Is Dating A Friend’s Ex An Absolute No-No???

Posted on August 21st, 2010 - By Bossip Staff

Categories: Coupled Up, Damon Dash, Diddy, For Discussion, Jay-Z, Kim Porter, News, Seal, Tyra Banks

Diddy KIm Porter

Here’s a subject that never gets old… Is it ever okay to date a friend’s ex???

Most people say no, but rumor has it Kim Porter pounced on her friend Misa’s man Diddy, Dame Dash scooped up Aaliyah after Jay-Z and it’s no secret that Seal Married Heidi Klum years after dating Tyra Banks.

Would you ever date a friends ex? Does it take careful negotiation and frank discussions to keep all the relationships intact? Would you ever give a friend your blessing to try your sloppy seconds after you’ve moved “On To The Next One?

For another perspective, check out NakedWithSocksOn’s thoughts on the subject HERE!

  • lisa

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  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    It’s always a BAD idea. SCANDALOUS PEOPLE DONT CHANGE AND IF THEY’LL DO IT WITH YOU, THEY’LL DO IT TO YOU.

  • little sexy

    yes akillah richard you are right, but people with fame and money lose they morals along the way, but gabriella union career is suffering she has been pratically hiding, people are dissing melanie fiona song it kills me, and overall hate her image because it is boring. she can sing but i like jazmine sullivan and alicia keys.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    Aaliyah is the only girl Jay ever respected. I think that bothered him. Anyway she was deeply in love with him, but he was a player. He could not bear the guilt of playing someone as INNOCENT as her, he prefered h*es if you will because there was no guilt attached. As a result, Aaliyah was deeply resentful of Jay and proceeded to prove to him that she had a dark side. He was actually kinda glad because HE HATED RESPECTING A WOMAN SO MUCH ANYWAY. LOL.

  • Mrs. Rance

    NOTHING is written in stone. People always want or expect things to be one way but it rarely is. The sooner people grow up and accept that the better off they will be. Clearly the person wasn’t right for you so don’t stress over their business after its over.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    He couldn’t believe how much she was in love with him and was certainly not ready to settle down and give up his player lifestyle 14 yrs ago. Spoiled brat Aaliyah was pissed and decided to get revenge.(although I secretly think Jay TOLD Dame to holla @ her just to test her)Spoiled brat Aaliyah doesnt give a faq about a test when she’s out to get even. That is all.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    As a woman, I wouldnt want my friend’s sloppy seconds. That’s what you call lack of options.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I wouldnt want to be friends with a chic with a lack of options, either. I hate thirsty people. If my friend were to ask my blessing Id be like what? Are you THAT desperate? Hard Times? Ugh.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    When a man knows you’re scandalous, he will have no remorse about playing you. That likely explains why Diddy has no problem PLAYING KIM. (IMO)

  • runandtellthat

    Absolute NO NO NO! Just don’t do it, even if you have your friends “blessing”. It’s just a test and if you proceed … you FAIL and you will rightly be labeled a heaux (male/female) and kicked to the friendship curb.

  • Be Original

    It’s only ok, if all parties are ok with it and don’t care.

    As for the Kim Porter thing, let’s not forget that Al B. Sure was signed to Uptown when Puffy was an intern. SO Puffy had a working relationship with the father of Kim Porter’s first kid before his relationship w/her even started.

  • DeeDee

    Too much DRAMA involved with doing stuff like that. Especially if the SO-CALLED friend starts HOEING around with your man while you’re still with him(kim porter). There are TOO MANY men around, you don’t need to be going out with your friends man(even if it is her ex).

  • little sexy

    adam rodriguez plays sistas. Why do you think this all he dates? He played Ciarra. he won’t even claim Melanie Fiona they were in London together. and he sleeping with her, but she must not have any self respect, because that ciarra was her best friend.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I wouldn’t KNOWINGLY date friends but nor would I date my friend’s ex and if someone KNOWINGLY dated or attempted to date my friends/family THEY ARE TRASH TO ME. PERIOD. BUT SOMETIMES JEALOUS LOSER EXS WILL SEND FRIENDS AFTER YOU AND THE PERSON MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW, JUST SO THEY’RE BITTER HATING AZZEZ CAN HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY. FAQ EM.

  • little sexy

    melanie fiona did the same thing that Kim porter did she been attending grammy parties with Adam seperately they been messing around since last year. She knew about his prroblems but didn’t care. she friends with Gabriella Union too. Melanie been telling people she has a crush on rapper Common too. she already has Adam rodriguez someone will get hurt.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    MY SISTER’S BABY DAD’S OLDEST FRIEND TRIED TO HOLLA AT HER. I DONT KNOW IF HIS HATING AZZ TOLD THE FRIEND TO DO IT OR THE FRIEND WAS JUST SCANDALOUS THAT WAY BUT MY SISTER DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE BEST FRIENDS. AS FAR AS LABELS, IF A PERSON IS D O N E WITH SOMEONE, THEY DONT GIVE A FAQ WHAT YOU “LABEL” THEM. YOU’RE HISTORY. LOL. WHO GIVES A FAQ ABOUT YOUR OPINION? HA!

  • uhhh yeah ok

    Ewww that’s a no-no!! negative on the sloppy seconds. Fresh Meat all the way..

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    YOU MUST KNOW THAT BLACK MEN THINK HISPANIC WOMEN ARE EASY TOO, RIGHT?

  • little sexy

    people do this mess all the time, and some hide it because of guilt but the majority hide it because they scared what goes around comes around.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I DONT WANT MY EX’S FRIENDS OR FAMILY BUT I WILL TAKE HIS COMPETITOR OR BOSS. JUST SAYING.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    THAT’S ONLY IF HE TRIED TO FAQ ME OVER. BUT IF IT’S A CLEAN BREAK AND HE DIDNT DO SOME SCANDALOUS SHYT, IM GONE IN THE WIND. MY NEXT WILL NEVER HAVE HAD A CONVERSATION WITH MY EX. I HATE MESSY STUFF. IM JUST NOT A THIRSTY PERSON. I HAVE OPTIONS.

  • little sexy

    yes black men think latinas and white women are easy, this is my point. only do things for love not lust. If people don’t know you are together it won’t out at all. if he denies you publicly he is messing around period!!!

  • Be Original

    @ 5’10 Akillah…

    Please got to another post. Over half of the comments on this thread are yours….

    just sayin.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    if it bothers you, why dont you go to another post?

  • little sexy

    he stays in communication with all his exes . I don;t think melanie is cool with it. would you be? Not me, but money makes people lose common sense and good sex.

  • MsG

    I wouldn’t do my friend’s present boyfriend or ex-boyfriend. It’s all about MORAL’S, you either have them or you don’t. Karma does come back around!

  • little sexy

    it does not bother me i am making a point that’s all i didn;t say it bothered me, where did you get that idea?

  • BIG REGG

    IT DEPENDS ON HOW SERIOUS THE RELATIONSHIP WAS I MEAN IF SHE A FREAK LIKE (SUPERHEAD OR CHIPPY D)THEN IT DOESNT MATTER NO SANE DUDE TAKE THESE TYPE SERIOUS,BUT IF THEY HAD A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP THEN YOU SHOULDNT DO IT,BUT PEOPLE STILL CREEP AND KEEP QUIET REGARDLESS IF THEY WANNA MAKE IT HAPPEN.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I dont want my ex’s friends or family because Im not desperate and I DONT WANT A SCAVENGER, DESPERATE AZZ DUDE RAMBLING THROUGH MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY LIKE A BUM. UGH. I LIKE A MAN LIKE MYSELF, WHEN IT’S OVER, LEAVE WITH SOME DIGNITY. SOME DUDES ARE GHETTO HOODRATS TOO. YUCK

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    YEAH BUT IF THE DUDE IS FAQING THEM, HE’S NO BETTER THAN THEM. WHO CARES IF HE’S TAKING THEM SERIOUSLY? HE’S FAQING THEM.

  • little sexy

    true eddie winslow married superhead. some people don’t care. but most dudes don’t marry or take up a realtionship with chicks like that, men like to keep their ego in check.

  • blackArifick(ARIZZLE)

    GO AHEAD AND TRY TO SMASH MY EX AND SE WHAT HAPPENS YOU DAMN SNAKES!!!!

  • SelfishChick

    It’s a respect thing and apart of the code. You never mess with your friend’s ex. Don’t be trashy. These celebrities are gross. Should just put them in a room together so they can all get it in together.

  • little sexy

    r kelly turned aaliyah out she probably never had a chance with any man unless it was serios, but Jay Z had Mya too blue cantrell. The Game and 5o had mya dam near at the same time. Shame shame.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    what do you mean she probably never had a chance with any man unless it was serious?

  • little sexy

    true true selfish chick, but morals went out the window with these celebrities. this has turned into a bad trend.

  • D.

    Do what you wanna do, if you wanna do it.

  • little sexy

    most men are emotionally unavailable to women. they are afraid to show affection and kindness toward any woman even if they love them. look how long T.I. took to marry tiny.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    Not really. She was on her grind anyway. She wasnt THAT sweet.

  • little sexy

    f*ck you too. i never said anything made up or bad about aaliyah. i am columbia graduate you people are ignorant trying to start a fight on the internet.

  • little sexy

    she was a decent girl nobody’ perfect money or no money i have money too, but it didn’t make me lose sight of right or wrong.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    neither. looks like a hit a sore spot with you, you’re hurling insults. I SAID A DUDE THAT’S FAQING ONE OF THEM IS NO BETTER THAN THEM. I DONT KNOW WHY MEN FOOLISHLY THINK THEY CAN LABEL WOMEN BUT THEIR EXEMPT. YOU’LL BE LOOKED AT A CHEAP AZZ DUDE WHO FAQS WITH SKANKY BROADS. YOU GOT AWFULLY MAD, SO IS IT YOU? WHILE WE’RE MAKING A SSUMPTIONS. LOL

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    DUDES ARE SO QUICK TO LABEL WOMEN, BUT LITTLE DO THEY KNOW, THEY GET LABELED AS WELL.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    that’s good to hear. SERIOUSLY

  • little sexy

    I m a gonna say this and i am out. Looks play a part in what a black woman can get away with people ignored what alicia Keys did and came down hard on Fantasia. the media constantly stereotypes all sistas period. we can not look up to entertainers i learned this a long time ago. so has everybody here too.

  • blkqueen39

    I don’t see a problem if everyone is on the up and up. I’ve been with mate for 15 years now that originally my best friend dated briefly. I was very upfront that I was interested and if it was a problem. She didn’t have a problem and appreciated I came to her first before pursuing the relationship.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    @bigg regg: I DONT HAVE THAT PROBLEM SWEETIE. I HAVE MORE THAN ONE MAN WHO TAKES ME SERIOUSLY. Again, MY POINT WAS THAT DUDES WHO FAQ GIRLS LIKE THAT ARE VIEWED AS SKANKY JUST LIKE THE GIRLS. THAT IS ALL. YES I REPLIED TO YOUR POST BUT I DID NOT INSULT YOU OR MAKE ACCUSATIONS AGAINST YOU. HAVE A BLESSED DAY.

  • i’m the shit

    I mean. What I look like taking my friends left of overs there r too many people on this planet for that shit. That’s like put on somebody drity underwear when u can go to the store and buy yourself some new ones like WTF smh

  • BIG REGG

    LMAO!!!YOU THINK THEY TAKE YOU SERIOUS.YOU HAVE A BLESSED DAY.

  • Uhh yeah ok

    Who in their right mind would ever look at celebrity couples as being epitome of relationships? They are actually a symbol that we (the people) put out there to show our collective ills. Think about. Half the time jumping from person to person is just a power move or something similar in the industry.. Regular Joes who would be faithful don’t make the cut.

    As girlfriends- it’s a respect thing. Don’t smash your friends ex because it’s gross (health wise) and it’s an emotional train wreck, also like Akillah pointed out you look mad thirsty.

    Besides most of the time girls have such varying tastes in men. My girl’s choices are faaaaaar in left fied in comparison to mine. It just wouldn’t fit them; I’d have to wonder if they were undercover haters doing ish like that.

  • Uhh yeah ok

    Get somebody from out of town.. loool The stares you get from other females when they see fresh meat is one for the books!!!!

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, YOU LOVE THEM. WHO CARES WHAT SOMEONE ELSE SAYS. JUST BE LUCKY YOU’RE IN LOVE, I GUESS

  • Michelle

    In my opinion, it depends on the situation. Sometimes the whole cuffing thing can get a bit ridiculous (FYI, “cuffing” is a term that describes the topic that was posted).

    I know a few women who believe not only exes are “off-limits”, but they believe all of their crushes (ranging from the times when they were in elementary school, all the way to college), co-workers that they think is cute/fine and the guy who winked at them during that one time, when they were at the club are off limits.

    Like I said before, it all depnds on the situation that I was dealing with.

    Fortunately, I will never be in this situation because my taste in men is very different from any of my homegirls’ types.

  • AHHHHHHHHHHHSHADDAAAP!!!!

    All the women in the world and you wanna lay up with some chick your buddy used to schtoop? In my book, that makes you look like a skeevy, covetous chump. Serious deal breaker. Unforgivable, major infraction. Who are you – Jermaine Jackson?

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    I KNOW FOR A FACT THEY DO AND WHY WOULD IT MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER TO T E L L YOURSELF THEY DIDNT? (WHATEVER MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER) HA HA HA AGAIN I CAN SEE I OFFENDED YOU AND IM NOT IN THE MOOD FOR CHILDISH GAMES, SO I APOLOGIZE FOR OFFENDING YOU AND HAVE A GOOD DAY.

  • Pleezzz

    Life is too short, as long as your not being a homewrecker or doing it while they are technically together. Go for it life is just to short.

    And this big old world really isn’t that big…Get love were you can find love as long as its real love.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    @BIG REGG: ACTUALLY IM BIG ENOUGH TO ADMIT IT THAT YOU DID STRIKE A NERVE BECAUSE IVE SEEN SO MANY DUDES TRY TO SLANDER AND HUMILIATE GIRLS JUST BECAUSE THEY COULDNT HAVE THEIR WAY WITH THEM. I WASNT REFERRING TO YOU, BUT I REPLIED TO YOU SO AGAIN, I APOLOGIZE.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    BUT FOR ALL YOU KNOW I COULD BE EDDIE WINSLOW AND THAT’S MY WIFE YOUR TALKING ABOUT. (SHRUGS) just saying. Peace man, Im not looking to argue.

  • Lisa

    Doesn’t matter to me. I don’t see the big deal about dating a friend’s ex. As long as you didn’t cause them to break up. Who cares?

  • msbliss

    I would say there’s two big factors involved. 1.) How long ago did they date- if they had a long term relationship esp if she was my friend During their relationship then NO. If they dated like 8 or 10 yrs or more ago be4 me & him met then Maybe/Yes. Also, dating Doesn’t automatically mean SEX! So maybe they never made it that far which is good 4 some ppl. 2.) How do they feel about each other NOW- I have ppl esp females try to get an ex back just because they’ve moved on with some1 they know. Make sure there’s no feelings left & if the girl is currently still ur friend u might wanna keep the friendship 2 a minimal because u dnt want her around ur man who use 2 be her man too often. If they aren’t mature about the situation & have hard feelings towards one another ur asking 4 a headache & a lot of drama esp if she is Currently still ur friend. But if they are grown ppl who have no feelings left & understand & respect u then why not If u really wanna go 4 it. *jus my 2 cent*

  • Dirty30

    No matter how you put it that is wrong if you call yourself a friend to someone thats why females dont get along today because one wants what the other has.

  • acer

    this is only okay if it’s a so-called friend’s ex or a foul ex’s friend.

    if a person loves, honors and respects you, and has always been loyal and good to you, why would you want their ex, or their current? if it’s your ex’s friend and your ex has been cool to you, why would you want their homie?

  • acer

    im sorry. there is just something chemically in my brain that sets off when introduced to a neighbor’s, co-worker’s, family or a friend’s man or my guy’s friend that leaves no desire for them no matter how fine or rich they are. i don’t even really holla at the neighbor or co-worker or people i see all the time in the community who i do business with. i like to hunt and prey and vice versa with the new and fresh…that’s just me.

  • BIG REGG

    BOSSSIP POST MY DAMMN COMMENT!!!

  • http://esaw0111@rock.com REAL TALK

    THESE LAME N?IGGAS LIKE SLOPPY SECONDS THATS ALL

    REAL REAL TALK

  • Candy4yuu

    Hell naw!going after a friends/families ex is SCANDALOUS not matter how you slice it! I personally wwouldn’t knowing want anyone who dated/f*cked a friend/family member period!!!

  • lala

    Aaliyah and….JAY-Z!!!??? I didn’t know this, I know I’m kinda young but…wow, aaliyah and jay-z. Who knew.

  • http://fromminetoyours.wordpress.com fromminetoyours

    Abstract thought… They seem to love me so much they can’t see me. Or is it that they just can’t see me? Arrogant? Evidently not.

  • Shay

    wht seal and tyra dated?!!! wow, he must really have a nice personality that he getting all the models

  • Marquis de Sade

    I don’t see where there would be a problem unless your friend still has a JONES for his or her ex…Other than that, him or her gettin’ upset over you datin’ him or her is silly…Afterall, it’s (ULTIMATELY) up to the EX if he or she decides to date your friend, and aint’ too much you can do about it, but move the f*ck on.

  • just bye, negro

    it depends on whether you are happy with someone else now and whether you split up because the flame died.

    if thats the case we can all be adults. but if he left you after years of being together and she knows what you went through, then f&ck both of them!

  • sportstalk23

    I thought that was rule #1 in the friendship hand book

    For me the same rules apply for both men and women friendships also add family in there too

    You don’t chomp down,hookup with,date etc with each other’s leftovers

    No matter how the relationship ended if you and the ex and the easiest breakup ever

    Don’t mean you want to see them dating your home slice lol

    On a sidenote would this be the most offensive thing done in this Diddy/Kim saga just sayin

  • Sanriobaby =^.^=

    Personally, I never understood nor desired the need to date my friend’s ex. That’s just something I really believe you just don’t do, especially if that ex was in a long term relationship w/your friend. But I think if you’re in the delecate position of feeling your friend’s ex and that feelings mutual, then you should speak on it asap! Honesty is always the best policy, even if it’s gonna hurt someone. If you really care and value the friendship, know that chances are, they aren’t gonna be cool with it and you risk destroying your friendship permantly. I know of a few cases where it all worked out and everyone was cool and respectful, but it takes a very high level of maturity for all involved. But most of the time, it always ends up horribly, the ex wasn’t even worth the risk and the friendship ended. I just don’t think it’s worth it. There are WAY too many people in the world to date. Dating your friend’s sloppy seconds is a no go!

  • Toni

    If the person your hooking up is completely over the other, I don’t see the problem. You don’t know if that person is your husband or wife. If they are doing it just to be scandalous or due to jealousy, then it won’t be right and will be the end of the friendship. I’m married and could care less if anyone scooped up a ex. I got mine, you better get yours!

  • Marquis de Sade

    Ooops! *from what I gather* (sorry for the typo)

  • HUstrawberry

    Well, I found myself in a situation like this some years back. My friend and the man had broken up 4-5 years prior and she had moved on and was in love with and living with a new man. Over the course of a year, I randomly ended up being friends with her ex (JUST friends), and we ended up speaking more and more until one day we realized we liked one another. Now my natural reaction would have been to pursue this feeling, but I felt the right thing to do was to talk to her about it first. I asked her feelings on it, and she let me know she was completely against it and was very angry. That was all I needed to hear, and I discontinued contact with him immediately. My point is, the friend should be okay with it. I know how sometimes a genuine interest forms and the lines get fuzzy, and believe me there was no desperation or lack of options.

  • SOUTHERNJETSETTER

    I have that same chemical flowing through my brain as well…No desire, no scandalous thoughts, no happy panty sensation…

  • Marquis de Sade

    Sounds like your friend’s current relationship is a sham…If her love for her current b.f. is genuine, why would she care if you pursued a relationship with someone she broken up with over 4 to 5 years ago? From what gather, the only victim in this, is her current b.f., due to him giving his heart to someone who’s still has some unresolved feellings and emotional investments for someone 4 to 5 years removed.

  • BIG REGG

    MY EX-LADIES PROBABLY WOULDNT DATE MY FREINDS CAUSE IT WOULD BE A STEP DOWN,BUT IF THEY DID I WOULDNT BE UPSET I WOULD JUST THINK THEY’RE DOING BAD OR EITHER VERY LONELY.

  • I love love an Asian MAN

    I concur!!!

  • Geronimo Deuces

    so whats your point

  • Tracy Cousins

    I don’t believe these “celeb friendships” count, I mean most of these people meet in the business, and when you see the pairs and the regular friends they have before they got famous you can clearly see that they otherwise wouldn’t have been “friends” because their real friends dont share the personalities of their new celeb. friends…Like Jay-Z and his new gal pal Gwen P, so yeah theses arent great examples of sloppy seconds, I say no don’t do it, the friendship will end, and I dont know why you would want to do it, you might as well stay where youre at if you gonna see your ex up close in your social life anyways.

  • Tracy Cousins

    Big Regg hope this is just a screen name that no one knows about, and not your real nickname, cuz i think you will have a fight on your hands with any friend that seen this post since you think your friends are shyt compared to you…lol

  • Tracy Cousins

    That would only be ok if you weren’t friends anymore, and she dated your ex, then you don’t have to deal with him on a personal level anymore that’s why you left him. If this is your current friend and she dates your ex that would make me feel like she’s looking at all my men that way, and would also make me wonder why she would be so willing to listen to me rant about my current man…i would think she’s doing it to get info on my man, but that’s just how I think, I wouldn’t trust her, her tail too hott for me…and everyone got options, hell date someone on the other side of town, in a different city, out your race, same sex, all kinds of options than smiling in my face and wanting any man I’ve been with.

  • shae81

    Everyone’s new and fresh if you ain’t had ‘em… just sayin’.

    Don’t really see the problem to be honest unless someone still has feelings or is insecure that the friend is gonna put it on their ex much, much better. =) To be honest, I think that’s why most people have a problem with it— they’re insecure about the close-up comparison.

    Me.. I know what I’m working with so from my view it’s like “do you playa… it might be a little roomy in there but you my dawg and I want her to be happy.”

  • shae81

    co-sign @ marquis.

    Nobody gets mad about a 4 year old “done” relationship if they’re really in love with someone else and have moved on. Hell, I can’t even remember some of the people I dated 4 years ago much less catching feelings over a friend dating one of ‘em.

  • shae81

    There are lots of people in the world. Doesn’t mean there’s lots of people right for YOU… Life goes by just once and sometimes you got to take that chance.

    A friend is only going to be upset if they haven’t moved on (either from jonesing or from being hurt). And if a chick shidded on my mans, she wouldn’t be on my radar in the first place.

  • deesac

    i been in that situation like most when you know your friends ex likes you. The best answer to if you and the friend is close. LEAVE THAT SHHH ALONE THAT’S HOW PPL GET KILLED!!

  • http://BOSSIP HANNIBALS DAD

    Yeah, If they no longer have feelings and have moved on or married. And it also depends on how close of friends you are.

  • angel

    I wouldn’t care an ex is an ex for a reason maybe they my friend and the ex are more compatible. If you don’t tell your friend your business you would never have to think they they are going behind your back.

  • Ummmm

    @ Geronimo….lololol u killed me

  • Ummmm

    I totally agree with you. Although I think its human nature to be upset especially if you once really loved that person. If you think there is a connection with your friend’s ex, I d say wait it out a loong time, at least give your friend whatever amount of time she needs to get over it, BEFORE you start hollering and AFTER you have had a candid discussion with her. I do not think anyone has ‘ownership’ rights over another human being, but I do think it is extremely selfish and unreasonable to start going after your friend’s ex so soon or without giving your friend time to get over them.

  • Ummmm

    dude, why do you respond to your own statements? :s

  • Ummmm

    Hey, I am glad i am not the only one who is getting a tad irritated by the numerous posts. For someone cocky with lots of options, you spend a lot of time posting. Just saying….ugh

  • Ummmm

    I totally agree! Good luck with your union! :)

  • haxatchee

    It really depends on the level of maturity, but more guys do this than people want to think & have posted. I’ve personally had it happen to me three times & none of the scenarios turned out good for the perpetraters. What goes around comes around:

    1) Had my best friend talk to a girl I was talking to behind my back. She quit talking to me & talked to him instead. It didn’t work. Two years later, he was talking to a girl & one of our friends was kicking it w/ her behind his back & then telling her who else he was hitting…

    2) The same cat that poured salt in my best friend’s game talked to one of my girls after me & her broke up. She ended up getting pregnant by him & he didn’t respond the right way & she ended up getting an abortion…

    3)This cat was looking at my then fiancee’ when I was w/ her. After we broke up, he was asking one of my partners what was up w/ her, but I told him he could handle his business, because there was no way we would ever be back together. She realized this, too & probably coughed up the skins for spite, but I didn’t care at that point, which leads me to…

    One of my best friends currently actually hooked me up with my wife. He saw someone that he thought would be good for me & instead trying to put his bid in, he referred her to me. That’s how friendship should be, not thirsty & hungry individuals who can’t decide for self. I guess in a way, you should be flattered that they trust your judgement enough to pick someone decent… but not really……

  • Proud

    Lol. That is so true. Girls to stake claim on guys just b/c they have a crush.

  • Me

    lol, how do people KNOW how these go down? We have no idea if a) Mel and adam even dated

    b)if she and Ciara were even friends, if they did.

    Just bec. we see some things lined up a certain doesn’t mean thats the way they go down.

    IF I was famous I wouldn’t want people knowing ANYTHING about me, cuz they would always be adding 2+2 and coming up with 10.

  • ChangeofHeart

    How do you know Melanie doesn’t want to claim him? I love her as an artist, and I have heard her state many times that she is EXTREMELY picky, and wants nothin less than the best. So um, maybe she aint all that into dude.

    As for this question-its just awkward and scandalous to date someone that your friend has already dished to you about, it must feel like you are being disloyal. However, sometimes true love comes in the strangest packaging, so if thats the way it is, you should at least have the decency to discuss it with the friend first…only if its real feelings, cuz you might lose the friend if their previous relationship was serious or recent.

  • ChangeofHeart

    and you STILL remained friends with these people? I guess men really are different.

    Glad it worked out for you and your wife though.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    Aaliyah and DMX were just friends.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    First off who wants to even LOOK at an ex once you’re done with them? It’s not about still liking them or being jealous. I would give my friend permission and leave her azz behind right with him. IMO is just desperate and illustrates a lack of options on both of their behalf. I like DIMES.

  • little sexy

    you did not like me this is why you thought i was racist i seen you on adam rodriguez post too. i have a latino daughter and i am black > i am sorry if you think i offended your race , but this stuff goes on rich or poor. Celebrities are not good examples of how to live you know that so do i. I feel sorry for Fantasia she does not look good and gets rejected by industry men, but she still was wrong.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    that makes no sense whatsoever.

  • toosexy

    Some friends evny you neway…and by getting some you already had it might make them seem someone better than you or equal to you..but i would never date my friends guys..and people always talking bout who has doesn’t have ownership and all that, it more about respect for yourself and ur friend..I know I wouldn’t wan to see my friend with my ex..just to ackward.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    i agree.

  • http://urnotpdiddyloser 5’10″ AKILLAH RICHARDS(D.K.N.Y. boys like me a lot)

    On some topics, people post more than once. On some topics people dont even post on. Ok? have a blessed day!

  • sweetandrude37

    i would never go behind a friend or family member, but that’s just me. i have no problem with who me ex gets with afterwards, we’re ex’s for a reason and when i’m done with someone, i’m done.

  • sweetness

    ummm…Aaliyah has been gone from us for a while. Just let that be…

  • sweetness

    sometimes shyt happens. Sometimes you fall for someone that should be off limits. love is blind and so are these off tha wall comments.

  • chrissy

    No… you cannot date a friend’s ex. The only exception to the rule is if the friend is now married or in the case of it being your ex, you are married. Reason: when you get married you shouldn’t be worrying about an ex anyway.

  • http://undressingher.com undressingHER

    if my mans f**ked her…I don’t want to.

  • K..OO..L G…UY” .AMASEING GRACE HOW SWEET THOU ART!

    MAN, WILL BE A MAN AND,WOMEN WILL BE WOMEN!”! !

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