For Your Information: Today is World AIDS Day

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December 1st, 2009

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Although we frequently have jokes and kid here on Bossip.com, we take some matters very seriously. Today, we want all of our readers to be informed that it is World AIDS Day. There are a few facts under the hood that everyone in our community should be aware of…

1.Today, women account for one out of every four new HIV cases in the U.S. Of these newly infected women, about two out of three are African-American. Most of these women got HIV from having sex with a man. AIDS is now the leading cause of death for African-American women ages 25-34. African-American women are over 21 times as likely to die from HIV/AIDS as non-Hispanic white women.

2. There are a myriad of social and economic factors that result in higher levels of sexual HIV transmission among black Americans. However, higher levels of STDs among African-Americans, also shaped by social and economic factors, in turn facilitate sexual transmission of HIV. Black Americans have 8 times the level of Chlamydia, and 18 times the level of gonorrhea compared to white Americans.

3. A significant proportion of African-Americans do not blame the spread of HIV on risky sexual behavior, but instead hold the government responsible. 48% of African-Americans surveyed by Oregon State University researchers between 2002 and 2003 believed that HIV was a man-made virus. Over half (53%) believed that there was a cure for AIDS that was being withheld from the poor, and 27% thought AIDS was produced in a government laboratory. 12% thought that HIV was created and spread by the CIA and 15% thought it was a form of genocide against blacks

4. A 2009 survey by the Kaiser Family Foundation discovered over a fifth of African-Americans cite HIV/AIDS as the most urgent health problem facing the US, significantly higher than the 6% average. (It should be noted that both figures have declined dramatically since as recently as 2004.) In another survey, four-fifths of African-Americans believed that government spending on the disease domestically was insufficient. They also reported experiencing the highest levels of HIV-related stigma, were the most aware about transmission routes, were the most likely to have been tested, and were the ethnic group that was the most likely to say that they knew someone who was living with HIV or had died of AIDS

Please get tested, be aware, and remember to practice safe sex. Ladies, make those dudes STRAP UP!!!

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117 Responses to “For Your Information: Today is World AIDS Day”

    tj

    12/1/09, 06:55:am

    Where did you get this ignorance. Females can get aids from HETEROSEXUAL men as well. The problem is these ladies are going around thinking they can’t contract the virus even despite the fact that their man is a promiscuous just because he’s not bisexual. You have to protect yourself period no matter what. And even besides Aids there are other things out there.

    Dwight(aroundYOlips)

    12/1/09, 06:59:am

    Sounds like I need to date an Alaskan Native. lol
    Seriously though, you gotta be careful! :)

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 07:19:am

    I find it interestingly coincidental that even though Black people make up just 12 percent of the overall population they make up 45 percent of those infected with HIV and 45 percent of the prison population.

    Couple that with the current trends of “professional” Blacks not having children/families and increasing homosexuality and its easy to see that our population (and influence) is in serious danger of slipping into decline. Its like we’re getting hit by the perfect storm.

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 07:32:am

    Also that first bullet point is VERY misleading. Why would you want to make it sound like a woman can only get AIDS from a bisexual or IV drug using male???????? Doesn’t that appear to be part of a conspiracy?

    Re

    12/1/09, 07:45:am

    Funny, I was just reading an article on Shanghai reporting the number of HIV/AIDS cases to be stabilizing worldwide…

    EXCEPT: Africa. And medical experts argue more money should be spent on Malaria and diarrhea medicine than dealing with HIV/AIDS in Africa…

    While I agree to some degree…400,000 babies are being born with AIDS already. What’s that going to say for the future generation? I’m sure if you look at a population cartogram, the number of elders are increasingly smaller and smaller every decade (in the countries where AIDS is prominent).

    Sad state of affairs.

    Honey (KEEP ME NEAR THE CROSS...LOL)

    12/1/09, 07:48:am

    This is serious. The HIV rate here in DC is ridiculous. It is worst in DC then South Africa. When did it get that bad in the US. This makes me want to abstain and sew my coochie up.

    BubbaGoosie

    12/1/09, 08:03:am

    Damn…

    Saytoodles

    12/1/09, 08:07:am

    @Re
    your experts are wrong to generalize Africa, There are countries in Africa like Kenya that have decreased their HIV infections DRASTICALLY. Countries like Botswana and South Africa have introduced antiviral drugs and are investing more than Malaria medication as not ALL African countries are malaria areas.

    @Bossip,
    Babies aren’t born with HIV even if the mother is infected a foetus does not have aids. They get it through the birthing process were blood can get under their eyes and such. That is why an HIV infected female has to take antivirals to prevent it getting to her baby.

    I won’t even comment on some other foolishness..3 times as likely to get Aids from white men? really? come on now, let’s educate our people and not spread ignorance

    Re

    12/1/09, 08:11:am

    @Saytoodles

    LOL, these are not MY experts…I stated this is what I read in an article this morning. The last paragraph is my opinion. But fyi, Africa is indeed lagging even if it’s numbers are decreasing. This is coming from a Sub-saharan African who knows way too many people with HIV.

    V

    12/1/09, 08:17:am

    Alicia Keys live concert on YouTube today for Worlds AIDS DAY 8pm EST. Why isn’t Bossip putting this info on their front page?????

    Saytoodles

    12/1/09, 08:21:am

    @Re
    I too am a sub-Saharan African and you are still wrong. Somalia Has only about 24 000 people living with AIDS compared to what it used to be. Guinea dropped to 11 000, so again…it was wrong to generalize Africa as some countries are doing better than others.

    drenk

    12/1/09, 08:28:am

    So is this like the ginger thing where we gotta kick someone with aids? Cuz i’ve done my duty for the day then

    Reign

    12/1/09, 08:28:am

    AIDS in the Black community is a sad fact. I didn’t use to believe all of the statistics and polls because basically, you can make polls achieve whatever results you want. However, I now know better on this particular subject. I actually have grown a** over 40 girlfriends who meet guys and have unprotected sex within days, sometimes hours after meeting a guy!!! UnF’ing believable! Women need to seriously wake up. They’re still having children by men they don’t know nor like and that had to have been unprotected sex. Are we insane? Actually, I know the answer to that.

    Nique

    12/1/09, 08:39:am

    @Honey

    And thats exactly why I try and stay away from men from DC.LOL. How did it become that bad??

    I went last month to get tested for EVERYTHING…

    Ol boy is still alive so you already know the results! :)

    Re

    12/1/09, 08:40:am

    @Saytoodles

    Why do you keep telling me I’m generalizing? In my first post I wrote everything that came from AN ARTICLE.

    Second: The facts are all over the internet. The people living with HIV/AIDS in high numbers happen to be all over the world, AND I’VE MENTIONED SHANGHAI AS ONE OF THE MAJORS happen to be concentrated in Africa as well. Check the world AIDS websites.

    That of course doesn’t mean Russia, Belgium, or the Domenican Republic doesn’t account for any of these large numbers.

    I’ll make a general statement so that you can stop accusing me of generalizing because I still don’t see where you could have derived that from anything I said: THERE IS A HIGHER CONCENTRATION OF DEATHS FROM HIV/AIDS FROM AFRICA THEN OF ANY OTHER CONTINENT IN THE WORLD.

    Note that I have not said number of people LIVING with the syndrome. I particularly avoided that phrase because there are countries with a large population of people living with it that are able to afford medicine in larger numbers.

    And that is a fact.

    Undacuvabrutha (Into the Swing of Things)

    12/1/09, 08:41:am

    Protect yourselves people, its serious business out there.

    Miss B

    12/1/09, 08:45:am

    Practice safe sex. It’s all we can do! And sometimes you have to with the one’s you are with, especially if you catch them up.

    Saytoodles

    12/1/09, 08:54:am

    @Re
    I hate going in circles so I will say it one more time, When you mention other places like Shanghai, you don’t refer to it as part of a continent but as an area. So in the case of Africa, some countries have gotten it right because they focussed on that specific area. So because South Africa has the most trouble with HIV than call it South Africa and not Africa. Note how you mentioned a city in China instead of saying Asia. Why not do the same when it comes to Africa vs individual countries?

    But you and I going back and forth with the details isn’t helping the issue at hand, I have 2 employees with HIV and it is a situation that needs to be dealt with area for area, generalizing it will only lead us to speaking about it instead on acting on it.

    drenk

    12/1/09, 08:54:am

    @ Re

    saytoodles is just an african that gets mad at anyone who says ANYTHING about africa and starts accusing you of being brain washed by news media. ignore him like a muttering homeless person and he’ll go away,

    nywoman23

    12/1/09, 08:59:am

    I HEARD BRAZIL IS BAD . IS IT WORSE THAN AFRICA I DONT KNOW

    Saytoodles

    12/1/09, 09:01:am

    @Drenk,
    It’s a her, and she’ll go away in a couple of minutes…end of business day.

    1994 Angel black

    12/1/09, 09:04:am

    Don’t have sex with black man, and stop dating them, they are nasty.

    rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    12/1/09, 09:05:am

    Dont believe the stats.. just dont AIDS dont discriminate.. it doesnt say .. ok im going over here and infect more black men , if it is true then white women are the next carriers!!

    rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    12/1/09, 09:06:am

    Like white men are not nasty.. please AIDS doesnt discriminate.. trust me on that one!!

    Re

    12/1/09, 09:06:am

    @Saytoodles

    So because South Africa has the most trouble with HIV than call it South Africa and not Africa. Note how you mentioned a city in China instead of saying Asia.
    _______________________________________________________

    Lord have mercy, I have NOT ONCE MENTIONED SOUTH AFRICA. Please…just stop.

    I can at least agree with you: talking about it isn’t going to solve the problem. But getting people to talk about it is always a good start to raising awareness.

    @nywoman23
    Oh yeah, I went to Brazil and we focused on that topic a bit. Brazil is definitely worse off than a lot of countries in Africa.

    Re

    12/1/09, 09:08:am

    @drenk

    I have no gripes with “saytoodles…” Nothing wrong with a healthy debate. Although I don’t like when people put words in my mouth.

    rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    12/1/09, 09:10:am

    They had 3 white women over 40 on Oprah who had slept with this one man who knowingly infected them with AIDS and didnt tell them he had it~~ They were all middle aged ladies and they all were postitive, but you see we dont hear about these kinds of people ,only black and hispanic folks.. statistics .. i dont believe for a minute you can make crap up , they dont know all black folks so how the heck can they say 85% this and that and whatever.. bullcrap!!

    rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    12/1/09, 09:12:am

    Yep i heard Brazil is bad too with all the prostitution and what not!!

    Saytoodles

    12/1/09, 09:14:am

    @Re,

    I didn’t say you said South Africa I was making an example of how you mentioned Shanghais as an isolated area but will not acknowledge Africa as isolated areas as well. But never mind…we found a common ground…that’s all that matters. I just wish we could have an HIV free generation in the future.

    pynk

    12/1/09, 09:23:am

    1994 Angel black

    Don’t have sex with black man, and stop dating them, they are nasty.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    Smh…

    Re

    12/1/09, 09:25:am

    @Saytoodles

    I can say amen to that…

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 09:32:am

    @ RE

    You are blessed with great patience my dear.

    Bossip sucks

    12/1/09, 09:36:am

    Nique HIV doesnt live within city walls people travel. HIV is like the flu you can sleep with a person in Texas who used to be with with someone in NYC who slept with someone in DC, get it. Do not think that makes you safe, the only thing that makes you safe is not having sex with random people or limiting yourself to one partner who has tested negative in the last twelve months without being sexually active in that time period and thereafter remains committed to just you. In other words as long as we fail to live right HIV will not be limited by any borders.

    Re

    12/1/09, 09:36:am

    @The Bear

    You’d be surprised :-) That’s why I’m going to teach Highschool…

    Nique

    12/1/09, 09:39:am

    @Bossip Sucks

    It was a joke.I guess you didnt catch it-But thanks anyway for the info I already knew…

    Nique

    12/1/09, 09:41:am

    @Re

    Bless your heart suga! And bless it twice if you are trying to teach in the PG county/DC area.

    …All funds donated will be towards getting Re a bullet/stab proof vests…

    *Please make all checks payable to Save Re fund*
    PO box 34

    rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    12/1/09, 09:42:am

    @Bossip sucks~~` Thats right and as long as you have white women sleeping with hundreds of numbers of black men nowdays, How the he** can AIDS be limited to black folks more than white.. stop the GD nonsense you cant fool me! I dont give a damn about no stats or CDC numbers.. go in every house hold and check their medical history and then you will have a better number for who has what and who doesnt.. AIDS travels and gets around just like the flu and herpes and cold sores ~!!

    Gimmeabreak78

    12/1/09, 09:45:am

    I spent a lot of time volunteering with the HIV/AIDS community in my city. By the numbers, 90% of the people who visit my particular center are Black because we make a special effort to reach people affected by HIV/AIDS within the black community.

    Some may be shocked to find that there are so many young, beautiful sisters who were infected by their husbands and boyfriends who they *****umed were sexually faithful, but who weren’t.

    I’t very sobering and heart-breaking.

    Gimmeabreak78

    12/1/09, 09:46:am

    correction**

    It’s very sobering and heart-breaking.

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 09:55:am

    @ Re

    Maybe you could teach Highschool in Africa and you could teach Saytootle’s kids… LOL

    drenk

    12/1/09, 09:57:am

    @ 1994 Angel black

    hannibal or kigali? which one are you? or is it prettywhitegurl? Or cynthia/khristal?

    Undacuvabrutha (Into the Swing of Things)

    12/1/09, 09:57:am

    @ Gimmeabreak78

    “beautiful sisters who were infected by their husbands and boyfriends who they *****umed were sexually faithful, but who weren’t.”

    This is truly sad!!!!

    drenk

    12/1/09, 09:58:am

    @ Re
    i have no gripes with “saytoodles…” Nothing wrong with a healthy debate. Although I don’t like when people put words in my mouth.
    ———————

    SSSSHHHH!! Like beetlejuice, if you say HER name 3 times she appears!

    Undacuvabrutha (Into the Swing of Things)

    12/1/09, 09:59:am

    @ drenk

    LOL @ cynthia/khristal, who just so happens to post once a day at the same time, back to back, lol.

    Love

    12/1/09, 10:05:am

    Get tested! Know your HIV status. Keep yourself healthly, just like you keep up with the latest gossip.

    Aunt Viv

    12/1/09, 10:06:am

    Kudos to you Bossip, for acknowledging World AIDS Day.

    Today reminds us that HIV/AIDS is still around and that we all need to remain careful.

    Re

    12/1/09, 10:06:am

    @Nique and @ The Bear

    LMAO!!!!! You guys BOTH made me laugh out loud…bless both of your hearts.

    Aunt Viv

    12/1/09, 10:07:am

    LOL @ cynthia/kristal-I noticed that about them, and wondered if they were the same person too!

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 10:10:am

    @ Re

    I laughed out loud too… when I tried to imagine you and Saytoodles going at it (having healthy debate) at every PTA meeting.

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 10:14:am

    @ Aunt Viv

    I dunno what’s up with them… I think they are the same person but I usually just ignore them.

    Aunt Viv

    12/1/09, 10:22:am

    @ The Bear,

    “I dunno what’s up with them… I think they are the same person but I usually just ignore them.”
    ___________________________________________________
    I’ve never engaged with them/her either. I’ve never understood that phenomenon here on Bossip…

    chaka1

    12/1/09, 10:24:am

    This new filter is strange. I didn’t cuss or say anything negative.

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 10:29:am

    @ Chaka1

    It blocked you for impersonating one of my favorite singers of all time.

    Gimmeabreak78

    12/1/09, 10:49:am

    @Undacuvabrutha (Into the Swing of Things)

    I even had a husband and wife who were there together. He had given it to her. The amazing thing is that her spirits always seemed to be so high. He, on the other hand, had a lot of guilt and anger towards her because he resented her for forgiving him and staying with him.

    It’s enough to make you cry.

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 10:53:am

    Goodmorning to ALL

    I would like to say that my heart goes out to all those who have been affected by HIV/AIDS either directly or indirectly. I have a dear good friend who was infected with HIV from his ex-girlfriend who was cheating on him with her ex-who was released after a long incarceration. Everyone who that is sexually active please use protection, and get tested together with your partner.

    noelle

    12/1/09, 11:01:am

    All you sexually active people should get tested today..it only makes sense. :)

    THE SoSelphish 1

    12/1/09, 11:09:am

    Very sad…

    Just this morning this lady called in to the Rickey Smiley Morning Show (97.9 The Beat in Dallas). She was crying, saying she has been married for like 24years, and her husband told her in the car this morning that he cannot lie to her that he has been on the DL for abt 5-6yrs and he is HIV +. She was on her way to get tested….

    Truly sad…
    The stats are alarming

    Please ppl… Know your status!!!!!!

    THE SoSelphish 1

    12/1/09, 11:10:am

    Go to HIVTEST.ORG

    Frederick

    12/1/09, 11:16:am

    I didn’t say you said South Africa I was making an example of how you mentioned Shanghais as an isolated area but will not acknowledge Africa as isolated areas as well. But never mind…we found a common ground…that’s all that matters. I just wish we could have an HIV free generation in the future.
    ___________________________________________________
    The inability of a group of people to focus on their own issues is the begining of their down fall

    The African continent should focus on their own specific areas and the Black American community should focus on theirs,so should the Asians,Europeans etc

    The comparison study will not get anyone any where,
    action is what is needed and once a problem has been identified then it is half solved

    coming through

    12/1/09, 11:19:am

    bear has aids.

    all black men are p*****ers of this disease.

    they screw anything, love their drugs, white women and hate anything black. I hope they all die, off.

    Black men suck! Especially you hannibal= bear.

    I can hear the dirt pits calling from your thatch covered cardboard boxes, that you call home..

    VIRGIN ISLANDS SUCK.

    seriously?

    12/1/09, 11:29:am

    I blame hip hop

    coming through

    12/1/09, 11:30:am

    gimme a break, you are very unattractive and lok like an aids carrier, as well. Why did you take your picture looking sidewways? Front on, you must be a real dog, black as hell with silky weave…

    coming through

    12/1/09, 11:31:am

    hannibals mom gives bjs in the parking lot of the dollar store

    coming through

    12/1/09, 11:33:am

    all black men should enslave themselves to white women, that’s back to the natural order of things, BIG BLACK BUCKS, good for nothing but running down the basketball court, playing golf and chasing behind us white women, while you black freaks get mad and wish it could be you…

    drenk

    12/1/09, 11:33:am

    @ Frederick

    dont comparison studies help to find the rate of infection, who it spreads to (socio/economically), and then you can take preventive measures tailored to each area instead of a general blanket measure that might not be as effective?

    coming through

    12/1/09, 11:33:am

    bears mom tosses salad in the mcdonalds parking lot during the dollar specials..

    coming through

    12/1/09, 11:34:am

    all black men are bi-sexual

    Sharie

    12/1/09, 11:36:am

    GET TESTED!!!! I did & it’s a good feeling to know your status!

    Frederick

    12/1/09, 11:59:am

    @denk
    dont comparison studies help to find the rate of infection, who it spreads to (socio/economically), and then you can take preventive measures tailored to each area instead of a general blanket measure that might not be as effective?
    _______________________________________________
    You have clearly missed my point

    Comparison studies is all right within each different groups

    However each group should focus on their own issues

    That is what everyone else is doing

    Africans should focus on theirs and Black Americans should do the same

    drenk

    12/1/09, 12:09:pm

    @ Frederic

    AIDS is a global problem and should be tackled globally. I agree that we should all focus on our own issues, but AIDS is a human problem, not one groups problem

    Re

    12/1/09, 12:24:pm

    @drenk

    AIDS is a global problem and should be tackled globally. I agree that we should all focus on our own issues, but AIDS is a human problem, not one groups problem
    _______________________________________________________

    Amen brother.

    MARK RICH

    12/1/09, 12:26:pm

    Statistically there are more whites than black, and whites are more likely to see private doctors, were they actually numbers are keep private, anyway, IMO HIV\AIDS is so prevalent in the black community is because you have men who sleep with a lot of women and never have themselves checked, also women who love them “playa” types who hit everything raw, it aint ok to let him go raw after a few times neither

    I blame materialism too

    Frederick

    12/1/09, 12:30:pm

    AIDS is a global problem and should be tackled globally. I agree that we should all focus on our own issues, but AIDS is a human problem, not one groups problem
    _______________________________________________
    I doubt that anyone would dispute that but staying focused on the issue at hand does help

    The Bear...YES I'm BACK

    12/1/09, 12:33:pm

    @ always knew/never knew/coming through/Ms. Black Unity

    LOL!!!!

    I love you too. Hope you’re having a great day. LOL!!!!!!

    t

    12/1/09, 12:37:pm

    y are there so many comments about white ppl? FORGET whilte ppl! look at the percentages on the chart above. does it say there are no white ppl wit AIDS? no. specifically it says there are around 35% of whites that are infected (and thats not exactly a small number). we always gotta look at someone else. look in the freakin mirror! whats going on in another race has nothing to do with us and if we could say f them and what they think we are/ should be and just focus on getting ourselves together, promoting positive behavior, advertising safe sax instead of li li lick me like a lollipopm or birthday sex then we can solve our issues. Malcolm X said it best when he said we always focused on the things that dont matter and the things that do fall by the waist side (paraphrasing). black ppl are entering an state that we will not be able to recover from. we are losing our children to diseases, drugs, violence, and money. they are stuck on immediate gratification when truthfully anything thats worth having takes time to attain/achieve. step up adults…i dont know what to say about black women. there are some very intelligent black women obviously but man seems like we only see the ignorant ones. i mean if you over a certain age and still lettin dudes smash no condom, no relationship, no anything idk what to say except maybe get a vibrator??? idk, just stop being so damn clueless…

    WordtotheWise

    12/1/09, 12:37:pm

    Mark Rich, you forgot one very important element: Men having sex with other men and then having sex with women.

    drenk

    12/1/09, 12:45:pm

    making a point would also help

    rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    12/1/09, 12:56:pm

    @drenk~~ you need the award of the day, you are so right AIDS is a human problem and i am sick of these folks blaming it on black folks.. he** Aids never said i will attack more blacks than whites!! wtf?

    drenk

    12/1/09, 13:01:pm

    @ rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    YAAAAY I WON!!! I’d like to thank Rose for nominating me and declaring me winner, I’d like to thank Re for agreeing wiht my comment!!

    you like me! you really like me!! NOW LETS ALL GO SHOOT UP SOME HEROIN AND HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH STRANGERS PAAAAAAAAARTY!!!!

    How about some Truth

    12/1/09, 13:07:pm

    OK, the crap that’s being said on this blog is one of the major reasons that African Americans in this country will continue to contract this virus at alarming rates. Everyone wants to blame each other instead of themselves. The majority of this problem comes down to as lack of personal responsibility. The fact is, a lot of black women that contract this disease did not receive it from their husbands that they “thought were faithful”. Most of these women aren’t even married, so the fact that even marriage doesn’t save you from situations like this should make non-married women (in a “committed” relationship or not) take some responsibility for their own personal safety. The truth is, a great deal of our women are just as promiscuous as the men are. Everyone wants to talk about men sleeping around with multiple women, and DL brothers, but no one wants to speak on the obvious – women with multiple sex partners, women having children by multiple men,and having sex with all of them. Also, strippers having sex for money and other material things, and chicks that will let a dude go raw just because he’s rich and famous, or she wants to have kids with him, maybe because of what she thinks he can do for her..
    The problem with the Black community in America is that we hate hearing the entire truth about a situation. We need to get over that, or this disease will continue to ravage our people.

    pynk

    12/1/09, 13:23:pm

    How about some Truth

    OK, the crap that’s being said on this blog is one of the major reasons that African Americans in this country will continue to contract this virus at alarming rates. Everyone wants to blame each other instead of themselves. The majority of this problem comes down to as lack of personal responsibility. The fact is, a lot of black women that contract this disease did not receive it from their husbands that they “thought were faithful”. Most of these women aren’t even married, so the fact that even marriage doesn’t save you from situations like this should make non-married women (in a “committed” relationship or not) take some responsibility for their own personal safety. The truth is, a great deal of our women are just as promiscuous as the men are. Everyone wants to talk about men sleeping around with multiple women, and DL brothers, but no one wants to speak on the obvious – women with multiple sex partners, women having children by multiple men,and having sex with all of them. Also, strippers having sex for money and other material things, and chicks that will let a dude go raw just because he’s rich and famous, or she wants to have kids with him, maybe because of what she thinks he can do for her..
    The problem with the Black community in America is that we hate hearing the entire truth about a situation. We need to get over that, or this disease will continue to ravage our people.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    I’m co-signing all over this. TRUTH.

    Gimmeabreak 78

    12/1/09, 13:35:pm

    @How about some Truth

    The fact is, a lot of black women that contract this disease did not receive it from their husbands that they “thought were faithful”.
    ___________________________________________

    Your entire statement was true (not just the part I reproduced here). I just mentioned the part about married women becoming infected by their unfaithful husbands because before I got involved in the HIV/AIDS community, I *****umed that they contracted from having reckless sex.

    One of the women in my group made what I thought to be a valid point:

    The safe sex message is targeting single people who are having sex, and that is a good thing. However, do they really expect married people to use condoms with their spouses?

    Obviously, the world is in a sad state when a man cannot “go raw” (I hate that phrase) in his wife, but I guess that’s what it’s come to.

    Really?

    12/1/09, 13:39:pm

    Honey (KEEP ME NEAR THE CROSS…LOL)

    This is serious. The HIV rate here in DC is ridiculous. It is worst in DC then South Africa. When did it get that bad in the US. This makes me want to abstain and sew my coochie up.

    DC has alot of g a y m e n so does ATL just sayin

    Really?

    12/1/09, 13:41:pm

    ATL has a very high hiv rate.

    drenk

    12/1/09, 13:43:pm

    @ Gimmeabreak 78
    “go raw” (I hate that phrase)
    ———————————-
    hows about “bareback” ?? Unsheathed??

    Gimmeabreak 78

    12/1/09, 13:45:pm

    @drenk

    Lol…either of those phrases are fine.

    “Go raw” just makes me think of sushi and undercooked chicken.

    Really?

    12/1/09, 13:45:pm

    Sex = Love stop having sex for fun. Wear protection be aware that men are sleeping with men and will bring it home to you.

    Saytoodles

    12/1/09, 13:46:pm

    @Frederick,

    I hear you

    Really?

    12/1/09, 13:47:pm

    Does anyone ever wonder why AIDS started in the
    g a y male community?

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 13:48:pm

    drenk

    AIDS is a global problem and should be tackled globally. I agree that we should all focus on our own issues, but AIDS is a human problem, not one groups problem

    ——Right on!

    @MARK RICH- 100% agree along w/Gimmeabreak

    Gimmeabreak 78

    12/1/09, 13:51:pm

    Hey, Ms. EJ!

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 13:59:pm

    @GIMMEABREAK78- *waves hard* how are you Ms. Lady? I see you are holding it down in here ;)

    How about some Truth

    12/1/09, 14:00:pm

    @Gimmeabreak 78

    Yes, The point about married couples wearing condoms is a very valid one. In a marriage, wearing a condom usually means one or two things, that you’re trying not to get preg, or someone doesn’t trust someone. And let’s be real, it’s usually the latter. I agree that it can definitely be more challenging for married women, because in a marriage, you’re supposed to almost *****ume that the other is faithful to you. *****uming otherwise usually opens up other doors that a lot of married women especially, don’t like having to walk through.

    Tough situation…. I guess the only way to deal with that would be to confront your spouse when you think you have to. If one spouse can’t be up front about what they’ve been doing.. you know the rest.

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 14:08:pm

    @HOW ABOUT SOME TRUTH- Greetings. I had an awesome professor, beautiful intelligent sista who was married and she said that not only is she on birth control, but EVERY TIME her and her husband have sex SHE MAKES SURE HE WEARS A CONDOM. She said that he was more than understanding, and that she knows he loves her and is inlove with her and they have not had any problems period, but that she will never give ANYONE that much power over her life meaning life and death. I shared this once online on another site and 99% said that she was mentally off and that he must have cheated on her or that she has trust issues dealing with men-but all that she told me and I can see the love and happiness with them it was just her not giving full power to someone over her life (health). I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. I’ve spoken to men and all said that is a good thing better safe than sorry and that as long as they knew the reason it would be fine.

    How about some Truth

    12/1/09, 14:29:pm

    @ Ms.EJ

    Thanks for sharing. It sounds like your professor and her husband have a wonderful relationship. This is only an *****umption, but it also sounds like they started out wearing condoms, and never stopped wearing them, which is cool. By no means am I against married couples wearing condoms if they feel the need or want to do so.

    However, imagine this:
    Maybe they started off using condoms while they were dating, then when they got married, they decided to take the condoms off.. Then, years later, someone wants to put it back on, and the woman is maybe on the pill, so there’s no huge risk of becoming pregnant. That can be an awkward decision to make. But like you said, when it comes to a matter of life and death, it’s a very necessary one.

    Really?

    12/1/09, 14:38:pm

    Having to wear a condom with your husband is just ridiculous. Whats the point of being married?? Where is the trust and love?

    Amee

    12/1/09, 14:47:pm

    Bossip great information, you have a POWERFUL medium for the black community. However, everybody… IS that an old poster? Beacause a lot of the info has changed over the years…
    Children today are only born with AIDS if their mother does not receive proper treatment! We work at a clinic where children are born to these mothers so, this is a FACT!
    AA Women have are now more likely to get infected.

    This is World AIDS day but, please do not put out misleading or outdated, there is enough of that out here already.

    Gimmeabreak 78

    12/1/09, 14:50:pm

    @ Really?

    Having to wear a condom with your husband is just ridiculous. Whats the point of being married?? Where is the trust and love?
    _____________________________________________________

    I feel you on the sentiment, but day I met a sister whose husband gave her HIV, I gained another perspective on the situation.

    @How about some Truth

    That second scenario you mentioned in which a spouse wants to re-introduce condoms into their sexual relationship with their mate is a toughie.

    However, I think if my husband wanted to start wearing condoms after years of not doing that, I would stop sleeping with him altogether, because for me it would signal that “something is rotten in Denmark”, so to speak.

    GoodKarma4Me

    12/1/09, 14:56:pm

    @ MS EJ

    I understand why your professor feels the need to do that as well. I myself still use protection with my husband, besides the fact that I am not on BC I just don’t feel right doing it without protection.

    drenk

    12/1/09, 15:04:pm

    WOW BOSSIP KEEPS BLOCKIN MY ISHT!!

    GoodKarma4Me

    12/1/09, 15:07:pm

    @ GimmeaBreak

    Yea I agree if your husband all of sudden wanna start wrapping it up. A million red flags gonna raise in my head and I myself will get the hell out of that relationship.

    How about some Truth

    12/1/09, 16:07:pm

    @ Gimmeabreak 78 and GoodKarma4Me

    Yeah, my point exactly. Pretty sure you wouldn’t know what to think if someone wanted to introduce condoms into the marriage, or any type of relationship for that matter, after not using them at all for so long. That’s why those whole condom thing would automatically be more challenging for married couples.. A man that doesn’t want to have raw sex with his wife anymore??? You already know what time it is. Either he thinks something’s up with her, or… he’s been getting out and he thinks that he’s got something. And more than likely, it’s the second thing.

    lt

    12/1/09, 16:12:pm

    No glove, no love. If your going to be sexually active, please practice safer sex, get tested.

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 16:32:pm

    So sorry for the delay ladies

    @GOOD4KARMA- *waves hello* Good for you! and your husband this is something I plan and will do when I get married. After speaking with my professor in and outside of cl***** some years back along with a lot of positive feedback from my male friends I felt even more happy to apply this into my life. I have been celibant going on 5 years now.

    @HOW ABOUT SOME TRUTH & GIMMEABREAK- *ding ding* I had asked that question too!!! (you guys are really on it ;) ) as well and she said no. They started off using condoms, therefore no problems. Now, with that being said major alert, caution and red flags will go off immediately if I was with someone and they wanted to re-introduce condoms back into the relationship @GIMMEABREAK I totally agree.

    Americans?

    12/1/09, 16:32:pm

    Are black amercicans REALLY that different to white americans in their behaviour?

    Are there not white american men and women who sleep around a lot?

    I know that black people and white people and a whole lot of other people do it here in england.

    ALSO…

    How can you ALWAYS wear a condom with your husband. How about when you want to start a family? there will be some fluid exchange going on there, and if he has it, you’re just as likely to contract it while ur trying for a baby as when you’re doing it at other times.

    If you dont trust a man, dont marry him.

    you can never be 100% sure about a person, but surely its a risk that you take?

    Me and my ex were in a committed relationship and we used to go to get tested together every 6 months. – we’d both been used to doing it before we were together, and just continued – not only for STD’s but its good to know that everything’s working down there, and there’s also stuff u can have wrong with you without having been promiscuous.

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 16:42:pm

    @AMERICANS?- I can understand people questioning the trust issue when wanting to wear a condom with his or her wife. I also think people seem to always want to find a negative thing rather than a positive in a matter. Everything does not always have to be a trust issue in this area, but that will forever be a debateable topic that I will not get involved in. In conclusion, it is a personal choice and no one has the right to tell another person what they can or can not do with his or her body husband or not. Just like it is was a personal choice for you and your ex-to get tested together and routinely which is awesome, therefore why knock someone else who is taking his or her health important while in a relationship. Overall, that is what works for my former professor and her husband, have unprotected sex with your ex while getting tested worked for you, therefore to each his or her own.

    Ms.EJ

    12/1/09, 17:00:pm

    Was trying to wait up ladies, but I have been unusually tired lately. In addition, holidays are pretty tough for me so a little stress could be draining me. HOW ABOUT SOME TRUTH, GOOD4KARMA,GIMMEABREAK and to ALL HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!

    To those who are active:use protection, get tested, never allow anyone to force you to do something that makes you uncomfortable and compromises your health. God Bless :) *exits*

    Sanjor

    12/1/09, 17:23:pm

    “The problem with the Black community in America is that we hate hearing the entire truth about a situation. We need to get over that, or this disease will continue to ravage our people.”
    —————————————————
    Wow!! Thank you so much for saying this.

    GoodKarma4Me

    12/1/09, 17:29:pm

    @ Ms EJ

    I was wondering where u guys went.I really enjoy reading your post or speaking with you since you always exude positivity and intelligene. Well take care and god bless…

    GoodKarma4Me

    12/1/09, 17:30:pm

    *intelligence*

    memchee

    12/1/09, 18:36:pm

    they are emphasizing sexual transmission way too much.

    Drug use is a huge factor in the spread of this virus.

    White Women Rule

    12/1/09, 18:38:pm

    This is blatant misinformation. HETEROSEXUAL MEN spread HIV as well as HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN. This disease knows no boundaries and anyone who thinks is does is an absolute fool. You need to be more responsible BOSSIP!

    tamara

    12/1/09, 22:31:pm

    The fact that you keep removing comment that expose the truth shows that you have something to hide bossip.

    There is no inappropriate language in my comment. I have a right to speak my mind.

    Let the people judge for themselves Bossip. The truth will always come out.

    B

    12/1/09, 22:41:pm

    How the heck do you get aids? Sleeping with a mother****** that has it and/or using a dirty needle. There you go.

    A “Warm Embrace” |

    12/2/09, 06:50:am

    [...] Keys held a charity concert last night for World AIDS Day, and performed once again with Hova. Is it just us, or does Camel seem like he enjoys hugs from [...]

    Americans?

    12/2/09, 09:09:am

    @ Ms.EJ

    I totally agree with you that it is a personal choice.

    I just don’t quite understand how it would be effective. especially in a marital relationship:

    1 – Condoms are not 100% effectve – for a 1 night stand, or occasional intercourse the chance of contracting the virus may be lower because users are more likely to be more careful in using condoms – accidents are apparently more likely to happen in a long term relationship.

    2 – the virus can be contracted though other means – which would mean taking further precautions in other situations – e.g when blood is involved – if your husband had a cut that was bleeding – would you put gloves on before *****iting him with it? ensure that u dont accidentally use each others toothbrishes or razors etc?

    Rosy

    12/2/09, 21:36:pm

    None of this information is technically correct. *****ody actually gets AID’s. AID’s is the later stage of HIV. This is most important because it maps out a time line of the virus. It can take up to 7 months to test positive for HIV after being exposed to the virus and then up to 20 years for the AID’s stages to come into effect. Generally people can live with the virus for 7-9 years without actually having any symptoms. The point is that HIV is what we are trying to prevent and as of right now knowing your status and educating yourself on HIV prevention is our only weapon.

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