Baduizms: Her Royal “Queendom”???
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Peep Erykah Badu in the newest cover of Veg News magazine. Also in the realm of Baduizms, Erykah blasts “haters” for criticizing her 3rd pregnancy by yet another dude:
“How dare you disrespect the queendom … and my children and my intelligence. I’ve never been so disgusted in all of my life,” the singer began in her rant.
“I am a great mother and caregiver to my two children, and to this world,” Badu wrote. “My children are two of the kindest and happiest people I have met … I am their doctor and their nurse, and even sometimes their mother and their father. I am an excellent mother and resent all of the negative comments and insults on my character.”
“I put much time and though into having and raising my children. I’ve had the honors of having two home births and two wonderful partners by my side. Every relationship I have been in was because i loved the person dearly and was dedicated to us ‘exclusively’ for a number of years. The fathers of my children are my brothers and friends. We have a great deal of respect for one another and always will. We love out children to no end. We took our own ‘vows’ and continue to uphold them, and that is what that is. Question? What is marriage? Who is the judge? … Would it ‘look better’ to marry and divorce and marry again?”
She did admit that she may lose a few fans, but didn’t care, refusing to bite her tongue. “If I lose you as a fan because I want to continue to have children, then f*** off … who needs you … certainly not me … kick rocks … call Tyrone … pack light … bite me,” Badu wrote.
At the end, she signs off with a big “kiss my placenta.”
For someone who dances to the beat of her own drummer, she’s taking folks’ opinions rather personal. Having 3 kids by 3 different cats can’t help but to raise an eyebrow or two. SMH.
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Nice pic EB!!!
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I LOVE THE PIC~!!!!
Why do I have a feeling this post MIGHT end up in the psychiatric ward of thoughts and postings?
She is sexy.I have searched her photo on ” C a s u a l S e e k . C o m ” which is a casual encounter dating site. It is said that she is seeking one night relationship . Is it true?
I guess because the majority of them do…..
I LIKE HER BUT THATS TOO MANY BABY DADDY’S
I KNOW THATS RIGHT MS. BADU!!!! DO YOU MAMA!!!!!
I don’t care what the broad wants to say. It is tacky to have three kids by three different men. And as a black woman, she is really feeding into the stereotype of this “baby mamma” garbage. Stick with one man erica.
She has three kids already?!?
NO, I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE MOST WONDERFUL IDEA TO HAVE CHILDREN BY MULTIPLE FATHERS/OUTSIDE OF WEDLOCK. BUT THOSE ARE MY BELIEFS, AND YOU CANNOT FORCE THOSE ON OTHERS. HOWEVER, WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER PERSONAL LIFE IS ABSOLUTELY NONE OF OUR BUSINESS. DOES THAT CHANGE THE WAY YOU FELT ABOUT HER AS A FAN WHEN YOU FIRST HEARD HER ART? JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE A FAN, YOU CANNOT DICTATE TO HER WHAT SHE SHOULD DO WITH HER LIFE AS FAR AS REPRODUCING IS CONCERNED. WHAT IF SHE WOULD HAVE ALREADY HAD THE CHILDREN BY THE TIME SHE BECAME AN ARTIST? WOULD THERE BE SO MUCH MOUTH ABOUT IT THEN? IT IS BECAUSE SHE IS FAMOUS, AND WE ONLOOKERS LOVE TO VICARIOUSLY LIVE OUR LIVES THRU OTHERS, AND BELIEVE THAT OUR OPINIONS SHOULD MAKE OR BREAK THE ARTIST. LOL..SOME FOLKS JUST NEED TO STAY IN THEIR LANE. AND NEVER MIND ERYKAH HAVING 50 ELEVEN CHILLINS’, AT LEAST SHE CAN TAKE CARE OF HERS. WHAT ABOUT THESE JOKERS RUNNING AROUND POPPING UP PREGGERS ERR FIVE MINUTES, DONT GOT A JOB, DONT WANT ONE, AND MY TAXES ARE PAYING FOR THEIR LITTLE OFFSPRING? LETS GET PISSED ABOUT THAT!
Erykah can rant and rave all she wants. It’s still tacky and wrong to raise kids PURPOSELY without the benefit of a father. Marry and divorce again? Why can’t she just stay married? Is she trying to re-populate the earth on her own? No “queen” would behave like that.
What can you say it is her choice. She is grown and taken care of her kids.
If that woman wants to have 3 kids with 3 different men, that’s HER BUSINESS! Please, like non black woman don’t do the same thing! At leats she TAKES CARE of her children unlike some women and men who have children by the same mate and can’t properly raise them. Please, many of us (not all) have half siblings. Christie Brinly, all 3 of her children have different dads, is it any different and now she’s had her 3rd divorce on nasty terms and broadcast to the entire worl. At least Ms. Badu has a positive relationship with the fathers of her kids. Do you BADU!
Ms. Badu is pissed off right now. I think as fans we shouldnt judge people. Sometimes people love hard and babies in up coming from that. I feel like as long as she is not neglecting those kids and their fathers are in their lives then its her business.
Me personally, I dont think I could do something like that just on the strength of I want a husband and I would like it if all my kids were by him, but sometimes life doesnt roll like that.
By the way she looks fierce in the pics. D-Town stand up. Shout out to anybody here from Dallas. I’m straight from the PG. I cant hate on her anyways!!! She fam!!!
@ sxyQblondie… I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!!
Yeah, she will be able to take care of her children, but if she is pregnant now, wouldn’t that make 3 different baby daddies. Come on now.
K last comment for the summer.
this lady is a Pop. she know it you know it. Is she a superwomen? is she built to be in the Alicia Keys video? Puffing all dat lye. wait is Alicia a superwomen breaking up families… ooops let me say this on an end note OBAMA don’t let “coke head coo coo bush” surpress the election of 2008. easy
And im sayin… Was she supossed to stay with her first baby’s father just because they had a child… <bHELL NO!!!! Maybe when she is with these men she feels like they are THE ONE, but shit changes in relationships.. Shit can go sour quick like and there aint nothing left to do but move the fuck on…
She is here for only one reason for us((as fans)) and thats to entertain.. Her personal life is NOT our business.. Nor should we take the place of God and try to judge the next person… You never know where you’ll end up in life.. That could be you, with three different baby mamas/baby daddys, and you wouldnt want people talking shit about you..
just pray for her dont put her down,dont judge her
Erykah Badu, you are my new best friend!! Keep speaking your mind girl, and keep telling it like it is.
ALL MY EX-fans can kiss my luscious light skin ass.
I LOVE LIGHT BUTT!!! WHOOOO!!!
I will always have love for Erykah Badu’s Music and what she does with her womb and uterus is strictly her perogative.
Thank you WHOA!!!! It is her business what she wants to do…..if she has a good co-parent relationship with the fathers of her children, then what of it? At least she’s not out here BASHING the Black men in her life, like so many of us do!!! And she got enough dough to take care of them, she seems to be raising her children right with their fathers in their lives so that’s what matters.
We seem to always want to assign to some European notion of commitment and family without realizing that that way may not be for us. We also seen to think that the way we live our lives is the way EVERYBODY needs to lead their lives. If this works for her and her children grow up to be healthy, well adjusted young adults, with two (or more) parents in their lives who love them, then what’s the big deal?
Love her music, but her outlook on life is a bit confusing. She’s blessed to be financially capable of taking care of her children, if the “daddies” weren’t able to do so. That does not always stand true for the average (or living below average) female in today’s society. Their children sometimes become the burden of the taxpayer who contributes to the welfare system in order to take care of these children. In the end, it is her business, as long as they stay her business, and not the business of us taxpayers…
I read this and it much longer than whats above. She got in some people’s as*ess and as well as she could because I hate when people try to judge people. Shes about to have three kids that arent that close in age for people to put the “Whore” her. Now if her kids were 4,3,2,1 in ages & if she did then I dont get why that would be an issue for us to discuss. What is more under-lining is the sexism that is displayed in the industry and in this country. Do your research on how many R&B cats and rap cats have multiple baby mommas? So you mean to tell me if you have a 10 year old and a 5 year old and now you’re pregnant again, you’re guilty of having three serious relationships in 10yrs??? Please..
Oh yeah, I just wanted to say to all those people judging her look at it like this.
My mother has 3 different kids by three different daddies, but she wasnt a whore. She was married to my father, they stayed together 10 yrs. They got divorced, she met my middle brother’s dad and stayed with him for 3 years. That didnt work cause the nigga was crazy. Then she met my step father who she was with for damn near 15 years and my little brother came from that. That’s certainly not whoring. Lie sometimes isnt just cookie cutter.
How many of you on here have different baby daddies?
@SWEET CHEEKS
GIRL, FOLKS ARE OUT OF CONTROL! LIKE THEY DONT KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE MORE THAN ONE CHILD BY DIFFERENT FATHERS, OR LIKE HALF OF HER FANS DONT FALL VICTIM TO THE SAME SITUATION. IF IT BOTHERS YOU THAT BAD, DONT BUY HER MUSIC. SIMPLE AS THAT. BUT ITS NOT GONNA STOP HER TALENT FROM BEING EXCELLENT. IM LIKE SHOOT, AT LEAST SHE’S EMPLOYED DAMMIT!!(LOL) AND MAKING MORE MONEY THAN THOSE OF US WHO FIND TIME TO POST ON BOSSIP ALL DAY. BOTTOM LINE, MY STATE TAXES DONT HAVE TO FEED HER CHILDREN. SHE’S GOT IT ALL UNDER CONTROL!(lmao)
Come on kids let me hear you count with me.
One, One…
Two, Two…
Three, Three…
That’s right three baby daddy’s.
On the next episode we will learn to count to four.
Here’s a list of your spelling words and phrases for next weeks test.
Child Support
Shack-in Up
Common Law
Role Model
Skank
Booty Call
Jump Off
Oops
Christy Brinkley…..Madonna……Ingrid Bergman (feel free to add the others as they come to mind) and a VARIETY of other white women have done the same if not worse! It is what it is – her kids arent living off the system – who cares!
Who is her second child by? I know the first one is by Andre 3000. Who is this third one by?
Andre 3000?
shes not the first sista to have multiple baby daddies…at least it’s only three..and she know’s who they are…same for the men…dont trip…some of your favorite stars and sports figures have way more kids than that by different women….dont they evander…..
All im saying is just because you find a new relationship with a man does not mean you have to have a baby with every new person you meet. I meet new men everyday and have had several relationships and i dont have a baby with every new man i am in a relationship with. sorry ladies there is no justification behind that. its tacky. stop having babies by every man thinking that will keep him around, cuz thats the real story. it might not be erykah’s but its the story for a lot of other chicks.
I like Erykah…but why does she have to be so extreme…is it really necessary to always look a damn mess?
I like erykah but, It’s not o.k to have any kids out of wedlock there is no way anyone can justify that. Marriage is not always the key but don’t knock it after all, isn’t that’s god will? so please don’t trivilize this. I for one have one child out of wedlock and yes, I know that is wrong there is nothing wright about it. All i’m saying is yes it’s her life and let god be the judge.
Won’t, can’t, will not get too personal here.
Maybe she has one big happy family umbrella like an Octavia Butler novel.
All I wish is for these children to have loving relationships with their fathers and eachother.
When a person decides on their family make up the most important thing is the love and welfare of the offsprings.
I hope they feel loved, nutured and protected and have a loving sense of themselves.
That’s all one can ask for. And I wish that for all children and families.
peace
It is what it is and it is just a shame that she feels that it is ok to have 3 babbies by 3 different men. While I liked her music at first with her first album her musical style is now a little to strange for me and so is her lifestyle but hey that is just my opinion and she can do her all she wants.
I agree, all the extremism is not neccessary. I would not have three children with three different men, but if she can take care of them and deal with it then by all means, more power to her. I know people who have children with multiple partners and I don’t look down on them, I just know I would not do it.
SEE HERE IS THE PISSER OFFER IN A YEAR FOR ME.(yes, im going off..lmfao) FROM JANUARY THRU DECEMBER, UNCLE SAM TAKES BETWEEN 22-25 PERCENT OF MY INCOME, AND THROWS IT INTO TAXES. NOW I DONT HAVE ANY CHILDREN. SO IM GETTING BENT OVER ROYALLY. THEN BY THE FOLLOWING JANUARY, WHEN I GATHER UP MY W-2′S AND SHUFFLE ON DOWN TO THE TAX PREPARATION PLACE, LET LITTLE SUSIE COMPUTE MY RETURNS, IM SITTING THERE WITH THE STUCK LOOK BECAUSE IM NOT GETTING BACK 1/2 OF WHAT WAS PUT IN. MEAN WHILE, SHORTY BESIDE ME IS BANKING BECAUSE SHE’S GOT LIKE 4 KIDS, IRONICALLY SHE’S REALLY ONLY WORKING PARTIME TO KEEP “THEM FOLKS” OFF HER BACK, AND THE OTHER 2, SHE’S PASSED OFF ONTO HER HOMEGIRL THATS SITTING BESIDE HER TO CLAIM FOR THE YEAR. I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THE FAMILIES THAT RECIEVE THE ASSISTANCE AND THEY ARE REALLY STRUGGLING, AND ONLY NEED IT TO GET BACK ON THEIR FEET. BUT YOU GOT 3 , AND YOU DONT WANT TO DO BETTER, AND EVERY YEAR IM BUSTING MY BUTT TO PAY FOR IT?? WHY ARENT YOU FOLKS POINTING THE FINGER AT JOKERS LIKE THAT!!??
This does not make her a Whore…It makes her Human. Badu keep doing you and countinue to bring beautiful babies into this world.
@sxyQblondie-Good morning girl.
I don’t knock anyone who loves theirs kids and tries to make a good life for them. Life does not always work in a cookie cutter fashion. I don’t agree with staying in an unhappy relationship just to keep making babies with the same person you don’t want to be with. That will create unhappy bitter kids. I would love to have my kids with one man so they can all look alike and identify with eachother more and I hope destiny works out in my favor but if it doesn’t that won’t be the end of the world either. Don’t judge so quickly.
@Nairobi,
“We seem to always want to assign to some European notion of commitment and family without realizing that that way may not be for us.”
What kind of bull shit is this? You think women in any other part of the world is making babies like that? You need to get a passport dummy.
And it having two commited parents arent for Black people what is? I mean look at the black community and give me a list on how our arrangement has worked for us, our young boys, our young girls?
@TEEDY, GOOD MORNING MAMA! HOWS EVERYTHING GOING TODAY?
@WyzePro,
“shes not the first sista to have multiple baby daddies…at least it’s only three..and she know’s who they are…”
As a black woman, I thank you for lowing the bar for me. god knows I cant do better.
@ sxyQblondie
I’m feeling you big time! Unc takes 48% of my stacks.
Although I must say I was getting turned on my part of your story.
~
@sxyQblondie- I feel you!!!!!! I don’t have kids either but you better believe I find one or two to adopt around tax season. LOL. Yes it’s dishonest but that’s the way the system is set up. Screw or get screwed.
She has always been eccentric, and into HER way of doing things. She’s obviously not the type of woman to feed into stereotypes of ANY nature! I wish more woman had the personal strength to be happy with themselves the way Miss Badu has “always” portrayed herself! Live your own life, enjoy what YOU do! and most of all “fu*k off”! I hear that Badu! I only have one child, but hey she has the money and the beautiful nature and ability to take care of these children. So I don’t think she can be put on the same level of the average broad. Shes NOT the average Broad, like it or not!Or call her an average broad with cash thats makes a bit of a diff!
I agree w/sxyQblondie, you cannot push off your beliefs on others and what people need to understand is that sometimes relationships don’t work out and so if you already have a child w/someone and that relationship ends because he just ain’t treating you right, are you supposed to stop having children forever because u already have kids by that one who wasn’t sh*t? All this because everybody else wants to run YOUR life and what YOU do? Now if u can take care of them then have as many as u like by as many as u like but if u don’t have a job, no place to live, then THAT’S what the real problem is!
It’s not even about her, its about the kids. If she can justify this to the black community then our future is bleak. She is very irresponsible and no different than any other person than complicates the lives of their children for selfish reasons.
This is her life she can do as she please!
B-O-S-S-I-P IS A BREEDING GROUND FOR IGNORANCE !
I need an off shore account.
Just jokin….
@sxyQblondie-I’m good girl. Just waiting for people to start going at it in here. You know this is one of those topics.
Miss Badu aint on public assistance or out asking us for $$$$$$ so I think she’s cool. it’s her body and her business. I see no one telling the men anything..
(p.s. I have NO children but know when to mind my business)
who cares…. She is only doing what millions of women do all the time. I think it is sad but that is my opinion. If she does not want us to comment on it then she needs to stay out of the public eye. When was the last time she had a hit? I’m just saying….
I’m not lowering anything…I dont have any kids….I was speaking to the fact that Erykah didn’t start this trend…..like someone mentioned above..you cant blanket this as a negative without knowing the details…my oldest sister is 10 years older than I am….HER father was a rapist…should my mother have stayed?….if so I would not be here…and even my so called sperm donor did not stick around….HE left…her fault?…..my baby sister was brought forth as a result of my mother getting married ….to a decent man finally ….where is HER bar?
@TEEDY
GIRL..LMFAO, I HAVE A FRIEND WHO HAS 4 DIFFERENT CHILDREN, 3 DIFFERENT MEN, AND THEY ARE LIKE STEPPING STONES. 13, 12, AND THE LAST TWO ARE LIKE 9 & 10, AND GIRL BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THAT THE LAST 2 ARE 8 MONTHS APART!!(SMDH) THERE WAS A TIME WHEN I THOUGHT THAT SHE WAS ALERGIC TO ANY TYPE OF WORK!!(LMFAO) AND IT PISSED ME OFF, BECAUSE EVERY MONTH MY TAXES CONTRIBUTED TO HER FEEDING THE KIDS, AND IN JANUARY, I COULDNT GET MY DOUGH BACK!!(LOL) SHE OFFERED FOR ME TO CLAIM ONE OF THEM ONE YEAR, BUT SHE WANTED HALF! IM LIKE, SHAWTY IS YOU CRAZZZYYYY!!?? I TOLD HER..NOPE!! BUT I MAY JUST START LOOKING FOR A LIL SHAY SHAY TO CLAIM. CAUSE DAMMIT, I MAY AS WELL GET SOMETHING OUT OF MY AGONY!!(LMFAO)
How many baby momma’s puffy got…He got 3…nobody aint questioning that. All of his kids are taken care of and even helping Kim with her kid that aint even his.
I guess its okay of men can do it…it’s “playa” when they do it, but “whorish” when women do it.
GTFOH!!!
I’m not condoning or dissing….just saying for each situation there are perhaps a different set of circumstances…..some people ( men and women) are trife…some are caught up…..and when we make general statements without specifying we are no better than the white folk who do the same thing to us we do to ourselves….just trying to speak from intelligence and not ignorance…meaning I know better than to blanket any statement pertaining to our people…..cept we need to come together to come up…..that’s true of all of us
Damn. Another stereotype made true
Erykah don’t give a hot damn about what yall think! I’m sure if she was the average womna, she probably wouldn’t do so if she couldn’t financially manage it. Badu is on another level, she’s not getting pregnant by these men to HOLD them like MANY women do, she does so simply because she WANTS to. I distinctively remember her saying in an Ebony article long before she had any children, that she wanted to have “10 kids” by different men. Well she hasn’t reached 10 but she damn sure is having them by differnt men which once again IS HER BUSINESS! Damn sweep the trash from in front of your door before sweeping your neighbors!
@TEEDY, YES GIRL THERE WILL BE CYBER BEEF UP IN HERE OVER THIS ONE. IN THE TIME IT WILL TAKE FOR ME TO GET FROM MY HOUSE(where im at now) TO WORK, WHEN I PULL UP THIS POST AGAIN AT MY DESK, IT WILL BE DOUBLE THE POST’S, AND NOTHING BUT FOLKS CURSING EACH OTHER OUT!(LOL)
@southernbella
How many baby momma’s puffy got…He got 3…nobody aint questioning that. All of his kids are taken care of and even helping Kim with her kid that aint even his.
COSIGN!! GIRL I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!
if she were anybody but ms. badu (ri-ri or cassie for example) yall would be all in her azz wit the name callin.
Marriage aint for everybody i agree but i would be wary of bringin a bunch of men in my house to see their individual kids. yall are right there are a lot of women in our community in this situation so we know firsthand its not ideal. that aint about judgin nobody thats just real.
@southernbella- i feel u but u know erkyah aint put in Half as many years as your mama.
I will not judge her. She can support her chirren. who cares. If she make a mistake and gets knocked up why should she get rid of it because of what society may think of her, when she has all the resources to take care of the life she has inside of her? And her second baby father was murdered anyway. so does that mean she should live the rest of her life in solitude? no she met someone else who she felt was worthy and opened herself to him and got knocked up. its not like she is still alone and having her third child. wth.
@WHOA,
“If that woman wants to have 3 kids with 3 different men, that’s HER BUSINESS! Please, like non black woman don’t do the same thing! At leats she TAKES CARE of her children unlike some women and men who have children by the same mate and can’t properly raise them.”
Obviously it is her business what she does but it doesnt make it right and it doesnt mean we cant say it is wrong. And yes, thank goodness she has the means of taking care of her children but you cant by stability. Children want their daddies around. Children want to see their mommies and daddies together.
Please dont set up any false dichotomies (look it up if you are confused). The choice for black people isnt between having 3 baby daddies and being in a relationship that doesnt work. There are a bynch of choices that can be made and it is about time black try very hard to make the best ones. SHe is not making the best one.
Z…well stated
where have ya’ll been at? andre 300 is the first, the second was some rapper who is not dead, and the third is whoever she is with now.
now*
@ sxyQblondie
I’m not sure how u file but (side note:)
before I was married w/ children. I would claim 0 dependants and pick myself up at the end of the year.
If you live by yourself you can also claim head of household.
Because Uncle Sam ( the biggest loan shark in history) will come get your sh^t.
Also, if you have a 401k you may want to up your percentage.
Hopefully you can find a tip in here somewhere.
Sh^t we all need our $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.
@sxyQblondie
Half no no no. She was on some other stuff. You get 1,500 per child so you should only give up 500 of those bills, that’s the going rate. The key is find them early like around December cause you know they will be broke after Christmas and try to stick with the same child year after year, you must develop a trust system because people do shady things like give two or three people the SS number. I was lucky enough to find a child with the same last name as mine so they don’t suspect anything. We’ve been dealing for about 3 years now so my taxes look the same every year.
@WHOA,
“Erykah don’t give a hot damn about what yall think! I’m sure if she was the average womna, she probably wouldn’t do so if she couldn’t financially manage it. Badu is on another level, she’s not getting pregnant by these men to HOLD them like MANY women do, she does so simply because she WANTS to.”
With each post you sound dumber and dumber. Great so because she got some money they same rules dont apply to her? Well lets wait 20 years from now and she how her children liked the arrangement.
lol@ Bossip Tax tips…..
@Kigali
Shut the hell up. You don’t know the dynamics of why she made the choices she made. shyt happens. u could be with someone for 10 years and a situation could bring out a side of them you never even knew existed. and u know suddenly know u ahve to get away from them for everyone’s well being. does that mean u should not meet someone new…..or u must live the rest of your life in solitude?
@Lady elle
GIRL, I FILED ONE YEAR AND FORGOT THE 401K, AND WHEN I DID IT THIS YEAR, I REALIZED IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE. BUT I STILL GET HOT UNDER THE COLLAR AT THE SHIFTLESS BROADS WHO STICK ME FOR MY PAPER JAN-DEC(LOL)
@Z,
Her second baby dady is from The D.O.C from NWA. he is alive and well.
Who has the right to judge?? Who can even respect the institution of marriage when it was manmade law by the government…putting it on paper and such just to regulate the population?
Rock on Erykha!!!
Has anyone, that says that Badu should just “Do her” or that everyone should “mind their own business” and stop “trying to push their beliefs on others,” ever thought about the kids in this situation. When you have kids involved, the whole concept of “Doing You” should be out of the window. Those kids will know that there mom is a ho. How will that make them feel. They may be taken care of financially but there are some things that money can’t buy.
Well- much of what I am reading is strange. People kill me when they say they cant judge someone.. thats sum BULL… we were all put on this earth with very sophisticated brains.. and to sit around and not use it is crazy… I luv Ms Badu and her work, but she should know that 3 baby daddies is not just a matter of her business – it is a matter of the principle/integrity that she speaks of (even in her music). To sit here and say she has no responsibility to LIVE what she sings about is RIDICULOUS. Should the Pastor not live a life of holiness- even though he preaches? Should the police officer not live by the law – even though he enforces them? Should the doctor not uphold his integrity to assist others in getting well- when he took an oath to do so? TO sit back and say we cannot judge is a lazy and irresponsible way to deal with the reality of LIFE. Everyone has a responsibility- not just to each other but to our kids and families. Its just like saying- R Kelly has no fault in his relationships with young women- B/C we cannot judge! Please… black women need positive figures (not just on the stage) but in REAL “YES REAL” LIFE! Everyone is not a diva, or singer, or model. What GOD gave you was a gift to uplift not just yourself , but others. Black women are the highest risk group for HIV- does having multiple baby daddy’s make u less of a target? Does 3 baby daddies set a good wholesome example for kids (not to mention her own kids)? No it doesnt. Im not trying to be in her business, but its clear some bad decisions have been made. I can accept that- but I cannot accept the fact that I cannot acknowledge the mistakes when people say I cannot judge. Granted- it may not be good, but my BEEF is where is the integrity from the so called artists world? Just b/c you are an entertainer does not give you the RIGHT to justify singing about 1 thing and living another. I’m not an artist, but maybe I am since I live the same way as GOD told me to- yesturday- today- and forever! PEACE to MS BADU and yes I can judge without passing judgement. Thats why I have a brain! K.I.S.S.
@toni montana
LOL, but you still cant help you THINK you in love with. i’m sure EB has had more relationships than the three exposed. She didnt have a baby by Common. She chooses to have these kids with the men she wants to have them with.
Like I said how many of the women in here have the same baby daddy or better yet how many of ya’ll’s momma had kids by the same man.
I also have 2 steps sister. My dad got remarried after my mom and him divorced, does that make him a whore too?
Z agreed…u cant take a complex situation and minimize it to a few shoulda woulda’s and think you’re helping the situation….at least offer a solution the the problem….to which there is none for some….
three babies, three baby daddies……………enuff said, and she can try to justify that shit all she wants but that shit just aint cool and so typical of the black race, but she proclaims to be so different, she doesnt seem any different from the average Shaniqua to me!
@TEEDY
SHE THOUGHT SHE HAD A SWEET VIC’. IM LIKE I PUT IN ALL THE WORK, YOU BUGGIN!!(LOL) BUT YES, FINDING A COOPERATIVE PARTICIPANT IS THE KEY. ONE WHO ISNT SHADY AS HELL.
@ sxyQblondie
Girl I hear you but just do you because those little scraps that they’re getting isn’t half of what they’re worth.
And they probably spend it before it’s in their hands.
Just keep boosting up those accounts.
lol
Having a child should be planned & this is why women need to be way more SELECTIVE when laying down unprotected! My beautiful women, BE MORE SELECTIVE YOU ARE WORTH IT & that is the best gift you can give to your child! That, is being a GOOD MOTHER!
This doesn’t suprise me..She seems like a nympho type chick..Yoga class taking type chick. Drinks green tea before she goes to sleep and makes you take off your shoes and sit indian style at the table.
@LADY ELLE
LOL THATS HOW I KEEP THE OPTIMISTIC MIND TO KEEP FROM GOING UNDER(LOL) THEY BLOW IT QUICK, AND SIT JOBLESS AND PATIENTLY FOR NEXT YEAR.
I can’t believe this is a subject of discussion. Lets say she married her first partner she had her first kid with, so obviously that relationship didnt work out so she would have to divorce him, same story with the next, and with the next, would that make a difference, is it now right BECAUSE the children were born in wedlock. That’s so rediculous! You people assume everyone wants to get married. I have one girlfriend who says she doesnt believe in the institute marriage and that she will register as partners ( Im from europe I dont know if you can do that there)…does that make her way of live anny worse than that of the main poppulation? Or shouldnt she have annymore kids because she broke up with the first man she had kids with? Stop assuming everyone want to live by your moral standards of right and wrong! I surely dont, if and when I get married I’ll keep my own last name because I dont NEED to be annyons wife and I dont think theres annything wrong with being the mother of someones child(or baby mamma), I dont believe in jesus christ either, so there then judge me!!
Same goes for the men!!
For someone to judge this woman for her having kids is absolutely stupid. How can anyone say for her to “stay with the first guy” when you dont know the ins & outs of the relationship. Andre couldve cheated on her which is very possible or Common couldve been abusive. Thats her business. Also, no one should stay with someone for the kids. Thats another problem all in itself. This woman takes care of hers from what i see & havent heard anything otherwise so who would i be to judge what she does in her life? She falls in love with a man & hopes they stay together & she has a baby by that man. The relationship doesnt work out, just as many relationships, & they split but there is a baby. So what. It doesnt matter when the parents are taking care of the children.
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Yeah its her business but she may want to rethink having a baby with every man she falls in love with. It’s funny how she and Lauryn Hill were once looked up to as the queens of knowledge. Now it seems they are heavily confused. SMH!
@Z,
“You don’t know the dynamics of why she made the choices she made.”
Narcissism maybe.
“shyt happens.”
Sorry. Shit doesnt happen. She made a decision.
“u could be with someone for 10 years and a situation could bring out a side of them you never even knew existed. and u know suddenly know u ahve to get away from them for everyone’s well being. does that mean u should not meet someone new…..or u must live the rest of your life in solitude?”
What do you mean you could be with someone? Dont be coy. Do you mean shacking up with someone or being married to them? Not every relationship is going to work but you can still try.
She will not be living her life in solitiude she has her beautiful children. Maybe if women didnt define themselves by having a man in their life, their gifts from God would be priority and be enough.
That good ol heroin will have you talkin out of pocket all the time! Poor thang
LOL@Negrodamus…as always….
bayouswampman,
You know if she didnt have a son by Andre she could have left him easy if he was a jerk. Dont have babies with jerks. Dont have babies with men you arent married to. Black women arent alley cats.
Yes it’s tacky, and all of you fools defending her are the reason the community is in the shape it’s in today. If you stand for nothing, you fall for everything.
At the end of the day, it’s not about her, it’s aboout those kids. No other community indulges in this stupidity. If she can’t wait for a ring to bring a baby in this world than what she really lacks is self-discipline, and as someone wj=ith young fans, she should be ashamed. I bet her mother didn’t have 3 “baby daddies”.
Yes she can be judged; what makes her an exception?
Pathetic.
@ sxyQblondie
w/ no beach vacations.
( I happen to love those, thought I’d throw that in there.) lol
Yes, it’s her business if she wishes to bring children into this world by different men and no stable relationships. But she should not pretend that her children will not face ridicule and perhaps confusion as they age. She is making selfish choices and rationalizing her behavior to meet her needs and feed her ego. Slutty is slutty, whether you label it ‘queendom’ or whoring around. Whatever makes you feel better when you rest your head at night.
oh… well….i heard that mofo got shot some time ago.
hahaha
Yeh 3 baby daddies aint good..Can’t condone it..
@Kigali
I mean you can be in a relationship with someone for ever. be they your husband or boyfriend. and can do some shyt you never knew had in them, and i say this bc i have seen it happen to many people around me. Hell, how many stories have u heard u with the amn and everything is great. you decide to ahve a child and while u 7 or 8 months pregnant he got another bitch in your house. he got anothe baby in the way. How do you handle that when you are in your mid twenties and having your first baby?
do you stay with him? Hell no
Are you not allowed to ever try love again and to have another child by this person you love? come on. SHYT HAPPENS!
@LADY ELLE
LMFAO..YEAH NOW THAT YOU MENTION IT, IM GOING TO THE BEACH NEXT WEEKEND. WITH MY HARD EARNED DOUGH(LOL)
She is not being judged for having kids, she is being judged for being a ho. 3 kids from 3 different men is ho-ish ish. If she was Shaniqua from around the way no one would be defending her, but because she has money some of you give her a pass. Why? Taking care of kids is more than providing financially. Even “if” their fathers are actively involved in their lives, the situation will still be awkward and not ideal. Its not the kids fault that their momma couldn’t keep her legs closed or at least use protection. Yet they are the ones that have to deal with the fact that their momma gets around.
Whoever said it, the answer is yes, my mother married my dad and yes, we all have the same father. It’s not impossible. I would not feel good having 3 kids by 3 different men. Not a good look, just look at my aunts, my cousins are still mad cause all of their fathers are different and none of them look alike. crazy
LOL – the black male will have 10 different damn children by 20 different damn women andwon’t be taking care of a damn one of them – but he’s all up in this post dogging Erykah!!
Ateast she didn’t abandon hers or leave someone else to take care of them or do her job surrounding them.. She appears to be taking care of her kids just fine!!!
SMDH!!!
@ sxyQblondie
ok that’s what I’m talking about sis. drink 1 for me
lol
“to the hard working sisters out here”
lol
I am not saying 3 baby daddies is ok. Its messed up, but i will not judge her and take it as a reflection of negativity on her character. Maybe she trulu whole heartedly believe she love these men and this time, this is the one. when women make mistakes like that, they usually do think…this man is the ONE! let her be. Besides I have had friends tell me that once u have had a child, it is hard to have an abortion afterwards.
Her first baby daddy is Andre 3000 her second one is by the DOC….From the 80s he used to tour with NWA and her current is Jay Electronica….who is her protege in her band who she is promoting…..
Peace
@SMDH, EBT SWIPING, LollyPop in the Mouth, Whore
but we’re not talking about Black Males and no one condones that either..
Lol these topics could be about selling lemonade and you will somehow make a correlation to black males.
LOL! Aren’t some of the same bitches who was criticizing Diddy for having all of these bastard children by different cumbuckets, and here you are defending the irresponsibility of this sperm recepticle with a recording contract? From this day forth, i don’t want any of the sanctimonius nigga bitches ever moaning about how fvcked up black men are. LOL!
It’s official. Some of you are off of the deep end and will stop at nothing to justify your poor decisions. Unfortunatly, we live in a world where we can get away with it.
The ONLY difference between Ms. Badu and the ones I see on the streets is money and fame–two characteristics that do not justify and excuse poor bahavior.
Being married, having a kid, getting divorced, getting married again, having another kid, I can wrap my brain around, this, I cannot.
@Marquis
I think men are trif too with the million baby mommas, but that is not the topic of discussion right now.
I think all the comments here are symptomatic of how narcicistic we have become as a society. People keep saying that its Erykah’s life she can do what she wants. Well no, it isnt Erykah’s life. Its her life and her three children. Does anyone care how her children will feel about her deciscion, how her oldest SON will feel about the different men in her mothers life? He will be the most resentful of the situation. How will her money solve that problem?
LOL @ “kiss my placenta”. Which placenta exactly? The first two or the new one?
The photo is fierce but she seriously needs to shut it about her so-called “queendom”.
What she is calling her queendom is just flat out slackness.
Agreed! If a man doesn’t want to commit to marriage, why have his baby? Some people want us to believe that all marriage is is a peice of paper, but it is more than that. Some of us actually meant what we said when we made those vows before God and our spouses. Don’t shack up with a man, have his child, and then think about marriage. Thats bass ackwards!
Z
The hell it ain’t. You bitches are constantly getting in Diddy’s business about his behavior and life choices in regards to his procreation issues and that’s okay? Spare me the double standards.
dang Marcus
lol
@Dubya
The difference is women are truly believe when they have this child this man loves them and this and that. (some are trif and try to trap men)
But men knowing they have a wife, girlfriend, pregnant lover somewhere, will still have unprotected sex and knock a woman up. with no consideration. no love or feelings for her. no care for her physical or emotional well being. no care besides getting that nut off.
women have children (excluding the trif ones)with good intentions. men have children by various women out of carelessness and recklessness.
As a poster stated earlier, Judging and calling out bad decisions are two totally different things. WHERE in this world is having three kids by three different men a good decision.
Black people, black people–convincing ourselves that our poor decisions are somehow okay and forcing others to accept them is bad business and greatly explains our plight.
ummm your mother is the true bitch in this scenerio for raising a man like you.
I love Erykah Badu. But 3 dads for 3 kids is irresponsible, I dont care how much money she makes it’s tacky.
You would think she had left this ghetto mentality behind, but it goes to show -you take the girl out the ghetto and you know the rest.
What the hell is her kids supposed to take from this? The Black community is fucked up. There is nothin wrong w/ gettin married and then starting a family, it’s called building a foundation.
i agree with all of you about marraige, then living together, then babies. thats the order it should be. but..shyt happens. F.Y.I i don’t have children. But I have seen so many scenerios happen to ppl close to me. I empathize from both sides.
I hear you Z but at the end of the day, it is still a bad decision and that thought process needs to be corrected–otherwise it will be more of the same.
I think you correctly diagnosed the problem…we need to address a solution.
Thank you for your explanation.
If she has three baby daddys so what I dont have to raise them. There is such a double standard between men and women/ black and white. When is the last time ESPN chastised any athletes for going bankrupt for having 14 kids with 13 different mamas? Last I recall it was funny that Flav was so ugly and have that many kids. Why is no one calling Christie Brinkley a whore for having 3 different baby daddys that she is divorced from?
Personally having that many kids is not a preference for me regardless of who they are by but she can afford to take care of them unlike how many men and women who dont
Superhead gains fame for suckin dick and Badu gets thrown under the bus for having kids, taking care of them, and remaining in positive relationships with their fathers. Damn what has the world come to?
Z
Awww Z don’t breakdown like a little girl on me now. You’re woman enough to stand by your inane double standards. Btw, women have over 20 forms of contraceptives at their disposal, why is the onus of birth control solely placed on the shoulders of men? Afterall, it’s you women who has to carry that meistake around for 9 months. Dare to be different, and show some accountability.
Women’s intentions are no better. There is no Queendom involved. The kids are accesories in this case or the mother just has an urge to be knocked-up at some point.
by the way i have no kids because i think a child should be raised in a solid institution such as marriage
@Marquis De Sade,
Thanks so much for coming out. Most on here are black women who are to morally cowardice to come out for what is right. This is why they shouldnt be heading the black family.
I bet the only ones on here condoning this sluty and whorish behavior are females and n*ggas that have a bunch of bastards running around. Course you see nothing wrong with it!
WEAR A CONDOM, IDIOTS!
She has three kids by 3 different men. Even if they were all from the same man I would still say she needed to rethink her lifestyle.
That’s why I have a problem with those that still want to tell “Ms.” Badu to continue to “Do You.” That’s what she has been doing, “Doing her”…and in the words of Dr. Phil…”How has that been working for you(her)?”
Someone was right to point out the similarities between her and the equally “enlightened” Lauryn Hill.
On the psychological tip it has been researched that children with their two original parents usually become more stable and adjusted adults…being that I came out of wedlock and a bunch of other mess I tend to agree (although my parents were far from rich and famous). On a different view point, I met her son Seven down here in Atlanta @ a Whole Foods and I actually liked him more than his parents (well I like Andre again, but not initially…I have yet to really care for Erykah, she seems to have a bad attitude, but I’m sure she could care less about me). He was a sweet kid (but so was I at that age). I wish them the best.
Let the queen be she has 3 different childrens fathers that his her buisness, would it look better to be in a broken realtionship with a man that you dont love, and dosen’t love u Do you Erykah.
Z
Shit doesn’t happen! It’s 2008. There is no excuse for having children by three different niggas out of wedlock. Dispite popular belief, you can fvck without havin’ a baby.
@Ashcakes,
“There is such a double standard between men and women/ black and white. When is the last time ESPN chastised any athletes for going bankrupt for having 14 kids with 13 different mamas?”
Its not the job of ESPN to talk about the family lives of athlestes anymore than it is the responsibliy of your dentist to take out your appendix. Where are the religius institutions, where are the parents, where is the community who have been for the past 40 decades been living with this bullshit. Enough.
3 kids by 3 different men is a bit excessive..clearly she feels some way about it bcuz she is addressing it..
@Marquis De Sade,
you know why these women either love or hate you: because you are a black man saying what has to be said and you dont care. I cant do it and make an impression because I am a woman. but the way these women react to you demonstrates why black men/Men are so important.
@Kigali
I have nothing negative to say unlike you. I actually used to think highly of you and you educated opinion but you have proven to be a jack ass today because you can’t respect others opinion. I guess you are living your life as “a shining beacon of truth!” GTFOH Once again, it HER BIZ! I never said I would do that. Nah, no thanks. telling me to look in adictionary if I’m confused. LOL nah, not confused,just laughing at a fool like you.
IMO I Erykah isn’t doing this to HOLD a man, she just feels as though she has a connection with these men and a baby pops out of it all. lol. I don’t think she really gives a damn. Wow, a brouhaha for Erykah and her personal decisions and now she’s speaking for ALL black women? No she does not. I don’t agree with her view(s), I just don’t think it’s that serious. I also don’t think she broke up with the previous fathers bcuz of some bad connection i.e. cheating, etc. She’s the one that turns these men out not the other way around. This is exhausting and I don’t think any of us should be arguing about it.
its funny cause, she carries her personal life like khia carries her career….sound like some fake jedi mind trick garbage to justify having different multiple baby daddies.
some of you women on this post are truly lost, this is not about being married having a kid or two and it not working out, divorcing and moving on to another marriage. it is about her and her selfish choice to procreate with different men. you can procreate with ONE man and ONE man only, no matter what your situation is, but you have to choose to. but i guess by yall standards, falling in love with every man you fall in love with, equals you MUST have a baby from him! Really black people? and then later you sit back and wonder why and where did we go wrong.
A few stats:
Marriage and Divorce:
Latest Stats Available
Here’s a sampling of some of the most recently available statistics on marriage and divorce in the United States of America:
There were approximately 2,230,000 marriages in 2005 — down from 2,279,000 the previous year, despite a total population increase of 2.9 million over the same period.
The divorce rate in 2005 (per 1,000 people) was 3.6 — the lowest rate since 1970, and down from 4.2 in 2000 and from 4.7 in 1990. (The peak was at 5.3 in 1981, according to the Associated Press.)
The marriage rate in 2005 (per 1,000) was 7.5, down from 7.8 the previous year.
In 2004, the state with the highest reported divorce rate was Nevada, at 6.4 (per 1,000). Arkansas was a close second, with a divorce rate of 6.3, followed by Wyoming at 5.3. The District of Columbia had the lowest reported divorce rate, at 1.7, followed by Massachusetts at 2.2 and Pennsylvania at 2.5. (Figures were not complete for California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Louisiana, or Oklahoma.)
8.1% of coupled households consist of unmarried heterosexual partners, according to The State of Our Unions 2005, a report issued by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University. The same study said that only 63% of American children grow up with both biological parents — the lowest figure in the Western world.
As of 2003, 43.7% of custodial mothers and 56.2% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced. And in 2002, 7.8 million Americans paid about $40 billion in child and/or spousal support (84% of the payers were male).
Americans tend to get married more between June and October than during the rest of the year. In 2005, August had the most marriages at about 235,000 or a rate of 9.3 per 1,000 people. The previous year, July was the highest month at 246,000, or a rate of 9.9; this doubled the lowest month in 2004, January.
Honestly would this situation be so much of an issue if she were not popular? Granted.. I don’t agree with her choice – but hey, she has the money to take care of them.
I live in Dallas. EB has done a great deal for her community. She has a club in South Dallas for new and upcoming artists.. she holds a school supply rally for the kids every year right before school.
This is just to let you know some of the good she does too.
Do I feel she should have responded to all of the comments being thrown around… no..everyone is entitled to their own opinion and being the free spirit she is and stating she cares nothing about what others think of her; I feel she stooped to their level.. they are just words. None of them take care of her or her kids.
The ones I do have an issue with are those babymaking machines that I and other taxpayers have to take care of.. when is something going to be done about that?
When u know better u do better, and you would think that a woman of Erika statue would do better. Why would she be willing to have unprotected sex with someone who does not love her enough to marry her. That is not fair to her children and is a recipe for chaos. She really should not be trying to justify it because I know she can attest to it not being easy. Nothing is more tacky than sisters and brother looking like they are from different worlds and from the same mother. Besides Erika is too old to be making adolescent mistakes. She can’t be mad at no one but herself for creating her own fiasco. Besides she is not behaving like a queen.
well let see. Yes we do have many forms of birth control…but umm MEN…GUESS WHAT. birth control causes many kinds of complications. The women on here know what I speak of. You will spend your entire life searching for the right kind of birth control. Hell even the right pill. I still have not even found the right Birth control pill thats compatible with my body. Its not the easy. Some women do not feel comfortable pumpin their body up with so much hormones…trust me I ahve had this convo with quite a few women who do not BUT SHOULD take BC.
Besides with all the diseases floating around, you would think men would be more concious and protect themselves anyway.
@ kigali Is judging and dont care
I couldn’t agree with you more.
BLACK MEN ARE VERY IMPORTANT.
now love or hate marquis.. stretching it a bit.
sometimes I agree with him other times…well let’s just say all opinons are of value.
@ kigali
Like I said Badus actions are those of her own and and personally dont prefer them and believe otherwise.
I agree it is not the job of ESPN to talk about the family lives of athletes as it is not my job or moral right to judge this woman for her actions. What may be a mistake to some is considered a blessing to others and I will be damned if she or anyone else tries to condemn me for what I choose to do in my personal life.
It is unfortunate that the black community is judged as a whole by the actions of a few. Instead of coming down on this woman because she a celebrity, take a walk around the corner to that girl you know in the same position or that cousin we all got just like her and reach out to them.
But case and point I came from a two parent home that was beyond broken and my parents but us through hell for the sake of staying married. Enough with that bullshit
@ Whoa
Amen.
ANY WOMAN HAVING 3 BABIES WITH THREE DFFERENT DADDIES IS FUNKY!!!!!! WHAT ABOUT PROTECTION? NOT ONLY ARE YOU A INCUBATOR FOR EVERY MANS SEED,YOU PUT YOUR OWN LIFE AT RISK, HAS ANYONE HEARD OF AIDS? I DON’T CARE HOW MUCH MONEY YOU MAKE THE SHIT AIN’T RIGHT…IT AIN’T OK FOR OPRAH THE BILLIONAIRE AND IT AIN’T OK FOR LAQUISHA IN THE GHETTO. ITS SLUTTY ANYWAY YOU SLICE IT!!!!!!!!!!
“LOL! Aren’t some of the same bitches who was criticizing Diddy for having all of these bastard children by different cumbuckets, and here you are defending the irresponsibility of this sperm recepticle with a recording contract? From this day forth, i don’t want any of the sanctimonius nigga bitches ever moaning about how fvcked up black men are. LOL!”
Actually – you dumb fucking golliwog shit colored monkey coon bastard – all I see where that black n!gger bastards Diddy is concerned is women saying the same thing; AS LONG AS HE TAKES CARE OF HIS KIDS I AINT KNOCKING HIM!!
If you cleared out your ignorant n!gger mind and though back for a minute instead of speaking from the hurt of everyones genuine disgust of the black male you would see that the issue with Diddy is the way he treats women and how many of them he is fucking..
I have never see nanyone comment on the number of his children or if he is caring for them or not..
Get the fuck on you swamp ninja tar coon good for nothing but hanging from a tree or rotting in a jail cell pussy bitch ass fucking n!gger!!
@ WHOA
I think Kigali respects everyones right to an opinion, the difference is respecting said opinion after it’s been voiced. In that regards, i whole-heartedly agree with Kigali. With all the b.s. plaguing the black community, amongst with the 80% of black children being born out of wedlock, thus eroding the black family unit, how can you or anyone else have this cavalier attitude: ERYKHA, YOU DO YOU!
In a perfect world everyone would follow the good book and not have sex or have children out of wed lock but I see that everyone dances to a beat from different drums (including myself). If she wants to be “GHETTO” then so be it. I myself would like to see more women stand up for real FAMILY VALUES but I can’t knock her for what she has chosen for her life, after all she has to live, die, and pay the price for her choices. No it’s not socially or morally correct but like she said if you don’t like what she stands for… don’t buy her shit.
Maybe my stance is biased. Maybe. I am the second oldest of 9 children. and your can be certain 9 chirren did not push they way up out my momma. My father has 4 baby mothers and i speak with all of them regularly and listen to them and their perception of my father and to get to the point “what they hell were they thinking to have his baby?”. Men are trif and its sad i had to realize that from my own father.
and here is another point. when my mother learned about those other children it changed her forever. she had us out of love for him and us. Why did he have all those children? it certaintly was not from love.
I find it amazing that she can homeschool her kids while maintaining a career. We should show her luv for that instead of buggin out cause she got three kids by three different dudes.
As long as she can and the fathers can raise them then why should we get upset. The second father is D.O.C by the way
“you know why these women either love or hate you: because you are a black man saying what has to be said and you dont care. I cant do it and make an impression because I am a woman. but the way these women react to you demonstrates why black men/Men are so important.”
Yeah – black males are soooooooooooooo important that this race still manages to move without them, huh?!?! The black male – aside from for entertainment purposes – is the most useless man on the planet, let alone to his race!!! If our importance really comes down to “importance” being a male who will go to jail before college, abandon his kids more often than not and, over all, be his own biggest threat and enemy – then this race is done for!! We may as well call it a wrap and go the fuck back to Africa!!!
@WHOA……….Thank you for that. My thoughts exactly.
The only reason to not have three baby daddies, is for the lack of support for the children. If all her children are well educated, loved, and not wanting for a got damn thang, then what’s the fucking problem? Oh so all these stupid people who indulge in what they think their “suppose” to do by having all kids by the same dead beat, who cant take care of them, then marrying the man “just because” it’s somehow better. HELL NAW!!
I’m riding with Erykah……kick rocks.
I’d rather have three great loves, and three great chlidren out of that love. Then one bum ass nigga who dont wanna do shit.
BTW, the stats above consist of MOSTLY white people, since they claim Blacks don’t get married like they do. Sorry but this ‘epidemic’ is not solely owned by Black women.
TWO people make babies and along all races and cultures women are the main caretakers of the children even when married/committed/divorced. The fact is that a religious ceremony that is honored by law STILL DOESN’T MAKE COUPLES STAY TOGETHER AND RAISE CHILDREN in unison.
@Marquis
I have that attitude because it HER LIFE! And no matter what mine or your opinion is ERYKAH IS GONNA DO HER! What do you wanna do go force her to tie her tubes!????? I mean come on, all the shit taking down our community and we’re worrying about Badu having her 3rd illegitimate child? Please, if we are gonna get technical, lets talk about the level of SEXUAL, PHYSICAL, and MENTAL abuse that happens in our communties. Let’s talk about the parents that send their children to school unbathed and unfed which causes these kids to act out in school or become withdrawn. Please, I can’t help but assume her kids are well fed and overall taken care of. Erykah is no Michele Obama. She’s not attempting to be the next 1st Lady. Therefore she DOES NOT speak for me and she’s entitled to DO HER! The only ones that should have anything to say to her are her CHILDREN! No disrespect, but that’s my opinion.
You can’t beat having a “father” in the home.
I serve my wife and my wife serves me. I respect her and would literally lay down my life for her and my children. I do everything in my power to make her happy and she, in turn, does the same for me. I wasn’t born knowing how to be a man; how to treat her. I had training. I learned it from a real man. I learned it from my Father.
“As long as she can and the fathers can raise them then why should we get upset. The second father is D.O.C by the way”
becaue fucking N!GGER males up in here want to make this girl the poster child for having different kids by different men when SHE CAN TAKE CARE OF THOSE KIDS!! If she had 100 different kids by 200 different men SHE CAN TAKE CARE OF THEM!!! The issue is these girls who cant!! The average everyday girl who will most likely end up raising those kids alone with government assistance because some useless fucking ape makes them with her and abandons them and her!! That’s the girl you need to be getting through to… She’s the one who has burdened society with her bastard children by different bastards who will most likely end up failure to thrive and an overall pain in societies side.. Erykah Badu is not the issue here..
…And most of you wonder why i have so much distain and such a low opinion for some of you black women. You deserve your fate.
One thing I find ironic is that Bad did not receive the same reaction after the birth of her second child by another man. Something again I dont agree with. But what good is the message going after her after three kids when it should have been the same after two.
The fact that she has 3 children by 3 different men is not abnormal at all, my mother had 3 children by 3 different men, and she was a very classy woman, who was hard working, and there is nothin tacky about that. Yall should up your minds and understand that there is a uniqueness in us all, and to simply have 3 children with 3 different fathers is unique, and that doesnt mean its wrong.
@Dapro
those kids in that pic are beautiful
wow, THINKING he is the one in opposed to taking the time out to KNOW if he is the one is grounds for having his baby……….. fuck that, i have thought or hoped alot of them were the one at the time of dating or what have you, but to have his baby just because of my thoughts and hopes, yall sound typical and acquired this way of living from the generations of black people who keep doing so and see no problem with it. CENSUS shows no other race has more multiple baby mothers or daddies than the ignorant refuse to make a difference but will justify everything black race.
Im sorry 3 different fathers for 3 kids is destructive to those kids perception of family and relationships. That is not “queen” behavior. Nodody is throwin her under no bus, it is what is.
For someone as concious as Erykah Badu you would think she understood the importance of a strong family structure. 3 different men around your kids ain’t cute or smart.
“I think Kigali respects everyones right to an opinion, the difference is respecting said opinion after it’s been voiced. In that regards, i whole-heartedly agree with Kigali. With all the b.s. plaguing the black community, amongst with the 80% of black children being born out of wedlock, thus eroding the black family unit, how can you or anyone else have this cavalier attitude: ERYKHA, YOU DO YOU!’
The issue in ths community isn’t children being born out of wedlock – you stupi useless dickless uniball n!gger bastard – the issue is TWO parents not raising the life that BOTH OF THEM created!! You do not have to be married to be a good parent to your child… Divorced couples show this everyday!! It is all in taking care of your responsibilities.. Now I understand that a fucking black bastards n!gger male wouldn’t comprehend this cause his sorry ass is used to giving up on everything – but mature responsible people who prefer freedom to jail and education to uselessness and shiftlessness understand this fact!!!
You dumb fucking goat smelling black bastard!!
This isn’t a perfect world, she to me is the epitome of a beautiful black woman- the ability to raise children while balancing her career and supporting her man is what I look forward too in my woman
That to me is what a woman should be- the shit she’s doing ain’t easy, I respect her for that. She ain’t asking for handouts or charity, respect her grind. Just cause you wouldn’t do it don’t make it wrong family
@Ashcakes,
I am tired of black people NOT judging. We are people not donkeys. We have moral standards and values by which we judge and make decisions. We arent predicting the future. We are not saying, this person and that person is going to hell but dam… This shit has a measureable record of not being in the interest of the community.
How many of children have to be born in poverty, how many of them have to have ill health, how many of our women have to be over burdened, how many of our children have to die on the streets, how many of our daughters have to be promiscuous, how many of our sons have to be promiscuous, have to be absentee fathers themselves, for us to realize that SHIT IS NOT WORKING?
I hold black people to a high standard. Do you?
Lauryn Hill Jr.?
So if Badu is the poster child for black women with too many baby daddys, then who is the poster child for black men with too many baby mamas?
@ Nine Know
I agree with 100%
They want women to have that “half a man is better than no man” attitude. deal with the bs and shut the hell up. To hell with it. Women are now handling all the responsibilities on their own…mistakes included.
Whoever let SMDH use the internet at the asylum needs to lose their job.
Well having three kids by three different fathers is definitely not a look I would go for. I don’t know the dynamics of the relationships that Erykah had, but maybe she should have thought to exercise more caution in reproducing, at least after the second child. I’m not going to say that she should have gotten married, because I don’t personally believe in the institution, but kids definitely definitely thrive in a stable environment with two parents, so if you don’t see your partner as someone that you can build a life with, why have children with them?
@Negrodamus
What’s wrong with green tea and yoga
Also…there is a male solution to not having children. It is called the vasectomy. Why don’t more men take responsibility for their penises and get them if they really don’t want children out of wedlock? No more excuses for men. This is the reason there are sooooo many deadbeats as it is. 84% of the parents paying child support due to a broken relationship are men. Sounds like these men like having their pay docked by the government if you ask me. I do not feel sorry for any of them. Looking at the high statistic of MALE jerks just makes me realize what a true MAN I have at home. THANKS BE TO THE ALMIGHTY!
Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.
Thanks Whoa. Those are my lil queens in training. I have two children with the same mother and we’re not together.
If Erykah can still comminicate with the fathers and keep the balance of family intact than who are we to judge???
@ Ashcakes
I know so many men…gosh i don’t know who to pick…
@Marquis
If you have such a low level of respect for black woman, then I pity you. That’s all. Whatever life experiences that you’ve endured unfortunately has made feel the way you do. I’ve been hurt by the black men but I DARE not label all black men as dogs, disgusting, etc. I love black men and I will not generalize all of them because of a few bad apples. besides we all make choices and I believe most of the time we know when we are doing so. Unfortunately THAT’s one of the problems with US today. We generalize and judge too much and that is soemthing I do not want to be any part of. Ms. Badu isn’t hurting me or taking any food out of my mouth. It’s not that serious.
I would like to read the entire article, but it seems to me that Erykah is hurt by the fathers of her kids, and she’s lashing out at her fans. I’m sure this is not what she wanted for her kids, no matter how “tough” she talks. She’s overcompensating about how tight she and the fathers of her kids are, and I don’t believe it. I think she put a lot of faith in these men she had kids by, and then they bounced. She put Andre 3000 on BLAST a long time ago, about how when the going got tough with the new baby, he got going. She can talk shit all day about being the mother, father, doctor, nurse, etc… all day, but at the end of the day, she’s doing it because she HAS to, not necessarily because she wants to do it this way.
@Marquis De Sade,
“…And most of you wonder why i have so much distain and such a low opinion for some of you black women. You deserve your fate.”
And Dozens of Girls Gone Wild DVDs has made no impression on you?
Yeah, hoo-hah…. “do u, Erykah….”
It’s all good, so long as some of y’all don’t trip next time u feel an urge 2 gripe about a 70% out-of-wedlock birth rate, and want 2 rant about non-commital brutaz. Don’t pin the black communities’ pathology ENTIRELY on black men.
Just remember that some of u sistaz r “doing u”.
Not hating on Erykah, but it is not something that is expected from someone of her alleged consciousness.
@ luckie wrote, “I don’t care what the broad wants to say. It is tacky to have three kids by three different men. And as a black woman, she is really feeding into the stereotype of this “baby mamma” garbage. Stick with one man erica.”
Amen, and co-sign. At least Lauren — for how often she’s had shit talked about her — has all her babies by one man (an irresponsible jack-*ss of a man who does her terrible, but still one man).
Erykah Badu is a wreck. Stop getting slimed by random dicks. Nasty. And I need to read the rest of the clip to make sure that she even mentions the fathers of her babies.
@SMDH
My first day back and I see that not much has changed. lol
She’s not asking anybody for anything, she is taking care of her kids and thats all that counts. No one sets out to have children by different people but in life things happen that are never planned. Should she never have children again because she didn’t stay with the first man? Whos right is it to tell her that. Save those opinions for the chicks who are on welfare STILL having babies every damn year, some by the same damn guy when he’s not locked up. Obviously, it makes her no classier.
and
this shit is old..she came out with this a couple of days ago
and She is no different from other racist that have multipe children by different partners
Black people, besides white people and spanish people are the most racist people..WELL SOME anyway!
Damn, so what she has kids by different people..does that make her tainted and If that does make her tainted in the eyes of people..What the fuck does that say about the niggas that go up women that have multiple kids?
our standards are waaaayyyyy low….
I hold black people to a higher standard but the problems did not start with her so i refuse to blame or judge her unlike you.
The standard I hold for black people is not one i can force on others but one I must live by.
I am 25 working on a masters/ phd in social welfare. My research is focused on the well being of black children and families. I currently work as a mental health counselor in a group home for traumatized black females and volunteer at federal halfway house for females.
My life is my standard and in all the peoples problems I have encountered in my short career not one of them came to be as a result of who badu was fucking.
I wont judge people because judging dont do shit. I am a black woman of action who lives by her word which is why I have no kids. And rather than criticize the black community i throw myself in to fix it. I cant change the world but walkin instead of talkin helps.
I have the same opinion as Simply Ecstasy at 11:09.
@WHOA.
“I have that attitude because it HER LIFE! And no matter what mine or your opinion is ERYKAH IS GONNA DO HER!”
Erykah may be doing her but in the end she will be doing her children. BESIDES IT IS NOT JUST HER LIFE IT IS HER CHILDRENS LIVES TOO. Forget about them?
@KDOGG,
My hero for today.
@HR
And the out of wedlock birth rate will continue to raise along with the justifications for such behaviour. It’s too much to ask for some principles though. “Do you.”
@ Kigali
This ain’t about white people…And the last i checked, those girls are flashing their tits, not having babies out of wedlock by multiple niggas/jerks/deadbeats.
@ASHCAKES
I applaud you AND I concur! PREACH!
@ realwoman, men do that sh*t because women allow them to. Real talk. A lot of men are trifling, but a good percentage of those trifling men would get their act together real quick if women stopped rewarding trifling behavior. As for child support, women can also have their tubes tied or a hysterectomy. There is no reason for ANY woman (of any race) to have 8 babies by 6 different men. Whether that woman is collecting child support from any of them is irrelevant. At some point, responsibility goes back on her, too.
@ k-dogg, co-sign. Women do need to get it together as much as men do.
@ samira, that’s succinct: “Not hating on Erykah, but it is not something that is expected from someone of her alleged consciousness.”
when erykah pulls this kind of thing, makes it look like a gimmick, to me. what’s going on with her, that she chooses to have babies instead of work on developing a ‘thick or thin’ relationship with a man?
What happened with her and ‘Green Eyes’ anyway?
I wonder if the fathers of Erykah’s children have sevearl other children by several other women. In which case we’re in the realm of pathology, not free-spiritedness.
Some posters here mentioned white women (for example Christie Brinkley) to counterbalance the criticisms of Erykah, but their lives really aren’t any of our business. Maybe black parents don’t teach their kiids prudence anymore by reminding them that they’re not white. They did when I was young. The point was that white people get second chances that we’ll never get. When they get tired of being wild, all they have to do is cut their hair and mind their manners, and no matter what they’ve done, they’ll still get jobs and opportunities we’ll never get.
We don’t get to make the same mistakes, or as many of them.
Maybe each generation has to learn it their own way.
I hope that these entertainers don’t think a few hit records or movie credits mean they don’t have to learn it. Because they do. And it’s better they should learn it from us. Because it’s a lesson white people like to teach us in our own blood.
@ASHCAKES
Sorry girl but I have to APPLAUD you again. That’s what’s up! LEAD BY EXAMPLE PEOPLE! THIS IS HOW YOU DO IT! Don’t talk about it be about be about it! It’s so easy to fling stone but WTF are you doing to BETTER OUR PEOPLE! *crickets*
I don’t think comparing Erykah to Lauren Hill is really effective. I mean yes Lauren’s children are all by the same father, but look at that situation. Lauren has definitely gone off the deep end. At least Erykah seems to still have her sanity.
Well she is not on welfair so technically she can afford to have 5 baby daddies. Any who,how many of us women have had 3 abortaions by 3 different men? I am not hating on her and obviously she is hurt by some of your/our opinions. I am not saying she is wrong or right but why none of those bastards married her is a mystery to me. Maybe love is her religion and she does not live the Christian way. Oh well.
KENNEDY(Check me out!)
For someone as concious as Erykah Badu you would think she understood the importance of a strong family structure. 3 different men around your kids ain’t cute or smart.
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It is due to her conscious attitude that she had the children. The true conscious mind knows that the EURO world order does not want more brown people running around. Abortion nor abstinence were never part of a written rule determining the conscious mind of the Black man or woman. Birth control is more about POPULATION control of minorities if you actually read up on it.
The truth of the matter is that no matter what any of you say, children are a blessing and should be welcomed onto this earth no matter how they got here. The fact that anyone would dispute that and scold people for doing what their body was created to do is blasphemy. A stop in the cycle of life that is man made is really not natural. That is why so many women have complications on birth control…bloodclots, fibroids, hair loss, extreme weight gain, excessive menstrual bleeding, premature menopause etc are just a few of the ‘problems’ caused by this ’solution’.
The actual crime is TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN. The women have been doing a good job at it so IMO it is time we started persecuting deadbeat fathers instead of conveniently blaming a female parent who actuallly takes care of the children.
@ Ashcakes
The subject of this thread is Erykha Badu. Most of us can’t help but judge or comment. That’s what a public forum is for.
@z
“women have children (excluding the trif ones)with good intentions. men have children by various women out of carelessness and recklessness”
Wow!!!!!!!!!! I am speechless….
Wow…..well some of us are just different. I would love to have more kids (I have one 10 year old) but I refuse to do it again without being married….Erykah however, not only has the money to do it sans another income in her household but the way she thinks allows her the freedom to be able to have several children as a single parent. I am not even gonna sit here and judge her cuz it ain’t like I have not had sex with other people since my child….I have just decided not to get pregnant….
@ Ashcakes wrote, “The standard I hold for black people is not one i can force on others but one I must live by. … I am 25 working on a masters/ phd in social welfare. My research is focused on the well being of black children and families. I currently work as a mental health counselor in a group home for traumatized black females and volunteer at federal halfway house for females. … I cant change the world but walkin instead of talkin helps.”
Good for you. I hope you never burn out. You’re needed.
And Erykah is still f-cking up.
@Ashcakes,
Oh I disagree. You see how many enablers there are in this room? And these are supposed to be the most educated, responsible, and the future of black america. Ha.
If our community didnt accept this kind of behavior and there were serious social ramifications for it, it wouldnt happen like it does. Social shaming and a government that doesnt subsidize it. Where my mother was born, if you were a woman who got preggars out of wedlock, you werent even allowed out of the house to showcase your shame. Remember shootgun weddings?
Erykah has a new song out called Family Reunion . In it she describes having to explain, to her great-grandma, why she brought 3 different men with her to the reunion. I don’t have all of the lyrics but the hook goes something like this:
There is a notable difference between Erykah Badu bearing children and the destruction of the Black family. First off does anybody know if the fathers are present in these children’s lives? If so, and these children are receiving love from both parents then there is no issue. It is when a child is not provided the love he or she needs from BOTH parents that feeds into the destruction of our community. Since the days of slavery and Willie Lynch the Black family has systematically been broken down. Some of these practices are alive and well today. This, most sensible people already know, yet like ignorant fools we continue the cycle. When men start acting like men and reclaiming the Black family then (and only then)can we begin to actually uplift as a people. Without that basic foundation we are doomed to be subserviant to a system that was not designed in our best interest. Self preservation depends on self reliance. Self reliance depends on self discipline. We (Black men) have to return to our right minds and return to what was in essence taken from us hundreds of years ago……our Black women.
First off if she wants to have all those kids than go head. But dont get mad when people dont see you as a black queen so she says. getting married and than divorce and over again its the same damn thing as having all those babies. what is she going to do every man she meets is that her new baby daddy come on now if you are that intelligent than shit use your brain right. If she has girls they will grow up thinking that any man they come in contact with have a baby by them. I know she as money and is able to take care of hers but what about these girls who dont have shit they think that mess is cute and hell its not. I am single with 2 kids by the same damn man because I dont want my kids to be confused and with her as a mother they will be confused.
dapro why should she ask for handouts her ass should not ever need any help espeacilly if you ask to be put in that situiation now if you as a woman decide thats the life you want dont be stupid and take our hard worked money from us I’m not trying to support everybody else’e kids but my own. Hope you become famous and you have a great education before you go off and produce any kids. We wonder why these other races look down at us its because we put ourself out there like that. All I can say is our race trully needs prayer. Obama is bring us up but hell this ghetto ass generation is going to bring us down.
No one has said anything about the father’s of these children. And they high profile fathers who seem to have nothing too do with their children. But we put all the blame on her. What about Andre 3000 or whoever is the father of that second child why is no one saying anything about them. It is always on the woman.
Man, I just don’t care
“@z
“women have children (excluding the trif ones)with good intentions. men have children by various women out of carelessness and recklessness”
Wow!!!!!!!!!! I am speechless….”
Thank you. Double standards at its’ most clueless!
KISS MY PLACENTA… CLASSIC!!! LMAO LMAO LMAO LMAO!!!
ROTFLMBAO!!!!
But yea… 3 DIFFERENT DADS?? YIKES…
NO WONDER COMMON DROPPED HER ASS.
I currently work with a 17 year old on her fourth child. Yes fourth child. Many people in this girls life have already told how much of a fuck up she is. But growing up nobody had a plan for her to suceed. Judgments and no plans mean no actions. There is a difference between that a person thinks and what they do. Its one thing to judge a person and discuss what is morally right but if you are not doing anything to alleviate the situation then your thoughts are worthless and you have no right to say anything.
“So if Badu is the poster child for black women with too many baby daddys, then who is the poster child for black men with too many baby mamas?”
AMEN!!!
That’s exactly what I said in so many words further up!! Everytime you turn around the black woman is being judged over the number of kids she has out of wedlock.. The black male will have 20 kids by 10 different women and be steady judging the black woman over the number of kids she has!!! At the end of the day that woman has to raise her kids and does – which is alot more than can be said about the black male!!!
@sxyQblondie:
love all your post. one of the rare people on Bossip that have some sense.
I do agree that having three kids without being married is her business. However like it or not she is a representative for the AA community whether she wants to be or not. With that being said having kids out of wedlock is a sin if you take a look at the three monotheistic religions (Islam, Christianity, and Judaism).
And I personally (read the word personally again for all you slow people) don’t think its right to have that many kids without being married I don’t care what color or creed your are. Its wrong and in the eye site of God its a sin. And to justify it being OK as AA woman to have as many kids as she wants just because she take care of them is wrong. So what if the marriage ends in divorce the point is you were married.
That’s one of the problems with the AA community here in the U.S. is that many don’t hold each other to a high standard. Marriage is not a European thing and to think so clearly shows how ignorant some have become and it also says that we don’t really value family and home life.
This type of attitude by Ms. Badu and others like her perpetuates that stereotypes and negative attitudes toward the AA woman and the Black family.
Like it or not wrong is wrong.
@realwoman
“It is due to her conscious attitude that she had the children. The true conscious mind knows that the EURO world order does not want more brown people running around. Abortion nor abstinence were never part of a written rule determining the conscious mind of the Black man or woman. Birth control is more about POPULATION control of minorities if you actually read up on it.”
-this is a true statment. If people research it all developing countries have high birth rates. These rates go down as wages and standards of living go up. It has nothing to do with “low morals” or “taking advantage” of any system.
“The actual crime is TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN. The women have been doing a good job at it so IMO it is time we started persecuting deadbeat fathers instead of conveniently blaming a female parent who actuallly takes care of the children.”
-WOW!! Seems like women on Bossip are solely accussing fathers (who may or may not have agreed to be parents) of irresponsibility.
Nita(Check me out!)
@ realwoman, men do that sh*t because women allow them to. Real talk. A lot of men are trifling, but a good percentage of those trifling men would get their act together real quick if women stopped rewarding trifling behavior. As for child support, women can also have their tubes tied or a hysterectomy. There is no reason for ANY woman (of any race) to have 8 babies by 6 different men. Whether that woman is collecting child support from any of them is irrelevant. At some point, responsibility goes back on her, too.
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Ok Nita…so you are basically saying that man is a wild animal with no control over his behavior unless a woman somehow tames him and makes him act civilized? Well since you are in the know, do you mind telling everyone here how one controls the actions of another human being? This will be groundbreaking…expect a call from different military leaders from around the world!
Also we have numerous types of birth control for women. I am sure you read through this entire blog and saw REPEATEDLY references to bc…again, what is stopping men from using the birth control invented for them? The last I remembered…men are the ones who are aggressors in ‘mating’ so how is the actual act of sex and all that it entails blamed almost entirely on the woman? I thought we got over that with the ‘don’t blame the victim’ campaign in regards to female rape victims…again, if the women are the ones taking care of the children born from a TWO PERSON union why are they the ones MOSTLY at fault again?
@ASHCAKES
Girl don’t make me start shuffling down the isle and then pass out! PREEEEEEEEAAAAAACH!
@Z…..thanks.
@SMDH…. very on point, your insults are very valid. Major logic in what you are saying.
NOW…….for all these judgmental broke ass mutha fuckas. Who the fuck said, you HAVE to have one man. Nobody is saying this shit when a man has all there random kids by differnt jump-offs. (puffy) Nobody says boo. Then you have these dumb hoes like this Nita bitch above who says Erykah is nasty for fucking all these random dicks……who the fuck said the men who she CHOSE to have babies by were random. Cause she sure didnt say that. As a matter of fact, she informed us how great her relationship is with her babies fathers.
See that’s problem with people, so quick to got on some white mans/religious band wagon. Children should be made out of love, and apparently her’s were and are. How many kids are without food, love, and care, that have both parents……MILLIONS.
Go get a clue, and learn your SELF-WORTH, a real woman is not validated by someones judmental rules or by a man (or vice versa). If she can take care of a billion chilren, then it’s her right too. It’s her body, her money, her time, and her love.
I agree
Men, can have as many kids as they want and NEVER be considered a whore or nasty..BUT let a woman have 3 kids by different people..Then they are a whore, and is nasty..FUCK THAT SHIT
NASTY, is the bitches that have kids and more kids and Don’t try to get a job, and just wait on that nasty nigga to come through and give them diaper money so they can spend that shit on…fake hair..and BY them some APPLE BOTTOMS..while their kids are in PAYLESS, or target shoes! NOW those are nasty women..in my opinion!
OH, and the ones that Curse at their kids..
OFF TOPIC
I saw this little bitty girl no more than 2! She was walking with her mom and her group of siblings..The little girl couldn’t make it over this Tall curb and she was walking((((BEHIND)))) her mother..ON a BUSY STREET..I was so pissed..and her mother was like “COME ON BITCH..You know that u can get over the curb” I MEAN..the little girl’s legs was so little..
I Told that ho..Don’t be calling that baby a bitch…BITCH..and she didn’t even get a attitude because she know that she was in the wrong…those are the chicks that get dogged out by their baby’s father’s and then take it out on the baby..now those are the ho’s that need to be tied down and their shit need to be burned!
“a hoe is just a hoe and thats without the controversy”
– grand puba maxwell
the 2nd baby daddy aint dead, he’s the D.O.C. of death row fame.
what ever makes her happy though. i agree on her on what a marriage is..
@realwoman replied to KENNEDY “For someone as concious as Erykah Badu you would think she understood the importance of a strong family structure. 3 different men around your kids ain’t cute or smart.”
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It is due to her conscious attitude that she had the children.
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I have to respectfully disagree. Those magazine excerpts are not the words of a self-fulfilled person, they’re the words of someone who’s turned bad decisions into self-defense. Those excerpts make Erykah sound like she has low self-esteem, and is trying to pick herself up through giving birth.
Even Angelina Jolie, as screwed up as she is inside, has adopted 2 children before getting pregnant, then adopted a third. And most importantly, her three biological children are all with the same man. Between Angelina and Erykah, two women who seem to want to make the world a better place, Angelina is walking the ‘conscious’ walk more than Erykah, from a distance.
I guess until black men shape-up, black women are going to be irresponsible in their reproductive choices. LOL
Gee, i was unaware that you most black women were forced at gunpoint to have these children out of wedlock. Why did’nt these women alert the authorities and turn these black bastards in for rape?
this is soooooooooo cool, knock on the door or a baby daddy on the phone, who is it, ummm, it’s andre jr’s daddy at the door, ummm, it’s d.o.c. jr on the phone, oh yall, look what MY daddy brought me or listen at what MY daddy said to me, and he coming to pick ME up. well (to the other kids) that is his/her daddy not yours so dont be mad, momma got money so i will just go and buy you one too to match!! NICE!!!
realwoman,
“The true conscious mind knows that the EURO world order does not want more brown people running around.”
You know what also controls population? High infant mortality. Do you know how many brown women die in child birth? Do you know how many brown children die before the age of five? In poor coutries, women have lots of children because many of them die. They often die giving birth to them because of the non existent health care in some countries.
Dont focus on abortions and abstinence. Literate women will naturally have fewer children, they also know how to use birth control, they will also have healthier children. They will be healthier.
If black women waited for marriage to have children, the black race would be extinct. We are supposed to be fruitful and multiply. Is anybody raggin’ on her 3rd babies daddy for being the third. Get off her case. She’s supporting her own children and not relying on taxpayers dollars. Get off your high horses and come back down to reality.
Man, I just don’t care(Check me out!)
-WOW!! Seems like women on Bossip are solely accussing fathers (who may or may not have agreed to be parents) of irresponsibility.
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It seems like that doesn’t it? lmao…Like I’ve said before, I am in a pretty decent relationship BUT that doesn’t stop me from observing and really listening to people who are not in one anymore. I try to be a very humble person and I KNOW that nothing is written in stone. I would never allow my own circumstances to blind me to the circumstances of others.
That being said…I am STRICTLY going off of the FACTS. The fact is that there are more women taking care of their children alone then men. That would demonstrate more of a committment on women’s part to their children. Of course not all men are deadbeats but there is a very high percentage that are and that needs to be addressed. Call it BLAMING all you want..it is what it is.
@Nita,
Did Angeline Jolie actually marry Brad Pitt? I didnt know that.
@bria
She is responsible for 3 to each of her baby daddy’s 1. She is the common denominator so she gets the most blame.
I cannot imagine not raising my own child or letting another man do the job for me. My first child was conceived out of wedlock so I am not speaking from a “holier-than-thou” perspective. However,I crossed over the threshold that separates boys from men and thus, my child was not born out of wedlock.
I knew that if she was good enough to have my child, then she was good enough to marry. I have never regretted that decision.
Love Erica’s music. Always been a fan. I am not with 3 different fathers of the 3 different children. I am not judging her. I don’t know her to judge her. And by the same token, when you go to judge someone, don’t forget that your turn to be judged is coming as well. I hope your judge is lenient when you see/ meet him. While, I don’t condone or like the fact so many men, it’s not my life. I don’t worry about it AND I’m married with 2 boys, with the same father. I’m happy. I just don’t have time to damn other people, she’s taking care of them, sooooooooooo……
The( Delicious ♥ ) Ms. Sugar Walls wrote, “I agree Men, can have as many kids as they want and NEVER be considered a whore or nasty..BUT let a woman have 3 kids by different people..Then they are a whore, and is nasty..FUCK THAT SHIT”
In what neighborhood? That’s nasty. What woman is stupid enough to spread her legs — without protection! — for a man who has a bunch of kids with different woman? What woman is going to think that’s alright?
The answer being, a lot of women are stupid, of all races. But that man who has many different children by many different women is NOT a catch, for women who are paying attention. Or at least, more honestly, for women who have options. I can see if a woman doesn’t believe she has options, she’ll screw him without protection.
But we have to do better. People like Ashcakes are the people who are going to make enough difference in young lives that they don’t believe that this is the only option.
@ Realwoman, I’m basically saying that men act irresponsibly but it’s ridiculous to claim that women can’t be responsible and make better choices. You claim a man can have a vasectomy. I claim a woman can get a tubal ligation. I also claim, however, that a woman can make better choices about her choice of sperm deliverer.
y is it always black woman this and black woman that
ARE U guys realluy that jealous?
@ funny
i have two kids by two different men and in no way do i condone this behavior…
so lets keep the genralizations at a minimum please
the first child i had as a teen so my decisions did not reflect that of a responsible adult woman
the second i had after i got married and if i have anymore it will be by my husband
we need to have two parent households in our community and until we do this never ending cycle will continue for generations to come
I AGREE WITH SWEET CHEEKS
even though i wouldn’t want to have 3 baby daddies, but hey you never know how life goes, and i have learned that and as soon as you talking about the next person that same things knocks at your door and reminds you of how you talked about the next person. she takes care of her kids and that’s all that matters, if you don’t like it then you just make sure you handle your business i never thought i would divorce and have a baby by a second man. but life sometimes makes changes even when you din’t plan it, damn i need some ti right now. but foreal i am not going to say nothing about her and her life. you never know what life’s going to hand you ,never!
ms. sugar walls………i could not have said that better. Thank you for that.
Erykah is NOT the problem here. She does not represent every black woman. People need to take responsiblility for their own actions. I know too many woman who keep having kids by the same run down ass man. So I guess it’s cool though cause they all got the same, nothing ass daddy…….smh.
I am not going to judge her, well because it says you shouldnt in the bible…that being said…yes she can take care of them, but is this really about the financial aspect of this? I feel like its just another way that white people can stereotype us. Yes white women do it to but we are not talking about them, were talking about us. Lets stop perpetuating their perception of us. Its not okay to have 3 kids at any point by three different people. Woman or man. I know there are situations as mentioned before where multiple children are born, and for every situation there are exceptions. I just dont think it takes us any further as a race to lower the bar when it comes to issues such as this one.
*SMH*
Diff. not cute to have baby daddies but to each it’s own…i feel the same way, at least she has money where she can afford to do that and at least she takes care of her kids, etc. i think people should focus on their own mess of a life and stay out the woman’s bizness..lol
@Kigali, you’re right, Angelina didn’t marry Brad… no matter how often Brad reportedly has begged Angelina to marry him — and that includes the ‘we refuse to get married until everybody (meaning gay people) is allowed to marry’ political football.
So I’m off on that one. Erykah doesn’t even claim that, though. And Angelina, right now, still has 3 adopted babies and 3 biological babies with one man.
for the people upset with Badu, or any other parent with offspring from multiple sources, could you explain why this is a negative?
Assuming the children are provided for.
I am commenting on the Badu situation because I appreciate the public forum. Regardless of if i disagree with the opinion I believe the person stating it is of sound mind and some intelligence. At the same time I will use this public forum to say that I do not agree with Badus decisions but they are her own. Besides this is a topic that needs to be discussed, the degradation of the black community, family, woman, man and child.
I do however want to say that as a community we need to do more. As women and men we need to provide our future with role models to show the expectations and standards of what it means to be a black person. So to each person who has moral standards all I ask is that you at least find one person in need of your guidance and reach out to them.
Nobody’s opinion on this forum is wrong, interesting but not wrong. All I am saying is lets put a little bit behind the bark
“The actual crime is TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN. The women have been doing a good job at it so IMO it is time we started persecuting deadbeat fathers instead of conveniently blaming a female parent who actuallly takes care of the children.”
Damn – we must be opinionated soulmates!!! I have been saying since day on on this blog teo people do not have ot be married to be good parents to their children.. DIVORCED parents show this all the time.. A ring does not make you a better woman or man!! That is a defense mechanism these dead beat black bastard males use to explain away their continued comfortable sorriness. .If he can make everyone believe he couldn’t be a good father cause he wasn’t married thats more pity points for his sorry ass!!
Its a bunch of bullshit – and again these women are taking care of their kids. Lay the responsibility where it is due!!! Black males need to learn to be better fathers..
Religiously and spiritually one should be married before they even have sex, but you don’t see black males telling women to keep their legs closed, now do you!! Let’s stop going for the yearbook answer annd start taking care of your kids!!!
Nobody is JUDGING anyone or condemning them to HELL. It’s a discussion about her behavior, discussions about behavior are all throughout the Bible. There is a difference.
ANGELINE AIN’T NO BETTER SHE GOT THREE KIDS UNMARRIED AND WAS MARRIED WHEN SHE HOOKED UP WITH HIM GIRL PLEASE, AT LEAST ERKYAH THOUGHT MAYBE SHE WOULD BE WITH THESE GUYS OR WHATEVER THE REASON ANGELINE AIN’T NO BETTER PLEASE.
Sugar Walls
Basic Biology. Women get pregnant, not men. Women have to carry that child/mistake around for 9 months, not men. Ultimately, women will have to take of said child/mistake, not men. All, i’m saying is that women should make better choices in who they choose to mate with, because, they have more to lose in the overall scheme of things, and when you factor in the plight of child, that compounds the problem. Btw, who’s actually raising Badu’s children sinse she’s on the road touring most of the time, due to her poor cd sales?
kigali Is judging and dont care(Check me out!)
Dont focus on abortions and abstinence. Literate women will naturally have fewer children, they also know how to use birth control, they will also have healthier children. They will be healthier.
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I agree with everything you said prior to the above. Those stats are true BUT the belief that literate women NATURALLY have less babies is false. It kind of gives the visual of knowledge going into the brain somehow kicking out eggs from the vagina. lmao..
There really is nothing natural about manmade solutions for preventing a body from procreating. It is more of a social dynamic in CERTAIN countries that dictates the more educated not have many children. In China once you are educated and wealthy you are encouraged to have more children, it is the poor who are discouraged. There have been kingdoms built off of multiple births specifically for heirs to the thrown. Sheikhs aren’t told to strap it up because more than two kids would be ‘ghetto’. It is a social thing more than anything.
Also, why not focus on abortion and abstinence? They are the two most effective ways to make sure a baby is not born AND not suffer from hormonal issues that have been linked to everything from cancer to weight gain.
Bitch Please! If a girl around the way has 3 kids by 3 different men we call her a hoe. But b/c Erykah has money and fame we are suppose to give give her a pass….I thinks not! Erykah is a hoe just like the girl around the way.
but they are by the same person…SO Y IS ANGELINA UP IN THIS ANYWAY?
@sugarwalls
“y is it always black woman this and black woman that
ARE U guys realluy that jealous?”
explain why you think some are “jealous.”
I agree with u Introducing…ME
I don’t condone what she is doing and im not one to judge but it is just another way for them to bring our race down with this mess…
BUT THE THING IS..WHO GIVES A FUCK THAT U CALL HER A HO? DID SOMEONE JUST DIE AND MAKE U MUTHAFUCKAS THE QUEEN OF JUDGING?
Mary J. Blige onced goofed on Erykah and her head-wrap swag, calling her a ‘witch’ and just overall being disrespectful to her. When somebody confronted Erykah with Blige’s statements, her response was something in the way of, “I got nothing but love for the sistah. I love her music and wish Mary well.” I thought that was so honorable to take the high road and in doing so made Blige look that much more small and trife. I wish Erykah had done the same in this instance. Going on a tirade is definitely a step down for her. It’s so unattractive when someone lets others get the best of them.
THAT BABY THING IS GOING TO BACK FIRE ON ANGELINE AND BRAD MARK MY WORDS SHE GOT HIM BY THE BALLS AND THEN HE HAS ADOPTED THE OTHER KIDS AND AIN’T EVEN MARRIED THIS GIRL. AND JUST CUZ YOUR MARRIED DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOUR GOING TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER AND YOU MIGHT REMARRY AND HAVE MORE KIDS. MY POINT IS WE NEVER KNOW IN LIFE LET GOD JUDGE.
this topic is a lost cause. good luck to you all and may GOD truly bless your beliefs. i will continue to do my part in society for my people and that is to educate the youth and willing, teenage pregnancy and hiv/ aids is still at an all time high for our people but because adults tend not to listen but justify doing because they are grown and can and will do as they please, i counsel and advocate to the young, trying to make a difference and get through to an open mind. Good luck to Ms. Badu and the rest of you.
Man, I just don’t care wrote, “for the people upset with Badu, or any other parent with offspring from multiple sources, could you explain why this is a negative?
Assuming the children are provided for.”
For myself, I’ve experienced third-party exactly what goes down in families with multiple fathers, because the children are NOT provided for EQUALLY. You know the sibling rivalries that occur within biological households (and adopted households)? Now times that by multiple fathers, with some children getting treated better because of whom their father is, and some children being treated worse because of whom their father is.
That goes for how the children treat each other, and how *extended family* treats each child. It’s disgusting. Maybe what I experienced third-party, as an observer, isn’t reality, though. For those people who actually lived in homes with multiple fathers by the same mother, how did you children treat one another? how did family treat one another?
Gee, i was unaware that you most black women were forced at gunpoint to have these children out of wedlock. Why did’nt these women alert the authorities and turn these black bastards in for rape?
Again, monkey man, the issue isn’t out of wedlock births.. Its TWO parents stepping up and taking care of their responsibilities.. In no other race does a man need a ring on his finger to be responsible..
In no ther race do you hear all these fucking excuses for why the men are as useless as a fucking pussy on a nun!! Only in our race do we constantly have to come up with reasons why our males are as sorry as the fucking day is long!!
C’mon now.. Take care of your fucking kids you dickless piece of shit bastards!! Stop blaming women for your fucking sorriness.. Only race on the planet whereeverytime you turn aorund some grown ass able bodies man is blaming a woman for his shiftlessness!!!
SMDH!!!
@ Rainbow Bright
I respect your mind and I’m not saying she’s perfect but she doesn’t represent the entire black race-
1) check the ages of her children (it’s a gap)
2) Jamie Lynn Spears had a baby at 16 or 17 and she is on the cover of OK magazine, she doesn’t represent the White race having children as teenagers
My point is we need to stop generalizing the black community. Again, she isn’t the typical welfare case of “I need a handout, let me have some babies”
Because it is the Obvious.
Sorry but the MAN is the one with more to lose in this. Again, in China they are kidnapping male children for rich and poor families JUST because they know the value of children. In old age it is the elders offspring who will take care of them. This is why soooo many homeless shelters house more men than women even though women outnumber men! Why is it that we have more older men in shelters and more women in nursing homes? Seriously, think about it.
The only people who look at children as a burden instead of a blessing are the ones who should not have them.
kigali Is judging and dont care
Remember shootgun weddings?
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Now THAT’S something I wouldn’t mind the government underwriting with my tax $$$$$… ESPECIALLY in the black community.
U r right, at least back when we didn’t have $h!+, we had PRIDE!! Now, we’re so damn permissive with self-destructive behavior and urging people 2 “do u”, no matter what the outcome is.
Yeah, life happens and relationships don’t work out, but if u still can’t figure out “wtf?” after 2 OOW kids????????
Well you guy have been great, its kind of ironic but I have to teach a parenting class and a life skills course for my young girls at work.
Have a blessed day to all and I hope I have your support as I attempt to show these future black women what their life can be by having someone who is willing to give guidance.
By the way I post regularly and I am one of the few qualified to run these groups at my job. Any topics of discussion or advice to these girls would be appreciated.
@ kingali, its funny how there is a difference of opinion between us but the vision of empowerment in the black community is still there.
Seriously, No disrespect but….
It is Ms. Badus’ right to have as many children as she wants. With that said Eryka don’t be surprised when you’re not greeted like your Michelle Obama or something.
You can’t on one hand portray yourself as this great mother, queen, moral compass etc. and then parade one night stands and miscellaneous rappers around your kids thinking they will be OK.
No, she’s not looking for a hand out from the government; but this goes to the heart of some critical issues in the black community. If you seriously live your life with the attitude of “I’m going to just do me” then maybe children aren’t the best thing for you.
When you’re a good parent you realize that it can’t be about your self gratification and justifications all the time.
I picture her letting the kids see her naked with these men.
I picture her smoking weed and calling it natural medicine in front of these kids.
I picture her ignoring things like vaccinations for “so called” alternatives.
I picture her teaching these same overtly destructive measures to her children.
I no that I’m not the only one!
Marriage isn’t the end all to raising a child, if
two parents can communicate and work towards
building a stable environment for the child then I’m all for it-married or not
dapro
PREACH
I feel you! I hate it when People always group us togther. And I am still trying to understand how can another call her a ho, when they have skeleton’s in their closet too! BE REAL
I hate that people can be so judgemental, because you’ve all been perfect.
This is her personal issue. I can’t say its wrong, and i cant its right. should she stay in relationship just because she has a kid, or should she never date or have sex because she already have kids, cuz thats what the census sounds like in here. She is a grown woman, has relationships, she has sex, she has kids, relationship doesn’t work out, what she suppose to do. Just sit around.
People shouldn’t always need to have a plan provided for them in order for them to stop making mistakes.
It only took me 1 time to touch a hot iron before I realized that I wouldn’t intentionally do it again. However, if I chose to burn myself again, you wouldn’t be wrong in calling me a dumb@$$ for doing it. You wouldn’t have to provide me with a “no-burn-hand-on iron” plan before you were justified in judging me to be a dumb@$$ either.Why should I need someone else to tell me something I already know. Touch a hot iron and you will get burned. All I would have to do is look at my burned hand.
We should commend her. Black when Have the highest rate of abortions. I’ve the done the research we need to ask the question what is going on with the black family. And for all of you who don’t believe check out your local health departments live births vs abortion rate.
but the thing is
WHO knows what she does in front of her kids? Who knows how she raised them, and Sorry to say..BUT if she did smoke weed in front of her children, she isn’t the only mother or for that fact DAD that do..I see it everyday..So there shouldn’t be a big shock for you.
How do you know..that they wasn’t dating for a while..long enough for her *ERYKAH* to feel comfortable…enough to be around her children? I can see if you were her personal assistant, or Maybe her body guard, but WE don’t know that.
“Marriage isn’t the end all to raising a child, if
two parents can communicate and work towards
building a stable environment for the child then I’m all for it-married or not”
I keep saying this too – yet I notice none of the posters whining about out of wedlock births is commenting on this!!!
man, people are going off on some tangential ish in a sorry attempt to justify this situation. the sad part is that it appears to be mostly WOMEN who are justifying this mess. the men are calling it like they see it and yet women still refuse to see it for what it is.
like someone said, people need to be judged. i’m judging my kids and calling them out, i’m judging their friends, and their friend’s parents and households. i judge the men in my life against my standard for them. i judge my co-workers and friends, and if any are shady, i don’t f with them. i judge the black-managed wal-mart down the street from me which is the worst walmart in the damn tri-county area. probably because it’s manager doesn’t judge.
judging is necessary and calling out is necessary. the lack of JUDGEMENT amongst some folks is having some serious consequences. and yes what happens in non-judgemental households affects me because it’s their damn kids and peoples that’s running wild. we need to start calling it how it is and stop making excuses. excuses leads to laziness and unproductivity.
but the thing is
WHO knows what she does in front of her kids? Who knows how she raised them, and Sorry to say..BUT if she did smoke weed in front of her children, she isn’t the only mother or for that fact DAD that do..I see it everyday..So there shouldn’t be a big shock for you.
How do you know..that they wasn’t dating for a while..long enough for her *ERYKAH* to feel comfortable…enough to be around her children? I can see if you were her personal assistant, or Maybe her body guard, but WE don’t know that!!
@ kat
that you know of….
seriously everyone posting stats on here
where the fuck do you think statistics come from?
I love Ms. Badu and am listening to her lastest as I respond. Personally, 3 children, 3 different father’s, each time unwed????? Oh, well!! at least she can afford them. My taxes won’t be paying for them. She’s not hurting me or fucking minor’s, and I trust that her kid’s are well cared for. This is nothing new, not for me to chastise. Please keep the good MUSIC coming………
well your own biological dad can be unresponsive to your needs and even your mother can treat children diff. its all still generalizing i know people you couldn’t tell if the child had a diff daddy cuz their treated just the same , PEOPle we take risks in everything just because it’s your real dad did it stop him from abusing you and your mother , so you can’t put a whole label off one of your friends stories or situations. their are great step daddy that provide, so with that said my kids don’t have any problems with that.
KDogg,kigali Is judging and dont care,Marquis de Sade
Cosign.
This is not a good look, PERIOD. Yes shit happens, but we have got to do better.
SMDH
You’re right. In no other race do you have stupid thug worshipping bitches with the propensity to constantly get knocked up by in and out of jail niggas who have the earning potential of an unskilled laborer. I reiterate, make better choices with whom you decide to mate with. Why is that so hard for you to understand? Surely you don’t expect an uneducated unemployed loser to help you care for the offspring that you made the conscious decision to carry to term?
Oh sorry Nita…I missed the part where ANYONE claimed that ‘women can’t be responsible and make better choices’. Could you show me where that was said? If anything I am reading the sentiment that a woman is MORE responsible in procreation than men because she is the one who has to carry the baby. If that is truly the case then why should men even stick around? They obviously have very little to do in the procreation decision making since they are all wild beastly sex machines who only know how to MAKE babies and not take care of them. Dang, I missed that part in biology class…..
The bottom line is I can understand the first baby, slap her on the hand for the second but by the third she should should have and use better judgment when it comes to relationships. One day she will have to answer to her children hopefully they wont fall into the same pattern
An unwed 17 year old white girl is currently on the cover of a magazine holding her newborn. Hav’nt heard an an uproar………Amerrikka has changed?
Her having 3 kids by 3 different fathers is not a personal issue. I’m not sure if they are all boys but if they are, from whom will they learn how to be a real father? Most of us agree that the Black man is absent from the home and does not accept his responsibilities like he should. Is it also a coincidence that this phenomenon presents itself when we lead the country in teen pregnancies, single-parent househods, and out of wedlock births? Our black men are being taught to be “men” by their mothers and music videos. Go figure. And many of these mothers wouldn’t know what a “real” black man/father is like b/c they never had one themselves.
Marquis
That is her choice…It might not be the right decision to some, but that is her, and that is what she wanted to do…But at least she is taking care of her children. I can’t see her not taking care of her children. If she felt that she loved that nigga..and wanted to create life between them ..then that is what they did.
It happens everyday..I am not saying..that what all women should do..But she is her own person, she isn’t like no one but her. AND I will continue to support her music..Because I love Erykah Badu’s Shit, and I don’t worship no one but GOD
Bosssip do you label SMH for everything know honestly shes just sharing her opinion
@ Free
That’s mostly the problem. Alot of women view it has a competition with men and don’t want to admit when they aim for subpar situations. Whatever your views are on marriage, it’s an act of commitment that kids and women should strive for. Yal make it easier for guys to just bounce on you when he doesn’t feel like he is even commited in the first place. I agree that black men have to upgrade their behavior but plenty of women make it too easy for them to have their cake and eat it too.
Marshabio
I agree %100
Everybodys going at it in here…I think the bottom line is no you ant predict whats going to happen in your life, but you do have a measure of control. We have lost sight of the things that really matter. And if you are “doing you” how can you possiibly be doing whats in the best intrest of your child(ren)? Nobody can change the choices that she has made but we dont have to follow suite either…
@realwoman
“That being said…I am STRICTLY going off of the FACTS. The fact is that there are more women taking care of their children alone then men. That would demonstrate more of a committment on women’s part to their children. Of course not all men are deadbeats but there is a very high percentage that are and that needs to be addressed. Call it BLAMING all you want..it is what it is.”
That is no “demonstration.” That represents two things, men who never agreed to be parents in the first place and the bias against men in the court system (this is documented and agreed upon even by legal scholars).
Secondly to “blame” someone implies there was some kind of “error.” Please explain the error.
If men are the “aggressors” are you implying that the men raped the women? Or did the women agree and willingly have sex with these men KNOWING THEY could get pregnant?
She takes care of all her children and maintains a healthy relationship with their fathers. She can move on an have a baby with someone else if she wants to.
@ Kdogg
Great post. That pretty much sums it up.
Excuse me,…….. HAVEN’T*********** THANKS!!
I have to wonder how many posters vehemently defending this mess have multiple baby daddy’s. Her fame doesn’t exempt her from being branded with the same labels we give Nay Nay from the projects for having mulitple baby daddy’s without benefit of marriage. And the argument about how many white women have done it is preposterous. White don’t make it right! They’re trifling too! Does Ms. Badu plan to have a baby by every man she is “dedicated exclusively to for a few years”? Will she condone her son having a baby by every women he’s “dedicated exclusively to”? What about her daughter? The ability to financial provide for a child doesn’t make you able to provide morally for a child. Air headed logic like she’s spouting makes my point.
@ Suga Walls
long time…I see you still in here giving it to them RAW at all times…lol
I am sorry bit three kids with three different man is not a good look. I don’t care what anyone says, even her!
OH YOU GUYS SHE IS MARRYING THIS GUY THAT SHE IF PREGNANT WITH NOW, SO HOPEFULLY THIS WILL WORK OUT FOR HER.
@Leidy
THANK YOU MUCH FOR THE COMPLIMENT. AND DONT GET ME WRONG, I AM NOT CONDONING HER DECISION. I DO NOT AGREE AT ALL WITH CONSCIOUSLY REPRODUCING WITHOUT THE FOREPLAN OF MARRIAGE, STABILITY, ECT ECT. HOWEVER, MY OUTRAGE WITH SOME OF THE COMMENTS HERE AND IN GENERAL ARE BECAUSE OF 2 THINGS. 1ST OF ALL, SHE MAY LIVE HER LIFE (TO SOME DEGREE) IN FRONT OF US, BUT NOT FOR US. AND TWISTING AN EYE AT HER, JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE A FAN, DOES NOT MAKE YOU RIGHT. BECAUSE IF WE DIDNT KNOW THAT SHE HAD CHILDREN, WE WOULDNT THINK TWICE ABOUT JUDGING HER, OR MAKING JUDGEMENTAL COMMENTS. IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU ARE A FAN AND YOU ENJOY HER MUSIC, ALLOW YOUR INTEREST IN HER TO BE EXCLUDED TO “ONLY” THAT. THOUGH SHE MAY NOT BE CORRECT IN EVERY DECISION SHE MAKES, IT IS STILL HER LIFE. AND IT HAS NO BEARINGS ON WHAT WE “ORIGINALLY” BECAME FANS OF HERS FOR.
MY OTHER REASONING IS THAT I BELIEVE THAT WE AS HUMAN BEINGS GET SO HIGH UP ON OUR HORSE, THAT WE FORGET WHAT IT IS LIKE TO HAVE FALLEN A FEW TIMES, OR TO HAVE COME FROM A ROCKY START. JUST AS GOD DOES NOT WANT YOU TO CREATE CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK, HE ALSO SAID WHEN THE PEOPLE WERE SO READY TO STONE MARY FOR BEING A WHORE, “HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN, CAST THE FIRST STONE”. SO ERYKAH MAY NOT BE RIGHT, BUT SOME OF THE ONES WHO ARE POINTING AWAY ARE NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO THE STUFF THEY HAVE GOING ON IN LIFE, AND CHASTISING THEMSELVES FOR THEIR OWN FOOLISHNESS. REMEMBER, BEFORE YOU GO PLUCKING THE MOTE FROM YOUR BROTHERS EYE, YOU MUST FIRST REMOVE THE “BEAM” FROM YOUR OWN.
One last post
@ KDogg
If you read my earlier post i work at a group home for young females that are predominately black. The majority are wards of DCFS custody. The girl i mentioned is one such. She was born to a crack addicted mother and was prostituted out at the age of 7. Her father is currently in prison. This girl has no family and honestly looks to me as a mother and I am only 8 years older than her. There was no plan for her and the people in her life failed her miserably. Embrace the fact that you were blessed with the common sense to want more for your life and having expectations. However, dont forget that each person has to fall on their ass to learn lifes lessons. You were strong enough to bounce back, some will crack, and there will be others who with help can be pieced together.
@ yanib
You hit the nail on the head!
Men have tried to control the reproductive choice of women for centuries. Only in the past 70-80 years have women had the type of control they have today. Childsupport, Alimony, job-options… there has been less need to have as many children.
People think of your grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. If you are in your 20’s that makes your grandmothers and great grandmothers approximately 60-80. How many children did they have? Were they waiting on any “system” to support them (LOL)? Were they any less moral?
damn
Sexy
U said that soo Brilliantly
A lot of people molest animals and little kids, doesn’t make it right.
She sounds like she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, kids baring witness to your sexual exploration equals abuse, not a lifestyle choice!
It is a sad world when women are condemned for having children. It is what we were made to do yet the new age masses can’t see it…instead of focusing on EVERYONE TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN we are told not to have them.
Remember the black women in America outnumber Black men 7:1. This means that if the “monogamous marriage only” procreation rules actually applied a majority of Black women wouldn’t be allowed to have children. So for the person who stated that mostly WOMEN are forgiving in this situation…please THINK. They are the ones with more to lose (in regards to WANTING CHILDREN). Or are we also going to blame Black women for the lack of men within the race?
Hey introducing me
who are u? Come on..tell me? LOL
Why hasn’t anyone mentioned Angelina Jolie? She has a rack of kids and stole somebody’s husband and you know what? The white media loves her. Stop hating on Erykah and let her do what she wants to do. As long as she’s taking care of her children and enjoying her life, there’s really no reason to trash her.
@yanib
I see you have bought into the nonsense that having multiple children by multiple fathers or mothers makes you immoral LOL.
How many children does your grandmother and great grandmother have (if you know)?
You people really need to get over yourselves. Who are you to judge anyone? This is Ms. Badu’s life. She does not have to confer with anyone about her choices. If you find fault with her way of life then by all means don’t follow her example. You sitting up on Bossip talking shit about her serves no purpose what so ever. So cut the shit shut the fuck up and worry about your own damn lives.
whatever willie
I can see if you actually sat there and watched her do that shit in front of her children…GTFOOH
@SXYQBLONDIE I COULDN’T HAVE SAID IT BETTER I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU STATED EVERYTHING.BECAUSE I WAS ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO ALWAY SAID THIS AND THAT AND GOD BROUGHT ME TO A PLACE WHERE I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATIONS AND HE ALSO BROUGHT BACK MY WORDS IN REMEMBRANCE. I TELL YOU, EVEN WITH MY MARRIAGE THAT’S WHY I SAY NOW YOU NEVER KNOW, I THOUGH I WOULD BE WITH THIS MAN THE REST OF MY LIFE AND WE HAD 3 KIDS TOGETHER, AND HE IS STILL AND VERY GOOD DADDY, BUT I ALWAYS SAID I WOULD NEVER HAVE MUTLIPLE DADDIES AND I TURNED MY EYES ON PEOPLE BUT MY LIFE CHANGED SO QUICKLY AND I HAD TO LEARN TO WATCH YOUR MOUTH BECAUSE YOU CAN BE TESTED ON THAT SAME THING, AND IT’S A DIFFRENCE IN BEING AWARE OF WHAT YOUR CHILD IS DOING AND THINGS LIKE THAT BUT GOD SAID LET NO MAN JUDGE AND THIS IS JUDGING YOU DON’T HAVE TO AGREE WITH IT BUT PRAY FOR THAT PERSON INSTEAD OF TALKING DOWN, YOU DON’T KNOW HER LIFE STORY AND GOD HAS TO DECIDE HER FATE AND WE ALL HAVE DIFF THINGS THAT WE ARE GOING TO BE JUDGED ON SO TO ME HER HAVING THESE BABIES ARE NO DIFF THEN WHAT YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO ANSWER TO. WE ALL WILL ANSWER TO SOMETHING PRAY FOR HER AND YOURSELF BECAUSE WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME SITUATION JUST DIFF. CIRCUMSTANCE.
@ tscombo
100% agree with you on the competititon aspect. I also agree many women make it easy for the man to “have his cake…..”. You have to ask the question: If a woman has to force a man to commit to raising his child, is he a real man to begin with? A real man has a sense of responsibility and self discipline. If the man does not have these basic qualities then he there was nothing the woman could have done to force him to be a father to his child. This should have been taught by HIS father. So goes the vicious cycle.
She shouldnt have even responded. She should of held her Earthy acoustic Peace.
If you want us to HUSH you need to start 1st Badu. JUST MESS….
or maybe her hormones are just ridiculous right now..
Ok since the question has been asked ‘how many of you agreeing have multiple baby daddies’ I’d like to know how many people condemning her have ever had sex….
@SoSo,
Please wear your ideas on a shirt so no man will mistake you for a marriage material.
Thanks.
@ sxyQblondie
see, here is another post I feel what you are saying
I work my behind off, every day, don’t call in b/c we get in trouble here even if we have the time off in our system and all my damn hard working money goes to taxes…. to pay for what?! someone who ain’t working. sorry, don’t have any sympathy for you.
we women all know how to get knocked up and how to prevent it so use your head. LOL.
i just don’t get multiple babies running around w/multiple fathers where the mommie isn’t work, living off of everyone else! come on now.
if the fathers are in their lives and they are working, making living for their offspring, i don’t have a problem with you.
i have a problem with ppl living off me cause of their personal choices. bullshit. cause now i’m struggling to eat and pay my bills working 40 hrs a week and a damn college graduate with honors!
No one is condemming women for having children. We’re condemming them for doing it irresponsibly with little regard to the long term consequences of said irresponsibility.
Do you want to know y People haven’t mentioned Angelina
1) this shouldn’t be a debate on who has how many kids…
2) however many children people want to have, should be on them
3)I can’t see how people are worried about what she is doing and how she is doing it.
4) Because yall muthafuckas fuck people all day, but NO ONE KNOWS YOU!
5) So why be so judgemental? If the camera was on u all day, U would crack! That shit goes for Britany Spears too. I take up for her ass too! NO RACISM HERE..It is all the same shit
A bunch of chicken heads clucking in unison on Bossip. Gotta love the internet.
2) Should be their choice
That is a pretty pic of her on that cover. I don’t really follow Erykah like that as far as her personal life, I didn’t even know she had 3 different “baby daddies”. I just think she makes good soulful music…and that voice!!! People are so quick to judge, and look at the shit Brittany Spears is out here doing, not to mention her 16 year old sister getting pregnant, and to think there are idiots out here judging Ms. Badu for something thats none of their damn business to begin with. Life doesn’t always end up the way society says it should be, people don’t have to live their lives according to other individuals’ moral codes and ethics. Let that woman be a good mom to her children thats all that matters in the grand scheme of things.
@KDOGG,
I know I am on your jock today but you need to be cloned.
Judgement is a dangerous thing, that’s why you shouldnt do it to ANYONE at ANYTIME.
Who are we to judge this woman? I just think if she has healthy relationships with the father of her children and the children are happy and taken care of then it doesnt matter. But on the other hand there are a lot of the mothers that do the same thing and dont have great realtionships with their childrens fathers and both are downright trifflin, and the children arent being taken care of. Thats when it becomes an issue
@sugawalls
nigga please
I didn’t say “I saw her” doing those things.
Don’t you have kids to go check on!
Earth Signs
Uhhh, don’t you mean “FATHERS”?
2WILLIE THEN WHY WOULD YOU SAY THOSE THING OR EVEN ASSUME THEM , THE WAY YOU WERE TALKING WOULD SEEM LIKE IT WOULD BE FACT. I WAS ALSO WONDERING DID YOU KNOW THESE THINGS FOR SURE
@WHODATSAIDDAT
VERY DANGEROUS
@Marquis de Sade
on which part?
You know. Maybe we shouldn’t be allowed to breed. The sentiments being posted is proof positive that one should be required to have a licence to pro-create.
It doesnt mean a damn thing to be married. Thats an issue with me. Just because you are married doesnt mean the guy/girl is right for you or the marriage will work out. This is only an issue in the black community because of people who have nothing else to do but to judge others. For those who are also saying its for the kids or whatever, leaving someone who treats you badly is also good for the kids. For example, if a boy sees his mother taking abuse, he becomes an abusive man & if a girl sees it, she thinks its acceptable. Not good for the kids nor the mother. I think the bigger problem in our community is that we would rather tear our women/men down than help build her up. As i stated before, i havent heard anything that says she mistreats or is a bad mother to her children which should be the only concern & not the men.
erykah is a hoe. period. just because she’s grown and have the right to do whatever she wants doesnt mean she SHOULD! LOL dumbasses! i can smoke crack, dig up my nose…etc, but that doesnt mean i SHOULD!
AND FOR HER TO say she doesnt need her fans was really stupid cuz she do need us. we’re the ones taking care of all them babies you having!
and for whoever say we should stay out of her business need to shut the hell up. she’s the one who chose to spend her time to write to “haters”, and i am responding. when your a celebrity thats something you have to sacrifice…your personal life. deal with it. yeah she grown, and yeah its her business…does that stop her from being a hoe? last time i checked 3 kids by 3 different men equalled WHORE! so kiss my arse erykah, keep being a baby factory and being a role model for your kids! keep showing them its ok to pop out babies by everybody…hey mommy does it…you can to!!!!!!!!! condoms who? ring who? Jesus who? birth control who? lol
I am glad this topic was started because I have a question for everyone. How can you blame a woman (any race) for a system that is set up to reward wrong doing??? If a young woman is trying to work and put herself through school there are little or no resources set up to help her. When I was in college I tried to get food stamps to help me out a little so at least I could have a little cash put aside that I did not have to speed on food. Boy did I have to jump through a million hoops before I was DENIED because I had a part-time job. Now if you take a girl who was the same age as me but she had a kid out of wedlock she is given food stamps, welfare, free or low-rent housing and health care for her and the child. Now tell why don’t we offer those same things to young girls trying to better themselves???????? Maybe if we did we would see a trend of girls getting degrees instead of getting pregnant.
willie
Nigga, NO!
but I have friends that have children, and I have worked with children for 12 years..I have experience and what the fuck do that mean? If you don’t know Erykah personally or isn’t %100 sure about the shit that u are typing..Type about something that u know about..Moron
Earth Sign
You said, the father of her children. She has two children with one on the way by three different men, out of wedlock.
Erykah is soooo pretty
@ kdogg
Co-sign. On point.
Marquis
????????
@Man, I just don’t care…maternal had 4 (same husband),paternal had 8 (2 husbands), maternal great had 4 (same husband), paternal great had 2(same husband)…and your point?
@Ashcakes
I feel for that girl and appreciate your effort but most of the women that I am referring to did not have it nearly as tough as your 17 year-old.
Erykah Badu is not 17. She is of an age of understanding. Your 17year old is probably easily influenced. You said she comes from a broken home. She probably knows of Erykah Badu. Hope she doesn’t consider her to be a role model. That’s why I have a problem with things like this. Our kids are learning from what they see, hear, and read. it may seem harmless to many but our kids brains’ are fertile ground just waiting for seeds to be planted in them. That’s why I care.
You can’t beat having a “father” in the home.
I serve my wife and my wife serves me. I respect her and would literally lay down my life for her and my children. I do everything in my power to make her happy and she, in turn, does the same for me. I wasn’t born knowing how to be a man; how to treat her. I had training. I learned it from a real man. I learned it from my Father.
and
Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.
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@Kdogg
Nice comments.
HI TEEDY (WAVING) ♥
@Marquis de Sade
yeah FATHERS. Bottom line, we shouldnt judge.
HEY MS SUGA WALLS! I SEE YOU IN HERE SHAKING THINGS UP AS ALWAYS, MY GIRL!
@TOO SEXY
GIRL I THINK THAT ANY ADULT WHO HAS LIVED LIFE LONG ENOUGH TO BE HONEST WITH THEMSELVES AND OTHERS, WILL ADMIT THAT THEY HAVE HAD TO BITE THOSE WORDS A FEW TIMES. I WISH I HAD A DOLLAR FOR EVERY TIME I SAID “HE/SHE IS STUPID FOR DOING SO AND SO” AND END UP IN A SIMILAR PREDICAMENT DOWN THE ROAD, AND GOD BROUGHT ME RIGHT BACK TO MY PRIOR PRE-JUDGEMENTAL STATEMENTS. YOU MAY KNOW THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG, BUT THERE IS A WAY TO VOICE IT WITHOUT BEING HARSH, OR JUDGEMENTAL. AND!! WITHOUT MAKING IT YOUR BUSINESS, YOU KNOW WHAT IM SAYING?
@relaxed
DOGGONIT, THANK YOU!!! LIKE WHY SHOULD I BE PAYING FOR A MUG TO SIT ON THEIR BEHIND ALL DAY, AND STILL CANT GET RECOMPENSATED FOR IT LATER? THATS SOME BULL!!(lol)
It is true that you can’t beat a father at home! I agree with that statement!
True QUEENS in every sense of the word don’t make the same mistakes trice . . . nor do they have children with more than one man. Sure, relationships don’t work, but the Badu household has got to be a circus at holiday time. . . Seven’s going with Andre December 24-26, Butterfly’s flying off with dad for New Years . . .and the new one will be at home with mom
Again, why does the fact that this woman have 3 kids by 3 men make her a bad mother???
Any child regardless of your parental upbringing(married or unwed) can be a healthy, productive, and revolutionary member of the society as long as you have people that love you and teach you right and wrong
Is it wrong to bear a child without being married??? Only one can truly answer that
@kigali
likewise…u2
Erykah is a grown woman who can afford her children. She is not depending on welfare or the government to do the job for her. If you can afford that many kids and want them, do it. it’s a free country and at least she takes care of her children. I do not take care of her children, as some one else said, she does. I buy her music because I like her as an artist; I’m not judgemental (I am Christian and believe and practice what Jesus said) enough to criticize her personal life. It AMAZES me that some people who go around spouting Christianity are some of the most hateful, judgemental people I’ve ever seen. If some of us would spend as much time worrying about ourselves as we do butting into other people’s business we would be a better society.
angela
And I bet that you have your legs and mouth closed at all times?? I bet that u never got down and dirty with a nigga or a female???
I bet that no one in your family has had kids out of wedlock..Because u and Your family come from a far away land where only virgins and saints come from? GTFOOH
The( Delicious ♥ ) Ms. Sugar Walls(Check me out!)
Do you want to know y People haven’t mentioned Angelina
1) this shouldn’t be a debate on who has how many kids…
2) however many children people want to have, should be on them
3)I can’t see how people are worried about what she is doing and how she is doing it.
4) Because yall muthafuckas fuck people all day, but NO ONE KNOWS YOU!
5) So why be so judgemental? If the camera was on u all day, U would crack! That shit goes for Britany Spears too. I take up for her ass too! NO RACISM HERE..It is all the same shit
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Exactly…..
@ sexy,
WARNING: USING JUDGEMENT MAY CAUSE AN OUTBREAK OF BLOGS, BOILING POINTS AND BLOOD PRESSURE MEDICINE..lol
I just love how we do this. How about you stand up for what you say? Go into the community where this is a problem and speak out. That is where it is needed. When have you ever heard anything negative about her and her kids…or her relationships? I live in Dallas, she mines her own. We should to. Is she requesting help? Is she having difficulites coping? Why do women think that having a husband gives you a pass into a different world? Like now that I am his wife the kids will grow up to be well adjusted? We women should be smarter than that by now. Why do we judge women to a different standard? For all of you judgers…take it from a person that has been married…it is not all that you think. I feel more connected to the dude i’ve been with for 10 years (not married) than I ever was with my husband. Marriage is something that we were told by the Catholic church was the right thing to do. If we Black Americans were still in Africa, do you think you would be married to one man and raise only your children with him? Do you think you would live your life as you do now? Do you think you would follow what was never in our nature? Think more for yourselves.
@ teedy
Good point. These same government aid type programs are biased against the black family in alot of ways. Go on line and see what is available for a Black family to start their own business (small business loans, grants, etc.). Come back and let me know if you find ONE. Now go back and check to see what is available for single Black women. This might take a while because of all of the programs you would have to review. It’s a shame that these programs are based solely on the criteria of a Black woman being single and / or single with child. A Black man in her life cuts her off from all of these resources and I am sure this is by design. Willie Lynch still at work.
that isn’t true queen
and her daughter’s name is PUMA
I feel you both KDOGG and SLIIDE
@HEY MS.SWALLS(Waving back)-You know we are gonna need cocktails after this one.
@Marquis De Sade speak… please cause these women act like she fell on a dick and a baby popped out. “you never know what’ll happen, shit happens”. I’m so lost. My mother died from AIDS – sexing w/o protection is crazy enough and breeding is just plain OLD. Young girls please help yourself!
Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.
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Yeah, bruh but it takes two you know. Its right what you are saying, but only in a perfect world. In my opinion, its a Black Male shortage in America, that why you got a lot of women out here playing second, third, and sometime fourth to a man. Its a shame how a lot of Black Men are locked up or homosexuals. My example growing up was my Father too.
I know how interact without using judgement, I didnt learn this in college, job, nathan, it’s a real staple value people should have, here’s the secret: think before you speak. HUH? lol
If you picked up that I know her from what I posted on a blog that’s your mistake!
“I picture” her and “I saw her” are two different things!
WHY YOU MIGHT ASK?
Her Past behavior!
It sounds to me like some are taking this a little too personally.
I’m not an advocate for marriage or against smoking weed but exposing children to certain elements that can be harmful (i.e. random men) is not OK.
It’s fine for an adult, not children. There are some who will say “you’re not in her life” or “what about white celebrities” but I don’t consider them apart of the black community, they don’t have our problems. Last I checked Ms. Badu makes her money off urban audiences, surely your not suggesting we give her a pass but attack rappers for promoting certain lifestyles?
Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators (fka Keepin’ It Real – D’Original)(Check me out!)
Our women in general need to make smarter choices. If all of our black women closed their legs, demanded marriage first, stopped lusting at someone else’s man, and stopped letting us men define them…they could have all of us men eating out of their palms.
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Kdogg…why no mention of the decisions of men? Again, like I said, men don’t see the responsibility being on other men. Most of them will choose to blame the woman and make her out to be the dumb one when the true dummy is the one sleeping in the shelter with no family to take care of his old sickly behind because he CHOSE not to be in his child’s life.
Also, I am still waiting for ANYONE to explain to me how a majority…shoot even HALF of our women are supposed to have committed child bearing relationships with men when there aren’t enough men to pass around. It’s easy to point fingers and ask Black women to just stop having sex since they outnumber their men but that is just not realistic. It is also against the law for a man to marry more than one woman at a time in this country. I see no one can answer that….
TEEDY
I am glad this topic was started because I have a question for everyone. How can you blame a woman (any race) for a system that is set up to reward wrong doing??? If a young woman is trying to work and put herself through school there are little or no resources set up to help her. When I was in college I tried to get food stamps to help me out a little so at least I could have a little cash put aside that I did not have to speed on food. Boy did I have to jump through a million hoops before I was DENIED because I had a part-time job. Now if you take a girl who was the same age as me but she had a kid out of wedlock she is given food stamps, welfare, free or low-rent housing and health care for her and the child. Now tell why don’t we offer those same things to young girls trying to better themselves???????? Maybe if we did we would see a trend of girls getting degrees instead of getting pregnant.
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Again, talk about where I’d rather my tax dollars b spent!
Money at it, we had plenty but what we didn’t have was my MOTHER. Please save yourself!
@WhodatsaidDat?
LOL, OUTBREAK OF BLOGS, LMAO. SOME PEOPLE, I TELL YOU, SO BUSY POINTING THAT ONE FINGER AT OTHERS, NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO THE 3 POINTING RIGHT BACK AT THEM ON THEIR OWN HAND.
Being able to afford the children is not the issue. They are not pets. They need more than just food and shelter. Her spring-loaded thighs, are the issue.
Answering two posters here….I’ve had sex with more than one man (sometimes at the same time CTFU), but only ONE child. As for unwed motherhood, that’s not the issue. It’s continuing to do so and expecting everyone else to co-sign that it’s right. I have a cousin in her late 50’s that has 6 kids and 4 baby daddy’s. She’s triflin’ too!!! Marriage doesn’t make you a good parent, but having common damn sense goes a long way to help parenting.
Clueless? I am far from being clueless and what I say is not a double standard. Ya’ll men want to act all innocent now….but tell the truth. How many chicks have ya’ll run up in and saying “ohh i want you to have my baby.” Knowing damn well you don’t mean it and when you do, its not out of love. Men sometimes try to get a woman pregnant, so that they can lock her down. Every damn man I have ever been in a relationship with talk that bullshyt about babies and all that. and its fucked up bc someone get all googled eyed and believe it. And have a baby by a man who won’t be around next year. CARELESS. RECKLESS!
I’m Sliding Like a Fresh Pair of Gators here ’cause he couldn’t have said it better. If we learned to love ourselves, FIRST, we wouldn’t look for solice in some man’s arms. Not every man a woman encounters is husband or baby daddy material. We have to learn to know the difference. If we learn to maintain some type of emotional or spiritual bond with someone BEFORE physical, we’d make better family planning choices. If any of you here making comments met someone who had five children by five different men would you step back or hit that in hopes of becoming #6? Would you think, damn, she’s got to have some good P with 5 kids? Or would you strap up first?
some women get all googled eye*
@ Illuminate Truth
That’s true, it is a cycle. I think that’s the problem as well, once the home isn’t healthy we naturally look for comfort elsewhere making this situations hard to avoid. Its difficult for a girl without a responsible father or a guy with a negative view of women or no male influence to turn down intimacy from the opposite sex when its right in from of them.
What we are discussing are the principles which should be taught throughout our community. We don’t have to judge Eryka but pretending like she should be admired doesn’t do anyone any good.
@ Keeping it Real
I agree with you. But some men still will hit that without strapping up.
Oh and Erykah Badu is more of a role model than many fake Black women in hollywood. She promotes love of the Black self. She doesn’t walk around half naked trying to be white.
For you to insinuate that she is a terrible person because her children aren’t all fathered by the same man is just ridiculous. If you even distinguished ‘role model for relationships’ I could understand but to take one of our TRUE Black women who is ALSO just as much hands on in her Black community, no record, no blond weaves and plastic surgery, no outrageous drug abuse, no self hatred and demonize her because of her children???? wooowwww
@ kdogg
I feel you and you are right the epitome of a black man. However while she does know who Badu is, what she should know about being a parent was not taught to her by those responsible for her. You are right about our kids learning from they see, hear, and read however there needs to be a voice of reason and a reality check. As I stated I am 25 so i feel that I really cant offer advice to anyone older than me because hell they should be telling me something.
It sad that we even have to comment on this issue at this day and age. Our community has come to accept poor behavior and lets be honest when expectations are set low enough anyone will meet them and its sad.
I never said I agreed with Badus actions but I feel that I cant judge her. In terms of my girls I hold them accountable. Many of them make poor choices when they know better but I judge their actions not the person.
Badus actions are quite questionable at the standards I hold myself too. I personally believe that kids should be brought up in marriage so they can identify thier family unit and have a sense of pride. Through this post Badu has been called some truly disgusting names and to be honest I am offended. I am offended because this woman not her actions is being judged and generalized to all women in similar circumstances. In the end the only persons she has to answer to are her kids and the same persons who also deserve an answer about her decisions regarding relationships.
A few points we should all clear up:
Everyone who is saying that we shouldnt judge her, are clearly those who were raised by women. Women, because they have a desire to be loved and like will not risk it by judging. So they dont do it, eventhough they should and not be ashamed to do it. This is a problem with women that demonstrates the importance of man. A man will be less inhibited by his desire to be liked and will say the things that need to be said.
Because she can doesnt mean she should.
Because she can afford it doesnt mean she should. The government doesnt support a crackhead’s addiction, doesnt mean they should remain on crack.
Children want to be raised by their fathers not visited by their fathers. There is a difference.
And just because not every marraige doesnt work doesnt mean we shouldnt try it. Not ever college grad will become a millionare but it doesnt mean we shouldnt go and finish.
For all those people who have and will make mistakes in the future, that doesnt mean you cant stand up for what is right and not validate what is wrong. You will not allow your children to run wild because of your past or future mistakes.
ANYONE THAT DOESNT AGREE WITH ME SHOULD BE STERILIZED. just kidding.
I know I had the children’s names wrong . . but we’ve got to start making better decisions POINT BLANK
I am still going to bump Annie Dont Wear No Panties…but come the hell on Ms. Badu!!!!!!!!This is why I left her & Lauryn Hill alone in the first place!! This is so NOT whats up!! Personal life or not!! Just a continuing cycle…when will it stop?!! It’s not OK to have children out of wedlock much less 3 kids with 3 differnt men..what messages does that teach her children?! Like what does this teach the world?! But then again….one of her 3 children may be the next president or something…I guess vegans dont use condoms!! Gooooooodnight!!
“Our community has come to accept poor behavior and lets be honest when expectations are set low enough anyone will meet them and its sad.” Can’t get more to the point than that!
@Z, you’re right, but all P ain’t good P . . . and some is more fertile than others.
Kigali
*sigh* you can’t see past the end of your nose and its sad. for real.
@HF
The System has to weigh the most efficient way to help ppl in the community. if you have another LIFE on the way and NO WAY in the world to support, but you have a COLLEGE student, not high school, hun COLLEGE, who’s atleast employed and just needs a lil help..what would you do if you were the caseworker? sometimes you gotta sacrifice and see the bigger picture, maybe that wouldve been a good time to evaluate your diet life.. Go liquid till ya graduate, you’ll look great!lol HUH?..oh..
Keeping it Real(
If any of you here making comments met someone who had five children by five different men would you step back or hit that in hopes of becoming #6? Would you think, damn, she’s got to have some good P with 5 kids? Or would you strap up first?
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Sheeet…… I’d step back so far and fast, I’d bump into Harriet ‘n ‘em building the underground railroad!
And naw, I wouldn’t think the kitty must b good because she has 5 kids, I’d think that after 5 kids, that thing must b looser than a fugitive!
How the hell u women expect to get married if you have three kids by three fathers? Im not going to have three guys coming to my house to see their kids while im at work.
spring-loaded thighs?? OOOOO..HOw do I get those? man..HUH..lol
Judgemental people kills me
@HF you so crazy! LOLLLLLLLLLL
Amen @ keeping it real & Amen @ kigail!! So on point!!
When will it stop!! **sighing**
I find it really interesting that the men are making the most sense on this subject. It’s even more interesting the sisters that are arguing with them about the right and wrong of having 3 kids and 3 baby daddy’s. Sometimes listening makes all the difference. Who better to know about a man’s perspective than a man? Could be why some of us find good man after good man even with the man shortage and others of us can’t get 1/2 a man.
Having three children with three different fathers of course is not the ideal situation. The most important factor is if the children are being raised by both parents (in this case all four parents) with the love necessary to insure their future. Would I want that for my daughter. Hell to the no. That is why I am active in her life and teaching her my values and convictions. This way she will not have to use Erykah Badu or any so called celebrity as her role model for life. When she is at the point in her life when she is choosing a man to be with she will look for a man who is responsible and will enhance her life because I am making it my business to be those things in her life now. Erykah Badu having three “baby daddies” is her personal choice and THAT is not to be judged. The only choices we should judge is our own because not many of our own situations can be called ideal. It is what you with these situations and choices (good or bad) that defines your character.
@ HF that was directed to that comment..sorry I’m a quick scan reader..
DEAD@ bumping into Harriet on the railroad…
Kigali, wrong. i was raised by two parents and raised my son with my husband. I DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE. Because you say something is right for you doesn’t make it right for everyone. learn what it means to get out of other people’s business. That would help the world.
ROUND OF APPLAUSE FOR SASSI!
QUESTION TO THE SINGLE WOMEN CONDEMNING ERYKAH BADU:
Do you know that your chances of actually getting married, having children with only that man, never divorcing AND never becoming a single mother are very slim in this day and age? Why fight it? Practice abstinence, take up a hobby and commmit your life to volunteer work. Nothing is wrong with that…
Women need to start screening who they sleep with instead of blaming the man.Are u going to have kids by every guy you meet and then blame the man for leaving?
alright. I didn’t want to type a book, but i see imma have to give example. These are real life people. ok?
I know of a situation FROM A MAN – this chick had 1 kid, when she was young, around 20,21. Met dude (the narrator to me)when she was 24. was with him for 10 years! she got preggers last year. He told her to get rid of it. (I’m sure he sugared it up but thats the gist) she said hell no. She was having her baby. SO this man whom she lived with (first mistake) left her after their 10 relationship bc she chose to have the abby by a man she commited herself to for 10 years. HE MOVED HIS SHYT OUT AND LEFT HER. i don’t know this girl. This was told to me directly from the father. Apparently he see nothing wrong with this. End result: 2 kids, 2 baby daddies. shyt happens. what is she to do?
Scenerio 2: I know an older man who has 3 baby mothers and told ME str8 up, he would fuck one and not even wash his dick off and fuck the next. thus having all these kids. right. what are the women to do?
Scenerio 3: I know a chick who was preggers and found her man cheating on him HER house while in her last trimester. He said i don’t care waht you do, I will never leave Cherry (the other girl). What is she to do?
Scenerio 4: A close friend of mine found out her while she was preggers with her husband’s son that he also had another female pregnant at the same time with a girl. she was 7 months. What is she to do?
I CAN GO ON AND ON AND ON. DO YA’LL NEED TO HEAR MORE? tHESE ARE HORROR STORIES FOR ME. SO WHEN MEN START TALKIGN BABIES I HAVE THE STRONGEST URGE TO DOUBLE UP ON MY BIRTH CONTROLL PILLS. MEN CRITICIZE WOMEN FOR HAVIGN MULTIPLE BABY FATHERS AND NOT UPHOLDING THE STANDARDS FOR THE IDEAL BLACK FAMILY. BUT WHAT ARE YOU MEN DOING TO HELP OR MAKE IT EASIER OR MAKE IT WORK? I AM NOT SAYING EVERY BLACK MAN IS TRIF, BUT THE MAJORITY IS.
WhodatsaidDat?
@HF
The System has to weigh the most efficient way to help ppl in the community. if you have another LIFE on the way and NO WAY in the world to support, but you have a COLLEGE student, not high school, hun COLLEGE, who’s atleast employed and just needs a lil help..what would you do if you were the caseworker? sometimes you gotta sacrifice and see the bigger picture, maybe that wouldve been a good time to evaluate your diet life.. Go liquid till ya graduate, you’ll look great!lol HUH?..oh..
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Mmm, I c what u r saying here, and though that was the ORIGINAL intention of welfare, unfortunately at this point, I’d pick the college student 2 give my money 2. I agree with Malcolm X when it comes 2 welfare: it encourages laziness and dependency. Sure there r folks on welfare who TRULY need the help, but those seem 2 b getting farther between. I’m just being honest.
@realwoman, we have to learn to occupy ourselves with more than a man. some people are relationship addicts . . jump from one to the other and never know who they are because their whole existence depends on what their mate is into. we’ve got to get to know ourselves, love ourselves, make better choices and give the P to those deserving–TRUST THAT AIN’T EVERY MAN YOU MEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay its judgemental to call her a “whore” for having three babies daddies (which is not a term of endearment), but to say she is wrong and setting a bad example is not judging. It is the truth. I mean yall all on Barack for promoting accountability within the black community and this is no different. She is setting a bad example for her children. Like it or not.
I really wonder what xmas is like in her household? “ok seven you’ll go to ur daddies and puma you’ll go to yours and the new one…well i’ll figure it out.” kids need to be brought up in a stable environment with the same. not families spread all over the country. could you imagine her tryin to settle down with one man and all of her kids fathers have to comw get their kids? c’mon its tacky. as i said before YOU DO NOT AND SHOULD NOT HAVE BABIES WITH EVERY PERSON YOU’RE IN A REALTIONSHIP WITH. Just because you can have, doesn’t always mean you should. This selfish way of thinking that we have in this society is pathetic. All this garabge talk about its her decision. Yeah it is but her decisions are gonna effect someone elses life that didnt ask to be here. thats why the black family and community is all messed up because of this “me me me” way of thinking.
Women need to start screening who they sleep with instead of blaming the man.Are u going to have kids by every guy you meet and then blame the man for leaving?
Amen, accountability works both ways.
@ Illuminate Truth
That is so true. I spent the first 9 years of my life growing up in the PJ’s and I remember my father would have to leave the house on the days we had a house inspection because you are not supposed to have a man living with you if you get government aid. My parents were not lazy infact both of them worked but my father was still in school so they were not making that much money at the time and my mother would have to get paid under the table just so she would not lose our medical benifits and her housing but it is just odd to me that they would come up with a rule that keeps families apart and when I look at how we as young people view relationships today no one can tell me that a government system like this one has nothing to do with it.
OK
NOBODY KNOW HOW ERYKAH WAS DATING HER CURRENT BEAU, BUT ARE SOME OF YOU SAYING THAT JUST BECAUSE SHE HAS TWO KIDS THAT HER DATING LIFE SHOULD BE OVER? WHAT IF SHE KNOWN HIM FOR NUMEROUS OF YEARS, AND THEY DECIDED TO MAKE A STAB AT IT AND THEY GOT CAUGHT UP OR DECIDED TO BRING A NEW LIFE INTO THIS WORLD? THAT IS THEIR DECISION, AND SOME PEOPLE DON’T BELIEVE IN GETTING MARRIED RIGHT AWAY..THAT IS HER DECISION. WHO ARE WE TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THAT SHIT? WHAT ABOUT U? JUST BECAUSE U DIDN’T GET PREGNANT..THAT IS U..U IS NOT ERYKAH AND ERYKAH ISN’T U!
LIKE I SAID NO ONE KNOWS U, BUT U KNOW HER..
yanib(Check me out!)
Who better to know about a man’s perspective than a man? Could be why some of us find good man after good man even with the man shortage and others of us can’t get 1/2 a man.
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Yanib if the first man was so good why would you have to find another man? hmmmmmm
WHERE in this world is having three kids by three different men a good decision.
Black people, black people–convincing ourselves that our poor decisions are somehow okay and forcing others to accept them is bad business and greatly explains our plight.
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@dubya
We KEEP ON letting dysfunctional s#it be acceptable…
That’s why our community has soo many problems and that’s the root of all our problems (*in a nutshell, there’s more to it but I’m busy and can’t get into today)…
One main reason for our current plight is the destruction of the traditional family structure within our community = husband, wife & children in one solid family…
The IDEAL & BEST scenario for healthy development for a child(ren) is to see two adults (male & female) in a loving & solid relationship…
Within that you see how to handle problems and deal with life and actually learn things like good communication, compromising, love… on a first hand basis before you go out into the world and have to deal with bulls#it…
The whole point I’m trying to make is that WE NEED TO AIM FOR THE IDEAL situation to raise our kids in so as to achieve the BEST RESULTS and stop letting dysfunctional bulls#it become acceptable and the norm for ourselves, no where else in society do we see it that’s part of the reason why we are where we are today…
@realwoman
I agree that all of us need to wake up. I wasn’t blaming women in that statement. I was pointing out that women have more power than they realize. Women need to be more selective when giving up their bodies.
I was watching the Discovery channel the other day. This male bird was trying to get the female’s attention for mating. First he had to be brightly colored with shiny feathers. This lets the female know that he is indeed healthy. Then he had to build this elaborate nest and adorn it with colorful and bright objects. that meant he knew how to work/provide. He then had to present himself to her and do this even more elaborate dance to get her attention. That meant he would cater to her and serve her. The first female didn’t like him so she flew off. Others didn’t seem to like the nest. Some didn’t like the dance. Finally, one inspected everything, liked it and she allowed him to mate.
If our women were as selective. If they would only choose healthy/capable black men that will provide for them as well as serve them.
Instead our women fall for the wannabe unambitious, unemployed thugs, with no desire to serve their woman.
Some of our women are just looking at the flashy objects but not inspecting the nest. Some only care about his looks but overlook his unwillingness to serve. Know the man before you have a baby with him.
@SUGAR WALLS
TELL ME ABOUT IT (JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE) EVERYONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT WHAT WOULD BETTER THE BLACK COMMUNITY, BUT MY QUESTION IS DO YOU LIVE IT? DO YOU PUSH THIS INTO THE EARS OF THE YOUTH IN YOUR COMMUNITY? DO YOU WALK SO STRAIGHT AND NARROW THAT YOU NEVER MISS A BEAT, NEVER FALL INTO A TRAP, NEVER KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO LIVE FOOLISHLY, AND NOT KNOW YOUR WAY UNTIL SOMEONE THAT TRULY LOVES YOU, BRINGS GOD’S WAY TO YOUR ATTENTION? DONT GET ME WRONG, SOME OF YOU HAVE SOME GOOD POINTS, BUT HOW MANY OF YOU TURN STRAIGHT AWAY FROM YOUR COMPUTER, AND DO THINGS WAY MORE FOOLISH THAN ERYKAH HAVING 3 DIFFERENT B/D’S, AND FIND NOTHING WRONG WITH WHAT YOU DO? IS SHE RIGHT? WELL OF COURSE SHE AINT RIGHT. BUT WHO GAVE MAN(KIND) THE RIGHT TO BE SO HARSH AND JUDGEMENTAL? ESPECIALLY WHEN MAN(KIND) CANNOT STAND TO BE TOLD THAT THEY ARE WRONG ABOUT ANYTHING. THATS WHY IT FEELS SO GOOD TO POINT AT OTHERS, YOU CAN EASILY IGNORE YOUR OWN MISTAKES, AND MISHAPS. GODS WORD SAYS THAT ALL HAVE SINNED AND FALLEN SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD. AND WHILE YOU TALK ABOUT WHAT IS SINFUL, INCORRECT BEFORE THE EYES OF GOD, SO FORTH AND SO ON, GOD HIMSELF SAID THAT THE WAGES OF “ALL” SIN ARE DEATH. HE DIDNT SEPERATE LYING FROM STEALING, OR KILLING FROM ADULTERY. SO ONCE AGAIN, ANY OF YOU WITHOUT SIN, CAST THE FIRST STONE!! BUT EVEN HE HAS MERCY. AND IF HE HAS PLACED IT ON YOUR HEART TO KNOW WHAT IS WRONG, THEN HE HAS ALSO GIVEN YOU A MINDFUL, UN-JUDGEMENTAL WAY TO SAY WHAT NEEDS TO BE SAID. POINT BLANK. THE BEST SUGGESTION IVE READ ON HERE WAS AT THE BEGINNING OF THE POST WHERE SOMEONE ACTUALLY SAID “DO NOT JUDGE HER, BUT PRAY FOR HER”. THAT WAY EVEN IF SHE DOES NOT KNOW, SHE CAN BE BROUGHT TO THE UNDERSTANDING. BUT SOME PEOPLE TODAY, GEESH!!
DinaLee(Check me out!)
Kigali, wrong. i was raised by two parents and raised my son with my husband. I DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE. Because you say something is right for you doesn’t make it right for everyone. learn what it means to get out of other people’s business. That would help the world.
So i guess that Barack Obama should stay out of black folks business all so, seein’ as how he, last night addressed the NAACP about the same subject: THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND A LACK OF FAMILY VALUES AND ACCOUNTABILITY.
@IlluminateTruth
I feel you brotha, I wouldn’t want my girls to follow her lead but at the same time I wouldn’t want them to be unhappily married to man with his children either
In a perfect world, men and women get married have children and raise a family together. In this day and age, that’s hard to achieve. I think she has found a way to balance motherhood, career, and her personal life while remaining strong and firm. The men in her life all seem to have a connection with her and her children, that’s a beautiful thing family
Everyone who is saying that we shouldnt judge her, are clearly those who were raised by women. Women, because they have a desire to be loved and like will not risk it by judging. So they dont do it, eventhough they should and not be ashamed to do it. This is a problem with women that demonstrates the importance of man. A man will be less inhibited by his desire to be liked and will say the things that need to be said.
@kigali
I have mixed feelings about this comment. The desire to be accepted by peers is just as strong for men as it is women. It is absurd to say that I refuse to judge her because Im hoping for someone to come love me. I determine my value based on my accomplishments, the people I surround myself with, most importantly the love I have for myself.
Too many women value themselves based on the judgements of men. As a result you find women constantly comparing themselves to others and trying to point out the next persons flaws without dealing with their own. Women are so insecure and its because of what men think and what they think men want.
The importance of the man in relationships is understated however your comments suggest that if more men judge women everything will be fine. Im hoping youll clarify that because I enjoy reading what you write.
Erykah, Erykah, Erykah. . .you’re pregnant by a third man? I rocked to “Tyrone,” and you’re getting impregnated by him in real life? I jammed to your lyrics about the men who “ain’t ready” and you’re in your 30s dating/sleeping with thugs (i.e. The D.O.C.)? So disappointing.
A friend of mine joked that we should file a class action suit from the Sisterhood against Lauryn Hill for preaching empowerment and then going off the deep end. Should we add you to it?
@SoSo,
Please wear your ideas on a shirt so no man will mistake you for a marriage material.
Thanks.
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Marriage and staying with one person for the rest of ur life is not for everyone. I dont think she should keep making babies with multiple men but if she does SO WHAT? as long as her children know their daddies and everyone’s happy, who cares? Is she supposed to stick with one man and be unhappy just because they have a baby together or should she move on with her life? I think its a worst situation to keep making babies with someone u know isn’t for u. If she loved her men at the time and they were together for years then I cant judge her for wanting to have a baby. Would an abortion be better? Whats the big dealll! there are worst situations a child can be bought into. Marriage does not make things any better. U can get married and divorced 3 times and wind up with 3 kids. It happens.
SEXY ♥
Scenario 1: Mother of two has house fire. All is lost. Baby daddy #1 replaces his child’s belongings before the weekend was over. Happy child. Baby daddy #2…wait anybody seen him lately? Sad child. Forget how good a mother she is. Forget what baby daddy did or didn’t do. How do these girls feel?
Scenario #2 – College time. Baby Daddy #1 doesn’t even acknowledge his daughter in passing. Struggling her way through community college. Baby Daddy #2 did the college visits, helps pay tuition, tricked out the dorm and sends allowance. Goes to Loyola. Good mom, but what about the kids.
Scenario #3 – Baby daddy #1 is unknown as mama took 3 different dudes to court for paternity. Baby Daddy #2 front and center along with all his extended family. Mama done got herself together, but what about the kids.
All three scenarios have played out in the lives of three different women I know. It’s not about what we are grown enough to do. It’s about doing what’s right.
@WhodatsaidDat?
I’m with Illuminate Truth on this one. Now adays you have women who live like Erykah but don’t have the singing career to back them up and they depend on the system to support their kids because they love and have babies with men who just don’t give a damn. Now that I have graduated and I’m paying taxes of my own I would much rather see my money go to a girl like me who has to struggle for her education rather than someone who is lying on her back making babies all day.
Children are the most beautiful gift….I tell my son all the time how he is an awesome gift from an Awesome God…..I can not blame anyone for wanting to fill their lives with such beauty…no matter what the circumstances are…..I mean these are children we are talking about here…..
@SUGAR WALLS
GIRL, THESE FOLKS GOT MY NOSE FLARING OVER HERE!!(LOL)
Keeping it Real(Check me out!)
@realwoman, we have to learn to occupy ourselves with more than a man. some people are relationship addicts . . jump from one to the other and never know who they are because their whole existence depends on what their mate is into. we’ve got to get to know ourselves, love ourselves, make better choices and give the P to those deserving–TRUST THAT AIN’T EVERY MAN YOU MEET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I agree partially but lets keep it really real. Most adults like to have sex. Most adults will have sex. Sex is natural in humans. The only time our physical body can give back is bying procreating. The sexes are not paired up perfectly in terms of NUMBERS.
It is unrealistic to think that those who don’t have partners they are legally bound to will just up and die or never have sex. With sex comes the potential of pregnancy. No matter how many fingers wag there will and always has been multiple births to one woman by different fathers. Either you kill off the excess female population or threaten to castrate the male population stepping out on their monogamous relationships.
realwoman….good doesn’t mean he’s the one for you.
Re: “So i guess that Barack Obama should stay out of black folks business all so, seein’ as how he, last night addressed the NAACP about the same subject: THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND A LACK OF FAMILY VALUES AND ACCOUNTABILITY.”
I like and respect Obama, and agree that fathers should be there for their children. I believe he was addressing men who father babies and then assume no responsibility (financial or otherwise). However, he is the next president of the United States and as such has an obligation to be a role model. Erykah Badu is an artist and an my son doesn’t look to her as a role model. I don’t know why anyone should. Take a look a the personal lives of artists, you will find a lot of non-traditional lifestyles. Erykah states in her rant that she has solid relationships with the men and that they are good fathers.
Let me just say it takes good people to raise a child. This old ass 1920 fake concept of a child needs a mother and a father is crap. It’s ideal…but at times unrealistic. There are many people raised by one parent and two parents that came out just fine. There are different situations for every case. If two parents are good people, then great. but if their not, it’s just a child being mis-lead by two people instead of one. There are many successful people who have had one parent. Not saying that’s what they asked for, but they made the best of it.
…..and shame on some of these brothas in here, blaming women by saying they should keep their legs closes. How fucking dare you. Sex is a human act. last time I checked, a dick was located between the legs as well.
and yes I commend the men who take care of there kids, but in no way should you receive special attention for doing something that you SHOULD do anyway. same for women.
love your kids, take care of them, teach them well, and hope for the best. No one is guaranteed to anyone. And you may start a situation with two ideal parents and still end up with one. So prepare and always keep them babies first.
ASHCAKES
PLEASE
I GUESS THAT SHIT ISN’T THAT CLEAR FOR U!
BECAUSE I WAS RAISED IN A HOUSE HOLD WITH TWO PARENTS. MY FATHER WAS IN MY LIFE ALL THE TIME! HE TOOK ME TO THE PARK, HE FED ME, HE SCOLDED ME, HE DID EVERYTHING THAT A FATHER SHOULD OF DID..SAME THING FOR MY MOTHER
BLESS THEIR HEART!
BUT MY BROTHER CAME FROM ANOTHER MAN OTHER THAN MY FATHER, AND MY FATHER RAISED HIM AS HIS SON..SO THEREFORE I THINK THAT IT IS POSSIBLE FOR A MAN TO RAISED OTHER MEN CHILDREN. SHE MIGHT HAVE ONE MORE THAN MY MOTHER DID, BUT SHE ISN’T MY MOTHER AND NONE OF YOU IS ERYKAH NEITHER.
don’t care how much money she has and shit she preaches…..she shows no respect for herself or kids..
ERICA is bitter because she fucked up.Her kids may be 2 young 2 understand why three different men is constantly coming to the house but one day they will know why.
@Kigali,
I was raised with a mother and father in the household as well. Bottom line, you shouldnt judge the lady
RAISE OTHER MEN CHILDREN
I find it really interesting that the men are making the most sense on this subject. It’s even more interesting the sisters that are arguing with them about the right and wrong of having 3 kids and 3 baby daddy’s. Sometimes listening makes all the difference. Who better to know about a man’s perspective than a man? Could be why some of us find good man after good man even with the man shortage and others of us can’t get 1/2 a man.
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@yanib
THANK YOU!!!
Some of these women are FOREVER blaming men, BUT YET never look at themselves or even bother to consider the fact that the REAL problem MAY lie within themselves and their poor decision making = evaluating men on shallow characteristics instead of solid characteristics…
Let me break it down for you as simple as I can:
Ladies, when choosing a man why don’t you look for one that you admire and can see as a true “husband” and good “father”…
Some of y’all are slow, so let me repeat myself = look for “husband” & “father”…
If you don’t see that man that your dating being a “good husband” and “good father” get out of the relationship or your wasting your time if indeed you want to be in a serious relationship…
Diana Lee
No he was addressing the black community as a whole. You can’t single out blackmen and not the women who chose to have children with an irresponsible loser. Accountability has to be shared.
WILL KILL
SHE IS UPSET BECAUSE ASSHOLES ARE OUT HERE FUCKING AND DOING WORSE SHIT THAN SHE IS
ms sugar walls which of my comments are you responding to?
@SoSo,
I’ve got to ask, if she loved these men enough to make kids why not get married? I mean you cant unmake a child but you can divorce and never see the man again. A child is such a bigger commitment and the stakes are huge. I am sorry but if you are with someone for a long time, as an adult then you should consider marriage. It is good for adults. If that man or that woman doesnt want to marry after a long relationship than move on.
WHO IS BLAMING MEN?
WE DON’T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT THAT..WELL AT LEAST I DON’T! I AM JUST SAYING PEOPLE NEED TO STOP JUDGING HER ON HER MISTAKES, OR HER BELIEFS. THAT IS HER AND U IS U! MUTHAFUCKAS HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO THAN SIT ON THEIR PRISSY ASSES AND TALK SHIT ABOUT WHAT SHE DID WRONG..YEAH..WHEN YALL OPEN YOUR MOUTHS AND OPEN YOUR LEGS..THAT IS WRONG TOO BUT DO WE SAY SHIT..HELL NO
WHEN SOME OF YOU WOMEN GO HAVE SEX WITH THAT MARRIED MAN..THAT SHIT IS WRONG TO..SAME FOR MEN! GET THE F*CK OUT OF HERE.
@Earth Sign,
I already wrote ‘judging and dont care’ into my screen name. Now I have to.
Here’s the ENTIRE POST ALLEDGEDLY FROM MS BADU aka
“pregnant with insults”. She gets pretty deep with her “questions” in the middle of the post:
peace,
HOW DARE YOU DISRESPECT THE QUEENDOM
…AND MY CHILDREN AND MY INTELLIGENCE.
ive never been so disgusted in all of my life .
there is no other place i used to enjoy more .
i post no where else .
you guys have taken an all time low , tho.
I’LL STATE MY PEACE
i am a great mother and care giver to my 2 children and to this world .
my children are 2 of the kindest and happiest people i have met.
I home schooled them and taught them the ways of good to the best of my ability.
i am their doctor and their nurse .
and even sometimes their mother and their father.
i am an excellent mother and resent all of the negative comments and insults on my character.
I PUT MUCH TIME AND THOUGHT INTO HAVING AND RAISING MY CHILDREN.
IVE HAD THE HONORS OF HAVING 2 HOME BIRTHS AND 2 WONDERFUL PARTNERS BY MY SIDE.
every relationship i have been in was because i loved the person DEARLY and was dedicated to us “exclusively” FOR A NUMBER OF YEARS.
the fathers of my children are my brothers and friends .
we have a great deal of respect for one another and always will.
WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN TO NO END.
we took our own “vows” and CONTINUE TO UPHOLD THEM.
AND THAT IS WHAT THAT IS .
question?
WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?
WHO IS THE JUDGE?
WE ONLY UNDERSTAND THE EXAMPLES WE ARE GIVEN ( well sort of)
WOULD IT “LOOK BETTER ” TO MARRY AND DIVIORCE AND MARRY AGAIN ?
WOULD THAT BE MORALLY CORRECT ?
WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ? the government’s involvement i guess.
IDEALLY , IT WOULD BE EXCELLENT TO FIND THE MAN OR WOMAN WHO FULFILLS YOUR SPIRIT AND STAY FOR EVER AND EVER ( thru sickness and health till death do us part ) AND HAVE HEALTHY STRONG CHILDREN AS A RESULT OF A HEALTHY AND STRONG UNION.
(this CAN happen … we need much training , however.)
OR
IS IT REALLY “GOOD” TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE UNFULFILLED , LONGING FOR RELIEF , BRINGING one another down as a result of improper training , creating BAD ENERGY AND EXPERIENCES FOR THE CHILD TO REPEAT ?
(not to mention breeding deceit and anger and resentment )
SEEMS TO CREATE FEARFUL CHILDREN WHO TURN INTO FEARFUL ADULTS .
HOW MANY OF YOU GREW UP IN 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE MISERABLE AS FUCK ?
OR 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE NOT PERFECT BUT WORKED?
HOW MANY GREW UP IN ONE PARENT HOMES WHERE THE MOTHER WORKED HARD TO MAKE SURE YOU WERE CARED FOR BUT SHE WASNT QUITE HAPPY?
HOW ABOUT A HOME WHERE THE FATHER WAS THE MAIN CARE GIVER AND DID THE BEST HE COULD -LACKING NURTURE?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE A SIBLING THAT HAS A DIFFERENT FATHER OR MOTHER?
DOES HE OR SHE MEAN LESS TO YOU?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE MORE THAN 1 MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOUR OWN CHILDren ?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAD /OR / ARE PARENTS RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN ,THAT DONT QUITE FIT ANY OF THESE DESCRIPTIONS?
HOW MANY OF YOU STAY IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS FOR FEAR OF GOING TO HELL?
HOW MANY HOS OUT THERE … THAT HAVE KIDS TO GET A PAYDAY?
HOW MANY PEOPLE GETTING THEY ASS KICKED AND ARE FORCED TO SUBMIT CAUSE YO MAMA GOT HER ASS KICKED?
THEN WHAT is CORRECT?
how about this:
I PRAY WITH MY CHILDREN
I FEED THEM GOOD FOOD
THEY RESPECT PEOPLES DIFFERENCES
THEY TRAVEL THE WORLD WITH ME
THE KNOW WHO THEY ARE
THEY ADORE THEIR FATHERS AND ARE LOVED BY 2 PARENTS OR MORE -
OR TWO OR MORE SETS OF LOVING GRANDPARENTS
THEY CRY
THEY GET HURT
THEY GET SICK
THEY HEAL
THEY ARE real
THEY ARE NOT AN IDEA or a TOPIC
AND NEITHER AM I .
I AM ALIVE .
I AM BEAUTIFUL WOMAN.
I AM A GOOD WOMAM.
I AM GROWING
I AM COMPLETE WITH OR WITHOUT A PARTNER AND WILL ALWAYS BE
AND I HAVE DREAMS OF A FAMILY STRUCTURE
ALL OF MY DREAMS DO NOT COME TRUE
AND DESPITE ALL OF THE PAIN IN MY LIFE …
IN MY MOTHERS LIFE …
IN MY GRANDMOTHERS LIFE
WE HAVE ALWAYS ENDURED
AND THERE IS SO MUCH JOY TO BE EXPERIENCED.
I NEVER HAD A FATHER AND I DONT KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE -
BUT MY CHILDREN DO , AND THEY LOVE THEIR ‘PARENTS’ .
WE ARE THEIR CHAMPIONS .
live how you want . follow which ever pattern YOU like .
MY CHILDREN WILL BE LEADERS
and they will not ever be slaves to this society’s failing idea of morality.
THEY OWN THEIR MINDS AND THEIR DREAMS.
BIRTH CONTROL lol … could have 10 babies instead of 2 .
I LOVE CHILDREN AND I WILL HAVE AS MANY AS GOD WILL GIVE ME .
I AM VERY HEALTHY AND RESPONSIBLE AND SO ARE ALL OF MY PARTNERS
I CHOSE THEM WISELY AND SOBERLY .
ALL GOOD BROTHERS .
your opinions lack experience and are not only careless but also very uninformed and immature.
nothing is sacred here . and i see why.
if i loose you as a fan because i want to continue to have children then
FUCK OFF… WHO NEEDS YOU ….CERTAINLY NOT ME … KICK ROCKS … CALL TYRONE … PACK LIGHT …. BITE ME
i have defended myself here ON THIS SITE and hurled a few insults .. but only in response to your insults of
my music , my clothes , my lyrics , my hair , my being a woman , my spirit, my choices of partners….
these have all been on trial here . and i continued to support the energy of this place .
this is to all the okay players / REAL HUMAN BEINGS hiding behind screen names in order to insult one another and who ever else you will.
geeeez…
i had to say something
i am so sad for parents who try , today guys
enough is enuf.
dont judge to quickly , OKAY PLAYER?
i know you are having fun , but what if it were you and your children?
my son is 10 .
my daughter, 4 .
peace
ANALOGUE GIRL
and if this post is not clear
kiss my placenta.
It is unrealistic to think that those who don’t have partners they are legally bound to will just up and die or never have sex. With sex comes the potential of pregnancy. No matter how many fingers wag there will and always has been multiple births to one woman by different fathers. Either you kill off the excess female population or threaten to castrate the male population stepping out on their monogamous relationships.
Females only outnumber men by 2%. The disparagy in the black community. Because of issues like this. What if the men had nothing do with the kids? Everybody would be blaming them, but in actuality she has purposely chosen to bring these children in without fathers. Marriage symbolizes commitment.
@ sugar walls
If you are responding to this post the first paragraph quoted from kigali and the latter is my response.
I dont understand what is not clear or what you are responding to.
“as quoted by kigali”
Everyone who is saying that we shouldnt judge her, are clearly those who were raised by women. Women, because they have a desire to be loved and like will not risk it by judging. So they dont do it, eventhough they should and not be ashamed to do it. This is a problem with women that demonstrates the importance of man. A man will be less inhibited by his desire to be liked and will say the things that need to be said.
@kigali
I have mixed feelings about this comment. The desire to be accepted by peers is just as strong for men as it is women. It is absurd to say that I refuse to judge her because Im hoping for someone to come love me. I determine my value based on my accomplishments, the people I surround myself with, most importantly the love I have for myself.
Too many women value themselves based on the judgements of men. As a result you find women constantly comparing themselves to others and trying to point out the next persons flaws without dealing with their own. Women are so insecure and its because of what men think and what they think men want.
The importance of the man in relationships is understated however your comments suggest that if more men judge women everything will be fine. Im hoping youll clarify that because I enjoy reading what you write.
@ dapro
Peace brah. I agree with you 100%. I have no issues with how SHE lives her life. None at all. As long as the children are being raised with a sense of self (by both parents) then all else becomes somewhat irrelevant. The bottom line is, Badu is excellent in her craft. No one can argue her musical talents. I can only judge her music…..not her life. There is no reason not to believe that she is raising these children in the best of enviroments (minus the bullsh*t heresay)so why should we vilify her? Anyone that does not agree with her choices (right or wrong) should simply not make the same ones for themselves. She shouldn’t be expected to be a role model for our children……that’s our job.
@ ASHCAKES
WHOEVER SAID THAT THE PEOPLE THAT ARE JUDGING CLEARLY WAS RAISED WITHOUT FATHERS
I’m the biggest E. Badu fan around..got all the albums & waiting on the next BUT there is no excuse to her madness. 3 children out of wedlock by 3 different men is not cute no matter how you flip it or try to make it somehow appealing. Yes divorce happens and children may be the product. But unmarried, 3 kids…that IS irresponsible. The truth does in fact hurt, oh yes it does which explains her angry rant. Please. Anyway… glad to be back amongst the bossipers. lol
@ ms sugar walls
If you have read my previous posts i have been calling against the judgement of badu.
While sex may seem to be a 50/50 act, the possible consequences are definitely not shared equally. That is why the onus is on the female to be more responsible in a sexual relationship. She is way more susceptible to catching a disease and she is the only one that can get pregnant.
That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation. And I still believe that if the woman did this, the men would have to shape up.
only God can judge Erykah. She can care for her children, so she should have as many as God blesses her with.
Now if everyone who is sitting back judging would take care of their own. If you don’t have kids then how about you go out and make a difference in someone’s child’s life. Donate money to children’s programs, join big brother’s and sisters, volunteer at your community centers and local churchs. Visit an orphanage. Be a mentor to a child. Do something besides sit back and run your mouths!
LET’S ALL DO OUR PART AND UPLIFT EACH OTHER INSTEAD OF TEARING EACH OTHER APART. ALL CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING FOR THEY OUR ARE FUTURE!!!!
IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD.
Badu is no different than the average hoodrat bitch you see working fast food or at the grocery store, that want to get an attitude with you when you come in line, like it’s your fault they have to work there…she’s the same shit…just with more money….mad at everybody else because they fucked up..
I guess she told yall nosey, judging asses!!! (whomever commented negatively about her)!!! AMEN SISTER!!She is so right, people really need to mind their own damn business and worry about their own homes. Regardless if you agree or not with it, who are YOU to judge HER??
She can hold her own, WE don’t have to take care of HER children, so why comment??
If she likes it, I love it!!
I never said that people who are judging were not raised by fathers. Ma read the entire post before responding. My parents were married and my father was an absentee crackhead. I never said a judgemental comment not once and that was without a positive male influence in my life.
NUM
U CAN’T SAY THAT
U DON’ KNOW HER PERSONALLY TO CALL HER A HOODRAT BITCH.
BTW
U ARE REALLY SEXY! I LIKE YOUR LIPS..THEY LOOK KISSABLE!
♥
@Z,
Im not worried about you sista. I know you will do the right thing but I just wish you wanted to for everyone else.
SORRY ASHCAKES
“Diana Lee
No he was addressing the black community as a whole. You can’t single out blackmen and not the women who chose to have children with an irresponsible loser. Accountability has to be shared.”
Again, I respect what he, as the next leader of the free world and role model says. Erykah, is not a world leader. Everyone will not do what Obama says, and and a presidential candidate he should put it out there. That’s what leaders do.
Thank you Sucker Free!!! Say it again!!! Most people on here that’s speaking negatively don’t want to anything constructive like helping one another, all they want to do is hate on each other and cause unneccessary hate amongst us and we’re wondering why our coomunity is in such chaos. I’m afraid that it’s only going to get worse too!
community, my bad!
So is agreeing with her not judging? It goes both ways. People are commenting because this is a blog.
KDogg(Check me out!)
@realwoman
Some of our women are just looking at the flashy objects but not inspecting the nest. Some only care about his looks but overlook his unwillingness to serve. Know the man before you have a baby with him.
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@ Kdogg..again, I would agree to this if we had an even playing field. Now if the ratio was more like 7:4, then maybe..but 7:1?? This means that only 14% of our Black population would be able to have a relationship and children. Could someone..anyone, just explain how in the hell the remaining 86% of women are supposed to have children? Please try and give a realistic intelligent solution instead of just spouting off about how wrooooong it is to have children out of wedlock and with different partners.
@ sugar walls
I appreciate it nothing but love. Its a good issue to discuss because it can go in so many directions
Again, I respect what he, as the next leader of the free world and role model says. Erykah, is not a world leader. Everyone will not do what Obama says, and and a presidential candidate he should put it out there. That’s what leaders do.
What makes Barack more of a role model? So do you consider Bush a role model for your children? She’s a role model to her own children, and it sets a bad example.
As long as my taxpayer money isn’t paying for her three children, I don’t see what the big deal is. People really care about her uterus that much?? What is the world coming too?
@ realwoman
I agree with you, to some degree. Yes, sex is an act that is inherent to all human beings. Men and women love sex, and that won’t change. However, there are numerous ways to prevent the conception of a child, so I don’t understand why there are so many “repeat offenders.” There are SO many contraceptives out there that there really is NO excuse repeatedly getting pregnant. I used to work for an OBGYN and we would see hoodrats deliver their babies and next thing you know they are back in the clinic talking about they are pregnant again within the year!
No one is perfect and mistakes happen but when they happen over and over again then you have to question the source. We should not judge Erika for her lifestyle, but what we can do is question her choices.
The bottom line is im not going to marry a female with three baby daddies so how in the hell you females get mad when we just hit and run? what yall expect us to stay?
Badu is no different than the average hoodrat bitch you see working fast food or at the grocery store, that want to get an attitude with you when you come in line, like it’s your fault they have to work there…she’s the same shit…just with more money….mad at everybody else because they fucked up..
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Okay I see I am not the only one who doesn’t get this analogy….lmao.
Until we all accept that it takes two to CREATE a child. Some men will always use US as a cop-out. This is what I call the dead beat syndrome.
Yes women are the ones who give birth, but we do not CREATE alone. We are not savage animals, but human beings. And as long as men have this silly idea that it’s more on the woman, we will forever be doomed…….we they will anyway.
You hear more cases of women wanting children and going to get fertalized on purpose because of this very same unlogical theory. You never hear a man accepting the fact that he will raise his child alone, and right now he’s going to a doctor to find a woman to just carry it for him.
Stop living with your eyes wide shut!! I am a Queen who will have a child one day, and I will try my damn best to pick the best candidate. But if to no avail I never do, or I do and he turns to be sour. My beautiful child will be loved and placed on a throne just the same.
Erykah do you….yes do you, because your kids ARE YOU, and by loving and caring for yourself, in return they will be loved and cared for as well.
Suckafree & dfiestyone
You’re contradicting yourselves. If we don’t judge or care, then why not get rid of all the welfare and social programs to supplement all the irresponsible decisions that your ilk tends to make? You know and i know that y’all would be the first ones to bitch and moan about how the government doesn’t care about black people and their lot in life.
@num1dominicano
Badu is no different than the average hoodrat bitch you see working fast food or at the grocery store, that want to get an attitude with you when you come in line, like it’s your fault they have to work there…she’s the same shit…just with more money….mad at everybody else because they fucked up..
THAT STATEMENT IS REALLY FOWARD AND HARSH.
@ MARQUIS DE SADE
WOW. yeah i was about to say the same thing.
Isn’t it funny how people seems to yell the loudest when they know they are doing wrong. I couldn’t give a flying rip what she does in her personal life. But if I gonna spend $18 on her CD, you better make damn sure it good and not a whole bunch of songs haten on your fans because they called you out on your personal life.
@ Nina Knows
*WAVING FRANTICALLY*
Hey girl!!
I believe in shared responsibility, but I’m going to have to second KDogg’s statement: “That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation.”
As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs (in other words, conduct yourself like a lady and carry yourself home). It has taken years for me to realize and to grasp how much control I have over the type of behavior/treatment I allow into my life. I believe in shared responsibility, but I’m going to have to second KDogg’s statement: “That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation.”
As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs (in other words, conduct yourself like a lady and carry yourself home). It has taken years for me to realize and to grasp how much control I have over the type of behavior/treatment I allow into my life. If I expect and insist upon men approaching me in a respectable manner, either they will fall in line or leave (and good riddance).
WILL KILL
SO LET ME GET THIS RIGHT..SO I AM THINKING THAT U THINK THAT YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS SOME KIND OD CATCH.OR SOMETHING…WELL IF WE WERE TO JUDGE U….WHAT WOULD U CALL U..FOR RUNNING UP IN A CHICK KNOWING THAT SHE ALREADY HAS THREE KIDS?
A KING, A REAL MAN..IM JUST SAYING
@trs
You know I see you boo!! As always one love.
@ Southern bella
D-TOWN REPRESENTER!!!!! lol
Straight out of Duncan-cliff! lol (Duncanville and Oak Cliff)
What I do know is she was with Common for a while and ain’t no fucking way Common was knocking her up. Just because you are in love doesn’t mean u have to have a baby by the person. I know she can afford all of her kids and probably more, but why isn’t she trying to married and stay married work on that instead of producing babies. Who’s daddy’s may or may not be in the kids life.
GET EM BADU-THIS MOFOS CAN GO TO HELL
AS LONG AS YOUR BABIES AINT ON NOBODY’S WELFARE ROLE & YOUR CHILDREN ARE BEING CARED FOR AND ARE NOT AT HARM OR ANY DANGER, IT AINT NONE OF OUR DAMN BUSINESS HOW MANY BABIES YOU HAVE
NUFF RESPECT BADU-SHOW THESE NICCAS THEY CAN’T CONTROL YOU BY SELLING YOU A DREAM THAT ONE DAY IF YOU “ACT RIGHT OR DO AS I SAY” I JUST MIGHT MARRY YOU
GUESS WHAT NEWS FLASH……EVERY BLACK WOMAN AINT DYING TO GET MARRIED NOR DOES SHE FEEL AS THOUGH IT MAKES HER ANY LESS OF A WOMAN IF SHE ISN’T MARRIED
YOU CAN STILL BE A MOTHER W/O HUSBAND, WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENS WHEN YOU BLACK MEN TURN YOUR BACK ON YOUR OWN FAMILIES AND COMMUNITIES, WE ADAPT AND ADJUST AND KEEP ON LIVING
LOL-LIKE SHE SAID SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE THREE FATHER’S OF HER CHILDREN, AND THEY ARE IN THEIR CHILDREN’S LIVES-SO WHAT’S THE CRIME?
BLACK MEN ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO CONTROL A WOMAN’S PU$$Y-HELL HOLD UP TO THE SAME STANDARDS YOU HOLD WOMEN TO AND MAYBE WE WOULD GIVE A DAMN ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK-UNTIL THEN KICK ROCKS…………
@ Nina Knows
Right back atcha girl!!
Good posts!!
Oops! I accidentally switched a sentence in my post. Here’s the correct version:
I believe in shared responsibility, but I’m going to have to second KDogg’s statement: “That’s why I put it on the woman to keep her legs closed and be selective. She is the one submitting herself. She is the more vulnerable person in the situation.”
As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs (in other words, conduct yourself like a lady and carry yourself home). It has taken years for me to realize and to grasp how much control I have over the type of behavior/treatment I allow into my life. If I expect and insist upon men approaching me in a respectable manner, either they will fall in line or leave (and good riddance).
@Marquis de Sade
NOW THOUGH I DO NOT AGREE WITH BEING HARSH IN ANYWAY AS FAR AS JUDGING MS.BADU, I DO BELIEVE THAT THE SYSTEM IS SET UP TO EASY FOR THE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WISH TO BETTER THEMSELVES AND USE PUBLIC ASSISTANCE “JUST FOR” GETTING ON THEIR FEET. AND IM NOT SAYING THAT EVERYONE IS LIKE THAT, BUT THERE ARE QUITE A FEW THAT ARE.
sydney said, “As my father told me years ago, the only thing open after midnight is legs”
LMAO!
I don’t care if you have a BILLION BABIES as long as I don’t have to pay for them out of my check and that goes for any race; black women don’t get half of the assistance being given and that’s a fact. Keeping your legs closed is not the issue, I have a very healthy sex life and I have yet to get caught up with a kid. There is a big differnce between Erykah and the “hoodrat”, she is not taking any dollars out of my pocket so let her do her thing. You can’t make a man stay with a woman or vice versa but if you make them, man or woman, be sure you can afford your kids and have enough time and love to give them and it sounds like Erykah has all those things. Maybe she is not looking to get married one day so she does not care that a man won’t marry a woman with 3 baby daddies. Maybe there is a man waiting for a ready made family to take care of, maybe he will love her that much. We don’t know so we can’t judge.
Badu is no different than the average hoodrat bitch you see working fast food or at the grocery store, that want to get an attitude with you when you come in line, like it’s your fault they have to work there…she’s the same shit…just with more money….mad at everybody else because they fucked up..
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@num1dominicano
I agree with you “conceptually”…
WRONG is WRONG no matter how you want to look at the situation and who’s involved and that includes R.Kelly peeing on little girls or Michael Jackson playing with little boys nuts…
3 different children by 3 different fathers IS NOT good for the children…
Having all those different men involved in her life like that isn’t good for any of the children and I imagine they will have issues with that (*and all the other wierd sh#t she be doing) when they grow up I imagine…
Just my opinion…
All those different men coming through the house…
@TEEDY
COSIGN!! YOU TELL EM DAMMIT!! TIRED OF MY STATE TAXES BEING ABUSED!! MY ARGUMENT FROM THE DAMNED BEGINNING!! LMAO!
I think that she is making alot of mistakes and then going on a rant in this manner to justify her misconduct. It is inappropriate to continue to have children without the benefit of marriage and a father being in the home. It is uneccessary to have children with every man you have a relationship with.
If there’s such a man shortage, it shouldn’t be too difficult NOT to have 3 babies and 3 baby daddy’s.
How long do you have to be in a relationship with someone to realize that they are no good BEFORE you have kids with them??????
How long do you have to be in a relationship with someone to realize that they are no good BEFORE you have kids with them?????? ?
intenzemocha
Yeah, but you nigga twats don’t feel that way when you need that child support. If you don’t want some man controlling your pvssy, then go to a fertility clinic and have the child artificially…But as usual, most of you nigga bitches want it both ways.
I DOUBT HIGHLY SHE’S PREGNANT BY ACCIDENT
AND IF THIS STORY WAS ABOUT A MAN HAVING SEVERAL KIDS BY DIFFERENT WOMEN THE RESPONSE WOULD NOT BE THE SAME
AND HEAR ME GOOD, IF A MAN DOESN’T FEEL OBLIGATED TO MARRY A WOMAN JUST BECAUSE SHE IS CARRYING HIS CHILD……THEN WHY IN THE HELL SHOULD PEOPLE EXPECT BADU TO MARRY SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE SHE’S HAVING A BABY-GET BACK AT ME ON THAT ONE…..
I’M DAMN SURE INTERESTED IN HEARING THE RESPONSE…
STOP TRYING TO DICTATE OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES, I CAN C IF SHE WAS A TEENAGE MOTHER COLLECTING WELFARE OR HER KIDS WERE NOT BEING TAKING CARE OF PROPERLY, BUT THAT’S NOT THE CASE…..LET BADU LIVE HER LIFE HER DECISIONS DON’T AFFECT ANYONE ON THIS SITE…
@ IlluminateTruth
No doubt brotha. I think some have gone the extreme on this blog calling her out without knowing the sista.
It’s hard raising these girls brotha, we gotta keep that third eye open at all times!!
@free
When I first told my best friend that line, she cracked up, but she wholeheartedly agreed. She still brings it up. Daddy knows best.
Good afternoon, everyone
@MARQUIS DE SADE
I STRUCK A NERVE SWEETIE HUH-CHILD SUPPORT IS PAID ON BEHALF OF THE CHILD IF YOU DON’T WANT TO PAY IT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR WIFE THAT WAY THE MONEY STAYS IN HOUSE-NOW THAT WOULD BE A SMART MOVE
IF YOU FEEL YOUR SPERM AND WEALTH ARE SO VALUABLE AND YOU KNOW THESE NICCA BIATCHES ARE OUT DIGGING GOLD-WOULD IT BE FAIR TO SAY THAT NICCAS WHO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX AND CREATE BABIES LACK SELF-CONTROL AND PU$$Y MAKES THEIR WORLD GO ROUND-SO INSTEAD OF CHANGING THEIR BEHAVIOR (THAT WOULD BE TOO MUCH LIKE RIGHT & MEN SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO F$CK W/O CONSEQUENCES) THEY CONTINUE TO F$CK THESE NICCA BIATCHES KNOWING THEIR HIDDEN AGENDA-SO WHOSE REALLY THE FOOL?
LOL-
@ kigali Is judging and dont care
Why does marriage have to validate a relationship? There’s no point in gettin married if u dont want to. She might believe that 2 adults can have a solid relationship without being married. She still continues to have solid relationships with these men and these men are still in their children’s life. All 3 of her kids will have a father and a mother. There are so many people who want to have a baby but are not married. Why do u think so many women are artifically inseminating themselves? because they want a baby but haven’t found a suitable partner. How do u feel about adoption? thats a confusing situation as well. There so some many different scenarios as to why a person my have a child out of wedlock. Gays can be married but that dont mean they are more fit parents just cuz their married and decided to stay together for the rest of their lives and have babies or adopt. Its about what works for u. To each its own.
“What makes Barack more of a role model? So do you consider Bush a role model for your children? She’s a role model to her own children, and it sets a bad example.”
Stating the obvious, again, for me and my family, Barack is a role model because he is a black man who will be the next president. For me and my family. i’m sure he’s not for Joe six-pack. Erykah Badu is an artist and not a role model for me and my family. The criminal currenly in the white house is not a role model. For me and my family. intelligent people choose their role models. If Badu provides a loving home, support, prayer and the gift of the time to her children, as she states, then, and again, this is only my opinion, she is a positive role model to them.
@ that sucker Marquis de Sade…
you don’t know me or my ilk so freeze that BS and stop putting words in my mouth. i didn’t say don’t judge or don’t care. i didn’t speak on welfare or social programs. i did not contradict myself at all.
i don’t like to talk about problems, i like to talk about/create solutions. i don’t see a problem with Erykah. There are many children from underprivileged backgrounds in need of a mentor or some type of assistance. Instead of talking about each other, I advised going out and making a difference in a child’s life. I do see a problem with all the mud-slinging, which you do on this site on a daily basis. Who are you and what value are you adding to the world, or are you simply like your screenname, a man unrestrained by morality, religion or law, with the pursuit of personal pleasure being your highest principle?
You better recognize.
Sucker Free, Esq.
intenzemocha
That’s all well in good nigga twat, but you know and i know that most of these stupid bitches are getting knocked up by these in and out of jail losers, thus becoming a burden on society…But as usual, stupid nigga hos like yourself, doesn’t have a grasp of the big picture. You’re more interested in exercising your right as being a independent whore, and the plight of the child that you had so irresponsibly be damned, as long as you get yell out: I AM WOMAN, HERE ME ROAR!
MISS BADU CAN DO WHAT EVER THE HELL SHE PLEASES. I AM SURE SHE IS EMOTIONALLY & FINANCIALLY CAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF HER CHILDREN. THE BLACK RACE NEEDS TO PROCREATE WE ARE DROPPING LIKE FLIES ANY WAY .. KEEP MAKING THOSE BEAUTIFUL BLACK KINGS AND QUEENS …. REPLENISH !!!!
I wish men could get preggo….maybe they’d think differently….this whole topic is moot. the cycle will never end and only GOD can judge, so i dont see what all the high and mightiness is about from those judging women, and those only blaming men…it is what it is…a lot of selfish, lusting individuals thinkin about themselves first and not wanting to own up to the consequences afterwards…kudos to the parents (female AND male) that step up and take care of their responsiblities afterward