*Bossip Exclusive*: Tank’s Baby MaMa says She was NOT a ONE NIGHT STAND, Tank was Soaking Up Her Panties for a While!!!

Posted on December 5th, 2009 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: Baby Mama Drama, Bossip Exclusives, News, Rumor Control, Twitter Files, We Broke It Here First!

Alysse Stewart, Tank’s other baby mama, is not feeling how Tank is really trying to throw her under the bus on Twitter like she is some groupie. She made it clear to us what the situation was between her and Tank:

(I’d like the chance to respond)

Durrell Babbs and I have a son together. His name was changed in the last two months of my pregnancy by his father (it was always his option to name him as he saw fit). Also around that time I learned that another woman was also carrying his child. As opposed to communicating the truth, Mr. Babbs opted to remain silent. That seems to be the way he handles situations that make him uncomfortable. Or he simply chooses a lie over the truth. As he has done in our situation. He say’s our son was not a mistake, yet it sounds that way despite his clever, yet juvenile disclaimer. Let it be known that our son was not a surprise to either of us. In 2006 he asked me twice to consider having a child with him. Cleary, I eventually said yes. It was the best discussion I ever made. Durrell Babbs Jr. has brought so much joy into my life. Sometimes I wonder how I was able to exist without him in the first place.

Had it not been for the fact, that someone I called a friend betrayed my trust. No one would have known the name of my child’s father (outside of our families and close friends). Not saying it’s wrong for people to do press releases and things of that nature. And the main reason I’m sharing these words now is because, I will not be made out to be some one night stand or someone that sought to trap a man with pregnancy. I have always and will continue to be a woman of independence. If Mr. Babbs hates me as he has proclaimed (wonder if I make him sick too – LOL )? Flashback just now to when mom made me mad. Anyway, If he feels as he does we didn’t have to connect again in an intimate manner after we learned of our child’s existence. Just a thought.

I don’t hate Durrell. I just wish he were a man that kept promises. I would like for my child to have “A Real Father” – his words. One that couldn’t fall asleep on any given night, not knowing if his child were OK and his needs were being met. It is my preference that they not be strangers. He say’s he loves my son. I want him to prove it. A monetary commitment does not a father make. Angry was not the way to handle his lack of communication. However, after utilizing all normal forms of communication, I made a bad decision. Who knew this man, would go the route he did. Perhaps, some good can come out of it in the end.

To Durrell Sr., I apologize for making you feel like you had to go into attack mode. However, at the same time, I will not tolerate lies being placed on my head and around the life of my child. As I have always stated before the door is wide open for you to be the father you said you would like to be to our son. Our immature burst on the net doesn’t change that. Granted I’m very disappointed right now and probably won’t believe a word you say for a while. But that’s how trust works … you have to earn it.

I am a great mother and you should know your son is reaping the benefits of that fact. You promised he would know his family, cousins and all ‘em. Let’s start with you again. On my age and this cougar business, you never had a problem with it before. Besides, 40 is all up side your window looking in right now. So enjoy your “youth.” LOL.

For those that seek to judge me, my child’s father and act as if you have all the answers. Know that you don’t. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made mistakes, cried or experienced happiness as you have over the years. It’s called life. This is my life and have no regrets.

Damn, Tank… It sounds like you really need to get your sh*zzz together. Tank will be responding via Twitter in 5… 4… 3… 2… 1

  • rico 9

    she sounds smart and like she has her stuff together- it’s tough raising children and even tougher when it’s only one parent.

    Tank should handle his business and not let this type of stuff end up on twitter and the blogs for all of us to comment on…man- wear a rubber if you don’t want to take of care of your kids…come on- the rubbers they have out now, it’s like it’s a second skin…

  • memchee

    this is quite immature and unnecessary on the part of both of them.

    It’s ok to move forward and look for a man who can be a better figure in her son’s life if that is what this is really about.

  • http://www.bossip.com imanik56@gmail.com

    ohh 3rd to comment!

  • WordtotheWise

    These people need to grow up and stop using Twitter as a sounding board to their person problems (Tank). Take care of your business in the privacy of your life. This is ridiculous!

    I tip my hate to Alysse Stewart for being the adult in this whole mess, and focusing on taking care of her child. Men!

  • WordtotheWise

    correction: “I tip my HAT to Alysee Stewart…”

  • http://bossip Playalisticalidocious

    I think they are both being very childish. I however love the fact that she writes (speaks) proper English.

  • blackprincess

    She is just trying to get some kind of shine b/c Tank called her out via twitter. I have heard she is crazy and just trying to make herself look good on the net. I think it’s so funny how he gave his other baby mama @zenafoster her credit if you go to his twitter page @therealtank It’s obvious she is his favorite & they are truly friends & adults in raising their daughter Zoey together. Maybe Alysse should reach out to Zena & ask her how to handle her situation better b/c she seems to be the Lauren London in this case & Alysse is just the Nivea.

  • t

    i have to disagree. she doesn’t sound ignorant, she sounds resilient but she could work on punctuation.

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/064236327f23f88fa968f7d101ec70f1?s=80 Twanne

    She COOL wit me … i dont have a PROBLEM wit her NO MORE …… I said wha i said but

    When a Muhfka is RIGHT ….. THEY RIGHT!!!!!

    Why are you NeGGLET’s always goin in a how she LOOK …. I made tha mistake ….. Cuz TRUST …

    Tank or HER would F’CK NONE of you GOOFiES …

    So NOW who the REAL ugly Muhf’kaz ….. RIGHT

    Jus make a comment ON THE SUBJECT and go about your saturday ….. SH’t go spend some time wit YOUR KIDS …. stop worrying about OTHER muhf’ckaz tha you will never BE

  • kristiLuvNC

    we don’t know her… so we really don’t care about this crap….trust me “tank’s babymama”, You ARE NOT the only woman going through this…stop whining and making your business public. Noboby would have known this until you made it public…..stop crying out for attention and raise your son as a strong woman… If he didn’t do right by you, pray about it, ask God to work it out and you continue to be your son’s support and Love.

  • http://bossip Shawn Jones

    She’s sometype of DJ and has a website on Sandra’s post on her and tank whatevea

    sandrarose.com/2008/01/22/tanks-other-baby-mama/

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/064236327f23f88fa968f7d101ec70f1?s=80 Twanne

    Uhhh Ohhhhh … i see im not gonna be the bad guy of this THREAD …….. but dont worry …
    I will sprinkle a insult and JOKE in here somewhere …….. LoL

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/064236327f23f88fa968f7d101ec70f1?s=80 Twanne

    Not to start nothing ….. BUT

    Notice how i said BUT……. LoL

    I was waiting for you to say GOD in there some where ….. cuz when you at a altar and a priest is preasent .. your professin your love BEFORE GOD ….. and others are in attendance … but he makes his promise before GOD ………..

    Besides that …. you can let me hit it til he marry you …… A favor for a FAVOR baby …LoL

  • Tasha

    tamk is a terrible person and a liar i feel sorry he tells zena he gon marry her and lies thats why he lives wit a girl and not a woman tank you are a damn OLD male cougar

  • black barbie

    i know him and he a BIG LIAR and a cheat he was with that dj and begged to have his baby –he cheated on his first wife with ZENA and told her he was seperated –he still gets with zena even tho he has a live in girl friend beccause he know that zena in love and guess what he calls her names behind closed doors–he aslo got another woman preg but she got rid of it he is a screw up and a lie

  • tyty

    he is 36—hes a MALE COUGAR but has the mind of a 12 year old –i feel sorry for all the kids and all the babay mamas

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  • http://bossip ssquared

    Well, I sure dont blame her for speaking out. Yea it may have been immature on both of their part, but he started it and if I was in here shoes I woul have responded at least once myself. Now to those who says she writes and speaks well. She speaks well, yes, but write well, no. There were a couple of periods where there should have been commas. And there were several incomplete sentences. ot judging her cause I am sure she was writing during her moment, but you all that commented wasn’t. Get it together people. Education is a must!

  • http://bossip ssquared

    See…here is my proofread copy…I messed up too, lol.

    Well, I sure dont blame her for speaking out. Yea, it may have been immature on both of their parts, but he started it and if I was in her shoes, I would have responded at least once myself. Now to those who says she writes and speaks well. She speaks well, yes, but write well, no. There were a couple of periods where there should have been commas. And there were several incomplete sentences. Not judging her, cause I am sure she was writing during her moment, but you all that commented, wasn’t. Get it together people. Education is a must!

  • Ms.EJ

    Greetings to ALL

    If someone is defaming your character or making you out to be someone that you are not would you not speak up for yourself? I know that I would. It is extremely hurtful when one puts out lies, and to the WORLD at that. I by far do not think acted or responded in a way that was immature. It was he (Tank) that chose to humiliate her in a public platform (just like Usher and his song “Papers). This is the mother of his child at least have respect for her in that aspect.

  • kat

    im not suprised he did this ask his wife what he put her thru = Hell, he lives with a young GIRL which makes him a cougar. And you PIG its the cougars that come to your shows -that support you, I know i wont anymore you a GIRL tank not even a man

  • Ms.EJ

    @WORDTOTHEWISE- *waves hello* How are you Ms.Lady?

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  • anewme

    I mean really……does anyone give a damn? Seriously!

  • Trenchee

    Maybe you “deserve” it.

  • Please stop

    speaks proper english? might wanna read that rant again cause she said it was the best discussion she ever made…pretty sure she meant decision…and why would you ‘give in’ to having a child? dumb hoe…should’ve waited for that ring….look how paid tiger’s wife is :O

  • Tessa

    I’ve checked all of your grammar on this page. And all of you need some work. LOL I just posted on other page. Tank dropped to the young girls so he can continue to run this game. Zena, why are you still sleeping with this man! No knocking you. But why!!!

  • Tessa

    “yeah…now she plays the “responsible parent” card and i bet ladies are gonna be on here covering her back like the “23″ on a jordan jersey.”

    HOW DOES A WOMAN PLAY THE RESPONSIBLE PARENT IF THE CHILD LIVES WITH HER AND SHE TAKES CARE OF THE CHILD 100% OF TIME? This thinking right here has the court rooms full.

  • …MOcarsMOclothesMOjewelsMOdoe*..

    case number: 1,276,346,467,584,873,63,362,747,476,647,347
    NEXT!!!!—->

    !!hates twitter!!

  • PINKGIRLY

    lol, If any of these woman were real gold diggers, they would have never gotten pregnant with his baby, he feeling his self a little to much.

    And if he don’t want baby mamas than maybe he should wear condoms and stop sleeping with groupies, that would include ZENA

  • PINKGIRLY

    By the way nobody cares about you all to be reading your silly childish beef on twitter. Keep that mess to yourself, neither one of yall are famous or entertaining.

  • Tessa

    “lol, If any of these woman were real gold diggers, they would have never gotten pregnant with his baby, he feeling his self a little to much.”

    Pinkgirly done told the truth.

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    ***t w i tter

  • Lali

    Tank is Cougar! Funny stuff.

  • http://www.myspace.com/cookielp Cookielp

    I heard Tank was a loser, but dude is REALLY reaching putting her on blast. What’s wrong with hitting the “ignore” button on twitter? What made him just go off like that? I wonder what is really going on?

  • Tammy

    I read the whole thing will it was going down. She made a comment about how was Tiger breaking marriage vows funny and Tank just went off. So she responded with stuff like he doesn’t see any of his children much which is understandable giving his career. She didn’t come on attacking that man. Blackprincess the one that sounds a little to in the mix. You doing him too?

  • TabbyTail

    My opinion on their drama notwithstanding…

    What trips me out is this: why everytime black folks get in an argument and one decides to take the “higher ground,” they start calling each other “Mr.” & “Miss” like they are in court or have never met before????

  • woe

    Grown women handle themseleves in this fashion. The tweet was a waste of time, she aint got to prove to no one but her son that she is a great mother. I wouldn’t address him other than I’ll see you in court to handle financial matters and visitations arrangements. This is no longer about us anymore and being angry towards me is not going to change the reality of the situation which is a child we agreed to create is now here. You can argue but I chose to not participate and it will fall on deaf ears cause its useless talk. my mind is on to a higher purpose and that is raising the son we chose to make together. His outburst gives us a clear understanding who and what this man is about. As a man if you don’t want children you don’t have to… men make this decision everyday and if they do get caught out there they are wise enough to not make it again. Plus, who wants to brag about having a child by an washed up R&B singer who never really had a real number one hit., Usher handle his situation with more class and is more accomplished than Tank. Tank you’re just sloppy and your choices in women are a reflection. Bottom line we don’t give a f and if we did that is our problem you aint got nothing to prove chile lol. Grow up and raise you kids cause they by far need to explaination not the public

  • seenitb4

    Its funny she wanna shoot this letter out to a gossip website of all places when really the conversation she needs 2 b having is with Tank himself. This outburst on Twitter is NOT the first of her … She’s already been clowned real tough on a website of Tanks already. She proclaimed him to be a dead beat father and it was stated to her then that if that was the truth that without a doubt there was a court there in NC that had his name and some child support all over it. Now neither party is guilt free of spouting evilness towards one another, but how grown can you be creating 15-20 twitter pages to talk ish to your baby daddy? Bottom line the issue 2 contend w/ is the kid and if Tank is absent, then how about you do what other mothers do … raise it by yourself and keep it pushin? Not saying that a kid doesnt need both parents, but a man aint gonna do right if it aint in him, so do what you gotta do girl. kcuf him. Tank lives in LA and you live in NC, if you want him active in your sons life, move 2 LA. If Tank has any sort of conscious he’ll see and eventually learn what he’s missed out on in reference to not being around for his kids. His kids will be bitter towards him and he’ll be full of regrets. There is a such thing as karma. So let go and let God deal w/ it. Seriously.

  • Bliss

    I agree. If a man don’t want his child. Don’t take his money. Don’t require him to do anything. Women need to take care of their children themselves. And if the man lies on you in process, stop and think. Karma will take care of him in the end. I pray for the single mother’s that hear this crap on the regular. I got five on it that Tank will have another baby on the way within a year.

  • Pictureperfect

    We black people have to do better b/c we KNOW better. once kids enter the situation, it is time to grow up. i love me some music by Tank, but he should respect the mothers of ALL his children. and LMAO at his baby mama Zena cosigning his rant. she shouldnt hate that other woman too hard b/c she just might be in the same position one day…
    their kids are siblings! why would zena even go there? — act like adults people.

  • NIKA

    that woman looks so much like lil mama.

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  • 2dimplzs

    I hate it when people use punctuations incorrectly!!! Her attempts at “sounding smart” FAILED! I was so irritated reading this crap – it’s a wonder I finished it all the way through!

    Go back to school and learn the correct places to use commas chick!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.myspace.com/thatclassybitch CLASSY

    WOW

    very mature

  • DA REAL!

    TANK’S A GOOD FRIEND AND A GOOD MAN TOO! HE’LL DO THE RIGHT THING AND OL’ GURL IS MOS DEF INTELLIGENT BUT SOMETIMES SMARTY-PANTS LET THEIR MOUTH SIGN CHECK DAT A$$ CAN’T CASH!

    SHUT THIS SHITZ DOWN IMMEDIATELY AND GO DO THE GROWN-UP DANG THANG; THIS IS PERSONAL TAKE IT DOWN A NOTCH OR TWO…NAH GO DO DA RIGHT THANG!

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  • http://www.singlemomsvent.blogspot.com Used 2 B Crazy About Tank

    The bottom line is men need to take care of their responsibilities. Women have been holding it down since the beginning of time. Life would be a whole lot easier if there weren’t so many fatherless communities. I don’t knock Alysse at all for venting because she is entitled. She is not getting any support. She has to deal with raising a son who has a deadbeat for a father. And to top it off she is being disrespected because she brought a life into this world. It is not a good feeling. Why do men get clout and women get doubt? We all have somewhere to go after we leave this life. Let’s just do right people.

  • Kay

    There is always 2 sides to a story. Women are always quick to take another woman’s side. Me, being a woman, I listen/read both sides. We are the one that are there n know what really happen. She could be venting, trying to make him look bad to the public. Who know! We can’t critize what kind of person Tank is just by what she is saying. Even though I may not know him personally, the times I have met him, he was laid back n kept a smile on his face. I’m quite sure he is taking care of his children. Due to the music industry, women have to be understanding about what these guys are doing out here. They are making money to take care of their family. They are always in the studio, promoting, or on the road n try to make something happen in order to take care of their children. U have to know what u r getting n make sure that’s the kind of lifestyle u want. They may be regular pple to u but their celebrities to others n they try to keep their fans. I think it’s unfair that someone would blast another person on the internet just to make that person look bad cuz some pple believe what they read on the internet. SMH.

  • Patrice27

    I thought Tank was 40. WoW I really liked his music. I hope he do right by Durell Jr. and his other children.Children are gifts from GOD. I do not like when a parent acts like their child does not exist.

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