Ok so…WHY WAS THE HUSBAND NOT SUED AS WELL?

He was the one lying to her about their relationship. Am I missing something? Do tell.

I wish they had this in New Orleans.. We’d all be paid

Jump-offs, flash broads, and side pieces should be punished for their hoe-like behavior

Why not sue the husband too. He’s the one that was married and kept lying to her. When will there be legal actions taken against a husband and wife that cheats? They are the ones who took those vows. Always wannan blame the outside person. The married spouse is the skank cause they are cheating on 2 people.

Okay…should’nt her husband be the one to pay. I mean after all, he is the one who chose to take a mistress. Hell that lady did’nt do a D.A.M.N thing wrong. Are you serious married men keep the bills paid, spice in the bedroom and in a new car lease.

Who want to reap the benefits from an already ruined marriage. She (the mistress) saw it as an opportunity no to work so hard.

Don’t worry mistress, ON TO THE NEXT ONE!!!!LOL

this would definitely keep them husband-stealing- ho’s at bay…my mom is going thru it wit my dad..they been married for 30 yrs…and the ho knows my dad is married…i wonder if this applies in NY??…hmmmm

wow! I wonder what the ex-husband has to pay.

She shouldn’t of got paid a dime.Her husband did it to her why do women always somehow forget the man.The mistress wasn’t married to her.

I think there will be more law-suits if this law was in other states. These are the states where this law exist if anyone is interested: Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah

I’m happy for the wife!
Marriage just doesn’t mean the same as it use to to some people *smh* but hey 9million dollars, good for her!

sue the cheater as well not just his hoe…..

THATS RIGHT I WOULD HAVE SUED THAT HO TO. WHY NOT. AND FOR THE RECORD WHEN I LESVE HIS CHEATING AZZ IMMA TAKE HIM FOR ALL HE GOT ALSO. WHEN A MEN TELLS YOU HE MARRIED WHY WILL YOU STILL PERSUE HIM, BOTH OF YOU DESERVES EVERYTHING YOU GOT COMING. I WONDER IF THAT GOT THAT IN CALI? IT WILL MAKE THEM HO’S THINK TWICE.

I agree that the husband should be just as accountable. But maybe this will be a deterrent to women who feel like this type of ho-ish behavior is acceptable. If they refuse to participate, then these sorry-a.s.s, cheating-a.s.s men will have no choice but to be faithful to their wives. And maybe, eventually one day everybody will go back to the days of respecting the sanctity of marriage.

even though the mistress isn’t married to her she was a active participant who wasn’t in the dark about his marriage! they BOTH are equally wrong and will reap the harvest for their dishonest ad hurtful actions. I know you all want to blame him, and that’s valid, but it doesn’t exclude her! they BOTH should pay! for all ya’ll know she may be the type that purposely goes after married men, don’t excuse the mistresses when they’re educated in the mans relationship status and STILL sleeping with him.

You can always tell who the hoes are on this blog. They always taking up for the “other woman”. LOL

Good for her! This just goes to show all the woman always taking up for mistresses that MEN LIE, TO THEIR WIVES..OH SHE’S JUST A FRIEND.. I LOVE YOU.. THAT DON’T SOUND LIKE THE WIFE KNEW SOMETHIGN WAS WRONG THE HUSBAND JUST WANTED SOME AZZ. LIKE ALWAYS BUT MISTRESSES ALWAYS BELEIVING IT’S CUZ THE WIFE IS SOOO THIS AND SOOO THAT. GET A CLUE.

@candence

Ain’t that the truth..always trying to make it COMPLETELY THE MANS’ FAULT… don’t get me wrong he is WRONG., BUT SO IS THE WOMAN.

I am positive that there will be an appeal and I’m sure she won’t see a dime. Please see litigation on floor 3

BOTH should pay. That tired excuse of “I thought he was separated” is a lie. These women and men WANT to violate.

Many women I know say “someone took my husband, so I’m gonna do it to someone else.”

So they can feel like you felt.

Truth is, folk in committed relationships are off limits and all parties need to be held responsible.

yes, it’s up to a married spouse to respect the marriage, but what does the jump off get from inflicting themselves in another person’s relationship. They really need to send that person back to their mate.

Cheaters will always be here, because they will ALWAYS find someone to cheat with. This is why the law is needed. EVERYBODY RESPONSIBLE FOR DESTROYING MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES SHOULD PAY. Folk don’t care about nothing till it hits their pockets so to the North Carolina former wife:

BIG UPS TO YA!

KA CHING!

Obama running on family values should sign THIS bill into law. Cheaters are skeezers and need to be held accountable for their actions.

Used to be when folk cheated, they had discretion, now in the day of instant celebrity, the lack of integrity is astounding. Cheating and proud of it . . . dang!

If you ruin or help ruin another person’s family or marriage, you should pay and not get paid.

But the way the world is, the skeezier, the better; which is why Tiger’s mess is all in the press.

All those women KNEW he was married, but went through with it anyway? And now, they should be rewarded?

Tramps getting paid today like nobody’s business just because we love looking in someone else’s bed and bedroom

Sick sick Sick . . .

PAY UP ALL YOU JUMPOFFS AND MISTRESSES AND GO FIND A MAN/WOMAN OF YOUR OWN.

Good for her. After putting in all those yrs in-she deserved something. The likelihood of her ever getting that money is pretty slim but it did make a point.

If a man or woman wants to cheat-you cant change that. Making laws against cheating would just clog up the already overworked system.Cut your losses, chuck deuces and go on with ur life.

@ Nique Speak on it!
“If a man or woman wants to cheat-you cant change that. Making laws against cheating would just clog up the already overworked system. Cut your losses, chuck deuces and go on with ur life.”

Mistresses should get nothing!!! If you are alladat, why not make him get a divorce before starting to mess with him? For history will repeat itself; if he cheated with you, he will cheat on you . . .

Life 101

I am happy for the wife however the man should be accountable too! But one thing we know for sure….whether the judge decides or not on a case like that….GOD is the ultimate judge and they WILL pay for their sins!

@WEEZEE is that what you want?

I am going to get up a petition to have this legislation in my state. Real Women unite…. WE GONE TAKE THAT SHYT TO TRAIL…LOL

Great for her! 9mil? not bad @ all..sh!t! lol

Well see what happens during the appeals process this will likely be struck down drastically , although NC and couple states have some laws where this can actually take place…and no while I dont condone it , there will never be anti-cheating law we have enough problems in this country already with the legal system as is….

fantasia is next!

@ Nique–

I kinda feel you, cuzzo but in a sense, I think it should play out in court (such as this case). It makes a statement! Besides, you must go to the city (or county) to obtain a license, right? Why not let it end where it began?

@WEEZEE…Yes , but i’m glad for that. I know the basics. I said that because the way you mentioned it was like she ain’t getting nothing no way… but it’s all good. I hope she gets it and if not at least she got it in the press….

Bottom Line: Men/Women, if you want someone else, leave the one you’re with…cheaters NEVER prosper…

All these chicks “side eyein” the wife while stepping out with her husband must realize–the cost of jewelry, shoes, getting your nails and hair did, (YES I said DID) and taking trips might end up costing YOU more in the long run!!!

@1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals-I’m just too good to be true!!

But why go through all the extra drama? Obviously,he doesnt want you-so let that situation go. The only thing that can come out of something like that is bitterness, hate, anger-basically anything negative.I’d rather spend that time, and effort finding the man for me and living life.I think the biggest statement you could make is showing a n!!gga u still standing.

wheres the ho gonna get 9 mill from?? who’s he f.*c.k.ing. on the side oprah….?

@drenk

wheres the ho gonna get 9 mill from?? who’s he f.*c.k.ing. on the side oprah….?

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lmao! that’s real talk, I was wondering the same thing myself. You never know, there’s some high profile people walking around here with major bank. Maybe he was breakin’ off a successful doctor, attorney, ceo….

GET RICH SCHEME ,..NOW WOMAN WILL ENCOURAGE HUBBY TO CHEAT ..AND FIND A RICH BYTCH TOO ….WE CAN MAKE MILLIONS…I CAN SEE IT NOW!

@glok

GET RICH SCHEME ,..NOW WOMAN WILL ENCOURAGE HUBBY TO CHEAT ..AND FIND A RICH BYTCH TOO ….WE CAN MAKE MILLIONS…I CAN SEE IT NOW!

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I have ALWAYS believed this was Shar Jackson and Kfed’s plan all along…*shrugs shoulders*

@ Nique–

Yes, in a sense, we should pick ourselves up and get on with our life but at the same time, we know that the probability of the wife receiving the settlement is slim to none, the message that it sends out is powerful!

Ok, so she gets some money. Is that going to stop her cheating husband from cheating again? No, because he isn’t make to suffer the consequences for HIS INFIDELITY.

I know women love throwing shade on the jump off (and yes, they are wrong to be in a relationship with a married man – dead wrong and trifling), but HE’S THE ONE WHO MADE THE VOW AND COMMITMENT. HE COMMITTED ADULTERY. Adultery means voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse. MARRIED PERSON -get it ladies? Quit spending your energy mad at her when you should be made at your dumb arse man.

Women love making excuses for there cheating husband. They wanna jump on the other woman yet lay their fat arses down, flapping those fat thighs open for her man who will do it again. What’s his deterent?

@AnonymousGal

I think it’s obvious that the marriage is over, and for me being the kind of person I am, I would just move the eff on and not be bothered with the nonsense anymore. But I am not mad at a woman leaving and taking EVERYTHING with her…meaning take HIM for all he’s got and HER…why not???? If they both got it like that, I could TOTALLY understand this situation…

Bachelor’s For LIFE

Yeah, I’ll let it go alright! I’ll let it go from savings to checking! I’ll let it go from IRA’s to a Roth account!

Lol!!!!!

Caramel Cat™
3/23/10, 12:51:pm
@AnonymousGal

I think it’s obvious that the marriage is over, and for me being the kind of person I am, I would just move the eff on and not be bothered with the nonsense anymore. But I am not mad at a woman leaving and taking EVERYTHING with her…meaning take HIM for all he’s got and HER…why not???? If they both got it like that, I could TOTALLY understand this situation…
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Caramel Cat, I would move the hell on too. I’m not mad at her leaving nor taking what she can get. My point is he should be made to pay, not the jump off. She said, “We wanted a number high enough that it would keep other people from … going after other married spouses.” What makes her think her husband didn’t pursue the jump off? These women kill me. He could’ve said no. SMH.

CARAMEL
MAYBE THATZ WHY SHE KEEP TELLING THAT LAME STORY ABOUT THEY WACK AZZ BREAK UP EVERY CHANCE SHE GET HUH?…SHE MAD CUZ K-FED GREEDY AZZ GOT HER CHOCOLATE PIE AND BRITTANY VANILLA, ICE AND CREAM AND FOUND ANOTHER VANILLA HE DONT WONT HER MUDD PIE NO MORE!

@AnonymousGal

Agreed. But you could also look at it from another perspective. For those men out there on the prowl for some outside azz the women they solicit may begin to fear a possible lawsuit coming their way, and this may deter them from allowing an affair to take place…I do think that no matter what people will cheat until the end of time, but it can’t help to add a little more sting to the outcome…

Make these homewrecking heffers pay. A lot of these jumpoff and mistresses pay a lot more than nine million to do the ish they do. I mean we have all heard about how they put holes in the condoms. Pay to be at events they are not even invited to and much more.

I’ll put it this way–

I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man. However–the ONLY reason I didn’t step to the chick was because–

1. He and I were NOT married.
2. She and I didn’t know each other.
3. She did EXACTLY as I instructed by keeping her mouth shut and staying her a/z/z in the car!

@glok

I’m mad at your food analogy…lmao!

Yeah, I think that Shar is full of it to a degree. I don’t even know why she’s on Celebrity Fit Club because last I heard she took some of that Britney money and got a liposuction procedure and tummy tuck. I guess all that didn’t work out like she thought it would…

I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man.
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Short too? LMBAO.

I think if this law were enacted in other states it would just lead to more law suits. People are going to cheat regardless, especially men! I think the only thing it would lead to is putting muzzles on the h.o.e.s to keep them from running their mouths since men can’t even control them anymore.

The HO will make sure the cheating husband helps her pay the $9mill. Justice has been served!

Both of them are at fault. i wouldnt go back to his cheating azz. you can go be with the trick now cause neither one of yall gonns have ish after i get finish with you. i dont care if he did go after her she had to find out he was married. when she found out she should have cut his azz right then but she didnt and now she’s 9 mill short. smh. and him his sorry azz should have divorced her if he didnt want to be with her. i say take him to the bank too

Suing the sidepieces doesn’t seem fair when most of the husbands lie about their marriage status. This is crazy!

Ladies stop blaming the other woman cuz your man can’t keep his shyt in his pants…
He is the problem, not the hoe…

CARAMEL…WOW ,..WELL IT WORK OUT FOR K-FED…CUZ HE AINT THINKING ABOUT HER DUMB AZZ NO MORE, HE GOT PAID,.. BROKE AND FAT AND STILL AINT PICK HER AZZ…I MEAN BRITT KIDS IN ELEMENTARY NOW AND SHE STILL ON THAT WEAK 1999 STORY,..MOVE ON !

very interesting. never heard of this law. i wonder how long the mistress will drag this out before going to prison for nonpayment?? yeah this should spark a whole new frenzy in lawsuits over there lol. i wonder which other states do this? if i get married that’s where i’m moving and i’m not much of a fan of north carolina.

1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals-I’m just too good to be true!!
3/23/10, 13:01:pm

I’ll put it this way–

I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man. However–the ONLY reason I didn’t step to the chick was because–

1. He and I were NOT married.
2. She and I didn’t know each other.
3. She did EXACTLY as I instructed by keeping her mouth shut and staying her a/z/z in the car!
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ROTFLMAO……… SHE KEPT THAT AZZ IN THE CAR. SHE WASNT A DUMB ONE.

The wife was on the Early Show today. No where is it stated in this post that she had asked her husband for a divorce 2 years before he started seeing this woman. So how is this only the mistress fault. The wife tried to play the victim but she knew that it was actually her who stated she didn’t want to be with him anymore. Bottom line men cheat because so many women are willing to cheat with them. She knew he was cheating she turned a blind eye to it as first. Then decided to get even when she saw he didn’t care what she did.

good, she need to pay. Now when she standing in bankruptcy court she can take the time to think if homewrecking was worth it. Its not ok to break up a family, children can be involved. The man gets his punishment in divorce court if it goes that way.

Ummmm She’s forgetting that HER married spouse went after this other woman too! Mistresses get no love but straying husbands need to be held accountable too!

Oh and thx for the info rock star. i’ll spread the word to all my girls lol

I’ll Aways Be…
3/23/10, 11:59:am

Jump-offs, flash broads, and side pieces should be punished for their hoe-like behavior
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I’ll Aways Be…. STUPID? Aways?? lmao sorry, that was a side note… my real note below.
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I feel sorry for both women actually. Men are trifes. I’d like to know what he’s paying out!!! There are always many sides to the same story, and a billion stories. We’re so quick to judge on a sliver of information.

This will be appealed and overturned. Doubtful this woman has 9Milli layin around to pay out. It was a symbolic victory at best. The wife won’t see a dime from her. I’d bet anything on that. But what a victory for the wife, huh? There’s nothing like vindication!!

1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals-I’m just too good to be true!!
3/23/10, 13:01:pm

I’ll put it this way–

I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man.
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LOL Girl you stay having me ROFL.

I have to agree she should go after her husband as well…but I guess b/c they’re still a “unit” maybe.(they have not divorce yet???)..dk…however more than likely she wont see that money but it was the point. (and I could totally understand where’s she’s coming from) People are way too risky with their behaviors, nevermind morals…and this is one of the problems that are plaguing our community. This “me me” attitude no giving an eff about the next person or a situation at hand. Like some commentors on the blog stated before when ppl were creeping or whatever, they had shame. Nowadays its more profitable, acceptable to be a jumpoff/mistress and then speak about your trysts to get that 15 mins. SOMETHING IS DEFINITELY WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE….

@1TruDiva

I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man.

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Girl, why were you with him in the first place?! lmao!

drenk said: wheres the ho gonna get 9 mill from?? who’s he f.*c.k.ing. on the side oprah….?

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exactly. it ain’t a victory unless the check is in the mail.

@ MS. D
3/23/10, 13:17:pm

The wife was on the Early Show today. No where is it stated in this post that she had asked her husband for a divorce 2 years before he started seeing this woman. So how is this only the mistress fault. The wife tried to play the victim but she knew that it was actually her who stated she didn’t want to be with him anymore. Bottom line men cheat because so many women are willing to cheat with them. She knew he was cheating she turned a blind eye to it as first. Then decided to get even when she saw he didn’t care what she did.
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Why am I not surprised???? You know, I knew there was more to the story. Women shouldn’t mess with married men, but I have to say… I know TOO MANY folks who stay in bad marriages for all the wrong reasons because they’re lazy, and scared, neither one wants to make the first move because they don’t want to be the bad guy.

If that’s true about what you said about the wife, she deserves a beatdown. Pride comes before a fall.

Time to start setting up all the dumb hoes.
Fantasia is first!!!

@Bliss

You got me over here singing Gladys Knight…

“It’s sad to think, we’re not gonna make it
And it’s gotten to the point where we just can fake it
For some unGodly reason we just won’t let it down
I guess neither one of us
Wants to be the first to say good bye

I keep on wondering
What I’m gonna do with out ya
And I guess you must be wondering that same thing too
So we go on go on together living our lives
Because neither one of us
Wants to be the first to say good bye”

OK, I’ll start the ish… why is the, ahem, “Ho”, so dumb?

Who is dumber? The lazy heffa who marries the dumb triflin cheatin a$$, so she’s got her security and ‘wife’ status, and think she doesn’t have to work, or the independent, self-sufficient, educated woman who’s out there going to school and working full time and doesn’t need a man to support her but might want a little sausage without buying the whole pig????

Puleez. Most of you are living in your little idealic worlds clinging to your labels and the good book, and can’t see past your noses into the real world.

@BLISS

Nevermind this situation, but are you married?

@1TruDiva,

Dont think you can be cheated on if you arent married.

@kigali

ROTFLMBAO!

@ Bliss–

Silently,I’m nodding my head to your last post.

I know a woman in a situation RIGHT now that is married and her husband is cheating.(Yes she knows)

The thing that gets me is–the standard of living that she’s acquired since she’s been married is much more than when she was single–coupled with she has a 5 yeard old. that the man has pretty much stepped into the role as father. She doesn’t work, he’s in all sorts of activities while she’s reduced her household duties to nothing.(I guess in retaliation)

I say, this marriage is doomed. I just can’t for the life of me understand why women put up with some things just for the sake of saying “I’m married” or “me and my husband!”

Why didn’t she sue her husband he’s the cheater….This is something dumb to get some laywer paid…..Man up leave the cheater and move on …..nothing else to be said…

Most people are not trying to ONLY blame the man and alleviate the mistress of all responsibility (for those of you claiming that people are taking up for the mistress). They are BOTH responsible though and that man needs to cough up 4.5 of that 9 milli.

@1TRuDiva,

My heart goes out to your friend. Must be a hard situation. But it comes down to self esteem. I have a friend who’s going thru a divorce currently with a 5 year old as well. And she’s accostomed to a certain standard of living as well. She’s having a hard time financially, but it’s better to lift her head high and be happy with herself FOR herself, and for the sake of the message she’s sending to her son. Period. Your friend needs to find a place of healing and restoration of self esteem, and find the courage to tell this man to go eff himself, then take him to divorce court. If he’s got the money to have he live a certain way, she’ll be fine… if she doesn’t do this, then she just wants to stay home and be a lazy housewife. And hey, that’s her choice…i’m not judging either way.

@ Memphis Belle

I see what you’re saying. I just think that he should pay. Somehow. 9 milli is a lot and that husband should pay some of it. Somehow (lol). Spousal support better be a hefty sum.

Absolute nonsense and a waste of taxpayer’s money!!Her problem was with her husband.

@Bliss

To answer your question neither one is “dumber” than the other they both are just lazy when it comes to men.

The married one is too lazy and probably too scared to try to make it on her own and leave the comfort, secure zone of being married, especially if she’s a house wife like the woman this post is about.

As for the “independent, self -sufficient, educated” woman she could have any single man that she wants. It’s pure lazy to go after some one who is already taken. And it speaks more about that person’s self esteem to choose a relationship where you accept being a side piece. Not being number 1 in that person’s heart, choosing to be in this disrespectful position. What’s the point of having all of the money in the world but still at the end of the day feeling lonely, disrespected and unappreciated?!

On another note being “educated” as far as book learning is great, but having common sense is even better when it comes to life.

There are too many women today with a lot of book knowledge but very little common sense.

We need to work on that my sisters and respecting each other.

HELLO her HUSBAND did not respect their marriage… why is she going after the mistress?!?! SMDH your beef is with your husband not the otha woman IMO!

This will only bother the woman who willingly put herself in the jump off position… Yes the husband should have consequences to this as well but usually it the jump off causing problem wanting her position and the wives she puts her own self out there… Why should the wife just set back and do nothing when there are laws made for her to do something if she is smart enough or willing… This man/ husband knows his wife way better then the other woman he should warn her azz.. Hopefully this will make other people think twice because I am sure it was not worth the 9 million dollars to the other woman…

@BLISS: Nope I’ve nevered went after a married man. It’s just common since that if he’s willing to cheat on his wife, a union that Jehovah God himself put togther, what makes me think he won’t do the same to me? He will. Besides, I’m too cute for that foolishness! Married men try to hit on me all the time. The 1st two questions that come out of my mouth is, #1 Are you single? & 2# How many children do you have? Followed by #3 Do you have a job, #4 Who do you stay with & #5 Do you have a car? Most men lie anyway and you have to find out the truth by getting a phone by a woman saying, “I saw your number in my man’s phone. How does he know you?”

@Bliss

Loved the fact that you tried to play devil’s advocate.

@ Everyone Y’all need Jesus! Why did this even make the news. Ima pray fo y’all. Where is Creflo?

@1Tru diva

xoxo…

@ Kigali–

I still love ya, hun!!

OK, folks–

There’s a radiation table with my name on it so I have to bounce!

I’ll check back in later. Until then, PLAY NICE!!!

*1TruDiva has left the building*

@1TruDiva

I know EXACTLY what you are speaking of, that’s why I asked BLISS if she was married (still haven’t gotten an answer) because no matter how you view the situation BOTH people should be punished. Of course the husband should be punished, that honestly goes without saying. But the trollop who moved in on and lacked respect for the institution of marriage needs to pay too. I know how I am, and I would likely leave my husband and move on with my life if he ever cheated and I found out. But, I have observed other marriages where there was cheating and it was absolutely amazing how much trouble the outside person caused even when they were told to go on about their business by the cheating spouse. I don’t see anything wrong with suing the outside person for alienation of affection, I see ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it. And, just because a married man pursues you, doesn’t mean you are within rights to respond to his advances. The end all be all, bottom effing line is that there is a marriage that needs to be respected by any and all parties.

@1TruDiva

I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man.

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LMBAO!!!!!

@ B3. I did!!! I did!!! Thank you for recognizing! And you’re right about what you said… it is pure lazy.

My point is the words ‘go after another person’s man’… most of the time they are pursuing you, and you got nothing else going on, the single men are slim pickins and dogs running multiples lying… and you have these other men pursuing you while you’re trying to do the right thing. I am sad to admit that i’ve been stupid like that and got caught up in the game once, a long time ago. And paid a heavy price for it… both with my self esteem, and with men I dated afterwards judging me for it. So, I’ve been on both sides.

Peace.

@ Caramel Cat,

YES, I am married now.

@BLISS

Gotcha!

Caramel Cat™

I see nothing wrong with it either chit everything is changing now days I am glad to see one that address the emotional damage that men/ woman leave behind… Most cheater don’t understand the destruction they leave behind because they are just on to the next one…

@ Nique He sounds like a Winner

“I’ve been cheating on and yes my beef was with my unfaithful, scandelous, ashy feet, skidmarked drawers, stretchmarked arms, SHORT, chicklet teef man.”

BLISS
3/23/10, 14:18:pm

@ B3. I did!!! I did!!! Thank you for recognizing! And you’re right about what you said… it is pure lazy.

My point is the words ‘go after another person’s man’… most of the time they are pursuing you, and you got nothing else going on, the single men are slim pickins and dogs running multiples lying… and you have these other men pursuing you while you’re trying to do the right thing. I am sad to admit that i’ve been stupid like that and got caught up in the game once, a long time ago. And paid a heavy price for it… both with my self esteem, and with men I dated afterwards judging me for it. So, I’ve been on both sides.
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That still makes you smarter then most because some people never learn or have any remorse for the things that they do to other people…

@resurrected

Im not knocking ol girl for doing what she did-Im actually glad she won. What I am saying is that I dont think it would be wise to make this common law in every state. The system is already working overtime, y add to it? Yes, u all took vows and he will pay for that when its time to meet his maker.Why spend ur life fighting something as ridiculous as this?

ya’ll keep saying its onesided what u think she aint take him to the bank also…come on….the marriage is over…..im going to the bank on both da behinds…..alimony/childsupport and ho support….hello….lol

@Bliss

Well at least you learned from your situation.

It all comes down to respect. The cheating spouses clearly disrespect the vows that they made. And when they do that I believe they should be held accountable.

For those single people who are made aware during the relationship or from jump street or who clearly pursue married spouses this law should be made for them to put them in check. Because marriage is supposed to be respected and when they do this they clearly show their lack of respect for other people’s marriages.

I don’t think this law should apply to those ppl who weren’t aware they were seeing married spouses.

Anyway back to work. Later all…

@WeeZee

LOL! I know right!

BLISS said: My point is the words ‘go after another person’s man’… most of the time they are pursuing you,

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you ain’t lying. i’ve had pastors, co-workers, and strangers step to me with NO SHAME. they have their ring on and i have my ring on. they don’t give a FUGG! it appears to be in a woman’s nature to blame the other woman because they refuse to believe their man is out there like that. it’s like a coping mechanism.

Also….I know women who SPECIFICALLY GO AFTER MARRIED MEN….

@ CARAMEL CAT

@1TruDiva

I know EXACTLY what you are speaking of, that’s why I asked BLISS if she was married (still haven’t gotten an answer) because no matter how you view the situation BOTH people should be punished. Of course the husband should be punished, that honestly goes without saying. But the trollop who moved in on and lacked respect for the institution of marriage needs to pay too. I know how I am, and I would likely leave my husband and move on with my life if he ever cheated and I found out. But, I have observed other marriages where there was cheating and it was absolutely amazing how much trouble the outside person caused even when they were told to go on about their business by the cheating spouse. I don’t see anything wrong with suing the outside person for alienation of affection, I see ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it. And, just because a married man pursues you, doesn’t mean you are within rights to respond to his advances. The end all be all, bottom effing line is that there is a marriage that needs to be respected by any and all parties.

GIRL YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD !!!

That’s what the F**k I am talking about, yes the husband should get his to but the chick new he was married and still slept with him that is what the heck she gets. Look out home wrecking H**s. You get everything you deserve, this just made my day.

Was this woman rich because 9 mill is a lot and the average person does not have 9 mill just waiting in the bank?

@BKLYNSIS: Sorry but dad is the bigger ho, he is the one married. If the ho knows he’s married, don’t dad knows he’s married too or did he forget and he’s the one messing up his long term marriage to mom. I’m just saying!

I feel only the married people owe each other anything. This is absurd and ridiculous and should be appealed. She was not a part of the marriage at all. What is it with people being upset at the other person? Get a grip lady! I hope she gets this appealed!

Cadence

3/23/10, 12:16:pm

You can always tell who the hoes are on this blog. They always taking up for the “other woman”. LOL
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Niasia

U can actually be mad a both but the other person owes you nothing but on the flip side if your state particiates in the law and you are aware and smart enough to go for it then I don’t see the problem because it is legal and gives the other person something to think about… That 9 mill will give her something to think about for a life time way longer than the affair and the sex… It’s call check mate…

How in the hell would she expect someone outside of her marriage to respect the sanctity of HER marriage. If her husband didn’t then far be it from someone else to do so. These who is me b!tches get on my nerves always crying victim for the household they can’t manage to keep together

Ladies and Gents one last time !!!

WHY DO THE LADIES COME ON THIS JOINT AND SPIT FIRE ABOUT CHEATING BUT DUDES ARE QUIETER THAN A BOBBY BROWN CONCERT IN 2010 ON THIS SUBJECT ?

WHY ???????????????????????

I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca ! said: WHY DO THE LADIES COME ON THIS JOINT AND SPIT FIRE ABOUT CHEATING BUT DUDES ARE QUIETER THAN A BOBBY BROWN CONCERT IN 2010 ON THIS SUBJECT ?

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cause they know they’re creeping and they know they’re wrong. why bring the focus onto themselves when there is a red herring (the other woman) already out there?

Every man does not cheat because he is not happy but just because he can because so many woman make it accessible to them… I hate when men lie to get puzzy but I guess on the other side that woman wants to hear that lie as well because no excuse would change your character.. The truth is most woman would do it anyway and maybe that court experience is just karma…

I just had a friend who left her husband because he was cheating but as soon as she got out of the situation now she is cheating with a married man now… So why leave your man for doing it to you if you are going to go out do it to someone else causing another woman the same pain that you just left… It really showed me that people are just selfish nothing more or nothing left…

This is ridiculous and pathetic. For starters the “other woman” or “other man” doesn’t owe you SHIT. Nobody should chase after a man or woman who is taken but they didn’t enter a relationship with you or take vows. They owe you NOTHING. So to sue them is ridiculous. The people who are IN the relationship are the ones who are obligated to uphold and respect it.

The fact that this is even allowed in courts is ridiculous and the only reason she got so much is because other women are so insecure that their man will leave or cheat too so they sided with her.

It’s funny how the husband wasn’t sued. HE was the one who cheated on her and “alienated” her not the other woman. But of course she’ll never hold him as accountable. I think it’s unfortunate that society has conditioned women to hate the “other woman” more than the man who has actually done them wrong.

I doubt (and hope) that she’ll ever see a dime of that money.

Like I said earlier this week….if women stop being willing participants the men won’t have anybody yo cheat with. So, she got what she deserved and the wife has shown that she is not to be played with and her husband “WILL” be dealt with…trust!

@resurrected
3/23/10, 15:50:pm

I just had a friend who left her husband because he was cheating but as soon as she got out of the situation now she is cheating with a married man now… So why leave your man for doing it to you if you are going to go out do it to someone else causing another woman the same pain that you just left… It really showed me that people are just selfish nothing more or nothing left…
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WOW!!! Co-sign 1000%

sorry “yo” to “to”

@ FREE

Thanks . And def true !

resurrected

That still makes you smarter then most because some people never learn or have any remorse for the things that they do to other people…
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People don’t sell dreams of trust and honesty, not here, not in the real world. Cheaters have and will exist until the end of time and a whole lot of people engage including some of you commenting. Monogamy is forced on you and deemed unnatural. How many women would stay with a man if he told you that he needs a variety in his life? There’s goes honesty.How many of you saw the reluctance in your mans eyes before marriage but pursued it anyway? There goes trust.The signs are always there even in the beginning. No one wants the truth, you love the illusion. Men and women must fulfill themselves in order to be whole. Your partners happiness should not be built on what he can do to make you happy that’s your responsibility to yourself. He first must make himself happy, whatever that entails. Love is suppose to be unconditional(includes cheating) but is it really now? She spoke the same vows as he. You can’t have it both ways. Do you really expect someone to sleep only with you for the rest of their lives? People please. I say scoop your man up, brush off the past and get ready for a new beginning. This has been going on too long for us to be unable to work it out.

resurrected

3/23/10, 15:48:pm

Every man does not cheat because he is not happy but just because he can because so many woman make it accessible to them… I hate when men lie to get puzzy but I guess on the other side that woman wants to hear that lie as well because no excuse would change your character.. The truth is most woman would do it anyway and maybe that court experience is just karma…
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You betta say it!!!!! spit the truth. Now we having chuuuch!

hit the lotto, but aint gonna see a dime….

@whatever

I don’t know what point you are trying to make, but there is a big difference between a couple who has an open marriage where both parties are aware that either one or both of the parties are sleeping with other ppl vs. the marriage that is the topic of this post where the female obviously made vows and her understanding was that her and her husband were going to be in a monogomous relationship.

Cheaters need to either remain single or get involved with LIKE-MINDED individuals, simple as that!

I never understood why heffas can’t wait for the ink to dry on divorce papers when they meet a married/separated man. I’ve yet to hear of a situation of where all went well for the “other woman”.

Ma… should sue AK.

Men are going to start killing these old battle axes if they keep this up. no one going to stay faithful to their wore out VJJ for a damn life time.

If my husband is f–ing another woman ,I’ll confront him about it not her.This woman acted like her man was blameless in this case.After all he is the one who took time to sink his wick in her oil pot.

i like this law because it actually shuts the hoes up!

so tired of all these jump off kiss and tales! this in addition to getting half of what cheaters make yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

DATS JUS 2 DAMN MUCH…IF D HUSBAND WASNT GONNA EVER MAKE DAT AMT N HIS CAREER 2 GIV HER, DEN SHE SHOULDNT HAV BEEN AWARDED DAT MUCH…PLUS SHE KEEPS TAKING HIM BACK!!! BUT ON D REAL, WOMEN NEED 2 LEAVE FOLKS HUSBANDS ALONE. ESPECIALLY N A STATE WHERE WOMEN CAN SUE SUCCESSFULLY 4 ALIENATION OF AFFECTION…THINK DIS IS WHERE D WHITE WOMAN WAS FROM WHO WON A CASE YRS AGO.

The woman is the one being sued because she knowingly entered into a relationship with a married man and knew she was destroying a marriage.I am sure the man will pay through the divorce settlement. I think it’s great this skeezy h0 has to pay up. It’s more important that the woman pay, because if they man if forced to take all the blame it would not (hopefully) prevent future side pieces from going after taken men. Lesson to skanks, stay away from married men!

This is bull!!! 90% of the time the husbands are lying about them being married anyways!

If you can’t keep your s@#% right and your man or woman don’t respect you enough to leave you rather than abuse your affection. That is the fault of you two who took vows. Don’t bring other people into your dyfunction. This is marriage….. I use the courts to keep my man or woman home. This is the bs gay people are fighting to gets rights.

Good for her:)

I DO NOT THINK PEOPLE SHOULD BE ABLE TO SUE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF CHEATING. DO YOU KNOWW HOW MUCH TAX PAYER MONEY WOULD BE WASTED. IF YOU AINT DOING WHAT U NEED TO DO AT HOME DONT GET MAD IF YOUR HUSBAND STRAY.HOW CAN MONEY EVER REPAY WHAT THAT PERSON DID. I DONT THINK THE WIFE WILL GET A THING.

I would say the husband has already been sued. I’m sure the divorce settlement was highly in her favour. I like that law and that ho is gonna think twice before she sleeps with another man! I support this law!

Well whose to say the husband won’t pay? If this is all in the beginning stages then the divorce may not be all the rolling yet. Divorce is a lengthy and drawn out process. I’m sure since the marriage ending is HIS fault he will be the one paying alimony. So she will most likely will get her day in court w/ him too, if she hasn’t already……

I do not condone adultery, but this law is wrong. Their is a reason why the vast majority of states (including DC) have done away with them. Affairs of the heart should only be dealt with in divorce court. This wife was on The Early Show and she stated that she and her husband had been separated and she didn’t want him. She gets no sympathy because she simply did not want the man.

I’m willing to bet money this was not the first time her husband cheated on her. Unless this other woman put a gun to his head and forced him to break his wedding vows, then this is a ridiculous law. Amazing how many idiots are on here saying “Good for her”. This is just another frivilous lawsuit that, if it becomes a new trend, will end up costing taxpayers.

Well obviously if he was cheating on her then it was something that she may not have been doing for awhile. Maybe it wasn’t working between them and wifey got mad and sued because he found someone else. TAKE CARE OF HOME ladies… if you’re holding it down in your household in all ways then no other woman would be able to disrupt your marriage!!!

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Why should the husband have to pay too? In relationships where the bf or husband just looks at another woman the gf or wife gets mad at the woman. Why should this be any different?

SMH…I don’t know how many times biotches got mad at me bcuz their man was staring. D a m n, pretty up and take a bath maybe he’ll look at you instead

I’m done.

Really, truth be told… this is some bullshyt. Women lie, Men lie, wives lie. Aint a woman on Gods Green Earth that doesn’t know when her man is cheating. Just because she choose to be blind or ignor the fact doesnt entitle her to 9 million. I mean come on now! Thats the stupidest law if i ever heard one.

AND JUST FOR THE RECORD, I am a married mother of 5, an am faithful, an when my husband cheated I KNEW! I choose to get over it an move on with my life. I had that option. I controlled my own destiney in that issue. I didnt allow it to stress me or emotionally overtake me.

She was vengful an scorned, “VENGENCE IS MINE SAYETH THE LORD” She may have gotten the money but she will continue to be unhappy!

You cant blame the man, you cant blame the OTHER WOMAN, you cant blame the wife alone. All parties had a hand in the dissolution of that marriage…