NEVER GET MARRIED TO A BLACK WOMAN

She making out better than Shawnie!

Ouch! That had to hurt!! Better luck next time, Nas.

Whatever, he should have respected his marriage vows. When he realized he no longer wanted to be married, get a divorce. He should be happy thats all he got…

nas should get t.i. lawyer…….

This is the main reason I’m not married now!! Man these women know D*MN well they don’t need all that money!!..Kelis is wack as shyt anyway yo!!!..I’ll just keep on f*cking my girl without buying the ring!!!…Man this shyt hurts me yo..WOW!!.lol

WTH do u mean he shouldn’t have married a black women. That’s BS, I don’t know any woman of any culture willing to let a man get away with murder time and time again. If we are spliting I’m getting mine and I’m not African American. So hell, just don’t marry a woman…

Red

Yeah, you sound like a HOE after the fact.

Illmatic like wool fabric…

It’s hard to find a good Black woman who does not use the white man’s legal system to destroy black families. Say what you want about whats right and whats wrong, but I’m sure this will affect his relationship with his child.

This makes me so angry, she got Nas bent over.

lol@ the broke folks on here saying this is why “they” aren’t married and they can’t afford a happy meal. Nobody can be after your stacks if you never had any.

i wish people wouldn’t categorize ALL black women as gold diggers. i have kids, am not with their father..and wouldn’t ask for a dime if he decided not to support them anymore. He is a great father and I don’t believe he will ever do such a thing to his children, but karma is a b**ch and if/when the child learns of the parent as the one who decided NOT to stick it thru.. that will hurt more than anything.

these celebrities are living this life style that they are entrapped in, i could care less for money. happiness and inner peace is REALLY all that matters in life. all this materialistic stuff is what is sooo misleading!

Some of you all are so stupid for thinking that if you do not get married you do not have to take care of your child.

Marriage is one of those things that has to be constantly nurtured. You can not expect to disregard your marriage vows and think that you will not have to pay.

And it is also dumb to believe that only a Black woman will try to take your money. I’m sure that those Black men that are married to a caucasoid or mongoloid woman has the same issues…..

I’m just saying!

Knight is being taken care of better than his daughter and she’s older. She is definitely getting more. This is crazy!!!! He did everything wrong. She must have had him whipped. No prenuptial and it’s in CA. jurisdiction.

@louie don said it best.. why can’t her lazy butt get a job.. they’re all brainwashed.. these mofo’s forget where they come from!

Diedre B. Pride

That’s what I don’t understand? Did they get married in Cali? – And if so, why? Cali is the last place to get married if you have a lot to lose. (Especially w/out a pre-nup).

@Capria30

Marriage is one of those things that has to be constantly nurtured. You can not expect to disregard your marriage vows and think that you will not have to pay.
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I call modern marriage a form of prostitution if you will. A man must pay (marriage license) to screw his own wife. Marriage was never about love since its inception. Marriage = money. If people (especially women)had half a brain they would realize a legal document can never equate to love.

Capria30

I’m sure that those Black men that are married to a caucasoid or mongoloid woman has the same issues…..

Ahhh, No they don’t because most interacial relationships last. And it not just the celebrities, it’s regular bruthas being rack threw, thats why a lot of bruthas are getting vasectomys or just not dealing with sistas anymore.
And I not talking about you good sistas but brutha are starting to see the risk is too high.

money shouldn’t be in the equation of marriage.. matter fact of love. but ppl now a days marry while already knowing how they will screw the other person over if they cheat. oh well! if someone cheats then so be it. only God can judge, and in the end.. God will punish.

But like everything else in life, only certain people learn things from certain situations they go through. She was probably raised in a household where revenge and payback was embedded in her brain.

see let that be a lesson black men…stick with the snow flakes…leave the gold diggin black woman alone…they don’t have love for anyone but MONEY!!!! SAD!!!

for the lady with the color problem.what the hell do color have to do with it. He needS to take care of his dam problems and YES I AM A BLACK WOMAN BITE THAT

No wonder black women are one of the least married group of people in the world……..

@ kalifa

You are wrong!..Some of us do want to get married but when we see situation like this, it changes the minds of most. Thats why you see alot of black men dating women of other races. Black women just seem like they are out there for the money. Man if we don’t change some things up in the black race boy we gonna be domed!

Boys. This is a lesson for you. If you can see her MILK-SHAKE for FREE, dont buy the COW! You dont have to at all. Hit it & quit it in about 3 to 4 months. Dont let this happen to you. I dont see the usual haters either, DaHonest, Sydney, Bi@tch @ss Chris, Carmel Cat, Lovely Olivia, tessa, Realist, none of these fakers. Its always funny to laugh at the black man loosing his house & his family. You sell-outs are worse than the white man. Brother Malcolm would tell you that you cant do anything to help black people. Keep laughin’, the white man is laughin’ right with you. My prayers are with Nas. Just real ish.

Theorius Stylez

WHATS UP BRO I GOT MY BACK UP BRING IT ON!!!

You people should listen to yourselves…this is sick and twisted racist remarks…it’s alright for Tiger Woods to contract $150 a year to his wife for as long as they are married (that is rumored what she is getting paid to be his beard through this whole fiasco)…but no one says nothing when it is a white woman that is cleaning the clock of some of these so called brothers you guys are standing up for…or what about Michael Straham, when his very white wife cleaned his clock out too.

Bottom line, these are all wealthy black men who did not have iron clad prenups…or if they did they violated them by cheating…which in most cases is an “arm-twister” to getting most men to settle out or pay out their wives. This is not a black thing or a white thing…it’s a common sense thing that all men should do regardless their color. I would do the same if I had millions of stacks and my man married me…he would get a prenup too!!! .

If Nas has an iron clad prenup, instead of being all up in Kellis’s “sour milkshakes” we would not be entertaining this whole situation PERIOD!!!

WOMP-WOMP yall with this “shouldn’t have married a black woman” and all kinds of racist remarks…GTFOH!!!!

^^^I meant Elin is getting $150 Million a year to beard Tiger for as long as she is married to him.

Oh wow, how the hell is he going pay all that money, is he that rich?

@miss dior

Oh wow, how the hell is he going pay all that money, is he that rich?
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LOL apparently he does. I think i saw somewhere he rakes in close to 200k a month…

The black race is heading to extinction in America and the UK. The UK blacks have almost breed themselves out already, African Americans are following their footsteps.

Your average white american are against blacks marrying into their families

HOWEVER the White elite is very much FOR interracial relationships. IT is a way of getting rid of black people and sadly black people are to stupid to realize what they are being sold.

The white elite creates a desire amongst the black community by denying black people certain privileges,and then when whites finally grant you that privilege destroys you.

White enforced segregation, then they gave the foolish blacks integration and it destroyed them.

Whites enforced laws against interracial relationships/marriage. Then whites gave you that right to marrying into their race, and it is now destroying the black community with DIVISION.

The white woman is more of a threat to the black community than white men.

The white woman is the NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF DIVISION.

Look at how the white woman has you c__ns bashing sistas 24/7.

It is absolutely astounding to come on blog sites and see other bruthas bashing our women like this.

Our ancestors are rolling in their graves.

I’m out for tonight, way to much c__nery going on in this thread.

I CAN POST SOMETHING WRONG

@ Diedre B. Pride
and
@ Marquis de Sade

Nasir and Kelis wed in Atlanta but the petition for divorce was filed in california.

LMAO at all the lonely/silly/extra special sounding men on here… yall will never see this kind of money to even be ordered to give it to a woman anyway so hush!

I thought Tiger signed a pre-nap? He shall keep his wife for financial reasons, thank God Nike is ruthless and stuck with the cheetah. Should have named him after the African panther the Leopard; never would havebeen caught cause he would have been hitting that ” keep all quiet israeli kitty.”
Nas way back I told you you should have married Lauryn Hill wise children and home girl sticks to her man like a cold you live with the germs for life lol. Beautiful Lauryn Hill hmmmmm

There is no reason for a man to marry a woman nowadays other than the tax breaks. There is no reason for a wealthy man to get married

Or should have taken bey bey back in the day when she wanted you Nas. Now she sees camel money on a regular girl can’t even crack a smile. Got with some cheese shake now you are paying more money than the IRS will ever get from your accounts.

@Jacs

@ Diedre B. Pride
and
@ Marquis de Sade

Nasir and Kelis wed in Atlanta but the petition for divorce was filed in california.
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Damn sound like a premeditated fleecing of funds to me…lol

Well it will not let me post what I wanted to post for Mr. Big/small what ever. I put it like this you got women on here celebriting her gain at NAS fall. What so kool about that two black folks borken up and another black family went down.
But for you Mr .bigs I guess you have not been anywhere further then your neighbor hood store to understand that interacial relationship does not have to mean your with a white woman there are black women all over the world with domestic and reglious valves. Where not talking about some country travel trash that your us to dealing with. So I guess when you where using the word idiot you was talking about yourself.
I know its probably hard for you to understand this but I guess you will learn when your day comes, AND YOUR STANDING IN THE COURT ROOM GETTING TOKE FOR EVERYTHING YOU GOT!!! CLICK CLOCK!

let me stop judging other people and just say that most of yall dont even know what your talking about so your opinions are ridiculous. i am a married woman, and i have learned that being married is not for the weak/ selfish/ and dumb! so all of the men on here who say they will never get married: yall tell so much about your character, a woman would be foolish to marry ANY man who speaks the way some of you do.

@Mr.BIGS- Your whole post is on point.. I like that..

@everyone-

1. Nas already has the IRS looking for him..If he can’t pay his taxes, then how is he gonna pay for all this outlandish support?

2. The average blk man will NEVER have those type of issues, so keep listening to Marquis and all these other stupid brothers, tell you that’s why they don’t want to marry.

3. Why buy the cow, if you can get the milk for free?

4. Only blk men disrespect blk wmn, the way tht they do…No other race/ ethnicity destroyseach other, the way that we have been pitted against one another.. AND still you denigrate the woman, who gave birth to you, let you live off her, stood up for you and this is the payback, that the blk wmn gets…

SAD DAY, BLK FAMILES ARE ALMOST EXTINCT. YU ACTUALLY HAVE IDIOTS PROMOTING THE BLK WMN STRUGGLE BY HERSELF.. I AGREE WITH MR.BIGGS, OBSESSION WITH WHTS, IS EXACTLY, HOW WE GOT HERE.. SHOULD”VE BEEN MINDING OUR OWN DANG ON BUSINESS…

Pre-nap 101 should be a 6th grade requirement. For, white people from the south, trailor trash, brothers in tough situations, cause most bros. are educated women though only want thugs and latinas that will suffer from learning English. Dam, I mean that money could see 70 brothers and sisters through college as scholarships. Kelis crazy as pregnant hippo, crazy Nas my brother, mr. Illmatic greatest lyricist got caught high probably. Tattooed her name on his arm. Put another red tattoo saying VOID over it mr. Nasir

And any man/woman that gets mad @ the parent who they have to pay the child support to and or the child/or children is not a father/mother. So u don’t want to be in your child’s life or help to raise your child because u have to pay child support, then u are not a parent u are a trick, punk and unfit parent, because u will be payin support for something u have no interest in. So whether u like it or not our children MUST be taken care of because they didn’t ask to be here and it is not their fault. Isn’t it strange how a man can have children by one woman, and don’t help to take care of them and are not in their lives, but then they meet another woman with children and help to take care and raise HER children, what a big skeezy scumb he is? It happens all the time what a scandalous situation.

@ Theorious Stylez my brother you speak words of wisdom. I love black women but generation y,z and some, I repeat some ignorant heff.ers from our generation x act like they are men. Please being a woman is a beautiful thing. Stay humble and wise so we can love you. Remember with the new trends in the world and Obama being elected other women from the globe Want us like we were the new hair extension

Most if not all the men talking shyt about this case have nothing to worry about. Child support is based on the paying parents income so you all anti-marriage broke a$$ negros have nothing to worry about. Further more it’s been plenty of white women that bleached their husbands bones in divorce court. Just ask Paul McCartney and Steven Spielberg. Compared to these two this here what Nas is going through aint shyt, its a drop in the bucket

@ Baby Doll Nas supports his children his that kind of intelligent brother. His daughter has never suffered no been on the news unnecessarily. It’s the spoucaul support I am mad about. Why can’t she squash that, the child support is sufficient. 47 thousand US a month is too much for even child support. That’s what a COP gets in a year on average

@Deesac

Yawn, your post is trivial and truly mindless.

I’m well aware of the fact that Interracial relationships can mean more than just a white woman.

However when the media promotes Interracial dating they always use a white individual and a Black individual to promote their agenda.

I used white woman as a example but it is evident that the white woman is the main source of the gender conflict between black men and black women, and when I used the word ” IDIOT” I was referring to people like YOU that lack the mental capacity to understand the blatantly obviously subliminal messages the media portrays to the black community when it comes to IR dating.

Years ago I never even had a problem with IR relationships, I have issues with it now because it has turned into pure propaganda that is ONLY BEING SOLD TO BLACK PEOPLE.

Now ask yourself this question, why are IR ONLY being sold to black people? you probably have the IQ of a grain of salt so please take your time to answer the question.

The media has already gotten the black man on board for the IR bandwagon, now the media is focusing on our black women. Which explains the studies being done all throughout the media, and the books being published that encourages black women to seek “other options”.

I’m officially signing off for tonight. I had fun making you look like a IDIOT”. good night

@Theorius Stylez you are just one trifling a$$ ni”a. To weak in your manhood to help educate those you speak against, black woman. Your tired of seeing black men suffer so you degrade black women. ni”a please.black women are suffering too. you need to hold these same so called suffering black men accountable. this ain’t no one sided mess were in.

Ladies we the educated black males are not hating but you need to educate some of your female accomplices on the intricate nature of true love. How long should black men wait until you take wise ones seriously? Though I love my Nubian queens, I shall have you beautiful behinds sign a pre-nap. My hard earned money won’t just butterfly hover away oh! No. Infact make any woman, Latina, redhead, even mongolian and Japanese sign that document period. These are the days mentioned of love being less on earth Bible 101.

@detdoll5
FU Bi@tch! You dont know me! and I’m not your man…I dont owe you ish!! Eat a fat Di@k!!!

@ tony redds

you got it papi-hit the nail right on the head. It was deliberate. To find out your man’s cheating on you when your seven months pregnant in a blatant way makes Kelis’ breaking point.

Kelis officially filed for divorce in Los Angeles, citing both verbal abuse and infidelity as the cause.

I was rooting for em too (they were both friends in my head). LOL.

man this line won’t let me post I’m on the road in a hotel

Well you right bru they do promote that I can’t post long this line is to slow

@MR.BIGGS,

The white woman is more of a threat to the black community than white men.

The white woman is the NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF DIVISION.

Look at how the white woman has you c__ns bashing sistas 24/7.

It is absolutely astounding to come on blog sites and see other bruthas bashing our women like this.

Our ancestors are rolling in their graves.
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Thank you for acknowleding the Problem, instead of trying to place the blame entirely on the blk wmn. Blk men need to own up to their selling out. They are doing it in droves and the killer part is blk men KNOW it and don’t care…So if they are telling you to stay away. Most likely, you dealing with a trash brother anyway. Find you one who is educated and don’t worship the ground that wht folks walk on…AND YES, Interracial dating NEVER works out. Only in rare cirucmstances, usually its an experiment ,so one blk can feel as though, they have gainedd access, into something special…

SMMH I;m glad I did not choose an American blk male.. Your all brain-washed, white-washed and obviously are paralyzed by decisions, that none of you on this thread, will ever have to make..) So run to your Becky and quit complaining, when you don’t care abut the blk wmn anyway…. Who by the way, I hope takes each and every one of you, for everything that you have.. Have a good night, all…

well I’m out I can post shhh

@kalifa- that was REALLY nice.

Since we are uplifting one another today my beautiful black brothers and sisters, I have a great business idea for someone. Start a black dating service where the black males are from overseas. Since the U.S. black men population may/may not be adequate for us, import them in. Best believe I will be vacationing in these black ehtnic hotspots once I get stabalized with my career. Now whomever starts this service and makes a mill, remember I put the idea in your head because I just love ya!!!

I’m an educated black man who is not incarcerated. Get behind me,Satan.

sorry but that broad would have got gunned down leaving court. that shizz aint right at all…..

@ BABY DOLL – Thank you for being the only one to mention the fact that EITHER the wife OR the husband can be ordered to pay support. Funny how men always seem to forget that. I work in HR and there are plenty of women at my firm having child and/or spousal support deducted from their pay. Perhaps if more men were the primary caregivers to their children, then they would see such a settlement when they divorce.

NEVER GET MARRIED TO A BLACK WOMAN WITHOUT A PRE NUP

@ DETDOLL5 – Paul McCartney ordered to pay his WHITE ex-wife almost $50 MILLION in their divorce proceedings. These dudes can’t even comprehend… worrying bout somebody getting them for their little gas money…and that’s the reason they don’t want to get married? Please…if they had any type of a.s.s.ets or substantial funds then they would most likely have a pre-nup, or at least would not have such a great fear of someone coming along and taking it all. If finances and racist language are the first things you have to offer to a convo on marriage, then I’m pretty sure you’d be hard-press to find anyone to marry you – black, white, or anything in between.

One more thing how much money does Nas have.He must be really paid in order for the judge to ask him to pay out that kind of money.

@Marquis de Sade

because YOUR hood-rat mother’s womb was yeast pollinated does not mean that every Black woman’s womb is the same.

I know you speak from experience but generalizing from observing at your mother’s womb does not make you look educated or informed. LOL

@Truly.S.Blaque
Perhaps if more men were the primary caregivers to their children, then they would see such a settlement when they divorce.
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That’s what I always say when someone talks about a man having to pay these so called “outrageous” child support sums. If you don’t want to pay, do like Jon Gosselin is trying to do and file for FULL custody of YOUR children. I guarantee the judge will make the child’s mother pay you child support.

Otherwise, why complain when the judge orders you to pay the woman who’s raising your child nearly 24/7?

@ Jay32,
One more thing how much money does Nas have.He must be really paid in order for the judge to ask him to pay out that kind of money.
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I know that is what I thought. Kelis just did not go into court demanding some ridiculous random amount; the judge Nas’ income tax return you best believe

BTW 99% of black men are lame ignorant dumb donkies. Except my father who has always been
there for me, I guess he is the last of a dying
breed b/c u spineless invertebrate jellyfish slugs called black men are just plain sad!

KitKat

Excuse me, but how many men are given sole custody of their children? Trust, what Truly S. Blaque put forth, is the EXCEPTION, not the rule!

How many men want primary custody of their children?

“KitKat
4/13/10, 01:18:am

How many men want primary custody of their children?”

Probably more than your PRE-CONCEIVED notions will allow you to believe.

We have all these articles about what nas has to pay Kelis, Could someone please link me to an article where Nas has petitioned the courts for custody of his son?? I’ll wait.

@ KitKat – It’s because these “men” don’t actually play a role in their children’s lives, so they have no idea how much it costs to raise a child. Also because they don’t stick around, they don’t see fit to have their child live the same lifestyle that they live. Nope, that’s now reserved for him and the new chick. That kid is entitled to all of the perks that a parent can afford – residence in the best neighborhoods, best doctors, private schools, additional tutors, extracurricular activities of their choice. All that adds up. A real parent, or at least an adult with common sense, would know that. And whoever is the primary caregiver usually gets to eat off those perks too. So if you live in a mansion but your kids stay with their mama, then guess what? You’re gonna be moving them ALL to a gated community.

I would even respect if dudes in a situation like this demanded receipts, so they can see how their funds are being spent. But to deny responsibility from the gate is just sad…

@Furious Stylez

You still talking about me? I musta struck a nerve when I called you a F*A*G. Its one thing to not want to get married (which is fine) but you tell other men to NOT let women get close to them at all……What straight man tells other men to basically not have a relationship with women (you said it before)?……Straight men dont, just F*A*G*S like you.

This I’m afraid is another dark reminder of why it never pays to get married to most of today’s golddigging woman cos she is the ho you keep! Kelis is supposed to be currently dating some African dude right? Well how do we know she wasn’t humping him behind Nas’ back???

Any guy who has this insane idea of getting married had better go check out w.w.w.n.o.m.a.r.r.i.a.g.e.c.o.m I’m sorry but the money that Nas had to shell out is off the freaking chart!!! In America, the fastest way for a man to go to jail is for non payment of child support.

Let this be a lesson to all the playas who have their brains in their Jim Johnsons.

Wtfu brothas and smell the chicken!!!

@Brotherman

In America, the fastest way for a man to go to jail is for non payment of child support.

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What a shame that some men have to be threatened with prison in order to get them to support their children financially.

KitKat

Don’t mistake “TAKIN’ CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN” with gettin’ “FLEECED”. It shouldn’t take a monthly king’s ransom to support a child.

@ Marquis de Sade

“KitKat

Don’t mistake “TAKIN’ CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN” with gettin’ “FLEECED”. It shouldn’t take a monthly king’s ransom to support a child”.

Well said bro….

Oh Lord, here comes the imposters. If you have beef with my, b*tch, come at me with your original S.N..

Chris

Uhhh, it’s the internet. People tend to be the opposite of what they pretend to be on the WEB. Take 90% of everything with a grain of salt…Especially with the GOODY TWO SHOES.

I love women but only from a long distance. I live my life on my own terms and never allow any one of them to get too close because if you give them a quarter inch, they’ll take ten yards and throw a monkey wrench in your whole program.

If a man needs sex, then just pay as you go and avoid getting any of these golddgging hoes pregnant or else its your funeral and not mine.

Kelis has to have some money somewhere from the music singles she was on. She dont need all that child support from Nas. SMH… Her legs arent broken and she has arms. She needs to go and find herself a job or try to get another record deal somewhere or go sing in a club.

wowwww, cant believe the men in here are actually so effin’ cheap… crazy lol.i guess they dont date black women so we should all start dating other race of men, cheap mofos!

and why does a black woman have to be a gold digger and be a product of the system opressed and blah blah blah just because she likes nice things in life?! seems to me like your just jealous that you cant give it too her!! but on a good note ive NEVER met a black man like these penny pinchers in here anyway…on to the next one!

btw if this was a white man her as would have been 1st on his hitlist lmao

As has already been stated, a judge, after reviewing Nas’ financial records, decided what Nas’ child support payments should be. Kelis simply petitioned the courts for support.

@Marquis de Sade
negro do u have a job?
you have time to comment on EVERYTHING EVERYDAY on this website.
get a life
get a woman (although I’m convinced your preference is men)
get a job
hell, sit your wack a$$ down and get some sleep

This chick is crazy.

why are the women in here even paying attention to the men in here anyway, look at how they talk about women….i wouldnt mess with a dude like that in the real world even in my nightmares. i eat nikgas like this for breakfast

@Marquis

I feel you. But I think some people on here may really be decent people. You can tell whos an azzhole and who really aint. I can be one myself. People just may not agree on everything others say and thats where people start to have certain opinions of people, strong ones I might add.

LMAO @Marquis de Sade
n*gga now u fightin’ with yoself?

doesnt the law state that a child should enjoy the same standard of living as their parents? From diddy’s custody arrangement i read where the high amounts of child support goes towards private schooling, security etc for the child….maybe thats the case with Kelis and Nas as well: security and the same standard of living.

no real man would wanna see his child scrunt while he lives the good life rite so nas shouldnt mind paying up

always knew & pigga

I have a pesky imposter who’s too afraid to put me in my place.

marquis hun…youll need to find a job first, from other peoples post, seems like you live in here lol

@marquis- You showed that you actually had a heart, the other day, why do you do this?

Do you like causing division?
Why do you think the blk wmn is worth less? That’s ridiculous…..We’re already divided enough..
Why continue this destructive type of behaviour?
Don’t we get enough of this daily?
Your parents must have split up and you must have had it really hard to be this hateful,towards all blk wmn…

Marquis de Sade

you have a problem.

I have no arguement with paying the child support. It is the law. I’ve fallen out with guys who flat out refuse to pay child support. If I had a child, I would do my damnest to make sure that my child/children are comfortable and well taken care of because I was loved, cared afor and well taken care of. I never wanted for anything.

But what I am against inevery way, shape or form is the golddiggaz who don’t give a rat’s a.s.s about love and family. They all have a clear financial agenda and motive and will use their own children as pawns in their own sick, twisted game.

less than *- typo

fluff

Trust, I have a well payin’ job. Twould appear, you bein’ the garden variety loser magnet of a black b*tch, just ain’t accustomed to dealin’ a black man with a job that actually pays taxes, as opposed to your street corner pharmacist and bootleg dvd/cd peddlers.

Dare to be different and supress that sweet tooth for thug dyck and set your sights higher.

These posts are so off issue.

@Chris
Call me an A**hole if you want . I smile. I speak the truth though. I’ve been from Maine to Spain, I’m just tellin’ what I know. You dont have to believe it. Its a free country. But trust, Nas & all of these cats walked down the aisle with someone who they thought was their best friend. If your best friend F’ed you worse than anyone has ever F’ed you, and you still have to give her your earnings every month, thats not your friend, Stupid-@ss. You dont need your Father to tell you that. Your friend wont cross you. Not even for 5 dollars. You are a puzzy-whipped fool who needs a Dad.

@always knew
sweetie I didnt post that statement. Marquis de Sade is posting under my name with his lame b*tcha$$.

Pigga

I don’t imposter. Check the properties. Right click on the gravatar, scroll down to properties, then click. it’ll show my properties, then you compare it with my imposter’s.

@Marquis- Sorry about that, if that isn’t you.. Surely, you know not every blk female is what you are describing..Why so hard on us?
From a sister just wanting to know WHY is SO much of your HATE directed squarely to blk females… You know this is killing us…Is that your wish for the blk children, for the future? How will we survive?

@pigga
4/13/10, 02:14:am
@always knew
sweetie I didnt post that statement. Marquis de Sade is posting under my name with his lame b*tcha$$.
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I apologize for my response to your imposter..

F*ck EVERYBODY! @Chris,@Fluff,@Pigga,@always knew. Black c*nts with no education.

“Marquis de Sade
4/13/10, 02:18:am

F*ck EVERYBODY! @Chris,@Fluff,@Pigga,@always knew. Black c*nts with no education.”

Get a life. I’m outta’ here. Ciao!

I was actually trying to have a conversation, since that seems to be impossible, I’ll hang it up for tonight..Go read a book, until I fall alseep…

Good night, everyone.. Sweet dreams,even to you Marquis.. Hope you have a better day, tomorrow..

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@always knew
B*tch be gone! At the end of the day my point was that Black women like ripping off Black men. A White woman would never have done this. I cant stand the golddigger mentality of Black c*nts
I’m outta’ here. Ciao!

marquis theres no way on gods green earth you are not a homo lol… i cant even imagine a black, white, woman or any woman wanting you!

my standards are always high thats why i dont mess with negros like you

@fluff

You’re a N*gger c*nt. WHY WOULD I WANT YOU?
Your man puts it up my a$$ thats why you can call me a homo. He rather f*ck me than your n*gger stretched out yeast filled tunnel

@Furious Stylez

Call me an A**hole if you want . I smile. I speak the truth though. I’ve been from Maine to Spain, I’m just tellin’ what I know. You dont have to believe it. Its a free country. But trust, Nas & all of these cats walked down the aisle with someone who they thought was their best friend. If your best friend F’ed you worse than anyone has ever F’ed you, and you still have to give her your earnings every month, thats not your friend, Stupid-@ss. You dont need your Father to tell you that. Your friend wont cross you. Not even for 5 dollars. You are a puzzy-whipped fool who needs a Dad.
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I dont need to know what you know. Why would I listen to someone who seems angry? Ive traveled all over the country, across the globe, received a bachelors and will be working on my masters degree in the upcoming fall…. If I have a question I can ask my father, which I remember you saying you dont have one right? Where is YOUR daddy?

If your best friend F’ed you worse than anyone has ever F’ed you, and you still have to give her your earnings every month, thats not your friend, Stupid-@ss.
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Oh thats what happened to you… Your girl fucced you over and now you act like you hate puzzy and women. Again there is one thing to not want to get married (which is fine by me), but you tell men to not let women get close to them at all. Did this woman turn you gay and now you mad at ALL women? SMH…. Struck another nerve.

lol @ marquis what a homo thing to say lol

so your white ?

@Furious Stylez

Shut you Bi@tch @ss up you emasculated MF. I Never said that you PU ssY! Stop puttin’ words in my mouth like a Ho, you purse holdin’ skirt.
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Angry man that hates women is getting Furious. LMAO!! I think these are the best adjectives he can come up with……That avatar is such a disgrace to Laurence Fishburne. SMH..

BLACK LOVE AND BLACK MARRIAGE IS BEAUTIFUL THINGS

WE NEED MORE BLACK FAMILY IN 2010!

Never get married to a black women, really? Do we not remember Mel Gibson and all the white women around the world who are with men just for their money, the fact is everything isnt about race. And if you havent realized part of the money he owed her due to back child support, so the moral of the story is take care of ur kids and maybe the mom doesnt have to take you for everything!!!

Marquis de Sade
4/13/10, 02:23:am
@always knew
B*tch be gone! At the end of the day my point was that Black women like ripping off Black men. A White woman would never have done this. I cant stand the golddigger mentality of Black c*nts
I’m outta’ here. Ciao!
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Your right! Elin only got $300 million and white women usually take ALL your money. So your right, they are the best golddiggers around..Make sure that you get you one! LMAO:)

For sure it would have to be a low-income one for sure, cause who else would be bothered with you?? Sorry, had to get that out!

Love your ~limited intelligence~ you do ALOT of name-calling, because your vocabulary is so extensive… You should’ve been a comedian, because everything you say is a joke..

have fun working the late night shift LOL

no, you’ll never have to worry about anyone taking you to court, for your pinto and stale funyons…

See ya, in the am, LOSER!

And to everyone else LOVE, PEACE and HAIRGREASE…

Plus people these black men really need to stop it, because you all are the ones responsible for the mentally of black women today. More then 65% of black families are without fathers, so maybe is most black men stop cheating, be fathers and good role models women wont be the way they are now!

ha ha

@Theorius

Why do you always seem so mad? You said you were tired of seeing black men suffer. So you feel the need to talk badly about black women and that makes you feel better about black men suffering.

I don’t think you troll, like some other people on this blog, who says their trolling is obvious. You have this exterior like you don’t want any women near you, or to crowd your space. You act like you cannot stand women, and everything has to be women against men with you, like we are on a battle field. Something happened to you in your life which is causing you to be this way. Plain as day.

How can someone say there are happy and have so much anger?

You used to be more positive when you first started posting. Where is all this anger, aggression, and hate for black women or all women coming from? Your posts changed drastically. Or just maybe this is how you really felt all along.

You put those womens names in your post because they do not agree with you about marriage. Most of the women on here are pro marriage, and because they are, that does not men they hate black men or are out to take something from them. A couple of the women you named, Sydney and Caramel Cat, have not generalized black men and not made comments that educated black men are exceptions (not thugs, not with a criminal record, not with multiple baby mommas, no bad credit, and have jobs) or black men are not sh*t or wanting black men to suffer. For real…. what are you talking about? Maybe you just do not like their personas or that they may not agree with you on marriage or monogamy…. Now some of the other ones you named have bashed black men damn near every time they left a comment and told black women to prefer white men and they are 100% wrong for saying that….

You just seem to have problems with mainly women who do not agree with you and are opinionated.

AAAAWWWWW….. here is a good wealthy black man trying to share his money… ummm….life with a “GOOD” black woman… and now this. I thought white women were the no good Gold Diggaz??? Where are all the swirl haters now? ha ha ha….

@Theorius Stylez
I have to cosign you on this one brother – DON’T GET MARRIED!!!! WTF!!! Nas is gonna his live savings on this raggedy @ss b!t.c.h!! Why can’t this no talent,no career having,ugly,crazy,greedy b!t.c.h get a fu@king job????

LOVE & MARRIAGE IS DEAD IN AMERICA – BLACK WOMEN KILLED THEM!!!

*** NAS FT AZ -’LIFE’S A B!T.C.H’ PLAYING IN THE BACKGROUND***

@Marquis De Sade
I’m rolling with you today – fu@k black women!!!!!

Damn Nas, was the King of NY until all of this happened. How can the King of anything not see this coming from a mile away. Damn no kids and no marriage for me. I will have kids when I can afford them but no marriage ever can’t afford both; forget spousal support! If you got any bit of sense and a little bit of money fellas if you do get married get a PRENUMP! These chicks will make you file for bankrupt protection! LOL

DaHonestTruth,

So you are telling me if a MAN cheats on a WOMAN she DESERVES to take his money? Oh PLEASE! GIVE ME A BREAK!

You golddiggers are given us woman bad names!

damn boo what did you do to piss her off so bad??

p.i.s.s.

Women*

@DaHonestTruth,

He can pay for his child, but to pay her money is unfounded and questionable.

Nas, for a man of your intelligence why on earth did you get married to a woman of that status? She is beyond disgusting!

“DaHonestTruth,

So you are telling me if a MAN cheats on a WOMAN she DESERVES to take his money? Oh PLEASE! GIVE ME A BREAK!

You golddiggers are given us woman bad names!”

Uh – if she is his wife – the LAW says he has to so YES he should have to pay her!

And cut the golddigger crap! As Steve Harvey said golddigger is nothing more than a word made up my some cheap @ss man who didn’t want to have to give a woman anything! ALL WOMEN want to know their man can take care of them! And it never seems to matter when its a white woman “golddigging” a black man so leave this ex wife alone!

I am a woman

KELIS IS A TRIFLING AZZ BISH!! DAMMIT NAS!
YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE CONSCIOUS! YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN THIS MONEY GRUBBING HOE COMING. SHE SEDUCED YOU REAL GOOD AND YOU LOST ALL YOUR GOT DAXN SENSES.

AND KELIS YOU ARE REAL F*CKING TRIFE YOU DON’T NEED THAT MUCH DAXN MONEY!

HOW CAN HE OWE HER 300 GRAND!!

WHEW NAS! I KNOW YOU ARE VOMITNG FROM THIS! I FEEL FOR YOU BRO!

NAS got played.

MAKES YOU REALLY FEEL THIS MARRIAGE WAS ALL JUST ABOUT TAPPING THOSE POCKETS.

AND SHE CHEATED WITH SOME NO NAMED RAPPER…DUMB AZZ SHEEPLE!!!

@DaHonestTruth ~ Always Keepin it REAL
As Steve Harvey said golddigger is nothing more than a word made up my some cheap @ss man who didn’t want to have to give a woman anything!
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You’re also quoting a buffoon named STEVE HARVEY – he’s a comedian, and his job is to make people laugh no matter how ignorant he sounds..

DaHonestTruth

I am a female, but the fact is I happen to not be a golddigger! And she has NO right to ask him for any money. She needs to work or go to school like the rest of us.

I am not African American, but if I were I’d be ashamed to see how some women from your culture are conducting themselves.

I am not white EITHER! So don’t go crazy!

She’s just trying to destroy NAS with the help some powerful people – this chit don’t look ordinary to me… She had a career before she met NAS – why can’t build on her career, and leave the brother alone to pay the normal child support since he agreed to look after his son….

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WE HAVING CHURCH UP IN HERE THIS MORNING!!!

BOY YOU BETTA PREACH!!!

AND WE KNOW SHE CHEATED POINT BLANK!

“THIS IS RIDICULOUS – I LOST ALL THE LITTLE RESPECT I HAD FOR YOU FOR SUPPORTING THIS NO TALENT HAVING GREED GOLD DIGGER………”

Oh Lord! Let me go find a knife and slit my wrists because some black woman basher on a blog has lost respect for me. Oh what am I to do. My life will never be the same. I don’t want to live……………….

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For one Nas has the money to pay her this in a lump sum. Two he should have never got this trick pregnant or married her. He was trying to change his life by being a husband but it didn’t work out. Kelis is a weak azz woman, you’re suppose to stand by your husband no matter what. He won’t beating on her, so what if he cheated. That’s whats wrong with you weak azz women, always running when there’s a issue. Some things warrant a divorce but cheating? NO

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If I was him I would empty my bank accounts completely, move 2 Africa and live off the money till death,…Cause aint no way in hell I would pay all that money….Just say no to HOODRAT BLACK WOMEN

Oh Lord! Let me go find a knife and slit my wrists because some black woman basher on a blog has lost respect for me. Oh what am I to do. My life will never be the same. I don’t want to live
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FYI – i’m not a black woman basher, and i admire strong black women not lazy golddiggers like you and your mentor Kelis

NAS should just O.J SIMPSON this b!t.c.h, and bust her milkshakes..

alot of womeen get over on men who have money period. leave with what you came with.

TIME TO MOVE BACK TO AFRICA NAS, LIKE YOU SAID IN ‘BELLY’ – YOU AIN’T GONNA PAY CHIT OVER THERE!!

DaHonestTruth,

I wish people knew your identity, so no man in their right mind would ever marry you. You seem so thirsty to take money that you didn’t work for. It is his right and duty as a father to take care of his child, and he should and I hope he is. But give her money…NO NO AND NO.

What my ethnicity is happens to be my own business. If I say it, you’re going to jump on me like a damn bear. So, I don’t have time for that nonsense.

“Just say no to HOODRAT BLACK WOMEN”

WHEW! Thank GOD the “man” overseeing Kelis’ case didn’t see things this way! I think he felt like that HOODRAT BLACK WOMAN deserved to get PAID! And if it had been one of his own women she’d have gotten MORE! Judges LOVE paying white women off the black man! LOL!

Its cheaper 2 keep her…

“TIME TO MOVE BACK TO AFRICA NAS, LIKE YOU SAID IN ‘BELLY’ – YOU AIN’T GONNA PAY CHIT OVER THERE!!’

No – he’ll just pay the African government, and he’ll pay much more than he owes Kelis.

But, typical black man to cut off his nose to spite his face when dealing with RESPONSIBILITY!

Nas is paying for that Milkshake. lmao..Oh well, she was talentless anyway. And she probably got pregnant when she knew that marriage was going sour to secure herself financially. This is nothing new gold diggers do it all the time.

No – he’ll just pay the African government, and he’ll pay much more than he owes Kelis.
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No – he’ll be treated like an icon over there – he’s going to get a free stuff… Ask Bob Marley’s family why they moved to GHANA!!!!

@Da Honest Truth

Tell me any child who needs 50 thousand a month ..What expenses could that child possibly have?

This is one of the reason why Im nervous to get married cause of females like kelis… I know not all females are bad but this doesnt make no sense that Nas has to give Kelis all his hard earn money…. One day, When i decide to get married, i will sign a prenup and if my girl dont wanna sign it, then im not getting married… Its simple as that….

DaHonestTruth

Not only are you crazy, but completely dumb, what is “African government”? you do know Africa is a Continent right? And there is not a singular government?

I am half Somali half Spanish (from Spain). Happy now? So, go ahead and scream.

Maybe im underestimating how much NAS makes a month but damn 50 G’s I dont see dude makin money like that..Its just overkill

Kelis is nothing but a evil, twisted golddigging ho!!!! Any defender of Kelis who has a problem with me stating this fact can go kiss my @$$.

Women should leave with what they came with, NOTHING!! K

get the uck outta here i cant even add all dat ish up

who is this judge its either a female or a gay male that wants nas but cant have him

oh she got him!

And she probably got pregnant when she knew that marriage was going sour to secure herself financially

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THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT SHE DID AND WE KNOW IT!

Nas should visit O.J for some advice!

Shut up Hannibal.

Like I said before in my previous posts, you’re quite a bore.

Eventually, your brainless comments will lose its luster.

It’s almost sad that you were even a conception.

I’m ridin’ for Nas, like Red & Meth. F Kelis and anyone who believes in this kind of ish. Marriage is Dead. I know Nas aint wifein’ anymore of these ho es anymore either. With age comes wisdom. If you want to give away half of your ish, you dont have to get married, just give ya girl half of your ish right now!?! If you so confident, just give her half right now. I thought so. NOBODY wants to give ANYONE half of their ish….I dont care who it is. Even if I had a dollar & I had to give you 50 cent….I’m mad as a MF. Get your own money Bi@tch! Whats mine is mine all day. F off!

And by the way, ANY woman can be a money hungry wh*re.

I mean, if you want to be about the racial barrier….look at all the wh*res that Tiger had to pay off to shut they trap.

And THEY werent even married!!!

So, you make a weak argument, my dear.

Any woman who is deceitful and conniving, will have only their best interests at heart. No matter what color they are.

This is getting whacker by the minute. WhoTF does Nas have representing him, some pre-paid legal attorney?

Listen, I’m all for the non-custodial parent helping to support the child but support it is SO much more than financial and further, wtf does Kelis need spousal support for? Guess her “career” is a joke.

I get that support is income-based but I’m sorry, this is going too far; this antiquated, biased azz system needs to be changed immediately. Too many females are milking the system to maintain the lifestyles they want to but didn’t work for nor contribute to (sorry, marrying into $ isn’t considered ‘work’), and they do it under the guise of child support when it’s really adult support. I’m sick of these chicks – and I’m a female.

If you have money, man or woman, you need an iron-clad pre-nup before you take your vows, and if the person you’re marrying has a problem with it, well there’s your red flag. Count your blessings that you saw it BEFORE the “I do’s.”

I’m really sick of these stories when relationships fail and chicks feel entitled to something because they have a kid or two and they’ve become ‘accustomed’ to a certain lifestyle. B*tch, you were accustomed to being married and you’re not anymore, so it’s time to adjust in other areas as well.

Not to negate the importance of a child being provided for, but we all know these amounts are ridiculously excessive. If you can’t take care of your kid in the way that you’d like without thousands of dollars deposited into your bank account per month, then perhaps you should give your child to the parent that actually HAS the means and let him/her raise the kid. How’s that for an idea?

I simply don’t believe in spousal support and women shouldn’t either. That is relic from old times when women couldn’t work and did not have as many rights as men. I do believe the child should be well taken care of, but she should make her own money. I’d petition to get custody of my child if I was Nas.

**Cue the violins** Stop acting like he’s the only person ever to pay large amounts of spousal and child support. Get over it. he was being an a s s before they went to court instead of settling, now look at him.

Tell me any child who needs 50 thousand a month ..What expenses could that child possibly have?
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@I Am Legend

While the total is $50,000 per month:
$40,000 is alimony
and
$10,000 is child support…

WOW!! So this is the fault of a “black woman”? How old are you people on here, because these comments are VERY immature and downright stupid. Only angry, immature Black men would blame this on the woman. If you get married and end up in divorce court, you will have to pay up, NO MATTER WHAT COLOR THE WIFE IS. Don’t blame “Black women”. Take your issue up with those who make the rules/laws. Kelis used the system that was created to her advantage, so don’t hate the player, hate the game.

well i’m down for marriage….sooooo if anyone wants to swirl it up with me, lets just go for it. i’ll only ask for about $60K in child support $20K for spousal support (per month) and we dont even have to have kids.

i kid, i kid….

Well HE must have cheated or did something to destroy the marriage, otherwise, the judge may not have been so harsh on him. So he gets what he deserves, then.

Marriage is a partnership. It is also a spiritual contract with God as well as a legal contract in courts with all connected to the federal government. A man is suppose to provide a decent life style for his children based on what he can afford.

Most of the time the wives are placed at a disadvantage because they have to give up a great deal of their time in life to be supportive of husband and his career as well as all the hard work and time that goes into raising a child, maintaining a household [as a personal free maid]. Giving up her time, allows for a man’s career and all to flourish at her expense. In the end, the legal system is suppose to create equality and fairness.

It’s not about being a gold digger. If you don’t believe in the partnership and oneness of marriage, then don’t get married. According the Bible, the man is suppose to provide and be the leader of his household. Some want to become selfish and punk out in the end when their feet is held to fire or they are made accountable.

As a black woman get ur money boo. He dog u and now u are doing him in the pockets. She knows how much he is worth that is why she is going hard and she suppose too. Damn him! He she does not get it he will be giving it to some other chick on the block. Shawnee from DC.

Where is the equalization for a woman given up her precious time to be the supportive woman in holding the fork down on the homefront which requires of a lot of work, time, energy and sacrifice while the man goes out and work?

I know Nas & Kelis’s divorce is the exception because it is outrageous. However, he should have simply given her $3 mils after 1O years of marriage for spousal support and the rest for the well being of his child [child care only if the mother is looking for a job or working, food, clothing, shelter, medical/dental and future educational needs].

While Nas might not have been selling records, he has done extremely well as a paid writer for other artists.

NAS IS NOT GOING TO PAY HER SHYT
AS FOR NAS PEOPLE TOLD HIM ABOUT KELIS SO HE GOT WHAT HE DESERVE.

Gon head Kelis and get the paper girlfriend. I white women can do it then so can black women. And this is nothing compared to what lionel richie had to give to his white wife. Lionel had to pay that whit skankl nearly 300,000 a month and give her his 18 million dollar mansion.

marriage when youre a rich black men is suicidal even when youre poor,i dont care bout other races…people used to get married 4 financial security not 4 love,love aint got shyyt to do with it

This entire thread is akin to an urgent call for therapy. Sheesh. . .

How did news of one couple’s ugly divorce become an indictment against the population of black women? I don’t know Kelis, never met Kelis, never talked with Kelis, have no knowledge of Kelis other than the little I’ve read about her in the media. I have as little in common with her as many of you have with Tiger Woods, Tiki Barber, Michael Jordan, Shaq, et al.

Stop projecting your personal issues onto lives of famous folks with whom you’ll probably never come into contact. These people don’t represent you or me. Seek help and be content.

Happy Tuesday!

@ Y’ALL PLAY TOO MUCH

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PREACH!!! DAMMIT PREACH!!!!

AND I AM A FEMALE TOO WITH A CHILD!

I DON’T BELIEVE IN HANGING MEN BY THE BALLS! I JUST DON’T DO IT.

@ MARRIAGE IS A

WTF ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?? SHE DIDN’T HOLD DOWN ANY FORT (NOT FORK) AND IT IS NOT LIKE THEYHAVE A M*SSIVE AMOUNT OF KIDS AND SHE QUIT HER DAY JOB TO RAISE THEM. SHE WAS STILL MAKING MUSIC, $$ AND TRAVELING THE WORLD WITH NAS.

SHE GETS WHAT SHE CAME IN WITH.

KNIGHT GETS THE $$.

NOW, I agree if someone did spend 20+ years of her life rearing children and gave up a career, then yes I can see that

BUT THIS IS NOT THE CASE FOR THAT. SORRY, SHE SHOULD GET NOTHING.

well sparkle is playin’ but im serious, i want that $60k/m and 20/k in support.lol

men in here are so dumb, you hear the word child support and snoopy kicks in ”
womp womp womp trifling womp womp golddigger wom womp womp monthly check womp half my pay check womp womp imma be broke womp womp confiscated tax check womp womp womp”

its C-H-I-L-D SUPPORT, support for your CHILD, its like if you tell a man your putting him on child support youve gotta wear a bullet proof vest from now on. these[black] men are getting all these women pregnant and leaving them and then are upset when there tax checks get confiscated?!! lol then they get the new girl after about 3 or 4 babay mama’s, the only smart one not to get pregnant move her in to his apartment, buy her groceries, take her shopping, pay monthly bills, robly taking care of her kids too and now she is getting triple the support that your child is getting?!! thats exactly what nas did to kelis and well, im the other woman popping birth control taking yall checks and building my bank account stupid muthaf’s!

To put matters into perspective, here’s a list of some of the most expensive celebrity divorces, and as you can see, the people involved are a diverse lot:

Rupert Murdoch’s divorce from Anna Murdoch; reputedly “the most expensive divorce in history” at $1.7 billion

Adnan Khashoggi’s divorce from Soraya Khashoggi; estimated at $874 million

Craig McCaw’s divorce from Wendy McCaw; estimated to exceed $460 million

Michael Jordan’s divorce from Juanita Jordan; estimated to exceed $150 million and considered by Forbes Magazine to be “the most expensive celebrity divorce” in history

Neil Diamond’s divorce from Marcia Murphey; estimated at $150 million

Harrison Ford’s divorce from Melissa Mathison; estimated at $118 million

Greg Norman’s divorce from Laura A-n-d-r-a-s-s-y; estimated at $103 million

Steven Spielberg’s divorce from Amy Irving; estimated at $100 million

Kevin Costner’s divorce from Cindy Silva; estimated at $80 million

Kenny Rogers divorce from Marianne Rogers; estimated at $60 million

James Cameron’s divorce from Linda Hamilton; estimated to exceed $50 million

Paul McCartney’s divorce from Heather Mills; estimated at $48.6 million

Michael Douglas’ divorce from Diandra Douglas; estimated at $45 million

Ted Danson’s divorce from Casey Coats; estimated at $30 million

Donald Trump’s divorce from Ivana Trump; estimated at $25 million

Lionel Richie’s divorce from Diane Richie; estimated at $20 million

Mick Jagger’s divorce from Jerry Hall; estimated between $15 and $25 million

Boys, Do not be O.J, Ray Curruth or none of these dudes that are angry enough to do stupid ish. Just dont Marry them. Pay for your kids…follow the judges ruling to a tee, nothing extra, and learn your lesson. A hard head makes a soft @ss. Keep your loot,Man. Dont buy the COW! If she wants to know where this relationship is headed, tell her to MMMOOOOOOve on. Get it. MMMMOOOOve on!?! HHHAAAA!!!!! I kill myself sometimes,HHAAA!!!

Kelis is getting all that paper and can’t even get a decent weave..Jeesh!!

@ Sydney

WHICH ONE OF THOSE COUPLES HAD LESS THAN 5 YEARS IN AND/OR ONLY 1 CHILD?

in the famous words of the late great Johnny Taylor…”its cheaper to keep her!”

Its cheaper not to marry her at all. If you want to get married,Boys…get married to the stock market, get married to adding property to your profile, get married to researching new investments, get married to your bank accounts….read the Wall Street Journal Online. Get your money right. Build your profile. Equality means “Every PERSON for THEMSELVES” Sounds like individualism,right? Dont blame me, I didn’t see any men burning bra’s in the late 60′s.

@IJM

“WHICH ONE OF THOSE COUPLES HAD LESS THAN 5 YEARS IN AND/OR ONLY 1 CHILD?”

Good morning! I’m not familiar with all the couples, so I’m not sure how long they were all married and so forth. I’m not agreeing with the outcome of the divorce between Nas and Kelis, but I do object to this situation being made into a larger depiction of the character of black women in general. That’s ridiculous and indicative of ingrained personal issues.

lesson bros when you get doe get some snow.

@Theorius Stylez

“I dont see the usual haters either, DaHonest, Sydney, Bi@tch @ss Chris, Carmel Cat, Lovely Olivia, tessa, Realist, none of these fakers.”

What/who exactly do I “hate?”

I already told you that your long-existing problems are painfully apparent and therapy would most likely do you a world of good. This is far too much antipathy for one person to carry.

most of you men have no idea what marriage is two become one so find out about a womans head or her qualities. You have a child you look after that simple, you have a family you look after them emotionally physically, cheating is for cowards. Do not look to entertainers as yr guide, look to day to day hard working people. Nas had a lot of women fan bases to which he would have lost. All am saying is men and women look deeply to those u want to spend yr life with quality, character, heart…and be responsible.

As much as I hate to say it, She is raising a celebrities child. She should be able to support his child on a celebrity income. The child is entitled to live just as good as Daddy does while being with his mother.

@its just me, if you are a woman, its women like you that give black women a bad name, women like you make me so sick!

now after reading this, who can really blame O.J.?

Greetings to ALL

I seen a comment or two regarding that Kelis intentionally got pregnant by Nas when she felt that the relationship was in trouble, basically in many ways to trap Nas for financial security, however I feel that kind of hostility (the tone of the comment(s))shouldn’t be fully directed at Kelis since clearly he was aware of i-s-sues in the marriage as well(it takes two, she can not impregnate herself). In addition, it is my understanding that he did not draw up a prenupital agreement and have her sign the papers, therefore BOTH are at fault. It is not uncommon for non-everyday folks (i.e those of wealth and/or high status)to have such large numbers in: support and alimony. However, I do think that it should’ve been court ordered (with such large amounts)that a portion of the money go into a: custodial account and 529 account (for education) and the rest kept for basic nece-s-sities.

@Sydney
Whatever.

Boys. Focus on your paper,Man. Ho es come & go. Its life. Read The Wall Street Journal Online for free at WSJ dot C O M. You dont have to open an account, just start reading it. You will begin to familiarize yourself with the terminology. It will show you how to get your paper right. If you have money, thats all that matters. Period. Nas took his mind off of his paper. Look at what happened to him. Make your THERAPY the Wall Street Journal Online. Focus on your paper,Man.

Hi, Ms. EJ

A hitman would be a lot cheaper. LMAO

I’ve always viewed Kelis as an opportunistic wacky eccentric bytch….I think she is intentionally raping Nas with no vaseline…fyi, she doesn’t represent me, or for that matter MANY other black women in this world…(and why is this a race issue anyway?)…moving on…

@Theorius

“Whatever.”

No whatever. Get therapy. You’re full of anger. You can go to counseling sessions and continue to read the WSJ. I have an online subscription as well and I get a daily e-mail with the stories of the day.

Good morning, ladies

Hey Sydney, Ms.EJ, IJM, DaHonest, et al…

I mean dang, I wasn’t even in this thread earlier and people are concerned with my opinion on this crazy Kelis chick…she made a couple of decent hits, that’s the ultimate extent of which I care for her, if at all…Nas definitely has his issues as well, but I love him as a lyricist…so whatever, moving on…

Outrageousness

I do what I do because I can. I’m one of those FREE Negroes.

@Sydney
Good for you.

Boys, focus on your money,Man. Ho es come and go. Thats life. Start Building Your Portfolio. WSJ dot C O M, Do it Today!

“Hey Sydney, Ms.EJ, IJM, DaHonest, et al…

I mean dang, I wasn’t even in this thread earlier and people are concerned with my opinion on this crazy Kelis chick…”

Okay??? I wasn’t even here either!! As I said I was at home in bed WITH MY MAN!! Kelis was the last thing on my mind at 2:00 this morning…

SO SAD… I see the hate just continued on through the night. I guess that’s what happens when people are miserable and lonely.

@ SYDNEY – Yeah, we tried bringing up other examples of high-profile divorces. Irrelevant to them, they’ve got their bullet-riddled “I hate black women” flags waving high.

You can’t have a decent convo of differing opinions with ignorant folk.

This is flat out extortion.

¿¿¿¿¿¿¿¿And women claim to not understand why men don’t want to get married?????????

GTFOH!

Chit is ridiculous. And this is what happens to someone who can affort the BEST attorneys to represent him and going against a woman demonstrated capable of supporting herself!

I’m ridin’ for Nas, like Red & Meth. F Kelis and anyone who believes in this kind of ish.

@MS. EJ
“I seen a comment or two regarding that Kelis intentionally got pregnant by Nas when she felt that the relationship was in trouble, basically in many ways to trap Nas for financial security, however I feel that kind of hostility (the tone of the comment(s))shouldn’t be fully directed at Kelis since clearly he was aware of i-s-sues in the marriage as well(it takes two, she can not impregnate herself). In addition, it is my understanding that he did not draw up a prenupital agreement and have her sign the papers, therefore BOTH are at fault. It is not uncommon for non-everyday folks (i.e those of wealth and/or high status)to have such large numbers in: support and alimony. However, I do think that it should’ve been court ordered (with such large amounts)that a portion of the money go into a: custodial account and 529 account (for education) and the rest kept for basic nece-s-sities.”
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I agree. You should NEVER trust your “spouse” and should take measure to prevent pregnancy and keep finances seperate for issues like this.

Nas is serving as a shining example to those out there freely giving “trust” to people they are in a relationship with.

MORNING SYD!!

SORRY FOR MY RUDENESS!!!

w.w.w.n.o.m.a.r.r.i.a.g.e.c.o.m

Nuff saId!

all I could do was shake my head, what a mess.

@hannibal

“NEVER GET MARRIED TO A BLACK WOMAN”
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What? Que? Must I remind you that white chicks invented this genius sh*t. Before this, sisters weren’t getting anything besides a “see you later” and a “this is my new chic.”

@its just me, if you are a woman, its women like you that give black women a bad name, women like you make me so sick!

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Yes I am a woman and how do I give black women a bad name? Because I think she is wrong for the amount she is asking him to pay?

Please be specific.

HEY!! MORNING @

Caramel

DaHonest

Syd

EJ (prayers please)

Syd

Slide

MIJDC

ETC. ETC.

I’ve always viewed Kelis as an opportunistic wacky eccentric bytch….I think she is intentionally raping Nas with no vaseline…fyi, she doesn’t represent me, or for that matter MANY other black women in this world…(and why is this a race issue anyway?)…moving on…

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TELL IT! CARAMEL!!! TELL IT, TELL IT!

Can someone explain to me why after all the money he has to pay her, he still has to pay her legal & accounting fees?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m not going to necessarily be a cheerleader for marriage with this comment, but I do notice an ongoing trend of average everyday men in these threads comparing themselves to these celebrities with extra long money. How can you base YOUR opinion of marriage off what you see with these rich folks? It is common knowledge that celebrity marriages almost NEVER work out. It is also common knowledge that these folks handle ten times more money than the average joe, including folks making decent paper. Stop looking at these crazy folks in the industry and basing your relationship choices off their experiences…. Chances of a chick trying to take the amount of paper Kelis is getting from Nas is slim to none, because guess what, it’s typically not there to take! And regardless of whether or not you marry, if you procreate you will ALWAYS have to take care of those children…moving on…

@IJM

I mean I’m just sayin’, why because she’s black do all black women have to agree with or align themselves with her. She’s always come off to me as slightly mentally unstable….cute, but a little ‘off’. When Nas got with her I figured she put that snapper on him and had him sprung…

**sitting in the corner s-l-o-w-l-y c.a.r.r.e.s.s.i.n.g the barrel of my gun**

When will “marriage” FINALLY be banned? What will it take?

**using my Gucci shades to push back my bang**

DaHonest aka SMDH

B*tch has ever occurred to you that maybe, I live on the west coast?

Now have a nice cold g l a s s of MAN CHOWDER and shut da’ f*ck up!

HOW THE OL’ BLUES SONG GO???!!!
“ITS CHEAPER TO KEEP HER!” LMAO!!!
4RM THA QUEEN

@Marquis

Now have a nice cold g l a s s of MAN CHOWDER and shut da’ f*ck up!

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Ewwwww…I just had a visual

@THERIOUZ STYLES
“Dont get married,Guys. You will regret it if you do. They all say that they love you in the beginning, so dont get emotional when they run you down to the courthouse & rake you over the coals. just dont get married & you wont have to worry about anybody taking half of your ish.”
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co sign my nucca co sign!

@MIJDC

Come on man, I just don’t feel like it today. You know what the eff I mean…

Nas = Millions of dollars
MIJDC = Thousands of dollars

MIJDC will never have to give up millions of dollars because it doesn’t exist….get it?

*sheesh*

Caramel Cat

“but I do notice an ongoing trend of average everyday men in these threads comparing themselves to these celebrities with extra long money.”

Yeah, like you frails don’t be over-empathizin’ with these (alleged) spurned rich celebrity b*tches: Sandra Bullock, Gabrielle Beauvais, Jill Scott, etc.?

@Marquis

Yeah, like you frails don’t be over-empathizin’ with these (alleged) spurned rich celebrity b*tches: Sandra Bullock, Gabrielle Beauvais, Jill Scott, etc.?

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You obviously haven’t read any of my posts about these chicks. I had no sympathy for Garcelle and I got attacked in a thread for my views on Sandra…..aaaannnnndddd….I recently stated that I’d love to hear Jill Scott’s views on black women with white men…moving on, good grief…

*waves hello back* to: Sydney, Caramel Cat

*waves hello* to IJM, Truly S. Blaque, 1TruDiva

@IJM- I will girl (prayers)

@MIJDC- Hello…and I didn’t mean to imply to not trust your mate, because one should. I should’ve been more clear as to say those with wealth or large amount(s) of money, but then again the same can go for one not rich, but who worked and established something no matter how big or small. Its a catch 22, because a prenup can be a sign of one not trusting and already dooming the relationship or one not being responsible. I definitely what you stated though.

@MIJDC

And notice I stated child support ALONG with marriage…bottom line a man will come out of his pockets for something (along with women) so it doesn’t make sense to shyt on marriage and marriage alone…

Hey Truly.S.Blaque!

LMAO, what is Diva doing?

@Truly.S.Blaque

“@ SYDNEY – Yeah, we tried bringing up other examples of high-profile divorces. Irrelevant to them, they’ve got their bullet-riddled “I hate black women” flags waving high.”

LOL, hello there. Yes, it’s a lost cause. I was going to throw out some e-hugs, but somehow I don’t think they’re appropriate for this discussion.

I still want know what/who exactly I “hate” on, lol.

@Caramel

“How can you base YOUR opinion of marriage off what you see with these rich folks? It is common knowledge that celebrity marriages almost NEVER work out. It is also common knowledge that these folks handle ten times more money than the average joe, including folks making decent paper. Stop looking at these crazy folks in the industry and basing your relationship choices off their experiences….”

Girl, please put this on replay. SMH. When Kelis first hit the scene, it was clear (at least to me) she was very “different,” i.e. not all there mentally. The woman has colored her hair blue and resembled one of the Na’vi at one point. She does not represent us.

@CARAMEL CAT
“Come on man, I just don’t feel like it today. You know what the eff I mean…

Nas = Millions of dollars
MIJDC = Thousands of dollars

MIJDC will never have to give up millions of dollars because it doesn’t exist….get it?

*sheesh*”
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I understand your point. Really, I do. But try looking at it this way, the AMOUNT of the money (although ridiculous) isn’t the point. It’s the principal that the man will have to give up the money HE WORKED FOR. Not sure if that matters to you.

So yes, I’m going to be mad as hell about my thousands like Nas is going to be mad as hell about his millions.

The number don’t lie, MOST marriages end in divorce and MOST men wind up paying at the divorce.

Advising a man to get married is like advising a woman to get into a relatonship with a “reformed” abuser. It COULD work out, but chances are things won’t end good for the woman.

I definitely see what you were stating though*

@CARAMEL CAT
“And notice I stated child support ALONG with marriage…bottom line a man will come out of his pockets for something (along with women) so it doesn’t make sense to shyt on marriage and marriage alone…”
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Yup, a man is going to come out of his pockets regardless. So I guess that means they should just add the expense of gettin married too and fork over those thousands like it aint chit.

SMH.

If anything, since you goin come out your pockets REGARDLESS you might as well try to eliminate ONE cost! That’s ANOTHER reason NOT to get married.

**stepping in front of ALL the women in this thread**

**pacing in front of them**

At the end of the day, don’t get married. It’s too much compromisin’ and appologizin’ and not to mention, too damn expensive when shyt falls apart.

To the anti-marriage men, are you also protecting yourselves from the costs of out-of-wedlock children? If you’re not going to get married, keep in mind that any kids you create are an additional cost you are likely to incur. So I trust that none of you are contributing/plan to contribute to the illegitimacy rate, correct?

@MIJDC

If anything, since you goin come out your pockets REGARDLESS you might as well try to eliminate ONE cost! That’s ANOTHER reason NOT to get married.

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You’d be surprised to know about the number of women (including a former professor I became friends with in graduate school) who are paying spousal support to their ex-HUSBANDS…and she didn’t even have kids with him….lol

Don’t keep thinking that men are the only ones bringing home some paper…

**aiming the “red dot” at the forhead of my cyber love**

Marquis–

You KNOW how I feel about you but you can go first!!! I can love you from beyond……

Diva, you’re not going to e-shoot us, are you? lol

Well that is a LOT of money…but this extra stuff is for BACK alimony & Child support. So if he was paying what he was SUPPOSED to pay in the first place, all this extra money WOULD NOT be there!

@1TruDiva

You KNOW how I feel about you but you can go first!!! I can love you from beyond……

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LMAO! I’ve always been intrigued with your admiration for him…I thought I e-hearted him like a year ago but he keeps disappointing me…lol!

**waiting for Sydney to give me the nod to AIR this m.u.p.h.u.c.c.i.n room out**

“You KNOW how I feel about you but you can go first!!! I can love you from beyond……”

——————–DOA———————

LMAO, girl, what’s wrong with your e-man?

“You’d be surprised to know about the number of women (including a former professor I became friends with in graduate school) who are paying spousal support to their ex-HUSBANDS…and she didn’t even have kids with him….lol”

Now you know, and I know, that’s the exception, not the overall rule. In most divorces, men wind up payin’ through the nose.

@Theoriuz Stylez
I’m not a WOMAN & definitely not a faker – don’t be grouping me with those delusional people…

@Theorius Stylez
4/13/10, 10:13:am
Its cheaper not to marry her at all. If you want to get married,Boys…get married to the stock market, get married to adding property to your profile, get married to researching new investments, get married to your bank accounts….read the Wall Street Journal Online. Get your money right. Build your profile. Equality means “Every PERSON for THEMSELVES” Sounds like individualism,right? Dont blame me, I didn’t see any men burning bra’s in the late 60’s.
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100% Cosign!!

**answering Syd without taking my eyes of the men**

No Syndey, JUST THE MEN!!!!!

@ Caramel Cat—You may wanna get over here with us. It JUST…MIGHT get bloody up in dis piece!!!

**shifting the gun between Man, Marquis and Therious Stylez**

True story: My mother and father divorced when I was like 8 years old. My father moved away (he didn’t want the divorce, so he was bitter) and did not pay child support to my mother for years. Finally after like 5 or 6 years of waiting on him to step up to the plate she put the courts on him. He was pi.ssed but he brought it on himself… He owed back support so badly that he was paying my mother way past me turning 21 and graduating from college. Finally when I was like 24 he asked my mother if she could please request the state to remove the court order…and guess what, she did it. Why? Because she was no longer taking care of me…technically that money was owed to her but she let it go because she was really only concerned about MY overall well-being. The bottom line: There are women out there who simply just want the financial help that is due to them…why is that such a bad thing? The child was brought here by both parties, why shouldn’t BOTH parties be held responsibility for the care of the child?

@DaHonestTruth aka DaDumbestLie
I thought you were on your period – you need to take a nap to ease off that severe stomach ache because it’s definitely hurting your brain cells..That’s just my 2cents!!!

@Diva

Ok, I’m shifting my stance…moving away the line of fire…

Time to raise the hairs on the back of this chick’s neck with some special visitors Nas.

@Realist
I apologize. Sometimes I get carried away.

@CARAMEL CAT
“You’d be surprised to know about the number of women (including a former professor I became friends with in graduate school) who are paying spousal support to their ex-HUSBANDS…and she didn’t even have kids with him….lol

Don’t keep thinking that men are the only ones bringing home some paper…”
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I would NOT be surprised.

“Thirty-three percent of higher-earning spouses are women, but fewer than four percent of alimony payers are women,” says Ned Holstein, president of Fathers & Families, a family-court reform organization in Boston, citing U.S. Census Bureau data.

Yeah, YOU do the math… FEWER THAN FOUR PERCENT OF ALIMONY PAYERS ARE WOMEN.
SMH.

@Sydney

Girl, please put this on replay. SMH. When Kelis first hit the scene, it was clear (at least to me) she was very “different,” i.e. not all there mentally. The woman has colored her hair blue and resembled one of the Na’vi at one point. She does not represent us.

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She also said she’d eat pterodactyl meat if someone cooked it right…and Nas’s daughter’s mother said she didn’t wear deodorant….

Fonky heffa….smh…

SPLLLAAAATTT-TTTAAAT-TAAAAAAAAATTTTT-TAAAAAAT-TAT… SLPAAATTTTTT-TATATATAAAAAATAAAATTTT.

SPLLLATTT—TTTTAAAAAAATATATATATATATAT. TATTT. TATTTAAAAA. TAT. TAT. TAT. TAT.TATTTTTTTT TAAATTTTTAAAATATATATAT.
TAT. TAT. TAT.TATTATATAAAATATATATATATATATAT.

TAT!

**blowing off the barrel of my gun**

**choking from the smoke**

brb, grabbing lunch..

@Marquis
At the end of the day, don’t get married. It’s too much compromisin’ and appologizin’ and not to mention, too damn expensive when shyt falls apart.

Co-sign. Marriage in Today’s society is a Fairy Tale for young boys. They grow up to realize its a lie like Santa Claus. There is no benefit to ANY MAN in America to get married at all. Period. WSJ dot c o m,Boys. Focus on your paper!!

**notices “Man” taking a dive through the window**

**aims for his a/z/z/c/h/e/e/k/s**

SPLAAAT.TTTAAAATTTT.TTTTAAAAT.TAT.TAAAAT.TAT!!!

Damn,how did I miss his a/z/z/?

@CARAMEL CAT
“True story: My mother and father divorced when I was like 8 years old. My father moved away (he didn’t want the divorce, so he was bitter) and did not pay child support to my mother for years. Finally after like 5 or 6 years of waiting on him to step up to the plate she put the courts on him. He was pi.ssed but he brought it on himself… He owed back support so badly that he was paying my mother way past me turning 21 and graduating from college. Finally when I was like 24 he asked my mother if she could please request the state to remove the court order…and guess what, she did it. Why? Because she was no longer taking care of me…technically that money was owed to her but she let it go because she was really only concerned about MY overall well-being. The bottom line: There are women out there who simply just want the financial help that is due to them…why is that such a bad thing? The child was brought here by both parties, why shouldn’t BOTH parties be held responsibility for the care of the child?”
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So basically my tax dollars were used as a collection agent because your mother decided to get a divorce on her own volition? Is that what you are saying?

People need to be responsible for THEIR OWN ACTIONS. If YOU DECIDE TO HAVE A BABY IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. Not for the tax payer to track someone else down to pay for something YOU decided to do. DO NOT EXPECT FOR THE OTHER PERSON TO “STEP UP TO THE PLATE” IF THEY DO NOT WANT TO (that applies to men and women)

@Caramel

“She also said she’d eat pterodactyl meat if someone cooked it right…”

She said that? And she has bad hygiene?

Dare I say that a man dating/marrying an obviously unstable woman is akin to a woman dating/marrying a “thug?” Is he intentionally putting himself in a precarious predicament? *gasp*

@SYDNEY
“Dare I say that a man dating/marrying an obviously unstable woman is akin to a woman dating/marrying a “thug?” Is he intentionally putting himself in a precarious predicament? *gasp*”
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Yes, I find it similar. And those KNOWINGLY entering that sort of relationship deserve what ever happens.

I say KNOWINGLY because sometimes one won’t recognize someone to be unstable/a thug based on outward appearance.

@Sydney
I didn’t chastise you on Katie Washington – i just felt we should be celebrating mediocrity… Notre Dame has been in existence since 1842 – why should we be happy that we had the first black valedictorian in 2010??? That’s 168yrs after the founding of the school – what’s there to celebrate??? I DON’T CELEBRATE MEDIOCRITY!!!

@Theorius Stylez
No hard feelings brah!!!!!!

@Marquis

“The way some of you SISTAS’ think, more than validates the fact that most of y’all’s sole ambition is to become a BABY MAMA BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY!”

And you’re basing this on what? Your observations in the hood? What you’ve seen members of your family experience? The relatinship between your father and mother?

Oh, and get this, if you discredit the value of marriage, and even seek to have it “outlawed,” as some of you advocate, guess what? You’ll have even more “baby mamas” and “baby daddies.” You’re aware of that, right?

Sydney™
I base it on over 70% of A.A. children bein’ born out of WEDLOCK!

Now if you SISTAS’ can’t find a suitable or willin’ brotha’ to marry and start a family with you, what’s to stop you from dating outside of your self-imposed box?

You forcin’ a brotha into unwanted fatherhood is akin to forcin’ a SQUARE PEG INTO A ROUND HOLE! – STOP THE MADNESS!

Boys. Stop believing in Fairy Tales. They are myths or fables. There is no real Alice in Wonderland, Jack & Jill didn’t fall down the hill, the COW didn’t jump over the moon, Little Bo-Peep doesn’t have any sheep. These are Fairy Tales…just like Marriage in Today’s society. Women burned their bra’s in the 60′s because they dont want to be committed to any man. Its called Individualism. Fine. You get yours & I’ll get mine, but stop lyin’. Stop with the Fairy Tales. They aren’t true,Boys. Let me educate you. Fairy Tales aren’t real life, you’ll find out real life when are standing in front of a Judge in a black robe. He is real, and the court system will rake you over the coals.

@Realist
Thanks.

@Marquis

“You forcin’ a brotha into unwanted fatherhood is akin to forcin’ a SQUARE PEG INTO A ROUND HOLE! – STOP THE MADNESS!”

Starting today, I’m “forcing” some of you men to take ahold of your manhood and start being responsible for your actions. A man who has several children with different women isn’t a “victim,” he has placed himself in an undesirable predicament, just as women have who willingly have children with various partners. Be accountable for the poor choices you make and their outcomes. Some men are blaming women for everything from the clothes they choose to wear, to their prison records, and the string of fatherless children they produce. YOU, STOP THE MADNESS.

@SYDNEY
“Well, then, if we use that line of reasoning, we could say that Nas made his own bed, no? Kelis has always been “different” — very different, in fact.”
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In a sense, YES, Nas DESERVES the following for being with an unstable woman:

Emotional turmoil
Being cheated on
Humiliation
Embarra.s.s.ed

As for the rest, NO, he does NOT deserve being put in the poorhouse due to a system described as “biased” even by the most conservative objective party.

This isn’t Kelis acting up, it’s the result of a ridiculous and partial system men are subjugated to. SMH.

And some of you need to stop behaving as if you have a chance at having a healthy relationship — much less getting married. You’re the male versions of Erykah’s “Bag Lady.” “When women see you coming, they just take off running. . .From you, it’s true, oh, yes, they do. . .”

“Pack light.”

BRB. . .going to lunch

@Sydney
I acknowledged the young woman’s achievement – and, i’m happy for her… She shouldn’t be singled out for praise because she’s a valedictorian from Notre Dame – there are hundreds of other black valedictorians with better G.P.A from more prestigious schools…

Every black youth getting an education is a role model!!

I FU CK ING LOVE THIS LADY – i AM GOING TO MAKE A SONG TO HER AS SOON AS I CAN.

If you do not want to marry, that is your choice. But what I do not understand is how this has turned into a race issue? Women of all races walk away from a marriage like Kelis did. She’s getting way too much child support money.

I do not understand why some men are basically saying black women are….insert adjectives. Again, what does Kelis have to do with all black women?

@Sydney

Starting today, I’m “forcing” some of you men to take ahold of your manhood and start being responsible for your actions. A man who has several children with different women isn’t a “victim,” he has placed himself in an undesirable predicament, just as women have who willingly have children with various partners. Be accountable for the poor choices you make and their outcomes. Some men are blaming women for everything from the clothes they choose to wear, to their prison records, and the string of fatherless children they produce. YOU, STOP THE MADNESS.
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I agree 100%. These people are not victims when they place themselves in the same situations over and over again. If you have multiple baby mothers or multiple baby father, you are NO VICTIM. Blame yourself for either getting pregnant repeatedly or getting someone pregnant repeatedly. We have so many damn excuses for everything.

Yeah and in their coutry they kill them off on a regular so go ahead and enjoy you foreign feast. Yall were made for each other.

Ray Carruth.

How did you feel when you learned that there is no Santa Claus? Didn’t you feel betrayed? Just stop lyin’. Marriage is a Fairy Tale in Today’s society. Dont betray your own yourself. You will be kickin’ yourself in the @ss if you stay, you will be kickin’ yourself in the @ss when it is over. There is no benefit to any Man at all.

@Theorius

Brother if you do not want to get married ever again, that is your choice. I am not going to argue you over that.

What I do not understand is how you made this a black woman issue.

@MIJDC

So basically my tax dollars were used as a collection agent because your mother decided to get a divorce on her own volition? Is that what you are saying?

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Oh get a life! I think we are close in age so your tax dollars went towards NOTHING…Are you kidding me? My parents were married for two years before I was even discussed, she didn’t just decide to ‘get pregnant’…she decided to get a divorce because my father was shiftless and a non-productive contribution to the marriage…that’s not relevant however…what IS relevant is that he decided to not take care of his child for 6 years! Or did you miss that part? smh…

“Observer
4/13/10, 12:46:pm

@Theorius

Brother if you do not want to get married ever again, that is your choice. I am not going to argue you over that.

What I do not understand is how you made this a black woman issue.”

Cuz it’s a BLACK SITE and this particular thread deals with a BLACK WOMEN usin’ the legal system to FLEECE an unreasonable amount of money from a brotha’ cuz she fell out of love with him. Stop askin’ silly rhetorical questions.

@Observer

@Theorius

Brother if you do not want to get married ever again, that is your choice. I am not going to argue you over that.

What I do not understand is how you made this a black woman issue.

First, this isn’t a black woman issue. I’m educating bruthas by telling them not to marry any woman at all. They dont have to. KRS-One said it best. The Pu ss y is free, but the crack cost money, Oh Yeah! I cant help it if some sistas are angry at me for helping to open the eyes of men on here. I expect them to be angry at me, but I dont care. I also tell them to follow the courts rulings, but that’s it. They only have to abide by the court. it’s true. I’m not lyin’ to them. I’m educating them, as I should.

“Ray Carruth.”

What about him? He’s in prison, and his son is permanently disabled because of his actions.

@CARAMEL CAT
“So basically my tax dollars were used as a collection agent because your mother decided to get a divorce on her own volition? Is that what you are saying?

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Oh get a life! I think we are close in age so your tax dollars went towards NOTHING…Are you kidding me? My parents were married for two years before I was even discussed, she didn’t just decide to ‘get pregnant’…she decided to get a divorce because my father was shiftless and a non-productive contribution to the marriage…that’s not relevant however…what IS relevant is that he decided to not take care of his child for 6 years! Or did you miss that part? smh…”
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SOMEONE’S tax dollars acted as a collection agent because YOUR MOTHER DECIDED to marry and reproduce with a person that was “shiftless and a non-productive
contribut(or)” to the marriage and your father didn’t want to pay for a child he helped to create.

It’s really that simple. Your Mother procreated with someone she regretted and tax dollars had to be used to absolve her of her decision. Your father didn’t want to responsible for the child he helped create.

Nothing to get angry or defensive about, it is what it is. I just feel tax dollars shouldn’t be used to create a collection agency to absolve people of their personal decisions.

Observer

There you again, puttin’ the onus of birth control on the men…We wouldn’t be havin’ this discussion if WOMEN also practiced birth control…But I guess, that 70% was the result of condom breakin’ and those 16 over the counter contraceptives (at you sistas’ disposal) failin’ simultaneously, huh?

@Marquis
Cuz it’s a BLACK SITE and this particular thread deals with a BLACK WOMEN usin’ the legal system to FLEECE an unreasonable amount of money from a brotha’ cuz she fell out of love with him. Stop askin’ silly rhetorical questions.

Thanks,Bro. We ridin’ for Nas Like Red & Meth. We gotta do that. This ish is insane.

@Realist

“there are hundreds of other black valedictorians with better G.P.A from more prestigious schools…

Every black youth getting an education is a role model!!”

And I applaud anyone who pursues his or her education. I don’t see how praising the accomplishments of a young woman who has been in the news in the past few days is neglecting any other accomplished individual.

@Theorius Stylez

“I’m educating bruthas by telling them not to marry any woman at all.”

Are you also educating them on how not to produce out-of-wedlock children? You are the one who’s kicking women out of his Benz, no?

@MIJDC

Your Mother procreated with someone she regretted and tax dollars had to be used to absolve her of her decision. Your father didn’t want to responsible for the child he helped create.

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Let it be known she never regretted procreating anything…but moving on to the topic, why is it HER fault. Do you ever think that people have things that happen to them that change who they are? Obviously she dated my father for 9 years and was married for 2 before she decided to have a child. Obviously he showed a different side to himself after the divorce….I will re-iterate, my father was BITTER about the DIVORCE. He did not want a DIVORCE, so his way of being difficult and getting back at my mother was through doing things HIS way…don’t get me wrong, he spent time with me and I spent summers with him but financially he did not see a point in mailing a monthly check…FOCUS, PLEASE….

By my pool side with a big cuban cigar in my mouth – grey goose on the floor – jamming to Harry Belafonte’s ‘BANANA BOAT SONG’… Life is good! – no woman ain’t sharing half of my wealth with me – i got all these from my hardwork & i’m still in my 20z….

I make my money work for me in the ‘MOTHERLAND’; ‘STOCK EXCHANGE’ is my best friend – real estate in ‘NORTH AFRICA’ is my fiancee – and, i’m married to ‘MONEY’… I’ll never do a 9-5 in my life again – life of a smart ‘STOLEN AFRICAN’…

@MIJDC

I just feel tax dollars shouldn’t be used to create a collection agency to absolve people of their personal decisions.

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And I don’t necessarily DISAGREE with this…but the only time I actually AGREE with you about this is when it’s random irresponsible men and women out there planting seeds every which way…there needs to be better restrictions on the system…

Observer

There’s always exceptions, and intangibles, darlin’, but it’s still a far cry from the 70% that’s attached to the SISTAS’ PLANNED PARENTHOOD PROGRAM (or a lack thereof)

Oh well, off to work, it’s been illuminatin’. Ciao!

Michelle is in Haiti today. . .

@Sydney
Are you also educating them on how not to produce out-of-wedlock children? You are the one who’s kicking women out of his Benz, no?

Question 1. Yes. Always wear ya Jimmy Hat,Fellas.

Question 2. Yes that’s me. Sometimes I have to. They like my leather seats, magic carpet-smooth ride and the AC. I dont blame them. It is very comfortable & I like it too.

Y’all are killing me! LOL

SOME OF Y’ALL DAXN SHEEPLE ARE BEING LED RIGHT INTO THE F**KING SLAUGHTER!!!

@ SIS

2 days Momma and a wake up! WHOOHOO!!!

PS I was not here when you let your shots ring out!

[...] Source [...]

@CARAMEL CAT
“Let it be known she never regretted procreating anything…but moving on to the topic, why is it HER fault. Do you ever think that people have things that happen to them that change who they are? Obviously she dated my father for 9 years and was married for 2 before she decided to have a child. Obviously he showed a different side to himself after the divorce….I will re-iterate, my father was BITTER about the DIVORCE. He did not want a DIVORCE, so his way of being difficult and getting back at my mother was through doing things HIS way…don’t get me wrong, he spent time with me and I spent summers with him but financially he did not see a point in mailing a monthly check…FOCUS, PLEASE….”
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Um… Ok. So if he was bitter… or whatever because it’s really not relevant why your parents split… why should tax dollars go towards enforcing him to pay for his child exactly?

I mean, wouldn’t that be between your Mom and you Dad? Why is Uncle Sam spending the hard earned money of the tax payer to enforce payment because they can’t agree on how to pay for the upbringing of the child THEY decided to make and the TAXPAYER had NO say so in making?

@Marquis

Cuz it’s a BLACK SITE and this particular thread deals with a BLACK WOMEN usin’ the legal system to FLEECE an unreasonable amount of money from a brotha’ cuz she fell out of love with him. Stop askin’ silly rhetorical questions.
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Right! And you are the first brother to show up when a thread is about black men and they are getting bashed. So you should stop with the silly comments you make.

@Theorius

You did make it a black womans issue early this morning, when you were stereotyping us. I could sense the anger from you towards black women. Like I said, if you do not want to get married, why should I argue you about? Do as you please.

@Marquis

There you again, puttin’ the onus of birth control on the men…We wouldn’t be havin’ this discussion if WOMEN also practiced birth control…But I guess, that 70% was the result of condom breakin’ and those 16 over the counter contraceptives (at you sistas’ disposal) failin’ simultaneously, huh?
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There you go again giving women way too much power over you. Women should take the steps to make sure they have contraceptives but men should not count on that. Be in control of your own life and stop counting on women to do it. Women can buy birth control and men can buy condoms…. Or is it you prefer to not wear condoms?

If a black man had 8 children with 8 different women, you STILL would not hold him responsible for his irresponsible actions. He is no victim, just as if it were a woman, she would not be a victim either.

They teach us to hate ourself and Love their wealth…

dang nas my boi what u did man?

@Theorius Stylez

“Question 2. Yes that’s me. Sometimes I have to. They like my leather seats, magic carpet-smooth ride and the AC. I dont blame them. It is very comfortable & I like it too.”

LMAO

@MIJDC

Refer to my comment made at 13:05:pm

There are instances (such as the current healthcare situation) where tax dollars need to go towards a greater good. I think that if a couple marries and has a legitimate situation where they split and have children together there is nothing wrong with Uncle Sam stepping in (if necessary)…but, I can understand someone not wanting to take care of Pookie and Shauntae’s 10 kids all over town…that is all…

@CARAMEL CAT
“I just feel tax dollars shouldn’t be used to create a collection agency to absolve people of their personal decisions.

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And I don’t necessarily DISAGREE with this…but the only time I actually AGREE with you about this is when it’s random irresponsible men and women out there planting seeds every which way…there needs to be better restrictions on the system…”
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How would you determine who is “responsible” and who isn’t?

It really doesn’t matter because tax dollars shouldn’t be used in this way. Reproduction is a personal matter with consequences that should not pertain to tax dollars.

Nas knew he he wasn’t gon really spend the rest of his life with Kelis and he knew he not selling enough records nowdays to be divorcing her a$$

@Observer

Like I said, if you do not want to get married, why should I argue you about? Do as you please.

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THANK YOU!

@Observer
Like I said, if you do not want to get married, why should I argue you about? Do as you please.

Take notes,Boys. The problem Observer has with me is that I am a free black man who opposes her views on marriage.

Look here lil’Lady. I dont need your permission to do ish. Period. I’m not your man & I dont have to listen to you. I dont need you to tell me to do as I please. I am a WAR HERO and I earned every right that I have. You didn’t give any of my rights to me, so I dont giva a F what you think about my views or what I do. You hate that,huh? Well, If you dont like me educating young men about this Fairy Tale called Marriage, I have two words for ya! (DX Chop!)

@MIJDC

How do we know patient A didn’t do everything in her power to take care of herself and didn’t create a pre-existing condition (current insurance industry)

The answer: Who cares! This patient is sick, dying and needs help!

@CARAMEL CAT
“Refer to my comment made at 13:05:pm

There are instances (such as the current healthcare situation) where tax dollars need to go towards a greater good. I think that if a couple marries and has a legitimate situation where they split and have children together there is nothing wrong with Uncle Sam stepping in (if necessary)…but, I can understand someone not wanting to take care of Pookie and Shauntae’s 10 kids all over town…that is all…”
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¿¿¿ DA HELL ???

Yes, there is a “greater” good out that needs to be addressed. The difference is that it should be used in situations where people didn’t have A CHOICE!

You don’t CHOOSE to be sick.
You don’t CHOOSE to be attacked by terrorist.
Etc.

You DO CHOOSE to procreate, and that is a personal decision people should have to reap the benefits/suffer the consequences for.

The “relationship” and “Pookie and Shauntae” are identical and should be treated no different.

“Look here lil’Lady. I dont need your permission to do ish. Period. I’m not your man & I dont have to listen to you. I dont need you to tell me to do as I please.”

You have so many issues — a lack of anger management being among them — starting with your mother.

@MIJDC

Ahhhh, but yes, according to insurance companies many people do CHOOSE to be sick by doing things such as smoking, maintaining a poor diet, etc….

My point is this: seriously, there needs to be a fixation at the ROOT…people need to get a better grasp on what they should do to maintain a healthy happy life (no matter what the c.i.r.c.u.m.s.t.a.n.c.e.s….opting out of marriage will not guarantee a health, happy life, but it WILL likely guarantee a lonely life…

@CARAMEL CAT
“How do we know patient A didn’t do everything in her power to take care of herself and didn’t create a pre-existing condition (current insurance industry)

The answer: Who cares! This patient is sick, dying and needs help!”
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Again, this is an apples to oranges comparison because Patient A did NOT have a CHOICE in the situation.

(That’s not even to begin describing that it is cost effective for this as a country)

If you CHOOSE certain actions, you should be held accountable. That’s why you don’t get paid life insurance policies if you commit suicide or you get in a wreck while you are fleeing the police. YOU CHOSE THAT.

@Sydney
You have so many issues — a lack of anger management being among them — starting with your mother
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Don’t talk about people’s mothers on a ‘GOSSIP’ site – that’s DISRESPECTFUL!!! I thought you’re a strong black women – and, all for black women empowerment – what happened to civility???

@Sydney
Whatever. I’m not Nas and aint no broad BOSSY to me. I’m the boss of all of my ish. Take notes,Boys. Be the Boss of your own ish.

Seriously speaking I’m all for fair but this chick is ridiculous. That’s what these n*ggas get tho marrying for shallow reasons. SMH

‘I dont need you to tell me to do as I please. I am a WAR HERO and I earned every right that I have. You didn’t give any of my rights to me, so I dont giva a F what you think about my views or what I do.’

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Don’t get me wrong, I respect your service to this country but dang, you wear that stuff on your SHOULDER! My husband fought in the Iraq war and is an Army Veteran but I promise you he doesn’t talk about that stuff HALF as much as I read you posting about it…

We’ve all GONE through something that made us who we are today…we’ve ALL had life altering crosses to bear, you aren’t alone…

@Theorius

Take notes,Boys. The problem Observer has with me is that I am a free black man who opposes her views on marriage.

Look here lil’Lady. I dont need your permission to do ish. Period. I’m not your man & I dont have to listen to you. I dont need you to tell me to do as I please. I am a WAR HERO and I earned every right that I have. You didn’t give any of my rights to me, so I dont giva a F what you think about my views or what I do. You hate that,huh? Well, If you dont like me educating young men about this Fairy Tale called Marriage, I have two words for ya! (DX Chop!)
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What are you talking about? You should be glad I am not debating you on why you should get married. Brother I’m saying do not get married if you don’t want to be. I do not have a problem with that.

What are my views on marriage and where did I talk about them?

@Observer

Brother I’m saying do not get married if you don’t want to be. I do not have a problem with that.

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Right! And what’s the point of preaching your own personal pathology as the gospel truth to other men who may actually look forward to being in a happy marriage one day? I just DO NOT get it….

@Realist
Don’t talk about people’s mothers on a ‘GOSSIP’ site – that’s DISRESPECTFUL!!! I thought you’re a strong black women – and, all for black women empowerment – what happened to civility???

Thanks,Bro. They are controlling bullies on this site, and if a man doesn’t agree with their ish, they try to emasculate him & call him names. I’m from the hood & names dont hurt me. As a matter of fact, I’m a pretty funny guy, so if they wanna BAGG we can do that. However, that’s not the issue. The issue is control & Men need to take control of their own lives and their own affairs. I dont care what they think. I only care that black men start to open their eyes & realize who is for their success and who is against their success. Anyone who wants you to fail is not your friend. Period. Real talk.

@Caramel Cat

Anytime you tell people not do something and very are adamant about it, most people try it out at some point in time or another. As we see it on a daily basis, people always do what you tell them not to do.

@Theorius

Anyone who wants you to fail is not your friend. Period. Real talk.

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And I think you feel that the women on this thread are looking for a man to fail…I NEVER want to see my husband or any other man fail…it doesn’t bring any positivity to our society so why on earth would I want to see a man hurt and fall down?

@Observer

Very good OBSERVATION…

aint no broad BOSSY to me. I’m the boss of all of my ish. Take notes,Boys. Be the Boss of your own ish.

1st of all, I’m side-eyeing you quoting a Kelis song….. Other than that, you’re trying to be BOSSY on a gossip site. Why so angry, black man? Why? Can you not formulate an opinion and share it without being threatening, rude, and disrespectful?

@Carmel Cat
you wear that stuff on your SHOULDER!

That is my accomplishment & you or the courts cant take that away from me. Its MINE….all MINE.

@Observer
What are you talking about? You should be glad I am not debating you on why you should get married.

Go for it. This will help me to educate the fellas.

@Observer
I have never talked about GIMMEABREAK’S mother – she will testify to that – though, we always have our difference, but, i’ll never stoop that low to talk ish about her MOTHER… My mother is the reason i’ve been able to achieve alot in my young life, and i love her to death – it will be unwise for me to disrespect other people’s mother’s when i don’t disrespect mine…

As for GIMMEABREAK – i’m just trying to help the confused sister out – it’s painful to see AFRICANS like her & KIGALI dissociate themselves from their Continent when people like me who’ve lost every connection with the place trying my best to connect with it in everyway possible..

@CARAMEL CAT
“Ahhhh, but yes, according to insurance companies many people do CHOOSE to be sick by doing things such as smoking, maintaining a poor diet, etc….

My point is this: seriously, there needs to be a fixation at the ROOT…people need to get a better grasp on what they should do to maintain a healthy happy life (no matter what the c.i.r.c.u.m.s.t.a.n.c.e.s….opting out of marriage will not guarantee a health, happy life, but it WILL likely guarantee a lonely life…”
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That’s right, according to insurance companies people are held ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS. Particular for things KNOWN to cause illness. I don’t see anything wrong with this.

If two people decide to procreate, they should be prepared for the consequences of raising that child. Not only together, but alone as well. People pa.s.s. away unexpectedly every day so shouldn’t people think about that possibility before they procreate??? No child support from a deceased parent. When did PREPARATION go from the potential parent to the tax payer????

Being married or not has nothing to do with being “lonely.” Some married people describe themselves as being lonely and some single people feel befriended and loved.

Marriage does not have a monoply on meaningful and intimate relationships. SMH.

@Theorius

That is my accomplishment & you or the courts cant take that away from me. Its MINE….all MINE.

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I hear that bro, and I ain’t mad atcha…but I’m sure you’d get TIRED of me backing all my debates up with the fact that I have an MBA and work as a professional analyst at one of the biggest healthcare providers in the country…Just sayin’, we get it…. and your accomplished, educated and well-rounded tone was very apparent in your initial posts on this blog…

@TrulySBlaque
Whatever.

typo ***mother’s = mothers***

@MIJDC

That’s right, according to insurance companies people are held ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS. Particular for things KNOWN to cause illness. I don’t see anything wrong with this.

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Well on that note, I think our correspondence is done…it’s clear how you view society (which is fine), I just so happen to respectfully disagree…

LOL@Realest

Come on brother. You know you have made sexual references to people mothers. You do that a lot.

@Theorius

Go for it. This will help me to educate the fellas.
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Go for what? I get the sense you want me to debate you about marriage. Why?

@Carmel Cat
but I’m sure you’d get TIRED of me backing all my debates up with the fact that I have an MBA and work as a professional *****yst at one of the biggest healthcare providers in the country

On the contrary, I never get tired of hearing about a person’s accomplishments of any kind. Accomplishments show a person’s character, not how many divorces they have had or how many people they can get over on. When you can earn something yourself you deserve it. Earn is the key word here. earn.

@caramel cat
Keep talking to me sideways – i’m man enough to call you out… Man up & talk to me if you’ve got a problem with me… Like i said before: ‘i’m like an old lady & i love my cats; the caramel cat is my favorite’… I love you sister no matter the disagreement…

@ Theorius Stylez

Keep speaking the truth for men with sense. I’ll continue to say DO NOT GET MARRIED. Get what you can from these hoes and get rid of them. There is never a valid reason for a man to get married. Nas was one of the nice guys and he got taken advantage of too. Why give a female any control over your life? This is one of the reasons I would never get married.

What are the benefit’s for a man to do something so stupid? Women get all of the benefits from marriage and divorce. If you’re married and she gets fat you just have to accept it. If she cheats on you and you leave she still gets to take your money. In most states, if a woman cheats and gets pregnant by another man, the husband will still end up paying child support for a kid that’s not even his. While women create this beautiful image of marriage, they really just want it for the benefits they get whether it succeeds or fails. Marriage ends up being a trap for men these days.

Marriage only benefits women.

@Observer
Go for what? I get the sense you want me to debate you about marriage. Why?

For 3 reasons.

1. Because you brought it up.

What are you talking about? You should be glad I am not debating you on why you should get married.

2. To educate the youth. They do need to hear the truth from a free man who isn’t emasculated. They all can learn something.

and 3. After I win, I would love to rub your face in it.

@CARAMEL CAT
“That’s right, according to insurance companies people are held ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS. Particular for things KNOWN to cause illness. I don’t see anything wrong with this.

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Well on that note, I think our correspondence is done…it’s clear how you view society (which is fine), I just so happen to respectfully disagree… ”
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Don’t make a.s.s.umptions about me.

@Realist

Keep talking to me sideways – i’m man enough to call you out… Man up & talk to me if you’ve got a problem with me… Like i said before: ‘i’m like an old lady & i love my cats; the caramel cat is my favorite’… I love you sister no matter the disagreement…

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OH MY GOD…what on EARTH are you talking about????

I don’t remember addressing you ONCE in this thread…

@MIJDC

Don’t make a.s.s.umptions about me.

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Oh I’m sorry, I thought what you have been saying in this thread was representative of how you felt about these topics. Is there more to add?

@ THEORIUS – Exactly.

Moving along, I find it funny that there is now a debate on speaking about people’s mothers, yet to speak about black women in general is acceptable. I guess these hate-spreaders end their diatribes with a silent “Not my mama or sister tho”. Yeah, ok… When you denigrate black women on a whole, you’re talking bout your own mothers, sisters, aunts, grandmothers, etc. I wonder how they would feel if you spoke to them in this way.

But we all know that the reason you get so angry on this site, is because you wouldn’t dare spew this nonsense anywhere that wouldn’t allow you to hide behind a screen.

@Theorius

1. Because you brought it up.

What are you talking about? You should be glad I am not debating you on why you should get married.

2. To educate the youth. They do need to hear the truth from a free man who isn’t emasculated. They all can learn something.

and 3. After I win, I would love to rub your face in it.
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Brother you say women cannot emasculate you and try to push their views on marriage onto men. You say it all the time. Men do not have to listen to women.

If you remember our conversation one night about marriage and child support, you will see that we do not have anything to debate or argue about. I do not have a problem with people not wanting to get married.

But I do not like people to turn everything into a black woman or black man issue. Everything is not about race at all the time.

There is no real Alice in Wonderland, Jack & Jill didn’t fall down the hill, the COW didn’t jump over the moon, Little Bo-Peep doesn’t have any sheep. These are Fairy Tales…just like Marriage in Today’s society. If I’m lyin’ I’m flyin’!

@Observer
First- What are you talking about? You should be glad I am not debating you on why you should get married.

Now-we do not have anything to debate.

Take notes,Boys. Just like I thought. Looks like someone is having ALPHABET SOUP for lunch today.

@Theorius

First- What are you talking about? You should be glad I am not debating you on why you should get married.

Now-we do not have anything to debate.

Take notes,Boys. Just like I thought. Looks like someone is having ALPHABET SOUP for lunch today.
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Alphabet soup? I have not had that since I was a child living in my parents house. They still make that soup Theorius?

I’ll say it again. I do not have a problem with anyone not wanting to get married, man or woman.

@Observer

I’ll say it again. I do not have a problem with anyone not wanting to get married, man or woman.

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I think you’ve been VERY clear on your views…the issue is people having a problem with anyone WANTING to get married, man or woman…Each decision should be personal and remain that way…

Tootles everyone, got a meeting to get to…

@Observer
You just have a problem with me educating young men against this lunacy. That’s why I would be happy to debate you on this Fairy Tale. If you didn’t want to debate me, you shouldn’t have brought it up.

To all the fellas: Big Ups for ridin’ with Nas today. “We got ya back Nas! Illmatic was the best solo project by an MC in Hip Hop history.” Who’s World Is This!!!!

@CARAMEL CAT
“Don’t make a.s.s.umptions about me.

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“Oh I’m sorry, I thought what you have been saying in this thread was representative of how you felt about these topics. Is there more to add?”
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Yes, these are my feelings toward THESE subjects, and not “society” as a whole as you indicated in your post

“…it’s clear how you view society (which is fine)…”

See you later Caramel.

I think you’ve been VERY clear on your views…the issue is people having a problem with anyone WANTING to get married, man or woman…Each decision should be personal and remain that way…
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Oh I know. I think another problem is some men just WANT to argue women no matter what they say. I believe in people doing what is best for them, and making them happy, meaning if they want to marry, get married. If they do not, then do not marry a man or woman. Fine by me either way…..I thought people would be glad that another poster is not debating them on marriage, and fine with people not getting married…..They just want to argue about all women.

why feel sorry for nas? He cheated on his wife. He took vows in the name of GOD and broke them. A man that finds a wife has found a good thing. There are consequences for your actions. Oh well. Ladies if you are gonna marry someone wouldnt you rather he have money. Who wants a broke azz husband who is gonna cheat? I mean at least if he got some $$ you do to. Think about it.

To all the fellas: Big Ups for ridin’ with Nas today. “We got ya back Nas!

Please…got his back?? LOL!!! What, are you guys planning a telethon to help him come up with that $$$? Cuz that’s about the only way to have his back right now. Better urge him to drop that new album so you can cop it, do some shows, something… Cuz you b*tching & moaning on this site about women and marriage ain’t helping him a bit.

@Realist

“Don’t talk about people’s mothers on a ‘GOSSIP’ site – that’s DISRESPECTFUL!!! I thought you’re a strong black women – and, all for black women empowerment – what happened to civility???”

Because his issue is his mother — he said so himself not too long ago when he shared her mistreatment of her. It’s not difficult to make the connection between the trauma he may have experienced at her hands to how he now feels about women. There’s an obvious, smoldering hostility that he holds toward the opposite sex.

And I don’t claim the “Strong Black Woman” title, and I think I’ve made that abundantly clear numerous times on this site, lol.

Marriage is not dead. It depends on the mindsets of the two people entering the marriage, and wanting to work at making the marriage last, before just giving up and quitting. My folks have been married over 38 years, and I want that for myself.

Marriage should not be a debate. Either you want to walk down the aisle or you don’t.

I find it truly amazing how everyone wants to commment on something that they know absolutely nothing about. It’s not YOUR MONEY nor is it YOUR KID or YOUR DIVORCE. Nas spends more money in a week than most of you make in a year or will ever make in your entire lifetime. Stop being concerned about HIM or KELIS. The child is the one who will pay the ultimate price for this dysfunctional relationship and be the bi-product of this relationship. Like most children in this country..noboby is concerned about their overall well-being and stop HATING ON BLACK WOMEN. Damn, nobody says a word when Donald Trumps ex-wives get paid. Not a word. Why are Black women always to blame for “EVERYTHING??”

@TrulySBlaque
Please…got his back?? LOL!!! What, are you guys planning a telethon to help him come up with that $$$? Cuz that’s about the only way to have his back right now. Better urge him to drop that new album so you can cop it, do some shows, something… Cuz you b*tching & moaning on this site about women and marriage ain’t helping him a bit.

Why do you care what I say about anything? I surely dont care about what you say.

Hi, Mr. Fantastic

@Observer

“I thought people would be glad that another poster is not debating them on marriage, and fine with people not getting married…..They just want to argue about all women.”

Every day. . .and I get the impression that some want to turn this into a black men vs. black women battle, like we’re back in grade school with the old girls vs. boys contests. They’re throwing spitballs and pulling our pigtails. . .

You “men” (and I use the term loosely) in here arguing with these women are nothing but a bunch of puzzies and it just shows your female ways…only women LIKE to argue and based on most of these comments I see these “men” are just trying to start a fight.

@Realist
Everyone on here is just as ‘GHETTO’ as GLOK – all that articulate, and intelligent stuff is just a ‘FARCE’… I still e-love you though!!!

Thank you. Real talk.

Hey Sydney!

@Realist

LOL. Yeah Glok has his own style and I like that he is down for all black people, black men and women. The brother is on point with his posts….I do not think Sydneys intelligence is a farce though. She is very intelligent and debates very well.

@Realist

“I see you had to go on a sabbatical to get your defence right”

I had to go to a meeting. I’m sorry I didn’t clear it with you first, lol. I didn’t think I needed a defense, and I have never referred to myself as a “saint.”

You’re all over the place today, lol.

Aaron lol and you want to fight with men?

Whats going on to everybody else!

This is some ‘caca’ right here!
It seems like a joke! If I were Nas, i’d hand over the total in Monopoly money! It doesn’t seem real!
This situation just ruins the mindset of good men and women!
“I”, a female, don’t even want to get married now. Men are going to be more suspicious than ever of a woman’s heart/motives all b/c of Kelis’ greed!

Why black folks always quick to devalue black women, as if they don’t deserve to sit pretty like other women. White women get those stacks on a regular in a divorce from white men and black men. No one says anything about that. I can name a few black men that’s getting hit hard in the pocket by their white ex-wives: Lionel Ritchie, Charles Barkley, Barry Bonds, Montel Williams, O.J. Simpson, etc. and that’s only naming a few. So Kelis is doing what white women have been doing for years.

@ H.B.I.C.
4/13/10, 14:35:pm

why feel sorry for nas? He cheated on his wife. He took vows in the name of GOD and broke them. A man that finds a wife has found a good thing. There are consequences for your actions. Oh well. Ladies if you are gonna marry someone wouldnt you rather he have money. Who wants a broke azz husband who is gonna cheat? I mean at least if he got some $$ you do to. Think about it.

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Would be happier still knowing that my husband and I married each other b/c we LOVED each other…not based on what the other is bringing to the bank account! That’s not a marriage…that’s a partnership! You know, like in, starting up a BUSINESS!
smh

@ elitistsister
4/13/10, 15:32:pm

Why black folks always quick to devalue black women, as if they don’t deserve to sit pretty like other women. White women get those stacks on a regular in a divorce from white men and black men. No one says anything about that. I can name a few black men that’s getting hit hard in the pocket by their white ex-wives: Lionel Ritchie, Charles Barkley, Barry Bonds, Montel Williams, O.J. Simpson, etc. and that’s only naming a few. So Kelis is doing what white women have been doing for years.
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But it just seems so wrooooooooooonnnnngg! The relationship they displayed seemed so loving and real.
Unlike the wives of the men you mentioned above. Women like that seldom marry those types of men for love.

Anybody seen Daywalker? I wanted to ask him a question about Shreveport, I think that is where he said he lives. Im going down there soon.

@ElitistSister

You are very correct honey and no black woman should settle for anything less than what she know she deserves. If black men don’t complain about paying alimony and child support to white and latino women then they shouldn’t complain about paying black women.

*her mistreatment of him*

@Mr. Fantastic

I haven’t seen Day recently.

Sorry I’m late… Super busy today…

1) Hi ladies!! Theorius Styles is mad at ME. Because I touted my opinion in another thread and made him look like an @ss, he now hates all women (hence the constant “individuality” jabs in the midst of his tirades). I apologize to you guys for all the hate and venom we’ve had to endure since. Guys like him are really neither a threat nor a loss to our number, though. Hug a brother!

2) Kelis is spiteful, Nas is an idiot. Case closed.

3) Marriage isn’t for losers. Thus, those who view them unfavorably likely already realized they could never find the testicular fortitude necessary to make one work.

That is all.

@Mr. Bigs

You were on point my brother. I agree with all our your posts.

DontGivAWhat
I’m not mad at you. I dont even know you.

And other thing -

It should be spousal support OR child support, not both. I don’t know how she got over with that one.

And FYI, the amount is based off of his INCOME. Y’all act like she just picked an amount out of the sky to pin on a UPS worker or something… LOL

I had to step away for a minute to handle some busine-s-s, but finaly back and I see that the e-atmosphere on this thread still smells raw. It would be nice if we all could agree to disagree without calling names and so forth…anyhew, *waves back hello* to Sydney/Caramel and *waves hello* to DontGiveAWhat and Mr. Fantastic and to any that I may have mi-s-sed.

@Don’tGiveAWhat

“I apologize to you guys for all the hate and venom we’ve had to endure since.”

Good afternoon! Well, I participated in a recent thread where we had a little fun with sarcasm that may have irked him as well. I don’t know. I give him an e-hug as well.

Perhaps we can all start over and have more civil conversations from now on. I can see where there is some buried pain in some individuals, and I’m sorry for it. But women, as a collective, are not the enemy. Many of us not only love brothers, we respect and honor them, lend a supporting ear when they need to talk, praise their accomplishments and encourage them to pursue their dreams, and allow them into our hearts. These divisive discussions feel disheartening and demoralizing, and I personally apologize if I wrote anything that bruised someone’s feelings. I feel very p-a-s-s-i-o-n-a-t-e about the broken state of communications between some brothers and sisters, and I want us to return to the more unified state we once inhabited. That’s all.

Well that’s even sadder. Now you seem like a bitter, delusional a-hole who rants against marriage, individuality, and Black women for NO REASON…

Hey Ms EJ!

@DONTGIVEAWHAT- Exactly. It is based off his income and her’s as well. They look at BOTH parties finances and then make the final a-s-ses-s-ment regarding child support, which also includes dental and health insurance.

@DontGiveAWhat
I thought you didn’t give a what? Stop caring about what I say or do. I’m not your dude! I’m not your husband or fiancee. I dont know you. What i say shouldn’t matter to YOU unless you have POOR or LOW SELF ESTEEM. I dont owe you ish! I dont care about your views at all.Stop caring about mine. Please.You sound like a stalker.

@ Jamaquina.Cubana

I get what your saying and agree but the courts see otherwise. Until the laws change, it is what it is.

And didn’t you just post earlier on THIS thread that you don’t care what WE say?

I was talking ABOUT you, not TO you! You’re the one who typed the little “at” symbol in front of MY SN!! LOL

Crazy @ss. Anywho, how are the “normies” doing today?

@Don’tGiveAWhat

Was that you I saw recently who said you liked ‘Til Tuesday?

@Sydney
These divisive discussions feel disheartening and demoralizing, and I personally apologize if I wrote anything that bruised someone’s feelings. I feel very p-a-s-s-i-o-n-a-t-e about the broken state of communications between some brothers and sisters, and I want us to return to the more unified state we once inhabited. That’s all.
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You & your Ms. Ej can start by giving all the bereft brothers some e-hug & e-kiss – i personally want one from Ms. Ej..She’s such a sweetheart!!!!

I’m dedicating Celion Dion’s – ‘My Heart Will Go On’ to all the black women on this thread – you know we love y’all – but stop using the ‘JUSTICE SYSTEM’ against BLACKMEN… Y’all know the US JUSTICE SYSTEM is ANTI-BLACKMEN!!!

The new generation Black Man is coming after your money (Sisters) that’s why Gabby, Oprah, Tyra, Halle, King Latiffa, Chilli, etc. won’t marry because as soon as they do, their spouse is going to take it in theory. So yes us brothers do realize whats going down with you sisters, and we don’t like it. So we won’t marry you and will continue to gravitate towards other races who cherish us. Remember the sad study that came out about 2 months ago, stating the average net worth of a black female is $5. Sisters get your ish together before it’s to late for you. You are being perceived as baby making, loud mouths, who dont do anything but spread their legs for a payday. Even through Tiger’s whole ordeal, his wife kept her mouth shut. Unlike Kellis who is using the media to discredit NAS even though she is getting what she wanted. Brothers are tired of the loud mouthed super soul sister, with all of that girlfriend this and girlfriend that ish. You are only getting over on yourselves. Brothers are moving on and being accepted in mainstream society. NENE Leaks is one perfect example of what i’m talking about. Black woman also hate more than any other race. But don’t hate me, I’m just the messinger.

@DONTGIVEAWHAT- I’m good how are you and the family Ms. Lady? (I thought it was so cute when you mentioned few days ago how you had to put the little one back in bed..I know about that all too well and still do, lol). Also, not to toot my horn, but I made the best freaking meatloaf..I know..I know..its considered a simple meal, but most times I had it- it was just a lump of meat most times (from others). I love to cook. I got a meat loaf recipe online…perfection, but I left out one ingredient and added something different.

@Realist

“You & your Ms. Ej can start by giving all the bereft brothers some e-hug & e-kiss – i personally want one from Ms. Ej..She’s such a sweetheart!!!!”

LOL, sure. Ms. EJ is a sweetheart.

“I’m dedicating Celion Dion’s – ‘My Heart Will Go On’ to all the black women on this thread – you know we love y’all – but stop using the ‘JUSTICE SYSTEM’ against BLACKMEN…”

I love that song from “Titanic,” but can we just get the e-love without another generalization?

I could’ve sworn I aired this damn thread out awhile ago?!?!?!!!

@REALIST- Thank you for the compliment. I think Sydney started an “E-hug Movement” or “Hug A Brother” movement, therefore you have now been hit with an e-hug

@Rrrrroe Ski Love- A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

“So we won’t marry you and will continue to gravitate towards other races who cherish us.”

I’m surprised you would write this — I expected more.

A number of us are already married to black men or involved with commitment-minded brothers.

There are also all sorts of issues with the “study” you just cited. In fact, Ta-Nehisi Coates of TheAtlantic.com devoted an entire blog thread to it. You may wish to take a look.

@Ms. EJ

I can’t take the credit for the “Hug a Brother” movement — Don’tGiveaWhat and Truly.S.Blaque hatched the idea, I believe.

Handle your business Nas! If you din’t pay nothing it just get worst!

Here’s the link to Ta-Nehisi Coates’ post on the study you referenced, and he found that it contained inaccuracies:

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2010/03/study-finds-median-wealth-for-single-black-women-at-5/37395/

@SYDNEY- Oh, okay. My apologies.
@DONTGIVEAWHAT & TRULY S/ BLAQUE- Great movement to start who have you e-hugged so far? I think with some you might have to hold them down, LOL j/k.

Here’s the link to Ta-Nehisi Coates’ post on the study he referenced, and he found that it contained inaccuracies:

theatlantic.com/national/archive/2010/03/study-finds-median-wealth-for-single-black-women-at-5/37395/

@Ms. EJ

Yes, I saw Legends of the Fall years ago and loved it, but it made me sad.

@Don’tGiveAWhat

Aimee Mann was the lead singer and they had a hit, “Voices Carry,” back in the 80′s.

@ MsEJ

Sooo… What is your secret ingredient? I LUB me some meatloaf!!!

I never could get mine just like my mama’s… But I do a MEAN fried green tomato!!

@Diva

I could’ve sworn I aired this damn thread out awhile ago?!?!?!!!

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LOL! Do it again please.

@SYDNEY- I know I meant to add that in there as well. Very sad, but touching. I also like “The River Runs Through It” sad as well. How about some comedies? I still like the first “Meet the Parents” and “Dodgeball”, but favorite is “Something about Mary”.

@ Sydney

I’ve heard of that song, but I’m not familiar with them… I did have an English Lit book that had some lyrics of hers as poetry… I think it was called “Invisible Ink”…

(I DO love Ani DiFranco & Joni Mitchell…)

@Sydney
“but can we just get the e-love without another generalization?”
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Ok nomore generalization!!

@Ms.Ej
Thanks for the e-hug!- I’ll keep it in the most sacred place on the internet…

Ooh I like Ben Stiller comedies. Something About Mary was hilarious!!

@Don’tGiveAWhat

I’ll have to check out more of Ani DiFranco’s music.

On a side note, Beyonce’s cover of “You Oughta Know” made me want to go out and buy “Jagged Little Pill.” I like a lot of Alanis Morissette’s music, too. Fiona Apple is also talented. And, of course, Joni Mitchell is an icon (and she “never lied,” lol).

@OBSERVER- *waves hello*”Frank-n-beans…frank-n beans” LMBO!!!!!!! the ending was hilarious too and I love the part where she is out eating with her friends, and that guy (who was ease dropping on thier conversation) started laughing with them and they all turned around and gave him the death stare. LMBO!!!!

@REALIST-LOL…no problem

@DONTGIVEAWHAT- Girl, I just realized my comment didn’t post to you on the meatloaf and it was kind of long too.grrr!!! will re-do. I forget to copy before I submit sometimes.

@Realist

“Ok nomore generalization!!”

That’s good because Brother Malcolm would not approve.

“The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.”

– Malcolm X

I have to go, all. Have a good one.

Bye Sydney!

I am out too. Bye Sydney, MS EJ, & Realist and everyone else. Take care now.

I’m out as well, LOL *waves goodbye* to ALL *exits*

Well another fine testimonial to the joys of married life.

If this keeps up the only people getting married will be illegals needing a green card, and rich old invalids needing a nurse.

All the things that once attracted men to marry: ONE woman to be faithful to him and him alone, CHILDREN of that marriage, stablility, love, companionship — have been made a MOCKERY in this culture — so why in the hell is anybody surprised that it fails:

50% of first marriages
67% of second marriages
74% of third marriages —

end in DIVORCE.

as far as maaiage goes, the more people do it, the LESS chance they have of making it work.

it is what it is.

she wasn’t acking all down for and crazy about him for nothing….

Kelis knew just how to play it!!!

@Unbought&Unafraid

Well another fine testimonial to the joys of married life.

If this keeps up the only people getting married will be illegals needing a green card, and rich old invalids needing a nurse.

All the things that once attracted men to marry: ONE woman to be faithful to him and him alone, CHILDREN of that marriage, stablility, love, companionship — have been made a MOCKERY in this culture — so why in the hell is anybody surprised that it fails:

50% of first marriages
67% of second marriages
74% of third marriages —

end in DIVORCE.

as far as maaiage goes, the more people do it, the LESS chance they have of making it work.

it is what it is.

Look out now. Some people get a little offended by empirical data like statistics, surveys and opinion polls. I agree with your evidence though 100%. Thanks for helping to educate the people who read this thread. Well done.

So Wait Tiger & Kobe When Out Side The Race And Are Ok??

Nice Guy Nas Marry A Black Women And Got F”"”"??

Support Nas, he has more than me, you the mailman, teacher and some. I don’t think so.

@Sydney & Ms EJ

Where is my e-hug since yall pazzing them out? JK….Seriously though, you two are good women and are very intelligent. I have a lot of respect for yall and some other women for never generalizing us, or bashing us and having our backs on here no matter what we say about black women or when you do not feel the love from us sometimes….I may be wrong but I can usually tell when black women had good fathers in their lives and you two seem like your dads did a damn good job….Just a thought.

Take care!

She is a golddigger, yes, but what’s up with black men leaving their women as SOON as she gets pregnant or has their baby?? That’s a bigger problem than golddigging. Children are a repellent for black guys. SMH.

And then of course, all Your arguments are meaningless, when the woman makes more than the man…. And that is DEFINITELY THE CASE..

So come again? I’m glad that I NEVER married an AMerican BLk male…Small brains. No money and let their lives be dictated by paper, that they’ll never possess in the first place..Your righta bout that 50 cent from the dollar, I’ll be that’s all you have….

LMAO @ broke blk American males, get some money first,then talk your crap. Most blk wmn make more than you guys anyway.. Don’t even start it and it wont’ be none… Loser guys that will never see inside anyone’s courtroom, unless it’s too lock that butt, up…

Go BLK FEMALES, PUT THE SMALL MINDED, NO MONEY, NO MORALS, ETHICS OR RESPONSIBILITIES HATING BLK MALE (SOME,NOT ALL) TO THE CURB…STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THEM, THEY HATE US ANYWAY…GET YOU A FOREIGN BLK MALE, THEY HAVE EDUCATION, JOBS AND/ OR BUSINESSESS AND THEY ARE NOT WHITE-WASHED. LEAVE THOSE LITTLE POCKET,LITTLE BRAIN AMERICAN BLK MEN ALONE!! ALL THEY DO IS TRY TO LIVE OFF YOU ANYWAY..

HAVE A GREAT DAY, EVERYONE..

Tha bruthas have been ridin’ for you all day Nas, like Red & Meth. F Kelis and anyone who believes in this kind of ish.

@Always Knew
Tha bruthas been tellin’ me to keep it up all day. Maybe one of those emasculated 10 or 11 yr old boys will read this post, become educated about Fairy Tales like Marriage, stop switching around listening to rhianna & tryin’ to be a single lady, pick up a Basketball or some track shoes, turn on Sportscenter, go to school & start acting like he has some sense and stop tryin’ to impress some hooch and graduate. We bruthas are makin’ a difference in the lives of young men. Hate if you want. I dont care if I has two cent. You cant have whatI dont want to give you, period. Stop worrying about what I have. I’m old enough to get whatever I want out of a woman for one dinner date at Roscoe’s, but these young men dont know that. I’m helping them. Thanks for the support fellas. They can hate me, but they cant stop me. Kelis is a Bi@tch!!! We ridin’ for you,Nas!!!

@MR. FANTASTIC- *hit you with an e-hug* LOL. Good-evening and thank you so very much for your kind words. It touched my heart that you stated that you can tell or have a feeling that Sydney and I had or have great father’s, because I was extremely close to my father (who raised me for the most part, though both of my parents re-married, but I lived with my father). Unfortunately, he has pas-sed and I recently celebrated his brithday last month which is a day after mines. I had read a post I believe from yesterday from a regular commenter who stated how 90% of people online aren’t who they say are which may or may not be true, but I do know that (I think one can easily observe over time such b/c true colors will always show eventually): Sydney, Caramel along with myself and others are true to heart and character. I know that Sydney has shared how she, too, is close to her father and has a great relationship with him, and although none of us are perfect I’m glad that some do see that good people (both men/women)do exist

You take care too!

@Theorius Stylez- Listen up, I have NOT addressed you once. I have not disrespected you. Maybe I have commentd on an idiotic comment, that I felt you made, but I haven’t said anything specifically to you. Now that you decided to address me, KNOW THIS. I don’t care about your 2 cent behind. I am already married. I don’t care what you think, my post was to the Ladies, maybe you are one, cause you didn’t even have to speak to me. So take your emasculated, broke, denigrating blk females poverty-minded thinking self, out my face. I’m not the one who cares about your or your opinions.

And yes, if you must know, you ARE one of the trash bros, I was talking about. Only a hit dog would holler… Thanks for showing your hand. And you can STILL keep your 2 cents. I know that you need it… LOL

I can’t stand a stupid, no accomplishment, can’t finish secondary school or university, but I got multiple kids by different females, can’t hold a job, always locked up or getting in trouble, kind of shiftless blk man…

Thank God, my blk father wasn’t one, otherwise I would really believe some of the sterrotypes and generalizations, based off your behaviour and words. Take that anger, and do something constructive with it, cause I really don’t give a da-n!

LMAO! @ weak males.. And sweetheart before you get to offering your pennies, I doubt any female on this thread is interested in Roscoes. Think low-income establishment for a low-income kind of person… Get it? You pit yourself out there and I’m not running like these other females. I’m not scared of you…

I feel for ya Nas. I had a crush on this chick when she had the crazy hair on her first sinle with Pharrell. But I aint get in the game quick enough to smash. Sorry but u took the bullet for all the playas. She killin your pockets. Damn. I need a chyk with her own money like my girl Minaj. Been down since “Warning”, Nicki. But we need PRENUP as YE so eloquently put it.! Just kiddin.

Stop worrying about what I have. I’m old enough to get whatever I want out of a woman for one dinner date at Roscoe’s, but these young men dont know that. I’m helping them. Thanks for the support fellas. They can hate me, but they cant stop me.
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You don’t have anything. Thats’ the point…

Any female that would bother with you is low-income herself, so keep your Roscoe dinner and your 2 cents. You can’t afford a REAL woman..

And yeah, the fellas with nothing to offer, would support you…Your whole premise is based off a woman trying to take what you have..Because bros, overall, are less educated and underemployed (blk Americans anyway), there is little chance of that happening…

Most blk wmn make more than blk American males, that makes your whole “beef”, invalid.And as far as fake, articulate, intelligent blk wmn, too bad you never met any. And you wouldn’t know quality if it landed in fron tof your face. Stick with Roscoes, McDonalds dear, the ONLY thing, you can afford is a hoodrat, like yourself..

Toodles, I’m not wasting anymore time on you, go tend to your broke follower’s flock.. LMAO

NAS NOT GONNA PAY HER SHYT ESPECIALLY IF SHE NOT LETTIN HIM SEE HIS SON KNIGHT,SO KELIS BETTER DROP THAT ALBUM IF SHE WANTS SOME MONEY,PLUS CARMEN NEEDS HER MONEY FOR DESTINY.

@AlwaysKnew
Dayum. Do you talk to your husband with that filthy mouth of yours!?! I really feel sorry for that dude. He has to listen to that all day??? How does he do it. I can barely stand to read your post and I know that you have a horrible attitude. Tell us, Hoe did you trick that dude into marrying you? Was it a shot-gun wedding? Dayum. Poor guy. I bet you are past your expiration date too,huh? wow. A gangster for a wife. Take notes,Boys! Do not marry anyone with a filthy mouth & attitude like this bully/gangmember chick. Thanks for showin’ the guys what they are in for if they plan to marry a princess. There are no fairy Tales,Boys!

@AlwaysKnew
This is why we (blk wmn) should stop having children out of wedlock…

Wow. You might be past your expiration date, but at least you know something. Good for you.(In Kindergarten voice.) Have you filled out your Census form?

Good for you.(In Kindergarten voice.) Have you filled out your Census form?
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About time you acted your REAL age..

No, I didn’t fill out the census, I was waitg for you or your broke back mother to do it for me…

@AlwaysKnew
“but I’m ignorant and hoe”

I did say that you must be past your experation date, but I didn’t say that. Sounds like you are exposing yourself.

(Run DMC’s : You talk too much playin’ in the backround)

SHUT UP!!!

Tell us, Hoe did you trick that dude into marrying you? Was it a shot-gun wedding? Dayum. Poor guy. I bet you are past your expiration date too,huh? wow. A gangster for a wife. Take notes,Boys! Do not marry anyone with a filthy mouth & attitude like this bully/gangmember chick. Thanks for showin’ the guys what they are in for if they plan to marry a princess. There are no fairy Tales,Boys!
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not only are you a loser but an kindegarten idiot too! Your older post stated something similar, but who really cares..You got my point..Quit trolling me, TRASH…

At least I can pinpoint where all your depravity started.. Go play in heaviest traffic you can find.

(Run DMC’s : You talk too much playin’ in the backround)

SHUT UP!!!
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I’ll bet your income matches your music selection. EXACTLY! my point…Thanks! this is getting easier by the minute..

@AlwaysKnew
Ok lady. I tried to be nice, but you keep hounding me. ok. Here it goes.

The reason I blog all day is that I’m bangin the ish out of ya momma. I told her to get on welfare & she said ok. I been bangin her since last nite too, but she really love this di ck. She tell me all the time. We get our check tomorrow. I told her to bring it to me when she cash it…like normal. She said she wanted to buy me a playstation game at Game Stop, but I think I just want the money. I’m cheatin’ on her too. I know she got Joey Greco & his crew following me and this 20yr old Mexican chick, but it cheaper to feed Maria. Dont tell on me,ok? Thanks. Big Daddy.

What does your do? hehehe.

You sure do KNOW ALOT about the low-end lifestyle. Thanks for proving everything I already knew about you…

Gotta go, can’t hang out with the trash…I bet you don’t even have a 410 K or pension or retirement fund, no investments, no property, no keep tag teaming with your mom, maybe if you keep acting like a PEZ dispenser, you guys might earn enough for dinner…

LMAO @ you, low-buget bitter psuedo, blk men..Not all just you and your “GANG”…

People that love to talk about welfare, must really be on it, otherwise how would you know the specifcs, of how you even get it…. Still LMAO… Losers…Gotta love them..They make life worth living…How else do you appreciate NOT going anywhere NEAR the hood…

And I take that back, I don’t want to insult people from the hood, that have to live there with TRASH like you.. Do you and your mom fight over your customers? Use those knee-pads..

Ya momma does a good job when she pulls her teeth out too. I was bangin’ her right last nite & she hit her head on the headboard. I didn’t stop though. Sh said “OUCH!” I was still hittin’ that @ss anyway. She wanted to go to the emergency room. She said something about ObamaCare……I wasn’t listening. I was tryin’ to bust that Nu tt on her hairy back. She kept naggin’ though….that must be were you got that from. So I took her to the County Hospital. She sat in the Emergency Room. I went back home to play dominoes with Maria and she made me some tacos. I knew joey Greco had the hidden camera set up all the time. Ya momma called me about 2 hrs later. I picked her up 5hrs later. i was bloggin’. We stopped by the check cashing place. I took her money & she gave me some skull on the freeway. She said something about how good ObamaCare was, but it was hard for me to hear what she said with my Di ck in her mou th.

compete- excuse typo, I was typing too fast and ROFTFLMAO… laughing at you…

bye, I’m completely done, you are TOO low budget for me..

I should’ve never have engaged your insults, after all that’s what your kind likes, attention.Cause you can’t get anything else…

Speaking of the taco stand, Ya momma and Joey Greco and his crew ran up on me & Maria today at Tito’s Tacos. I was surprised as hell! That old Bi@tch was cussin’ like a sailor. I never seen someone with crutches run so fast, talkin’ about she want her county check back. Maria wasn’t havin’ that ish though. We just got our tacos, and Maria wanted to eat lunch with Big Daddy. She slapped the ish out of yo momma! I said “Dayum!” Joey greco kept asking me “So why are you cheating on Olga,huh….Olga is a good wh ore”. I told Joey greco that I just gave Olga some Big Daddy Di ck this morning and she said something about ObamaCare, but I didn’t know what she was talking about. Maria pulled her wig off & kicked one of her crutches. Ya momma said “AAAYYYYEE, I Wince at you Maria,..Wince…Wince!!!” Me and Maria took our tacos walked to her brother’s lowrider & I told ya momma “Its Quits cause you Crazy like yo stupid @ss daughter. Then we chirped off. hehehe.

“AAAYYYYEE, I Wince at you Maria,..Wince…Wince!!!”

ROTFLMBAO!!!! I crack myself up sometimes. I think I’m a pretty good story teller & writer too. Notice the skills people?

No, just the welfare check and the other usual low-income humor..

It’s getting dark, I have to activate the security system, so I don’t have to worry about miscreants getting into….WAIT. I live in a GATED equestrian community, I don’t have anything to do except sit here and be entertained…

Can you STILL shuck and Jive, too, step n fetch it??.. still lmao..

I”m sayin though.. I don’t even neeeed all that.. I mean,, Are they basing this on GROSS or NET? Kelis, come on now.. You THAT MAD??

@theorius- garbage gets emptied on tuesdays… that’s all you got??We’re married (my hubby and I )… I think you the problem is that you keep getting me confused with the men that treated your mom and you, that way…

Which explains the rest of your story— The REAL reason your so bitter…Cause they throw you and your “mother” away, when their done using the both of you…

I get it now… So yeah, you wouldn’t know ANYTHING about marriage, your TRASH,just like I thought..I’m DONE taking out the garbage now..

and that was 401K sorry for the typo- typing too fast..

@AlwaysKnew
NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG…….OMG!!!! Your imaginary husband must be hidin’ in the attic or the garage or something. Dayum!!! You cant be married. You are one pathetic fat broad. Please go away. Go eat.

@thorius- huby is putting in overtime, supervising our employees at CASINOARIZONA . It’s 8:55pm here, he’ll be home soon..Don’t worry about us, you should be worrying about the box , you need so you and your stank a– mammy,can have some where to lay tonight..Might I add this ck, will be more than your entire year… LMAO

Earlier,you suggested to the other ladies (talking to Syd)that you didn’t care what they said ut your deadbeat behind, keep riding me…What the f-k do you want. Your a liar and a impoverished troll…I already gave you, some change and attention. What more do you want? Get away from me…Before your lonliness, anger and poverty, completely consume you…

@ always knew

Please don’t feed the trolls.

(You know this is more attention than he gets at home, right? )

@Don’tGiveAWhat- I loved your posts earlier… I was hoping that you guys would sneak back and start up convo…

And yeah,he did get me started.But I’m all done now…Check you guys convo later..If I come back before than, I’ll lurk as to not agitate the animals..

@AlwaysKnew
Ya momma wanted her playstation back,But I aint givin’ it to her old @SS. She bought it for me….now she wanna be an Indian Giver. I didn’t say that when I bust that Nu tt across her forehead before I started creepin’ with Maria this morning. Bi@tches are so ungrateful in Cali. I told her th STFU, but she hard-headed too. I see that run in ya’ll family. She told me you have 8 kids. Who are you, Kate Gosselin or Octomom. I can hear ya kids cryin from here. Why dont you stop neglecting them & warm them up a pack of noodle. One pack for all 8. hehehe.

@ always knew

Girl, I jumped online to look for a dress, popped in real quick to see what the convo’s looking like, and OF COURSE our resident joke is donkeying it up as usual… LOL. It’s funny to see someone struggling so hard with wishing they were smart. Kinda sad, too… But mostly funny.

On to something that MATTERS -

Where can I find a bad @ss cocktail dress for under $300 that looks like it costs more? (There’s just too much junk out here to wade through, and there is NO decent shopping around here unless you’re an old white lady…LOL) Designer doesn’t matter, just need to find some neck-breakingly fierce dresses for an urban sophisticate… Help!!

(NOTE: I found a few I liked @ Macy’s, but they don’t have ANY of them in stock in a size 8!! WHAT site do I need to be on, d@mnit?!? LOL)

@DontGiveAWhat
They sell extra thick window curtains at IKEA. Less than 300 too. Try there. They have a variety of colors too. I recommend IKEA to all my Big Girl Friends.

He deserves that outcome for not having a pre-nup. Damn Idiot!

Leave it to YOU to know about style for a BIG. GIRL.

Still doing two shows a night at Club Poodle, Dixie Cox? Well, I’ll leave the IKEA costumes for you and the rest of the she-dudes.

S c o t t says, “Time and tide wait for no man.” I think ” F a t e and l o v e wait for no one!” So I recently joined a nice platform
***** B l a c k w h i t e R o m a n c e.c o m ***** to find my true LOVE….Im lucky!! It is destined that you can also meet your love…..GO and have a try…..

@Reality: I agree.

@Mr. Bigs: I agree.

@Don’tGiveAWhat

I just remembered a few more stores. I haven’t been to its website, but Cache (cache.com) sells some nice evening/cocktail dresses, and you may wish to visit Loehmann’s if there’s one in your area. They keep their designer dresses in the back room, and you can get some really good deals if you have some time to look.

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