The Obamas Talk About What Almost Broke Their Marriage

Posted on September 22nd, 2009 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: Barack Obama, Love and Relationships, matrimony-dom, Michelle Obama, News, Someone We Actually Like

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The Obamas talk about how their now fairytale relationship was once headed for divorce.

Both Barack and Michelle recall how their relationship was once headed towards splitsville when Barack was facing career troubles and Michelle was having domestic issues in their household:

Michelle, like so many other working mothers, was the one expected to bear most of the parenting burden that only intensified with the birth of Sasha.

“You only think about yourself,” she would say to him again and again in a tone dripping with disdain. “I never thought I’d have to raise a family alone.” Barack, convinced that whatever time he devoted to his career would ultimately benefit his wife and daughter, shrugged off the criticism.

“Barack just doesn’t seem to care what I think,” a frustrated Michelle complained to her mother, Marian Robinson. “He can be so selfish – and I just can’t get through to him that we’re supposed to be in this together.”

At one point, she went so far as to question whether, after eight years of marriage, their days as a couple were numbered.

Their openness is what makes the Obamas so relatable. They can recount their shortcomings and use their experiences to help Americans get through their own struggles.  This is what has made so many Americans fall in love with them in the first place.

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  • Lindz Nicole

    First!

  • MsSassy P

    Second!

  • No u can’t be boyfriend #2!

    No ”one” relationship is perfect! BELIEVE THAT!

  • Brooklyn, Stand UP!

    Keepin’ it real.

  • Sloppy Seconds are for Losers

    There is no such thing as a fairy tale. Real life is grimy and so is marriage.

  • God’s Child

    I love the first family….

  • john hope franklin (Goodie Mob ripped it saturday nite)

    the union is relative for all married couples….irrespective of money or power…it ebbs and flows…

  • Pookie

    As much as i love them as a family. This is not we need to hear right now…the country needs to “see signs” of progress.

  • denise

    whats with the “no homo” at the end of the article?

  • charlotte

    I love hearing power couples talk of their struggles and seeing them overcome them. Gives me hope

  • tennis

    Yes what up with the “no homo” at the end of the article? Tacky

  • http://bossip TIABABY09

    yes,a REAL family,talking about REAL issues…LOVE IT.

  • Kay

    If that wasn’t a “sign of success” I don’t know what is! They are clearly showing us that after such a tough time in their marriage they were able to come together and make things happen in a positive way! I got inspiration from that very open and personal revelation! LOVE my President! Oh yea… I hate the “no homo”! that is so childish! Grow up! People who go out of their way to make sure they’re not perceived as homosexual when they make statements that may be considered as such, they probably are harboring “homo” tendencies!

  • CJ

    Every marriage will experience trouble. And in every marriage one partner will consider divorce. It takes a lot to unite for life with ONE PERSON and make that liaison work amidst life’s changes and challenges.

    I hope their’s can survive.

  • Dreaam Ghurl

    This info came from an unauthorized biography on the two. Was that person a fly on the wall to capture the entire conversation Michelle had with her husband and her mom? This is sickening. Lets leave the rumors alone and get in the town hall meetings and support him and the plan for better healthcare. This story is so low class.

  • lottaluvin

    what is with this “no homo” crap?

  • resurrected

    CJ

    Every marriage will experience trouble. And in every marriage one partner will consider divorce. It takes a lot to unite for life with ONE PERSON and make that liaison work amidst life’s changes and challenges.

    I hope their’s can survive.
    ___________________________________________________

    I love how you worded this and I am learning this myself not being married yet but every woman seems to have to learn how to drop the fantasy to really have a family… The man has a lot to learn as well about giving more of himself then what is normally seen.. They are a wonder image of betting the odds and pushing forward still in love…

  • uh oh

    Dreaam Ghurl, you are typical…don’t care about people but only what they can do for you.

  • Tara

    I am in Love with THE OBAMA’s and I am from England. The dance they did for that song AT LAST makes me cry. There are such a cool couple apart from my parents

  • cruzan trini

    I LIKE THAT PIC OF THE OBAMAS. IT’S NOT A STAGED PHOTO OP, JUST MAN N HIS WOMAN CHILLIN. :)

  • Sugamama

    I know Michelle is glad she hung in there. He is a good man and knew early on that he had a great career ahead of him. Now they can enjoy their time together as a united family.

  • always knew

    I like the fact, that they relaized what was happening and addressed the issue, causing problems. They both stepped up to the plate and stuck it out. Marriage is also work, many people don’t realize that. It’s also about compromise. I believe it it’s worth it. I’m glad that they stuck it out..
    :)

    Love the Obamas.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    “You only think about yourself,” she would say to him again and again in a tone dripping with disdain. “I never thought I’d have to raise a family alone.” -Michelle Obama
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    SMH at unappreciative women.

  • Aunt Viv

    Sounds like a real marriage to me…

  • Alrighty Then… (why do all of the “men” on Bossip argue w/ females?)

    Well whaddya know? They’re actually HUMAN. This just makes me love them more…. And it makes me think we still have a chance to get it right. I just love black love… *good sigh*

  • wifey06

    THE SYSTEM IS DESIGN FOR THE FAMILY TO FAIL.. PERIOD.

    MORE MONEY IN TWO HOMES, MORE TAXES, AND COURT REGULATION MAKES MORE MONEY FOR THE SYSTEM!!!

  • resurrected

    Man, I just don’t care™

    “You only think about yourself,” she would say to him again and again in a tone dripping with disdain. “I never thought I’d have to raise a family alone.” -Michelle Obama
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    Sometime I do not understand you by your comments, they are both hard working people but as the woman her career was higher and brough in more money and as a matter of fact if she was still working she would still be making more many then him as the President maybe he is the one who needs to understand what he has in her as well… I am just glad that they both love each other and is trying beyond the egos and BS….

  • chaka1

    Michelle is my hero!

  • A Drop of Wisdom

    I love the photo!

  • eveinthegarden

    Men in general are selfish. They cant help it. If they had to surrender control of their body for 9 months so that another life could come into the world they’d probably understand just how selfish they sound when they talk about THEIR WANTS AND NEEDS. Women know what it means to give up your LIFE for another person. Motherhood dayum near demands it.

  • facingreality

    Such a wasted post – everyone has problems in their marriage yet what should be celebrated is the fact that they are now the First Family, who was able to attain this feat through dedication to education. Michelle is no different than any other woman in wanting financial security and a husband that is more supportive in the home.

    However, it should also be noted that their problems did not consist of anyone committing adultery or having affairs of the heart but what every marriage faces when there is a two career home w/children.

  • VanGogh

    This is old news.

  • resurrected

    eveinthegarden

    Men in general are selfish. They cant help it. If they had to surrender control of their body for 9 months so that another life could come into the world they’d probably understand just how selfish they sound when they talk about THEIR WANTS AND NEEDS. Women know what it means to give up your LIFE for another person. Motherhood dayum near demands it.
    ________________________________________________
    Hey lady good comment but to me selfishness is just an emotions and a feeling that one choose to have it is not madatory for life… To men very rarly mature unless there life demand it but for a woman she can just mature because she sees that is it time for something better to come into her life..

  • PUSSYCATFUN

    THEY ARE HUMAN JUST LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE……GOOD THING THEY HUNG IN THERE!

  • Asada

    and if Obama had not become president, maybe their marriage would not have worked out. I wonder what Michelle is doing now that her mother is able to help with the kids. I know its touch when women have to raise kids and handle a career. Balance is a tricky but necessary thing.

  • lady

    Why was she nagging that man like that? Was she that narrow minded that she could not see the greater goal? Did she not understand his vision? I can’t stand when women have a good man that’s trying to do something positive and all they can do is nag him.

  • resurrected

    lady

    Why was she nagging that man like that? Was she that narrow minded that she could not see the greater goal? Did she not understand his vision? I can’t stand when women have a good man that’s trying to do something positive and all they can do is nag him.
    _______________________________________________

    I woman has rights and feelings as well and she should be able to communicate her issues to her husbad if she needs too without it being labled as nagging… She sould be a big part of who he is today and the position that he was able to achieve… I don’t agree that a woman should hold her issues back just for a man confortability they are a partership not one person needs…

  • WordtotheWise

    How is that nagging? In a relationship, both parties should be on the same page especially with something as big as going into politics, especially being the POTUS. She had children and apparently she didn’t want to be a “single” mother, so how is that nagging. She was discussing with her husband her feelings.

  • WordtotheWise

    My comment was to lady.

    ressurected, I see we are both on the same page. I didn’t even read your comment before I posted. Good points!

  • THE SoSelPHish 1

    NOW… thats some REALITY 4 YO AZZ

  • DISTURBIA

    People pleeze, Michelle did good to get Obama because he is the looker in that family. If she did not have that education and position, he would have looked twice at her. He had an agenda and she fit because he knew career wise what he wanted to do. Michelle wasn’t going anywhere, she as hooked on the light skinned man and he needed a wife he didn’t have to worry about so he didn’t get a Halle Berry. He wanted all the attention for himself.

  • So Savvy

    y does this keep comming up??? THEY ARE HUMAN! THINGS LIKE THIS HAPPEN IN RELATIONSHIPS!!! LET IT GO!

  • Helluvagood

    Got to love them ………………..

  • Ladylumps

    I love this. See here is a President and First Lady that everybody can relate too. Damn, did that just make you say, damn….. I felt that way too.

    The Obama’s are just TOO REAL I LOVE THEM.

  • Hannibals Dad

    EVERY DAY PEOPLE

  • Shanelle

    Tru dat.

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