Sextra: She’s Got Too Much Hair Down There!

I want to get your opinion on something. I met this girl about 9 months ago and we decided to be exclusive about 4 months into it. She had me fawked up because she was on some “do what you do” type sh*t and she would kinda play me to the left when I was on my stupid sh*t and she would call me on it. She’s a natural woman and she’s so smart and really opened my eyes to a lot of things that I took no interest in before. I’m normally not attracted to mother earth women but she’s so fawking cool and I can’t lie she got me feeling some kinda way about her. She’s a very pretty girl in the face and her skin is beautiful but she doesn’t shave and that’s my only problem. She don’t shave her legs, armpits or her pocket! It’s so wild and bushy down there and one time when I went down on her there were tissue bits stuck in it and that killed it for me! When I asked her why she doesn’t shave or wax she said it’s because that’s a european standard of beauty. I like her enough to look past these things but I would like a set smooth legs in the bed next to me. I want her to trim that bush not just because it’s too hairy but I want to see more of it. She don’t even have to take it all off but trim it and take the sides down. I’m a hairy dude myself and I’m considerate enough to clip my hairs where it’s needed and keep a groomed look so is it too much to ask her to do the same? I just can’t see why a 30 year old woman would not see the benefits of keeping herself groomed. I’ve never had to have this conversation with a woman before and I respect her lifestyle but I need her to do this for me.

Happy Friday to you, sir! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story. But, pause . . . “trim it and take the sides down” is too funny! So basically what you’re saying is, she’s needs a haircut. Some women aren’t into shaving and waxing and, in your lady’s case, it’s her beliefs that are keeping her away from the razors, Nair and waxings! That’s kind of tough because you don’t want to offend her but at the same time, it’s unsettling to discover trinkets, if you will, in her nether region. That’s pretty rough, not to mention, unhygienic! But, hey, to each his own and, ultimately, it’s her body to do what she wants with it.

Here’s what you can do, you can speak up about it! Tell her straight up, “this ain’t got nothin’ to do with Europe. Leave Europe out of this. This is between me and you, girl!” Keep it as simple and real as possible! Be as genuine as you were when you wrote about her in this letter. Tell her how beautiful her skin is and that you want to rub on her legs at night. Tell her you’d like to see what you’re doing during your intimate moments without having to wrestle through wilderness! Tell her you will do it for her, if need be! Buy her a trimmer and buzz her yourself! If you keep it lighthearted and playful, she’ll likely give in at some point. It’s far too early in the game to lack basic communication on this sort of matter, right?

If you’re uncomfortable requesting this of her, then get her a gift certificate to a spa or salon where she can get it done. Since you keep yourself “groomed” get it done with her! Schedule an appointment at a day spa, and surprise her with a few services like a mani/pedi and a secret wax. You’d be surprised at how convincing estheticians can be . . . they’ll hit her with “whoa, girl! Let’s wax those legs . . . and brows . . . and lip . . . and bikini!” And you just give that silent nod of approval in the background. They’ll hook her up, just get her in the door! If she doesn’t budge at all, then you’ll have to respect that. Again, it’s her right to grow as much hair as she wants wherever it may be! But it’s all about compromise . . . maybe she’ll take a little off the top and maybe you’ll learn to accept her . . . hair and all! Good luck to you, sir! Good luck!

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