Dear Bossip: He’s Uncircumcised And I’m Turned Off By It

- By Bossip Staff Categories: Love and Relationships, News, Sex and Relationships

Dear Bossip,

I am a lady aged 26, and I have been seeing this guy who is 29 years old for about 4 months and everything is going on well.

He treats me with respect and really knows how to show a woman a good time. Ever since we met we had not yet had sex until this past weekend, but then I realized one thing: His penis is not circumcised.

He asked me to give him head and I did, but after that I threw up. He asked me what the problem was, and I just cooked up an excuse. But, we then did not manage to proceed to the sexual intercourse.

Do I tell him that I prefer a circumcised penis or what? I cannot let this guy go because he is a very nice man. What should I do? Yours In A Dilemma

Dear Ms. Yours In A Dilemma,

LMBAO! Girl, stop the madness! I can only imagine your face when he dropped his drawers and you saw all that foreskin staring at you. And, then when he asked you to give him head, I know you had the screw face with your lips curled up as you probably held his penis with your forefinger and thumb mumbling to yourself, “I know he does not want me to put my lips on this thing! Ewww!” LOL!

And, I fell out when you said that you threw up afterward. OMG! Was he clean? Because you know an uncircumcised man has to pull that foreskin back and clean around the head and under that skin. If he doesn’t, ba-by that odor is something severe! You talking about some chile cheese. It’s K-R-A-F-T! UGH!

I understand that he’s a nice man, and he treats you well, and everything is going well, but if every time you have sex with him you become ill, and you can’t stomach his uncircumcised penis, then it will become a bigger problem. You’ll start making excuses as to why you don’t want to have sex with him. He will become suspicious, and may figure it out, but you should be honest and upfront with him. If an uncircumcised penis is not your thing, then it’s not your thing. You can’t leave him hanging, get it (Like that foreskin he has), LOL!

It’s not fair to him, or yourself, if you deny him sex because you’re not into what his penis looks like. And, although sex is not a major component for some when it comes to relationships, but I’m gathering he is not going to put up with a woman who cannot stand the sight of his male member, and doesn’t want to have sex with him, but is willing to remain in a relationship with him because he treats you well, and you think he’s a nice guy. He’s not going to go for it.

And, if you’re that invested in him and the relationship, then sit down with him, let him know how you feel about his uncircumcised penis, and how you don’t find it appealing.  Perhaps you two can do some role playing with his penis, or you can be proactive and help him wash it before sex. There are many things you can consider as options to help you acclimate yourself with the extra foreskin. But, if it’s really not your thing, then you’re going to have to really consider moving on. You’re a young woman, so don’t feel obligated to stay with him if you’re not going to be able to engage in sex with him because of what you like. Trust me, if you had small breasts, or a loose vagina with no walls, no man would want to stay with you if that is not his thing. And, trust me, there’s plenty of eligible good-looking and nice guys out there who are circumcised.

Now, you can either be honest, move on, because you know what you like and don’t like, and the both of you can find people whom can accept you with everything you have, even the extra skin; or either you can play peek-a-boo with his penis (I see you, now I don’t – as you roll back the skin), or dress it up and watch it as it peeps through the skin, because if you don’t then the next time you regurgitate it won’t be a pretty sight. – Terrance Dean

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