I’m sorry I’m so late with this, but thank you so much for your in-depth explanation of the Texas “Two-Step.” This campaign really has been a learning experience for me. Thanks again!

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I agree with a lot of the things you say. Submissive women are valued in most cultures. The thing is that I, and I’m sure a lot of women would agree, have no problem being submissive to the right man. If I feel like my man is all that and taking care of business, has my best interest at heart, baby, lead and trust me I will follow. I think what a lot of men fail to realize is that deep down inside women do want to be guided and led. We want to feel like our man is the bread winner, he’s the king. And we can happily play his queen. We can and will cater to you because we are nurturers at heart anyway. It when he’s not exhibiting those characteristics that define a strong, smart, trustworthy man, when we have a hard time keeping silent. Its like you want to demand that respect from your woman, but respect has to be earned baby. I can’t respect a man that puts his selfish ways ahead of his family, his children, his woman, even his own mother. I can’t respect you if you’re sitting on your ass instead of hustling (and not meaning illegally) but hustling like busting your ass to do what you have to do to make sure your family is well taken care of. So what if it means you don’t get to floss, you can’t buy those rims you want for your car, you can’t have the latest gadgets, you can’t wear the best clothes. Of course I want my man with the best, but shouldn’t his first priority as “head of household” be that his family has the best. I think if a lot more men had that attitude, women, in general would start behaving like that female they desire. We won’t talk back, we won’t get loud, we won’t make you feel small. But its when men don’t behave like they should, when women feel like we have to step in and take control.

“@Man, I don’t care>>>the tools I think a good husband is as follows: 1) putting the needs of his family ahead of his own (lack of selfishness), 2) being a good listener and not being so defensive when his woman tells him something. In other words, don’t take it as her having an attitude when she has an issue she wants to discuss, 3) Hard working – so many men today want to sit back and let females take care of them. A lot of brothas haven’t seen many examples of this, especially in this day and age when some women are more than willing to allow a man to sit on his behind and not work, 4)taking responsibility for his own actions. Quit the blame game, i.e., it’s black women’s fault that we are… “fill in the blank” and last, but not least, 5) exhibiting strength of character and integrity. Agree or not, this is my list.”

I appreciate your “expectations” of a good husband. Now, what are your “expectations” of a good wife? I think this is where the trouble lies. You know, men have expectations and standards for the women they have relationships with. Perhaps the communication of expectations is not as strong as it should be.

I hate to say this but Michelle and her girls did not look great. Obama needed longer pants too, different outfit, maybe khakis, polo shirt or summer deck shoes.

They just looked ate up from the floor up. Can you say they needed a stylist?

I second that!