BLACK WOMEN AND MEN HATE, UNLESS THEY REALLY WANNA COP YOUR STYLE THEY WILL HATE OR SAY NOTHING AT ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ME
i guess you just proved my point of being the ugly bitter one.
typical b*tches.

@6am- I would love to hear your thoughts!! I always enjoy your opinion on things……Im waiting

“I want you to think about this REAL hard. You don’t even have to respond, just think about it. How many black men do YOU know that are TRYING to get married?

Um… yeah.”

That is a straw man. But let’s take what you said and try to make sense of it.

Black men suffer from all types of ills like unemployment, underemployment, HIV/AIDS, heart problems, etc MAINLY because they do NOT value stability and don’t follow normal codes of human behavior. So while all these black men are “single” they are also SUFFERING. This is why black men, on average, do not live as long as other men and their quality of life is extremely LOW.

Also, of the black men who DO “choose” marriage – MOST END UP DIVORCED. 2 out of 3 black marriages end in divorce and 2 out of 3 black man/non-black woman marriages end in divorce. Black men, on average, DO NOT make good partners. Even the wealthy ones end up with multiple wives and multiple children OUTSIDE of marriage. This diminishes the assets of the children and the women in their lives.

So while black men may not WANT to get married it is because most do not understand the VALUE of marriage and will pay for it later in life.

I told my from young you can tell when a woman is comfortable with herself, and not insecure she will not have a problem in giving compliments. She experienced when a beautiful young lady did just that when leaving the mall. I laugh when I see an African American female cut her eyes, or do anything negative towards me, because it makes a person look stupid, and I hate that word but that’s how you look when you look as if you have ill will towards another African American female that you don’t know.

@ Freaking Funny…what ever im talking about has nothing to do with you anyway…your opinion is irrelevant.

@Man

“How many black men do YOU know that are TRYING to get married?

Um… yeah.”

This is nothing to be flippant about, particularly when you consider how many children are growing up without fathers and the impact that absense has on their lives.

i cant believe the lack of respect of others on here, everyone is entitled to their views and just to come off on a rampage against a person that was only saying a situation that happened to her (@lady l)and then got attacked by some idiot one who said she was saying all white women> i understood what she posted and it was her own experience with a couple of white women she knew, she never said every white woman she knew never talked bad about other women,. very stupid and judgemental of that person>

@SYDNEY
“Yup, so beautiful that they broke up within a year of that cover story (as if Martians couldn’t see that coming). . .”
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Yeah, the cover was still beautiful though.

very true. My bad I 4got it was on and poppin THAT DAY!
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@CHILL…

LOL!! Yea sorry it looks like ALL women are on their (.) today…wish I could get is started for you playa!

@PASSENGER 57
“So while black men may not WANT to get married it is because most do not understand the VALUE of marriage and will pay for it later in life.”
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LOL. I could break down everything that you said from the average death rate (which can be linked to discriminatory health care and lack of health education) to the employment field (bias in education and employment practices). BUT for what?

At any rate people determine what is valuable for themselves. Marriage is NOT valuable and it is demonstrated by the lower and lower numbers of people
that partake in it.

“The reason black women are so angry towards each other is becayuse most of them are competing for the attention and affections of black men. They just don’t trust that another woman won’t take the few “eligible” men out there. They don’t see themselves as having many options so they get very territorial.” — Passenger 57
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Good point. But, you have to make the distinction between what’s available vs. what’s eligible, because therein lies another problem. What attributes makes the available pool of black men become eligible enough to be mates to black women? And, are women’s current desires realistic enough in determining what should be required of a man? Do superficial traits have more merit than a noble character? Feel me? But, once again, props because those points you made need to be addressed…

@Passenger 57.. But it’s ok for the other poster to call BW ugly? I resort to whatever they resort to.

@me
what truth have you shared today? LOL…..

If I hear one more light-skin woman refer to her skin shade as the cause for all her troubles with other BW…

LOOK: I have a deep medium brown sugar complexion that I LOVE. I don’t hate on any shade of Brown or White for that matter but I’m sooooo tired of this Light Skin victim mentality.

A. Plenty of Brown sistas have long pretty hair and get hated on too! (Myself included)

B. Plenty of Brown sistas get hated on for having beautiful brown complexions AND the reverse of your Light Skin victim mentality is that you assume ALL Brown Skin sistas are envious… and many (most) are not.

C. For you to keep mentioning it as your crown in the black community reveals your ignorance.

@SCHOOL DAZE
“If I hear one more light-skin woman refer to her skin shade as the cause for all her troubles with other BW…

LOOK: I have a deep medium brown sugar complexion that I LOVE. I don’t hate on any shade of Brown or White for that matter but I’m sooooo tired of this Light Skin victim mentality.

A. Plenty of Brown sistas have long pretty hair and get hated on too! (Myself included)

B. Plenty of Brown sistas get hated on for having beautiful brown complexions AND the reverse of your Light Skin victim mentality is that you assume ALL Brown Skin sistas are envious… and many (most) are not.

C. For you to keep mentioning it as your crown in the black community reveals your ignorance.”
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You know you wish you were light. Who you foolin?

my last job was a small setting. the white girls were good friends with each other, hung out together outside of work, and did not meet each other until the job. i couldn’t make a friend with the black women there for the life of me. i would catch two of the OLDER women talking about me and my performance (i was new) behind my back, the young ones my age, would be sort of friendly in my face, but i caught them making side eyes and comments when they thought i wasn’t looking. well let me take that back, i loved my boss who was a black woman, but she was old, and two of the other black women in their 40s. but the other black women were a mess. and none of them hung out together outside of work.

@man’I just don’t care To be honest with you I got a good man we been together 7 years sorry thing ain’t working out for you on the man tip

Me,

No it is not ok for other posters to call BW ugly but that doesn’t mean you have to sink to that level. There are plenty of legitimate criticisms you can make against black men having nothing to do with their features. This is what *many* expect BW to do. They *expect* us to get “gutter” and act a fool.

Besides, most BM do not think that their features are ugly – they just find them ugly when they are on a woman.

PEACE AND LOVE TO ALL MY SISTAHS!

It’s really sad reading majority of these comments in here. Just open your eyes and take a real look at the world for once. See it from a far….They’re really not out of line. They’re not 100% correct either. It’s clear there are all points to this.

@ Jazmin-
It really helps this day in age to be open-minded. I respect your views!

@ Smart Dude..the truth i’ve shared today is that BM like yourself try so hard to insult and demean BW but the truth is that we have and will continuue to do better than you in many aspects of life…so much so they do special shows about it….another truth i’ve shared is that you’re a bitter patheic slug whose insults don’t hold water because at the rate you BM murder each other nothing you could say could diminish the fact you BM have deep rooted self hatred and severe mental issues where you can’t even be comfortable with each other for fear of dying…nothing you can say about BW tops that! Is that enuff truth?

@Passenger 57

“The reason black women are so angry towards each other is because most of them are competing for the attention and affections of black men. They just don’t trust that another woman won’t take the few “eligible” men out there. They don’t see themselves as having many options so they get very territorial.”

Thank you for your insight, and I would like to share some thoughts. I think the toxic so-called “shortage” meme has been embedded in our heads, and, yes, it has caused some sistas to go to great lengths to “get” a man. That is no way to live your life, and, unfortunately, some (emphasis on “some”) have sought to capitalize on this frame of thought. It has become even more insidious with the underlying message that the more education and career advancement you attain, the more likely it is that you will be alone.

It’s extremely unhealthy to dwell in such an emotional abyss, as you pointed out — and those who perpetrate this thinking know that. The more desperate and divided black women are, the further they are from real happiness and success.

In my first job, I had the pleasure of working with a variety of sistas, some of the smartest and talented black women I’ve ever met, and we formed close friendships and a network of support that continues to this day. No one can tell me that there isn’t unity that exists among sistas. That there aren’t women who can compliment and uplift others who share their skin tone, etc., etc. They — We — are out there.

@man i just dont care
what are you? 18yrs old…..LMAO

“They — We — are out there.” – Sydney
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And that should be the focus! As a black woman though, what are the struggles specific to you guys in finding a mate? And when I say a mate, not just a man, but one you’d want to be with and share your life with. Because that’s the real problem. You want someone you’re not only compatible with but someone you’re in agreement with and is functional enough to contribute towards the future you’re building towards..

@ME
stop hanging with thugs and hang out with black men. were do you live? COMPTON. and for you to admit that black women also have vaious issues but a thug surpasses those issues makes me notice that u are “truly” an insecure lady like most black women.

all women hate so quit alway’s trying to say blackwomen do everything cause white women are phony too, hell they invented it so stfu “bs”gossip.

@ Passenger 57..Regardless of what people expect BW to do im not going to sit by and see all the ugly comments being made about BW and remain silent…so you debate the way you do and i’ll debate the way I do..
That’s one of the biggest problems in the Black community..BM say and do whatever they want to BW and a lot of us just sit back and take it..and we’re not supposed to say anything bad about BM because they have been discriminated against and we should stick by them…but…what about the discrimination BW face? Who sticks by us? Will anyone ever speak out about the hatred BM show toward BW?

@Cincy’s Own.

“As a black woman though, what are the struggles specific to you guys in finding a mate?”

I think you may be asking the wrong woman because I don’t buy into the “black women can’t find a man” meme. Truthfully, I hear stories from women of all races who have had relationship woes. I don’t see this as specific to “us,” and I refuse to accept that debilitating line of thinking.

I strongly believe that you are whom you attract. If you want an upstanding man, you have to be an upstanding woman. Focus on yourself and your own happiness because if you’re not happy with yourself, the odds are slim that you can forge a healthy relationship with another person. And, regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not, enjoy your life. There’s too much that we can do for ourselves — further our education, our careers, buy homes, travel, indulge in activites that interest us, again, travel, etc., etc. — to put our lives on hold for anyone.

Sydney said:

“In my first job, I had the pleasure of working with a variety of sistas, some of the smartest and talented black women I’ve ever met, and we formed close friendships and a network of support that continues to this day. No one can tell me that there isn’t unity that exists among sistas. That there aren’t women who can compliment and uplift others who share their skin tone, etc., etc. They — We — are out there.”

Thank you, sister. *Deep bow of respect and admiration*

There are ABSOLUTELY those of us out there who love being in the company of other black women. I know I do. And the “network” of support is absolutely ESSENTIAL for black women because even though we are gaining there are still so few of us in high places. I also think it is important to support women who are “not there yet” but on their way. Women who may have made some poor choices but have learned and are trying to grow.

Hey Man and Syd!!

I’ve been noticing lately that Black females do compliment me and I notice myself complimenting them when I see them looking good and keeping themselves together. I did used to fell the ‘hate’ when i would go out but not so much anymore. that’s a good thing. It’s nice to be able tell somebody “you wearin that haircut girl!” and them say thank you and not have an attitude. I’m quick to give props when its deserved. If we all had that attitude then it would be hard for us women to be forced to accept this label they have on us that says we’re bitter and self hating and angry. We’re not all like that. I would say most of us arent, but its usually people taking their insecurity and hate for themselves out on the next chick instead of gettin their program straight.

@Not The One

“Most simply wish to name call & offer no solution. There’s a revolution underway, Sis, and I feel you.”

With every revolution, there will be leaders, there will be followers, and there will be those who have to be left on the sidelines. Even Harriet Tubman had to leave some stragglers behind.

@Smart dude…yes..BW do have various issues just like all other human beings!!
Are you saying that BM don’t?
BM are always trying to act like they’re so golden and nothing bothers them but the stats fo you guys on health..marriage…absentee fathers…incarceration..felonies..and may other issues don’t tell the same story..the world sees who you really are..like i said..you’re a in denial pathetic slug who can’t deal with true fact…just like the majority of BM.

Please, ALL WOMEN do that ignorant hating!!

@ hollar back -

“People kill you crying & complaining?”. That was the entire essence of your VERY NEGATIVE, BM-BASHING post!!! You offered nothing positive, no solution, just “crying & complaining”. I just complimented Syndey for offering a solution so consistency is not my issue. We all need to focus on resolution, not just YOU. ME, AS WELL. EVERYONE. As a grand finale, you’re 7 years deep with a race & gender (BM) you just finished dogging? What does it say about you? My beautiful Black women are far from perfect, but you won’t see me HATING and DATING. I love it. Good with bad. NOTHING can replace her. Again, consistency & resolution being absent, you look fraud. Deal with it.

“I think you may be asking the wrong woman because I don’t buy into the “black women can’t find a man” meme. Truthfully, I hear stories from women of all races who have had relationship woes. I don’t see this as specific to “us,” and I refuse to accept that debilitating line of thinking.

I strongly believe that you are whom you attract. If you want an upstanding man, you have to be an upstanding woman. Focus on yourself and your own happiness because if you’re not happy with yourself, the odds are slim that you can forge a healthy relationship with another person. And, regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not, enjoy your life. There’s too much that we can do for ourselves — further our education, our careers, buy homes, travel, indulge in activites that interest us, again, travel, etc., etc. — to put our lives on hold for anyone.” – Sydney.
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Point taken.

(files under the “Just Do You and Keep it Pushin’” category.)

Hey JB

@Passenger 57

“”Thank you, sister. *Deep bow of respect and admiration*”

Same to you, sister. I think we may read some of the same blogs.

“There are ABSOLUTELY those of us out there who love being in the company of other black women. I know I do. And the “network” of support is absolutely ESSENTIAL for black women because even though we are gaining there are still so few of us in high places.”

Absolutely — The networking among us is essential. While we have made strides, there are still far too many of us who haven’t shattered the glass ceiling. When I see all the sisters in the Obama administration, from Desiree Washington to Lisa Jackson and Susan Rise, all I can feel is an immense sense of pride. There’s so much we have to showcase; so much beauty and intelligence that we hold; so much tenacity that we use to carry us over obstacles; so much left for us to accomplish before we’re through.

I love my sisters. We need each other. United, there is nothing that can deter us from whatever we wish to bring to fruition.

women in general are catty,jealous, etc. NOT only black women but all women. in my opinion, 1 out of 100 women are cool, the rest cant be trusted: i have a lifetime of proof to back me up.

*Susan Rice* Please pardon the typo.

I feel a Maya Angelou poem coming on. . .

@ A.G.

I am sorry but you are just as bad. Not all African American women hate on other women, have low self-esteem, or hate themselves. I compliment other black women all of the time and I also recieve compliments from other black women. When I was in grade school I expierenced the hating but not in college and I went to a HBCU. Unfortuntely, I have to admit that the “crabs in the barrel” mentality does still exist in our race but its not just between black women but men to. If we all stick together, help and uplift each other we would all be better off, but lets be real there are haters and back stabbers in every race.

women are catty (let me say this so i wont get no stupid comebacks) SOME WOMEN, one time a woman told me she didnt like me when she first saw me because of my looks and that SHE thought i thought i was cute! What kind of sense does that make.. get to know the person before you make that judgement!!

@Cincy’s Own

“Point taken.

(files under the “Just Do You and Keep it Pushin’” category.)”

LOL, did I answer your question? And if you don’t mind me asking, are you a man inquiring about this issue?

I think women hate on each other no matter what color you are,but I think black women are a little more harsh,women are so competitive,if you better than them they may hate on you just because of that,if you have naturally long hair,a cute shape,have on a certain outfit or have a cute face women will look you up and down it happens all the time,they are just so competitive

@Man…I know.

That being said I think BW should be given an award for not being serial killers or not having commited mass suicide given the fact we have to stand alone in virtually ebverything.

@ Sydney.

You did. And yeah, I’m a man.

@ME
“I know.

That being said I think BW should be given an award for not being serial killers or not having commited mass suicide given the fact we have to stand alone in virtually ebverything”
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DAYUM. A reward AND child support, alimony, welfare, food stamps, unemployment. I mean sheesh.

Race is not the factor. Some women just dislike other women and they vocalize it. Some folks are just more honest. Call it hate if you want it.
And sometimes so people are forced to associate with people they really do not want to hang around, but they do it to be PC.

@me
it ain’t my fault that you are dealing with thugs. deal with a black men. it just like me calling ou an uneducated babymama ghetto loudmouth b*tch. but i did not cause it is not all black women who are like that.

ou meaning you

redbones………smh

Oh, I just remembered “Mean Girls”

lol black women hate yall mean afro american women hate

*activities*

@Cincy’s Own

“You did. And yeah, I’m a man.”

Just to elaborate on my past response, I will say that I do think there are sisters who do place high priority on whether or not they have romance in their lives, and I do that it’s a natural tendency to think about relationships. We’re women and women love “love” (I’m speaking in generalities here, but, in general, we are emotional individuals).

My issue lies with situations that lead sisters to put other aspects of their lives on hold or in jeopardy for the sake of having a man, even if that man is an unhealthy choice. And poor decisions have a deleterious impact on how they view themselves and their self-worth, and they may choose to settle for less than they deserve.

This may sound ultra-sappy, but one of my film scenes is in “The Joy Luck Club,” and one of the mothers in the film has a poignant scene with her unhappily married daughter in which she tells her to think about what she wants and to demand it. She encourages her to put herself first. The scene seared through me with its truth. We have control — sometimes more than we realize — over our lives and our own happiness, and it’s too precious to give away to someone who is undeserving.

@UNBOUGHT

That’s a nice ass.

Lol!

LOL @ at “Light skinned” ladies who start their post with “I’m light-skinned”, even if that is not the subject at hand.

Dang, I go to lunch and this thread grew 10 fold!

*peeking in*

*my favorite film scenes*

Hi, Snoop

For every Brown Skin sista hating on you I’m sure there were 2 more who wanted to befriend you but you already had it made up in your mind they were jealous of your skin… SMH.

It’s silly cause at the end of the day you see only what you want to believe and not the truth of the matter.

@Man, I just don’t care™

@UNBOUGHT

That’s a nice ass.
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I JUST SAID THE SAME THING IN THE WHICH ONE WOULD U HIT THREAD!!! LOL. I THINK THATS SERENA THO

hey syd

@ Smart Dude

Dang this thread moves quick! Yeah, I laughed and that and I was gonna leave it alone until he came back with his ridikid response.

Hey Snoop.

Sitting pretty at #3

I am feeling a kumbyah moment coming on

@Man, I just don’t care™
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That’s Serena’s buns — the best in the “junk in the trunk” game. I don’t give a damn how many miscreants call her “manish” — I’f she’s “manish” than sign me up for the damn pink team.

wassup jb…….what’s this number sh!t?

@fed up
trust me that n*gga is 18yrs old. i am paying him no mind sis, and you should do the same.

@UNBOUGHT
“That’s Serena’s buns — the best in the “junk in the trunk” game. I don’t give a damn how many miscreants call her “manish” — I’f she’s “manish” than sign me up for the damn pink team.”
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Have you ever “dabbled” with team pink? They got a good record!!

Is anyone else wondering why IGNORANT BOY WHO DON’T CARE name is trademarked… stop typing his name in that’s why he is making dumb comments to everyone to get a response.

@ Snoop

Preseason AP poll. I email you the whole listing earlier and you guys (USC) are #4. My bad, I thought # 3

Naw snoop we are #7. Bama is #5.

LIES!!!! PROPAGANDA!!!

It’s very rare that you find black women hating on eachother. I compliment my friends and even stangers on the regular. Essence is just tryna sell magazines.

truth to be told aint no such thing as good hair. long and straight doesnt mean its nice hair iidiots

@Shake it Fast

Bwahahahahaha!!!!

I will crush you like the government is crushing cars right now!!

@SCHOOL DAZE
“Is anyone else wondering why IGNORANT BOY WHO DON’T CARE name is trademarked… stop typing his name in that’s why he is making dumb comments to everyone to get a response.”
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Show me ONE ignorant post from me!!

@ jb…..we’ll be sitting pretty at the top by midseason, after acc and sec knock eachother out the bcs…..lol

I’m a dude — the only “pink” I’m really down with is hidden by my lady’s coochie hair — but hay, do what ya gotta do.

Who cares light skin or dark skin i have seen ugly of both light/dark skin and i’ve seen beautiful dark/light skin women, skin color doesn’t enhance your looks?

after acc and sec knock eachother out the bcs…..lol
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Hell even if we only make it back to the Orange Bowl tht is better than nothing. But first things first. BAMA

@Not The One

“@ Sydney – I “see” you, love. As iron sharpens iron, so does one man sharpen the countenance of another.”

Yes, absolutely.

So, you’re “not the one,” huh?

Where did everyone go?

@Man, I just don’t care

What’s up big dawg?

My experience with women is majority of them black/white/latin/asian are naturally “catty” i don’t think it’s just a black woman issue.

@ Sydney- No I am “Not The One”. Life is too short and precious to hate, so I provide the yin and yang. Respect to you for catching my deeper meaning. Props to you. I’d toast to you if you were in D.C. Unfortunately (whew) I am. That’s what I was lashing out against. We are one. I am everyone on this board & in the world. We are all not the one.

@Man

excuse me…you got new recruits and didnt tell me? tsk. tsk. TSK!

some white women are just as ignorant as some black women and some even more trashier!!

right the 2 women that got kciked off real Chance show were stupid fake boobed white women and they were calling each other all kinds of names.. that little heifer name show me tried to be a bad white girl.. but she dont want none of this bring that skank to my hood . we waiting on her, talking about Kansas.. LOL!!!!!!

@BREEEE
“excuse me…you got new recruits and didnt tell me? tsk. tsk. TSK!”
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Ready for you punishment. LOL.

I’m always recruiting ma.

There is a very small majority of women who are insecure within themselves, who have absolutely no self-love and self-esteem, finds everything to criticize, and can be found in every cafeteria at work tearing people down and spreading gossip to anyone who’d listen. Then there are the rest of us who are self-confident, self-assured, is spiritually grounded and dispenses our energy LIFTING people up, finding words of encouragement, cooking a home-cooked meal for our family after a hard day’s work and emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally supporting our men. I truly believe that it begins and ends with us. When we learn to love and nurture ourselves, we then can share that love and nurturance with others.

That woman “Junk” is fine as hell.

@Man

“That woman “Junk” is fine as hell.”

Much better.

While it is not an exclusive trait black women are the biggest haters in the world and it appalls me. And please don’t let the broad be light…

Passenger 57

Besides, most BM do not think that their features are ugly – they just find them ugly when they are on a woman.
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Damn skippy! What dude wants a woman with a 5 O’ clock shadow, a voice like Barry White, and bicepts bigger than his????

Same way when so many of y’all c dudes with “feminine” features/attributes, it’s a put-off… right?

Whoever said women have insecurity issues while men have ego issues was on point, though.

Hey HF! Long time, no see

I prefer to avoid the use of the word “hater” because it rings stupidity in my opinion, but for the sake of answering the question I believe a certain class of black females are certainly guilty. Most of the females who have fallen short of their goals in life for the obvious reasons talk about women who have achieved success at an early age. I do my best to shop where these types don’t frequent and if they are present I don’t give them the time of day. One thing they appreciate is someone who is above them who is willing to stoop to their level. Just my opinion…

Hey Sydney, how r u?

Yeah, you’re right. I got tired of the endless Beyonce threads, so I went on hiatus 4 a min.

U been good?

@HF

I hear you, lol. I tend to jump over those. I’m good. I hope you are, too.

Are you still keeping up with the political arena?

@daywalker
say hi to your imaginary cop friend.

BULLLLLLLLLSHIIITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!
BULL SHIT

@ Sydney

U know it… We got some catching up 2 do! What do u think about President Obama’s 50% approval rating/”socialist” accusations coming out at the same time that signs of the recession ending r becoming apparent? Even McCain admitted that the stimulus bill was helpful.

I have White, Filipino, Hispanic and Black friends. My White, Hispanic and Filipino friends compliment me more than my black friends. I compliment everyone. It don’t bother me just as long as I like what I seen when I look in the mirror I don’t need someone else to validate me.

This is such BS.
Maybe it’s the class of women I associate with but the HATE is something I simply don’t see.
So this crap is foreign to me.
I don’t associate with people who are this insecure.

My friends are educated high achieveing black women and frankly when you are doing your thing and trying progress, you don’t have time for hating or haters…

A lot of my life I was in predominately white situations, I learned that they were REAL HATERS! You never seen a HATER until you see a white person angry because a black person has acheived something that they think they deserve simply because they were born white.
THAT’S A HATER.

So all this “black women hate on black women crap” is for the birds, if you ask me.
Or maybe I just don’t care enough to notice them. I’m too busy moving up and on.
Or maybe people who think people are hating on them, its a matter of perception.
I believe you give, what you get…..IMO.

@HF

I’ve been so disturbed by some of the footage at the town hall meetings that I think I’ve blocked out a lot of stuff. There’s so much anger out there, it’s frightening. I think the GOP is on a warpath. I’m on Moveon.org’s e-mail list, and I’m getting messages nearly every day. Between the town hall meetings, the Birthers, the accusations of socialism, etc., there’s too much insanity for me to digest, you know?

@DIVINE
“This is such BS.
Maybe it’s the class of women I associate with but the HATE is something I simply don’t see.
So this crap is foreign to me.
I don’t associate with people who are this insecure.

My friends are educated high achieveing black women and frankly when you are doing your thing and trying progress, you don’t have time for hating or haters…

A lot of my life I was in predominately white situations, I learned that they were REAL HATERS! You never seen a HATER until you see a white person angry because a black person has acheived something that they think they deserve simply because they were born white.
THAT’S A HATER.

So all this “black women hate on black women crap” is for the birds, if you ask me.
Or maybe I just don’t care enough to notice them. I’m too busy moving up and on.
Or maybe people who think people are hating on them, its a matter of perception.
I believe you give, what you get…..IMO.”
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So no you don’t think black women hate on each other?

Wait, HF, I just read on HuffPo that Limbaugh compared Obama to Hitler. This can’t be true. Crazy!

@ Sydney

Wow! No, I didn’t c that.The GOP r definetely getting ugly and will get WORSE… especially now that Sotomayor is in. I guess they figure they lost the Hispanic support base, so they may as well shore up the racist constituancy.

(i.e. the Birthers of a nation, etc)

@ Divine

I’m sorry, I meant “no DIVINE, I didn’t c that…” I’ll YouTube Rachel Meadows.

@Sydney™ (Why are all the 80′s icons dying? RIP John Hughes)

This stinks to high heaven. And I agree with Chris Matthews — There’s definitely more than a tinge of racism attached to all this, and it’s disgusting.
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It sure does. It’s amazing that people could be so venomous! But I bet 99.5% will they say they are Christians in the same breathe… SMH

this sooo true!

So you DO think they hate on each other and that a website that caters to black shouldn’t comment on it.

Got it.
So you DO think they hate on each other and that a website that caters to black shouldn’t comment on it.

Got it.
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What the heck are you talking about?!?!?
You know what…nevermind…

I’m glad you got whatever you thought you deducted from my comments..
Peace and blessings

black women are original haters, i am mixed with indian and white and my hair is long and i got a big booty too, and anytime i am with a black dude or even by myself they start gossiping and eyeing me down. but i dont give a f*ck.

Rush Limbaugh comparing Obama 2 Hitler is like the pot calling the kettle black. I didn’t hear about that 1, although I heard Fox commentator Glenn Beck call Obama a racist. It’s wild… I mean, the right wing totally had issues with Bill Clinton, but NOTHING like what we’re seeing here. This just has a lil’ extra sum’n sum’n 2 it.

@ Divine

With all the right wing carping about Democrats wanting 2 socialize medicine, it wouldn’t surprise me 1 bit if the same pharmaceutical companies who presumably backed the town hall lynch mob was also behind the recent Obama/Joker/Socialist posters.

hating is a disease.

@deeper than life

black women are original haters, i am mixed with indian and white and my hair is long and i got a big booty too, and anytime i am with a black dude or even by myself they start gossiping and eyeing me down. but i dont give a f*ck.
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You seem to care.

Doggone it ladies, my time is up 4 today -and just as this conversation is getting good! Hope u all have a great weekend.

No problem, Divine. Thanks for bringing it to my attention! I’ll have to get caught up on this.

Bye, HF! I think I’m going to take my leave as well. Have a good weekend, all.

Didn’t get a chance to read the comments but women just hate on each other period! White girlz hate just as much as black girlz. Women are something else and its sad how we put each other down to make ourselves look better. I use to think black women were the worse haters but I was wrong. White women hate on black women more than anybody.

@marquis
thanks sydney.

Get over accusing me of being Sydney..I cannot imitate her language even on my sharpest days. Sydney is her own strong-minded woman.

horses cough nayhayhayhay

People are too scared to be nice. Anger and emotional issues rage outta control because people are scared so they gotta diss you or act retarded. But anger is a sure sign of weakness. If you get angry all the time someone is loving it.

wow like a hundred years ago… are we gonna talk about this for another 200 years?

to me it sounds like an excuse that i think all races are sick of hearing

Okay, put white people aside and let’s think of ourselves as a community for one second. Regardless of how anyone else treats us, we can’t use that as an excuse for how we treat ourselves. We also can’t address this very real issue by pretending it doesn’t exist. For a lot, but certainly not all, Black women, this is reality. They hate, they hate and then when all is said and done they hate some more. Especially if they don’t know the person personally. If you’re insecure with yourself (regardless of race) your bound to do this. We, as Black women, for some reason seem to suffer from this insecurity disproportionately.

THIS IS TRUE, IN MY HIGHSCHOOL I WASN’[T POPULAR WITH THE AMERICAN BLACK GIRLS, I WAS HOWEVER FRIENDS WITH THE BLACK GIRLS THAT WERE I GUESS IN AP CLASSES LIKE ME, AND I RECALL DURING PROM I SAID TO THIS POPULAR BLACK GIRL I WAS LIKE IMANI YOUR DRESS IS SO PRETTY, AND WHAT DID THIS GIRL DO ? SHE LOOKED AT ME UP AND DOWN AND JUST SMIRKED, I KNEW MY DRESS WASN’T UGLY OR ME OR ANYTHING BECAUSE I WAS HEARING COMPLIMENTS FROM OTHER PEOPLE BUT THEIR WAS THIS ATTITUDE THAT THESE GIRLS AT MY SCHOOL CARRIED, I WENT ON TO COLLEGE AND IT WAS THE SAME THING, NOT ALL BLACK GIRLS THOUGH MY ROOMMATE WAS REAL COOL AND SHE WOULD BE NICE ALL THE TIME BUT SHE HAD OTHER ISSUES SHE WAS TRYING TO INSTIGATE FIGHTS WITH ME AND OUR 3RD ROOMMATE AND THAT GOES INTO ANOTHER ISSUE BUT I WILL SAY BLACK WOMEN DONT LIKE TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS, I WOULDN’T SAY ALL BUT A LOT AND IF ITS A COMPLIMENT SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE ITS MEAN TO BE A TARGET LIKE ” OH GIRL IS THAT YOUR HAIR”, YOU DONT LOOK LIKE YOUR FULL BLACK THINGS LIKE THAT I HATE IT BUT I WONT SAY ALL BECAUSE THATS NOT TRUE AND I DONT LIKE TO GENERALIZE PEOPLE BUT IT HAS HAPPENED A FEW TIMES TO ME

I just wanted to clarify….When I spoke of white women and my family, those are two separate issues.

@Meliss

black women DO top the list for most HIV infected

…this is a fact not an opinion, what the magazine is saying about black women hating is an opinion so please segregate the differences

also your story holds no meaning, do you need a pat on the back? are you saying you hate on women because your life was fuked up? WAKE UP! everybodys life is fuked up it sno excuse to go around hating people

wahhh wahhh wahhh

@Melisaa

why is your old a$$ on a gossip webiste? shouldnt you be knitting or something?

and why are you proving the point here. you’re saying because your life is messed up it causes you to hate on women? WAKE UP everybody has a messed up life its no excuse to go arounf hating on people geeshh

@ dumb n-y-see

HIV started with gay white men and then “white media” claimed black men had the highest percentage of HIV, now they put it on black women.

White men are STILL gay and a lot of black men are on the DL, so white men will still be the highest percentage of carriers of HIV. It’s just that white men controls the media and THE CENTER OF DISEASE CONTROL and the have control of what statics they put out. WAKE UP STUPID!

Also, I never said I hated on women, because I don’t. My comment said, I have diffculties forming relationships with women because what I saw in my family.

I heard vice versa

@ DUMBA$$ MELISSA

excuses, do you think only white people ar ethe head of compoanies, here we go with the “black people dont succeed” bullcrap. you’re the one that’s extremely uneducated.

HIV started back before gay men, (which by the way who care if white men are still gay and lots of black men ARENT on the DL youre just a homophobic), HIV started in AFRICA….. ding ding ding! which is why more black women have HIV! maybe you should wake up and smell the roses my dear you are fighting a lose battle go back to baking cooking and “not being able to form reltionships” aka HATING on women for your own problems

Dumb-ass N-Y-SEE

The statics that are put out from The Center for Disease Control are based on AMERICANS!

You are very stupid and chose to attack me when I responded to the topic at hand and then spoke about my family. I am not ashamed of my age, if I was I would not have included it in my comment.

p.s. I have two masters degrees and I am a school principal. I can teach you how to spell and form correct sentences because I see you really need help in those areas.

1st of all, what is the deal with Essence putting homosexuals (King Latifah and Idris) on two covers in a row.

Anyway, secondly, black women aren’t the only ones hatin’ on each other. I have worked in offices where I felt the hate from women of all colors. I had a job once in a multiracial office where most of the women were highly educated (masters degrees and PHDs) who seemed smart on the surface. One would think that in an environment like this, there would be no cattiness because the women were “above” that stuff. Nope! All these women would just hate on each other all day long about all kinds of stupid, childish nonsense. I eventually left the job because of this. So no its not a black women thing.

I compliment my friends and strangers weekly. I also get compliments from black women all the time. I find some women from other groups to be fake at times and smile in your face but behind your back they talk about you like a DOG! Black women will let you know up front if they like you or not either by their body language or through speech. I prefer realness over fake compliments.

@mellisa
you are a school teacher? i always wanted to f*ck a school teacher. shouldn’t you be marking papers or something.

hahaha i type to fast and i’m as dumb as you i’m MELISSA but it doesn’t take the average person two master degrees and being a principal to master the art of CORRECT SPELLING

and SHAME ON YOU for telling people that you think white women are two faced and catty and youre a school PRINCIPAL???? woooow i wish everybody knew who you were so they could fire you. i wouldnt wish my worst enemy to go to your school!

and again you are a retard… you said and i quote “HIV started with gay white men…” NO THEY DIDNT and youre a fool to think i’m talking about black women in AFRICA when i say black women are the highest rated HIV infected… no no no. i’m not attacking you… i’m choosing to respond to your pathtic excuse of a reason for why you are they way you are… go take a prozac and make a friend why dont you

and how does a principal go around calling people dumbasses, you probably call your students that too… someone should track your IP and get you fired HATER!

THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WE HAVE IN OUR SCHOOL SYSTEMS??

Bye see you hoes on monday!

lol

lol i know shes not but im entertaining her fantasy life

N-Y-Seee is D U M B

Why would you suggest someone track my IP address. You can’t even keep up with the tracks on your arm from shooting up your drugs.

i think they’re the same. black wome are jus more agressive and more real..

True black girls/women are guilty of this. I think its a self-esteem issue. Put others down to feel better about themselves. I have a friend I’ve know for 27 yrs. who has NEVER said that a girl was pretty or beautiful and she’s always looking for flaws… clothes, hair, teeth, job, ect., you name it. She’s a beautiful girl herself, but HIGHLY INSECURE. She’ll never change. Sad.

It’s a WOMAN thing, not a COLOR thing! I work with mostly women about 50-50 black/white and I see the white women doing it just as much!

Did anyone see Mean Girls? That’s where it starts…grade school into high school…

It’s a WOMAN thing!

lol

these ghetto black females need to sit down and stop blaming men and white women for wats clearly there problem ITS BUFFNARY!!

not my experience with my African friends or friends from other backgrounds

MoMo since you and your african friends are so open about everything, can you introduce them to a few American staples, like deodorant, relaxer kits, acne cream, breath mints and a pair of black or brown socks? I cant tell you how many times Ive run into africans with a black suit, white socks and black shoes……….. thats after I get past the B/O and bad breath!

love 6am

Women hate on each other period. It’s just that Black women and White women go about it differently. While a Black woman will let it be known she’s not feeling the next you, A White woman will smile up in your face then stab you in the back.

this is definitely a problem within the black community. i am a dark skinned woman with curly hair, slanted eyes and high cheek bones and i get “hated on” damn near every time i step out of my house! regardless of how bummy i look or if i’m cleaned up, a black woman will cut her eye at me as if i did something wrong to her! i was even at walmart yesterday and had some woman mean mugging me every chance she got! and she had her little girl with her!!! for the longest time i would associate with whites, latinas, and asians bc i didnt feel they were so judgmental. even though i experience this kind of unwarranted hatred from my own people, i still go out of my way to compliment a “sista” on her hair, shoes, makeup, whatever it takes!! we as black women can change this just by being proud of who we are!! light skinned, dark skinned, mixed, curly hair, kinky hair, weaves n wigs, big hips n thighs, small frames, big lips, small lips, whatever the case, WE NEED TO BE PROUD OF WHO WE ARE AND WHAT WE HAVE!! ONCE WHITE AMERICA STOPS TREATING LIGHT SKINNED GIRLS LIKE THEY’RE GOLD AND DARK SKINNED GIRLS LIKE WE’RE TRASH, ONLY THEN WILL BLACK AMERICA WAKE UP AND FOLLOW SUIT! WE CANT GET THAT DOWN ON OURSELVES, WE’VE BEEN BRAINWASHED TO THINK THIS WAY!! BREAK THE CYCLE!! TO ALL MY BEAUTIFUL BLACK SISTAS ALL OVER THE WORLD, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, STRONG WOMEN!! HOLD EACHOTHER DOWN CUZ NO ONE ELSE WILL!

@ Marquis de Sade (The Real One)
WTF?

*imitation*

this is so not true all women talk about each other white women may compliment each other but as soon as that person turn their back they start to gossip and thats not even with just white women its with all women of different races.

All women are catty but all women black or white support their friends.

In regards to the comment on Facebook and some others here: they’re crazy, narrow minded and ignorant. I hate to be so brash but how can you paint with such a broad brush? Anyone who sets out to label an entire group clearly has issues. Well-rounded individuals look beyond what is presented to us and are not jaded by a few experiences or what we have seen in the media. We treat people as the individuals they are, we do not hold them accountable for someone else’s actions. It’s called PERSONAL RESPONSIBILTY. It’s not a good look to be so closed-minded, you can miss out the opportunity to meet some wonderful people. And this message can be applied across the board.

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I am a Black woman and I definitely compliment any woman of any race. I never have time to judge anyone. I love brightening peoples live and seeing people smile. I am more of a peace maker/motivator and I always have a positive outlook on life. But, I do agree some women of all colors can be very childish and catty!

It aint about race or culture we all have our faults what we need to concentarte on is the way forward,we in the same world house so why can’t we keep it clean?

@kendra—i cosign.

“Imagine what might happen if we all chose to abandon the self-fulfilling, negative model of generally hating on sisters, and instead consistently take action to spin our relationships with other Black women to the positive. Like offering random sisters a genuine smile or giving other Black women compliments instead of snide side-glances.”

Well, when some of do this, we are still thrown into the “hater” category. Again, it’s called personal responsibility. I will not sit around and be blamed for behavior; I do not exhibit just because I’m a black woman. I treat everyone as an individual because it would be hypocritical for me to do otherwise. If this thought process started to catch on, this world would be so much better. Also in my experience drama usually attracts drama or like usually attracts like. Sometimes you have to look at yourself to see why you’re attracting such ignorance. If you send off negative energy nothing good is going to come from it.

@SmartDude…you could call me all that..and it’s wonderful that you don’t think all BW are like that,just like all BM aren’t loud uneducated, dope dealing, undercover fag, cheap, promiscuous,multiple baby mama,unemployed,felony having, gangbanging, useless jerks.

BULLSHIT. WOMEN in general hate on each other when they’re insecure about something. its no different between races, it’s a girl thing. NEXT.

Oh no. Definitely false!!!! I’m white, and white girls talk more sh*t than anyone else. They just never say it out loud, it’s always behind your back. And they do it to both friends and strangers.

On the other hand, two of my four best female friends are black. They never hate on friends or talk sh*t about them, and if there’s a problem with a friend, they confront her instead of talking sh*t behind her back. Same thing with strangers- they’ll say something to her out loud instead of petty comments and looks.

Also, I have dated a couple black men in the past, and their black female friends were always polite, friendly, and welcoming to me.

I definitely have to disagree with this.

**the reason I added the part about the friends of men I’ve dated is because, as plenty of comments on this website show, apparently a lot of black women have problems with black men dating white women. I just wanted to add that none of their friends had been anything but friendly, welcoming, and accepting.

@Kendra
For the most part, your response was negative. However, I do agree with what u said about white and other races of women hate on black women, too. I am beginning to notice white and latina girls staring at me, lately. I think there is a negative connotation associated with African American women and other races are surprised when they see a classy, attractive black women in public spending money. I took my kids to DisneyLAnd and white women were staring at me and my kids harder than the black women. They have so many preconceived notions about black people and their views are challenged when we break the stereotype.

im sorry, but this right here is so true! ive been walking down the street minding my business and had black females make smart comments. for a second i had to look at them and think “do i know you from somewhere?” or “do you have me confused with somebody?”…it’s crucial. Not all black females are like that though…i can walk through a grocery store and see strangers and we speak to eachother..the main ones who act all stank are the ghetto ones who i think are just jealous…..or maybe just pissed off b/c their governement check didn’t come or something..who knows?

This whole topic is a bunch of crap, yes there is hate b/t black women but it is just as much hate b/t white women the difference is that they tend to be more fake, “I love your dress,” is just the same as sayin “what the heck are you wearing” everything is blown out of proportion to make us sistas look bad

White women hate just as much as black women. I see everyday all day long.

i compliment my friends and strangers all the time. I also joke fight with my friends all the time so big whoop. I really don’t see this hate stuff going on but it may be more of a self-esteem issue and an ecomomic issue more so than a race issue. Also if you know somebody is a hater or negative do what I do, don’t associate with them. Negativity breeds negativity

The word is “catty” not “caddy”. Sigh. SMH. Where did caddy come from? My black people….

This is so not true, women of of all colors hate on each other. Sad, but true.

[...] Look At This B*tch!” etc? White Women compliment each other, “your hair looks great” “Oh, I Love those shoes” “Cute Top” etc. Why So Much Black On Black Women Hate? And don’t be a cute [...]

This is not completely true. White women talk trash behind their friends’ backs. Black women are more upfront with their hate. I’ve had many black friends and many white friends, and it was usually the white ones that were more prone to backstabbing activity.

@A.G I and every other black woman who is not “black american” 100% agree with you. i know by default when people look at me because i do reside in the US automatically i am an “african american.” NO I AM NOT PLEASE DO NOT PUT ME AND THEM IN THE SAME BOAT.

I notice how some females refuse to give compliments and that goes for all races.

THAT’S A DAMM LIE….

just look at all the hate here.

@Loch Ness Monster…I’m sorry, but that mental image had me rollin! Walking up in the club with nothing but a diaper on. *SMDH* You are nuts!

They probably don’t look at you that way anymore since you set them straight. That was funny, though.

THIS ARTICLE IS A BUNCH OF LITERALL BULLSHIT. WHITE WOMEN MAY COMPLIMENT YOU BUT THEY ARE DOING THE SAME EXACT THING BLACK WOMEN ARE. STUPID ARTICLE. WHEN IT CAME RIGHT DOWN TO IT WHEN I WAS HEARTBROKEN AND PEOPLE COULD SEE THE HURT IN MY FACE IT WAS THE BLACK WOMEN WHO WERE SINCERELY NICE WHEN THEY SMILED AT ME AND THE WHITE WOMEN WERE THE ONES WHO SMIRKED IN MY FACE. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT COLOR YOU ARE. WOMEN ARE WOMEN PERIOD. AND I AM WHITE AND BLACK WOMEN GIVE ME COMPLIMENTS ALL ALL THE TIME.