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She needs to stop letting her baby father know/be involved in HER PERSONAL AFFAIRS!!! His only concern should only be those kids and that’s it!!!!

And what’s up with women letting niccas move in with them and their kids so freely? There are too many child molestors, rapists and killers running around to be that trusting with niccas these days!!!! Check his background girl……….

YOUR KIDS SHOULD BE THE NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE.5 MONTHS AND YOUR READY TO MOVE YOUR NEW MAN IN?WOW WHAT DO U KNOW ABOUT HIM,CAN U TRUST HIM WITH YOUR KIDS?

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agreed! Ms.- while you deserve to be happy and live your own life , your life is not just about YOU anymore. You didn’t say how old your children are but 5 months is a very short time to be moving a man into your home especially if your children live there! and if this man is so great, he will respect your decision to wait and not attempt to force himself into your life. and if it doesn’t work out, the next time you meet a man, keep him away from your children and home kids don’t need to see their parents having a bunch of “friends” in and out.

sounds like ol girl has horrible taste in men. the first fool was correct saying that’s she’s moving too fast. she obviously didn’t learn a damn thing from the previous relationship and now she wants to repeat it. people like this need to do this stupid sh#$ when they’re single not with children. f@#k up your own life not your kids dumba$$

5 months…she should not be moving anybody in…..get married and stop being the forever/ serial girlfriend dummy! why are women so quick to move someone in…dummies!

get a brain get a clue a ‘man’ who moves in with you aint a man

You are a “bird”! You should be ashamed, listen to you baby daddy and take you time. I have a feeling you still want him back anyway. Don’t use your new man to get your old man jelly! Be a women a tell your new man to come out the house cuz BD is comming to check the kids. Act right or fly away.

He’ll call and want to come “see the kids” but I tell him that my current boyfriend is there and he can come the next day or the next time he’s available____________________________________________________________________________________

IS SHE SERIOUS?
SHES A BIRD

Sweety u are moving too fast.
1st and foremost should be your kids…that is the #1 u should be dealing with..
It’s not a good look to have a different man coming in and out of your lives…Kids notice that shyt. 2ndly your ex is a hater. But regardless of it all he is still the father. so u will have to deal with him for the rest of your life. set up times where he can see the kids and those would be the times u can spend with your man. this removes any chance your ex-cokkblocker has in rainging down on your new love life.
I could go on…but u get are grown enough to handle this as an adult.

wth …mad edit errors. don’t got time to fix them..

have any more children maybe

excuse typos..

Ok I try not to be judgmental but I agree with her ex boyfriend that she is a “bird” For one her ex of not one, but two kids was just a boyfriend not a husband. For two why on earth is she allowing her new “boyfriend” to move in with her??? Unless U are a wealthy woman U never allow a man to move into your place. If she was wealthy then she would have a nanny to look after her kids while she goes and have fun with her boy toy and not have to involve the baby daddy. So she has bird written all over her. My advice to her is take her kids out with her and her new boyfriend and let him continue to live with his mama until he can stand on his own two feet.

Keep your private life private-simple as that!

“condoning”

Its funny how the majority of you on here is judging her for living her life….SMH…especially whwe yall dirt may be just as bad as hers….she asked for advice not to be judged….

@ MzKeish,

It’s not judging. I would talk the same way to any of the young girls in my church, my cousins or my son when he’s older using the same language. It’s about giving sound advice. This girl has kids she needs to make smart decisions and bringing some one in your house and around your kids after only knowing them after 5 months does not make any sense and endangers your children’s safety.

@B3 Fearless- “MzKeish,It’s not judging. I would talk the same way to any of the young girls in my church, my cousins or my son when he’s older using the same language. It’s about giving sound advice. This girl has kids she needs to make smart decisions and bringing some one in your house and around your kids after only knowing them after 5 months does not make any sense and endangers your children’s safety”
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agreed and thanks for xplaining so beautifully abd tactfully..

explaining…

I’m having some typing issues today…

He is manipulating the situation bc he is not “over” her yet.

Only been dateing for 5 months, and she is moving him in.. “shakes head”

I SEE FOLLY YOU ALREADY HAD YOUR BABY’S DADDY LIVING WITH U OUT OF WED LOCK AND YOU ARE ABOUT TO MOVE ANOTHER MAN IN REMEMBER LADY YOU HAVE CHILDREN TO ATTEND TO AND SET AN EXAMPLE FOR WHAT KINDA OF EXAMPLES ARE U SETTING BY DOING THIS AND ALSO BLACK WOMEN CONSTANT COMPLAIN THEY CANT FIND ANYONE WITH IN OUR RACE WHO ARE SUITABLE FOR MARRIAGE (TO THEIR STANDS) this IS WHY

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3/3/10, 12:13:pm

You are a “bird”! You should be ashamed, listen to you baby daddy and take you time. I have a feeling you still want him back anyway. Don’t use your new man to get your old man jelly! Be a women a tell your new man to come out the house cuz BD is comming to check the kids. Act right or fly away.

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Guess Im getting old or something, exactly what does teh term “Bird” Mean.

5 months and he wants to MOVE IN? Why?

@always knew

No problem. Loved the typo it made me think of Ricky Ricardo, “Lucy, u got some xplaining to do!”

Ok that was corny. I know.

I agree with VA66. She is fully aware of all those things. Her ex is hating and is using the kids to get back at her because he wants her. Thas his reason for saying she is moving to fast. Me are selfish and inconsiderate. Their feelings is all that matters.

@Moreaces

A “bird” is a young female who is stupid, foolish, careless, idiotic, moronic, retarded, or just plain dumb.

Ok. I am an telling you this from experience. When dating someone new and kids are involved you should date the guy for longer than 5 onths before even introducing him to your kids.That is to just make sure that he is actually good for you and kids. If he is not and you break up I am sure that you will be dating again. No kid needs to see different men or different women come in and out of mom or dad’s life. Second, never deny the father of your children access to the kids if your man is over your house, regarless if you feel it is just to hate they are his kids also.

MAYBE YOU NEED TO STOP HAVING KIDS BEFORE MARRIAGE SO YOUR NOT JUST HAVING ” BABY DADDY’S” AROUND IN WHICH SOUNDS SO GHETTO . & MAYBE YOU NEED TO WAIT AWAY BEFORE BRINGING A NEW MAN INTO YOUR HOUSEHOLD BECAUSE IT CONFUSING THE KIDS, . . & NOT TO MENTION THIS IS WHY MONTHS LATER MOTHERS CRY THIER BOYFRIENDS MOLESTED THIER KIDS BECAUSE THEY MOVE MEN WHO HAVE NO ATTACHMENT TO THE KIDS INTO THE HOUSE SMH

If he does not have his own place then he is a loser. Also, five months is not enough time to move someone in with your children. What if he is a sexual p__. Yes, you are a bird.

First off, you got too much going on…baby daddy, kids, new BOYfriend, etc. I feel you in some ways (baby daddy, just b/c we have children together does not mean you have dibs on the cooda mama whenever you want it…kick rocks, nucca!). Everyone is forgetting the fact that “she and baby daddy parted ways a year before”, it not her fault he still sniffing around after the fact…trying to rekindle an old flame that has been out. Now that she has moved on “its all about the kids.” But if its all about the kids, then why is baby daddy still trying to get a taste? Puleaze! Next time he calls and wants to see the kids, let him. If your new boo is there, so what? Maybe he need to see that you are moving on with your life…introduce the both of them. If baby daddy is real man then he should be able to sit down and see what this man is about. Until he find someone that can actually keep his attention, he will continue to come around blockin. In my opinion, I don’t think he will ever be able to see you with any one else until the kids are grown and out of the house, even though he may have several women over the years.
As far as your “new boo” why he so adamant on moving in with you after five months? Is he being put out? Or is he staying with mommy? Whatever the case may be, you should proceed with caution. Bringing a man into your home around your kids could prove be dangerous. How well does he know your kids? Or how well your kids know him? Have you all (meaning you, him and kids) spent time together? How do they feel about him? This is a team effort, its not just about you and how happy he makes you, the kids will have to get along with him too.
Whatever you do please choose wisely and take your time.

Any woman that would consider moving a man in with her kids speaks volumes that the man is broke and a bum because a real man moves a woman into his home Broaden her Horizons,what real man would want to move in with a woman where he will be Powerless and have to”Dance To Her Tune” at all times?but this is what works for most women,SMH!this is also a Microcosm of why most Blackwomen get a bad name in Society becuase they always do suspect stupid shit!{No Pun Intended}

lol @ you only knowing this guy for 5 months and wanting to move him in with your kids. SMDH.

You sound like a a bird! And not a fly bird but a chicken. First of all, stop using the terms baby daddy and baby momma, it makes you sound foolish and those titles if you want to call it that are reserved as put downs. Just in case you didnt know where and when the terms started being used.

Now on to the big point.

You need to get your personal life in control. Your ex boyfriend obviously feels REAL comfortable with you. Maybe, let me think….maybe its because you PROBABLY let him get away with alot of sh*t in the past. You know, like KNOCKING YOU UP twice, living with you, still coming over whenever he feels, probably still hitting it until you found this guy, so he doesnt really respect you.

He doesnt respect you enough to wife you and sure enough believes that he needs to be involved in YOUR life because you have kids.
Partly this is your fault for giving him way more than he deserves.

Now what you need to do NOW, is show him that you are confident and DONE WITH HIM. When he calls, tell him ONCE that you have plans and needs to reschedule. There should be no other need for conversation back and forth. Matter of fact, have a talk with him telling him that you have moved on and would like to keep it friendly with him only discussing matters about your kids.

If you try to act like his friend, then you are only leading him on to believe that there is more there. If you say he is in the past then you need to ACT like it.

Lastly, maybe you do feel comfortable with this new guy after 5 months. But lets be serious, do you really TRUST him around your kids? I suspect that he has been around them, but you need to know that some guys will want to date you but not be able to interact with someone elses children the way you would like them. I think its a short amount of time to MOVE someone in. Hell I had a friend I knew for 10 years, but MOVING in with her- I would NOT do!

It sounds like THIS GUY sees you as an opportunity. Since he wants to move in with you? IS he paying half the rent, is he even working? I know how these users WORK FAST! People that wind up using other people MOVE very fast and this guy sounds like trouble so be careful.

Dont let these guys take advantage of you because you are a mother now and dont have time for this type of foolishness.

Your ex is OVER

@CW

I understand your point that you can never truly know a person, but you certainly no MORE about a person after spending time with them for 5 YEARS compared to 5 MONTHS.

Second if she waited 6 more months to have her new bf around her children and something did happen, I would have nothing to say because by that time she would have been in a relationship with her new boo for a little over a year which will have given her enough time to at least see where this man’s mind set is, the type of goals he has (if any), whether he can or is maintaining a stable job and to observe how he is around her kids and how her kids act around him, etc.

I do agree with you on another thing. Judging on her decision making skills from this post. I would bet that her children’s father is a loser and that the new boo probably is one too. You want to know how I know? What grown man who has his stuff together (job and/or school, own car, own place) wants to move in with a woman with 2 kids after 5 months?

Nobody is hating. You may not have liked the tone and the way ppl said it but the consensus that she is moving too fast with the new boo is the right advice whether a woman does or does not have kids in this day and age 5 months is too soon to be calling some one “The One” and moving in. This is just common sense. And I said before everything I’m saying I would say to a family member.

FYI I have 1 kid by some one I was in a relationship with for 5 years. So I know of what I speak of. For you to be so salty this post must have hit a little too close to home for you.

We as a community have to do better starting and it can start by giving/receiving good advice.

@george smiley

What is a P.I.T.A.?

Haha nevermind. I just thought about it pain in the a s s?

ooooh yes that is exactly what I was thinking. What grown man that has things GOING for him and is GOING somewhere in life wants to move in with a person he just met?

The only types of guys I have known to that move this fast is a guy that is a USER aka LOSER!

Like I said before, does he have a fulltime job? Is he paying for half the rent? I bet they havent even talked about this, cause people like him will do anything to avoid a real conversation. When it comes to sex, their minds are all in it, but when you need to discuss bills, meals, and other deals then he looks all confused.

Sounds like he is trying to MOVE on in. She needs confidence.

@ummm I never thought about that. I think you are right. When he wants to see the kids, let him come over. Hey, he has a right to meet your new boyfriend, since he is going to be around your kids.

@ Ms. ViVi

You are right on the money. The sad thing is I think this girl is probably my age or younger. At least I’m going to hope for her sake she is so she can change her mind set for the better. I’m 25. I would hate to think this is some one 37 or older.

As a mother I think its important to kno who u dealing with b4 u allow that person to move into your home who the helleven think about allowing a man to move in after 5 months of datin hunnie continue takin them baby steps an as for ya kids father you need to establish a good relationship with him for the sake of the kids he need to understand yall are not together anymore so he need toet over it an jus focus on his children an not who you screwing

Kids comes First before anything.

It seems like she is only concerned about her happiness.

5 months? boyfriend moving in? …smh. Is she serious?

Your baby father is not hating at all. He’s more worried about the kids.
An’ their mother being okay….bplus things happen.

If the kids are not happy. and the kids are not okay with it. Then don’t doit.

She’s going to mess them up.

If he is the one… then you don’t have to move in together so soon.

If he’s the one…Where’s the ring?

Plus, you have 2 kids …5 months of good sex…don’t be so sure he feels the same.

poor kids.

I’m so thankful my Daddy taught me about men.

She needs to stop letting her baby father know/be involved in HER PERSONAL AFFAIRS!!! His only concern should only be those kids and that’s it!!!!
And what’s up with women letting niccas move in with them and their kids so freely? There are too many child molestors, rapists and killers running around to be that trusting with niccas these days!!!! Check his background girl……….
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I would have to date a man for at least 8 months before he met my children, yet she wants to move a man IN, does he have his own money? What is his profession? This woman is desperate and foolish! Give it a year MINIMUM, before you move in with someone.

“What should you do?” You should stop bringing random men around and in your house with your children there. Now go take care of your kids.

Women stop accepting crumbs and get the full meal. Thats what a baby mama gets. You know what the diffence between Lebron’s ex girl and Khloe Kardash? She got the full deal and the rign and what the baby mama get? Nothing. Yeah she’ll get child support but that is nothing. The wife gets the house, SS, 401k, insurance. Get the ring, marriage, then kids.

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sound like she just want him 2 move in so he can help pay some bills cuz she dont want to do it all herself. And if a dude wants to come over and see his kids tell the other dude to leave or wutever u need to do, cuz pretty soon she will be saying ohh hes a deadbeat he dont come see his kids but its her who always wants to put him off cuz shes with her new dude. This is something that happens way to often. And why is she complaining bout the kids coming back late. If the kids are young she shouldnt be moving anybody in

@ Matrix

I have a feeling you still want him back anyway. Don’t use your new man to get your old man jelly!
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that’s exactly what she’s doing, while putting the children in danger.

u don’t know someone after 5 months even if u decide to sleep with them.

Whatever…She trying to make him jealous by telling him these things, and it keeps kickin her in the @ss…

I am “The Black Daddy”

First off, you chose to have two kids with this man. Deal with it. Your children (not a man) should always be your FIRST priority!!!! Like it or not, when you have children with a man without the benefit of marriage, you (the woman) will more likely than not take up the role of being the sole provider, educator and parent. This is why you MUST know who you lay with and who you have children with. Grow up and stop crying, it is about your children now and not you, your man or your weak a.s.s. ex!!!!

@They Call Me Daddy

You should be called the Black F.O.O.L.

@cruzan trini- that was lmao, i think I know whoit is….you are so crazy! lol

This chick is a BIRD!!! Her kids should come first! After 5 months you wouldn’t even have met my kids yet. Her Ex is a lame though too! He needs to stop worrying about what ole girl does with her cooch and spend as much time with his kids!

Just stating my opinion. I made the same mistake before only to find out that that dude was in jail for molesting a child and I knew him since I was 16. I was 30 when I came back home and we hooked up. First of all please talk to your kids!! If they’re old enough have them to write all of the things that they feel about you first. Then have them to write all of the things that they feel about him. if the bad out do the good get raid of him asap!! I know some people may not agree with this but 9 times out of 10 those kids don’t be wrong!! Mine wasn’t and boy did I feel like a fool. Does your new dude have kids? Have he ever been arrested? Does he have good morals ? Do he tell the truth when asked a question? I’m asking this because all of this plays within the role. Do your self a favor if you already haven’t? Get his tag number if he have a ride and go to your local dmv online type that tag number in and his name address b.o.d should pull up. And go online to your local clerk of courts in your area look under criminal case fractions and look him up!! After that you should slightly have sum type of info on your new dude. And to your baby daddy how long was ya together before he moved in? And he’s right to be concerned about his flesh. But if he feel that by trying to stop you from being with dude by doing bad things to stop shop he needs to get it together because what’s meant to be will be!! And it is what it is!! No joke!!!

#1 STOP MOVING DUDES INTO YOUR HOME.

#2 LEARN HOW TO BE A BETTER MOTHER.

#3 I HOPE YOU DONT HAVE A LITTLE GIRL CAUSE SHE IS IN SERIOUS DANGER.

#4 STOP DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN. IN A FEW MONTHS YOU WILL BE PREGNANT AND STILL NOT MARRIED.YOU GOT TWO KIDS OUT OF THE LAST RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT A RING.

#5 I KNOW YOUR NOT MARRIED BECAUSE YOU SAID YOURSELF THATS JUST YOUR BABY DADDY.

I hate when guys act like that. You had your turn, now move on. If she was meant to be with you she will come back to you. Whats sad is that the kids are being put in the middle of this stupidness. This situation shows that its not just women that play games and use their kids against their ex.

WELL LET ME SAY FROM EXPERIENCE ITS NOT USUALLY A GOOD IDEA TO MOVE ANY GUY IN WITH YOU BEFORE MARRIAGE. I KNOW THAT SOUNDS OLD FASHIONED BUT EVERY HEARD OF THE SAYING “WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE” OR HOWEVER IT GOES THE POINT IS IF A MAN IS ALREADY GETTING EVERYTHING WITHHOUT HAVING TO MAKE THAT COMMITMENT THEN CHANCES ARE HE NEVER WILL. ALSO IN 5 MONTHS YOU DONT KNOW A PERSON. YOU CAN PRETEND TO BE A DIFFERENT PERSON FOR 5 MONTHS. ALSO WITH CHILDREN YOU HAVE TO BE VERY CAREFUL. HOW DO THEY FEEL? HOW IS HE WITH THEM? AFTER 5 MONTHS I WOULD JUST BE INTRODUCING MY KIDS TO A MAN BUT THATS JUST ME. I UNDERSTAND YOU HAVE TO HAVE A LIFE BUT WHEN YOU CHOSE TO HAVE KIDS THEY HAVE TO COME 1ST THERFOR IF YOU DONT HAVE A SITTER FOR YOUR KIDS SO YOU CAN GO OUT AND GET TO KNOW SOMEONE THEN OH WELL THATS THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR DECISION TO HAVE KIDS. YOU DONT BRING A PERSON YOU HARDLY KNOW AROUND YOUR KIDS JUST CUZ YOU WANT TO BE AROUND THAT PERSON AND IF YOU DO DECIDE TO DO THAT THEN TAKE IT SLOW. INTRODUCE THAT PERSON AS A FRIEND AND DONT DO ANYTHING AROUND YOUR KIDS TO SAY OTHERWISE. DEFINRNTLY DONT MOVE HIM IN YET GIVE IT ATLEAST A YEAR OR SO. YOUR EX MAY BE HATING A LITTLE BIT BUT IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY AROUND AND YOUR KIDS LIVED WITH HIM WOULD YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIM MOVING A WOMEN IN AFTER ONLY KNOWING HER FOR 5 MONTHS? IF ITS THAT SERIOUS THEN GO TO COURT FOR CUSTODY IF HE HAS PARTIAL CUSTODY THEN HE WILL HAVE TO GET HIS KIDS ON THE SPECIFIED DAYS THE COURT SELECTS THAT WAY YALL WONT HAVE TO ARGUE BUT SERIOUSLY TO ME YOU SEEM A LITTLE DESPERATE FOR LOVE I THINK YOU SHOULD SLOW IT DOWN SOME AND TAKE THE TIME TO REALL GET TO KNOW YOUR MAN. IM NOT BASHING YOU AT ALL IVE BEEN IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS BUT IVE LEARNED FROM THEM. HOW LONG DID YOU EVEN TAKE TO JUST BE FRIENDS WITH THIS GUY BEFORE YOU BECAME A COUPLE? EVERYTHING SEEMS TO BE HAPPENING VERY FAST WITH YOU WHICH COULD LEAD TO YOU ENDING UP IN THE SAME SITUATION WITH ANOTHER CHILD ANOTHER BABYS DAD AND ANOTHER SET OF PROBLEMS….TAKE YOUR TIME IF HES REALLY THE ONE THEN HE SHOULD BE WILLING TO TAKE THINGS SLOWLY ALSO IF HE LOVES YOU THEN HE WILL FEEL YOURE WORTH THE WAIT SWEETY

Um… this story proved no point. She clearly stated her negative actions, but probably thinks she can do no wrong.

1. A person has a right to know who is going to be around his kids. If you are letting another man move into the house, the kids’ father can let you know that he disapproves. You would if it was the other way around.

2. Maybe he brings the kids back late because you won’t let him see them when he wants. Once again, you are keeping a person away from their children because of a new relationship you are in. Only hurting the kids and yourself in that situation.

3. So he can’t come by when he wants, but when you want to go out he is supposed to drop everything and take the kids? Nothing else needs to be said.

There’s three sides to every story; my side, your side and the truth. Take responsibility for your actions too.

Do not move him in…Think of the innocent children. PPL are f’n crazy these days..You could be moving in the biggest mistake of your life into your house..The kids are number one priority..Plus if you ever want to be the wife..DON’T MOVE HIM IN. Date..get to know the man..let him respect you..He doesn’t need to live with you in order to show his loyalty. Loyalty is treating you and your kids with respect. Don’t do it. You are a mom first now..ACT like it..seriously..

SHE SHOULDN’T BE MOVING ANOTHER MAN IN ONLY KNOWING HIM FOR A FEW MONTHS SHE SOUND DESPERATE AND EASY SORRY MY OPINION!! SHE HAVE TO RESPECT HER KIDS AND HER HOUSEHOLD SHE TOO OLD FOR PUPPY LOVE!!! AND THIS SITUATION IS REAL BACKWARDS & CRAZY B/CUZ SHE SHOULDN’T BE LETTING HIM MOVE IN NOWHERE HE SHOULD BE MOVING HER IN SOMEWHERE!!!

Trifling

How r u going to put the kids in the middle of it, those are his kids

Can I ask what the hell is wrong with you?You mean,you are so desperate for a man you would bring him around your babies after only 5 months?what does that say abut you as a MOTHER?He has a right to ask you questions about who the hell is around his children

I can understand him being upset about some unknown living in the house with his children.Your new man doesn’t sound promising at all.let me tell you something–Real men move a woman into their home,not the other way around.
Please reconsider moving the man in at this moment—i work in a prison, honey and trust me,most women NEVER know the real reason he’s in there-i’ve seen horrible things happen to poor defenseless children

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First of all seems like she’s moving fast to get over her ex. She really need to take time to get to know herself. I do think her ex misses her and doesn’t want the other guy around and she needs to learn how to separate him from her personal life. But I also feel he has a right to be concerned about who’s around his kids.
She really doesn’t need to move the guy in unless they are thinking about marriage. Take your time and date and not fall in love with the first guy that shows you attention.

She needs to let dude know it is over. Period. The rest is between her and her new man.

You put your Babies’ Daddy out just a year ago, seven months later you meet a new guy and now five months into the relationship you want to move him in to YOUR PLACE.

Okay, does the new guy have his own place or is pushing you to let him into your place to get out his Momma’s place?

You were letting your Babbies’ Daddy stay the night at your place AFTER you broke it off with him and you are wondering why he thinks he is still in? I don’t care if you slept with him or not, that is leading him on.

How about this? New guys stays where he is for another year and a half while you, him AND the kids go out and do things. You get you together and REALLY move on from your Babies’ Daddy. Sound more like you are trying to make the Babies’ Daddy jealous instead of moving on. You have kids to think about. I don’t care how young you are or how you want “Get on with your life” you kids are depending on you and they are learning from you. If bouncing a new man in a few months after bouncing the old one out is okay what do you think they will do?