Can You Turn a Man Whore Into a Husband?

As the old saying goes, you can’t turn a h*e into a housewife, but is this true on both sides of the fence? Is it a double standard? It is not cliche to say that this is a “man’s world” when guys are encouraged as young men to “sew their wild oats.” But what does that really mean? Does it insinuate a man has the clearance to practice and hone his loving skills on more than a few women before  settling down? If he does not, does this make him more susceptible to his weakness for women and forever render him whorish? Some men, in fact, are proud to say they’ve been with a mass of women and the list keeps growing! When are the”oats” no longer “wild?” How does a woman know when to take him seriously when his past is somewhat sketchy, but mirrors that of so many other men? How do you know if a man like this is truly worthy of a lifetime commitment without fearing his eventual boredom and his newly tamed oats once again feeling rowdy? Bossip asked a group of women: Can you turn a man whore into a husband?

That’s impossible. What makes you think you can turn him around? Your snatch? Why yours when he gets plenty? It would take a whole lot of years and a whole lot of heartache. If you have the time to pursue it, then by all means, good luck! But chances are, by the time it’s over you’ll probably be so spent you won’t even want him. – Brianna, 27, Finance

You can. People do it everyday but she should already know he’s got the tendency to be a whore, right? Honestly, you don’t really know how a man will fare in a marriage until you take the plunge. Many women feel pressure to be a certain way or look a certain way in order to keep her husband out of fear he will cheat. But if you are trying to marry a man who maybe cheated before you got married, then he’s prone to do so. If you took him back once and even married the man after he’s admitted stepping out, then plan for him to cheat again. I guess it all boils down to a woman setting standards and living by them. No settling. -Marley, 29, Graphic Designer

It’s a total double standard. A dude wouldn’t even entertain the thought of wifing up a woman with a loose past. Why? Because she’s a whore. Now on the flip side, if a man was sleeping with every woman he could in high school, college and all through his 20’s, he gets a pat on the back for being a “real man.” That’s like a rights of passage for them. It’s so unfair, but that wasn’t the question. I don’t think you can turn a man whore into a husband because I tried it before. This guy loved women and we had great sex. Everytime it would look like we were starting to get serious or take our relationship another level (engaged) he would b*tch up, without fail. Disappear. I can only imagine what he did when he was gone, but it sure didn’t make me feel safe. It’s best to move on to the committing type. -Heather, 31, Stylist

I believe you can, actually. I think if a man wants to settle down he’ll demonstrate it regularly. If he has a shady past and has been with a lot of women and he knows you know that, then he’ll go the extra mile to make sure you’re secure in the relationship. But he has to want it and HE has to be ready. I would go as far as to say some men you can easily pressure into a marriage. But a man whore? Forget about it, you’re destined for failure. -Ariel, 25, Marketing