Dear Ricky Martin, You Didn’t Have To Write A Book To Tell Us You Were Gay!

Posted on March 29th, 2010 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: Gay, News

While it might seem like coming out the closet should be as simple as just saying, “I’m Gay,” apparently it’s just not that simple for certain celebrities who have been denying the obvious since adolescent superstardom. Take Ricky Martin for example, who now that he’s writing a book, decided to make his long overdue coming out declaration via a six paragraph letter on his website. Pop the hood for the particulars.

A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And this is something worth celebrating.

For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that’s the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It’s my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don’t ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I’m at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I’m feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.

Many people told me: “Ricky it’s not important”, “it’s not worth it”, “all the years you’ve worked and everything you’ve built will collapse”, “many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature”. Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.

If someone asked me today, “Ricky, what are you afraid of?” I would answer “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war…child slavery, terrorism…the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith.” But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.

These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.

What will happen from now on? It doesn’t matter. I can only focus on what’s happening to me in this moment. The word “happiness” takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.

I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.

Oh those gays… such a flair for dramatics!!!

Now you tell us — was all that really necessary? Ricky boo, we been known your “truth” but thanks for sharing babe.

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  • Raf

    In other words, “my career is over and no one is gonna care if I come out the closet”

  • I like hittin men AND women in the back

    i’d hit…….ferociously

  • thirdeye

    What he meant to say was ” Please dont hate me for being gay and please still come to my concerts and buy my cds”.

  • TheOriginalBlkBarbie

    Who didn’t know that he was gay? This is like hearing old news. I guess it’s a way for him to make some money though (now that his career has been M.I.A. for quite some time).

  • Flower

    That he thought no one knew is beyond me.

  • chaka1

    Ricky is still as fine as the day is long…
    I liked him ever since Menudo.

    Go head, girlfriend!!!

  • listen

    I’m proud of you Ricky!!! It’s not about anyone else except you and when you were ready to share.

  • petrio

    the truth is that Ricky has been having a relationship with Dwayne Wade and Gabrielle doesn’t know it…wat will she do when she does?

  • TheReal Tasha_Mack

    shish swish

  • http://bossip.com LADYKNOCKOUT

    UMMMMMM…RICKY WE BEEN KNOWING THAT YOU WERE SUGARFOOT…IT’S NO SUPRISE….

  • Angel(formerly UrHeiness)

    He finally fessed up after all these yrs of speculating from his fan as well as the rest of the music industry..
    Oh well,good for him & wish him & his adorable baby,twin boys the best!

  • memchee

    …like hearing George Michael is gay all over again.

    I’m surprised…he did a good job of walking that metro-sexual fine line in his la vida days.

  • LYRICS

    REALLY PPL R SHOCK’D!!!???? HHHOOOOLLLLLAAAAAYYYYYY I’VE BEEN SAYIN’THIS 4 YEEEAAAAARRRRRRSSSSS!!!!! LMAO…..DUH RICKY DUH!!!!!!????

  • betty brown

    My condolences to your family!!

  • betty brown

    What a waste!

  • RedboneKillBill

    Um this is not news, yet he’s gonna get PAID.

  • foxxy cleopatra foster

    Everyone knew this. He still fine though. He’s one of those men that I’ll think, “I don’t care where his peen has been, I’ll still f**k him”.

  • Samantha

    He’s not attractive. He looks estrogenic to me.

  • http://www.thenoireffect.com GotYou

    He’ll be as big of an entertainer as he was yesterday. Look at Elton John – sold out concerts throughout the year. George Michael? Didn’t hurt his career still draws plenty of concert goers and money is in touring these days not CD sales.

    Ricky made a boatload of money before the whole illegal downloading craze went into full effect. He’s chipped in for life and more importantly he’s living his truth.

    GOING TO READ SOME NON-HATEFUL POST

    w w w . t h e n o i r e f f e c t . c o m

  • Melb2010

    another fag bites the duts. Sorry but he wasn’t born gay, he just got turned out. Who let this fool adopt 2 boys, ugh…. disghusting.

  • Madame X

    I guess I’m slow becuz I’m surprised.

  • yoyo

    i’m not surprised, the only thing that confuses me is that if you’re gay how do you have children with a woman? Obviously a woman aroused you at some point enough to make a child. i’m not bashing him but that is something i have never understood, most gay men have children before they come out later in life. how are you aroused by a woman if you’re gay?

  • J

    Duh.

  • TRUTH IS….

    hopefully the other dudes in the industry on the DL soon come out too

  • Bernie B

    At least he is being honest … so many dudes are NOT … And personally, I think most latin men are bi anyway. Sexuality is an open book and people will sooner or later live their truth …It’s meant to be

  • Mr.uPPeR CuTTs

    hes a FLAMER! he always looked queer to me.

  • sonya

    um yeah its too little too late ricky we knew this alreadyu boo lol

  • Over it…

    Wonderful Ricky….I actually thought he came out already…I mean everyone knows & no one cares!

  • RONDINI

    Why are so many men GAY. This is becoming a epidemic. Why we wait and have two sons before realizing your homo. Now thats two more HOMO’s for my childrens generation.

  • Andre

    I am not suprised I heard this years ago,better to live the truth than the lie society wants you to live like it or not!

  • stopit

    Good for him.

  • rain

    I hope you know he did’nt sleep with a woman to have those baby’s,i knew he was gay after i heard he had kids ,by way of artificially

  • I’m Just Me…Keeping It Real Since: 1983. 18 Days. BOSSIP IS LIKE A BAD ACCIDENT…I JUST CAN’T LOOK AWAY!!!

    WHERE IS THE SECRET HERE???

    WHY DID YOU STRUGGLE SO MUCH WITH WHAT WE ALREADY KNEW??

    P.S. That Speedo is not doing it for me.

  • http://perryone779@yahoo,com rose by any other name # 9304026339482056536 ™

    My Upper Cutts… you better not be no damn FLAMER!! You look real nice!!

  • Wenzel Dashington

    looking at you Seacrest

  • Qwerty

    I’m genuinely surprised… but go Ricky!

  • CubaLinda

    Great that he could finally come out, not like it wasnt obvious… The sad part is the only person who will benefit from this is JLo… She will use this as an opportunity to get some attn by making it a heroic story of gay Puerto Ricans and become a spokesperson for gay PR pride… she so attn hungry!!

  • cheezwhizkidd

    Too long, didn’t read. He also wrote that entire thing in spanish. Why??? Just state the obvious.

  • daisy

    damn!

  • Moreaces

    Its not like this should really shock anyone, but Im glad he came out, Congratulations to him.

  • Moreaces

    yoyo
    3/29/10, 19:28:pm

    i’m not surprised, the only thing that confuses me is that if you’re gay how do you have children with a woman? Obviously a woman aroused you at some point enough to make a child. i’m not bashing him but that is something i have never understood, most gay men have children before they come out later in life. how are you aroused by a woman if you’re gay?

    ======
    There are other ways for gay people to have children, other than having sex. Think about it. Im sure he’s a wonderful loving father, his children are very blessed

  • 2dimplzs

    What a waste of news. If anyone didn’t know this man as gay they must have been living in a cave under ground…..like DEEP under ground!!!

  • http://bossip I`ll Talk about what I want to talk about Nucca !

    Hey Neyo now in ten years you can just steal ricky`s long winded speech and say it`s your statement ! We wont fuccin remember anyway !!!!!!!!!! LOL

    Ricky gay … ‘ SHOCKER ” !

  • resilent

    Very brave!! It really makes me sad to know that some people have to live a lie to JUST LIVE. People should be able to do and BE what ever makes them happy, as long it does not hurt anyone else. Live your life Ricky,and ignore all of the negativity!!!!

  • I’m Just Me…Keeping It Real Since: 1983. 18 Days. BOSSIP IS LIKE A BAD ACCIDENT…I JUST CAN’T LOOK AWAY!!!

    @ Resilent

    He listened to what other people were saying (who probably didn’t 100% have his best interest in mind) instead of following his heart. He should have been came out. Who really lost fans becuase they were gay. Come on now! That thought is antiquated in itself. Elton John is doing it, so it John Legend for that matter, George Michaels, Melissa Etheridge. I mean I just think he was following the bad advice he was given and that is why it wa sad.

  • Moreaces

    ACCIDENT…I JUST CAN’T LOOK AWAY!!!
    3/29/10, 23:19:pm

    @ Resilent

    He listened to what other people were saying (who probably didn’t 100% have his best interest in mind) instead of following his heart. He should have been came out. Who really lost fans becuase they were gay. Come on now! That thought is antiquated in itself. Elton John is doing it, so it John Legend for that matter, George Michaels, Melissa Etheridge. I mean I just think he was following the bad advice he was given and that is why it wa sad.
    =======
    Not to mention Luther

  • Mamba

    Ok Ricky any news on your other closeted friends like Diddy, Kanye, Neyo, Barry Manilow, Queen Latifah, and John Legend

  • I’m bambi *itch!

    Didnt know and I dont keep up w/him..It took 2 sons later to know he’s gay? oh well……

  • WHY DO THIS TO CHILDREN—KATHEY

    Why damage another innocent child. It’s your life to do what you want but why create life only to cause it turmoil. “Most” Gays are the most selffish people in the world. They want what they want and any cost, with no regards to another persons heart. It’s just wrong. I love all people but GAYS need to band together and give each other the support they need so they don’t have to lie, hurt and steal joy from those innocent or those truly in love with them from the opposite sex. Don’t blame it on the world, they need to be responsible and own up to your actions. I am happy he’s out so he won’t hurt nor hurt anyone else again.

  • Mello

    Duuh!….Like we didn’t know that…when somebody ask you “What’s your sexual preference?” and you say “No Comment”….You’re Gay…

  • voice of reason

    what a suprise. The guy that wrote one of the gayest songs ever is actually………..GAY! He already told everybody he likes it “Upside, inside out”, he just forgot to mention backside.

  • Tee

    *Still thinks Ricky is fine as I don’t know what!!!!*

  • Eva

    …im still waiting for lil wayne and baby’s statement

  • that damn sh#$ disturber

    top or bottom??

  • Nique (Bossip…Bullsh!!t without Shame)

    kalifa
    3/30/10, 01:29:am

    “ricky should have just said “y’all know”

    ________________________________________________

    ______________FLATLINE________________________

  • chaka1

    @kalifa

    Umm. Just read your post…You aren’t giving us the whole story…Something else you want to tell us?

  • Blaxitive

    Soon all the homo’s are gonna start melting. Skin is just gonna start bubbling and peeling and those homo’s are just gonna disintegrate into nothing!!!
    Oh wait, AIDS already does this..NEVERMIND!

  • jtwista

    i dont care…he is still gorgeous.

  • Mock Rock Star

    Good for U Ricky. Just waitng for Alicia…it will be awhile :-(

  • Yoda

    Shake you Bon Bon, shake yo bon bon.

    Tell me something I didn’t know.

    When somebody ask you if your guy, you don’t say that’s personal, you say hell no!

  • Yoda

    Guy was meant to be gay, even my keyboard don’t like typing that word

  • Taniesha Kennedy

    I knew he was gay back when he made “living lavida loca”

  • Lisa4u

    F the haters Ricky! I still love you and support you!

  • YOWZA

    In other more shocking news, scientists have discovered that the sky is blue.

  • yi yang

    ya’ll some hateful h.o.’s

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