Jennifer Lopez Covers The April Issue Of VOGUE; Talks Career, Kids, Divorce, Self-Esteem And New Boyfriend Casper Smart

Vogue Discovers How Casper Bagged J.Lo “I Just Came Out Of A Relationship Where I Wasn’t Getting What I Needed”

- By Bossip Staff

Sidenote — that waistline (above) HAS to be photoshopped, riiiiight?

On Learning To Love Herself

Suddenly, Lopez leans forward and shows me a ring she has on her finger. Someone gave it to her right after her divorce as a reminder to “love myself first,” she says. Indeed, it is a diamond band that spells out: I LOVE ME. “That may sound conceited, but it’s not. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anybody else. And I think as women we really forget that. All we want is to be happy, to feel secure, to feel understood. But you can’t look for somebody else to do that for you. You think about it. . . . Oh, yeah, of course I care about myself. Of course I have good self-esteem. But when you really take a good look, you are not treating yourself like someone who does. And when you let people treat you in a way that you don’t want to be treated, it’s not their fault. It’s yours.”

Not surprisingly, this isn’t the first time in life she’s needed to be reminded of her self worth. The interviewer reminds her of her struggles with her public image back in 2005.

But as she herself will attest, in some ways the negativity came from within. “I think of myself on that day at the studio on Long Island and how insecure I was about my own talent. I just never really gave myself any credit. And because of that, nobody else did either. You mirror what the world mirrors to you.” She thanks Anthony for helping her believe in herself. “He always told me what a beautiful voice I have. He was like, ‘It’s in there; you just gotta let it out. It’s a confidence thing with you.’ Then all of a sudden one day I was like, I’m good at this!” Here she gets as worked up as I have ever seen her. “Oh, man! People are not giving me jobs because they feel sorry for me! I am an actress. I am a singer. I am a performer. That’s what I do! Once I started giving myself a little credit, the whole world opened up.”

Cue the violins… What an amazing moment of self actualization.

J.Lo on her work ethic and motherhood when you continue.

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