Good day Bossip Readers! Here’s to an “almost there Thursday!” For those of us who are still actively dating, it’s hard to tell sometimes if someone is really into you and wanting to see where things go or playing around. It’s especially hard when you’re really feeling someone and you’re so caught up and blinded by this potential love, you’re not reading the signs. The unfortunate part is, people aren’t always honest and have alterior motives or circumstances from which they’d like to escape for as long as you keep them around. Then there are those who will do whatever it takes to fulfill their needs and disappear! At some point the signs become as clear day, you hit a brick wall and decide, “he/she is playing games.” Nobody likes to be played or toyed with but it happens and there were, more than likely, many signs leading up to the discovery. We’ve listed some of the tell-tales below, take a look!
Up and Down - if you’re dating someone who is punch drunk off your loving one day and is no where to be found the next, then when you finally do touch bases, he/she is suddenly cold as ice or far away. That person is more than likely playing games! We want a steady flow of communication, there’s really no room sketchy moodiness in the beginning stages.
Words vs. Action - people will rant and rave about how they behave one way, yet display something completely different. For example, “my word is my bond and I’m going to keep it one hundred at all times. I don’t play games.” But he/she never answers her phone after 9 p.m. and they can’t give you a straight answer when you raise the question, “did you get my message last night?”
You get Kicked Out - after dating a while and having grown comfortable with each other, your love interest should insist that you stay the night at some point. Weeknights can be overlooked with work hours and all, but if you’re always getting shown the door or he/she can never stay at your place, there might be someone else they need to tend to. Also be weary of the person that stalks all personal items and makes sure you leave with everything from an earring to an eyelash.
Failure to Execute - you know that person that will feed you all things he/she may think you want to hear and fail to execute? For example, “I’m a hopeless romantic and long walks in the park and candlelit dinners.” But the closest you come to that is a quick run to the corner store and maybe take-out. Where’s the romance?
No Home Invite - if your person of interest is always suggesting that you all go back to your place and never opens his/her home up for company, something might be up! Besides, the invites should go both ways, if he/she expects to come to your house, you should be able to go to theirs!
Default Home Invite - to piggyback off the above, if you’re seeing someone who either wants you to come over their house or wants to come over yours … to post up … always, they might not be wanting to venture out for fears of being busted by someone else he/she might be stringing along.
Plans Never Stick - there’s always room for those one or two flubs that happen from time to time but if you notice a consistent change or cancellation of plans, he/she is playing games! The red flag should start waving vigorously if the change or cancellation is always communicated last minute or not at all.
Solo Time Only - when someone is excited about the possibility of a flourishing love connection, they share it with their friends and family! Therefore, they eventually want you meet a few of the boys/girls or siblings and cousins! Or at least there’s some talk about it, for instance, “I was telling my brother about you.” The mention usually leads to a meeting.
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