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Get it Girl!…Looking just lovely.

I’m 30 and not ready.

Just bought a house and enjoying being independent…waking up at noon, buying a new jacket, enjoy going on dates with my guy.

All my siblings had kids 35 and up.

WOW…I HOPE SHE HAS NONE DEN, SINCE SHE THINKS SHE WILL DO A BETTER JOB WITH A DOG! SMDH

MY ADVICE IS TAKE UR TIME & MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A STABLE ENVIRNMENT FOR A CHILD….& NOT HAVING’M TO KEEP A GOT D8M MAN…

Feel the same way and I am 38. I have known since I was eight that I would never be a mother. Some women are just not maternal, better to acknowledge that than pop out children that end up being unloved.

Who cares!!! My boyfriend thinks the same with me. He- is eight years older than me, lol. We met online at an age gap dating site- A_ge_m_in_g l e @ c//o//m a nice and free place for Younger- Women and Older Men, or Older Women and Younger Men, to interact with each other. Maybe you wanna check out or- tell your friends.

Why do people like this woman…she seems like such a stuck up airhead to me and she’s not that fine

I will not lie and say I dont think about children but its very possible that I will not have any and thats ok. I’m 30 and I think I rather enjoy my life without them. I can honestly say I dont want children

Damn shes old!!!! I co-sign with her… she is annoying as it is. Doesnt need to reproduce. I would feel genuinely sorry for the child.

Even if she felt that she should keep that to herself. Considering the fact the man she is dating has two little boys….. The more Gabby opens her mouth the more I loose respect for her….

she is so beautiful!

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I would appreciate the support!

I think motherhood is an individual choice.Every woman honestly doesn’t have the=at maternal feeling and her feeling that way should be respected.I would rather a woman that can admit that rather than having them and not appreciating them…raising children is not something everyone is cut out for….

Ever since I could remember,I always told my parents i would bring them 10 children!!We stopped at 8,the smallest one a year old now.My husband now has a vasectomy so I won’t be having more,but i would if i could!!I could not see my life without them!!

I don’t blame Gabby at all, I’m 30 and married but don’t know if I want children yet.

I’m not selfish but the world is hell, I’m not sure that I wanna bring a child into this place, and that is my honest concern.

@cat eyes
You have 8 kids! WOW!
I hope you had 4 sets of twins.

@cateyes, my mom had 7 kids, there is a lot of love in big families. Congrats to you and your hubby.

The comments from some of the men on this one is sad and upsetting.

She is attractive.
she is NOT old
She has a right not to want children
So what if her man has 2, maybe that was a deal breaker for her not to have any!

Damn,

leave her alone, she’s human.

MoonP

I love her and she is gorgeous…each to their own!!

At least she is honest ,, you dont have to sneak around and find out about it later! Go Gabby!!

I don’t know what I feel about her but she comes across and needy and unstable even though I hate the world needy… Having children I sure is a lovely thing when you are ready… Many woman are not ready when they have children usually it’s for the wrong reasons or out of reckless choices and selfish.. When I come across really happy wives and mothers that is because they planned this place in there lives instead of just letting it happen…

I respect Gabby for being up front about not wanting children. It’s better than her being one of those women who shouldn’t be allowed to spawn, but has a litter nonetheless (see: Octomom).

Dang, Boss:

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@CAT EYES

“I think motherhood is an individual choice.Every woman honestly doesn’t have the=at maternal feeling and her feeling that way should be respected.I would rather a woman that can admit that rather than having them and not appreciating them…raising children is not something everyone is cut out for….

Ever since I could remember,I always told my parents i would bring them 10 children!!We stopped at 8,the smallest one a year old now.My husband now has a vasectomy so I won’t be having more,but i would if i could!!I could not see my life without them!!”

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I agree with your perspective and think the world would be a much better place if folks understood their needs/limitations. It seems like the news is bombarded with stories of parents who hurt (physically and emotionally) their own children, so it’s clear that not everyone is cut out to be a parent. At least she knows herself well enough to know she’s not “there” yet, and might not ever be ready to have a child. Kudos to you and your hubby on your family!

Having Children is a HUGE life changer! I think black women are pressured into to having babies young because of the misconception that it’s the norm. All my friends have children, mostly out of wed lock or serious committed relationships, and you know what the majority of them are miserable.
‘Nuff guys ask me why I don’t have kids and I simply reply that I haven’t met the right man, plus I am single as in not married, divorced or separated. Raising a baby by myself is not my idea of having fun.
I won’t settle for a baby father! Not saying that I have to get married but having a life partner is a goal. Women please don’t feel pressured to become a mother is you are not ready. Ultimately you are the one who will bear the most responsibility for that child, so make informed decisions about your life before it’s too late.

Like the messy huuur that could lead to something, wink wink!!!

Wait a second! Are you people serious??? Beyonce is 10 years younger than this woman, and some of you posters are the same ones always preaching about Bey needing to go somewhere and have some babies! I have never seen such hypocrisy.

Good for u Gabby <3 Some people just aren't ready to be a Parents.

There are MANY people who are horrible parents and should have NEVER had kids. I respect anyone who decides not to have kids, rather than give into pressure to have kids. They will only resent their children and that’s never good.

And for those of you saying 37 is old…. clearly you are only 12yrs old…. Lol! You will learn…

she says she loves bringing people together, well exceptions are made in dwade and his family’s case bwahah trick go hoome!

Why would someone think that 37 is old. Its the new 27, you see she got D wade on pu–y patrol.

Team Gabby, she is beautiful and successful. All she wants to do is, make sure her bills are paid; and there’s nothing wrong with that.

@ Cat Eyes and Butterscotch…sooo true! What is the problem with her not wanting to have kids?? People kill me with the “you less than a woman or selfish” comments when you state you dont want kids!! Why should I subject myself to something I dont want to deal with! If you love bearing and raising them, KUDOS to you! However, I, like Gabby, dont even think about children and to bring them into such a dysfunctional, mad mad world, is to each its own!! Me personally,I dont have that maternal instinct and I’m just fine with it! Oh and love the free spirit, extra money, and calmness that my life possess, sorry if you dont agree, but ummmm, I’m Happy and my sweetheart has kids so, no pressure from him either!! LMAO And glad to hear her struggles are mine….JUST WANT TO GET THEM BILLS PAID and plan my KID-FREE vacations!! lol

@Miss u much MJJ
No,there’s only one set of fraternal twins.The rest just came one by one!!My oldest, she’s 22 will be 23 in October,the youngest just turned 1 in January.The last one was a shock though because i hadn’t gotten pregnant in 8 years,we thought we would just have the 7,but yes,i’m done..I just hope all my children have some though,that worries me somewhat…

It’s her choice. She has rights and liberties as an American under the Constitution ,… her rights should be respected by all her loved ones. Period. Shouldn’t she be able to choose her life’s path? Just a theory.

@ Call Tyrone
I so agree with you. I hate the term baby mama, and I thank God that it doesn’t apply to me. Kids are expensive and a Huge responsibility. I see so many women with kids and all they do is complain about what there life was like before the kids. I don’t ever want to be that woman. Children are a gift from God, and I want to be able to experience the joy of motherhood along with my soon to be, wherever he is husband
I like Gabrielle’s honesty, and the fact that she spoke about loving herself. I think she’s very level headed, intelligent and I hope her and Dwayne are very happy.

DID D- WAGE DIVORCE FINALIZE YET.. IF NOT HYPOCRIT..PRETTY SURE D-WADE WIFE HAD MORE THAN TOILET SEATS TO COMPLAIN ABOUT.

she is not pretty just an average black woman…. why the fuss?

@ Theorius Stylez

Since when did the Constitution work for blacks?

Ahhh yes………The art of making evil seem fairseemingly! Keeps us zzzzzzzzzzzzz

bi tch gonna crying in 20 years time when all she’ll have in her life is some mutt she got from the dog shelter.

@New World…Brotha!
Why dont you read it so that you know your rights and liberties. There is a difference between the two; and if you cant tell the difference between having free choice and being someone’s property or being hung or killed for being caught reading a book, then you are an ignorant fool that deserves everything that happens to you. Know your history so that you can know what choices you do have, then you can plan where you want to go and the type of person you ultimately want to be. Hopefully, you dont want to stay being a fool, but being a fool is your right under the Constitution, and someone die for you to have that right too, Moron.

Correction: someone died for you to have that right too, Moron.

@ New World Brother
Change doesn’t come to those who wait for it. You must do to get. I know life is hard for black males in America but you must be the one to make a choice to free yourself from oppression be it mental or physical.
Our legacy has been carried forth by the blood of our ancestors and by you essentially giving up you lose your rights to freedom and make their sacrifices worthless.

I CAN RELATE IM 27 AND DONT WANT ANY EITHER I LOVE KIDS BUT THEIR JUST NOT FOR ME.

I AGREE WITH-SIMPLY SAID.
MORE MONEY AND PEACE OF MIND I LOVE IT.

Well that’s her choice, although I feel like her reason behind why is a lie.. She don’t wanna take time from hollywood, becuz she knows it wouldn’t miss her. Also 37 is not the new anything. That’s why so many adults still think they are young. 37 is just that 37

That is a beautiful, black woman. No matter what her age is.

She knows what her priorities are in life, gets out and experiences new ish…. works out with a trainer!!— Scratch that. Works out, period?!!!

I luvvvvv me some Gabby.

some don’t from a young age and then when they do have children they love them dearly Ms Union should keep her mouth shut she’s a decent actress not great even some academy award winning actresses have admitted they didn’t always want children or were even scared of them until they had their own for example Joanne Woodward supposedly at one point after her daughters were grown admitted that before she & Paul had their daughters she was always scared of children and then after the loss of her first pregnancy in miscarriage in 1958 she was more scared of loss than the thought of children of course her academy award for best actress in a leading role was bittersweet as her miscarriage had only occoured about 6 weeks previous to the ceremony

she look whiter everytime i see her, i see the white race have gotten to her, she ain,t black no more,black women ain,t gonna be satisfied to they all turn white.

Thats because she’s a f’ing b!tch! Who would want her as a mother anyway?

her womb is not relevant…..nobody cares about it……its like on the D-list of wombs to care about

people should only have kids when they are unselfish and able to give unconditional love and attention…..

if every hoodrat and trailerpark $lut kept their legs closed there would be less strain on the world’s resources….less poverty being perpetuated and less child abuse….

It’s selfish to create a whole new human being
just because you want a baby with no thought
to the things that person will endure in their life.How is it selfish
not to have kids? Pure foolishness.

The problem with children is that ANYbody can have them, and that’s the problem, the ANYbodies are having them. The SOMEbodies have enough sense to know better until they are ready. If a lot more birds out there were mature enough to know that children take a lot of time, work, and energy, our communities wouldn’t be so fked up.

Lol…you ladies don’t know what you’re missing. Some of you only feel that way simply because you don’t have any children and can’t fathom the love and joy you feel when look into your child’s eyes. Your entire perspective changes when you have children. Don’t be so quick to make a decision that will last the rest of your life.

She sounds like me. I don’t have or want kids. I like my house quite.

A “gut full of human” has got to be THE MOST disgusting way to describe pregnancy E-V-E-R!!!!

@Enjoy life Gabby! There will be plenty of neices, nephews & cousins visiting

I agree!

Now this my kinda’ woman! Not only is she self aware, but she also recognizes the folly of havin’ children for the sake of havin’ children…+ she has an (obvious) strong workin’ knowledge of female contraceptives which is a rare commodity indeed amongst most black women. KUDOS!

Reading this post and some of these responses is a good thing, because the ladies who are deciding to wait have choice.

I just put myself through school, I am looking to buy a house in the near future, and then I plan on going back to school next Aug, how can I have a child????

It is not feesible nor wise to just have a child for its sake. As black women we are so forced to care for others, that we end up dead last. I was a young child, caring for small children. I had adult responsiblities and adult stress as a 10 year old

My time is now as a young woman in her 20s to care for myself and make good decisions to build my future

I was raising children when I was a child. I grew up without self identity, self worth, and did not know proper boundaries.

I asked God to help me make better decisions because I felt so confused.

Now things are better and I make a conscious effort to build myself into a strong woman.

There comes a time when you need to say no and put yourself first.

Good Luck Ladies
The Happy Bunny

^^^
btw,I’m 23 years old. I might change my mind if I happen to find a respectful man who I know fo sho will have my back FOREVER….
But until then, I really just want a male partner who wants the same out of life as I do.

I just don’t dig children. Young people are interesting and I have young friends which is lovely. I can play an auntie type role and give them advice but I don’t want my own. The man I am going to marry has accepted that choice, I was upfront about it from day one.

I don’t judge people who choose to procreate and think they should afford people who want to remain child free the same courtesy. We are harming no one, unlike the many parents I read about abusing and neglecting their children.

@Happy Bunny

Good for you!! And I cosign 1000%.

More Black women need to take control & break the cycle of being unprepared to bring kids into this world. Most are backwards. They need to care about #1 first: establish themselves, their self-worth & gain stability and control before doing the simple-minded thing (laying up & having babies by a man who will not be there in the end).

When Black women put their responsibilities off on their children (to raise the younger ones), they are being abusive for robbing that child of their childhood. If you are not ready to be a Mother & let children be children and have a childhood, then you are not ready to have a child. These kids often grow up messed up and in prison (from joining gangs & committing crime where they are turned-out and become twinky-toes on the DL and released back into society to wreak more havoc in the Black community).

@ Bk Diva “Selfish ppl don’t want kids…”
NOT TRUE!!! A selfish person would have a kid JUST! because someone or society thinks they should! (to have the right image) then give their children less than their ABSOLUTE BEST!!!! THAT’S SELFISH!
A wise person allows God to lead them! And even in biblical times…every women was not born to bear children!!!!
I’M A MOTHER! AND LOVE IT!!!! THE GREATEST THING I’VE DONE TO DATE!!!! But! I would never be so self righteous to say my way is your way or you’re wrong!…THAT’S IGNORANT!!!!

I love being a mother and wife.
We had a child after eight years of our relationship. It was unplanned, but our son was the best thing that’s ever happened to us. Every morning he brings us joy with all the things he does. Wait if you’re gonna wait, and to those that don’t want any, that is also a blessing to know for yourself that parenthood is just not the path for you at this time, moment, or period. We both definitely wanted kids, but at a later time after we took advantage of more opportunities the world had to offer.

So more power to Gabby!

Also, the average woman begins to become infertile by age thirty-seven or earlier.

Women stop playing as if you have a large amount of time and pick wisely. I reccomend that Black women in their 20′s should date men in their late 30′s to mid 40′s. Think about it.

There is something about Ms. Union that I don’t like…she rubs me the wrong way. I generally have no issue with finding the good in all people but her…I don’t know.

As for kids, I was pretty neutral about having kids. If I had them great, if not great. I was by no means a maternal person and, I’ll admit, found kids to be somewhat annoying (I’ll feel horrible admitting that). That all changed in 2005 when I was blessed with a baby boy. I love him to pieces and cannot imagine life without him. Shucks, all kids are beautiful to me now b/c I see my son in them. It’s weird. So, for those that don’t have kids and are adamant about not wanting them, I say do not block your blessing(s).

There’s nohing wrong with that..She just wants to focus on her career..And I used to feel the exact same way, until I met the love of my life..Either way, I’m not mad at her, at least, she’s admitting it and not having babies out of wedlock. She’s single and hapy with it..GREAT!

nothing* excuse typo

What I find interesting in Gabby’s statement about not wanting kids, is the way she expressed it. I think we all (esp. women) are biologically programmed to want to reproduce to continue our species. I think some women feel it more so than others, but to not have it at all- that desire, or even a thought. I find that odd! It’s one thing to have come to a conclusion you don’t want children due to social, economic, or health reasons. What she said is that she never “think of children”, and that being 37, to not “think about wanting kids at all or look at babies and go ‘ooh’!” Maybe she’s lacking a genetic component or something.

Check this out:

” I have more of a chance of adopting animals on the street ”

SEEMS LIKE SHE IS FED UP OF MEN

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Thank you Gabrielle Union for being honest about not wanting kids.

So many Americans adults feel the same way you do
-but it is radioactive to say so,
it’s the third rail of American society.

I can think of 1000 things I’d rather do than change diapers or clean up vomit and piss.

But Madison Avenue, our Government, and Organized Religion ($$$) have shoved the idea down our throats and forced many to accept it as the only “Normal”.

At the age of 37,
you finally have the ability to THINK.

Most people who have kids are YOUNG and DUMB.

Keep THINKING for YOURSELF Gabrielle, don’t let anybody think or make decisions for you.

Not all women want kids, the society is messed up making women think they have to have kids, there are enough humans on this planet already!