10 Reasons Why Women Can’t Find A Good Man

- By Bossip Staff Categories: Madame Noire, News

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It used to be that every woman could find her match. You found the man of your dreams, got married, and lived happily ever. Sounds simple! Yet, those fairytales are only found in the storybooks now since more and more black relationships have dwindled over the past 50 years. It’s one of the most talked about issues in the black community, and many theories swirl as to why it’s hard for women to find companionship.

If we analyze the truth, a ratio of 100 black women for every 87 black men doesn’t sound that scarce. But out of those 87, if there are a shortage of marriageable black men versus those who are cheaters, on the down low or incarcerated, then it makes perfect sense! But is that the sole reason we can’t find true love? There could be other alternatives. Maybe these reasons (below) explain why you’re still single?

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  • http://ivegotthatwork 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(VICTORIA ISNT THE ONLY SECRET IM SITTING ON)

    10.Because they’re not looking.

    9. Because they already have too many to choose from.

    8. Because “Good” men are hard to find.

    7. Because hard men are good to find.

    • Leah

      Lol, tank you, let’s make a list concerning them as a change!

    • A Good Man Is Hard to Find

      Because All The Good Women Have Them (so, you now have something to consider)

  • http://esaw0111@rock.com REAL TALK

    THE REAL WHY THESE B?ITCHES WANT MONEY OVER LOVE ?

    REAL REAL TALK

    • http://ivegotthatwork 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(VICTORIA ISNT THE ONLY SECRET IM SITTING ON)

      DING DING DING. WE HAVE A WINNER!!!!

    • noloveforthestupid

      real talk? yeah ok. you really need to shut the f’ck up. as well as all the rest of you stupid a$$ fools who can only speak on what you come across in your environment, low lifes and hoodrats.

    • Gaii Gurl Shaii

      Also you forgot.. They looking educated thug w/ a masters, who doesnt cheat, with a large bank account, drives a Benz/Porsche, lives by himself..No kids.. Faithful.. Never wants to hang w/ his boys just her 24/7.. Who doesnt lie(at all) Wants to be married in 3 months.. Who takes control of the relationship only when she wants to let go of control of the relationship.. Who reads her mind and know what she thinking 24/7.. Lavish her with gifts 24/7..

      I mean is that to much to ask really..

      I think I left something out.. Help meh if I did

    • Gaii Gurl Shaii

      I like state to those who are having difficulty finding a man.. Either move to somewhere there’s abundance of them or lower your standards.. Your choice..

      LMAO!!

      Come on now..

  • http://ivegotthatwork 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(VICTORIA ISNT THE ONLY SECRET IM SITTING ON)

    3. because women smell better when they dont come in contact with smelly men. lol.

    2. because they mess up your hair and their sweat drips onto you. eeew.

    1. because finding a man is like finding a taxi on fifth ave in Manhattan @ 5PM ON FRIDAY, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS WHISTLE DUMMY. MAYBE NOT EVEN THAT. LOL.

  • RedBoi

    Ive never had a problem finding a man, and Im a dude. Bytches just need to step their game up..point blank period!

    • ImJustSayin

      Nowadays to get a man you have to be a man(literally). Real talk

    • Bethany "ACID FACE" Storro

      ROTFLMAO…..@ ImJustSayin…Now that’s that Real, real, real, real, real, real, real, real, Eddie Long Talk…No Bishop! Lmao!!!

    • Syreeta

      In my “Star” voice, “Hay Gurl!”

    • Tasha J

      Lol @ImJustSaying

    • aqueenwaits

      …BTW the devil is male too!

  • Greeneyedbandit

    Some of us women spend too much time HATIN on the NEXT b***h!!! Its usually the ones that cant get a man or cant KEEP a man! :)

    • TRUTH IS...

      Amen…hateful brwitches are sickening…….

  • Rihann's Sharp n Pointy Witchy Fingernails Took The Oath

    The African man and woman in America has been conditioned to the ways of the western world. The dowry and match-making system has been taken from us. No longer does the mother or father or auntie says to the female “meet the boy from the next village”. We now live like the “newer” forms of hominids, skating from one thing to the next. We have been conditioned to think self-sacrifice of any form is degrading when in fact, it’s strengthening. That we should relish in youth as if it’s a time F up any and every. Some people have a good woman or man, but still search for more because we live in a self-gratifying society, where family being a sacrificial dynamic doesn’t fit into gratifying ones own needs. It’s time to put away the blocks and pastels. Life is about just that-Life is about creating new life and without copulation and matrimony it’s disconnected and sloppy.

    • GHUK Flav

      ‘…in the village’,dear you need to visit Afica and realise it is in the 21st Century. I certinly don’t live in a village when I go there but a very big city. And when I go to my hometown( the countrysideish…), it is a town and not a village. That kind of village you maybe thinking of existed hundreads of years ago and is not too common nowadays. And boy from next village? – they would be looking into their owm community.

    • Leah

      Wow, you are absolutely right!!! Thanks for my historical reminder!!

  • Check this out

    It should have read:

    10 Reasons why a women can’t find a good black man

    1. He doesnt like to work

    2. She makes more than him

    3. Shes patient as hell and
    puts up with alot of B.S.

    4. He feels entitled

    5. He feels lying is the only
    way

    6. He thinks that being
    a “PLAYA” is ok

    7. Too many baby mamas plus
    drama

    8. Too many brothers in
    jail/prison

    9. He takes advantage of her

    10. He thinks shes stupid

    • Check this out

      @Marquis

      Phaedra Parks sounds as though she didnt like herself at all

    • BigMan

      I can make a list of “why black men cannot find a GOOD BLACK WOMAN” but that would just be counterproductive and add to the division… why black American women talk about black men in universal terms??..There a lot of black men around the globe and even in America who are happily married to black women and are very happy..

    • Yea I said it

      @Bigman-

      Nice try! but…by no means do I hate men. But the bottom line is that Black women have been sooooo disappointed by black men its very sad. Not saying that there arent any triflin sistuhs out there but you best believe that women dont act that way until a man has done something to her. Black women are loyal until you give them a reason. Bottom line, Black men do shyt to fuk things up

    • BigMan

      OH OH…I guess women cannot change men to make them be dogs??I guess black men are just born trifling it’s in our blood,RIGHT??…And sister are pure in heart UNTIL the scary black men break their hearts and turn them into hoes/angry bitter women..I got u… (some)Sister today are NOT loyal to nobody but themselves…lambasting black men on TV like the majority give a damn about black women issues…The same argument you made can be applied to (some)sisters…There are a lot sister who can get GOOD black men from in USA and around world..Probably it’s just YOU, who cannot attract a good man but of course that’s unthinkable…

    • Yea I said it

      @BIGMAN

      I stand by everything that I said. Its apparent that youre an angry black man and didnt read what Ive written. WOW!! Once again, I said that I was not hatin on men and that there are triflin black women out there as well. Not once did I say that I could not find a good black man Im sure theres at least one out there besides my dad. let the truth be told. Stop frontin!!

    • BigMan

      I’m far from a angry black man I’m just tired of females just blaming black men for everything that go wrong with their love lifes but never look at themselves…I’m just analyzing what you saying sister..Black men are bad,sister are loyal,blah blah.. In my country black women stand by their men no matter what (some) black men did to them..They do not generalize us and do not go on the country social sites lambasting their men and say stuff like this “10 Reasons why a women can’t find a good black man

      1. He doesnt like to work

      2. She makes more than him

      3. Shes patient as hell and
      puts up with alot of B.S.

      4. He feels entitled

      5. He feels lying is the only
      way

      6. He thinks that being
      a “PLAYA” is ok

      7. Too many baby mamas plus
      drama

      8. Too many brothers in
      jail/prison

      9. He takes advantage of her

      10. He thinks shes stupid

    • Yea I said it

      @BIGMAN

      Sit your azz down somewhere. You sit there and are critical about every comment that is written simply because you dont agree with it yet you DONT EVEN READ THE COMMENTS!!!!! Your busted 2 TIMES…Maybe if you get your head out of your butt, stop hatin on women then you will learn something. Im out!!!

    • BigMan

      I hate women…LOLOL…I guess I touch a nerve calling people name to make your point…I love women especially black women…busted ok..just analyzing what u saying…

    • aqueenwaits

      @Check this out

      You forgot to add that he wants to wear it out and then decide if he still wants it OR if he wants to keep on moving. But I guess this could go with PLAYA

      Good job on the list!

    • mzdoingme

      sounds about right

    • Linababes

      I completely AGREE wit h a lot of what you just said. This whole mentality that black men have just makes it more difficult.. and I’m not saying black women are the most easy to deal with either but even if you see a black man with a woman of another nationality he is still treating her the same as he would any other woman. What’s up with them? never understood it!!! smh

  • MyReason

    I’ve never had a problem finding really good men. I’ve been blessed but I also know how to wait and get to know someone before allowing a romantic relationshipt to develop. Too many women get involved in sexual relationships and hope that they turn into somethng more. I like to actually date a man and make him wait-trust me men love it and it pays off!! Get yourself/life together, get to know him, take things slow, and make sure YOU have more to offer than some a**.

    • http://bossip nene

      Please school these hoes.

    • Tiny

      And that’s how you find a good man!!!

    • SHAW

      That’s what I’m talking about.

  • YEA I SAID IT

    ALL LYES

    I HAVE NEVER HAD A PROBLRM GETTING A MAN:)

    THE PROBLEM IS FINDING SOMEONE ON MY LEVAL :)

    BYTCHES HATE ME BECUZ I’M ON POINT ALWAYS N DUDES HATE ME BECUZ THEY KANT RUN GAME :)

    SO I JUST PLAY MY PART :)

    • Ohh NO!

      @yea I said it

      YOU SOUND REAL STUPID AND IGNORANT.

  • What a shame

    to mizz teddy and myreason. Im not hatin but the only thing I want to say to you both is take a real good look at dumbazz gloria govan and matt barnes. She said the same things that you two said. She got the shock of her life

    • MyReason

      I’ve only said what has worked FOR ME (thus the use of the word “blessed”)and the mistakes I see so many women make. It’s not fool proof obviously, but it definitely makes for better odds. All of my experiences have been positive so I don’t have a “men ain’t sh*t” attitude, nor will I EVER stereotype black men as being tired and trifling. I will also never pigeon hole all black women either. I think we can all make better choices in who we let in our lives.

    • MyReason

      That’s so typical of someone to use an example of one person who didn’t get it right. I don’t know anything about Gloria or Matt nor do I care. Regardless of that, they are ONE couple and have nothing to do with the thousands of black men and women who have mature, progressive, successful relationships. There’s always a bad apple in a bunch. That’s no reason to say “f*ck it” and deal with some BS…

    • What a shame

      @Myreason

      Interesting! Theres no reason to get defensive. (You did when you stated thats so typical) Perhaps you have your head in the sand too huh?

  • sunflower

    @RedBoi
    LMAO

    You get the comedy award today!

  • Miss tahbee

    Truth is there is a surplus of bad men out there. And we women always think we can “change” them. But sitting and waiting around for “the one” is just stupid

  • http://ivegotthatwork 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(VICTORIA ISNT THE ONLY SECRET IM SITTING ON)

    Men are not naturally good. they must be threatened, imtimidated, and blackmailed. ahem TRAINED if you will. If not, they’re guaranteed to bite and shyt all over you. just saying. im just kidding guys (sike) you know i love you.

    • http://ivegotthatwork 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(VICTORIA ISNT THE ONLY SECRET IM SITTING ON)

      oh yeah and contrary to what law officials think, it’s is perfectly acceptable to go upside their heads ladies. trust me. their parents used to beat them into obedience and you should too! if their parents didnt beat them.. well it’s never to late. smooches!

    • SHAW

      A mess! lol

  • http://ivegotthatwork 5'10" AKILLAH RICHARDS(VICTORIA ISNT THE ONLY SECRET IM SITTING ON)

    ladies they want mama’s down home country cooking and mama’s down home country azz whippins. lol.

    I promise to GOD this is a TRUE STORY: My cousin married her h.s sweetheart and they had 5 kids. She gained like l00 lbs but he NEVER ONCE cheated on her and gave her his ENTIRE paycheck with a smile. She used to knock that dude all upside his head. He never left her, she divorced him when he didnt have any mother and got a new man paying her bills and not one of the five kids belong to the new man. I PROMISE!! LIKE OPRAH TOLD HARPO “BEAT HIM”.

    • such and such

      Something doesn’t seem right about this story. She must have been taking care of him? Why would give her some1 his paycheck and stay just to get his a** whipped?

    • SHAW

      I had a aunt who used to beat the hell out of her husband and he’d still bring his paycheck home. He also took care of her 3 kids from another man.

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