Jim Carrey caught a little flak when he said Tiger’s wife Elin HAD to know about all those hoes, but experts say getting a clue shouldn’t have been that hard. Pop the hood for a few tips.
In a recent interview with Hollyscoop.com Dr. Ish Major, board-certified adult psychiatrist and author of new book “Little White Whys: A Woman’s Guide Through the Lies Men Tell and Why,” gave his take on how Elin and Sandra Bullock might have figured out what they were working with.
For all women, Major says the key to detecting an unfaithful partner involves listening to what your gut is telling you:
1. Pay attention to your intuition
2. Pay attention to obvious signs like lack of attention, unaccounted for time, lateness and sneaky or secretive behavior
3. If you think he’s cheating…he probably is…
According to Major, before marrying Jesse James, Sandra Bullock should have done her homework:
Every guy has a ‘type’ of woman he’s ultimately attracted to and as men we don’t ever stray too far from that pattern. Sandra was a great departure from Jesse’s ‘type’ and consequently he eventually sought out that type of woman he knows best or is most familiar with.
Major also said it’s unlikely that Tiger will change for Elin, and that staying with him for the kids’ sake probably won’t be good for her:
The chances are slim for him to want to change his behavior. He has no reason to. He’s still the top golfer in the world. He still makes tons of money from endorsements.
I wouldn’t say she’s stupid for staying. I’d say she did what most women do and that’s look to believe the best in her man and do what she thinks would be best for the children. Which oddly enough usually doesn’t mean that it’s the best thing for her.
Major revealed that the five most common reasons for relationships fail are:
1. Communication problems
2. Financial issues
3. Forms of abuse
4. Sexual problems
5. Marital infidelity
The key to a successful relationships is starting off on the same page at the same time. You both have to be moving in the same general direction in life. You both have to be ready to be totally transparent with each other about your shortcomings…if any. You both have to be totally honest with each other about what it really takes to make you happy…specifics…not generalities. You both have to be totally honest about your goals for the relationship.
What do you think about this advice? It sounds simple, but affairs of the heart are never so cut and dry!