Yes, Yes and double Yes

She love feathers

and oh yeah im 1st NYC cats are just 2 damn smooth

^^^^^^gay^^^^^^

HELL YES

No

indeed

Im from Nyc durrrrrrr meaning Im 2 smooth , you probably cant hear cos that wack ass afro covering your ears

Beyonce’s sister???? She will do just fine…

kiko i like your fro…i got some natural moisturiser for it and all, cream of nature boo

solange, cute as hell? LMAO

no one even asked yo ass if u like it

Seems like she is realer than her fake ass sister

i think she’s very cute

What is this capo status? Are you trying to promote gang activity in the black community?

I know this questions isn’t directed towards me but Solange..”cute as hell”..hmmmmm, thats a new one…

What is this capo status? Are you trying to promote gang activity in the black community?

……………………………………………………………………….

No .

Thank you

yes indeedy

i don’t no about “wifey”…maybe “cuddy”….”wifey” is for Beyonce….matter of fact, Sol can’t even be “cuddy” because is i try to wife up Bey, she wouldn’t be to cool with me smashing little sister and then i try to get with her…..or, maybe i’m doing too much thinking about this topic since being it wil never happen….disregard everything i said….

Kiko, what happened to you? where’d you go?

YES

Easy Question… Yes!

I think she is very pretty. Esp since she dumped the strawberry blonde hair that she rocked back in the day. I never could pinpoint what I didnt like about her look because standing next to Beyonce she just seemed like a blob on the side but now I think she looks ridiculously fabulous/gorgeous.

Rumor had it she is not very nice. She looks down on people and wouldn’t give a man from this blog the time of day. So hell no they wouldn’t wife her because she wouldn’t want them.

I wouldn’t wife any shallow, self-centered, rude, arrogant, uneducated, inarticulate, and ignorant entertainer no matter how good she looked or how much money she had.

she betta leave my boo alone.

Pedro, I still think your gay. I don’t care if you’re from NY, that just makes you a bigger lame. The model in my grav’s name is Arlenis Sosa. Fall back little boy.

Hell Yeah! Then I’ll cheat on her wit her sister

heck no

I wonder if her babbies daddy will come out with a book

i think she is a cutie pie, very nice catch for some fine young man. however, i feel sorry for her because it will be hard to find someone who won’t want her only to be a part of her famous family. Being a celebrity is really hard. But I am sure the money doesn’t hurt, lol.

Sorry, I don’t wife/associate with women with children. Single mothers are like products at the dollar store…Damaged….That’s why they go for half price.

She’s cute but she doesn’t come across as intelligent. So that’s a huge strike. One of the hardest parts about relationships is dealing with the partners family and friends and with her you know that suck way more than your average around the way girl. Strike 2. Strike 3 would be the smoking and drinking and baby daddy bs that you know is right around the corner.

Dont wife baby mommas. You are asking for trouble.

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I dont know, her marriage didnt last that long, that coochie must be defective!

@HISWIFEY

Dont be mad at them for their opinions. Their right, babymamas are drama just like babydaddys are drama. AInt nothing wrong with preferring a woman who doesnt have a child. ITS CALLED STANDARDS. Calm yo ass down. U must be a single babymama

HONEY VIOLETTE READ DA NAME LOOOOL IM PROUD 2 SAY IM MARRIED HAPPILY!!! AND THATS MY OPINION DEAL WITH IT!!!! LOOOOL SHE MAKIN HER MONEY LET HER GET ON WITH IT!

LOOOL SOME PEOPLE!!! ASK BEFORE MAKING ASSUMPTIONS!! LOL

LOOOL IM JUS LAUGHIN AT U COZ U DONT KNOW ME. IM MARRIED. COULDNT KEEP MY LEGS CLOSED YEAH? JUST LIKE YA SKANKY MUM LOL IF URE SO OUT OF MY LEAGUE Y R U EVEN ANSWERING ME????? IGNORE ME!! SIMPLE LOL

LOL LOL LOL

damn

@HISWIFEY
He responded to your comment like you responded to others comment. Why do we have to deal with your opinion when you can’t deal with others?

People’s views on relationships are usually shaped by past associations–and those who had negative experiences tend to have a harsher perspective.

Not high on “wifing” single moms.Not really even high on dating single moms.Usually more trouble than it’s worth.She is attractive however.

well said ddub!!!!

Solange is okay…wasn’t she married already? So somebody thought she was good enought to marry

good point!!! there r successful single moms out there.

she is a baby mama. i prefer a virgin for my nights. how could she be such as an asshole? have a baby out of wedlock

yes i agree! but i dont see it changing. and did she have the baby out of wedlock? or in marriage??? children r a blessing regardless. it takes a special man 2 bring up another mans child.

he should have worn a condom aand she should have took birth control. why dont people use protection now???

It takes 2 people to make a baby…so why the woman has to be the bad guy? why not the man? They contribute just as much to a baby

Nelsan Ellis’ Lafayette is a True Black diva R.I.P
—————————————————

Quite the contrary. I bet the True Blood writers did not kill Lafayette off. I beleive they wrote him in next seasons script as a vampire. His character was entirely too interesting to kill off so soon.

good point

huh?? im agreeing with u!!

No.

It is ridiculous to think all single women are not suitable to date. There are some who got married and got divorced, so are they now baby mamas too? Some single mothers get their education and do very well for themselves and will turn in man’s head SUIT OR NOT!

good point. people need to know facts before judging and labeling all single mums. who are we to judge anyone anyway!

Oh, um, I meant no I wouldn’t wife her. *ducks out of room covering head and face*

@Sydney – Yep Britney is an official “baby mama”, let us see what happens!

oh right! its ok. i undastand everyone has an opinion but that comment he made about single mums being damaged goods is out of order.

@Really?

Coincidentally, Britney did refer to K-Fed as her “baby daddy” in her “On the Record” special this week on MTV — Just a shot of irony there.

@Kigali

“Stop telling black females fairy tales. That situation with the doctor and the lawyer is RARE. Dont try to pass it off as the norm because it isnt.”

It’s as much of a fairy tale as telling a woman with a child that she will never meet a man of quality who will see her as relationship/marriage material.

I’m not trying to pass it off as the norm, and it is a real situation that occurs, particularly as you grow older and you come into contact with more divorced men and women.

So what is your take on divorced sisters? Are they still thrown into the “baby mama” category?

the way i see it is one mans rubbish is another mans treasure. each to their own.

*I’m not trying to pass it off as the norm, but it is a real situation*

Please pardon the typo.

@Really?

This isnt about whether baby mommas are suitable to date. But why would you when there are a bunch of women out there, just as fine, just as educated, who doesnt have kids? An illigetimate mother’s stock is a lot lower than a woman with no kids. Dont be made at men because they dont want to deal with it. Maybe she should just focus on raising her child and not dating because children dont like to see their mothers going from man to man. Why not these illigetimate mothers stop thinking about their own self? These illigetimate mothers made a decision so now they have to deal with it. Dont try to change the society around them to accept their new situation. No Thanks.

I know a single mother who would be cool date but her baby’s father ignorant as hell and who wants to deal with that. See there is a lot that already complicates relationships and to add kids just makes things that more difficult and exes that much more obnoxious.

@Kigali

“This isnt about whether baby mommas are suitable to date. But why would you when there are a bunch of women out there, just as fine, just as educated, who doesnt have kids? An illigetimate mother’s stock is a lot lower than a woman with no kids.”

Would you say the same for men who have “illegitimate” children?

Or are they just victims of the black woman who snared them into having children out of wedlock? Perhaps they slipped and fell into a vagina?

@Sydney,

Yes, a divorcee is in an even worse situation because second marriages are notoriously unsuccessful.

Lets see:

A woman who has never been married no kids

vs.

A woman who is divorced with a child

Which one would you want?

@ kigali was your mum a single mum? say there was a pretty lady with no kids but she had a foul attitude and was disrespectful to you but on the other hand there was a pretty lady with a kid that would love you and worship the ground you walk on. which woman would you pick???

noones life is perfect.

Anyone that has a child out of wedlock is a loser regardless of race. Don’t try to pull the race card out.

@ Sydney:
I don’t care how much education she has attained. If another woman with the same exact qualifications minus the children, which one is more desirable? It’s time to take the rose-colored glasses off. I’m pretty sure that this attorney’s attitude was like mother theresa.. She needs to make-up for her past indiscretion. He is a doctor with no kids…He’s the cream of the crop. If she didn’t come correct 110% of time, she can easily be replaced. Don’t hate the player, hate the game.

Solange was obviously married to keep the family name clean. I applaud Matthew Knowles for his business decision.

If a woman was married for years (5 or more), I can understand it. This means that they got married because of love, not pressure.

@Luaren,

Thats a false dichotomy. It isnt a choice between nice baby mommas and women with no kids with bad attitudes. There are all kinds of combinations out there. And for the record, baby mommas have the worst attitude. Stress maybe.

@kigali true!!!

@John

“Anyone that has a child out of wedlock is a loser regardless of race. Don’t try to pull the race card out.”

You pulled the race card when you directed your comments specifically at sisters.

And haven’t you posted on this site before? I seem to recall your SN and the tenor of your posts, which tend to skew towards degrading certain women, no?

okay Kigali – I think you made up a word “illegitimate mothers”…hilarious

however

Yes, black men can choose to date a woman without children if that is their preference but it is not right to say that these Black women should not try to pursue relationships because they have children.

Just because you have children and a relationship did not work does not mean your life is over. Maybe having children makes their options slimmer but there are plenty of men who will date a woman with children if she has other good qualities.

@Nelsan Ellis,

“Which one do you want????????”

Neither. I will stay single or hook up with a Chinese girl.

@Kigali

“Yes, a divorcee is in an even worse situation because second marriages are notoriously unsuccessful.

Lets see:

A woman who has never been married no kids

vs.

A woman who is divorced with a child

Which one would you want?”

Now I think you’re living in a fairy tale. These days, there are a number of men and women who are divorced with children, particularly over a certain age. And I know that plenty of them date and have not written off marriage with a suitable partner.

My cousin, a doctor, married a divorced man with children. They’re very happy, and she recently gave birth to their second child.

@Kigali – women with children or illegitimate mothers are not the only ones with baggage. Baggage can come from parents raising or being bullied and all kinds of things that wear on self esteem.

@Kigali

“Neither. I will stay single or hook up with a Chinese girl.”

Why a “Chinese” girl? There aren’t Chinese women who are single parents?

@Really,

“I think you made up a word “illegitimate mothers”…hilarious”

Actually, that is what single mothers were called before the 1970s. Single mother is a euphemism.

“Just because you have children and a relationship did not work does not mean your life is over.”

How about you stop thinking about your life and start thinking about the lives you brought into this world? You made your bed, literally, and now you have to sleep in it.

Black females are so freaking self centered.

Nevermind the fact that children dont like to see mommy with different men. It makes them feel jealous, neglected, resentful and unwanted.

All that time you spending with that man that you most likely will not stay with, you can be with your children. When your children are adults, go ahead and deal with who you want to deal with but since you made the decision to have those children, your life, your priorities, changed.

@John

“Anyone that has a child out of wedlock is a loser regardless of race. Don’t try to pull the race card out.”

Oh, and does this apply to men as well? I would just like some clarification.

Thank you kindly.

Everyone, Kigali is a woman.

@Kigali – All that time you spending with that man that you most likely will not stay with, you can be with your children. *********************

I agree with this statement but I would say balance is everything and not expose your child to everyone. Even if you are married you have to spend time alone with your mate away from the children.

Yes the women made the choice not to abort their children regardless of marriage but they can also choose to have a life. Not one partying all the time but living and being a lady about what you do.

I had never heard of the word illegitimate mothers, since it was used that long ago I am sure the feminst movement abolished this word but I still think it funny!

@Sydney,

I just picked Chinese out of the air. I could have easily said Russian.

Besides, there isnt a accepted culture in China for women to be single mothers. You are less likely to meet a Chinese baby momma. You are far more likely to meet a Chinese girl who is educated, no kids, unmarried.

When that becomes the culture among black American females then you will be more likely to meet a black female who is single, never married without children and educated.

Alas, in our culture illigetimate motherhood is the norm. This makes black females less eligible than other women. Black females need to change their culture and what is acceptable to them.

Yes it applies for men too, however, as Kigali stated in an earlier post, men don’t normally have custody. Nevertheless, baggage is baggage.

Kigali is also married!

@Kigali – When that becomes the culture among black American females then you will be more likely to meet a black female who is single, never married without children and educated.

Alas, in our culture illigetimate motherhood is the norm. This makes black females less eligible than other women. Black females need to change their culture and what is acceptable to them.
****************************

I agree 100%

Changing culture is the hardest thing to do though

@John – Kigali is not the only blogger married

@Kigali

“Besides, there isnt a accepted culture in China for women to be single mothers. You are less likely to meet a Chinese baby momma. You are far more likely to meet a Chinese girl who is educated, no kids, unmarried.”

Does this also apply to Chinese-American women who date/marry white men or other men of a different culture? And from my understanding, there are divorced couples in China as well. Please correct me if I’m wrong. Are you basing this on your personal data?

And I’ve made my stance on single parenthood known many times on this blog. I believe in putting marriage before the carriage, and I think this is an issue for both men AND women. I don’t believe we’ll get anywhere on addressing the issue as long as we sling stones at each other.

For every woman who has a child out of wedlock, there is a man who fathered that child out of wedlock.

LMAO @ the guys that says they wouldn’t wife a babymama. I bet half of these negros mama’s were single parents. Don’t get mad cus yo daddy’s didn’t pay their child support LOL. Solange probably wouldn’t marry ya’ll broke asses either. Better yet she can probably buy all ya’ll. Get ya’lls minds right and don’t ever disrespect or judge a woman because of some of the choices she made.

BE, is that you? Hey, girl! I recognized your gravie, but I thought someone had copied it, lol.

@John

“Yes it applies for men too, however, as Kigali stated in an earlier post, men don’t normally have custody. Nevertheless, baggage is baggage.”

So I gather that you’re taking some of your brethren to task as well, no? They, after all, should be held accountable for their “indiscretions,” and they better have the temperament of the Pope!

I hardly believe it’s the culture of black to have children out of wedlock that’s just bs. It happens to all cultures–always has always will. To think otherwise is nonsense.

The difference is the outcome. You either keep the child, put it up for adoption or abort it. Marry the father, don’t marry and stay together or raise it on your own. Each family deals with the consequences of pregnancy differently and each culture tends trends one way over the other.

@Sydney – Yeah, I was feeling like…really? today

@Ddub – I would say that looking at our statics of single parenthood compared to our white, hispanic counter parts the trends are more in favor of black people having more children out of wedlock. So this is why I believe it has become more a part of the norm for us than not.

Bust it baby.. maybe.. to see Beyonce

@Really?

“@Sydney – Yeah, I was feeling like…really? today”

LOL! This is a “Really?” discussion, isn’t it?

And no one has really answered my question about Brit-Brit. . .

@Sydney,

You keep adding on these variable that dont really change the eqaution. I am not talking about inter-racial dating. I am talking about the desireability of a woman who is divorced and or with children. They are less disireable than women who doesnt have those things, Across the board. Men are territorial, women less so.

Personaly, men with children are in a different situation than women with children. I’ve already stated women are more liketly to get custody. To add to that, a step mom can be better intergreated in an already existing family than a step father. A man with children has an easier time for whatever reason.

LMAO@MzPinky is SOLANGE

Well I only popped in for a minute

TTYL Syd

Debate later Kigali.. (smiling)

Hello, Ms. Baker

@Syd – I predict Brit-Brit will not marry for at least 10 years but she will get another husband and could get one now if she wanted…trust..Solange too

@Kigali

“You keep adding on these variable that dont really change the eqaution. I am not talking about inter-racial dating. I am talking about the desireability of a woman who is divorced and or with children. They are less disireable than women who doesnt have those things, Across the board. Men are territorial, women less so.”

You added in racial/cultural distinctions, so I followed your lead. I thought you were privy to data that I haven’t seen, so I wanted you to share.

“Personaly, men with children are in a different situation than women with children. I’ve already stated women are more liketly to get custody. To add to that, a step mom can be better intergreated in an already existing family than a step father. A man with children has an easier time for whatever reason.”

If this is true — which I tend to agree it is — then it is a double standard, as you stated earlier.

Hey Film

Any thoughts on the topic?

@Really

“@Syd – I predict Brit-Brit will not marry for at least 10 years but she will get another husband and could get one now if she wanted…trust..Solange too”

LOL, thanks for responding to my question. I agree.

Sydney

I have a dinner meeting I have to attend. I just stopped in to speak.

Bye Film

You haven’t had any “pain” lately, right?

@ Sydney

So I gather that you’re taking some of your brethren to task as well, no? They, after all, should be held accountable for their “indiscretions,” and they better have the temperament of the Pope!

Men with children is more of a financial restraint, whereas women with children are both finanial and lifetyle roadblocks. If it’s a man of means, you shouldn’t have to worry about anything…That just means that instead of getting a new car every 2 years, you will have to settle for one every 3 years…Schuks!
If it is your local goon/thug, he needs to be on his best behavior because he doesn’t have the same options as upwardly mobile men have.

No, because my friends are just like me…College-educated and have no kids.

A women’s stock decreases as she ages. An aging single mother is the epitome of loosernes. A woman’s stock is based solely on her attractiveness. When that starts to decline and you have a child out of wedlock, what can you offer?

Sydney

LOLOL. Which ‘pain’ exactly? I experienced two last week.

Film

You know what ‘pain’ I’m talking about, lol.

Forgive me.

Sydney

I couldn’t tell if you were being facetious. No, I feel great, and thanks for asking.

How long will you be on here?

@John

“If it’s a man of means, you shouldn’t have to worry about anything…That just means that instead of getting a new car every 2 years, you will have to settle for one every 3 years…Schuks!
If it is your local goon/thug, he needs to be on his best behavior because he doesn’t have the same options as upwardly mobile men have.”

Really, so if I choose to date a man with kids, I’ll never have to run into the mother of his children either?

“No, because my friends are just like me…College-educated and have no kids.”

Really? Mine, too.

“A women’s stock decreases as she ages. An aging single mother is the epitome of loosernes. A woman’s stock is based solely on her attractiveness. When that starts to decline and you have a child out of wedlock, what can you offer?”

Hmmm, depending on the woman, EVERYTHING.

And do you mean, “loser-ness?” Is that a word?

Film

About another half hour or so.

So you experienced just two?

Sydney

LOLOL. Yes, the physical pain, and the other one I couldn’t discuss because it was Sunday.

Film

It’s Saturday today.

Sydney

I thought that’s what you’d say. And women say men are predictable. You want to hear about in a couple of hours?

Film

LOL, I’m not predictable!

Hmmm, too tempting. . .

My first choice is already married to HOVA, so I guess I’ll take what’s left.

Yes, you are Sydney along with other things.

Film

LOL, well, I’m going to have to work on that.

I would not wife her. I would do something eLSe

teeHEE

Sydney

Work on it for what?

Film

I don’t want to be predictable. . .

I prefer mystery.

Film

I just saw your other comment, by the way, meanie.

Sydney

I like obscurity.

Sydney

Meanie? I’m a gentleman.

Film

I like obscurity, too. Enigmas can be nice.

Film

Is that right? Yes, you are a gentleman. A very smart, engaging gentleman.

Sydney

So, you can’t understand me?

‘Is that right? Yes, you are a gentleman. A very smart, engaging gentleman.’

Thanks! You’re a very intelligent woman, and I bet you’re excitingly appealing.

Film

Oh, I can understand you, and that’s a good thing.

As for the other statement, no comment, lol. *blushing*

Film

I’m going to go work out soon. Too much energy. . .

Sydney

I talked to you once, and you used a word that I was unfamiliar with. I had an idea of the meaning because of how it was used in the sentence. So, you gave me a vocabulary lesson. I think the word starts with a J. Anyway, I’m sure you teach other things great as well.

wow this got interesting…

Sydney

LOLOL. Bodily exertion, huh? I probably would do that right now, but I have to attend this meeting. Hopefully, I can talk to you later.

Hey Purpple!

Really? I used a word that YOU didn’t know? Wow.

Yup, I need some bodily exertion, lol.

Yeah, maybe we can talk later. Have a good meeting.

What up SYD I know your on your way out…Work it out in the Gym girl…i might breeze back through lata…

@Purpple

LOL, I will, girl!

TTYL

Hey Syd and Film
My fiance and I are getting married in February in Vegas…how about we make it a double wedding

Good luck with that Mock Rock Whats the lucky guys name

YES I WOULD IN A HOT MINUTE!!!

Solange is quite scrumptious… I would wife her cute behind no doubt.

DEAD@ this question, Solange is definitely cute, but how can you wife someone when you know you WOULDNT be able to take your eyes of their sister at the dinner table. I guess knowing Beyonce will eventually end up looking like Tina may help in that department though.

hell yes,and bust that ass too.

yeah a lot of people on here lying I wonder if Beyonce and JayZ had a child and got divorced how many people would be ready in line to date her let alone marry her.

I wud..if I was a dude

Mock Rock Stardust

LOL. Congrats. How are you?

Do big kids like Mcdonald’s??

Pathetic rants!

How about live ya’llz lives and see the cards your dealt with….then we’ll see how ya’ll handle that.

Every REASONING sounds viable on paper/blog but LIFE is different.

Ya’ll don’t the ish that awaits ya’ll. Life’s like that. Some will be lucky some will be unlucky……

Don’t talk bullcrap til you live it.

To those ish about single parents……hope you don’t have your partner die on you one day and leave you with a pack of rugrats to take care of and a lonely life……coz nobody wants and should want a single parent right?

Pathetic rants!

How about ya’ll live ya’llz lives and see the cards your dealt with….then we’ll see how ya’ll handle that.

Every REASONING sounds viable on paper/blog but LIFE is different.

Ya’ll don’t know the ish that awaits ya’ll. Life’s like that. Some will be lucky some will be unlucky……

Don’t talk bullcrap til you live it.

To those ish about single parents……hope you don’t have your partner die on you one day and leave you with a pack of rugrats to take care of and a lonely life……coz nobody wants and should want a single parent right?

@ THE Chinese women comment & how they dont have kids & you will more likely find them unmarried w/out kids, etc.

That is because they are getting abortions. They still are having unprotected sex…Only exception…they chose to kill their babies. Which is their opinion.

Now I for 1.. am a single parent. However I will be gettin my Masters this spring. All the while STILL over coming my adversities.

Just b/c a BLACK women makes a mistake…dosnt mean she cant learn from it. Im sure you have made mistakes as well but you’ve learned from them.

Also..us black women didnt make these babies by ourselves.

Its just we CHOOSE to take care of ours & not let someone else pick up the slack!!!!!

any1 up in hurrrrrr????????????

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

What’s going on?

LiL_MaMa

It’s that same attitude that adds more cannon fodder to ridicule you blacks. Go ahead and keep making those illegitamate mistakes. You’re proof positive that most stereotypes are justified.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

I’m doing some research right now, but, other than that, I’m pretty good.

research? what kinda research??? to be totally honest, im folding laundry all alone in this big ass empty house… but im bout to watch some p orn to cure my boredom.

Wassup Film? What are you researching? Just curious.

FallinPoet

So you being a lesbo, whatchu gonna put on? Dykes in Heat or Where the Boys Aren’t? I prefer Sistas by Video Team.

@ JD… i dont remember ever speaking with u before.. so i guess uve been lurking or something.. but actually im bi… and i prefer st8 p*rn.. i actually do not watch lesbian p*rn

Oh! Then may i suggest All Dat AZZ or something interracial, like Black in the Crack or My Daughter is Fukking Blackzilla.

“… but im bout to watch some p orn to cure my boredom.”

@ Fallinpoet

LMAO. THAT was kinda abrupt. You have to ease into divulging that type of info. Warn a Brotha before you randomly hit him with those types of particulars……I feel you though.

@ jd… umm, well thanks for ur interest and suggestions…

@ ILL… im fuggin bored!!!

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

That’s confidential information. The remedy can restore your insufferable ennui. Have fun, Fallin Poet!

@Lil Mama,

My greatest fears is that black females dont feel like they make mistakes. When was the last time you heard a black female say, “Opps my bad!” Blacks females think they are perfect and are above criticism. Thats the biggest problems. Then they expect everyone to be of the opinion that they dont make mistakes.

This is how this whole debate got started. A bunch of black females in here telling brothers that they didnt make a mistake by being a single mother and these black men must want them in spite of that. A few brothers in here told them they werent interested and they went buck wild.

Illuminate Truth

What’s up, man? It’s classified info.

Hit Yes! Wife, hell to the NO! DRAMA.

@ Film… im gonna try

>>>>> who THE HELL CARES!!!! HER FAMILY RICH WHILE WE STRUGGLING…. ALL THEM MEN BASHING WOMEN WITH KIDS YOU’RE EITHER YOUNG MINDED OR NOT A REAL MAN……. MARRIED OR NOT WOMEN ARE NOT HERE TO CARE ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK OF THEM WHETHER OR NOT THEY HAVE THEIR CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK…. IT’S YOUR KIND OF IDIOTIC UNREALISTIC PERSPECTIVE OF WOMEN WHY WE DON’T GIVE MOST OF YOU THE TIME OF DAY!!! AND WHILE SOME OF YOU MEN ARE BASHING WOMEN, MOST OF YOUR MOMS RAISED YALL IN SINGLE PARENT HOMES, OR WERE “UNWED WHEN THEY CONCEIVED YOU!!!!!! SO STOP DISRESPECTING WOMEN CAUSE THEY THE ONE’S THAT BE HOLDING IT DOWN WHEN MOST OF YOU ARE JOBLESS, HOMELESS, AND LOCKED UP!!!!! FOR THE MAN WHO TALKING ABOUT HIS SUITS AND HE’S TOO EDUCATED FOR BLACK WOMEN WITH KIDS, TAKE OFF THAT ‘CLOWN SUIT”"”"”

@ fallin

Yeah, I know the feeling. One of those saturday nights…….I dunno. Work all week to get to a weekend that doesn’t amount to sh*t, return to work monday…..looking forward to friday again (*shrugs*).

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

Doctors don’t try to alleviate cures (well, some don’t). Like I said, have fun!

alleviate symptoms .TYPO

@ ILL.. im just countin down to cali…

@ Film… u a doctor?

@ Film

Classified? I don’t want to know. You might have to kill me.

JD’s Revenge

Okay, whatever you say. I’m looking at some numbers. I don’t need to say anything else, and I know how to multitask.

@ fallin

Cali? Moving or visiting? I could go for some Cali weather right now….its snowing in my parts.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

No, I’m not a doctor.

Illuminate Truth

LOL, no, it’s not that serious. I just finished a meeting, and I’m just looking at some papers.

@ JD… nah i dont rent… i have some websites i regularly visit

@ ILL… just a vist… 4 days my first time… got a friend in LA.

@Kigali (Check out Shahrazad Ali on You Tube)

I feel you. I think some women dont call their pregnancies mistakes b/c maybe they have the “Dont regret anything…learn from it”.type of attitude.

And maybe they fell their calling their kids mistakes. Which hell most of us are!

My parents were married for like 15 years.. then up & had me. lol

But to say that were “damaged goods” was kind of a low blow. You dont know how many d*cks were up in those women w/out any kids. Or kids that are not living.. I should say anyway. Too judge us women who do have kids like that.

But honestly…who cares. This sh*t is for the birds! I know who I am and dont need some lame ass blogger(not you Kigali) to define me or tell me Im worthy of your time. B/c they probably ugly as hell anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!

TTYL

Kigali

Do what i do when i’m surrounded by work and deadlines. Just say fukk it, i’m more important than my problems, then smoke a doobie.

wish i can smoke right now… now thats a cure for boredom.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

Why do you stay out of the conversation?

@ Film… which convos? the ones that Kigali is involved in lol? well usually bc it has something to do with black women… and i fuggin love black women, but i dont think they need an Arab gurl defending them to kigali… i think id prolly be ignored anyway lol

Illuminate

Shiiiiid, at yo local moms & pops video store.

@ ILL, yea theres a fam owned movie store by my crib, but id rather just visit the websites… gives me a lot more options

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

I think it would be great to hear an Arab’s point of view. I’m sure you’ve conversed with others who are conventional/stereotypical, so, you could bring a different, but equitable perspective to the discussion.

You’d probably be partial (I love black women, too).

@ fallin

Oh…okay. I don’t know of any of those family owned spots around here. I’m sure they exist but the internet is too convenient to even worry about it. Now smoking to combat the boredom? Twisting as we speak. You’re about to go to Cali so you can get some of that “Cali bud”…..worth the trip by itself…..doesn’t help you now though.

@ Opie Taylor

Yep Im soo stupid for someone whose getting her Masters…. coming from someone who calls themselves “Opie”

Im DONE with you dude!!! Goodnight! The convo is OVER!! Kick rocks!

@ ILL… yup, i already put in a order with my friend lol.

LiL Mama

Oh the irony, coming from someone who calls themselves LiL MaMa?

Btw, anyone can come on the internet and announce they are getting a Masters. Doesn’t make it true. Now why don’t you go back and supplement your welfare check with your well versed knowledge of the stripper pole.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

That’s very true, but the problem still isn’t solved. I’ve had written oppositions with others on this site, and my thoughts didn’t contain insolence/impertinent behavior. So, it all depends on the individuals, however some folks do deserve certain responses.

@ fallin

I agree with Film. I’m sure you could provide worthwhile insight into some of these discussions. There is a lot of unnecessary name calling and some get more personal than others but the subject matter is usually interesting. I can get why you would stay away from getting involved though….people should learn to disagree without the personal attacks. There’s a difference between debating and arguing.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

All of a sudden? So, you’re saying this was out of the blue?

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

‘fyi… i just finished my business lmao’

You care to elucidate?

This sounds very inane and adolescent, and you had on going discussions with her? Who are you referring to exactly?

@ fallin

You just ran across an adolescent. The cyber beefs on this site are comical. There was a poster on here not too long ago (I can’t remember her name but she posted a picture of a breast for her gravie one time) that revealed herself to be about 4 or 5 different screennames and said she was researching the “blog world”. I don’t know if she was being honest about her intent but her analogy about this site being a microcosm of society was on point. You get a little bit of every type person here including the social misfit.

Tay

Shouldn’t you be in bed, so you can wake up refreshed and coherent for you monthly visit with your Probation Officer? Btw, those urine test for drugs must be a drag.

i was watching, u know the good stuff, and umm yea i took care of business

Damn! I wish i was there so i could smell yo fingers.

@ jd… actually i did that tooo… i always do, i dunno why, but i do.. and im not tryin to toot my own horn or anything but i smell good

Fallin

I bet you taste good too.

@ jd… thats what she said

Fallin

Damn! She lucky. I bet you be an epicurean’s delight. Makes me wanna come over and get my Chef Boy ar’ Dee on.

@ tay

Don’t respond to opie. He has obsessive disorders. What white person with an obvious disdain towards Blacks would come on a Black gossip site just to make racist comments? There is a thin line between love and hate…..both are emotions of extreme passion. So his rants actually are a form of flattery. He cares so much about us that he takes time and energy from his day to concern himself with what we think. So much so that he comes on this website demonstrating that his hate has now crossed the line into obsession. Real talk. He needs help.

@ Film… im cool wit the particular clique u may be speaking of, and like i said a cpl of them actually came to my defense…

@ JD… lol… im just sayn lol.

Illuminate Truth

‘Don’t respond to opie. He has obsessive disorders. What white person with an obvious disdain towards Blacks would come on a Black gossip site just to make racist comments? There is a thin line between love and hate…..both are emotions of extreme passion. So his rants actually are a form of flattery. He cares so much about us that he takes time and energy from his day to concern himself with what we think. So much so that he comes on this website demonstrating that his hate has now crossed the line into obsession. Real talk. He needs help.’

I concur.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

I’m not trying to tell you where to comment. But, why don’t you ever converse on more meaningful post? I’d like to know your thoughts.

@ fallin

Exactly! Ms Julips. That was her (or whoever). She was kinda stank with it but the way that whole thing unfolded was like a soap opera….provided me with some decent entertainment. Yeah, I noticed a lot of people on here are immature (typing that now, seems like an understatement) I mean to come out of pocket over something so childish and be THAT old…..you did right by not responding. Sometimes you have to consider the source and let their own misery be the punishment. You don’t need that type of person to validate your opinion.

Btw: You’re quick! And a multi-tasker on top of that. Impressive.

damn where’d every1 go??? talk bout multitasking… i did the dishes and im bakin cookies as we speak.. or maybe as i speak to myself lol

Wanna play a game?

Introducing Puppy Dick! Lets get ready to rummmmble!!

@ fallin

Eeeeasy…lol. I have a vivid imagination and that last mental picture you painted……well…er… uhm……anyway, technology is great. (the third time is always a charm)

I can see your dilemma as far as posting on certain subjects. You are in a position that no matter what, your opinion is going to be twisted into something it isn’t. Ignorance is bliss and there are a lot of happy people on this site.

@ ILL… thats exactly it, everything gets twisted… anyway im eating my cookies now lol

@ fallin

Cookies? Damn, what kind? I’ve got the munchies something fierce.

@ ILL… chocolate chip… they usually hit the munchie spot.

@ Fallin – Consedier this: if you are expecting to not encounter extreme racism on a black blog from people who have been severely impacted by it is like pulling the trigger of a loaded gun and being surprised when a bullet exits the chamber. It really has very little to do with your race either, because if there were strickly blacks on thos site, there would be still be internal racial conflict; it is woven into the fabric, so if you chose to stay around, expect it!

@ The real… oh i know… and i never said it has a lot to do with my race, but i was sayn that those responses are the ones id get if i did join a racial discussion… believe me ive seen dark-skinned blacks and light-skinned blacks go at it in numerous threads…. so i know theirs internal racial conflict, and since ive been on and have chosen to go away i do expect it now.

spell check…

…i know there is*…

BTW, Iam eating choc chip cookies also! Its that damn weed!!!

damn… howcome i got the cookies but no weed

@ fallin

Yeah choco chips usually do it. Considering the hour I assume they are the pilsbury ready made type or am I underestimating your multi-tasking skills?…..because, if they are from scratch you may have just made a new best friend.

I have lurked (read but but not join in) about enough to have read some of the racial stuff and I do know what your are talking about. The fact that you have chosen not to let it run you away is commendable

@ ILL… yea they were ready made nestle lol… i just had to ball them up and put them on the aluminum pan..

Fallin – The correct sequence is the weed first then the cookies will naturally follow. LOL

I envy both of you because I just to lazy to cook anything. We are talking Mc Donalds cookie here!!

@ fallin

Yeah, cookies without the weed is not a good thing. I don’t have the cookies but you have me contemplating going to the store. I just don’t feel like scraping the snow off the car, driving ALL the way to the store……..hell, I’m just stuck on stupid right now (thanks to the green) and don’t feel like going anywhere.

Illuminate Truth

‘Btw: You’re quick! And a multi-tasker on top of that. Impressive.’

LMAO!

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

Sorry, I had to do something.

If I can recollect, I had a dispute with a white chick about black on black relationships months ago, and she had the audacity to tell me that she disagreed with my post, and of course I retorted. I believe she misunderstood my comments anyway. But, I can definitely fathom your conclusion formed. With you being an Arab, you can use your background and interject your own viewpoint into the subject at hand. If the topic is about race relations in America, compare and contrast your life (stereotypes) with that of a Black American. True, it could result in half-witted, insensate, jejune behavior, but I guarantee, at least ‘some’ individuals will assimilate your beliefs.

Just make sure you thoroughly read the comments if you decide to participate.

@ The real… unfortunately i didnt have any green thats what im sayn lol…

@ Film… a lot of ppl dont want to hear the comparisons… and before when i was able to post i was at work and bc of that i wasnt able to read the posts as thoroughly as i liked so thats another reason i refrained from commenting.

@ Fallin – Not only are those who aren’t open to learn, you also have those who blog as strickly a way to vent. It is a waste of time to even try to reason with them. What really amuses me is the things people say about subjects like “Arabs” of which they only know what they have heard in the media. They will present it as if it is the only truth. I was lurking during that convo also.

@ fallin

Don’t get it twisted…..I don’t have any issues with the ready made..the pre cut ones or the ones that come in that tubular shape. I can work with either. When I get the ones that come in the tube only about half of it actually makes it to the oven……I’ve got this thing for chocolate chip cookie dough. One of my many guilty pleasures….although that one is on the tame side.

Fallin & Truth – Where do live? Truth mentioned snow. It must be pretty late there???

@ The Real.. yea that’s what was so frustrating a lot of the bloggers were just recycling ish they’ve heard or seen in the Media…

@ Ill… lol, i cant eat to much cookie dough.. i start feeling sick after a bite or 2… so what are some of ur other guilty pleasures?

@ fallin & the real jackson brothers

I remember that thread. Something about Busta Rhymes. Yeah fallin, your input was NEEDED in there. You certainly could have provided some truth to a subject that generated a lot of innuendo.

@ the real… i live in the great city of Chicago… and we’ve had snow practically all week.

Brrrr! Yeah it has been pretty cold here in Oakland too! It actually dipped to 65 degrees! LOL

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

I’d like to see your comparisons, and I’m sure others wouldn’t mind as well. I understand where you’re coming from. It could just be a headache. Why can’t you post now?

Fallin – Is the Arab culture and the Muslim religion one in the same. I ask only because Arab countries are not the only contries where the Muslim faith is followed, right?

@ the real… oakland, california? 65 degrees are u serious lol.. thats a walk in the park… im gonna be in cali next week… and i wasnt sure what i needed to pack.. my friend said i prolly wont need a jacket bc it wont feel cold to me lol.. so im takin some long sleeve shirts and hoodies.

@ film… i think theres some kind of block… this happened before where i wasnt able to post comments but it was only for a cpl days… this block has gone on for a cpl weeks so im not sure.

and some comparisons… racial profiling especially in airports, racial slurs being said to my mom or another female that chooses to wear the head scarf while doin reg everyday things like grocery shopping… and being oppressed by Jews in Palestine( more commonly known as Isreal)…

where i live there is a very large population of Arabs and Muslims so it isnt too bad, but obviously after 911 things got kinda bad.

@ The real… no the Arab culture and the Muslim religion is not one in the same… theres obviously a lot that intertwines the 2, but no they are not the same.

& actually the majority of Muslims are not Arab, so ur right there are a lot of non-Arab countries that follow Islam.

@ fallin

How did I know that question was coming? I set myself up for that. Now I have to decide as to what level of disclosure I’m willing to involve myself in on a public blog site….intimate details are usually reserved for intimate moments. Actually, forcing myself to hold my “guilts” up for personal observation makes me feel kind of cheated……I need to explore my inner freak more often. Life has become too mundane. Eating cookie dough might be the best I have for you……or as much as I’m willing to devulge anyway. Nothing illegal though….except for the weed but that is debatable and there is no guilt involved.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

I remember you telling me you lived in Chicago. If you don’t mind saying, what exactly did you experience after 9/11?

@ Film… me and my fam personally just had the racial slurs directed towards us… i remember i was in college at the time and some1 basically said that i didnt have a right to speak… the city actually had a bunch of cops protecting the Mosque in our community… I was pretty scared for my mom and other women in my family bc they do wear the head scarves and i was worried some1 would do something crazy to them.. Thank God nothin too bad happened to us… but i remember other Arab students being attacked and an Arab shopkeeper killed the day of the attacks.

@ ILL… i understand… sometimes, like earlier bout the p*rn, i couldnt help myself lol

Truth – I asked the quesion as I do periodically, but since you did not answer after a few posts, I let it go. It just wasn’t that important to me. However, in this case I was only inquiring about how late it is. It is almost 11pm, so if it is snowing there it must be about 2am. Just thought it was kinda late.

It is necessary to be careful about revealing info on a blog. Last night I mentioned the area that I lived in Oakland and a poster named Oakland knew the area too well. After some second thought, I kind of regretted pin pointing my exact location. There is safty in anonynimity.

Good night all

aww goodnight the real.. nice talkin with u

Truly my pleasure madaam!

“Brrrr! Yeah it has been pretty cold here in Oakland too! It actually dipped to 65 degrees! LOL”

@ the real

Brah, you ain’t right. I’m in Jersey and 65 sounds HOT to me. It’s not as bad as Chicago though….those winds coming off of Lake Michigan in the middle of winter…..daaaaaaayum. I don’t care how many layers of clothes you have on…..you feel naked.

@ fallin

After 9/11 the hatred towards Arabs was thick…..and asenine. I never understood how black people participated in it. I know why though. They got caught up in the media blitz against anything that was Arab when they should have been pointing fingers at the US government, the UN…..you get the idea. I remember when all the major news channels showed people in Palestine supposedly “celebrating” the collapse of the towers but it was later revealed that it was file footage of people celebrating a soccer victory. I never did see one news show disclaim the footage (smh). This is the type of propoganda that floods our airwaves and causes even usually rational people to act with stupidity. They are being programmed to do it and most people don’t have posession of their own souls to do anything about it. Media says “think this way” and because of this your mother can’t even go food shopping without being harassed. Damn shame.

@ ILL… man, u hit the nail right on the head, and in arabic i wanna say “eslem thimek” roughly translated as Thanks for ur mouth LMAO… it doesnt translate well but i hope u get what im sayn..

so u been to the chi.. it is cold as hell lol… but i love the city so i cant see moving just bc of the winter.

FallinPoet(My Truth’s so cool I don’t have to lie…)

It’s good to know that your mom and others were unharmed. Some associate Bin Laden with every Arab here in this country. They need to research and form their own opinions based on why there were numerous, unanswered questions by the government from the 9/11 Commission Report, and not just hearsay (media). SMH. If we only knew who were behind the attacks, citizens would perceive this greedy nation differently and recognize that we are enslaved by elitist for their own pleasures.

Illuminate Truth

‘After 9/11 the hatred towards Arabs was thick…..and asenine. I never understood how black people participated in it. I know why though. They got caught up in the media blitz against anything that was Arab when they should have been pointing fingers at the US government, the UN…..you get the idea. I remember when all the major news channels showed people in Palestine supposedly “celebrating” the collapse of the towers but it was later revealed that it was file footage of people celebrating a soccer victory. I never did see one news show disclaim the footage (smh). This is the type of propoganda that floods our airwaves and causes even usually rational people to act with stupidity. They are being programmed to do it and most people don’t have posession of their own souls to do anything about it. Media says “think this way” and because of this your mother can’t even go food shopping without being harassed. Damn shame.’

Good post.

*I’m out. Be easy, everyone.

goodnight Film.. thanks for ur posts

Don’t nobody want a woman with kids just like I sure as hell wouldn’t want no man with kids! That’s a HUGE turnoff for me. If a man says he has a kid or kids for that matter, I want him to erase me from his memory ASAP. I don’t care what his job is, I’m not step mom!

aight ILL im out.. sleepy as hell.. ttyl babe… nice talkin wit u.

@ fallin

LOL. Ironically I was recently talking to a friend (he’s studying Arabic) and he was explaining to me how Arabic doesn’t translate well into English and vise versa. It led to this whole discussion about how the difference in communicating, reading (right to left as opposed to left to right), etc. can lead to someone having a whole different thought pattern…..I don’t know – we were high and our thoughts were pretty obscure but I think you may get the basic idea. Anyway, don’t thank me. Thank the truth because that is exactly what that was. I was just repeating it.

Yeah, I’ve been to Chicago but not in the last few years and only once in the winter (hell no, I learned my lesson!). It is a nice city. I wouldn’t mind living there. Actually I want out of Jersey so any place but here.

@ fallin

Oh aiight fallin. Good talking to you too. Be good.

goodnight ILL and high or not ur friend was right it is hard to translate 1 to another.

Hell Ya

I WOULD WIFE IT.AS LONG AS SHE RESPECTS ME AND GIVE ME MY SPACE……PLUS SHE BURNS TOO.. SO THERE WILL BE PEACE IN THE HOME.

I WOULD WIFE HER…AS LONG AS SHE RESPECT ME,AND GIVE ME MY SPACE,PLUS SHE BURNS,SO OUR HOME WOULD BE PEACEFUL

OOPS

@ John

The women are gonna hate you on this site, single with kids or not. Although I see where you’re coming from the women will not. Those same women some of whom probably don’t like Solange will still back her up because you are a MAN. You went to school so you should know they are sensitive ands always want someone to sympathize with them and their feelings as oppose to us men who talk about politics and sports. Off topic De la Hoya got his ass handed to him last night by the way.

I wouldn’t. But not for the baby mama thing. Nia Long is a baby mama amd i would have no problem wifing her. Solange doesn’t come across as having alot of class or intelligent. She seems like she would be a little immature brat in a marriage. No self respecting dude with options would put up with that. She would probably make a better cut buddy than a wife. That’s just my opinion.

Its the task of a woman to protect herself from being knocked up. Solange was a fool enough to fail in this and she paid the price of being an outcaste. A woman has the right to say ‘Honey no nookie for you. its wrong time of the month’

I’d wife that Solange. She’s a solid “7″ not her fault hr sister is a “12″.

WOW. these comments went wayyyyy to the left. LOL

I see I missed the good convo last night — I’m sorry, but I crashed. . .:(

A belated hello to Mock, Ill, and Fallin

@Film

I hope all is well with you today.

In a heartbeat. I’ll be married into a very rich family and happy than a mofo. I BE DAT BABE DADDY!

Yeah, wife her b/c she’s rich but am I the only one out here that thinks she is pretty busted. She is one of the weakest “little sisters to the stars” to come out so far.

Solange has serious identity issues.

For those of you who said you would date her and/or her sister based off their looks have you seen her mom? That is what you have to look forward to. NO SIR!!!

wait. one more duh. DUH

i think solange is very pretty, she needs to keep her hair straight like this, it looks cute. she seems very real and down to earth.

most definitely! she’s fine, talented and seems hella cool…I like her style

I don’t think Solange would want any men who sit on a gossip blog all day, I’m just saying…

Ok I am so late, not sure if anyone will read this but this conversation on the page is crazy, mature, and bias. I am a single black women with no kids and as I read these messages both men and women are out of wack with their moral and values they should have for there lives. I will be 30 in a couple of months and I am in not rush to have children because people are taught to do more harm then they will choose to do good in someone’s lives. Even with all the time that I have taken to make better choices and have further education I can still become a statistic to this problem because the average black man is trifling and now days the average black women has not standards. I still have faith and hope that I will out bet this ditch that we have created for ourselves (black people/ the human race). I don’t think it nothing wrong with single mothers because that is the world that we live in but if you already see that you are not ready with the one child that you do have then please close you legs and take your time because when you rush you end up with the loser as the other parent.