Is Precious Sending the Wrong Message About Black People??

Posted on November 23rd, 2009 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: For Discussion, News

With Precious opening nationwide in over 100 markets over the weekend, the African-American community has mixed views on whether the film displays a good or bad depiction of the black family. A lot of people are coining it a new age “Color Purple.”  What are your thoughts? More on this under the hood.

“In some ways, it’s ‘The Color Purple’ all over again, with people writing and talking about what this film represents,” said Mark Anthony Neal, a professor who teaches black popular culture at Duke University.

A father repeatedly rapes and impregnates his daughter in “The Color Purple” (as does the father in “Precious”), enraging some critics (mostly men) who asserted that the book and the film treated black men harshly. “Precious” has avoided that kind of backlash, but “people are suspicious of narratives that don’t put us in the best light,” Professor Neal said. The roots of that suspicion, he said, can be found in a long history of negative images in popular culture that helped keep black people in their place by reinforcing the notion of their inferiority.

Professor Neal was among dozens of black people interviewed about their perspectives on “Precious.” Perhaps the most provocative salvo against the movie was fired by Armond White, the chief film critic of The New York Press and the chairman of the New York Film Critics Circle.

“Not since ‘The Birth of a Nation’ has a mainstream movie demeaned the idea of black American life as much as ‘Precious,’ ” Mr. White wrote in his review. “Full of brazenly racist clichés (Precious steals and eats an entire bucket of fried chicken), it is a sociological horror show.”

For some who have seen the film, it serves as an eye opener to issues faced in the black home that are swept under the rug, and to others it seems to demean the black home with false depictions and stereotypes.  How do you all feel about the film? Let’s discuss.

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  • Michelle

    I refuse to go see Precious for the reasons Mr. White gives. Why is so much attention being given to a story that is filled with negative depictions of the black family and reinforces stereotypes about the black community? Why wasn’t the same attention given to films such as the Tuskegee Airman and The Great Debaters?

  • Romello

    Thats y nothing ever gets solved in our community cause we always trying to sweep our faults under the rug…Black kids get abused…Talk about it already!!!

  • Angee

    Why does this have to be a Black community issue??

  • Romello

    Focus people!!!

    Honor students in Chicago getting beat to death with a 2×4…Mothers selling there 5yr old daughter in to prostitution…TYLER PERRY is not the problem…LOL…What a joke

    With sses like these him and Madea shouldnt be on our minds or in the conversation

  • Romello

    @ Angee

    I agree Angee…But this one is dammit…LOL

  • lawd da mercy

    You have to change the current state of reality if you want to send a more positive message.

    Can any one person do that?

  • Fiyah

    If you think Precious is a part of the problem, you are too.

  • resurrected

    Haven’t seen it yet but will and I do not think that Tyler Perry has created damage for the black community the black community creates it own damage and still people won’t chnage from there wicked and destructive ways as we speak…

    IS Tyler Perry on her calling all black woman B***t and H**s no… Is Tyler Perry letting there minds be conformed to black sterotypes no that would be us again… Is Tyler Perry making babies and leaving them in unhealthy situations no that is us again… We created so we are the ones who have to change it and it first starts with us.

  • Romello

    @ resurrected

    I’m sure you do meet other races whose kids have different names…But they arent the topic of discussion…

    PRECIOUS is…And thats “Black Folk,” name…And stop the psycho babble…This is a gossip blog!!!

  • Romello

    Will people pls stop writing research papers for comments…LOL

    Less is more friends

  • resurrected

    Romello

    @ resurrected

    I’m sure you do meet other races whose kids have different names…But they arent the topic of discussion…

    PRECIOUS is…And thats “Black Folk,” name…And stop the psycho babble…This is a gossip blog!!!
    ___________________________________________
    Well you are the one who are speaking words and comments that are not the discussion at hand… Look I can say what ever I want and you are the average smart mouth person filling big talking S**t behind a computer screen .. And B****T Babble is as babble does and any conservation is up for discussion and do you own this blog or something, if not the STFU… You are just the average s**t talker and some one who loves to create hate like many blogger on here…

  • http://deleted Simone

    @ KeepNit2Real

    WTH Are You Talking ABout?!
    Angee Didn’t Say Anything About Any Of The Things You Are Talking About.
    Confuzzled, AnyOne Else??!

  • http://deleted Simone

    Blah!

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Will people pls stop writing research papers for comments…LOL

    Less is more friends
    _____________________________________
    Been screaming this forever!!!

  • http://deleted Simone

    Will people pls stop writing research papers for comments…LOL

    Less is more friends
    ————————–
    Lol @ That.
    You Think Im Writing Research Papers?!
    Idk, Maybe I Talk Too Much. Lol.

  • drenk

    HOW DID FAIZON LOVE HAVE ENOUGH TIME TO DO COUPLES THERAPY AND PRECIOUS IN ONE YEAR…? Thas hard workin actor right there

  • Romello

    @ resurrected

    LOL…Sensitive sensitive r we…

    Y u telling me to STFU…I was typing not talking…And u say I’m the one saying “ish” behind a computer…LOL…Calm down!

    It really is just a gossip blog…Jeez…ok…Precious is not just a black name…Goodness

    Pls…Don’t sister girl me to death again!!!

  • KeepNit2Real

    Simone

    @ KeepNit2Real

    WTH Are You Talking ABout?!
    Angee Didn’t Say Anything About Any Of The Things You Are Talking About.
    Confuzzled, AnyOne Else??!
    _____________________________________________

    shut up and have some coffee…

  • http://www.bossip.com Flack

    What disturbs me most about this film is that the evil abusers are dark skinned and the compassionate and caring people are light skinned. The actors playing the caring ones are Paula Patton, Lenny Kravitz and Mariah Carey. All biracial. Anyone who believes this is coincidental has no idea how much thought goes into the casting process.

  • free

    “Full of brazenly racist clichés (Precious steals and eats an entire bucket of fried chicken), it is a sociological horror show.”

    **********************************************

    not the old fried chicken thing again…. we’re up to crab legs now.

  • http://deleted Simone

    Simone

    @ KeepNit2Real

    WTH Are You Talking ABout?!
    Angee Didn’t Say Anything About Any Of The Things You Are Talking About.
    Confuzzled, AnyOne Else??!
    _____________________________________________

    shut up and have some coffee…

    ———————————–
    LmaOo. Already Had SOme ThaNks.
    But Thats Not Answering My QuestiOn…
    ???

  • Romello

    lol

  • Moreaces

    Romello

    Thats y nothing ever gets solved in our community cause we always trying to sweep our faults under the rug…Black kids get abused…Talk about it already!!!
    ===========
    Co-sign

  • http://deleted Simone

    Flack

    What disturbs me most about this film is that the evil abusers are dark skinned and the comp*****ionate and caring people are light skinned. The actors playing the caring ones are Paula Patton, Lenny Kravitz and Mariah Carey. All biracial. Anyone who believes this is coincidental has no idea how much thought goes into the casting process.
    —————————————-

    Are You Effin Kidding Me?!
    WTH Does That Mean?!
    That Is A RidiculOus Thing To Say Forreal.
    IgnOrant Too.
    Smh @ Some Of Yall Forreal..

  • I am tireeeeed!!!!!!

    People need to read the books because this happens in every community. But what I find strange in the black community is that we love to sweep these issues under the rug. Like these sorts of things are taboo in our neck of the woods. Get over it it happens in everyone community, it just so happen to be a black character this time.

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    Why does it always seem perfectly fine for the black woman/black mother to be seen in a negative light but the minute the ills of the black man/black father – or lack thereof – is brought to the forefront there is always some black man out there complaining?

    thats because for too long the black man has had it too easy putting everything on the black cwoman/black mother as he goes unscathed and scottfree for the many things he does to destroy his family and bring down his woman and community. Its time for the black man to open his eyes to the problems he brings on himself, his family – especially his children – and his community and I praise Tyler Perry for doing so.

  • http://bossip Angela Jones

    Precious merely depicts the story of one Black family. It doesn’t represent Black family life anymore than the true story of the Mckenzie Phillips family saga represents White family life. Precious is simply sending a message of hope to anyone who has experienced hopelessness that all things are possible if you are determined. We have to stop being so narrow minded thinking that our stories are only about us; our stories are representative of the experiences of mankind.

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    And how did I know before I even opened up this thread that it was going to be a black man complaining about theway he was justifiably so being seen? SMH!

  • U Betta Speak!!

    thats because for too long the black man has had it too easy putting everything on the black cwoman/black mother as he goes unscathed and scottfree for the many things he does to destroy his family and bring down his woman and community. Its time for the black man to open his eyes to the problems he brings on himself, his family – especially his children – and his community and I praise Tyler Perry for doing so.

    ——-

    CO-sign 100,000,000%
    The Chris Brown Rihanna situation is a prime example of that!!!

  • fabulous

    The abuse was horrifying also the LOW self esteem. Lots of us portray that low self esteem by wearing wigs & weaves. We just see what we have as inferior.

  • http://none fabulous

    The abise was horrifying also the LOW self esteem. Lots of black women have that same low self esteem and are unhappy with who they are hence the wigs, weaves and skin lighteners.

  • seriously?

    @Romello

    I went to school with a Filipino girl named Precious (no nickname no middle name) and her cousin’s name was “Lovely”

  • http://none IBM

    I think it happends in all households of all races to be honest not just blacks

  • free

    @man, i just don’t care: GOOD POINTS!

  • Ed DuRante

    If you have to ask that question, you already know the answer.

  • Re

    Am I being blocked?

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @man, i just don’t care: GOOD POINTS!
    ___________________________________
    Agreed!

  • ELIZABETH

    BLACK PEOPLE ARE SO SENSITIVE ONE BLACK FAMILY DOESNT DESCRIBE ALL THE BLACK FAMILIES IN THE WORLD.

  • Cj

    It is the ignorant that think there is only one experience per ethnicity. While we do share some common threads as people, our experiences vary.

    You can tell a man by his walk. And if you are an upstanding individual, people won’t see the Precious in you….lol.

  • LatoyaRacquel

    @Seriously, again!
    For someone who claims that people justs like to hear themselves talk, I see you have posted more than anyone else here. Just because this is the only book you have read in your life, doesn’t make you the resident subject matter expert.

  • Ms.EJ

    Goodmorning Everyone hope all had a good weekend :)

    @PNK- *waves* Hey cyber twin lol, but on a serious note 100% agree with your comment.

  • Ms.EJ

    @DR. FUNK-True indeed.

  • heygurrrl!

    and apparently I come from an illiterate family, SORRY ABOUT THE TYPOS! LOL

  • Ms.EJ

    @LADY A- Exactly. Abuse happens in ALL races it is not just soley isolated to the black race.

    @SYDNEY- Hello agree with your comment.

  • heygurrrl!

    @caramel

    Im sorry but im gonna have to cut ya!! LOL NEW MOON was wonderful!!!! Loved it!!! So much better than boring Twilight. Have you read the books?

  • Tabula Rasa

    People are just beiing way too sensitive ….. How can we expect to evolve as a race if we continue to do crap like this!!! A white woman from a trailor park could have easily written this novel and I guarantee that white folks wouldnt be in an uproar about it!!! because it is that womans story so everyone should just relax and let art be art!!!! Let’s focus our energy on something else that will actaully make a difference !!!!

  • rizzo31

    this is a reality across the board. the story just so happens to be about a black girl. i think we should get past the fact of race and make steps to outreach to girls that are going through this or have gone through this. its is a petty argument and completely misses the point. its not the first or the last time black people (not to mention other races) are gonna do things that make them look bad. find a SOLUTION to the issue (which is a very real issue because i was abused sexually and mentally as a child) and my mom did the same thing, but God blessed me and moved me away from the mess of the situation….so this story was very real to me, and i think i was very much needed….and should be a wake up call to all races to not allow this to happen to their children. Does the name ‘Shaniya Davis’ ring a bell? who gives a damn about race….

  • Ms.EJ

    The only issue that I have is that it seems that black male and female actors seem to only be Oscar-worthy when the story line is not showing the upside to black people or black families. I understand that story of abuse needs to be told and that the stars gave strong performances, therefore people give credit for the most part where credit is due.

  • seriously?

    Hit dog hollered. Twice. It is what it is

  • Ms.EJ

    @CARAMEL CAT- Hello Ms. Lady

  • Sydney™

    Another issue addressed in “Precious” that is not discussed enough among us is colorism. There is a scene in which Precious peers into a mirror that is absolutely heartbreaking (it reminded me of “The Bluest Eye”).

    No, this is not a “feel-good” film, but it is an important film.

  • Caramel Cat

    Hi Ms.Ej!

    @Sydney, I just didn’t connect with all that sappy stuff. I know the first one was along those lines but they were hyping this one up to be much more action packed and I was not moved at all…but, for those that liked it, I take my hate off.. :)

    @heygurrrl!

    I just couldn’t get with that lovey dovey stuff. I wanted my gore and violence! :)

  • Caramel Cat

    *hat…

  • Jerzee Gurl

    Oh my goodness. Can we please stop being so d a m n sensitive? As a black female my opinion of this is that black people as a whole do not want to put a spotlight on abuse such as this. We would all like to think that only white people sexually abuse their kids. Only white people brutalize their kids. The only reason things like this are not so prevalent in our community is because we don’t talk about things like this and truth to be told stories like this one need to be told.

  • Sydney™

    @Caramel

    LOL, I love the lovey-dovey stuff, and I thought that was the best part of the film (other than the magnificent wolves). It’s why I liked “Twilight,” too. I’m a romantic at heart. :)

    Hello, Angee!

  • http://bossip.com This some Shhh….

    Morning Sydney..

  • Sydney™

    Rather than discussing how “bad” the film allegedly portrays black people, why not discuss the real suffering endured by hundreds of children every day? How they can be helped? How can abuse be detected and stopped?

  • Ms.EJ

    Hey Angee

  • Ms.EJ

    @SYDNEY- Its been stated by many specialist in the field of child abuse as well as on talk shows that many children who are abused go to the mother first or a family member and 90% are not believed or rejected (which breaks my heart the same happened to a dear friend of mine her mother said “Well if your breast weren’t so big he wouldn’t have done that” we were in the 4th grade and she had large breast). The first step is parents particulary mothers to not leave their children with their dates or boyfriend and to not leave their children with random people or people in general. For parents in general to have a strong relationship with their children for those who are scared to open up and if their child comes to them saying someone touched them inappropiately to not get angry at them, to listen immediately tell them it is not their fault.

  • http://youtube.com/beatnik8tv beatnik8tv

    You people p*** me off. Black People this, Black people that. This statement was from ONE person. The majority of the Black people on here disagree with it. So how are BLACK PEOPLE sensitive. It’s only Mr White who is sensitive not BLACK PEOPLE. FFS!!!

  • http://perryone779@yahoo,com rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    Hi @choco and dahonest truth!!

  • Ms.EJ

    @SYDNEY-Hey girl when you get the chance read the 2 comments to your question on how we can better protect our children.

  • Sydney™

    Thanks for the “Armored” mention, btw. I’ll check that out. Morgan Freeman is also playing Nelson Mandela in an upcoming film, “Invictus,” which looks very interesting as well.

  • Niasia

    so only black people come from abusive families?

  • Sydney™

    @Ms. EJ

    “Most parents who are close and intune to their children know their personalities and habits. If their child starts to be moody, not liked affection, having nightmares, skipping school, short tempered, crying out the blue, can’t sleep, can’t eat, stops interacting with others, lashes out at sibiling ect…PAY ATTENTION!!!!”

    Thanks for your response, girl. I will add that promiscuity is also a sign of abuse. Some girls have distorted views of sexuality because they’ve been abused.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    “Invictus,”
    ____________________
    The poem means a lot to me!

  • Sydney™

    @BG

    “I am the master of my fate:
    I am the captain of my soul.”

  • BrwnBeauty

    I ususally don’t comment often but as a Social Worker I see this issue everyday. In the black community and white community. Instead, of us sweeping it under the rug like many whites do…we need to talk about it and discuss it. I work with black, whites, mixed races you name it I work with them. The reason why many of us don’t hear about it as much in the White community is because some of the people it happens to have abortions or they have the baby and live happily ever after with their father. It just like abortions in the black and Latino community it seems like we have more than whites but I believe that to be false it’s just that in the white community many ppl send their children away to get the abortions or they get what’s called a DNC that scraps the fetus out. Which is the cleaned up version of getting a damn abortion. So let’s take the BLINDERS off and look at it for what it really is and not the color of the ppl acting it out.

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    BrwnBeauty,
    Thanks for your heartfelt insight…I honestly wouldn’t be able to do what you do…Much applause to you for it.

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    Man, I just don’t care™,
    I agree with you…I’m going to support Armoured!…My boo is in it too…wooooweee

  • Romello

    I hate black people…What u say man…I’m Black…I hate you for hangong out with me than…LOL

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    Why are my posts being blocked? There is nothing inappropriate in them.

  • Ms.EJ

    Okay, been trying to post and comments are not showing up!

    REDD TONY- very well said and hello to you hope you had a nice weekend.

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    let me try it like this:

    does

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    anyone have

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    any issues with

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    the way the

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    black woman

  • Monica

    @ Ummmmmm…., this is based on real life experiences. It’s not an autobiography but there are 50 million Precious’s out there! Why should Monique’s character apologize. Life doesn’t always possess happy endings. Monique’s character apologizing would have taken away from the realness of the situation which is there are thousands of kids being abused by their parents and they never get an apology. Let’s keep it real. If everything was a happy ending then the world would be a better place.

  • DaHonestTruth ~ I Will ALWAYS Keep It Real

    “What happened to the Sidney Portiers of the world????? They’ve been replaced by the Tyler Perry’s of the world.
    **hangs head in shame**”

    whats the issue with Tyler? that he respects black women and their struggle and isn’t ready to sell them up the river or blame them for all the ills of the world like most black men are?

    Haters, man! LOL!

  • Simone

    “Abuse happens in all races!!”

    Besides that…THIS IS BASED ON A TRUE STORY PEOPLE.

    BLACK HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.

  • elle

    black people are there own enemies, the fact that people would take this film and label it as black shows that we have a long way to go in ending racial boundaries, that is all I have to say on this matter wasting any more energy on this is just sinful

  • Non Mulatto Proud Of It

    “the issue is that Tyler Perry tends to hold the black man accountable “

    Coming from a closeted HOMO who spends more time putting on womens clthes sissfy the black male.

    Bleep Tyler Perry & racist jewish hollywood!

    “‘Burn Hollywood Burn”….Cchuck D 1990

  • divina luz

    I haven’t seen the film yet, but I read the book way back when it came out. The colour of the characters wasn’t relevant to me; this could be any girl’s story; the message is , you CAN survive the most horrible experiences, and move on up. I liken Precious’story to when you see a tiny plant forcing it’s way through the concrete, know what I mean? I was an ugly story, but Precious’journey was delicate, learning to read, loving her babies anyway, I saw alot of beauty and hope in it….

  • Cali Luv

    ….does NOT represent black life….

  • divina luz

    Sorry, typo again, I mean IT was an ugly story, not me, lol!

  • Unimaginative_Trolls_get_your_own_screen_name

    A loving black family is constantly being told THEY A AN ANOMALY — by all kinds of S.O.B.-s, whose agendas are VERY transparent.

    That is why family COMES FIRST — and every damn other relationship in life is of SECONDARY or lower importance — if it isn’t put first, it will not survive.

  • Unimaginative_Trolls_get_your_own_screen_name

    …ARE an anomaly … (but I think you got the msg)

  • goody_MOBB

    *on
    *spend

  • samech

    ….Yes….

    (WHY CAN’T PEOPLE JUST GIVE A ONE WORD ANSWER AND MOVE ON).

  • mixed and proud

    UMMMMMMMMMMMMM.. IM BLACK N I THINK BLACK PEOPLE CAN GIVE THEY SELF A BAD NAME ON THEIR OWN… COME ON. THE MOVE REFLECTS SOME TYPE OF HOMES. AND ITS TRUE. IT HAPPEN WE JUST DONT NO ABOUT IT.. IT GO ON EVERY WHERE. BLACK ..WHITE .. WHO CARES. WE ALL NO THAT THIS GO ON IN ALOT OF HOMES.. SO STOP HATEN. IF U THINK IT REPRESENT ALL BLACKS.THEN YOUR JUST AS DUMB AS THE PERSON WHO SAID IT FIRST! GET OVA THE RACE THING..

  • goody_MOBB

    and one of those swept unda the rug issues is…
    *why i can’t find a real rich BLACK lady to sugamom me lol

  • http://bossip.com dj

    Thank you Angee. Very good point and well stated!!!

  • Okayyyy!!!!

    So if the Color Purple came out in 2009 I guess this the reviews it would have receive..Years from now we will all look at Precious as we dp the Color Purple..As A Classic..There’s girls all over the world black, white, latino, asian ect that have or are going through what Precious went through.

  • Me

    @fabulous….You say BW have low self esteem that’s why we wear wigs, weaves and skin lighteners(which i have never seen any BW do) so what are BM’s expression of their low self esteem? Is it when you guys kill each other? your disrespect and abuse of BW? Your high incarceration rate?

  • michelle

    Abuse injust about every home i America. It’s not a black.

  • michelle

    Abuse is in just about every home in America. It’s not a black thing!!

  • Redd Foxxx( This Is Gods Work You KNow Pretty Wings)

    It is what it is! People need to get it together period no matter what color your skin is. Wrong is wrong and it has no color. Im sick of dumd azz people! Crying about the same ol ish! Fix it quit talking about be about!

  • Redd Foxxx( This Is Gods Work You KNow Pretty Wings)

    @ Diva

    I feel you! I think this site is run by the man or someone is being paid by the man because they wont let you post the truth! This probably wont go thru

  • tiredofitall

    Gosh people we are too sensitive. No one said anything when the Bastard of Carolina was out. Then dark/light skin issue is in the book. This is how Precious seen it. Read the book first then come with an opinion

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MR. 727
    ” I wish shows like the Cosby show, Different world would come back to open our minds, and help black folks wake up! ”
    ______________________________________________________________

    LOL. Something like that would NEVER happen in today’s age of Tyler Perry, Oprah, 50 Cent, Jay Z and so on.

    The black “power players” are too concerned about lining their own pockets… yet they will brag about how they are “self made.”

    Self made by selling and perpetuating negative stereotypes of blacks. The shame is on us for not holding our celebrities more accountable. Yet we will celebrate when they are mentioned in Forbes magazine. SMH.

  • mrs5star

    can not be any worst than what the news reports EVERDAY Or the tv reality shows or shows made in geneal about us.

    There will always be a problem when we have to go too THEM to create our show.

    that is why Orpah needs her OWN network. Never helsp to have to go to the opressor for help. lsap in the face!!

    black media is almost non existent because it relies on white corporation and media to exist. white media still has some control over the image and message being sent out and that is not good!!!!

  • http://bossip KingLion

    yes!

  • WordtotheWise

    Hey Ms. EJ!!!

  • Ummmmmm….

    @ Ms.EJ

    I heard about that. It was a latina woman I believe. She eventually left him though.

  • Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- Hey Ms. Lady- I think this year will be my last year on blogs in general. I really first heard about blogs this year and started to comment on them.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    *reading some very interesting points of view*

  • Ms.EJ

    @UMMM- Okay, because Oprah did a follow-up up date show for most popular guest and she married the man and told the son that he needs to get counseling b/c he no longer has a mother she made her choice and choose him. I didn’t see any other follow up after that stating she did, but nonetheless, it had everyone crying and upset.

  • Ms.EJ

    @BG- Hi hadn’t seen you on here lately, but good to know you are well.

  • Ummmmmm….

    Oh no, I didn’t see a follow-up…that is horrible. I only wish when Oprah did her show this past week with Gabby Sidibe and Saniya’s family that she did more to show white america that this IS NOT a black issue (not the abuse part, but sticking with men who abuse or offering their children for drugs) because you know this is how a lot of white america AND people abroad form their view of blacks….by what’s on Oprah. SMH

  • Caramel Cat

    I just want to know when ‘The Coldest Winder Ever’ will finally be made into a film. If it’s not done right, though, I don’t want to see it…

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Hi ms. EJ
    Yeah I’m doing well

  • Caramel Cat

    **Winter

  • Come On no!

    @ KeepNitReal

    can you hear me all the way in the 60s? come back

  • Ms.EJ

    @UMMMM- I understand and I know many non-black form their opinion of blacks from her show and sadly even Tyra which is another story in itself SMH. However, they shouldn’t that is simple minded to even think so.

    @CARAMEL CAT- WOW!! I forgot all about ‘The Colderst Winder Ever”.

  • Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- LOL- Girl, its like I love the ones I met online who seem to be so positive and just fun, but I get tired of folks who just like to attack a person for no reason. IDK girl….it hasn’t happened often, but when it does folks go hard like its the last supper or something, lol.

  • Ms.EJ

    @CARAMEL CAT- That is a good question or maybe does not have the funding or assistance.

  • Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- Girl, I had a person who got mad and said “Why are you so bleeping happy?!!!” or folks get upset just because I am positive. You are right its for entertainment, but some folks do not know the difference between entertainment and life per se.

  • WordtotheWise

    Arasiam

    You all can’t separate us from each other just like white people can’t separate us from each other. Why can’t this just be a story about Precious only? Why do we all as black people feel like we have to own this.
    ________________________________________
    This is one of the prevailing issues I see with some black people. When one black person does something negative, some of us indict the whole race. I’ve heard it said time and time again, “They are making all of us look bad.” Why is what an individual does make a whole race look bad? Only small-minded, ignorant people take the behavior of a person and make it a generalization. Pure foolishness. Unfortunately, I’ve noticed that many black people have bought into this madness. We are so worried about what everything thinks about us, that some feel the need to tip-toe around the plantation all the time.

  • Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- I agree. Each time a black man or woman does something then all black women or men are this and that when that is not the case. That is very irritating and extremely judgemental and stereotypical way of thinking. Or you can take race out of it and just leave it to genders if a man cheats on his wife then all men are cheaters if a woman dates a rich man then all women are gold-diggers ect.

  • WordtotheWise

    Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- Girl, I had a person who got mad and said “Why are you so bleeping happy?!!!” or folks get upset just because I am positive. You are right its for entertainment, but some folks do not know the difference between entertainment and life per se.
    ___________________________________________
    LOL, at that! Someone was made because you are happy and positive. Hon, pray for them because evidently they aren’t happy and positive. That’s the first I’ve ever heard of someone complaining because someone wasn’t hateful or negative. Unbelievable! That’s really sad. You just keep doing you and bring that positivity to the board. We need it! I know over the months, I’ve had to change my ways because I didn’t want to stoop to the level of many who love to call names. I’m too old for that mess.

  • Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- You know what I told someone the same thing not too long ago on another blog that I use to frequent and post comments on often (ONLY 2 blogs I post or use to post on-this BLOG & another one) you are right :)

  • Athina

    People should read the book…the story reflects one reality. It does not try to say that all black folks (and black men) are like this…It’s more about poverty and desperation than race.

  • LeeLee

    This debate is ridiculous. “Precious” can not and will not harm the community the way that SOME of these so-called hip-hop artists have. Your worried about how the rest of the world will perceive us when WE continuously cause a rift in how we perceive each other. Let’s get OUR issues in order and then worry about “Precious” and “MADEA.”

  • Sydney™

    @Man

    “Must you turn this into a research *****igment???”

    LOL, yes, when you state that Oprah has helmed film projects that have provided noxious depictions of the black community. She was involved in one of the most positive films with a predominantly black cast — “The Great Debaters.”
    :)

  • WordtotheWise

    Ms. EJ,

    Yeah, you know. It’s true.

  • LeeLee

    If you want to see an example of the aforementioned “rift”, please direct your attention to the post regarding Beanie Segal and Jay-Z. Let’s get a clue people.

  • WordtotheWise

    Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- Right on! and I will thanks girly
    ________________________________________________
    Girl, you are so welcome!

  • pynk

    Sydney™

    @Man

    “Must you turn this into a research *****igment???”

    LOL, yes, when you state that Oprah has helmed film projects that have provided noxious depictions of the black community. She was involved in one of the most positive films with a predominantly black cast — “The Great Debaters.”
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    Preach!!!!! lol

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @ MAN
    Are you ok in here brother?

  • Sydney™

    @Ms. EJ

    “Akeelah and the Bee” was excellent. I loved Laurence Fishburne in it as well.

    @Pynk

    “Preach!!!!! lol”

    lol

  • WordtotheWise

    @Sydney, how many black people even attempted to see The Great Debaters?

  • Ms.EJ

    Yes, it sure is correction

  • Krash25

    I don’t think people should knock Precious simply because it doesn’t put black people on a pedastel and doesn’t try to avoid every single thing that might upset the black community. If it did, it wouldn’t be realistic and all this Oscar buzz would be over nothing. However, they don’t need to over do the racial stereotypes (as Mr.White said earlier) if that’s the case.

  • Ms.EJ

    *waves* @ROSE BY ANOTHER ROSE- That day is almost here are (Thanksgiving)hopefully you can rest aftewards.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @BG
    Are you ok in here brother?
    ___________________________________________________________

    NAW, they been beatin my azz in here today!

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @BG
    Are you ok in here brother?
    ___________________________________________________________

    NAW, they been beatin my azz in here today!
    ___________________________________
    LOL! I see. I would helped but I had a cup of coffee in my hands

  • http://Bossip We All Fall Short of God’s Glory!!!!

    My thoughts on the black race is as follows: We as a community true enough have issues, but at the same time we need to stop embracing only negativity. We as a race are literally representative of the character “Precious”, yes we have faults, but other races have made us feel so horrible about who we are as a race that we feel naturally compelled to only see ourselves in a negative light.

    Have you noticed any black person that is living their life with dignity and respect?

    The child who is making A’s in school? (Don’t say you don’t know one…If you don’t let me introduce you to my son, Jay. He’s a honor student, an athlete, and an all round respectable young man.)

    Yes, Jay lives in a one parent household, but when has that stopped anyone from attaining success?

    I always tell Jay that if his life does not turn out the way he desires he will have no one to blame for that but himself. It does not matter what your mother or father is; it only matters what you believe about yourself!

    I also have a friend who gave up the profession of nursing in order to start a nonprofit to help senior citizens in our local community. She is doing what God has anointed her to do.

    I have several teachers I could speak about who came to school early and left late because they love educationing children.

    How about the barber, the cook, the coach, the firefighter, the lawyer, the community organizers, etc…that we know in our communities who are making a difference.

    I repeat yes we have problems but start patting the people on the back who are positive.

    The local and national news media already place us in a negative light. It time for people who are responsible to stand up and say we are here, we are taking care of our family, and we will not be silent anymore!!!!

    Are you a responisble person? Does it or would it make you mad if someone always generalized you?

    If the answer is YES then start making a difference!!!

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Ms. EJ
    I spoke to you hours ago. It’s all good tho!

  • Sydney™

    @WordtotheWise

    “@Sydney, how many black people even attempted to see The Great Debaters?”

    I think every Tyler Perry film probably out-performed it in the first weekend.

    How many of us went to see “Eve’s Bayou” (another classic directed by a sister, Kasi Lemmons)?

  • Ms.EJ

    @BG- LMBO!!! I’m sorry I just scrolled all the way up and saw your response.

  • pynk

    Man, I just don’t care™

    @BG
    Are you ok in here brother?
    ___________________________________________________________

    NAW, they been beatin my azz in here today!
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    lol. Just cause Sydney’s tryna school you? C’mon brotha! lol

  • Miss B

    I think I’m late into the discussion…

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Man, I just don’t care™

    @BG
    Are you ok in here brother?
    ___________________________________________________________

    NAW, they been beatin my azz in here today!
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    lol. Just cause Sydney’s tryna school you? C’mon brotha! lol
    ______________________________________
    I think they have both made some strong points.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Hey Syd…

  • Sydney™

    @BG

    “LOL! I see. I would helped but I had a cup of coffee in my hands”

    ——————DOA———————–

    @Ms. EJ

    I loved Dolores Claiborne! I like both Kathy Bates and Jennifer Jason Leigh (another good actress from the 80′s/early 90′s — “Single White Female”), and some of the lines were so quotable, I still repeat them (“Sometimes being a b**ch is all a woman has to hold onto”).

    What comedies do I like? Well, I loved Eddie Murphy’s early films, from Beverly Hills Cop to Trading Places. As far as classics are concerned, it doesn’t get much funnier than Richard Pryor’s “Stir Crazy” to me. I like Robin Williams and Ben Stiller as well. As far as indie comedies, I’ve liked some of Woody Allen’s films such as “Manhattan Murder Mystery.” And you?

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Are you doing any cooking for Thanksgiving?

  • Miss B

    I’m gonna jump in for a minute….

    Ms.EJ and Lady A….

    Pan’s Labyrinth is good. Reminds me a bit of Legend with Tom Cruise.

  • JB(2days and counting until it’s time to eat!)

    **PEAKING IN THE WINDOW**

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    You and I could be friends ….I love lord of the rings
    ________________________________________
    NERDS!

  • Ms.EJ

    @TRS- *ehug* hey Ms. Lady

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    Bg(~007~)
    NERDS!

    *rolls eyes*

  • Sydney™

    Hey BG :)

    @Ms. EJ

    “Something About Mary” was laugh-out-loud hilarious. I really gained respect for Cameron Diaz. She’s actually a really funny actress.

    I think some of Jack Nicholson’s films have been pretty funny (“Something’s Gotta Give”).

  • Sydney™

    Hey TRS! :)

    For all the Peter Jackson (“Lord of the Rings”) fans, he has a new film coming out that looks very engaging, “The Lovely Bones.”

  • Ms.EJ

    @FLACK- Great point minus the 95% part, but good point.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @ SYD
    Me, you, my bootleg copy of “Secret life of Bees”… Do we have a date?

  • Ms.EJ

    @SYDNEY- Really? what did it seem to be about from what you seen from the previews or clips?

  • trs

    Shout out to

    Sydney!!!!!!!
    MS. EJ (cyber hugs back)
    BG

  • Ms.EJ

    @LADY A- I like musicals too, but couldn’t get into Chicago and Mouline Rouge was good, now GREASE!!!!!!! girl I know the dance moves everything. Its a good chick and male flick too.

  • pynk

    Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Are you doing any cooking for Thanksgiving?
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    I’m doing dessert & appetizers this year. All the other females in the family are doing everything else. It’s about time… lol

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    bg,
    whatever…

  • Sydney™

    @Ms. EJ

    Susan Sarandon plays the girl’s grandmother, and I love her acting. I saw the preview, and visually, it looks like a beautiful, moving film.

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- What is your choice for dessert? I’m doing carrot cake (suggested by TRS out of the many great suggestions).

  • Tracey

    Look at the image up top, a fat dark black skin girl who hates herself, next to a slim light skin pretty woman….WFT, no wonder we have a black president with a black wife and still struggle mentally and physically!

    Nothing wrong with been dark black, fat or female, as long as you love yoursel and aspire to be the best you can be from the inside out!

  • Ms.EJ

    @SYDNEY- I love Susan Surandon from Thelma and Louise and The Client.

    QUESTION TO ALL: Was Snakes on a Plane suppose to be a comedy? I could never figure that out.

  • Ms.EJ

    @BG- Yep, sure did when nothing else was on tv and I wasn’t feeling well to get up for the DVDs in another room.

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    I like snakes on a plane…It was hilarious…the graphics were terrible.

  • Sydney™

    Ms. EJ, I’m sure you liked “Steel Magnolias” as well, no?

  • Oh Dear

    @ Gimme a break and Pynk

  • pynk

    Ms.EJ

    @PNK- What is your choice for dessert? I’m doing carrot cake (suggested by TRS out of the many great suggestions).
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    I 2nd that! I made a carrot cake last year & it was DELICIOUS! Never underestimate Betty Crocker! lmao! But, also, I made this dessert from Williams-Sonoma. I sampled it, & HAD to take it home to make! I was about $10 per cake mix, & $9 for the pumpkin pecan butter (or something like that… lol), but it was SOOO worth it! I’m gonna look for the link to send to you.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    *Confession*
    I did happen to like “Lil shop of Horrors”

    *Shrugs*

  • Sydney™

    @BG

    “*Confession*
    I did happen to like “Lil shop of Horrors””

    LOL! OK, I don’t feel bad for liking “Xanadu.”

    @Ms. EJ

    I liked Working Girl, too.

  • JB(ACC basketball, SEC basketball! Who gonna check us Boo?!)

    ** yelling and knocking on the window cause BG locked the door **

  • Caramel Cat

    *is lurking and happy that the discussion has turned more light-hearted*

  • rosa

    i dont think it sends the wrong message, because these type of situation can happened in any culture.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    ** yelling and knocking on the window cause BG locked the door **
    ____________________________________
    My bad suga….come on in! I knew I heard something

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Girl please do send that link if you can find it.

  • Diane

    @Ummmmmm
    Who were the social workers? What was the role of Paula Patton, Mariah Carey and Grace Hightower? Lawd, wiffout all dem light-skinned peoples, whatz we’se gone do.

  • pynk

    @ ms. Ej

    Do you have an e-mail I can send the recipe to? The site is filtering the links… lol

  • Sydney™

    @Ms. EJ

    Beaches is beautiful, but it requires a box of Kleenex. The same with Fried Green Tomatoes, Steel Magnolias, etc.

    A man recommended The Illusionist (with Ed Norton) to me recently, and I loved it, and it had a romantic perspective.

  • Sydney™

    Wow, how could I forget Terms of Endearment?

  • pynk

    Sydney™

    @Ms. EJ

    Beaches is beautiful, but it requires a box of Kleenex. The same with Fried Green Tomatoes, Steel Magnolias, etc.

    A man recommended The Illusionist (with Ed Norton) to me recently, and I loved it, and it had a romantic perspective.
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    Ed Norton is FINE! Whoo Lord! lol

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Girl, I knew I was forgetting someone yeah where is Daywalker too? Girl, I have an email, but its my full name I don’t want the crazies to have access to me. Do you have one? I need to make up a fake one and from there we can email each other.

  • I HATE the N WORD

    Caramel Cat you don’t have to be economically deprived to be abused, people with money and who grew up middle class and wealthy have suffered the same kind of abuse. Abuse not only has no race it also has no gender, political affiliation,socio-economic class or sexual orientation. It’s just abuse.

  • Caramel Cat

    @I HATE the N WORD

    Caramel Cat you don’t have to be economically deprived to be abused, people with money and who grew up middle cl***** and wealthy have suffered the same kind of abuse. Abuse not only has no race it also has no gender, political affiliation,socio-economic cl***** or sexual orientation. It’s just abuse.

    ~~~~

    I know this. Is this in response to something I posted?

  • pynk

    Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Girl, I knew I was forgetting someone yeah where is Daywalker too? Girl, I have an email, but its my full name I don’t want the crazies to have access to me. Do you have one? I need to make up a fake one and from there we can email each other.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    mine has my real name too! lol. & the system here, blocks out other e-mails sites (Yahoo, GMail, etc.) lol

  • JB(ACC basketball, SEC basketball! Who gonna check us Boo?!)

    The daughter expresses her belief that she has disappointed her mother, and the mother says to her that she only has hope for her and that she “sees” who she is as a person.
    _________________________________________________Yeah I know exactly which one. THiat is the mother who smokes like a chimmney and the husband makes her daughter split the groceries even ice cream that she hates.

    Yeah for CHICK FLICKS!!

  • Miss B

    Hey Ladies again…

    Mystic River is very good.

    Primal Fear is very good.

    Eye for an Eye is good.

  • JB(ACC basketball, SEC basketball! Who gonna check us Boo?!)

    Ok yall I’m out.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    I remember when gang violence got bad in my school as a youngster. The district bought everyone copies of the “Buttercream Gang”

    Am I the only person that has seen this?

  • Sydney™

    @JB

    “THiat is the mother who smokes like a chimmney and the husband makes her daughter split the groceries even ice cream that she hates.”

    It was another one of the three mothers, but that was another scene that was a tearjerker. When she wanted to give her daughter strength to leave her husband. She was the mother who had accidentally drowned her baby when she was a much younger woman married to a man in China.

    The book was wonderful as well. Amy Tan is a very gifted author.

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- here goes its lovelye30 (@) yahoo.com my fake one LOL. I just created this account.

  • Miss B

    And The Client is sooo goooood

  • Ms.EJ
  • rhoda

    Why hide the truth. There are so many issues amongst the human race not just one, so why is Precious a problem? I know many women who were abused by family members and people in the community, but instead of people trying to address the issue we always want to sweep it under a rug. It is what it is.

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Try to email before its time for you to leave to see if it works send a tester email.

  • pynk

    Ms.EJ

    @PNK- here goes its lovelye30 (@) yahoo.com my fake one LOL. I just created this account.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    lol, sent! Enjoy! :D

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Girl I got it will reply back so you can have my real email.

  • Old School

    @ Carmel Cat- You probably won’t hear about a “Flowers in the Attic” situation with uppity black folks because they are going to pay all kinds of money to sweep it under the rug.

  • pynk

    Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Girl I got it will reply back so you can have my real email.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    cool. lol. & you can e-mail me @ that one. That’s my work e-mail. That’s the one I can use while I’m here. But, I can send you my personal one too, if you like.

  • Opie Cunningham

    My only concern is that when it comes to Colour in the book n=both Mariah Carey’s and Paula Patton’s chracters are plain ‘dark skinned’ women and Lenny Kravitz’s character was a small jamaician woman

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK-LOL- I just got it and sent you an email from my real account. Girl, it was a little struggle, but worth it from getting information in the wrong hands.

  • Caramel Cat

    @Old School

    I know right???? I’m just sayin’ though…this stuff does happen in EVERY race…

  • Ms.EJ

    @PNK- Yes, when you get the chance send me your personal so we can keep in touch.

  • Ms.EJ

    Welp, I’m out everyone enjoy the rest of this day :D

    @PNK- Will hit you up ;)

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @PNK- Yes, when you get the chance send me your personal so we can keep in touch.
    ________________________________
    AWWWW…so sweet

  • On the real…

    That was the most depressing sh!t that I’ve ever seen. I don’t need to see that again…nah. :(

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    Bg(~007~)
    I would prolly need em after I make myself cry, crackin jokes!

    Yeh cracking jokes on yourself for being more sensitive than you thought you were

  • G Rockz Well

    Jesus people, it’s a TRUE STORY that needs to be told. Unfortunately, this stuff happens in all communities not just the black communities. The problem with the black community is they refuse to talk about situations that effect our families, AIDS, child abuse, molestation, etc. If there is no communication how can we prevent things like this from happening. We’re freaking SAD!

  • Caramel Cat

    @bg

    Dead @ Debbie Does Dallas!

  • I HATE the N WORD

    The story of Precious is alive and living amongst us, however when we are viewed under a microscope by the others her story now becomes common place instead of anomaly because her story reinforces what we are subconsciously and consciously told every day about ourselves (poor black stupid, obese, welfare recipient dark, unattractive, and my favorite “the unknown other” etc.) It’s not about the abuse so much as the negative characterization of ourselves that has been casted on us by others and readily perpetuated by us even though we know better.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Yeh cracking jokes on yourself for being more sensitive than you thought you were
    __________________________________________
    *googling “sensitive”*

  • pynk

    Ms.EJ

    Welp, I’m out everyone enjoy the rest of this day

    @PNK- Will hit you up

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    okely dokely! Later!

  • Lady Architect (Wreckless Love)

    Bg(~007~)
    *googling “sensitive”*

    Golisten to some music…you will find the definition*

  • I HATE the N WORD

    Now how did Miami Chick get to write all the bs, no offense chick.

  • pynk

    Bg(~007~)

    @PNK- Yes, when you get the chance send me your personal so we can keep in touch.
    ________________________________
    AWWWW…so sweet
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    lol, you are too much Bg.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    Well, everyone have a great evening. I’m outta here! Later! :D

  • Caramel Cat

    @bg

    LMAO!!!! And it was the “best” when someone would win both showcases. I loved that
    ~~~~

    I did too! I would be extremely happy for them…

  • trs

    Our lives revolved around “Plinko” and we went nuts when someone had a chance to win a car
    ———————————————

    Too cute BG!!!

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @ TRS
    Yeah I spent alot of time with my granny growing up

  • Sydney™

    @BG

    Aw, that’s so sweet!

    I liked Designing Women, too, but not as much as Golden Girls. I actually shed a tear when Bea Arthur p-a-s-s-e-d. I loved the character of Dorothy.

  • Caramel Cat

    @Sydney

    I STILL get excited when there’s a Golden Girls marathon on…that show was absolutely hilarious…

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    @ SYD
    I didnt appreciate the comic genius of Golden Girls till I was older.

    Hey do you remember ALF? I saw a hairy azz white guy that looked just like Alf today. I almost cried

  • Caramel Cat

    Speaking of old sitcoms, who remembers ‘Out of This World’?

    **would you like to swing on a star…whoa oh oh…carry moonbeams home in a jar…whoa oh oh…**

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Speaking of old sitcoms, who remembers ‘Out of This World’?
    ____________________________________
    Doesnt ring a bell…. I do remember “Silver Spoons”

  • Sydney™

    @BG

    Of course, I remember Alf! lol

    @Caramel

    Out of This World? That’s not the same as “Boy Meets World,” right?

    I LOVED the series “The Wonder Years.”

  • http://www.bossip.com frost

    This film will receive multiple Academy Award nominations and be hailed as a great film. The Great Debaters, a truly Academy Awards worthy film received not one nomination. Why? Because white people celebrate black dysfunction……and so do black people!

  • Caramel Cat

    @Sydney

    The Wonder Years was a great show…remember the spinoff to Golden Girls called Empty Nest? I liked that one too…

  • Sydney™

    “Silver Spoons!”

    “My Two Dads!”

    What about “Blossom?”

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    I miss 227 and Amen!!!!

    And when the Andy Griffith Show came on you betta STFU! Cuz me and Granny was tuned in!

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Never did like Blossom!

  • Sydney™

    Oh, “My So-Called Life,” too, with Claire Danes.

  • Caramel Cat

    have a good night Sydney and bg…I’m out… :)

  • GIVE ME A DAMN BREAK

    WTF…It is about abuse, and let’s leave it at that.

  • http://myspace.com/870bg Bg(~007~)

    Ok good people I’m out too. And don’t expect any of this Ralph Tresvant type of behavior outta me again! lol

  • NYC Gal

    I think this story needs to be told but I didn’t like the fact that the director chose to depict that the lighter skinned people were the heroes and were out to save the darker skinned people. The skin color should have been balanced. There should have been a darker hero to help Precious and there should have been a lighter skinned evil/mean person.

  • NYC Gal

    I kind of agree with what the Professor is saying. The director could have shown Precious eating something like ice cream, a whole pizza or McDonald’s but fried chicken? That’s up there with watermelon.

  • Silver Foxx

    I totally agree with Gemini620..!!!
    Simply put and to the point!

  • Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    In closing “precious” isnt very good.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    And to the person who said Emmitt Perry didnt get involved until after the film was already done, thats not true, Emmitt and Oprah are the initial backers. And Emmitt had full script approval.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    @ NYC Gal

    Because his real name is “Emmitt R. Perry, Tyler is some made up sh*t.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    Next question?

  • Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    Damn when i come in with my opinions and try to set the record straight, muthaf*ckas run outta here fast!

  • NYC Gal

    Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    @ NYC Gal

    Because his real name is “Emmitt R. Perry, Tyler is some made up sh*t.

    =====================================================
    Ain’t that straight out of Hollywood!! So Madea thought Tyler sounded better. SMDH! The brotha was gone a loooong time ago.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!

    brb yall

  • olsweetdickwillie (WHO GONNA CHECK ME BOO?)

    Its6amHoGetOut, You’ve waited all day for my opinion because I’m an Emmitt “Tyler” Perry specialist. So get ready for constructive genius people!
    —————————————————
    Child BOO!!!!

  • tyler perry did not make this movie

    for the last time.

  • Kenny

    Tyler and Oprah does not move me….

  • BoredbMe

    i agree with ch

  • Mock Rock Star

    resurrected

    Haven’t seen it yet but will and I do not think that Tyler Perry has created damage for the black community the black community creates it own damage and still people won’t chnage from there wicked and destructive ways as we speak…

    IS Tyler Perry on her calling all black woman B***t and H**s no… Is Tyler Perry letting there minds be conformed to black sterotypes no that would be us again… Is Tyler Perry making babies and leaving them in unhealthy situations no that is us again… We created so we are the ones who have to change it and it first starts with us.
    _________________________________________
    Tell it like it is!!! I swear n*ggas love to be against the right thing like putting these problems on blast and for the wrong dumb sh*t like saying Jay-Z, Drake and Lil Wayne are the best rappers because they are so positive.

  • Turkessa G.

    I wish I could agree with everyone saying this isn’t true life in the black community, but I’d be lying if I did. I work in a social services agency and see cases like Precious all the time. Mothers selling their daughters or kicking them out on the street becuz their boyfriends (the mothers) are going at them as soon as they hit puberty. The mothers aren’t protective, just jealous. Mothers dropping their babies at the free daycare at 4 am when the doors don’t open until 6 so they can go out and find a man. Letting their sons go at their sisters cuz thats what men do. Why are we denying what we know goes on? Let’s try and fix it, instead of worrying about how we’re being judged.

  • http://www.bossip.com Frost

    Mitchelldizzle – Thank you! The casting of this film was no accident. Three bi-racial actors were cast to play the saviors to the horribly abused dark skinned girl.In a book where the darkness of her skin was the cause of enormous emotional suffering, this was very telling.

  • MISS.SITTIN.PRETTY

    @ romello

    You must not get around and meet new people too often, I’ve met 2 people who were not black who have the name Precious! Real Talk! So for someone who seems to talk like their wise and know alot like urself, get out a little more, see the world and you might be surprised. I don’t know if ur black or not, and it really doesn’t matter either, you just sound silly boo! For you to say Precious is a “BLACK NAME” is very ignorant.

  • Sanjor

    @6am, I’m really going to miss you after december.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, resident genius. Why challenge me when you know you’re gonna lose?

    @ Sanjor,

    Im gonna miss you too luv.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, resident genius. Why challenge me when you know you’re gonna lose?

    @ carmen,

    welcome to the world of slim/regular size “progressive” black people luv! Can I give you a hug for not being stupid, for being able to see the bigger picture, for not being a follower of Emmitt Perry’s bullsh*t productions and just for being smart?

  • Tanji

    DR HAYDEN we ddin’t ask for the film to be made so please HOLLYWOOD and the cast are praising the film shut the hell up

  • Sydney™

    @6am

    “Now sydney, still doubting my genius huh?”

    LOL, I can appreciate the act (at least through the end of December), but I think you need to “delve,” not “dwelve,” deeper. Are you including the Harvey Weinstein lawsuit with your conjecture?

    And I haven’t read “Push,” but, yes, from my understanding, the character is obese, and her skin tone is incorporated into the theme of colorism. The theme of ingrained perceptions of skin tone were abundant throughout the film, I thought.

  • Sydney™

    You called this actress a “gorilla” — How on earth is that “progressive?”

    More like Stepin Fetchit to me. . .

  • Its6amHoGetOut, resident genius. Why challenge me when you know you’re gonna lose?

    Hugs for tanji!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    whats worse than ugly? F*ckin’ hideous!

    Oh and Sydney do your homework love, theres a certain production company involved from the very beginning of the film, 3 of its members used to work for a certain film distributor company and now have a “first look ” production deal with that same company, I could do all the legwork and tell you the name of that company, but why? You research it, it only took me 5 minutes.

  • whitney

    is rap music and negative blogs sending the wrong message about black people….wow its like all this isn’t enough why cant we be positive and uplift our people and not worry about the negative stuff….by harping on negative things we just give other races a chance to become stronger than us, but wasting negative energy on this stuff just ruins what positive stuff we could be doing….i am outraged at the neg stuff i see i know everyones entitled to there own opinion but when is time to actually use the power that we possess to uplift rather that do anything else !!! Please this is a challenge

  • Hell Rell

    You know what? I am really tired of these Black people who have become “something” and have completely alienated themselves from their history and roots that they actually forget that these people do exist and it makes me sick it doesnt matter what u say or what u think u are still going to be black, white people will have still strung your ancestors up from trees and left them there as strange fruit. one black person doesnt speak for all black people because you damn sure dont speak for me

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    Umm Sydney,

    Theres no scene in the book where Precious is described as very darkskin or where she steals a whole bucket of fried chicken and eats it all on her way to school! See dumb azz Emmitt Perry bullsh*t in effect people!

  • Its6amHoGetOut

    Im shocked madea didnt show up as her grandmother!

  • Mock Rock Star

    @6am
    When are you taking your psychopathic a$$ off of this sight because U are a poor excuse for a man…it says it in your scene name.
    @Everyone
    6am is the type of person who would f*ck his or your daughter

  • Mock Rock Star

    *site* and *screen*

  • WOW

    Must admit, didn’t see film – yet, but the previews with Monique was a person who was around in a lot of families’ always talking down to their kids, especially in public and around anyone, showed so much self-hatred within; and to make the child seem bad, and the mother seem good. Education for a parent not to treat themselves or their children would be a reason to see the film, I just want to see the mother come around and change and maybe be a solution for other people out there. There’s a lot more messages, and when I see a film, don’t care about what someone is thinking about my race; I want to understand what the film is about. The Color Purple was wonderful, and the message was not about black men being mean, but that women have been treated like crap by men of all colors; and some women have acted worse than Mister. The turning from rural to city had a social message; and how education and love helped families come together (You don’t have to eat everything on your plate, take just what you need).

  • deesac

    Well I don’t hear anybody complaining about white producers making the moving”Blind Side”. A young black kid that needs a home and white people house him and gives him and opportunity to go to college for the exchange of money fame and wealth for themselves,how nice thank you white folks.

  • luv em large

    @ math

    When is the last time you said ‘yourselves’ instead of ‘yourselfs’

    smh

  • math

    in the comment you read. i wrote it that way for a reason. now comment on my thoughts. my points. don’t chop the tree down plant one feel me. @large

  • Tracey

    We DON’T need negative images at all!

    Truimp, Happiness, success, drive, personal achievement, pride and strength is what our fragmented community needs!

    We are almost emotionally bankrupted a community, as we have been through way to much that any race can truly bare and this film doesnt help repair that fact.

    We need healing and repair, NOT highlighting, we know our problems, fix them, not glorify them!

  • Tracey

    Funny I can’t seem to get my comments up about Will Smith?

  • Tracey

    WEIRD WEIRD WEIRD HOW COMES I CANNOT GET MY COMMENTS UP ABOUT WILL SMITH?

  • Tracey

    AND WHAT HE IS LONG PASSED DUE?

  • Tracey

    AN OSCAR!

  • Tracey

    W O U L D H E F I N A L L Y H A V E G O T O N E I F H E H A D P L A Y E D R O L E OF C H I L D A B U S I N G F A T H E R I N T H I S N E G A T I V E F I L M

  • Tracey

    OMG this site has to be ran by the white man secretly!

  • queshonda

    all of you need to stop. this is reality. children are gettin abused and mistreated, and you cant say moniques fake and tyler perry doesnt have anything to do with the script. if you was being abused and mistreated you would want to let people know so they wont be abused. i feel as though yall are being selfish and arrogant. you better be glad they wanna talk about blACK PEOPLE. ITS BLACK PEOPLE LIKE YALL THAT GIVE BLACK PEOPLE A NAME

  • Mywon

    It is very rare when a book is done justice by the film industry. The director hit the mark.

  • ms. eyeballz

    thanks.

  • divina luz

    @ Tracey,
    Amistad.

  • be real!!!!

    ya’ll complaing but most of ya’ll idiots when to see “NEw Moon” which has no black celebs in it probably.

    And is about fake vampires.. black folks don’t care about crap for real!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Thxgvg

    D-mn these are good…keep writing the research paper comments…LOL
    ______
    Will people pls stop writing Research Papers for comments…LOL

  • http://www.bossip.com token

    Yeah, stop writing intelligent, well thought out comments and write ones that are filled with misspelled words, profanity and complete ignorance.

  • Its6amHoGetOut, Bored because my girl, my sister and my mother went shoppin’ at 5am, you know damn well I wasnt getting up that early!

    next, lol, lmoa ,rofl!

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