Everybody that can have kids don’t need to…

no duuuh

STOP THE BEATINGS AND DO THIS INSTEAD.
find good things he does, and praise him on that behavior. Scold, but don’t spank, for bad behavior.children need an adult role model that they want to get the approval of, that they can look up to … someone that will praise him for little things and show him some love.

Start stomping these crumbsn*atchers from toddler age.

I rarely got my a$$ beat bc that fear was already instilled in me early on by ma dukes. I KNEW she didnt play…

I say raise a child with a Bible in one hand and belt in the other…If you can not speak the Word of God into them…then beat the Hell out of them….

Of course they need correction but nowadays if you spank a child they can call the cops have you arrested!

Daisy is correct, and the only thing is no dont beast them but the way white folks do is not a good way either.. time out.. please these kids now days laugh at time out, some kids need a good butt spanking! Stop being like white folks and let your damn kids talk to you and run all over your azz, call you names and tel you to shut the he** up!! Thats where the problem is too! I vote for the good ole fashion butt whipping, dont have to beat them.. trust i got my butt spanked and i lived to tell it and you best believe my lil badd azz deserved it!!

typo .. beat!!!

@daisy

Take ur simple a$$ to Dr. Phil…

If that actually worked then we wouldnt have as many bad a$$ kids running around. Spare the rod, spoil the child.

Children need discipline. If I tell a kid, “No” verbally and u continue to disobey, I will follow up with the physical.

Trust me , my mom use to swap her across the butt in the grocery if we acted up, and one white lady said .. “oh thats child abuse’ my mom was like i wish you would call the police on me, I will tell them the same thing i told you… this is my kid , i birthed this kid, i feed this kid, i clothe this kid and when this kid acts up i will spank this kid! Thas what wrong with these kids today.. no sense of discipline , they feel they can do what they want and then these ignoramus folks have the nerve to pay Nanny 911 to come and teach them how to raise these smart mouth bad azz kids!!

whooping is only 1 part of it, whats the point of whoopin a kid if he/she grow up in a violent household?

Daisy I understand where you are coming from, but different things work for different children. My children are both straight A students and very well-behaved at school. I praise my son and daughter for a job well done. I can punish my son and he may go 3 months before getting in trouble again. My daughter on the other hand is a whole different story. I punish that child, spank her and a few hours later she is back to doing the same thing that got her in trouble from the get go. My grandmother says that my mom was the say way as a child, so I guess it’s in her damn genes.

praise them when they do something good as well as whoop them when theyre bad

Y’all remember “the look”????

Sh!!!!!!!!t, just that alone and the thought of what might happen discouraged me from anything stupid.

If a parent already has that “look” then they rarely have to use the belt.

Beating a child might work for a little while, but I don’t think it’s effective in changing behavior. After a while, you get immune to the physical punishment. You learn how to take the 5 minutes and then you keep stepping.

Psychological discipline is best, in my opinion. Kids are going to be kids. They’re going to try you, regardless, because that’s what kids do… but instill fear in them… get in their mind, and you have a better chance of actually changing their behavior

I’ve always found a rolled up newspaper to the nose does wonders…..oh this is about kids.

WHEN U BEAT YOUR CHILD U R DOING THAT TO END YOUR FRUSTRATION, NOT TO CORRECT HIM. THE BEST WAY TO BE A PARENT IS TO BE A ROLE MODEL. CHILDREN LEARN BY MISTAKES.

@daisy

Do you have kids? Judging from your response I think not. While I agree with a portion of what you said about complimenting them on the things they do well and scolding is ok but that can only go so far.

I have a 5 year old and I tried the spanking thing at first because it worked on me and my brother but I found taking the things that he loves seem to set him straight more than hitting. But I still use that as a last resort.

Mind you there is a difference between spanking and physical abuse (breaking kids arms, etc.)

I believe the reason why we have all these crazy kids is because their parents:

1. Were kids themselves when they had them.
2. Have some kind of substance abuse problem.
3. Don’t care and leave them to raise themselves. Or let the street raise them.

A role model does wonders but children have to have a solid foundation when they are younger.

stop quoting the bible in regards to children. u don’t quote the bible on matters that pertain to adults like “if your eye offends u pluck it out” stop it! there is a LOT of violence in that bible

Beat ‘em! (and fyi, it’s not just a black thing – white and indian children got their a s s es tagged in the street where I grew up as well. Indian parents don’t play either.)

most of all KNOW YOUR CHILD is like A SPONGE. so when u say foolish things like, “i’d kill him if he did that to me” the child learns violence is the solution to all of life problems and stop cursing

Not all kids need whippings, but some do .. bottom line and i was one who did and got them to and i appreciate my parents for spanking my azz, because i was a smart mouth and a fighter, but i never stole or never been arrested and i respect adults and i will give you respect if you respect me.. other than that.. its on!

be a role model – the child is EMULATING YOU. give him loving attention – negative attention is better than none to the child. he’ll act up just to get attention

Develop “the look”…have a good leather belt available…and trust,if that child has an ounce of sense and respect for who u are, then they will stay they a$$ in check…i,e (mother or parent…not yo friend) then you will have a happy productive child who always stays in his/her place…simple

Btw, I personally am much happier that my mom and I developed a friendship after her raising me…

I was at my chldren’s school a few months ago and a parent came in there acting a damn fool. Her kid was at school cursing out teachers and trying to fight them. Instead of beating the kid down right there in the office, she starts cursing out the teacher and the principal. I was thinking to myself yep I see where this kid gets it from. A lot of children mimic behavior that they see.

black people as a group don’t want to learn new things to move forward. the past is not always the best way. in many cases it is the wrong way. break generational curses.

When you beat your child you are taking your frustration out on them. It should start with the parents be involved, stay on the child, them, teach them to respect themselves,family and of course the elderly. Too many want to parent from afar claiming I have to work, the children are our first priority. Know who, what, where they hang around with friends and if they are bad influences break that up. Praise them because they all want their parents to acknowledge they are loved and special. Give them LOVE.

thank you hope4. carry on. i have to run errands.

@daisy & @ hope4more

yeah right,in a perfect world.

Do you not look at the news daily to hear how children are reaking havoc in EVERY community!!! U r right parenting from afar is never right, but moms and dads have to make ends meet…and that in their absence theis children need to know how to act right without eyes about them all the time…Daisy not sure what Dr.Phil episode you got that ish from…hahahaa

@ mimi79

wow that sounds like someone i went to school with, he was off the walls when a teacher would try to reprimand him, then one day his mom came in to complain and pulled the same act her son would, i think it was just a situation of her having a kid a real young age cuz she looked alot younger than the rest the moms

Most kids will tell you “I’d rather have a beating than listen to you lecture me!” That’s because kids dont want to think. They want the easy way out. Dont let your kids turn you into a monster. Your words will make your children respect you, like a successful coach is respected by his players. Legendary Grambling Football Coach Eddie Robinson never beat up or belittled his players, he molded them into men by his actions and his words. Always keep your cool and your child will too.If you teach your kids that the easy way out is the choice to take, just take them down to the police station and drop them off now. Dont wait. Stop screaming and yelling all of the time. That environment is breeding a good kid into a criminal. Dont give your kids any reason to blame you for their failures because that is the easy way out. period. If they refuse to listen to you, send them away from you for a few years. Military school, reform school,etc. Continue to remind them that in this world, there is no easy way out. Later in life, if they make it that far, they will thank you for not being a monster in their heads for the rest of their lives, and they will be ashamed of their behavior towards you and others.

It all depends on the child.. Some kids you can talk to and some kids you may need to spank them sometimes..

I got my behind beat/spanked/whipped and I am better for it. These kids are out of f*cking line. Disrespecting eldery folks. I wish i f*cking would talk back to Nana! I didn’t get switched or bloodied up. But hey, like he said I lived to tell about it.

Punishment worked sometimes, but at times it didn’t. When i got too mouthy I got popped upside my mouth and i shut the f*ck up.

THE FIRST PROBLEM HERE IS A LOT OF THESE YOUNG PARENTS TRY TO BE THESE KIDS FRIEND INSTEAD OF THEIR PARENTS.

By the time they are ready to put their foot down it is already too late.

Nothing wrong with an old fashioned spanking to me.

Now beating a kid senseless is absolutely wrong. But like the author wrote, well adjusted people will know the difference.

Daisy I’m guessing you have been sheltered and grew up affluent because your mentality is of someone who hasn’t been threw anything. Violence and bad things are in the bible yes you know why? Cause in the real world everything isn’t perfect or happy it never will be. Some kids you can talk to and be a good example to others like my brother only understand force and if your a weak parent they won’t feel they will have to listen to you then the outside world will be their influences.

@ Nique

GIRL!!!! The look. The look will stop you dead in your tracks.

Girl and I grew up in the hood.

“Ms. Jenkins” and them were always out the window with your Momma’s joob # on speed dial in case we acted up. I remember a couple of times that I had to sit in Ms. Lucky’s house until Mommy came home because I was acting a daxn fool. But you know what we had MAD fun too. Daxn, wasn’t nothing wrong with how we grew up sometimes.

Did this writer just say that he got whippings by both of his parents? Maybe it wasnt the whippings that did it. Maybe it was the fact that BOTH of his parents were in his lives. Duh!

These kids are too soft.

And also mediocrity is applauded. These kids getting all this materialistic crap, and being taught that half-azz work will get things done is only setting tem up for failure. Teach this kids to take no as an answer. What happens when Little Marcus gets turned down for his first job? Hmm..he wants to lay on your couch for the rest of his days because he doesn’t know what being told no or what not having the “right stuff” means/

@kigali
Kids are more apt respond to discipline when both parents are together and in unison. At a young age, kids learn from what they see. If you dont have it together, you can beat and yell at your kids all day long, they wont get it together because of you.Be smarter than a kid. Get it together and be a role model for your kids.

Hell yeah that is the problem with these kids, they need their azzes whooped and these ignorant parents need to quit backing them up when they get in trouble instead of jumpin down the throat of the person (adult) reporting the issue.
Whoppings did me justice and I am glad I got them, that is why these young kids think they can do what they want because they have no FEAR!

It does not matter if both parents are in your lives or not, I was raised by a single mother, but oh, let add she had help from a caring grandmother, grandfather, uncle, the neighbor, teacher, etc.. that is the problem! Yeah, it does help if both are there but what good to have two parents who dont do anything? NOTHING! I am proud of my single MOM, she did a great job, she whopped my azz and when she couldnt, i promise, she would go and get someone to do it for her!

Nice how everyone wants to quote the Bible. When it comes to having children in wedlock then everyone wants to say, “Only God can judge me.” Hypocritical fools. You guys can scream and beat your kids until the cows come home. They are still acting out. Why not raise your children in a two parent home because that has actually proven to work over the long term. EVERY child will do something they arent supposed to to. Every single one of them. Your job as a parent is to keep them safe and instill values in them that they can carry into adulthood.

aleximaq
3/26/10, 15:31:PM
I say raise a child with a Bible in one hand and belt in the other…If you can not speak the Word of God into them…then beat the Hell out of them…

^^^
Slayed.

Notice that daisy still hasn’t said whether she has kids or not.

I smell troll.

@why?

Shut your dumb behind up. It DOES MATTER if both parents are there. Your anecdote doesnt make a trend. We are talking about averages not individual cases. There is a distribution of labor when both parents are there. A single mother is more likely not able to do as much because she is only one person. How you going to say it doesnt matter if both parents are there than in the next sentence talk about ALL the people who helped her? It isnt there responsibility to help her, they have children of their own presumably. You made a baby with that man, raise the kid with that man. Your children will be a lot better off because of it. Stop being a stupid person.

@aleximaq

I saw raise them with a mother in one hand and a father in the other. Trust it will make much more difference than the bible. No offense. There are a bunch of single mothers in the church and their sons in jail and there daughter is knocked up.

Well from personal experience, I talked back to my mother ONE time when I was 11. She popped me in my mouth, and I just had the blank stare…That was the first and ONLY time she needed to hit me. All she had to do was squint her eyes and curl them lips up and I knew she wasn’t playing. I spank my kids. My oldest not so much because he pretty much does what he’s told. But my youngest, I don’t know what I’m gonna do with him. He is off the chain! But he’s only 2 and I’m hoping this will be something he grows out of. Also my kids are terrified of my husband, so a lot of the time they just get the look and they behave. But sometimes, yeah a spanking may be in order.

Daisy your right black people should be doing better and I’m one who has I don’t live in the hood I live in a wealthy neighborhood very safe most of my neighbors are doctors,lawyers and other professionals and even they have problems with their kids. Daisy I think your saying things to get people to respond are you a white girl?

@ Kigali

Although I don’t agree with most things you say, i do believe having both parents makes a difference. At least it does in my case…

@Theorius,

I agreed with both of your post. All these defensive single mothers in here only have a belt for their children to discipline when there real discipline comes from both mother and father in the home. They will never give credit to the two parent homes raising good kids.

How are you going to beat a 14 year old boy who is bigger than you? By the time a boy is 13 he has more upper body strength than most women. You will be able to tell him anything.

@ Kigali

I had both my parents in the house, they are still married…

Children are small people…how the f#ck do you respond when someone hits you? You do the math. SMFH are these piss poor excuses for parents. If your child is bad it’s your fault as a parent and only shows that you can’t handle you responsibilities.

KIGALI,
Apparently your MOTHER AND FATHER didnt teach you respect because they would have told you how to respond to the opinion of others! How would your DUMB azz expect me to listen to what you have to say based on how you presented it?

What case study do you have that proves when both parents are in the home the child is more successful or better off in life?

and if you read my comments, I DID STATE it is better for both of them to be there but not necessarily that it would always make a difference!!!! What about the kids who kill their mother and father when they were raised in the best of care?
Your IDEOLOGY is not what makes you smart, it actually contradicts the very thing you are saying!

You have the right title for your name, LIFE FOR DUMMIES because that is apparently how you are living yours!!!!!!

I never once said a two parent home was not good, never, but you took it as such to validate your own methodology!

F*CK OFF JERK!

real parents teach by example most can’t even get their own lives in order let alone their children please try to do better

I dont want any child to be afraid of me. I want them to be afraid of DISAPPOINTING me. That can only be earned through mutual respect. No one will respect anyone who they fear. So many people shouldn’t have kids today because they dont even know or respect the law of the land. Its a crime in America to hit anyone. period. That means we all have to learn how to be better parents under the law. Today’s law not our parents time. If you cant do it or wont do it, there are legal consequences for your actions.You are not innocent. Everyone needs to calm down and stop all of the yelling, hitting, and foolishness by law or get ready to face incarceration yourself.

Theorius,
I slightly disagree but you make good points. I feared my father, not because he would beat me (because he didnt), but because I knew he meant business and if I did something wrong, there would be consequences (a spanking etc). I think fear is necessary but not the fear where you are scared to anything, but the fear of knowing that you will face punishment for your actions, I respected him as an authorative figure in my life and treated him as such.

To the people here saying children do better being raised in a two parent home there right, but sometimes parents break up look at the divorce rate? Or a parent dies so when you have children there is always the possibility of being a single parent. Its not ideal nobody should do it on purpose but if it happens make the best of it and raise your child with support from family and friends.

@Ama

Youre a lucky black child because most black children dont have both of their parents in the home. They suffer because of it.

i have heard of serial killers who have 2 parents in the home,, school shooters had 2 parents in the home, Obama had one parent and he is the President! I have seen some of the baddest kids in the world that have 2 parents and i have seen some single mothers with good kids and bad kids.. instead of going hard with all thgis flack on the black single mothers, lets get down hard on these black men who make the single black woman a single parent! i know one Gd thing i would rather have my azz beat everyday by a single parent then to have a Casey Anthony for a mother! believe that!!

@Why?

There is a ridiculous amount of evidence that states that children who are raised by both of their parents are better off because of it. I cant think of a single instance where the opposite has ever been stated. Now please dont talk about domestic violence or anything else because even then children and women are safer with the biological married father is in the home than with an ex husband or a boyfriend/baby daddy. It is no surprise that since the decline of nuclear homes domestic violence and other forms of abuse are on the increase. Women and children are safer in nuclear families than they are in broken homes.

Sometimes things dont have to be stated , sometimes they happen just in everday life. I have seen good kids come from a single black parent .. got a couple in my family and one is going for her PHD!The other is in college now studying fo her license as a real estate invester.. both from single parent familes 9no police record either)!! Nobody has to know them , I know them so thats why im stating the fact DUH!!

There is a big difference from a beating and a spanking. Spank your children. I was spanked and given lectures from both of my parents when I was young, and when I got older, I still got lectures. I was taught to say yes ma’am and no sir, and taught how to respect adults and respect my parents. I went to school with children from two parent homes who would talk to their parents any kind of way, and I soon found out that their parents never gave them spankings and the kids would step to their parents and even run the home and tell their parents what to do and what they would not do….. Something is seriously wrong when I see 4 and 5 year olds in the store talking to their parents like they are some child…SMH….I was never scared of my parents but scared to get a spanking and that is what eventually kept me from doing wrong and they always made to sure to tell us why we were getting spanked…….Doing wrong made me think about the consequences and what was to come from my mom and dad….My parents did not have to yell at us…. They said what they had to say one time and me, my sister and brother knew to obey… They trained us that way…..My parents where strict with their rules but fair and when we went to school they did not have to worry about us asking out and cussing out our teachers because they trained us from an early age (old enough to get spankings) that when we act out we will suffer the consequences…..

kigali I agree with you some what I dont think you need both parents but you need to discipline and understand they are the parent and child is child not your friend…my girlfriend told me I will be abusive because I will whoop my child butt but if the situation cause for so be it but they will not disrespect anybody tough love works..I told my girlfriend I am not to be like by my children but respected..and when they get older they will understand. Sure I will encourage them when the time calls for but I will scold them when its time to do that…Hey a child most learn at an early age that there are consquences to your actions and not a slap on ther wrist…you could lose your life go to prison for multiple years all because you didn’t have discipline and respect…and black men today lack that plain and simple and thats why we kill each all because they have no discipline and respect…growing thinking they can do what they want to if they talk back to you as a parent what the hell do you think the will do to teachers and the elderly.

@ a rose by…
Even a broken clock is right twice a day. That doesn’t mean it is a good idea to rely on one. I also highly doubt that the President and his wife beat on their daughters to get their point across. Think about that.

*were strict

*acting out

@kigali by another c.u.n.t, listen here you dusty troll.. i never said that the child didnt have access to the father, the father is stil active in her life, just because the mother and father arent together, you creepy cobwell skank, thats doesnt mean the father is not ther for the child! Dumb azz!! The other family member i was speaking of you scab, her father was killed in a car accident but she has great male family memebers who have been there for her and it paid off because she is in college and doing something with her life.. i know kids with 2 parents in the home and they are the biggest drug users, shop lifters and have criminal records a mile long.. noe GTFOh and dont address me unless you can do it with respect weirdo!!

@Therious.. i will answer you with respect because you came to me respectifully! No i dont think he got beat but i read where he said he got spanked.. I said no beatings but spankings are not off limits for me> I see where you are coming from , but im just bringing forth the fact that i know kids from 2 parent homes who are the worst kids in the world! and vice versa! simple as thats!

The problem nowadays is that parents make excuses for their children and don’t hold them accountable for their actions. If the kid gets in trouble at school or gets a bad grade, it’s the teacher’s fault, if he gets into fights then those other kids must have said something to make him mad. It’s never their precious child’s fault. And that’s when kids learn they can manipulate and get away with bad behavior.

And sorry to say it, but single parent homes are the downfall of the black community. Kids need two stable parents in their lives, not some ghetto bird mother who’s more interested in being in the club than she is in parenting.

I have the utmost respect for anyone who works in teaching and education because I couldn’t stand being around sh*tty a** little brats all day. They deserve way more than what they’re paid.

Keeping it real you got real deep on us and your right!

yes they don’t have to beat on them but if you grow up in environment filled with violence like in most ghettos and hoods in america time out doesn’t work…kids now days don’t care about going to juve..and Obama kids are females now if they were boys then maybe we will be having a differnt conversation…You don’t have to spank but some children need to be spank because talking goes through one ear and out the other. Discipline works and doesn’t have to be spanking or whooping but if the situation cause for it I believe in pulling the belt out..discipline your child and quit being soft because the world is tough and life will stomping the hell out of you if you are weak and lack discipline..a lot of black men lack discipline and life is whooping the black man’s butt right now..some men cant take a lil pressure and go like a punk killing a man over an argument…I remember when I got into a heated debated with one on my friends he was ready to fight and was like hell naw..lets get it on and he backed down and said he was sorry and said if that make me a weak man so be it..we have weak men today that want somebody to baby them and care for them instead of going out there and getting it

Kids need that a$$ whooped occasionally… BOTTOM LINE. My son tried to throw a tantrum last night about going to bed. I mean screaming at the top of his lungs like he was crazy. I gave him 3 minutes to try to calm down, but at 3 min and 1 sec when he hadn’t I went into the room and tore that a$$ up. Needless to say all was quiet in my house from then on. I love my kids and because I love them, I whoop them. They won’t be the one’s you’ll have to worry about robbing and stealing. I have boys and I’ll be dayumed if they grow up to be a “statistic”

That bytch kigali can kiss my black azz.. gonna come to me with that ole sanjor skunk azz “turd by another name” him and that skank azz funk master sanjor.. Anyway BOTTOM LINE.. NANNY 911 AND THAT ENGLISH WOMAN HAS NEVER BEEN IN MY HOME!

The law needs to change so kids can not call the authorities on their parents.

Time-out does not work on most kids and it is stupid…. White kids disrespect their parents all the time.

Parents need to take time out to find a belt and spank their behinds.

Always compliment the child. Tell them when they do good and never destroy their dreams. I have so much respect and love for parents cause they always supported us, always gave constructive criticism, prepared us for life, and did not let us do whatever we wanted cause of a fear of not being liked. They did not act like our friends but parents cause they did not want to hinder us.

My children’s father and I aren’t together anymore, and even though we live in different cities; I think that we are pretty good co-parents. He calls the chldren eveyday after school to see how their day went and calls them again to wish them good night. They spend all of their school breaks with him and almost every other wweekend. The main thing is when 2 parents are not together it is very important that they remain civil to each other and co-parent. My children are straight A students, members of Gifted&Talented, and have no bahaviorial problems. I do have problems with my daughter at home because she is hyperactive(not ADHD). I am what many would consider a single mom and I have 2 of the best children in the world. They make their father and I proud of them everyday. I guess maybe the diffrence is that I am a mother and not a babymomma(oh yeah there’s a difference).

getting down, i think the ignorance on this blog and the dim-witted ranting of these so called experts on here to tell others how to raise their kids.. dumb azzes.. they can do what the he** they want with t that time-out crap.. when i have kids and they act up their lil butts will get spanked.. NOT BEATEN but SPANKED!

@Theorius Stylez

I totally disagree. Some black men date or marry a black woman and stay together for years and as soon as they get a little successful; bammm all of a sudden black women aren’t good enough for them anymore. No disrespect meant, but are you with a black or white female? In my opinion there is nothing wrong with interracial relationships, but it just irks me when my brothers who have always dated black females become too good for those same females once they get a little money.

One of my uncles is an Attorney General and another is a President of a University ( you can’t get anymore educated than that) and they married black women and spanked their children who are prominent productive citizens.

@Theorious

I have an educated cousin, black man, who married a white woman and they whoop their kids as*es. I used to think most white people did not spank their kids til I met my sis in law and she told me otherwise. She is a good mother who does not play. There are alot of interracial couples who spank their kids and ask the question, do you want a whooping? I have seen this in public, too. So dont just say, only black women spank their kids…..If you do not want to spank yours. That is fine. But do not tell other people and parents not to.

@kigali- Life for Dummies
Yeap, (KIR)

The black community has been the guinea pig for a lot of progressive liberal programs and their beliefs on family structure. Some (affirmative action) have worked and some (welfare) have been catastrophic failures. They had the black civil rights leaders/ministers and black pseudo intellectuals (tenured professors) preach and lecture these new family structure beliefs to the common folk who accepted it as gospel/fact. How can you go from 30% single parent households 1960 to 70% single parent households 2010. PEOPLE, EVERYTHING NEGATIVE IN OUR COMMUNITY IS A DIRECT EFFECT FROM THIS.

Welfare and SSI (the new welfare) was meant to be a TEMPORARY safety net. There are families that have been on welfare for 3 of 4 generations. Can you tell me anything positive or helpful coming from that environment? Honestly, these women are holding their kids back in school so that they can get SSI(500+ monthly per child) for the kids. They have figured out that they can get more money through welfare and SSI than they could if they went out and got a job. Does anyone believe that a little simple minded bird brain hoodrat is going to encourage her kids to get married? No, she wants to see her son impregnate multiple little girls and her daughter have multiple illegitimate babies. This validates her past behavior and how she has lived her life. How do you think she would feel if her sons went out and married young ladies and provided for these young ladies and his kids financially and as an authoritative figure who lead by example? Which is something no man was willing to do for her. How do you think she would feel if her daughters and her daughters kids were supported and provided for in the same manner by a husband? Most of these ignorant women don’t want this. That is why we have generational welfare families. WE DON’T GIVE THESE HOODRATS ENOUGH CREDIT FOR LONG TERM PLANNING.

I also have an educated cousin, black woman, who married a cuban man and they both spank their kids too. Her husband comes from a disciplined family too and their children treat adults with a lot of respect.

I say—

THE VERY FIRST TIME the lil mu….ph…u..k.k.k.a ACTS like he wants to–

Answer you back.
Pout.
Throw a tantrum.
Spit.
Bite.
Kick……

Elbow him in the throat! In fact, I think by the time you’ve changed his very 1st diaper, you should’ve already have put that head to bed!

At least twice!!!!!!

@1TruDiva

911 got me on hold but get your bail money ready. You going to jail.

@1 True Diva

You got me over here rolling! That name you gave the child is doing waaayyy too much and drop it like its warm.

Lol @ 1TruDiva & kigali

@getting down,, Thats why i believe that most of thesenegative comments are from white s pretending to be black! i know we have some haters in our race of our own race but this crap on here is ridiculous! White folks let their kids beat them and spit on them and call them all kinds of names, they are the most beligerent kids i’ve ever seen . no respect at all ! Some kids are born demons dont give a damn if they have 2 moms and 2 dads! Jeff dahmer said his parents were in his life and that he had thoughts of murder since he was 5, he said its nothing his mother or father could do, a little spanking aint never hurt no damn kid, some of these smart mouth azz brats will tell you.. ‘spank me and i will call 911″i am like bernie mac i will take a hammer and slap the fu-k out of that kid.. JK, but some of them need a beatdown!

One thing is said and 2 things for sure .. kigali and sanjor skunk are cut from the same low budget azz cloth!!

Rose

I agree we do have haters in the race however, I’m with you, I believe there are fake people on here pretending to be black. I have always believed that.

@B3 Fearless
I usually lurk and don’t comment, but I have now found out that commenting makes my day go by faster during my downtime. I know 1 True Diva is too funny.

During family gatherings I have heard my uncles clown on black men who think they are “doing it big” when they get with Becky.

@ Rose

Is your name Trademarked?

OK, Peeps!

I’m back. I had to run home and beat my son!!!

No reason.

Just beat the living sh!!!t ouuta him. He asked “what for??? What did I do??”

I told him “that was for what you were THINKING about doing!!”

I told you guys–

I said something to a 14 year old young lady once.

She rolled her eyes at me so long, I thought the lil’ strumpet fell asleep!!

@getting down, yeah i trade-marked it, but i had to put my properties number after my name because some fools want to come on here and play effing games!! They will go at another person in your name! like i said before i never go after a person unless they fu-k with me! if aome idiot all of a sudden goes off on a blogger, its likely a damn troll!! like i tell folks , look up my properteies number and if it matches then its me.. it has been the same since i have been on here.. i dont play games.. games are for kids!!

I got a cuz who got into it with a fast tail girl on the bus, and the girl got in my cuz’s face with a nail file my cuz is 32), my cuz cut the living crap out of the girl, went to jail and did her time.. and yeah she has a record but it goes to show you not all folks are to be messed with and if the parents didnt teach you respect.. like my mom said the streets will!

@ MIMI

WOW!!!

WHAT DID SHE SAY WHEN SHE CAME BACK???

@Rose, how does having morals and championing for the rights of children make me a “low budget skank”? Even when I’m not on here you are thinking of me. Go do some with your life. Oh and your dumb a.z.z. comment “lets get down hard on these black men who make the single black woman a single parent” makes no sense. If a woman CHOSE to lie down with a no good man and LET him impregnate her, she shares the blame. She made the decision to choose a creep for her baby daddy. Start taking responsibility for your own body!!

-She didn’t say anything, because her dad came and got on Saturday when he was off work. I’m not a violent person, but I wanted to beat that lil young, dopeheaded hoe down. We want to get custody of that child and raise him so much. I absolutely hate people that mistreat children.

Oops that was @ I’m Just Me

Sanskunk .. hey there fu-ker! yeah im doing one of your numbers w.h.o.r.e, talking about your skank azz when you arent on here.. go f yourself bytch!!

Sanskunk.. oh you just happen to show up! bythc please .. dont question me~~ you know i dont communicate with the likes of you. go get a life and dont debate with me, i cant stand you .. remember???? go talk you your other half kigali!! your buddy! Dont ask me any
“how does”??????

Bye mimi79 and @IJM.. i got to go .. so you 2 have a good week-end!!

@ Mimi

Oh I totally agree.

There is one in my family that I want custody of. Actually a couple but I cannot afford that and since I am not doing it for money, all I can do at this point is just so love and try to influence.

People need to make better decisions on who they have kids with. That is for life!

BYE MIJDC!!

@ Rose

Have a good one! Nighty!

Bye bye, Rose. You have a great weekend as well!

Anybody who reads Sanskunk’s comment can tell that comment is from a man! The dumb dude even said its both of their faults.. bytch please GTFOH with your off the wall comments.. a 2 year old knows its both of their faults so why is her dumb bozo azz talking about if a woman chooses to lie down with a no good man.. dont the dumb skeezer have sense to know a lot of these men dont show their true colors until after a while..but then again these comments are not coming from a female.. so sanskunk is to be ignored!! dnaskunk .. go f yourself!

@I’m Just Me
The trip is this girl get welfare for 2 kids and they don’t see any of it. She sells all her food stamps to her dealer and he also gets all the money she gets for the kids too. It is so ridiculous. It’s like her family knows what’s going on but nobody wants to say anything. My fiance’ wants to report her so bad, but he also doesn’t want flack from his family for doing so. If she was my kinfolk, i would have did it a long time ago and I’m still thinking about reporting her .

@IJM and MiMi79.. bye sweeties , have great week-ends yourselves!

I’m out. Have a great weekend everyone!

@ Mimi

You might have to and you can report it anonymously. Those kids didn’t ask to come here and they need better than this. Maybe this would be a wake up call for her.

Have a good weekend Mimi!

@MIM79
U SAY THE FATHER AND NONE OF THE RELATIVES WANT TO REPORT HER.YOU, WHO SHARES NO BLOOD WITH THEM IS THE ONLY ONE WANTING TO DO IT. SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH THIS PIC. THEY LOVE THOSE KIDS. U DONT. I HOPE GOD ROAST U IN HELL IF YOU GET THOSE KIDS PUT INTO FOSTER CARE WHERE THEY WILL BE ABUSED IN EVERY WAY, AND THAT MAN OF YOURS JUST MIGHT END UP IN JAIL TOO. HE’LL GET RID OF U THEN.

final thought to those with the wisdom to want to look forward instead of backward:

Have any of you noticed how white folks are constantly looking for new ways of doing things, when they realize the old methods weren’t working?? Take a note from them. DON’T REPEAT THE MISTAKES OF YOUR PARENTS. THEY DIDN’T DO BETTER BECAUSE THEY DIDN’T KNOW BETTER. U KNOW BETTER. U DO.

@promac
U R SO RIGHT! However, white families these days have a higher percent of single parent households too.

They have a new program on TV now where they profile normal citizens living with dangerous animals. Guess who got killed EVERY TIME when the animal went off – THE SINGLE WOMAN – chimp just killed woman, whale killed woman, on and on. Men can even raise animals, and get more more respect than women. That’s the way God made it.

@mimi79
I am currently dating a Philipina, but my ex-wife was black, my kids are black, I have 4 black older sisters and my Momma is black, in her 70′s, a single mother with 8 kids & a welfare chaser. Now, I have overcome some adversity through education and my belief in God. I have golf buddies, all educated of all races, who cant believe that I grew up in Compton, with so much oppression, and still managed to escape with a college degree and a distinguished military career. I tell them that it isn’t me, its God’s good graces, but that doesn’t mean that I haven’t seen hell with my own two eyes. I’m also a Gulf War Veteran, so I have seen war up close. I know that the Law of the Land will prevail rather hoodrats like it or not. People always talk about their rights and they haven’t done anything at all for the rights that they have. You dont have the right to hit anybody in this country. I was man enough to know that my mother was wrong about hitting me & my sisters. Go back to school & get your education. You gotta do that…for you…not me.

@ kigali- Life for Dummies
3/26/10, 16:33:pm

@aleximaq

I saw raise them with a mother in one hand and a father in the other. Trust it will make much more difference than the bible. No offense. There are a bunch of single mothers in the church and their sons in jail and there daughter is knocked up.

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Good point…when both parents are dedicated to the children…it can move mountains…

the parents catch hell in any scenario.if they discipline,they can be arrested or their kids removed.They do nothing and these kids get even more brazen.
As a kid i got beatings and obviously at the time I didn’t enjoy them but I now understand what they were designed to instill in me.I suspect the majority of us on here feel that way…

@aParent
I agree with your statement.

Apologizing to your child is a leadership quality that most black women will not do. I learned that from my own mother. There is nothing wrong with apologizing to your child if you are wrong, and an uneducated parent is often wrong so there are many apologies owed to our children, not beatings. Just a theory.

@A parent
Wow! so beautifully said. Wish we could bottle it and sell it.

@Observer, things are not always what they seem…sure you’ve heard that befor. you may be siding with the wrung person

Women who want to do better WILL apologize to their children.

I remember listening to someone who told me to beat my child with an ironing cord. The child was screaming so bad that God told me to hit myself with it to see how it would feel, and Oh My God the pain was horrendous. I have apologized to my child, but I haven’t forgiven myself to this day.

Damn right they need to that’s the problem. I grew up scared of my mother & she would beat our azz anywhere. My sis and I turned into two beautiful educated black women. My sis rarley spanks those 2 bad kids she has now. They will swing at her and act out terribly in public, things we never did. Alot of parents tell me whippings dont work. That theory will be proved wrong if I ever have any.

@Daisy
I know that was hard to type, but its a start. Your child can forgive you now, but for me, even in my 40′s, my mother has NEVER apologized to me or my sisters. Everyone turns into 8 & 9 year olds at our holiday family functions except for me. I love my mom and she respects me more than she does my other siblings, because she sees a man when she sees me, not a kid. I gave her a duplicate of my college degree to prove to er that “all black men aint what she said they were”. Please, start reading to your kids for their punishment. Make them write sentences for a punishment. Make them read an article about gang life for a punishment. Anything but hitting. Hitting will make your kid see an abuser, dont let anyone or anything turn you into an abuser.

You think ALL white people act like the parents from nanny 911???

Alot of children, now in days, are not born into households of both parents as husband and wife. So, all the responsibility depends upon one parent creating a single parent household for the child or children. Often times a parent does not have time to be the disciplinarian and enforcer of all the rules in the house. This results, in the kids getting away with alot of things that should have been checked. QUESTION: What type of person are you? What do you find appropriate behavior?

I personally don’t play with children. Alot of women can see their child, clearly, acting a nut but, continue on as if the child was not in the area. I have no problem with your children acting like a clown but, keep them clowning by you. I have no problem with your child being full of anger; just let him/her hit-beat and kill you. People raise your kids to be productive citizens and not like that mother from “the Wire”. She raised her boy to be a part of the family’s drug business. Stop becoming single parents and liking it. When you know better do better and teach your children better. BUT LET’S FACE IT, SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST “HOOD RATS, THUGS, AND TRASH” AND AIN’T NUTHIN’ GON’ CHANGE! WE GLORIFY ALL WRONG AND STUMP-OUT ALL THE RIGHT: THAT’S WHY WE HAVE THE “TINY AND TOYA SHOW”. Sooo… Stooopid!

Don’t get me wrong; I like and, often times, agree with a good old fashion a.z.z whoopin’ because every child is different. Some kids can take a behind whoopin’ and behave but some children do not need such a drastic punishment.

@theorius
I’m very sorry she didnt understand the wisdom of apologizing. My grandmother never apologized to me either, but I wanted to break that generational curse. It leaves a scar on your soul when no apology is issued. Most will say that no one apologized to them but that doesn’t make it right. Try to forgive and love her anyway. Afterall you’re too big to let it happen again (smile)

@theorius
yes my son forgave me, but he made me pay big time for a while LOL LOL if i suggested he go left, he went right, LOL LOL i learned to keep my advice to myself and let him be a man and respect his mistakes LOL

please,please lets raise our children,spank when needed put give them something to live by, like the word

@Daisy
I will always be a momma’s boy when it comes to being affectionate to her. I buy flowers for her and take her to nice resturants because I know she has had a hard life, but I dont condone excuse making…from myself or anyone else. In America, we have an opportunity to succeed. I’ve been to countries were the poor die poor with no opportunity for education or family. We all can choose better for our families by focusing on our education. Have you ever had to take an exam with a known gangmember/killer sitting right behind you? It happened to me in the 7th grade. Let losers be losers. Focus on good grades. I made my first honor roll in college at age 34.

My parents never hit me or my sibling. They were totally against corporal punishment, my mother’s view was losing control does not equal good parenting. However, they did discipline us, and they always followed through. If we were grounded for a month it meant a month and not 3 weeks.

My personal view is that violence is never acceptable, but that does not mean you can’t be a strong, authoritative parent.

I’m a single parent raising my ten year old daughter. I have spanked my daughter when she was younger. Now she is older I use a different form of discipline. Now I take away privileges. It is about effective communication between parent & child. You must know your child. My parents have been married for 43 years. My dad is a positive & loving influence in my daughters life. I know kids from both demographics single parent household & two parent households. Both demographics experience issues. I can not worry about statistics, stereotypes or generalizations. I love my daughter. My responsible is to give her the best in men. I lead by example. I want her to respect herself, her family & authority. I want her to know she has value. I valitate her in her daily life. I’m not the perfect parent. I know I’m a loving & dedicated parent. You all can debate black, white, single parent vs two parent households. I choose to dedicate my time, energy in love into raising happy, cultural aware, respectful & loving child
Who will carry these values into adulthood. Allow more positive into some your post. Many of you generalize, stereotype or say things for shock value. This is a gossip site though so it is & always be a no holds barred envirnoment. Have a great weekened bloggers!

The method of discipline depends on the individual child, they must be looked after by a child expert first!!!

Some of you people on here are crazy. I have two children. One from a nonconsensual act and another with my current boyfriend. I beat my 7 year old when he was younger and now I don’t need to as much. He has manners and doesn’t get out of line. If I say something, it gets done. If and or when my 11 month old starts up he will get it too. My 11 month old’s father and I live together to raise our children. It is important to have both parents but as a single mom or dad you have to do extra to make sure your child is respectful. And I had my first son in high school, and still went on to finish on time and start college on time. I am a couple of months away from being an RN. People love to make excuses as to why they can’t do things. I am black and I believe black people generally are lazy and unmotivated. This doesn’t mean everyone of course. If I could change my situation, I would but I can’t so I will do right by my children and myself. No child of mine will be disrespectful to his peers or adults, not excel in school, and make something positive of his life, single household or not.

@ Daisy
O yeah…next time you want to come at me on some ho shyt; dont wait until I get off here this type your little smart azz comments. I’m generally a cool person and don’t e-beef so please don’t come at me the wrong way.

ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!!! Only if you think all black folks act alike…what damn difference does it make.. i could less if all our no white folks.. i know of all the parents on that NANNY 911 95% of them were white! saw about one black couple and of course a mixed couple.. and wouldnt you know it with the mixed couple the black man was the one with the discipline, so GTFOH … YES I DO!!

@ARE YOU SERIOUS.. if you think all black folks steal or that all black folks are on welfare and crap, then YEs why wouldnt i think all white folks on NANNY 911 are like that!! YES I DO>> AND!!!

to juliemago if you are not the expert then their is none. no ne can tell or show you how to raise your child but you.

Proverbs 22:15 (KJV)

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Now I dare any of you to call GOD a LIE!!!

@rose

hi!

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This is white folks fault. On the real. They never discipline their kids. They let them do what ever. Black people need to step it up too.

They’re bad because they don’t have fathers at home. Oh, and I wonder where the fathers are. Smh.

@rose, listen you lil h.e.l.l. hound, it is evident to anyone with a brain that you can’t string two intelligent sentences together without resorting to vulgarities. Do you even have parents? If you do, then you are all cut from the same clothe. Totally uncouth!!

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@A PARENT
You put it PERFECTLY!!