Nice pic EB!!!

first

I LOVE THE PIC~!!!!

I LIKE HER BUT THATS TOO MANY BABY DADDY’S

I KNOW THATS RIGHT MS. BADU!!!! DO YOU MAMA!!!!!

I don’t care what the broad wants to say. It is tacky to have three kids by three different men. And as a black woman, she is really feeding into the stereotype of this “baby mamma” garbage. Stick with one man erica.

She has three kids already?!?

NO, I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE MOST WONDERFUL IDEA TO HAVE CHILDREN BY MULTIPLE FATHERS/OUTSIDE OF WEDLOCK. BUT THOSE ARE MY BELIEFS, AND YOU CANNOT FORCE THOSE ON OTHERS. HOWEVER, WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER PERSONAL LIFE IS ABSOLUTELY NONE OF OUR BUSINESS. DOES THAT CHANGE THE WAY YOU FELT ABOUT HER AS A FAN WHEN YOU FIRST HEARD HER ART? JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE A FAN, YOU CANNOT DICTATE TO HER WHAT SHE SHOULD DO WITH HER LIFE AS FAR AS REPRODUCING IS CONCERNED. WHAT IF SHE WOULD HAVE ALREADY HAD THE CHILDREN BY THE TIME SHE BECAME AN ARTIST? WOULD THERE BE SO MUCH MOUTH ABOUT IT THEN? IT IS BECAUSE SHE IS FAMOUS, AND WE ONLOOKERS LOVE TO VICARIOUSLY LIVE OUR LIVES THRU OTHERS, AND BELIEVE THAT OUR OPINIONS SHOULD MAKE OR BREAK THE ARTIST. LOL..SOME FOLKS JUST NEED TO STAY IN THEIR LANE. AND NEVER MIND ERYKAH HAVING 50 ELEVEN CHILLINS’, AT LEAST SHE CAN TAKE CARE OF HERS. WHAT ABOUT THESE JOKERS RUNNING AROUND POPPING UP PREGGERS ERR FIVE MINUTES, DONT GOT A JOB, DONT WANT ONE, AND MY TAXES ARE PAYING FOR THEIR LITTLE OFFSPRING? LETS GET PISSED ABOUT THAT!

Erykah can rant and rave all she wants. It’s still tacky and wrong to raise kids PURPOSELY without the benefit of a father. Marry and divorce again? Why can’t she just stay married? Is she trying to re-populate the earth on her own? No “queen” would behave like that.

What can you say it is her choice. She is grown and taken care of her kids.

Ms. Badu is pissed off right now. I think as fans we shouldnt judge people. Sometimes people love hard and babies in up coming from that. I feel like as long as she is not neglecting those kids and their fathers are in their lives then its her business.

Me personally, I dont think I could do something like that just on the strength of I want a husband and I would like it if all my kids were by him, but sometimes life doesnt roll like that.

By the way she looks fierce in the pics. D-Town stand up. Shout out to anybody here from Dallas. I’m straight from the PG. I cant hate on her anyways!!! She fam!!!

@ sxyQblondie… I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!!

Yeah, she will be able to take care of her children, but if she is pregnant now, wouldn’t that make 3 different baby daddies. Come on now.

K last comment for the summer.

this lady is a Pop. she know it you know it. Is she a superwomen? is she built to be in the Alicia Keys video? Puffing all dat lye. wait is Alicia a superwomen breaking up families… ooops let me say this on an end note OBAMA don’t let “coke head coo coo bush” surpress the election of 2008. easy

just pray for her dont put her down,dont judge her

Erykah Badu, you are my new best friend!! Keep speaking your mind girl, and keep telling it like it is.

ALL MY EX-fans can kiss my luscious light skin ass.

I LOVE LIGHT BUTT!!! WHOOOO!!!

I will always have love for Erykah Badu’s Music and what she does with her womb and uterus is strictly her perogative.

Thank you WHOA!!!! It is her business what she wants to do…..if she has a good co-parent relationship with the fathers of her children, then what of it? At least she’s not out here BASHING the Black men in her life, like so many of us do!!! And she got enough dough to take care of them, she seems to be raising her children right with their fathers in their lives so that’s what matters.

We seem to always want to assign to some European notion of commitment and family without realizing that that way may not be for us. We also seen to think that the way we live our lives is the way EVERYBODY needs to lead their lives. If this works for her and her children grow up to be healthy, well adjusted young adults, with two (or more) parents in their lives who love them, then what’s the big deal?

Love her music, but her outlook on life is a bit confusing. She’s blessed to be financially capable of taking care of her children, if the “daddies” weren’t able to do so. That does not always stand true for the average (or living below average) female in today’s society. Their children sometimes become the burden of the taxpayer who contributes to the welfare system in order to take care of these children. In the end, it is her business, as long as they stay her business, and not the business of us taxpayers…

Come on kids let me hear you count with me.

One, One…

Two, Two…

Three, Three…

That’s right three baby daddy’s.

On the next episode we will learn to count to four.

Here’s a list of your spelling words and phrases for next weeks test.

Child Support

Shack-in Up

Common Law

Role Model

Skank

Booty Call

Jump Off

Oops

Christy Brinkley…..Madonna……Ingrid Bergman (feel free to add the others as they come to mind) and a VARIETY of other white women have done the same if not worse! It is what it is – her kids arent living off the system – who cares!

Andre 3000?

shes not the first sista to have multiple baby daddies…at least it’s only three..and she know’s who they are…same for the men…dont trip…some of your favorite stars and sports figures have way more kids than that by different women….dont they evander…..

All im saying is just because you find a new relationship with a man does not mean you have to have a baby with every new person you meet. I meet new men everyday and have had several relationships and i dont have a baby with every new man i am in a relationship with. sorry ladies there is no justification behind that. its tacky. stop having babies by every man thinking that will keep him around, cuz thats the real story. it might not be erykah’s but its the story for a lot of other chicks.

I like Erykah…but why does she have to be so extreme…is it really necessary to always look a damn mess?

I like erykah but, It’s not o.k to have any kids out of wedlock there is no way anyone can justify that. Marriage is not always the key but don’t knock it after all, isn’t that’s god will? so please don’t trivilize this. I for one have one child out of wedlock and yes, I know that is wrong there is nothing wright about it. All i’m saying is yes it’s her life and let god be the judge.

Won’t, can’t, will not get too personal here.

Maybe she has one big happy family umbrella like an Octavia Butler novel.

All I wish is for these children to have loving relationships with their fathers and eachother.

When a person decides on their family make up the most important thing is the love and welfare of the offsprings.

I hope they feel loved, nutured and protected and have a loving sense of themselves.

That’s all one can ask for. And I wish that for all children and families.

peace

It is what it is and it is just a shame that she feels that it is ok to have 3 babbies by 3 different men. While I liked her music at first with her first album her musical style is now a little to strange for me and so is her lifestyle but hey that is just my opinion and she can do her all she wants.

I agree, all the extremism is not neccessary. I would not have three children with three different men, but if she can take care of them and deal with it then by all means, more power to her. I know people who have children with multiple partners and I don’t look down on them, I just know I would not do it.

SEE HERE IS THE PISSER OFFER IN A YEAR FOR ME.(yes, im going off..lmfao) FROM JANUARY THRU DECEMBER, UNCLE SAM TAKES BETWEEN 22-25 PERCENT OF MY INCOME, AND THROWS IT INTO TAXES. NOW I DONT HAVE ANY CHILDREN. SO IM GETTING BENT OVER ROYALLY. THEN BY THE FOLLOWING JANUARY, WHEN I GATHER UP MY W-2′S AND SHUFFLE ON DOWN TO THE TAX PREPARATION PLACE, LET LITTLE SUSIE COMPUTE MY RETURNS, IM SITTING THERE WITH THE STUCK LOOK BECAUSE IM NOT GETTING BACK 1/2 OF WHAT WAS PUT IN. MEAN WHILE, SHORTY BESIDE ME IS BANKING BECAUSE SHE’S GOT LIKE 4 KIDS, IRONICALLY SHE’S REALLY ONLY WORKING PARTIME TO KEEP “THEM FOLKS” OFF HER BACK, AND THE OTHER 2, SHE’S PASSED OFF ONTO HER HOMEGIRL THATS SITTING BESIDE HER TO CLAIM FOR THE YEAR. I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THE FAMILIES THAT RECIEVE THE ASSISTANCE AND THEY ARE REALLY STRUGGLING, AND ONLY NEED IT TO GET BACK ON THEIR FEET. BUT YOU GOT 3 , AND YOU DONT WANT TO DO BETTER, AND EVERY YEAR IM BUSTING MY BUTT TO PAY FOR IT?? WHY ARENT YOU FOLKS POINTING THE FINGER AT JOKERS LIKE THAT!!??

@sxyQblondie-Good morning girl.

I don’t knock anyone who loves theirs kids and tries to make a good life for them. Life does not always work in a cookie cutter fashion. I don’t agree with staying in an unhappy relationship just to keep making babies with the same person you don’t want to be with. That will create unhappy bitter kids. I would love to have my kids with one man so they can all look alike and identify with eachother more and I hope destiny works out in my favor but if it doesn’t that won’t be the end of the world either. Don’t judge so quickly.

@TEEDY, GOOD MORNING MAMA! HOWS EVERYTHING GOING TODAY?

@WyzePro,

“shes not the first sista to have multiple baby daddies…at least it’s only three..and she know’s who they are…”

As a black woman, I thank you for lowing the bar for me. god knows I cant do better.

@ sxyQblondie

I’m feeling you big time! Unc takes 48% of my stacks.

Although I must say I was getting turned on my part of your story. ~

@sxyQblondie- I feel you!!!!!! I don’t have kids either but you better believe I find one or two to adopt around tax season. LOL. Yes it’s dishonest but that’s the way the system is set up. Screw or get screwed.

I agree w/sxyQblondie, you cannot push off your beliefs on others and what people need to understand is that sometimes relationships don’t work out and so if you already have a child w/someone and that relationship ends because he just ain’t treating you right, are you supposed to stop having children forever because u already have kids by that one who wasn’t sh*t? All this because everybody else wants to run YOUR life and what YOU do? Now if u can take care of them then have as many as u like by as many as u like but if u don’t have a job, no place to live, then THAT’S what the real problem is!

It’s not even about her, its about the kids. If she can justify this to the black community then our future is bleak. She is very irresponsible and no different than any other person than complicates the lives of their children for selfish reasons.

This is her life she can do as she please!

B-O-S-S-I-P IS A BREEDING GROUND FOR IGNORANCE !

I need an off shore account.

Just jokin….

@sxyQblondie-I’m good girl. Just waiting for people to start going at it in here. You know this is one of those topics.

Miss Badu aint on public assistance or out asking us for $$$$$$ so I think she’s cool. it’s her body and her business. I see no one telling the men anything..

(p.s. I have NO children but know when to mind my business)

who cares…. She is only doing what millions of women do all the time. I think it is sad but that is my opinion. If she does not want us to comment on it then she needs to stay out of the public eye. When was the last time she had a hit? I’m just saying….

I’m not lowering anything…I dont have any kids….I was speaking to the fact that Erykah didn’t start this trend…..like someone mentioned above..you cant blanket this as a negative without knowing the details…my oldest sister is 10 years older than I am….HER father was a rapist…should my mother have stayed?….if so I would not be here…and even my so called sperm donor did not stick around….HE left…her fault?…..my baby sister was brought forth as a result of my mother getting married ….to a decent man finally ….where is HER bar?

@TEEDY

GIRL..LMFAO, I HAVE A FRIEND WHO HAS 4 DIFFERENT CHILDREN, 3 DIFFERENT MEN, AND THEY ARE LIKE STEPPING STONES. 13, 12, AND THE LAST TWO ARE LIKE 9 & 10, AND GIRL BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THAT THE LAST 2 ARE 8 MONTHS APART!!(SMDH) THERE WAS A TIME WHEN I THOUGHT THAT SHE WAS ALERGIC TO ANY TYPE OF WORK!!(LMFAO) AND IT PISSED ME OFF, BECAUSE EVERY MONTH MY TAXES CONTRIBUTED TO HER FEEDING THE KIDS, AND IN JANUARY, I COULDNT GET MY DOUGH BACK!!(LOL) SHE OFFERED FOR ME TO CLAIM ONE OF THEM ONE YEAR, BUT SHE WANTED HALF! IM LIKE, SHAWTY IS YOU CRAZZZYYYY!!?? I TOLD HER..NOPE!! BUT I MAY JUST START LOOKING FOR A LIL SHAY SHAY TO CLAIM. CAUSE DAMMIT, I MAY AS WELL GET SOMETHING OUT OF MY AGONY!!(LMFAO)

How many baby momma’s puffy got…He got 3…nobody aint questioning that. All of his kids are taken care of and even helping Kim with her kid that aint even his.

I guess its okay of men can do it…it’s “playa” when they do it, but “whorish” when women do it.

GTFOH!!!

Damn. Another stereotype made true

@TEEDY, YES GIRL THERE WILL BE CYBER BEEF UP IN HERE OVER THIS ONE. IN THE TIME IT WILL TAKE FOR ME TO GET FROM MY HOUSE(where im at now) TO WORK, WHEN I PULL UP THIS POST AGAIN AT MY DESK, IT WILL BE DOUBLE THE POST’S, AND NOTHING BUT FOLKS CURSING EACH OTHER OUT!(LOL)

@southernbella

How many baby momma’s puffy got…He got 3…nobody aint questioning that. All of his kids are taken care of and even helping Kim with her kid that aint even his.

COSIGN!! GIRL I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!

if she were anybody but ms. badu (ri-ri or cassie for example) yall would be all in her azz wit the name callin.

Marriage aint for everybody i agree but i would be wary of bringin a bunch of men in my house to see their individual kids. yall are right there are a lot of women in our community in this situation so we know firsthand its not ideal. that aint about judgin nobody thats just real.

@southernbella- i feel u but u know erkyah aint put in Half as many years as your mama.

I will not judge her. She can support her chirren. who cares. If she make a mistake and gets knocked up why should she get rid of it because of what society may think of her, when she has all the resources to take care of the life she has inside of her? And her second baby father was murdered anyway. so does that mean she should live the rest of her life in solitude? no she met someone else who she felt was worthy and opened herself to him and got knocked up. its not like she is still alone and having her third child. wth.

@WHOA,

“If that woman wants to have 3 kids with 3 different men, that’s HER BUSINESS! Please, like non black woman don’t do the same thing! At leats she TAKES CARE of her children unlike some women and men who have children by the same mate and can’t properly raise them.”

Obviously it is her business what she does but it doesnt make it right and it doesnt mean we cant say it is wrong. And yes, thank goodness she has the means of taking care of her children but you cant by stability. Children want their daddies around. Children want to see their mommies and daddies together.

Please dont set up any false dichotomies (look it up if you are confused). The choice for black people isnt between having 3 baby daddies and being in a relationship that doesnt work. There are a bynch of choices that can be made and it is about time black try very hard to make the best ones. SHe is not making the best one.

Z…well stated

where have ya’ll been at? andre 300 is the first, the second was some rapper who is not dead, and the third is whoever she is with now.

now*

@ sxyQblondie

I’m not sure how u file but (side note:)

before I was married w/ children. I would claim 0 dependants and pick myself up at the end of the year.

If you live by yourself you can also claim head of household.

Because Uncle Sam ( the biggest loan shark in history) will come get your sh^t.

Also, if you have a 401k you may want to up your percentage.

Hopefully you can find a tip in here somewhere.

Sh^t we all need our $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.

@sxyQblondie

Half no no no. She was on some other stuff. You get 1,500 per child so you should only give up 500 of those bills, that’s the going rate. The key is find them early like around December cause you know they will be broke after Christmas and try to stick with the same child year after year, you must develop a trust system because people do shady things like give two or three people the SS number. I was lucky enough to find a child with the same last name as mine so they don’t suspect anything. We’ve been dealing for about 3 years now so my taxes look the same every year.

@WHOA,

“Erykah don’t give a hot damn about what yall think! I’m sure if she was the average womna, she probably wouldn’t do so if she couldn’t financially manage it. Badu is on another level, she’s not getting pregnant by these men to HOLD them like MANY women do, she does so simply because she WANTS to.”

With each post you sound dumber and dumber. Great so because she got some money they same rules dont apply to her? Well lets wait 20 years from now and she how her children liked the arrangement.

@Kigali

Shut the hell up. You don’t know the dynamics of why she made the choices she made. shyt happens. u could be with someone for 10 years and a situation could bring out a side of them you never even knew existed. and u know suddenly know u ahve to get away from them for everyone’s well being. does that mean u should not meet someone new…..or u must live the rest of your life in solitude?

@Lady elle

GIRL, I FILED ONE YEAR AND FORGOT THE 401K, AND WHEN I DID IT THIS YEAR, I REALIZED IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE. BUT I STILL GET HOT UNDER THE COLLAR AT THE SHIFTLESS BROADS WHO STICK ME FOR MY PAPER JAN-DEC(LOL)

@Z,

Her second baby dady is from The D.O.C from NWA. he is alive and well.

Who has the right to judge?? Who can even respect the institution of marriage when it was manmade law by the government…putting it on paper and such just to regulate the population?

Rock on Erykha!!!

Has anyone, that says that Badu should just “Do her” or that everyone should “mind their own business” and stop “trying to push their beliefs on others,” ever thought about the kids in this situation. When you have kids involved, the whole concept of “Doing You” should be out of the window. Those kids will know that there mom is a ho. How will that make them feel. They may be taken care of financially but there are some things that money can’t buy.

Well- much of what I am reading is strange. People kill me when they say they cant judge someone.. thats sum BULL… we were all put on this earth with very sophisticated brains.. and to sit around and not use it is crazy… I luv Ms Badu and her work, but she should know that 3 baby daddies is not just a matter of her business – it is a matter of the principle/integrity that she speaks of (even in her music). To sit here and say she has no responsibility to LIVE what she sings about is RIDICULOUS. Should the Pastor not live a life of holiness- even though he preaches? Should the police officer not live by the law – even though he enforces them? Should the doctor not uphold his integrity to assist others in getting well- when he took an oath to do so? TO sit back and say we cannot judge is a lazy and irresponsible way to deal with the reality of LIFE. Everyone has a responsibility- not just to each other but to our kids and families. Its just like saying- R Kelly has no fault in his relationships with young women- B/C we cannot judge! Please… black women need positive figures (not just on the stage) but in REAL “YES REAL” LIFE! Everyone is not a diva, or singer, or model. What GOD gave you was a gift to uplift not just yourself , but others. Black women are the highest risk group for HIV- does having multiple baby daddy’s make u less of a target? Does 3 baby daddies set a good wholesome example for kids (not to mention her own kids)? No it doesnt. Im not trying to be in her business, but its clear some bad decisions have been made. I can accept that- but I cannot accept the fact that I cannot acknowledge the mistakes when people say I cannot judge. Granted- it may not be good, but my BEEF is where is the integrity from the so called artists world? Just b/c you are an entertainer does not give you the RIGHT to justify singing about 1 thing and living another. I’m not an artist, but maybe I am since I live the same way as GOD told me to- yesturday- today- and forever! PEACE to MS BADU and yes I can judge without passing judgement. Thats why I have a brain! K.I.S.S.

Z agreed…u cant take a complex situation and minimize it to a few shoulda woulda’s and think you’re helping the situation….at least offer a solution the the problem….to which there is none for some….

@TEEDY

SHE THOUGHT SHE HAD A SWEET VIC’. IM LIKE I PUT IN ALL THE WORK, YOU BUGGIN!!(LOL) BUT YES, FINDING A COOPERATIVE PARTICIPANT IS THE KEY. ONE WHO ISNT SHADY AS HELL.

@ sxyQblondie

Girl I hear you but just do you because those little scraps that they’re getting isn’t half of what they’re worth.

And they probably spend it before it’s in their hands.

Just keep boosting up those accounts.

lol

Having a child should be planned & this is why women need to be way more SELECTIVE when laying down unprotected! My beautiful women, BE MORE SELECTIVE YOU ARE WORTH IT & that is the best gift you can give to your child! That, is being a GOOD MOTHER!

This doesn’t suprise me..She seems like a nympho type chick..Yoga class taking type chick. Drinks green tea before she goes to sleep and makes you take off your shoes and sit indian style at the table.

@LADY ELLE

LOL THATS HOW I KEEP THE OPTIMISTIC MIND TO KEEP FROM GOING UNDER(LOL) THEY BLOW IT QUICK, AND SIT JOBLESS AND PATIENTLY FOR NEXT YEAR.

I can’t believe this is a subject of discussion. Lets say she married her first partner she had her first kid with, so obviously that relationship didnt work out so she would have to divorce him, same story with the next, and with the next, would that make a difference, is it now right BECAUSE the children were born in wedlock. That’s so rediculous! You people assume everyone wants to get married. I have one girlfriend who says she doesnt believe in the institute marriage and that she will register as partners ( Im from europe I dont know if you can do that there)…does that make her way of live anny worse than that of the main poppulation? Or shouldnt she have annymore kids because she broke up with the first man she had kids with? Stop assuming everyone want to live by your moral standards of right and wrong! I surely dont, if and when I get married I’ll keep my own last name because I dont NEED to be annyons wife and I dont think theres annything wrong with being the mother of someones child(or baby mamma), I dont believe in jesus christ either, so there then judge me!!

Same goes for the men!!

For someone to judge this woman for her having kids is absolutely stupid. How can anyone say for her to “stay with the first guy” when you dont know the ins & outs of the relationship. Andre couldve cheated on her which is very possible or Common couldve been abusive. Thats her business. Also, no one should stay with someone for the kids. Thats another problem all in itself. This woman takes care of hers from what i see & havent heard anything otherwise so who would i be to judge what she does in her life? She falls in love with a man & hopes they stay together & she has a baby by that man. The relationship doesnt work out, just as many relationships, & they split but there is a baby. So what. It doesnt matter when the parents are taking care of the children.

Nice pic!

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Yeah its her business but she may want to rethink having a baby with every man she falls in love with. It’s funny how she and Lauryn Hill were once looked up to as the queens of knowledge. Now it seems they are heavily confused. SMH!

That good ol heroin will have you talkin out of pocket all the time! Poor thang

LOL@Negrodamus…as always….

bayouswampman,

You know if she didnt have a son by Andre she could have left him easy if he was a jerk. Dont have babies with jerks. Dont have babies with men you arent married to. Black women arent alley cats.

Yes it’s tacky, and all of you fools defending her are the reason the community is in the shape it’s in today. If you stand for nothing, you fall for everything.

At the end of the day, it’s not about her, it’s aboout those kids. No other community indulges in this stupidity. If she can’t wait for a ring to bring a baby in this world than what she really lacks is self-discipline, and as someone wj=ith young fans, she should be ashamed. I bet her mother didn’t have 3 “baby daddies”.

Yes she can be judged; what makes her an exception?

Pathetic.

@ sxyQblondie

w/ no beach vacations.

( I happen to love those, thought I’d throw that in there.) lol

oh… well….i heard that mofo got shot some time ago.

hahaha

Yeh 3 baby daddies aint good..Can’t condone it..

@LADY ELLE

LMFAO..YEAH NOW THAT YOU MENTION IT, IM GOING TO THE BEACH NEXT WEEKEND. WITH MY HARD EARNED DOUGH(LOL)

She is not being judged for having kids, she is being judged for being a ho. 3 kids from 3 different men is ho-ish ish. If she was Shaniqua from around the way no one would be defending her, but because she has money some of you give her a pass. Why? Taking care of kids is more than providing financially. Even “if” their fathers are actively involved in their lives, the situation will still be awkward and not ideal. Its not the kids fault that their momma couldn’t keep her legs closed or at least use protection. Yet they are the ones that have to deal with the fact that their momma gets around.

Whoever said it, the answer is yes, my mother married my dad and yes, we all have the same father. It’s not impossible. I would not feel good having 3 kids by 3 different men. Not a good look, just look at my aunts, my cousins are still mad cause all of their fathers are different and none of them look alike. crazy

LOL – the black male will have 10 different damn children by 20 different damn women andwon’t be taking care of a damn one of them – but he’s all up in this post dogging Erykah!!

Ateast she didn’t abandon hers or leave someone else to take care of them or do her job surrounding them.. She appears to be taking care of her kids just fine!!!

SMDH!!!

@ sxyQblondie

ok that’s what I’m talking about sis. drink 1 for me

lol

“to the hard working sisters out here”

lol

I am not saying 3 baby daddies is ok. Its messed up, but i will not judge her and take it as a reflection of negativity on her character. Maybe she trulu whole heartedly believe she love these men and this time, this is the one. when women make mistakes like that, they usually do think…this man is the ONE! let her be. Besides I have had friends tell me that once u have had a child, it is hard to have an abortion afterwards.

Her first baby daddy is Andre 3000 her second one is by the DOC….From the 80s he used to tour with NWA and her current is Jay Electronica….who is her protege in her band who she is promoting…..

Peace

It’s official. Some of you are off of the deep end and will stop at nothing to justify your poor decisions. Unfortunatly, we live in a world where we can get away with it.

The ONLY difference between Ms. Badu and the ones I see on the streets is money and fame–two characteristics that do not justify and excuse poor bahavior.

Being married, having a kid, getting divorced, getting married again, having another kid, I can wrap my brain around, this, I cannot.

@Marquis

I think men are trif too with the million baby mommas, but that is not the topic of discussion right now.

I think all the comments here are symptomatic of how narcicistic we have become as a society. People keep saying that its Erykah’s life she can do what she wants. Well no, it isnt Erykah’s life. Its her life and her three children. Does anyone care how her children will feel about her deciscion, how her oldest SON will feel about the different men in her mothers life? He will be the most resentful of the situation. How will her money solve that problem?

LOL @ “kiss my placenta”. Which placenta exactly? The first two or the new one?

The photo is fierce but she seriously needs to shut it about her so-called “queendom”.

What she is calling her queendom is just flat out slackness.

Kigali said: Do you mean shacking up with someone or being married to them? Not every relationship is going to work but you can still try.

She will not be living her life in solitiude she has her beautiful children. Maybe if women didnt define themselves by having a man in their life, their gifts from God would be priority and be enough…

You know if she didnt have a son by Andre she could have left him easy if he was a jerk. Dont have babies with jerks. Dont have babies with men you arent married to. Black women arent alley cats.

Agreed! If a man doesn’t want to commit to marriage, why have his baby? Some people want us to believe that all marriage is is a peice of paper, but it is more than that. Some of us actually meant what we said when we made those vows before God and our spouses. Don’t shack up with a man, have his child, and then think about marriage. Thats bass ackwards!

dang Marcus

lol

@Dubya

The difference is women are truly believe when they have this child this man loves them and this and that. (some are trif and try to trap men)

But men knowing they have a wife, girlfriend, pregnant lover somewhere, will still have unprotected sex and knock a woman up. with no consideration. no love or feelings for her. no care for her physical or emotional well being. no care besides getting that nut off.

women have children (excluding the trif ones)with good intentions. men have children by various women out of carelessness and recklessness.

As a poster stated earlier, Judging and calling out bad decisions are two totally different things. WHERE in this world is having three kids by three different men a good decision.

Black people, black people–convincing ourselves that our poor decisions are somehow okay and forcing others to accept them is bad business and greatly explains our plight.

i agree with all of you about marraige, then living together, then babies. thats the order it should be. but..shyt happens. F.Y.I i don’t have children. But I have seen so many scenerios happen to ppl close to me. I empathize from both sides.

I hear you Z but at the end of the day, it is still a bad decision and that thought process needs to be corrected–otherwise it will be more of the same.

I think you correctly diagnosed the problem…we need to address a solution.

Thank you for your explanation.

Z

Awww Z don’t breakdown like a little girl on me now. You’re woman enough to stand by your inane double standards. Btw, women have over 20 forms of contraceptives at their disposal, why is the onus of birth control solely placed on the shoulders of men? Afterall, it’s you women who has to carry that meistake around for 9 months. Dare to be different, and show some accountability.

Women’s intentions are no better. There is no Queendom involved. The kids are accesories in this case or the mother just has an urge to be knocked-up at some point.

by the way i have no kids because i think a child should be raised in a solid institution such as marriage

@Marquis De Sade,

Thanks so much for coming out. Most on here are black women who are to morally cowardice to come out for what is right. This is why they shouldnt be heading the black family.

She has three kids by 3 different men. Even if they were all from the same man I would still say she needed to rethink her lifestyle.

That’s why I have a problem with those that still want to tell “Ms.” Badu to continue to “Do You.” That’s what she has been doing, “Doing her”…and in the words of Dr. Phil…”How has that been working for you(her)?”

Someone was right to point out the similarities between her and the equally “enlightened” Lauryn Hill.

On the psychological tip it has been researched that children with their two original parents usually become more stable and adjusted adults…being that I came out of wedlock and a bunch of other mess I tend to agree (although my parents were far from rich and famous). On a different view point, I met her son Seven down here in Atlanta @ a Whole Foods and I actually liked him more than his parents (well I like Andre again, but not initially…I have yet to really care for Erykah, she seems to have a bad attitude, but I’m sure she could care less about me). He was a sweet kid (but so was I at that age). I wish them the best.

Let the queen be she has 3 different childrens fathers that his her buisness, would it look better to be in a broken realtionship with a man that you dont love, and dosen’t love u Do you Erykah.

3 kids by 3 different men is a bit excessive..clearly she feels some way about it bcuz she is addressing it..

@Marquis De Sade,

you know why these women either love or hate you: because you are a black man saying what has to be said and you dont care. I cant do it and make an impression because I am a woman. but the way these women react to you demonstrates why black men/Men are so important.

its funny cause, she carries her personal life like khia carries her career….sound like some fake jedi mind trick garbage to justify having different multiple baby daddies.

A few stats:

Marriage and Divorce:

Latest Stats Available

Here’s a sampling of some of the most recently available statistics on marriage and divorce in the United States of America:

There were approximately 2,230,000 marriages in 2005 — down from 2,279,000 the previous year, despite a total population increase of 2.9 million over the same period.

The divorce rate in 2005 (per 1,000 people) was 3.6 — the lowest rate since 1970, and down from 4.2 in 2000 and from 4.7 in 1990. (The peak was at 5.3 in 1981, according to the Associated Press.)

The marriage rate in 2005 (per 1,000) was 7.5, down from 7.8 the previous year.

In 2004, the state with the highest reported divorce rate was Nevada, at 6.4 (per 1,000). Arkansas was a close second, with a divorce rate of 6.3, followed by Wyoming at 5.3. The District of Columbia had the lowest reported divorce rate, at 1.7, followed by Massachusetts at 2.2 and Pennsylvania at 2.5. (Figures were not complete for California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Louisiana, or Oklahoma.)

8.1% of coupled households consist of unmarried heterosexual partners, according to The State of Our Unions 2005, a report issued by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University. The same study said that only 63% of American children grow up with both biological parents — the lowest figure in the Western world.

As of 2003, 43.7% of custodial mothers and 56.2% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced. And in 2002, 7.8 million Americans paid about $40 billion in child and/or spousal support (84% of the payers were male).

Americans tend to get married more between June and October than during the rest of the year. In 2005, August had the most marriages at about 235,000 or a rate of 9.3 per 1,000 people. The previous year, July was the highest month at 246,000, or a rate of 9.9; this doubled the lowest month in 2004, January.

When u know better u do better, and you would think that a woman of Erika statue would do better. Why would she be willing to have unprotected sex with someone who does not love her enough to marry her. That is not fair to her children and is a recipe for chaos. She really should not be trying to justify it because I know she can attest to it not being easy. Nothing is more tacky than sisters and brother looking like they are from different worlds and from the same mother. Besides Erika is too old to be making adolescent mistakes. She can’t be mad at no one but herself for creating her own fiasco. Besides she is not behaving like a queen.

well let see. Yes we do have many forms of birth control…but umm MEN…GUESS WHAT. birth control causes many kinds of complications. The women on here know what I speak of. You will spend your entire life searching for the right kind of birth control. Hell even the right pill. I still have not even found the right Birth control pill thats compatible with my body. Its not the easy. Some women do not feel comfortable pumpin their body up with so much hormones…trust me I ahve had this convo with quite a few women who do not BUT SHOULD take BC.

Besides with all the diseases floating around, you would think men would be more concious and protect themselves anyway.

@ kigali Is judging and dont care

I couldn’t agree with you more.

BLACK MEN ARE VERY IMPORTANT.

now love or hate marquis.. stretching it a bit.

sometimes I agree with him other times…well let’s just say all opinons are of value.

@ Whoa

Amen.

@ WHOA

I think Kigali respects everyones right to an opinion, the difference is respecting said opinion after it’s been voiced. In that regards, i whole-heartedly agree with Kigali. With all the b.s. plaguing the black community, amongst with the 80% of black children being born out of wedlock, thus eroding the black family unit, how can you or anyone else have this cavalier attitude: ERYKHA, YOU DO YOU!

Maybe my stance is biased. Maybe. I am the second oldest of 9 children. and your can be certain 9 chirren did not push they way up out my momma. My father has 4 baby mothers and i speak with all of them regularly and listen to them and their perception of my father and to get to the point “what they hell were they thinking to have his baby?”. Men are trif and its sad i had to realize that from my own father.

and here is another point. when my mother learned about those other children it changed her forever. she had us out of love for him and us. Why did he have all those children? it certaintly was not from love.

I find it amazing that she can homeschool her kids while maintaining a career. We should show her luv for that instead of buggin out cause she got three kids by three different dudes.

As long as she can and the fathers can raise them then why should we get upset. The second father is D.O.C by the way

BTW, the stats above consist of MOSTLY white people, since they claim Blacks don’t get married like they do. Sorry but this ‘epidemic’ is not solely owned by Black women.

TWO people make babies and along all races and cultures women are the main caretakers of the children even when married/committed/divorced. The fact is that a religious ceremony that is honored by law STILL DOESN’T MAKE COUPLES STAY TOGETHER AND RAISE CHILDREN in unison.

You can’t beat having a “father” in the home.

I serve my wife and my wife serves me. I respect her and would literally lay down my life for her and my children. I do everything in my power to make her happy and she, in turn, does the same for me. I wasn’t born knowing how to be a man; how to treat her. I had training. I learned it from a real man. I learned it from my Father.

…And most of you wonder why i have so much distain and such a low opinion for some of you black women. You deserve your fate.

One thing I find ironic is that Bad did not receive the same reaction after the birth of her second child by another man. Something again I dont agree with. But what good is the message going after her after three kids when it should have been the same after two.

The fact that she has 3 children by 3 different men is not abnormal at all, my mother had 3 children by 3 different men, and she was a very classy woman, who was hard working, and there is nothin tacky about that. Yall should up your minds and understand that there is a uniqueness in us all, and to simply have 3 children with 3 different fathers is unique, and that doesnt mean its wrong.

Im sorry 3 different fathers for 3 kids is destructive to those kids perception of family and relationships. That is not “queen” behavior. Nodody is throwin her under no bus, it is what is.

For someone as concious as Erykah Badu you would think she understood the importance of a strong family structure. 3 different men around your kids ain’t cute or smart.

Lauryn Hill Jr.?

So if Badu is the poster child for black women with too many baby daddys, then who is the poster child for black men with too many baby mamas?

@ Nine Know

I agree with 100%

They want women to have that “half a man is better than no man” attitude. deal with the bs and shut the hell up. To hell with it. Women are now handling all the responsibilities on their own…mistakes included.

Whoever let SMDH use the internet at the asylum needs to lose their job.

Well having three kids by three different fathers is definitely not a look I would go for. I don’t know the dynamics of the relationships that Erykah had, but maybe she should have thought to exercise more caution in reproducing, at least after the second child. I’m not going to say that she should have gotten married, because I don’t personally believe in the institution, but kids definitely definitely thrive in a stable environment with two parents, so if you don’t see your partner as someone that you can build a life with, why have children with them?

@Negrodamus

What’s wrong with green tea and yoga

Also…there is a male solution to not having children. It is called the vasectomy. Why don’t more men take responsibility for their penises and get them if they really don’t want children out of wedlock? No more excuses for men. This is the reason there are sooooo many deadbeats as it is. 84% of the parents paying child support due to a broken relationship are men. Sounds like these men like having their pay docked by the government if you ask me. I do not feel sorry for any of them. Looking at the high statistic of MALE jerks just makes me realize what a true MAN I have at home. THANKS BE TO THE ALMIGHTY!

Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.

Thanks Whoa. Those are my lil queens in training. I have two children with the same mother and we’re not together.

If Erykah can still comminicate with the fathers and keep the balance of family intact than who are we to judge???

@ Ashcakes

I know so many men…gosh i don’t know who to pick…

@Marquis De Sade,

“…And most of you wonder why i have so much distain and such a low opinion for some of you black women. You deserve your fate.”

And Dozens of Girls Gone Wild DVDs has made no impression on you?

Yeah, hoo-hah…. “do u, Erykah….”

It’s all good, so long as some of y’all don’t trip next time u feel an urge 2 gripe about a 70% out-of-wedlock birth rate, and want 2 rant about non-commital brutaz. Don’t pin the black communities’ pathology ENTIRELY on black men.

Just remember that some of u sistaz r “doing u”.

Not hating on Erykah, but it is not something that is expected from someone of her alleged consciousness.

@SMDH

My first day back and I see that not much has changed. lol

She’s not asking anybody for anything, she is taking care of her kids and thats all that counts. No one sets out to have children by different people but in life things happen that are never planned. Should she never have children again because she didn’t stay with the first man? Whos right is it to tell her that. Save those opinions for the chicks who are on welfare STILL having babies every damn year, some by the same damn guy when he’s not locked up. Obviously, it makes her no classier.

our standards are waaaayyyyy low….

I have the same opinion as Simply Ecstasy at 11:09.

@WHOA.

“I have that attitude because it HER LIFE! And no matter what mine or your opinion is ERYKAH IS GONNA DO HER!”

Erykah may be doing her but in the end she will be doing her children. BESIDES IT IS NOT JUST HER LIFE IT IS HER CHILDRENS LIVES TOO. Forget about them?

@KDOGG,

My hero for today.

@HR

And the out of wedlock birth rate will continue to raise along with the justifications for such behaviour. It’s too much to ask for some principles though. “Do you.”

@ realwoman, men do that sh*t because women allow them to. Real talk. A lot of men are trifling, but a good percentage of those trifling men would get their act together real quick if women stopped rewarding trifling behavior. As for child support, women can also have their tubes tied or a hysterectomy. There is no reason for ANY woman (of any race) to have 8 babies by 6 different men. Whether that woman is collecting child support from any of them is irrelevant. At some point, responsibility goes back on her, too.

@ k-dogg, co-sign. Women do need to get it together as much as men do.

@ samira, that’s succinct: “Not hating on Erykah, but it is not something that is expected from someone of her alleged consciousness.”

when erykah pulls this kind of thing, makes it look like a gimmick, to me. what’s going on with her, that she chooses to have babies instead of work on developing a ‘thick or thin’ relationship with a man?

What happened with her and ‘Green Eyes’ anyway?

I wonder if the fathers of Erykah’s children have sevearl other children by several other women. In which case we’re in the realm of pathology, not free-spiritedness.

Some posters here mentioned white women (for example Christie Brinkley) to counterbalance the criticisms of Erykah, but their lives really aren’t any of our business. Maybe black parents don’t teach their kiids prudence anymore by reminding them that they’re not white. They did when I was young. The point was that white people get second chances that we’ll never get. When they get tired of being wild, all they have to do is cut their hair and mind their manners, and no matter what they’ve done, they’ll still get jobs and opportunities we’ll never get.

We don’t get to make the same mistakes, or as many of them.

Maybe each generation has to learn it their own way.

I hope that these entertainers don’t think a few hit records or movie credits mean they don’t have to learn it. Because they do. And it’s better they should learn it from us. Because it’s a lesson white people like to teach us in our own blood.

I don’t think comparing Erykah to Lauren Hill is really effective. I mean yes Lauren’s children are all by the same father, but look at that situation. Lauren has definitely gone off the deep end. At least Erykah seems to still have her sanity.

Well she is not on welfair so technically she can afford to have 5 baby daddies. Any who,how many of us women have had 3 abortaions by 3 different men? I am not hating on her and obviously she is hurt by some of your/our opinions. I am not saying she is wrong or right but why none of those bastards married her is a mystery to me. Maybe love is her religion and she does not live the Christian way. Oh well.

KENNEDY(Check me out!)

For someone as concious as Erykah Badu you would think she understood the importance of a strong family structure. 3 different men around your kids ain’t cute or smart.

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It is due to her conscious attitude that she had the children. The true conscious mind knows that the EURO world order does not want more brown people running around. Abortion nor abstinence were never part of a written rule determining the conscious mind of the Black man or woman. Birth control is more about POPULATION control of minorities if you actually read up on it.

The truth of the matter is that no matter what any of you say, children are a blessing and should be welcomed onto this earth no matter how they got here. The fact that anyone would dispute that and scold people for doing what their body was created to do is blasphemy. A stop in the cycle of life that is man made is really not natural. That is why so many women have complications on birth control…bloodclots, fibroids, hair loss, extreme weight gain, excessive menstrual bleeding, premature menopause etc are just a few of the ‘problems’ caused by this ‘solution’.

The actual crime is TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN. The women have been doing a good job at it so IMO it is time we started persecuting deadbeat fathers instead of conveniently blaming a female parent who actuallly takes care of the children.

@ Ashcakes

The subject of this thread is Erykha Badu. Most of us can’t help but judge or comment. That’s what a public forum is for.

@z

“women have children (excluding the trif ones)with good intentions. men have children by various women out of carelessness and recklessness”

Wow!!!!!!!!!! I am speechless….

Wow…..well some of us are just different. I would love to have more kids (I have one 10 year old) but I refuse to do it again without being married….Erykah however, not only has the money to do it sans another income in her household but the way she thinks allows her the freedom to be able to have several children as a single parent. I am not even gonna sit here and judge her cuz it ain’t like I have not had sex with other people since my child….I have just decided not to get pregnant….

@ Ashcakes wrote, “The standard I hold for black people is not one i can force on others but one I must live by. … I am 25 working on a masters/ phd in social welfare. My research is focused on the well being of black children and families. I currently work as a mental health counselor in a group home for traumatized black females and volunteer at federal halfway house for females. … I cant change the world but walkin instead of talkin helps.”

Good for you. I hope you never burn out. You’re needed.

And Erykah is still f-cking up.

@Ashcakes,

Oh I disagree. You see how many enablers there are in this room? And these are supposed to be the most educated, responsible, and the future of black america. Ha.

If our community didnt accept this kind of behavior and there were serious social ramifications for it, it wouldnt happen like it does. Social shaming and a government that doesnt subsidize it. Where my mother was born, if you were a woman who got preggars out of wedlock, you werent even allowed out of the house to showcase your shame. Remember shootgun weddings?

Erykah has a new song out called Family Reunion . In it she describes having to explain, to her great-grandma, why she brought 3 different men with her to the reunion. I don’t have all of the lyrics but the hook goes something like this:

“Who that is? That’s just my oldest baby Daddy”

“Who that is? That’s just my 2nd baby Daddy”

“Who that is? That’s just my 3rd baby Daddy”

“Who that is? That’s just my next baby Daddy”

No one has said anything about the father’s of these children. And they high profile fathers who seem to have nothing too do with their children. But we put all the blame on her. What about Andre 3000 or whoever is the father of that second child why is no one saying anything about them. It is always on the woman.

Man, I just don’t care

“@z

“women have children (excluding the trif ones)with good intentions. men have children by various women out of carelessness and recklessness”

Wow!!!!!!!!!! I am speechless….”

Thank you. Double standards at its’ most clueless!

KISS MY PLACENTA… CLASSIC!!! LMAO LMAO LMAO LMAO!!!

ROTFLMBAO!!!!

But yea… 3 DIFFERENT DADS?? YIKES…

NO WONDER COMMON DROPPED HER ASS.

“So if Badu is the poster child for black women with too many baby daddys, then who is the poster child for black men with too many baby mamas?”

AMEN!!!

That’s exactly what I said in so many words further up!! Everytime you turn around the black woman is being judged over the number of kids she has out of wedlock.. The black male will have 20 kids by 10 different women and be steady judging the black woman over the number of kids she has!!! At the end of the day that woman has to raise her kids and does – which is alot more than can be said about the black male!!!

Nita(Check me out!)

@ realwoman, men do that sh*t because women allow them to. Real talk. A lot of men are trifling, but a good percentage of those trifling men would get their act together real quick if women stopped rewarding trifling behavior. As for child support, women can also have their tubes tied or a hysterectomy. There is no reason for ANY woman (of any race) to have 8 babies by 6 different men. Whether that woman is collecting child support from any of them is irrelevant. At some point, responsibility goes back on her, too.

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Ok Nita…so you are basically saying that man is a wild animal with no control over his behavior unless a woman somehow tames him and makes him act civilized? Well since you are in the know, do you mind telling everyone here how one controls the actions of another human being? This will be groundbreaking…expect a call from different military leaders from around the world!

Also we have numerous types of birth control for women. I am sure you read through this entire blog and saw REPEATEDLY references to bc…again, what is stopping men from using the birth control invented for them? The last I remembered…men are the ones who are aggressors in ‘mating’ so how is the actual act of sex and all that it entails blamed almost entirely on the woman? I thought we got over that with the ‘don’t blame the victim’ campaign in regards to female rape victims…again, if the women are the ones taking care of the children born from a TWO PERSON union why are they the ones MOSTLY at fault again?

“a hoe is just a hoe and thats without the controversy”

– grand puba maxwell

the 2nd baby daddy aint dead, he’s the D.O.C. of death row fame.

what ever makes her happy though. i agree on her on what a marriage is..

@realwoman replied to KENNEDY “For someone as concious as Erykah Badu you would think she understood the importance of a strong family structure. 3 different men around your kids ain’t cute or smart.”

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It is due to her conscious attitude that she had the children.

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I have to respectfully disagree. Those magazine excerpts are not the words of a self-fulfilled person, they’re the words of someone who’s turned bad decisions into self-defense. Those excerpts make Erykah sound like she has low self-esteem, and is trying to pick herself up through giving birth.

Even Angelina Jolie, as screwed up as she is inside, has adopted 2 children before getting pregnant, then adopted a third. And most importantly, her three biological children are all with the same man. Between Angelina and Erykah, two women who seem to want to make the world a better place, Angelina is walking the ‘conscious’ walk more than Erykah, from a distance.

I guess until black men shape-up, black women are going to be irresponsible in their reproductive choices. LOL

Gee, i was unaware that you most black women were forced at gunpoint to have these children out of wedlock. Why did’nt these women alert the authorities and turn these black bastards in for rape?

realwoman,

“The true conscious mind knows that the EURO world order does not want more brown people running around.”

You know what also controls population? High infant mortality. Do you know how many brown women die in child birth? Do you know how many brown children die before the age of five? In poor coutries, women have lots of children because many of them die. They often die giving birth to them because of the non existent health care in some countries.

Dont focus on abortions and abstinence. Literate women will naturally have fewer children, they also know how to use birth control, they will also have healthier children. They will be healthier.

If black women waited for marriage to have children, the black race would be extinct. We are supposed to be fruitful and multiply. Is anybody raggin’ on her 3rd babies daddy for being the third. Get off her case. She’s supporting her own children and not relying on taxpayers dollars. Get off your high horses and come back down to reality.

@Nita,

Did Angeline Jolie actually marry Brad Pitt? I didnt know that.

@bria

She is responsible for 3 to each of her baby daddy’s 1. She is the common denominator so she gets the most blame.

I cannot imagine not raising my own child or letting another man do the job for me. My first child was conceived out of wedlock so I am not speaking from a “holier-than-thou” perspective. However,I crossed over the threshold that separates boys from men and thus, my child was not born out of wedlock.

I knew that if she was good enough to have my child, then she was good enough to marry. I have never regretted that decision.

Love Erica’s music. Always been a fan. I am not with 3 different fathers of the 3 different children. I am not judging her. I don’t know her to judge her. And by the same token, when you go to judge someone, don’t forget that your turn to be judged is coming as well. I hope your judge is lenient when you see/ meet him. While, I don’t condone or like the fact so many men, it’s not my life. I don’t worry about it AND I’m married with 2 boys, with the same father. I’m happy. I just don’t have time to damn other people, she’s taking care of them, sooooooooooo……

y is it always black woman this and black woman that

ARE U guys realluy that jealous?

@ funny

i have two kids by two different men and in no way do i condone this behavior…

so lets keep the genralizations at a minimum please

the first child i had as a teen so my decisions did not reflect that of a responsible adult woman

the second i had after i got married and if i have anymore it will be by my husband

we need to have two parent households in our community and until we do this never ending cycle will continue for generations to come

ms. sugar walls………i could not have said that better. Thank you for that.

Erykah is NOT the problem here. She does not represent every black woman. People need to take responsiblility for their own actions. I know too many woman who keep having kids by the same run down ass man. So I guess it’s cool though cause they all got the same, nothing ass daddy…….smh.

I am not going to judge her, well because it says you shouldnt in the bible…that being said…yes she can take care of them, but is this really about the financial aspect of this? I feel like its just another way that white people can stereotype us. Yes white women do it to but we are not talking about them, were talking about us. Lets stop perpetuating their perception of us. Its not okay to have 3 kids at any point by three different people. Woman or man. I know there are situations as mentioned before where multiple children are born, and for every situation there are exceptions. I just dont think it takes us any further as a race to lower the bar when it comes to issues such as this one.

*SMH*

Diff. not cute to have baby daddies but to each it’s own…i feel the same way, at least she has money where she can afford to do that and at least she takes care of her kids, etc. i think people should focus on their own mess of a life and stay out the woman’s bizness..lol

@Kigali, you’re right, Angelina didn’t marry Brad… no matter how often Brad reportedly has begged Angelina to marry him — and that includes the ‘we refuse to get married until everybody (meaning gay people) is allowed to marry’ political football.

So I’m off on that one. Erykah doesn’t even claim that, though. And Angelina, right now, still has 3 adopted babies and 3 biological babies with one man.

for the people upset with Badu, or any other parent with offspring from multiple sources, could you explain why this is a negative?

Assuming the children are provided for.

I am commenting on the Badu situation because I appreciate the public forum. Regardless of if i disagree with the opinion I believe the person stating it is of sound mind and some intelligence. At the same time I will use this public forum to say that I do not agree with Badus decisions but they are her own. Besides this is a topic that needs to be discussed, the degradation of the black community, family, woman, man and child.

I do however want to say that as a community we need to do more. As women and men we need to provide our future with role models to show the expectations and standards of what it means to be a black person. So to each person who has moral standards all I ask is that you at least find one person in need of your guidance and reach out to them.

Nobody’s opinion on this forum is wrong, interesting but not wrong. All I am saying is lets put a little bit behind the bark

Nobody is JUDGING anyone or condemning them to HELL. It’s a discussion about her behavior, discussions about behavior are all throughout the Bible. There is a difference.

Sugar Walls

Basic Biology. Women get pregnant, not men. Women have to carry that child/mistake around for 9 months, not men. Ultimately, women will have to take of said child/mistake, not men. All, i’m saying is that women should make better choices in who they choose to mate with, because, they have more to lose in the overall scheme of things, and when you factor in the plight of child, that compounds the problem. Btw, who’s actually raising Badu’s children sinse she’s on the road touring most of the time, due to her poor cd sales?

kigali Is judging and dont care(Check me out!)

Dont focus on abortions and abstinence. Literate women will naturally have fewer children, they also know how to use birth control, they will also have healthier children. They will be healthier.

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I agree with everything you said prior to the above. Those stats are true BUT the belief that literate women NATURALLY have less babies is false. It kind of gives the visual of knowledge going into the brain somehow kicking out eggs from the vagina. lmao..

There really is nothing natural about manmade solutions for preventing a body from procreating. It is more of a social dynamic in CERTAIN countries that dictates the more educated not have many children. In China once you are educated and wealthy you are encouraged to have more children, it is the poor who are discouraged. There have been kingdoms built off of multiple births specifically for heirs to the thrown. Sheikhs aren’t told to strap it up because more than two kids would be ‘ghetto’. It is a social thing more than anything.

Also, why not focus on abortion and abstinence? They are the two most effective ways to make sure a baby is not born AND not suffer from hormonal issues that have been linked to everything from cancer to weight gain.

but they are by the same person…SO Y IS ANGELINA UP IN THIS ANYWAY?

@sugarwalls

“y is it always black woman this and black woman that

ARE U guys realluy that jealous?”

explain why you think some are “jealous.”

I agree with u Introducing…ME

I don’t condone what she is doing and im not one to judge but it is just another way for them to bring our race down with this mess…

Mary J. Blige onced goofed on Erykah and her head-wrap swag, calling her a ‘witch’ and just overall being disrespectful to her. When somebody confronted Erykah with Blige’s statements, her response was something in the way of, “I got nothing but love for the sistah. I love her music and wish Mary well.” I thought that was so honorable to take the high road and in doing so made Blige look that much more small and trife. I wish Erykah had done the same in this instance. Going on a tirade is definitely a step down for her. It’s so unattractive when someone lets others get the best of them.

Man, I just don’t care wrote, “for the people upset with Badu, or any other parent with offspring from multiple sources, could you explain why this is a negative?

Assuming the children are provided for.”

For myself, I’ve experienced third-party exactly what goes down in families with multiple fathers, because the children are NOT provided for EQUALLY. You know the sibling rivalries that occur within biological households (and adopted households)? Now times that by multiple fathers, with some children getting treated better because of whom their father is, and some children being treated worse because of whom their father is.

That goes for how the children treat each other, and how *extended family* treats each child. It’s disgusting. Maybe what I experienced third-party, as an observer, isn’t reality, though. For those people who actually lived in homes with multiple fathers by the same mother, how did you children treat one another? how did family treat one another?

@ Rainbow Bright

I respect your mind and I’m not saying she’s perfect but she doesn’t represent the entire black race-

1) check the ages of her children (it’s a gap)

2) Jamie Lynn Spears had a baby at 16 or 17 and she is on the cover of OK magazine, she doesn’t represent the White race having children as teenagers

My point is we need to stop generalizing the black community. Again, she isn’t the typical welfare case of “I need a handout, let me have some babies”

Because it is the Obvious.

Sorry but the MAN is the one with more to lose in this. Again, in China they are kidnapping male children for rich and poor families JUST because they know the value of children. In old age it is the elders offspring who will take care of them. This is why soooo many homeless shelters house more men than women even though women outnumber men! Why is it that we have more older men in shelters and more women in nursing homes? Seriously, think about it.

The only people who look at children as a burden instead of a blessing are the ones who should not have them.

kigali Is judging and dont care

Remember shootgun weddings?

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Now THAT’S something I wouldn’t mind the government underwriting with my tax $$$$$… ESPECIALLY in the black community.

U r right, at least back when we didn’t have $h!+, we had PRIDE!! Now, we’re so damn permissive with self-destructive behavior and urging people 2 “do u”, no matter what the outcome is.

Yeah, life happens and relationships don’t work out, but if u still can’t figure out “wtf?” after 2 OOW kids????????

Well you guy have been great, its kind of ironic but I have to teach a parenting class and a life skills course for my young girls at work.

Have a blessed day to all and I hope I have your support as I attempt to show these future black women what their life can be by having someone who is willing to give guidance.

By the way I post regularly and I am one of the few qualified to run these groups at my job. Any topics of discussion or advice to these girls would be appreciated.

@ kingali, its funny how there is a difference of opinion between us but the vision of empowerment in the black community is still there.

Seriously, No disrespect but….

It is Ms. Badus’ right to have as many children as she wants. With that said Eryka don’t be surprised when you’re not greeted like your Michelle Obama or something.

You can’t on one hand portray yourself as this great mother, queen, moral compass etc. and then parade one night stands and miscellaneous rappers around your kids thinking they will be OK.

No, she’s not looking for a hand out from the government; but this goes to the heart of some critical issues in the black community. If you seriously live your life with the attitude of “I’m going to just do me” then maybe children aren’t the best thing for you.

When you’re a good parent you realize that it can’t be about your self gratification and justifications all the time.

I picture her letting the kids see her naked with these men.

I picture her smoking weed and calling it natural medicine in front of these kids.

I picture her ignoring things like vaccinations for “so called” alternatives.

I picture her teaching these same overtly destructive measures to her children.

I no that I’m not the only one!

Marriage isn’t the end all to raising a child, if

two parents can communicate and work towards

building a stable environment for the child then I’m all for it-married or not

dapro

PREACH

I feel you! I hate it when People always group us togther. And I am still trying to understand how can another call her a ho, when they have skeleton’s in their closet too! BE REAL

I hate that people can be so judgemental, because you’ve all been perfect.

This is her personal issue. I can’t say its wrong, and i cant its right. should she stay in relationship just because she has a kid, or should she never date or have sex because she already have kids, cuz thats what the census sounds like in here. She is a grown woman, has relationships, she has sex, she has kids, relationship doesn’t work out, what she suppose to do. Just sit around.

Ashcakes said:But growing up nobody had a plan for her to suceed. Judgments and no plans mean no actions. There is a difference between that a person thinks and what they do. Its one thing to judge a person and discuss what is morally right but if you are not doing anything to alleviate the situation then your thoughts are worthless and you have no right to say anything.

People shouldn’t always need to have a plan provided for them in order for them to stop making mistakes.

It only took me 1 time to touch a hot iron before I realized that I wouldn’t intentionally do it again. However, if I chose to burn myself again, you wouldn’t be wrong in calling me a dumb@$$ for doing it. You wouldn’t have to provide me with a “no-burn-hand-on iron” plan before you were justified in judging me to be a dumb@$$ either.Why should I need someone else to tell me something I already know. Touch a hot iron and you will get burned. All I would have to do is look at my burned hand.

We should commend her. Black when Have the highest rate of abortions. I’ve the done the research we need to ask the question what is going on with the black family. And for all of you who don’t believe check out your local health departments live births vs abortion rate.

but the thing is

WHO knows what she does in front of her kids? Who knows how she raised them, and Sorry to say..BUT if she did smoke weed in front of her children, she isn’t the only mother or for that fact DAD that do..I see it everyday..So there shouldn’t be a big shock for you.

How do you know..that they wasn’t dating for a while..long enough for her *ERYKAH* to feel comfortable…enough to be around her children? I can see if you were her personal assistant, or Maybe her body guard, but WE don’t know that.

“Marriage isn’t the end all to raising a child, if

two parents can communicate and work towards

building a stable environment for the child then I’m all for it-married or not”

I keep saying this too – yet I notice none of the posters whining about out of wedlock births is commenting on this!!!

man, people are going off on some tangential ish in a sorry attempt to justify this situation. the sad part is that it appears to be mostly WOMEN who are justifying this mess. the men are calling it like they see it and yet women still refuse to see it for what it is.

like someone said, people need to be judged. i’m judging my kids and calling them out, i’m judging their friends, and their friend’s parents and households. i judge the men in my life against my standard for them. i judge my co-workers and friends, and if any are shady, i don’t f with them. i judge the black-managed wal-mart down the street from me which is the worst walmart in the damn tri-county area. probably because it’s manager doesn’t judge.

judging is necessary and calling out is necessary. the lack of JUDGEMENT amongst some folks is having some serious consequences. and yes what happens in non-judgemental households affects me because it’s their damn kids and peoples that’s running wild. we need to start calling it how it is and stop making excuses. excuses leads to laziness and unproductivity.

but the thing is

WHO knows what she does in front of her kids? Who knows how she raised them, and Sorry to say..BUT if she did smoke weed in front of her children, she isn’t the only mother or for that fact DAD that do..I see it everyday..So there shouldn’t be a big shock for you.

How do you know..that they wasn’t dating for a while..long enough for her *ERYKAH* to feel comfortable…enough to be around her children? I can see if you were her personal assistant, or Maybe her body guard, but WE don’t know that!!

Oh sorry Nita…I missed the part where ANYONE claimed that ‘women can’t be responsible and make better choices’. Could you show me where that was said? If anything I am reading the sentiment that a woman is MORE responsible in procreation than men because she is the one who has to carry the baby. If that is truly the case then why should men even stick around? They obviously have very little to do in the procreation decision making since they are all wild beastly sex machines who only know how to MAKE babies and not take care of them. Dang, I missed that part in biology class…..

The bottom line is I can understand the first baby, slap her on the hand for the second but by the third she should should have and use better judgment when it comes to relationships. One day she will have to answer to her children hopefully they wont fall into the same pattern

An unwed 17 year old white girl is currently on the cover of a magazine holding her newborn. Hav’nt heard an an uproar………Amerrikka has changed?

Her having 3 kids by 3 different fathers is not a personal issue. I’m not sure if they are all boys but if they are, from whom will they learn how to be a real father? Most of us agree that the Black man is absent from the home and does not accept his responsibilities like he should. Is it also a coincidence that this phenomenon presents itself when we lead the country in teen pregnancies, single-parent househods, and out of wedlock births? Our black men are being taught to be “men” by their mothers and music videos. Go figure. And many of these mothers wouldn’t know what a “real” black man/father is like b/c they never had one themselves.

Bosssip do you label SMH for everything know honestly shes just sharing her opinion

@ Free

That’s mostly the problem. Alot of women view it has a competition with men and don’t want to admit when they aim for subpar situations. Whatever your views are on marriage, it’s an act of commitment that kids and women should strive for. Yal make it easier for guys to just bounce on you when he doesn’t feel like he is even commited in the first place. I agree that black men have to upgrade their behavior but plenty of women make it too easy for them to have their cake and eat it too.

Marshabio

I agree %100

Everybodys going at it in here…I think the bottom line is no you ant predict whats going to happen in your life, but you do have a measure of control. We have lost sight of the things that really matter. And if you are “doing you” how can you possiibly be doing whats in the best intrest of your child(ren)? Nobody can change the choices that she has made but we dont have to follow suite either…

She takes care of all her children and maintains a healthy relationship with their fathers. She can move on an have a baby with someone else if she wants to.

@ Kdogg

Great post. That pretty much sums it up.

Excuse me,…….. HAVEN’T*********** THANKS!!

I have to wonder how many posters vehemently defending this mess have multiple baby daddy’s. Her fame doesn’t exempt her from being branded with the same labels we give Nay Nay from the projects for having mulitple baby daddy’s without benefit of marriage. And the argument about how many white women have done it is preposterous. White don’t make it right! They’re trifling too! Does Ms. Badu plan to have a baby by every man she is “dedicated exclusively to for a few years”? Will she condone her son having a baby by every women he’s “dedicated exclusively to”? What about her daughter? The ability to financial provide for a child doesn’t make you able to provide morally for a child. Air headed logic like she’s spouting makes my point.

@ Suga Walls

long time…I see you still in here giving it to them RAW at all times…lol

I am sorry bit three kids with three different man is not a good look. I don’t care what anyone says, even her!

One last post

@ KDogg

If you read my earlier post i work at a group home for young females that are predominately black. The majority are wards of DCFS custody. The girl i mentioned is one such. She was born to a crack addicted mother and was prostituted out at the age of 7. Her father is currently in prison. This girl has no family and honestly looks to me as a mother and I am only 8 years older than her. There was no plan for her and the people in her life failed her miserably. Embrace the fact that you were blessed with the common sense to want more for your life and having expectations. However, dont forget that each person has to fall on their ass to learn lifes lessons. You were strong enough to bounce back, some will crack, and there will be others who with help can be pieced together.

@ yanib

You hit the nail on the head!

Men have tried to control the reproductive choice of women for centuries. Only in the past 70-80 years have women had the type of control they have today. Childsupport, Alimony, job-options… there has been less need to have as many children.

People think of your grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. If you are in your 20′s that makes your grandmothers and great grandmothers approximately 60-80. How many children did they have? Were they waiting on any “system” to support them (LOL)? Were they any less moral?

A lot of people molest animals and little kids, doesn’t make it right.

She sounds like she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, kids baring witness to your sexual exploration equals abuse, not a lifestyle choice!

It is a sad world when women are condemned for having children. It is what we were made to do yet the new age masses can’t see it…instead of focusing on EVERYONE TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN we are told not to have them.

Remember the black women in America outnumber Black men 7:1. This means that if the “monogamous marriage only” procreation rules actually applied a majority of Black women wouldn’t be allowed to have children. So for the person who stated that mostly WOMEN are forgiving in this situation…please THINK. They are the ones with more to lose (in regards to WANTING CHILDREN). Or are we also going to blame Black women for the lack of men within the race?

Hey introducing me

who are u? Come on..tell me? LOL

Why hasn’t anyone mentioned Angelina Jolie? She has a rack of kids and stole somebody’s husband and you know what? The white media loves her. Stop hating on Erykah and let her do what she wants to do. As long as she’s taking care of her children and enjoying her life, there’s really no reason to trash her.

@yanib

I see you have bought into the nonsense that having multiple children by multiple fathers or mothers makes you immoral LOL.

How many children does your grandmother and great grandmother have (if you know)?

She shouldnt have even responded. She should of held her Earthy acoustic Peace.

If you want us to HUSH you need to start 1st Badu. JUST MESS….

or maybe her hormones are just ridiculous right now..

Ok since the question has been asked ‘how many of you agreeing have multiple baby daddies’ I’d like to know how many people condemning her have ever had sex….

@SoSo,

Please wear your ideas on a shirt so no man will mistake you for a marriage material.

Thanks.

No one is condemming women for having children. We’re condemming them for doing it irresponsibly with little regard to the long term consequences of said irresponsibility.

2) Should be their choice

@KDOGG,

I know I am on your jock today but you need to be cloned.

Judgement is a dangerous thing, that’s why you shouldnt do it to ANYONE at ANYTIME.

Who are we to judge this woman? I just think if she has healthy relationships with the father of her children and the children are happy and taken care of then it doesnt matter. But on the other hand there are a lot of the mothers that do the same thing and dont have great realtionships with their childrens fathers and both are downright trifflin, and the children arent being taken care of. Thats when it becomes an issue

Earth Signs

Uhhh, don’t you mean “FATHERS”?

@Marquis de Sade

on which part?

You know. Maybe we shouldn’t be allowed to breed. The sentiments being posted is proof positive that one should be required to have a licence to pro-create.

It doesnt mean a damn thing to be married. Thats an issue with me. Just because you are married doesnt mean the guy/girl is right for you or the marriage will work out. This is only an issue in the black community because of people who have nothing else to do but to judge others. For those who are also saying its for the kids or whatever, leaving someone who treats you badly is also good for the kids. For example, if a boy sees his mother taking abuse, he becomes an abusive man & if a girl sees it, she thinks its acceptable. Not good for the kids nor the mother. I think the bigger problem in our community is that we would rather tear our women/men down than help build her up. As i stated before, i havent heard anything that says she mistreats or is a bad mother to her children which should be the only concern & not the men.

I am glad this topic was started because I have a question for everyone. How can you blame a woman (any race) for a system that is set up to reward wrong doing??? If a young woman is trying to work and put herself through school there are little or no resources set up to help her. When I was in college I tried to get food stamps to help me out a little so at least I could have a little cash put aside that I did not have to speed on food. Boy did I have to jump through a million hoops before I was DENIED because I had a part-time job. Now if you take a girl who was the same age as me but she had a kid out of wedlock she is given food stamps, welfare, free or low-rent housing and health care for her and the child. Now tell why don’t we offer those same things to young girls trying to better themselves???????? Maybe if we did we would see a trend of girls getting degrees instead of getting pregnant.

Earth Sign

You said, the father of her children. She has two children with one on the way by three different men, out of wedlock.

Erykah is soooo pretty

Marquis

????????

@Man, I just don’t care…maternal had 4 (same husband),paternal had 8 (2 husbands), maternal great had 4 (same husband), paternal great had 2(same husband)…and your point?

@Ashcakes

I feel for that girl and appreciate your effort but most of the women that I am referring to did not have it nearly as tough as your 17 year-old.

Erykah Badu is not 17. She is of an age of understanding. Your 17year old is probably easily influenced. You said she comes from a broken home. She probably knows of Erykah Badu. Hope she doesn’t consider her to be a role model. That’s why I have a problem with things like this. Our kids are learning from what they see, hear, and read. it may seem harmless to many but our kids brains’ are fertile ground just waiting for seeds to be planted in them. That’s why I care.

You can’t beat having a “father” in the home.

I serve my wife and my wife serves me. I respect her and would literally lay down my life for her and my children. I do everything in my power to make her happy and she, in turn, does the same for me. I wasn’t born knowing how to be a man; how to treat her. I had training. I learned it from a real man. I learned it from my Father.

and

Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.

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@Kdogg

Nice comments.

HI TEEDY (WAVING) ♥

@Marquis de Sade

yeah FATHERS. Bottom line, we shouldnt judge.

It is true that you can’t beat a father at home! I agree with that statement!

True QUEENS in every sense of the word don’t make the same mistakes trice . . . nor do they have children with more than one man. Sure, relationships don’t work, but the Badu household has got to be a circus at holiday time. . . Seven’s going with Andre December 24-26, Butterfly’s flying off with dad for New Years . . .and the new one will be at home with mom

Again, why does the fact that this woman have 3 kids by 3 men make her a bad mother???

Any child regardless of your parental upbringing(married or unwed) can be a healthy, productive, and revolutionary member of the society as long as you have people that love you and teach you right and wrong

Is it wrong to bear a child without being married??? Only one can truly answer that

@kigali

likewise…u2

Erykah is a grown woman who can afford her children. She is not depending on welfare or the government to do the job for her. If you can afford that many kids and want them, do it. it’s a free country and at least she takes care of her children. I do not take care of her children, as some one else said, she does. I buy her music because I like her as an artist; I’m not judgemental (I am Christian and believe and practice what Jesus said) enough to criticize her personal life. It AMAZES me that some people who go around spouting Christianity are some of the most hateful, judgemental people I’ve ever seen. If some of us would spend as much time worrying about ourselves as we do butting into other people’s business we would be a better society.

I just love how we do this. How about you stand up for what you say? Go into the community where this is a problem and speak out. That is where it is needed. When have you ever heard anything negative about her and her kids…or her relationships? I live in Dallas, she mines her own. We should to. Is she requesting help? Is she having difficulites coping? Why do women think that having a husband gives you a pass into a different world? Like now that I am his wife the kids will grow up to be well adjusted? We women should be smarter than that by now. Why do we judge women to a different standard? For all of you judgers…take it from a person that has been married…it is not all that you think. I feel more connected to the dude i’ve been with for 10 years (not married) than I ever was with my husband. Marriage is something that we were told by the Catholic church was the right thing to do. If we Black Americans were still in Africa, do you think you would be married to one man and raise only your children with him? Do you think you would live your life as you do now? Do you think you would follow what was never in our nature? Think more for yourselves.

that isn’t true queen

and her daughter’s name is PUMA

I feel you both KDOGG and SLIIDE

@HEY MS.SWALLS(Waving back)-You know we are gonna need cocktails after this one.

Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.

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Yeah, bruh but it takes two you know. Its right what you are saying, but only in a perfect world. In my opinion, its a Black Male shortage in America, that why you got a lot of women out here playing second, third, and sometime fourth to a man. Its a shame how a lot of Black Men are locked up or homosexuals. My example growing up was my Father too.

I know how interact without using judgement, I didnt learn this in college, job, nathan, it’s a real staple value people should have, here’s the secret: think before you speak. HUH? lol

If you picked up that I know her from what I posted on a blog that’s your mistake!

“I picture” her and “I saw her” are two different things!

WHY YOU MIGHT ASK?

Her Past behavior!

It sounds to me like some are taking this a little too personally.

I’m not an advocate for marriage or against smoking weed but exposing children to certain elements that can be harmful (i.e. random men) is not OK.

It’s fine for an adult, not children. There are some who will say “you’re not in her life” or “what about white celebrities” but I don’t consider them apart of the black community, they don’t have our problems. Last I checked Ms. Badu makes her money off urban audiences, surely your not suggesting we give her a pass but attack rappers for promoting certain lifestyles?

Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators (fka Keepin’ It Real – D’Original)(Check me out!)

Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.

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Kdogg…why no mention of the decisions of men? Again, like I said, men don’t see the responsibility being on other men. Most of them will choose to blame the woman and make her out to be the dumb one when the true dummy is the one sleeping in the shelter with no family to take care of his old sickly behind because he CHOSE not to be in his child’s life.

Also, I am still waiting for ANYONE to explain to me how a majority…shoot even HALF of our women are supposed to have committed child bearing relationships with men when there aren’t enough men to pass around. It’s easy to point fingers and ask Black women to just stop having sex since they outnumber their men but that is just not realistic. It is also against the law for a man to marry more than one woman at a time in this country. I see no one can answer that….

TEEDY

I am glad this topic was started because I have a question for everyone. How can you blame a woman (any race) for a system that is set up to reward wrong doing??? If a young woman is trying to work and put herself through school there are little or no resources set up to help her. When I was in college I tried to get food stamps to help me out a little so at least I could have a little cash put aside that I did not have to speed on food. Boy did I have to jump through a million hoops before I was DENIED because I had a part-time job. Now if you take a girl who was the same age as me but she had a kid out of wedlock she is given food stamps, welfare, free or low-rent housing and health care for her and the child. Now tell why don’t we offer those same things to young girls trying to better themselves???????? Maybe if we did we would see a trend of girls getting degrees instead of getting pregnant.

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Again, talk about where I’d rather my tax dollars b spent!

Money at it, we had plenty but what we didn’t have was my MOTHER. Please save yourself!

@WhodatsaidDat?

LOL, OUTBREAK OF BLOGS, LMAO. SOME PEOPLE, I TELL YOU, SO BUSY POINTING THAT ONE FINGER AT OTHERS, NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO THE 3 POINTING RIGHT BACK AT THEM ON THEIR OWN HAND.

Being able to afford the children is not the issue. They are not pets. They need more than just food and shelter. Her spring-loaded thighs, are the issue.

Answering two posters here….I’ve had sex with more than one man (sometimes at the same time CTFU), but only ONE child. As for unwed motherhood, that’s not the issue. It’s continuing to do so and expecting everyone else to co-sign that it’s right. I have a cousin in her late 50′s that has 6 kids and 4 baby daddy’s. She’s triflin’ too!!! Marriage doesn’t make you a good parent, but having common damn sense goes a long way to help parenting.

I’m Sliding Like a Fresh Pair of Gators here ’cause he couldn’t have said it better. If we learned to love ourselves, FIRST, we wouldn’t look for solice in some man’s arms. Not every man a woman encounters is husband or baby daddy material. We have to learn to know the difference. If we learn to maintain some type of emotional or spiritual bond with someone BEFORE physical, we’d make better family planning choices. If any of you here making comments met someone who had five children by five different men would you step back or hit that in hopes of becoming #6? Would you think, damn, she’s got to have some good P with 5 kids? Or would you strap up first?

some women get all googled eye*

@ Illuminate Truth

That’s true, it is a cycle. I think that’s the problem as well, once the home isn’t healthy we naturally look for comfort elsewhere making this situations hard to avoid. Its difficult for a girl without a responsible father or a guy with a negative view of women or no male influence to turn down intimacy from the opposite sex when its right in from of them.

What we are discussing are the principles which should be taught throughout our community. We don’t have to judge Eryka but pretending like she should be admired doesn’t do anyone any good.

@ Keeping it Real

I agree with you. But some men still will hit that without strapping up.

Oh and Erykah Badu is more of a role model than many fake Black women in hollywood. She promotes love of the Black self. She doesn’t walk around half naked trying to be white.

For you to insinuate that she is a terrible person because her children aren’t all fathered by the same man is just ridiculous. If you even distinguished ‘role model for relationships’ I could understand but to take one of our TRUE Black women who is ALSO just as much hands on in her Black community, no record, no blond weaves and plastic surgery, no outrageous drug abuse, no self hatred and demonize her because of her children???? wooowwww

A few points we should all clear up:

Everyone who is saying that we shouldnt judge her, are clearly those who were raised by women. Women, because they have a desire to be loved and like will not risk it by judging. So they dont do it, eventhough they should and not be ashamed to do it. This is a problem with women that demonstrates the importance of man. A man will be less inhibited by his desire to be liked and will say the things that need to be said.

Because she can doesnt mean she should.

Because she can afford it doesnt mean she should. The government doesnt support a crackhead’s addiction, doesnt mean they should remain on crack.

Children want to be raised by their fathers not visited by their fathers. There is a difference.

And just because not every marraige doesnt work doesnt mean we shouldnt try it. Not ever college grad will become a millionare but it doesnt mean we shouldnt go and finish.

For all those people who have and will make mistakes in the future, that doesnt mean you cant stand up for what is right and not validate what is wrong. You will not allow your children to run wild because of your past or future mistakes.

ANYONE THAT DOESNT AGREE WITH ME SHOULD BE STERILIZED. just kidding.

I know I had the children’s names wrong . . but we’ve got to start making better decisions POINT BLANK

I am still going to bump Annie Dont Wear No Panties…but come the hell on Ms. Badu!!!!!!!!This is why I left her & Lauryn Hill alone in the first place!! This is so NOT whats up!! Personal life or not!! Just a continuing cycle…when will it stop?!! It’s not OK to have children out of wedlock much less 3 kids with 3 differnt men..what messages does that teach her children?! Like what does this teach the world?! But then again….one of her 3 children may be the next president or something…I guess vegans dont use condoms!! Gooooooodnight!!

“Our community has come to accept poor behavior and lets be honest when expectations are set low enough anyone will meet them and its sad.” Can’t get more to the point than that!

@Z, you’re right, but all P ain’t good P . . . and some is more fertile than others.

Kigali

*sigh* you can’t see past the end of your nose and its sad. for real.

@HF

The System has to weigh the most efficient way to help ppl in the community. if you have another LIFE on the way and NO WAY in the world to support, but you have a COLLEGE student, not high school, hun COLLEGE, who’s atleast employed and just needs a lil help..what would you do if you were the caseworker? sometimes you gotta sacrifice and see the bigger picture, maybe that wouldve been a good time to evaluate your diet life.. Go liquid till ya graduate, you’ll look great!lol HUH?..oh..

Keeping it Real(

If any of you here making comments met someone who had five children by five different men would you step back or hit that in hopes of becoming #6? Would you think, damn, she’s got to have some good P with 5 kids? Or would you strap up first?

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Sheeet…… I’d step back so far and fast, I’d bump into Harriet ‘n ‘em building the underground railroad!

And naw, I wouldn’t think the kitty must b good because she has 5 kids, I’d think that after 5 kids, that thing must b looser than a fugitive!

How the hell u women expect to get married if you have three kids by three fathers? Im not going to have three guys coming to my house to see their kids while im at work.

spring-loaded thighs?? OOOOO..HOw do I get those? man..HUH..lol

Judgemental people kills me

@HF you so crazy! LOLLLLLLLLLL

Amen @ keeping it real & Amen @ kigail!! So on point!!

When will it stop!! **sighing**

I find it really interesting that the men are making the most sense on this subject. It’s even more interesting the sisters that are arguing with them about the right and wrong of having 3 kids and 3 baby daddy’s. Sometimes listening makes all the difference. Who better to know about a man’s perspective than a man? Could be why some of us find good man after good man even with the man shortage and others of us can’t get 1/2 a man.

@ HF that was directed to that comment..sorry I’m a quick scan reader..

DEAD@ bumping into Harriet on the railroad…

Kigali, wrong. i was raised by two parents and raised my son with my husband. I DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE. Because you say something is right for you doesn’t make it right for everyone. learn what it means to get out of other people’s business. That would help the world.

ROUND OF APPLAUSE FOR SASSI!

QUESTION TO THE SINGLE WOMEN CONDEMNING ERYKAH BADU:

Do you know that your chances of actually getting married, having children with only that man, never divorcing AND never becoming a single mother are very slim in this day and age? Why fight it? Practice abstinence, take up a hobby and commmit your life to volunteer work. Nothing is wrong with that…

Women need to start screening who they sleep with instead of blaming the man.Are u going to have kids by every guy you meet and then blame the man for leaving?

WhodatsaidDat?

@HF

The System has to weigh the most efficient way to help ppl in the community. if you have another LIFE on the way and NO WAY in the world to support, but you have a COLLEGE student, not high school, hun COLLEGE, who’s atleast employed and just needs a lil help..what would you do if you were the caseworker? sometimes you gotta sacrifice and see the bigger picture, maybe that wouldve been a good time to evaluate your diet life.. Go liquid till ya graduate, you’ll look great!lol HUH?..oh..

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Mmm, I c what u r saying here, and though that was the ORIGINAL intention of welfare, unfortunately at this point, I’d pick the college student 2 give my money 2. I agree with Malcolm X when it comes 2 welfare: it encourages laziness and dependency. Sure there r folks on welfare who TRULY need the help, but those seem 2 b getting farther between. I’m just being honest.

@realwoman, we have to learn to occupy ourselves with more than a man. some people are relationship addicts . . jump from one to the other and never know who they are because their whole existence depends on what their mate is into. we’ve got to get to know ourselves, love ourselves, make better choices and give the P to those deserving–TRUST THAT AIN’T EVERY MAN YOU MEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really wonder what xmas is like in her household? “ok seven you’ll go to ur daddies and puma you’ll go to yours and the new one…well i’ll figure it out.” kids need to be brought up in a stable environment with the same. not families spread all over the country. could you imagine her tryin to settle down with one man and all of her kids fathers have to comw get their kids? c’mon its tacky. as i said before YOU DO NOT AND SHOULD NOT HAVE BABIES WITH EVERY PERSON YOU’RE IN A REALTIONSHIP WITH. Just because you can have, doesn’t always mean you should. This selfish way of thinking that we have in this society is pathetic. All this garabge talk about its her decision. Yeah it is but her decisions are gonna effect someone elses life that didnt ask to be here. thats why the black family and community is all messed up because of this “me me me” way of thinking.

Women need to start screening who they sleep with instead of blaming the man.Are u going to have kids by every guy you meet and then blame the man for leaving?

Amen, accountability works both ways.

@ Illuminate Truth

That is so true. I spent the first 9 years of my life growing up in the PJ’s and I remember my father would have to leave the house on the days we had a house inspection because you are not supposed to have a man living with you if you get government aid. My parents were not lazy infact both of them worked but my father was still in school so they were not making that much money at the time and my mother would have to get paid under the table just so she would not lose our medical benifits and her housing but it is just odd to me that they would come up with a rule that keeps families apart and when I look at how we as young people view relationships today no one can tell me that a government system like this one has nothing to do with it.

yanib(Check me out!)

Who better to know about a man’s perspective than a man? Could be why some of us find good man after good man even with the man shortage and others of us can’t get 1/2 a man.

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Yanib if the first man was so good why would you have to find another man? hmmmmmm

WHERE in this world is having three kids by three different men a good decision.

Black people, black people–convincing ourselves that our poor decisions are somehow okay and forcing others to accept them is bad business and greatly explains our plight.

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@dubya

We KEEP ON letting dysfunctional s#it be acceptable…

That’s why our community has soo many problems and that’s the root of all our problems (*in a nutshell, there’s more to it but I’m busy and can’t get into today)…

One main reason for our current plight is the destruction of the traditional family structure within our community = husband, wife & children in one solid family…

The IDEAL & BEST scenario for healthy development for a child(ren) is to see two adults (male & female) in a loving & solid relationship…

Within that you see how to handle problems and deal with life and actually learn things like good communication, compromising, love… on a first hand basis before you go out into the world and have to deal with bulls#it…

The whole point I’m trying to make is that WE NEED TO AIM FOR THE IDEAL situation to raise our kids in so as to achieve the BEST RESULTS and stop letting dysfunctional bulls#it become acceptable and the norm for ourselves, no where else in society do we see it that’s part of the reason why we are where we are today…

@realwoman

I agree that all of us need to wake up. I wasn’t blaming women in that statement. I was pointing out that women have more power than they realize. Women need to be more selective when giving up their bodies.

I was watching the Discovery channel the other day. This male bird was trying to get the female’s attention for mating. First he had to be brightly colored with shiny feathers. This lets the female know that he is indeed healthy. Then he had to build this elaborate nest and adorn it with colorful and bright objects. that meant he knew how to work/provide. He then had to present himself to her and do this even more elaborate dance to get her attention. That meant he would cater to her and serve her. The first female didn’t like him so she flew off. Others didn’t seem to like the nest. Some didn’t like the dance. Finally, one inspected everything, liked it and she allowed him to mate.

If our women were as selective. If they would only choose healthy/capable black men that will provide for them as well as serve them.

Instead our women fall for the wannabe unambitious, unemployed thugs, with no desire to serve their woman.

Some of our women are just looking at the flashy objects but not inspecting the nest. Some only care about his looks but overlook his unwillingness to serve. Know the man before you have a baby with him.

@SUGAR WALLS

TELL ME ABOUT IT (JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE) EVERYONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT WHAT WOULD BETTER THE BLACK COMMUNITY, BUT MY QUESTION IS DO YOU LIVE IT? DO YOU PUSH THIS INTO THE EARS OF THE YOUTH IN YOUR COMMUNITY? DO YOU WALK SO STRAIGHT AND NARROW THAT YOU NEVER MISS A BEAT, NEVER FALL INTO A TRAP, NEVER KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO LIVE FOOLISHLY, AND NOT KNOW YOUR WAY UNTIL SOMEONE THAT TRULY LOVES YOU, BRINGS GOD’S WAY TO YOUR ATTENTION? DONT GET ME WRONG, SOME OF YOU HAVE SOME GOOD POINTS, BUT HOW MANY OF YOU TURN STRAIGHT AWAY FROM YOUR COMPUTER, AND DO THINGS WAY MORE FOOLISH THAN ERYKAH HAVING 3 DIFFERENT B/D’S, AND FIND NOTHING WRONG WITH WHAT YOU DO? IS SHE RIGHT? WELL OF COURSE SHE AINT RIGHT. BUT WHO GAVE MAN(KIND) THE RIGHT TO BE SO HARSH AND JUDGEMENTAL? ESPECIALLY WHEN MAN(KIND) CANNOT STAND TO BE TOLD THAT THEY ARE WRONG ABOUT ANYTHING. THATS WHY IT FEELS SO GOOD TO POINT AT OTHERS, YOU CAN EASILY IGNORE YOUR OWN MISTAKES, AND MISHAPS. GODS WORD SAYS THAT ALL HAVE SINNED AND FALLEN SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD. AND WHILE YOU TALK ABOUT WHAT IS SINFUL, INCORRECT BEFORE THE EYES OF GOD, SO FORTH AND SO ON, GOD HIMSELF SAID THAT THE WAGES OF “ALL” SIN ARE DEATH. HE DIDNT SEPERATE LYING FROM STEALING, OR KILLING FROM ADULTERY. SO ONCE AGAIN, ANY OF YOU WITHOUT SIN, CAST THE FIRST STONE!! BUT EVEN HE HAS MERCY. AND IF HE HAS PLACED IT ON YOUR HEART TO KNOW WHAT IS WRONG, THEN HE HAS ALSO GIVEN YOU A MINDFUL, UN-JUDGEMENTAL WAY TO SAY WHAT NEEDS TO BE SAID. POINT BLANK. THE BEST SUGGESTION IVE READ ON HERE WAS AT THE BEGINNING OF THE POST WHERE SOMEONE ACTUALLY SAID “DO NOT JUDGE HER, BUT PRAY FOR HER”. THAT WAY EVEN IF SHE DOES NOT KNOW, SHE CAN BE BROUGHT TO THE UNDERSTANDING. BUT SOME PEOPLE TODAY, GEESH!!

DinaLee(Check me out!)

Kigali, wrong. i was raised by two parents and raised my son with my husband. I DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE. Because you say something is right for you doesn’t make it right for everyone. learn what it means to get out of other people’s business. That would help the world.

So i guess that Barack Obama should stay out of black folks business all so, seein’ as how he, last night addressed the NAACP about the same subject: THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND A LACK OF FAMILY VALUES AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

@IlluminateTruth

I feel you brotha, I wouldn’t want my girls to follow her lead but at the same time I wouldn’t want them to be unhappily married to man with his children either

In a perfect world, men and women get married have children and raise a family together. In this day and age, that’s hard to achieve. I think she has found a way to balance motherhood, career, and her personal life while remaining strong and firm. The men in her life all seem to have a connection with her and her children, that’s a beautiful thing family

Everyone who is saying that we shouldnt judge her, are clearly those who were raised by women. Women, because they have a desire to be loved and like will not risk it by judging. So they dont do it, eventhough they should and not be ashamed to do it. This is a problem with women that demonstrates the importance of man. A man will be less inhibited by his desire to be liked and will say the things that need to be said.

@kigali

I have mixed feelings about this comment. The desire to be accepted by peers is just as strong for men as it is women. It is absurd to say that I refuse to judge her because Im hoping for someone to come love me. I determine my value based on my accomplishments, the people I surround myself with, most importantly the love I have for myself.

Too many women value themselves based on the judgements of men. As a result you find women constantly comparing themselves to others and trying to point out the next persons flaws without dealing with their own. Women are so insecure and its because of what men think and what they think men want.

The importance of the man in relationships is understated however your comments suggest that if more men judge women everything will be fine. Im hoping youll clarify that because I enjoy reading what you write.

Erykah, Erykah, Erykah. . .you’re pregnant by a third man? I rocked to “Tyrone,” and you’re getting impregnated by him in real life? I jammed to your lyrics about the men who “ain’t ready” and you’re in your 30s dating/sleeping with thugs (i.e. The D.O.C.)? So disappointing.

A friend of mine joked that we should file a class action suit from the Sisterhood against Lauryn Hill for preaching empowerment and then going off the deep end. Should we add you to it?

@SoSo,

Please wear your ideas on a shirt so no man will mistake you for a marriage material.

Thanks.

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Marriage and staying with one person for the rest of ur life is not for everyone. I dont think she should keep making babies with multiple men but if she does SO WHAT? as long as her children know their daddies and everyone’s happy, who cares? Is she supposed to stick with one man and be unhappy just because they have a baby together or should she move on with her life? I think its a worst situation to keep making babies with someone u know isn’t for u. If she loved her men at the time and they were together for years then I cant judge her for wanting to have a baby. Would an abortion be better? Whats the big dealll! there are worst situations a child can be bought into. Marriage does not make things any better. U can get married and divorced 3 times and wind up with 3 kids. It happens.

Scenario 1: Mother of two has house fire. All is lost. Baby daddy #1 replaces his child’s belongings before the weekend was over. Happy child. Baby daddy #2…wait anybody seen him lately? Sad child. Forget how good a mother she is. Forget what baby daddy did or didn’t do. How do these girls feel?

Scenario #2 – College time. Baby Daddy #1 doesn’t even acknowledge his daughter in passing. Struggling her way through community college. Baby Daddy #2 did the college visits, helps pay tuition, tricked out the dorm and sends allowance. Goes to Loyola. Good mom, but what about the kids.

Scenario #3 – Baby daddy #1 is unknown as mama took 3 different dudes to court for paternity. Baby Daddy #2 front and center along with all his extended family. Mama done got herself together, but what about the kids.

All three scenarios have played out in the lives of three different women I know. It’s not about what we are grown enough to do. It’s about doing what’s right.

@WhodatsaidDat?

I’m with Illuminate Truth on this one. Now adays you have women who live like Erykah but don’t have the singing career to back them up and they depend on the system to support their kids because they love and have babies with men who just don’t give a damn. Now that I have graduated and I’m paying taxes of my own I would much rather see my money go to a girl like me who has to struggle for her education rather than someone who is lying on her back making babies all day.

@SUGAR WALLS

GIRL, THESE FOLKS GOT MY NOSE FLARING OVER HERE!!(LOL)

Keeping it Real(Check me out!)

@realwoman, we have to learn to occupy ourselves with more than a man. some people are relationship addicts . . jump from one to the other and never know who they are because their whole existence depends on what their mate is into. we’ve got to get to know ourselves, love ourselves, make better choices and give the P to those deserving–TRUST THAT AIN’T EVERY MAN YOU MEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I agree partially but lets keep it really real. Most adults like to have sex. Most adults will have sex. Sex is natural in humans. The only time our physical body can give back is bying procreating. The sexes are not paired up perfectly in terms of NUMBERS.

It is unrealistic to think that those who don’t have partners they are legally bound to will just up and die or never have sex. With sex comes the potential of pregnancy. No matter how many fingers wag there will and always has been multiple births to one woman by different fathers. Either you kill off the excess female population or threaten to castrate the male population stepping out on their monogamous relationships.

realwoman….good doesn’t mean he’s the one for you.

Re: “So i guess that Barack Obama should stay out of black folks business all so, seein’ as how he, last night addressed the NAACP about the same subject: THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND A LACK OF FAMILY VALUES AND ACCOUNTABILITY.”

I like and respect Obama, and agree that fathers should be there for their children. I believe he was addressing men who father babies and then assume no responsibility (financial or otherwise). However, he is the next president of the United States and as such has an obligation to be a role model. Erykah Badu is an artist and an my son doesn’t look to her as a role model. I don’t know why anyone should. Take a look a the personal lives of artists, you will find a lot of non-traditional lifestyles. Erykah states in her rant that she has solid relationships with the men and that they are good fathers.

@Kigali,

I was raised with a mother and father in the household as well. Bottom line, you shouldnt judge the lady

RAISE OTHER MEN CHILDREN

I find it really interesting that the men are making the most sense on this subject. It’s even more interesting the sisters that are arguing with them about the right and wrong of having 3 kids and 3 baby daddy’s. Sometimes listening makes all the difference. Who better to know about a man’s perspective than a man? Could be why some of us find good man after good man even with the man shortage and others of us can’t get 1/2 a man.

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@yanib

THANK YOU!!!

Some of these women are FOREVER blaming men, BUT YET never look at themselves or even bother to consider the fact that the REAL problem MAY lie within themselves and their poor decision making = evaluating men on shallow characteristics instead of solid characteristics…

Let me break it down for you as simple as I can:

Ladies, when choosing a man why don’t you look for one that you admire and can see as a true “husband” and good “father”…

Some of y’all are slow, so let me repeat myself = look for “husband” & “father”…

If you don’t see that man that your dating being a “good husband” and “good father” get out of the relationship or your wasting your time if indeed you want to be in a serious relationship…

Diana Lee

No he was addressing the black community as a whole. You can’t single out blackmen and not the women who chose to have children with an irresponsible loser. Accountability has to be shared.

ms sugar walls which of my comments are you responding to?

@SoSo,

I’ve got to ask, if she loved these men enough to make kids why not get married? I mean you cant unmake a child but you can divorce and never see the man again. A child is such a bigger commitment and the stakes are huge. I am sorry but if you are with someone for a long time, as an adult then you should consider marriage. It is good for adults. If that man or that woman doesnt want to marry after a long relationship than move on.

@Earth Sign,

I already wrote ‘judging and dont care’ into my screen name. Now I have to.

It is unrealistic to think that those who don’t have partners they are legally bound to will just up and die or never have sex. With sex comes the potential of pregnancy. No matter how many fingers wag there will and always has been multiple births to one woman by different fathers. Either you kill off the excess female population or threaten to castrate the male population stepping out on their monogamous relationships.

Females only outnumber men by 2%. The disparagy in the black community. Because of issues like this. What if the men had nothing do with the kids? Everybody would be blaming them, but in actuality she has purposely chosen to bring these children in without fathers. Marriage symbolizes commitment.

@ sugar walls

If you are responding to this post the first paragraph quoted from kigali and the latter is my response.

I dont understand what is not clear or what you are responding to.

“as quoted by kigali”

Everyone who is saying that we shouldnt judge her, are clearly those who were raised by women. Women, because they have a desire to be loved and like will not risk it by judging. So they dont do it, eventhough they should and not be ashamed to do it. This is a problem with women that demonstrates the importance of man. A man will be less inhibited by his desire to be liked and will say the things that need to be said.

@kigali

I have mixed feelings about this comment. The desire to be accepted by peers is just as strong for men as it is women. It is absurd to say that I refuse to judge her because Im hoping for someone to come love me. I determine my value based on my accomplishments, the people I surround myself with, most importantly the love I have for myself.

Too many women value themselves based on the judgements of men. As a result you find women constantly comparing themselves to others and trying to point out the next persons flaws without dealing with their own. Women are so insecure and its because of what men think and what they think men want.

The importance of the man in relationships is understated however your comments suggest that if more men judge women everything will be fine. Im hoping youll clarify that because I enjoy reading what you write.

@ ASHCAKES

WHOEVER SAID THAT THE PEOPLE THAT ARE JUDGING CLEARLY WAS RAISED WITHOUT FATHERS

@ ms sugar walls

If you have read my previous posts i have been calling against the judgement of badu.

While sex may seem to be a 50/50 act, the possible consequences are definitely not shared equally. That is why the onus is on the female to be more responsible in a sexual relationship. She is way more susceptible to catching a disease and she is the only one that can get pregnant.

That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation. And I still believe that if the woman did this, the men would have to shape up.

only God can judge Erykah. She can care for her children, so she should have as many as God blesses her with.

Now if everyone who is sitting back judging would take care of their own. If you don’t have kids then how about you go out and make a difference in someone’s child’s life. Donate money to children’s programs, join big brother’s and sisters, volunteer at your community centers and local churchs. Visit an orphanage. Be a mentor to a child. Do something besides sit back and run your mouths!

LET’S ALL DO OUR PART AND UPLIFT EACH OTHER INSTEAD OF TEARING EACH OTHER APART. ALL CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING FOR THEY OUR ARE FUTURE!!!!

IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD.

I guess she told yall nosey, judging asses!!! (whomever commented negatively about her)!!! AMEN SISTER!!She is so right, people really need to mind their own damn business and worry about their own homes. Regardless if you agree or not with it, who are YOU to judge HER??

She can hold her own, WE don’t have to take care of HER children, so why comment??

If she likes it, I love it!!

I never said that people who are judging were not raised by fathers. Ma read the entire post before responding. My parents were married and my father was an absentee crackhead. I never said a judgemental comment not once and that was without a positive male influence in my life.

@Z,

Im not worried about you sista. I know you will do the right thing but I just wish you wanted to for everyone else.

SORRY ASHCAKES

“Diana Lee

No he was addressing the black community as a whole. You can’t single out blackmen and not the women who chose to have children with an irresponsible loser. Accountability has to be shared.”

Again, I respect what he, as the next leader of the free world and role model says. Erykah, is not a world leader. Everyone will not do what Obama says, and and a presidential candidate he should put it out there. That’s what leaders do.

Thank you Sucker Free!!! Say it again!!! Most people on here that’s speaking negatively don’t want to anything constructive like helping one another, all they want to do is hate on each other and cause unneccessary hate amongst us and we’re wondering why our coomunity is in such chaos. I’m afraid that it’s only going to get worse too!

community, my bad!

So is agreeing with her not judging? It goes both ways. People are commenting because this is a blog.

KDogg(Check me out!)

@realwoman

Some of our women are just looking at the flashy objects but not inspecting the nest. Some only care about his looks but overlook his unwillingness to serve. Know the man before you have a baby with him.

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@ Kdogg..again, I would agree to this if we had an even playing field. Now if the ratio was more like 7:4, then maybe..but 7:1?? This means that only 14% of our Black population would be able to have a relationship and children. Could someone..anyone, just explain how in the hell the remaining 86% of women are supposed to have children? Please try and give a realistic intelligent solution instead of just spouting off about how wrooooong it is to have children out of wedlock and with different partners.

@ sugar walls

I appreciate it nothing but love. Its a good issue to discuss because it can go in so many directions

Again, I respect what he, as the next leader of the free world and role model says. Erykah, is not a world leader. Everyone will not do what Obama says, and and a presidential candidate he should put it out there. That’s what leaders do.

What makes Barack more of a role model? So do you consider Bush a role model for your children? She’s a role model to her own children, and it sets a bad example.

As long as my taxpayer money isn’t paying for her three children, I don’t see what the big deal is. People really care about her uterus that much?? What is the world coming too?

@ realwoman

I agree with you, to some degree. Yes, sex is an act that is inherent to all human beings. Men and women love sex, and that won’t change. However, there are numerous ways to prevent the conception of a child, so I don’t understand why there are so many “repeat offenders.” There are SO many contraceptives out there that there really is NO excuse repeatedly getting pregnant. I used to work for an OBGYN and we would see hoodrats deliver their babies and next thing you know they are back in the clinic talking about they are pregnant again within the year!

No one is perfect and mistakes happen but when they happen over and over again then you have to question the source. We should not judge Erika for her lifestyle, but what we can do is question her choices.

The bottom line is im not going to marry a female with three baby daddies so how in the hell you females get mad when we just hit and run? what yall expect us to stay?

Until we all accept that it takes two to CREATE a child. Some men will always use US as a cop-out. This is what I call the dead beat syndrome.

Yes women are the ones who give birth, but we do not CREATE alone. We are not savage animals, but human beings. And as long as men have this silly idea that it’s more on the woman, we will forever be doomed…….we they will anyway.

You hear more cases of women wanting children and going to get fertalized on purpose because of this very same unlogical theory. You never hear a man accepting the fact that he will raise his child alone, and right now he’s going to a doctor to find a woman to just carry it for him.

Stop living with your eyes wide shut!! I am a Queen who will have a child one day, and I will try my damn best to pick the best candidate. But if to no avail I never do, or I do and he turns to be sour. My beautiful child will be loved and placed on a throne just the same.

Erykah do you….yes do you, because your kids ARE YOU, and by loving and caring for yourself, in return they will be loved and cared for as well.

@ MARQUIS DE SADE

WOW. yeah i was about to say the same thing.

Isn’t it funny how people seems to yell the loudest when they know they are doing wrong. I couldn’t give a flying rip what she does in her personal life. But if I gonna spend $18 on her CD, you better make damn sure it good and not a whole bunch of songs haten on your fans because they called you out on your personal life.

@ Nina Knows

*WAVING FRANTICALLY*

Hey girl!!

I believe in shared responsibility, but I’m going to have to second KDogg’s statement: “That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation.”

As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs (in other words, conduct yourself like a lady and carry yourself home). It has taken years for me to realize and to grasp how much control I have over the type of behavior/treatment I allow into my life. I believe in shared responsibility, but I’m going to have to second KDogg’s statement: “That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation.”

As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs (in other words, conduct yourself like a lady and carry yourself home). It has taken years for me to realize and to grasp how much control I have over the type of behavior/treatment I allow into my life. If I expect and insist upon men approaching me in a respectable manner, either they will fall in line or leave (and good riddance).

WILL KILL

SO LET ME GET THIS RIGHT..SO I AM THINKING THAT U THINK THAT YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS SOME KIND OD CATCH.OR SOMETHING…WELL IF WE WERE TO JUDGE U….WHAT WOULD U CALL U..FOR RUNNING UP IN A CHICK KNOWING THAT SHE ALREADY HAS THREE KIDS?

A KING, A REAL MAN..IM JUST SAYING

@trs

You know I see you boo!! As always one love.

@ Southern bella

D-TOWN REPRESENTER!!!!! lol

Straight out of Duncan-cliff! lol (Duncanville and Oak Cliff)

GET EM BADU-THIS MOFOS CAN GO TO HELL

AS LONG AS YOUR BABIES AINT ON NOBODY’S WELFARE ROLE & YOUR CHILDREN ARE BEING CARED FOR AND ARE NOT AT HARM OR ANY DANGER, IT AINT NONE OF OUR DAMN BUSINESS HOW MANY BABIES YOU HAVE

NUFF RESPECT BADU-SHOW THESE NICCAS THEY CAN’T CONTROL YOU BY SELLING YOU A DREAM THAT ONE DAY IF YOU “ACT RIGHT OR DO AS I SAY” I JUST MIGHT MARRY YOU

GUESS WHAT NEWS FLASH……EVERY BLACK WOMAN AINT DYING TO GET MARRIED NOR DOES SHE FEEL AS THOUGH IT MAKES HER ANY LESS OF A WOMAN IF SHE ISN’T MARRIED

YOU CAN STILL BE A MOTHER W/O HUSBAND, WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENS WHEN YOU BLACK MEN TURN YOUR BACK ON YOUR OWN FAMILIES AND COMMUNITIES, WE ADAPT AND ADJUST AND KEEP ON LIVING

LOL-LIKE SHE SAID SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE THREE FATHER’S OF HER CHILDREN, AND THEY ARE IN THEIR CHILDREN’S LIVES-SO WHAT’S THE CRIME?

BLACK MEN ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO CONTROL A WOMAN’S PU$$Y-HELL HOLD UP TO THE SAME STANDARDS YOU HOLD WOMEN TO AND MAYBE WE WOULD GIVE A DAMN ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK-UNTIL THEN KICK ROCKS…………

@ Nina Knows

Right back atcha girl!! Good posts!!

Oops! I accidentally switched a sentence in my post. Here’s the correct version:

I believe in shared responsibility, but I’m going to have to second KDogg’s statement: “That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation.”

As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs (in other words, conduct yourself like a lady and carry yourself home). It has taken years for me to realize and to grasp how much control I have over the type of behavior/treatment I allow into my life. If I expect and insist upon men approaching me in a respectable manner, either they will fall in line or leave (and good riddance).

@Marquis de Sade

NOW THOUGH I DO NOT AGREE WITH BEING HARSH IN ANYWAY AS FAR AS JUDGING MS.BADU, I DO BELIEVE THAT THE SYSTEM IS SET UP TO EASY FOR THE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WISH TO BETTER THEMSELVES AND USE PUBLIC ASSISTANCE “JUST FOR” GETTING ON THEIR FEET. AND IM NOT SAYING THAT EVERYONE IS LIKE THAT, BUT THERE ARE QUITE A FEW THAT ARE.

sydney said, “As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs”

LMAO!

I don’t care if you have a BILLION BABIES as long as I don’t have to pay for them out of my check and that goes for any race; black women don’t get half of the assistance being given and that’s a fact. Keeping your legs closed is not the issue, I have a very healthy sex life and I have yet to get caught up with a kid. There is a big differnce between Erykah and the “hoodrat”, she is not taking any dollars out of my pocket so let her do her thing. You can’t make a man stay with a woman or vice versa but if you make them, man or woman, be sure you can afford your kids and have enough time and love to give them and it sounds like Erykah has all those things. Maybe she is not looking to get married one day so she does not care that a man won’t marry a woman with 3 baby daddies. Maybe there is a man waiting for a ready made family to take care of, maybe he will love her that much. We don’t know so we can’t judge.

@TEEDY

COSIGN!! YOU TELL EM DAMMIT!! TIRED OF MY STATE TAXES BEING ABUSED!! MY ARGUMENT FROM THE DAMNED BEGINNING!! LMAO!

I think that she is making alot of mistakes and then going on a rant in this manner to justify her misconduct. It is inappropriate to continue to have children without the benefit of marriage and a father being in the home. It is uneccessary to have children with every man you have a relationship with.

If there’s such a man shortage, it shouldn’t be too difficult NOT to have 3 babies and 3 baby daddy’s.

How long do you have to be in a relationship with someone to realize that they are no good BEFORE you have kids with them??????

How long do you have to be in a relationship with someone to realize that they are no good BEFORE you have kids with them?????? ?

I DOUBT HIGHLY SHE’S PREGNANT BY ACCIDENT

AND IF THIS STORY WAS ABOUT A MAN HAVING SEVERAL KIDS BY DIFFERENT WOMEN THE RESPONSE WOULD NOT BE THE SAME

AND HEAR ME GOOD, IF A MAN DOESN’T FEEL OBLIGATED TO MARRY A WOMAN JUST BECAUSE SHE IS CARRYING HIS CHILD……THEN WHY IN THE HELL SHOULD PEOPLE EXPECT BADU TO MARRY SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE SHE’S HAVING A BABY-GET BACK AT ME ON THAT ONE…..

I’M DAMN SURE INTERESTED IN HEARING THE RESPONSE…

STOP TRYING TO DICTATE OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES, I CAN C IF SHE WAS A TEENAGE MOTHER COLLECTING WELFARE OR HER KIDS WERE NOT BEING TAKING CARE OF PROPERLY, BUT THAT’S NOT THE CASE…..LET BADU LIVE HER LIFE HER DECISIONS DON’T AFFECT ANYONE ON THIS SITE…

@ IlluminateTruth

No doubt brotha. I think some have gone the extreme on this blog calling her out without knowing the sista.

It’s hard raising these girls brotha, we gotta keep that third eye open at all times!!

@free

When I first told my best friend that line, she cracked up, but she wholeheartedly agreed. She still brings it up. Daddy knows best.

Good afternoon, everyone

@MARQUIS DE SADE

I STRUCK A NERVE SWEETIE HUH-CHILD SUPPORT IS PAID ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD IF YOU DON’T WANT TO PAY IT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR WIFE THAT WAY THE MONEY STAYS IN HOUSE-NOW THAT WOULD BE A SMART MOVE

IF YOU FEEL YOUR SPERM AND WEALTH ARE SO VALUABLE AND YOU KNOW THESE NICCA BIATCHES ARE OUT DIGGING GOLD-WOULD IT BE FAIR TO SAY THAT NICCAS WHO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX AND CREATE BABIES LACK SELF-CONTROL AND PU$$Y MAKES THEIR WORLD GO ROUND-SO INSTEAD OF CHANGING THEIR BEHAVIOR (THAT WOULD BE TOO MUCH LIKE RIGHT & MEN SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO F$CK W/O CONSEQUENCES) THEY CONTINUE TO F$CK THESE NICCA BIATCHES KNOWING THEIR HIDDEN AGENDA-SO WHOSE REALLY THE FOOL?

LOL-

@ kigali Is judging and dont care

Why does marriage have to validate a relationship? There’s no point in gettin married if u dont want to. She might believe that 2 adults can have a solid relationship without being married. She still continues to have solid relationships with these men and these men are still in their children’s life. All 3 of her kids will have a father and a mother. There are so many people who want to have a baby but are not married. Why do u think so many women are artifically inseminating themselves? because they want a baby but haven’t found a suitable partner. How do u feel about adoption? thats a confusing situation as well. There so some many different scenarios as to why a person my have a child out of wedlock. Gays can be married but that dont mean they are more fit parents just cuz their married and decided to stay together for the rest of their lives and have babies or adopt. Its about what works for u. To each its own.

“What makes Barack more of a role model? So do you consider Bush a role model for your children? She’s a role model to her own children, and it sets a bad example.”

Stating the obvious, again, for me and my family, Barack is a role model because he is a black man who will be the next president. For me and my family. i’m sure he’s not for Joe six-pack. Erykah Badu is an artist and not a role model for me and my family. The criminal currenly in the white house is not a role model. For me and my family. intelligent people choose their role models. If Badu provides a loving home, support, prayer and the gift of the time to her children, as she states, then, and again, this is only my opinion, she is a positive role model to them.

@ that sucker Marquis de Sade…

you don’t know me or my ilk so freeze that BS and stop putting words in my mouth. i didn’t say don’t judge or don’t care. i didn’t speak on welfare or social programs. i did not contradict myself at all.

i don’t like to talk about problems, i like to talk about/create solutions. i don’t see a problem with Erykah. There are many children from underprivileged backgrounds in need of a mentor or some type of assistance. Instead of talking about each other, I advised going out and making a difference in a child’s life. I do see a problem with all the mud-slinging, which you do on this site on a daily basis. Who are you and what value are you adding to the world, or are you simply like your screenname, a man unrestrained by morality, religion or law, with the pursuit of personal pleasure being your highest principle?

You better recognize.

Sucker Free, Esq.

MISS BADU CAN DO WHAT EVER THE HELL SHE PLEASES. I AM SURE SHE IS EMOTIONALLY & FINANCIALLY CAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF HER CHILDREN. THE BLACK RACE NEEDS TO PROCREATE WE ARE DROPPING LIKE FLIES ANY WAY .. KEEP MAKING THOSE BEAUTIFUL BLACK KINGS AND QUEENS …. REPLENISH !!!!

I wish men could get preggo….maybe they’d think differently….this whole topic is moot. the cycle will never end and only GOD can judge, so i dont see what all the high and mightiness is about from those judging women, and those only blaming men…it is what it is…a lot of selfish, lusting individuals thinkin about themselves first and not wanting to own up to the consequences afterwards…kudos to the parents (female AND male) that step up and take care of their responsiblities afterward

@Kigali

How is bc i am accepting her choices mean i don’t want what is right for her and her children? All I am saying is no one knows what is btw two ppl but those two ppl. When the door is shut, you don’t know what love flows btw them and what influences decisions that are made. just because you do not understand them, does not make them wrong. at face value it seem yuck, but if u dig and look deeper, u will see how things played out and everything turned out right. I hope that did not sound too sublime, but i don’t feel like writing another book.

Also, to be honest i kind envy women who believe so much in their partner and in their love that tehy will act out on a leap of faith and have this man child. although sometimes things fall apart. I am not that brave and fear making that error, but some women just do it. More power to them. But just bc things did not work out does not mean they cannot move on. she did not have a baby by every man she was with. I know she was with more than 3 men in her lifetime. hell she did not have Common’s child. Thats one lover we know of. but she loved these men and made this choice to rear their child. Lucky her that she can even find not 1 but 3 men she would go there with. I do not judge her at all.

Marquis how can you try to make a point to ppl and insult them at the same time? thats not effective. Just a sidenote i thought i would throw out to you.

@ teedy,

I feel you, the BIGGER picture (and so much has to do with money and budget bullshyt) still has to be seen and evaluated lastly, by the government, and based on the facts of a situation like that,(yknow preggo girl against college student) they will help the person they feel the usage of the funds purpose will be best served used with, opposed to the one more in need but I feel ya though, I’m sure (I hope) they’re purpose is to sustain the welfare of the child, they not thinking about how many more babies this girl may have or how she carries herself, it’s another LIFE that’s apart of the human race that is entering this earth who can’t make decisions for themselves. Decisions have to be made..Good convo!

@ illumniate the truth,

Well u said for “black families” we gotta 1st get a majority of those existing and applying babe,

they’re there I’ve worked in that field, I give programs out like water to anybody I know black that even has a mustard seed goal, now getting approved FOR them well thats another whole set a hoops to jump through..but I totally feel you…

MARQUIS

PROBABLY HAVE CHILDREN SPEADED AROUND LIKE HIS ASS CHEEKS! IM SORRY! I JUST HAD TO SAY THAT!

SORRY MARQUIS! lol

Z

LOL! They should do a movie about you and call it: POLLYANNA IN DA’ HOOD!

How long do you have to be in a relationship with someone to realize that they are no good BEFORE you have kids with them??????

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@kai

Sis, for the life of me – Do you know that is something that I NEVER understood…

Some of these women who complain about their baby’s daddy, knew that he had a whole bunch of bad characteristics to begin with and did not have the qualities of someone who would be a “good husband” and/or “good father”…

Always talkin’ ’bout, my baby’s father “ain’t sh#t” – but they knew he wasn’t sh#t to begin with… And suffer because they chose not to MAKE IT THEIR business to make sure they didn’t get pregnant by him…

Yeah, yeah – I know I’m gonna get it takes 2, but whatever you could of done something to prevent the situation…

Marquis de Sade, you need some serious therapy. Talk about angry…

LMAO @ marquis…wow

There’s a lot going on in this thread, but, speaking of Obama, I read the transcript of his NAACP speech online and was particularly struck by the below excerpt on responsibility:

“That’s how we’ll truly honor those who came before us. Because I know that Thurgood Marshall did not argue Brown versus Board of Education so that some of us could stop doing our jobs as parents. And I know that nine little children did not walk through a schoolhouse door in Little Rock so that we could stand by and let our children drop out of school and turn to gangs for the support they are not getting elsewhere. That’s not the freedom they fought so hard to achieve. That’s not the America they gave so much to build. That’s not the dream they had for our children.

That’s why if we’re serious about reclaiming that dream, we have to do more in our own lives, our own families, and our own communities. That starts with providing the guidance our children need, turning off the TV, and putting away the video games; attending those parent-teacher conferences, helping our children with their homework, and setting a good example. It starts with teaching our daughters to never allow images on television to tell them what they are worth; and teaching our sons to treat women with respect, and to realize that responsibility does not end at conception; that what makes them men is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one. It starts by being good neighbors and good citizens who are willing to volunteer in our communities – and to help our synagogues and churches and community centers feed the hungry and care for the elderly. We all have to do our part to lift up this country.”

Well innocence is always frowned at by the devil i guess.

@ Sugar walls

I stand by my convictions, thus i don’t have children because i don’t believe in children out of wedlock. I’m ol’ school like that.

Why she gettin’ upset…it is what it is…she’ll have 3 children with 3 different daddies…

People gonna talk…no matter what you do…so let them talk…and keep giving them something to talk about…they talked about Jesus Christ…so why do she think she’s any different where people won’t talk about her???

I’m confused…

@Z your last comment at 2:33, were my thoughts EXACTLY. Very well put and said!!!

Erykah has always been a free spirit and lives by her own rules. Three children by three different men ain’t my cup of tea, but the CREATOR gave her the right to free will and to use it as she pleases.

We need to realize that folks have their own version of what a family is and how it should be constructed. We definitely wouldn’t want anyone to force his/her version of what living right is on us, so we should respect others and how they choose to live their lives.

i agree wit Z

Lawd, Marquis, you’re on a roll again. Language!

trs (Dre knows he loves him some TRS)

Someone who (like some of these posters) condone this GHETTO CLICHED lifestyle of irresponsibility as the norm. ie IT’S A BLACK THANG, DON’T JUDGE!

Erykah has not had a hit record in how many years? She may have the finances to support 3 children but that is not the issue. To continue to procreate without the benefit of marriage and a father in the household is a poor example to her children and feeding into negative stereotypes of black women. She needs to learn a better method of birth control. As a woman in her mid 30′s she knows the signs of a relationship on the verge of collapse. It is immature and selfish to continue to have babies by different mates who she knows will not be in the home to raise the child.

I’ve always appreciated Erykah’s intelligence and creativity, but something has changed in her as an artist. For some that may be a good thing, because change is good, but for me, I feel something else. Something dark and something confused. After reading her response to the criticism of her having three baby daddy’s, I am very disappointed in Ms.Badu. I have no doubt Erykah is an excellent mother, and I am sure Erykah’s beliefs support her decision to continue collecting baby daddy’s and babies. But I simply don’t care how you dress it up…it is what it is and in my opinion, it’s tacky and selfish. Erykah has the gift where she could explain her way outta a paper bag, and if you didn’t like the explanation, she’s gusty enough to tell you to ‘kiss her a**’ and mean it. But Erykah is not the first or last intelligent and witty to grace this earth, and not everyone is under her ‘mind control’. I love EB, but you have to know how to seperate sh*t from shinola…fact from fiction…faith from fantasy…and so. Erykah can talk all the universe sh*t whe want’s to…sh*t is still not a good look. It is what it is. I could care less that Erykah is not married, that is not the point I’m making…what disappoints me is that Erykah see’s nothing wrong with deliberately bringing kids into the world for her own selfish reasons AND sending out a botched example of motherhood to impressionable kids and women who look up to her. Erykah had a good comeback for the hater’s, but that was only because they actually got under her skin, and called her out on her BS! At the end of the day, Erykah knows this sh*t ain’t right, but she’s too selfish to care…she’s that type of chick that is not above having a baby to stay ‘attached’ to a n*gga. I guess if you can’t keep em’ for a lifetime, you just take the best of em’….their seed, love that child forever, the way you couldn’t love them or they couldn’t love you…get hit off by the baby daddy every once in awhile and get the f**k on!

I’ve always appreciated Erykah’s intelligence and creativity, but something has changed in her as an artist. For some that may be a good thing, because change is good, but for me, I feel something else. Something dark and something confused. After reading her response to the criticism of her having three baby daddy’s, I am very disappointed in Ms.Badu. I have no doubt Erykah is an excellent mother, and I am sure Erykah’s beliefs support her decision to continue collecting baby daddy’s and babies. But I simply don’t care how you dress it up…it is what it is and in my opinion, it’s tacky and selfish. Erykah has the gift where she could explain her way outta a paper bag, and if you didn’t like the explanation, she’s gusty enough to tell you to ‘kiss her a**’ and mean it. But Erykah is not the first or last intelligent and witty to grace this earth, and not everyone is under her ‘mind control’. I love EB, but you have to know how to seperate sh*t from shinola…fact from fiction…faith from fantasy…and so. Erykah can talk all the universe sh*t whe want’s to…sh*t is still not a good look. It is what it is. I could care less that Erykah is not married, that is not the point I’m making…what disappoints me is that Erykah see’s nothing wrong with deliberately bringing kids into the world for her own selfish reasons AND sending out a botched example of motherhood to impressionable kids and women who look up to her. Erykah had a good comeback for the hater’s, but that was only because they actually got under her skin, and called her out on her BS! At the end of the day, Erykah knows this sh*t ain’t right, but she’s too selfish to care…she’s that type of chick that is not above having a baby to stay ‘attached’ to a n*gga. I guess if you can’t keep em’ for a lifetime, you just take the best of em’….their seed, love that child forever, the way you couldn’t love them or they couldn’t love you…get hit off by the baby daddy every once in awhile and get the f**k on!

Thank you@ Nina and Erm

@ Marquis

I got ya. Thanks for the info.

MzTee—-We need to realize that folks have their own version of what a family is and how it should be constructed. We definitely wouldn’t want anyone to force his/her version of what living right is on us, so we should respect others and how they choose to live their lives.

That is soooooo true!!! cuz my family is diff than yours, yours diff from the next….we are ALL different

lol. Erykah is not confused for responding to what people is saying. She is responding bc she is preggers and feeling emotional and hyper-sensitive. Thats all. hahahaha

IM OLE SCHOOL, BUT I AM NOT GOING TO LET ERYKAH’S DECISION GET MY PANTIES IN A BUNCH! THAT IS HER CHOICE

wow @ chile

@SMDH

You have a NASTY mouth if you talk the way you type…so not lady-like…if you are a lady.

Must you be so vulgar?

hahahah @ Ms Suga’s un-bunchable pantaloons

AHHH BOYYY. THIS THREAD WAS ACTUALLY SOMEWHAT PLEASANT, EVEN WITH THE ONES THAT AGREED TO DISAGREE, BUT HERE WE GO WITH THE FOOLISHNESS.

@ yanib

that’s what i’m talking about u’re a responsible young lady just like the majority of us here who is questioning this multiple baby daddy mess!

i’ve had multiple partners myself but b/c i use common sense and know i don’t have the funds nor the committment in life to raise a child, i have NO kids.

see how that works folks? pregnancy by multiple men, hell even by 1 man, is preventable. not 100 percent but is preventable.

HEY

KZZZ

I AM WAVING BACK….CYBER HUGGING U ♥♦♥

OMG ppl are gettin so harsh and volatile on here…hahahahah wowzers!

Dudes will tell u that after they got the draws.

@KZZZME

HEY MAMA!! WHAT IT BE LIKE? (remember leroy from the last dragon..hey, my man, what it be like?lmao) GIRL THESE FOLKS IN HERE BE TRIPPING. I JUST SIT BACK OFF OF MY DESK AND SHAKE MY HEAD. AT LEAST 5 TIMES A DAY!(LOL)

KZZ!!!! laffin @ chillun

LMAO @ SMDH

I have a friend like you and everytime i read your post i just picture her hands and neck snapping. lol.

I cant believe yall done put 500 sumthin comments under this topic…woohoo

THE BEST WAY TO KILL IGNORANCE BEFORE IT MULTIPLIES, IS TO IGNORE IT, AND EVENTUALLY IT WILL GO BACK WHERE IT CAME FROM. WE CALL OURSELVES ADULTS, BUT THE FIRST THING WE DO IS START OFF WITH THE VULGARITY AND NAME CALLING. WHAT A WAY TO SHOW MATURITY. TELL EM HOW YOU GET DOWN, AS IF WE DIDNT ALREADY KNOW. DAMNED SHAME.

I try to @ SMDH…but your words just jump right off the page…

I SO LOVE LEROY FROM THE LAST DRAGON. HE CAUGHT THE BULLET WITH HIS TEETH NOW THATS KONG FU IN THE HOOD!

WOW 530+ Posts on Ms. Badu??? Whats the fuss about?

**Scrolling up**

@z

tell you what after they get the draws?

dudes will tell u they want u to have their kid after they already got the draws. But they don’t mean it.

@ Man

Who is that in your gravatar? Tupac and who else?

Wha?? in the world happened in here?

@KZZME

LMFAO, ROFL @ LEROY TAKES VANITY AND BLOWS BACK OUT~~ COMES BACK WITH ~~~~I AM~~~~LOL!

GIRL YOU ARE A FOOL!! I KNOW THESE PEOPLE IN HERE THINK IVE GONE MAD, IM OVER HERE CRACKING UP!!

@Z

You are right, some men will all out lie for sex. No worse than some women lying saying they are pregnant to keep a relationship going. Everybody out for they self.

That’s Pac and Puffy in my Gravatar. Big fans of both….(Like it?)

WHO’S THE MASTER??? SHO’ NUFF I DON’T CARE IF HE WAS THE VILLAIN YOU HAVE GOT TO LOVE A DUDE WITH A PERM. PURE COMEDY!!!!!!!!!

LMAO @ nikki….dramacity….thats what….

KZZ my afternoon is good…i get to go home in T-minus 30 mins!*watches the clock*

i hate puffy. I feel like u just disrespected Pac.

The girl who had the baby by the guy she was with for 10 years i mentioned earlier. She regrets it.

SMDH put some clothes on your big butt, for goodness sake. Exactly what’s wrong with our culture. If you hace nothing to offer the world but your body – you have nothing, sheer ignorant nastiness. Perfect example of a generation with NO STANDARDS, just a step above TOTAL SAVAGES. An embarrsment for the world to behold.

@KZZME

OHHH GIRL, HE HAD MINI BASE IN HIS VOICE WHEN HE SAID IT TOO!! OR HOW ABOUT WHEN LEROY TOLD BEAST TO PUT HIS BROTHER DOWN, AND BEAST WAS LIKE..”NNNEEEE THANG YOU SAY!! AHHH HAAA” AND SLAMMED HOMEBOY’S HEAD INTO THE PIPE?? ROFL, IT STILL BRINGS TEARS OF LAUGHTER TO MY EYES TO THIS DAY!! WHEW

@Z

That is in no way intended to be disrespectful to Pac. Like I said, big fans of both. I think they are both misunderstood to a degree, yet still successful.

Does she regret that the relationship failed, or regret having the baby?

@KZZME AND TEEDY

LUV THAT MOVIE EVEN TODAY!!

I loved me some Bruce Leroy. Taimak was fine as wine. What happened to him? He got lost in the 80′s. . .

Oh, I had to look up the bullets line, lol:

Sho’nuff: Well, well, well. If it isn’t the serious, elusive Leroy Green. I’ve been waiting a long time for this, Leroy. I am sick and tired of hearing these bulls**t Superman stories about the wassa legendary Bruce Leroy catching bullets with his teeth. Catches bullets with his teeth? Ni**a please.

@KZZ & SXY

I am still into it. I would leave my man for Leroy! Today!

All I had to read was what she herself said about having no Father to raise her….that alone speaks volumes about her mind frame…looking for love in all the wrong places with no example to follow like most of the women in the world!! SMDH!! Fathers raise your children..then maybe just maybe things like this will cease to happen!!

kZZ…Thanks 4 the advice hun! I just had to say that, now I’m done….what else is new??

aw dont be jealous….girl im readin these posts and just crackin up at work..ppl walkin by like this girl nuts!..im laffin OUT LOUD to make it worse

awlll

lauren

what are u having? and Try to stay away from Hot foods and She or he is just letting u know That they are alive and well inside there!

@ Word to the wise

I judge ppl who ahve blond dreads. and? lol

@Kzzmerghtthere

Ooh! Which issue is that? He still looks good? Like fine wine, he just got better with time, lol. I’m going to have to watch that movie again — you all are taking me back, lol!

I forgot about the scene you mentioned with the people dancing, lol! I tell you, 80′s movies are classics.

Here’s another Sho’ Nuff line — he was a bad mutha. . .hush my mouth!

Sho’nuff: [Arcadian has just offered Sho'nuff a briefcase full of money to kill Leroy] Keep your money. You just get that sucker to the designated place at the designated time, and I will gladly designate his a**… for dismemberment!

@KZZME & TEEDY

I CRUSHED ON LEROY MY DAMNED SELF, AND STILL LOVE HIM. AND YES HOW ABOUT WHEN HE WAS LOOKING FOR THE MASTER, AND LIL CHILLY WING WING DUDE WAS LIKE “AINT NO MASTERS HERE. AINT NO SLAVE NEITHER!” LOL

THEN DUDE WAS LIKE, “YOU GO NOW, CHOP CHOP, HOLY ASS OUT OF DIS PLACE.” LMFAO

Man, I just don’t care(Check me out!)

Women will always have the risk of being left after getting impregnated. All the laws in the world won’t change that.

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EXACTLY!!! That is why I don’t know why people are acting like marriage is some sort of miracle prerequisite to child bearing and responsibilty. It isn’t…

@Sydney

Sho’nuff: [Arcadian has just offered Sho'nuff a briefcase full of money to kill Leroy] Keep your money. You just get that sucker to the designated place at the designated time, and I will gladly designate his a**… for dismemberment!

OMG!! LMFAO..YOU STOLE MY NEXT LINE!! I WAS JUST ABOUT TO MENTION THAT!! LMFAO

@sxyQblondie

Sorry, sista, lol! This is fun. We should all post our funniest movie lines for some comic relief, lol.

Ok I am PISSED that I almost missed Sucker Free handing Marquis’s a$$ to him. WOW!

I know that Andre 3000 is Seven’s daddy, but who do the other two belong to?

@ Suga Walls…its a girl, my 2nd girl And Idk why but when I’m preggo I loooove spicy foods, so yea u might be right about that, because I just had some chinese food with hot sauce(the chinese hot sauce)

@Kzz…yea I just ate again so she’s at it again! lol…

@Sydney…..Hiya hunny!

DOC

JAY electronica

You told HARPO to BEAT ME? I luhs Harpo, lawd knows i do, but I’ll KILLEM DEAD if he beat me again!

that was the movie, loved CP

NOW I HAVE TO GO FIND THAT DVD JUST TO SEE THE FINESS THAT IS BRUCE LEROY. THAT IS SO DAMN 80′S, BRUCE LEROY. LOL

@SYDNEY

GIRL, ESPECIALLY WITH THE OLD BLACK MOVIES. I COULD GO ON FOR DAYS.

@KZZME

LETS NOT FORGET, NOT ONLY DID SHE NOT HAVE ANY TEEFUS, BUT REMEMBER THE LIL BROTHER SAID SHE WAS CONFUSED BECAUSE SHE HAD SO MANY NAMES?LOL THATS BEEN MY MOVIE SINCE I WAS A KID. SO I WENT AND RE-PURCHASED IT ABOUT A MONTH AGO. THATS A CLASSIC TO ME MAN

LOL

Kzz, u silllliiii! lol!

@ERM-All my life I had to fight. I had to fight my daddy, I had to fight my uncles. I girl child just ain’t safe in a family of MEN’S. LOL

mad

@TEEDY

GO TO BEST BUY. OR AMAZON.(LOL..YES I KNOW WHERE TO FIND IT LOL) I HAD IT ON TAPE, THEN MY TAPE POPPED ON ME. HAD TO DO QUICK REPLACEMENT

Do you Ms. Badu. Have as many as you can afford. You work hard to support yours. Much love sistah.

Hey Lauren!

@kzzmerghtthere

Is that from the Friday sequel? OK, the scene in the first movie when Chris Tucker was high and wound up in the dog house was hilarious.

Remember this line, too?

Leroy Green: The truth will be revealed only to eyes unclouded by desire.

Sho’nuff: It’s mumbo jumbo like that and skinny little lizards like you thinkin’ they the Last Dragon that gives kung-fu a bad name.

@z

I don’t disagree with you but it sounded like all the “signs” were there for her to decide on. She didn’t “give” him threesomes, she agreed to do it along with the other two. She might be bi sexual and used that as an excuse to act upon it. Straight men don’t “act on each other.” They take turns (train).. just saying.

Also, what is his reason for leaving? The thing about is we don’t have to agree with his reasoning, if it works in your mind it’s good enough. Society, laws, repurcussions be damned.

OHHH LAWD NOT THE COLOR PURPLE!!

“NAH’ I DONE FIXED DAT MAIL BOX, SO I CU’ TELL IF IT BE MESSED WIT!” MISTA(LMAO..ROFL)

Marques, First off God forgives and he does not judge us like man, so whatever your human mind may “think” God is thinking about us, you are wrong, he knows our hearts, not you Marquis and God surely doesn’t cuss likea sailor! SMH!

@ERM

1 more “YOU shO’L is ugly, ha ha ha!”

I swear I have a cousin and she and I could go line for line with that movie.

that is why I don’t know why people are acting like marriage is some sort of miracle prerequisite to child bearing and responsibilty. It isn’t…

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@REALWOMAN

VERY WELL SAID! AT THE END OF THE DAY IT’S ALL ABOUT WOMEN TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR BODIES AND THEIR BIRTH CONTROL.

hahahahahahahaha KZZ das my fav line!! I be sayin that to my white BOSS!!! whew lawd….he dont know where its from though…pwhahaha

PA…..”WHAT IS IT WIT DIS SUGA AVERY WOMAN? SHE BLACK AS TAR, NAPPY HEADED, GOT LEGS LIKE BASEBALL BATS.”

“AND I EVEN HEAR SHE’S GOT DAT NASTY WOMENS DA’SEASE”LMAO

“ALL HER CHILRINS’ GOT DIFFERENT DADDIES”

MISTA(ABLERT) “ALL HER CHILRINS’ GOT DA SAME DADDY. I CAN VOUCH FA DAT”

PA..”YOU CAN VOUCH FA’ NOTHIN BOY!!”

ROFL..LMFAO

@KZZ….Yea I know, it’s all in moderation

This is insane, but for those who think this is ok, why are you holding her to a different standard than you would your own neighbor? You don’t know Erykah from a can of paint.

@KZZZME

MY SISTER AND I LOVE THAT PART!!LOL

You all are quoting from The Color Purple now? Aw, Lawd. . .all my life’s I had to fight. . .

This is from Friday, lol:

Craig Jones: [points across the street to Mrs. Parker] Look, look, she’s bendin’ over!

Pastor Clever: Lord have mercy! God is my shepherd, and he knows what I want!

Pastor Clever: [running across the street] Excuse me, Mrs. Parker? Mrs. Parker!

@SXY

“Maybe he’ll like a lil Sug Avery pee in it”

(Then Celie spits in his water) uggh!

she’s nothing more than a celebrity ho

Can anyone name this movie? Oh, this is an easy one — one of my top five funniest movies ever.

Saul: A man has the right to change his name to vatever he vants to change it to. And if a man vants to be called Muhammad Ali, godammit this is a free country, you should respect his vishes, and call the man Muhammad Ali!

Morris: His mamma call him Clay, imma call him Clay.

jugs

and u don’t neither

U don’t know what type of mother she is, and AS for my neighbor..yeah she is pregnant with her third kid by a different father other than her other two kids..they all have different father’s…DO U hear of uproar in ST. LOUIS about some chick getting beat down, and dragged through the mud because she decided to open her legs and create life..HELL NO..Y because that is her choice and God says that It is ok for her to create life..IF he didn’t she wouldn’t have a child inside of her..GET OVER YOURSELF

she’s nothing more than a celebrity ho, and i stopped buying her music a long time ago.

“I don’t agree with having babies out of wedlock. That’s my opinion, however, what people do in their own lives, they have to live w/their decisions whether the outcome is good or bad.”

I respect your honest opinion.. Please answer me this: do you feel a man must be married to be a good father to his child?? Do you believe the criterior to being a responsible father is having a ring on your finger?? Do you believe when a man does not have a ring it gives him the right to abandon his babies in RECORD NUMBERS?!?!!?

Celee: Y’all was some rotten kids, yes y’all was rotten! Made my life here hell. Of course ya daddy ain’t nothing but some ol’ horse sh!t.

Don’t talk to my boy like that!

Celee: Your boy? Seems like if he hadn’t been your boy he would have made somebody a half way decent man!

THIS WAS MY FAVORITE SCENE!

Coming to America

lmao @ num1dominicano…it’s so funny that I know exactly what ur talkin about and it is sooo true I don’t give a damn what none of these women say! y yo soy dominicana tambien…we know how it is!

As for miss badu I don’t care what she says, no matter what there is no reason to have a baby by 3 different people. Let’s be serious, I’m sure we’ve all had a lot of serious relationships and a baby didn’t come out of all of them. COME ON NOW! It’s trashy and tacky. So to all of u women with multiple baby daddies yes I’m talkin to u! Birth control is ur friend! Pop a nuvaring in or somethin!

@Kzzmerghtthere

The “nasty woman’s disease” — I was too young to fully comprehend that line when I first saw the movie, lol. Classic. And the whole Celie soliloquy when she leaves Mister still brings tears to my eyes. “I may be black and I may be ugly, but I’m here. . .”

Sydney-Coming to America!

@SYDNEY- “COMING TO AMERICA”

I am not mad at Erykah or any other woman that gets out there and grinds as much as she does. Tickets for her show run at least $100 a piece so I know that she is making more than enough to take care of her business and her kids…so left fist up sista! We all have to find out own place in this world…and what is good for some is not good for all!

Yes SMDH I see it too. None of these men can admit that and that is sad. The fact of the matter is that MOST children will be raised by their mother while MANY of those same children will not have a father around like their mom.

The only time someone else having a baby might bother me is if that baby is somehow disturbing my sleep, property or my pockets.

@SYDNEY-I still cry too.

They just don’t make good movies like these anymore.

The ones you can watch over and over and never get tired of it.

Hey Marquis! You got it. Now it’s your turn. Stop cursing and join the fun.

@ marqus…

cut it out…

how are u using GOD and B^tches in the same thought to make a point?

lol

LMAO, all of you answered at once! You get gold stars.

Let’s see, here’s another one:

[Smacks on fingers]

Mr. Jackson: You got to reverse it. Don’t be pu**y-whipped, whip that pu**y. Like this here, bang, bang, bang, bang, bang.

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Mr. Jackson: I bet we’ve eaten everything on a pig from the rooter to the tooter.

Boomerang!!!

The problem is not so much how many children, but how many failed relationships. Yes I said failed, because 2 men are no longer with her and the 3rd may be on his way out. Even if she was married to all 3 of the men and all of the relationships failed, she needs to ask herself why? If a person continues to have one failed relationship after another someone may be wrong with them. I think what may have hurt her feelings was that fact that maybe none of these men wanted to married her. If any of these men wanted her as a wife she might have been married by now. She also need to upgrade from them rapper’s. There are only a few of them out there who are honorable to their women.

@ Man

his reason for leaving was…He didn’t want her to have the baby. I think he felt if he accepted the whole family scenerio he would have to truly commit and that scared him, so he ran. It just bugged me out bc of the longevity of their relationship. He was a dog. And everyone knew it but her. I am sure she suspected but she never caught him. he is an ass. damn i hate him. I have actually stopped dealing with this person bc of this situation. I lost alot of respect for him.

OHHH AND HOW BOUT THIS ONE

“BLUE, YOU AINT NUTTIN! YOU DONT DESERVE NUTTIN, YOU DONT GET NUTTIN! YOU GET WHAT I GIVE YOU! I GOTZ A CONTRACT BETWINXT ME AND YOU DAT’ SAY YOU DO WHAT I TELL YOU TO DO. THEREFO’ SHUT DA FU@$ DO SAY NUTTIN, DONT SPEAK TO ME DONT LOOK AT ME.”

LOL..WHAT WAS THAT ONE FROM?

PLAYA’S CLUB

@trs

You got it! Another of my favorites. Eddie Murphy OWNED the 80′s, lol.

*racking my brain over sxyQblondie’s quotes*

@ Marquis

yeah ok Marquis it’s a puzzle of words.

don’t loose your mind in here.

lol

@ MARQUIS

LET ME FIND OUT YOU GOT YOUR MOVIES ON LOCK.(LOL) NOW THATS MY FAVORITE. YOU MAY AS WELL JOIN IN, YOU KNOW ITS FUN.(SMILE)

@Z

Let me make sure I understand this correctly

1.Everything going smoothly

2.Your Friend winds up pregnant

3.HE TELLS HER NOT TO HAVE THE BABY

4.She has it anyway

5.HE LEAVES HER

6.She resents the baby

7.YOU DON’T RESPECT HIM!!!

Do you think he was “obligated” to stay and raise the baby he didn’t want with her? Explain the difference between this and the guy “tricking” a female into having a baby.

I don’t understand why your “respect” for him would change. Nothing decietful about what he did. How much more straightforward can you be?

Just trying to understand.

@SYDNEY

COME ON GIRL, MARQUIS JUST ANSWERED THAT ONE. LOL.

“YA’LL SATTIN’ DOWN HERE BULLSH@TTIN. AND WHEN YOU BULLSH!T, YOU MESSIN WIT MY PERCENTAGE. AINT NO MOONLIGHTIN ROUND HERE. YA’LL BETTA GET UPSTAIRS AND SHAKE SUM AZZ UP DERE’!! AND WHERE DA’ HELL IS DIAMOND? WELL YOU GO AN’ TELL DIAMOND GET HER FUNKY AZZ UPSTAIRS CU’ SHE IS FIRST! AND I WANT MY DOGGONE PERCENTAGE. THINK I AIN’ KNOW NUTTIN ABOUT IT, BUT DOLLA KNOW EVERYTHANG ABOUT IT. IF YOU DONT HAVE MY MONNEEEYYYY, IMMAAAUMMMBOYYYY!!”

ROFL, LMAO

@trs and sydney

ITS THE PLAYERS CLUB MY FRIENDS(LOL)

@ sxyQBlonde

You are GOOD!!!! I don’t know how you memorized all of that!

@ SMDH

do you think that this type of black male is the only type or do you feel that maybe it has more to do with where a woman is in her life that attracts the type of man in which you describe?

OK Howabout this one? (I’m para-phrasing)

“I DON’T WANT IT NOWHERE NEAR DA’ SCHOOLS OR CHILDREN! THIS DRUG BUSINESS IS A DIRTY BUSINESS, KEEP IT IN DA’ DARK PART OF TOWN. DA’ BLACKS ARE SAVAGES ANYWAY, LET DEM’ LOSE THEIR SOULS!”

Sorry SxyQBlondie! LOL, I think I may have seen part of Playas Clubs years ago.

Dang, Marquis, you’re good! Where are your quotes, huh?

What about this?

Billy Ray: When I was growing up, if we wanted a Jacuzzi, we had to fart in the tub.

ChileBoo(Check me out!)

I’ve always appreciated Erykah’s intelligence and creativity, but something has changed in her as an artist. For some that may be a good thing, because change is good, but for me, I feel something else. Something dark and something confused.

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YEP. Its called “heartbreak and pain.” Like I said in my earlier post, I really think she’s putting on a front to mask how she REALLY feels. I don’t care how much money or resources she has, having 3 babies and 2 men(and probably 3 real soon)walking out of her life, has to be messing with her emotionally. I’m sure she is at an age where she wants to have a traditional family–despite what she’s saying because I’m not buying it–and is just hoping that 1 of these men will hang around.

Everyone can have their opinion about what’s “morally” right or wrong about having kids out of wedlock, especially Black women. But I think we need to stop and look at the underlying reason why this happens. The root cause of most of it is that these women are “searching for love” whether its through having a bunch of babies or sleeping with multiple men. So this thing is much more complex than just “taking birth control”, or “picking the right mate”, etc..

Trading Places

Man…. i dont’ have any kids… in my 30′s and i see why I’ve been smart/lucky enough to avoid that situation. Of course, now i get dates dying to have my first born… promising me a little girl.. or a little me. NO THANK YOU… keep all that drama to yourself.

As a sidenote.. maybe women shouldnt be so quick to offer up the sushi raw dog style.

When I find a virtuous woman.. then I’ll settle down… all these tricks flipping upside down, because of a hope of future together got it wrong.

@ Sydney

Trading Places! Did I get it?

Is that New Jack City, Marquis?

oh I am talking about the ACORN PROJECTS cat! LOL

Dang Marquis beat me!

as an artist, in the public’s eye, like it or not, she’s also a role model. People look up to her.

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@Kesha

Yep, think about how many females have become vegetarians, don’t perm their hair no more and are “happy to be nappy”, don’t wear deodorant, etc… because of her.

Marquis, that line sounds like something I heard in The Godfather, too.

Yes, Marquis and trs, you are both correct!

OK Y’all what about this one?

“What’s number 1 of the Crow Commandments?”

“Thou shall never ever get down off of this here pole.”

Sydney

Nope! It’s a classic. You should know this!

@ Kesha,

I respect your opinion…but you are drawing way too many conclusions about her life. Marriage is valuable for those that consider it to be so. There are many couples that have children and do not chose to get married (in society’s traditional sense) at all and maintain healthy relationships with their partner and children. Also, the assumption that her children were a mistake was implied in your comment, but not implied by her. Would it be too much to believe that maybe she chose to live her life just as it is…and if so, why? I think it is important to remember that what is common in society for some may not be the path for all. It’s funny because we constantly hear comments by and large that marriage is so sacred in our society…yet divorce is at an all time high, so…what are the majority’s actions really saying about the institution…just thinking…out loud.

@ Sydney

You’re right! The Godfather

@Marquis

Woo hoo! Give us some more — you’re a cinephile, so this should be easy for you.

She can do what-EVA she wants to do.

@MARQUIS

AWW MAN, YOU GOT ME ON THOSE TWO.

@ SYDNEY

GIRL, MOVIES ARE MY THING!! LOL

HOW ABOUT THIS ONE

singing…”I LOVE COOKING WHEN IM COOKING WITH MEAT. THE WAY TO A MANS HEART IS THRU HIS STOMACH!”

LOL

IF WOMEN WANT RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR BODIES WOULDN’T THE RESPONSIBILITY FOR GETTING PREGNANT BE THEIRS AS WELL?

If you disagree with this than shouldn’t a man, who helped to get her pregnant,have say so in whether or not the child is born? This would give him a certain control of her body.

Pros and Cons to everything.

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Man, I just don’t care,

I agree, as a woman I take complete responsibility for my body I would NEVER put my birth control in the hands of a man because whatever the cirumstances may be I’ll have to carry the burden in the long run..Since I’m the one who carries the child and takes the risk to my body and health, then I should bare most if not all of the responsibility, I gladly take it there’s no way I would let random dudes knock me up with a bunch of children, I’m willing to pay the extra money for pills and condoms.

Marquis, I’ll let someone else answer that one because I cheated via Google, lol.

“do you think that this type of black male is the only type or do you feel that maybe it has more to do with where a woman is in her life that attracts the type of man in which you describe?”

Here we go again where a black male abandons his kids and its the womans fault.. This has NOTHING to do with a man cultivating and supporting the life he created.. With over 65% of black males with children not taking care of them there would have to be alot of useless black males around.. The black male would have to be a complete lost cause for all woman all over to be making bad choices about who she has kids by.. Face it, there is no criterior.. Black males are bad fathers PERIOD!!!

Nah it does not play on my fears. When I imagine myself with child, I imagine it being just me and my child. No man. its sad but thats the reality. So if dude leaves, its like ok. And? I was raised by a single mother and my mom struggled to make sure our needs were met. I appreciate her, but i will not make the same mistakes. I doubt I will ever be co depedent on a man for anything. I am not financially where I want to be and just have goals in general, which is why I choose not to have kids yet.

You can meet a woman at a young age and in that state of mind she can say yes i don’t ever want children. But umm when you get to thirty+ and your hormones start kicking. Things change. your feelings change. You look over at your partner whom you have been with for years and think well why not? Who better to father my child. Alot of men initially say they don’t want the child and then they jump on board. And by the way he left after that baby was born. Again i don’t know what happened behind closed doors. Only he knows. I only know what he tell me. He could be making it like she is the bad guy. But actions speak louder than words. You stayed by her side throughout that entire pregnancy and they bounce when the baby get here. Well all i can say is at least he gave her a happy pregnancy and they have a very happy baby. But him leaving once that baby was born tells me he is afraid of responsibility. Plus other things about him tell me that too. Aside from this situation. nope. Sorry. He is an asshole.

Soulfood

I like her music but her outlook is flawed.. A child needs a home with a stable male figure.. Having several father’s coming to see this child and that child is dangerous to the children mentality. What if one father is better at being attentive and loving than another? It’s breeds jealousy and anger amougst the children. It also weakens their outlook on relationships and love when they see lovers of their parents come and go. It just isn’t healthy.. I’m not knocking her, I’m speaking strictly facts here.. If she feels what she’s doing is just fine and dandy, then let her do her. I wish her and her children and their respective father’s all the best.

@ Marquis

Is it Pulp Fiction?

@ Marquis

Is it Pulp Fiction?

@Marquis

Dang, you’re good!! *applause* I was still trying to figure that one out, lol.

OK, what about this?

Brett: What?

Jules: What country are you from?

Brett: What?

Jules: What ain’t no country I ever heard of. They speak English in What?

Brett: What?

Jules: English, motherfu**er, do you speak it?

@SYDNEY

OKAY, YOU’VE LOST ME(LOL)

@MARQUIS

MINE WAS FROM “LOW DOWN DIRTY SHAME”

@ Sydney

Pulp Fiction

@Sydney

Now that’s Pulp Fiction right?

TRS

Nope! It’s from the original Shaft.

She’s no ghetto girl but she’s doing ghetto things.

Normally, I can’t stand women who have babies from all different daddies. But Erykah Badu is class, intelligent and mother nature enough that I’m open to hearing her views. She do it like Diana Ross.

She’s beautiful too.

@ SMDH..

I’m not placing fault on anyone.

but

Thank you for your response.

@ Marquis

Wow I was way off!!! Dangit.

WAITING TO EXHALE!

@Man I just dont care you are right, you never fully know people. BUT why would I stick around to find out? The first sign of even the slightest nonsense im running in the opposite direction. I didnt say people can predict their fate. I was saying they have the choice to either stay in it or move right along at their first few signs. And those FIRST few signs dont mean getting pregnant on the first night and THEN finding out a mans true colors.

as a woman I take complete responsibility for my body I would NEVER put my birth control in the hands of a man because whatever the cirumstances may be I’ll have to carry the burden in the long run..Since I’m the one who carries the child and takes the risk to my body and health, then I should bare most if not all of the responsibility, I gladly take it there’s no way I would let random dudes knock me up with a bunch of children, I’m willing to pay the extra money for pills and condoms.

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@STEFANY

And don’t you EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER change that line of thinking…

Kudos to you…

sxyQblondie

That’s from the low budget movie called: When Marquis met SMDH

@Marquis

LOL, I recognized it once I Googled it, but it’s been a while since I saw that. BTW, I saw Coffy recently on cable — another blaxploitation classic.

@trs

Yes, you’re right, girl! You’re good at this!

@SxyQBlondie

LOL, trs already guessed that line, but I can hear him saying it, “don’t know how to treat ya. . .”

3 babies, 3 fathers.

Incense smelling hood rat…

@Z, TRS, AND SYDNEY

GIRL EVERY TIME I WATCH THAT MOVIE, THAT PART CRACKS ME UP!! “TROY TAKE YOUR DRUNK, LEATHER WEARING IN THE SUMMER TIME, STINKY ASS, HOME!!” lol

“HAVE A FRUIT BOWL TRAMP!!”

@MARQUIS

LMFAO..YOU KNOW YOU WRONG RIGHT LOL

“Perhaps that’s what your dick sucking mammy did with your sorry ass n!gger daddy – however, not ever woman story is that of your deisel truck suck starting mamas..”

@SMDH-I dont mean to entertain this but this is one hella funny comment lol…..

@ SXY

Yeah that was one of the funniest parts in the movie.

@MARQUIS

COME BACK TO THE FUN SIDE WITH US MY DUDE. YOU WERE HAVING A GOOD TIME!!

HOW ABOUT THIS ONE

” I KNEW I SHOULD OF TREATED YOU LIKE A HOOKER, YOU AINT NOTHIN’ BUT A HIGH PRICED HO!!”

@sxyQblondie

LMAO @ that line. Hold on now, I know I know this. . .

OK, this is an easy one, and a repeat, but I still love it:

D**n boy,is that some kind of weave or something.

It is my natural hair, I have been growing it since birth.

(barber)What do you put in this?

Only juices and berries.

(barber)S**t, that ain’t nothin’ but ultra perm. How ya want me to cut this?

Just make it nice and neat.

Snip. (barber)That’ll be eight dollars.

A child needs a home with a stable male figure.. Having several father’s coming to see this child and that child is dangerous to the children mentality. What if one father is better at being attentive and loving than another? It’s breeds jealousy and anger amougst the children. It also weakens their outlook on relationships and love when they see lovers of their parents come and go. It just isn’t healthy..

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@Kay

EXACTLY, that’s the point that people are missing…

THE CHILDREN growing up in the BEST environment – not a whole bunch of DIFFERENT men coming in and out of the house all the damn time…

In my opinion, when you have a child you have to start doing things that have THEIR best interest in mind, NOT yours ALL of the time…

3 DIFFERENT men and perhaps more to come, that’s not the BEST environment to raise a child in…

@z

“When I imagine myself with child, I imagine it being just me and my child. No man. its sad but thats the reality”

-Be careful… have you ever heard of self-fufilling prophecies? Nothing wrong with preparing for the worst, but continue to hope for the best.

“I doubt I will ever be co depedent on a man for anything”

-I think a lot of females feel this way. Unfortunately that translates in “man talk” to “YOU HAVE LITTLE VALUE TO ME AND CAN BE REPLACED IF NECESSARY.” If your employer came in and said we aren’t “dependant” on you for anything, would you start looking for another job? Think about this for a second.

“You can meet a woman at a young age and in that state of mind she can say yes i don’t ever want children. But umm when you get to thirty+ and your hormones start kicking. Things change. your feelings change. You look over at your partner whom you have been with for years and think well why not? Who better to father my child. Alot of men initially say they don’t want the child and then they jump on board. And by the way he left after that baby was born.”-So during the time the pregnancy physically affected her he was there…. even though he directly told her this was something he didn’t want?

“Again i don’t know what happened behind closed doors”-that’s my point exactly, from the details you have provided me I don’t know what more a human can do. Now, he comes off looking like he’s an “asshole” for telling someone he didn’t want (his way of saying he wasn’t ready) for that responsibility.

“Forcing” a person into something they don’t want and then society condemns them when he doesn’t wholeheartedly “commit” to it. How old is the child?

@ sxyQblondie

THAT ONE’S TOOO EASY i EVEN GOT THAT

nEW jACK cITY

@SYDNEY

COMING TO AMERICA..LOL

“WHEN YOU TINK’ OF GARBAGE, TINK OF AKEEM!” (LOL)

@ Syd

COMING TO AMERICA!!

@sxyQblondie/trs

LOL, yes, you’re both correct. “F**k you, f**k you and f**k you. . .who’s next?”

SMDHEXACTLY!!! That is why I don’t know why people are acting like marriage is some sort of miracle prerequisite to child bearing and responsibilty. It isn’t…”

Again – AMEN!! But you notice how THREE of us have made this statement and we can’t get a sinlge one of the “brothas” up in here to concur??

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OK SMDH, I’ll concur:

Marriage is NOT a prerequisite 2 child bearing and responsibility.

Out of wedlock children r a woman’s absolute right.

No arguments from me.

Except that from now on, there should b no more griping about bruthaz who “won’t/don’t/commit 2 marriage, right?

There should b no more commentary on swirl threads about 70% out of wedlock births, because after all, marriage isn’t a prerequisite 2 responsibility, correct.

I met your challenge. Let’s c if u can meet mine.

STICK A FORK IN ME, i’M DONE

no quote:

LOL

OK, Here’s one

HEY MAN! I DON’T KNOW IF YOU’VE BEEN KEEPIN’ UP ON CURRENT EVENTS, BUT WE JUST GOT OUR ASSES KICKED!”

@kai

“@Man I just dont care you are right, you never fully know people. BUT why would I stick around to find out? The first sign of even the slightest nonsense im running in the opposite direction. I didnt say people can predict their fate. I was saying they have the choice to either stay in it or move right along at their first few signs. And those FIRST few signs dont mean getting pregnant on the first night and THEN finding out a mans true colors.”

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I take this to mean you would try to “limit your risk” one way or another. If that means “The first sign of even the slightest nonsense im running in the opposite direction,” than so be it.

There are at least 3 billion women on the planet and I’m quite sure a large number of them thought this exact same way and still wound up feeling “deceived.” If people gave obvious “first signs” than this could easily be accomplished. Also, you are completely negating that people will have “invested” in a relationship. If you have spent 5 years with someone it won’t be so easy to be “running in the opposite direction” than if you have been with that person one month.

@ Marqis

Alien–the second one!

@MARQUIS

AWWW MANN THAT ONE, I KNOW IT. SHOOT, JUICE!! JUICE!! AM I RIGHT?

trs

Dang! A person who has an appreciation for the classic SCI-FI.

Dang, SxyQBlondie, you keep stumping me, girl!

@trs

You and Marquis are movie champions, lol. I can’t keep up!

How about this?

Pino, f**k you, f**k your fu**in’ pizza, and f**k Frank Sinatra.

Pino: Yeah? Well f**k you, too, and f**k Michael Jackson.

@ Sydney

do the right thing!

Marquis, I think you’ve met your match, lol. And I’m mad at myself because I saw Aliens 2 not too long ago.

Ok, this isn’t from a movie, but it’s a classic quote:

YOU SEE, THERE YOU GO AGAIN, GIVIN’ A FVCK WHEN IT AIN’T YO’ TURN TO GIVE A FVCK.

@ Marquis

That is one of my favorite movies!!! I thought the 2nd was the best of the series.

*bows down to trs*

I’m not worthy, sista, I’m not worthy. And I thought I was good at this.

@MARQUIS

I WAS ALL WRONG, WRONG GENRE AND ERR THING(LOL)

AT SYDNEY & TRS

IT WAS BELLY!! LOL. REMEMBER WHEN METH’ WENT TO MEET HOMEBOY WITH THE PERM? BECAUSE HE HAD SNITCHED ON KNOWLEDGE?

Marquis, is that from a play?

trs, can you guess this one?

In life, there are times to be quiet, to shut the f**k up. This is one of those times.

@ Sydney

Yeah I guess you can tell that I love movies. LOL

Hey guys what about this one:

“Remember the 1st time you said that I was crazy and I was kind of tripping? Well you right! I AM CRAZY!!”

TRS

Aliens is classic. People talk about Sigourney Weaver being a bad ass, but for my money, it was Pat Goldstein as Rodriguez the Chola marine who yelled out LETS’ ROCK during the first encounter with the aliens, was a total bad azz.

Sydney

Die Hard?

@TRS…….

Girl that’s JUICE. you know Tupac is my fav. That’s the best line of the whole movie.

Marquis de Sade

TRS

Aliens is classic. People talk about Sigourney Weaver being a bad ass, but for my money, it was Pat Goldstein as Rodriguez the Chola marine who yelled out LETS’ ROCK during the first encounter with the aliens, was a total bad azz.

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“WHATEVER U R GOING 2 DO…DO IT FAST!!!!!!”

I’m out, peeps! Thanks 4 making the day go by faster!

@Marquis

It’s from School Daze. Did you see that one?

Bye HF!

@ Marquis

YEP you are telling the truth about that chick in Aliens!! And the gun that mami was rocking was OFF THE CHAIN!!!

@ Nina

Yes girl you got it!!!! Shoot I thought I had stumped you peeps. LOL

@TRS

GIRL I WAS GONNA SAY JUICE, BUT I HAD ALREADY TRIED THAT ONE WITH MARQUI’ QUOTE. BUT I KNEW PAC SAID THAT ONE WHEN HE GOT THE GUN AND STARTED BUGGIN OUT!(LOL)

@SYDNEY

I LOVED BELLY, THE CINEMATOGRAPHY WAS WILD, CAUSE HYPE WILLIAMS DIRECTED IT, AND YOU KNOW HIS VIDEOS ARE INTERESTING

@ Syd

You stumped me with that one!!! Sorry I am late. I am having trouble with my internet connection.

What about this one:

What ain’t no country I ever heard of! Do they speak English in What?!!

Sydney

You should buy Belly for the cinematography alone. It had that whole Gordon Park’s Black and White photography vibe about it. It was very stylistic, but was savaged by the critics for some reason.

Sydney

Yeah, i saw School Daze. I have the DVD and the soundtrack. The reason i thought Die Hard is becaus the same line was delivered by Reginald what’s his name to Bruce Willis.

@trs

That’s Pulp Fiction, right? One of my movie favorites. I think I’ve watched all of Tarantino’s films.

@Marquis/SxyQBlondie

Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll check out Belly.

What about this? Sort of ties in with the current discussion:

I’m pregnant.

Well, what the f**k you tellin’ me for?

What? So you just gonna dog me?

It ain’t mine.

Look, you the only one I was with!

Stop lying, alright? Besides, I had the jimmy on extra tight.

@MARQUIS

I KNOW RIGHT! THE MOVIE WAS ILL, AND IT WAS ONE OF THE MOST BELIEVABLE ROLES I’D EVER SEEN DMX PLAY. THOUGH NAS’ ACTING SUCKED POND WATER(LOL)

@TRS

YEAH THAT FOOL STARTED LOOKING SPACED OUT!! I REMEMBER BEING A TEEN THINKING, NOW HOW YOU GONNA OFF ALL YOUR FRIENDS? YOU DEAD WRONG MAN!! LOL, LMFAO!!

@Marquis

Wow, I didn’t remember that line from Die Hard. My favorite was Yippee-ki-yay, motherfu**er.

@Sydney

GIRL THATS MENACE TO SOCIETY!! LOL THATS MY ISH!!!

Sydney

YOU SEE, THERE YOU GO AGAIN, GIVIN’ A FVCK WHEN IT AIN’T YO’ TURN TO GIVE A FVCK.

It’s from The Wire.

lol

@ Sydney

YEP!! I love Samuel Jackson!

MENACE TO SOCIETY!!

I was just about to hit you with this: “I thought killing those fools would make me feel good, but it really didn’t make me feel anything. I just knew that I could kill somebody, and if I had to, I could do it again.”

@SUGA WALLS

GIRL, I KNOW!! THE OLD DMX, NOT THE NEW ONE, THE OLD ONE(LOL)

sxyQblondie(Check me out!)

@MARQUIS

I KNOW RIGHT! THE MOVIE WAS ILL, AND IT WAS ONE OF THE MOST BELIEVABLE ROLES I’D EVER SEEN DMX PLAY. THOUGH NAS’ ACTING SUCKED POND WATER(LOL)

Yeah, his line readin’ was about as stiff as his rapping.

@Ms. Sugar Walls

Yeah, I was sorry Viv got killed off, too. I thought I read that Tarantino was planning a third film in which Viv’s daughter would go after Uma for revenge, but I’m not sure if that was true. They need to do another one. I loved both parts, and I also loved Lucy Liu and the girl in the schoolgirl uniform. She was a bad azz, too.

BOYZ IN DA’ HOOD

@ Marquis

DANG!! You are good!!

@MARQUIS, I HATE YOU FOR 5 MINUTES, YOU BEAT ME TO THE BOYZ IN DA’ HOOD ANSWER!! LOL

Here’s an easy one

“OUR ARROWS WILL BLOT OUT THE SUN!”

“THEN WE WILL FIGHT IN THE SHADE”

300!!!!!!!!!

GOOD FELLAS’

@SxyQBlondie/trs

Yup, you got it! OK, I remember when my friend and I saw it in the theater, and my friend was so disturbed that for years she disliked Larenz Tate, even after seeing him in Love Jones. She couldn’t get his depiction of O-Dog out of her mind, lol.

@Marquis

That’s from The Wire? See, I only saw the first season. I have a hard time watching shows based in Baltimore, like The Corner. They’re depressing to me.

@MARQUIS

300

Hold on, people! Can a sista at least get a chance to buzz in?!? Dang!

TRS

Right. Great movie

@ Marquis

Shoot you got me again! LOL At least I got you on 300. That movie was straight fire!! The final scene just makes you want to go kick someone’s a$$.

HOW ABOUT THIS ONE

“IF ANY HAPPENS TO THAT BUY MONEY (spanish lingo) MY BOSS IS GONNA STICK YOUR HEADS UP YOUR ASSES, FASTER THAN A RABBIT GETS F*CKED.”

trs, you posted a line from Goodfellas? That’s one of my favorites, too! Grrrr. . .

OK, how about this?

The days go on and on… they don’t end. All my life needed was a sense of someplace to go. I don’t believe that one should devote his life to morbid self-attention, I believe that one should become a person like other people.

@ Syd

Sorry Sydney!!

@SxyQBlondie

King of New York? Shoot, I’m just throwing titles out now, lol.

@ Sydney

Yeah, I posted the “f you, pay me” quote. I think you got me with your quote…..

No problem, TRS, lol. I like gangster movies — DeNiro, Pesci, Pacino are some of my favorites.

Scarface?

SORRY SYD, BUT TRS HIT IT RIGHT ON THE NOSE. ITS MY ALL TIME FAVORITE TOO!

No, sorry, TRS! It’s from Taxi Driver.

How about this?

Don’t you threaten me. DON’T YOU THREATEN ME. I am fu**ing Nicky Santoro. HE’S MY NEW SPONSOR. How about that. I will go to police and to the FBI. I’M NOT PROTECTING YOU ANYMORE, YOU F**K.

MARQUIS YES SIRE,YOU WERE ON IT, I THOUGHT YOU’D JUMP ON THAT QUICKER MAN! LOL

OK Here goes one

IT’S TIME TO GET ON WITH LIVIN’ OR GET ON WITH DYIN’

BRB, GOING TO GET ME SOME CHICKEN(LOL)

sxyQblondie

My computer is starting to act up.

@ Marquis

SHAWSHANK REDEMPTION!!

BEFORE I GO THOUGH..HERE’S ONE

“EVERY NITE I GOTTA FIGHT TO PROVE MY LOVE!!’

TRS

Dang! A true appreciation for the classics.

WHAT’S LOVE GOTTA DO WITH IT?

@ Marquis

I cry every time that I see that movie. That’s top 10 right there!

Aw, Marquis, you quoted from Shawshank Redemption? I have that at home, but I can’t watch it without crying. Very moving.

@trs

Yes, it’s Casino. I think it’s Sharon Stone’s best acting role to date. I can never tire of watching it.

OK, I may have already given this away, but here’s another:

As your leader, I encourage you from time to time, and always in a respectful manner, to question my logic. If you’re unconvinced that a particular plan of action I’ve decided is the wisest, tell me so, but allow me to convince you and I promise you right here and now, no subject will ever be taboo. Except, of course, the subject that was just under discussion. The price you pay for bringing up either my Chinese or American heritage as a negative is… I collect your fu**ing head. Just like this fu**er here. Now, if any of you sons of bit**es got anything else to say, now’s the fu**ing time!

TRS

Yeah i admit, that the first time i saw it, i got a little misty at the end. (in a manly way, that is)

Kill Bill?

@ Sydney

KILL BILL!!!

Dang I would have beat Marquis if my stupid internet wasn’t acting up!!

@ Marquis

AWE that was cute!

@ Sydney and Marquis

I got another one:

One… two… three… four… five… six… seven… huh. Oswald was a fag.”

@SMDH/ Marquis De Sade/s Jesse helms,Gamma Ray. Smartazz the great and about 15 other names on here/ thats a little weird for a grown man to be so engrossed in kid play on a gossip site, dont you think?

@Marquis/trs

Yup, you’re both correct!

@Marquis

Yeah, that film will make you misty-eyed. I love the scene when Tim Robbins plays the classical music. Very well acted movie and both Robbins and Morgan Freeman were superb.

@trs

I need a hint, girl, lol.

@TRS

THE CHICKEN WAS BANGIN!! AND SO WAS THE POTATOES AND STRAWBERRIES AND CREAM SODA (lol) IM A DERN PIG GIRL!! WATCHING ME EAT, NO ONE WOULD EVER BELIEVE IM ONLY 105 LBS

OK, Marquis is probably going to get this right away:

Let me tell you somethin’. This here, right now, at this very moment, is all that matters to me. I love you. That’s urgent like a motherfu**er.

NITE TRS!! ENJOYED TRIPPING OFF OF MOVIES WITH YOU(smile)

OOOOHHH SYDNEY THATS MY MOVIE!! LOVE JONES!!!

Love Jones

SORRY MARQUIS, BUT EVEN WITH MY PUTER TRIPPIN, I BEAT YOU TO THAT ONE(LOL)

@SxyQBlondie

Girl, you ate that quickly? You’re making me hungry. I may have to log off soon, people.

sxyQblondie

LOL! Me and Sydney cyber bonded on that movie.

OKAY, LAST ONE FROM ME

“CAUSE IF YOU DONT DEFINE YOURSELF, FOR YOURSELF, YOU’LL BE CRUSHED INTO OTHER PEOPLES FANTASIES OF YOU AND EATEN ALIVE.”

@ Sydney

From the same movie:

“Old MacDonald had a farm. E-i-e-i-o. And on that farm he shot some guys. Bada boom, bada bing bang boom.”

sxyqblondie…. hey lady how are you? i see you in here making me hungry… i had some cold stone last night before i went to work.. i had the cake batter with sprinkles in it… boy i treated my self i dont care i work out and i am not fat like some call all the women on here, anywho i treat my self to frozen yogurt, ice cream, and mango sorbet all the time! i love it!

Bye, TRS!

Yeah, you two got it. *sniffle* I love that movie, lol.

sxyQblondie

Bestman

@MARQUIS

WHEW, I LOVE THAT MOVIE!! BLACK ROMANCE, WHEW I LOVED IT. LORENZ AND NIA ACTUALLY MADE A BELIEVABLE COUPLE IN THAT MOVIE YOU KNOW.

@trs

Is that from one of the Die Hard movies? lol Girl, I think my brain is fried.

@Marquis

Yes, we cyber-bonded over that movie, lol. It’s been over a year since we cyber-met, right? That was my anniversary gift to you. *hugs*

@ sxyQblondie.

please stop with the “all caps.”

makes difficult reading and it kinda underminds the seriousness or message of the comments you post.

@MARQUIS

DAMN MAN YOURE GOOD. IM GONNA HAVE TO EXPEDITE YOU GUYS TO V.A SO WE CAN HAVE MOVIE NIGHT (LOL) GOTTA WATCH MARQUIS THOUGH, WHEN WE HAVE TRIVIA LATER, HE AND TRS WILL BE GETTING OVER EVERYONE(lol)

@ BRAIDEDBEAUTY

HEYYYY GIRL!! WHERE YOU BEEN ALL DAY? GIRL YOU EATING UP SNACKS LIKE THAT!?? GREEDY AS I AM, IM ON THE WAY TO WHERE YOU ARE, LOVE ME SOME SWEETS.(Lmao)

@sydney

GIRL I DONT WASTE TIME WHEN IT COMES TO FOOD. IM NOT TRYING TO MAKE LOVE TO IT, IM TRYING TO EAT IT!(LOL,ROFL)

Sydney

Hugz right backatcha’.

LMAO @ SxyQBlondie Good one, girl, I hear ya!

TRS

OK I give up what’s the title. The Oswald sounds familiar though.

If Marquis the Cinephile has given up, I guess I might as well throw in the hat, lol. What is it, TRS?

Sydney

The second season starts later on this year. I forgot who was casted as the big bad for this season though.

@ Sydney and Marquis

It’s The Usual Suspects!! Kevin Space won his 1st Oscar for this movie. If you have not seen that movie, go out and rent it IMMEDIATLY. One of the best suspense films OF ALL TIME.

NITE TRS!! NITE SYDNEY!! YOU GUYS HAVE MADE IT FUN FOR ME TRIPPIN OVER HERE TODAY. YOU TOO MARQUIS. YOU’RE NOT A MEANIE (all the time..lol) SOME FOLKS JUST BRING IT OUT OF YOU. I LIKE YOU THOUGH, (CAUSE YOU REMEMBER MORE MOVIES THAN THE REST OF US..lol)

Thanks, Marquis. Glenn Close isn’t going to be in it? She made the show last year.

Here’s another one:

What happened to the color TV?

Mama, I smoked the color TV!

sxyqblondie… girl i love me some cold stone… sometimes i get the bing cherries on my cake batter ice cream… but i slow down and when i go to whole foods for my organic veggies and my body soaps… i get the mango or raspberry sorbet… they also have coconut water str8 from the coconut with straw already in it to get your ready to drink on! i love cocnut water its a good cleanser! but im trying to stay off the thread so much , every once in a while and plus im getting things ready to go back to chi.. cant wait!

@TRS

What, that’s from The Usual Suspects? And I loved that movie and Kevin Spacey.

Did you also like American Beauty?

@SxyQBlondie

Good night! Yeah, Marquis is really a sweetheart under all the name-calling and all. We now know how to bring out his softer side, lol.

@BRAIDED

NOW DONT YOU GET UP THERE AND FORGET TO CHECK IN ON ME, YOU KNOW YOU’RE MY FAVORITE CYBER FRIEND!!

@ Sydney

YEP, both of those quotes are from the Usual Suspects. That is my 3rd favorite movie of all time. I LOVE IT!!!

@ Sydney

Yes she will be on it as the star, but they casted someone to be the focal point of the overall story arc ala the Ted Danson Character.

Night, night sxyQblondie. It was fun.

TRS, look what you did, giving Marquis ideas. Marquis, I just complimented you — be good! Aren’t you enjoying this calm interaction with the ladies? lol

@MARQUIS

BEHAVE, DONT YOU BE IN HERE CAUSING AN UPROAR!! WITH THE ALIASES!!LOL

@SYDNEY

YEAH, WE JUST HAVE TO REEL HIM (MARQUIS) AWAY FROM THE EVIL DARKSIDE THAT OTHERS TRY TO LURE HIM INTO(LOL)

Awww don’t worry y’all. I’ll bring out ol’ Keyser on those special occasions when it’s warranted, and only for those who deserve my special concoction of PISS AND VINEGAR.

@TRS, SYDNEY, MARQUIS, TEEDY, KZZME

YOU ALL MADE ME FEEL LIKE I WAS SITTING IN A ROOM WITH YOU GUYS TRIPPING WITH YOU ALL. I WILL FROM NOW ON CONSIDER YOU ALL MY “MOVIE CREW” LOL

We can debate whether or not married vs non-married mothers is right or wrong from now until we meet our maker, but can we agree that the current state of black America (the 70% stat) is not working for us? This is what Obama (his speech to the NAACP was on point) and Bill have been talking about. The reality is that there are not a whole lot of fathers involved in their children’s lives, thus our children suffering the consequences of it. Please if you see this plight working, tell me how.

Regarding “judging” Erykah, again, we make judgments on a daily basis. People were raised to have a certain degree of what they deem right or wrong, and based on that, they make assessments. Now, Erykah is a grown azz woman, and what she does doesn’t affect me in the least, however, it still do not believe (my opinion) that having all these different babies by different men (not just the woman’s fault) is healthy for the children. Oh, and by the way, SMDH, I don’t think marriage guarantees that a healthy child per se, however, if you look at the studies (someone way up top outlined it), children fair better in a two-parent, loving home.

@TRS

I was totally thrown off by the ending to The Usual Suspects. Very well done.

OK, this is from one of my top fave cult classics, lol.

Christina, get out of that bed. Get out of that bed. You live in the most beautiful house in Brentwood and you don’t care if your clothes are stretched out from wire hangers. And your room looks like some two-dollar-a-week furnished room in some two-bit back street town in Okalahoma. Get up. Get up. Clean up this mess.

LOL @ MARQUIS

PISS AND VINEGAR HUH? LOL, WHAT A ROTTEN COMBINATION..LMFAO

Bye TRS! This was a lot of fun. I love tripping out with you all.

Sydney

Uhh, i assume that this is a chick flick, right?

Oh, hugs to you, too, TRS!

OK, y’all, I’m going to log off myself and get some dinner. Have a wonderful evening. Hugs to you all.

LOL @ Marquis

Yeah, it’s a chick flick — Mommy Dearest. Don’t ask, lol. They used to play it all the time on cable and Faye Dunaway played a mean Joan Crawford. I even read the book.

You have a good night, too, and be good! I like this softer side of you, lol. *big hugs*

@ Sydney & sxyQblondie

Goodnight, cyber hugz and gropes and feels. Have a good one.

SXYQBLONDIE…. girl you know i will keep in touch with you and ms sugar walls and slides and da pro… well da pro is in chi .. i think maybe i will look him up… but you and sugar walls are my sure nuff homies!!!

oh i forgor my guy Dre,,, ohhhh Dre im sorry i love you and Brooklyn and i would ever forget you twos!!!

I hope that there aren’t any teenage girls reading this blog thinking that it’s okay to bear children with every man that they ‘love’. Not cute Erykah. Yeah, slip ups happen, but to purposely have several children with a variety of men is just silly not to mention dangerous.

brooklyn is my guy .. he is a stand up guy on here and he doesnt come on here playing a role… i have never seen him hit on anyone on here.. but i never really understood why his wife had her gravy saying i know you bi*ches want what i have… ????????????

To the parents on this thread that have children or to the ones that may have nieces or nephews–

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Ask yourself this–Would you HONESTLY want your daughter or niece to be an unwed mom thrice by three different men?

Or–would you want your son or nephew to father children by three different women?

Or would being financially well off justify this as being OK?

I’m just asking…..

Ashcakes, I commend you for your intelligence and open-mindedness on this subject. But I’m stuck on the story about the 17 yrd old born into poverty with four kids…I am a black woman who was born to a teenaged mother, father in jail all my life. But I persevered, I don’t have any children (yet), and I’d like to help mentor and provide support to the girls at the home that you work for. Please, email me at: barestofsouls1@aol.com. There’s got to be a way to teach these girls that they have some value despite whatever situation they were born into. And you be blessed-you have alot of wisdom for your age!

I dont understand people having no problem imposing an unworthy parent onto thier unborn child, if u cannot accept and commit to each other why subject a child to this unwhole person. No, Ms Badu, it is not ok,even if you are capable of raising them.

Wow this thread has almost 900 posts

You guys are fired up.

Why aren’t anyone judging trash like Halle berry and JLo for having multiple marriages? Why can’t berry keep a man in the last 15 years of her career. Why do all of them supposedly stray. She had sex w/ Michael Ealy while still married too Benet, but don’t think her sh&t stink. JLo has been married 3 times before age 35. Halle hates every man she has dated/married. Borderline Personality chick!! Both of these chicks are living and have lived immorally, so will u not buy music or movie tix?

@ Lynnett–

It’s not that people have not given their opinions on J-Lo or Halle Berry and the number of times they were married. The topic at hand was Eryka Badu defending her right to a third pregnancy by yet “another” dude. That’s what most were responding to.

Believe it or not–this is one of very few posts in which I managed to stay on topic.

I think my cyber ADD meds are time released–therefore have taken root and starting to work!

Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love me some Badu but I’m really disappointed to read her comments. I grew up as a step child w/ 1/2 siblings and I just can’t condone someone purposely having kids w/ different partners that’s just reckless and tacky. We come down hard on people like mos def who has 6 kids w/ 4 different women so Badu should be no different.

Kids need both parents!! I’m sick of wack ass black women always being the first to insist being a single parent is ok. If you’re not committed to your partner then don’t procreate! Damn. It’s not fun when u growing up w/ 1/2 sisters who obviously don’t look like you.

I will love me some Badu till I die but she’s not as righteous and conscious as she’s led us to believe. She probably got knocked up while on tour for this album. She’s been looking mighty good lately.

@ Lynette

it’s not about multiple marriages hun. Jlo has two kids from the same father. This is an issue of her having MULTIPLE baby daddies UNWED w/ industry people.

On a softer note–

I can’t fathom Erykah starting out into motherhood thinking that she would have a whole heap of kids while choosing to remain unwed. I believe, once she found herself in this situation–she decided to work at being the best MOTHER she could be.

Hey–I definitely won’t rip her for that but I will say/type this–being the ABSOLUTE best mother to your sons is to know and understand that we as mothers cannot teach our sons how to become men.

@ marley gaye–

I’m going to take this s-l-o-w-l-y for your sake.

I WAS THE ONE THAT TYPED–”we as mothers cannot teach our sons how to become men”

A REAL mother understands the concept of that phrase. No, we cannot teach them how to become men but we can enstill values in them that can show genuine respect and admiration for women.

As far as your comment about the movies– NO, YOU need to recognize that it is what it is and to understand that most single parent women will “get in where they fit in”.

Let the men teach their sons how to BECOME a man. Real men will jump at that chance–all day everday!

A real one, that is.

If you’re not a woman then, I cannot expect you to understand.

In all sincerity–ask your mother. Hopefully, she can explain.

And trust–I’m DEFINETLY 100% ALL WOMAN and proud of it!

I meant to type “wet dream”.

@ Diva

I was here 8 hours ago and i see people are still being schooled in here…damn shame what we are willing to condone

@ Introducing me–

I always get a laugh when there are forums such as these. I’m like–How can I, AS A WOMEN–actually TEACH my son HOW to be a man???

That’s almost like saying I can teach a dog how to be a dog or a cat how to be a cat–when in fact I am neither!

Go figure!

Lol!!!!!!!!

@ Diva …LOL

I know but there are to many people that come on here preaching the things they learned by osmosis…no no one pay attention to content they only care that their point is heard and respected

@1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals!!!

Hi Diva! No I didn’t misunderstand your comment. I think I was mostly aiming at the ones who were “name calling”. I agree, I mean I don’t think any woman in her right mind sets out to be a single parent, especially with 3 different fathers. I got your comment kind of late and I hope maybe you will read this back tomorrow. But no I think we need more women on this blog like you, sxyQ and some others who make sensible comments.

Thanks for both of your comments!

I’m sitting here LMAO! My degree is in Business Managment with a minor in Psychology. I guess I need to head on over to Moses Cone and operate on someone–since I have a degree–does it matter in which field??

Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!

The Queendom is in Hoe-dom – please, she need to wrap it up, swallow some pills…Erykah should stop justifying being knocked up by different men. I like her but she’s tacky…

I dont like to hear a woman say she cant do this and cant do that .. do you know what you are made of? generations of makeup that no other woman on the face of this earth has and yet with all your damn degrees you sit here in this fukin shell talkin bout what you CANT do without your babies daddy in his life, OR WHAT HE might LACK BECAUSE dude wasnt man enough to honor his COMMITMENT his Vows HIs word and from what i hear all a man has is his balls and his WORD. and thats the desired prototype for your son? who knows the absent daddy might help him be a better man.

The only mistake she made was saying F*ck my fans.

I would never say that when my lively-hood depends on my fans, how stupid.Next she’ll be on ‘When the checks stop coming in’ I still love her but she needs to stop taking comments from complete strangers so personal. They’re not in your world.

**The one and ONLY 1TruDiva has left the building**

Here y’all go with this debating shyt again. Why waste all of those damn words on an internet argument if you’re not fazed by what people are saying to you? I don’t get it.

@ Real Woman

I do not condone it and I am a virgin! I am not speaking negatively of Erykah, I just think it is a bit much! I think having sex is fine, but you have to be RESPONSIBILE! Erykah to me has shown reckless behavior. This is why I keep my legs closed so I do not put myself at risk. But that is just me! I am not passing judgement, just giving my opinion. I do not care what Erykah does in her personal life. But for her and some other people in the post to think that everyone is supposed to agree with Erykah’s behavior is not fair!

1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals!!!(Check me out!)

On a softer note–

I can’t fathom Erykah starting out into motherhood thinking that she would have a whole heap of kids

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Wow…a whole heap…lol!

AND ALL IM SAYING beatiful that your opinion of ANY woman not being able to raise any man is absurd, what cant a woman do? you feel me. i love women that much that i refuse to beleive a man can do anything better , for if we look at the world of ” men ” all we see is war. and though Afeni shakur raised a warrior with her step husband its his mamma that made that difference in his life to put those childish things away and BE a MAN for his (dear mamma). you are articulate your son will benefit from that, you are strong your son sees that , and is probably thinkin to himself this is one hell of a woman. You woman – a part of adams rib has just as much knowledge and know how to do just the same.

if my neice or nephew went out and did these things getting this woman and what woman pregnant , i would hope i had enough of an impact on him so that he’s there for his child… i really could care less about the marriage postion of it all. and my neice i would hope at least she sets a good example for her children. as far as who she laid with and how many is her bussiness. and if it was my child i would feel the same way. I feel this way because marriage to me well its only a peice of paper that can be ripped and shredded.

I find it so amazing for one to judge! Who are we and what can we say is “RIGHT” who’s to say that you must stay in a relationship just to make the outside happy. Who would subject themselves purposely to Hurt or to not be wanted just for the “SAKE” of the children. That to me is the problem, not one time have you ever heard her say anything NEGATIVE about ANY of the fathers. Her son is 8 or 9 her daughter is 4 and she is now with seed, the children are not 1,2,and with child! She has LOved and moved forward and with the men that she has Loved a GIFT was created! She probably has dated or stayed celibate and when it was time for the get down….. after months or years of loving her womb was filled. Her children are intelligent BEINGS and have a BEAUTIFUL AND TALENTED MOTHER AND WITH HER ENERGY SHE HAS CREATIVE AND BEAUTIFUL MEN in her life to help RAISE her children. They are friends not the “CONVENTIONAL” Cosby show and i am guessing that is what you LONG FOR!, some don’t. And with that said ALLOW her personal life to not filter your head . We have so much AGAINST US AS WOMBMEN AND MEN, BLACK and Brown. She could be with this brother and this could be her “husband or LifePartner then what? Lets Not Judge let the Creator do that on her Judgement day.

Get a life each and every one of you…she can have as many kids with as many men as she wants…that’s what money can do for you….put that in your pipe and smoke it!!!

Cody Cole I think what you said was really profound. I don’t eat pork or beef either, however, if it was between me eating that meat over using a condom, that “meat” would be wrapped up before entering my body. Aside from people arguing the point that she can provide for her children there are other things that are involved than monetary issues. Its quite alarming that people think its ok to have protected sex THESE DAYS. Especially when some people feel that they can cheat if they are not married, whether they are in a committed relationship or not. That reminds me of a chick that was a vegan and she said it was for health reason, yet again she was a chain smoker. If that not an oxymoron I don’t know what is.

Although I enjoy her music, I think she is “feeling herself” a bit much. Ya ain’t all THAT! Must be yet another coronation I missed. If you want to be a “queen”, carry yourself like royalty. All I see here is a baby mama with talent. Funny how celebrities think the rules of the game never apply to them.

ONE THAAANG FO CERTAIN AND TWO THAAANGS FO SHO SHE DAMN HO CAN AFFORD TO RAISE EACH ONE OF THEM BABIES WHO ARE PROBABLY GETTING TAUGHT FAR MORE ABOUT SELF LOVE AND RESPECT FOR INDIVIDUALITY THAN HOW MANY PEOPLES CHILDREN THAT ARE TRYING TO JUDGE HER ???? I DONT CARE HOW MANY BABY DADDIES SHE HAS SHE IS A BAD ASS MUSICIAN AND THATS HOW I RELATE TO HER ,HER BELIEFS ARE HERS….HOWEVER I DO KNOW A LOT OF WOMEN AND MEN WHO HAVE MORE THAN THREE DIFFERENT BABY DADDIES/ MOMMAS LETS KEEP IT REAL , EVERYONE ALWAYS HAS SOMETHING TO SAY WHEN A WOMAN HAS MORE THAN ONE BABY DADDY BUT LETS NOT FORGET THAT THEIR ARE MEN WHO HAVE FAR MORE THAN JUST THREE BABY MOMMAS AND ARE NOT TAKING CARE OF ONE OF THE CHILDREN EMOTIONALLY OR FINACIALLY SOOOOOOOOOOOO BE EASY ON UR QUEEN BADU !

DRE 3000 IS THE FIRST AND THE DOC IS THE SECOND

I was raised by a mother who had 6 kids by 4 different men. 3 including myself with my dad and the other 3 with 3 different men. I have one sister and 4 brothers. With me being the oldest I saw a lot of shyt. Anyway, I lost respect for mom’s for a while while I was in my teens becasue she kind of gave up on us and left us with pops. I hated his ass too because he beat the shyt out of her and was a dog. Through it all though, we turned out to be some of the most normal and stable adults. I am married with 2 kids by the same woman, and I have one other brother who is married with 2 kids. Ms Badu will have to deal with her own life and learn from her mistakes. I just pray for the kids that they are able to live with the fact that their mother made mitakes and find it in thier hearts to learn from her and sterr clear of the paths that she decided to follow.

Peace and rubbers!

I feel that EB is doing what the LORD put her here to do and that is reproduce! Yes she is a single mother, but she does her thing and takes care of her children. I think people need to read that bible and understand it before they go and judge a woman who has children with different men. This didn’t just start, it’s been around since the beginning. I don’t feel that she should feel as if she made a mistake. I have more respect for a woman who gets pregnant out of wedlock and gives birth, than a female who lays on her back and then goes to Planned Parenthood!

ok what is with the we should not judge foolishness?? sounds like a LAME excuse to me, call foolishness what it is when u see it, and that is not judging. We can comment on Ms Badu because she is in the PUBLIC sphere, yes every aspect of her life is up for discussion and can be used to reflect reality. Scanning the comments above I see there is no hope for a black family unit with a ‘mother’ ‘father’ and ‘children’. So go on black women in america be unwed mothers for unworthy men because u r finacially able to look after the spawn. Wow.

…unworthy men that refuse to commit to you (no marriage) and hence is able to be uncommited to his offspring.

tired of having problems??? well avoid drama.

is it possible one can like children, relationships and not see the importance of getting married?

what is normal?

The woman is consistent in everything. appearance, music, message, mothering… home schooling her kids… she does it her own way… no bitterness, hidden agendas etc

I think she understands the need to keep her children and thier fathers close and have them in thier lives.

This is very difficult to do with one ex and it is only because this woman is so self assured she manages it with more.

Imagine telling a guy hey no drama because I didnt want to marry you in the first place.

this possibility is making me dizzy!

she makes us uncomfortable by comfortable in this and i suspect if we discover her kids and thier dads are happy then we will even be more uncomfortable

hmmmmmmmmm

she makes us uncomfortable by being so comfortable in this situation and i suspect if we discover her kids and thier dads are happy then we will even be more uncomfortable

hmmmmmmmmm

by the way “kiss my placenta”…

priceless ms badu

priceless

How she chooses to live her life is her own affair. What’s sad is seeing how many donkeys here condone or excuse this type of behavior. It’s OK because she has money and can “take care of her kids”? Only in OUR community is this kind of bull—- acceptable.

I don’t understand why women continue to have children by men that do not respect them enough to marry them.

but hey, God for bid you should “disrespect” a black woman.

uhh, yeah do you Ms Queendom

Dr Richard…you are absolutely right! Black women-like myself-have to have respect for ourselves first. I like Erykah Badu’s music but because she CHOSE to be a public figure: because she CHOSE to market herself as a creative, intellgent sista who empowers others, we do have a right to ‘sound off’ on her situation. And if she didn’t really care she wouldn’t have released such a pissy statement. Mistakes happen to all of us but not two, three, four times. This kind of behavior-having babies by different men, perpetuates a stereotype about black women as being ‘loose’ and black men as being irresponsible. I’m a (newly) single black woman, earning six figures. I’m funny and attractive, no kids, and people are shocked that I DON’T have a house full of kids and that I WON’T allow a man to lay up in my house without marrying me. It’s not Erykah Badu that I’m judging-it’s how her behavior causes other people to judge US that I have a problem with.

Slice it how you want to, she’s got whorish behavior. He body is a temple of Doom and Disease. How long will she be able to care for those children when she dies from AIDS. Lord knows these rapper doods are sticking their dicks into some nasty hoes. What example is she setting for her children? She needs to read the Holy Bible.

I hope her daughter doesn’t grow up and have this same way of thinking.Truly sad

EB

Wait a minute! U stupid ___!

Yah okay like women who actually wind up like this actually predicted it…the chick said she didn’t want it to happen this way but it did and she is making the best of the situation. What is wrong with that?

And to the lady saying she makes six figures and everyone is surprised she doesn’t have a house full of kids?? Get some new friends or something because anyone who is surprised that someone else doesn’t have kids needs help. KIDS ARE NOT FOR EVERYONE but they are obviously for Ms. Badu. Those of you who don’t have them yet weren’t meant to have them at this time or maybe ever. MONEY or marriage definitely don’t guarantee good parenting skills.

BADU

BABY DO YOU! EVERYBODY CAN’T BE LIKE YOU! YOU ARE YOURSELF, AND F.UCK WHAT A HATER SAY!

realwoman(Check me out!)

Yah okay like women who actually wind up like this actually predicted it…the chick said she didn’t want it to happen this way but it did and she is making the best of the situation. What is wrong with that?

And to the lady saying she makes six figures and everyone is surprised she doesn’t have a house full of kids?? Get some new friends or something because anyone who is surprised that someone else doesn’t have kids needs help. KIDS ARE NOT FOR EVERYONE but they are obviously for Ms. Badu. Those of you who don’t have them yet weren’t meant to have them at this time or maybe ever. MONEY or marriage definitely don’t guarantee good parenting skills.

Spoken like a true Hoodrat sympathizer. Bravo!

HOE !!!

Ms. Badu,

You AND I are the same age. This is too silly for a woman in her mid to late 30s. Yes, you can take care of your kids, but at the end of the day you have three DIFFERENT men picking up their kids on Father’s Day. Boo, Triple Boo!

However, I love Mama’s Gun!!!

@KDOGG- STFU!!

IT amazes me how some people think.

So, because things didnt work out with the first two childrens fathers she should never have children again? THATS A RIDICULOUS THOUGHT… You get one life and it isnt that long you do what the hell makes YOU happy!!

Oh please! all you people on here talkin about “who are we to judge?” needs to shut the hell up okay? lets be real for a minute. without judgement there would be no rules and people would be walking around acting a damn fool. Oh so i guess its okay for people to sleep with dogs, cats, children. hey have a baby with your brother or father. who are we to judge? shut up. Everyone has to judge at some time in their lives. Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise ones learn from the mistakes of others. Badu needs to stop havin babies with every man she has a relationship with. Oh so i guess you have 10 different relationships, your gonna have 10 babies. stfu.

People are assuming that everyone else wats to live by there moral standards, just like you have yours badu has hers. This is why theres so much wrong with the world today. The white went to Afrika and demanded people start living by his moral standards, we blame em for that but cant help judging one another!

Here we have a strong black women that loves and takes care of her kids, and three blak man who take care of and support their kids, instead of celibrating that, we cant help but judge and hold her to our moral standard. She doesnt want to get married! Marriage isnt an insurance policie forriding of and living happily ever after. My parents didnt get married until their oldest child, my sisteras in her twenties and only because my mother changed faith and wanted to live according to the bible, her new moral standard, before that she didnt care about marriage and my father didnt either, he did it to induldge her. We all still have the same mom and dad even though we were born out of wedlock.

Lets decide to accept the choices others make and try not to judge them ass long as it doesnt effect us. Believe me it will make you a happier human being and give you spare time to worry about YOUR life instead of erikah and her three baby daddys!

I meant lets decide to accept the choices others make and try not to judge them ass long as it doesnt effect others in a negative way. Believe me it will make you a happier human being and give you spare time to worry about YOUR life instead of erikah and her three baby daddys!

@ luckie “Oh please! all you people on here talkin about “who are we to judge?” needs to shut the hell up okay? lets be real for a minute. without judgement there would be no rules and people would be walking around acting a damn fool. Oh so i guess its okay for people to sleep with dogs, cats, children. hey have a baby with your brother or father. who are we to judge? shut up. Everyone has to judge at some time in their lives. Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise ones learn from the mistakes of others. Badu needs to stop havin babies with every man she has a relationship with. Oh so i guess you have 10 different relationships, your gonna have 10 babies. stfu.”

There is a reason that there arent anny laws for having kids out of wedlock or having more than one baby daddy, it doesnt hurt annyone else laws are there to protect us from eachother and from the government.

Youre right without laws we would be roaming wild, but theres a reason that there arent laws for every single aspect of your life, theyre limited to protection and reggulation thats because we are individuals and have the right to live the way we want!

So since theres no law against what badu is doing its a moral isue that means we can differ on the topic she chooses to live that way, I wouldnt but she has the right to, I’m just saying the world would be a happier place if we chose to respect eachother in the choices we make ass long as it doesnt harm others.

Being gay doesnt harm others and stil we choose to damn people in the black community for comming out, so what happened: “down low!”

I never liked her or her music anyway and now i like her even less…..if thats possible. Just plain ignorant. She is nothing but a tacky ho. All she is doing is putting the ignorance of black folks further on the forefront for the world to see. So its ok to have different baby daddies if you can take care of them. This is why i dont like vegetarians they all sound like babbling idiots. Thats what happens when you take meat out your diet. Crazy nappy headed ho…..lol…

I find your text so moving – I’m truly waiting to reading more of your threads!

When her daughter Puma does this same trife sh!t, or her son runs up and through a series of sisters, she bet’ not say sh!t, b/c SHE laid the blueprint. If she can look them in the eye and feel cool with that bottom-feeder garbage, fine, but I’ve told my 2 kids to ONLY have children while married or you’re asking for drama for all involved. Did I follow my own advice? YOU D@MN RIGHT!!! It’s the height of hypocrisy for her to solicit the public’s $$$ by being an artist, but then telling them to kiss whatever b/c they want to state the facts about her morals. Sad, sad, sad….

Melanie Griffith did the same thing only she was married. I don’t approve of what Badu has done and think it’s tacky as well.

if everyone was as busy cleaning their own houses they wouldn’t have time to see if her’s was dirty and just for the record_ along with the very secure finances she can offer her children she is wise beyond her lives a loving mother soul_ something these new age mothers lack a lot of & she respects her children’s feelings and has/will continue to build foundations for them to walk on that you simple minded judgemental hat3rs will never understand.

Give me a break! I am so tired of Black people trying to justify immoral behavior with stupid comments such as “What is marriage?” It is an institution created by God to create a stable environment for men, women and children that’s what it is. Every society has some version of marriage and marriage has outlasted almost every other institution.

Our ancestors sought out marriage as one of their first declarations of independence after suffering bondage in America. This present generation has taken us lower than the animals.

A Queen, a Sacred woman, please you are a singer nothing more nothing less. And you whoring around is no different than some chick from the street doing the same. If you did not care what people thought you would not rant and rave about it. So what if you are still friends with your baby daddies. That is saying less than nothing. You also say your children are happy and well adjusted. Your children are only exposed to your madness they have nothing to compare it with so of course they are content.

The worst part is all you idiots who are trying to justify this behavior. Look at all our children, young girls who are screwing around making babies. It is not enough to “be able to financially take care of your children”. Money is not the end all and be all for raising healthy children. As the mother, YOU are the first teacher and example of womanhood. You are the Mother of civilization whether you want to be or not. If you behave uncivilized what can you expect from the next generation?

May God have mercy on you all!

I will be in the same predicament as Ms. Badu when I finally find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I know it will “look” bad but what other people perceive from simple math will not keep me from living. I had my oldest (11 years old) as a result of a rape. My youngest (8 years old) from being stupid and young. Who knows what is in the plans for me. I never wanted 3 children by two different dads, let alone 3. But what was I supposed to do, abort a child because society will condemn me for being human and having to go through this unpredictable thing called life?

The problem that people on this board seems to be having is that Badu is black, unmarried, and not cowering in front of the masses. What’s been pointed out and what people fail to understand is that this is a family people, not a black/white one. Other ethnicities have the same issue, they just cover it up with marriage. And even still, if a person marries for a 3rd time, is she not supposed to have a child with her husband if that’s what they both want? Get real. What little girl (black or white or anything in between) dreams of having multiple children by multiple men? But it’s now reality.

The best way to seal with it is to teach our girls how to be women and our boys how to be men. But too many of you are leaving the mother to teach everything. A girl also learns how to be a woman by how her daddy treats her, not just from watching her momma. A boy learns how to be a man by how his daddy treats his momma. Answer: daddies are important. So women choose wisely.

@Sajdah

I am a big proponent of marriage. However, I must state that marriage was not created by God but rather by men. Traditionally, marriage tied the woman to the man, severing her right to seek out her own relationships. The woman used to have to kneel before her husband while saying the vows. At times, she could be married without her consent, even without her presence. It was about control and about “knowing” who the father of the kids was.

I’m not talking pagan marriages, but the ancient Christian marriages.

It’s all that child support they suck men dry with its a profession to become a mother now days of xx amount of kids xxx.xxx.xxx amount of child support where is the justice for the men of these kids?