Sextra: He’s So Small I Can’t Feel Him!

- By Bossip Staff Categories: Love and Relationships, News, Sex and Relationships

I don’t know what to do! I thought this was something that I could overlook in time but I have the most wonderful man any woman could ask for I really do! He’s sweet, he’s kind and generous and treats me like a queen. Don’t get me wrong we do have arguments and fight like any other couple but he’s very communicative and listens to whatever issue I may have. He’s understanding even though we might disagree he still at least tries to understand where I’m coming from and that’s hard to find so I’m really greatful for my man. The issue I’m having with him is something that he can’t help. His penis is very small and I can’t even feel it when we have sex. The only time I climax is when I’m on top of him and I have to grind on him really hard and after it’s over my hips hurt really bad and I think I’m hurting him but he would never tell me if that was the case. I feel bad because he says that he knows he’s not packing and will do whatever he needs to do to make me happy outside the bedroom but I’m used to men with some girth and length to them and it’s getting hard not to want more! I just turned 32 and my sex drive is insane and he just can’t keep up with me in the bedroom at all! At first I was cool with his lack of size because he’s a good man but I’m missing the feeling of a well endowed man putting it on me and being sore the next day I really miss that and he can’t do that for me. What should I do because he’s a good man and I don’t want to lose him and he is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Please help……..

Happy Saturday to you, sis! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story! So your man is not the most endowed but he treats you like a gem and you can’t decide what matters most to you? Large man parts or a solid relationship? The latter would be the most obvious, right? But not to the woman who tried to overlook the flesh to support the notion of smart decision making. What you decided is now reaping its benefits and consequence. And, seemingly, it’s safe to say that the decision has not quite been made if you’re now questioning whether you made the right choice when you decided to chase your happiness while sacrificing your sexual satisfaction. Now that the newness has worn off and your nights being content with starry eyed “cuddling” with hearts ablaze are now consumed with a primal urge to be devoured and man-handled. Ahh, the woes of choice, no?!

On the flipside, however, the strong-backed, well hung man that you fantasize about has full potential to not care at all what you think and how you feel. He could treat you like a peasant, someone who holds no value and, instead of a gem, he’ll treat you like costume jewelry. He could “put it on you” in the bedroom and leave you “sore the next day” but when it’s all said and done, not only are your innards sore, your heart and spirit are bruised and broken. That well-endowed man you dream about also has full potential to possess the man parts and all the width and girth that you lust after but lacks dedication – selflessly willing to guarantee your every desire may not be of priority or interest for him. He may have plentiful abundance in his pants but not have an ounce of skill to get the job done – anticlimactic at best. He could very well be a complete waste of talent! Not to say that all well-endowed men behave this way, it’s just an example of extremes.

So, sis, you have two options: happiness or intimate satisfaction – and the choice is completely yours! You can toss to the wind everything that you’ve built with a man that you “can’t even feel” which is disappointing, however, you can find other ways to connect with him. Dig deeper into your senses and you may discover that the most arousing thing for him to do is graze his lips over your neck or sweep his fingers down your spine … tug on your thighs and maybe your hair from time to time. You can find deeper ways to connect with him without getting your back blown out and leaving you “sore the next day” like you leave him after you’ve crushed him to get off. To make a long story short, it would be unwise to let go of a man that’s been good to you over something “he can’t help!” Find a deeper way to connect with him on a plane that transcends the cravings of the flesh and who knows what could happen. You just might end up building a spiritually intimate bond that fills you … with joy! Reevaluate your priorities, sis! Reevaluate and good luck to you!

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  • Cherie

    Excellent piece of advice!!!…..she could end up with a guy with a massive d**k and he treats her disgustingly!..

    • jmagic

      women dont care about how they get treated as long as dude is packing,why do you think so many dudes get away with treating women like shyt

    • G.M.

      lol…yup, they’ll take physical abuse, verbal abuse, constant cheating, disrespect, be controlled, become submissive and some other fucced up sh1t too…that’s why i stopped feelin bad for females who get dogged out/disrespected, if they themselves had a problem with it, they would leave but they choose to stay cuz the d1ck be that good for them and there really isn’t much u can do for them when their in that dyckmatized state of mind, even if u get her away from the abuse she’ll run back to him faster than sonic the hedgehog…there like crack fiends and u know how crack fiends love the pipe lol

    • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals--Me and "we" will piggyback in a thread!

      Who wants to s.c.r.e.w a grown azz man with a toddler p.e.n.i.s?

    • kferad

      I support Inter/racial relationships! I believe love has no color!

      ___________blackwhitedate.c-/0m ____________

      This club is for those of us that don’t discriminate! This is to all my people who don’t care about somebody’s ethnic background, just how they are on the inside.

      If you want to find a sincere Inter/racial relationship. If you are serious. Come and join us!

    • klalov12

      NICE NEWS !
      My friend Vanessa, a 25 yrs lady, has announced her wedding with a m’illionaire young man Ronald who is the CEO of a MNC. It’s amazing, she said she just posted her profile on a m’illionaire d’ating s’ite called ———-RichMatchmaker. ℃○M——– – and received his chat invitations a few days later. Then, everything went so well that I can’t believe it’s true! Every love story will unfold on it’s own..——-

    • lucy

      NICE NEWS !
      My friend Vanessa, a 25 yrs lady, has announced her wedding with a m’illionaire young man Ronald who is the CEO of a MNC. It’s amazing, she said she just posted her profile on a m’illionaire d’ating s’ite called ———-RichMatchmaker. ℃○M——– – and received his chat invitations a few days later. Then, everything went so well that I can’t believe it’s true! Every love story will unfold on it’s own..——-

    • DollBaby1o1


      I’ve fallen victim to chocolate di-ck amnesia.

  • JustAshley

    There are men out there who don’t have both. This happens.
    Just like their are men who have found good women but these women have “shoe box” size cooters.
    I’m still LMAO@ nymphis.

    • MrMisterre

      Cooters…really…Come on now!

  • nymphis

    just Ashley

    Fareal.some of these females need a handicap rail attached to they hip so you don’t fall in and drown.

    • JustAshley


      I’m stealing those quotes.
      You just don’t know, I am practically in tears over here. Thanks for the laugh! That just made my day!

    • MrMisterre

      I heard that the man with the biggest fu.kked this chick and he stuck in 10in and didnt hit the bottom…15in and still didnt hit the bottom…dude put in 20in and thought he hit the bottom, but he hit a sign saying go left!

  • blkqueen39

    I was in this situation myself but what he lacked downwards he made up for upwards (if you get my meaning). Actual intercourse is not the only way you can get off that is just the cherry on top. So we focus on that and incorporated toys. May I also suggest doing your muscle exercise on a regular.

  • Daisy Jay

    He has a small d!ck?

    No need for a long, detailed reply.

    Leave him. He’s useless.

    • G.M.

      alright, ur finally thinkin like us men…thats the exact reason why us men dump u women when ur old and worn out, ur useless at that point if a woman is no longer attractive enough to get us aroused or we’re bored with sexually and trade up to a younger, hotter, newer 23yr old woman lol…glad to see u agree with that process, more women need to think that way so they can finally stop b1tching about being traded in for someone better and actin so surprised and shocked about it…XD HAHAHA!!!

    • Daisy Jay

      Wow, we actually agree with each other. And you’re right about the ugly truth, too. I mean…okay if both of you are like 65 and have been married for decades and are not satifying each other sexually, shut up and get over it. You’re too old for that anyway and you’re probably not gonna find anybody else. But when you’re YOUNG? And not satisfied in the bedroom? Take the nearest exist and never come back! It won’t work out! Toys are meant to make things more exciting and “versatile” (if I can even use that word). Toys aren’t meant as a REPLACEMENT. If that’s what you’re using toys for, you need to leave him. Period. That’s not only insulting to him, but it’s a major strike at his ego. Some things in life and marriage you just can’t work out.

    • tyrone

      I agree 100%

    • G.M.

      @moi: majority of men/women are shallow, most are just in denial about it…looks matter, especially to us men…when i see a woman, her looks on the outside matter more than her looks on the inside…if a woman’s outside is attractive to my eyes then i got a one eyed monster in my pants that will take a look at her insides if she wants me to see those too lol XD

    • G.M.

      @Daisy: i know, we actually do agree…there must be a tear in the fabric of the universe somewhere lol

    • Daisy Jay

      Lol or we’re just in the Twilight Zone…

  • Vanity

    Introduce toys into the bedroom

  • me and you dont go out!

    He need to eat that cooter then!!

    • bur

      Well I hope he gives bomb head, because if he can’t then he might be useless in bed.

  • Marquis de Sade

    Get him to rub his balls over his face whilst you grip upon his buttcrack and call him victoria. Gets me off everytime:)

    • Marquis de Sade

      :lol: :lol: :lol: @ my doppelganger.

  • nymphis

    All y’all females on here talkin bout leave him prolly got walkin closets.



  • Beverly Poppins

    Oh my! This is my first time on this site and that’s the first comment I see @de sade? Good heavens! Good riddance!

  • b

    BS story for a slow news day. Don’t worry cause there are plenty of Asian girls that’ll get with a brother no matter what. So carry your ashy a$$ on.

  • K.D

    But your on a BLACK GOSSIP site? LOL go check out the Asian news you broke, no job havin ex convict LOL.

  • the truth

    Why is she in control? She still would be hurt if he decided to up and leave her.

  • http://me fresh Dog

    Well u can find both sumwre,o just find yaself a jump off

  • SheSaidImLovely

    My best advice to you is that you put it in yo asshoe

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