Dear Bossip: Younger Man, Older Woman … She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not?

- By Bossip Staff Categories: Love and Relationships, News, Sex and Relationships

I was just reading the article about the woman who was bipolar and I kind of have the same issue but she’s not really bipolar just moody as hell. I’m 27 years old and the woman I’ve been seeing for about 6 months is 33. I’ve always loved older woman because they’re more willing to commit than the women my age. They kind look for more than a big house and car and poppin bottle at a hot sweaty club in the vip section. The woman I’ve been dating is hard to read because it’s like one day she wants me and the next day she doesn’t. Or sometimes, I call her up and she’s upbeat and later that day she’s short and dismissive. She’s very moody but when I have days when I don’t want to deal with her sh*t and I want to stay at my crib and watch sports she takes it personal. I’m a cool guy through and through until you mess with me and when I’m angry or if I get hot headed then you know something is wrong and she’s slowly taking me to that point. I dig this woman and I think she’s a good person but her moods are too much to handle some days. She would be perfect if she weren’t so damn moody. My thing is how do I deal with her when she’s being ugly?


  • bouyant

    well 33 is not that old, could be you are annoying,(sometimes men are clueless like that) she is unhappy, or she might just be a bit ch, with childhood issues it happens.

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  • big c

    She could be in the very early stages of menopause or she could have hormonal imbalance.

  • Venus vs Mars

    Did you do something to make her act that way? If she’s giving you attitude all the time, then it’s time to roll. Find someone around your own age…too much drama.

  • Ronny

    The comment above me must be from someone in the south. On the topic though…i think you should leave her alone. Put her on punishment. If that doesn’t work then say deuces.

    • Venus vs Mars

      Not from the south, boo. I agree it’s time to say dueces. She’s acting like a bird…lol.

  • Ronny

    The comment above me must be from someone in the south. On the topic though…i think you should leave her alone. Put her on punishment. If that doesn’t work then say deuces..

  • MochaLove

    Wow! Been a minute since I’ve been on this site. Daywalker!! Is that what you on now?! I thought you were about to wife you a sistah … Smh. Things change I guess …


      <b.*(Oh, "THINGS CHANGED", alright…Mainly Ol' girl and the fact that her azz became "BRIDEZILLA" on steroids and her wedding planner was basically NUTS!! I finally had my fill when I wanted to have one of my BEST friends on the planet as my BEST MAN, and she wanted her brother to do it…Now, I'm all for "COMPROMISE", but THAT DAY was supposed to be "HER DAY", and I get that… (Truly, I do..But I'll be damned it it wasn't supposed to be mine as well!! All I asked for was that one little thing, and when she told me that a dude that had been a buddy of mine since I was in KUWAIT and had literally saved my azz from getting killed on more than one occasion couldn't be a part of what was supposed to be the happiest day of my life, I was like: "Well then FU*CK IT, THEN…THE WEDDING'S OFF!!) :twisted:

    • Come on Now

      @Mocha That fool Daywalker just be making stuff up as he goes along. He got called out on another post about all of the conflicting stories he’s made up about himself. He’s really just a troll living in his mom’s basement trying to get attention.

  • nicca bragging about humping some white man's dicarded trash...stfu stupid

    White women and their mentally ill black men….it doesn’t know if its daywalking or daydreaming…yep thats a lithium salts rant!

  • serenity

    I am a older woman, ANY woman who mistreats a man with words, ITS usual her not him..She is under stress somewhere..know your role..if she say she is not ready for commitment make the booty call and keep it stepping..if you cant handle that, move on son..let her find another punching one should be disrespecting another human being..words hurt..

  • nicca bragging about humping some white man's dicarded trash...stfu stupid

    White females and their mentally ill black men…poor thang dont know if its sleep or woke.

  • nicca bragging about humping some white man's dicarded trash...stfu stupid

    Poor thang dont know if its sleep or

  • London Reader

    “Well, a lot of men who date older women often make the mistake of tolerating certain forms of mistreatment simply because of the age difference. And older women who date younger men often make the mistake of treating said younger man like a boy toy who will happily consume the bs she spoon feeds him”

    So true. Don’t stand for nonsense, be firm. The fact that she’s older doesn’t mean she’s more mature. The fact that she’s fine doesn’t give her a right to act up.

    You’re not doing yourself or her any favours by giving her the impression that she can behave so ridiculously and get away with it.

    If there’s no improvement over a short period, it’s unlikely to get better so either put up with it and don’t complain or split.

    Hopefully you’ll have the self-respect to realise that no one has the right to treat you like that.

    You’ve been able to attract someone as fine as her, you’re male and you’re younger. You’ll have more/better options than she will if you separate, including younger women, who may not have such an attitude.

  • WithAllHonesty

    Read the other Love & Relationship post,”Sextra:Who Loves Gemini Lovin'” You got yourself a Gemini–RUN!

    Naw for real.
    If you’ve let her attitude persist for a more than a couple months, talking most likely won’t be effective. The tone has been set. Give it a try, but I doubt it works.

    She doesn’t respect you and she thinks you’re on her schedule. When she wants time, she expects you to be there at the drop of a hat. When she wants space, she wants you to beat it.

    You being younger than her and seemingly in awe probably set this dynamic. Don’t make the same mistake with the next woman, whether she be older or younger than you.

    Or like one person said, she hitting menopause.



  • jdmannn

    After 6 months of dating it’s too late to change her. If you continue screwing her accept the fact she thinks she’s stronger than you and deal with it.

  • Love it, like it, or leave it...

    Maybe she has a mental illness like PMDD or PMS. Or she just mean!!! Hormonal imbalance can make women act mean!! If its worth it, encourage her to seek medical help or let it go!

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