Comments on: Dear Bossip: Is the Grass Greener on the Other Side?

By: Kisha

Kisha — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:21:05 +0000

The grass is never greener on the other side!! You are in question because you are getting what most women want and because you haven’t gotten what you don’t need, you feel the need to explore that. Trust me, its nothing out there that you find in TV land. That is where many women dreams and passions come from. You need to ask yourself and not even the mix of being with someone else but if you were single and alone, without this man, would you be happy and then evaluate that. I say this because you will be there one day when you dating and finding out that most of the men out here are crap now and days. There are good ones but they really are hard to find. I bet you have a pretty face and figure and probably can pull many men at a time but sometimes thats all men want and you will be exploiting yourself if thats what you are going for….sometimes its not worth it but if you feel like you need to be ALONE…do so….if not, don’t toy with his emotions. Many women are waiting on a man like that!! Remeber that as well!!

By: nubia

nubia — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:31:27 +0000

Go to http://www.them-path.com. The answers and questions you have about men, yourself and relationships is all there. It changed my life…..

By: Lonely Adulterer

Lonely Adulterer — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:37:25 +0000

Sorry to keep posting but this is what you do when you are single. i miss my husband so much! I would call him & he would do anything for me. Now, that is all gone. I am dating this assh0le who won’t even give me $30 to get my nails done. Im begging you, stay. Pls stay!

By: Lonely Adulterer

Lonely Adulterer — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:11:20 +0000

I was in your shoes. I married at 18. My husband was my 1st. After 7yrs of marriage I got the “itch” & cheated. He found out & now he hates me. I am currently going thru a divorce.

The guy I cheated with now has a girlfriend (who he met while I was trying to work on my marriage & who he would rub in my face) who he lives with.

I am by myself now. Hubby is gone, ex-lover is gone. I am surprised I am not in the Crazy Bin. Only b/c of the grace of God.

THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE!! I hate having to date now. Most guys just want to f*ck. And, it is ALOT of game playing involved.

Keep your good man. You are one of the lucky ones that found your soulmate early. I could tell you horror stories of my own experiences trying to date & my sisters & my friends. Keep your good man & hold on to him tight. There are THOUSANDS of women who would love to be in your place.

By: noelle

noelle — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:00:17 +0000

Not particularly greeenr per say…….just more weeeds

By: The Other Black Meat

The Other Black Meat — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 03:00:55 +0000

gurll, just send him to me, I’ll put him on lay-away for you.

By: Amanda Boo

Amanda Boo — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:29:16 +0000

@Ree

MAYBE if you read correctly SHE IS ONLY 23… and been with the same guy for 4 yeas… with that said… I was WAS lol. In a relationship for 5 years and im 22… You get so caught up in that on man that you feel as though theres nobody better, or no one can touch me like he does, or make me feel this good, or his kisses, hugs, whatever are the best! LIES lol… My next boyfriend was 10X better, and made it his business to make me feel like a Queen! I say Go For It. You don’t want to always have to wonder what else is out there…

By: Deeana S.

Deeana S. — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 23:56:00 +0000

i was in a very similar situation. When i was 19, i met my first lover and the only man that i’ve ever been in love with. That man gave me all of that he could of himself and loved me like i was the only woman on Earth, but after a couple of years together I decided to cheat out of curiosity. He found out, and was completely crushed!!! I thought he would leave me, but he stayed with me for a couple more years. As an act of revenge he ended up cheating on me. In the end, the pain we had both inflicted on each other no longer allowed us to be together, so we let each other go. it’s been a couple years since, and i’ve met some good men, but not anything that will ever compare to my first… so i say don’t do it!!!!!! You’ll regret it later, i PROMISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Uppity B4 Noon

Uppity B4 Noon — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 23:45:04 +0000

Listen at some of these comments, and wonder if you really want to listen to this group of losers

“Keep him now because you’ll never do any better”
“All men are pigs, keep this one while you’ve got him”

These are the thoughts of bitter, self pitying, desperate individuals, and unless you want to end up like them, think before you take their advice. I can GUARANTEE if you were a dude asking this question most of the responses would be “Go! Explore your options now, youre still young, and you don’t wanna make any mistakes that end in you losing half your shit”. And they wonder why the genders can’t get along.

Everyone who says “Find yourself first” and “Talk to your man” are the only ones worth listening to. You have to understand how you view men, and what role you want them to play in your life. And also ask your man what he expects of you.

But more importantly, Know You. Most people expect to find completeness through another person, and IMO, this is a pathetic way to live your life, but people do it every day, with varying results.

By: Ree

Ree — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:53:54 +0000

You’re dumb. If you’re weighing out the pros and cons of cheating on a good man, you clearly have no sense. All these hungry women out there looking for a good man and you’re debating on leaving one just for the heck of it? Why do you think every other article and bestselling book is about how to meet/date/marry the right one? Because it takes work! Stop being immature and either leave him if you’re not 100% sure he’s the one or throw him back and let him find the one. If you cheat, we’ll have one more bitter brother in the world and one more ho.