Celebrity Wives Share Their Secrets To Successful Marriages
Every other day we hear about some matrimonydom gone wrong and it seems like even the most coveted of couples are not off limits from the wrath of the Hollyweird marriage curse.
But somehow, in the midst of it all, there are a handful of Hollyweirders who have managed to make it do what it do…and keep on doing it. Regardless of what you might think of these ladies, one thing is for sure…..they know how to keep their man AND their marriage together.
Let’s check out secrets from some of the hottest ladies in the limelight and how they’ve managed to keep their love locked down.
“What works in one marriage may not work in the next. So definitely keep your eyes focused on your own relationship. I think it’s important to understand that you guys are going to grow. Obviously, I’m not the same person that I was at 24, and he’s not the same person that he was. But we also together allowed each other to grow as well and stay connected at the same time. And I think that’s important. And obviously, communication is super important. And at the end of the day we just love being with each other and being really good friends” – via Huffington Post
“We’ve made love in some interesting places. I feel like you have to keep spontaneity and you have to keep your partner on their toes. We’re both very passionate people. We have our arguments and disagreements and debates, it’s not perfect…but the secret is friendship. You have to be friends and in that have a certain understanding of what is needed. You have to look at YOUR marrige and understand what is needed in YOUR marriage. Not what other people think it should be or what they want it to be.” – via CNN
“We don’t have any problems and we address whatever issues we have, immediately. You can’t get mad today and not speak to each other for two weeks. It’s really important to communicate with each other all the time. We also try to stay away from miserable people as their problems could become infectious. If you have friends with f**ked up relationships, tell them to stay the hell out of your business (laughs). We watch a lot of TiVo at night and when we want to calm down and relax, I might whip out the heels. He’s a shoe freak. You got to cater to your man, and figure out what he wants. A lot of guys like lingerie. He doesn’t like lingerie. He likes shoes.” – via Clayton Morar Media
“Sometimes as a woman you have to be okay with not knowing all the answers,” she said. “I started asking for confirmation and I enjoyed every second with him instead of thinking so much and [trying] to map out how it should be. I sat back and let him be a man and let him lead into what we are now.” – via TT Torez
“The No. 1 thing is that any real relationship starts with respect. You have to respect that person, and that way you’ll listen to them and you’ll care about what they’re saying. Of course, as a couple that’s been together a long time, we have our ups and downs. I make him mad, he makes me mad…and then we make up, as couples do…the making up part is very important.” – via BET
“We focused three years on our marriage and found that it brought us an even stronger bond and connection. But like anything great and successful in your life, marriage takes hard work and sacrifice. It has to be something both you and your husband deeply want. The best thing about marriage is the amount of growth you have because you can no longer hide from your fears and insecurities. There’s someone right there calling you out on your flaws and building you up when you need the support. If you are with the right person, it brings out the best version of you.” – via Harper’s Bazaar
Holly Robinson Pete
“One of the biggest things is that we’re really fortunate because Rodney and I are really good partners. When one is up and the other one is not, we support each other. I think that as a couple, our priorities are different than some of the other celebrities in town. Are our kids happy? Do we have a house to live in? How’s our charity going? Those are the things we look at to gage success.” – via Essence Magazine
Tameka “Tiny” Cottle
“I’ve been with him before he was all of that, and once he became this big sex symbol… I understood what was going to come with it because I had already been in the business,” she says. “I’m just comfortable in my position and where I stand and what our values are. We’re on the same page. Plus, understand I’m with him maybe 85, 95 percent of the time. A lot of times, while all of the attention is going down, I’m right there. I never have to tell someone to back off. Normally he does it first. If it gets that far, he never lets it get disrespectful.” – via VIBE Magazine
“No complaints, because I am busy, whereas others are not so fortunate. I’m hitting my stride. This business is about endurance, longevity.’ And motherhood and marriage is about patience and love. ‘I’ve learned that you never know how much your mother loved you until have a child…and you can never love anyone as much as you love your child.”