Dear Bossip: Younger Man, Older Woman … She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not?

- By Bossip Staff Categories: Love and Relationships, News, Sex and Relationships

Happy Friday to you, sir! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story. So you’re in a relationship with an older, attitudinal woman and you’re not quite sure how to handle her mood swings, huh? Well, a lot of men who date older women often make the mistake of tolerating certain forms of mistreatment simply because of the age difference. And older women who date younger men often make the mistake of treating said younger man like a boy toy who will happily consume the bs she spoon feeds him. In your case, you say that she’s a little wishy-washy in terms of her disposition towards you for no apparent reason but when you’re fed up, she fails to understand why and therein lies the problem. And, sir, the solution is simple and it all boils down to one word: communication.

If you don’t like the way she treats you or talks to you, let it be known! You don’t necessarily have to get nasty back with her but you can certainly communicate to her that you’re not going to take her mess. You can try a softer approach and explore the real root of her misguided aggression. You can try the “baby, tell me about your day. What happened that’s got you in a bag? Who mad you mad? Was it that smart-mouthed co-worker you always talk about? Or, was it your sister and her drama again?” This may coax her to watch her tone and the way she speaks to you. Furthermore, you’re conveying an ideal: she can talk you about anything as a partner would and learn how to leave her attitude with the person or people who ignited it.

Then, on the other hand, love, you might have to get nasty back. Sometimes, all it takes is one time to get your point across and send a message. Next time she lashed out on you, let her know. “Listen, I don’t know what your problem is or why you have an attitude but you can miss me with it. I didn’t do it to you. So when you get over whatever it is you’re going through, call me.” Surely, you go through bouts of drama on the daily basis, we all do. But stress to he that you make a point not to take it out on her and you would like for her to do the same! Mastering the style of communication that works best for you and your partner is a trial and error game … and it also takes time. What you must decide first, sir, is if you’re willing to continue to invest your time with this one. Do the pros outweigh the cons? Think about it ! Time waits for no one! Best of luck to you, sir! Best of luck!

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