Can You Turn a Man Whore Into a Husband?

- By Bossip Staff Categories: Love and Relationships, News, Sex and Relationships

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As the old saying goes, you can’t turn a h*e into a housewife, but is this true on both sides of the fence? Is it a double standard? It is not cliche to say that this is a “man’s world” when guys are encouraged as young men to “sew their wild oats.” But what does that really mean? Does it insinuate a man has the clearance to practice and hone his loving skills on more than a few women before  settling down? If he does not, does this make him more susceptible to his weakness for women and forever render him whorish? Some men, in fact, are proud to say they’ve been with a mass of women and the list keeps growing! When are the”oats” no longer “wild?” How does a woman know when to take him seriously when his past is somewhat sketchy, but mirrors that of so many other men? How do you know if a man like this is truly worthy of a lifetime commitment without fearing his eventual boredom and his newly tamed oats once again feeling rowdy? Bossip asked a group of women: Can you turn a man whore into a husband?

That’s impossible. What makes you think you can turn him around? Your snatch? Why yours when he gets plenty? It would take a whole lot of years and a whole lot of heartache. If you have the time to pursue it, then by all means, good luck! But chances are, by the time it’s over you’ll probably be so spent you won’t even want him. – Brianna, 27, Finance

You can. People do it everyday but she should already know he’s got the tendency to be a whore, right? Honestly, you don’t really know how a man will fare in a marriage until you take the plunge. Many women feel pressure to be a certain way or look a certain way in order to keep her husband out of fear he will cheat. But if you are trying to marry a man who maybe cheated before you got married, then he’s prone to do so. If you took him back once and even married the man after he’s admitted stepping out, then plan for him to cheat again. I guess it all boils down to a woman setting standards and living by them. No settling. -Marley, 29, Graphic Designer

It’s a total double standard. A dude wouldn’t even entertain the thought of wifing up a woman with a loose past. Why? Because she’s a whore. Now on the flip side, if a man was sleeping with every woman he could in high school, college and all through his 20’s, he gets a pat on the back for being a “real man.” That’s like a rights of passage for them. It’s so unfair, but that wasn’t the question. I don’t think you can turn a man whore into a husband because I tried it before. This guy loved women and we had great sex. Everytime it would look like we were starting to get serious or take our relationship another level (engaged) he would b*tch up, without fail. Disappear. I can only imagine what he did when he was gone, but it sure didn’t make me feel safe. It’s best to move on to the committing type. -Heather, 31, Stylist

I believe you can, actually. I think if a man wants to settle down he’ll demonstrate it regularly. If he has a shady past and has been with a lot of women and he knows you know that, then he’ll go the extra mile to make sure you’re secure in the relationship. But he has to want it and HE has to be ready. I would go as far as to say some men you can easily pressure into a marriage. But a man whore? Forget about it, you’re destined for failure. -Ariel, 25, Marketing

Comments

  • I AM LEGEND ( Raiders Will Make The Playoffs This Year)

    ha ha ha ha

  • mcleod10

    funny!

  • Hannibal

    YES U CAN, U JUST CANT TURN A HO INTO A HOUSEWIFE, THE SAME RULES DONT APPLY FOR US MEN!

  • Lady J

    You can with life-long counseling

  • Man, I just don't care™

    When will marriage die?

  • Hannibal

    MARRIAGES ARE OVERRATED, THEY NEVER LAST.

  • http://Bossip Anonymous

    No, you can’t turn no HO into no Husband neither!!!! And if you know your man/woman is a HO, WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO?

  • THE TRUTH HAPPY B-LATED BIRTHDAY TO MEEEE!!

    I really think it depends on the women. I think u can have a man that is just triffling until he meets that woman he’s willing to change for.

  • cookie

    yes you can and that depends on the person… when they are ready to settle down they will not anytime before that

  • Emma

    I could never date a man who had been with many partners. It is a moral as well as health issue for me. And God knows with all that sleeping around, he’s likely to have several children and babymamas and that is unacceptable to me. If I have no children, then my spouse cannot either.

  • Bubbles

    @THE TRUTH HAPPY B-LATED BIRTHDAY TO MEEEE!!

    I agree. Some men feel obligated to change if they find that one woman he thinks is “the 1” but everyone cant be that one.

  • Poked in the Morning...

    If I am undoubtably sure that he loves me and only me and wants to be with me, and i feel the same way then sure.

    but if im the only one in love and he just “likes me” then hell no!! I wouldn’t be the last if that is the case

  • Moreaces

    Of course not, If a man cheat and is a Hoe before Marriage, he is going to cheat and be a Hoe afterward, men cheat on their wives everyday, I think it is much eaiser for a women to become faithful than a man anyway, so No you cant turn a man in to a good husband if he been hoeing all his life.

  • SOHH(aka SO HIP HOP)

    @Emma:
    You’re either young or dumb…or both! Check back in once you’ve lived a little.

  • Ms. Lady

    No,you can’t unless you wanna be stressed out….Hello Drama!!!

  • Mannie

    I KNOW THE WOMAN ARE GOING TO FILL THIS POST UP, IT’S

    9:17 HERE IN MINNEAPOLIS SO I EXPECT THIS POST TO

    HAVE 400 PLUS POST BY 5 O CLOCK

    STARTING NOW…….

  • Alrighty Then....

    absolutely, unequivically, undeniably, 100% – NO.

  • Alrighty Then....

    @TTHBBTM!! – I don’t know on this one… I have never really seen this happen. I have seen men CHANGE significantly for a woman, but generally, if they couldn’t keep it in their pants before, it may calm down, but I don’t think it ever stops 100%.
    Even if it could, I don’t think I’d take that chance on someone w/ a track record like that.

  • Man, I just don't care™

    @MORE ACES
    “…I think it is much eaiser for a women to become faithful than a man anyway…”
    _____________________________________________________________

    You bigot.

  • http://dynamite.com willie dynamite

    “if a man was sleeping with every woman he could in high school, college and all through his 20’s, he gets a pat on the back for being a “real man.”

    YES thats right! and it ALWAYS will be this double standard! DEAL WITH IT!

  • GoodKarma4Me

    Who wants to marry a guy who cheat on them before he got married? 9 out of ten times,, he would most likely do it again. Plz, too many men out here to settle for a loser…

  • THE TRUTH HAPPY B-LATED BIRTHDAY TO MEEEE!!

    @Alrighty Then….

    @TTHBBTM!! – I don’t know on this one… I have never really seen this happen. I have seen men CHANGE significantly for a woman, but generally, if they couldn’t keep it in their pants before, it may calm down, but I don’t think it ever stops 100%.
    Even if it could, I don’t think I’d take that chance on someone w/ a track record like that.

    Really though ma?? I see your angle but i dont agree. Some men sleep around b/c they know they can like they dont take any chic serious they just beat it up and bounce they not on a lovey dovey trip. But when they meet the one they fall in love with some not all will stop the BS. now im not saying right away its a overnight change some men will even cheat on the love of they life then realize she the one and dont do it again. I really think a play boy can change I do.

  • *Ms. NYTX* -freshness out the oven shes a hot 1..

    sometimes you can sometimes you cant..it just depends on how he feels with that person.

  • Dropin dimes cuz Qtrz are for laundry (CTizzle)

    Man its possible but only if he wants to and only if she Rep and presents in the bed room.

    The bored eye wonders

  • Blacky - Unofficial Bossip celeb - Future Karrine

    First of all, a woman who is loose can turn into a wife. A black man who was loose cannot be marriage material but a white man who was loose can.

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