Tired of The Tragic Mulatto Cop-Out

- By Bossip Staff Categories: News, The Atlanta Post


In the January 29 issue of the New York Times, I was met with the news that the biracial and multiracial classes are still as confused about their identify as they’ve always been. The self-indulgent 2.0 version of “Imitation of Life” reared its ugly head for the gazillionth time in a four page spread where mixed race kids (again) lamented their victimhood and difficulty belonging.

Continued at The Atlanta Post





  • daisy jay

    I shall turn into a broken record for a moment.

    If you are 50/50, be that. Don’t say you’re one or the other because you’re NOT. You can’t deny one side of you, that’s just impossible. I don’t care if you look more of one thing than the other. You are still half. So acknowledge both. If you have a black parent and a white parent, you are BLACK AND WHITE. If you are black and asian, you are not black. You are black AND asian. And if it’s a 3/4 1/4 situation, either acknowledge both or identify as the majority. I already spoke about Nahla. How society views you is irrelevant also. You’re biracial, but people treat you like you’re white/black? Still identify as both because that’s what you are. If you’re only treated like a minority, oh f*cking well. You’re still both. If people treat you like you’re white, STILL identify as both because you’re not only white (and I’m speaking about 50/50). There’s my d@mn two cents.

    • daisy jay

      Do you recall me ever saying that it was important to ask somebody their racial identity? NO. I’m speaking as if somebody IS asked. Racial identity is completely irrelevant, but there are some people out there that ask anyway just out of ignorance. Nobody needs to announce ANYTHING. What are you, illiterate? You’re making it sound like every mixed person in the world needs to randomly scream their racial identity just for the h3ll of it. That is not the case and I never said that. So how about you learn how to read before you talk sh!t. And trust me, I know that light-skinned blacks get hounded about their racial identity all the time. And blacks with “good” hair. Oh, and just to show that race is irrelevant, I rarely speak on what I am. Why? BECAUSE IT IS IRRELEVANT. If I felt it was, I’d be saying what I was every chance I got.

      My godd@mn two cents again. You are dismissed.

    • goldengirl

      When did you start making the rules? Yes at the end of the day you’re mixed, but do you have to announce it to everybody that acts like they never seen a light skinned person, or someone with good hair? GTFOH! You can’t always tell if a person is “cut” with a different race, but if you can – why would you need to ask if that person is biracial? Or “what” race they are for that matter? WHY DOES IT MATTER? And if you are full black and you think light skinned/biracial blacks dont catch flack for their skin color – you are just as dilusional as the “folks” who DONT believe racism still exists in this country!

      Now, thats my d@mn 2 cents!

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    • Candid Canuck

      the only oppresion happening is with Whites on blacks and black folks on themselves!!!!!

      Mullato actually have an easy street if they are raised right and are built with good self esteem

  • worldchanger

    That’s on the parents.

    • Tm30

      I agree, usually when the parents prepare their children they do better facing the ills of society. And this goes for everyone, we all face challenges we need to be prepared for.

  • Matix B

    Sorry there is not confusion I KNOW EXACTLY who I am! It’s not that serious, being MIXED is nothing special or out of the ordinary, maybe 30 years ago when I was born but come on it’s 2011. The US even has a mixed president; build a bridge and get over it.

    • RHONYC

      let’s stop fallin’ for the ‘keep ’em back’ trap y’all.
      i mean this tired subject matter is older the LENA HORNE & ‘older’ than FREDERICK DOUGLAS.
      next! :lol:

  • So Disappointed

    Sentiments like those voiced in this article are disappointing. Contrary to popular belief, not all biracial or multi-racial individuals are “confused.” And why is “confusion” defined as identifying with all of the cultures that you come from. The author sounds as though she is trying to force identity on people. Identifying as biracial or multi-racial doesn’t mean that that person is trying to become more White or Asian or whatever. Why can’t they acknowledge and love ALL parts of themselves. If someone IS confused, maybe it’s because society tries to define how certain people should behave. We’re all beautiful people, no matter the shade or culture.

    • Candid Canuck

      Cosign. Some folks just don’t get it.

  • Matix B

    As for declaring or denying what you are mixed with, it all boils down to how you identify yourself. I will never be considered “white” in my country, never and my ‘white” family knows this.

  • Lacey (Loves James Franco)

    Mixed Race people I know have always found it weird my girlfriend whose mixed said

    In Black World it’s WOW you’re mixed pretty hair, pretty eyes light skin you’re HOT.

    In White World it’s like hmm well you’re not PROPER black so I guess you’re not THAT bad.

    Generally she gets better treatment from white people for being half white instead of a full black person and better treatment from black men because she’s mixed.

    Her experience obviously isn’t a representation of ALL mixed people.

    • that damn sh#$ disturber

      “Generally she gets better treatment from white people for being half white instead of a full black person and better treatment from black men because she’s mixed.”

      sad but very true…but i am black not biracial. don’t give a damn what they say

    • mocaleenie

      Unfortunately I have to co-sign on your statement. Obama wouldn’t have been so readily accepted by white America had he been fully black. And as a black woman working in Harlem, I see 1st hand how color struck Negros act when they see obviously mixed light-skinned girls. BTW, I’m also light-skinned, so I’m not hating.

  • Matix B

    SN: The only thing “tragic” aabout being mixed is having to be called “MULATTO”.

  • BritishGirl

    Is it ok to call people mulatto then? Someone called me that once, I didn’t know what it meant and told my mum. She went crazy.

    • BritishGirl

      That’s awful! I really didn’t know it meant that- so thanks for letting me know! And I 100% agree with what you say.

  • Toy

    @daisy jay i agree. My mom is black but my dad is puerto rican and white. I grew up in a black community i never have a problem i was just mixed thats what i was. I wasnt all confused. I think the ppl who are confused are ppl who grew up in the white community cus white folks are so quick to make a big deal about race and they wanna make sure u know u aint one of them. If a blk person ask they only ask becus me and my kids hair texture or becus me and my daughter have gray eyes. These ppl just have issues.

    • ashley

      I honestly think that in a case where a multi-racial (black + other) child has a black mother they end up more sane, than their black father + other mother counterparts. You can get your hair done properly, which i know a lot of mixed girls struggled with well into their mid 20’s. black women are known for their resiliency, strength and i think its goes on to the child from seeing the way a black mother handles the stares, and the comments. i am not multiracial, but of all the girls i know who are black + other, the ones with the black dad have identity issues, suicidal, act ridiculous. the ones with the black mom are regular confident chicks. but this is just my perception.

    • daisy jay

      I just feel that… I don’t even understand why it’s an issue either. I know about the one drop rule, but it’s a new day and age. Why should that rule even exist anymore? I honestly hate it. If somebody asks, just say you’re mixed! It’s that easy! It shouldn’t be rocket science. If somebody has a problem with it, let them and keep it moving. You are who you are. Don’t compromise or ignore a part of you because somebody else said so. That’s ridiculous.

    • lollipop

      i agree ashley
      my best friend was mixed with a black mom. she was very neat and clean. her hair was always done. she was the first person to shatter the stereotyped view i had of mixed people. i always though they were scruffy and crazy. she did have identity issues but i definitely think that mixed kids with black moms turn out better

    • daisy jay

      I’ve noticed that as well. My friend has a black mother and a mexican father. She’s got a good head on her shoulders. Sane like you mentioned. On the other hand, my ma used to be with a guy with a black father and black mother. He….yeah he was an intersting character. Obviously black and white mothers raise their children differently. White mothers don’t know how to do a biracial child’s hair but a black woman does. There are white women out there who do a good job at raising biracial children, but a majority of them could do better. They raise their child as if they’re just white. The child knows nothing about the other side of them. Well…ya know, basically you said everything I’m thinking.

    • daisy jay

      black father and white mother*

    • Candid Canuck

      i feel that too… All of my mixed friends were accepted in the black community.. had cool nocknames too… but hanging with whites wasn’t all that bad neither…

  • RedB0ne

    Wow! This is some straight bullsh!t! I’m so fed up with people trying to tell me in which box I belong. Being multi-racial is just that. No one should dictate how you deal with your identity. Of course you can develop a complex about who you are and struggle with identifying with one race over the other, particularly if you’re not raised by both parents and especially if you’re raised by your non-black parent. I’m bi-racial and proud to claim both my black and latino heritage. My beige skin and kinky hair are obvious signs that I’m black and I’m extremely proud to be so; however, my name beckons my latino side, which is also a source of pride. It is very much a struggle being of mixed race, you’re not black enough for some African Americans and you’re too black for the rest of America. To hell with it all, I am what I am a MIXED GIRL. Nah!

  • RedB0ne

    AND, tell me where to go to get all this preferential treatment people talk about. I haven’t been given any special liberties, subtle or otherwise, because I’m yellow. These shade wars are perpetuated by blacks on fellow blacks and it needs to stop.

  • Ellie

    I’m not sure why some people are so sensitive about what OTHER people label them in regards to their race. Who cares? If you know and are proud it shouldn’t be a mortal offense when someone confuses you for something you’re not. Correct them if it’s that serious and move on. Sorry to say but some people like to make big deals out of nothing…Everyone wants to be a special snowflake!

    • afrodite

      are you new to America?

  • 1991 UK Gem of Africa... (Arsenal has to win a trophy this season)

    Well in the UK there are so many mixed people. My best friend is half Jamaican and half English but she identifies with her black side. White people call her the N word and we both endured the same racism from white people. She does identify with her black side but its not Jamaican.. its black British culture.
    Black people in the UK see mixed people as the best thing. The have the ‘good’ hair and their light skinned. Mixed people in the UK say they are not black, white etc they are mixed.. its like a new race.

    • BritishGirl

      Lool!! Yeah the worse thing is, some wastemen think its acceptable to scream out “litey” as a way to get attention. I don’t think the whole ‘light skin’ has vanished, it just seems to have died down since i was at school idk. Lmao @ black as charcoal… i guess opposites attract ;)

    • BritishGirl

      Oh no! What happened to you? Was it in London?

      From my experience, I think after the age of about 19 the ignorant black people come less obsessed with ‘mixed race’. Like at college, all the guys wanted the mixed chick with the longest hair. But the same guys now are dating full black girls. Not to say that they don’t want mixed chicks, but the ‘trend’ has died down a bit and they want the one looking like Esther Baxter or whatever her name is.

    • Lacey (Loves James Franco)

      My black male cousins who live in London are so obsessed with mixed race females it’s sickening. Seriously. They all want a a ‘litey’ :S They’re as black as charcoal by the way.

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