Marriage, kids, and open relationship. Thats alot.

Im at a loss for words. SMH

my oh my

Will and Jada seem to being ok.

Can someone please tell me when Jesus is coming back???? Anybody?

WTF! SMDH!!!!

That’s them white people for you…good luck you sell out black men who keep running around with these trashy white women.

wow

Why in the hell would you pollute your innocent little kids with your garbage? That is just disgusting. What is the point of being married if your going to screw everything that has a hole on the side??

married people with kids…cant be in open relationship thats jst not right. but hey i might be old fashion

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think

Don’t hate. These people love each other and their kids. They’ve been together for 16 years. Obviously, something works for them. I respect these two more than the people who have been married and divorced 3 or more times.

nope. The mind and soul have an amazing way of rationalizing…. the’ll be just like their parents… open marriages are in…

ummm, thats THEY life. If thats how they want to live and they enjoy it then so freakin be it. They been together 16 years and Im sure thats longer than most people on this blog including the ones thats commenting(no offense intended im just sayin)…get it how you live…

But gays can’t marry each other because _____???

@kahmmillion

That’s them white people for you…good luck you SELL OUT black men who keep running around with these TRASHY WHITE WOMEN.

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Silly black girl. I bet you think the man is holding you down too. I bet you still live in the same town you grew up in. Bet you don’t even a passport. LMAO!

This behavior is not isolated to SELL OUT black men and TRASHY WHITE WOMEN. Swinging is a lifestyle not exclusive to race.

Go read a book.

Not my cup of tea, but sounds like it works for them.

Not sure about the message it sends the kids. Still processing that one.

But adults set off bad examples all the time over a million things… so, letting your kids know that it’s ok to love who you want to love, be who you want to be, find a partner in life that loves you for who you are… trust and honesty are key in life and honor your commitments & family… might not be a bad thing. I’m sure it’s freakin confusing for them though. They seem too little to really be hearing that right now. But who are we to judge?

Yeah you get one life, and dont die from some dealy disease because of it, this womans cervixs is at some terrible risk. A man poking his dick in a mans bum, then up her vagina…er!

And it has lasted 16 years because there is no effing commintment to each other, it is just do what the HELL you want and come and check me and the kids out later. The time they have spent needlessly ****ing around is the time they should have spent on their children.

lol…it trips me out how many people are opposed to open relationships…when your relationship is probably open and you just dont know it.lol…just sayin….

We all be probably as we like, but the facts are they have agreed to risk their health together, and agreed to take valuable time away from their children for multiple orgasms with strangers of the same sex…that isnt a probably, it is a dangerous, selfish, retarded and perverted FACT!

This is just two warped perverts who have found each other!

sooo, what if they only have other partners every other saturday night when the kids are staying the night at grandma’s or something…no beef just know you are assuming they kids not getting attention etc, because you emotionally disagree…..so you are making up imaginary facts that you have no idea to be true. You are assuming you cant have an open relationship responsibly.

and alll that assumption from this very small article about them….its just like christians which i bet most of you are…if you aint christian or accept Jezuz you going to hell, thats some bullshyt.

Yup dats rite, Jesus is coming soon!
I cant believe people are trying to make this sort of thing look ok!!!

Repent people, no jokes for real!!!!

Not imaging anything, they are the ones bragging of their sex life. They are clearly just two promiscuous perverts who have found each other and sadly brought children into their sordid life and trying to make their life seem normal.

I would doubt it was just a Saturday night (if that would make anything better) If they now can expose themselves like this, and make it possible for their children to now go to school and be teased and shunned about their parents perversion, I am more than willing to believe they are prolific sex searchers.

At the end of the day it is none of my Gord damn business and I wouldn’t dream of telling them how to leave. But I will still say how it is, perverted, selfish and certainly have put their children in a compromising situation as they turn up to school on Monday morning.

P.S being a parent isnt about just doing things out of children sight, it is also about being home to make sure your children our safe. If they are out and about having sex, who is looking after the children? is there any need to leave your children in the care of someone else for frivolous sex?

I can’t even comment back cause I dont know any of that to be true about these people. It is extremely small minded to think people in open relationships are the ones screwing up they kids when just as much screwing up is going on in “monogamous” households. This is not how I choose to live my life but what works for me don’t work for everybody and there is no moral law that says this is wrong. Ive never come across any studies or facts that said children whose parents participate in open relationships are more neglected and screwed up than those in monogamous relationships. Thats some bullshyt, Its way more foul shyt going on in monogamous relationships before you even get to who your having sex with..and it should go without me even having to say most marriages end up in divorce because of money or cheating…so obviously most relationships that are thought to be monogamous really aren’t. Just because they have multiple partners does not mean they going to hell or they need to repent, if they are going to hell im sure they might see a few of you who are dayming this with your christian bible when they get down there.

Honestly this is disgusting in my opinion and I could care less how long they have been friends, because that’s what it honestly seems like. Just seems like a friendship that has lasted for 16yrs and they have a legal paper attached to it for taxes and beneficial reasons. Sharing your body with multiple people married or not is plain disgusting. That’s a lack of respect for your body period. Children are like sponges. They soak in things you teach and expose them to so more than likely their children will be exactly like them. Hey it’s their life and they need to keep that stuff private withing their own home not publicizing it.

This is straight up disgusting. When you are raising children, you are suppposed to take them into account. You’re supposed to raise them the best that you possibly can. Somehow, this doesn’t fit into a “marriage”, for me…I know there will be lots of people, who agree, but NOT me. I think marriage should be between a man and a woman, that love each other and are faithful to each other…Society, once again has taken marriage, to a whole nother level……..

THIS IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooo NASTY!!!!!!!!!!

Everything else aside – you have got to appreciate the honesty in their relationship. It sure beats finding out your husband of 10 yrs is a dl brother. This allows for choice, they choose to be together and thats beautiful.

Does’nt bother me at all…BECAUSE they are honest about it.As for the children well…kids are born sociopaths anyway.It is your duty as a parent to shape them into productive people who are’nt a danger to themselves or others.If they are doing that then no issue here.If they’re like most kids-they usually end up in rebellion against the ways of their parents.This means they’ll probably grow up to be boring ass heterosexuals who only have monogamous sex.

Hmmm, I’ve had some discussions in the past about “swingers,” and, no, it’s not a lifestyle choice relegated to any particular racial/ethnic group. In fact, in the D.C. region (and I’m sure in other large metropolitan areas), there is a sizable group of African-American men and women who indulge in “open” parties (or whatever you call them) and other similar venues, I’ve been told by more than one person, and this group includes affluent, prominent individuals.

There’s one spot, in particular, that I’ve been told holds a night every week for people to come and “interact.”

I haven’t seen it for myself, but, yes, it does exist.

If they were truly honest, THEY WOULDN’T BE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN, in te first damn place. Damn, some of u are stupid as hell..STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES…

@ kahmmillion- Way 2 go! Back’em up! Haters are plentiful, always more than enough to go around..Some are not even original, they steal everything, your name too, always classy, more like always trashy and unoriginal…..See ya and get a life, haters!

@ kahmmillion- that was lol funny what Mr. Anderson said…

@ALWAYS KNEW:

What are you suggesting about the sex lives of people who are married? What should that look like?

why y’all so upset? Jada and Will be living like this for the longest. it’s working for them too!

Dr. Funk,

I can’t say what other people’s lives should look like. BUT children aren’t supposed to have to deal with that. It’s already hard enough to grow up nowadays without all this extra ish-.

If you are not ready to be married, then don’t settle down. If you are screwing members of the opposite sex or not faithful to your spouse, you shouldn’t be married. There are plenty of people who won’t agree, and that’s their opinion. I don’t believe in subjecting children to deviant behaviour.
When you tale those vows, all that crap should be done and over with. If you’re still confused about who you’re with, you should’nt be getting married in the first place…….
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And yes, the apple NEVER falls too far from the tree.
Parents, please be good examples to your children, you are the only one that have to count on….And watch your kids friends, you never know what is going on with parents like these……

Good afternoon Kigali- I don;t believe in having children outside of marriage. However, I don;t judge people that do. I like Erykah Badu, love her music. I don’t comment on her personal life, that’s not my business or my life.

Additionally, I wouldn’t have my children , in those type of situations. No, not even as their playmates. I just believe in having a grounded family, with the male at the head. I’m sorry. I am definitely old-fashioned, when it comes to this kind of stuff.

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@Purple,

The family structures that predominate in the black community- families headed by the single females, have been proven to be quite destructive to children. These children are poorer, there is more instances of abuse, they perform worse in school than the children in two parent homes, their children will have sex sooner and with more people than the children of two parent household, they have a harder time moving into the middle class, etc. So if you want to talk about what family structures are bad for children, there you go.

@always knew,

As a tax payer maybe you should judge women that choose to have children by themselves because they are the ones who need public assistence. The government doesnt generate revunue on its own. It takes your check away to subsidize these family structures.

@Kigali

Way too much anger, sis — Have a drink. It’s only the afternoon on the East Coast, but it’s never too early for a cocktail.

*hands over a glass of Chardonnay*

@JD’s Revenge

I think you may need some wine, too. Here, have a glass.

wow i personally wouldnt do that but hey if it works for them. good luck 2 them! who r we 2 judge how someone else runs their home.

@Sydney,

Girl I dont drink but I make mean rasberry and bison grass mojitos and mud slides.

I forsee many years of therapy – for everyone involved.

I love it how if you’re high class New York society, that this is acceptable. If your in the hood, everyone considers you the creator and carriers of HIV/AIDs. These people act like it’s 1975 pre-HIV-AIDS, pre-Coke. The window for banging people is getting smaller and smaller. They act like it’s not. A condom helps but not if you like to “eat at the Y”, kiss, golden showers, “play the skin flute” or lick your partner’s open sores. These people act like their “act” don’t affect anyone. They have a kid in this photo. Looks like a girl. Well dear old Dad, one of your responsibilities was to keep her off the pole. I’ll see her on the pole in a couple of years, a lesbian who cuts herself, dances for men she hates, does H and coke before going on stage with a nice body. This all sounds so fcuk-en hot!

To every life choice there must be some limits. If everyone crossed the lines as much as these fools do, the word civilization would have less and less meaning.

@critic – I agree with you 100%

There is time out for everyone to stop being loose..and what are you teaching your kids?

Kigali,

I wasn’t telling you what to do with your life. I don’t care how other people choose to live their lives. I know that in my life time, I have not always done the right thing. I don;t throw stones. PERIOD. If you can’t read between the lines, that’s another issue that you have, not me.

We don’t get along, yet I have the decency to be civil to you and others that I don;t get along with either. It’s all how you deal with life. Some people actually get stuck on the small stuff. I am not a self-righteous person, I conduct myself and associate with those who have the same values and beliefs, that I do, but at no time do I ever try to play the role of the man above…I try to accept everyone, even those who feel that they are above, everyone else. I am too busy doing me, to worry about you or anyone else.

I just don’t get how you always tear everything down. Do you ever have anything positive to say? Or do you insist on just being an agitator/ instigator? Which is it? Either way, it doesn’t bother me, if you or anyone else decides to go to hell in a handbasket, that’s your decision, not mine. We are all grown adults, I wouldn’t think of trying to tell another grown person how to live. I’m way too busy doing me.

It took me a while to get back, hubby needed help getting the Christmas lights and deco together…Now that that’s done, I’m taking the boys to the park..Have a great day, negativity never conquers positivity!! Peace.

WOW… Journalist are freaks, huh.

It seems odd that some people only promote the negative in any situation….My glasses are rose-tinted but I am glad that I have the sensibility to see beyond the issues that weigh people down, When you have too much negativity, you become overwhelmed and pretty soon become a depressed person. Neither is good…Who among you is perfect and without sin??

Don’t play games with me Kigali, I can out think, outwit, outsurvive and outlast you…I do hope you get better, from the negative perspective that you seem to possess…I’m not an optimist or a pessimist, I’m a realist. I can only control my actions, not others. Get better and Take care…

Oshie – Is Your Dixie Wrecked?

I forsee many years of therapy – for everyone involved.

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Especially for you!!…Don’t even let me get started…Another day and time…Aren’t you supposed o be on the white people killer family blog???

Should they be raising children???

@Always knew,

Please have your husband read some of my comments. Its been my expirience that men are better equipped to deal with hard realities. Black females just change the subject.

@Kigali
this is true which im thankful for my two parent Black household… now I wonder if others will overcome this career/money and child over man syndrome…hmmmm…

Compulsory monogamy needs to be questioned. The kids could be glad to know that sexuality is more fluid than folks like to let on.

@Kigali- I have tried to be civil, with you, it just doesn’t work. I guess now I’ll go back to ignoring you……………My husband doesn’t waste his time on blogs and wouldn’t enjoy talking with a female without a brain…………

@Kigali-you’d do better talking to your own, (if you can find one)……………I never changed the subject, it just doesn’t seem as though, you ever get to a point and you never go anywhere….So we’ll pass on that, thanks anyways……….

Compulsory monogamy needs to be questioned. The kids could be glad to know that sexuality is more fluid than folks like to let on.

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**DEAD**

The ability to control sexual urges, is what distinguishes humans from animals/ mammals. If you cannot control your urges, What does that say about you????????????

Your no better than an animal…What great example for the kids…People that can’t control themselves and aren’t worthy to raise a child.

Children shouldn’t be forced to deal with all those extra issues…….But that’s your household and this is mine…We all do what we see fit…….That’s exactly why everybody shouldn’t be allowed to procreate….

@Encyclopedia Brown: I agree with your question. Should they REALLY be raising children? I mean, to each his/her own, but I wish they wouldnt have brought children into the world if this is something they still wanted to continue.

Granted, we’ve all done some sh_t that we probably wont be telling our kids (maybe not to this extent) but normally when you have children most people tend to leave their wild ways behind and begin to parent and raise their kids.

Instead of protecting them from weirdos, they’re brining them into their home.

And yeah, those kids are going to me f_cked up. Daddy f_cking mommy and this dude. And mommy is f_cking daddy and that girl. WTF?

I just feel sorry for the kids.

What a disgrace. This is a terrible enviroment to raise children. The world is in a horrible state of affairs due to illicit conduct such as this.

HIV/aids is at an alarming rate and they chose to be promiscuous.

There is nothing better than showing a good example to your children such as a loving, committed, monogamous, relationship.

These are the perilous times. Show your children the right way. This is all wrong.

@CriticXtreme:

I too find it interesting that risky behavior by upper class folks gets a pass…hell for that matter glorified…while the same behavior by the poor & the Black is portrayed as self destructive.Funny but possibly accurate post.

I’d guess that with all they got going with career & kids-they’re probably not sexing each other anyway.In which case they’re a lot like similarly situated straight couples.Would’nt be surprised if she made him “show papers” before they got busy.How spontaneous.

@Kigali:

I don’t drink either but I made a world class mojito when I was a bartender on South Beach.Nobody ever returned one.

These poor children being raised by deviants.

To each his/her own. What they do in their relationship and home is there business but the way they discuss it…way too much information while going public with is attention seeking behavior. Why get married?

My question is why are they both gay but in a heterosexual relationship? Somethings wrong with this picture…my head hurts…STOP THE MADNESS! Next year, people are gonna petition to marry their dogs and 1st cousins. oh wee, these are the end times.

Final post on this:

I think what’s most trippy about this couple is that they have found a way to have a marriage & family for now 15 years…and “traditional” hetero Black people seem to be working from a template that delivers anything but that.

@Dr. Funk, not just black people but whites contribute to the highest divorce rates in this country becaause you guys obviously believe black people don’t get married.

So the templates whites use isn’t working much either. People are people, so stop putting disfunctionality on race or skin color. EVERYONE has problems. Exhibit A, and aren’t these people Chinese and European anyway????There is a difference!

P.S.

Satan doesn’t discriminate!

If you read the whole article, the stopped doing all that when the kids were born and are now monagamous.

i don’t know. Ask Will and Jada.

@ Everyone-

Its’ really a shame black folks have such LOW expectations.(SOME, NOT All) If you don’t accept the bs, that a black man tries to bring you, they disrespect and call you all kinds of names. I don’t understand, why sisters have to leave the race to find any form of intelligence…..This is sad and you need to get yourselves together..I’m not looking for any of you dead-beats. I already have everything I need. I got my own back. Go look for one of those insecure broads who doesn’t think she can get anyone else. That’s the only reason that some of you, can even get dates, because the women are lonley and lower their standards….If you want intellect and not a gangster want to be–if you’re a black women with a brain, you either go foreign or swirl…American black men are completely gone and have lost the little minds that they did have…..SOme of the comments that are made, they don’t show ANY respect, they call us “bit—-”, some of you actually answer them, they don;t disrespect other races the way they dog out black women….Then idiots like Kigali and others, can’t understand why black women won’t submit, to lesser men, quite simple, they are not worth it. You need to have an honorable respectful man before you can get to correct those issues, with the way that things are going, black guys swirling, black guys are gay, black guys are drug users, violent, drinking and drop out of school, this is a sad spiral…Oh well, The two positive things that I have to say, are my beuatiful black sons, will definitely not be in that group…I’m happy about that, you can only save those who want to be saved, the rest need to be thrown in the garbage anyway. No man is better than not having a quality man. Believe that….I would NEVER settle…I know my worth and value. I’m not looking for a deadbeat negro to take care of my sons. I am already married, didn’t have children until I married. If the marriage after 12 years doesn’t work, we can divorce, but I will be leaving with EVERYTHING that I came with. See it’s my businesses, my properties, my cars and trucks, my investments, my business connects and contacts that I created, my hustle, my brain, my grind…What are you needed for again????? Right, black males better get it together, nobody is waitng around checking for the losers!…Go back to school, get an education, change your attitude, pull up your pants, take care of your kids, get your priorities straight, get a job or start some legal businesses…Do something, cause you pretending that you have the answers, is not working………

Why do their kids need to know about their sex life? I don’t have anything against an open relationship, if it works for you, whatever. It’s none of my business and we also don’t know what their marriage vows were. But to have the kids involved in that conversation is crazy. Let kids be kids.

Totally disgusting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It does not matter if we agree or not. They dont have to explain anything to the public. The people who are concerned about what they are doing are probably the ones who dont get any on their own.