Fact: Men are Just as Emotional as Women . . . If Not More

- By Bossip Staff Categories: News, Sex and Relationships

Happy Thursday, Bossip Readers! Here’s to another “Almost There Thursday,” the perfect precursor to the holiday weekend! So, over the last decade or so, neuroscientists have been researching the ever-mysterious emotional differences between men and women. As myth has it, men aren’t “in touch with their emotions and hardly express them” while women “wear their emotions on their sleeve” and cry at any given moment. In the realm of sex, it is also believed that there is a hint of emotional engagement for women by default. Well, guess what? That’s not true! In fact, quite the opposite. According to an article in Scientific American, recent studies have concluded, MEN show more activity in the emotional regions of the brain during sex while women, on the other hand, show NONE. No signs of emotional activity during sex and during an orgasm. Well, then why does she laugh, shed tears or get reflective afterwards, one might ask? And the answer is in the question . . . afterwards, when the brain returns to it’s standard state, emotions might rush in. Simple. Okay, to approach this theory from another vantage point, another study shows men are more apt to emotional suffrage in relationships than woman! According to Science Daily, the reason this true is because “their romantic partners are often their primary source of intimacy — in contrast to young women who are more likely to have close relationships with family and friends.”

Hmm, makes perfectly good, non-emotional, logical man-sense, does it not? Think about it, everybody has a male companion or family member that’s suffered through a love lost . . . and they take it pretty rough, right? The man can’t eat nor sleep. He might lose weight and regularly drown his sorrows with liquor in remembrance of “the time we had.” If it’s really bad, he’ll graduate to drunken texts and phone calls searching for answers. Men are lovesick for weeks and, sometimes, months after a breakup! It’s hard for them to let go too! Now, that’s not to discredit or degrade the integrity of a man but more so to prove that when they love, they love hard and strong because their emotions are invested! Unfortunately, they tend to love and invest in the wrong ones but that’s a different subject. So, ladies . . . maybe a little extra sensitivity and tenderness will go a long way with men after all! Let’s give it a go, but keep it simple!

Be Quiet- take your man to a serene outdoorsy spot or leave him alone in a room in your/his place where he can just sit and be still in body, mind a spirit. If he wants to talk, listen. If he doesn’t, that’s cool too. Just be there! If you can create a time and space where he can find peace, even if it’s just for a few minutes, he’ll appreciate you for it. Too often women take a man’s occasional desire for space and silence personally. But it’s therapeutic, he needs that time . . . we all do! Let him have it!

Cook – ladies, it’s effortless to get a man . . . it’s keeping one that’s a challenge. Aaaand you won’t keep him if you can’t cook! As archaic as it sounds, it’s still necessary. If you can’t cook, learn. If you don’t like to cook, learn to love it! If you’re still learning, garnish the hell out of a simple dish! Ask him to make a menu of his favorite meals, make them your own and prepare them with love. “Through his stomach” is a real route if you’re trying to get to his heart.

Show Love – acknowledge his efforts and the things he does. A lot of women think, “why should I have to applaud him for doing the things he’s supposed to do.” Well, you don’t have to — just like he didn’t have to change the oil in your car, hook up your TV or fix the dishwasher. A simple “thank you, baby” or “what would I do without you?” or “I appreciate you, honey” goes a long way and reminds him of why he’s does what he does for you. If you want to take it a step further, give him a shoulder massage for his hard (or not so hard) work and sometimes a good, long, tight hug is just enough.

Take Initiative – if you see your man is slipping, help the man out! If his laundry is stacked to the ceiling, sort it for him — that might be all he needs to spark the desire to wash his clothes. If you see he’s eating from the clean dishes in his sink or dishwasher, put them away. If he’s been talking about revamping resume and has yet to do so, tell him to shoot it your way and trick it out. Be his number one cheerleader and you won’t lose . . . nor will he!

So, even for the fellas, it’s the little things that mean so much! And, as quiet as it’s kept, they’re creatures of emotion also. Even though we express them differently, we all want the same things so, keep it simple and warm!

What are your thoughts, Bossip readers? Please leave them below!

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  • louisiana mami

    all of these things are so true. I have been married ten yrs and this is what keep us going.;)

  • Tracy

    True,men barely cry, but when they do, they cry hard.

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    duh. and some are jealous of other women and some act like beaches. i thought you knew



  • Lisa

    This is true! If a man loves you, he REALLY loves you, but when things go wrong, they lose it. A friend told me that’s why it’s hard for some men to commit in a lot of instances because the fear of getting their hearts broken is too much for them to bare.

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    look good, dont sleep with his friends, and always REMIND him that his replacement is lurking. that’s all it takes.



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  • MsRachael

    Makes sense. So many men are just jacked up emotionally. It takes them FOREVER to get over some chick who dogged them.
    I’ve often felt I was the emotionally anchored one in my relationships.

  • Jayleise Anello

    This is very true, however it doesn’t work for all men, the ones who are un greatful by nature wont appreciate the things you do big or small.

  • Sha

    I like the choice of the pic. lol

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  • GreenNYC

    I’m a man and that’s some true sh it. How many men y’all know that went to jail for killing another mofo over his broad. Sh it I was a statistic my damn self over a broad. Carrying hammers trying to do something to a mofo. Cause in my mind who the F is this fool who thinks he can fyck my p*ssy. Than get caught with the shit. But never again will I fight over no p*ssy.


    Preference that,with Men who are raised primarily by Women are Emotional. Certainly more emotional,then Men who were raised by strong fathers,which a lot of young Black Males are not,theses days,which leads to overly emotional men.

    • MsRachael

      I don’t know about that. Men I’ve dated who were raised by their mothers or came from single parent homes seems to keep everything in. They couldn’t express themselves during an argument and were more likely to just get quiet, disappear or sulk during arguments.
      Guys I dated from 2 parent homes were in touch with their feelings. They expressed how they felt and were honest most of the time.


    the lies women tell themselfs…

  • GreenNYC

    I’m a man and that’s some true sh it. How many men y’all know that went to jail for killing another mofo over his broad. I was a statistic my damn self over a broad. Carrying hammers trying to do something to a mofo. Cause in my mind who the F is this fool who thinks he can fyck my girl. Than get caught with the shit. But never again will I fight over no a*s. Cause when your a*s sitting in jail she gonna do her reguardless

    • Lady A

      You went from being hurt to a stalker it sounds like to me. You was carrying around a hammer and you got caught and went to jail? And the crazy thing is I know my husband would be the one to snap out if we ever split. He would be a stalker from hell.

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  • jdmann

    This is bull.. test don’t prove anything it’s about the man. Real G’s don’t grow on trees baby. We’re born not made.

  • Niasia

    I do 3 out of the 4. The only thing that gets me is the “be quiet”. I take it so personally sometimes😦 but don’t get me wrong I don’t raise my voice and even when we disagree I refuse to get loud and rude. My honey has a menu of my food that he loves (seafood Alfredo is #1). Mind you before he and I were dating I literally had two pans, a frying pan and a sauce pan. A shame i know🙂 I appreciate my honey so much and I let him know. And he does very well too. He cooks (even if it is ALWAYS fried chicken and rice) and he generally takes care of me. Oh let me hug him now…well in between the football commercial😉 we know how they are about football.

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  • Ronald

    Nice post! Really liked!

    Men are simple. It’s really easy to understand us, all you need is right information. And, by understanding males and knowing what men want women to know , you can become an irresistible lady.

  • Queen R

    Ya’ll wrong for this one!

  • Kat

    Beautiful! For once in my life, I’ve had to work to get into this man’s space. It was completely outside of my norm and I questioned the relationship. But, I also remained sensitive to the fact that he’d been hurt many years before and was emotionally stunted. I used it as an opportunity to discover patience and sensitivity. I opened up and unknowingly followed these steps. Now I’m in the most functional adult relationship I’ve ever experienced… Add to all this: a little comfortability in the bedroom goes a very long way.

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