Damn, What Do You Really Want? The Fellas Weigh In

- By Bossip Staff

Good day, Bossip readers! Here’s to another “Almost There Thursday!” In a previous article, the question was raised: do women really know what they want? A few of our female readers weighed in on what they want in a man and, as promised, we went after the male perspective! Just to recap, this is what prompted the conversation:

“I’m no pretty boy Billy D and I’m not a thug but I’m a man who knows how to treat a woman. Damn what do you really want??” Do you even know? I’m convinced that women don’t know what they want and that’s why men suffer. I challenge your woman readers to speak up and say, with conviction, what they want.”

The statement is as simple as the topic is complex! Can we prevent pain and “suffrage” by knowing what we want and are willing to compromise? Are you realistic in your thought processes? Or, are we so caught up in a feeling, connection or chemistry — so blinded by love our standards and expectations take a back seat? That is until the flame defuses and you find that the two of you might not have so much in common (other than attraction) and he/she is not the “one.” So we asked a few of our male readers, “what do you want in woman?” Not surprisingly, it was hard for some to articulate what they want versus what they don’t want. And some know, without and shadow if a doubt, what they want in a partner. Take a look!

I don’t know. I’m still playing around. It’s like this, I know this woman and she’s everything a man could ever want. She’s smart, she’s driven, she got mad sex appeal and she’s beautiful. I know all I would have to do is say the word and she would be down, I know it. The problem is, I love her enough not to put her through it. She deserves better than what I’m willing to give right now and that’s the honest-to-God truth. I don’t think it’s a matter of us [men] not knowing what we want, a lot of times it’s just bad timing, you know what I mean? – Jeffery, 33

I want a woman who knows how to be a woman. I don’t want her to shutter at the thought of being submissive. Like, why is that such a bad word? You say that word to a lot of women and they get all hot around the collar, I never said I want a slave! That’s another quality I admire, I want a woman who can trust. I want her to know that she can trust me to do the things a man is supposed to do. Trust that I’m not going to do you dirty. Trust that I’m not going to play you. Trust that I’m going to be good to you. I want a woman who’s secure enough in herself to understand a woman’s role in the household. These chick nowadays are so caught up in a lifestyle and “thug love,” they lose sight of what really matters. I want a woman who doesn’t watch the “dumb box” as my grandfather would say. – Neil, 29

A woman who’s real and sure of herself! A genuine woman, is what I want. I was married for 7 years and, granted, we got married very young so neither one of us had a clue as to who we were as individuals. I loved her for the things that she eventually ended up hating about herself. She was cool and had a really positive, optimistic attitude but she changed one me and became angry and negative and hit me with the “this is who I am. Like it or leave it.” Those were her exact words and we tried to work it out but we were different people in the end. I understand growth and evolving but drastic changes in character is bi-polar. I want a woman who knows herself and is comfortable with herself. – Jaime, 32

I dated a girl for two years and she was a great person inside and out but she was a boss at her job and didn’t know how to hang that sh*t up when she came home. I dug her willingness to grind and put in the extra hours to buy a new car and furnish her house, I loved that about her. The crazy part about it was, I make almost double what she was making so I never understood her aggression and her constant need to be in control because I never asked her to pay any bills or pick up the bill when we went out or anything and she never offered to either! She was selfish like that and that was a turn-off. I want a woman who knows that it’s going to take more than good sex to keep me around. It might have kept me around for longer than it should have but when a woman is mean and b*tchy all the time, it’s just unattractive, I don’t care how good she looks. – Anthony, 30

What are your thoughts, Bossip fam? Please share them below!

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  • Hannibal

    THIS IS FOR THE FELLAS, YOU BITTER BLACK WOMEN BETTER NOT COME IN HERE! BUT HERE IS WHAT WE WANT:

    1. BE QUIET WHEN THE GAME IS ON
    2. IF WE WANT SOME P*USSY, SHUT UP AND JUST GIVE IT UP!
    3. HAVE DINNER READY WHEN WE COME HOME!
    4. KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN AND STOP COMPLAINING!

    • jus sayn!

      n i bet u single aint u??

    • Hannibal

      NAW, I GOT A COUPLE OF GIRLFRIENDS. GET YOUR BITTER A*SS OUT OF HERE!

    • jus sayn!

      couple “girlfriends”…hope tht wrks out 4 u…sound young..pft!

    • Hannibal

      YES I AM YOUNG AND IT DOES WORK FOR ME, WHO SAYS YOU CAN ONLY HAVE ONE GIRL.

    • jus sayn!

      a REAL WOMAN says u cant…mayb dwn tha line whn u gettn funny looks frm bitc*es in tha clubs wonderin wut ur old a*s doin thr..mayb thn ull change ur way of thinkin..tha good ones r worth tha life change….problem is that by then wont no bitc* b checkn 4 ur old a*s!!!

    • Hannibal

      NO WOMAN IS WORTH A LIFE CHANGE.

    • jus sayn!

      and ull die a lonely loser!!!wont hafta worry bout no1 talkin during tha game..wont b no puss* ta giv up ta yo old a*s..n u can cook ur own dinnr n clean yo own house..nt wastin nemore time on ur ignorant a*s…

    • Hannibal

      IF WOMEN DID WHAT THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO DO, THEN THE RELATIONSHIP WOULD WORK. THESE DAYS WOMEN DON’T CLEAN, THEY DON’T COOK, THEY ALWAYS COMPLAIN, AND ARE LAZY AND DEPEND ON MEN TO MAKE MONEY!

    • jus sayn!

      but u sed NO woman was worth tha change..no REAL WOMAN is gunna do any of tha sh*t on ur list whn u got that “i wanna hav my cake n eat it 2” attitude…relationshp supposed to b 50/50…n whn u come cross a woman who got half on it..thats sum1 u change 4..not continue ta do yo dirt creepn off…thats whn yo a*s gon get left!thats that kid sh*t…

    • Hannibal

      IT WOULD BE 50/50 IS WOMEN ACTUALLY DID THEIR JOBS. MEN ACTUALLY GO TO WORK SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE A PLACE TO LIVE, FOOD TO EAT, AND CLOTHES TO WEAR. WHAT DO WOMEN DO? COMPLAIN!

    • jus sayn!

      i NVR needed a man for a dam* thing in my life..fu*k im kissin his a*s 4??….when i c 50 ull get 50..cuz my bills still gon b paid..my fridge still gon b full..n imma shop whn i please..with or without.n thats tha truth!

    • Hannibal

      WELL, THEN I GUESS THAT MAKES YOU THE 1% OF WOMEN WHO ARE INDEPENDENT, I APPLAUD YOU!

    • Hannibal

      MAYBE I AM LOOKING IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES…

    • shut the fu*ck up

      who you fooling you ain’t got no woman
      heard you hold your di*ck on a regular

    • shut the fu*ck up

      you ain’t getting puzzy fool
      but you is a puzzy

    • Enabler

      …just you and your hand tonight, huh?…

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    • Rob

      Hannibal you truly read my mind brotha, that is exactly what women should be doing on a daily basis. Black women call it taking care of a man but we call it being a wife.

    • Seriously?

      And 10 times out of 10, you are single and more than likely not attractive in the least bit. -_- it’s your type of personality that keeps you single honey. Keep on making these simple minded demands and you’ll stay single

  • jus sayn!

    glad older men wrote in…young boys dnt kno nuthin bout nuthin…wich is y i dnt date them…

    • Baldeagle

      lol

  • HeartBreak

    I’ve seen the first response a couple of times in reference to the “good girl” whose neglected over the hoodrat with head game.

    Don’t be mad fellas. Its happens to the women too.

    Whats crazy is that these men are getting old, (33 year old Jeff who made the comment) but they don’t seem to realize it- not like women do.

    To busy PIMPIN’ I guess… big dummies. Playin’ games will cause you to miss the right one.

    • jus sayn!

      “Playin’ games will cause you to miss the right one.”….couldnt hav sed it better…always tryin ta hav they cake n eat it 2..thn confused when they as* left in tha dust!!

  • http://youtube.com/watch?v=Scr45_TaquQ Slide Like a Fresh Pair of Gators

    If I told you once, I’ve told you twice…

    Here it is, one more again:

    After you’ve determined that you have chemistry, etc… the way to keep him is to:

    Keep his belly full and his b@lls empty…
    Oh yeah, and one more important thing SHUT THE F*CK UP = not literally but figuratively, ain’t NO MAN trying to come home to confrontation, complaining or nagging…

    You’re welcome :-)…

    • ChrisP

      ROFL! But that is true. @ The the other responses, I’m not being conceded or anything, but I’m an attractive male and single. I’m single because I just havent found a WOMEN that is RESPONSIBLE enough and on a level of maturity that I would stimulate me physically, mentally and spiritually. MOST females that I have came across claim to be independent BUT get upset when the guy stop doing things for her!

  • shut the fu*ck up

    “belly”

  • Blacchyna

    Men want a women who is a freak in the bedroom. Most men say they want a woman with brains and good looks. But catch them on a good one after a few drinks they wil f*ck anything with a coochie.

    • tannitty

      been there done that!!! women do it too. I live by the 50/50 rule,, so many women are caught up in life style and thug a.. ni…. that sometimes it’s hard to commit

  • jus sayn!

    lmao!men truely believe tha world revolves round thm…gon b sadly mistaken..!!

  • shut the fu*ck up

    no i don’t want to call you “daddy”

    but I want to holla “TYRONE”
    HIT IT ONCE

  • HeartBreak

    “how bout no skid marks on the boxers and no do not turn them inside out and say da.dah”

    OMG!! LMAOOOOOOOOO!!!!

  • jus sayn!

    sounds like u got sense enuf to kno whn ta sit yo a*s dwn tho…cnt b playn games wit tha gud ones..u rite @ tha gud age..28.

  • Choco

    Well it’s simple find someone worth putting in the work for let it go if it comes back it’s meant to be – bring games and you end up getting played so I don’t see any confusion – ppl complicate matters!

  • Sukanya

    Why does men run over the one in order to be with the hoes or the one who pay for everything they have?

    • http://bossip.com/292863/the-hood-life-woman-has-a-cockroach-removed-from-her-ear-video69691/?replytocom=2227189#respond Le

      Great Quest!….waiting on the answer….

  • Matix B I"M DOING ME!

    I don’t care about your balls, belly and or EGO..just hit the pumps right and you won’t hear my mouth.

  • YokoDMV

    THATS COMEDY – tell em y u mad!!

  • YokoDMV

    I have a lil crush on HANNIBAL : )

  • Baldeagle

    Well Damn! you told me..

  • shut the fu*ck up

    and no you are not trying to hand in your players card
    she just pushed “pause” on ur azz
    you about to push “play” again

    • shut the fu*ck up

      to mr baldeagle

    • Baldeagle

      LMAO… u could be right.

    • shut the fu*ck up

      why why why are you guys like this its gonna bite you in ur azz when its too late for you to see crumbs you are leaving behind

    • Baldeagle

      I never wanted to be settled down, never wanted to be married. So the idea of being with one women never crossed my mind. I don’t know why, but that’s how it is. Until I met this woman who I think may have changed all that… I think when you are told all the time how fine you are it kinda of goes to your head and you think you can have any women you want, but I’m pretty sure it doesn’t always work like that.

  • Matix B Hold That

    And yes i’ll keep my house clean, while you hop from couch to couch or share the basement with MOM DUKES…kick rox

  • Matix B Hold That

    No I don’t need your child support b/c your seed is in the toilet.

  • shut the fu*ck up

    in that case matrix b
    let the games begin
    this is my birthday weekend
    the sh*its bout to start right @ happy hour on in to the weekend

    • Matix B Hold That

      Happy Birthday girl…pure BULL BALLS for all these losers thinking women worship them PUZZY PROBATION for ALL!!! HOLD THAT!!!

  • JdaPlaya

    aint dis a b*(*#

  • shut the fu*ck up

    got my own car
    my own home
    good job
    what the fu*ck I need them losers for
    don’t do drama
    su*ck ur own di*ck
    clean ur own house if you have one
    liars with all them different babby mamas
    you locked down for life
    18 years 18 years
    fu*ck that

    • Cause I'm Kind of A B*tch

      You better preach.

      LOL

  • Cause I'm Kind of A B*tch

    Matix B and shut the f*ck up have me ROFL!

  • Matix B Hold That

    FYI: Your co ck is not THAT big only the white girls tell you that b/c they trying to distract you long enough to grab your wallet, you OCHO CINCO bytch.

  • shut the fu*ck up

    most of you thugged out brothers bend over to reach soap….puzzies

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