Kim From RHOA: “I’m Not a Home Wrecker Because My Husband Did it to Me”

Posted on October 9th, 2009 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: Isn't He Married???, News, Reality TV, SMH

kim-zolciak

In a recent interview, Kim Zolciak discusses the death of Kandi’s ex-fiance A.J. and her break-up with “Big Papa”…

ESSENCE.COM: So what’s the scoop? Are you or aren’t you still engaged to Big Papa?
ZOLCIAK: I am not engaged to Big Papa! I got a commitment ring last year and so when I got this new ring, I was led to believe that his divorce was final. Who gives someone a massive rock and makes this commitment if he wasn’t serious? I found out that I was still on the same merry-go-round. If there is one thing I have discovered about myself from doing this show it is that I’m just far too trusting. I’m actually dating someone new and I’m extremely happy. He’s my age, from California and cute as a button. I gave Papa almost four years of my life, so now I’m just trying to move on.

ESSENCE.COM: What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned from that experience?
ZOLCIAK: I need to learn not to take everything at face value. I believe everything that people tell me. I wanted to believe that he was going through the steps for us to be together. I’m not a home wrecker because my husband did it to me. I would never intentionally do that to someone. I was planning my future and so excited because he was the love of my life. But as time went on, I started to wonder, why is this taking so long? I realized that I needed to really sit down and figure this out.

ESSENCE.COM: So there’s no chance you two will reconcile?
ZOLCIAK: I will never go back. When I’m done, I’m done. I have no desire to have anything further with him.

ESSENCE.COM: How is Kandi doing? Have you spoken to her?
KIM ZOLCIAK: I spoke with her mom and texted her just to let her know I’m here. I was one of the first to find out and I called the other ladies. Everybody has been fantastic but it’s unfortunate that it takes a tragedy to bring us all together. We were able to put all our stuff on the back burner and come together for Kandi. It’s not something that I ever thought would happen, no matter how tragic the situation.

ESSENCE.COM: What was your interaction with A.J like?
ZOLCIAK: He actually called me last week and I never called him back, which sucks. I adored him. He was such a great guy. He was actually with Big Papa the night I got engaged. I hated that people have this bad impression of him because he had so many children. He was a great father and he was great with Riley [Kandi's 7-year-old daughter] and he loved Kandi.

SMH. Uhhh, if you date a married man and you KNOW he’s married, then that certifies you has a home wrecker, sweetie. This broad knows she would hop right back on Big Papa’s d*ck at any given moment.

Source

  • Hannibal

  • Hannibal

    THE LORD’S GREATEST CREATION, THE WHITE WOMAN!

  • Cause I Said So…..That’s Why!

    1st

  • Cause I Said So…..That’s Why!

    @Hannibal
    Awwww, Shaddup will you!!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.yahoo.com Re

    I know everyone hates her, but for some reason I like this chick, no matter how delusional.

    I just don’t like how she used Kandi.

  • B

    If anyone saw the way Poppa lives in that would be the first indication his wife aint going no where. It does seem like you can tell Kim anything and she’d believe it but his money was probably speaking so volumes so she couldnt hear nothing else. Pretty sure her new man is paid too which will make the ladies hate her even more in season 3. Seem like Kandi found her out though.

  • I’m Just Me: Keeping It Real Since 1983

    People that bounce from relationship to relationship like this without time to heal have super low self-esteem and just because someone does something to you, doesn’t make it right for you to do it to another. Two wrongs don’t make a right Kim.

  • Plain Jane

    @Re-Kim seems like she’d be a cool person to hang and party with. A person would have to be really careful with her because she IS a user, though. She used Dallas Austin and then they got into it on Twitter, then she used Kandi-look what happened with that! I’d have to keep a person like her at a distance…

  • Anon3

    clueless and dillusional…she gave him 4 years and it just dawned on her that he wasn’t going to get a divorce…..come one…..and she’s not a homewrecker…puuhhhlease….she said 2 or 3 episodes ago that she didn’t mind being with a married man because it was only a piece a paper (meaning the marriage certificate)…….typically men who are supposedly getting divorced are lying because they are looking for a good time…Kim was Big Poppa’s good time….I could have told her that even if he did get a divorce he would not have married her because she is not wife material

  • resurrected

    She sounds like a fool, so everything that gets done to you in life you have the right to do it to someone else… I would never want to be her friend because karma will follow this b***c everywhere that she goes… Hey that goes that white b****h that pluck my man and now you are in a fight because you are hanging around with this woman… Not thanks I will pass…

  • Laliya

    does anybody know who the big papa dude really is?

  • resurrected

    This is what trips me out about homewrecker or jumpoff whatever you want to call them they are always trying to act like what they are doing does not have a name… When you fit the definition of a word to the tee then mostly likely you are what it is defining… Stop thinking you can get something for nothing even if it is a bad reputation… You action are considered to be categorized in some type of word or definition, so stop getting mad when people call you names because your actions speak for themselves…If you don’t like it then hey try something different with a more positive out look on shit…

  • Stop it!!!!

    @ Hannibal.
    If you really believed that, you would not need to say it over and over. Humor me more. Why waste your time even posting, when you make a fool of yourself every time. Oh, and no need to post because I won’t be back to read your foolishness.

  • http://www.myspace.com/cuteone85 NessaKaye

    People shouldn’t judge her too much Ms Alicia Keyes is doing the same damn thang!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • resurrected

    Hannibal

    THE LORD’S GREATEST CREATION, THE WHITE WOMAN!
    __________________________________________________

    First of all you exclude yourself and all God creation are beautiful in his eyes and at this point I am going to stop listen to black men because Hannibal you are apart of that race as well…

    I am so glad that God gives us all our own confidence because if we had to listen to men who would think that we are nothing just like they act like we are nothing… I am just so glad that my confidence some from something higher than man…

  • DATPHILYGIRL

    Delusional

  • resurrected

    Lady K

    Hey to me a homewrecker is a homewrecker and they get no cut cards from me… It like we want to believe BS and men know that so they tell you want you want to here for the moment… IF she spend as much time on her grind as she did with other people husband she would be better off right now, but that is too much like right…

  • http://perryone779@yahoo.com rose by any other name

    She knew he was married when she started with him, come 4 years she was enjoying all that $$$. now she sees that was just a jump-off and a gold digger so they come in all colors.. just know that~!!!!

  • Another day

    Karma will bite her right in the face its just that simple no woman on the face of this earth could possibly think life will be kind to them for interferring in someone else’s marriage. Kim showed herself (for once w/out the others putting her on blast) at the alter ego party with that damsel in distress move she pulled after twisting her leg. She gets some kind of hell of a child support and alimony payment each month and her Big Poppa money is fun in the sun money.(money always follow money and she plays it big like she is used to having it. she didnt acquire all that taste in just 3/4 years, This thing about her being a nurse and waitress – she must mean those were her uniforms, she lacks the the patience or empathy to attend to another human being, she couldnt even focus on a hour class to curl a wig how could she go all the way through a nursing course? I dont feel bad for kandi because she gave her a chance, pretty sure she got paid it was not just a favor and Poppa probably greezed her and Vito down for occupying her time while he worked on his marriage and other woman.

  • http://perryone779@yahoo.com rose by any other name

    Come on the woman (Kim) is one l;azy heifer, she dont even seen like she wants to take care of her own kids> The skank had a black nanny raising her kids, she couldnt even make the girl stop eating cupcakes she had to let the black nanny chastise her~~! What a shame that Tiffany shopping heifer needs to get a life and her kids are probably going to be just like her~!!

  • bk

    You just know her help be doggin her out, talkin all her business and are jealous as hell of her most likely skimming from the stash because the one taking pictures of her while she was trying on jewelry at her house- looked disgusted not to mention busted! ^ and her daughter is one cupcake short of poppin!

  • Lady K

    true that, resurrected, true that…

  • Alrighty Then…

    @Lady K – I concur w/ u and resurrected – all of them are in the same boat to me as well.

  • Just Sayin

    ^ yup we all know the ones like her that are much fun but to invite them in your house and around your man is a negative! If you entertain one of them and their ho follies all you doing is opening up the door for her to come try your man. DONT DO IT, leave them right there, any woman that messes with someone elses man under any circumstances cannot be trusted, she got ZERO morals and ZERO respect.

  • MissDimes

    She’s delusional, and I LOVE every second of laughing at it.

  • peaches

    Sorry, but if you date a married man and HE KNOWS THAT HE IS MARRIED HE IS THE HOMEWRECKER HIMSELF!!!! Married men and women have to take responsibility for their cheating!!! A single woman or man can kick it with whom ever they want to!! But when u are married u are to take your vows seriously if u plan on staying married. Don’t hate the player hate the game! Especially a rich married man or woman. Stay in your lane if u are married and if you can’t deal with cheating and the conquences that goes with it then mind your own business and leave single people along.

  • Journey

    In the eyes of our creator sin is sin. Some of the comments posted are fueled by the fact she is white…..racist hypocrites.

  • resurrected

    Peaches

    Everyone has to take responsibility for that action even the person on the side and she or he is no exempt of shit… If you can not put thought into the things you do then buy a brain and a heart for 2000 and call it a day…

  • suki suki

    “Uhhh, if you date a married man and you KNOW he’s married, then that certifies you has a home wrecker, sweetie.” Not if the home was ALREADY wrecked. Some men look elsewhere for a reason. IMO, whether or not the “homewrecker” title is approrpiate depends on the circumstances.

  • MirsMommy

    Even though Kim has “Big Dummy” written all over her forehead, I still kinda like her.

    But damn all that, did anybody see that damn Dwight in that catsuit running with those damn heels on?!?!?!?!

    Pure f*ckin hilarity!!!!!!

  • Kierah

    Why the hell would Kandi’s fiance be calling Kim? Was he looking for more “dancers” for his strip club?

  • GoodKarma4Me

    Dont care to read that shit…but i do care enough to post a comment.
    She is a piece of white thrash. That being said…work it girl…milk big poppa for as much as u can get!

  • GoodKarma4Me

    @ rose

    I cant even blame kim girl. Big poppa is the one who giving her platanium card or whatever…isn’t that some shit, giving her a house, car, unlimited spending money..just for some ass??
    Wow some men just dont know what to do with their money…or maybe he has so much it just don’t matter to him.

  • tj

    At first she says that she was not engaged…that she was given a commitment ring. Then when asked about AJ, she said that he was with Big Papa the night that she got engaged. I beleive that she’s not an honest person. Any time you can’t go to a mans house and he won’t appear on your TV show, even for a second….he is probably protecting the woman that he truly loves….and that’s all relative cause how do you truly love someone and blatantly cheat like that? Anyway. Rest in peace AJ and Kim, you need JESUS!

  • http://bossip miss dior

    I cant stand this b***h, she’s delusional.

  • ridin so high i can slap down a pigeon

    @ Hannibel

    lmfao

  • http://perryone779@yahoo.com rose by any other name

    @Goodkarma~~~ i think it is the latter, he has so much he just dont know what to do with it~`Kim is just a cerified golddigger~~ She should at least have some type of job to make herself look better, she doesnt even care and has the nerve to be bored with shopping and all! What kind of message is she sending to her kids, like the Kardahian lil sisters (dancing on poles and crap) they have no morals and need Jesus in their lives~! You have a good week-end and i will be attending church services this week-end and trying to stay blessed~~!! And like Steve harvey hoping i wont be cussing monday morning~!!LOL!!

  • Soulwoman

    I’m Just Me: Keeping It Real Since 1983

    People that bounce from relationship to relationship like this without time to heal have super low self-esteem
    ———————————————–
    Real talk!

  • http://perryone779@yahoo.com rose by any other name

    buh bye Good Karma!!

  • Butterscotch™

    What she REALLY wanted to say is, “I like nice things and will do anything, including hook up with a married man, to maintain that lifestyle.” Just call a spade a spade, and stop frontin’. And it should not have taken her 4 years to figure out he had no intention of divorcing his wife for her.

  • http://mybuzzworthy.com/?p=2413 RHOA Kim Zolciak Claims She Is Not A Homewrecker | mybuzzworthy.com

    [...] Are you or aren’t you still engaged to Big Papa? ZOLCIAK: I am not engaged to Big Papa! I got a commitment ring last year and so when I got this new ring, I was led to believe that his divorce was final. Who [...]

  • free

    i’d date big poppa. i ain’t gonna front! his wife is the fool, not kim.

  • free

    big poppa is some atlanta real estate developer. that was established after season 1 when the television camera zoomed in on her cellphone after he called her a zillion times. i forget his name though.

  • Atl_Finest

    I can’t believe NeNe showed up to AJ’s funeral today after the way she has treated Kandi. I hate fake bytches.

  • MenDoLeaveU

    Hey here is a contradiction to all those on here saying that if a man is so unhappy, he’ll be single…or will never leave his wife..blahblah…Remember that SwissBeatz left his wife for Alicia Keys. So many other men have done the same as well. Kim gave it a try since her husband left her for another woman. I guess they think in terms of: Win some…lose some.”

  • Candice

    Although I disagree with Kims actions, they were wrong, she is not the homewrecker. LIke someone said above we own no one.

    One judgment day that husband or wife that cheated will have to stand for breaking their promise to their wife or husband. Kim will get hers but it won’t be for lie ing to God or this dudes wife.

    Some men are low lifes and will cheat don’t care about their wives. The wives should stop dealing with these type men and leave. Or else more men will cheat because there is no reason not to.

  • brezzy

    big pappa is stupid!
    kim is stupid!
    and his wife is stupid!
    cheating is why i second guess getting marrid ppl now a days just dont respect the marrige bond anymore!

  • memchee

    No excuse Kim.

    & I don’t think she used Kandi….

  • Samantha

    Lady K —>
    So if kim is the homewrecker who did she make promises to til death do them part?
    When did she vow to God til death do her and the man’s wife, part?
    How exactly did she get the power to wreck someone’s home?
    And so what is Lee Najar?
    What exactly did he NOT do to not be the homewrecker to his own marriage?
    Same thing but towards his children?

    I don’t like Kims part neither. But her part is minimal. Very minimal. She’s being played just like this dudes wipe. He’s saying I’m selfish enough to get mines although i have a wife at home i can get some from, so i don’t care i’ll hurt her then find another female to f! lie and hurt her also. I’m out for mine.

    So truly who’s the homewrecker?

  • Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, Motivational Speaker, Best friend a deep South Progressive Family ever had and the most popular, truthful and interesting man on Bossip. Hate me if you want, but you know everything I type is the truth!

    ?

  • Its6amHoGetOut Resident Genius, Motivational Speaker, Best friend a deep South Progressive Family ever had and the most popular, truthful and interesting man on Bossip. Hate me if you want, but you know everything I type is the truth!

    shes no homewrecker, shes an opportunistic coochie for hire.

  • BanHannibal

    Hannibal,

    I’ve read several of your posts and you are a racist bastard. Your picture is offensive and if you want to share your ignorant views, there’s already a station for you called Fox News. You disgust me.

    You need a reality check. I’m trying to keep my words short and simple because that is probably all you are able to understand.

  • VIRTUOUSPASSION

    @resurected

    I am so glad that God gives us all our own confidence because if we had to listen to men who would think that we are nothing just like they act like we are nothing… I am just so glad that my confidence some from something higher than man…

    ___________________________________________________

    AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!!!!

  • blackkid92

    Everyone BIG PAPA is Quincy Jones….Jones Is Chopping Her Down….

  • Nhikki

    FIRST OF ALL HANNIBAL, A STRONG BLACK WOMEN IS 1 OF GOD’S MOST PRECIOUS AND GREATEST CREATION.

  • GiGi

    Kimmora was pratically married to Amistad before the ink was dry on her divorce papers

    Is adultry right no but separated ppl rich or poor black or white DATE right wrong or indifferent. We all have our sins and have fallen short.

    I say every situation is different and NO I do not date married men in a perfect world folks would wait until the papers are signed but as you see Usher has him a new boo and his divorce isnt offical yet either.

    Judging is a sin as well FYI that is all…

  • http://bossip big t

    it really doesn’t matter to me I will still smash it

  • http://bossip.com AL

    Big Poppa is Jazze Pha

  • Kent

    I want Kim.

  • MISHELLE

    MARRIED WOMEN YOUR DOG IS RUNNING THUR THE NEIGHBORHOOD INFLICTING HAVOC. LOCK YOU DOG UP
    DONT WAIT TIL YOUR DOG GET HIT TO START SCREAMING AND CRYING ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU LUVVVDEAD THAT DOG.

  • PATRICIA

    Kim is the most stupid gray girl ever. She lies and then they show her tapes of her lies and she still denies it. She should be replaced with a sister, she has no business on that show anyway. “engaged to a married man” Oh and her singing…..PLEASE

blog comments powered by Disqus