Comments on: Love and Relationships: Do I Leave or Stay?

By: OHIOLOVEJONES

OHIOLOVEJONES — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:37:00 +0000

Im not about to call this person names,but thats not needed. Everyone is accountable for the people they choose,but end up blaming men,women and white people when thier choice doesnt work out.Can you spell IRRESPONSIBLE. Easier said then done because you are deeply involved with him,but leave. There’s no reason a woman should ever want to be with a man being a street guy,but thats just not reality.
Look he’s not a good man,good father,so stop trying to convince people he is. Not saying he’s satan,but lets get real here.As far as the women being educated,education has absolutely nothing to do with the kind of man a sista will choose. how many legally working,college degreed women are involved and married to men selling drugs?. you already know the answer. The truth is just so hard to take in the black community. for the women,that are or were in her shoes,dont even try and justify her actions. Every time you go to a site like essence,blackamerica web,cnn and you hear chatter about the lack of available brothas. forget about the numbers,you choose who you want to choose. drug dealers get swooped up just as often as poeple go to the bathroom.

By: Southerner

Southerner — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:23:20 +0000

Imagine all these judgmental folks posting all this insensitive garbage. Look young lady i know i’m late posting; but you wanna know something nobody addressed the fact that you love this man. I need everyone to understand LOVE. Its makes the Its ur decisions that make the difference. We all take chances on a daily basis; so ur taking a chance. And what? that dosent make you stupid or ignorant. All that ur doing spells LOVE.

By: Utica

Utica — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:26:26 +0000

First of all let me just say, that you telling me that you have no fear for your family, is bs, i dont care how good you think you have it, a man in that type of “business” u always have to be worried about someone tryna be at the top and knock whoever they can off to get there.
You may think that your safe but its not, ever, thats a situation you have to be smart about, and you let him know, “I’m not going to do this anymore”. Im not going to just say you like the life your in, but you like the life you have. You knew what he was doing before you were together wen you first started dating, you knew, but it was different, and exciting cuz u didnt have to worry about your needs and wants because he provided them.
I will say this. You may be contemplating leaving, but you stayed this long and supported it, but now whats the difference between 7 years ago and now?
What does your heart tell you to do?
What does your mind tell you to do?
At the moment dont think family and friends, think you, and your 2 girls, and your unborn son.
What if tommorow the Feds came, or like i said someone who wants to prove they’re bad. They wont care who you are, and how pregnant you are, you will find some people that are so ruthless and they wont care how old your kids are and how many puppies you have. Contrast your your mind and heart, and go with that.

By: Kelli

Kelli — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 19:59:58 +0000

I’m Speaking from lessons learned If you love him stay with him also get your self together{save the money he gives you and get yopurself a JOB} so that if he goes to jail you can depend on you and tell him if he goes to jail you cant be his lady but you help him out{bring the children to see him money sometimes} if you can because your children need you to be strong when and if this happens to go down

By: KYE

KYE — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:14:49 +0000

SOME OF YOU PEOPLE CAN CRITICIZE HER FOR THE MISTAKES SHE HAS MADE BUT NO ONE IS PERFECT BUT GOD. GOD IS THE ONLY ONE TO JUDGE AND I AM PRETTY SURE YOU ALL HAVE MADE MISTAKES ALSO AND DIDNT WANT TO BE PUT DOWN BUT UPLIFTED. I DO SYMPATHIZE WITH HER AND ASK GOD TO DELIVER HER FROM THIS SITUATION FOR THE SAKE OF HER CHILDREN. SOME OF YOU CALLING HER OUT OF HER NAME BUT HOW DO YOU THINK YOU SOUND AS AN ADULT SAYING SUCH TACKY WORDS. WHAT WE ALL SHOULD BE DOING IS PRAYING FOR HER NOT DOWNING HER. I KNOW THIS WEBSITE IS GHETTO BUT TO TALK GHETTO AND BE GHETTO WITH IT IS SILLY. I PRAY AND HOPE THAT SHE FIND THE STRENGTH TO WALK AWAY BECAUSE IT CAN’T BE EASY FOR HER AND I PRAY THAT GOD HAS MERCY ON EVERYONE SOUL THAT WANTS TO JUDGE HER LIFE!
We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.

By: KYE

KYE — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:11:12 +0000

By: WIFEY06

WIFEY06 — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:14:44 +0000

BEEN THERE DONE THAT. TOLD HIM I HAD TO ROLL; MY LIFE COULD NOT BE LIKE THAT. DOING WELL HE IS IN CONSTRUCTION NOW.

HE COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT HIS FAMILY. IT TOOK TIME BUT IF YOU SHOW HIM YOU MEAN IT HE WILL WEIGH HIS OPTIONS AND HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO MAKE A DECISION AT SOME POINT. ( IF HE IS A SMART MAN LIKE YOU SAY)
VALUE YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS BEFORE MONEY BECAUSE YOU CANNOT BUY A LIFE!!!!!!!!

By: BigD

BigD — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 13:02:32 +0000

Perhaps she should have thought of the implications of being in a relationship with this man before she decided to start a family with him. No matter what she decides to do in her relationship, the safety and welfare of her children should always come first and I highly doubt the children will take well to the possibility of a raid or having him gunned down somewhere. Not to mention the strain its putting on her and her unborn child. My heart goes out to all of them. God bless.

By: resurrected

resurrected — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 11:28:16 +0000

illuminated one and mzprettylady

Thanks for your words they mean more than you know…

By: div

div — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 11:09:22 +0000

Juust stay were you are cos that guy ain’t gonna let you go.And Pray your god he doesn’t find out about this letter.cos he will roast your assz.