If you’re a successful single black woman and you haven’t TIRED of the media beatin’ you over the head over why you haven’t got married yet, hopefully tonight’s ABC “Nightline: Face Off” special on “Why Successful Black Women Can’t Find A Man” won’t push you over the edge. Pop the hood for details.
When it comes to successful black women and marriage, it appears there’s still plenty of room for debate.
Strong opinions and good humor filled the air in Decatur, Ga., last week in the seventh installment of the “Nightline: Face-Off” series. An overflow crowd of 1,000 people piled into the Porter Sanford Performing Arts Center to watch an all-star panel take on the question: Why can’t a successful black woman find a man?
In the United States, black college-educated women outnumber black college-educated men 2 to 1. Considering all the factors that could lend to this disproportion, it’s not surprising that people wonder why many successful black women cannot find a man.
Sherri Shepherd, Emmy award-winning co-host of ABC’s “The View,” and Jacque Reid, star of VH1′s “Let’s Talk About Pep,” debated Hill Harper, “CSI” star and author of “The Conversation,” and Jimi Izrael, author of “The Denzel Principle.” Radio talk show host Steve Harvey and “Nightline”‘s Vicki Mabrey co-moderated the debate.
After Mabrey kicked off the debate, Izrael and Shepherd jumped right in.
“Your standards have to be reasonable,” Izrael said. “And very often some of these women that are looking for men, you know, what they don’t understand is sometimes you have to be the person that you’re looking for. … And then you’re sad because you can’t find a perfect man. Well, you’re not a perfect woman.”
“I don’t think that our standards are too high,” she said. “And I absolutely agree with you. We’re looking for, you know, we should be looking for what we are. For me, I’m going, ‘Gosh, a man that loves God. A man that loves his family. A man that gets along with his … the first woman in his life, his mother. A man that … that can support me as I will support him. … Is that too picky?”
Apparently Sherri is also looking for a man who “doesn’t mind seeing me take my wig off and help me take the corn rows out my hair.”
We’ve seen the transcripts from this debate, and from the looks of it, Steve Harvey is primarily arguing that women want men to do ish that’s not in their DNA — like taking cornrows out for example, while Jacque Reid feels it’s fu*ked up women are expected to stand by their man while he’s cheating and bringing STD’s home (we agree with her) and Hill Harper is steady dropping stats — like how in 1966 86% of black children were raised in two parent households, while in 2006 that dropped to 31%. SMH.
This convo is never pretty.
Viewers can watch the whole debate on ABC “Nightline” tonight Wednesday, April 21 at 11:35 p.m. ET.
Will you be tuning in??? Why do you think successful black women can’t find a man? Is there even a solid answer to this question???