Television writer, black woman and memoirist Tracy McMillan recently caused a big stir online with her HuffPo piece entitled “Why You’re Not Married.” It’s a straight, no-chaser type article with six punch-you-in-the-gut subtitles and semi-snarky explanations to go with them.

Her headings are cut-throat—“You’re a B*tch” is the first one. Ouch. Real talk, sometimes it is your fault when things don’t work out in a relationship and there should always be self-reflection, but sometimes it ain’t us. Sometimes it is the dude that just has no get-right in him. And we all know heading into or staying in a relationship with a man with hopes of changing him is not a good idea.

Minus the name-calling and unnecessary harshness, the thrice-married (currently single) McMillan actually has some pretty solid things to say in her piece. (Continue Reading)