Is Dating A Friend’s Ex An Absolute No-No???

- By Bossip Staff

Diddy KIm Porter

Here’s a subject that never gets old… Is it ever okay to date a friend’s ex???

Most people say no, but rumor has it Kim Porter pounced on her friend Misa’s man Diddy, Dame Dash scooped up Aaliyah after Jay-Z and it’s no secret that Seal Married Heidi Klum years after dating Tyra Banks.

Would you ever date a friends ex? Does it take careful negotiation and frank discussions to keep all the relationships intact? Would you ever give a friend your blessing to try your sloppy seconds after you’ve moved “On To The Next One?

For another perspective, check out NakedWithSocksOn’s thoughts on the subject HERE!

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  • lisa

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  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    It’s always a BAD idea. SCANDALOUS PEOPLE DONT CHANGE AND IF THEY’LL DO IT WITH YOU, THEY’LL DO IT TO YOU.

  • little sexy

    yes akillah richard you are right, but people with fame and money lose they morals along the way, but gabriella union career is suffering she has been pratically hiding, people are dissing melanie fiona song it kills me, and overall hate her image because it is boring. she can sing but i like jazmine sullivan and alicia keys.

    • Geronimo Deuces

      so whats your point

    • Ummmm

      @ Geronimo….lololol u killed me

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    Aaliyah is the only girl Jay ever respected. I think that bothered him. Anyway she was deeply in love with him, but he was a player. He could not bear the guilt of playing someone as INNOCENT as her, he prefered h*es if you will because there was no guilt attached. As a result, Aaliyah was deeply resentful of Jay and proceeded to prove to him that she had a dark side. He was actually kinda glad because HE HATED RESPECTING A WOMAN SO MUCH ANYWAY. LOL.

  • Mrs. Rance

    NOTHING is written in stone. People always want or expect things to be one way but it rarely is. The sooner people grow up and accept that the better off they will be. Clearly the person wasn’t right for you so don’t stress over their business after its over.

    • Dirty30

      No matter how you put it that is wrong if you call yourself a friend to someone thats why females dont get along today because one wants what the other has.

    • Ummmm

      I totally agree with you. Although I think its human nature to be upset especially if you once really loved that person. If you think there is a connection with your friend’s ex, I d say wait it out a loong time, at least give your friend whatever amount of time she needs to get over it, BEFORE you start hollering and AFTER you have had a candid discussion with her. I do not think anyone has ‘ownership’ rights over another human being, but I do think it is extremely selfish and unreasonable to start going after your friend’s ex so soon or without giving your friend time to get over them.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    He couldn’t believe how much she was in love with him and was certainly not ready to settle down and give up his player lifestyle 14 yrs ago. Spoiled brat Aaliyah was pissed and decided to get revenge.(although I secretly think Jay TOLD Dame to holla @ her just to test her)Spoiled brat Aaliyah doesnt give a faq about a test when she’s out to get even. That is all.

    • sweetness

      ummm…Aaliyah has been gone from us for a while. Just let that be…

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    As a woman, I wouldnt want my friend’s sloppy seconds. That’s what you call lack of options.

    • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

      I wouldnt want to be friends with a chic with a lack of options, either. I hate thirsty people. If my friend were to ask my blessing Id be like what? Are you THAT desperate? Hard Times? Ugh.

    • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

      When a man knows you’re scandalous, he will have no remorse about playing you. That likely explains why Diddy has no problem PLAYING KIM. (IMO)

    • Ummmm

      dude, why do you respond to your own statements? :s

  • runandtellthat

    Absolute NO NO NO! Just don’t do it, even if you have your friends “blessing”. It’s just a test and if you proceed … you FAIL and you will rightly be labeled a heaux (male/female) and kicked to the friendship curb.

  • Be Original

    It’s only ok, if all parties are ok with it and don’t care.

    As for the Kim Porter thing, let’s not forget that Al B. Sure was signed to Uptown when Puffy was an intern. SO Puffy had a working relationship with the father of Kim Porter’s first kid before his relationship w/her even started.

  • DeeDee

    Too much DRAMA involved with doing stuff like that. Especially if the SO-CALLED friend starts HOEING around with your man while you’re still with him(kim porter). There are TOO MANY men around, you don’t need to be going out with your friends man(even if it is her ex).

  • little sexy

    adam rodriguez plays sistas. Why do you think this all he dates? He played Ciarra. he won’t even claim Melanie Fiona they were in London together. and he sleeping with her, but she must not have any self respect, because that ciarra was her best friend.

    • ChangeofHeart

      How do you know Melanie doesn’t want to claim him? I love her as an artist, and I have heard her state many times that she is EXTREMELY picky, and wants nothin less than the best. So um, maybe she aint all that into dude.

      As for this question-its just awkward and scandalous to date someone that your friend has already dished to you about, it must feel like you are being disloyal. However, sometimes true love comes in the strangest packaging, so if thats the way it is, you should at least have the decency to discuss it with the friend first…only if its real feelings, cuz you might lose the friend if their previous relationship was serious or recent.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I wouldn’t KNOWINGLY date friends but nor would I date my friend’s ex and if someone KNOWINGLY dated or attempted to date my friends/family THEY ARE TRASH TO ME. PERIOD. BUT SOMETIMES JEALOUS LOSER EXS WILL SEND FRIENDS AFTER YOU AND THE PERSON MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW, JUST SO THEY’RE BITTER HATING AZZEZ CAN HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY. FAQ EM.

  • little sexy

    melanie fiona did the same thing that Kim porter did she been attending grammy parties with Adam seperately they been messing around since last year. She knew about his prroblems but didn’t care. she friends with Gabriella Union too. Melanie been telling people she has a crush on rapper Common too. she already has Adam rodriguez someone will get hurt.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    MY SISTER’S BABY DAD’S OLDEST FRIEND TRIED TO HOLLA AT HER. I DONT KNOW IF HIS HATING AZZ TOLD THE FRIEND TO DO IT OR THE FRIEND WAS JUST SCANDALOUS THAT WAY BUT MY SISTER DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE BEST FRIENDS. AS FAR AS LABELS, IF A PERSON IS D O N E WITH SOMEONE, THEY DONT GIVE A FAQ WHAT YOU “LABEL” THEM. YOU’RE HISTORY. LOL. WHO GIVES A FAQ ABOUT YOUR OPINION? HA!

  • uhhh yeah ok

    Ewww that’s a no-no!! negative on the sloppy seconds. Fresh Meat all the way..

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    YOU MUST KNOW THAT BLACK MEN THINK HISPANIC WOMEN ARE EASY TOO, RIGHT?

  • little sexy

    people do this mess all the time, and some hide it because of guilt but the majority hide it because they scared what goes around comes around.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I DONT WANT MY EX’S FRIENDS OR FAMILY BUT I WILL TAKE HIS COMPETITOR OR BOSS. JUST SAYING.

    • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

      THAT’S ONLY IF HE TRIED TO FAQ ME OVER. BUT IF IT’S A CLEAN BREAK AND HE DIDNT DO SOME SCANDALOUS SHYT, IM GONE IN THE WIND. MY NEXT WILL NEVER HAVE HAD A CONVERSATION WITH MY EX. I HATE MESSY STUFF. IM JUST NOT A THIRSTY PERSON. I HAVE OPTIONS.

  • little sexy

    yes black men think latinas and white women are easy, this is my point. only do things for love not lust. If people don’t know you are together it won’t out at all. if he denies you publicly he is messing around period!!!

  • Be Original

    @ 5’10 Akillah…

    Please got to another post. Over half of the comments on this thread are yours….

    just sayin.

    • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

      if it bothers you, why dont you go to another post?

    • little sexy

      f*ck you too. i never said anything made up or bad about aaliyah. i am columbia graduate you people are ignorant trying to start a fight on the internet.

    • Ummmm

      Hey, I am glad i am not the only one who is getting a tad irritated by the numerous posts. For someone cocky with lots of options, you spend a lot of time posting. Just saying….ugh

  • little sexy

    he stays in communication with all his exes . I don;t think melanie is cool with it. would you be? Not me, but money makes people lose common sense and good sex.

  • MsG

    I wouldn’t do my friend’s present boyfriend or ex-boyfriend. It’s all about MORAL’S, you either have them or you don’t. Karma does come back around!

  • little sexy

    it does not bother me i am making a point that’s all i didn;t say it bothered me, where did you get that idea?

  • BIG REGG

    IT DEPENDS ON HOW SERIOUS THE RELATIONSHIP WAS I MEAN IF SHE A FREAK LIKE (SUPERHEAD OR CHIPPY D)THEN IT DOESNT MATTER NO SANE DUDE TAKE THESE TYPE SERIOUS,BUT IF THEY HAD A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP THEN YOU SHOULDNT DO IT,BUT PEOPLE STILL CREEP AND KEEP QUIET REGARDLESS IF THEY WANNA MAKE IT HAPPEN.

    • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

      YEAH BUT IF THE DUDE IS FAQING THEM, HE’S NO BETTER THAN THEM. WHO CARES IF HE’S TAKING THEM SERIOUSLY? HE’S FAQING THEM.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I dont want my ex’s friends or family because Im not desperate and I DONT WANT A SCAVENGER, DESPERATE AZZ DUDE RAMBLING THROUGH MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY LIKE A BUM. UGH. I LIKE A MAN LIKE MYSELF, WHEN IT’S OVER, LEAVE WITH SOME DIGNITY. SOME DUDES ARE GHETTO HOODRATS TOO. YUCK

    • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

      neither. looks like a hit a sore spot with you, you’re hurling insults. I SAID A DUDE THAT’S FAQING ONE OF THEM IS NO BETTER THAN THEM. I DONT KNOW WHY MEN FOOLISHLY THINK THEY CAN LABEL WOMEN BUT THEIR EXEMPT. YOU’LL BE LOOKED AT A CHEAP AZZ DUDE WHO FAQS WITH SKANKY BROADS. YOU GOT AWFULLY MAD, SO IS IT YOU? WHILE WE’RE MAKING A SSUMPTIONS. LOL

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