NOW THAT’S AN EXCELLENT WIFE, SHE FAT, BUT SHE UNDERSTANDS A MAN’S NEEDS.

Foolishness…

I knew there was something iffy about this relationship. Not saying that Mo’Nique can’t find love and it be genuine, but something just never quite added up with them…she has seriously LOW self-esteem…

PLAYER, PLAYER, THAT WHY HE STUCK AROUND HE WAS GETTING MILK AND HONEY & CHEESE ALL FROM THIS FAT COW! !

this guys gotta be g@y

Okay, Monique has officially become apart of the “HOLLYWEIRD” club. That is the dumbest remark she has ever made, and I have totally lost all respect for her DUMB A–!!!

I agree 100%!!

He’s Gay why can’t anyone see that ! Damn

@drenk

Unfortunately I’ve thought the same thing. They might have an agreement going on that he can bed other men but have the relationship/marriage with her…

SEE I BLAME THESE TYPE OF WOMEN FOR THE BULLSHIT

Keep in mind this was the same Monique who said she happy being fat and is now killing herself losing weight.

This is her defense mechanism… to pretend to accept her situation because she has not yet found the strength to do something about it. I am of the belief that NO ONE (man or woman) can be Ok with their partner getting it in with someone else if they truly love them.

hmm..i love Mo and its her business what she does but why get married then? Might as well stayed single and did y’all…I know she’s a strong women but it makes her look like she’s desperate to be married

I guess you have to accept certain things when you have very low self-esteem. And that is obviously the case with Monique. I guess she has to allow this, because she knows that pretty soon he will be cheating on her, if he hasn’t already. My advice, Lose some weight if that is in issue, or find another man!!!

As crazy as it may sound I can agree with Monique. I seen sooo many people end there marriage early because of this and live the rest of there lives of miserable, evening knowing that they have snuck a piece there Damm selves.
THINK FIRST BEFORE YOU JUMP

She’s starting to realize that all that FAT liberation was a bunch of bull.

But white women are submissive? smh im a white woman and this could NEVER go down

Where’s the rest of the quote? She said more than that.

Her husband is gay because you don’t agree with their marriage?

SHE KNOWS SHE’S AN UGLY, FAT HEFFAH SO SHE KNOWS NO ONE ELSE WOULD WANT HER SO SHE DEALS WITH IT. WAY TO GO MONIQUE. YOU SOUND VERY DUMB.

Well lets’ be honest here. When you’re fat and repugnant, like Mo’Nique, there are certain compromises one must make, in order to maintain a one-sided marriage. This is nothin’ more than a variation of the whole “WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS, AND MEN ARE FROM MARS” a.n.a.l.o.g.y.

@ockyj

She realized she was wrong. What’s wrong with that?

She is not killing herself to lose weight. She is losing weight to save herself.

ockyj

Damn, I wanna stick my cyber tongue in your cyber mouth :p

She says that because she doesn’t want to be alone (him leaving her). She lost weight to keep him (not to save her life) and would put up with anything to keep him.

Am I for open-relationships? Do you, but for me it’s a big no. Don’t get me wrong, we’re human and make mistakes…if something were to happen (either I or him) I would hope our bond was strong enough to get past it.

@Marquis de Sade

Her looks have nothing to do with it. What, pretty people don’t get cheated on?

@ Hannibal LOL. She sound crazy as hell this has got to be one of the stupidest remarks. When you get something you can’t get rid of then repeat that.

spoken like a true fat woman…LOL

AS LONG AS SHE GETS HER FOOD, SHE DOESN’T CARE WHO HE SLEEPS WITH!

@Soul Touch

You contradict yourself.

That lady needs to stop laying on the couch and start working OUT, that’s how to keep a man and feel confident.

I see nothing wrong with going outside your marriage as long as U are honest about it. My husband doesn’t quite agree with me on this as of yet. I have only a couple of rules that he would have to abide by
1. Take that girl down to the health clinic and have her checked out before you start sexing her.
2. Don’t have any children by her because I will not make them my priority or allow them to cut into what my child has period.
3. Take care of home first!!!
Like I’ve said, I have no problem with these set u because in my 31 years on this earth I have NEVER seen a faithful person in my whole entire life so why try and act like you and you significant other will be that one couple who will beat the odds…please that’s stupid American talk. Now awhile after I have my child I will hope to meet a beautiful woman who can get with this arrangement that my husband and I hopefully will have…we might have to go out of our race because most black women are way to close minded to even consider these forms of relationships…

@YES, they deserved to die, and i hope they burn in hell!!

LMAO at your “A Time To Kill” screen name!

@ockyj

This is her defense mechanism… to pretend to accept her situation because she has not yet found the strength to do something about it. I am of the belief that NO ONE (man or woman) can be Ok with their partner getting it in with someone else if they truly love them.
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100% Cosign. I always found her in-your-face self-esteem really artificial. How can you laud yourself for being morbidly obese one minute, then break your neck to lose weight (after her husband told her to) the next?

She’s mildly entertaining as a comedian, to be sure, but I’m not buying the “I’m Every Woman” act she puts on.

well as long as it can go both ways hey do you. I do find it strange that she is faithful but he can do what he likes. But this is not my marriage and I don’t care.

This is simply ridiculous…Monique whether you FAT OR NOT you deserve a MAN who WANTS YOU AND ONLY YOU

Yeah, Right Mo’! Until he brings home one of those “Gifts That Keep Giving” to your azz… bet, you’ll change your tune then!

“Ugh!!
3/3/10, 13:08:pm

@Marquis de Sade

Her looks have nothing to do with it. What, pretty people don’t get cheated on?”

Only if they’re lousy lays or frigid…And don’t be naive, darlin’, looks plays a big deal in the conception of any relationship. In the case of this marriage, though, i’m pretty sure, this dude married her desperate fat azz for the perks that comes with her wealth and celebrity…Afterall, his former 9 to 5 azz is goin’ to the Oscars as her husban/escort.

@Ugh

How so, pray tell? Because I said I’m not down for an open relationship, but if a mistake happened i would hope that our relationship could make it through?

Open relationsip = FREE to have outside relations.

Mistake = an error in judgement.

Please point out the contradiction…

Ladies , I encourage you all to now think outside the box like somewhat fat Monique ! Imagine a world where your man no longer has to tell you ” Oh baby the reson you couldn`t reach me bwas because I was in a late night meeting at 3:00 a.m. … ” AGAIN ” ! or ladies you will never again have to be told when you come back into the hotel room and you see two chicks in bed with your man and he tells you ” BABY I DON`T KNOW WHERE THEY CAME FROM ?? ” I THINK THEY FELL OUT OF THE CHANDELIERS THAT ARE SITTING OVER OUR BED ” !!

LADIES BECAUSE YOU JUST TOOK ON MONIQUE`S THOUGHT PROCESS … YOU ARE FREEE ! LOL

I’m sorry, but if he’s allowed to go outside and get his, then I’m gettin’ mine! Either way, if the situation was like this I’d prefer to not be married anyway…

Monique has figured out what it takes to keep a man around. and because she has given him that freedom he will in all probablility never use it….why you ask? Because he knows she has truly unconditional love for him….something all men seek from the time we leave our mothers womb, but few of us ever get.does a woman owe a man that kind of love? no. does a man have a right to expect that kind of love from a woman other than his mother? no.does that stop us as men from seeking it out subconciously? no. Is this type of love the secret to keeping a man in a womans life? in all probability yes.

Marquis said

Only if they’re lousy lays or frigid…And don’t be naive, darlin’, looks plays a big deal in the conception of any relationship. In the case of this marriage, though, i’m pretty sure, this dude married her desperate fat azz for the perks that comes with her wealth and celebrity…Afterall, his former 9 to 5 azz is goin’ to the Oscars as her husban/escort.

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I have to agree with you. Especially since she’s not having ‘fun’ too. lol

Sad that she doesn’t realize, fat or not, that she’s worth more than that.

Ummm whatever floats your boat..
Seems to me that it was a waste of vows before God tho….

Being fat is not the problem because she can get a man no matter what size she is. The problem is accepting infidelity and making it seem like its ok.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the LORD.Prvb 18:22

I bet her story will change if he comes home with an STD one day. Smh

the first comment is very funny – and I ain’t sharing my jones bone with no other hoe – I might as well stay single for all that. I want that ding a ling all to myself and I don’t want another helfer pu ss ie juice all on his nu tts and pu bic hairs.
I guess that’s the way she feels – can the freak he’s freaking freak monique too… get that skull crush on?!!!!

Too much information. Propriety is so lacking.

@Soul Touch

You offer this explanation for her relationship:

“She says that because she doesn’t want to be alone (him leaving her). She lost weight to keep him (not to save her life) and would put up with anything to keep him.”

Then you offer a more reasoned open relationships are fine “do you” and that it’s just not for you. Why didn’t that apply to her?

EVERYBODY HAS AN OPINION!

A lot of marriages would last if this were practiced. If this works for them then so be it.

All men that you let cheat on you will always do so husband or not and he will give the freak some rawness especailly if that sexual tension is strong. Bare backing hard.

@Caramel Cat

i think youre right, there’s gotta be some agreement. maybe he’s afraid to come out to his family so he married a biggy as cover. but hey if she’s got no problem with it then good for them i guess

@DC Cj

“A lot of marriages would last if this were practiced. If this works for them then so be it.”

True but alot of marriages have faltered for not living up to your vows…
It’s really simple, if you are not ready to settle down – don’t get married.

I just lost all respect for her as a woman…smh..low self esteem anyone? That woman has her own show, awards, money..and ur willing to sell urself short for a man? Never homie.

oldest trap in the book!

@LaDiva

A marriage is a civil union not necessarily “before God”. People can make whatever vows they want.

What’s the point of being married if there’s no commitment? People these days take marriage as a joke!

But apparently she’s not very comfortable and secure with HERSELF….Still love Mo tho,my B-MORE Homegirl!

“Jesus Take Da Wheel!” Just when u think A strong black woman we can look up to? Mo’Nique show us she’s just another stupid broad, but anything goes in Hollywood. Go get ur AIDS then Mo! “Disappointing!”

Yes, I have heard Monique make that Off The Wall Comment before about her husband being allowed to break their marriage vows whenever & with whomever he so pleases. And I promise you just as sure as my calendars are custom she will live to regret that decision, because sure it looks like he’s got it made having his fat cake and being able to go out for all rainbow flavors of ice cream to, but the funny thing about people is they are never satisfied and she is opening her marriage up to a host of problems. As soon as he produces a baby outside of their marriage, she finds out he’s Bi, some lover starts stalking her and him or he falls in love with someone and conspires to swindle her out of her fortune it will be to late to change her mind & morals. customcalendars4u2.com

@Ugh!!

“A marriage is a civil union not necessarily “before God”. People can make whatever vows they want.”

True but then there is no logic to getting married to one person if you ultimately plan on creeping. There are other factors in why ppl marry tho…

I’ve heard her say this CRAP before.

Honestly, I think it’s because for all she goes on as though she is big and beautiful and loving herself and “F*** the skinny girls!!!” this woman is LACKING self-esteem. I don’t think she feels as if she DESERVES fidelity in a partner. So sad. My parents have been best friends and partners for almost 30 years and you will not hear either one of them spewing this mess! I seriously do not understand where Mo is coming from AT ALL. But if she’s happy then hey…do you.

P.S. – Mo…shave your legs…PLEASE. You have a beautiful face, but those legs are like something straight out of a sasquatch tale. SMH.

@Ugh

People are going to do what they want and if it makes you happy, then do you. Most open relationships I know of, BOTH are having their fun. Those in which only the man is dipping and diving normally leaves the woman feeling jealous, insecure, and lonely. But they don’t leave…cause they don’t want to be alone (for whatever reason).

All that said… Mo’Nique is a different story for me. I’ve always been weary of her tactics and never bought this strong big black woman she sells of herself. Due to this opinion of her, her making these statements coincide with what I always thought of her; she was insecure and lack self-esteem.

Everything about Mo’Nique has always been a front to me.

@Ugh

Sorry, one more thing

When I read her statements, it’s not on the level of a sexual revolution…it’s purely as long as he comes home to me then I will accept it.

@Mock Rocketar

You sound really stupid. You really think that if you allow him to cheat with one person that he will stop there? Please. You give him an inch; he is going to want a mile. The fact that you are willing to share your husband is beyond obscene. I hate to break it to you but there is no telling that he will use condoms with her. I mean why would he? You are allowing him to sleep with her. Even if he does use a condom with her, it can break. So now what are you going to do when she become pregnant? This is not even considering that fact that this side chick could have motives of her own. She could very well want to get pregnant. She does not care about you! There is no telling what she won’t do. The fact that children could be brought in to such a union is sad. What are you teaching them? That it is ok to be unfaithful? If you want to sleep with someone other than your husband then don’t get married. This type of thinking it what is what is wrong with our society today. We have no morals.

@Soul Touch

Thank you for your response. I feel you.

Monique can do whatever she wants. Its her marriage. If people were more concerned about their own relationships perhaps they would be happier.

Everyone is worried about everyone else. Oh please!

THATS HER WEIGHT INSECURITY TALKIN’!!!!!!!!!!

Translation=I know he’s gonna cheat.He’s always been like that.But I’ve known him for years so I rather get cheated on by someone I have a history with than someone new.Because if I do that I’ll be hurt and ashamed like ol girl who got her groove back.

Marriage means forsaking ALL others.

Mo needs a lil self-esteem, not to mention a test for STD’s. pretty sad

Ms_nelson

3/3/10, 13:53:pm

@Mock Rocketar

You sound really stupid. You really think that if you allow him to cheat with one person that he will stop there? Please. You give him an inch; he is going to want a mile. The fact that you are willing to share your husband is beyond obscene. I hate to break it to you but there is no telling that he will use condoms with her. I mean why would he? You are allowing him to sleep with her. Even if he does use a condom with her, it can break. So now what are you going to do when she become pregnant? This is not even considering that fact that this side chick could have motives of her own. She could very well want to get pregnant. She does not care about you! There is no telling what she won’t do. The fact that children could be brought in to such a union is sad. What are you teaching them? That it is ok to be unfaithful? If you want to sleep with someone other than your husband then don’t get married. This type of thinking it what is what is wrong with our society today. We have no morals.
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Ms Nelson…I can see that U are not Mrs. Nelson so U are entitled to your opinion, but I’m far from being stupid. I wasn’t born yesterday and I know that people are just not faithful…point blank. In your mind they might be…but we are not. It’s better to be honest with everyone all around then to sneak out and try to get your fix from someone else in secrecy. Most successful relationship are open, but it’s just not broadcast because most people are to close minded and too stubborn to realize that option works. I remember when I first read that Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee had an open relationship and I was shocked because I too was naive and thought that people were suppose to be supernatural faithful being to make a longstanding relationship work. I remember and old girlfriend of mine told me that her and her boyfriend at the time went to visit her grandparents and she asked them how were they able to stay together for so long and being happily married (50 years or so) and she was so shocked when she heard her grandfather say, “Well I’ve had my share of affairs” like it was nothing. If being in a monogamous relationship works for U then by all means do U, but don’t lost your mind when your partner steps out on U behind your back. Also I don’t think U read my response quite correctly or I didn’t elaborate, but it’s not a one way street. Personally I would love for a beautiful woman to enter our relationship in the future and I could care less what U think Ms_Nelson because I’m sure U are not even up to par in what I or my husband would want in a woman.

monique has self-esteem issues..

when you are married, hubby doesn’t have

permission to step out, otherwise why

are you married???

@ Mock Rock Star

You may call it “closed minded” but I call it real. If you are cool with other partners then there is truly no need to be married

she needs to quit with the excuses and just lose the weight..

he’s just using her and she’s letting him…

I actually know a couple personally who has this arrangement, and they are VERY happy. But the difference is this: she is allowed to have her fun too…

They both agree that protection will always be used and at the end of the day they are husband and wife.

I’ll say this, I can’t stomach it, I’d rather be all alone and have my flings with random men…but why should Mo just sit back and let him do his thing IF it should happen, but not have the same views for herself????

@Ugh

Sting and his wife came out like this on Opera. They didn’t get as much flak.
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True. But as base as it sounds, Sting’s wife isn’t morbidly obese, so she probably has as many options as he does sexually.

ockyj

3/3/10, 14:20:pm

@ Mock Rock Star

You may call it “closed minded” but I call it real. If you are cool with other partners then there is truly no need to be married
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I’m sorry ockyj, but are U married???

I agree 100%

Since the beginning of time men were created to have multiple wives/women, etc. as long as they can support them.

Society made the rule (I believe it was the Romans) that there should be a one man, one women union due to over population and lack of resources/crops.

Don’t believe me, read the bible.

YOU PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO THROW THE HE GAY OR SHE GAY THING AROUND LMBO~!

MY father, let you all tell it, the WHOLE WORLD IS GAY, oops, does that include your MAN as well?

GET OVER IT CHILDREN!

S/N: Monique is not ugly but i can imagine some of you are

imma stay out grown folks’ business (and bedrooms)

This is funny Monique do you for me no cheating is a deal breaker but I won’t judge her for doing her thang!

@Brooklyn, Stand UP!

Don’t believe me, read the bible.
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I KNOW you didn’t just invoke the Bible into this thread (said playfully).

If you are going to be accurate, you should remember that “In the beginning…” the idea was one woman, one man, i.e. Adam and Eve, not Adam, Eve, Susan, Barbara, and Jenny.

If God had intended on man having more than one woman, He would have created more for him in the Garden of Eden.

then why get married??? marriage is a committment mind. body and soul….sorry, but that is pitiful Monique…

I feel like people who say this stuff is ok and should be allowed, should also see stuff like lying and stealing and violence as ok. I mean, we are all carnally wired to do these things, so we should be allowed to do them and not strive to be more controlled, mature human beings…

What ever happened to using your brain, good judgment and morals before making a decision?????

@Gimmeabreak78

LMAO…

Sweetheart, people in the bible had more than one wife…

How many wives did solomon have? He had 700 official wives and 300 concubines. According to the Bible at I Kings 11:1-7

I dont believe in this mess!! Any man who cheats on me and I know about it gots to go. U might be hurt for an few monthes but oh well!!!

if ya’ll wanna go to the bible remember Rachel and Leah…okay…..smdh..

Caramel Cat™

3/3/10, 14:46:pm

I feel like people who say this stuff is ok and should be allowed, should also see stuff like lying and stealing and violence as ok. I mean, we are all carnally wired to do these things, so we should be allowed to do them and not strive to be more controlled, mature human beings…

What ever happened to using your brain, good judgment and morals before making a decision?????
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Please cut the bull caramel!!! We are not talking about lying and stealing here…we are talking about open relationships. Stick to the subject…that’s why these relationships aren’t for U

@Brooklyn

It’s really funny how none of the women in the bible had hundreds of husbands….what’s good for the goose is good for the gander…

I dont agree…I couldnt deal with my man sleeping around on me..but hey you just never know until that situation presents itself

@Kitty

Actually no (re: fat people), I don’t have any in my family. In fact, my family is quite healthy. My mother, 65, runs 4 miles and day and works out at the gym 3 times a week. So…yeah. She didn’t fry anything and morning breakfast was fruit shake. lol

But I agree with all the rest of what you said.

@Mock Rock Star

I am hoping I can converse with you on a civil level, I’m not trying to be combative. Whatever works for you works for you, but I don’t agree with the idea of campaigning for it and sending out the message that it’s ‘ok’…that’s all…

@DATPHILY GIRL

The lesson we learn from here is that we cannot afford to harbour unforgiveness in our hearts. It will only destroy us.

The remarks of Rachel and Leah in Genesis 31: 14 – 16 and the actions of Rachel in Genesis 31: 19, 35 showed the disgust she had for her father right to the very end. This again could have been the reason for the tragedy that befell her in Genesis 35: 16-19.

Caramel Cat™

3/3/10, 14:55:pm

@Mock Rock Star

I am hoping I can converse with you on a civil level, I’m not trying to be combative. Whatever works for you works for you, but I don’t agree with the idea of campaigning for it and sending out the message that it’s ‘ok’…that’s all…
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LOL OK Caramel cat we’re cool. U already know I feel this country is so repressed that we are currently in a repression

WHATS THE POINT OF BEING MARRIED THEN???

@Brooklyn Stand UP

LMAO…

Sweetheart, people in the bible had more than one wife…

How many wives did solomon have? He had 700 official wives and 300 concubines. According to the Bible at I Kings 11:1-7
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I’m not disputing polygamy in the Bible, because it definitely ocurred. What I am disputing is your earlier a.s.s.e.r.t.i.o.n that marital monagamy was society’s idea.

re:Society made the rule (I believe it was the Romans) that there should be a one man, one women union due to over population and lack of resources/crops.

In reality, marital monagamy was God’s idea, and polygamy was man’s idea.

whats the purpose of getting married if your spouse isnt ur main focus & vice versa, marriage is saying “i do” not “i do…then i do you,you,& you”. marriage is about two people in a union & if u get married & cannot be monogamous, you are not fit to be married.

Monique is cheap and tacky, point blank

@Mock Rock

I can respect that, and you have a point. That’s why I believe in getting all that out of your system before marriage…BUT, if you have a husband and wife who BOTH agree to an open marriage, that is THEIR business…

@Caramel Cat™

I’m sure if the women had to hunt, gather, build, fight, protect, carry food for miles and miles across rugged touraine they too would have had that opportunity!

Only women with self esteem and self respect and worth ISSUES would allow for there man to sleep with any woman but them…how disgusting & sad….the difference with the way things were in the BIBLE and how they are now, is that it wasnt 1million + STDS swarming around and all other negative consequences that follow with doin ish like that…

Mo’nique is on some bullshyt……no one likes to be cheated on……no one!This just makes her look real bad accepting anything he puts out just so she can have a man.Mo’nique can do better…..this man is just using her because she allows it.

@Gimmeabreak78

Point taken!

U women are to smart for your own good, I swear lol… Got an answer for everything, lol… j/k

I dont buy it for one second that Mo’nique is cool with her husband cheating on her….bullshyt.

If man couldnt write until a certain point of time and the bible had to be INTERPRETED, what makes you think that whomever interpreted what he saw didnt do so in a manner as they pleased?
Remember cavemen couldnt write, they use signs and symbols, they didnt speak English back in B.C. days, I dunno what they used, but somehow, we got what is called English language………
P.S. If I told you The cat jumped over the road and left it for you to tell my son and then left my son to tell my daughter, who left it for her to tell her son, who left it to tell his son, who left it to tell his son.. by the time the SONS and Daughters get it, where do you think the Cat will have jumped?
LMBO
A)Cross town
B)He ran then fell then jumped
C) he was pushed
D) He turned away, turned back around, ran, walked, and stopped, then jumped
E)….
I hope my point is understood

@Brooklyn

I’m sure if the women had to hunt, gather, build, fight, protect, carry food for miles and miles across rugged touraine they too would have had that opportunity!

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Cut the bull…I’ve read your posts on here before and it’s obvious that you are desiring other women besides your wife…but I’m not here to judge you on that..

What about all the birthing, cleaning, cooking, housekeeping, nursing, and submission the women were doing??? Huh? A man wouldn’t last 2 hours doing all that…whew! don’t get me started…. After all that mess, I’d LOVE some outside dyck….lmao!

@Caramel Cat
Women are not doing those things you mention these days as evident by the BAD AZZ RASCALS RUNNING ROUND HERE DOING WHAT THEY WANT TO DO
NO PUN INTENDED

i wonder if shell be saying that once he does start stepping out

lets be serious . MoNique is saying that because she already knows her husband is cheating on her and she doesnt care so theirs no need for anyone to tell her what hes up too. She might sound stupid but how many of yall are in a realtionship with someone you knew was cheating on you, & you do nothing about it . . whats the difference?

no different than those hollywood divas who marry gay men…they just want a companion so they don’t die alone…

@Why?

SOME women aren’t you are right…. and equally SOME men aren’t doing all that hunting, gathering bull-ish either…..

@Caramel Cat™

What husband DOESN’T desire “Other” women? It’s called being human. The difference between a good husband and bad husband is good husbands can control there impulses.

You got birthing, everything else millions of men, including myself can cook & clean. We’ve evolved such as yourself.

LMFAO… Aside from all that, I’d love some outside buns, lol… j/k no really

@Caramel Cat
I do stand corrected, I meant to say Some,

@Why?

LOL!!!

@Brooklyn

You are right….but you’re missing my point. You are acting as though men are the OOONNNLLLYYYY people with some tension and built up desires to release….women want to get smashed out by other men too….

But, when you decide to marry, you make a commitment and you respect your vows with self-control…

@Why?

Gotcha!

wow!! for one, there’s no such thing as an open marriage. marriage is a union between a man and a woman, not every man and every woman. she has obviously fell victim to what so many women these days have fell victim to and that’s societies new definition of relationships and marriages. its sad to accept infidelity, when the Lord said it’s a sin. if the Lord doesn’t accept it, then why do u???

Thats dumb when u are married u are one flesh wtf monique is letting a man and stardom get to her head.

@Caramel Cat™

I’m not disputing that. I know you guys have desires and fantasies about being with other men, duh, lol… My point is if she’s cool with letting her man do him then doen’t judge the chick.

Men cheat for different reasons then women. For men it’s all physical, for women it’s emotional. Am I wrong?

HE MUST CAN COOK !!!!!!!

I read a partial excerpt of this quote from another Web site and thought folks were taking it out of context. But, if this is the quote in its entirety and MO is okay with her husband going outside of their marriage MULTIPLE times — more power to her.

Peering from the outside in, it seems as if they’ve discussed this and may have what folks term an open marriage.

How she and her husband choose to conduct their married lives is no one’s business but theirs. As my mother loves to say — “If she likes it, I so love it.”

Infidelity may NOT be a deal breaker to Mo’Nique, but it’s damn sure a deal breaker for me. When I get married, my hubby will definitely KNOW this.

W.H.O.R.E HOUSES

@Brooklyn

Not necessarily. I’ve never cheated on my husband but I can tell you that if I were to cheat it would ONLY be for physical. Because honestly, I don’t see how I could connect with another man the way I do with my husband. I wouldn’t even take out the time for that to be an issue…BUT, that’s just me…

@Shawn Jones

Prostitution is one of the oldest professions. So of course it’s not new. But still doesn’t mean the one has to accept it into their lives.

Besides on her nit shaow where have those fat dancers went damn im not gonna lie it was time for her to lose being short and having two kids yes its time but she is doing it for the wrong reasons and ne ways i dnt think she need to lose a tremendous amount of weight b/c it juss will not look right on her

WOW THIS IS SAD ON SO MANY LEVELS… I THINK THAT MS. MONIQUE HAS SOME OTHER THINGS THAT IS MOTIVATING HER TO SAY THAT HER HUSBAND WHO MARRIED HER NOT OTHER WOMEN THAT IS NOT A DEAL BREAKER? IF HE IS NOT WITH YOU THEN THAT IS A DEAL BREAKER. CONDOMS COULD BREAK OR HE MAY GO IN RAW. AND AT SOME POINT IT IS GOING TO START TO HURT THAT YOUR MAN DOES NOT THINK YOU ARE ENOUGH…. SOMETHING ELSE IS GOING ON HERE. GOD BLESS HER AND I HOPE THAT SHE EXPOSES HER SELF SO THAT SHE CAN FINALLY HEAL. YOU ARE TEACHING YOUR SONS THAT THIS IS OKAY AND THEIR WOMEN MAY NOT BE SO FORGIVING… BE CAREFUL

Women are so needy, I would love to be married, but not under those stipulations, women should not settle for a man that can have other relationships, are the vows not sacred anymore, furthermore, I feel that once you cheat on your spouse, you not only create havoc for yourself but for the other party, its called Karma.

@Caramel Cat™

God made us different. Equal but different that’s why men can cheat and not feel remorse or guitly and women can’t. Well most at least, lol…

And I think that’s just a mind frame that you can’t connect w/ another man, blah, blah, blah… The same way you connected with him you could do it all over again with a new dude if your were single.

I don’t believe in that soul mate crap. There are millions and millions of people in the world that you can connect with, all u have to do is let it happen. Just my opinion, no beef, k

Ew. I will never be okay with my significant other going “outside” of the relationship.

Nowadays its not just a moral or a trust thing, with all the diseases and stuff going around, its health risk.

Ms_nelson
3/3/10, 13:53:pm
@Mock Rocketar

You sound really stupid. You really think that if you allow him to cheat with one person that he will stop there? Please. You give him an inch; he is going to want a mile. The fact that you are willing to share your husband is beyond obscene. I hate to break it to you but there is no telling that he will use condoms with her. I mean why would he? You are allowing him to sleep with her. Even if he does use a condom with her, it can break. So now what are you going to do when she become pregnant? This is not even considering that fact that this side chick could have motives of her own. She could very well want to get pregnant. She does not care about you! There is no telling what she won’t do. The fact that children could be brought in to such a union is sad. What are you teaching them? That it is ok to be unfaithful? If you want to sleep with someone other than your husband then don’t get married. This type of thinking it what is what is wrong with our society today. We have no morals.
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I agree one hundred percent! You could have said it any better!!!

I will beat the sheeznicks out of my man if he even thinks about sticking his pipe in any of skank!!! It’s for me and me alone to enjoy!!!

The definition of marriage is a UNION BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN…… NOT WOMEN. If you do not want to COMMIT yourself to one person do not get married. The bible is a storybook…it tells stories. Not all of the stories are instructions. The 10 commandments are the instructions…. SEVEN: ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ adultery is …voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband;
TEN: ‘You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.’ covet means …. to desire (what belongs to another) inordinately or culpably
SOOOOO….. Broklyn stand up…. STFU

@Brooklyn,

You are entitled to your opinion…I respectfully disagree with some of it, but I always respect other bloggers when they respect me…. I don’t do e-beef!

YOU KNOW I SEE ALOT OF COMMENTS ON HERE CALLING MONIQUE FAT AND UGLY AND THAT’S WHY SHE HAS TO EXCEPT WHAT SHE GETS. THAT’S FOUL! THE BOTTOM LINE IS THIS: I DON’T CARE IF YOU ARE A SUPER FINE WOMAN, IF I WANT TO HIT ANOTHER FEMALE I AM GOING TO DO SO. SEE MY MONEY IS PRETTY GOOD THESE DAYS EVEN IN A RECESSION AND I CAN PRETTY MUCH MOVE HOW I WANT SO I AM GOING TO DO WHAT I WANT. WHEN DID ANY BOOK EVER SAY THAT MONOGAMY WAS THE WAY. AS I SEE IT, FROM BIBLICAL TIMES TO THAT OF KINGS AND QUEENS THE MAN HAS ALWAYS HAD MORE THAN ONE LADY OR WIFE.

YOU WOMEN KILL ME WITH THAT WHAT YOU WILL OR WON’T EXCEPT CRAP. MANY OF YOUR MEN ARE CHEATING ON YOU RIGHT NOW AND YOU HAVE NO IDEA OR YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW. HELL MANY OF YOU ARE DOING THE SAME THING-SO STOP THE NONSENSE WITH THESE COMMENTS ON HERE ABOUT WHAT YOU WILL AND WON’T DO!

@N
3/3/10, 15:48:pm

The definition of marriage is a UNION BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN…… NOT WOMEN. If you do not want to COMMIT yourself to one person do not get married. The bible is a storybook…it tells stories. Not all of the stories are instructions. The 10 commandments are the instructions…. SEVEN: ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ adultery is …voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband;
TEN: ‘You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.’ covet means …. to desire (what belongs to another) inordinately or culpably
SOOOOO….. Broklyn stand up…. STFU
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The bible was written by man, correct? Just checking…

I’M STILL STANDING!!!! LOL!!!

@ OCKY J

ON some real sheet me and you are going to have this very same arrangement gurl ! And we are going to be happy GURL ! Ima get my little fishies on the side and you are going to have all the shopping trips, and world travel a women can want !
Real talk !

@ Caramel Cat™

Thanks for peacefully agreeing to disagree, lol…

I knew I was going to get chewed out for my posts but it was very entertaining, lol…

WOMEN STILL RULE THE WORLD, WITHOUT YA’LL WE AIN’T SH*T, TRUE STORY!!!

R.I.P. Mom

THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO MONIQUE BEING “FAT” WHO CARES WHAT HALF OF YOU PEOPLE SAY HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU GUYS MAKE A YEAR? . SHES A BEAUTIFUL AND SUCCESSFUL WOMEN.. MEN CHEAT BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO SELF CONTROL MANY TIME YOU SEE MEN CHEAT WITH BROADS UGLIER THEN THE ONE THEY WERE WITH.. LOOK A HALLE BERRY FOR EXAMPLE SHES DEEMED ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN AND HER EX HUSBAND CHEATED ON HER LEFT AND RIGHT

This is definitely the end times….. =(

BY the way you know the ladies where not going to be feeling this monique sheet ! But real talk what if Monique said ” I can get mine on the side … but my bish azz husband better fall back if he think he is going to f.u.c.c. somebody else ” ! Now LADIES real talk what would yawl be saying ? Prolly be on some you go gurl sheet ! Don`t front either !

@I’ll Talk about what I want…

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If that’s what’s up, at least no one is being slighted.

Still, not a relationship I would want to be involved in because that is not my ideal of marriage.

@N

This is definitely the end times….. =(
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It’s a fact… Men are going to want to f*ck just like women are going to want to run their mouths, lol…

I respect Mo’ because she’s accepting the fact that it is what it is… She’s not going to be left in the dark to wonder. Other women live in this fantasy world, lol… It’s HILARIOUS!!

@I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !
3/3/10, 16:01:pm

BY the way you know the ladies where not going to be feeling this monique sheet ! But real talk what if Monique said ” I can get mine on the side … but my bish azz husband better fall back if he think he is going to f.u.c.c. somebody else ” ! Now LADIES real talk what would yawl be saying ? Prolly be on some you go gurl sheet ! Don`t front either !
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AMEN!!! Preach!!! LOL!!!

@Brooklyn Stand UP

Point taken!

U women are to smart for your own good, I swear lol… Got an answer for everything, lol… j/k
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It’s all in fun and love!

So what the bible was written by man! Most history that is documented is documented by man. I dont know of any other animals that can write. Do you? =)

@I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !
3/3/10, 16:01:pm

BY the way you know the ladies where not going to be feeling this monique sheet ! But real talk what if Monique said ” I can get mine on the side … but my bish azz husband better fall back if he think he is going to f.u.c.c. somebody else ” ! Now LADIES real talk what would yawl be saying ? Prolly be on some you go gurl sheet ! Don`t front either !
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Some would be on that “you go girl sheet”, but I would be on the semi-monthly STD screening sheet. *shrugs shoulders*

@I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

If she said that I’d still talk smack about her. That is not ok for either party IMHO….both should be allowed to ‘kick it’ on the side…

@ Mock Rock Star

I’m sorry ockyj, but are U married???
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Nope. Not yet, because (excuse my french) I ain’t done f*cking.

@Gimmeabreak78
3/3/10, 16:07:pm

@Brooklyn Stand UP

Point taken!

U women are to smart for your own good, I swear lol… Got an answer for everything, lol… j/k
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It’s all in fun and love!
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Always!

Why do people argue with other people online? I like seeing you all go at it. Its funny to me….

Dang is there nothing sacred anymore?Sending wrong message to the young generation

@ Mock Rock Star

“This is one of the reason why most black women aren’t married today because U all are to close minded and living in some type of fantasy world. I hear U all say U’d rather be alone then even consider an open relationship…well news flash get used to be alone!!!”

Real talk. I am NOT gonna be worrying about regular check-ups and condoms and outside children and all that nonsense when I am married. And PLEASE quit acting like women of other races are down with the open relationship thing. I have plenty of gfs of all colors, shapes, sizes, and education levels. Some are seriously dating (like me) and some are married, but not one of us Ok with Big Love. I wouldn’t even want to marry a man if I was still lusting for others cause clearly he is not the one for me.

Thanx Ockyj! You summed up what I’ve been saying for years about this ‘happy being fat’ cow. Get real! She’s hurting and it’s so sad. Be real with yourself Monique. Ugh!

@just20

What about what’s in a woman’s nature?

awww h3ll I give up….lol

@ OCKY J

If that really is your grav pic… um um I likey like … You kinda remind of Stacey Dash a little .. I bet you heard that a few times in your life ! Must be nice ! To be that dam fine HUH !?

@just20

Daddy taught you the TRUTH, the whole truth and nothing but the truth about men. I’m going to have that same talk with my princess once she’s old enough.

It better to know then to not know.

@Brooklyn

Daddy taught you the TRUTH, the whole truth and nothing but the truth about men. I’m going to have that same talk with my princess once she’s old enough.

It better to know then to not know

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LMAO! ummm, I’d love to be a fly on the wall. My daddy was real with me about men but he never acted as though it was ok for a man to dip out on his wife….lol

@Caramel Cat™

It’s not in a woman’s nature to have more than one man. See, that’s the problem today that wowen think they can do the same sh*t men do. Play your position, lol… lol

When a woman is in a relationship she consider the dik to be her’s. The thought of someone else getting a taste she will never understand.

Even though stats has shown that women cheat just as much as men do. Lets face it, it takes two to cheat, you pulled your own draws down.

@Brooklyn,

lol, if you only knew. If I could smash out a new stud every other day I’d be in heaven, but I won’t because I have respect for myself and my marriage….

If they want to practice POLYGOMY then they need to go where that ishh is accepted. Having jump offs on the side is not what marriage is about. If he wants his cake & eat it too he should have remained single.

I know that big bytch DO let that nucca get some outside puzz. LOOK AT THAT WILDEBEAST!

That’s called an open marriage

@MIJDC

LMFAO!!!

@Brooklyn

Good point, I hear you…

@Caramel Cat™

It was nice chatting but I have to go…

Have a wonderful night buddy!

@glok hannibal

yall wrong

here we go with the black man’s right to cheat

and treat the black woman dirty

but yall afraid of the strong black female

you all contridyck urselves

@Brooklyn

Ok, ttyl!

@ ockyj
3/3/10, 12:58:pm
Keep in mind this was the same Monique who said she happy being fat and is now killing herself losing weight.

This is her defense mechanism… to pretend to accept her situation because she has not yet found the strength to do something about it. I am of the belief that NO ONE (man or woman) can be Ok with their partner getting it in with someone else if they truly love them.
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Girlfriend you took the words right out my mouth & hit the nail on the head!

@just20

God bless and Lots of Luck!!

@Caramel Cat™

Bye!

@I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca:

Aw schucks. Thank u.

@ Gimmeabreak
What gives you the right to describe that woman as “morbidly obese”?? I used to wonder why folks on this blog have a problem with you……now i understand.

To me a relationship is what two people agree on that makes their relationship work for them. IF they have an open marriage and if works for them, so be it. As long as they are happy, it doesnt matter what other think.

TO THE MEN ESPICALLY BLACK MEN WHO THINKS BEING IN A OPEN RELATIONSHIP IS A SMART IDEA. YEAH FOR YOU IT IS BUT THATS ALSO WHY BLACK MEN ARE AFFECTING BLACK WOMEN AT HIGH NUMBERS WITH AIDS.

THIS IS SO SAD!!! WHAT KIND OD EXAMPLE IS SHE SETTING FOR OUR YOUNG GIRLS??? I STILL RESPECT HER BUT SHE SHOULD HAVE KEPT THAT ABOUT HER MARRIAGE TO HERSELF.

Kellz88

That’s “INFECTING”, not “AFFECTING”.

Monique got a valid point. Just cause she married makes nothing different than if she wasn’t. I’ve seen some men stay with a woman for 10 years and b/c they not married he can smash as many chicks as he want on the side and the woman would chalk it up to them not being married.

Halle Berry is doing the same thing only she not married. She got the white boy and she’s had kids but she don’t wanna marry him b/c she knows he gonna wanna sleep around so she figures not being married justifies that….I say as long as a man keeps home first and foremost and is not out paying the jumpoff’s mortgage and car note than why sweat it.

Plus I don’t know how many times I’ve seen a chick leave her man b/c he cheated but then the next dude they hookup with either got a wife or girlfriend of his own. Never make sense to me. Why leave a overall good relationship to be somebody else’s jumpoff?

I LOOKED UP TO MONIQUE I HOPE THAT WAS A JOKE AND SHE GOT THAT STATEMENT TOGETHER. WHEN YOU GET MARRIED THAT SUPPOSE TO BE FOREVER AND YOU TAKE YOUR I DO’S IN FRONT OF FRIENDS FAMILY AND GOD! SHE WAS ONE PERSON IN THE ENTERTAINMENT BUSINESS THAT I JUST KNEW HAD IT TOGETHER!!! A MAN SHOULDN’T MAKE YOU NEITHER A WOMAN SHOULD MAKE A MAN. I THOUGHT MONIQUE LOVED HERSELF BUT THAT STATEMENT MADE HER SOUND AS IF SHE DOESNT.

@Boskonovitch

@ Gimmeabreak
What gives you the right to describe that woman as “morbidly obese”?? I used to wonder why folks on this blog have a problem with you……now i understand.
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That is not a phrase I made up. When an individual is weighs more than 40% more than her ideal body weight, that is morbidly obese. It’s not an insult. It’s the clinical name for her medical condition.

WHAT IS THE POINT OF BEING MARRIED? I mean is it just because of the title. You can play house with anybody. I’M CONFUSED!!!!!!!! That type of acceptance is the reason why black men run over black women. That type of acceptance is the reason why black women have the highest percentage of STD’s. That type of acceptance is the reason why black women have the highest percentage of being single. That type of acceptance makes me want to cry.

I would cut a man’s head of mid-sentence if he even though about being married to me and cheating. THERE ARE TOO MAY DISEASES-YUCK! Sidney looks GAY ANYWAY!

Monique just needs to keep her mouth shut and accept her awards. I can only imagine Barbara Walters old a/s/s looking at her during this interview. Why OH WHY do black people have to act like this-WHY?

Who cares!!! My boyfriend thinks the same with me. He- is eight years older than me, lol. We met online at- A_g_e_m_i_n_g_le @ c.o..m a nice and free place for Younger- Women and Older Men, or Older Women and Younger Men, to- interact with each other. Maybe you wanna check out or- tell your friends.

Morbid Obesity is a real medical term and causes death and so is and does AIDS.

She seems to have a need to deal with more than one issue.

@Brooklyn, Stand UP!

is that your real pic? your sexi as f*ck!

I WOULD nEVER kNOWINGLY SHARE MY HUSBAND.. Y GET MARRIED SHARING HIM MEANS SHARING ALL OF THE OTHER COOCHIES HE DONE HAD YOU WENT FROM BEING FUNNY TO LOOKING LIKE A DUMMIE

@Dr. Hayden Drake

Morbid Obesity is a real medical term and causes death and so is and does AIDS.

She seems to have a need to deal with more than one issue.
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Thank you. Someone else on the thread was acting like I talked about Monique’s mama or something.

Monique= Please get somewhere and sit down and shut up.

how do people know she is morbidly obese just from looking at pictures, you would need scales for that. she is obese yes but morbidly obese? but then all you americas are fat so who cares!

She’z a Stupid AZZ…he aint even THAT fine! But he’s getting PAID – look at that grin

This picture is dated, she’s lost quite a bit of weight since this. Anywho, maybe she knows it’s inevitable, was he a player before her or something? Hope they #wrapitup :/

this dude married her desperate fat azz for the perks that comes with her wealth and celebrity…Afterall, his former 9 to 5 azz is goin’ to the Oscars as her husban/escort.
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@Marquis de Sade

LMAO!!!!!!!

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Why get married then.. Isn’t this a union..?

I think her comment is somewhat miss under stood…i dont believe in what she just said.
In her eyes men cheat and we know they cheat so why leave them when we know that they are capable of cheating. It’s in men nature to cheat.
I don’t think she has self esteem problems she is confident in herself that she know how to please her man. Rule number 1 when it comes to a man. Once you let them know it ok for them to do something it’s not fun for them to do it… men get a thrill of of being sneaky…

It’s their relationship.
It’s not for you to approve.
Quit hatin bishes!

Well if she LIKES it I LOVE it!

If you feel like you want to have s.e.x. with other people outside your marriage, then its not a marriage; it is called a “civil union.” Marriage is created by Christ, not humans. “civil unions” are bonds that let any——thing go between two people. Now, in these days, we have more “civil unions” than marriages because most people do not practice, have faith, and obey the commandments of God “the Father.”

I’ll take the HITS! The LORD said it’s not you they hate; they hate me and my Father which is in Heaven.

Will the realy Mo’nique please stand up! What happened to the stong, confindent black woman that we know? Since when is it okay for a married woman to condone her husband sleeping with other women and potentially bringing home a STD? Someone please explain this one to me…damn Mo, you have officially been turned out…welcome to HOLLYWEIRD!!!

Worry about yalls business! Monique is doing it! People always want to focus on the most unimportant issues. That aint your husband. It’s not your marriage. His chick bad, his chick hood…Get that Oscar Monique and keep it pushing mama!

@DARI

BEST POST ON THIS THREAD. YOU AIN’T NEVA LIED.

Sigh…I think what she is somewhat true and applies to some men.But there are some men out there in the world who will love you and only you and stay faithful to you. There has to be. I believe that their is someone out their for everyone that makes everyone want to stay faithful to them and give them the world. I personally wouldn’t want to share my husband with other women. Everyone deserves to a partner that is exclusive to themselves.

my great uncle was faithful to my great aunt..so its possible! rip to both of them

I hpoe that Mo’Nique didn’t say that mess. She would be really stupid if she did say that STD type mess. We, as women, are becoming so weak to these men that we will allow them to do any—–thing to our spirits. Come On, LADIES! STOP!

lost a lil respect for Mo on this one

A lot of you are making fun of her weight but would be mad as h.e.l.l. if someone called you a dumb, illiterate, lazy shiftless n.i.g.g.e.r!!!!

It’s easy to be an internet bully, but almost impossible to be a human being for some of you.

And before you start HANNIBAL, your nothing but a self hating closeted homosexual! I’ve read your posts and try as you might, you don;t fool me. I’ll bet the entire farm on it that you are a brother on the DL!!!!

she said this mess before when Jill Scott interviewed her, then denied it when Oprah asked her about it.

that’s not love and it’s not even a special kinada arrangement. It just says I so desparetly need you, I’m willing to tolerate & accept anything just to …..the whole thing bespeaks self-esteem issues!

y r u surprised by this…she’s a fat woman and an insecure 1 at that…i am ver y disappointed in her why get married if ur gonna cheat? its basically cheating dont let will/jada make it out 2 something thats good…smmfh

For Monique to say that is so crazy. I think that she is insecure & desperate. Part of the marriage vows is to be faithful and forsake all others. Do you, Monique but as for myself I want a husband that is faithful to me and is satisfied with me.

I heard her make this comment before. Pure craziness. I have a male friend that I’ve been friends with since middle school About twelve years. And we both joked that if we’re both still single and hadn’t found anyone to settle down with by fourty, then we’d marry each other. Not because we’re in love with each other. Just an arrangement. Not to be alone. You do your thing. I do mine. All I ask is that he give me a kid or two and stick around to keep me company every now and then. It was a joke. To come up with an arrangement just to avoid lonley nights is an abomination in the sight of God. Really boils down to a chick with no other options. I’m sure they were/are good friends and they care about each other as such, but a marriage? A real marriage? Man, please. Monique just don’t want to be alone.

@memchee

that’s not love and it’s not even a special kinada arrangement. It just says I so desparetly need you, I’m willing to tolerate & accept anything just to …..the whole thing bespeaks self-esteem issues!
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Cosign!

My opinion of Monique is really headed south and it has nothing to do with her weight. I hate that she is only perpetuating that fat women are some low self esteem having folks. I’m fat and I have no issue admiting that. I’m also a beautiful person inside and out and I know this so I cant imagine myself just basically telling someone that they can treat me like trash. She had no business in the first place selling the idea that fat was something so much greater than sliced bread…..lol. I’m great where I am, and I am always trying to lose weight but at my point, there is no one…and I mean no one that is going to make me feel like less. I sure hope she really didnt say this mess.

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yeah well if she thinks that cool…oh well…but let’s see how cool she is when he gives her a disease or he gets a chick pregnant! i thought marriage was suppose to be scared? and yes its a union between two ppl…but….GOD is apart of this union as well….she’s a fool…plain and simple…and any fool that thinks that’s cool…i truly feel sorry for you!

Monique, get a grip you are making your self look desperate when you are the one who is the star.

LOL maybe when she purchase some self esteem, she can buy me some typing lessons LOL.

I dont believe that she was SAYING go out and have sex, shes simply saying “im not gone leave my man because he cheated” I think thats a strong woman if she can stand behind him even with infidelity, It just seems 2 me that she knows that things happen, I dont believe by any stretch of my imagination that she has low self esteem…

@YES, they deserved to die, and I hope they burn in HELL!!

I don’t think people object to the “open” relationship as much as they do the lack of equity in it. For example, Will and Jada have long been rumored to have an open relationship, but the extramarital exploits are allowed for either one of them. I don’t particularly believe the rumor, but the way it is presented always indicates that either one of them is free to roam. In Monique’s situation, it appears that she is nothing more than a concubine in her own marriage, which is rather sad.

This arrangement would not work for me, but to each his/her own. Hey, if they have an open relationship and it works for them – who cares? I don’t. I think Monique is very strong and I wouldn’t leap to her having low self-esteem…. She seems like she’s a very strong person.

lmao @ hannibal

She is an IDIOT. What is the point getting married if hes allowed to do all that? People really take marriage for a joke, i cant wait for the day he makes another chick pregnant or gives her aids. she deserves it. moron.

wow!!!! I no personally i would never allow my man to sleep with someone else and be calm about it. I don’t care if we been together for 25 years or 2days that behavior is not allowed in any relationship. my thing is if he or she has to go else where for the pleasure ya’ll time has expired.

ITS SAD THAT MONIQUE DOESN’T THINK ENOUGHT OF HERSELF THAT SHE ALLOWS SOMEONE TO TREAT HER LIKE

LAST NIGHTS TRASH!

I heard that Mo’nique has claimed that her statement has been taken out of context. With that said, her being ok with her husband sleeping around is nothing more than a desperate woman’s attempt to keep a man. What if her husband fathers a child outside of their marriage? what if her develops strong feelings for the other woman? Women like Monique are low self esteem b.i.t.c.h.e.s. who have settle. Do you think a real woman with her self-esteem intact would be ok with a cheating husband?

Mo’Nique is the one stepping out, not her man, after a comment like that. He probably does worship her.

And I don’t care. It’s their business. If it makes them happy, then nobody needs to tell them to be ‘normal’ to fit other people’s narrow expectations of what a successful relationship should be.

She is lying!! She wouldn’t be down for that. Is she turning into one of those Hollywood types? She would beat him down if she found out he was cheating on her.

Octavia you are so fly!!!!

CAN SOMEONE TELL HER PLEASE TO SHAVE HER DAMN LEGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DON’T GET THAT

THIS FAT HAIRY SLOB IS NUTZ.

First off, she needs to shave her damn legs. That’s gross.

Second- Ever notice how only Overweight BW get shows. Opray, Monique, Wendy W., Thea, Nell Carter, Sherry on the View. While the networks don’t allow White women to be overweight. Rossane, Rossie Odonell and Ricki Lake are the only ones I can think about, maybe there’s more.
This could be the reason why BW are accepting of being overweight. All these role models. Now who puts them on TV. White folks who own tv networks. mmhmm.

Think about it!!!

The devil is busy….Marriage isn’t even sacred anymore…If you want to hoe around don’t get married….PERIOD….SIMPLE AS THAT…” I don’t mind my man or woman going outside the marriage and messing around so they can bring me back an STD or AIDS or some extra baby mama or baby daddy kids to help them take care of”……P-L-E-A-S-E!!!!!!!! The devil is a damn lie

some of you people keep talking about she needs to lose weight, that’s fine; but if you don’t change your mentality as you lose weight, it does no good. her weight gain was probably emotional, therefore, she has to try to find all of those triggers that caused her to gain weight. it’s not easy, it’s hard.

some of you people that never had a problem with weight may not even understand what i’m saying. in other words, if you’ve never experienced weight problems, then shut your mouth.

It’s called low self asteem…

ill love a wife like tht but im not getting married

This is so OLD!

“But white women are submissive? smh im a white woman and this could NEVER go down”

“Her looks have nothing to do with it. What, pretty people don’t get cheated on?”

Both good statements. And if Halle Berry (to throw that name up) could get cheated on…come on.

This is yet another issue that adds to the whole problem. This is sad.

Monique has admitted what many women tolerate silently.It really is lack of self-esteem when you cling to a man who does not value you enough to be faithful.Not just sexually (which is the majority)but emotionally when he’s actually in love with another woman,even if he’s not sleeping with her.
She needs to stop fooling herself.

Why is it whenever someone professes to have a life-style or thinking away from the conditioning of decades, and generations. Especially when that person is a female the first thing that the learned and lay-person say is “oh she has low self esteem”, which in most cases is not the case. What has happened is the individual tried to fit into America’s ultra conservative ideal of what a relationship is and should be between male and female, when this life-style was not for them. If you want to see less devorices people stop making marriage and kids your ‘be-all, end-all’. Furthermore, women who do feel as Monique expressed, usually have more self esteem than women who practice traditional marriage etc…. This is because they are not afraid or concerned with competition, (that the other woman or women will take him away from them. Next they don’t look at it as a competion, where only one woman can win. Where-as in America damn near everything has to be a competion.
WHen it comes to STD,s: conversation, protection and caution.
P.S.: Why does the brother have to be gay because he has an understanding woman?

God isnt cool with adulterers though, even if they have the wife’s permission.

@ T

Your are exactly right!!!

NOW CLEARLY THIS IS THE WTF MOMENT OF THE DAY, THIS MIGHT JUST BE THE WTF MOMENT OF THE WEEK…NOW I KNOW MONIQUE DID NOT GO ON NATIONAL T.V. AND TELL THE WORLD THAT IS OKAY FOR HER HUSBAND…LET ME REPEAT MYSELF HER HUSBAND TO STEP OUT ON THEIR MARRIAGE…WHAT!!!HER RATIONALE IS THAT SHE AND HER HUSBAND HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR 20 PLUS YEARS AND THAT HER AND HER HUSBAND KNOW EACH OTHER…OKAY MONIQUE I WAS FINE WITH YOU BELIEVING IN NOT SHAVING YOUR LEGS…BUT THIS IS JUST ABOUT THE DUMBEST THING I HAVE EVER HEARD…FIRST OFF IT IS SO SAD THAT PEOPLE DO NOT BELIEVE IN THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE…MARRIAGE IS NOT A GAME…AND IS TO BE RESPECTED BY ALL…YOU DO NOT OPEN YOUR BED TO BE DEFILED BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU KNOW EACH OTHER…I MEAN REALLY MONIQUE…SECONDLY THE THOUGHT OF DISEASE AND THAT NEVER ENDING CIRCLE OF SEXUAL PARTNERS BECAUSE YOU KNOW EACH OTHER…THIRDLY WHAT KIND OF MESSAGE IS THIS SENDING, I CAN HEAR SOME FOOL TELLING HIS GIRL YOU SHOULD BE MORE LIKE MONIQUE…BUT REALLY HOW CAN YOU TELL GIRLS AND BOYS TO RESPECT THEIR SELVES BUT YOU MAKE A FOOLISH AND CARELESS STATEMENT LIKE THIS…MONIQUE WHERE IS YOU SELF RESPECT AND WORTH…NO WOMAN SHOULD THINK THAT IS OKAY FOR A MAN TO STEP OUT OR VICE VERSA …THAT IS JUST NOT ACCEPTABLE…AND SAD TO SAY MONIQUE IF YOU THINK THAT IT IS OKAY, YOU SHOULD HAVE NOT ENTERED INTO MARRIAGE A UNION…LEAVE IT TO THOSE WHO RESPECT IT…I CAN YOU OFFICIALLY MADE THAT STUCK ON STUPID LIST…I DON’T THINK YOU CAN BE REFORMED…

THIS IS WHAT A WOMEN SAY OUT OF EMBARRASMENT WHEN HER MAN IS A CHRONIC CHEATER AND SHE DOESN’T HAVE THE BALLS TO LEAVE HIM!!!

I AGREE WITH “La Mexican aka Shamerika”

I remember when she had the radio show and they would have this part of the show call “bathroom talk” I could tell on there that something about him was not right.That where all that “No jugement zone” come from. He get’s to Mo’s mind. something about this man ain’t right!!

Mo’Nique got the perfect set-up for this man. she pays all the bills and dude gets to live a lavish lifestyle from her hard work and sweat plus he can sleep with twenty other women and Mo’Nique is okay with this?He aint goin nowhere no time soon.

Sounds like she is desperate to keep Sydney and will allow him to get away with anything. That is crazy! I wonder if he has cashed that ticket in a couple times. SMDH! Just dumb.

@ Soul Touch. Cosigning with ya. Some might not agree but even with her talk I get the vibe that her opinion is what will make the audience applaud and never really genuine. She is indeed with very low self esteem. Doesn’t neccessarily have to be her weight. Could be her background. Its sad

Your far from comfortable and secure MoNique. You sound rather desperate with ur open invitation for an STD. I love my fiancee and I’m very secure but I’ll be dayumed if he gonna chop down some other broad. I’m secure with myself to acknowledge what it is to satisfy mines and him want just me. Dayum girl I have a minor in psychology call me if u need help…..lmao

Monique has lost her damn mind. I didn’t realize she had such low self-esteem.

Wow. You believe in institution of marriage but not the vows? No secure, high esteem woman or man (no matter what race and size) would be cool with that crap.

If that the “NEW” take of marriage and relationships….I will stay single. Monique I have lost alot of respect for you.

tht is da sickiest thing i hve ever heard in my life. wht a stuip thin to say.

DAMN THATS ONE FAT NAGR BYTCH!!!

Honestly I could forgive my wife is she cheated on me but, I could never ever forgive her if she emptied my bank account and took all my savings since I could never get that money back.

Hannibal yr funny!!! What ever works for Mo works for Mo!!!

People, Monique is not giving her husband permission to do so because she lacks confidence! In fact the very opposite. She is very confident that he could do the deed somewhere else (physically) but come right back to her and be there emotionally, physically and otherwise. It’s a tactful and underhanded way to control her man. Think about it–the forbidden fruit is tastey because you’re not supposed to or allwowed to have it. But make that fruit free and available–and its not so tastey anymore………. I’m telling you! Monique has the upper hand on this one.

Monique,
mama,
The saying is “Every woman needs to have a ‘gay-bestfriend!”….not “Every woman should marry their gaybestfriend to combat lonliness, when all else fails!”

We dont know what kind of relationship she had with her husband prior to marraige. If he was sexin someone else befoe they got married then she is accepting that he will do it again. She married him, she knows him and if she is ok with it than its her choice. I dont agree. If she wants to leave him she will. obviously she dont. I think she looks good with all her curves.

LMAO @ mantha baby. I 100% agree with you.

YOU KNOW I SEE ALOT OF COMMENTS ON HERE CALLING MONIQUE FAT AND UGLY AND THAT’S WHY SHE HAS TO EXCEPT WHAT SHE GETS. THAT’S FOUL! THE BOTTOM LINE IS THIS: I DON’T CARE IF YOU ARE A SUPER FINE WOMAN, IF I WANT TO HIT ANOTHER FEMALE I AM GOING TO DO SO. SEE MY MONEY IS PRETTY GOOD THESE DAYS EVEN IN A RECESSION AND I CAN PRETTY MUCH MOVE HOW I WANT SO I AM GOING TO DO WHAT I WANT. WHEN DID ANY BOOK EVER SAY THAT MONOGAMY WAS THE WAY. AS I SEE IT, FROM BIBLICAL TIMES TO THAT OF KINGS AND QUEENS THE MAN HAS ALWAYS HAD MORE THAN ONE LADY OR WIFE.

YOU WOMEN KILL ME WITH THAT “WHAT YOU WILL OR WON’T ACCEPT” CRAP. MANY OF YOUR MEN ARE CHEATING ON YOU RIGHT NOW AND YOU HAVE NO IDEA OR YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW. HELL–MANY OF YOU ARE DOING THE SAME EXACT THING-SO PLEASE STOP THE NONSENSE WITH THE COMMENTS ON HERE TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU WOULDN’T DO. AT LEAST MONIQUE IS REALIST!!!!

i like monique but shes a damn fool !

Shit! wow! NO WAY!

when he give u an STD don’t say a word!!! Big DUMMY!!!

Yeah it was this type of behavior that lead to my best friend getting killed by one of her husband’s jump-offs. Apparently the jump-off didn’t get that memo.

Monique grown and how she lives her life is her business. But when you go on national television stating your views be prepared to be criticized right or wrong.

I have a Theory. Monique is a smart woman and her age has given her some wisdom. This statement isn’t designed to make her look needy or helpless. This is a statement for all of the hoodrats that are going after her purse by trying to use her dude. She is saying yall aint gonna win over her…no matter if yall seduce her man. She will deal with him behind closed doors if that happens. Do it look to you like Monique play. Advice to you hoodrat gold diggers out there. If yall mess with anything that is Moniques you will not defeat her. I’m proud of you,Monique. Now that’s a real woman.

I really admire Monique but it is crazy to accept your husband cheating with anyone other than yourself. And her weight has nothing to do with it, she is a very beautiful person. Pretty women on the outside get cheated on to if not more. And Dr. Drake you a hot, a hottie!!!!!

QUITE A PITIFUL AND PATHETIC THING FOR HER TO SAY….AND IF HE TAKES HER UP ON HER STUPID OFFER THEN HE IS JUST AS BAD AS HER….

Now I see people just cant no dumber than they do. Now this shits funny.

Sidney’s a WELL KEPT man. I respect Mo’nique’s game cos, SHE’S bringin’ in the dough and I’m sure SHE imposed the whole “open-marriage” thing.
Do you really think Sid would give all that up?!?
PLEASE-That n*gga ain’t goin’ nowhere.
I just hope she’s not preaching this to her two boys.

Is this the same woman that was ready to cut the professor when he even looked at another woman???? lol

B won’t share her food but she’ll share her husband. Tsk Tsk Tsk

Ok.. someone wanted to add scripture to all this but left out a chunk of the beginning… THe bible references Gen 1:22 “And God blessed THEM saying be fruitful and multiply” Gen 1:28 reinterates “and God blessed them” which represents the santity between THEM (Adam & Eve) and the procreation process was the blessing between them not between Adam and somebody else so @ Lou your analysis of that text is incorrect. I understand your perception on “thumping” Christians but that has nothing to do with what the bible DOES Say. Shame on the thumping christians too..

secondly, call it what you want… We would have less STD’s and HIV (which nobody has mentioned) if one could adhere to principals. Monique risks bringing any and everything to her bedroom and putting herself at risk! This man risks spreading an infectious disease to countless others if he chose that way of life. Marriage (if followed according to biblical principal) is suppose to exclude defiling the bed in any way! Men and Women alike can justify this action for a moment of pleasure with random people if they like! We live in a day when morals are down played just for simply attempts to gratify ouselves and it does not matter if we are big or small. Perhaps its self esteem or abuse that leads to that behavior whatever the case, it can lead to other unneccesarry repercussions..creating babys un wanton etc… but we live in an era that lacks regard.

Tp those that keeps uses insults such as “fat” to justify this action, you are IGNORANT! Almost EVERY woman at some point of time gets cheated on (if you think you haven’t, your silly, WAKE UP). Case in point, Halle Berry has been voted the most beautiful PERSON on Earth several times yet she was cheated on by her husband! It has absolutely nothing to do with size, but more so the respect or lack thereof in the relationship….

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Open marriage??? Why get married?? Does Monique have any standards? If a person is going to go outside the marriage for ANYTHING that’s not okay by any standard, culture or ethnicity. Will and Jada and now Monique and her husband…what is going on with the people in the world these days? Some black and white are just settling for whatever as long as they aren’t alone, smh. That’s not raising the bar that’s being insecure, and scared as hell to get left behind!

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