Still Hot…you rock it girl…

Missy Elliot- Date Jesus
LOL

I am with her on the no pork eating thing. No pork on my fork!

Ok Chilli…I feel you. BUT PORK??? I will never understand what people have against it (unless it’s for religious resasons).

I got a job now, but since I love pork I’ll have to stick with the OTHER white meat…

Samoli, your new avatar is fierce!

@TheOriginalBlkBarbie In many cultures and religions pork is viewed as unclean and should not be eaten, also in Christianity the devil is told to be cast into the pigs body. I believe in Rastafari so pork is a definite no!

I’ve always been a fan! I’m tuning in. I’m loving her hair color by the way.

*reasons (correction from my last post)

@Matix…I hear you. I know that pork is considered unclean in many religions across the world (that’s why I specified for religious reasons). I am a Christian, but I do eat pork; however, I know many Christians that do not. It all depends on various interpretations of the Bible. To each his own, but I love pork lol.

Some people have no particular religious affiliation but they don’t eat pork. That puzzles me, but maybe it’s for health reasons or other reasons that I don’t understand. I am a very health-conscious person, but I just limit my pork intake. I don’t think I could cut it out altogether.

chili is he poster girl for the delusional woman of the new millinium….armed with a xmas list of traits they demand in men, they roam the earth looking for fantasy mates while avoiding their own shortcomings. A life spent in a hall of mirrors, surrounded by sycophants who are as misguided as they are , its a game of emotonal pin the tail on the donkey played by blind little girls.

@TheOriginalBlkBarbie Like you said to each their own, consider this; do you really have to have a man that fits your specifications to a tee? Or would eating pork if you don’t be a deal breaker?

@ PTAH PTAH U BABY

nah you got it twisted..a real woman know what she wants && will not settle for less than what she deserves..Little girl thinking…nah little girls are the ones allowing men to treat them n act however the feel..you got it twisted!

Damn Chili that would be my husband he does not drink, smoke or eat pork…and he is dark and handsome…sorry boo he is alread taken….

i bet this is VH1s piece of work. i never know it was so easy to get a tv show.

She should take her Shahada and marry a Muslim man.

WHY IZ THIS GAL HAVING TROUBLE FINDING A MAN?,…YUK AT YOU SWINE AND DINE CHICKS IN HERE …I KNOW YOUR CHIT STANK!

@ Anon

Alhamdulilah!! i know my husband has ALL those qualities!!!

@ Matix

Well, I already have a man that suits all of my specifications so I’m not sure exactly how I would respond in the situation. However, I think if it was him eating pork and me not eating pork it wouldn’t be a deal breaker. I know a couple like this. They have been married over 20 years and he eats pork while she doesn’t, their kids also eat pork and they are happily married. (I will say though that they typically don’t eat it in the household very often…usually it’s when they go out to a friends house, etc.)

Hmmm…I don’t know, but I think I could handle something like that if that was the ONE specification a guy didn’t meet. IMO.

IF URSHER P.A.S.S.ED ON HER FOR TAMEKA,.. THEN THAT DONT LOOK SO GOOD CHILLI ON HER PART,…SHEZ VERY FLAT CHESTED ,.. MEN LIKE T.I.T.S AND AZZ AND SHEZ LACKING BOTH ,..BUT HAS THE CUTEST F.UK FACE I MUST ADMIT!

I dont think she is being unreasonable. We all need to make a list of things we want in a man and I am sure we would date better quality guys instead of wasting time with people we will die trying to change.

Obama cound’t even make the cut as we’ve seen him smoking a cigarette and knockin’ back a bee–probably like ribs, too.

This is why she can’t get a man to stay with her. She isn’t THAT wonderful. She has muscles and curly hair. That’s it. She can’t even sing.

&& like Obama is the best MIXED man in the world!!!!????? hahahaha, the white mans puppet okay..American thinking got yall!! SCARY

shes never going to find anyone being that PICKY!

Anon
3/4/10, 12:07:pm
She should take her Shahada and marry a Muslim man.
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Seriously LOL

BAN “REALITY” SHOWS!!!

@ Matix B
this is barney in his true form!!

Good luck with that Chili.

I don’t even find President Obama attractive so that would be no water off my back. I get where she’s coming from. No point lowering your standards if the end result won’t make you happy. Compromise means nothing when it’s done out of durress.

it’s okay because she’s not marriage material to a lot of men anyway. maybe her list can keep her warm at night.

They say its harder for someone who is older to find a man because your standards change and you have more of them when you do get older. I think she has had her fair share of dating, she has a son, she has had success, she has been publicly played and she doesnt want any ol shish kabob fool coming around. It is not impossible to find that person and why should she settle? If there is no spark when you meet them and date them for a couple dates then why should she fake the funk?

Im not down for spending years trying to shape a man into something he is not. Let her take her time and wait for the right person that she feels is right for her. Too many people settle and thats why so many people running around here like some cockadoodle dandies sad and depressed and they HAVE a man!

“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.” Maureen Dowd

the brother with the bacon and cheese sandwich might be the one Just because you want a man that’s 6’5″ does not mean 5’11″ can’t knock the bottom out….just sayin’

Silly little girl, its not like she is no spring chicken the older she gets the harder it will be for her to find a man that has these qualities. My mother in law had a huge list of qualities that she was seeking in a man, that was 20 years ago and she is still alone.

@ Glok

Trust…nothing on me stinks.

Will be tuning in

She should be with a woman lol

ok if thats what she wants thats what she wants…but I mean no wine? Child bye..

I’m a big Fan of TLC, however chili your standards are too high, why the guys looks are so important to you, looks are not going to pay the bills, let me give you some advise please let’s not look at the outside of a person, the most important thing is the heart that is within a person soul, that’s deep and real love, you made have to stop looking and let the most high God put a man in front of you that will be good for you and your son God is faithful he’s not going to give you any old thing or mess, he has the best for you. Trust me looking for a man is not good nor the answer, do it the christian way let God do the work for you, he already knows what you need, and have patience, Patience is virtue…

Love ya!!

*GORGEOUS, SENSITIVE, VERY CHARMING. He can’t DRINK, SMOKE and EAT PORK.DAYYUMM!!!*

Yep, i made the right decision by sticking with my b l o w u p dolly. Ninja b*tches have too many unreasonable expectations.

Also, did intelligence not make her list?

she is almost forty(40) and still searching, if i were her i would try be realistic and stop having a list with 1000 demands…somethings seem obvious but they are actually not!

Lol,Chili not you to.Ok then if this floats your boat!

Co-Signing with Ms.ViVi

I’m single at the moment and I always have males asking me why I am. My answer remains the same, “I haven’t met anyone worth changing my relationship status.” So until I encounter someone worth my time, I won’t settle. I’d much rather be alone than to be with someone just for the sake of having someone. Nope! I know who I am and what I want. Yes, Chili is asking for a bit much, but I don’t really see a problem with it. She knows what she wants. She just needs to make sure that she has herself in check and is willing to compromise a little in certain situations. Because while we know what we want, we also must face the fact that NO ONE walking this earth is perfect.

Now we kno for sure Urshr. does’nt eat “pork”. We’l see if Chilli gets who she wants!!!

Yeah she is looking for a muslim. Sorry chilli but you needs to chill. He can smoke, he can drink and eat the swine – but be in moderation though. Why take your time and kill yourself with it when you can enjoy those things in moderation. But hey that’s what she want – hope she finds it.

No man of mine will eat swine either.

I’m a vegetarian (but will eat fish)…I can handle the eating of chicken…possibly beef, but swine is a disgusting meat.

Smoking…well, as long as he works and pays his bills he can steam some green stuff. After all, what’s he doing to do while I meditating. lol

Women like Chili are alone for a reason. She’s 40 and very, very set in her ways. There is nothing wrong with having standards and needs to be met, but her list of demands is just ridiculous.

I understand being burned and her fear of being burned again because she “lowered her standards before” but sweetie you can’t honestly believe you’re going to find a perfect man. Everyone has flaws and things to work on and Chili clearly has some deep rooted issues that she still needs to work on with this unreasonable idea of perfection she’s searching for.

Like Missy said – date Jesus!

this is waht i feel….she misses Usher….he cheated….he asked for another chance. she said no…now she trying to find love….she should give it a shot…..

That’s why her dumb a$$ is single!!!

@Bow Down

My mom’s trick is letting it soak in wine, it takes away that lamb smell.

glad she has standards,

whether she’s a ‘hit’ or not…

Go Chili, looking good..

BOW DOWN HEATHEN!
LAMB,… IT DEPENDS ON HOW YOU SEASON AND COOK IT ,…THE WAY I MAKE IT THE CHIT WILL MELT IN YOUR MOUTH!

the 2nd guy is a cutie and she looks like she’s into the white dude.

@ PTAH PTAH U BABY
3/4/10, 12:00:pm

chili is he poster girl for the delusional woman of the new millinium….armed with a xmas list of traits they demand in men, they roam the earth looking for fantasy mates while avoiding their own shortcomings. A life spent in a hall of mirrors, surrounded by sycophants who are as misguided as they are , its a game of emotonal pin the tail on the donkey played by blind little girls.
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Love it and co-sign…..

@ Bow Down,

I’m with you! Why she tryin’ to act like she wasn’t hoe’n around back in the day? I mean I know people can change and mature, and I’m glad she did but let’s be real about this ish! And out of the 3 ladies of TLC Chili was definitley NOT the brightest bulb of the bunch!!!

@ WHY IZ THIS GAL HAVING TROUBLE FINDING A MAN?,…YUK AT YOU SWINE AND DINE CHICKS IN HERE …I KNOW YOUR CHIT STANK!
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exactly what i’m thinking,, WHY IS SHE HAVING PROBLEMS, HER CHIT AINT THAT GOOD…I HEAR SHE GOT A REAL FUNKY ATTITUDE..AND YOU CAN ALMOST SEE IT A LITTLE, SHE’S DELUSION, A FAILED ARTIST AND BROKE, YOU’D THINK SHE’D BE MORE HUMBLE…

like her hair color,finally glad she changed her hair,but I think she’s a little too picky,most women who are, usually remain alone,need to hurry,because most men turn to younger women

Wish her well in finding “that man”!

In the end, this broad’s husband will be about 2 inches long, and runs off of a single battery. Washed up former celebrities tryna reclaim fame on TV is about the most played out thing goin’. No thanks.

So, even the leader of the FREE WORLD isn’t good enough for some of you single ladies.huh? I have a Theory about that. Maybe its because SOCIETY isn’t good enough to be around your perfect arshes. Maybe you should take the first ROCKET SHIP away from society here on Earth & marry a Martian. They meet all of Chili’s standards…I think. Whatever you do, stay away from normal men,women & children. Your disease of “No one is on my level” BS is incurable & dangerous to humanity. This attitude is also destroying families. Do more than just read your Bible, try to actually follow some of its commandments like Do unto others? Judge not? and so on……

You can definetly find a perfect cut buddy, but for anybody who says their SPOUSE matches the 10 qualities they wanted it will be at least 20 quailities they won’t tell you about that they can’t stand….ok he don’t eat pork but he is still fat as hell and you wish he’d workout. He don’t smoke but he sells dope. He don’t drink but he stlil smacks you around when yall fight……bottomline is real love won’t matchup with a checklist. And what I’ve learned is the qualities women say they can’t stand in a man are usually possessed by the guys they end up with in the end….It’s one thing to have standards and another to dump a guy b/c he likes to drink cognac sometimes or wants a bacon cheeseburger.

@ I like hittin men AND women in the back

I highly doubt that. I’m still young, nowhere near Chili’s age. I don’t give out “samples”. If we’re not in a relationship, then you’re getting nothing from me. How did it sound like I wasn’t taking my own advice? I stated that I know what I want and I do, but I also realize that no one is perfect. I don’t just get into relationships and as soon as I get the first sign of something being wrong, run. I always try to work things out, but there is no changing or “tweeking” some people, that comes from within. And excuse me for not being willing to wait around for someone to change because 9 times out of 10 they won’t.

I’ll def be tuning in

i’m w/ you chilli. it’s hard mama.

YOU MIGHT HAVE HAD SOMEBODY ALREADY WHO JUST NEEDED A LITTLE
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touche’ and agreed…

noone is perfect..

BTW: whoever has Laurence Fishburne’s avatar, it is bangin…I love that man, such a GREAT actor..

Stop messing with Gay dudes and you’ll find with you are looking for Ms. Chilli…..better yet get the h*ll outta dodge (atlanta)

@ Glok…

LOL ok. Believe what you want to believe. I said I eat pork. That does not mean I gorge myself with it. I have plenty of other meat in my diet, as well as lots of fruits and vegetables.

Beans REALLY make for some stinky gas. Now what you got to say about that?

@ Glok

BTW: There are people who do not eat pork and their gas is VERY unpleasant. Mine, however, is under control…although I’m not sure why you’re so fixated on it.

Truth is, what she wants a man ‘not’ to do are things that lower your spirit’s vibration. She wants a man that is straight with his energy in order to connect with her. Pork, even in the natural world/not religious world is pretty well known to carry parasites that some other meats don’t. Had she wanted a vegetarian too – I’d be mad impressed. It’s all about what hampers your spirit – it sounds like that’s the track she’s on. Props!

**sigh** another reality show that has no real basis on reality about the life of a so-called singer seeking out a potential maybe parter…none for me…thanks anyway…(rollin’ her eyes in aggravation).

I don’t think having standards is wrong, but you have to be realistic about what you are going to find and what you are doing to hamper finding that man.

Another d.a.m.n. reality show… *sigh* VH1 should just be changed to RTV. Reality television. Right along with MTV….

She would do better if she was OK with a man that drank, ate pork or smoked but was kind and honest. These are things she demands of herself but shouldn’t put on others. I don’t eat pork or smoke. If I loved a guy enough I would work out the rest. I detest smoking but have dated men who smoke. My boo now doesn’t smoke but he eats pork and drinks. He is cool if I don’t cook pork and I’m cool if he orders it out. To each his own.

SHE NEEDS TO ASK GOD FOR THE MAN SHE NEEDS AND NOT THE MAN SHE THINKS SHE WANTS. IT IS OBVIOUS THAT SHE CAN’T PICK A MAN. TAKE THAT BACK SHE IS TOO SHALLOW AND PICKY. SHE WILL NEVER FIND THE PERFECT MAN BECAUSE SHE HERSELF IS NOT PERFECT. CHILLIE NEEDS TO CHECK HERSELF INSIDE OUT. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO LOWER THEIR STANDARDS BUT AT THE SAME TIME BE REALISTIC.

So basically what Chilli’s looking for is a strict muslim…She looks good in that pic tho:D

I’m sorry but I think Chilis list is so superficial because she is. She is beautiful and a singer…period. She is not running the country. She got a baby daddy. She aint exactly a catch other than in the looks department. She is not going to have sense enough to want the things that really matter and none of that mess she said does.

It’s not hard finding a man trust. It’s finding the right man. I was once married 14 years and divorced for 10 now. Been engaged twice to the wrong somebody’s and I knew it. People get caught up in thinking you have high standards but reality is who wants to get married and get a divorce just because. All my friends have been married twice and now divorced. They married the wrong somebody. I would rather wait then to get married 2,3,or 4 times. It only takes one time to get it right. Trust Chili is doing it right.

ooooooo it look like it is going to be good!

PRETTY PIC DAMN HER SHOW.

f’ck off with your mixed and light-skinned bullsh’t!!

I have very high standards also, so I can relate to Chilli. She is also a single mother, so she has to be careful about the men she dates.

i’ll eat a pig’s posterior if you cook it right. And yours too, if you know how to make good gravy.

So as long as there’s no pork he can cheat lie and hit her if he looks good too? Where was honesty faithfulness non-violent? Damn…..

Another show about a lonely black woman….

OMG I ALWAYS AMIRED CHILLI AND I TOTALLY LOVE THE SHOW I NEVER KNEW SHE WAS SO DOWN TO EARTH. I’VE BEEN SMILING THOUGH THE WHOLE SHOW AND IM NOT REALLY INTO REALITY SHOWS BUT I LOVE THIS ONE GOOD LUCK GIRL !!!!!!!! U R BEAUTIFUL AND FULL OF JOY GOD IS GOING TO BLESS U WITH THE BEST SOUL MATE EVER….

Chili rocks!

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