Question of the Day: Why Are Successful Black Women Still Single???

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coi

9/28/09, 12:00:pm

oprah has said she doesnt want to get married before…marriage isnt for everyone.



Angee

9/28/09, 12:01:pm

I will let the Bossip family tackle this!



rose by any other name

9/28/09, 12:01:pm

Simple answer because most black men are intimidated by women like Oprah and white women marry at the drop of a baseball cap, they need to be validated and black women have more confidence then to settle for the first thing that comes along .. thats why~~!



Nique

9/28/09, 12:06:pm

Because of their attitudes! Honestly ALOT of black women have attitudes and it doesnt matter what level of education they recieve. I think the word submit is such a bad word, but its something that has to happen. It doesnt matter what degree you have, you are not the man in the relatonship. Let the man be a man , and you are the woman but we cant be both. Until we learn to understand that-this trend is going to continue.



Minority Report

9/28/09, 12:06:pm

I think Coi raised a very valid point. I know quite a number of successful black women who have partners but do not want to get married.



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 12:09:pm

Who needs a ***** when you’ve got a BILLION DOLLARS?



RALPH/LAUREN

9/28/09, 12:09:pm

THEIR STANDARDS ARE TOO HIGH.ALL THEY WORRY ABOUT IS WHAT THE NEXT PERSON IS GOING TO DO FOR THEIR SUCCESSFUL SELFISH SELVES.THEY FAIL TO REALIZE RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT GIVING AND EXPLORING AND FINDING YOUR WAY.THEY DON’T KNOW YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE UNTILL YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED RELATIONSHIP DRAMA THE MAKE-UP AND BREAK UPS.THEY THINK IT’S SUSPOSED TO BE ALL GOOD AND REALLY THEY ARE BORING THEMSELVES AND THE PEOPLE THEY DATE TO DEF.



redcora

9/28/09, 12:09:pm

only 33% of Black Women are married.. I’m gonna start looking outside my race for a man… oooppsss too late



Miss B

9/28/09, 12:09:pm

I agree, marriage isn’t for everyone.

Some females aren’t cut out for the wife role. Nothing is wrong with that.



lala land

9/28/09, 12:10:pm

marriage isnt for everyone, and as far as black women are concerned, there is no one reason why so many are not married. Were NOT all the same!!!!



Miss B

9/28/09, 12:12:pm

Some women see relationships as drama & rather not get into it. They are comfortable & satisfied (maybe even selfish) with the way their lives are now.

I don’t knock Oprah.

@Redcora….
I feel you on looking into other races.



Miss Kesha86

9/28/09, 12:14:pm

There are more black men in jail than there are in college. That’s a sad reality.

I don’t know why educated black women would rather date low-educated black men just because they’re black. Date outside your race! Brothers have been doing it for years, I don’t understand why black women are so hesitant to date white, Asian and Hispanic men.

The number of educated, successful black men is low. Don’t settle for less just because their skin is brown. I’m from Oregon and all there is up there is white guys and when I went to college there, I dated a few. Wasn’t bad at all.

I’m just sayin….



THE TRUTH _ Pretty brown eyes

9/28/09, 12:14:pm

I THINK IT HAS A LOT TO DO WITH MEN BEING INTIMIDATED BY A SUCESSFUL BLACK WOMEN. THE ONLY DEFENSE MEN HAVE IS OH SHE’S STUCK UP WHEN THEY FEEL LIKE THEY CAN’T MEASURE UP.



Old Timer

9/28/09, 12:14:pm

Unbought_and_Unafraid

Who needs a ***** when you’ve got a BILLION DOLLARS
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LOL!!! I’ll take the billion anyday and anyway!!!

Honestly, there’s nothing that a man can do for you that a woman can’t buy with a lot less h*****le.



holla

9/28/09, 12:17:pm

before that argument goes any further…kill that ***** at once. Aint *****ody intimidated by a chick having money. She got money…err ok and? Nope its because most white chicks grew up with money so its nothing. Black women with money usually made the best out of a bad situation (poverty) so they value money more but alot more use it as a bargaining tool in their relationship. When they argue, you get the frequent…i dont kwow why i’m with your broke azz anyways, i make more money and dont needs 2 b takin care of no man. This time, the dude aint broke at all, he just aint making as much as she is so she uses that to belittle him. White chicks just cry and scream and break ish and tell u how much they hate u and blah blah….black chicks go for the your male ego. Its harder on black males than white males because in most poor black neighrbourhoods, all you have is your image and you value that so for a woman to take that away from you..she takes just about everything that u hold dear to you as a man. Aint *****ody intimidated by no trick having money. She got money then that’s great so i could look to make something better for us with the little i got and she can save hers so even if we dont work. She still has hers and i am making the best of what i can with mine. Its a pro not a con so that intimidation talk is BS



DR.FUNK

9/28/09, 12:18:pm

Sure…White girls get married at a higher clip.They also get DIVORCED at a higher clip.Net result: Pretty much the same as sista’s.This ‘aint no “disproportional negativity” on Black women scenario.
This story speaks more to GENDER than RACE anyway.Men of all colors have come to realize the pure folly of locking into this foul institution.(marriage)



Sepia830

9/28/09, 12:20:pm

Because the ones with pride and self-esteem aren’t willing to settle for the bull***** that’s out there. Black men have waaaay too much drama (too many kids/baby mamas, f’d up credit, unemployment, criminal record, f’d up priorities, etc.). Of course this isn’t true of EVERY black man–only about 95% of them. I encourage sisters to cross over because the odds are much better.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 12:20:pm

I think part of the reason is women give up the ***** too easy these days. Its damn shame a chick be willin’ to give it up just because you brought em’ and value meal from Wendy’s…smh



Charvon83

9/28/09, 12:21:pm

Sucessful weomen are not single, they lots of men they are just on green backs, they dont cheat,talk back,argue or ***** up in any way. Who wants to deal with the drama.

SOPHIA DON’T COUNT SHE IS GAY!



Miss Kesha86

9/28/09, 12:23:pm

Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

I think part of the reason is women give up the ***** too easy these days. Its damn shame a chick be willin’ to give it up just because you brought em’ and value meal from Wendy’s…smh
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ROFL



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 12:24:pm

@ RALPH/LAUREN Good point. As you can see black women are still in denial about this subject. When black women become successful there standards suddenly increase and they want a Denzel type (perfect man according to them)Meanwhile they think negative thoughts about a regular hard working man. They have real *****ty attitudes and in reality dudes aren’t checking for them. Thats why a guy like Lamar Odom chose C. Kardashian over one of them. They really are not happy being single, it’s just a front for their own insecurities. This is their MANTRA-What’s mine is mine and whats yours should be mine. Give me a poor woman who loves me for me, over one who only considers material things as a barometer of success.



trs

9/28/09, 12:28:pm

Who needs a ***** when you’ve got a BILLION DOLLARS?
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*looks around the room nervously*

*Raises hand!*



Aunt Viv

9/28/09, 12:28:pm

Y’all got this from the NPR article a few weeks ago.

I agree with the sista in the article who said that successful black women need to redefine their ideal partner, as there are plenty of prospects out there, we just need to be more open.

We are the only race of women who are ingrained with the thinking that we need to accept the real possibility that we may end up unmarried, especially if we have achieved a certain level of success. I personally think that’s sad. I agree that marriage may not be for everyone, but for many of us who want to get married, I have a problem with being preached to that it’s OK if it doesn’t happen. I don’t know, I’m engaged so it doesn’t affect me, but so many of my successful sista friends have that mindset that now that we’re in our 30s and have good jobs and MBAs we should just forget about ever finding a man. If we expand our options, we can increase our odds, and decrease the likelihood of being successful baby mammas.



Too short

9/28/09, 12:28:pm

@ NIQUE, I am biting my dam fingers off, not wanting to type this, But you are right, listen i have been married for a long time, and I would have to say i refuese to submitt, its a hard thing, THe man should be the man, but at the same time I was refusing to lose myself in submitting, its easy to say but it has to be done, I am still struggling with that, but see i have a good man that is willing to stick around to the good and bad, and our bad is me submitting, Lawd have mercy on me, LOL. But you are so right.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 12:29:pm

I dont beleive this research. Every case is different however the more a woman/man is involved with their carrer, especially if you on Billionaire status, the less time you have for a love life.



STEFANY

9/28/09, 12:32:pm

Most successful women are more secure and have the luxury to be pickey when it comes to a man..When a women is successful, wealthy and has a great career, having a man is not a top priorty..And with a thriving career some women are simply too busy to be worried about a man..You can always get a hook up if you want some *****.



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 12:33:pm

Sorry Sisters white, hispanic, asian, russian african men aren’t checking that much for you. They already know about the strong black woman syndrome. You better try to get the brothers to come back home, because your losing the race big time.



theone2

9/28/09, 12:33:pm

thing is most white men are use to white women being nice and no attitude and negativity everytime so they are reluctant to date black women. so even if some black women go outside their race they are not guaranteed successs.



SHe'sAfugginLADDI

9/28/09, 12:35:pm

WHEN UR EDUCATED, ITS JUST SOMETHING ABOUT UR PERSONA THAT CHANGES…ITS LIKE UR ESTEEM IS HIGHER AND U HAVE A BETTER SENSE OF SELF WORTH..U KNOW THAT JUST ANY OLE MAN WONT DO..AS A YOUNG BLACK FEMALE THAT’S IN SCHOOL RIGHT NOW, IM BLESSED TO HAVE FOUND MY FUTURE HUSBAND..A SMART AND EDUCATED BLACK MAN THAT TREATS ME LIKE A QUEEN..AND I FOUND HIM THROUGH PRAYER AND MY BELIEF THAT GOD WANTS ME TO HAVE A PARTNER THAT IS MY EQUAL IN MENTALITY AND SUCCESS…I CAN TALK TO THIS MAN ABOUT DEEP *****..RELIGIONS OF THE WORLD, ANCIENT TIMES IN HUMANITY, CONSPIRACY THEORY, ETC..I CONSIDER HIM MY KING, JUST AS I AM HIS QUEEN..AND WHEN U ARE TRYING TO MAKE SOMETHING OF URSELF, YOU HAVE TO SWALLOW THAT BIG ***** EGO AND REALIZE THAT UR SIGNIFICANT OTHER HAS A PURPOSE FOR BEING WITH YOU..DONT DEGRADE THEM, UPLIFT THEM..AND SOME OF THESE SUCCESSFUL BLACK WOMEN DONT UNDERSTAND THAT..THERE ARE SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN THAT WANT A POWERFUL BLK WOMAN..ITS JUST THAT THIS INDEPENDENT WOMAN BULL***** IS CREATING SOME *****ED UP MENTALITIES..



Miss Kesha86

9/28/09, 12:35:pm

Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

Sorry Sisters white, hispanic, asian, russian african men aren’t checking that much for you. They already know about the strong black woman syndrome. You better try to get the brothers to come back home, because your losing the race big time.
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Ha! Tell that to my boyfriend. The attitude you have about black women is sickening. Must be personal, lol.



Catty*****

9/28/09, 12:35:pm

The problem with many black women is they’re too damn snotty and uppity about their education, thinking that because they have two master’s degrees they are automatically wife material and every black man should kiss their ***** and be grateful to be in their presence. These same women are the ones who ***** and moan when black men marry white and latina women.These same women will then claim they can’t find a good black man because they’re “intimidated by my success” or “they can’t handle a strong woman”. Men want a woman who is going to be caring, supportive, loving, loyal and easy to get along with not someone who is constantly telling them “I don’t need you, I’ve got my own *****”. Being able to take care of yourself is great, but if you’re making a man feel like he has nothing to offer, then he isn’t going to stick around.



JANITATION

9/28/09, 12:36:pm

Back women have attitude problems.. They don’t know how to treat black men because they don’t know there fathers. They learn how to treat black men frow other women how don’t have a successful relationship either. Bottom line if you don’t have a good relationship with your first man..your dad.. then *****ody else stands a chance!!!



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 12:37:pm

@ STEFANY Getting ***** wont bring happiness to you just like getting ***** dosn’t bring happiness to a man. All it does is take care of a temporary need. Life cannot be as fulfilling when you dont have someone to share it with. STOP FOOLING YOURSELVES!



AllRightNow

9/28/09, 12:37:pm

LO and KK dated about a month before he decided to give her his heart bank account – (no pre-nup). I’m hoping its true love that will last a lifetime, but what’s the likelihood? They learned from their mama to never settle for less than a celebrity or someone bringing in the big bucks. No matter what they have to put out there to get it. SHAME, SHAME!!!!



Miss Kesha86

9/28/09, 12:39:pm

Aunt Viv

Y’all got this from the NPR article a few weeks ago.

I agree with the sista in the article who said that successful black women need to redefine their ideal partner, as there are plenty of prospects out there, we just need to be more open.

We are the only race of women who are ingrained with the thinking that we need to accept the real possibility that we may end up unmarried, especially if we have achieved a certain level of success. I personally think that’s sad. I agree that marriage may not be for everyone, but for many of us who want to get married, I have a problem with being preached to that it’s OK if it doesn’t happen. I don’t know, I’m engaged so it doesn’t affect me, but so many of my successful sista friends have that mindset that now that we’re in our 30s and have good jobs and MBAs we should just forget about ever finding a man. If we expand our options, we can increase our odds, and decrease the likelihood of being successful baby mammas.
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Totally agree, especially about the last few sentences.



pooh

9/28/09, 12:40:pm

Black women are confused… They would rather hang out with their girlfriends, instead of trying to make a meaningful relationship… And they are very materialistic, they value Gucci more than they would value a marriage…



JANITATION

9/28/09, 12:41:pm

Black women are way to big!! *****ody wants to marry a fat chick!! I don’t care how smart she is!! How are black men going to respect black women when they disrespect themselves by eating and talking to much!!!



dayg715

9/28/09, 12:41:pm

it’s because when black women get money and success, they get a chip on their shoulders and forget that they’re women, and start treating their men like children. and NO man, no matter what race, likes to be treated like that.



RALPH/LAUREN

9/28/09, 12:42:pm

ANOTHER IMPORTANT THING IS A MAN DON’T CARE IF YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL OR NOT.MEN KEEP P*****ING THEM RIGHT ON BY.WHEN YOUR SUCCESS IS THE ONLY THING YOU CAN BRING TO THE TABLE IMAGINE ALL THE OTHER THING AN AVERAGE WOMAN HAS TO OFFER NOT TO MENTION THE FREAKS.TRU ENOUGH A MAN WANT’S A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN OR MABEY HE DON’T WE ARE TALKING ABOUT A MAN HERE.SO IF ALL YOU CAN DO IS STICK YOUR NOSE AND SUCCESS IN THE AIR THE AVERAGE WOMAN IS GOING TO DO A MAN JUST FINE.SO SUCCESSFUL’S GET USE TO YOUR BORING LIVES WITH THE PERFECT MAN SMH-SUCCESSFUL IN THIS CASE TO ME MEAN NOT SUCCESSFUL BUT “SUCCESSFUL S*****S” ANY MAN WILL TAKE A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN BUT WE KNOW “SUCCESSFUL S*****S”



num1dominicano

9/28/09, 12:42:pm

because successful ones have the same smart mouth as the unsuccessful ones……



Txhustla15

9/28/09, 12:42:pm

So how is a small segment of what was likely a larger paper or thesis indicative of something one way or the other. Especially when there are no statistics to back this *****ertion up one way or the other. In Oprah’s case anyone male or female in that financial position- why would they risk that empire with some potential challenge in divorce court, im sure that is common practice among anyone else that that has that amount of capital on their hands…



GoodKarma4Me

9/28/09, 12:44:pm

Well if u are as rich as Oprah it is gonna be pretty difficult to find someone on your financial level. Who wants to marry someone who makes less, then steals ur money or divorce you and you have to pay him spousal support. Shoot I will be single to.



Oh Well...

9/28/09, 12:44:pm

maybe because THEY WANT TO BE SINGLE. damn this is 2009 NOT 1809 where a woman HAS to get married.



TM30

9/28/09, 12:45:pm

Here’s my take, it’s a combination of things. Many are single because it’s their choice, plain and simply, marriage and a family isn’t for everyone. I never understood why people refused to have children until I had my own. A lot goes into making a marriage and family work. So if someone refuses to have either, I completely understand. Some women have given up while other continue to attract the wrong men and then there are some who are or were trifling and the past is catching up.



STEFANY

9/28/09, 12:46:pm

Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

@ STEFANY Getting ***** wont bring happiness to you just like getting ***** dosn’t bring happiness to a man. All it does is take care of a temporary need. Life cannot be as fulfilling when you dont have someone to share it with. STOP FOOLING YOURSELVES!
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@Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

I didn’t say that getting ***** was the key to happiness, I was just simply stating that some successfull women are driven and a man is not the most important thing in their life..Marriage isn’t for everyone.



JANITATION

9/28/09, 12:46:pm

If my wife didn’t have her dad in her life..We woulnd’nt have got married. Old single women coaching young single women on what to do with a man.. BLIND LEADING THE BLIND..



Nique

9/28/09, 12:47:pm

@TOO SHORT

I feel you completly. It was extemely hard for me to submit in my relationship because I was raised by a single mother and I couldnt fathom at the time to “let *****ody tell me what to do” But when he kept pointing it out to me, I was like damn, I have to change.I did but it wasnt easy. I still know who I am and he knows as well but at this point its about picking your battles. I have to let him be the man and I the woman, and I realize that if I want to wear the pants in the relationship-I better find me a woman ASAP. LOL. Good luck to you and your marriage-it will all work itself out if you both put in 100%!!!



LBoogie?

9/28/09, 12:47:pm

don’t you mean single by 45?



*****oliscious

9/28/09, 12:48:pm

Getting ***** here and there without love gets played out. I don’t agree with submissiveness but sometimes when people make accomplishments against the odds they have a hard time humbling themselves. You have to be humble and compromise for anyone to be able to stand you.



Old Timer

9/28/09, 12:50:pm

Most successful black women “choose” these things. Not being married is not chosen for them, but they themselves “choose” not to marry.

There are 6.7 billion people on this earth and half of them are men. About 14% percent of them are black. About 450 million in Africa alone. There are plenty of available intelligent men around. There’s no shortage, so don’t hand me that.

Black women need to open up their minds and expand their horizons.

It’s sort of a “convenient excuse” for many successful black women. Having a successful career takes a lot of time and energy. Having a husband and raising a family takes a lot of time and energy too. White men, black men and white women all seem to able to balance it, but I think that many black women DON’T WANT TO!!!

I think the reason is that if a woman can provide for her financial needs, she doesn’t need the h*****les of a husband. As my boss (unmarried and well compensated) tells me there is great freedom and power in calling your own shots in life. When you make your own money, especially a lot of it, there’s no need to want to answer to anyone. You don’t have to share your time, energy or money.

That’s a choice that they make.



drenk

9/28/09, 12:50:pm

you can use statistics to prove anything, 48 % of people researched know that, damn!



tella

9/28/09, 12:50:pm

lol…I’m gonna go far far far on a limb and say it’s a certain tactic used to divide families and create the power struggle in the homes to continue the disharmony and separation they have always wanted.

Plus the systems swallow up the head of the household every chance they get, thus making white men more attractive in their stance in an attempt to water down our royal bloodline.

OR…could we say that it is hard for a successful black woman to find someone compatible at her level of success…most of the time black women are the minority of their work environment and most black men (as natural leaders) can balance success and family where as most black women can’t…it’s a sacrifice women make while climbing the ladder…very little room for distractions…and sometimes that means family, relationships…especially with relationships having the credibility it has now…almost 99% fail.



Pompombay

9/28/09, 12:53:pm

I am a black successful 24 year old woman who is married to a white man. I did not chose to be with him b/c of his skin or his $$ we have chemistry and have a lot in common. What’s that saying? If it’s white then your future is bright oronly thing right is white… Lmao



tella

9/28/09, 12:54:pm

@Old Timer

not that black women don’t want to…but what the options…black men aren’t the most helpful when striving for more…in today’s society some black men are a distraction especially with the games…they’ll go as far as marriage and still will leave on a selfish tip regardless of whatever you’re in pursuit of…



**SEVEN DAYS**

9/28/09, 12:55:pm

everyone is not marriage ready every woman in the bible wasn’t married



Another day

9/28/09, 12:56:pm

I will go with alot of black men are intimidated by successful black women its like they get sick from the thought of someone wondering why is she, with all her brains, beauty, know how, own money messing with this dont care about his credit, 2 and 3 baby mothers, love the ghetto, love the street,love love love jail, cant tell you what exactly is a 401K plan much less have a dental or medical plan, bum like that? It’s easier for him to go get quanda and asia who dont want much out of life either so when she sees him coming he is her god! straight up. It’s a good look to see a sister overcome and do great things with her life what is wrong with that? cant tell me a white woman is better than any of us. speaking of draining, be for real how a man walk’s into a relationship one knowing if he didnt have a dime that person would not think twice about him is obsurd. Guess the only thing sisters can do these days is dumb it down, just a lil bit and not show all they do have so the M-effer will feel he doing something. In Oprahs case she has Gail and thats the end of that period, shouldnt of used her as an example. Whitney said it best when Oprah interviewed her, it does something to a man to know his woman is more than him.



BOOTY JUICE

9/28/09, 12:57:pm

YOU STUPID MOTHER*****ERS DON’T EVEN KNOW THAT SHE’S STILL WITH STEDMAN! DUMB *****ESS GET YOUR ***** RIGHT!



tella

9/28/09, 12:58:pm

@Pompombay

that comment was useless.



JANITATION

9/28/09, 12:58:pm

Black women who don’t marry die alone and unhappy. Money can’t change that. Real love lasts!! Money runs out.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 12:58:pm

There are 6.7 billion people on this earth and half of them are men. About 14% percent of them are black. About 450 million in Africa alone. There are plenty of available intelligent men around. There’s no shortage, so don’t hand me that.
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I think there is a shortage of one black man for every one Black woman…Out of the 450 million Black people in Africa and for that matter America, how many actually suffer from HIV/AIDS? That segment alone can negate the notion of having a family…



holla

9/28/09, 12:59:pm

@ pooh nah man…that aint the type of black chicks they discussin..u talkin abt those who thing they in designer wearing Coogi, Baby Phat and Sean John….nah not those…gotta go more upscale..Think Michael Kors, Nine West an em type *****s….

CO FCKN SIGN @ SHe’sAfugginLADDI

Beyonce got yall fooled with this independent *****, you be independent but u dont walk around with that arrogant ego like u Kanye West…that ish aint cute and gets u no man..like she said, u knw the King is in control but the Queen is still his equal and supports. *****es these days wanna go hard like they got a d!ck, picking and criticizing everything u do and lately like Rihanna hittin n *****. Be a woman, a strong independent one that supports ya man once he is holding is own. A black man in this world is a tough thing to be but with a strong woman by your side…..you can be anything. Race has nothing 2 do with it for me but a black woman more understands a black man’s struggle IMO and thus she caters to him far better than someone else would….this is no means to say stay in ur race but im just saying..Black women provide a bit more to a relationship for a black man IMO….just my view. As for that Billion dollar question, i’d skip that Billion dollars any day for a woman that is worth it because once u find a woman that is ur equal and supports and yall have chemistry an compatability…aint no price on that type of woman right there…a billion dollars would be too little for the love that she would be giving u. Love beats money any day, u get the money live comfortable and die in misery. U get the love, u get experience and someone by ur side through the good and bad and u die a happy, fullfilled person. Its your choice..as bennie man said…Memories dont live like people do, they’ll always member u, whether things are good or bad…its just the memories that you have



lovebaby1117

9/28/09, 12:59:pm

I agree that there are lot of women who choose not to get married. They would rather be single than deal with all the bull***** out here. But its sad because there’s not really alot out here to choose from in the black community. Most black men do suffer from self hate. Its too hard for them to deal with someone who is smart and confident. Its easier to deal with a dumb woman who has no goals and is full of drama.



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9/28/09, 12:59:pm

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ChellBellz

9/28/09, 13:00:pm

Why is Oprah the Posterchild for this? She already said that she and Steadman are happy not getting married. But i do undertstand, the black women marrying outside their educational level. I have come across nothing but men who have no need to go to college, or finish school. It doesn’t get very far from that point, but I feel like Black men don’t want to put up with certain things with women, and black women are that way because of a man did to them in the past. So its always a tricky thing.



ChellBellz

9/28/09, 13:01:pm

Me personally, i’m willing to date any man, who looks good and treats me great, a man who respects god, and his mother…and most important me. That can come in any color, but he still has to be educated.



bb

9/28/09, 13:01:pm

Most successful black women “choose” these things. Not being married is not chosen for them, but they themselves “choose” not to marry.

There are 6.7 billion people on this earth and half of them are men. About 14% percent of them are black. About 450 million in Africa alone. There are plenty of available intelligent men around. There’s no shortage, so don’t hand me that.

Black women need to open up their minds and expand their horizons.

It’s sort of a “convenient excuse” for many successful black women. Having a successful career takes a lot of time and energy. Having a husband and raising a family takes a lot of time and energy too. White men, black men and white women all seem to able to balance it, but I think that many black women DON’T WANT TO!!!

I think the reason is that if a woman can provide for her financial needs, she doesn’t need the h*****les of a husband. As my boss (unmarried and well compensated) tells me there is great freedom and power in calling your own shots in life. When you make your own money, especially a lot of it, there’s no need to want to answer to anyone. You don’t have to share your time, energy or money.

That’s a choice that that they make
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This is completely true

Then after these women build up their wealth they grow old and die and leave everything to their cats



tella

9/28/09, 13:02:pm

Successful black women need a man with:

ambition
stability
little little drama



Old Timer

9/28/09, 13:03:pm

Now, now, boys and girls…….repeat after me,

There is no shortage of black men.
There is no shortage of black men.
There is no shortage of black men.

How do I know? If my mother has had four husbands, there can’t be a shortage. Just can’t be.



JANITATION

9/28/09, 13:03:pm

LOL.. If you can’t stand the heat.. Get a white boy!! Only real black women can handle real black men!! Stop crying and jump ship with your weak *****!! We only want strong black queens!!



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 13:03:pm

tella

lol…I’m gonna go far far far on a limb and say it’s a certain tactic used to divide families and create the power struggle in the homes to continue the disharmony and separation they have always wanted.

Plus the systems swallow up the head of the household every chance they get, thus making white men more attractive in their stance in an attempt to water down our royal bloodline.
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i agree



tella

9/28/09, 13:06:pm

LOL…READ THIS STATISTIC 6.7 BILLI and HALF MEN 14% BLACK 450 MILLI IN AFRICA…

DENIED…TRY RESEARCHING THAT AGAIN, THERE IS NOT AN EQUAL AMOUNT OF GENDER ON EARTH AT ALL!!! half lie and half truth won’t make it a fact, just another opinion.



BK

9/28/09, 13:07:pm

men who dont take the time out to learn what life is all about find it much easier to deal with someone who dont have a clue either. It is sad but true my ex husband loved me a whole lot more when he could tell me whatever he wanted and i believed him fast forward 12 years after his growth was stunted in prison and I learned how to run a home not to mention buy a few he had no use for me. Can you say RESENTED.



koonoomoonooo

9/28/09, 13:07:pm

In a way its self perpetuating. Even if you have a decent successful black woman. you have to spend your life dealing with her single hoe friends and their perception of normal. If there is over a certain percentage of your friends who are single discontented hoes then your marriage will not work.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 13:08:pm

Old Timer

Now, now, boys and girls…….repeat after me,

There is no shortage of black men.
There is no shortage of black men.
There is no shortage of black men.

How do I know? If my mother has had four husbands, there can’t be a shortage. Just can’t be
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four husbands? Is she still married to number 4?



tella

9/28/09, 13:08:pm

@Old Timer…

There may not be a shortage of men but there may be a shortage in good men which is why your mother had to marry four times.

@Tony Redds

what’s up!!!



koonoomoonooo

9/28/09, 13:08:pm

then add to that the fact that this ***** is going int generations now.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 13:09:pm

@tella

Hey sweety, lunch time, resume convo later…



tella

9/28/09, 13:10:pm

@janitation

does handling a REAL black man consist of drama, prison time, or excuses???

Don’t attack, just discuss…like adults would do!!!



TM30

9/28/09, 13:10:pm

After reading some of these posts, I have come to the realization that my understanding of what a marriage is, differs greatly. Marriage is an equal partnership that is based on compromise. No one controls anyone, no one is the boss, and you still have your own individuality. You don’t have to lose yourself. Now, when the kids come, that’s when your priorities really change.

Imo, the reason people demean marriage is because they haven’t found the person they can be open with who shares their belief system. If marriage isn’t for you and you are at peace with that, you wouldn’t focus on the negative when questioned.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:10:pm

I really don’t think that this is a black woman issues… One you have achieved your own level of success then you can make accurate judgment of what you are willing to deal with or not.. When I see successful men, yes they have money but there character is usually lacking a lot… Money is not the base or means of success but to me maturity is… Success black woman are alone because they no longer choose to plan the game of boosting the man ego and dealing with all of his BS and some people don’t want marriage just like some don’t want kids… Labeling people will never solve the answers and really does not change the image of them either… It’s called personal choice and some people have more options and choices then others…As for Oprah she has chosen her singleness ot other people or men…



Old Timer

9/28/09, 13:11:pm

Not everyone’s personality or emotional makeup is made for marriage.

The bottom line is that many successful black women don’t want to have to TAKE CARE OF ANYONE, at least on a full-time permanet basis. They may help take care of their parents or other extended family members, but they don’t want the daily h*****les of a husband and children.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:12:pm

Why does the black woman need to address her attitude and the balc men don’t they will still be in the same household making choices and decision together, which means that both sides need to be mature and considerate of both side needs… As a woman no one wants to get married and have a life with someone that they know is going to act a fool and give less to nothing at all and that is on both sides..



JANITATION

9/28/09, 13:13:pm

Black women don’t cook anymore!! The way to a mans heart is though his stomach!!



tella

9/28/09, 13:16:pm

Then again…black “successful” women being single isn’t something they can answer…WHY DON’T BLACK MEN CHOOSE THEM???

You see when a man finds a wife HE FINDETH A GOOD THING…

It’s not a woman’s place to decide on a union…according to Proverbs 31…so where are you men???



zetalady

9/28/09, 13:17:pm

to the person who said other races aren’t checking for black women???? go to any college campus, bars, professional organizational meetings, clubs, etc. those “other” dudes are bananas for black women. we simply and inexplicably aren’t checking for them. so get your facts straight. we want to marry black men and raise black families while successful black men do not. a lot, perhaps not all, successful and or wealthy black men just seem to feel a white woman on their arm is a status symbol.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:17:pm

STEFANY

Most successful women are more secure and have the luxury to be pickey when it comes to a man..When a women is successful, wealthy and has a great career, having a man is not a top priorty..And with a thriving career some women are simply too busy to be worried about a man..You can always get a hook up if you want some *****.
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These are some true words..



tella

9/28/09, 13:18:pm

@janitation

that sounds like a stereotype…last I checked I cooked last night and this morning…but if that is your experience then say “THE WOMEN I CHOOSE TO BE WITH DON’T COOK AND ARE BLACK” …lol…then I won’t feel the need to defend myself!!!

I still love you bruh!



Old Timer

9/28/09, 13:19:pm

Old Timer

Now, now, boys and girls…….repeat after me,

There is no shortage of black men.
There is no shortage of black men.
There is no shortage of black men.

How do I know? If my mother has had four husbands, there can’t be a shortage. Just can’t be
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four husbands? Is she still married to number 4?
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LOL, She killed the last one off a couple of years ago. All four of them are dead now.

Please don’t make me start laughing and crying at the same time as I discuss my family’s dysfunction!!

You know some people should get the death penalty for having sex.



zetalady

9/28/09, 13:20:pm

another thing, only in black culture are we women taught to aspire for less. so damn sad and pathetic.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:23:pm

Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

Sorry Sisters white, hispanic, asian, russian african men aren’t checking that much for you. They already know about the strong black woman syndrome. You better try to get the brothers to come back home, because your losing the race big time.
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I think when you get into the labeling of other people thoughts you lose yourself most… At the end of the day the only thing that should matter is your own personal goals and values and it is not all in a man opinion and point of view… The world wants black woman to bow down just for the sake of it’s bull***** and we are the only ones left that still exude this strength so we are being attacked very hard…. And still at the end of the day what really matter are your personal golds… Just as I have had men tell me to lose myself for their sake, I have also had men who tell me to stay the way that I am because there will come a man who will love you just as you are… We are not hear to become the image of puppets for anyone else value, now when you are a family person then maybe the terms are different but life is to be lived how you see it and not through other people eyes…



tella

9/28/09, 13:24:pm

something strange just happened



CAT EYES

9/28/09, 13:25:pm

I have successful black female friends that are single and I can honestly say its because although they may have authority at their job,they don’t know how to turn that attitude off when they come home.
I’ll give you an example-I’m a clinical supervisor in the mental health department of a prison.I supervise 17 people on a daily basis,however,when I come home for work,I am not that person,I’m the woman,the wife,the mommy.If the attitudes can’t change according to setting,there will always be problems.You know,submissiveness is not a disease.



Too short

9/28/09, 13:25:pm

Thanks NIQUE, I see we are on the same page, Now as for the Post, There are so many reason a women with money dont marry, And A marriage does not work with both giving 50/50 bth have to give 100/100, why should anyone have to settle for 70/30.



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 13:25:pm

Who needs a ***** when you’ve got a BILLION DOLLARS?
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*looks around the room nervously*

*Raises hand!*

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Believe me little sister, with a billion you could get yourself a “Steadman” —- a damn animated *****.

Money will get you through times of no man, better than a man will get you through times of no money —and I’m a dude, who learned that from some very clever sisters.

Unlike most *****s, I LISTEN to the intelligent women who come into my life.



Skoopes

9/28/09, 13:26:pm

I believe in some aspects, Oprah has derailed women from getting married. Women we can want and expect too much. Life is simple. Find a good man, no matter the education, with a strong head on his shoulders-willing to be upfront and honest with you and move on with your lives. Life is too short, which is why so many of us are unmarried. Yes, you can wait, but the pains won’t be less because you have more education.



tella

9/28/09, 13:26:pm

my other comments speaking on our royal bloodline is being checked for moderation…suspiciously I only said positive words…

the black woman’s strength is one that intimidate every color and sex across the board…who can surp***** it, none but the strength of a black man…who sometimes tears it down!!



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:27:pm

tella

Then again…black “successful” women being single isn’t something they can answer…WHY DON’T BLACK MEN CHOOSE THEM???

You see when a man finds a wife HE FINDETH A GOOD THING…

It’s not a woman’s place to decide on a union…according to Proverbs 31…so where are you men???
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True but it is up to her to accept that person who wants her or not, just because I man wants you does not mean that you want him but marriage is still for two people or am I confused to me men just you to let them make all of the choices but marriage is still about two people…



*****oliscious

9/28/09, 13:27:pm

@ Old Timer – Your mom might not have picked the right men but she certainly has the qualities to seal the deal. Some women are lovable and can make men dream of staying forever.
Other women need a persistent man to get thru the hardcover. Obviously there are not alot of persistent men out there who are willing to wait for the strong self reliant woman to drop the facade and admit she wants to love and be loved. If your guard is up too long the man will bolt.



Ann

9/28/09, 13:28:pm

Because SOME men are afraid of a woman who won’t have to depend on his money. These are the SAME men who like to call ALL women “gold diggers”
A REAL man doesn’t measure his worth by his wallet. And a real woman won’t either. In Oprah’s case, her man makes much less than her and they are fine. it’s OTHER people who insist on measuring Oprah’s man’s worth by what he doesn’t have. BTW, This ugly syndrome does not just hit the Oprah’s of the world. I have many girlfriends who are still single because the men they’ve dated have it in their heads that they are not men unless they are making all the money in the household. It’s pure ugliness and it’s probably ONE the biggest divide in Black male/female relationships.



Niasia

9/28/09, 13:28:pm

Ok so what if we don’t get married…this is 2009. some Women don’t get married. Geez! That is not everyone’s life goal!



Moneygetta

9/28/09, 13:30:pm

I’m an educated black male with a good career (30 yrs old). I can say that we aren’t in short supply. I think alot of black women just set their standards too high and listen to sore women of generations past (most who had problems with men). IMO, it seems as though women who grew up with a positive man/family in their lives are easier to deal with and more accustomed to family life and being with a man. Just like most women beaters grew up in a home where they learned the behavior – black women who are more “family oriented” tend to grow up in functional families.

I think it’s just a learned behavior-



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 13:31:pm

tella

@janitation

does handling a REAL black man consist of drama, prison time, or excuses???

Don’t attack, just discuss…
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Okay, and black women don’t go to jail, have drama or make bogus excuses???? Yeah, right!!! LOL111



Frederick

9/28/09, 13:32:pm

Bossip needs to be more specific

Sucessful Black American women are the ones that remain single



tella

9/28/09, 13:32:pm

another thing is from experience, I am divorced and haven’t remarried (it’s been 2 years)…instead I have gotten a degree and started a nice non-profit org…we’re steadily expanding and I don’t plan on having any commitments because some guys I like want me to need them and as soon as I show them I don’t they run…other guys want to be there 100% but his ambition is comfotable where he’s at…the others are married…or writing me from the pen…wth?



sommer

9/28/09, 13:32:pm

Whoa I could not wait to write this. Let me begin by saying this, brothers are suffering under the illusion that the white woman will treat them better. That they she is not as loud and boastful as the black woman. However I have found that the white woman may be worst than the black woman because when she decides to be bad she is very bad. The same black man will complain that the sisters are acting to strong, however the white woman may start out acting needed to get them however she will eventually show her true colors. Yes we are becoming educated and coming into our own place in society. for years we have stood behind the black man and as soon as he become successful he wants to have a white woman on his arms. He acts like having a strong black woman on his arm is disgusting. However the majority of black men were raised in a single family home by a strong black woman. Have we done something so wrong that you the black man would rather walk all over us than to walk with us. Maybe the real history should be taught in school, the one that teaches how society once viewed the black man as a animal, how towns were destroyed because of the lie of a white woman. Do not think for one moment that the same white woman you proudly have on your arms if she says that you my brother have done something wrong to her would not be believed. Then you will be like kobe or oj wanting the black woman to come to your defense. Yes we will probably stand up for you, but will you stand up for us, I wonder.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:32:pm

I see so many men who talk about the black woman attitude but men talk more ***** then woman… Take my man for example he is always telling me that I have a smart mouth and if words were like razor but he talks more ***** then me, just don’t want to hear it back… If you think that you can do something yourself and then have the right to control other person when you care not to control youself, this won’t work… I have learn how to be quiet more and how to pick my battles but I am going to speak my mine if I feel that I need too because God have giving me that right… To me men what to always control what they don’t control within thereselves… She is your wife not your slave and she had you not the other way around… Men just don’t like to give a woman credit and the black woman is not going to be dunp down for anyone she as deal with her abuse through slavery just like you azz…



Progressive Sista

9/28/09, 13:34:pm

YAWN! I am so tired of this discussion. The reality is Black males will never take responsibility for the fact that a Black woman with degrees who worked HARD to get to where she is wishes to share her life with someone who is EQUALIVALENT to her. Educated Black women are NOT asking for anything different then what educated women of other races are asking. The REAL question is why there are so few financially stable educated well rounded Black men.

Black women need to stop being soloayl to Black males and expand their horizons.



mindslave

9/28/09, 13:36:pm

imagine attempting to debate a serious topic with gossip site posters……………FAIL



Progressive Sista

9/28/09, 13:39:pm

@moneygetta

Stop lying to yourself, educated Black men are absolutely in short supply. Having a family does not mean anything if that family is dysfunctional. A family means there is a man with high moral and principle (no beating, lying or cheating) and a wife who is the same. There is more to a family then just a man being in this house.

Now let me address your issues of standards, I have very little patience for Black men who complain about women with standards. The reality is MOST Black males grow up in an environment where very little is asked of them. Therefore, they live heir entire lives not living up to a standard. Here comes a woman such as myself who have standards and demands them from any man that I date and all of a sudden I become the bad guy. Standards are a GOOD thing and no Black woman should every feel guilty for having them.



tella

9/28/09, 13:40:pm

lol @mindslave

you can still enlighten…leave them something to ponder on…these are your little sistas and brothas



trs

9/28/09, 13:41:pm

@ Unbought and Unfraid

Believe me little sister, with a billion you could get yourself a “Steadman” —- a damn animated *****.

Money will get you through times of no man, better than a man will get you through times of no money —and I’m a dude, who learned that from some very clever sisters.

Unlike most *****s, I LISTEN to the intelligent women who come into my life.

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LOL. I was cutting up in an attempt to counteract the inevitable vitriol that always accompanies a thread of this nature.

“Money will get you through times of no man, better than a man will get you through times of no money —and I’m a dude, who learned that from some very clever sisters.”

This comment was right on point. Oh, and I am glad that you have learned to listen to intelligent sistas. As you said, many men have yet to master this skill.



Nique

9/28/09, 13:42:pm

@TOO SHORT

Yep and thats the problem with alot of relationships. We shouldnt settle for less no matter what. But I do think that marriage has lost its true value-anyone can get married and ppl divorce at the drop of a dime.I understand where some succesful women might hesitate, cause I wouldnt want to give half of what I worked hard for to someone who wasnt in for the long run anyway.



Shay

9/28/09, 13:42:pm

I’m a single black woman, with college degrees, and I work in banking management. Some would say I’m successful but I don’t think I’ve hit all of my goals.

I’m single because I chose to be. My mother and father have been married over 30 years so it’s not that I never had any examples of a stable black couple. My mother was old fashioned and stayed home with us so it’s not that I don’t know my place as a woman or how to take care of a man and family. I don’t hate men and I’m not attracted to women (i’ve been accused of being gay). I don’t see myself as selfish I’m very giving of my time to family and friends. I’ve never been told that I have an attitude. I’ve been told by black men who only date white women that they are surprised that I don’t fit the sterotype they have prejudged on us. So no I don’t think I have an attitude problem. One problem I do have is that I am fiercely independent. I hate to ask others for help but that’s of anyone not just men. I don’t think I’ll be single forever eventually I’ll slow down. I just don’t think there is a cookie-cutter answer to this topic.



tella

9/28/09, 13:42:pm

@Progressive Sista

applause…thanks for spelling that out for some.



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 13:43:pm

@ Miss Kesha86 Hold up girlfriend. I am one of those successful black men. Married to a successful black woman. I am already established, not trying to make it happen. I am simply attempting to make the point that the strong sister, strong black woman sydrome does more harm than good. Besides that your white boyfriend can have you; because you look like Tiffany.(I Love New York)



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:43:pm

Progressive Sista

I hear ya sister and your worth should never be base on another person label of you after all they put no time in creating you or raising you but they want for you to change everything for there lack of character…



Just Sayin

9/28/09, 13:44:pm

You have to be equally yoked in all your relationships, I agree with someone above who says if you are married and want to stay that way and continue to grow you cant hang around signle women whose views and perceptions are something else because if they are out there whoring and carrying on the only reason they coming around you and your happy home is to see the cracks and find a way in, Same for men if he got a family and all his boyz dont, what do you think guys night out is gonna be about? nothing wrong with looking but they will be in his ear about how wonderful it is out there while they either burning, valtrexing, 2 antibotics a day calling dr in the morning or wearing dirty draws with no food in the crib. There is nothin worse than the chick who tries to convince herself by telling others.. she is the one in control and she is getting the better end of the deal because she knows all. I spit at them. You rarely would find a very successful woman tricking with someone elses spouse for what? she will even buy her own toy (seriously) its usually the ones that dont have nothing that need anybody to come along and throw em a bone to suck on so they can feel relevant. how sad.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:45:pm

Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

I am simply attempting to make the point that the strong sister, strong black woman sydrome does more harm than good.
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So a weaker woman would work for you over a strong one?



smarter than you

9/28/09, 13:46:pm

I love black women,some of them just need to take the attitude down a bit and stop telling men that they dont need them every other day….



tella

9/28/09, 13:46:pm

Standards are there to exclude the weak, the lazy, or the mentally enslaved for me…not many can meet them but not every man is supposed to be for me either…I have never met a man who spelled out his ideal woman and I tell him “your expectations are too high”…that is so not a good look when a man tells you to your face that you have set a standard HE CAN NOT MEET in different wording of course.



Six-footer chick

9/28/09, 13:47:pm

When the hell did Oprah become the poster child for all black women? I personally don’t aspire to be like her.



Why are black women single?

9/28/09, 13:47:pm

Garden variety

-Some women are single is because of their religion. Some of the men to have sex before marriage, and some women don’t. Some women do not want ‘friends’, or to ‘kick it’; they want a ‘godly’ husband. A ‘hook up’ for sex can also be one for unwanted pregnancies, and STDs.
-There are some men who have absolutely no idea how to date! The concept of taking a lady to a nice restaurant is replaced with a guy wanting to ‘kick it’ which translates to sex without no marriage.
-There are men who really do not deserve a woman. Why? Because they love to p***** out free samples of STDs to every woman (and some men) they meet, and in doing so, they manufacture kids they refuse to support. Some of these men have serious anger issues and feel they need to control women by physical force. Some of these men cannot hold out a full time job.
-Some of these men all ready HAVE a woman. (This falls under the third reason)
-Some of these men are homosexual.
-Even though marriage is a blessing-being single is a blessing, too.
-Some men are intimidated by succesful women. This is why some men resort to abusing women.
-Maybe because women who are asuccessful value money more than a relationship; or have had a relationship and it got them no where, so why go through that again?
-Some black women make the mistake of only wanting to date black men when they should be opened minded to find love in any man-regardless of race.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:48:pm

Just Sayin

Men rarely drop there no good friend and they spread more hate then the woman… Always trying to get the married man to go out and get more woman… I do think that married people should hang around married friends…



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 13:49:pm

Let’s really get the ***** started:

The “Y” chromosome has been deteriorating — some say it’s doomed. Men have XY chromosomes, women XX chromosomes.

So maybe black men are just on the “bleeding edge” — self destruction before nature destroys all men — not just black men.

That would explain why every damn fine woman that I have seen in the club in Philly for the last month is in a she-she relationship: why bother with something that’s doomed for extinction.



Big titi white girl

9/28/09, 13:50:pm

You broads don’t want to submit to your men. Swallow that pride and a whole lot of *****. Oprah got some big country titays and money. Brothas was trying but u hoes wanna wear the pants in the family. pUH LEASE!



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:50:pm

smarter than you

I love black women,some of them just need to take the attitude down a bit and stop telling men that they dont need them every other day….
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Thanks for the love but men tell woman that they don’t need them even day by the things that they do and by the way that they cheat and destroy there families… Woman need to face there issues but why do black men always act as if they don’t need to be checked on there actions and ways… Everyone can use some correction..



Gimmeabreak78

9/28/09, 13:50:pm

Bossip, I’m sure you mean that black women are twice as likely to remain SINGLE as white women with the same educational background, not married. Who needs editing anyway?



ElCapitan

9/28/09, 13:51:pm

@Nique

“Because of their attitudes! Honestly ALOT of black women have attitudes and it doesnt matter what level of education they recieve. I think the word submit is such a bad word, but its something that has to happen. It doesnt matter what degree you have, you are not the man in the relatonship. Let the man be a man , and you are the woman but we cant be both. Until we learn to understand that-this trend is going to continue.”

I completely agree with you as well as the majority of you. Black successful women, in fact black women as a whole are just too damn *****ing fussy. They have unrealistic standards and just want someone to walk over and control.
***** YOU W*****S!!!
CHOKE ON A HORSE *****



tella

9/28/09, 13:53:pm

Men can be just as materialistic as women if not more…

I roll up to the gas station this morning and a fella wanna holla when I step out the ride…but dude is looking like he’s on his way to a concert while I’m looking like I’m on my way to a seminar…um…excuse me why do you think we’re compatible???



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 13:53:pm

@Mis Kesha,

You are wrong. There arent more black men in jail than there are in college and let the record show that not only do black females date below thier education even when they date IR.



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:54:pm

Big titi white girl

You broads don’t want to submit to your men. Swallow that pride and a whole lot of *****. Oprah got some big country titays and money. Brothas was trying but u hoes wanna wear the pants in the family. pUH LEASE!
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This is some BS, submitting and swallowing ***** huh keeps him home or being a ***** that devalues you keep him home… I have rarely seen either one of those methods workd because with men woman standards and opinion don’t matter, just there P***Y is what they often show me…



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 13:54:pm

Progressive Sista

YAWN! I am so tired of this discussion. The reality is Black males will never take responsibility for the fact that a Black woman with degrees who worked HARD to get to where she is wishes to share her life with someone who is EQUALIVALENT to her. Educated Black women are NOT asking for anything different then what educated women of other races are asking. The REAL question is why there are so few financially stable educated well rounded Black men.

Black women need to stop being soloayl to Black males and expand their horizons.
___________________________________________________

Actually, what you say isn’t true…I am a 30 year old man, I make pretty good money as an Engineer, I’m single, I own my own place, and I date all kinds of women…The issue lies in the fact that a lot of single black women feel as though when they meet someone that isn’t as intellectually equal to them they feel as though that person is beneath them…I was going to school while I was in the Navy, and I’d meet women who were established, but when they found out I WAS MILITARY, they treated me as if I had the plague!! Now that I’m making money, I GET ALL KINDS OF GIRLS who tryand holler, but I have been going out with the same girl for the last couple of years….Now will I eventually marry her?? I don’t know, but I do know she was with me when I wasn’t doing so well, so she definitely gets primary consideration….The other thing is, Women who are secure, will often throw, “I don’t need your broke *****”, “*****, I make more than you” Or a whole host of other things women say in the heat of anger, but my question is this: “If you don’t need a man, then why get one in the first place?? Or better yet, can your money keep you warm at night? Take care of you when you are sick, or hold and comfort you through a bad time??? Or maybe you should also remember that if you ever lose all of your money, what would you do if your money was what defined you??? Priorities, ladies…Priorities….And don’t get me wrong, if you can’t fine a good black man, by all means date other races, but just make sure that you are with that person because they are a good person and mot just because they are a different race……

SINCERELY,

DAYWALKER



trs

9/28/09, 13:55:pm

@ Unbought and Unafraid

The “Y” chromosome has been deteriorating — some say it’s doomed.
———————————————-

That’s an interesting perspective that I am unfamiliar with…

Do you mind expounding on this subject?



resurrected

9/28/09, 13:55:pm

ElCapitan

So do men have unrealistic standards as well because men are not perfect and often feel as if they need no coaching or checking to me this is not realistic…



Why are black women single?

9/28/09, 13:56:pm

Some of you all have WAY TOO MUCH HOSTILITY. It’s just a darn discussion. Chill out.



enkogkneegro ( Uncle E...if you like )

9/28/09, 13:56:pm

The myth that black men are intimidated by strong black successful women is just that a myth, just like these women who go on talk shows and say men are intimidated by their beauty…..however the deeper the host goes into their preferences it becomes more and more clear that the issues lie with them in most cases and not anyone being intimidated but rather turned off by their bull*****…..same thing here…scared of strong successful black women….please find another anthem because that ***** is so tired….



WhatyoMommaSay

9/28/09, 13:57:pm

Water seeks its own level!!!!!!!!!!!

Women and men in successful marriages are on the same page.

Financially, Intellectually, and Socially
the same. I have seen many a woman destroy her position by showing up at a company function with a man dressed like a toddler, who can not put a sentence together and arrogant as the CEO. This calls into the woman’s judgment as gets her fired.

Men are stronger than women!!!!!!!!!!

This means as strong as a sister can be MEN are suppose to be STRONGER. A very strong black women make feminine by her husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOU FOOLS



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 13:57:pm

try and…..mot=not*



Romy

9/28/09, 13:58:pm

They’re alone because they like to dominate. Some think they can control the relationship like they control their workplace. They’re also alone because a lot of them don’t have the proper examples of what a healthy relationship between two black people is like. A lot of black women didn’t have good father figures and have crazy expectations of the men they meet. From my experience, black women who were raised with a mother and father in the house are easier to be around because they know what a real man is.



Shay

9/28/09, 13:59:pm

Stop responding to idiots…

This isn’t a conversation fit for everyone. Let the kids sit on the sidelines.



Why are black women single?

9/28/09, 14:00:pm

Let’s change something: Real black men LOVE real black women. It’s the *****Z who are intimidated by successful black women, and vice versa. women are *****z, too.
Not all men who been to jail are *****z
Not all women are gold digging hoes…



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 14:00:pm

@trs
++++++

Go to Google and run this search (I tried to give you a direct link but bull***** Bossip flagged it)

“y chromosome shrinking”

There are lots of articls on the topic.



tella

9/28/09, 14:00:pm

@WHATYOMOMMASAY

AGREED



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:01:pm

I think that best answer is to just your time until you know yourself which is the first person that you need to know… It too much trying to conform yourself into a image that most people will never identify for yourself…I still want a man to be in my life but not at the point of lose my own strength and confidence… I want a man who understand the scarific that is need in a marriage which is required from both sides… I do want a man who know God because at least I know that he will listen and take advice from someone else if not me… A man whp prays takes the time to think properly and who cares about his family environment as well as himself…



KMB926

9/28/09, 14:02:pm

Omg I’m so tired of the generalizations being shoved down society’s throats by the media. Most black women this, Most black men that. How about it depends on the circles you move in, the community your were raised in? That determines the different scenarios one sees. No, we’re not losing Black men to other races as Black men aren’t losing Black women to other races. I can count on two hands how many black couples I’ve known that have gotten married in the past two years. Maybe I’m living in another world because I don’t see these generalizations that this article speaks of except on internet sites and the media. It’s like this country feeds off the negative bull***** between black men and women. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!!! STOP FEEDING INTO THIS! Our race is becoming more successful everyday. Look how much we’ve accomplished over the past hundred years. Let’s continue to focus on our success instead of meaningless stereotypes and generalizations!



ElCapitan

9/28/09, 14:02:pm

ressurected,
No men don’t have unrealistic standards. You black w*****s are just too difficult and demanding.



tella

9/28/09, 14:03:pm

wow Bossip for real…You’re gonna MODERATE my most uplifting comments on black families and unity…not one but three different comments…

this ***** is ran by white folks this ain’t no black celebrity gossip, this ***** is gather up black folks to judge and demean other black folks…

to hell with this garbage



chad

9/28/09, 14:04:pm

sepia shut the ***** up most women cant accept a man where he’s at if a man is not working but is looking for work then you should support him in his efforts to find work and dont hold it over his head or throw it in his face that hes not working i broke up with a girl last night because she held the fact that im not working but im looking for work over my head im glad i did because if you cant love me when im struggling how in the hell can you love me when im prospering chew on that



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:04:pm

Romy

They’re alone because they like to dominate. Some think they can control the relationship like they control their workplace. They’re also alone because a lot of them don’t have the proper examples of what a healthy relationship between two black people is like. A lot of black women didn’t have good father figures and have crazy expectations of the men they meet. From my experience, black women who were raised with a mother and father in the house are easier to be around because they know what a real man is.
__________________________________________________

This is very true and if you have lived in a single parent enviroment after all of these years you might not trust a man truth in a couple of days… Real question does he have the patience to show her different just like we have to have the patience for a man to mature…



trs

9/28/09, 14:05:pm

@ Unbought and Unfraid

I am going to do just that. Thank you!

So your position is that because the Y chromosome is shrinking, men are genetically unable to live up to their responsibilities (which include raising families)?

Now I am not trying to argue with you. I am just trying to understand where you are coming from.



Shay

9/28/09, 14:06:pm

@tella

They may have an auto moderation on comments that have cussing or seem like it has ad *****ing.



dismymoney

9/28/09, 14:06:pm

I’m sorry but, IMO, marriage is bull*****. I take responsibility for me and I KNOW that I am NOT the type to get married. My friends who are/were married say the same thing: It’s hard work. You get off work then you go home and do MORE WORK, just on the marriage. It doesn’t flourish by itself.

Also, I don’t “share” very well. Share debt, bed, closet *****e, food and friends – uh-uh. Ask your partner “may I buy this” or “let’s discuss that”? Seeing that person all day, everyday (unless someone has a job abroad)? Agreeing on toothpaste and orange juice? NO! Sorry. I’d love to be in a relationship but not locked up, ball and chain.



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 14:07:pm

@ Progressive Sista- I see no wedding bells in your future. Since you have such high standards, I guess that also means no kidds. Such is life!



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:07:pm

WhatyoMommaSay

Water seeks its own level!!!!!!!!!!!

Women and men in successful marriages are on the same page.

Financially, Intellectually, and Socially
the same. I have seen many a woman destroy her position by showing up at a company function with a man dressed like a toddler, who can not put a sentence together and arrogant as the CEO. This calls into the woman’s judgment as gets her fired.

Men are stronger than women!!!!!!!!!!

This means as strong as a sister can be MEN are suppose to be STRONGER. A very strong black women make feminine by her husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOU FOOLS
_________________________________________________

Well some woman have never seen a man be strong but they have seen there mother and sister be strong but no men so what else is she suppose to believe? Men understand this dynamic but still of children not being raised in there present but still they hold the uninformed sister responsibile when they are a big part of not being around… I think this is very crazy logic…



rose by any other name

9/28/09, 14:07:pm

i am so sick of this white women are more nicer and they dont fuss and are not smart mouth, ok black men , cheat on that white woman , dont take care of your kid by her , leave her at home while you go walk the mall holding hands with some other chick handing you money and lets see how nice that white woman ends up being> i have seen some loud mouth , fat smart mouthed ***** white women who have no cl***** at all.. stop lumping all in one group.. white folks take up for their even their skanks, blacks folks dog their own out~~~ even pretty white ***** dumpster knows that~!!LOL!!



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:08:pm

ElCapitan

ressurected,
No men don’t have unrealistic standards. You black w*****s are just too difficult and demanding.
________________________________________________

Ok on that note you are not worth talking too or listen too…. And this is an example of a *****ed up attitude as well that don’t need anymore attention…



shoew*****sneedluv2

9/28/09, 14:08:pm

*blank stare* there’s a saying about how it’s better to *****umed ignorant than to open your mouth and erase all doubt.. some of you really shoud heed that sage advice… The only thing all black women have in common is being black women.. so save all the onesense about OUR collective bad attitudes… I have some white friends who don’t believe in bs and will a man on it in a minute.. and I have some black friends who put the door in door mat.

Happiness comes in loving who you are and you can’t find a life partner to love you until you love yourself… to the IDIOT who said other races of men don’t want us… u suffer from small man syndrome… slave owners wanted us so badly they moved us into the house so they could have 24/7 access…

Seriously though love does not come in a color… open your mind, free your soul and u’ll find love



tella

9/28/09, 14:09:pm

@shay

yeah that too, but this is owned by whites…trust!

it’s too coincidental that they have never moderated other garbage…I can get away with cussing but when I educate and speak optimistic on the “royal bloodline” and the patterns of history…it needs moderation…



tella

9/28/09, 14:10:pm

Everytime I talk history I need moderation…it just won’t go thru???



Kami All Day (Haters give me Promo.....)

9/28/09, 14:10:pm

@Miss Kesha86:

I dont mean to burst your bubble, but that is not true. Those are statistics that give us to make us believe that.

Of course whatever numbers you bring up will fall on deaf ears; however, hearing this “cliched” and incorrect statement for so long will make people adhere to it.

Dont believe the hype.

Besides, if they are “good” black men, then they wouldnt be in jail in the first place. Ya know….its pretty easy to stay outta jail, dont you think?



Shay

9/28/09, 14:10:pm

chad

sepia shut the ***** up most women cant accept a man where he’s at if a man is not working but is looking for work then you should support him in his efforts to find work and dont hold it over his head or throw it in his face that hes not working i broke up with a girl last night because she held the fact that im not working but im looking for work over my head im glad i did because if you cant love me when im struggling how in the hell can you love me when im prospering chew on that

++++++++++++++++++

Maybe she was trying to motivate you. Im sure you’ll work a little harder to prove her wrong now?



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 14:10:pm

@Progressive Sista,

“Stop lying to yourself, educated Black men are absolutely in short supply.”

They are in short supply for *****es like you. Check yourself. Who the hell would want to deal with you? And before you even say it, black females who marry IR marry below their education and their income.



chad

9/28/09, 14:12:pm

pompo ur ignorant plain and simple u traitor



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:12:pm

Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

@ Progressive Sista- I see no wedding bells in your future. Since you have such high standards, I guess that also means no kidds. Such is life!
_______________________________________________

See men try to make woman feel that it is there way or no way not even God give us that image… This is what makes it hard for a woman to submit or to conform because it all about a man happiness and over her sadness this to me is dangerous….



Kami All Day (Haters give me Promo.....)

9/28/09, 14:12:pm

Aww…and here I was hoping to see Kigali in here. You know how she shows up (simultaneously with Marquis) to spit her hateful babbage to the m*****es!

Ah, whatta ignorant person she is.

I’m sure she’ll be in later. Once she sees the headline, her ***** gets hard and here she comes!



Shay

9/28/09, 14:13:pm

@shoew*****sneedluv2

You have some good points. A lot of the excuses from black women and men are based on sterotypes. You’d think we would know better.



tella

9/28/09, 14:13:pm

@kigali

welcome…why so crabby and speaking so harsh…? I know, I know freedom of speech but not freedom of anger…this is just a discussion hun…



Kami All Day (Haters give me Promo.....)

9/28/09, 14:14:pm

OH *****!!!

She has found her way into the forum…….

Everyone say hi to the most HATEFUL BLACK WOMAN ON THE FORUM!!!!

Sit back and watch her reply to EVERYONE on board…..



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:16:pm

@Progressive Sista,

Don’t let people negative words tear you down because you have the right to be your very own person, and opinion are like azz whole everyone has one…



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 14:16:pm

@enkogkneegro- Good choice of words, that they should understand.



tella

9/28/09, 14:17:pm

@Kami

Kigali is not the most hateful…she’s just the most upset…don’t be fooled by lies…anyone who’s truly happy doesn’t bring such a bitter undertone to EVERY discussion.

Plus he/she is probably lying or Bossip Staff. Same for Marquis…



ElCapitan

9/28/09, 14:17:pm

@ressurectedw why dont you just get raped eh??

@Catty*****

The problem with many black women is they’re too damn snotty and uppity about their education, thinking that because they have two master’s degrees they are automatically wife material and every black man should kiss their ***** and be grateful to be in their presence. These same women are the ones who ***** and moan when black men marry white and latina women.These same women will then claim they can’t find a good black man because they’re “intimidated by my success” or “they can’t handle a strong woman”. Men want a woman who is going to be caring, supportive, loving, loyal and easy to get along with not someone who is constantly telling them “I don’t need you, I’ve got my own *****”. Being able to take care of yourself is great, but if you’re making a man feel like he has nothing to offer, then he isn’t going to stick around.

catty***** you’ve pretty much got it right. Black women think they’re just too damn special when all they really are is insecure, worthless, clingy, obsessive and incredibly materialistic.



Cincy's Own

9/28/09, 14:18:pm

I think that the women who end up not getting married are those who are caught up on certain QUALITIES they want instead of being able to recognize a QUALITY mate.

God doesn’t always present the gift in the wrapping you want. So, my suggestion to black women is to really not base your requirements on the earthly gains one acquires, but on spiritual maturity and aspirations. Women have to want that MORE than the superficial accomplishments of financial and physical status..

If the man is self-sufficient and doesn’t use you as a crutch, then regardless of who makes the most money, the relationship is on equal footing. Also, you both should be able to pay your own bills and be able to blend your lives together @ the very least.

I don’t know, that’s my 2 cents.



chaka1

9/28/09, 14:18:pm

I know just as many single professional white women as single professional black women. Everyone’s situation is different, but can tell you this:

1. You have to open yourself up to love. Black women tend to limit themselves mainly because they don’t want to disappoint their parents, their friends, or their church.
2. In a relationship you can’t be the man and the woman. Men don’t want to hear the “I’m a strong black woman” line. The word “strong” is a masculine term. Men respond positively to softness, sensitivity, and vulnerability. They view themselves as the protector and the leader of the household.
3. Building on #2, you have to give a man something to do. You can’t be all things and expect the man to hang around. You have to play the damsel in distress once in a while otherwise your man will feel like you don’t need him.

I know all of this from experience. You can agree to disagree, but if you want a man, you better ask somebody.



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:18:pm

ElCapitan

***** ***** U YOUR MOTHER SOUNDS LIKE SHE SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN AN ABORTION…



Blue

9/28/09, 14:19:pm

It sad to say to me but with successful black women it boils down to money. I look around and see so many successful black women who are alone but I do see a trend in how a woman will act with men who make more than them vs those who make equal or less than them. It’s seems it’s NEVER a problem when men who makes significantly more (other than most time this isn’t going to be the guy that wants to settle down)……but when you have for example a lawyer talking to a guy making equal to or less than her like a manager at Foot Locker it’s strange to me to see how women attitudes become. I admit some women seem to get it but the majority are still bouncing from man to man looking for that top 10% when that guy making just a little less is the one who actually probably be better to settle with …I guess the bottom line is a successful woman will commit herself to working things out with a man making a lot faster if he has more money, but that same successful woman has a harder time letting her man be a man if he isn’t making more than she is. If women judge men more by character versus status I think we’d see more successful relationships.



Life Is Too Short To Be Lonely

9/28/09, 14:19:pm

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Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 14:21:pm

@Progressive Sista

“YAWN! I am so tired of this discussion.”

YAWN! I am so tired of the excuses you *****es give.

“The reality is Black males will never take responsibility for the fact that a Black woman with degrees who worked HARD to get to where she is wishes to share her life with someone who is EQUALIVALENT to her.”

We know that but it doesnt seem like you can get that even when you get a white man. Yes when black *****es marry IR they marry white men with less money and less education than they do. So if you can put up with a white man’s underachievement certainly you can for a black man.

“Educated Black women…”

Are few and far between. A statistical non entity. 19% of blacks have BA degrees. There are more Asians with MA degrees.

“The REAL question is why there are so few financially stable educated well rounded Black men.”

They arent around for sagging ***** *****es like you. There are plenty of educated well rounded black men out there for women who actually are worth it. Now the REAL question is, who are there so few black females who are worth it?

“Black women need to stop being so loyal to Black males and expand their horizons.”

Black females are as loyal as their options. Face it, you aint got too many options.

Curtesy of Racheal’s Tavern.

“Demographic studies have found that Black women/White men marriages tend to be exceptional when it comes to educational status. Black women are more likely than other groups of women to marry someone with less education when they marry intraracially or interracially (Kalmijn 1993, Qian 1997). What is even more interesting is that Black women in interracial relationships are even more likely to marry a less educated man than Black women in same race relationships. This trend is even more striking given White men’s higher average levels of education and income (Qian 1997, Kalmijn 1993). Rational choice theorists could argue that Black women more than any other group must trade higher levels of education since both their gender and race are perceived as lower than that of White men. This could also mean that only the highest status Black women could have interracial marital opportunities.”



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 14:23:pm

I think its kind of a two edged sword. I have more education than my husband, I had a more stable childhood and I make more money. I love him but it is a constant struggle to keep from injuring his ego. Sistahs are just used to handling biz so if you are going to huff and puff about being the man then HANDLE IT. Please.



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 14:23:pm

@trs
+++++

I’m just saying that if evolution has any validity, it is ON GOING — it didn’t stop just because we became aware of it.

If in fact the Y chromosome is shrinking or eroding, then “men” as a gender are doomed.

If creatures ADAPT in nature to evolutionary stimuli, then self-destructiveness may be nature’s way of ’speeding up’ what is inevitable.

Here’s a real “***** starter” — if you read all the ***** on the web that blacks say about each other, a REASONABLE person would conclude that they DESPISE each other:

“Marry a white man — coons ain’t *****”

“Get a white girl — black *****es ain’t *****”.

Could it be that BOTH are RIGHT? Black people are “nature’s mistake” and they SHOULD get ‘better blood’ by inter-marrying with OTHER RACES????

The Saint Bernard almost died as a breed, until NEW BLOOD from another breed was introduced into the line.

Maybe we blacks INSTINTIVELY KNOW THAT our *****es ought to get some more blood into OUR line — because the ***** that’s in it AIN’T GETTIN’ IT DONE —-

that ought to get the ***** started.

I by the way don’t believe that ***** — but tell me of another race that has HUNDREDS of THOUSANDS of comments on the wed that expresses the SELF HATRED that blacks express every day ???



Man, I just don't care™

9/28/09, 14:24:pm

Successful black women should follow Oprah’s lead and date other successful black women.

EVERYBODY’S HAPPY!



Cincy's Own

9/28/09, 14:24:pm

“You can agree to disagree, but if you want a man, you better ask somebody.” – chaka1
___________________________________________________

Chaka1 aka Shante Smith (2 Can Play That Game).
LOL! That’s the first thing I thought of when I read your post..



Kami All Day (Haters give me Promo.....)

9/28/09, 14:25:pm

@tella:

You may be right, though, I have had numerous conversations with her/him in the past. And basing her character off of how she speaks (or writes) her opinions to people (especially about black women) has caused me to think that she is the most hateful person on this site.

Bitter, hateful, its all relative.

I have never heard or seen a female who is BLACK talk so negatively about black females the way she does. Makes me think she is the head of the NRA working with the KKK.

We should be uplifting each other and this should be a discussion to talk about the “whys”….not ignorant ***** that sets us back.

Whatta sad state my people are in.



CF

9/28/09, 14:25:pm

I have to agree with a few of the other folks here. Black men are very intimidated by a Black woman who’s doing her thing. They for some reason feel emasculated and lesser than rather than encouraged to complement us in other aspects.



ElCapitan

9/28/09, 14:26:pm

resurrected

ElCapitan

***** ***** U YOUR MOTHER SOUNDS LIKE SHE SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN AN ABORTION…
wow you’re really mature i can see why everyone wants to be with you, you *****ing *****hat



tella

9/28/09, 14:26:pm

@El Captain

that response is wrong on so many levels if you are black & male, and husband, brother, son, father to a black woman…name calling does what? Do you not know any other way to articulate your standpoint?

I could very well be every name you submitted but what are you?

You know that the frequency of love is 528Hz and the people who own the networks and airwaves know this so they have come up with a tactic to flood the airwaves with disrespectful rap to pound anger and disrespect into your head so everytime you display that type of behavior they are very proud of their work…YOU *****in idiot…lol!!!



chaka1

9/28/09, 14:26:pm

@Romy

You are right with the father figure statement. You must have a positive relationship with your father or a supportive male figure.

I found my man because as I got older, I got more in tune with myself and the type of man I was attracting. I learned how to identify a man who wanted me for sex, and a man who was truly interested in me on a deeper level.



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:28:pm

It was nice hearing some of the men comment who also know how to have a respectful conversation thanks I will take it into consideration because I come a home that was wonderful but there were never really men around and maybe I might have to adjust my views some as well… I like being independent because it has taught me many things then just doing nothing and expecting failure as an option… I just wish that would also see the damage that they cause by not beinf involved and around and to have some sypathy for the woman who has grown up to now good men figures and father because after all you made those choices as well and the children are the one who suffer… Coming into this man dominated world only to be blamed and pushed aside. If men wanted a solution to this they would have made on years ago and woman need to stop putting there children in harms was and emotional dysfuntional all because of the love of *****, really not a good reason…



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 14:29:pm

Best of luck to them though…marriage aint easy no matter how much paper you’ve got.



ElCapitan

9/28/09, 14:30:pm

@tella

i have no *****ing idea what you’ve just barked but no need to worry it’s all a bunch of nonsense as can be expected from a retard like you



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:31:pm

tella

Thanks for that but most people equally and fully except there ignorance as truth so let him because what he eat and take in don’t make me *****… So please just ignore him that is about all of the attention that he needs…



tella

9/28/09, 14:31:pm

It starts with respect…how many black man can honestly treat a woman like a queen…HOW MANY??? ***** I can count on one hand…lol…Jesus was black right??? Well that’s one, My BFF Jeff is two………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….Stevie Wonder……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..Will Smith…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..that’s all I got for now…not even my daddy made the cut…lol



fred

9/28/09, 14:32:pm

to ms kesha86 …as far as it being more black men in jail than college …that is bull*****..



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:34:pm

eveinthegarden

I love to hear your point of view so please keep informing us the marriage scene….



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 14:34:pm

@eveinthegarden,

“I love him but it is a constant struggle to keep from injuring his ego.”

Yes I have noticed it is hard for black females to be decent, even to the men in their lives. Is it a struggle to keep from beating your children?



tella

9/28/09, 14:34:pm

@El Captain

you have no idea but you read it from start to finish…no worries…you will change up your tone…



WhatyoMommaSay

9/28/09, 14:35:pm

zetalady

another thing, only in black culture are we women taught to aspire for less. so damn sad and pathetic.

This is the truth!!! I’ve seen ministers beg sistas to engage with brothas….If black men are so wonderful why is everyone pleading their case?



Ms.Caribbean

9/28/09, 14:36:pm

I think they are single because they don’t broaden their horizons. No one says that you have to be with a Black person. Date out of your race. There are other men out there not just Black men. As for men being intimated of Black women it’s a total myth. I get approached by all types of men. Maybe its because I’m young I’m 19.



tella

9/28/09, 14:37:pm

@Kigali

lol…you’re not really black…you’re a whitey trying to brainwash and stir up anger…any other day you sound educated but today you sound a little off…like childish in some sense…



Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

9/28/09, 14:37:pm

@resurrected It’s sisters like you who can’t fathom what it’s like for a brother who tries real hard to make it in this world and comes home to a sister who rips him a new *****hole as soon as he walks in the door. I have friends who married and dated successful black females who owned their own *****. The minute the brother messed up all he heard was get out of my house or this is mine not yours. I personally pay every bill in my house, pay for private schooling for my kidds, keep food on the table, clothes on my kidds and wifes back and all that I want in return is RESPECT & LOVE. It’s that simple. Now what were your expectations of a black man again?



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:37:pm

Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

@eveinthegarden,

“I love him but it is a constant struggle to keep from injuring his ego.”

Yes I have noticed it is hard for black females to be decent, even to the men in their lives. Is it a struggle to keep from beating your children?
__________________________________________________

I am not sure what you read but that was not the point of her statement… This is why I don’t watch TV and am about to get off the net nothing but negative message all day long…



Cincy's Own

9/28/09, 14:38:pm

“@eveinthegarden,

“I love him but it is a constant struggle to keep from injuring his ego.”

Yes I have noticed it is hard for black females to be decent, even to the men in their lives. Is it a struggle to keep from beating your children?” –
Kigali
___________________________________________________

Hilarious. I think it’s easy for women to use the “ego” excuse to dismiss what are legitmate feelings for men. Help me out w/ what you mean by that as well..



tella

9/28/09, 14:39:pm

@Ms. Carribean

IF WE SPREAD THE MESSAGE TO BLACK WOMEN AND BLACK MEN TO DATE OUTSIDE THE RACE THEN WHO WILL PRESERVE THE BLACK CULTURE…THAT IS THE TACTIC TO WATER DOWN OUR RACE AND HAVE US CONFORM TO OTHER CULTURES…EVERY OTHER RACE CAN BE REPRESENTED FULL BREED BUT OURS HAS TO BE WATER DOWNED AND MIXED???



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:40:pm

Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

@resurrected It’s sisters like you who can’t fathom what it’s like for a brother who tries real hard to make it in this world and comes home to a sister who rips him a new *****hole as soon as he walks in the door. I have friends who married and dated successful black females who owned their own *****. The minute the brother messed up all he heard was get out of my house or this is mine not yours. I personally pay every bill in my house, pay for private schooling for my kidds, keep food on the table, clothes on my kidds and wifes back and all that I want in return is RESPECT & LOVE. It’s that simple. Now what were your expectations of a black man again?
_________________________________________________

Ok if you say so not as if you know me and we are having a discusion as least so I thought… Your statement is the perfect example of what you want and need only matters…Look I am not a robot and I will not act like one and I have a man who know me and you can bet to believe he has tried to take me through more than I have put him through but people have issues it life… There are plenty of woman who stand by a brother side only to get burned…



trs

9/28/09, 14:40:pm

@ Unbought and Unafraid

You are right…your post is probably going to get the $hit started. I will do my best to elaborate without contributing to the inevitable bs that is sure to follow.

I think it’s ridiculous to *****ert that the Black male is a lost cause, especially in terms of evolutionary decline. Black men are NOT doomed. What is in danger of extinction is “REAL BLACK MEN.”

Now don’t get me wrong because when it comes to genetics and biology, I COMPLETELY understand your point.

However, you state that Blacks should “instinctively know that our *****es ought to get some blood in our line.” I am sorry, but I find this preposterous on so many levels. This is part of the problem….why should we look to ANOTHER RACE to solve our problems? Is it your honest contention that the only way to “save ourselves” is to mingle our genes with that of other races? Hogwash! Will that not contribute to the dwindling of our genetic pool that you previously mentioned? I get what you are saying about St. Bernards but IMO your example was a non sequitor when you consider the subject at hand.

I purpose that we as a people need to save OURSELVES. One of the many first steps in this process is beginning to solve the rift between BW and BM because that has contributed to the downfall of the traditional Black family. Most other issues, including lack of education, criminal activity, drug use, etc can be directly tied to marriage and family issues in our community.



trs

9/28/09, 14:42:pm

typo

“I propose” not “I purpose.” My B.



tella

9/28/09, 14:42:pm

@rrrrrrrr ski love

you’re only one…now if EVERY BLACK MAN was that way we wouldn’t be having this discussion…

we can be bossy and dominate all day but do that MAKE the black man lazy, weak, or intimidated…seriously if you have a little sister or a daughter…how many black men are elgible to date them and give them a decent lifestyle?



JUJU

9/28/09, 14:42:pm

Those dumb studies/statistics is BS. And the reason for that maybe some black couples is not quick to walk down the isle as white there are many factors or maybe like Oprah who dosent want to get married.

But isn’t Oprah still with Stedman

and can someone tell me whats the prize of having a black man….. ok



WhatyoMommaSay

9/28/09, 14:46:pm

When will black men realize that those domineering, strong and independent women who sicken them….are their mothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, etc. These strong sisters make you SICK?

You are lost



Markh320

9/28/09, 14:47:pm

THERE ARE PLENTY OF WOMEN THAT MAKE MONEY AND ARE MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE. AND MOST OF THEM PEND MORE TIME IN SCHOOL BECOMING A BETTER CORPORATE SLAVE THEN LEARNING HOW TO BE A DIVINE WOMAN. TOO MANY GRANDMAS HAVE TOLD THEM YOUR VAGINA IS MADE OUT OF GOLD BY DEFAULT YET THEY CAN BE SPIRITUALLY BROKE EVEN WITH MONEY AND POWER.



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 14:48:pm

@Cincy’s Own,

Black men arent intimidated by black females success (though low in number) but black females of all strata are intimated by a black man’s humanity. Their egos are too huge to treat people decently. Black females love bully power. Ask their men, their children and the Koreans who do their nails and sell them their hair. They have all suffered from her abuse.



tella

9/28/09, 14:48:pm

@WhatyoMommaSay

Amen…now u are speaking facts!!!



Ms.Caribbean

9/28/09, 14:48:pm

@ tella

Most Black people are mixed with something. Even in Africa, there are Black Africans mixed with Chinese, Indian, Arab, and White. Not to mention all of the Blacks in Brazil, the Caribbean, Latin American, and in Asia. We’re all mixed.
I’m Jamaican, Dominican and Puerto Rican myself, my great-great-grandma was Japanese/Chinese immgrant who lived in Jamaica. I’m mixed and I embrace all of my cultures. It’s up to the individual to carry on their culture.



Man, I just don't care™

9/28/09, 14:49:pm

@KIGALI

You goin hard today.



tella

9/28/09, 14:50:pm

@kigali

you sound like you live a very rich life…please share more of your wisdom with us!

lol…so how much does Bossip pay?



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 14:51:pm

@ Kigali- ……..

What do I mean by struggling not to injure his ego. I make more money. I manage the bills better. I have greater foresight about what has to be paid and when. His ego tells him he should be making the decisions because he is the MAN and who am I to say that we cant afford to do XYZ. So…either I follow his poor judgment (leaving his ego intact) and clean up his mess later or try to gently dissuade him from whatever it is big man ‘wants’. If its not ‘gentle enough’ then I get called controlling. Therein lies my STRUGGLE.



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:51:pm

I guess this topic just proves to me to continue to take my time and just love myself because who wants to be involved in a relationship or marriage who only goals is to make you feel bad and lowery about yourself as a woman. She will be the one who will nurture your children and who will give them confidence and it seems that the man only wants her if she is willing to be less than a person for his own personal needs… I would rather take time to live and chill with Gods words to lift me up and motivate me then to listen to these countless negative words of a man…



tella

9/28/09, 14:53:pm

@Ms. Carribean

I hear you…but when a black woman gets with a black man…it won’t be easy trying to continue the black culture…but women are supposed to make the home…

Then when black men get with other races…the kids won’t take on the black culture…

My thing is that a black family has represented strength…or a pure all colored skin family that is…so when you see interacial families it doesn’t elude that same strength to me…



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 14:53:pm

and my bad..the comment was actually towards Cindy’s Own.

Your question, Kigali, about whether its a struggle to not beat my children was ridiculous.



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 14:55:pm

@trs
+++++

So very well stated — but I have been hearing the same VITRIOLIC attacks that black men and women make on each other (HELL — read this thread !!!!) and my heart gets weary.

We DO treat each other ABOMINABLY — whites that I know who have married into other races simply say that happened to meet someone that they loved who happened to be red, yellow, brown or black. They don’t turn their choice in a mate into an attack on their own kind.

I read BLACKS ON THIS SITE EVERY DAY who utterly DESPISE blacks of the opposite sex.

A snake or a frog adapts in nature by getting protective coloration, or developing the ability to blend into its surroundings — maybe the VITRIOL is our way of GUARANTEEING that there WON’T BE any damn “black” people around to hate each other.

MAYBE just maybe the vitriol is nature’s way of saying “enough” — no damn more of you *****S.



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 14:55:pm

@eveinthegreen,

Thats the man you married. Having said that you can make more money, pay bills, and make decisions all the while treating people, your man, the one you married, with some respect and dignity because I am sure if the shoe were on the other foot, you wouldnt like him treating you like you were his chattel.



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:55:pm

eveinthegarden

and my bad..the comment was actually towards Cindy’s Own.

Your question, Kigali, about whether its a struggle to not beat my children was ridiculous.
__________________________________________________

As most of the stuff and comments on here…



REality

9/28/09, 14:55:pm

I want a successful BLACK woman WHAT’S UP???



resurrected

9/28/09, 14:56:pm

REality

I want a successful BLACK woman WHAT’S UP???

There all around you, so what is your story?



Ashlee

9/28/09, 14:57:pm

We do want a man to be a man, but it seems like they dont exist anymore. I dont blame the black women nor black men. However, I do blame black mothers, teach your sons how to be a MAN.



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 14:57:pm

Kigali~
Where did you pull being ‘treated like chattel’ from? Thin air perhaps?



tella

9/28/09, 14:58:pm

Black women are single by choice, the they can buy ***** once they are successful…***** comes by dozen actually…

If they could discipline themselves to climb to the top and reach their goals then they can make a relationship work too…many have…they just didn’t compromise for the men who had time to blog so many on you on here would complain…however many of co-workers are eyeing me right now…lol



Txhustla15

9/28/09, 14:58:pm

These topics are always the ***** they pull out like a card to start a male/female war on a daily basis, must be a slow news days ..cause on both sides always denigrate down to sweeping generalizations…



Suny1

9/28/09, 15:00:pm

Bossip:
Your quote is incorrect. The correct statement is If you are a black woman with an advanced degree, there’s a good chance you’ve never been married.
Please see NPR news with
New research from Yale University suggests that highly educated black women are twice as likely to have never been married by the age of 45 as white women with similar education.

Hannah Bruckner New research from Yale University suggests that highly educated black women are twice as likely to have never been married by the age of 45 as white women with similar education.
Hannah Bruckner, who leads the Center for Research on Inequalities and the Life Course at Yale University



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 15:00:pm

@eveinthegreen,

My question about beating your children wasnt ridiculous. You sound like you find it hard to be nice good and decent. Its not hard for me to be those things. At a very VERY brief point in my marriage I was making more and paying bills in my house, by my husband was still the last word, the decision maker, the head of our home. He importance and his role went beyond money and paying bills. He has always been the protector, the guide of our family. He doesnt need to make any money to do that provided he is wise and decent.

Now if you married a man that is incompetent that just goes to show how utter incompetent YOU are.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:02:pm

Kigali

Ask your BLACK ***** mother if she made a mistake by not SWALLOWING you.



resurrected

9/28/09, 15:02:pm

Txhustla15

No it is just that we keep parti*****ting and gravitating to this BS, from now on I am going to p***** these type of topics and only read post that are food for the brain no based on destroying it…



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:03:pm

Here we go again. Bossip keeps putting up these man vs. women, white vs. black topics to get posts. I guess ad revenue is looking good these days



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:03:pm

@Kigali

you don’t speak like a lady…when did you have the sex change?



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:03:pm

@S.Walk

lmao



Shay

9/28/09, 15:04:pm

Ashlee

We do want a man to be a man, but it seems like they dont exist anymore. I dont blame the black women nor black men. However, I do blame black mothers, teach your sons how to be a MAN.

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Why just black mothers? Why not both parents?

I’ve never understood that argument. If you’re comment is based on a single mother family then why is the fault on the parent who has chosen to be responsible for the child? Why not blame the parent who isn’t part fo the family? In your instances wouldn’t it take a man to teach a boy to be one?



resurrected

9/28/09, 15:04:pm

Anyway I am out and next time I will try to stop being interesting in these types of post because it creates more anger than happiness…



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 15:04:pm

@Aslee,

You telling me there are a bunch of women in the black community? More like Plies Bust It Babies. How about black females marry men who can teach their sons how to be men. Or is that too difficult?



trs

9/28/09, 15:04:pm

@ Unbought and Unafraid

A snake or a frog adapts in nature by getting protective coloration, or developing the ability to blend into its surroundings — maybe the VITRIOL is our way of GUARANTEEING that there WON’T BE any damn “black” people around to hate each other.

MAYBE just maybe the vitriol is nature’s way of saying “enough” — no damn more of you *****S.
————————————————

You have no idea how much I enjoyed reading this comment. I could not have said it better myself!!!!

What bothers me is the lack of support that we seem to have for one another and our individual failure to *****ume our proper roles. Don’t even get me started….

The bottom line is that I won’t give up on Black men. If more Black women shared this perspective, and if more Black men were willing to step up to the plate and BE A MAN, we would not be having this conversation.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:05:pm

Kigali

Stop the *****ing lying, your “husband” is your right middle finger that you jab yourself with when you dream of being white.



trs

9/28/09, 15:05:pm

HEY AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 15:06:pm

no Kigali…it was a ridiculous question. You purposely take statements overboard to get a rise out of people. My husband is not incompetent nor am I. I am better with the bills than him and he will admit that himself (after the fact).

My husband enjoys his position as priest of our home…my point was an admission that its a struggle for me when it comes to balancing the spirit and the flesh.



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:07:pm

Hey trs. How are you today?



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:08:pm

Black women are not getting married because of our(black men) craziness right now. Flat out.



Ms.Caribbean

9/28/09, 15:08:pm

@tella

I disagree, interracial families have go through a lot of bull from society itself, other people, and their own race. It takes a lot of strenght to do that.



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 15:09:pm

@Shay,

“If you’re comment is based on a single mother family then why is the fault on the parent who has chosen to be responsible for the child?”

You call what single black mothers are doing responsible? No, had they waited till they were married before they decided to stop using birth control, *****uming they did, that would show how responsible they were for their children. Instead the do the very UNresponsible thing by having a child while unmarried or aborting these children. 13 million since it was made legal.



Unbought_and_Unafraid

9/28/09, 15:10:pm

@trs
+++++

Have a good ‘un little sis. I gotta go and do the stuff these narrow minded people actually PAY ME FOR.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:10:pm

I come back from lunch and the mental midget Kigali is starting ***** already…smh



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:11:pm

I haven’t heard of too many black women turning down proposals, so we have to present ourselves better and understand the committment part.



trs

9/28/09, 15:12:pm

Bye Unbought and Unafraid!!! Thanks for the intellectual convo!

@ Awesome

I am having a bad day today. ;(

Tell me something good!! How was the weekend?



datniggblack

9/28/09, 15:12:pm

I think most successful sistahs are too quick to be a complaining, aint nothing good good enough for you *****es, and the ones who are offended by the word *****, are the most insecure. Black *****es are to stupid to think with their brains in a relationship, their feelings are most important, basically, black ***** ***** hoes, just need to learn to play ya lane, no matter what the ***** you make…dumb *****es!!!!

I need som e help!



Kigali (Female condoms are cheap)

9/28/09, 15:13:pm

@eveinthegarden,

“My husband enjoys his position as priest of our home…”

Youre so generous.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:14:pm

Kigali

All of your “stats” are bull*****, you are a coon, and no one likes you. Your “husband” is just an extension of your hand, and once again no one likes you. Need I say more?



BE

9/28/09, 15:14:pm

Most black women I know who are single, like it that way



Swan06

9/28/09, 15:14:pm

Here is a bigger question, why ask other single black women? If you are trying to find the answer, let stop attacking what black men are doing which most likely is on such a small scale that it is not even worth reporting. Black women blow it up because they may not look at themselves and the problem. I truly believe if we as a culture stop with the black women saying “black man this x? #%”, And black men stop talking about the black woman, we will understand that this may be a cultural thing. I know a lot of you may so no to this, but look first at other cultures. I ask myself why the people that did this study did not ask white women how they view marriage and the white man, what are they views as an whole. This might give you answers. We are all in the same battle trying to recover from years of destruction by the powers that be and don’t think for one minute that the war is over just because we have an black president. We still are crabs in a bucket. I told my woman this when we first meet and now she truly understands me. I don’t want a strong black woman; you have always been strong with me and we have been strong together. There is someone else telling you that you need to be independent. We will never succeed being independent of each other. I need you and much as you need me.



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:14:pm

@ trs

Something good huh… There’s a today, and a tomorrow right after it. That work? The weekend was great. The Blue Devils and the Ravens won, so Saturday and Sunday was good.



BE

9/28/09, 15:16:pm

Hey Awesome!

Hey Tony Redds :



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:16:pm

BE

I respect you and everything but that statement is totally false, its no way that MOST black women like to be single unless you mean females that are 18-21.
I’m not a woman but I still know some things.



Ms.Caribbean

9/28/09, 15:17:pm

@ datniggblack

You are the epitome of Black ignorance.



drenk

9/28/09, 15:17:pm

@ tella

that preserving the blood line ***** sounds like some aryan nation garbage, you should try to be better than that! and dont you realize with migration and globalization there will eventually be one true human race



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:17:pm

Hey BE



BE

9/28/09, 15:19:pm

Besides once you make a certain amount of money the available black men goes down…and then who wants to get with a man you may feel may resent you in the end?



eveinthegarden

9/28/09, 15:19:pm

Kigali~
Generosity(?)…more thin air.



BE

9/28/09, 15:20:pm

@S. Walk – I didn’t say all black women I said the ones that I know. They enjoy just doing them



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:21:pm

@EVERYBODY

Kigali is fraud so don’t let it upset you. Bossip needs that controversy to make for a good discussion and to keep you drawn…as well as keep you coming back.

If she is a black woman getting *****ed by a white man…then that makes perfect sense that she is indeed Bossip Staff because it is owned by white people.

FACTUAL…kigali is a character sent to stir you up.



KMB926

9/28/09, 15:22:pm

Again I say…

Omg, I’m so tired of the generalizations being shoved down society’s throats by the media. Most black women this, Most black men that. How about it depends on the circles you move in, the community your were raised in? That determines the different scenarios one sees. No, we’re not losing Black men to other races as Black men aren’t losing Black women to other races. I can count on two hands how many black couples I’ve known that have gotten married in the past two years. Maybe I’m living in another world because I don’t see these generalizations that this article speaks of except on internet sites and the media. It’s like this country feeds off the negative bull***** between black men and women. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!!! STOP FEEDING INTO THIS! Our race is becoming more successful everyday. Look how much we’ve accomplished over the past hundred years. Let’s continue to focus on our success instead of meaningless stereotypes and generalizations!



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:23:pm

Kigali is a man everyone, dont fall for this coon and these silly tatics. everyday is something new with this jigaboo and today he plays the part of a “grounded” black female. Well at least for this topic forum he is.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 15:23:pm

First off, many choose to remain single. What’s wrong with that? Singleness is not a curse. Secondly, a lot of black women are waiting around for SOME black men to get it together (which will never happen), and thirdly, many refuse to date outside their races.

By some of the comments I continually read on Bossip, many in the black race need a lobotomy because they are the epitomy of self-lothing, hating, “blame everyone else but me” mentality.

Enough on this subject!



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 15:24:pm

date outside their race, not races.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:24:pm

Hi BE, hope you had a good B-Day week my dear….



drenk

9/28/09, 15:25:pm

@ Robyn Lisa

hannibal and prettywhitegirl are also, if anything all 3 might be the same person



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:25:pm

@drenk

you don’t believe God has chosen people and made a covenant with a certain race?

we already have one human race…lol



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 15:25:pm

BE

So MOST of the Black women that YOU KNOW actually prefer being single?



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 15:26:pm

Why does Bossip continue to feature b.s. like this article? Hasn’t this all ready been covered? They, like M T O, love to stir up racial crap. I was through with it when they put up that thread about the six black females attacking the Latina. I’ve never seen so many self-louthing, coon-thinking, ignorant, self-hating Negros in my life. I swear, I think many in the black race are mentally ill.



WhatyoMommaSay

9/28/09, 15:26:pm

A question for Black Men

Do you really think Harriet Tubman and Madame CJ Walker were submissive little honies?

If so, your an idiot



trs

9/28/09, 15:27:pm

@ Awesome

Something good huh… There’s a today, and a tomorrow right after it. That work? The weekend was great. The Blue Devils and the Ravens won, so Saturday and Sunday was good.
—————————————————

LOL!! I am glad that you had a good weekend. I took the LSAT this weekend!

Oh, and you were showing OUT in the A Keys thread yesterday!

“What is 14 inches and White?
Not a thing!”

I fell OUT!!!



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:28:pm

@BE

@S. Walk – I didn’t say all black women I said the ones that I know. They enjoy just doing them
___________________________________________________

NO WOMAN ENJOYS DOING THEMSELVES ALL THE TIME…..



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:28:pm

@drenk

I’m hannibal and prettywhitegirl…boy/girl you are sooooooooo doing the wrong research!!!

First…what did we say that sounded similar???

Second…what did we say that sounded similar???

seriously…was it my Kigali comment??? Did I upset you?



Man, I just don't care™

9/28/09, 15:29:pm

Marriage is an antiquated and out-of-touch tradition that is rightfully dying. It is overvalued and a detriment to society.



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:29:pm

Hiya, trs!!!!



drenk

9/28/09, 15:29:pm

@ Robyn Lisa

no there isnt 1 human race because we still seperate each other into different “races,” if there was one human race than this website would be called Hossip



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:30:pm

WordtotheWise

I swear, I think many in the black race are mentally ill.

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I blame the tap water!



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:31:pm

@drenk

my bad…I read it over…I *****umed you were saying I was apart of the three…lol



trs

9/28/09, 15:32:pm

@ BE

Besides once you make a certain amount of money the available black men goes down…
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That is why sistas need to stop advertising what they have and using it as leverage if their man makes less! A man shouldn’t know what’s in your bank account until he puts a ring on it. Lots of women shove the fact that they make a lot of money in their man’s face, and that’s part of the problem. I know you know what’s up with that though!



trs

9/28/09, 15:33:pm

@ Daywalker

Hiya, trs!!!!
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Hi there Daywalker!! How are you today??



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:33:pm

@Man, I just don’t care™

Marriage is an antiquated and out-of-touch tradition that is rightfully dying. It is overvalued and a detriment to society.
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Actually, no other species found in nature is sexually monogamous for life other than humans…It goes against the very concept of evolution, genetics, and nature for a man to be sexually monogamous! As a matter of fact, it was the church and women who originally came up with the concept in the first place……



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:33:pm

@ trs

@ Awesome

Something good huh… There’s a today, and a tomorrow right after it. That work? The weekend was great. The Blue Devils and the Ravens won, so Saturday and Sunday was good.
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LOL!! I am glad that you had a good weekend. I took the LSAT this weekend!

Oh, and you were showing OUT in the A Keys thread yesterday!

“What is 14 inches and White?
Not a thing!”

I fell OUT!!!
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How do you think you did? One of my teammates took it and didn’t do too well, then he took it again and got a 167. He’s in his third year at Penn Law now.

Haha, yesterday was funny, you know how the lurkers come out on the weekends.



resurrected

9/28/09, 15:34:pm

Being singles has it perks just like being in a commented relationship has it’s perks as well… God does talk about being single and how it is easier to be single and to follow God and if one feels that they must be married to marry..



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:34:pm

@ trs:

I’m cool, just checking you out on here, sexx-ayyy!!!!



BE

9/28/09, 15:34:pm

So MOST of the Black women that YOU KNOW actually prefer being single?

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the single ones yes, they enjoy the freedom to come and go as they please, do what they want without checking calendars, not have to answer to anyone

I mean why is this strange? Some people like being alone…does not mean they are lonely

@Daywalker – who said they have sex with themselves all the time? or anytime.



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:35:pm

we’re meant to conform to what we see…so they show us the negative over and over again to brainwash us…don’t realize how powerful the media has become since the 70s or 80s…it’s a control tool. So blame whoever controls the networks…they the same people who control BOSSIP.



resurrected

9/28/09, 15:35:pm

committed was the word that I meant to use…



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:35:pm

trs

@ BE

Besides once you make a certain amount of money the available black men goes down…
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That is why sistas need to stop advertising what they have and using it as leverage if their man makes less! A man shouldn’t know what’s in your bank account until he puts a ring on it. Lots of women shove the fact that they make a lot of money in their man’s face, and that’s part of the problem. I know you know what’s up with that though!
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I need to know what you makin and your credit score well before I put a ring on it…lol
And as for me I could care less that my woman makes more than me…



trs

9/28/09, 15:37:pm

@ Awesome

How do you think you did? One of my teammates took it and didn’t do too well, then he took it again and got a 167. He’s in his third year at Penn Law now.
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The only part that I am worried about is the “logic games” section. I feel like I murdered the rest of it…but I don’t want to jinx myself.

We will see!!!



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:38:pm

BE

So MOST of the Black women that YOU KNOW actually prefer being single?

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the single ones yes, they enjoy the freedom to come and go as they please, do what they want without checking calendars, not have to answer to anyone

I mean why is this strange? Some people like being alone…does not mean they are lonely

@Daywalker – who said they have sex with themselves all the time? or anytime.
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I didn’t say that….GET YOUR MIND OUTA THE GUTTER, WOMAN!!!!



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:38:pm

@ Daywalker

Actually, no other species found in nature is sexually monogamous for life other than humans…It goes against the very concept of evolution, genetics, and nature for a man to be sexually monogamous! As a matter of fact, it was the church and women who originally came up with the concept in the first place……
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Most beavers and a type of antelope are monogamous. They’re the only other animals I can think of right now. But still, the odds say that humans aren’t meant to be monogamous.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:39:pm

Robyn Lisa

we’re meant to conform to what we see…so they show us the negative over and over again to brainwash us…don’t realize how powerful the media has become since the 70s or 80s…it’s a control tool. So blame whoever controls the networks…they the same people who control BOSSIP
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you are right, and that “charlieblanko” character on Bossip swear up and down bossip is black owned. I think he wrk for Bossip too…



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 15:39:pm

I wonder do white people get on blogs and down one another, and generalize the way we do…..***** all the fake stats you read, marriage is just not viewed like it use to be…..black and white marriages are failing.



BE

9/28/09, 15:39:pm

@TRS – That is why sistas need to stop advertising what they have and using it as leverage if their man makes less! A man shouldn’t know what’s in your bank account until he puts a ring on it. Lots of women shove the fact that they make a lot of money in their man’s face, and that’s part of the problem. I know you know what’s up with that though!

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I agree to a point, there will always be men who are going to be intimidated by what you make or how successful you are or might become.

Now how can you keep you income a secret? they may not know exactly how much you make but they will have an idea.



Robyn Lisa

9/28/09, 15:40:pm

my husband don’t know my credit score…never has…it’s been 5 years



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 15:41:pm

No, Redds. This goes beyond anything tangible. This goes down to the soul, brother. Years and years of brainwashing, yet we know this and choose to do nothing about it. Don’t blame it on the water or the alcohol. Let’s blame in on pure D mental illness.



trs

9/28/09, 15:41:pm

@ Daywalker

You are sweet!! You know I will always shout you out!

@ Tony Redd

LOL Yes you should know those two things before you put a ring on it! If you don’t mind a woman who makes less than you then you are “special.”
A lot of dudes have a problem with this, whether they want to admit it or not!



Awesome-O-3000

9/28/09, 15:42:pm

@ trs

The only part that I am worried about is the “logic games” section. I feel like I murdered the rest of it…but I don’t want to jinx myself.

We will see!!!
______________________

My girl didn’t like the games part either. You probably did well though. Let me know how you did when you get your results.



StrictlyBusiness

9/28/09, 15:42:pm

It’s such a hard subject to talk about but for me it all starts with women librating themselves back in the 60s. I definitely can’t condone the way women were treated in that era, and I’m happy the movement took place. However, like it or not roles for a man and woman were clearly defined and it made relationships a lot less complicated b/c men knew their roles and so did women. Nowadays black women have gotten so successful that they almost carry themselves like they don’t need a man and truth be told they don’t really as far as protection and security is concerned. I mean they have money to buy things such as roadside *****istance when the car breaks down, a contractor to do the house maintenance, a dog and a gun for security, and hell from what I observe a lot in clubs nowadays more and more women are coming to clubs looking for other women and just content to use a bunch of *****s and vibrators for sex. Black women have taken full advantage of their opportunities and have focused so much on careers which is amazing to see the strides they have made. That same career focus, however, has now affected our relationships b/c in this day and age the rules have changed -in women’s eyes-, but men still want to be men so now we are both competing for the same role in the relationship. Thing is though only one person can be the lead. Somebody going to need to follow, and MOST black men aren’t bred to be submissive even if we aren’t the primary breadwinner we still need to be the head of our relationships, but seems to me a lot of women who are successful in their careers have a hard time letting that happen.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:42:pm

snoop bloggy blog ( i’m sort of a BIG DEAL)

I wonder do white people get on blogs and down one another, and generalize the way we do…..***** all the fake stats you read, marriage is just not viewed like it use to be…..black and white marriages are failing.
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Yeah they do! They argue over who is a Democrat and who is a Republican. Dumb ***** like that. and they make up dumb names like Dummycrat and Repiglican…lol



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:44:pm

Awesome-O-3000:

True, but one male beaver wil never be with only one female beaver for life…Case being, if the female were to get killed, he’d take a new mate….and there are very few species that only stay witht the same mate, and those are lesser species….Humans are supposed to be waay more evolved than beavers and antelopes……Just sayin….



Red

9/28/09, 15:44:pm

I agree with the comments that relate to where many Black women have learned about relationships. If your father wasn’t there to show you what a real black man is about, you probably learned what they’re about from someone else, more than likely a bitter woman. My former wife learned about how to treat a husband from a grandmother that had 6 children without a husband and a mother that had three the same way. I’m not saying they were wrong about everything, but marriage was a subject they should have stayed quiet about. When I would try to do things for our future benefit, she would revert to “well, my grandmother always told me…”. Stuff like, “my mother always said don’t loan no man money.” What’s that got to do with investing with your husband???
You sometimes are what you’re raised to be, and without an open mind and a willingness to change, education and money will not make a difference. You can take them out of the hood…



BE

9/28/09, 15:44:pm

…..***** all the fake stats you read, marriage is just not viewed like it use to be…..black and white marriages are failing.
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I agree, marriage used to mean stability – now you can be stable without marriage.

I think alot of women are choosing not to put up with the bull maybe we never had the opportunity to do that before.

There are some men who can live with the woman making more but some can’t



Cincy's Own

9/28/09, 15:45:pm

“What do I mean by struggling not to injure his ego. I make more money. I manage the bills better. I have greater foresight about what has to be paid and when. His ego tells him he should be making the decisions because he is the MAN and who am I to say that we cant afford to do XYZ. So…either I follow his poor judgment (leaving his ego intact) and clean up his mess later or try to gently dissuade him from whatever it is big man ‘wants’. If its not ‘gentle enough’ then I get called controlling. Therein lies my STRUGGLE.” – eveninthegarden
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@ eveninthegarden

The struggle is in how you choose to express the truth about your feelings towards his ineffectiveness, right? If so, I do think that expressing your feelings about that towards him WITHOUT the emotional condemnation towards him your frustration allows and therefore justifies would be the superior form of communication and moreso than ego, that’s the rub where men are concerned…

It’s not about being threatened by your success or effectiveness where bills and things are concerned, it’s about how you exclude his parti*****tion in your struggle together by reducing his feelings to either inappropriate expressions or inferring that he’s being an ineffective leader and therefore inadequate provider.

It seems as though women want to feel entitled to the feelings they have instead of learning when and how to correctly and appropriately express them. If you tell him straight up what your problem is w/o telling him what HE’S NOT DOING, then you’ll get the COOPERATION that will allow the change that you would like to see in him.

Maybe, it’s just me, but I think that women nowadays don’t know how to talk to a man. And, that’s the point I think Kigali is trying to make. Women see are adherence to a particular outlook as ego, where we (me being a man) see it as upholding certain standards and holding someone accountable based upon correct principles.

Clarify my position if flawed or if I’m in the need of enlightening..



rose by any other name

9/28/09, 15:45:pm

Kigali~“ Shut the hell up with your ranting and raving, they must be talking about you when they say black women cant shut the fu-k up~!! You have to be speaking of yourself~!



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:46:pm

WordtotheWise

No, Redds. This goes beyond anything tangible. This goes down to the soul, brother. Years and years of brainwashing, yet we know this and choose to do nothing about it. Don’t blame it on the water or the alcohol. Let’s blame in on pure D mental illness.
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You right, but that tap water aint no good either. I think it contributes to ashy elbow and nuckle syndrome



Cincy's Own

9/28/09, 15:46:pm

our adherence.*



trs

9/28/09, 15:47:pm

@ BE

Now how can you keep you income a secret? they may not know exactly how much you make but they will have an idea.
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You are right BE!!! They may THINK they know, and that’s ok. What I am saying is that it comes to income, it does not behoove a woman to put all of her business out there from jump street. Trust that a man won’t tell you ish until he is ready for you to know it!



Plagueis The Wise

9/28/09, 15:47:pm

It’s amazing how a man can go find a woman that doesn’t make as much as him or doesn’t have as much prestige and that would be ok. Soon as a woman gets a bachelors degree she demands that a man have the same or MORE. Double standard much?



BE

9/28/09, 15:48:pm

Dummycrat and Repiglican…lol
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@Strictly – well said..I agree with all your points



BE

9/28/09, 15:49:pm

Kigali~“ Shut the hell up with your ranting and raving, they must be talking about you when they say black women cant shut the fu-k up~!! You have to be speaking of yourself~!

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tell her rose…LMAO



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:50:pm

BE

Dummycrat and Repiglican…lol
***********DEAD**************

@Strictly – well said..I agree with all your points
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I said that BE, watch it now!!



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:51:pm

BE

@TRS – That is why sistas need to stop advertising what they have and using it as leverage if their man makes less! A man shouldn’t know what’s in your bank account until he puts a ring on it. Lots of women shove the fact that they make a lot of money in their man’s face, and that’s part of the problem. I know you know what’s up with that though!

******************
I agree to a point, there will always be men who are going to be intimidated by what you make or how successful you are or might become.

Now how can you keep you income a secret? they may not know exactly how much you make but they will have an idea.
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Not necessarily….I don’t always drive my nicest car to take a girl out on a date, or dress as nice as I can…I figure if she likes me when I’m not all dressed up nice, she’ll like me when I’m not…Most of the time, I don’t even tell girls what I do, I’ll make up some *****….Now if I like the girl, I’ll let her know more about me, but that information is earned, not freely given…I lot of guys screw themselves by revealing too much too soon, but I like to keep an air of mystery about myself, till I’ve decided I want more from a woman than just a fling…….



BE

9/28/09, 15:52:pm

@Tony – I know you said that…
Dummycrat and Repiglican…lol
***********DEAD**************



trs

9/28/09, 15:53:pm

@ Awesome

My girl didn’t like the games part either. You probably did well though. Let me know how you did when you get your results.
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Will do!



Just A Thought

9/28/09, 15:54:pm

This topic has been debated SO many times. Women/Men (Black/White,etc.) are single by CHOICE. No one should “dull their shine” for anyone.

Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man has solds ten of thousands copies. I wonder if the book was entitled Act Like A Man Think Like A Woman how it would be received. As a woman I would not want a man who thinks like a woman. The title of this book alone trips me out because in one breath men say we need to be submissive but the title says, Think Like A Man. Yet thousands of woman have bought this book, Oprah thinks it is the best thing since sliced bread, Diane Sawyer is gitty over the book. Too many mixed singles for black woman — so back to initial point. Men/Women (Black, White,etc.) are single by CHOICE AND sometime CIR*****STANCE.

Just A Thought!



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 15:55:pm

@ Tony Redd

LOL Yes you should know those two things before you put a ring on it! If you don’t mind a woman who makes less than you then you are “special.”
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If she makes substancially less than me matters to a degree. If Im making 40k and year, I prefer that she at least making 30k. We have to live confortable. However other than income she has to have a level of ambition and drive comparable to me. I dont plan on working forever…lol



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 15:55:pm

A”real woman” will help her man succeed if she loves him, not belittle him b/c she makes more, and it goes vice versus…..Most of you don’t know the meaning of marriage, because if you did it wouldn’t be what “I make” it would be “We make”



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 15:56:pm

I figure if she likes me when I’m not all dressed up nice, she’ll like me when I am…*



Just Me

9/28/09, 15:56:pm

I just love Bossip and all the hidden black men vs. black women drama.

Just because you date outside your race, doesnt mean you have to encourage others because its the “right” thing to do. That’s the problem with Black people. Do it cuz you want to, not cuz the last black person you dealt with wasnt worth your time. Self hate is very much alive and thriving on this site.



I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

9/28/09, 16:00:pm

Yo let Black women marry who they want and most importantly go throw up reading that Lamar Odom married this chick this weekend that he`s known longer than his gold fish !



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 16:02:pm

Do not put the singleness of black women squarely on her shoulders. There are a lot of elements that create singleness, not just with black women, but with every other woman who is w/o husband.

Marriage will never die. It’s a known fact that good marriages make for good families, thus good communities. The breakdown of the black family is due to the lack of good men who fail to take the torch and run with it. They failed their families, children and communities. Women also play a part in that many don’t consider the men they decide to have children with. Marriage is a great thing (hope to do it soon), but it’s the couple themselves that make it either good or bad.

I’ve noticed the prevailing attitude toward marriage with many black people. We’ve resorted to shacking up and playing house and having multiple children with people we wouldn’t consider marrying. That doesn’t make sense to me.

Anyway, I still say that black womem need to consider other avenues if they choose to consider serious relationships and marriage.

Again, quit putting the blame solely on black women. It’s not as though some black men have learned to treat women right. Come on now. A lot of black men want the goods, but they aren’t willing to give it up themselves. If you are a great man, for the most part, women are responders and if you are doing what YOU are supposed to be doing, you won’t have any problem (for the most part) getting a woman who would give you everything you need and want. The men today are selfish. They want it all. They want to be the head, but they don’t have the skills to be the head. Stop looking at your own needs and look at the need to your partner. You just might get what you so desire.



BE

9/28/09, 16:02:pm

@Snoop – A”real woman” will help her man succeed if she loves him, not belittle him b/c she makes more, and it goes vice versus…..Most of you don’t know the meaning of marriage, because if you did it wouldn’t be what “I make” it would be “We make”

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I agree just put it all together and make it happen and thats how you progress.

Just being separated for a little while gave me some experiences with some men who ARE STILL living in the dark ages. start looking strange when they even think you make more than them.



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 16:02:pm

@ daywalker

If a beaver moves on when it’s mate dies, then it is still being monogamous due to the fact that the word carries multiple levels of meaning. Humans remarry all the time when their spouse dies. To say that all animals are lesser beings means that humans can never be compared to other species so their lack of monogamy wouldn’t matter. That would leave us only with what we’ve known humans to do through history and religious beliefs (which I prefer to stay away from, lol).



Hannibals Dad

9/28/09, 16:04:pm

THEY DON’T WANT TYRONE *****IN WITH HER BANK ACCOUNT.
TO THE LEFT TO THE LEFT, SOON AS YOU ***** UP, PACK UP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1



Crank That

9/28/09, 16:04:pm

SUCCESSFUL WOMEN LOOK DOWN ON MEN WITH NO MONEY.



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 16:09:pm

Love is supposed to be natural….nowadays **********as sell their self short because they marry for the wrong reasons. (i.e. the sex was great or monetary gain, he kinda look like tupac…lol dumb *****)



BE

9/28/09, 16:10:pm

SUCCESSFUL WOMEN LOOK DOWN ON MEN WITH NO MONEY.

**************
to a certain degree, if you are willing to work together to be successful (not even as successful) but just find something and be good at it and consistent most women will be willing….broke minded men who wanna stay broke..yes

have some goals in life…that’s all



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 16:10:pm

he kinda look like tupac
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LMAO!!!



BE

9/28/09, 16:12:pm

Love is supposed to be natural….nowadays **********as sell their self short because they marry for the wrong reasons. (i.e. the sex was great or monetary gain, he kinda look like tupac…lol dumb *****)

************
dead@he look like tupac!!!

Love is natural and you can’t control it…but you have to make wise choices about who you let in your world. the wrong person can take you down, so be damned to love if that is the wrong person for me…lol



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 16:16:pm

What’s you guys’ definition of successful? I think that differs from person to person and probably differs in here.



williedynamite

9/28/09, 16:16:pm

THERES A SIMPLE ANSWER TO THIS: THERE ARE “SUCCESSFUL” BLACK MEN OUT THERE, PROBLEM IS THEY HAVE A PLETHORA OF YOUNG BLACK WOMEN THROWING THEMSELVES AT THEM, SO WHY GET MARRIED?

THE PROBLEM WITH SUCCESSFUL BLACK WOMEN IS: THEY SPEND A MAJORITY OF THEIR LIVES GETTING TO THE TOP, AND BY THE TIME THEY REACH THE TOP THEY ARE OLD AND NO ONE WANTS THEM ANYMORE!



brrrp

9/28/09, 16:16:pm

as a succesful jamaican brother, i relate with african american women, but marrying them is a no go…. im marrying one of my own which is jamaican.



Crank That

9/28/09, 16:17:pm

@ BE

If that’s the case, then most successful women feel the same as successful men.



brrrp

9/28/09, 16:17:pm

successful



Str8 Truth

9/28/09, 16:21:pm

I am a college educated black woman. I will tell you why I am not a proponent for marriage. First, many of the men I meet want a woman who is going to be the subordinate in a relationship. I have found this mindset transcends color, culture, education, religion, and financial status. They want a woman who is going to fully trust a man and let them guide her. I have done very well on my journey through life and when I refuse to let them “guide” me or consult with them on every decision I make they flip out. I walk out.

The second reason is many forget there are male golddiggers looking for a come up, too. They may be equally or more successful and only want a woman who can support them so they can pursue their dreams of being a kept husband.



Crank That

9/28/09, 16:21:pm

I think money messes up some people’s egos…



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 16:22:pm

Again, we love to make the black woman out to be the villian and it’s her fault that she’s single. Not so fast.

Look, let’s look at the dynamics here. Black women outnumber black men (I don’t know the numbers so
if I’m wrong, correct me). A good percentage of black men are either in jail, gay, thugs, or if you are a good man, married. That leaves very little left for good sisters to get involved with.



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 16:22:pm

@Word to the Wise

I’ve noticed the prevailing attitude toward marriage with many black people. We’ve resorted to shacking up and playing house and having multiple children with people we wouldn’t consider marrying. That doesn’t make sense to me.
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Just because you are married doesnt eliminate the possiblity of a man fathering children outside of the marriage. Marriage in our society is nothing more to me than legal do*****ent. Marriage Why is it that you marry in a church or before a pastor, yet the government must divorce you? The State (government) has replaced God today and the people have allowed it. People don’t go before God to get married. They go before the State to get married. My point is you can still have a healthy and prosperous relationship and not be “legally married” as long as both parties are on the same page..



BE

9/28/09, 16:22:pm

If that’s the case, then most successful women feel the same as successful men.

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and the men also so be careful who they marry…a woman can destroy a man if she is negative and unsupportive.



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:23:pm

i have dated some successful black women, and they are all the same as being very shallow, ignorant loud and ghetto. black american women are not wifey material, on my street alone we have like 93% of single black mothers, how dreadful is that.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 16:24:pm

Str8 Truth>>>Great points. So many men are not equipped to lead. They have egos as large as the Grand Canyon. Again, I say there is nothing wrong with being single.



BE

9/28/09, 16:25:pm

@Tony Redd – My point is you can still have a healthy and prosperous relationship and not be “legally married” as long as both parties are on the same page..
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true but if its healthy why not make it legal?



Crank That

9/28/09, 16:25:pm

@ Str8

You sound a like *****y.



MissingBlackFemale

9/28/09, 16:25:pm

Bossip will not share this story-its been sent to them!!!!!!!!!! Kardashian circus is more important.

Mitrice Richardson Arrested, Released, then Disappeared: Are the Cops to Blame?

(www.cbsnews.com/blogs/2009/09/25/crimesider/entry5339581.shtml)



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:26:pm

@wordtowise
a good percentage of black men are in jail?LOL are you serious??



BE

9/28/09, 16:27:pm

The second reason is many forget there are male golddiggers looking for a come up, too. They may be equally or more successful and only want a woman who can support them so they can pursue their dreams of being a kept husband.

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PREACH! that’s why some of them looking for an independent woman..so they can mooch off her and finish taking care of their kids and baby mamas…heck no



Black

9/28/09, 16:27:pm

BECAUSE THE BLACK WOMAN MADE AN AGREEMENT WITH THE DEVIL IN GENESIS AND HAS KEPT THAT AGREEMENT SINCE THEN



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:27:pm

people like wordtowise and st8 up are goin to be single for the rest of their lifes.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 16:27:pm

Leave A Message>>>Yes. Why is that surprising. Where have you been?



Frewl

9/28/09, 16:28:pm

Well, the Black women are too busy to put themselves out there, too smart to dip there pens in the Company’s ink or the obvious….. Alot of smart Black women are over-weight, unattractive and/or boring outside of the office. Unless guys are looking for a mother-figure, they will be attracted to the petite, cute girl/woman. God set it up that way! Khloe K lost all of that weight and u see what happened!



Crank That

9/28/09, 16:28:pm

@ Be

Agreed.



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:29:pm

@black
LOL



ll

9/28/09, 16:29:pm

This is my opinion. No I am not rich but I do have a career. As I grow professionally so do my interest. I want to be with someone who has the same interest, similar education and so on. The problem is that when men become successful they want “the prize.” Black women are not “the prize” or the “trophy” in America. Sure their are a few men and I mean a few who are willing to go against the grain and be with a black woman. However, our options are few. The more successful we become the smaller our options are unless we are willing to be with someone we have little in common with. So instead of “marrying down” many of use choose to be single.

A women of any other race can be ugly, fat, poor whatever and still get married. A black women can be beautiful, smart, successful and go her whole life without a guy marring her. Messed up world we live in. People wonder why some of us are so angry when it comes to relationships.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 16:30:pm

Leave a Message>>>I’m in a very great relationship, dear. You know why? Because my man is not insecure and doesn’t try to change me. He got me this way, he likes it, and we are fine. We speak the truth. Too bad people have a hard time receiving it.

Like I stated before, if I was to be single, so what? Why do people always think women have to be attached to a man to be validated. I’m cool with my life. I’d rather be single than with someone I’m not compatable with.



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:31:pm

@wordtowise
there alot of good black men who own their business, who are lawyers, doctors, teachers. but you black girls pick thugs and blame everything on black men.keep attracting thugs.



BE

9/28/09, 16:31:pm

Alot of smart Black women are over-weight, unattractive and/or boring outside of the office
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oh boy…talk about generalizations



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 16:32:pm

BE

@Tony Redd – My point is you can still have a healthy and prosperous relationship and not be “legally married” as long as both parties are on the same page..
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true but if its healthy why not make it legal?
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The institution of legal marriage in America is about money and nothing more. Why would marriage be unlawful before the eyes of the State if a man and woman were in love and decided to come together for purposes of satisfying their God’s command of man and woman coming together in holy matrimony and also to multiply via children and establishing a family? Why would this be illegal without the State’s permission? If God ordained marriage, why would the State (man) have a problem with marriage, wanting to regulate it? Money! Civilized marriage all boils down to the fact that the State sees both man and woman as pieces of state-owned property,



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 16:32:pm

LMAO!! at the genralizations…..If i go by stats i would be just in saying i can’t find a successful BW because their either married, dykes, or has HIV…..knock it off with the statistics and generalizations…Its plenty of successful single black men and women, get out the box….



Trmntr

9/28/09, 16:33:pm

B’Cause they’re stupid, Got a lil money & success – Don’t need a man, Ask’em I bet they tell you they don’t need a man – Now that’s stupid – They’re to good for their dang on selves – Men aren’t intimadated by a succuessful woman, She just becomes to ingulfed in herself and forgets how to act…………………….



chaka1

9/28/09, 16:33:pm

I am still shock by the lack of self esteem on this site. Who in hell told you black women are the prize or the trophy? My black pu**y is made of gold and diamonds. You damn right I am my man’s prize…

No man is going to swoop down from the heavens and slap a ring on your finger. You have got to make the effort to be caught.

Ya’ll need to get it together.



chaka1

9/28/09, 16:34:pm

I am still shocked by the lack of self esteem on this site. Who in hell told you black women are not the prize or the trophy? My black pu**y is made of gold and diamonds. You damn right I am my man’s prize…

No man is going to swoop down from the heavens and slap a ring on your finger. You have got to make the effort to be caught.

Ya’ll need to get it together.



Crank That

9/28/09, 16:34:pm

Peace out! This ***** is giving me a headache!



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:34:pm

@wordtowise
if you have a man then you should know better. stop generalizing and saying all black men are in jail.



new orleans finest (504)

9/28/09, 16:36:pm

cant explain it. i guess its because …………………..i dont know! i cant speak for black women. i cant speak for blk men. from what i see. i think that deep down blk women hate us. they feel empowered and refuse to settle. i know that i dont discriminate and would date any woman i see fit. color doesnt matter. i must admit that white women tend to treat us better. for rich or for poor, latino women are known for sticking by our side. it just seems like SOME blk successful women seem to have an attitude. to be honest it seems that SOME black women have an attitude and can bring some brothers down. i think ppl put too much emphasis on money. its our currency but it cant buy u love or cl*****. good ppl are hard to find. period



Bob B

9/28/09, 16:36:pm

When she marries Gayle…



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:37:pm

@chaka
My black pu**y is made of gold and diamonds.

OK?????? LOL



THINK ABOUT THIS

9/28/09, 16:40:pm

WHY DONT WE WAIT ONE SECOND AND THINK ABOUT THIS..WHY DID OVER 300 PEOPLE COMMENT ON THE FACT THAT BLACK MEN AINT ***** AND BLACK WOMAN AINT *****..DONT WE THINK THERE IN LIES THE PROBLEM..DO YOU THINK THERE IS ANY OTHER SITES THAT ALLOW THERE RACE TO HAVE A LAUNDRY LIST CONVERSATION OF HOW THERE COUNTERPARTS ARENT *****!..IM JUST SAYING..



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 16:41:pm

Leave a Message>>>Not only are you ignorant, but you lack comprehension skills. I never said ALL black men are in jail. Hello! You are more the idiot by generalizing all black women. Don’t like it when it’s done to you, huh.

Boy boo!



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 16:42:pm

People need to stop equating money with success. You can make a ton of money and not be successful. It’s takes more than a large bank account, a couple cars and a house to be a success.



BE

9/28/09, 16:42:pm

@tony – The institution of legal marriage in America is about money and nothing more. Why would marriage be unlawful before the eyes of the State if a man and woman were in love and decided to come together for purposes of satisfying their God’s command of man and woman coming together in holy matrimony and also to multiply via children and establishing a family? Why would this be illegal without the State’s permission? If God ordained marriage, why would the State (man) have a problem with marriage, wanting to regulate it? Money! Civilized marriage all boils down to the fact that the State sees both man and woman as pieces of state-owned property,

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Well I see marriage not as money but as God’s plan for families….I agree people talk too much about money when it comes to marriage or divorce. I must say through my separation my husband and I have managed to keep that to a minimum.



jus chillin at work

9/28/09, 16:42:pm

I wouldn’t date anyone who is stupid, becasue it would ***** me off



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:43:pm

snoop bloggy blog ( i’m sort of a BIG DEAL)

LMAO!! at the genralizations…..If i go by stats i would be just in saying i can’t find a successful BW because their either married, dykes, or has HIV…..knock it off with the statistics and generalizations…Its plenty of successful single black men and women, get out the box….

LOL, you just reminded me of one of my boys, he said before he marries a black chic he must take her to get tested.



Shay

9/28/09, 16:43:pm

Swan06

Here is a bigger question, why ask other single black women? If you are trying to find the answer, let stop attacking what black men are doing which most likely is on such a small scale that it is not even worth reporting.

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You really think it’s that one sided? If we’re going to discuss any issue we have to look at both sides. The only problem is people get so emotional they throw in everything but the kitchen sink. These debates end up looking like most black people hate each other.



BE

9/28/09, 16:44:pm

@Awesome – People need to stop equating money with success. You can make a ton of money and not be successful. It’s takes more than a large bank account, a couple cars and a house to be a success.

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say it awesome…success for one may not be success for the other. I feel successful when my kids do well, money is just an ends to a good life, which is the reason why I work



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 16:46:pm

People need to stop equating money with success. You can make a ton of money and not be successful. It’s takes more than a large bank account, a couple cars and a house to be a success.
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real talk…..you can’t tell these Ivy Leaguers that!! lmao!!



BE

9/28/09, 16:47:pm

anyway the way I see it, the women are checking out the women more than the men these days…for real! So the ratio of needing a “man” may be down quite a bit



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:47:pm

@wordtowise
you dumb broad, are you calling me ignorant? where you not the one who said good black men are either gay or in jail and you say i am ignorant.GTFOH



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:50:pm

what the hell, im sorry, if i have tons of money, then i am successful.LOL



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 16:51:pm

real talk…..you can’t tell these Ivy Leaguers that!! lmao!!
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Haha, not at all.



BE

9/28/09, 16:52:pm

what the hell, im sorry, if i have tons of money, then i am successful.LOL

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lol..but there is more than one way to be successful…you can have tons of money but your kids are getting d’s f’s….are you still successful..not at parenting



settin' the record straight

9/28/09, 16:53:pm

@Holla
before that argument goes any further…kill that ***** at once. Aint *****ody intimidated by a chick having money. She got money…err ok and? Nope its because most white chicks grew up with money so its nothing.
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actually out of all races and both genders there are more white women currently on welfare than any other demographic. so no “most white” girls did not grow up with money. just sayin…



BE

9/28/09, 16:54:pm

good black men are NOT IN JAIL!
if they were good they would not be there, even the dummies who get caught in the wrong place at the wrong time…..sorry just my opinion.



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 16:54:pm

Then are people that don’t make a lot of money unsuccessful? Grade school teachers, social workers etc.



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:54:pm

BE

what the hell, im sorry, if i have tons of money, then i am successful.LOL

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lol..but there is more than one way to be successful…you can have tons of money but your kids are getting d’s f’s….are you still successful..not at parenting

ill pay teachers to throw some a’s on the sh*t.LMAOO



Tony Redds ( I got luv for the ladies of Memphis!

9/28/09, 16:54:pm

Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

People need to stop equating money with success. You can make a ton of money and not be successful. It’s takes more than a large bank account, a couple cars and a house to be a success.
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Success to me is knowing you have fulfilled your hearts desire….



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 16:56:pm

@BE
exactly, tell that to that dumb broad..wordtothewise.



BE

9/28/09, 16:58:pm

@Awesome – Then are people that don’t make a lot of money unsuccessful? Grade school teachers, social workers etc.

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not to me…success is different for each person. I’m not a lawyer but I feel successful but a lawyer might not and if he was a man he may not want to date me…



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 16:58:pm

I think it’s their preference to be single, i don’t think it’s because the generalizations BW are making, just like alot of successful women rather not have kids…..



BE

9/28/09, 16:59:pm

Ok..i’m out good night



snoop bloggy blog ( i'm sort of a BIG DEAL)

9/28/09, 17:00:pm

bye be



Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

9/28/09, 17:01:pm

Later BE



Nini

9/28/09, 17:07:pm

Because we as black people in the United States have bought into all the negativity that has been sold about black love. Seriously, we can just tell by the reactions because the best thing we can do is blame and point the finger at why black men are this or black women are that. GET WITH THE PROGRAM FOLKS…



new orleans finest (504)

9/28/09, 17:13:pm

success is determined by happiness and comfortability. success stories vary and it shouldnt be determined by how much money you make at the end of a fiscal year. a doctor and teacher are both successful. no big diff to me. if a black woman think she is better than the next blk woman because of income?………welll she’s not worth my time. oprah can be just as unhappy as a poor woman. maybe this is the problem. maybe black women shouldn’t hold riches over morality….i hate to change subjects but, why do blk women always have something to say about brothers but get *****ed when they see us with a white woman? just asking.



NoWorkLoveBalance

9/28/09, 17:15:pm

because school/work and saving/making money are the focus of their life. more women should do this instead of having children at a young age and/or depending on a man. the only bad part is many women who do this, like Oprah, do not know when when/how or maybe lose to desire to incorporate love/children into their successful lives. it ends up being sad when the woman is 50, unmarried, and childless. this is like my aunt-owns a house, nice care, no debt, never married, no kids, travels, etc. but now she is getting older and alone.



Karen

9/28/09, 17:26:pm

Some women simply don’t WANT to be married. Believe it or not.



Helen

9/28/09, 17:34:pm

I think sucessful black women stays single because of the trust issue. They rather wait and find someone on their level, then to get with someone that will bring them down. That why white people divorce rate is so high because the rush to get married for the wrong reasons.



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 17:55:pm

Awesome-O-3000 (Feeling better about the ACC)

@ daywalker

If a beaver moves on when it’s mate dies, then it is still being monogamous due to the fact that the word carries multiple levels of meaning. Humans remarry all the time when their spouse dies. To say that all animals are lesser beings means that humans can never be compared to other species so their lack of monogamy wouldn’t matter. That would leave us only with what we’ve known humans to do through history and religious beliefs (which I prefer to stay away from, lol).
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No doubt, But my thing is: Human beings are animals,wheter we like it or not, we’re considered mammals….That being said, the fact that we aren’t monogamous by nature still remains….And monogamy in beavers is certainly no reason for me to get married just because it would make a female feel as though they are an example for me to follow…



Oshie is a Little Nervous

9/28/09, 18:10:pm

@Daywalker

Thanks for the positive message last night, it was truly appreciated.



capt'n backslap

9/28/09, 18:16:pm

its because yall *****ed around with the thugs and losers while us intelligent black men went to school and experienced different cultures and were exposed to more than the hoodrat mentality. im not saying im looking for a white girl, but im definitely not looking for a black woman whos been used and abused by low lifes and now holds me to a higher standard than she has in the past.



Invictus

9/28/09, 18:22:pm

Look no man of substance wants to be bothered with one of these entitled black broads end of story. Life is too short for these drama queens. This is why black men and men of all races are finding their wives overseas, behind the counter at Starbucks or nannying. Tiger Woods is the baddest golfer on the planet and married a nanny. He left all these black chicks and their degrees in the dust. And rightfully so!



Shay

9/28/09, 18:30:pm

What did we learn today?



MistaO

9/28/09, 18:30:pm

Didn’t read all of what I’m sure is a bunch of the same. At the end of the day the reason so many “successful” BW are single is due to their very own choices, or lack thereof.

Most spend decades chasing white D then when they finally realize aint none of those white dudes trying to wife’um, then they run back to who’ll ever listen and lament the lack of eligible BM…

Yea, whatever. We got hip to that game long time ago. They think because they have this, and have that, got this degree and that one, that some man is supposed to automatically fall into valuing that.

On the real, men, more specifically BM are really simple when it comes to women. Be kind, loving and not a damn fool about things and we will be there. I’ve seen a whole lot of BW let their equally unhappy, mothers, sisters, girlfriends ect. ruin their relationships by running all manner of game on the woman.

Sad, but real, I’ve seen more BW get twisted in the game by other BW who did not want to see them happy, especially not with a BM. And for BM, we just aint got the gas to keep pushing a bolder up hill, if she aint acting right, we out!

But funny thing is though. Seems that there ARE a whole lot of BW who seem to have ZERO trouble finding a man!!!

Hmmmm?!? Seems the question should be, what’s wrong with the supposed “successful” BW!!! What are their common denominators? Ultimately, we know what it is.

Let me clue you all in from a mans perspective. Men DO NOT want an overbearing *****! It’s just that simple. Give us a sweet dispositioned, loving woman any day. That’s what they hate. The fact that men aint even trying to deal with them any longer. You wanna be a bish? You wanna resist being a woman, wife and mother? Fine, we’ll just move on..



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 18:33:pm

@Oshie is a Little Nervous

@Daywalker

Thanks for the positive message last night, it was truly appreciated.
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Like I said before, you have to have faith sometimes….You either do, or you don’t…But ultimately communication is what will always be the best thing in any relationship….Happy I could help you, though……



DR.FUNK

9/28/09, 18:45:pm

This post implies that only sistas’ are dealing with a shortage of “eligible” men.Not true.ALL WOMEN OF ALL DESCRIPTIONS are across the board better educated & higher earning.As such they have higher expectations.As I’ve posted before…marriage is bull***** as a end all/be all “holy grail”.



straighttruth

9/28/09, 18:49:pm

Wanna keep it real…Perfect example of why Black Women are single…Kandi from Atlanta Housewives. That’s ALL I gotta say!!



DAYWALKER (I CAN P***** ANYTHING ON THE ROAD EXCEPT A GAS STATION!!!!)

9/28/09, 18:51:pm

@ capt’n backslap/Invictus:

I have to admit that a lot of these females are engineers of their own demise….They sleep with a bunch of thug *****s while they’re broke, get used like tennis rackets, cry about how *****ed up black dudes are, get degrees, then all of a sudden all black men are “Coons”, Thugs, drug dealers, gay, uneducated, and worthless!!! How do I know this? Because when I was in high school, I was an athlete…I played sports, but was somewhat of a nerd….once I got to college, being an athlete got me all kinds of girls, and the ones that I wanted to hook up with in high school were looking for me, but I wasn’t looking for them….Fast forward to today, and those same women are still trying to get at me, even though they have 4 or 5 kids now….And I find it hillarious every time that they see me when I go home….They beg and plead, and the funny thing is, there was this one girl who I absolutely adored, but I could never talk to her…..Nowadays, she’s fat, has a gang of kids, and had the nerve to tell me “I used to think she was beautiful once”…..I TOLD HER *****: “YEAH, BUT YOU GOT REAL UGLY!!”…….



straighttruth

9/28/09, 18:56:pm

@ Wordtothe Wise

Or got six motherf***ing kids!!



Str8 Truth

9/28/09, 19:05:pm

From Crank That:
@ Str8

You sound a like *****y
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I am *****uming you meant I sound *****y. With that statement, *****umption is the only way to go. Clear communication, brotha. Get with it.

This attitude towards women does not help. If you were calling me *****y, you are in the weak woman expectation category. If a woman is strong and self-sufficient she is either a B, *****y, arrogant, ignorant, etc. If I have to become a Stepford wife to be a wife, then I am destined to be the happiest spinster on the block. Anyone who willingly destroys their essence to gain a mate’s acceptance is not, imho, spousal material. If I can’t trust someone to feel secure enough in himself to show me who he really is, how can I trust him at all?



straighttruth

9/28/09, 19:07:pm

For ya’ll who said it’s about money…It has nothing to do with money. It has to do with a person’s character and whether they have drive and determination and are hard working. I wouldn’t date Lil wayne just like I wouldn’t date the dude flippin burgers at MckyD’s



Real Talk

9/28/09, 19:16:pm

I’m a black man. We been trying to tell you this for years!! Shut the ***** up sometimes, Damn!!! Black chicks talk to much. Oh, I can’t tell you *****? I ain’t yo daddy huh? You don’t have to listen to what I say? Ok. Kick mud. I stop trying to put black girls in wifey position like 10 years ago



S. Walk(learn how to bag the ***** up first,THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 19:20:pm

In the United States, everything has to do with money.



Pam #2

9/28/09, 19:23:pm

^^ @DR.FUNK, well said :]

why is it that black men *****ume all this stuff about successful black women? just because they dont wanna be somebody’s ***** doesnt mean theyre stuck up, controlling, and self righteous. and just because a black woman gives her honest opinion on something doesnt mean she’s challenging your masculinity. what happened to giving people a chance? I’m only 17 and i’m hearing these opinions from kids my age and younger. I could be joking in cl***** and disagree with a black guy and he says “see, thats why i only date white girls LOL!!”, like its funny. smh

oh, and all successful BW dont judge you by whats in your wallet, they just dont want to be supporting you 100%, thats all :/



IGOTTHIS

9/28/09, 19:27:pm

Real talk. It’s hard enough dealing with a average black woman. A black woman with money is an entire beast in itself. I have money & have tried to date black women with money. But are sooooo very quick to give you the I don’t need you speech, you ain’t my daddy, or look at what I’ve done for myself at any given moment. That’s there only defense in ANY TYPE of arguement. It caould be about what to watch on TV. I promise you it will get to that. They also tend to not appreciate anything. Get em something nice, it’s I can do for myself. Try to be simple & thoughtful. It’s too cheap. You can’t win with them. So eff em. Give me a simple woman & I’m good. I hate to say it. But a lot of successful black women are selfish and/or arrogant.



S. Walk(learn how to bag the ***** up first,THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 19:27:pm

Real Talk

Thats some generalizing bull*****.
I’m a man from Detroit and we have the most single black women of any major metropolis. The reason that black women are not getting married is because of the lack of men who will step up to the plate.
You can say a lot of things about “too much mouth”, or not “letting you lead” but how many black women have you heard of turning down marriage proposals?
Black men have to pop that question. Thats it.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 19:28:pm

“i think that deep down blk women hate us.”

Honestly, I’ve thought the reverse on more than one occasion. Have you read the comments on this very blog?



MiamiChick

9/28/09, 19:37:pm

@ S.WALK, OMG thank you for that comment. You said it best. Finally, a man with some sense and rational thinking on this thread. God bless you.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 19:39:pm

@Aunt Viv

“We are the only race of women who are ingrained with the thinking that we need to accept the real possibility that we may end up unmarried, especially if we have achieved a certain level of success. I personally think that’s sad.”

So true. We’ve also taught as black women that we have NO right to have high standards; no RIGHT to demand the best for ourselves; no RIGHT to want to be loved, respected, and treated well, or else we will fall under the debilitating label of the “bitter black woman.”

For example, just today, I had a brother — whom I have strong feelings for — tell me, unprompted that he didn’t think that Lamar Odom would have married Khloe Kardashian had she been a black woman with the same reputation. Although I agreed with him, I told him that his gender afforded him the freedom to make such a statement without the concern of being placed in a box, or have a judgment made about his temperament or disposition.

I feel at times that I’m expected to stay mum about what I see as the blatant disregard, disrespect, and mistreatment of black women — or else I will be seen as a “Sapphire,” and, thus, my opinion will be muted. It’s an unfair burden, and the denigration — I think it’s more akin to abuse — has to stop. The dislike expressed for black women is more often than not a dislike for self, and that is something that sisters have absolutely nothing to do with, nor can they provide a remedy, other than to byp***** damaged individuals.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 19:44:pm

@Pam #2

“just because they dont wanna be somebody’s ***** doesnt mean theyre stuck up, controlling, and self righteous. and just because a black woman gives her honest opinion on something doesnt mean she’s challenging your masculinity. what happened to giving people a chance? I’m only 17 and i’m hearing these opinions from kids my age and younger. I could be joking in cl***** and disagree with a black guy and he says “see, thats why i only date white girls LOL!!”, like its funny. smh”

Young sista, don’t let anyone — and I do mean, anyone — deter you from speaking your mind, your opinions, and holding true to your beliefs and standards. If they want to “date white,” let them. I’m disgusted that this pathology has affected members of the younger generation, but young women have to avoid the riff-raff and stay on track to achieve their goals. Hold your head high and keep moving forward.



Larry

9/28/09, 19:49:pm

lmao at the replies

thelayoutspot.net



Pam #2

9/28/09, 19:52:pm

@Sydney

Thanks for your kind words; you’re a very smart and wise person :] and dont worry, I wont stifle my opinions or beliefs for anyone. This ’successful but single black women’ statistic doesnt scare me one bit; I’ll strive to be successful anyways!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:00:pm

As a beautiful, employed, highly educated black man let me tell you why I think most successful black women over 45 arent married yet:

1. You percieve everything as being “yours” because you worked for it and even if there is a man in your life and he makes less, you deem that “his” problem. The ***** doesnt work with the roles reversed, then everything is “ours”

2. Black women who earn alot of money are in the corporate word and they wont even talk to the janitor or security guard, unless shes firing the janitor and she needs security to escort his ***** out!

3. Most black men with normal jobs cant afford to frequent the places most executive women want to go, I mean $300 for a dinner might be his whole weekly paycheck.

4. The only time you see executive level black women in the hood where regular black men hang out is when they need their hair done, then its back to the **********in’ suburbs before it gets dark, oh and after she stops by the Bar B Q place……. Aint no good reasonable Bar B Q in the suburbs!

5. Most low wage earnin’ *****s are multiple babydaddies, you’ll never see a black female executive say to the company president “these are my stepchildren, lil Shaniqua, lil shaquandria, lil ebonia, lil quiantemia and Leroy” that ***** doesnt look good at the corporate retreat.

6. Most women dont like *****s with fingernails longer than hers, Now thats some poor ghetto *****!

I could go on and on people!



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:01:pm

@Pam #2

I can tell you’re very smart and wise yourself. You’re only 17? You show great maturity.

“This ’successful but single black women’ statistic doesnt scare me one bit; I’ll strive to be successful anyways!”

You’re absolutely right — It shouldn’t. Focus on you and what you want out of life, and when the time is right, you’ll meet the person who can love and appreciate you for you. Too many sisters are settling for less than they deserve out of fear, and, by doing so, they rob themselves of true happiness and fulfillment.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 20:03:pm

LEAVE A MESSAGE>>>Here’s what I said. If you go bad and read (you can read, can’t you) you would read what I said. Here it is in case you missed it:

A GOOD percentage of black men are either in jail, gay, thugs, or if you are a good man, married. That leaves very little left for good sisters to get involved with.

Get it? I didn’t say good black men were in prison. Obviously. Duh! I said a GOOD percentage of black men are…

Again, you and any others would didn’t get it lack comprehension skills. Read and quit being an idiot.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 20:04:pm

if you go back and read



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 20:06:pm

S. Walk(learn how to bag the ***** up first,THEN GET MONEY!)>>>Thank God for a brother like you. You absolutely GET IT!



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:10:pm

@Pam #2

Oh, and I’ve posted this saying on here before, but a friend shared an adage with me that was p*****ed on to her from her mother — Be that peach that’s hard to reach.

There may be “boys” who deride you for your beliefs and standards, but their arms were too short to reach you anyway.

Hey WordtotheWise



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:12:pm

its6amho

Please. Shut the ***** up COONBUG.
You shine shoes at a hotel in hawaii amd call yourself educated.
Your father is a bartender at the same hotel and you tried to claim he was the “regional director” of food & beverage.
I know your s*****.
You have an inferiority complex about your situation, so you “attack” black women under the guise of keeping it real.

A tom under the beautiful sun of Hawaii is still a TOM!



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:16:pm

WordtotheWise

Thank you.
I used to be an idiot when I was in my late teens and early twenties, then i started to see the light. I came to the realization that we (the black man) have lost our way in the sense of family and responsibility.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:19:pm

cats don’t want to admit the truth.
all thumbs. (can’t handle it)



Pam #2

9/28/09, 20:21:pm

@Sydney

hmmm, i like that! i need to write that down somewhere. thanks! and you’re right.

“There may be “boys” who deride you for your beliefs and standards, but their arms were too short to reach you anyway.”

i like that, too! :]



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:21:pm

@S. Walk

“I came to the realization that we (the black man) have lost our way in the sense of family and responsibility.”

Can you elaborate on what led you to this conclusion? I’m interested in reading more of your insights, if you don’t mind.

I do agree that it’s easier for some individuals to blame the opposite sex than to look into their psyches where the real problem may lie.



new orleans state of mind

9/28/09, 20:22:pm

well im glad we can express our opinion in a civil way. i feel that most blk women like thugs. they go for the street hustler type dudes. im not saying that street hustlers are not cool, or incapable of being good men. it just seems like the “corny, lame, polo shirt, slacks, hard shoes) blk man is seen as weak. when a brother broaden his horizons and is exposed to a different culture, he will never be the same again. so dont be mad when a white, asian, latin, etc… woman snags a good brother. i feel if you didnt want us then it shouldn’t matter who we date. im sorry but blk women do have big mouths and seem to put brothers down. im just glad that all blk women are not like that. some ppl believe that white , latino, asian women knows how to make a blk man feel like matters. no arguing! no fights! no snapping for silly reasons!…a great philosopher once said ” a man needs to feel like a man” …i kno wits a simple quote but it has such a detailed yet simple meaning. i guess what it means that its OK to not win every argument, every fight! its OK TO GIVE IN TO THE OTHER SIDE! thats what ppl do when they are together, when their one whole…we compromise. so ladies! if u get anything from this horribly structured comment, please get this!!! let your man feel like a man and please treat the brother like you know he is good if he’s worth it. because their tons of white, asian, and latin women who can recognize a real man. ty ppl



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:24:pm

@Pam #2

LOL, and the next time a boy says, “that’s the reason I date white girls only,” you can smile sweetly and say, “and I wish you all the best.” Kill them with kindness.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:26:pm

“i feel that most blk women like thugs.”

Hmm, maybe you need to broaden your circle of black women? Once again, it’s very easy to generalize if you lack exposure.

“so dont be mad when a white, asian, latin, etc… woman snags a good brother.”

Who’s mad? It’s a free country, no? Date and be happy.



your welcome

9/28/09, 20:29:pm

KMB926

Again I say…

Omg, I’m so tired of the generalizations being shoved down society’s throats by the media. Most black women this, Most black men that. How about it depends on the circles you move in, the community your were raised in? That determines the different scenarios one sees. No, we’re not losing Black men to other races as Black men aren’t losing Black women to other races. I can count on two hands how many black couples I’ve known that have gotten married in the past two years. Maybe I’m living in another world because I don’t see these generalizations that this article speaks of except on internet sites and the media. It’s like this country feeds off the negative bull***** between black men and women. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!!! STOP FEEDING INTO THIS! Our race is becoming more successful everyday. Look how much we’ve accomplished over the past hundred years. Let’s continue to focus on our success instead of meaningless stereotypes and generalizations!

I’ll agree w/u



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:31:pm

Sydney

I’m 31, so i grew up during the rise of Death Row records.Although I’m not blaming them,but when the whole “*****es ain’t *****” thing started, it became cool for young boys my age (13 or 14 at the time) to demean the black female. This became pop culture, and therefore the value of the black female vastly decreased, and as we got older and became men, our attitudes were shaped by these beliefs. The mantra had basically become “***** em’ and leave em’” but never “wife” them. Real talk.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:34:pm

your welcome

you are so correct, I try to tell people this everyday, I mean we were SLAVES just 145 years ago.



your welcome

9/28/09, 20:35:pm

Why do you guys continue to buy into Bossip’s Bullsh&t?
You must know alot of these people are paid to create hate.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:37:pm

@S. Walk

“This became pop culture, and therefore the value of the black female vastly decreased, and as we got older and became men, our attitudes were shaped by these beliefs. The mantra had basically become “***** em’ and leave em’” but never “wife” them.”

Yes, I agree with you that popular culture has really impacted the perceptions of many of us. I remember that old song, “b**ches ain’t s**t but h**s and tricks,” and it seemed like lyrics progressively worsened over time, and now we’ve become desensitized to the damaging messages in our music and other avenues of entertainment.

I would love to get your take on a commentary I read last week on another site about what the impact could be if Jay-Z, as an example of a very popular rapper, put out a song about marriage. What would happen if performers sang about romance and courtship, as opposed to sex and abandonment?



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:40:pm

@S. Walk

Do you think that as the value of black women has been diminished, so has their trust of black men? I see men as the protectors of a community, and when that protection has been removed or severely decreased, it causes a chain reaction of damaging repercussions.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:42:pm

@ Sydney,

Common puts out songs about relationships, but ignorant ***** bama music stations wont play that *****, its more important to see who can “outcoon” one another.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:44:pm

For black men to be the protectors of a community they’d have to exterminate the vermin infesting the community first, and it all starts with ghetto ***** hood *****es having babies they cant raise or pay for with nothing ***** *****s. Thats a cycle that has to be broken first.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:46:pm

its6amhogetout

You “outccon” them all, don’t try to offer a thoughtful response now. We know you are COON.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:46:pm

tell me sydney, how many soulfood restaurants are in chinatown? How many weave emporiums are in lil tokyo? Do you see black owned liquor stores in Indian neighborhoods? ***** no!



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:46:pm

@6am

Yes, I know, and he’s one rapper (one of the very few) I do support. I thought his last CD was OK, but I loved “Be.”

From “Real People”:

Black men walking wit white girls on they arms
I be mad at em as if I know they moms
Told to go beyond the surface, a person’s a person
When we lessen our women our condition seems to worsen



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:48:pm

“For black men to be the protectors of a community they’d have to exterminate the vermin infesting the community first, and it all starts with ghetto ***** hood *****es having babies they cant raise or pay for with nothing ***** *****s.”

??????????

OK, back to the conversation with S. Walk. Your thoughts?



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:49:pm

@ Sydney,

is it really black men lessening black women? we dont encourage hood *****es to get blonde weaves, we dont encourage ghetto hoes to keep having more and more illegitimate children, we dont tell hoodrats to stop going to school because you’ll miss maury, thats some ***** dumb ***** hood hoes decide to do on their own.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:49:pm

sydney

I think that the problem is really up to the black man. Black women and their so-called “attitudes” are a result of the demeaning I spoke of earlier. It falls on the shoulder of the black man to realize that he is the only race of man that will publicly insult and devalue his own woman.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:51:pm

@ Sydney,

When i say “exterminate the infestation” what I mean is, stop worshipping a drug dealer, pimp, gangbanger or run of the mill thug, your home is your castle, you dont have to emulate what goes on outside that **********a, you have to raise your kids!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:54:pm

@ Sydney,

Is it really demeaning to tell a woman, I wont date you because you have kids already, is it demeaning to say we dont have ***** in common because you worship what you see on BET and I worship capitalism and getting more? ***** no! You cant blame black men for the state of all black women, so *****es are just plain lazy and stupid.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:54:pm

@S. Walk

“Black women and their so-called “attitudes” are a result of the demeaning I spoke of earlier.”

I’ll go back to what I said earlier — when a person is constantly told how unvaluable, unwanted, unattractive, unloved she is, sooner or later, she may start to believe it. She may develop a hard interior as a defense.

“It falls on the shoulder of the black man to realize that he is the only race of man that will publicly insult and devalue his own woman.”

Why do you think this is occurring?



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:54:pm

Sydney

My point is proven with the coon “its6amhogatout”.
He thinks that its humorous to stereotype black women as if he were working for the klan, not realizing that this is how his black mother is also viewed. He is also of the type to need to inform people that his lady is not “all black” but “half asian”, which means she is “better”.
Its just COONERY.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:54:pm

Thats “some”



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 20:56:pm

@6am

“You cant blame black men for the state of all black women, so *****es are just plain lazy and stupid.”

Did I say that? Of course not. I’ve been surrounded most of my life by black men who know how to treat women well because they were raised to do so and comport themselves accordingly. What’s with all the hostile language?



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:56:pm

@ Sydney,

Black men can and should be more selective in their choice of partners, what progressive, employed and educated black man wants a dummy for a mate? She should be on his level or at least getting there.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 20:57:pm

@ Sydney, you arent saying that, its what Im saying.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 20:59:pm

Sydney

Men like this are not sociallly aware enough to realize that “others” are laughing AT him and not WITH him, all he hears are the laughs.
I mean seriously, BET, blonde weaves, worshipping drug dealers, etc.
Its as though he’s not really black, he just reads XXL magazine and says “this is black people”.



trs

9/28/09, 20:59:pm

Black men can and should be more selective in their choice of partners, what progressive, employed and educated black man wants a dummy for a mate? She should be on his level or at least getting there.
————————————————

Hey there! This works both ways 6 AM.

When we as educated BW think along the same lines we are told that we need to compromise and lower our standards for the sake of getting a man. SMH.

HEY SYDNEY!!!!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:00:pm

@ Sydney,

we’ve had this conversation before, you cant save anybody who doesnt want to be saved, as progressive black men we have to protect the uncut diamonds that are stuck in the ghettos trying to get some kind of education so they can get out. Multiple babymommas are just that, and they aint lookin’ for anything more than a few extra dollars each month or a hand out, and Im sorry but the bank is closed.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:00:pm

@6am

Oh, by the way, the line about “lessening our women” came from Common, not me. I finally understand where your post came from. Again, those are Common’s words.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:01:pm

@ TRS

I agree luv, progressive black women should never lower their standards, there are plenty of good employed and educated black men out there, but you know what TRS, we aint going for any games or bull*****.



trs

9/28/09, 21:02:pm

all starts with ghetto ***** hood *****es having babies they cant raise or pay for with nothing ***** *****s.”
————————————————-

I noticed that you mentioned nothing about the “pay nothing ***** *****s.” Why is the onus always on the Black woman?



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:03:pm

This is why he won’t respond to me, as I have thrashed his ***** many a time.
When you try to match wits with a scholar, you have to actually have a advanced thought process, cause he knows that the silly ***** won’t get under my skin.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:03:pm

HEY TRS!!

LOL, girl, 6 is going off. For what reason, I don’t know.

“When we as educated BW think along the same lines we are told that we need to compromise and lower our standards for the sake of getting a man. SMH.”

Here, here, girl. But, of course, it isn’t seen that way. If you’re an educated, progressive, employed BW who wants a similarly educated, progressive, employed BM, you’re “saddity.”



trs

9/28/09, 21:03:pm

6 am,

but you know what TRS, we aint going for any games or bull*****.
———————————————-

Why must we as Black Women be *****ociated with games and bull*****? You *****s pay more games than anybody in the pursuit of some *****!

Sorry for the language but let’s be real here!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:04:pm

@ Sydney,

It doesnt matter where the line came from, it all boils down to the choices women make, progressive black men aint putting money on a *****s books, progressive black men dont have *****s fresh outta jail sleeping on their couches eating up all the kids cereal, progressive black men aint *****in’ broke ***** *****s bareback then gripin’ about the aftermath.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:04:pm

” there are plenty of good employed and educated black men out there, but you know what TRS, we aint going for any games or bull*****.”

What are you talking about? And, again, why the hostile language? Are you getting defensive?



trs

9/28/09, 21:05:pm

@ Sydney

If you’re an educated, progressive, employed BW who wants a similarly educated, progressive, employed BM, you’re “saddity.”
———————————————–

AMEN!!





S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:05:pm

its6amhogetout

I see you advertise yourself as educated, so tell us where you did your undergraduate work at.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:06:pm

Nope sorry TRS,

women play more games, once a man tells you he loves you women start palyin’ games to see how much he loves you, then when you go too far and ***** up the relationship youre left wondering what happened?



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:06:pm

playin’



Absulam

9/28/09, 21:07:pm

I don’t blame women for not wanting to marry, times have changed. These days you can get all the benifits of a marriage without the risk of a divroce so why go through it at all?

I knew I’d never want children so at 23 I went ahead and got a Vasectomy. That instantly saves me from any child support, baby mama dram, etc. More guys should do that.



Markh320

9/28/09, 21:07:pm

Black women are known to have the worst attitude throughout the whole planet. They even know it on the Great Wall of China. Everyone knows this except her. She cannot blame black men, she creates the black men she seeks to blame. When black women wake up and understand that the power of the feminine principle(other than putting a cash value on their looks and being a corporate ho), she will know herself and the fruit of her deeds.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:07:pm

@ Sydney,

you know this is the way i talk 97% of the time on here, im just being the voice of progressive black men right now.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:07:pm

“This is why he won’t respond to me, as I have thrashed his ***** many a time.”

No, he just rather try to bump heads with two women. Go figure. SMH.



Shush

9/28/09, 21:08:pm

Sydney

For example, just today, I had a brother — whom I have strong feelings for — tell me, unprompted that he didn’t think that Lamar Odom would have married Khloe Kardashian had she been a black woman with the same reputation.

Don’t break my heart. I’ve been feeling your style for a minute.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:09:pm

@ Absulam,

I told my fiancee that she could stop taking the pill one week before our wedding, I want two or three kids maximum, thats what i can afford.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:09:pm

“you know this is the way i talk 97% of the time on here, im just being the voice of progressive black men right now.”

No, I spoke with a “progressive black man” today, and he didn’t use any of the language you just spewed. He spoke intelligently without profanity nor obscenities.

That’s a “progressive black man.”



trs

9/28/09, 21:10:pm

@ 6 am

it all boils down to the choices women make, progressive black men aint putting money on a *****s books, progressive black men dont have *****s fresh outta jail sleeping on their couches eating up all the kids cereal, progressive black men aint *****in’ broke ***** *****s bareback then gripin’ about the aftermath.
———————————————-

This also works both ways! Progressive Black women aren’t trying to help some no good Negro pay his child support to 2-3 different baby mommas. Progressive Black women aren’t trying to bail somebody out of jail at 3 AM or parti*****te in that Ride or Die mentality that so many Black men seem to champion.

Please cease placing the blame on Black women. There are no good Negros with XX AND XY chromosomes.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:10:pm

Sydney youre more than smart, and i dont call it bumpin’ heads, i call it a healthy debate.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:11:pm

The voice of progressive BLACK MEN is not a shoe shining, baggage handler at some run-down Hawaii motel.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:13:pm

@Shush

“Don’t break my heart. I’ve been feeling your style for a minute.”

LOL, why do you say that? Again, I’m repeating what a brother said to me, unprompted. He was expressing his opinion on a situation that means nothing to me, but it obviously sparked him to reflect upon it.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:13:pm

@ Sydney you know Im right!



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:14:pm

You cannot be educated and progressive yet *****e to stereotype humans.

Its not even logical.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:14:pm

@6am

“Sydney youre more than smart, and i dont call it bumpin’ heads, i call it a healthy debate.”

It’s not a “healthy debate” when you’re referring to women in vulgar terms and spewing profanity. Tone it down.



trs

9/28/09, 21:14:pm

@ 6 AM

women play more games, once a man tells you he loves you women start palyin’ games to see how much he loves you, then when you go too far and ***** up the relationship youre left wondering what happened?
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This speaks to the quality of the woman. I for one do NOT play games. Never have and never will. When you date hoodrat women, or women of sub-par cl***** this is what you should expect.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:16:pm

Another thing, TRS and Sydney, why arent you two ladies going into the hood and educating these heffas on a better life? Cant you grab them by their hands and whisper in their ears “youre better than this, dont you want a better life for your children?”



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:16:pm

Sydney

Its really going to take an all out *****ualt on the “poachers” of the black community which will include the coon, step-n-fetchit types.



Shush

9/28/09, 21:16:pm

Sydney

You saying that you have strong feelings for a brother is what’s breaking my heart.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:17:pm

“@ Sydney you know Im right!”

Actually, no, I don’t. I think you say a lot of things for shock value.

The conversation was much calmer about 10 minutes ago. I really was interested in S. Walk’s insights, lol.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 21:17:pm

Hi Sydney!

S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

WordtotheWise

Thank you.
I used to be an idiot when I was in my late teens and early twenties, then i started to see the light. I came to the realization that we (the black man) have lost our way in the sense of family and responsibility.

You are welcome! You know, I grew up in the 70’s and I’m telling you. You remind me of the men of that era. I was talking with my sister and discussing the fact that so many black men today have such disdain for black women. I didn’t find that back then. I was living in L.A. and the time and used to hang out with my older sister and her friends. Men were more respectful and had such love for the sisters. I’m not saying that some didn’t express such anger and hatred for black women, but I never *****ociated with those kind. Now I know I can come down hard of brothers, but I always (at least I try to) say SOME brothers act this way or that. You seem to have your head on straight brother, and you are the kind of man I respect. I’ll never say white men are better than black men, but I will say most don’t talk down about the white woman like SOME black men do.



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 21:19:pm

@wordto wise
you just look stupider responding.stop contradicting yourself, a good percentage of black men, in my context means alot of black men. you are still a dumb broad.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:20:pm

TRS

I haven’t really chatted with you before but you seem pretty sane, so I ask, why do you entertain this Uncle Tom.
One day he criticizes “dark heffas”, then he’s “progressive”.

Please tell me its just for kicks.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:20:pm

@Shush

LOL, oh, OK.



trs

9/28/09, 21:20:pm

@ 6AM

Another thing, TRS and Sydney, why arent you two ladies going into the hood and educating these heffas on a better life? Cant you grab them by their hands and whisper in their ears “youre better than this, dont you want a better life for your children?”
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Now Now 6 AM, how can you speak on what I do in my community? I partipate in the Big Sister program, and I know that I have been a positive influence on two young Black women who previously thought that they had zero options to obtain a post-secondary education. I am very proud of this fact.

I understand your point, but even so… You should ask me before you make *****umptions about TRS. See, I am a “resident genius” too.

*blows kiss*



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:21:pm

@ Sydney,

You know my personality, it hasnt changed since 02/13/07, you also know whatever i type is gonna be the truth whether its popular or not, and right now the innercity is at a crisis stage. 60-70% of all innercity births are to single parent households, now wouldnt you think most black women stuck in those neighborhoods would have a years supply of birthcontrol right next to they’re beds?



new orleans state of mind

9/28/09, 21:21:pm

im sorry but to say that a large portion of blk women dont gravitate towards thugs is a lie. it has nothing to do with the inner circle. it’s funny how ppl get so defensive. i never said that all blk women do! i never said that! my girl isn’t that way. she corrects me sometimes when i get crazy just like i do to her. so what if she is only half blk. in societies eyes. half blk is blk enough. ask our prez. im in my late 20′z. my circle of friends and *****ociates are varied as a bag of trail mix. its not about coming down on the sisters and brothers. its about being honest. you cant bash brothers and expect them to not respond. i love women of all colors. i love how emotional they r. i love how sweet you can be at times. i love how you pretend to be tough but are so soft and rational.
in my humble opinion. A man is nothing without a strong woman(any color) by his side, behind him, in front, just there in general.. but a woman with no goals(besides fuzkin and having kids) will bring a brother down and cont. the endless cycle that plagues the african american man. LADIES PLEASE BE GOOD TO US CAUSE GOD KNOWS WE WANNA BE GOOD TO U…
PS. JUST BECAUSE A BROTHER ENDS UP WITH A WHITE WOMAN DOESNT REFLECT HOW WE FEEL ABOUT BLK WOMEN. IT JUST MEANS HE FOUND A GOOD WOMEN AND SHE FOUND A GOOD MAN…SORRY ABOUT THE SENTENCE STRUCTURE AND POOR CHOICE OF WORDS



trs

9/28/09, 21:23:pm

@ S Walk

TRS

I haven’t really chatted with you before but you seem pretty sane, so I ask, why do you entertain this Uncle Tom.
One day he criticizes “dark heffas”, then he’s “progressive”.

Please tell me its just for kicks
————————————————

Hey S Walk!! Nice to offically meet you!

To answer your question, 6 AM is actually quite witty and intelligent. I enjoy debating so when I see the chance, I jump at it.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:23:pm

@ TRS,

Touche’ luv, I never said i was the only resident genius on this **********a, just the most important!

And youre right I should have asked first!

So tell me TRS, when you have those hood *****es over your house for that inspirational uplifting talk, how long does it take you to hide your valuables?



trs

9/28/09, 21:24:pm

@ 6 AM

most black women stuck in those neighborhoods would have a years supply of birthcontrol right next to they’re beds?
———————————————-

And any Negro can walk into the corner store and spend 99 cents on a condom.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:25:pm

leave a message

She sounds like a “dumb broad”?
stupider.
Nuff said.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:25:pm

“im sorry but to say that a large portion of blk women dont gravitate towards thugs is a lie. it has nothing to do with the inner circle. it’s funny how ppl get so defensive. i never said that all blk women do!”

Again, what are you basing your observation on? And, yes, it sounds like you’re making a blanket generalization. Change your circle.

Aren’t you the same person who wrote previously that black women don’t want to go to museums, or a sentiment to that effect? It seems like you’re using the same verbiage on a different day.



trs

9/28/09, 21:25:pm

@ 6 AM

So tell me TRS, when you have those hood *****es over your house for that inspirational uplifting talk, how long does it take you to hide your valuables?
————————————————–

Now 6 AM there is no need to speak of children that way. My current charge is only 13. Why do they have to be *****es?



Shush

9/28/09, 21:25:pm

Sydney

That’s all?



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:26:pm

@ TRS,

Quite witty and intelligent? Are you *****in’ kidding me? I am the most interesting, most honest, funniest and A number one **********a on here, youre gonna miss me when im gone luv!



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:26:pm

@6am

“now wouldnt you think most black women stuck in those neighborhoods would have a years supply of birthcontrol right next to they’re beds?”

I agree with TRS on this one. Be “progressive” and “progressively” slip on a condom.



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:27:pm

TRS

I have to disagree with you, but to each his own.



trs

9/28/09, 21:28:pm

@ 6 am

@ TRS,

Quite witty and intelligent? Are you *****in’ kidding me? I am the most interesting, most honest, funniest and A number one **********a on here, youre gonna miss me when im gone luv!
———————————————–

I thought I was giving you a compliment! And I didn’t say that I wouldn’t miss you. We already talked about that! LOL



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:28:pm

@ TRS,

A ***** cant ***** unless a girl lets him, so if he doesnt have a condom why do it? And women can buy condoms too yanno?

And as for your 13 year old charge, at least youre trying to help them while their young……….. so where do you hide your relaxer kits?



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:29:pm

@ Sydney we could have this same argument for the next 5 years and there’d never be a winner, you gotta think luv, its the woman who parts her legs to let that man in bareback, she could always say no………



S. Walk (learn how to bag the ***** up first, THEN GET MONEY!)

9/28/09, 21:30:pm

Sydney and TRS

I have to leave but it was an enjoyable expierence, and now you can see Its6amHoGetOut’s fear of my wrath.
So when he gets “too” out of hand, just mention my name and shut him the hell up.

I’ll be back. Peace.



trs

9/28/09, 21:30:pm

@ S WALK

Point taken sweetie. I have seen it with my own eyes. Believe me I wouldn’t just say that for no reason.

@ 6 AM

so where do you hide your relaxer kits?
———————————————–

I am not going to lie, this made me burst out laughing. I get my hair done in a salon so I don’t keep those around my house. Secondly, I would not invite anyone to my home if I felt that I would have to hide anything. You a mess!!!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:31:pm

6am, pure genius!



trs

9/28/09, 21:31:pm

@ 6 AM

its the woman who parts her legs to let that man in bareback, she could always say no………
———————————————–

And he could always use his BIG head instead of his LITTLE one!!!

WHAT IS SO HARD ABOUT THIS??!! It is not all on the woman!



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:32:pm

“Sydney we could have this same argument for the next 5 years and there’d never be a winner, you gotta think luv, its the woman who parts her legs to let that man in bareback, she could always say no………”

*sigh*

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, the black woman is the cause of the downfall of the black race, the toppling of dynastics and the rise of despots, the national recession, and, yes, global warming.

Did I cover everything?

Black Men. . .Are responsible for nothing
Black Women. . .Responsible for everything



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:33:pm

Aww my stalker/worshipper/impersonator is so upset he has to leave? whats wrong no attention? i came in and took over the room? Lol youre a funny ***** nothing stalker **********a!

Mention your name……..Thats some funny *****!



trs

9/28/09, 21:33:pm

I gotta go, but it’s been nice chatting with you guys.

Have a good night Sydney, S. Walk, and 6 AM!!

@ 6 AM

I am going to be stunting for you tomorrow so that we can finish this conversation! You best bring that genius to the table so we can rumble!



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:33:pm

*dynasties*



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/28/09, 21:34:pm

@swalk
yup stupider, it’s a word, you think i lie? check it out.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:34:pm

Good night, TRS!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:36:pm

@ TRS

I didnt say all women

@ Sydney,

I dont think black women are reponsible for all the ills of the black race, but i do think they paly a major part by having kids they cant afford to raise.

Now do ya’ll see why Im retiring? This just isnt as fun as it used to be, I upset some stalker ***** just by not answering his dumb ***** questions, That ***** woulda never happened with SMDH.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:38:pm

“That ***** woulda never happened with SMDH.”

She just would have torn you a new one. I did disagree with many of her blanket *****essments, but, I have to say, she more than held her own, and she did make some valid points, which is why she was widely unpopular among certain individuals.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:39:pm

@ Sydney, TRS and whoever,

I 6am resident genius do promise not to come into a room and take over the ***** again, deal?

bye all



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:42:pm

“i do think they paly a major part by having kids they cant afford to raise.”

The children weren’t created by one party.

Would it be so utterly unreasonable to just say, both men AND women are to blame for our ills, and we have to work together to resolve them?



Shush

9/28/09, 21:42:pm

Sydney

You’re going to leave me hanging on a string? I’m hanging on that ***** *****a.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:42:pm

And Sydney and TRS,

Remember it was I 6am resident genius who after being challenged found all 5 of those fake ***** pics SMDH posted as her.

And it was i in my infinite genius that found out SMDH wasnt a woman at all, just some angry ***** *****got ***** out of Richmond Virginia who hated black men because he was beaten up so much as a youth for being what he was, I told him its ok to come back, I’d only post all five pics once then destroy them, its only a blog.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:43:pm

@Shush

LMAO!



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:45:pm

@ Sydney,

But see luv you just answered your own question, it does take two to make that kid, but look at the choice made by the woman on who she chose to make that kid with? I guarantee you before she *****ed this *****, she knew he was unemployed, unemployable, had other kids, had other kids he wasnt paying child support for and his history of incarceration.



Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, think about it, these Kardashian *****es should have a BET special "how to date, ***** and marry rich black men" And yes I'm really leaving Bossip on 12/31/09 at 5pm.

9/28/09, 21:48:pm

Bye all, 6am resident genius signing off! and to my stalker/worshipper/dumb ***** *****, you gotta try harder, see how easy it was for me to enter a room and grab the spotlight? This is some ***** you’ll never be able to do chasin’ me.

love to all that matter 6am!



Shush

9/28/09, 21:49:pm

Sydney

LOL, *winks*

So, the situation/comment meant nothing to you?



bighead

9/28/09, 21:50:pm

Cause they’re not cute. Women look more for providers. Men are more attracted to physical beauty. Women go to the gym and loose weight. Get something to clear up those blemishes. Remove unwanted facial hair. Get your teeth fixed. Bath and and get a realistic hair style. Finally, lose the stank attitude.



Jason b

9/28/09, 21:51:pm

well its simple ladies if u dont have a need. u dont need us,u will compete with us on every level that makes us men. and we wont deal with that



new orleans state of mind

9/28/09, 21:52:pm

@ SYDNEY….I DONT NEED TO CHANGE MY CIRCLE! WHY SHOULD I?…SYDNEY WHAT IS UP WITH YOUR ELITIST ATTITUDE? I MEAN WHAT ROCK HAVE U CRAWLED FROM UNDER? JUST TURN ON YOUR T.V.! GO TO THE MALL! THE THEATER! SOCIAL CLUBS! W/E AVENUE YOU CHOOSE TO TAKE. YOU BRING UP A COMMENT I MADE WHEN I USED TO VISIT THIS SITE REGULARLY. YES I HAVE MET SOME BLK WOMEN WHO DIDNT ENJOY MUSEUMS AND VISITING LEE’S CIRCLE. I NEVER SAID THAT ALL BLK WOMEN DIDNT ENJOY MUSEUMS…ALL WOMEN DONT THINK LIKE YOU. SO STOP PRETENDING LIKE ALL BLK WOMEN THINK AND ACT LIKE U. YOU ARE AN INDIVIDUAL AND YOU SEEM TO HAVE LOST GRASP OF THAT WHILE ON YOUR SELF RIGHTEOUS JOURNEY. THIS IS WHY ALOT OF PPL DONT EVEN COMMENT ON THIS SITE ANYMORE. TOO MANY ANGRY ***** SISTAS AND BROTHERS. SCORNED BUTTHEADS



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 21:53:pm

@Shush

I was referring to the Kardashian marriage itself — it’s hard to get upset about a situation that’s absurd. I thought the comment was very insightful.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 22:00:pm

“im sorry but blk women do have big mouths and seem to put brothers down.”

” must admit that white women tend to treat us better. for rich or for poor, latino women are known for sticking by our side.”

Right. And this doesn’t sound like someone who is angry, scorned, and has a chip on his shoulder.

Got it.



Shush

9/28/09, 22:01:pm

Sydney

Whatever you say, madam.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 22:06:pm

@Shush

That sounds “elitist,” don’t you think?



realwoman

9/28/09, 22:12:pm

Well I guessed that this would turn into a Black woman bashing and lo and behold…out came all the UNEDUCATED, SELF HATING, EURO WORSHIPPING lowlives. Glad I don’t surround myself with THAT. Thank goodness not all Black people buy into this ‘m*****a’ mentality. Marriage is originally a WHITE INSTITUTION. I am BLACK I do not have to follow their lead. Fvck them. We started this shyt. Divorce is at a high rate for THEM as well and they are also marrying later…so who is following whose lead now? Focus on the COMMITMENT instead of the legalities and everyone will be ok.

PS – House negroes drop dead….you are outnumbered.



theone2

9/28/09, 22:17:pm

@sommer its not a illusion its the truth, ive been with all races and its just a fact that the black man gotta do everything for the black women and then get nothing but attitude at the end. but with other races u get treated differently



Shush

9/28/09, 22:18:pm

Sydney

I thought it sounded illiterate.



Shay

9/28/09, 22:39:pm

new orleans state of mind

well im glad we can express our opinion in a civil way. i feel that most blk women like thugs. they go for the street hustler type dudes. im not saying that street hustlers are not cool, or incapable of being good men.

++++++++++++++++++++++++

@ new orleans state of mind

Only issue I have is it seems throught these posts we’re working with two sterotypes.

a. We (black women)only want to date uneducated thugs.

or

b. We won’t lower ourselves to date guys who aren’t educated and/or don’t have a good job.

It’s strange to see such varied view points.



new orleans state of mind

9/28/09, 22:44:pm

IM SORRY SYDNEY. BUT YOU CANT MAKE ME FEEL SMALL! CANT BRING ME DOWN! CANT MAKE ME FEEL LESS! IN FACT. ITS just font and colors. didnt mean to stir up anything. i hope you all have a great night. if any white ppl read any of our comments, i just hope they realize that we are individuals! im not a spokesperson for my race or anyone else’s. these are opinions and nothing more. in my opinion, a large group of blk women are attracted to street dudes. that’s that! unlike some ppl, i dont yearn for internet cool points or acceptance. so i dont need to feed ppl bull***** are stroke ego’s. i base my opinion on real life cir*****stances and experiences. this isnt made up stats. its what i have seen. i never said all. just a large portion. well g o o d n i g h t a l l . enjoy the continuous ” its not the blk womans fault, its the blk mans fault/ blk women are loud and overly aggressive” premise. i have to watch the boring ***** tonight show with my fiance(blk/pakistan)….nite sistas and brothas



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 22:50:pm

theone2>>>I know you weren’t talking to me, but I’m goin go interject my opinion here. I hear black men make these statements all the time as though women of other races hold the magic key to perfection. Since we are all very limited and we don’t know everyone of every race, I’ll wager to bet that a lot of men of other races experience bad relationships. Therefore, women of other races have failed relationships w/the men of their own race. SOME black men are determined to put other woman on pedestals. Could it be that they just cowtow to you and you are just very controlling. I think that’s it. Frankly I really don’t care because in the long run, you’ll learn the hard way. Good luck.



OLE FACTS

9/28/09, 22:50:pm

MARQUIS DE SADE IS SYDNEY

@NEW ORLEANS STATE OF MIND

DONT SWEAT IT BIG HOMEY SYDNEY IS A TROLL CHARACTER CREATED BY MARQUIS DE SASE. HE/SHE SAYS THOSE TYPES OF THINGS ON PURPOSE TO GET PEOPLE GOING—OLE FACTS



Shay

9/28/09, 22:54:pm

Maybe the topic should be: Why can’t black men and women discuss any issue dealing with black relationships without blowing up on each other.

I’d love to see a moderated discussion on this with scholars speaking on it. People bring too much personal baggage to these posts which leads to finger pointing and nasty comments. Everyone wants to say it’s only the opposite sex’s fault. Everything has a cause and effect so neither bm or bw have clean hands.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 22:56:pm

LEAVE A MESSAGE>>>Don’t be mad at me because you have the sense of a billy goat. You are clearly a delusional thinker who can’t face the facts of reality. On my worst day, I’m better than you on your best. So just hang it up and stop making yourself look like an idiot. Go read a book, and do not respond to me because you are officially on “ignore.”



new orleans state of mind

9/28/09, 23:01:pm

yeah i think she likes me



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 23:01:pm

Hey Sydney! If you are still here, you are way too intelligent to correspond with people who refuse to see the truth. They want to stay ignorant. They refuse to see the facts because it’s just easier to blame instead of doing what Michael said and look at the man in the mirror. You bring logic to your conversations and never resort to name calling. Some people just choose to stay ill-informed. That’s the Bossip way.



WordtotheWise

9/28/09, 23:03:pm

Sydney is BY NO MEAN Marquis. What an insult to her. Marquis wishes he had Sydney’s brains.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 23:05:pm

“yeah i think she likes me”

LOL, you look and sound like a “street dude.” Not my type. At all. Capiche?

Go back to your Tonight Show.



Sydney™ (. . .the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die)

9/28/09, 23:07:pm

@WordtotheWise

“If you are still here, you are way too intelligent to correspond with people who refuse to see the truth.”

LOL, this is comical. I’m sorry, but I had to comment on that one.



Shush

9/28/09, 23:12:pm

‘IM SORRY SYDNEY. BUT YOU CANT MAKE ME FEEL SMALL! CANT BRING ME DOWN! CANT MAKE ME FEEL LESS! IN FACT. ITS just font and colors. didnt mean to stir up anything. i hope you all have a great night. if any white ppl read any of our comments, i just hope they realize that we are individuals! im not a spokesperson for my race or anyone else’s. these are opinions and nothing more. in my opinion, a large group of blk women are attracted to street dudes. that’s that! unlike some ppl, i dont yearn for internet cool points or acceptance. so i dont need to feed ppl bull***** are stroke ego’s. i base my opinion on real life cir*****stances and experiences. this isnt made up stats. its what i have seen. i never said all. just a large portion. well g o o d n i g h t a l l . enjoy the continuous ” its not the blk womans fault, its the blk mans fault/ blk women are loud and overly aggressive” premise. i have to watch the boring ***** tonight show with my fiance(blk/pakistan)….nite sistas and brothas’

Hey, Sydney, it’s just fonts, colors, fragments, run-on sentences, incomplete thoughts, etc., etc.



deesac

9/29/09, 00:20:am

Miss Kesha86

There are more black men in jail than there are in college. That’s a sad reality.

I don’t know why educated black women would rather date low-educated black men just because they’re black. Date outside your race! Brothers have been doing it for years, I don’t understand why black women are so hesitant to date white, Asian and Hispanic men.

The number of educated, successful black men is low. Don’t settle for less just because their skin is brown. I’m from Oregon and all there is up there is white guys and when I went to college there, I dated a few. Wasn’t bad at all.

I’m just sayin….

YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR RIGHT AND I BEEN LOWERING MY STANDARDS WITH BLACKWOMEN SINCE I BEEN A TEENAGER AND THE ONLY THING I GOT OUT OF IT WAS A DIVORCE AND CHILD SUPPORT. SO WE AS BRUTHAS GOT TO DO THE SAME. I RATHER HAVE A FLAT BOOTY WITH COMMON SENSE THEN A BOOTY WITH NO SENSE. ONE THING I HAVE LEARN IS THAT YOU WILL NEVER SATISFY A SISTA NO MATTER HOW MUCH MONEY OR LOVE YOU GIVE. THERE ATTENTION SPAND WILL NOT ALLOW THEM TO BE SATISFY IN A RELATIONSHIP. THE GR***** IS NOT GREENER ALWAYS ON THE OTHER SIDE.



LEAVE A MESSAGE

9/29/09, 00:40:am

@wordtothedumb
you are still a dumb broad.dumbest broad ever. LOL and keep kissing sydney’s azz you dumb dyke.LMAO



ms. myra

9/29/09, 00:56:am

It’s because a lot of black men make excuses to why they don’t have their sh*t together and other races of women accept it. No job(I’ll give you money), no car(you can drive mine). Sistas are labeled as attitude and to much drama? That’s the voice of a weak man.



V.

9/29/09, 01:05:am

Why doesn’t anyone ever mention the same statistics for black men of the same age group and educational level? How many black men in the same socio/economic level are married? Or even still married? or happily married? And how many of those men have been married and have kids only with their wives?

Black women get married and STAY married. Especially black women in interracial relationships. You are more likely to get married and stay married if you marry a non-black man in America-but no one ever talks about that. It’s always some stats about how black women are alone in their 40s because they couldn’t be docile to a man in their 20s and 30s. Bull….

Why are media outlets always putting these so called facts out there as if they prove that black women aren’t good enough to marry? Or are too “manly” and that’s why they aren’t married? Most well educated black women I know either do not want to get married for fear of divorce (and losing half of what they worked hard to build) or they are totally fine being in a long term relationship with no kids. As long as everyone is on the up and up with each other and being adults-who cares who marries whom? Especially if you don’t want kids?

And as far as those comments about crossing the color line-don’t forget it was a black WOMAN and a white man who fought to get interracial marriages legal in all 50 states (Loving v. Virginia). Without them standing up TOGETHER for what they thought was right, we would still be living under anti-miscegenation laws in at least 16 states.



mr.cool

9/29/09, 01:08:am

@ms myra
but it is true, most black women have drama and nasty attitude. all races has said it.



mr.cool

9/29/09, 01:11:am

@v
you are WRONG. mlk made it possible for white and black to unite and make interracial babies.



deesac

9/29/09, 01:54:am

Black women get married and STAY married. Especially black women in interracial relationships. You are more likely to get married and stay married if you marry a non-black man in America-but no one ever talks about that. It’s always some stats about how black women are alone in their 40s because they couldn’t be docile to a man in their 20s and 30s. Bull

Actually your wrong black woman married out there race is a very very low rate. Most white or hispanic men will not fell socially connected with a woman of color. Actually the only way it will work is if he disconnect himself from his culture and I doubt if most white or hispanic men will do that for a blackwoman. Interracial relationship with a blackman who has married out his race is at a higher rate. And most black men that do married out there race usually reach his goals.I myself have not seen to many interracial relationship not last because the only thing they have is there selfs. Rich people usually can married who every the want, its seems that they do not get to much pressure for the public. Most black men that you see that is carrer oriented that are bitter are blackmen that put everything in his family and lost everything by divorce, he’s most likely 35 to 45 this when most black relationships fall apart. I personnely think we as Black Americans should get back to the good book and realize what our roles are in a relationship because I think through out the years we have both failed. I here over and over again by some black woman on this site that they hate it when they see a brutha with a women of a different race. And then the second thing that comes out your mouth is you don’t need no worthless blackman. What I don’t understand if brutha’s have giving up on sista’s and they are now looking at other culter women, why should you care if his ***** is gone and happy.



blackfujones

9/29/09, 02:43:am

lol@ so many folks thinking the answer is to date outside your race. seems like your settling for less if you ask me. if its a black male you seek ladies than find a black male. really i believe many successful”and i use that term loosely bc what really is successful and what defines it” arent equipped for a relationship. folks get so wrapped up in themselves that they arent relationship material period. so in essence i guess its safe to say blk males arent the problem, the fact that success has taken a backseat to family and its caused a huge disparity in the blk family structure. folks believe 897087 dollars can make a happy home when its further from the truth.(sorry for the rant) basically folks if you want a black man/woman go get what you want and dont settle. bc im 28 married to a black woman and never ever have dated/screwed/talked to/touched a woman outside my race, and never wanted to



blackfujones

9/29/09, 02:47:am

both black males/women both decided to forego relationships in order to obtain higher salaries etc. therefore leaving a strain in the pecking order of black males,and women. and im sorry i believe a certain sector of black women got so caught up in “being independant” that their counterparts got the men that theyre looking for now.



Toussaint Beaupre

9/29/09, 02:51:am

I am a handsome and edcuated black man. I have an Ivy League graduate degree. I have a great job. I am involved in several black professional organizations. I have never been to jail. I dont have any kids. I am not gay. I am not attracted to white women. I love the lord and I enjoy the finer things in life. With that said my response to the discussion is this…

I know plenty of other black men just like me and we share the opinon that we love black women, but they dont always love us.

We usually see that black women no matter what their success level is…

1. Like being with thugs.
2. Have horrible attitudes and won’t admit it.
3. Have TOO much drama

THEY ARE WATCHING WAY TOO MUCH TYLER PERRY,
I mean for real how are you all taking relationship advice from a single closeted gay man in a dress.

Be honest ladies… there are plenty of good black men out there. But the ones that you are attracted to just are not the good ones. Deep down inside you still have a fantasy of some thug beating that ***** up.

Blk women refuse to understand that what they say manifests itself into reality.

I have dated plenty of successful black women and as one guy said earlier, they have just as bad of attitudes as the unsuccessful ones.

MEN ARE TELLING YOU EXACTKY WHAT THEPROBLEM IS YET YOU ALL ARE STILL IGNORING IT.

TAKE A STEP BACK AND HEAR US SAYING THAT YOUR ATTITUDES ARE *****ED UP!

thats something that can be fixed, change your attitude and you will find men that will love and stay with you, but if you keep saying your attitude is not the problem, when we are telling you it is, then you dont really want to fix the situation you just want to ***** about.

KEY STATEMENT: CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE AND YOU WIL CHANGE YOUR LIFE.



b

9/29/09, 03:58:am

Oprah got stedman and gayle… why settle for one when u can have too… i wish i could have 2 chicks..



b

9/29/09, 04:31:am

@ chad maybe u can get a job if ur get ur salty ***** off bossip… thats y ur gurl dumped u brah… need to be pounding the pavement instead of trippin on bossip… *****in loser lol



PhillyinDubai

9/29/09, 09:17:am

Ladies with serious,serious money prefer to be single. No pre-nup or some ***** begging for a float. As for the *****, they call maintenance.



people please

9/29/09, 09:18:am

What we’re doing as Blacks is letting our struggle defeat us. Finally, the white man has indoctrinated us with so much poison we can’t get along for a second.
So instead of finding a positive way to cope we start blaming each other and straying from our purpose. The mix generation is growing and the black children are dieing, they’re washing us out. I love the black man but you can never fix problems by running away to another race. Life doesn’t work that way. All black women can’t be bad, you do love your mother don’t you?

The Black family must rise again people. Where is the soul power, the brotherhood, the sisterhood and all the good loving? Remember the good music, the cookouts, block parties and the family reunions? We must stop taking the poison, don’t believe the hype. Yes we can complain, both at the end of the day there’s nothing better than my chocolate sunshine.



yeah I said it

9/29/09, 09:46:am

@Catty*****

You took the words right out of my mouth! YES, black successful women are too busy throwing their degrees in a mans face they forget to throw a steak and some mashed potatoes on their plates, they forget to clean the house a little bit, they forget to play dress up at night, they forget to support their men rather than bring them down with the constant nagging and negativity. So what you have a MBA and PHD. A man can’t make love to a piece of paper and damn sure can’t eat it. Women are so busy trying to be successful in the business world and define their role that they forget to be a woman and they forget to define their role at home. There’s nothing wrong with being educated and successful ladies but don’t forget how to be a woman in the process of chasing your dreams.



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 10:12:am

It’s hard to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Period.



noelle

9/29/09, 10:19:am

Question of the Day: Why Are Successful Black Women Still Single???

3 words..Aubrey Drake Graham



Droppin dimes Quaters cuz dime dont buy *****.

9/29/09, 10:26:am

Man this is some SAD ***** to read. How we view our selves.

SMH.. and tearing up.

its us not them.



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 10:35:am

Black women are beautiful but most of them don’t know it… the images of beauty are 1. long, silky hair 2. light skin 3. slim, 4. small nose… but some things are changing… like the booty and thick lips… I think once we embrace our beauty then everything will fall into place. There is nothing wrong with being a rich and successful woman but there is also nothing wrong with being single until the man you want to be with comes along… why should anyone settle for fear of being alone and unhappy with some dude? It’s ok to wait and it’s ok to be rich but it’s not ok to be rich and unhappy either so there… life isn’t perfect…



Jen

9/29/09, 10:46:am

Why would I get married, when a huge amount of married men (black and white) are trying to date me? No thanks, I’ll stay single, sexy, and rich.



MsOES

9/29/09, 10:47:am

I am one of these women. I am currently working on my PhD. I desire to have the husband and kids however relationships are a lot of work. I pray that when I finish God has a wonderful man (race not an issue) waiting for me. I am 33 years old single and have no children. I do not have an attitude, which I agree many Black women have one. People say that I am very friendly, giddy, and can place a smile on anyone’s face. However, I find that men interpret this as “I want to have sex with you” but on the contrary I want to find love, marry, and have his children. I am also fearful because I want a faithful and loving husband. I have seen so many relationships that suffer from affairs (w*****s) and abuse (verbal & physical). I do not want that kind of relationship. I am also a large woman so men are not attracted to me. I get very lonely but I know if I were in a relationship now he would be upset because I am spending time on my education and not him. For some, this is a choice. For others (me), it is not choice but the “luck of the draw”. I feel attractive and a good catch. I would love a mechanic or a doctor. I am not picky nor demanding. I believe a man should be a man and I desire to treat him in that way. I do not know what is in store for me in the way of love. With us (women like me) are so focused on our careers because that is the only definite in our lives. Men sometimes love you sometimes hate you and all the time want to ***** you but your career is there and gives you what you put into it. A woman can give her all to a man and not receive an ounce of care. WHO WANTS THAT PAIN EVERYDAY? However, some woman prefer that rather than be alone. Unfortunately, the older I get the more I become that woman who would take something rather nothing at all. I wish I was a good a woman as Oprah but I cannot say that I am.



The Answer

9/29/09, 10:51:am

You know, we can go back and forth all day long, but I will say this:

We BOTH do things that aren’t conducive to maintaining healthy relationships and we BOTH need to realize where our faults are and stop letting “hollywood” tell us how it should be. We are playing ourselves out of the marriage option and ruining our families listening to music/movies telling us to ask for unrealistic standards.

Men, we’ve got Jamie fox and Ne-Yo out there saying they love a women when she’s got her own, but when we get our own, you feel like you aren’t needed. Why is it that black women have to have 2 jobs, a house, and a car to be marriage material or we’re considered gold-diggers? But WE are asking for too much? And then, that same black men will go out and meet another chick from a different nationality with nothing and wife her and take care of her? Then, they want to say that we are too loud and we talk too much. Now, this is true in certain cases with black women, but I’ve found that the “other” women you date are typically that same type of woman. Watch them on the talk shows..especially the ones about black men who prefer to date out of their race and see just how “loud” and unlady-like their “new” women are. And to top it off, just as Sommer said in a previous post, you get with these women and everything is cool until conflicts arise. Then, when the chips are down, they drop your behinds like a bad habit and once again…we sistas are there waiting for you with open arms.

And sistas, we need to cool it with all this independent crap! Men and women need each other! Now, in women’s defense, most of them strive for this status because this is what we believe men want – again, listening to “Hollywood” and the entertainment industry. We’ve also got to quit p*****ing over good black men because they aren’t “ballers” ridin’ on 24s with platinum chains and grills. There are lots of good black men out there that would love to date a black women but many of us are too simple to give them a chance.

Ladies, men and women were put on this earth to procreate and you can keep fooling yourselves into believing you don’t need a man and you will one day realize how wrong you are.

Again, I’m not trying to argue with anyone and if you disagree, let’s do so respectfully.

In closing, my question is to black men: With all of these problems we SHARE as the black community, all I can say is that up til now, you’ve never been able to say that black women gave up on you….Can we say that about our black men?



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 11:00:am

The right man will find you in time… in the meantime… live your best life.



Toussaint Beaupre

9/29/09, 11:52:am

I am a handsome and edcuated black man. I have an Ivy League graduate degree. I have a great job. I am involved in several black professional organizations. I have never been to jail. I dont have any kids. I am not gay. I am not attracted to white women. I love the lord and I enjoy the finer things in life. With that said my response to the discussion is this…

I know plenty of other black men just like me and we share the opinon that we love black women, but they dont always love us.

We usually see that black women no matter what their success level is…

1. Like being with thugs.
2. Have horrible attitudes and won’t admit it.
3. Have TOO much drama (X-boy friends, baby daddy)
4. Love to argue and not willing to really communicate
5. Dont know what to do with a good blk an with they have one.

If you want better, then you have to do better.

THEY ARE WATCHING WAY TOO MUCH TYLER PERRY,
I mean for real how are you all taking relationship advice from a single closeted gay man in a dress.

Be honest ladies… there are plenty of good black men out there. But the ones that you are attracted to just are not the good ones. Deep down inside you still have a fantasy of some thug beating that ***** up.

Blk women refuse to understand that what they say manifests itself into reality.

I have dated plenty of successful black women and as one guy said earlier, they have just as bad of attitudes as the unsuccessful ones.

MEN ARE TELLING YOU EXACTLY WHAT THE PROBLEM IS YET YOU ALL ARE STILL IGNORING IT.

TAKE A STEP BACK AND HEAR US SAYING THAT YOUR ATTITUDES ARE *****ED UP!

thats something that can be fixed, change your attitude and you will find men that will love and stay with you, but if you keep saying your attitude is not the problem, when we are telling you it is, then you dont really want to fix the situation you just want to ***** about.

KEY STATEMENT: CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE AND YOU WIL CHANGE YOUR LIFE.



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 12:31:pm

Toussaint Beaupre, wonderful to hear you say it the way you just did!!! i agree with you 100%! two thumbs up! now, where are you so we can all start stalking YOU!!!!!



sweetdreams

9/29/09, 13:52:pm

It’s not about marriage, its about true companionship. Marriage is not for everyone, and successful women don’t want a man “telling” them how they should spend their money…they’re smart enough to know “how” and “what” to spend it on so they make more money. It’s really about living your best life without external interference.



ask a black dude

9/29/09, 14:27:pm

The answer is in two parts,firstly The American Slave Trade,which put the black man and woman at odds with one another,from the first day we were forced to come here.The white man could LAWFULLY enter the shack of MARRIED slaves,and have his way with the Black man’s wife.She would be FORCED to perform sexual acts on the master,that she wouldn’t dream of doing with her slave husband.This act of immorality added insult,and injury to the Black Man’s idea of what marriage is suppose be,leaving the Black Man bitter toward his white master and his black wife…yet yearning for what he couldn’t have THE WHITE WOMAN.The lust for black women has NEVER left the mindset of the white man,and I honestly don’t blame him.If one were to look at deeply at what a white woman has to offer from a visual perspective,minus some sort of surgery to make her look like a SISTA,she has nothing…Secondly the *****imilation into the white culture, once a brotha or sista has that degree,position,or title,loyalty to the Modern Slave Master is a must.*****imilation has no room for diversity,political correctness,or independent thought,nor the most important ingredient in any marriage,UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!Lastly a note to Ms.Kesha86 the Drop Squad needs to pay you a visit!



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 14:30:pm

What should we do now? What’s the way forward?



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 14:36:pm

Ask a black dude… complicated stuff! in the meantime the problem still remains… I am pretty decent but i can’t find a man so i guess i am screwed… oh, well… i’ll wait till kingdom come…



ask a black dude

9/29/09, 15:08:pm

Sisimizi I don’t know how old you are,but it took thirty years of life before I found my QUEEN.Love is a very serious and wonderful entity to be in,and like Luther Vandross said,”sometimes love takes a long time”.Just be ready when it comes,and don’t be afraid to love with all of your heart.



tonyspark

9/29/09, 19:09:pm

Cause they think they the man in the relationship if they make more money- can’t tell ‘em nothing!



NoooooooBoo

9/29/09, 20:24:pm

Oh please, stop with all this bull***** we all know the reason, cause black dudes like white woman and every other race of women but black women. That’s why I say, “Black women, ***** Black men, go get you a white man or an Asian man”. Hell, if bruthas don’t appreciate you, anotha race will surely do!



Sisimizi

9/29/09, 22:52:pm

NoooooooooooBoo, you are right on the money! I completely agree with you. Look at Michael Jordan, don’t wanna be black Tiger Woods and many other successful men out there. But let it be known that if Michael Jordan wasn’t a star but an ordinary joe…no young beautiful white woman would want to be near him…only the fat trailer trash type… black men are weak! period.



007.5

9/30/09, 14:59:pm

because strong black women want 2 wear tha pants and skirt thats confusin 2 some plus they think they dont need a man 4 anything men dont think like that and now a day women are puttin a price tag on beauty and thickness when ***** isnt worth no more ***** its 007.5 *****



WhatyoMommaSay

10/1/09, 16:51:pm

What’s wrong with being single?

No one to answer to
No ego to soothe
No explanations about money or whereabouts
No compromise

It’s pure heaven being a single woman.



WhatyoMommaSay

10/1/09, 21:41:pm

07.5

because strong black women want 2 wear tha pants and skirt thats confusin 2 some plus they think they dont need a man 4 anything men dont think like that and now a day women are puttin a price tag on beauty and thickness when ***** isnt worth no more ***** its 007.5 *****
___________________________________________________
Men are supposed to be stronger than women not *****fied little boys in search of a *****able mommie. I pity you



shelia

10/13/09, 17:34:pm

You took the words right out of my mouth! YES, black successful women are too busy throwing their degrees in a mans face they forget to throw a steak and some mashed potatoes on their plates, they forget to clean the house a little bit, they forget to play dress up at night, they forget to support their men rather than bring them down with the constant nagging and negativity. So what you have a MBA and PHD. A man can’t make love to a piece of paper and damn sure can’t eat it. Women are so busy trying to be successful in the business world and define their role that they forget to be a woman and they forget to define their role at home. There’s nothing wrong with being educated and successful ladies but don’t forget how to be a woman in the process of chasing your dreams.

BM ALWAYS HAVE TO BLAME THE BW FOR HIS SHORT COMING. PLEASE DON’T FORGET THE FACT THAT BW OUTNUMBER BM IN COLLEGE AND WHAT ARE WE SUPPOSE TO DO NOT WORK AND GO ON WELFARE. BM SHOULD GET THEIR ACT TOGETHER AND STOP BLAMING EVERYONE FOR THEIR FAILURES. I HAVE SAID IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN BW SHOULD JUST DATE/MARRY OUT. MY HUSBAND IS WHITE AND I MET MY HUSBAND IN COLLEGE AND HE DID NOT HAVE HAVE TO CHANGE HIS CULTURE TO BE WITH ME. MOST WM THAT DATE/MARRY BW DON’T IMMEDIATELY BECOME BLACK BUT MOST WW THAT MARRY BM ARE GHETTO ACTING THE SAME THING THAT BM SAY THEY HATE IN BW THEY GO OUT AND GET IN WW.