Carmelo Anthony and LaLa Vazquez, Plus 1
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LaLa discusses the living situation and raising her son with Carmelo Anthony:
“I love my home and I’m happy here, but it gets a little overwhelming when it comes to decorating,” says LaLa. “At night, when I’m home by myself, this big house gets kind of scary and I lock me and my son in my room.” Although there are six bedrooms-one of which is reserved for Anthony’s clothes-it’s the couple’s private quarters that LaLa considers her safe haven; she uses candles to create a serene ambiance.
The couple entertains their guests with a nine-seater home theater and a pool table in the basement. Down below is also a wine cellar, where Anthony loves to hang out. There’s also one room reserved only for her fiancé’s sneakers.
One would expect to see maids running the household, but LaLa says, contrary to popular belief, she’s pretty domesticated. “I clean my own house. I don’t wait for the maid to come,” she says. “And I cook for my family. It might not be a ten-course meal, but I have my specialties like mac ‘n’ cheese, chicken and my world-famous lasagna.”
Awww….that little fella is a cutie pie and we sure love to see this kind of activity from young people. Well, LaLa does kind of have Melo by half a decade, but whatever. Good for them.
More pics below.
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am i first on my mans post?
Will he ever marry her?
damn
such a cute couple…I wander the same…will he marry her?
awww Melo you got you a good wifey, the dj from BET done came up…..
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dont worry about being married La…he taking care of you and yall baby and you livin good..why rock da boat.
They’re a beautiful family. I wish that he would marry her and do what’s right.
I was thinking the same thing kahm. Why is Essence glorifying the baby mamahood and baby daddy hood. I ain’t judging because it appears to be working for them, but to do a feature story..c’mon!
cute family
i hope carmelo dont go out like kobe
Melo has a kid by her bossip? Or is he the step dad? Polo a strong statement in Hip Hop.
@PURPPLE
What’s up? Did you see your “man” had a good game last night? 33 points in one quarter. Tied the all time NBA record. I thought of you when I saw that.
@PURPPLE:
I agree. He does have a really good “girlfriend”. lol I hate the word “wifey”. Its like you’re playing house.
Anyway…he probably doesnt recognize what he has though. You know men….they are always seeking something else, something better. They cant be happy with a good woman. Hopefully he will marry her and make her a WIFE for real and stop playing games. Thats the reason most men dont get mattied is because they want to keep options open and it makes it easier to leave when you’re not tied down.
No wonder marriage is like saying “razor and *****” in the same sentence to a man. They freak the f_ck out!
lol Joey…me neither..Kobe fine azz *****ed up unforgivably!
Lil’ man is so cute!
*married….dayum, can I spell today??????
@JOEY B
“i hope carmello dont go out like kobe.”
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Don’t be hatin on Kobe dawg. He the GOAT of B-ball my *****.
Whut up Purpple, you been M.I.A. homegirl!
They seem to have a nice family. Nice home. Nice Life.
LOL..no man i didn’t see that but if you thought of me when you was watching my man play im honored.
Nina Neeeeeen! Girl they done officially blocked a sista from bossip at work!!!!
What *****in nationality are they and why isn’t N. UNDERWOO in the top 10?
Good for Melo:
He is a perfect example of a good man and that a good man does not need to be married to be a good father to his child.. I have always felt like when people say a man HAS to get married to be a good father it’s as if giving him a p***** NOT to be a good father just because he is not married.. There is too much giving the black male an excuse to abandon his children within our race.. It’s time to stop that and hold all black fathers accountable to how they raise their children…
That is a cute family picture, god bless them all.
Damn Raquel26 you just made me think of something, There not married are they? I mean why not, ***** they’ve doen everything thing else.
I dont think she needs to be made an honest women, but he might need to made an honest man. *wink*
Good job! I like seeing families together…
lol Raquel i feel you,
Im thinking some people over think this marriage thing though cause alot of times when a man is a good man and he feel like he got his options open alot of time he doesn’t take them. So yeah being married by law scares alot of black men(thats all i know so thats what ill talk about) but they will be with you and take care of you and a lot of times be good to you without being married. If he’s doing that I dont think itll ever make a difference if they get married as long as they both are happy. if they do…heh, good for them but marriage starts before you to court or sign a piece of paper that says your married. Marriage is a state of mind.
O Shyt go head SMDH, a post i can 100% cosign from you today.
I agree with you UKnoWhoIAm—what they do is their business, but do we have to glorify that fact that he has not committed to the “family” that he has created– I’m sure she’d say “YES!” get a prenup and be done with it-stop playing Melo!
@Man, I just don’t care–>>> no doubt,i luv kobes game,,i just hate how he got caught in that colorado bull*****
@PURPPLE–>>> lol i hope he learned his lesson
Nina Knows–>> good morning!
they are a cute family…
that baby needs a haircut tho…
i thought melo had a haircut, dont he know that JUMBO cornrows are played out?!?!?!?
lol@ he need to be made an honest man nina..ill keep the bmore gossip in bmore because I have no reason to try and out my man but shhhyyyt, if he aint honest before the marriage he aint gonna be honest after.
“I was thinking the same thing kahm. Why is Essence glorifying the baby mamahood and baby daddy hood. I ain’t judging because it appears to be working for them, but to do a feature story..c’mon!”
Looks to me like they are glorifying to responsible adults raising their child TOGETHER!! Why do they have to be married to do that?!?? YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE MARRIED TO BE GOOD PARENTS TO YOUR CHILDREN and the excuses need to stop. Black males abandoning their children is one of the most, if not the most, serious issues facing the black community. It’s time to stop giving him exucses to not raise his children and when you give him the ability to fall back on “well I wasn’t married to her so I aint gotta raise no kids” it’s really just adding to the problem.. It’s time to stop making excuses and for black males to – lol “step up their game – and be better fathers to their children, like Carmelo..
Co-sign SMDH. Good points!
Joey Kobe aint learn shyt…he’s just “chillin” at this moment..Kobe ego can never be deflated
Where in the world does anyone get the idea that he is not committed to his family because he aint married…..
i CAN SEE THE OPINIONS ON BOTH SIDES AND IT MAKES SENSE. I HONESTLY THINK WHAT’S THE POINT OF PUTTING THE RING ON THE FINGER AND NOT CARRYING OUT THE REST. IS IT JUST FOR SAY SO REASONS OR WAS IT TO KEEP HER SATISFIED FOR NOW? ME PERSONALLY I DON’T LIKE TO ROLE PLAY. I DON’T WANNA PLAY HOUSE OR PLAY WIFE. I’D RATHER BE IT. SOMETHING SERIOUS GOES ON IN HIS LIFE SHE VIRTUALLY HAS NO SAY IN IT BECAUSE LEGALLY SHE’S NOT PART OF HIM. TO ME SHE’S NO MORE THAN A BABY MOMMA. NOT EVERY BABY MOMMA DOESN’T HAVE THE FATHER OF THE CHILD AROUND. WHAT’S MAKES HER ANY DIFFERENT TO BE IN A MAGAZINE? PLUS I’LL NEVER FORGET HOW SHE STRAIGHT DITCHED THE NORMAL HAR WORKING GUY FOR THE MULTI MILLIONAIRE.
Purpple.. your right, it does start before you sign the paper. Actually I’m not a big fan of marriage myself (not the manufactured version) but when that “much” is at stake I would have something in writing. Marriage is not all about love, its also a good business decision for both parties. Not like someone is taking from another, but just making sure it all goes well.
What’s funny is you never hear anything about Gene Simmions (from kiss) and Shannon, he’s been with her for over 25yrs and have NOT married that woman. Their kids are old and grown now. They didnt need a piece of paper to stick around and alot of other people dont either. I feel you gonna do what your gonna do anyway.
@PURPPLE:
Yep, its definitely a state of mind. Totally agree. They look and seem happy and he seems like a good man thus far. Keep it up Melo!
Lala is a good pick and she doesnt seem like a bird.
Purpple… I know babe.. that’s why I said that! lol
I agree, marriage is a state of mind as well as a conscious state of being followed up with action. It seems as if he’s doing right by her and the child, so good for him.
HOWEVER< the bible does say that a man and a woman should get MARRIED (rather than burn!), and you can’t argue with what God says. He may have bought the house and pay the bills, but he will still be held accountable before Him for not doing the right thing. Eternity is a whole lot longer than this lifetime and everyone needs to realize that keeping your “options open” is not what God intended for you, nor is it worth eternal damnation!!
@PURPPLE
“LOL..no man i didn’t see that but if you thought of me when you was watching my man play im honored.”
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Yeah. I thought of you. You be havin me rollin on here.
Next time you see Ashanti, “honor” me and think of me. You should say to yourself: “My boy ‘Man, I just don’t care’ would plow her to death.” LOL.
That interview is ok I guess but what everyone really wants to know is when is the wedding? Will they ever answer that question?? It seems like marriage is not a priorty anymore.
whut up Joey!! Yhea Kobe got game, but apparently he’s not too damn smart off the court. lol
“O Shyt go head SMDH, a post i can 100% cosign from you today.”
This is one of the BLACK MAN vs BLACK MALE things I am always talking about… Melo is a good man. He is out here doing what alot of these so called rich athletes won’t even do.. Do you see how many athletes are in trouble for non payment of child support or not in their kids lives when there is absolutely no reason to not be?!? Now when a BLACK MALE makes a baby and abandons it he is looked down upon, and rightfully so. However when a good BLACK MAN is doing the right thing and being a good dad you mean to tell me he gets dogged to? That’s not fair to the BLACK MAN doing what he is supposed to do.. A man does not have to be married to love the woman he is with and be a good father to his children.. You do not owe a woman aring because you impregnate her. That’s one of the reasons divorce is so high now – people getting married for the wrong reasons or because a child is on the way. Forced marriages cause bitterness and often end the marriage brutally and scars the children too.. Leave this man be.. Him, Lala and their baby are looking happy and very well.. It’s really noone elses business how they choose to co-exist.. Melo is a GOOD BLACK MAN and that’s fine by me!!
Awww…. these pics are so cute. He’s adorable.
“HOWEVER< the bible does say that a man and a woman should get MARRIED (rather than burn!), and you can’t argue with what God says. ”
God also says divorce and fornecation are sins many times through the bible.. How many people abide by that?!?!
Right right Nina I def feel the business end of things….im with you on the manufactured version of marriage and I hear when people talk about the business end of things but if your man cares about you he will square you away and make sure you will be taken care of, you dont have to be legally married to someone to make them your beneficiary or put them in your will or make arrangements for them to be taken care of. So really, you don’t need the law to designate who gets what, yall can take care of that personally, then she got his child so the child will get $$ if anything happens to melo and him and La aren’t married. He could put a couple mill in a safety deposit box belonging to LaLa or some other form of escrow or something if they smart and dont want to get married, trust if a man wanna take care of you he gonna do it regardless of being married or the law.
@PURPPLE
“Im thinking some people over think this marriage thing though cause alot of times when a man is a good man and he feel like he got his options open alot of time he doesn’t take them. So yeah being married by law scares alot of black men(thats all i know so thats what ill talk about) but they will be with you and take care of you and a lot of times be good to you without being married. If he’s doing that I dont think itll ever make a difference if they get married as long as they both are happy. if they do…heh, good for them but marriage starts before you to court or sign a piece of paper that says your married. Marriage is a state of mind.”
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That’s some true ***** right there. I like that saying “Marriage starts before the papers are signed.” That’s for real.
Oh yeah. Kobe probably still doing a lot of dirt too. That’s my ***** but you know that he is used to getting what he wants without consequences. I can’t honestly say I would be better in his shoes though.
co sign with SMDH….hey, wait a minute, did i just say that????
oh well, and my boy melo went off last night. 33 in the third quarter, tying an NBA record for most points in one quarter with George Gervin. my boy does not get the recognition he deserves, melo is the truth, don’t believe me??? watch him play….
and a major life plus, him and lala are taking care of their responsibility. now although they are not married, they are still a strong family, and thats what you want to raise children around. a lot of times these days, the kid comes up in one-parent households, and do not have a supportive father or mother in his/her life. it’s good to see that melo and lala have decided to make sure this doesnt happen to thier child, or at least so far they have….
PURPPLE–>> i agree with you 100%
Raquel26 i cosign that!
I feel La La on the big house thing…I live in a big home also and at night when my husband is away…I feel like a prisinor in my own home…i take the kids and we lock up in my room.
lol…u got dat man ….man, i just dont care = Ashanti=plowin her to death….got it programmed!
@Nina Knows
just chillin….xoxox’s to u!
She must have did something or acted a certain way that would make him not want to marry her.
Melo dropped 33 points in ONE quarter last night…..damn.
FYI TO ALL THE BIBLE THUMPERS ON HERE:
going to heaven is not based upon whether or not we follow Gods word completely (which we should try to do) going to heaven is based on SALVATION-ACCEPTING AND BELIEVEING THAT JESUS AND GOD ARE 1 AND THE JESUS DIED FOR YOU!!!
mmmk..wit that being said can anyone answer this:
my frind and his girl bn together 4 5 yrs…she use to get crazy mad bc thy didnt have a title (gf/bf) so finally he was like aiight.
NOW he wanna marry her, but she doesnt see the point, she said husband and wife are just a TITLE..can som1 plz explain her logic?!?!
gotdaymit SMDH i can’t disagree with you nodda bit!
Cute couple…are they married…I don’t remember hearing that…
Anyway, how long will Carmelo have the cornrows? *sigh* I thought Iverson had that on lock!
“Joey Kobe aint learn shyt…he’s just “chillin” at this moment..Kobe ego can never be deflated”
Kobe is a perfect example of what I am saying here.. Everyone is like GET MARRIED – well Kobe did get married and what happened to him?? He clearly wasn’t ready to and his career suffered and could have been ended for it!! Now he ran out and married that young girl cause her mother was threatening legal issues with her age and their sexual activities and look what happened?!? If Kobe were ready to be married I doubt he would have been up in that hotel room with that teenage white girl!! You cannot make a man get married for the wrong reasons because when he does he always ends up doing dumb ***** – just like Kobe..
“She must have did something or acted a certain way that would make him not want to marry her.”
Let the ignorance begin:
HOWEVER< the bible does say that a man and a woman should get MARRIED (rather than burn!), and you can’t argue with what God says
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Well considering a white man wrote the bible, I would say people should do what’s right in their heart. Aint *****ody going to hell or gonna “burn” for not putting a ring on it. But something bad might happen if you do, and dont take care of your responsibilties. I dont know what got people more confused beyonce or the bible.
oh *****, I know its coming…. lol. so what!
I’m so tired of celebrities parading their children around with their boyfriends and girlfriends like it’s OKAY! When is someone going to celebrate MARRIAGE before children….Thank God for Obama..Perhaps he will be a role model for the hood.
@SMDH- Hey sis! Glad to see you still around. I like the positive thoughts, keep it coming!… I mainly admire that they are raising their child together, as any couple with kids should try to share responsibility of raising their families, it shouldn’t just be on the woman….Today is a great day!………
co- sign with SMDH… but then again i got jumped on for co-signing but eff that stupid mirror person with the 101 different screen names … smdh is always right as far as im concerned and anybody dont like it too bad . I aint looking for no response just giving my comment like thats what this board is for. Dowsnt take marriage to be a good father and be there to raise your kids!
Man Kobe fate as an infinity azzhole was sealed when he was on that MTV..you think you know but you have no idea true life thing where they take you through a day in the celebrities life and Kobe was on there when he first got married, he went to Japan or somewhere and the whole time he kept braggin on his marriage then holla to the camera, yeah yall see this ring, that means yall groupies aint got nothing coming or something like that…i said in less than a year WATCH kobe be caught cheating…and daym if he aint cheat times 100 about a year later!
MARRIAGE IZ SOME BULL***** ANYWAYZ CUZ DEEZ *****Z STILL GON DO WHAT THEY WANNA DO REGARDLESS! I MEAN I KNOW YOU’RE SUPPOSE TO GET MARRIED AND STUFF BUT IT’S NOT REQUIRED EVEN IF YOU GOT A KID TOGETHER. MY MOTHER’S BEEN MARRIED FOR 2O YEARS TO A MAN WHO DOESN’T EVEN LOVE HER AND SHE REFUSES TO LEAVE HIM CUZ HE’S A GOOD “CHRISTIAN” MAN. SHE LOVES HIM BUT HE TREATS HER LIKE *****! SO I’LL BE DAMNED IF I EVER GET MARRIED CUZ I REALLY FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE IS A BUSINESS DEAL AND IT’S MORE ABOUT WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE ON THE OUTSIDE WIT DEM RINGS AN *****! BUT IT AIN’T ABOUT LOVE AN HAPINESS NO MORE WE’VE LOST THAT ASPECT OF IT AND TOO MANY PEOPLE ARE MARRYING FOR CONVIENCE AND THAT’S NOT COOL!!!
Yes it is nice to see a man who is taking responsibility for his family and doing right by his child’s mother, however if something were to happen to him….LaLa would have no claim to anything there are more reasons for marriage than just to say you have a piece of paper…I don’t know if I could be with someone who thinks Im good enough to sleep with but not good enough to marry…
I never hear Melo getting the basketball props he deserves, maybe his performance last night will get it going…
Purpple and SMDH… making good sense ladies.
Purp, I agree with you on that one too, it dont take a piece of paper for him to do what he need to do. I guess that was for the cop-outs that need a judge to tell em how to take care of theirs.
LOL Nina,hey im just gonna go with… if your married and you mean it…Great! If your not married and you mean it..Great also!
I’m so tired of celebrities parading their children around with their boyfriends and girlfriends like it’s OKAY! When is someone going to celebrate MARRIAGE before children….Thank God for Obama..Perhaps he will be a role model for the hood.”
Well I choose to celebrate the BLACK MAN being responsible and being a good father to his child especially in a culture where alot of brothas with his money and stature are not! There out there flying through all the white women they can while making their childrens mothers fight them in court for what their children deserve…
And its interesting that you should bring up Obama cuase his parents were not married, in fact his fahter abandoned him – yet look how he turned out!! This man turned out better than the children of some married couples do!!
SMDH I agree, if you force a man to get married, u aint got shyt commin….
Purpple.. damn I remember that stupid ***** on MTV too.
“they are in a committed relationship”
What the hell is more of a commitment than marriage?
i’m not hatin i’m not married and i have a child w/someone. people make personal choices about that kind of thing.
But i hate it when ppl say oh it doesnt matter they are commited. aint nothin more commited than signing on the line. Her man (and mine) could call tomorrow and say to have her stuff out in 30 days, hes now “committed” to someone else. Marriage is serious (i know i aint ready) and its definitely NOT the same as co-habitatin.
AS FOR CARMELO AND LALA, I DON’T THINK HE EVER GON MARRY HER AND WHY SHOULD HE? HE ALREADY GOT EVERYTHING HE NEED AND IF THEY HAPPY THEN THEY DON’T NEED TO GET MARRIED CUZ I DON’T CARE WHAT *****ODY SAY AFTER THE WEDDING AND THE PRENUP *****’S START TRIPPIN!!! *****’S START GETTIN THAT TRAPPED FEELIN AND START FEELIN OLD, THAT’S WHY MOST MARRIAGES DON’T LAST!
Nina im glad you started the Bible saga cause i was just about to ask….So what if you dont believe in the bible????
cyber bff be in my head!
the bible does clearly states that to not be married, yet to live together is a sin. to fornicate, and to shack is a sin. however, marriage is a LASTING bond between man and woman, and divorce is not to be upheld by god’s word. so, in a sense, you are choosing the lesser of two evils. im saying that anyone is judging, but to call lala and melo out on not being married, you are overlooking the fact that they are still abiding by god’s word, and being a family and raising their child-together. everyone sins, and although god looks down upon it, he knows that we will do it. he stills has unconditional love for us, so why is it that we can’t have unconditional love for one another. to the people on here that say that essence is glorifying children being birth out of wedlock and shacking, they aren’t. they are trying to display the RIGHT way to raise a family. even the examples in the bible (david and paul, for example) professed that their savior is Jesus Christ, and they had righteous hearts. but their behavior was not always lined up with gods word. yet, in stil, god choose them to be examples, and to teach US lessons. so, if you are upset that essence is using them as an example because they are not married, then you would have to be mad at some of the things that are in the bible. point blank. when it comes down to it, ALL OF US have sinned and come short of the glory. i know i have. but if your are trying, the father reconizes that. if your heart is a righteous one, god notices that too….
“Yes it is nice to see a man who is taking responsibility for his family and doing right by his child’s mother, however if something were to happen to him….LaLa would have no claim to anything there are more reasons for marriage than just to say you have a piece of paper…I don’t know if I could be with someone who thinks Im good enough to sleep with but not good enough to marry…”
Sure she would. She has his child. His child would be all set. I am sure Lala has her own and that Melo has taken care of her as well. They are also common law married if I am correct. She’ll be fine. She has her own money as well!!!
to afiya…
carmelo cut the corn rows off at the beginning of the year. he’s rocking the grown man fade these days. lol…
didnt dwayne wade get caught creepin on his ol lady
@SMDH
VERY good points. Lets not give the man more excuses for him not to raise his child…married or not, he does have a responsibility to his seed…
You can’t trust everything in the Bible, It also says eating shrimp is a sin.
Marriage is being recognized by your community as being in a committed relationship along with any financial dowries or family arrangements.
Institutionalized marriage is signing a piece of paper in order for your marriage to be recognized as valid, or law.
SMDH.. I agee. In other words in this case. Blood is thicker than paper. and if something happened to him… her and lil man are alright. To think she wouldnt get *****, is foolish. But Melo aint going nowhere anyway! lol
Purpple… Girl I tried not to say *****, but I had to. These bible bloggers get on my last nerve sometime. Like being on bossip is a holy thing to do. hypocritical hussies! lol
He sure did Joey….
“Her man (and mine) could call tomorrow and say to have her stuff out in 30 days, hes now “committed” to someone else..”
Suprise boo boo: HE CAN DO THIS TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIED TOO!!!
David H*****ellhoff just had his wife of almost 20 years thrown out of his house.. Now you would think after 20 years that house would be here’s but not at all.. The fact is when a man is tired of you he is tired of you and if he wants you out of his life – you’re gone!! As his wife you may get a house if he’s very wealthy but for the most part you sell your *****ets, split them and move on. If you’re both successful or both not successful you tend to leave with what you came with..
maybe she is not hung up on the “illusion” of being married thats him and her bi obviously she aint trippn off that ish like most people in the industry who getn married 4 the sake of saying they married and not 4 real love the husband & kid is the hottest accessory these past 2 yrs and most stars are really caught up in the hype i tell u 1 thing she looks more happy with him not being married then Bey look with Jay-Z! do YOUR thing LaLa and Mello dont worry bout the haters!
lmao Nina, Melo is in that for the long haul…she be right with him a lot of times when they come here and party etc….
@ SMDH
This is one of the BLACK MAN vs BLACK MALE things I am always talking about… Melo is a good man. He is out here doing what alot of these so called rich athletes won’t even do.. Do you see how many athletes are in trouble for non payment of child support or not in their kids lives when there is absolutely no reason to not be?!? Now when a BLACK MALE makes a baby and abandons it he is looked down upon, and rightfully so. However when a good BLACK MAN is doing the right thing and being a good dad you mean to tell me he gets dogged to? That’s not fair to the BLACK MAN doing what he is supposed to do.. A man does not have to be married to love the woman he is with and be a good father to his children.. You do not owe a woman aring because you impregnate her. That’s one of the reasons divorce is so high now – people getting married for the wrong reasons or because a child is on the way. Forced marriages cause bitterness and often end the marriage brutally and scars the children too.. Leave this man be.. Him, Lala and their baby are looking happy and very well.. It’s really noone elses business how they choose to co-exist.. Melo is a GOOD BLACK MAN and that’s fine by me!!
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You are on point today!!!
That was some real *****. People often get mad when we as black women state our opinions on the ***** that some black men do. A lot of people don’t establish the difference between a person who calls himself a man, and an actual man. I really agree with you about people getting married for the wrong reasons. Especially when it’s just for a child. People are basically saying you have to get married if a baby is on the way. That is so stupid to me because now you have a child growing up in a household with two parents who probably hate each other beyond a sexual relationship. That’s hard to go through as a child, and its not fair. My suggestion, is WATCH WHO YOU’RE HAVING SEX WITH… CHANCES ARE, A BABY MAY BE A RESULT DEPENDING ON THE SITUATION. SO CHOOSE YOUR MATES WISELY.
Thats ANOTHER THING ladies…IF YOU HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY…WHATS THE PROBLEM?
@PURPPLE
oh ok i thought so..thanks!
LA LA, I come lay with you if you scared….
pm
You can’t trust everything in the Bible, It also says eating shrimp is a sin.
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ROFL… You not suppose to eat pork either. All them christians sin, especially on sundays when they put that fat back in them greens. lol
sure babe
If they like it I love it but WWJD? Shakin up brings hurtful Karma. I say be bigger than the norm
awwwww how cute. they are a beautiful family
she locks herself and her son in their bedroom?! does this not strike others as odd..how can you be scared of your home? weird.
And a bedroom reserved just for one person’s clothes? that is that n**a activity I speak of
@PURPPLE
“Thats ANOTHER THING ladies…IF YOU HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY…WHATS THE PROBLEM?”
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See, that’s why I like you. You are real ma. You goin get some ***** started with that last comment though.
Yeah, I remember that MTV show too. Damn, that was like a decade ago or something. You good. That ***** was only saying that ***** for the camera.
Like I said though, I ain’t mad at Kobe cause a lot of *****s wouldn’t turn nothing down if they were in his place. Oh, and the ***** in Colorado was lying her fat ***** off too.
wHAT i DON’T UNDERSTAND AND SOMEONE MAY BE ABLE TO EXPLAIN THIS TO ME IS WHY DO PEOPLE GO SO HARD ON DIDDY FOR WHAT HE DOES, BUT WITH LALA IT’S OKAY SHE’S NOT CAUGHT UP IN THE ILLUSION OF MARRIAGE? SHE SEEMS TO BE CAUGHT UP IN THE ILLUSION OF BEING A FIANCE THOUGH?
PURPPLE
Thats ANOTHER THING ladies…IF YOU HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY…WHATS THE PROBLEM?
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EXACTLY!!!! Cant *****ody take your *****, if you got your own.
Find out what I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T really means… and not the lil boostie version….lol
“Oh, and the ***** in Colorado was lying her fat ***** off too.”
Actually – when Kobe issued his apology after the civil case was settled he all but admitted to everything that girl said happened! Now don’t get me wrong I KNOW white women can set out to target black men/males in situations like this. But wrong is wrong and right is right – and Kobe did what that girl said he did. I hate to say it but he did.
@ Nina Knows,
“You not suppose to eat pork either. All them christians sin, especially on sundays when they put that fat back in them greens.”
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@LADY ARCHITECT
“wHAT i DON’T UNDERSTAND AND SOMEONE MAY BE ABLE TO EXPLAIN THIS TO ME IS WHY DO PEOPLE GO SO HARD ON DIDDY FOR WHAT HE DOES, BUT WITH LALA IT’S OKAY SHE’S NOT CAUGHT UP IN THE ILLUSION OF MARRIAGE? SHE SEEMS TO BE CAUGHT UP IN THE ILLUSION OF BEING A FIANCE THOUGH?”
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Now you know you are going to get some ***** started with that one. Ain’t no difference but they probably goin try to say how Diddy got “x” amount of children and *****. And how it’s multiple baby mamas and *****.
Granted La La just got one baby daddy…. for now.
They can stay engaged forever. It doesn’t matter she had his baby.
Now the only thing that bothers me about that statement is that she have to lock her son & herself in the bedroom. What happened to a secruity system? If things are that “overwhelming” then downsize.
Lady Architect…..
Girl come on now… LaLa dont have kids spread around everywhere by differnt men. Claiming some and not all of them, *****ing jumpoffs, etc. Lala and Melo aint ***** like Stanky Diddy and them hoes he got those kids by. Melo never said he would never marry Lala, but Diddy sure said he wouldnt marry Kim.
I get your point, but Diddy was a horrible example.
SMDH… i know thats right about Obama, hell his father left him at a young age and im glad he had the sense to want to do the right thing> which is a damn slap in the face to these simpleton liberals who say a kid wont amount to nothing being raised by a single parent. Single parent and being President that just goes to show you people shouldnt listen to what others say be the best you can be single damn parent or not, but im glad to see him there for his kid married or not!
“EXACTLY!!!! Cant *****ody take your *****, if you got your own.”
AMEN!!! Nothing beats having your own!! That’s the SISTA’S ANTHEM!! Get your own, girls!!
@SMDH
“Actually – when Kobe issued his apology after the civil case was settled he all but admitted to everything that girl said happened! Now don’t get me wrong I KNOW white women can set out to target black men/males in situations like this. But wrong is wrong and right is right – and Kobe did what that girl said he did. I hate to say it but he did”
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No boo. Kobe said he committed “adultery,” not “rape.” That’s too different things.
Not only did the woman’s story not add up. The prosecutors are the ones that decided to drop the case. WHEN HAVE YOU EVER SEEN THAT? AND the woman’s friends and family were ready to testify AGAINST HER. LOL. You can look it up.
She was a lie and the prosecution even recognized this. Period.
lmao at them still using the word “fiance”. she got that ring on like it means something. it’s great for melo to hang in there but damn is obama the only married person we can do a family article on?
“i love her cuz she got her own”…..
there nothing more attractive ladies, than being truly independent…..
“wHAT i DON’T UNDERSTAND AND SOMEONE MAY BE ABLE TO EXPLAIN THIS TO ME IS WHY DO PEOPLE GO SO HARD ON DIDDY FOR WHAT HE DOES, BUT WITH LALA IT’S OKAY SHE’S NOT CAUGHT UP IN THE ILLUSION OF MARRIAGE? SHE SEEMS TO BE CAUGHT UP IN THE ILLUSION OF BEING A FIANCE THOUGH?”
Cause Diddy is just plain ole nasty! And I can’t even beleive Kim kept having children for him after seeing what he was like. He’s nasty and I’d have been to scared I’d catch something by having unprotected sex with him..
@NINA KNOWS
“Girl come on now… LaLa dont have kids spread around everywhere by differnt men. Claiming some and not all of them, *****ing jumpoffs, etc. Lala and Melo aint ***** like Stanky Diddy and them hoes he got those kids by. Melo never said he would never marry Lala, but Diddy sure said he wouldnt marry Kim.
I get your point, but Diddy was a horrible example.”
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ha ha ha.
We all can have one child out of wedlock before becoming a “horrible example.”
@Lady Architect,
I think the fundamental difference between people’s reaction to Melo vs. Diddy is that Diddy’s blatant indifference towards Kim Porter and the other women in his life.
LOL@man….yeah he turned me all the way off straight braggin to the camera, thats not something you have to brag on, like he had to make a point to show everyone how much he loved his wife.
you know its a shame but cir*****stantial elements kill a ***** every time….the fact he did her in de butt raw, she was a white girl etc just did him in, it was all the cir*****stantial shyt that made Kobe situation so much worse, and he know he in the public eye…that nig had no tact, respect, cl***** or nuttin bout his dyck, just none!
@SMDH
“Cause Diddy is just plain ole nasty! And I can’t even beleive Kim kept having children for him after seeing what he was like. He’s nasty and I’d have been to scared I’d catch something by having unprotected sex with him..”
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That’s cause Kim nasty too. “Birds of a feather…”
“AMEN!!! Nothing beats having your own!! That’s the SISTA’S ANTHEM!! Get your own, girls!!”
Im with yall..SISTA’S ANTHEM!! Yes..most of us always have our own!! Now yall talking about my kinda ish right here..sistas it’s not cl*****y depending on a man..and it aint cute!! And please dont attempt to purchase it if you know you cant afford it! Cause knockoffs and rentals can be spotted very easily!
Hey I aint say nothing bout diddy other than he a freaky ***** and goes both ways….How can Diddy be wrong if all the women all it? I dont see the problem.
I meant if all the women allow it, I dont see the problem.
lol @ her still only being his fiancee. It’s been how many years since she got that ring? Face it La La…dude ain’t ever gonna marry yo azz! smh
@PURPPLE
“yeah he turned me all the way off straight braggin to the camera, thats not something you have to brag on, like he had to make a point to show everyone how much he loved his wife.
you know its a shame but cir*****stantial elements kill a ***** every time….the fact he did her in de butt raw, she was a white girl etc just did him in, it was all the cir*****stantial shyt that made Kobe situation so much worse, and he know he in the public eye…that nig had no tact, respect, cl***** or nuttin bout his dyck, just none!”
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LOL. Of course he didn’t. He didn’t expect for that ***** to get out. He just ran into a money hungry, lyin ***** *****.
Imagine what some of these other *****s have done and it just ain’t get out yet. The Lakers of the 80’s had permanent p*****es to the PlayBoy mansion ma.
Not an excuse, just gotta keep ***** in perspective.
Nina Knows,
IT SEEMS LIKE A DOUBLE STANDARD IN WHICH IT ALWAYS HAPPENS THAT WAY. DID PEOPLE FORGET HOW LALA STRAIGHT LEFT THE WORKING CL***** GUY THAT WAS ABOUT TO MARRY HER FOR CARMELO. WOULD SHE HAVE DONE THE SAME IF HE WASN’T A NBA PLAYER? ALSO AT ONE POINT DIDDY DID SAY HE WAS GONNA MARRY KIM WHEN HE WAS READY. ON TOP OF THAT WHY THE WOMEN WHO HAVE A CHILD BY HIM ARE CONSIDERED HOES? HOW DO YOU KNOW THEY DIDN’T CARE ABOUT HIM? ON TOP OF THAT HE TAKES VERY GOOD CARE OF HIS CHILDREN AND THEIR MOTHERS. HONESTLY YOU CAN’T SAY FOR A FACT THAT CARMELO IS NOT SCREWING SOME JUMPOFFS OF HIS OWN JUST BECAUSE HE POSES WITH LALA ON SOME MAGS. LIKE A SAID IT’S A DOUBLE STANDARD.
“No boo. Kobe said he committed “adultery,” not “rape.” That’s too different things.
Not only did the woman’s story not add up. The prosecutors are the ones that decided to drop the case.”
They dropped the case because SHE wouldn’t testify due to feeling that the case has turned on her. Without her, they really couldn’t move forward.
“WHEN HAVE YOU EVER SEEN THAT?”
Again when the witness is not cooperating it happens all the time.
“AND the woman’s friends and family were ready to testify AGAINST HER. LOL. You can look it up.”
Yeah cause she did some stupid ***** like talking about it to them afterwards but there were plenty of friends ready to testify positively about her character as well.
“She was a lie and the prosecution even recognized this. Period.”
To each his own however I read his statement and it sounds like he acknowledged being in the wrong to me as do others.. I believe he raped this girl. Now I am nto saying I believe he grabbed her, threw her down and had his way with her but I do believe that girl said no and asked him to stop several times.. Sorry boo boo – but I do..
@LADY ARCHITECT
“IT SEEMS LIKE A DOUBLE STANDARD IN WHICH IT ALWAYS HAPPENS THAT WAY. DID PEOPLE FORGET HOW LALA STRAIGHT LEFT THE WORKING CL***** GUY THAT WAS ABOUT TO MARRY HER FOR CARMELO. WOULD SHE HAVE DONE THE SAME IF HE WASN’T A NBA PLAYER? ALSO AT ONE POINT DIDDY DID SAY HE WAS GONNA MARRY KIM WHEN HE WAS READY. ON TOP OF THAT WHY THE WOMEN WHO HAVE A CHILD BY HIM ARE CONSIDERED HOES? HOW DO YOU KNOW THEY DIDN’T CARE ABOUT HIM? ON TOP OF THAT HE TAKES VERY GOOD CARE OF HIS CHILDREN AND THEIR MOTHERS. HONESTLY YOU CAN’T SAY FOR A FACT THAT CARMELO IS NOT SCREWING SOME JUMPOFFS OF HIS OWN JUST BECAUSE HE POSES WITH LALA ON SOME MAGS. LIKE A SAID IT’S A DOUBLE STANDARD.”
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Uh oh… Here, take this bulletproof vest as I transport you to an underground bunker.
Wooo…Lawd…
This is too much house! I hope they have a cleaning CREW…
THEY ALL LOOK HAPPY…
“you know its a shame but cir*****stantial elements kill a ***** every time….the fact he did her in de butt raw, she was a white girl etc just did him in, it was all the cir*****stantial shyt that made Kobe situation so much worse, and he know he in the public eye…that nig had no tact, respect, cl***** or nuttin bout his dyck, just none!””
And then went home and his wife took him right back and even got pregnant for him twice afterwards. Unbelieveable. I must say when you have money you can get away with ALOT!!!
@SMDH
“To each his own however I read his statement and it sounds like he acknowledged being in the wrong to me as do others.. I believe he raped this girl. Now I am nto saying I believe he grabbed her, threw her down and had his way with her but I do believe that girl said no and asked him to stop several times.. Sorry boo boo – but I do..”
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ROFLMAO!!!
Ok. I wonder why:
the “rape victim” didn’t “cooperate.”
her speaking to friends and family was detrimental.
she “felt the case turned against her.”
she discussed monetary settlements with friends.
sperm from “multiple sources” in her panties. (WTF?)
I know you aren’t a “real person” anyway so I won’t go back and forth but you don’t need to be as predictable as you are. SMH.
Man you aint lying, I feel you, regular guys are enough to deal with, especially attractive ones, throw in money and fame and its a wrap!
Man, I just don’t care,
i DON’T NEED A VEST. iT SEEMS LIKE THIS BLOG IS MUCH MORE MATURE THAN OTHERS SO I’M HAVING A MATURE CONVO WITH PEOPLE IN THIS ROOM. NOT SAYING THAT DIDDY OR LALA N MELO ARE RIGHT OR WRONG IN THIS SITUATION.
SMDH, I said she either love kobe to death, love his money to death or its a combo of both.
See, there’s a certain level of respect a man should have for hisself and Kobe ego don’t allow him to have that level of respect, not just on cheating but on snitching, opening his mouth at the wrong time. Its a whole host of things Kobe is too arrogant to understand.
There should be a healthy fear on both sides to me, Vanessa must had not put it down enough for him to think he can do shyt that trifling then bring his azz home…..
Now if they have an open marriage and Kobe is allowed to mess around…by all means…proceed..but something tells me Vanessa didnt think it was that open…
@PURPPLE
“Man you aint lying, I feel you, regular guys are enough to deal with, especially attractive ones, throw in money and fame and its a wrap!”
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Well damn. That makes me 2/3rds of “enough to deal with.” LOL.
LOL..OL@ man….which element are you lacking?
hey viv @ i just cant believe i am saying this but here goes SMDH YOU GOT THE CONVO ON LOCK THIS AM!! I COSIGN AND AGREE 100%
@PURPPLE
“LOL..OL@man…which element are you lacking?”
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I ain’t famous at all. I don’t even like for people to have my picture LOL.
@Lady Architect,
“i DON’T NEED A VEST. iT SEEMS LIKE THIS BLOG IS MUCH MORE MATURE THAN OTHERS SO I’M HAVING A MATURE CONVO WITH PEOPLE IN THIS ROOM. NOT SAYING THAT DIDDY OR LALA N MELO ARE RIGHT OR WRONG IN THIS SITUATION.”
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You know, I noticed that too. So far it’s been a good exchange, and even though there’s disagreement, it hasn’t degenerated into name-calling.
Hi Oh Lawdy!!!
How you doin’ today mama?!?!
@ Purpple
I agree with you. It’s so true.
@ Man I don’t care
You are funny!
VIV I CAN CHANGE THAT IF YOU WANT ME TO, I THINK TALLEY B LOOKS LIKE MIGHTY JOE YOUNG!!!!
I AM GOOD VIV!!!!!
Whats wrong with getting married? Why must people make excuses for not getting married? Not p*****ing judgment on LaLa and Mello, but if a man thinks I’m gone sit around and wash his funky drawers, have his babies, clean his house, and cook his food and the best he can do is call me “wifey” he got another thing coming.
I’m sorry, but I can’t play house. I can’t be your babymama. I want more than that. I need to be married.
*and I’m waiting on people to come wit some slick ***** comments about why marriage “aint all that”*
HEY AUNT VIV
MissydaCrunksta,
AGREED.
“i DON’T NEED A VEST. iT SEEMS LIKE THIS BLOG IS MUCH MORE MATURE THAN OTHERS SO I’M HAVING A MATURE CONVO WITH PEOPLE IN THIS ROOM. NOT SAYING THAT DIDDY OR LALA N MELO ARE RIGHT OR WRONG IN THIS SITUATION.”
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You know, I noticed that too. So far it’s been a good exchange, and even though there’s disagreement, it hasn’t degenerated into name-calling.
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CO-SIGN!!! I am actually enjoying the intelligent dialogue going on in here..Some of yall are smart and before, you couldnt tell..keep going..these are the topics that have substance..
LOL Oh Lawdy!!!!
That gravie is hilarious!
I believe that Carmello’s “advisors” are telling him not to get married. This will hurt his marketing oppurtunities to a segment that he clearly appeals to (young women).
This advice was also given to a young Kobe Bryant and to Lebron James. Kobe ignored the advise and caused a rift with his father. Lebron has followed the advice although he has been with his baby mama for a long period of time.
Man, I just don’t care,
NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY, BUT IT MAKES A LOT OF SENSE. LEBRON JAMES HAS A VERY PRETTY GIRLFRIEND AS WELL. ISN’T SHE A FIANCE TOO?
Lady Architect …
No babe, you dont need a vest. I’m not “attacking” you, (I’ll ignore the childish instigating in here) we just conversing… but I feel you. I just think her situation is a lil diff than diddys. I agree with the marraige aspect on both their parts. I totally get what you saying and at the end of the day, (if you believe in it) neither one of them are married. That part I get.
and the reason why I consider kim a hoe (in my opinion) is because I doubt she would put up with all that second hand bull***** if he wasnt who he was. In my eyes thats w*****ing yourself out. But she deals with it, just like the other women. If they dont have a problem with… neither do I. But I can still call it like I see it.
This seems fake. If you’ll look at the family photos posted on the walls, its the same photos that are featured in the photo shoot. What’s that all about, seriously?
She probably doesn’t live there with him, and they probably aren’t even together anymore. They probably “front” like their still together becasue they don’t want to damage Carmelo’s “clean-cut” image.
“I know you aren’t a “real person” anyway so I won’t go back and forth but you don’t need to be as predictable as you are. SMH.’
I believe I said further up to each his own. You believe what you choose to and I’ll believe what I choose to!! However, how cl*****ic that though I never made any insults to you and respected your feelings about the case your ignorant ape ***** just couldn’t resist making one to me and all because I refuse to believe that the very white girls your sons of *****es worship are always out to get you as well!! I’m not buying it, jack*****!!
Black males, especially with money, carry and unhealty sense of entitlement.. That coupled up with this undying obsession he has with the white woman makes a sista like me believe he is capable of anything it comes to getting in her pants.. If you have an issue with that thank the obsessed with white woman black male who makes things like this easy to believe about his sorry white woman stalker *****!!!
So I’ll let it go too now because we have both stated out opinions and it’s done with!! Everyone knows Kobe raped that girl but the black male who is torn between wanting to believe white women are obsessed with him yet knowing its actually him who is obsessed with them!!!
“Whats wrong with getting married? Why must people make excuses for not getting married? Not p*****ing judgment on LaLa and Mello, but if a man thinks I’m gone sit around and wash his funky drawers, have his babies, clean his house, and cook his food and the best he can do is call me “wifey” he got another thing coming.
I’m sorry, but I can’t play house. I can’t be your babymama. I want more than that. I need to be married.”
Well honey then I would definitely recommend that you get married!!!
We are just saying its not for everyone and it damn sure is not a prerequesite to being a good man to a good woman and good father to your children..
@LADY ARCHITECT
“NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY, BUT IT MAKES A LOT OF SENSE. LEBRON JAMES HAS A VERY PRETTY GIRLFRIEND AS WELL. ISN’T SHE A FIANCE TOO?”
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Oh yeah ma. Lebron will marry his baby mama after the summer of 2010. At that point he will be 25-26 yrs old and will have signed new contracts with the NBA and NIKE that are expected to be in the $200 mil range combined.
He’s waiting until then. Carmello contracts expire in 2011…
Carmelo lost for marrying “lala”
Nina Knows,
I FEEL YOU. I DON’T THINK LALA WOULD’VE BEEN CHILLIN AROUND POPPING OUT A KID AND PLAYING HOUSE IF HE WASN’T A MILLIONNAIRE. SHE DIDN’T DO ANY OF THAT WITH THE LAST GUY SHE WAS ENGAGED TO.
I THINK CARMELO IS ALSO SCARED TO ASK FOR A PRENUP BECAUSE HE THINKS SHE WOULD BE OFFENDED. I DOUBT HE LOOKS AT HER AS A GOLDDIGGER, BUT JUST SEEING FROM THE PAST HOW MUCH THESE NBA WIVES WALK AWAY WITH IN THE SETTLEMENTS PROBABLY SCARES HIM.
@SMDH
“Everyone knows Kobe raped that girl but the black male …..”
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LOL. Everyone but the white prosecutor huh? Oh, and her white family and friends.
Whooooweee…a bunch of yall have just created your own version of the bible eh? Whatever is right in your own eyes does not equal God’s Way.
They appear to be a happy couple, but the life of an athletes wife can be very lonely. The way I read into Lala she’s afraid…discussing being alone and locking herself and her son in the bedroom. I’m sure they have security and camera’s. There are so many women who would sale their souls and happiness to be with a professional athlete.
Doug Christie’s wife traveled with him to *****ure that he didn’t get any out of state casual sex. I wonder if they’re still married? Many atheletes wives settle with open relationships/marriage. Anythang’ for the bling…
Im confused on what playing house means, if your not married but handling your responsibilities how are you playing house?LOL. I guess you fake takin care of your baby and your house, i guess all thats not real.LMAO.
I guess when slaves was jumping the broom and couldn’t legally get married they was playin house.
LOL, the bible dont tell me God’s way. I am a God the universe speak to me directly! Up your mental game please.
@PURPPLE
“Im confused on what playing house means, if your not married but handling your responsibilities how are you playing house?LOL. I guess you fake takin care of your baby and your house, i guess all thats not real.LMAO.
I guess when slaves was jumping the broom and couldn’t legally get married they was playin house.”
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Awwwwww *****. People was just talking about how nice it was in here and stuff.
@purpple…you are a God huh? lol…
getting a ring is the most important thing in a relationship I’ve seen many women spend 5- ten plus years with a man build a house create a family than he dies and his family, sister, brother, mother come and take everything because by law you don’t have any say so over is belongings. When you create all these things with a man and he does not wife you you’re not entitled to anything if something happens to him. and you can think that he’s family is really cool with you and love you and than when something happens than the greed kicks in or his sister that never liked you takes his car half the money in the bank make you sale the house and the furniture and leave you with nothing but memories. it’s a dangerous game playing house and you better remember playing like a wife is not being a wife in the court eyes your just a girlfriend and it’s only certain states that do that common law stuff. I’ve seen it happen at least five times don’t ever think it can’t happen to you.
Beside like grandma use to say why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free it’s so true.
Bottom line, shacking up is sin and banging outside of marriage is sin. God’s Word doesnt change no matter what Essence magazine is promoting.
@eveinthegarden….aren’t you?
God words changed when them white mens wanted to change it.LOL at people thinking the bible, especially the christian one is Gods word especially us Afrikans..LOL, im sorry, forgive me.
arent I what purpple? a God? No. There is only one God. I am but His Child. ((You know, the devil thought he was/should be a God too…check your spirit.))
Don’t you bible totters go hating PURPPLE now, im just tell yall what GOD told me….
“LOL. Everyone but the white prosecutor huh? Oh, and her white family and friends.”
Sure along with all the companies that pulled their endorsements – and still have not returned them – and about 65% of the country!!
Again the prosecutor couldn’t move forward without her testimony and you sraight out *****ing lying about her own family being ready to testify against her!! A couple of friends were going to testify about a statement she made at a party… You act as if the whole town was ready to do her in!! Stop lying son!! I mean damn if Kobe is so innocent why do you have to make up ***** to defend him?!?!
LOL – get the hell on, boy!! You’re making me laugh!!
@PURPPLE
You the best.
LMAO eveinthegarden…ok you win cause anything I say will be way over your head so lets just keep this thread peachy cause I dont want to hurt no feelings or ruin any lives. Lawd knows *****s wouldnt know what to do without religion..which has NOTHING to do with SPIRITUALITY.
sorry sweet child of God.
@SMDH
” Everyone but the white prosecutor huh? Oh, and her white family and friends.”
LOL man, heh, im not tryna change anyone’s views(just express my own) so imma leave it alone.
@PURPPLE
if you are a woman than let a man date you for ten plus years never ask you to marry him and now you went from 23 to thirty three and he goes out and get him a pyt and leave ya ***** and you can’t even get half of nothing cus you ain’t his wife. now you got to start over again on the losing stick not me. You leave me run me my check homie I’ll be damn if I let a man suck all my young years away and go off and marry a young ***** not happening. At least if I’m your wife and we divorce than I can’t get half of what you have and start over again. Run my check nicca
…them white mens? Is that your reasoning? Allowing the color of a person to dictate your willingness to acknowledge God is FOOLISH.
LOL@m*****media
I dont need a man’s half of nothin
If a man was to leave me after however long for a PYT or whoever, then it was meant to be and I need to find another focus and man and move on….such is life right?
There are some seriously pyschologically damaged black females in here. What a shame. No, if you arent married you arent commited to that person. Why did you guys have to go and redefine commitment? The law doesnt see La La as *****. She is in a precarious legal situation. She has no title. All she has is child support. She doesnt get SPOUSAL support because she isnt a spouse. But you desperate hoes are willing to settle for anything that shines for a bit.
Why is marrige such an important thing that should be postponed but having a child is nothing? I would think a child would be more of a commitment because thats an actually being that will keep you guys connected for the rest of your lives.
whats good @ Man, Oh Lawdy, SMDH, Aunt Viv, and RE\
LOL@eve…….who said I don’t acknowledge God…because my interpretation of “God” is different from yours thats how you came to that conclusion. Not logical or true.
@NWM*****MEDIA.COM
“if you are a woman than let a man date you for ten plus years never ask you to marry him and now you went from 23 to thirty three and he goes out and get him a pyt and leave ya ***** and you can’t even get half of nothing cus you ain’t his wife. now you got to start over again on the losing stick not me. You leave me run me my check homie I’ll be damn if I let a man suck all my young years away and go off and marry a young ***** not happening. At least if I’m your wife and we divorce than I can’t get half of what you have and start over again. Run my check nicca”
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You make it sound like you try to use your “young years” to get a spouse and attain wealth, and want some some sort of “guarantee” (marriage certificate)to protect that wealth.
At least that how it sounds.
nwm*****smedia.com
@PURPPLE
if you are a woman than let a man date you for ten plus years never ask you to marry him and now you went from 23 to thirty three and he goes out and get him a pyt and leave ya ***** and you can’t even get half of nothing cus you ain’t his wife. now you got to start over again on the losing stick not me. You leave me run me my check homie I’ll be damn if I let a man suck all my young years away and go off and marry a young ***** not happening. At least if I’m your wife and we divorce than I can’t get half of what you have and start over again. Run my check nicca
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We call those Stringers. They string you along and suck away ur youth and when u finnaly get the will to leave them, you are old and used up. If u are with someone a year and he is not talking marraige yet…..MOVE ON!
@Z
“whats good @ Man, Oh Lawdy, SMDH, Aunt Viv, and RE\”
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What’s up beautiful? Damn you looking good in that pic.
Kigali (Check out Shahrazad Ali on You Tube),
I SEE WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM.
LOL, Kigali the law shouldn’t have to make your man look out for you. If you and your man are committed yall can solve that problem. I see securing finances is the definition of commitment huh? Marriage does not = commitment, Mental Marriage = commitment. dont get it twisted.
@ Man
shut up.
SMH I guess the Obamas didn’t relly teach us anything about a man honoring the mother of his child and marrying her, huh? I can’t believe we (primarily women) have set our standards so low that we are will to accept a man that helps us to raise the kids that we make together. I guess we really want to teach our daughters that marriage means nothing, as long as he is involved in the child’s life. When women expect and demand so little, they often get just that.
@purpple~If your ‘interpretation’ leads you to think you are a God then you are not acknowledging God. If you were you wouldnt exalt yourself. Lucifer had the same problem.
lmao, if you are with a man a year and he doesn’t marry you and you move on..look forward to being single for the rest of ya life or in serial monogamy relationships….
Hi Z!!!
@Holla–say that.
@HOLLA
“SMH I guess the Obamas didn’t relly teach us anything about a man honoring the mother of his child and marrying her, huh? I can’t believe we (primarily women) have set our standards so low that we are will to accept a man that helps us to raise the kids that we make together. I guess we really want to teach our daughters that marriage means nothing, as long as he is involved in the child’s life. When women expect and demand so little, they often get just that.”
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Oh, I was about to say something but then I read that last line. LOL.
I agree with you.
LMAO, Lucifer was the devil huh……
My sweet child of God you have no idea what me being a God means so lets just….move on….thanks toots!
I don’t argue religion with Christians.
@ Holla
I demand more and the dudes prefer the girls who demand less. Who will lay up and be with a dude with no commitment.
@Z
Don’t be like that. I been saving up for that fur coat you wanted for Christmas…
You know the one. You probably thought I forgot.
i WONDER IF MANY PEOPLE WOULD’VE BEEN ALL ABOUT “MENTAL COMMITMENT” IF HE WAS A REGULAR GUY AND THEY SHACKED UP IN AN APARTMENT INSTEAD OF A 6BEDROOM HOUSE. I THINK MANY WOULD’VE BEEN SAYING SHE’S FOOLISH ETC. I GUESS AS LONG AS YOU YOU LIVE WITH A WEALTHY MAN AND HAVE HIS CHILD THEN IT’S OKAY TO NOT HAVE A RING OR SHOULD I SAY IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE MARRIED. TECHNICALLY SHE HAS A RING, BUT IT’S PRETTY MUCH EQUAL TO THE LITTLE PROMISE RINGS YOU GET FROM YOUR HIGH SCHOOL BOO, JUST COST MORE.
no that’s not what I’m saying I’m saying a man will use your ***** up than leave you and you have nothing left. I have my own money and own my own business but there’s no way that I gonna be somebody girlfriend and buying houses and cars and all this stuff and he leaves me with the short end of the stick because he’s not entitled to give you anything but a goodbye. That’s what I’m saying take it like you want. But being with a man when your 20 and he knows he has no good intentions for you and than waste 10 years of your life is what’s important to me cause I could have been somewhere else with somebody and been married not strung along.
@Z
“I demand more and the dudes prefer the girls who demand less. Who will lay up and be with a dude with no commitment.”
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Come on now. A dude ain’t going to benefit from no “commitment.” You gotta keep your options open in case something better comes along. Women do the same thing.
@Purpple…why you running? Lets hear some of this “Godly” wisdom–put that foolishness in b/w.
@Purple,
If Carmelo is driving around in one of his many cars and gets into an accident and dies, what the hell do you think will happen to La La ad the kid? That situation isnt a very responsible one. He is not looking out for his child’s future and if he claims to love La La he isnt watching out for her future either. Like any poster said, who is to say that his family, that actually have most of the rights will be good people and give her and the child what they are entitled to?
PURPPLE
lmao, if you are with a man a year and he doesn’t marry you and you move on..look forward to being single for the rest of ya life or in serial monogamy relationships….
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on a serious note. I am not being smart with you or anything. I am sure u have guy friends who u are not intimate with. I want u to go around and ask them how long would it take for them to decide if they would marry a girl or not. See the answers u get. When a man wants u, he KNOWS! 36yo dude told me 1 years to a year and a half. 23yo told me 1 year. 25yo told me one month. lol. U will be surprised. Why should u be made to wait if and when they see sumthin they like, they won’t. Don’t give these men the allowance to waste ur time and thinking oh he needs time to decide. THEY DON’T!
eveinthegarden
cosign with everything that you have said. these folks on here do need to realize that there is a God and he is the ONLY true God. some of these folks are missing the whole point….
@ MAN
How dare u play wiht my emotions! don’t bring the fur coat up UNLESS I AM GETTING IT FOR SURE!
Heeey, wealthy, happy…i dont care, if your happy I love it married or not, dont let anyone pressure you to live up to their standards over technicalities when the gr***** is never greener.
meant wealthy or broke I dont care…
@ purple
I rather be single than to be anyone girlfriend forever I have values that I will not back down on just to say I have a man. only thirsty *****es do that I’m fine with being alone, but I’ll be damn if I let a man waste my life want me to pretend to be his wife and I don’t got no benefits let me be alone than.
@Holla,
You may not like me but you just ended the debate. Thanks. You must be one of the few grown ups at Bossip.
who is to say she aint gonna move on damn maybe just maybe they may marry sometimes men just arent ready right when a kid comes along. If a man stings you along what the hell ever and he gets older some young chick will come along and get his ducks anyway so whatever!
and that’s why men don’t push for this becuase woman always so it don’t matter so why should they care when they can get away with having a free life.
@talley~Amen brotha
@NWM*****MEDIA.COM
“no that’s not what I’m saying I’m saying a man will use your ***** up than leave you and you have nothing left. I have my own money and own my own business but there’s no way that I gonna be somebody girlfriend and buying houses and cars and all this stuff and he leaves me with the short end of the stick because he’s not entitled to give you anything but a goodbye. That’s what I’m saying take it like you want. But being with a man when your 20 and he knows he has no good intentions for you and than waste 10 years of your life is what’s important to me cause I could have been somewhere else with somebody and been married not strung along.”
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Why do you keep mentioning age (20,23 good/30 bad?)? You make it sound like people depreciate in value or something.
How are those 10 years “wasted?” Wouldn’t you have enjoyed those years?
If you aren’t married won’t each of you be leaving with your own things?
Kigali… my comment is to you and you know i usually dont comment to anyone but smdh and nik u but after reading a few of your posts you do make some good points and thats rare up in here so i just had to tell you that!
@Z Maybe ur demanding more from the wrong guys. A man can’t give you what he doesn’t have. You can’t change folks. You can’t make a man who wants to be a playa, a family man. Even if he marries you, there is a good chance that he’ll cheat. Find a quality guy, then demand more.
I feel sorry for her/poor thang. The sauce family sends their sympathy in a ribbon laced gift box
nwm*****smedia.com
@ purple
I rather be single than to be anyone girlfriend forever I have values that I will not back down on just to say I have a man. only thirsty *****es do that I’m fine with being alone, but I’ll be damn if I let a man waste my life want me to pretend to be his wife and I don’t got no benefits let me be alone than.
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amen
@Man
Every year YOU get older u are depreciating in value.
PURPPLE
lmao, if you are with a man a year and he doesn’t marry you and you move on..look forward to being single for the rest of ya life or in serial monogamy relationships….
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I KINDA FEEL WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. I’VE BEEN WITH MY BF GOING ON A YEAR NOW AND I’M NOT REALLY EXPECTING A RING BECAUSE HE KNOWS RIGHT NOW I’M NOT READY FOR IT. I’M TRYING TO GET MYSELF IN A GREAT FINANCIAL *****E OUTSIDE THIS RECESSION AND TRYING TO BECOME A CERTIFIED ARCHITECT ETC. I WILL SAY THAT HE ALREADY KNOWS HE’S NOT CHECKING FOR ANYONE ELSE. IF IT WAS UP TO HIM HE WOULD BE PROPOSING SOMETIME SOON. 3YRS IS MY LIMIT THOUGH AND WE ARE NOT LIVING TOGETHER OR CREATING ANY BABIES UNTIL WE ARE MARRIED. I DO AGREE THAT A LADY SHOULDN’T LEAVE AFTER ONLY A YEAR BECAUSE THERE’S STILL SOME MORE GROWING AND LEARNING, BUT I’M NOT GONNA GIVE YOU THE BENEFITS OF A MARRIAGE AND YOUR JUST MY BF.
As his wife you may get a house if he’s very wealthy but for the most part you sell your *****ets, split them and move on
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@ SMDH
therein lies my point…..
Holla
@Z Maybe ur demanding more from the wrong guys. A man can’t give you what he doesn’t have. You can’t change folks. You can’t make a man who wants to be a playa, a family man. Even if he marries you, there is a good chance that he’ll cheat. Find a quality guy, then demand more.
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I am not stressing. I have been proposed to 3 times in my life and I am only 23. I rather until I meet the right mate and love him. Not be married for the sake of being married.
rather wait*
Sup errybody…
Kagali, thats why Melo should have a joint account, a life insurance policy, and stacks in the safe for her and the baby….
@Purp
I feel you baby girl….
@purple,
“LOL, Kigali the law shouldn’t have to make your man look out for you. If you and your man are committed yall can solve that problem. I see securing finances is the definition of commitment huh? Marriage does not = commitment, Mental Marriage = commitment. dont get it twisted.”
Yes, but in the event that your man dies, it certainly does. In the event that your man goes on a vacation and meets some young tenda, it certainly will. In the event that he accidentally gets someone else pregnant, it certainly will. In the event that he stops playing ball, and isnt able to provide like he used to, the law certainly will get in. All factors you forget to consider. These kinds of things happen ALL the time.
Yes, securing your finances is apart of commitment. Last time I checked the bills and food dont get paid for and bought on understandings and commitment. Your bills need to be paid still, if it doesnt work out, your child still needs to wat, if it doesnt work out. Why do you *****ume that it is going to work out happily ever after between La La and Carmelo? How is Kobe and Vanessa doing? Didnt he cheat? How about Shaq and Shonnie?
What the ***** is mental marriage? Are you retarded? Youre just a desperate black woman who has just given up on what is right. You see the world going in one direction and you dont have the strength of character to stand up for what is right and good no matter out old fashion or unpopular it is.
Girl bye.
Any ways yall people always trying to give yall opions about somebody the pics are cute and they are doing what works for them if it’s meant to be they will get Married eventuly people forget Melo is only 24 years old He was only just turned 19 years old when He meet Lala so HELL NO She can’t force him into Marriage you can’t force No Man into Marriage whether you got Kids or not It will happen when it suppose to happen mind yall business and Theses pic are from the Summer Time BEFORE Melo cut OFF his Braids! He Doesnt have braids anymore oh yeah and yall sideline Ho’s shut trying to start rumors
@Z — Good.God will send you his choice for you.
wow Z with your intellectual conversation,healthy knowledge of relationships, and deep knowledge of politics I could have sworn you were in your 30’s
@Z
“Every year YOU get older u are depreciating in value.”
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Do I really? Can someone confirm this? Is it just me or is it everyone?
***** just like a car the older model the lesser the value aint *****ody checking for it.. men all want the new rides and some do want a old school to drive every now than.
In that last sentence I meant to say TO the Sideline Ho’s shut up trying to gossip and start up Rumors
@REd Tony,
No, that is why Carmelo shouldnt make babies with women he has no interest in commiting to. For him it may not be that huge of a deal because most men dont have his money and there are that many b-***** players out there but there are enough black men and women getting involved in this ***** backward situation that children are always the most *****ed up in.
Kigali
I don’t think I have ever addressed u before….but u have just made yourself my favorite person.
“You see the world going in one direction and you dont have the strength of character to stand up for what is right and good no matter out old fashion or unpopular it is. ” – Kigali
This quote needs to be put on a shirt.
@e.v.e
not running sweets, never that. But last time I checked there wasn’t any etheric law that said I had to get in line with the m*****es or religion, so no point to express how I feel when I already know where you stand per your comments. That would be wasting my breath and finger energy. Im not tryna convert you eve so its all good. dead issue.
@Kigali-
you dont know what arrangements LaLa and Carmelo have, marriage isn’t the only thing that secures you. LOL…in that case there wouldn’t be so many mistresses with trust funds and safety deposit boxes living in houses driving cars just like the wife’s..LOL…ok so marriage is the only thing that can secure a persons mate financially…ok im making mental note of that…..
@Z
thats all good, men get married young, old, all that. I know guys that have no problems getting married and I know guys that don’t believe in traditional marriage and I cant sit here and say that the married peoples relationships are any better or financially secure than the couples who dont sign that piece of paper. Even though those who havnt signed the paper have had their own form of commitment ceremony whether that be religious or spiritual, public or private…so your view and way is the only way?
Me personally, whatever floats your boat, if your holding out and waiting to be married or have strict standard about marriage, hope you succeed, if your with someone and not married and in a long term relationship and your happy, hope you succeed regardless of the societal norm….let me say it how yall can understand on your own terms…just like with your religion…people get to God(happiness, absolution) many different ways..there is no one pathway to God, the road goes in many different directions and pathways that all end at the same destination..Buddha, Jesus, and how ever other many pathways to GOD across the world there may be…..
Sweet and Sour
wow Z with your intellectual conversation,healthy knowledge of relationships, and deep knowledge of politics I could have sworn you were in your 30’s
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lol is this sarcasm?
@ Man
ITS JUST YOU!
@ purple
and when the wife finds out she puts on her repo man hat and takes it back seen it happen
@Shony 15,
If Carmelo is so young, 24, why is he having kids? So you can have kids at any age but you have to be older to get married?
@NWM*****SMEDIA.COM
“***** just like a car the older model the lesser the value aint *****ody checking for it.. men all want the new rides and some do want a old school to drive every now than.”
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Ok, well aren’t the men that leave you just as depreciated?
Maybe I’m reading you wrong but if two people break up that aren’t married wouldn’t he of “wasted” his own years as well?
@Kigali
How do you know he is not commited to her? How do you know what he has aside for her and the baby? Just because you dont agree means its ***** backwards, and it doesnt mean the situation wont work out…There are very few in the world that are not gonna have sex before marriage, its as simple as that…
@LADY ARCHITECT
“BUT I’M NOT GONNA GIVE YOU THE BENEFITS OF A MARRIAGE AND YOUR JUST MY BF.”
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What are these “benefits” that cost the price of marriage?
@Z
MARRY ME!!
Kigali
you wouldn’t understand if I threw it at you with a brick. You havn’t been blessed with any understanding, your reasoning and logical abilities do not extend far from what you learn in school and from the books you read. Your mental abilities out weight your thinking and talking from the heart which in all elevated Human Species is the true seat of the soul. Your Pineal is closed and therefore your level of understanding is limited.
Thank you for visiting PURPPLE, but at this time the fountain of higher learning and understanding is closed until further notice.
Thank you and Please Try Again Later. (in my best professional and courteous digital lady voice)
@ Purple
You don’t have to lecture religion to me. I am well quipped and very knowledgable about all religions. Just out fo curiosity what do you align yourself with? For your comfort I will volunteer I am not christian or any religion for that matter, but I consider myself spiritual. I believe in one absolute God, but not in the church. Thats neither here nor there. I do have a strict standard about marraige just bc it was so drilled in me. In my family it is greatly greatly frowned at. Example: Right now I have a 40 yo old cousin who is engaged. She and her fiance moved in together before the wedding and right now my uncle (her dad) is not speaking to her. Thats how serious it is. My family will *****in excommunicate your *****, if u live in sin. But some ppl don’t have that up bringing….its more slacked. Ioono I just feel its the right thing to do, especially when u are living and procreating with a partner.
Marry Her!! lol But Nice family their baby looks soo Happy!
Purpple… Girl I told you about these crazy ***** bible bloggers.
LaLa is a hot banger of a woman. She only hangs on for the money and we all know this!
Carmelo grew up in the projects of Bmore. He knows she wont get jack unless they are married. At this point he can cut ties and only be responsible for the kid.
I wonder how long *****s gonna let King James continue to pimp them… smh
@Purple,
Actually I do know what arrangements Carmelo and LaLa have. You dont. You just *****ume that he has all these trust funds, and bank accounts, and all that. Why would you *****ume that? When you are married to someone, that state apportions rights and entitlements between the spouses that is set in stone. Anything can happen, LaLa isnt working and making her own money. She is at Carmelo’s mercy and God forbid, if he dies, she will be at his family’s mercy.
If they arent grown up enough to do deal with marriage and all its responsibilities than they shouldnt be having kids.
Why the hell you ***** backward ***** black females view children as less of a commitment and responsibility than marriage. Yall know how to spit them babies out but sitting down and making a mature, responsible, decision about the rest of your life is way out of your purview. Nothing but a bunch of brainless baby machines.
@Z
I have no beef with that. Good to see you stand in your convictions. My family is also very religious, own several churches, My grandparents and those before them were married no divorces, my parents have been married for over 25 years
I understand where you are coming from….
Some of yall are too much I swear…..LOL!
@Z
“You don’t have to lecture religion to me. I am well quipped and very knowledgable about all religions. Just out fo curiosity what do you align yourself with? For your comfort I will volunteer I am not christian or any religion for that matter, but I consider myself spiritual. I believe in one absolute God, but not in the church. Thats neither here nor there. I do have a strict standard about marraige just bc it was so drilled in me. In my family it is greatly greatly frowned at. Example: Right now I have a 40 yo old cousin who is engaged. She and her fiance moved in together before the wedding and right now my uncle (her dad) is not speaking to her. Thats how serious it is. My family will *****in excommunicate your *****, if u live in sin. But some ppl don’t have that up bringing….its more slacked. Ioono I just feel its the right thing to do, especially when u are living and procreating with a partner.”
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I know you don’t want a lot of children. I think we would be ok with two. What do you think?
I’m already looking at some churches where we can get married.
Thank you for visiting PURPPLE, but at this time the fountain of higher learning and understanding is closed until further notice.
Thank you and Please Try Again Later. (in my best professional and courteous digital lady voice)
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ROFL… you a fool girl!! They dont want anything from a fountain of higher learning and understanding, they’ll just settle for some tainted tap water… oops I mean holy water
LOL Kigali…
ok, ok, you know they life that makes you special. I have no prizes to offer. Im happy to admit I have NO IDEA of the personal arrangements they may have with each other….my comments as well as most other normal individuals on here were speculation…I would like to take this Opportunity to undisrespectfully say in the words of the white chick from Baby Mama
“***** I DONT KNOW YOUR LIFE”
whew…moving on
what the hech are you talking about in that third paragraph……
@Red Tony,
I cant make predictions but the likelihood of situations like that working out is slim. If marriages have a high divorce rate, shacking up has an even higher break up rate. Shacking up is even less successful than marriage so why do it?
@NINA KNOWS
“I wonder how long *****s gonna let King James continue to pimp them… smh”
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And the Quran (spelling?)…
I guess it could be worse though. They could not look up to anything.
Kigali (Check out Shahrazad Ali on You Tube),
ARE YOU A LAWYER? IF NOT YOU NEED TO BE ONE CAUSE YOU WOULD BE GOOD AT IT.
@ UKnoWhoIAm I agree.
@ Raquel26 I agree.
IS THIS A CHAT ROOM?
@Nina Knows,
This isnt about the Bible or any religion. Its really about the MEASUREABLE successes of men, women, and children in nuclear families. Men are more productive when married, women have more money when married, children do better in school, are healthier, and better adjusted in two parent homes.
You can consult any sociologist or child pyschologist on that one.
@Man
you are a clown. One step at a time. U talking marriage. I am waiting on my fur coat. Show me you are dependable, then we can talk.
NINNNNA girl I RUNNNNING from the religious shyt, im tryna get around the corner as quick as possible and duck for cover. I hate that i mess up and even bring it up!
@z
“you are a clown. One step at a time. U talking marriage. I am waiting on my fur coat. Show me you are dependable, then we can talk.”
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See, now you are playing with my emotions.
@Red Tony,
And shame on you trying to get free rental *****. You know good and damn well you would want your daugher’s man to put a ring on it. You are the biggest hypocrite on Bossip. The biggest. You tell these black females on here one thing but would tell your daughter or female kin something completely different. Unlike you, I have one rule and one law for everyone because I happen to have the best interest of the black community at heart.
Man, I just don’t care
@LADY ARCHITECT
“BUT I’M NOT GONNA GIVE YOU THE BENEFITS OF A MARRIAGE AND YOUR JUST MY BF.”
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SORRY I AM LATE ON THIS. I’M NOT GONNA MOVE IN, PUT MY NAME ON OR SHARE ANY BILLS, POP OUT CHILDREN, HAVE YOU IN MY BED EVERY NIGHT AND COOKING ALL OF YOUR MEALS EVERYDAY. tHAT’S JUST MY PERSONAL PREFERENCE, BUT DON’T GET ME WRONG I TAKE CARE OF MY BF VERY WELL WHICH IS WHY HE’S STILL AROUND. I’M VERY UPFRONT WITH ANY GUY AND PUT IT OUT ON THE TABLE EARLY SO THAT THEY CAN’T SAY THEY DIDN’T KNOW AND IF THEY NOT FEELING IT THEN WE ARE NOT AN ITEM AND I PERFECTLY UNDERSTAND THESE THINGS. IT’S JUST PREFERENCES AND MORE WOMEN SHOULD HAVE THEM IN MY OPINION. SO FAR I’VE FOUND MY PREFERENCE AND IT WORKS FOR US.
@ Man
no ur playing with my emotions nucca!
@Kigali
If marriages already have a high divorce rate then what does that the tell you about marriage these days…Regardless if you are married or not, you face the same problems and obstacles as if you arent married…Divorcing after marriage can be an ever more ***** affair, and make things even more complicated. Even if a couple is so called “shacking up” life insurance policies can be established as well as funds can be saved for the child…
It appears to me that one of the reasons marriages dont last because of our over sexed society…..Even married couples are into swinging, and other risky behavior to save their marriages…Not to mention the ratio of single women to one man continues to rise, making it harder for men to committ, since we are more physical beings…
@Kigali Like i said you cant force a man into marraige even if you have kids I will happen when it’s suppose to
And
Lala is working she has her own money and has had before she got with him She is currently getting acting roles lined up and She has a Show coming up for VH1 in Which she is EXECUTIVE PRODUCING so only is she going to be act she is a PRODUCER as Well do ya research and get ya facts straight! She is not at his mercy and mind ya business dont worry when they will get married
hey z whats up mama
Oops alot of TYPOS Lala is Working and has her own Money before she got with Melo Not only will she be acting She is a producer and like i said is currently EXECUTIVE Producing her own show for VH1.
Redd Tony aka Earth Sign “When everybody thinks alike, *****ody is really thinking”
@Kigali
If marriages already have a high divorce rate then what does that the tell you about marriage these days…Regardless if you are married or not, you face the same problems and obstacles as if you arent married…Divorcing after marriage can be an ever more ***** affair, and make things even more complicated. Even if a couple is so called “shacking up” life insurance policies can be established as well as funds can be saved for the child…
It appears to me that one of the reasons marriages dont last because of our over sexed society…..Even married couples are into swinging, and other risky behavior to save their marriages…Not to mention the ratio of single women to one man continues to rise, making it harder for men to committ, since we are more physical beings…
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are u kidding me? The reason marriage, relationship, bf/gf…whatever…..the reason they don’t last is that bc no one has any LOYALTY any more. Not to their partners and that in itself is the biggest destruction.
hey oh lawdy
Here’s are free one
wow Kigali, I wouldn’t know where to start with you, your spitting facts that have to do with the current Institution of Marriage but as always your a day late and a dollar short. Our people, *****uming your black, have been “Married” since the beginning of time in forms that are not identical to the current m*****es Institution of marriage. So what are we discussing here…Our current situation has hardly to do with being married, but moreso the mentality of individuals of the Black Diaspora who have been through a recent traumatic experience and therefore must convert back to their original traditions and spiritual enlightenment and awareness to be successful in family and social relationships as well as economic status…catch up Kigali, your too educated for that….tisk tisk
meant to say heres one for free
You watch Shaharazad Ali Kigali, you should know better…go to timeout…NOW
purple why are you being fiesty??
OR I WILL spank you and tell your mother!
@man,
I guess it could be worse though. They could not look up to anything.
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Kigali (Check out Shahrazad Ali on You Tube)
@Red Tony,
And shame on you trying to get free rental *****. You know good and damn well you would want your daugher’s man to put a ring on it. You are the biggest hypocrite on Bossip. The biggest. You tell these black females on here one thing but would tell your daughter or female kin something completely different. Unlike you, I have one rule and one law for everyone because I happen to have the best interest of the black community at heart.
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hahahahaah…I see you really dont read and comprehend what I say and just skim through it… I dont detest marriage at all, nor am I advocating non-marriage, however there are benefits to either…My point is, what works for the couple, works for the couple.. The best advice I will give my daughter is dont have sex unless you are married, but does a marriage certificate and a ring guarantee that you will die happily married? No…There must be an extreme sense of communication, understanding, committment, and unconditional love for a marriage or non-married relationship to work, and these days you dont get any from either side of the fence…
I just hate that we’re at a point when he have to congratulate black men for taking care of thier kids. You don’t get a pat on the back for doing what the hell you supposed to do. You get one for going above and beyond. That said, the right thing to do would be to marry her so that she has legal rights in the event of some tragedy. I know plenty of people ‘playin house’ but thats all it is, “playin” without that legal paper, however you may feel about marriage as an institution. Clearly the intention was there, he did buy her an engagement ring. What’s the delay? The delay is like someone else said is that it is easier in this situation to cut ties when your ready to go.
I truly like Melo as a athlete and I am sure he is a ok dude, but I hope this is not a case of him refusing to marry La La. I think that it is just too selfish of anyone with his income to live with a woman who is having and taking care of his kids, profess to everyone that she is your rock, then refuse to marry her. I would like to think that they are not married because La La also doesn’t want to at this time, although that is reaching. In conclusion, Melo you have found her now marry her!
Purpple… Kigali is like the smartest one in a retarded cl*****. she not the one *****ting on herself, but she still drools.
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO@NINA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WTF
BOSSIP NEED TO GIVE US OUR OWN COLUMN, THAT MUSTA
CAME STRAIGHT FROM JEEEEEZZZAAAWWWWCE
CAUSE THATS THE TRUEST SHYT ANYBODY HAS SAID ALL DAY!!
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
KIGALI YOU HEAR THAT GIRL….
THAT WAS @NINA
So what are we discussing here…Our current situation has hardly to do with being married, but moreso the mentality of individuals of the Black Diaspora who have been through a recent traumatic experience and therefore must convert back to their original traditions and spiritual enlightenment and awareness to be successful in family and social relationships as well as economic status…catch up Kigali, your too educated for that….tisk tisk
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ok hold on. stop it. the current living black ppl today….were raised in this generation. this is now. We are not slaves. we are not in africa. We are here in america. where u do have the institution of marriage and where u know whats respectable and whats not. i don’t even see how what u stated is relevant. its true but it its irrelevant right now. why focus on the past and what they did then when we don’t live as that?
Seriously answer me this….how can u shack with a man. Rear his child and he will not marry u? Lets say he preaches what u are saying right now…but at the end of the day….he tell u he love, will live with u, and let u have his seed….but he cannot marry proclaiming to u and the world….that he would spend the rest of his life with you. What happens when he is sick? he is on life support….u have no say. If u were married, u would automatically be his medical proxy…but the reality is u are irrelevent. At the end of the day if this is the person u would spend the rest of your life with and they feel the same about u, it makes sense to be married to cover all of your bases. Even if ya’ll are not rich. To be the beneficiary, to the proxy and the qdot. all of that. He would marry u to do right by you, just in case…whether he believes in it or not. To be honest, a man who really don’t believe in it would still marry you, bc he would not believe it holds any binding over him.
When men say they don’t believe all i hear is an excuse so that when it fits them….they can walk away unscathed.
@Red Tony,
There is nothing wrong with the institution of marriage. Its the institution of the people who are getting married. Something is wrong in our culture. Its like saying something is wrong with eating because so many people are obese. It isnt the food that is the problem or eating the food, its the people who are over indulging in the food and not working out or being active.
People need to see commitment and loyalty in their lives. They need to see the value in marriage and couples like LaLa and Carmelo arent helping. When children are involved, shacking up arrangements arent an alternative to marriage. It is further proof of the break down of society. This has affected black Americans the worst.
@Z
“its true but its irrelevant now”
my poor poor child.
may God bless your lil heart.
alot more of our black men would get married if on november 4th more people would have voted no an amendment 2!!!!!
People love to do things that are easy for them….People also love to bring the bible into and what they consider “sometime Christians”, but let he who is without sin cast the first stone…Yes it is upstanding that Melo is taken care of his child and his childs mother, but he is doing that for his child…If he wanted to prove his love to LaLa he would marry her…At the end of the day that Bible is the Bible, and does who don’t want to believe don’t have to…And the person earlier was right, its not your lifestlye that saves you, its your believe in our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ….But why suffer consequences from your disobediance, when you could just do the right thing…I am not in the business of roleplaying…So I won’t role play being a Christian or a wife, if I am going to do everything that appears to fit the desciption I am going to make sure that my qualifications and responsibilities are the real thing, and I am not just role playing…You can agrue for either statements all day long, but at the end of the day eahc person will do what they feel is right…
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Nicole. Go away. LOL!!!
integration and feminism have affected Black Americans the worst.
eugenics and biowarfare have affected Black Americans the worst
Kay,
VERY NICELY SAID.
I REPEAT:
alot more of our black men would get married if on november 4th more people would have voted no an amendment 2!!!!!
knuckleheads and smartfools have affected Black Americans the worst
feminism? please please elaborate,
@NINA KNOWS
“The so called bull***** they looking up to is.. NOTHING.”
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Maybe not but how much of a detriment has it been really?
Lack of Wisdom and Lack of Self Knowledge have affected Black Americans the worse
Sybil Blaize….. DAYUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!
LACK OF GOOD ***** HAS AFFECTED THE AFRICAN AMERICAN PEOPLE!!
LACK OF GOOD ***** BY GOOD BROTHERS HAVE AFFECTED AFRICAN AMERICANS!!!
@ Redd Tony
I agree. It takes so much more that the average outsider would think to understand marriage. Communication and understanding along with forgiveness.
They put God in there but don’t know the meaning.
Hell, they place “In God We Trust” of the all seeing eye. That image they got from Egypt. Knowing they have their own meaning to it…. And don’t know the true meaning. My mom says love is simple. I said it was complex. I believe simply love is simple. Until man decide to add their own knowledge and mess it up. My point. WE don’t know the meaning of half the stuff we have obtain though life. We just go by what we see…. I don’t know what Melo and LaLa are doing as long as they love God and treat others right.
LACK OF GOOD HEAD BY GOOD BROTHERS TOO HAS AFFECTED AFRICAN AMERICANS!!!
@PURPPLE
“integration and feminism have affected Black Americans the worst.”
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LOL at feminism. I wish I could see what you look like. You are my kind of woman.
(I’m in a relationship with Z though)
I quitin now…thought i had some competition and intelligent argument going on but i see i dont….outtie 3 thou bytches….
@OH LAWDY
“LACK OF GOOD ***** HAS AFFECTED THE AFRICAN AMERICAN PEOPLE!!”
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LOL.
MAN YOU ARE A W*****
@Z,
Bare in mind you arent speaking to adults. You are more or less speaking to people raised laregly by black females (and I am qouting Shahrezad Ali on this one) to be *****y, indecisive, and unable to make commitments.
This is another reason why I have such a problem with single mothers. They raise children who, when they become adults, cant make adult decisions. Its all about instant gratification-unplanned pregnancy, no commitment- shacking up, an inability to plan for the future-marriage, over emotional- cant follow instructions, etc.
Dont worry Lawdy
Im hot and I got 99 problems but a bytch(and having man) aint 1
Ioono whats more frightening. Lack of idealism or pure stubborn confusion.
OH I HAVE MAN I AINT WORRIED BOUT THAT!!! PLEASE I REALLY KNOW HOW TO MAKE THE BEST OF SELF GRATIFICATION!!!!
@ purple!!
just wanna add I got no kids and was raised by two parents, so for the bossip record i dont know nuttin bout dat dere “single parenting” and I dont advocate for that neither which should be apparent to anyone with their thinking caps on….peacepeace..again!
sweet n sour/ damn whats up family/ hows it going? i know my sauce family dues are due and i will get them in before the holiday. Man i have a heavy work load and im just sneaking in here my fam. NIK U my darling Nik u wants to join us so i told her she has to get hot sauce and soy sauce permission and i think i scared her off man. keep the sauce family riding high dawg!
I have no kids and was raised single parent. Don’t ask for much, BA degree. My Dad did come around eventually, but the ex b/f’s of my moms was nice too.
Life is what we make it. I think. We all have ups and downs. We can make it and God always open doors… But I do want my fathers child in their life. I do.. Really, it helps and it matters. But if not.. Life can and time will go on.
@PURPPLE
get your ***** back in here.
sybil sybil sybil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kigali (Check out Shahrazad Ali on You Tube)
@Z,
Bare in mind you arent speaking to adults. You are more or less speaking to people raised laregly by black females (and I am qouting Shahrezad Ali on this one) to be *****y, indecisive, and unable to make commitments.
This is another reason why I have such a problem with single mothers. They raise children who, when they become adults, cant make adult decisions. Its all about instant gratification-unplanned pregnancy, no commitment- shacking up, an inability to plan for the future-marriage, over emotional- cant follow instructions, etc.
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Hold your horses there buddy. My mom and dad seperated when I was 10 years old, so I was raised for the most part by a single mother. She is strong and proud to be black. She taught me not to rely on anyone especially a man, and when i do meet one do not settle for anything less than what is right. I was taught not to have children out of wedlock, not to shack up with a man. I was made to go to school and college so i could get my own job bc its unthinkable to be solely financially dependent on a man. My mother is from Alabama. Deep south and I was taught to be independent and have my own. SO not all single mother raise their children to take whatever they can get. Not at all. Now that I am 23, no children, independent….she calls me all the time and tell me how proud she is of me and how she raised me right for not letting no man gas me up to have his child. ALL THE TIME.
@Z
have my baby.
PURPPLE
I quitin now…thought i had some competition and intelligent argument going on but i see i dont….outtie 3 thou bytches….
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Yhea I dont see that much physo bible babel bull***** anymore.
@Kigali
Did you read the info I posted on Phantom DNA in the woman hater thread a couple days back?
@ Man
NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
@NINA
The bible isn’t all bad.
@Z
When you are ready, you know you have a real man waiting for you.
Everyday the same arguments, sigh….
I don’t know what Melo and LaLa are doing as long as they love God and treat others right.
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and they still gon bust hell wide open and everybody else thats shacking up…..
LMFAO.
WHERE? DID HOT SAUCE TELL U TO TELL ME THAT? i MISS HIM.
The Bible isn’t that bad but the book of the dead and ancient Afikan Hieroglyphics etc. aren’t either…
@man
No the Bible isnt all bad, but its mad contradictory, and I feel the institution of marriage shouldnt be based on it…
ok pp.. I have to go get ready for my party. Enjoy the rest of ya’ll day.
P.S. I miss Oshie too.
Lawdy I didnt meant that “Im hot” comment to You, I meant it to Man…
@PURPPLE
“The Bible isn’t that bad but the book of the dead and ancient Afikan Hieroglyphics etc. aren’t either…”
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Who heard of that ***** before? LOL. J/K.
Yeah, don’t leave out of here yet.
@RedTony,
No, that was way too long. I need a concise synopsis.
@Z,
I am talking about single motherhood as a cultural preference not through divorce, death, or abandonement.
@REDD TONY
“No the Bible isnt all bad, but its mad contradictory, and I feel the institution of marriage shouldnt be based on it…”
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Contradictory… sure. It’s described as “man’s interpetation” of God’s word. It’s bound to be flawed because everything created by man is flawed.
No “defense” or nothing. Just saying dawg.
@PURPPLE
“Lawdy I didnt meant that “Im hot” comment to You, I meant it to Man…”
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Yeah, I figured that already. I understand if you don’t put a pic up with all the crazies but can you give a description?
height, general build, complexion? I don’t know, maybe there is a celebrity that sort of resembles you.
You know men are visual creatures.
@Man
You share my sentiment
@Kigali
WTF? Now I know you full of *****….
its not that hard to come by….
@ nwm*****smedia.com
Only God can judge me and them..
That’s my only point. So much more in life to worry about. And worry about others isn’t going to fix it. We have to be taught something real.
heh, most people ain’t look though
dont the bible say something bout the 144, I dont know yall tell me..hahahaha syke just playing,gotta go forreal.
Bottom line he need to marry her.
Playin house is for kids, They need to get married.
@Southern L.A Girl
You wanna read something worth your time?
Check out “DNA Cells and Phantom DNA”…once you read this, your third eye will open wider….
Man, I just don’t care
@NINA
The bible isn’t all bad.
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Of course not, it makes a good drink coaster. It’s thinkness makes sure your coffee table doesnt get wet.
LOL…Id love to feed into your temptations Man, and one day, maybe after you e-wine and dine me with your intellectual bravado I could possibly throw a description out, o my heehee, if the conversation were shall we say….appropriate, but as for now…im not one of these..(between u and me ..E*****S)… only If I needed the validation…I get too much in real life…
P.S…bossip is my(in italics if i could) guilty pleasure stemming from a lack of stimulation at the corporate workfactory, a lady gotta reputation to protect and I dont want bossip to get in the way of that…shhhhh
fyi, that was a jokey joke people. Somebody gonna tell me I’m going to hell in a min…lol
LMFAO, NINA STOP SERIOUSLY I THINK IM BOUT TO CRY, i aint gotta to lie craig!
@NINA KNOWS
“Of course not, it makes a good drink coaster. It’s thinkness makes sure your coffee table doesnt get wet.”
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LOL. Come on now… Some of these fools would be good to have any book in their hands. Readin “King” and “Maxim” and *****.
It’s only bad when people replace common sense with what they get from a book written by another man.
He better not marry that girl, if she’s smart she should have her own money to take care of her son, in the end that her baby married or not. dudes know that can walk away
Kigali you can come outta time out now
that’s …opps
When can I babysit!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Purpple… lol, I know it. I’m just waiting on one of those “i’m gonna pray for you” comments.
Girl man is a instigating male w*****. No way a ugly woman would have the “nuts” to say what you say on here. lol
dont wanna diss anyone sooo..shout out to all the e-*****s in the house. wave your hands like you just dont care… whoo hoo.
@NINA KNOWS
“fyi, that was a jokey joke people. Somebody gonna tell me I’m going to hell in a min…lol”
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YOU GOING TO HELL IF YOU USE THE BIBLE AS A COFFEE COASTER!!
IT SAYS IT IN THE BIBLE!!
LOL NINA….
girl I know thats why they say “walk em lik a dog” heh..if the shoe fits….
And ah, this goes out to all the hoes in the houuuuuuuuuu
“it wasnt your fault, you was only tryna be nice, only tryna be nice, OOOOO, u know you cant control these hoes(u know you cant control these hoes, you know you cant control these hoes)”
courtesy mr snoop dogg.
thankyavermuuuu
@KAY
you got a cosigner in the NC.
thx 2 every1 in this post
purpp
eve
kigali
tony
z
etc etc.
yall have really given me (a youngn)
smthn 2 think ab…
@qc704
that all i ask, that think* part. agree or disagree, its nothin more that than.
re: SMDH aka SOY SAUCE
“O Shyt go head SMDH, a post i can 100% cosign from you today.”
This is one of the BLACK MAN vs BLACK MALE things I am always talking about… Melo is a good man. He is out here doing what alot of these so called rich athletes won’t even do.. Do you see how many athletes are in trouble for non payment of child support or not in their kids lives when there is absolutely no reason to not be?!? Now when a BLACK MALE makes a baby and abandons it he is looked down upon, and rightfully so. However when a good BLACK MAN is doing the right thing and being a good dad you mean to tell me he gets dogged to? That’s not fair to the BLACK MAN doing what he is supposed to do.. A man does not have to be married to love the woman he is with and be a good father to his children.. You do not owe a woman aring because you impregnate her. That’s one of the reasons divorce is so high now – people getting married for the wrong reasons or because a child is on the way. Forced marriages cause bitterness and often end the marriage brutally and scars the children too.. Leave this man be.. Him, Lala and their baby are looking happy and very well.. It’s really noone elses business how they choose to co-exist.. Melo is a GOOD BLACK MAN and that’s fine by me!!
If there’s no intention of marriage, why even get engaged?
@NINA KNOWS
“Purpple… lol, I know it. I’m just waiting on one of those “i’m gonna pray for you” comments.
Girl man is a instigating male w*****. No way a ugly woman would have the “nuts” to say what you say on here. lol
dont wanna diss anyone sooo..shout out to all the e-*****s in the house. wave your hands like you just dont care… whoo hoo.”
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I am in no way an instigator!! At all.
No comment on the male w*****, but let the record show I both resent and denounce the mention of me being an instigator.
The bible has missing stories and meaning. We will never know it all. Only the most elite and they are not having it…… They’ve made myths out of some of it and just couldn’t believe some of it. Once the Romans, Jews and Muslims got it to. Everybody added a piece to the pie…… Man has flaws, you damn right. And like to change make His story, or history.
Purpple.. look at all these felons.
didnt you say it was illegal to think, nowadays.
oh and umm,
“shake dat ***** “e-*****s” and let me see what you got”!!!
MissydaCrunksta>>>I cosign and concur 100%. Why the negative comments on marriage? It can be a beautiful thing if both parties are ready for it. You shack up for years and break up, you have NOTHING to show for it. It’s like making an investment with no legality behind it. At least if you’re married, you have some recourse to get back your investment if you divorced. In my opinion, shacking up is an empty investment.
I do believe this prevailing (baby mama/baby daddy playing house) drama is why the black community is in deep doo doo. It isn’t working, people. This is how backwards things are: People on the Usher board are slamming Usher and Tameka for having another child. These two are married and yet people have something negative to say, yet sing the praises of playing house. Could this be why so many black children are being raised in single-parent homes? Marriage is horrible in some people’s eyes, yet playing house is the way to go? Just saying.
I don’t know the in’s and out’s of Melo and LaLa’s relationship. They are a beautiful couple that have a beautiful lil boy. Melo’s taking care of his baby boy. That’s what he’s supposed to do. It’s obvious that they absolutely love their son.
eveinthegarden>>>Bingo! People want to create their own rules, but eventually, they’ll be found out. Right and wrong are subjective in nowadays.
Shut up Man, you are a instigator dammit!!
and you know you are too.
@ Redd Tony aka Earth Sign “When everybody thinks alike, *****ody is really thinking
Okay, I think I might like Pretty Redd Tony……
Give a hint on the nature of the info.. ??? LOL
How you today?
ding ding ding!!!!
Fatimah has askd the million dollar question!!!
Thanks QC704. I believe the answer is that a man will give you what you want or what he thinks you want to string you along, keep you around, lock you down..to each his own..i hope they are both happy with their decisions.
O i beg to differ man you instigate…didnt Nina Just say she knows!?
LOL, GOD told me I was sent to police bossip and soon ima be lockin *****z up…*****z only. You betta pray cause alot of yall dont know you fresh off the plantation *****s….ok yall bout to try to e-kill me nina im out to a location coordinates unknown.
@REd Tony,
That long ***** post was unfair. Can I get the cliff notes?
If everyone followed the Bible there will be no fornication or illigitimate children.
There will be no AIDS or STD’s.
God knew that the people wouldn’t listen and the Devil came in with his curses.
God left the bible here for us to follow his teachings. Everything that is happening today in the world has already been prophesized in the bible.
It is our last chance for salvation.
@Fatimah
i agree wit ur statement.
the sad part ab that is, sometimes we as women are so in “love” we refuse to see that we are getting played.
(and i say refuse, bc i personally refused to acknowedge that my previous relationship was going nowhere….maybe i shouldnt say refuse perhaps IGNORE is a better word)
@NINA KNOWS
“Shut up Man, you are a instigator dammit!!
and you know you are too.”
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LOL. If you say so ma.
Pssst. tell Purpple to describe herself.
ahhh.. Purpple you be having me dying over here. Man know exactly what the ***** he doing.
Man, I see you like crackers with your soup!
oh yhea purpple, aint he funny how these bible bloggers be all on bossip. They dont post stories about gospel singers. I know damn well Kirk Franklin or Mary Mary, have a website they can go on.
Boy, King James pimp hand is real strong… dont believe me, scroll up.
Man, Purpple is gorgeous, that’s all you need to know. You been up white hoes ***** all day, so theres no way you could understand or appreciate purpple’s beauty, IF I had chose to describe it to you anyway. Sucka!
Leave the “bible bloggers” alone. If you can read all of the crap people put on here then it won’t hurt to read a word or two of something positive. You might find yourself enlightened..who knows..just a thought…
@NINA KNOWS
“ahhh.. Purpple you be having me dying over here. Man know exactly what the ***** he doing.
Man, I see you like crackers with your soup!
oh yhea purpple, aint he funny how these bible bloggers be all on bossip. They dont post stories about gospel singers. I know damn well Kirk Franklin or Mary Mary, have a website they can go on.”
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You give me too much credit cause I don’t know what I’m doing half the time. LOL. Stop thinking so evil of me….
Naw, not at all actually. No crackers for me. At least I’ve never had any with my soup.
They could put some stuff up about Mary Mary cause they fine.
lmmfao…Girl Kirk Franklin ain’t got no daym website , he spent dat on ***** that his dumb azz went and threw in the trash and burned up, that daym webiste is Out OF Commision. And i say Gloooray!
I take my belief in god and the bible wherever I go.
Kirk Franklin and every gospel singer does not represent myself. The are flawed humans as welll who sin.
Every man and woman is accountable for his own actions.
Man you love crackers in your soup so much i think you like the crackers not the soup. like it even matter doe….
O Please yall christians stingy…he gonna burn dat daym ***** up and aint even THINK(see whud i mean) to give it away to charity and help somebody else get off! Thats selfish as hell and breakin all kinds of commandments, daym christians!
If you want an example on how to live a clean life, read the bible, follow Jesus example, how he lived when he was here on earth. He was the only perfect man to walk the earth.
Stop looking at flawed humans for direction. Kirk Franklin, Mary Mary, and all the rest of them have to answer to the Lord as well as yourself whether you believe in God or not.
@NINA KNOWS
“Boy, King James pimp hand is real strong… dont believe me, scroll up.
Man, Purpple is gorgeous, that’s all you need to know. You been up white hoes ***** all day, so theres no way you could understand or appreciate purpple’s beauty, IF I had chose to describe it to you anyway. Sucka!”
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They got a ***** load of “pimp hands” people should avoid.
Come on now… Don’t underestimate me and my eye for beauty. I already appreciate Purpple’s beauty and that’s without ever having seen her. LOL. I’m cool like that.
@PURPPLE
“Man you love crackers in your soup so much i think you like the crackers not the soup. like it even matter doe….”
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Naw. I ain’t never had crackers with my soup. Now you got me curious what the fuss is about cause I was never interested in having crackers.
It do matter, to me at least.
Yeah take a note man, and Ditto for NINA and I aint sayin nothing just because she said it…As you see I speak the truth or I woulda just said thank you Nina and kept it movin….
ooohhh, i see ur good side and ur bad side man. i shall deal with them appropriately
LOL, no biggie Man, forreal.
just havin fun, the days coming to an end…
Man, I dont take you serious. It just seemed like you were fishing for attention. oops my bad, back to ignoring you as usual!!
But you right mary mary is fine though.
@betterdayz… just say you’ll pray for us and stfu
@PURPPLE
“Yeah take a note man, and Ditto for NINA and I aint sayin nothing just because she said it…As you see I speak the truth or I woulda just said thank you Nina and kept it movin….
ooohhh, i see ur good side and ur bad side man. i shall deal with them appropriately”
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Maybe. But my good side far outweighs my bad side. Don’t get fooled just cause I’m clowning on Bossip. If you want to, hit me up at JCSTANSB@YAHOO.COM.
Just a suggestion.
Purpple…lmao, he coulda gave all that ***** to me. come on Kirk, why you throw it away. Trying to get Jesus cool points and *****.
@NINA KNOWS
“Purpple…lmao, he coulda gave all that ***** to me. come on Kirk, why you throw it away. Trying to get Jesus cool points and *****.”
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If throwing away ***** gets you Jesus cool points I’m in a ***** load of trouble.
LOL@Nina…God told me to reset him to Zero on that shyt and he looz a man.
lmao@Man… no pun intended “ladies” but im alergic to anything you gave to Oshie and OH Lawdy…sorry
I don’t pray for the Devils soldiers. He already crushed their souls.
Why would a positive discussion about living a clean life make a person so infuriated?
That is the Devil moving through you, I just plead the blood of Jesus and move right along.
People who refuse to believe god is real suffer in their lives with turmoil and misery.
They are mean spirited and take on all of the character traits of the devil.
Mean spirited, vengeful, selfish, greedy, evil doers have no good character traits left. If they do show a kind side it is feigned, forced or rehe*****d. They are wolves in sheeps clothing.
No need to pray for the devils army at all, they gravitate towards his kind and all of the wickedness that comes with it. They are all over the earth reaking havoc.
I empathize with the lost sheep who have not been spiritually awakened. They will be in my prayers.
People on the Usher board are slamming Usher and Tameka for having another child. These two are married and yet people have something negative to say, yet sing the praises of playing house. Could this be why so many black children are being raised in single-parent homes? Marriage is horrible in some people’s eyes, yet playing house is the way to go? Just saying.
I TOTALLY AGREE…….
Tameka and Usher who are married, get all kinds of ugliness thrown their way as does Beyonce and Jay-Z. But the shacking up with kids couples like Carmelo and LaLa, T.I. and Tiny seem to be celebrated.
I’m not coming from a religous perspective nor do I feel marriage is the right move for everyone. But at the same time, if you can have a baby with someone and they live with you and you have a relationship that includes financial committments, then why can’t you get married? What is the difference? If you’re not sure you want to get married, then what is the point of having a baby before you have worked all that out?
I’m just asking. But as someone who’s seen a lot of baby/daddy baby/mama bull***** and drama go down…I’d say it’s worth discussing.
@PURPPLE
“lmao@Man… no pun intended “ladies” but im alergic to anything you gave to Oshie and OH Lawdy…sorry”
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Well that’s an allergic reaction you won’t have to worry about because I haven’t given anything to anyone.
Like I said, it’s a suggestion so if you choose (and I hope you do) you have my email to holla at me.
lol u so did give them that address but at a gmail account..u lil trickster
Betterdayz… what the ***** kind of juice you been drinking?. *****ODY… said on here there was no God.
and you have the nerve to call somebody sheep, with your bah-bah mentality.
LOL@NINA… girl that post will make me get some holy water and throw it on betterdayz…they sound scary.
@PURPPLE
“lol u so did give them that address but at a gmail account..u lil trickster”
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Hmmm… you remembered that? Even if it was unintentional I’m flattered. Yeah, I’m that easy to flatter.
Yeah, I gave them the Gmail account first but they are both mine. I only gave them the Gmail first because I was scared I would get a lot of spam and stuff at Yahoo, which is the one I always use. I only occasionally use the Gmail.
I didn’t get any spam or haters or anything at either of them so you can email me any time you like. The Yahoo is the better one though.
Man, you are so pathedically sweet!
Well if you believe in god just remember one thing when trouble hits (SUCH AS AIDS, Disease,) or any other chaos that may occur as a result of going agaisnt god’s teachings,(sin) you didn’t adhere to god.
The devil mislead you into living an unclean lifestyle.
You better trust that god will see you through in your time of calamity.
Jeusu is your only protection.
whoa this is a very interesting discussion in here today lol lots of interesting perspectives so ill go head throw mine out there
as for the bible i think that most people discredit it or find it to be ‘contradicting’ because they’ve never sat and read and studied it for themselves and they leave that to these so-called religious leaders or whatever there great grandma told them …but i mean for things like ‘eating pork’ and little dumb stuff ppl are saying those things were laws written for the israelites under the mosaic law they had a purpose mainly sanitation and health however once jesus came along if you read the ‘christian’ scriptures it constantly says that we are no longer under the law meaning all those laws for the israelites do not apply to christians jesus came and set his own laws for his followers orthodox jews are supposed to follow those laws not christians
and as far as marriage i cant use the bible to dictate the way anyone should live but myself because everyone has there own relationship with God but I personally feel that I want to be married which to me is the deepest level of commitment because not only did i make a promise to my partner but we brought God in it (i dnt really care about the legal aspect as much as the spiritual aspect) and we said those vows and im not gonna have any children until im in that type of relationship but i mean for someone that doesnt see the importance of a spiritual relationship then why get married i guess only you can determine whats important in your own life and if melo doesnt feel like marriage is important then hey *shrugs*
@PURPPLE
Dang, you could of at least told me you were leaving.
Betterdayz…
“Jeusu is your only protection.”
I know I cant spell that good myself, but you know your going to “hell” for mis-spelling Jesus, right?
hmmmmm…
damn. did i step into a time warp??
has it dawned on of any of you 17th century throwbacks that not everyone WANTS to be married?
@ nina knows…
same thing with kurt russell amd goldie hawn. they’ve been together for a million years and never married.
THiS T0PiC iZ VERY iNTERRESTiN CONSiDERiNG THE FACT THAT iM GETTiN MARRiED iN FEB.
PLZ CONTiNUE 0N….
@No ID,
You may not agree with me completely but black females have little to no standards. They always say that the reason why black men date white women is because white women will take his crap. Well giving birth to child after child after child, with no real commitment, no real safety, no real loyalty is the diffenition of CRAP. Black females happen to swin in it to the tune of 70% of all live births of African American children.
Who is really putting up with crap?
BOO!!!
GET 0FF THE SCREEN!!!
@Preggo,
Congradulations!!!!!!
Whatever you do, dont invite any black single females to your wedding. Not the planning of your wedding, not your ceremony, not your reception. All they will do is tell you that you are a STRONG INDEPENDENT BLACK WOMAN and you dont need to man in your life or to help you raise your kids.
Keep them away.
Put a sign up on the Church door: No Single Black Females Allowed.
God bless you and your new family.
@Kigali
THANK Y0U…
BUT WE’RE N0T GETTiN MARRiEd iN A CHURCH BECAUSE WE HAVE DiFFERENT RELiGiOUS BELiEFs…
THATS WHAT T00K US S0 L0NG T0 DO THE DAMN THiNG…
@preggo
ummm whos religion is the baby
gonna be taught
((if u dnt mind me asking))
@ Kigali
Preggo fits into you statistical demographic, she is having a baby before she gets married. You throw that 70% statistic around all the time and really have no idea who fits in that category. Just because you child was born first does not mean you are a trifling black female who thinks she don’t need no daddy for her baby and the father is a felon who does not care.
PS Congats Preggo, sorry to use you to make a point, good luck, the last 4 weeks seem like the longest.
Kigali, the first part of your posts were right on. I agreed with your take on marriage and that shacking up is not a good thing. That’s the opinion I hold. Obviously others disagree.
I never agree with your ranting on and on about black women. You act as though black men are not guilty of any offense whatsoever or that when a black man is with a white woman, he’s somehow this upstanding man and she’s his perfect queen. Please. I know better than that. They get divorced like everyone else. Like I stated on another board, they deal w/the same b.s. black women deal with. I know quite a few of them. The issue with you, and so many have pointed this out, is that you are full of generalizations. You sound like an intelligent person, but your facts are all askew. You say you are a black woman. That’s very troubling. Do you believe that when God made you, he set you as an example to get all of us horrible black women together? You have been so brainwashed by listening to hateful black men. I agree, the 70% figure is through the roof, and I, for one, am not a fan of shacking up/playing house, but you fail to see that black men parti*****te in that 70%. I bet bottom dollar you’ll never admit that. You claim black women never fess up to the errors of their ways. That might be true for some, but I have noticed (especially on Bossip) that black men never, ever admit their ***** don’t stink. They are very arrogant and feel that dating outside their race validates them. That somehow if they can “pull” a chick of another race, they’ve arrived. Did it ever dawn on you that if THEY kept their ***** in their pants and controlled their sexual urges and didn’t randomly have sex with these so called “little or no standard black women,” that maybe black children wouldn’t be left fatherless? Did it ever dawn on you that if he decides to have sex w/o protection and has a child, that child has his DNA? And if he does get a woman pregnant (you know women don’t get pregnant on their own, right?) that he should be partially responsible for his behavior? Are black males ever accountable in your eyes, or are they the victim of the “big, bad, black, worthless, no up to Kigali’s standards” woman?
If you know Melo, I hope he doesn’t ascribe to your way of thinking.
blaq… why was I thinking the EXACT same thing!!
Kigali dont know what the hell she talking about half the damn time. She’s a smart ***** retard.
@qc704…
WELL…
iM CHRiSTiAN n HEz MUSLiM…
THiS iZ 0UR 2nd CHiLD…
WE’VE BEEN TEACHiN B0TH RELiGiONs, WE’LL LET THEM DECiDE 0N THEiR OWN WHEN THEY’RE OLd ENUFF T0 REALLY UNDERSTAND WHATS G0iN 0N….
|whispers|
BUT i THiNK MY RELiGiON iZ G0NNA WiN…
and THANK YOU BLAQ…
Preggo gon have a baby Capricorn, aint that special….
@Kigali
So what we gon do to help Black women?
@ Nina Knows
Kigali is just the product of the smear campaign going on against black women. It is unfortunate she has some intelligence and education but no reasoning or grasp of the American racial dynamic that is affecting all of us, and she feels she has somehow escaped. But her bitter attacks of those whom look the most like her is one on the greatest forms of self loathing. It’s truly disgusting how individuals claim to love and support the black race but take the side of one gender to attack the other. But that is the type of psychology someone who forms opinions about people she does know or like from biased and worthless statistics.
@ Redd
you already know her prescription
close your legs
and lay enough shame on your ***** off-spring so they won’t follow in your footsteps. Watch Shaharazad “open handed slap in the mouth” Ali for specific instructions on how to accept the blame for the short-coming of the black american, because all of our problems are the result of the s*****y un-wed black female. Did I miss anything?
@Blaq
Naw, you just about covered it…hahahhahahah
Im thinking of starting a non-profit one day to help bruthas with short prison sentences transitoin out of jail and back with their families to show them with a solid foundation you can actually make it out here…What do you think?
blaq..
Your right, I feel the same way about her. It sickens me to see people (including her) to act like black men and black women are two different things. Like we are two different races of people. Our people need to learn that we are ONE. Black men ARE Black women. We are only as good as each other. Her whole theory is all smoke and mirrors. While she’s looking down on these “shamful” black women, she’s actually side by side with all of them (us).
Ol’ girl is lost. She comes off to me as very hurt and wounded. And her spew of hatred of black women is just a cover-up of her own pathedic, cry for help.
@Blaq,
Preggo is on the right track. As long as she gets married she will have my love and respect.
I dont hate myself. I am like Chris Rock. I love black women but I hate trife black females. Its disheartening to be on Bossip with educated and conscientious black folks actively campaigning against families. I pity black children. I think they deserve better than us.
@Preggo,
No problem. I’ve got some great baby names if you need any. My real name is quite nice. I get compliments all the time.
@Red Tony,
The black female needs a moratorium on baby making. She needs to close her legs and get an education and married first. Then she can have kids. While married her man doesnt need any lip from her. She needs to respect him and honor him and OBEY. Yeah I said it. She needs to go on a diet. She needs to wear her own hair. She needs to stop having an attitude. Aint nothing that serious. She needs to be sexy but cl*****y.
@Nina Knows,
Stop talking *****.
@Word to the Wise,
The onus is on women when it comes to children. Men dont have a uterus. They have the most to gain and lose by the decision they make surrounding child rearing. Women are the virtue of society. If she isnt virtuous the society is like Soddom and Gamorrah. With that power she can do so much in society. If she abuses it, it will be hell for everyone.
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“The black female needs a moratorium on baby making. She needs to close her legs and get an education and married first. Then she can have kids. While married her man doesnt need any lip from her. She needs to respect him and honor him and OBEY. Yeah I said it. She needs to go on a diet. She needs to wear her own hair. She needs to stop having an attitude. Aint nothing that serious. She needs to be sexy but cl*****y”.
With that said, what are you going to do to help?
@ Redd
That is beautiful. What most brothers in prison need is for someone to give a damn. I honestly believe so many black families fall apart because that is what everyone expects. The value of a wife and children has been diminished to the extinct they are looked upon as burdens instead of blessing. But I can go on and on to no avail, but if men really took a stance and made a point of letting their deadbeat friends know that what they are doing is looked down upon as much as if they were on the pipe. Like “I can’t ***** with dude he don’t take care of his kids”
@Red Tony,
Black females need to be rehabilitated as well. The kinds of crimes she commits in society arent punishable with prison sentences but they are just as harmful to the community as dope selling, gang banging, etc.
In fact black females are complicit in those crimes too. I mean where does most of that ***** go on? In the projects. Who lives in the projects? Single mothers and their children. How did these females allow their homes to become drug dens and gang turf?
@Kigali
Ok, obviously you dont have a solution, or feel that you should be doing something to help, therefore you are apart of the problem as well..
Thanks Blaq…Ima get it off the ground one of these days…..
And Kigali, as a man, I command you to shut up for the rest of the night, and dont come back till tommorow….
@ Kigali
Who actively campaigns against black families?
Kigali, yes, sweetie, I know men don’t have uteruses, but they have, let’s see, sperm. They know having sex with women can create a baby. Blaq gave a lot of insight regarding your psyche. You have been so brainwashed. It kind of reminds me of the mindless people that followed Jim Jones (you might be too young to remember him or his cult). I don’t even think you believe most of the nonsense coming out of your mouth. I think you desire attention because no sane person thinks like you. Stop drinking the kool-aid sweetie.
@ Kigali (Check out Shahrazad Ali on You Tube)
You on fire. Some of what you say I agree, but some of it I don’t. Some of this is just generalizations and not all blk females. I want to be married when it’s time…. I don’t want to shack. I know how to give my man *****e and not depend on him as a gold digger. I want us to growth together as one, day by day. Quarrels after quarrels day by day. And after sex too. LOL! But I want us to be partners. I think that is what’s missing. We don’t trust and know the true spiritual God as we should. To react in the right fashion. We are caught up in the b.s. that has been designed a game long before we got here.
@Blaq
You are on point. I concur.
@ Redd Tony
I looked up the Phantom DNA and DNA cells that was some good stuff, boy. Kiss for ya face.
@Southern L.A. Gal
No problem…Nothing is incurable with these new findings, and it is evidence that the spiritual state of a people can actually affect the weather!…I swear, that ***** is so deep to me…Make me wanna be a genome scientist in *****..hahahahah
@ Kigali
have you ever investigated who collects these statistics?
Drugs plague the entire country from the white house to the projects. They are drain on the economy, the health industry, the law enforcement agencies and are allowed into the country by the government for profit. If the power that run the country have fell victim to drugs why is it so hard to fathom why poor people, who are undereducated, lack of healthcare, and discriminated against constantly would fall victim to drugs. The problems of the black community are not exclusive to the projects of black america. All around the world poor communities have been infested with drugs which leads to HIV, and single parent homes. Check the statistics since you like them so much. Every poor community in the world is stricken with drugs and fathers who leave their families and mothers who abandon their children. Get the drugs out of our communities and everyone will fall in line.
@Redd Tony
Yeah and how kids become problems more so now when they go to school because they put evreyone together and demands adjustment. But kids now and days are strong to refuse this adjustment. I do believe we are all like animals and we react group wise. The vac*****s in the world, which contain energy. The wormholes. Interesting. And as we become great in numbers and unifed with higher intentions than what we see, violence also dissolve. It’s so much of a connectin we have with the earth and our purpose. But why hide all this?
You may not agree with me completely but black females have little to no standards.
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I am a black female who is a virtuous woman with morals. I try to follow the right path through Our Lord and Savior.
skin tone has nothing to do with the way I carry myself and conduct myself from day to day.
He who is without sin, shall cast the first stone.
No one is perfect. No one has the right to judge, demoralize and degrade a certain group of people based on race or gender.
Lets start uplifting one another and encourage each other to do better instead of tearing one another down.
Redd Tony…
“And Kigali, as a man, I command you to shut up for the rest of the night, and dont come back till tommorow….”
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The best advice (command, lol) I’ve heard all day… But Got damn, theres goes tomorrow….*sigh*
kigali, I do talk a little *****, but you still the smartest retard on bossip. congrats boo!
blaq, very good point about some of those men looking at the women and kids as a burden. Instead they should look at it as an opportunity to make things right again.
@Southern L.A. Gal
Well they havent technically hid anything yet, because they recently found out about Phantom DNA in I beleive 2006…But best beleive they will try an hide, pay, or kill someone to shut them up about it..You know its all about the money…They help cloud our consciousness with TV and ***** like that..But you know what, they cant really hide it because the natural powers of the universe and humanity will prevail and as we draw near to the 12.21.2012 ( the 26,000 year cycle/entering the age of Aquarius)humanity senses will increase by 450% everyday…So humanity will have heightened consciousness….
Im out, Ill be back later if you still on….
Good nite everyone!
MELO DONT MARRY UNTILL YOUR READY,OR ELSE YOULL JUST BE ANOTHER STATISTIC.
Nina girl you still hanging around here…..
I like the STRATEGICALLY cropped photo over the fire place. LOL, it is either a gangster or a naked woman.
Okay. I want to talk to you again about this.
WE are on the same level. When I get home I’ll log on and see if you are here. You are deep Redd Tony and it’s a gift, love.
2012, the Mayan/Azetec a lot of stuff they keep from us. Egypt’s history that is really ours. Greeks blk sorors/fratz came from the Boule who was with WEB DuBuois that wanted the professional blk person that cooperate with the stife whites. Not like Marcus Garvey who wanted us free in our own country to built up.. Taken our gifts from the land and making colonies… Oh, Tony be on later, please…..
@ Nina Knows
I don’t know but lately I have ran into so many men in their 40’s or later who have never had children. They really regret not having children or being there for the ones they did have, they are lonely. I guess I was a bit surprised because I generally think about women being distraught by the lack of a family. I think men’s biological clock tick a lot slower and longer than ours but they do have one. If these young men took into consideration all of the people who promote the player/ pimp “we don’t love these hoes” lifestyle are in fact married with children or strive to be. When you are an old man dying alone in a retirement home wife and kids start to look real good.
lol, I breezed on in for a hott min. I didnt expect to see you ms. lady. Thought I’d check out the madness for a min!
essence outta be ashamed parading this shacking up crap. melo, you need to make an honest women outta lala!!
lol i was but just peeked back in.. nighty night lady have a good one… tomorrow is friday so tgif!!
blaq,
I feel you on that. It kinda goes back to what I was saying. We are one. Black men and women have alot of common goals, but see things differently at times. I too have met older men who have the same feelings you addressed. the “we dont love these hoes” syndrome is really played out. A man’s homeboys tease him for being loyal to his girl, and doing whats right. But they praised for him for basically not giving a *****. I have said time and time again this starts at home. While were grooming our daughters to protect the vajayjay and keep it under wraps. We ridicule our young ladies for being sexual too young. But with our boys, we congradulate it.
I dont think anyone should stop having sex, but just have better intent behind it. If our ladies stop getting wrapped up in cars, flashy *****, and clothes, and focus on the man whos gonna respect you, whether he has all that or not. And then if our young men would focus on more than a fat *****, we’ll all be better off. (for the most part)
lol,Goodnight Purpple.. I’m out too!
just testing…
So Lala Vazquez is black?
Why because she is on BET?
I’m black….she ain’t
@PURPPLE
nooooooo!!!! wait!!!
I am in a committed relationship with one child and I’m not married. I am the one who doesn’t want to get married. He gave me a ring a couple of years ago. My parents went through a messy divorce. My dad kicked us out of our house and we moved in with my grandmother. My friends are in horrible marriages with men who cheat, rather have a beer with the homies than spend family time, and are down right disrepectful. My man and I are very much in love and we love our child. To those of you who want to quote the bible, how many sins have you committed today? This works for me and my man and our family. To each his own. Those of you who worry about our finances, please don’t. We bought a house together, both of our names are on the mortgage and the title is in our son’s name. My child has his last name and he is the father listed on the birth certificate therefore my child is entitled to his social security if he was to die or become disabled. I hold his insurance policy. I am the owner, he signed it and it’s worth $500,000. We both have living wills, therefore if he is hospitalized I get to make those decisions regarding his life. We are very comitted and if something were to happen to him, our son and I would not be left in the cold. If we are able to do ths with a household of $130,000, I am sure Carmello and LaLa have something in place.
What a cute baby!
LaLa is too domestic. If she has the personnel, she needs to use it for real!
Carmelo seems a little selfish, which may be a problem, I am not the one to judge, but LaLa might want to get her party game on!
Regardless, they have the money to hire people, so they need to use them. Times are tough. Shyte, I have a degree and jobs are hard to come-by. If they called me I would work for La and Carmel in a minute!!
…yeah, LaLa…boo-friggin-hoo…
…SO GLAD I don’t have your problems…
.
***** La la, Carmelo and that waterhead lil boy!!!
If her ***** wasn’t so sheisty, maybe she wouldn’t be concerned about lockin’ herself in a damn room!!!
And if Carmelo would’ve listened to his mother, he wouldn’t be in the position he’s in!!!
who is in here?
Looks to me like they are glorifying to responsible adults raising their child TOGETHER!! Why do they have to be married to do that?!?? YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE MARRIED TO BE GOOD PARENTS TO YOUR CHILDREN and the excuses need to stop.
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I’ll put it to you like this. And I leanred this from dealing with white folk and listening to their conversations.
It’s about an image. What happens when that kid goes to school??? Whose last name does he have? YES kids whose parents aren’t married do get treated differently than those who are married. I am in the school system and have seen it. Because no matter how strong Melo and Lala are folks are still going to view them as playing house.
And are just sitting back waiting for them to break up or some other kid to popup by another woman. Also most of the WORST kids are from playing house families in some schools. Although those are the families with the father nowhere to be found except when he needs some kitty.
Now if the couple marry and break up-the kid will get treated like normal married kids.
But if it is just some negros playing house and both are making kids with other folks-it’s an different story.
And in promotions at jobs. A company isn’t going to promote some guy playing house with a babymomma and kids. Nor are they going to have baby showers for babymommas at some jobs.
So if you are Melo, how much money and attention are you losing by playing house? Same with King James? I know there isn’t really a difference between millions, but you have to ask.
So why the hood thinks this is cute, a lot of folk don’t. And I can folks asking why these two? Instead of other black married couples, because right now it DOES seem black married is going the way of Goerge Bush in 40 days-out the door.
she’s just another gold digging hussy.
who cares about either one of these douchebags.
MAN!!!!!!!
I was just checking the blog when I saw this heated debate. So i decided to read the comments (not all of them, just the ones that were making a decent point).
I’m pro-marriage. marriage is not for everyone. i agree. but i’m tired of seeing celebs (the white ones too) pop out , or buy in Angelina Jolie’s case, babies with people they are just screwing for the time being.
true, i may not know the level of love that the couple has.
but why have a baby with someone you aren’t married to or even know that well????
That is so awkward to me. I can’t imagine having some guy’s baby who didn’t love me to the point where he wanted to marry me.
and this bull about, ‘oh, well he takes care of his kid…”, screw the kid, let’s talk about houw much we as women value ourselves.
basically, having a baby but the dude not wanting to marry you is like saying you got cut from the team because of the baby.
you were the main attraction, but here comes baby, and now you’re just a ring holder….yay!
I don’t know much about Carmelo and LaLa (he obviously plays basketball and she’s that girl on BET/VH1/MTV.
i remember vaguely hearing that she was pregant. okay, maybe they’ll get married after she loses the baby-fat. but that didn’t happen.
and i hate to be mean (because i have nothing against LaLa) but i won’t be surprise if she doesn’t have another baby before the little boy (who is a cutie) starts pre-school.
then she’ll become a Kim Porter. a girl who had her own life, but decides to be a baby popper while the rest of the world forgets that you have a production company (or whatever you guys say LaLa does now). you’re just Carmelo’s babymama.
and if he gets some other chick knocked up, it’s all gravy because he’s still a great dad for taking care of his kid, “because there are so many black men who don’t”.
women do depreciate over time.
stretch marks, jungle t*tties, and saggy poons (from repeat episiotomies) stress from being with an athlete and essentially raising your money bags (the kids) alone.
sure, LaLa has a ring, and big ol’ house….but she’s freakin’ scared at night. i suggest getting a chihuahua. they are great doorbells.
i don’t really care what they do. she’s probably very content being a wifey (that term always sound like a smelly tampon to me, but i digress).
i’m want to be married (not any time soon. maybe another 7-10 years…sorry mom!). THEN i want to have kids….or maybe KID (singular). whooo…let’s not get carried away (lol).
and I know that ’sh*t happens’. but why are you free f*cking like that anyway???
i would imagine if you were in a committed relationship and both parties were tested, you probably would opt to go bare. And NuevaRing doesn’t always work.
but it seems to me that when you decide to take the relationship to the next level, you would sit down and really evaluate the person you’re doing this with.
“if something did happen (like getting knocked up) would he be there?”
“is this someone i would want to have a child with if such occured?”
what if the guy is traditional and insists on getting married if you become pregnant? would you want to marry him?
are you ready for that risk?
how do you know he’s going to be faithful and not let some scally-wag give him head at his cousing Mookie’s bachelor party?
see…there is a lot to think about when you start free-f*ckin’.
maybe some of us don’t think about that, and that’s how oopsie-babies or Judge Hatchett babbies come about.
They look like a happy family.The white media glorifies Brad & Angelina with all those kids they r creating & buying. They r NOT married. No one is *****g them out. No one is complaining about all the mag covers they r on promoting their lifestlye choice. I can’t say anything negative about C & LaLa. At least they r together, raising that child. Thats the first step in the right direction. If they decide to marry, GOD Bless them!
@crazylegs
I totally agree with you.
I am a happily married woman who does not feel like Carmelo and LaLa are doing anything wrong. They are not worried about what the media says about their situation. They are doing what is comfortable for them. They only have one child together and at least have intentions of getting married. Where is Angelina’s ring? And her and Brad keep having or adopting baby after baby. But the white media treats them like they are saints b/e Angelina does charity work all around the world. LaLa knows that Carmelo is young and may still have some growing up to do. But at least he has given her a ring letting her know that she means more to him than just being his Baby Momma. He will marry her when it is right for them and *****ody else.
I LOVE THIS COUPLE THEY ARE SO CUTE.. THE LIL GUY IS CUTE TOO…
MELO TRULY HAS A GOOD WOMAN EVEN IF HE DONT KNO IT YET.. IT SEEMS TO BE WORKING FOR THEM SO I AM HAPPY FOR THEM MARRIAGE DOESNT ALWAYS MAKE PEOPLE HAPPIER… AND TO BE A GOOD FATHER YU DONT HAVE TO MARRY SUMONE!!!
THE HOUSE MONEY AND CARS DONT MEANT NOTHIN IF YU AINT HAPPY AND I BELIEVE THESE TOO ARE HAPPY YU DONT HEAR ANYTHING ABOUT THEM FIGHTING AND ALL THAT ..EVEN WHEN THE MEDIA TRIES TO CALL LALA A JUMP OFF THEY DONT LET THAT KINDA ISH GET IN THE WAY OF THERE RELATIONSHIP….
WHAT ABOUT BRAD AND ANGELINA?? THEY HAVE MORE THEN ONE KID PLUS ADOPTED KIDS AND THEY ARENT MARRIED!!!!
Beside like grandma use to say why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free it’s so true.
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My mom used to say that! And I, too would have to be married, (which I am), in order to have children,share a home, life,etc.,
Withiut marriage, no children, have your own house, car, own ish.. That’s just the way it is..And I would like to see more black women married, You deserve to be respected too. Wait until marriage, to start families, especially, if you don’t want to be connected to him, for the rest of his life, not saying that marriage’s can’t last. but it’s better than leaving empty handed. That’s for woman or man..
I LOVE intelligent convo. No name-calling, but respesctful. SMDH is very intelligent. Oh NOOOOOOOO, I see Kigali, entered. I am blogging while hubby is watching the game….Check you guys later…
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I HAVE NEVER SEEN LA LA ON ANY MAGIZINE BEFORE DOING A SPREAD ON HOW SHE IS LIVING. EVERYBODY KNOW THAT SHE GOT ON THAT MAGIZINE BECAUSE OF CARMELO. MAYBE CARMELO IS SEEING HOW MUCH PRESS SHE WOULD GET BECAUSE SHE IS HIS FIANCE AND HE IS MAKING THAT BREAD!!!CARMELO HAS HER LIVING WITH HIM TO KEEP HER MOUTH CLOSED SHE IS SPANISH TOO,WE ALL KNOW HOW YALL ACT WHEN YALL DONT GET YOUR WAY.
If they’re not married oh well, people talk too DAMN much!!!!Clearly she’s happy so