Comments on: Dear Bossip: I’m Secretly Diggin’ My Co-Worker

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:48:10 +0000

Honey, you are his “Just In Case” woman. He’s stringing you along, “just in case” his relationship with the ex doesn’t work out. Don’t be a fool. Go out with other men and if it’s meant to happen between you two (ie he FINALLY leaves the ex, and he comes real with his feelings)then you can proceed. Until then, do you!

By: JAR

JAR — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 01:31:13 +0000

Sounds like you’re offering a glass of water when the man is not thirsty. It’s a dead giveaway everytime. You might find out he’s DL or that his ex has him whipped.
He’s not ready either way—MOVE ON and count your blessings!!!

By: T LO

T LO — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 13:29:44 +0000

i would just like to say that just because you all are co workers that doesn’t mean that it can’t work. My husband and I have been together for 11yrs. and we meet at work and worked together without any problems for a few years after we started seeing each other on a more romantic level. But the question that I have is if you all hang out and you have spent the night at his house and he hasn’t made any kind of advances towards you and he is still telling his ex that ya’ll are bestfriends then do you think maybe you are the only one catchin feelings? I mean I don’t know a man alive who wouldn’t make some kind of gesture no matter how small if they were into you and you were spending the night at his house. Maybe to him ya’ll are just friends. And if ya’ll as close as you say then why don’t you know the status of his ex or any other chick?

By: chzz

chzz — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 18:54:10 +0000

He’s not interested in you.He may be nice and friendly but a man does not wait two years to let a woman know that he wants a deeper relationship.
Get real and move on.

By: Angie

Angie — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 14:53:11 +0000

Actually incarcerated this is not some made up story, maybe you’re only and have never lived that life.

By: Blu Rain

Blu Rain — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 14:07:18 +0000

This stroy has too many holes in it to count. Regardless, if it is real, he don’t want you…move on!

By: md

md — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 07:07:49 +0000

tell him! i was in the same situation about a month ago but luckily it was my co-worker (who is now my bf) who spoke up and it was the greatest thing to happen to both of us. however, it has to be perfect timing i think if he did it any other time it wouldn’t have worked out so well. you’ll know in heart when the time is right. good luck!

By: dior

dior — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:53:36 +0000

it’s obvious that he still have feelings for his ex. but he’s on the fence about her. Lusting for 2yrs is ridiculous, while she’s lusting on (what ifs and maybes) she prolly missed out on another great guy because she was distracted by him. I’ve learned that when a guy wants someone he goes after her, simple. He’s sound unsure about her also, and being his co-worker isn’t make that uncertainty an easier.

By: D.E.

D.E. — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 01:56:10 +0000

What’s good everyone? hope all is well.I understand the apprehinsion when it comes to work place relationships,however I think it depends on the two individuals involved.It starts with knowing yourself and your personality type,if you’re a jealous person and can’t let go of things easily leave it alone,if you are a even minded person and not afraid of life… go for it.love is but a chance anyway.

By: memchee

memchee — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 00:52:11 +0000

Don’t tell him how u feel….just move on.

The fact that he was nervous around his ex means 2 things:
1. He’s still has the door open to get back with her and she is his first choice
2. The thought of you and him is/was very much on his mind.

BUT – you should move one, ‘cuz it does sound like he is purposely keeping you on standby while all the while knowing he can get it if he wants it.

He knows what he is doing….