You got that right Bossip. So sad!

LMAO, HE’S THE MAN

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Thats why my momma is on my brother just in case he need a break so he wont flip out either…that jacked up how he did that and why…

You know those criminals hate child molesters and killers.

If the justice system doesn’t get rid of him…the inmates will.

If a man who is out of his child’s life suddenly shows up I would not let me child go with him. Whether he is his father or not….IMO

I just don’t understand why he killed the baby. He could have did like a lot of men and just not paid if it was that serious.

top 8 fiyyahhh

YEAH THIS DUDE WILL BURN FOR ENTERNITY….THERE IS NO WAY TO UNDERSTAND THIS STUPIDITY…WAIT OH YEAH…THE DEVIL…

@Raquel26

Yeah I’m sure he will get his.

This @sshole will get his ass beat in prison. Seriously tho, why couldn’t he just be ghost like the rest of the deadbeat dads? Just leave…
He didn’t want to pay child support….i hope he pays thru his ass everyday of his life.

God bless the families that are grieving…

vgeezy

i agree.. if he never seen the child before why did he suddenly picked the child up and you mean to tell me the mother just up and let the boy go with him ? father or not

LMAOOOOOOOO @RAQUEL
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO

YOU KNOW MY TORTURE TATICS !! LMAOOOO

THEY ALWAYS END WITH BEING PUT IN A PIG STY HALF ALIVE LMAOOOOOOO

CLASSIC!!

ALMOST LOST FOCUS OF MY DREAM OF BEING NUMBER ONE!! FOR A SPIT MILLI ISOTOPE OF A FRACTION OF A SECOND BUT IM BACK!!

This story disgusts and depresses me beyond belief. . .And this man’s apology on camera adds further insult to injury. Why on earth would you kill your child? Monster. . .

More from timespicayune.com:

New Orleans police said Saturday that Platt killed his son rather than pay about $4,000 in child-support arrears, an accusation that Platt denied with a “No, sir” to a reporter, as detectives accompanied him to Central Lockup on Saturday.

“I’m sorry about killing my baby,” Platt told reporters. “I had a lot of pressure on me. . . . I had a whole bunch of reasons.”

To collect the child-support debt, the state of Louisiana deducted a little more than $100 each week from Platt’s paychecks from a French Quarter restaurant, Powell said. The amount was determined in December after a blood test proved his paternity, she said.

Platt became liable for child support not because Powell had pursued the issue, she said, but because she had applied for food stamps, which requires applicants to identify noncustodial parents, and for government health insurance, which in some cases also requires that information from applicants.

Powell said she especially needed Medicaid for her son because he suffered from frequent respiratory ailments.

More:

Ja’Shawn was born Feb. 14, 2006, a Valentine’s Day baby. His father first saw him when he was 4 months old but didn’t seem very interested in him, Powell said.

For the past year and a half, she said, Ja’Shawn has had a solid father figure in her boyfriend, Jamie Payne, who works at a local hospital. Still, Powell was determined to maintain a relationship between Ja’Shawn and his father, she said.

“I wanted him to bond with his daddy,” she said. When Ja’Shawn began to talk, the two began having brief conversations on her cell phone. Although Platt’s interest was sporadic, he took his son on outings a handful of times and had always returned him without incident, she said.

It wasn’t uncommon for Platt to promise to get Ja’Shawn and then not show up. But on Friday about 8:30 p.m., Ja’Shawn woke up from a nap, thrilled that Platt was outside, ready to keep him for the weekend, Powell said.

“He said, ‘Oh, my daddy’s here,’ and he ran to the door saying, ‘Daddy, daddy, daddy.’ He was so happy,” Powell said.

Her eyes filled with tears. “I never knew that it would be the last time I’d see him,” she said.

@Hannibal

YOU ARE A SICK SON OF BITCH!

i don’t wanna even finish reading this one!

@Bossip Lee:

LOL

I think I’m horrible sometimes for thinking of ways to toture people. Am I?? I only think of it when I see dumb ass people like this who hurt innocent children, or even innocent adults. I say…you give a life, you give your own. Simple mathmatics if you ask me.

@DOC

THANX MAN

This is just sick…I am suspect of why the child was left to go with a man he did not know. I mean where are the maternal instincts. i guess you just never know what a person is capable of…

THIS JACK ASS IS FROM NEW ORLEANS, ONLY 22 WITH A MIND FRAME LIKE THIS. HE SLIT THE THROAT OF THIS CHILD AND PLAED HIM IN A BAG IN A PARK NEAR THEIR HOME. ALL OVER 4000.00 BIG ONES. IM SURE THE KID WAS ASKING ” DADDY WHAT ARE U DOING?”

@Sydney – thanks for clarification. So he had spent time with him before. He is just a sick son of a BI***

*from previous post*

If you TAKE a life, you have to GIVE UP yours.

I fault his mother…if a father doesn’t have any interest in a child than you should leave him alone.

Hi BE, I’m still reading the Times-Picayune story, and it appears that the mother really wanted for a close relationship to form between her son and his father, but there were problems from the get-go — For one, he refused to travel to be there for his son’s birth and didn’t see him until he was 4 months old. All the signs pointed to his unwillingness to be a stable part in his son’s life.

I think it’s a reminder that women have to be extremely careful about which men they pick to form relationships with and to have father their children. This man clearly has psychological problems that trouble even the investigators in the case.

you running from my questions?

So they disclosed the manner in which this precious little boy died?

I’m going to be sick. . .

@Syd – I think it’s a reminder that women have to be extremely careful about which men they pick to form relationships with and to have father their children. This man clearly has psychological problems that trouble even the investigators in the case.

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I agree sometimes the best thing for the child is to have that parent NOT in their lives. this mother will have to live with the what ifs

@Raquel – I agree what pressure?? We all have pressure but we don’t take our kids out, pretend to be okay, then slit their throat…that is a heinous crime.

I would have killed the mama..joking

@BE

“I agree sometimes the best thing for the child is to have that parent NOT in their lives. this mother will have to live with the what ifs”

Exactly. You can’t make a man do what he doesn’t want to do and, in this case, he clearly didn’t want to be a father. For him to brutally murder his own son shows that he had no emotional attachment to him whatsoever.

From the article I read, the mother’s boyfriend had actually filled in as a father figure for this little boy, but she was determined to maintain a relationship with the biological father.

The whole situation is just tragic. . .

@Be: For real!! I’m sure everyone on here has some kinda pressure or stress on a daily basis; and I’m sure some of you have kids.

And this would never cross your minds. Or mine either.

HOPE THEY GET HIS ASS IN JAIL AND STICK AND ELECTRICSL PIPE UP HIS A** AND SEND 250 VOLTS OF ELECTRICITY RIGHT THROUGH HIS A**
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Damn corp!

@EddieDollar – I agree in this case the death penalty almost seems too good though

u suppose to be sucking marquis dick. aint he keeping ur alter??? where is quiet despiration???

Typical reaction to child support from another lazy man walking this earth. I wish we could rid the world of all of yall and just have women on it. It would be a better place.Not only do you make kids and leave, but account for almost 95% of the crime rate. Yet we can’t so the only way to combat this problem is to stop people from breeding until they get married. Not only that, for the male population to think that it is okay to sex up any female walking without consequence says a whole lot about society. I purely blame it on the mommas who shield their sons from their responsibilities and the dads that walk and out and never come back because society has accepted it as the norm for men to be absent.Ladies have got to get smarter and stop letting any and everything impregnate them and close their legs because no matter what, men are going to do what they do best and when it’s all said and done you’re going to be stuck with carrying the load literally and the moment you say child support they’re going to be all up in arms about it. Losers

Good morning, Shay.

@Eddie

I don’t think it mattered what this brother thought because he’s obviously mentally ill. It takes a special type of psychopath to do what he did to a child.

I’d be surprised if he lasts in prison — Even the most hardened rapists and murderers despise child killers. . .

@Sydney, thanks for the info.

Wow! This is so sad. I believe we’ll be reading about him soon enough in the papers as he will no longer be amongst the living. He’ll definitely be taken care of in the pen. No pressure!

@ SYDNEY
DID THEY SAY HOW HE WAS KILLED YET

I think all mothers want fathers for their children. We need to give her credit for giving his sorry ass a chance. I know she’s probably blaming herself for not being a bitch to this man. She could have not let him get to know his father, not let him talk to him, etc… But she put her childs feelings first. Sometimes you have to step back and let that abscent parent either do the right thing or dig that ditch a lil deeper. The child, as they grow up, realizes what’s real or what’s not. But DAMN! this baby won’t get a chance to know that his father ain’t shit and never was!!
Yea I hope they give him hell (x10000) in prison. Make his ass suffer everyday!

WTH…this man WILL get whats coming to him. Trust and believe that…

What I want to know is…WHO would actually lay down and sleep with this man??? ***scrolls back up and cringes*** He LOOKS disgusting…absolutely trifling.

Why was he allowed to even be near the child in the 1st place???

And last but certainly not least…

I think the mama should be locked up too…clearly she is a dumb-azz and should not be allowed to procreate EVER again.

AND he ugly as hell!!!

I had to add that right quick.

@Shay

I just found this on another site:

Danny Platt admitted to police that he killed his two-year-old son and then told them where to find the boy’s body.

Platt’s son Ja’ Shawn Powell had been originally reported as abducted by three men with ak47s on Jackson Ave. After Platt’s story of what had happened kept changing he admitted to killing Ja’ Shawn because he was under a lot of pressure.

“His story never really added up. He was a suspect from the very beginning. The homicide detectives brought him in earlier today where he eventually confessed and also told us where the baby’s body was,” said New Orleans Police Chief Warren Riley.

The body was recovered from an open lot near a children’s playground behind the 1900 block of Jackson Ave.

Sources tell FOX8 that the child’s throat was slit though the coroner has not completed his report.

ppl
are a mess these days.
smh

dude deserves the Brazen Bull…google it if you don’t know what it is

wow

im speechless! the devil never sleeps!

this is so sad. i mean really. people are really crazy. Wake up world. get your life right with GOD! fa real!

This is so, so sad on so many levels. All this woman wanted to do was make sure her son bonded with his father – and this is what happens.

Some of y’all remember me telling you about my grandson’s father and his dumb-ass family not wanted to keep Jay all the time. After reading this – they ain’t got to worry about seeing my grandson NO TIME SOON!

Like my daughter said, “They won’t see Jay for a long time – if it’s going to be a problem, then I’d rather not send him there.”

I told my daughter she made the right decision.

first of all, some of you are obviously not reading the article. this was NOT the first time he’d seen the child.

second of all, if she’d never had any violent confrontations with him, why was she wrong for trying to get him involved with HIS child. children deserve to know where they come from. and while it’s admirable that her boyfriend willingly stepped into the father role, that doesn’t relieve the biological father of his responsibility.

dude is the only one to blame. the mother was trying to do the right thing. this dude was just a selfish ass. period.

I think the mama should be locked up too…clearly she is a dumb-azz and should not be allowed to procreate EVER again.

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Dumbazz? Why do you say that? What did she do wrong? the original article and what Sydney posted say nothing as to what the mother did to cause this. She wasn’t even going after him for child support. Welfare was doing that. From what I have read all it appears she did was try to promote a relationship between her son and his father. The article says he has come and taken the child before without incident. Why should she have feared sending the child this time?

What exactly did she do wrong and that’s a question for everyone here who blamed her not just you? What did she do wrong?

@MissBlaze43,your grandson should see his father.

first of all, some of you are obviously not reading the article. this was NOT the first time he’d seen the child.

second of all, if she’d never had any violent confrontations with him, why was she wrong for trying to get him involved with HIS child. children deserve to know where they come from. and while it’s admirable that her boyfriend willingly stepped into the father role, that doesn’t relieve the biological father of his responsibility.

dude is the only one to blame. the mother was trying to do the right thing. this dude was just a selfish ass. period.

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I’m wondering this myself. How does it become the mothers fault that this murdering azzhole kills his 2 year old child? What did she do wrong? Some people will find a way to blame the black woman for everything and thats the problem with the black man right now. At some point he has to take responsibility for the things he does.

lmao!!!thats what i thought

@Raquel26

GREAT points!!!!

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Terrible story!!! $4000 = the cost of a child’s life. Disgusting

@Hannibal,

WTF is your problem…Seriously if you are that damn ignorant and darn right that cold hearted about this pathetic situation, you need to burn in hell right with him. You fuc*kin douche bag!

You can’t say this enough — Some men AREN’T worth the time nor energy. And a baby surely won’t bring a man closer to you — if anything, if he already has a foot out of the door, an unwanted pregnancy will push him out that much more quickly.

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But is this what went on or are you two just saying this woman had a baby to trap this guy? Is this the old black woman baby daddy assumption or do you have proof thisis what went on? Youre the one posting the articles. Fill us in. Is this what went on?

I don’t think people are blaming the mother per se, but as women, we have hold some responsibility for the men we allow into our lives. . .If you have to push a man to spend time with his child (and, according to reports, he initially didn’t spend any time with his newborn son), then there’s a problem.

The reality is some men do not want to be in their children’s lives. Period. And, as the saying goes, you can make a ho a housewife, and you can’t make a deadbeat a daddy, no matter how hard you try. Yes, it’s unfair that sometimes the burden of care for a child falls solely onto the mother, but, to me, that’s even more reason for women to use caution with whom they allow into their lives. We have the gift of instinct, and we should use it to the fullest.

raquel,

a person can carry themselves as the epitome of uprightness and still be crazy. the man who killed all those people on christmas eve was an usher in his church and his neighbors said nothing but good things about him. yet he killed 9 people. he shot an 8 year old child in the face.

having been married, i can say that people DO change. they just do. and you can’t always predict HOW or WHEN they will change.

if the child was 2 and the dude was 22, then that means that he was 20 when the child was born. and she was quite possibly the same age. they were young. things that are important to you at 20 are not so important at 30. that’s not an indictment against young people. that’s simply the way it is.

you have no idea why she chose to have a child with him. you don’t know how long they’d know each other before. maybe they were high school sweethearts, but grew apart and he couldn’t handle that. but that’s not something she’d necessarily see in the beginning.

she didn’t do anything that hasn’t been done time and time again and the kids don’t end up dead. she was trying to make sure that her son had a coneection with both of the people who created him. what’s wrong with that?

this is the guys fault. period.

This is so, so sad on so many levels. All this woman wanted to do was make sure her son bonded with his father – and this is what happens.

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Thats what I mean. If this was a woman who was keeping her son from his father she’d be getting dogged for that too so what gives? Shes at fault when she doesn’t let him see the child and shes at fault when she does? What do you all want from this woman? She is the victim as is her baby.

@ME

For clarification, that quote is not in reference to this particular article. I don’t know the details of this particular couple’s relationship, but here’s some info from the Times-Picayune article: “Powell, 21, had known Platt almost all her life; he and her brother were good friends, she said. The two dated briefly, from May to August 2005, and she became pregnant in June. After Hurricane Katrina, they both ended up in Texas, he in Austin and she in Arlington, near Dallas, she said. Although she heard very little from him, her sister offered to fly him to Dallas for his son’s birth. He refused, Powell said.”

And, yes, I do think there are some women who believe that having a baby will magically cause a man to show more care and responsibility than he had previously shown.

very sad story,innocent child, some men need to use condoms if they don’t want to pay child support or have kids,these kids are innocent they didn’t chose to be here,there’s no excuse for his actions,this story makes me so angry

I don’t think people are blaming the mother per se, but as women, we have hold some responsibility for the men we allow into our lives. . .If you have to push a man to spend time with his child (and, according to reports, he initially didn’t spend any time with his newborn son), then there’s a problem.

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I agree with what you have said here but where is the proof she was forcing this man to be in his childs life? She never even took child support from him until Welfare demanded it. Where is the proof that this woman is everything you all are saying she is? How does not even asking for child support translate into her forcing this man to be in his childs life? I bet she wanted it. What mother doesn’t? But how does that translate into it being on the mother that this bastard killed his 2 year old baby? Even if she was forcing him to be in the childs life how does that make what he did ok?

…be damned if I got knocked up by some loser raggamuffin..I have the womb, it’s my responsibility to protect it. No man can convince me to have unprotected sex, I don’t care how suave you are…or how long we’ve been dating. Doubt he became broke overnight either…

@ T LATRICE
I AGREE WITH PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING YOU SAID!!! AS LONG AS BEFORE SHE ALLOWED HIM TO LEAVE WITH HIS FATHER THAT SHE KNEW HE WAS TRYING TO BE THAT SAME POSITIVE INFLUENCE HAD IN A DAD GROWING UP!!!
HOWEVER, IF SHE WAS THE FEMALE THAT KNEW HE HAD A TENDANCY OF SLAPPING A CHICK EVERY NOW AND AGAINAND HE WAS SELLING WEED, LIVING WITH HIS BOY AT HIS GRANDMA HOUSE, IT REALLY DEOENDS ON WHAT SHE KNEW OF HIS LIFESTYLE AFTER LETTING HIM GO WITH DAD FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 2 YEARS, IF THIS WAS REALLYINNOCENT AND SHE SIMPLY WANTED BABY TO KNOW HIS FATHER THEN I HOPE THE GANG RAPE THEN IMPREGNATE HIS ASS WITH BULLETS, POISON, AND PISS

@ Raquel 26

You and I are mostly on the same level, but with this case – you will have to look even deeper.

If I’m not mistaken, wasn’t there a football or basketball player who killed his girl or ex-girl because she refused to get an abortion? Wasn’t this chick like 8-months pregnant or something?

I know these are two separate incidents – but isn’t the MO the same in both cases? Neither of them wanted kids to have to shell out child support to for the next 21 years of their lives.

Now, like you said – getting pregnant by these fools is NOT going to change their minds about how they feel. FORCING A CHILD ON THEM WILL ONLY MAKE MATTERS WORSE IN THE LONG-RUN.

And this man took his situation to the highest level by killing his son. No child – No child support.

Listen up ladies – ’cause this could have been anybody – y’all have GOT to stop playing these cat ‘n mouse games with these damn men. If a niggah say he don’t want now babies – DON’T LAY YOUR STUPID ASS DOWN AND GET PREGNANT – just to see ‘what he’s gonna do, now,” because you might not like the outcome OF YOUR OWN STUPIDITY.

AND AS FOR THE MEN: If you don’t want to shell out that child support or have unwanted babies – THEN COVER IT UP BEFORE STICKING IT IN!!!

@SHAY SHAY

WHAT U TALKIN ABOUT, IM BEIN NICE TODAY

And, yes, I do think there are some women who believe that having a baby will magically cause a man to show more care and responsibility than he had previously shown.

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I agree. I do too but I don’t get how everyone is so sure thats what happened here. The father is the killer and he needs to held accountable for it. It start trying to find ways to blame the mother is crazy. He did it and the blame lies with him.

My heart goes out to the family of this blessed child. Without placing blame, I will only say that we as women have to treat our bodies and our lives as sacred as possible and choose wisely!

SMH

@Raquel26,

And this nigga talking about pressure?????? LMAO

Nigga, you probably wasnt even on anyone’s payroll, so you dont work. That’s no pressure right there.

You didnt go to school to enhance your life and well-being. No pressure.

You dont pay bills because the state pays them for you. Again, no pressure.
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And with this profile he still was able to find someone to make a baby with. I wonder what the mother is like.

@ hannibal
i know you… and…. idoubt that your being nice, i havent yet read your comments, but you pissed off some chick alreadyyyyy!!! its not even noon yet!

@Sidney

Some people on here saying it is the mother’s fault so they are blaming her. Like some others have said this woman was just tryign to make the daddy be a daddy but we can all see that you can not make a grown man do anything. I understand what she was trying to do and my heart goes out to her and the family.

*can’t make a ho a housewife* (please pardon the language)

@ME

Of course, women naturally want men to be in their children’s lives, but the reality is not all men want — nor are capable of handling — that responsibility. I’m saying that from the little I’ve read, it appears that this man never showed enthusiasm for stepping into his son’s life. He went for months without seeing him after his birth and while he did see his son on occasion, those visits were sporadic.

I’m saying that, as women, we have to read the tea leaves and look for red flags. I absolutely hold this individual responsible for the hideously depraved act that he is accused of committing, and, of course, I’m sure that no one close to the situation could have imagined that he would be responsible for the murder of his own son (there’s a video of his apology).

I’m saying that, yes, in an ideal world, all men would step to the plate, but we all know that’s not the case. And if it’s not happening naturally, there’s a reason.

@SHAY SHAY

I WILL BE NICE TO U, BECUZ I KNOW U WILL MAKE A FOOL OUT OF ME IF I DONT, AND WHO IS THE BITCH U SAID THAT I PISSED OFF?

i bet the mom is dark and ghetto!! thats why i am attracted to only light skin women

@Lashonda,

“Typical reaction to child support from another lazy man walking this earth. I wish we could rid the world of all of yall and just have women on it.”

Well, not really but it women would just stop giving incentives to these men we wouldnt have a problem. We can be sure that this niggah has been trife since day one and some stupid black female still thought it a good a idea to get pregnant by him.

And with this profile he still was able to find someone to make a baby with. I wonder what the mother is like.
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Another ignorant jerk who just can’t seem to blame this man for killing his child but with you in the other post calling black women black bitches I really didn’t expect much more from you. Black man is to ignorance like air is to breathing. Theyre one in the same. You really can’t expect much more from the majority of them.

@ Sydney

No, he doesn’t object – he just leaves my grandson with HIS mother and then she gets frustrated because he leaves and stays out all night.

Oh, he going to get his at “The Farm”, Angola prison. They don’t play that.

@corporatecutieshayshay,

I am almost certain that this fool has been trash for a long time but momma didnt care about it then.

@ hannibal
see… now why she gotta be a bitch, she might have been a reall cute white girl that you would have like!!!! willyou be good, and you cool with me today im going to spend my day bashing this loser ass 22 yr old that killed his son!!! im going to flatline his ass before the end of the day!!! i can see if he cut her throat,(just playin) hell she was the one he laid down with but an innocent child!!!! nooooooooooooooo

@tlatrice:

From the words of Sydney…..”I don’t think people are blaming the mother per se, but as women, we have hold some responsibility for the men we allow into our lives”.

Well said, Syd.

Now to add on:

I’m not saying that it was wrong for the mother to want her son to have a connection with his father and yes, it is his fault solely as far as the murder goes.
But I think you missed my point.

My point is that while people can change and turn into either the worst or for the better, you still need to get to know a person. Find out from friends and family how that person is. Do your research.

My cousin dated a “thug”, didnt know much about him except the fact that he had money, dressed nice, but had no job. Hung out with the wrong crowd, etc. These are things females need to take into account when meeting guys. Most likely, a guy like this isnt going to be good material for anything. She ended up having to do a 5 year bid for this dude in prison all because she didnt know a thing about him, slept with him, let him up in her house and then she gets shitted on.

Not the same story, but my drift is that leave niggas like THIS (above) alone. Most likely you will have drama following you if you dont. And this is this young lady’s drama. High school sweethearts or not. This dudes pictures rings deadbeat.

@mycalah69

My heart goes out to the mother and the family as well.

@Kigali:

Yeah, I agree with that statement. Alot of females will know how a dude is but for some reason, stay stuck on stupid.

@SHAY SHAY

LETS BE HONEST, THIS IS THE BABYMAMA’S FAULT

Well, not really but it women would just stop giving incentives to these men we wouldnt have a problem. We can be sure that this niggah has been trife since day one and some stupid black female still thought it a good a idea to get pregnant by him.

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I agree. I wish they would just make a bunch of huge jails and fill them with these black men who have no motivation. Thye should then all be bombed. Then these screwed up black men could stop preying on young girls and impregnating them and thr world would be a better place. Stop and think about it: would the would the world really miss the black man? Our race doesn’t even miss him. WOuld the world?

@me,

On the contrary, I can blame this man for the murder of this child, I can also blame his ignorant ass mother for trying to start a family with this low life. You sleep with a rabid dog what do you expect to happen?

In the future, I will give black females a check list on what types of men to avoid. She can walk around town with it and interview the prospective baby daddy. If he scores below a 75, she either has to wear a condom when she is having sex with him or she has to just keep a legs closed- an Olympian task in and of itself.

@MissBlaze

So he’s really not spending time with his son? Has he ever considered possibly taking parenting classes?

@Kigali:

Some women have no care or concern about what their man is like as long as they can say they have man.

I’d rather be happy and single.

@ kigali
you may be right but what if they met when she was a young tenderoni in school and she may have saw potential, i just dont want to go bashing her, instead of saying you aint shit you broke and cant see your son, she allowed him to have time with his child and this is the result, we as woman always take the beating for keeping a man from his child and when we take the higher road some shit like this happens

@mycalah

it is the moms fault!!

@sydney

where is ziggy dust?? u get him and sydney #1

Danny Platt said he was under a lot of pressure. He apparently owed his estranged wife $4,000 in back child support.

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Okay so now that the article clearly establishes she was married to this man what is your next move Kigali? This wasn’t someone she just opened her legs for. It was her estranged husband who did this. So the “black bitch” did the right thing as far as that was concerned. She what is she to blame for now?

And where does the article say this man was a thug? He was clearly down on his luck but I don’t see any references to thugging or any jail experiences or nothing. So are you saying that all black men down on their luck are thugs? Is that how you see the black man?

Actually, Kigali, a checklist is not a bad idea.

@ME

I think you’re internalizing this situation — There ARE black men who are caring for their children (my father being one of them). For me to cast a blanket generalization on brothers would be to disrespect and malign some of great black men in my own family.

@sydney

u found ur dad?

I’m trying to understand how the mother let him pick him up after all that time!!!

Couldn’t they have started visitation while she was present?

Something’s just not adding up or—-ol’ girl was probably so glad he “all of a sudden” wanted to see his son that she didn’t see any hidden motives!

He probably wouldn’t had to pay more than $50.00 a week!

Damn shame!!

@ Sydney

Girl, no. He’s too busy out there chasin’ other girls. The only thing he’s managed to do successfully is buy my grandson the same namebrand clothes that he wears – Pelle-Pelle jacket, Avirex jacket, Mauri shoes – that kind of foolishness. My grandson doesn’t know about crap like that.

Every time my grandson is with his father I’m scared soembody is going to try and rob BOTH of them – wearing all that stupid shit. It’s just senseless to me.

@ kigali
i just read that he became recently unemployed and was down on his luck sooooooooooooooo.
your theory for this thread just got flatlined!!!
BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEEEPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!
DEAD HE WAS HER HUBBY AND HAD FELL OFF!!!
SO MY STATEMENT IS WHEN WE WOMEN TRY TO DO THE RIGHT THING AND GET MARRIED AND HAVE A FAMILY WE GET A CLOSET CASE CRAZY ASS MAN>>>
IM NOT SAYING YOUR THEORY OF MOST BLACK WOMEN IS WRONG, FRANKLY I CONCUR… BUT TO SOME EXTENT “THE BLACK MAN”
WILL HAVE TO EVENTUALLY STAND UP AND BE THE MAN THAT IS EXPECTED OF HIM.
SOME FAST TAIL GIRLS ARE LACKING GOOD PARENTING AND FOR LACK THEREOF THEY RIN ACROSS THE 1RST MAN SHOWING AFFECTION AND END UP PREGNANT OR ON WELFARE, BUT THIS ISNT THAT CASE

@ 1TruDiva

That’s all my grandson’s father had to pay – $50 per week – but had he paid it? Hell no. Now that its adding up, there’s certain shit he can’t do, like get a passport.

ME:

Don’t argue with Kigali. He’s a race bashing faggot punk. I was reading a post last night where a girl who said she is in Alaska came in and punked his punk azzz so bad he ran from the post and wouldn’t come back. She had the same issue you did but was much more vocal about it. Someone as weak as Kigali isn’t worth your trouble. Go look at a post about Khloe Kardashian and her new boyfriend and you’ll see for yourself how this punk ran. Ignore him. Kigali is weak and I saw it with my own eyes.

@MissBlaze43 thats not a good reason to keep your grandson away from his father… as long as he is not putting him in harm. I bet its just the other grandmother complaining for nothing when she know she don’t mind watching him.

@Me,

The penal system will take care of this man. He is going down for his crime but what about the crimes that are routinely commited by black females? They bring these thug ass, low lives, criminals into their lives and when shit like this happens, when shit like Julia Hudons whole family getting killed happens, no one is around to say that these black females shouldnt be trying to rehab these niggahs. No one is around to say these black females shouldnt be making babies with these niggash. No one is around to say these black females shouldnt be exposing herself, her family to these niggahs. No one is around to expose her role in the situation.

As for Kim Kardashian, black females have this visceral hatred of her that is so irrational and immature calling them bitches regarding it is being generous. How about you call out them black females out for calling her and her sister even worse name than bitches. Oh thats right, a black female is entitled to her rage against attractive white women who are dating wealthy black men.

I am a woman btw.

@MissBlaze

SMH. Has he bought his son a book? The money he spends on designer clothes could buy a lot of educational toys.

He doesn’t seem to be fully ready to be a father.

OK, I have a similar situation with a relative, and without going into detail, I’ll say that she had a child with a man who already had a shaky background and was in no position, nor did he express the desire, to have a child. And it has been a struggle. It really has, and it’s the child who’s suffering the most.

@ ME
FYI
KIGALI SAYS SHE A GIRL… I DONT KNOW WITHPUT A GRAVIE SHE COULD BE A WHITE MAN FOR ALL WE KNOW

@4evaURLgirl,

I dont recall “running” from any post. I probably went to my cousins house or to bed. Anyone have anything to say to me about my views, I am back bitches.

I am woman.

@corporatecutie,

Does it matter who or what I am? Just deal with my arguments. If you dont have the intellectual fortitude but instead can only make personal insults, just ignore me.

Kigali, have you and SMDH ever been in a thread at the same time? It seems that since your views run directly counter to one another, it would seem that she would be a direct target for your perspective.

Just saying. . .

@4evaURLgirl,

I dont recall “running” from any post. I probably went to my cousins house or to bed. Anyone have anything to say to me about my views, I am back bitches.

I am woman.

No your not. Your a MAN who ran from a woman last night when she was gettin in that azz. You ran and the post points that out.

ME:

Don’t argue with Kigali. He’s a race bashing faggot punk. I was reading a post last night where a girl who said she is in Alaska came in and punked his punk azzz so bad he ran from the post and wouldn’t come back. She had the same issue you did but was much more vocal about it. Someone as weak as Kigali isn’t worth your trouble. Go look at a post about Khloe Kardashian and her new boyfriend and you’ll see for yourself how this punk ran. Ignore him. Kigali is weak and I saw it with my own eyes.
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I just found it and read it. While she is very eccentric in her speech she does bring up some very good points about the black man. Thatks for pointing it out. Now I know who Im dealing with.

@ pm

No, the other grandmother is MISERABLE because she’s still got young ones of her own to deal with. How young? My grandson has an uncle just three (3) years older than him – that’s how young.

She shouldn’t have to be the one keeping my grandson – her son should show respect to his OWN mother and keep his OWN son when he’s there.

She had the audacity to say to my daugher, “I don’t see why your mother can’t keep him.”

Because I’m not the 24-hour babysitter, that’s why. Her son doesn’t work – he doesn’t go to school. He’s out there hustling, going to court all the damn time.

My daughter works two jobs and this niggah can’t find one? AND you can’t keep your son when my daughter needs him to.

If that’s not reason enough for my daughter to keep her son away from her father and his family – then I don’t know what is.

It’s not a good thing, in my book, to bitch and complain about little children. That shit is NOT COOL.

@4evaURLgirl,

Its obvious you are baitng me. Its ok. I dont remember corresponding with anyone from Alaska but in the meantime I will return back to that thread and answer whatever concerns they had. Or, just copy and paste them here so I dont have to go to the trouble. Anyone who knows me on here knows that I dont run from a fight. I start them, I win them, I finish them. Trust me.

Kigali, have you and SMDH ever been in a thread at the same time? It seems that since your views run directly counter to one another, it would seem that she would be a direct target for your perspective.

Just saying. . .

If you are talking about the girl who handed Kigali his azz in that post last night I have seen them in the same post. I have seen them in many swirl posts together before. You dont forget Kigali or SMDH that easily.

This is a serious question and it is sheer eddie logic… but opinions…? NO CHILD SUPPORT… FOR KIDS BORN OUT OF WED LOCK…?

@4evaURLgirl,

I dont recall “running” from any post. I probably went to my cousins house or to bed. Anyone have anything to say to me about my views, I am back bitches.

I am woman.
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Maybe you should go back and read the post. I looks like you ran to me. Even Sydney points that out at one point. You disappeared very quickly.

@4evaURLgirl,

Its obvious you are baitng me. Its ok. I dont remember corresponding with anyone from Alaska but in the meantime I will return back to that thread and answer whatever concerns they had. Or, just copy and paste them here so I dont have to go to the trouble. Anyone who knows me on here knows that I dont run from a fight. I start them, I win them, I finish them. Trust me.
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Yeah well you didn’t finish this one last night. She dusted you all up in your azz and you disappeared. You punked out. Why respond now? SMDH is gone. She isn’t even in this time zone. Why didn’t you respond last night when she was handing you azz to you?

@sydney

ur alter keeper marquis is in the chris brown!!!

Yeah well you didn’t finish this one last night. She dusted you all up in your azz and you disappeared. You punked out. Why respond now? SMDH is gone. She isn’t even in this time zone. Why didn’t you respond last night when she was handing you azz to you?

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You’re right. Alaska is in a different timezone. At the time she was cursing him out it wasn’t even night time or it was here. I have seen her post before now that I think about it. She is a wild one but very accurate.

@ ME
KIGALI DOESNT WIN FIGHTS
SHE STARTS THEM TO GET A RIZE AND LEAVES UNTIL THE NEXT DAY!!! I HAVENT SEEN A KO YET!!!! IM STILL WAITING

@ ME
KIGALI DOESNT WIN FIGHTS
SHE STARTS THEM TO GET A RIZE AND LEAVES UNTIL THE NEXT DAY!!! I HAVENT SEEN A KO YET!!!! IM STILL WAITING

Yeah well he got his azz run up out of a post last night.

@ Sydney

EXACTLY – it’s always THE CHILD that suffers. These kids didn’t ask to be in this world – yet they’re the ones abused, used and mistreated.

My daughter and I are the ones who get my grandson books and educational toys to expand his mind, and at 3 he’s a smart, bright kid.

I aim to keep him on the straight ‘n narrow as he gets older. Truth be told, I’m GLAD my grandson will be spending less time with his father. That way none of his trifling ways can be picked up by my grandson.

My daughter and I want to raise a MAN – not a Thugg!

KO = KNOCK OUT

@4evaURLgirl

LOL, OK, I’ll have to keep out for their meetings from now on because I couldn’t recall a real conversation between the two of them.

@ ME
KIGALI DOESNT WIN FIGHTS
SHE STARTS THEM TO GET A RIZE AND LEAVES UNTIL THE NEXT DAY!!! I HAVENT SEEN A KO YET!!!! IM STILL WAITING

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LOL I see that from the fight he ran from last night.

i live in new orleans…in the same neighborhood that this happened. so sad. but he’ll get his because now he’s in central lock-up which is an awful place to be–especially for a child murderer

@ MEG
THATS GOOD TO KNOW
MAYBE HE WONT MAKE IT TO ARRAIGNMENT

This is a serious question and it is sheer eddie logic… but opinions…? NO CHILD SUPPORT… FOR KIDS BORN OUT OF WED LOCK…?
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How ignorant. So a woman should have to raise her child without financial support from the father because they weren’t married when she got pregnant? Again no lesson learend for the black man who is clearly the problem in situations like this. I’d imagine this would float very well with baby abandoning black men. Do you really feel the black man should just answer to NOTHING? I’m so happy he is not the one who make the decision as to who gets his money when it comes to his children.

@Hannibal

You’re a piece of shit just like this nigga. Probably have a couple of your own illegitimate bastards running around. SMDH at your cornrows starting in the middle of your chrome dome…lmao Fake ass Layzie Bone Clone

Cock sucker off yourself!

@MissBlaze

Yeah, my relative’s family has the same mindset. . .

I just feel pain for the children caught in these situations. They are the true innocents.

This is a serious question and it is sheer eddie logic… but opinions…? NO CHILD SUPPORT… FOR KIDS BORN OUT OF WED LOCK…?

LOL. let me leave this thread. The black man pity party is starting to turn my stomach.

PEACE OUT ME!

@4evaURLgirl

Ok, I went back to that Kardashian McCants post and there wasnt anyone on there that I hadnt been speaking to already. SMDH crazy ass showed up but thats it. I would like to know specifically, who are you talking about that “ran” me off the post. If you can, paste what they wrote here that got me running. I would love to read it.

ur dick is in the chris brown!!

@4evaURLgirl

Ok, I went back to that Kardashian McCants post and there wasnt anyone on there that I hadnt been speaking to already. SMDH crazy ass showed up but thats it. I would like to know specifically, who are you talking about that “ran” me off the post. If you can, paste what they wrote here that got me running. I would love to read it.

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I think shes gone according to her last post but I am guessing thats what she was talking about. How you stayed for all the other comments that appeared to be going your way but the minute SDMH showed up you ran and wouldn’t respond to her. Looks kinda punkish to me.

@kigali

everyone should go to kardashian mccants post right sydney???

@Me,

And for the record I wasnt on the thread when SMDH showed up. Ok, I am done with that issue.

Ms. Blaze–

I apologize for responding so late!!!

I’m at work ACTUALLY working so you KNOW I’m pissed!!

Lol!!!!!

True story–

One of my brothers was ordered to pay $1.00 (Yes, ONE DOLLAR) a week in child support.

In addition to THAT—he used to get the dollar (AND THE ENVELOPE AND STAMP) from the child’s mother.

I…..KID……YOU……NOT!!!!!!!!!

@Kigali

“Funny how the race is doomed because I called Bossip black females bitches but not because black females have overwhelmingly turned their backs on traditional families in place of her current mating”

It takes a man and a woman to make up a “traditional family,” and it will take men and women to repair the broken structure in our community.

This man(?) wasn’t distressed. He is a selfish, ignorant coward who didn’t want to take care of his responsibilities.

If he was so distressed why didn’t he kill himself.
No, this fool kills his son instead.

If he didn’t know stress before he will now. He will be given a life or death sentence AND his ass will be properly handled when he gets among his prison “buddies” so many times he will wish he had killed himself.

Wow, Diva. . .

Really???

Hannibal is a troll, NEVER RESPOND TO HIM.

Obama 08, Nigga.

Also, it’s pretty well-known that SMDH is an idiot and has no valid viewpoint on issues regarding black men.

She obviously blames her poor choices on all black men, and it’s not only sad, it’s kind of funny to watch.

@P

You’re right about Hannibal — Although it does surprise me that he would attempt such a stunt in a serious thread of this nature.

Like I’ve said before, something’s missing. Or as the elders like to say, that boy ain’t (sic) right!

Kigali listen honey: YOU RAN!! There was not this long time between you and her post. It was only about 15 minutes and I have seen longer than 15 minutes response time from you in that thread. She came in and blasted you out and you ran. She even said a few times that you wasn’t going to come back so she is clearly used to you running from her. You ran just admit it. You dont even have to admit it. The proof is in the pudding.

Now I am not SDHM. I am not going to argue back and forth with the likes of your ignorance or rather argue with myself while you disappear from the thread. Do yourself. I have already seen what you’re about. I wouldnt even give you the time of day any further. You’re not worth it. You have your feelings about the black woman and I have mine. We aren’t going to see eye to eye so I’m willing to let it go now.

See I am telling you I’m going to let it go. Notice how I didn’t run out of the thread?

Also, it’s pretty well-known that SMDH is an idiot and has no valid viewpoint on issues regarding black men.

She obviously blames her poor choices on all black men, and it’s not only sad, it’s kind of funny to watch.
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And to read the thread it’s kind of funny to see how Kigali ran out with his tail between his legs. Regardless of how you feel about what she said Kiglai didn’t want any parts of her. LOL.

Maybe Kigali should stop blaming his bad choices in women on everyone or he should keep doing it and SMDH can keep airing him out.

@Me,

And for the record I wasnt on the thread when SMDH showed up. Ok, I am done with that issue.
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Yes you was. You just ran from it post haste.

Seriously though I’m going to stop egging on an e-fight between the two of you. I’d hate to see you think you’ve grown the balls to step to her and she has to hand you those too.

It amazes me how this turned into her not being there for her child or black women not being there for their children and how they should marry or what not. People who are in marriages kill there children as well case in point Andrea Yates killed all of her children and she wasn’t black.

sydney and marquis are the same people. were is kevin??? u need to confess!!

“This race is doomed. With black men like Kigali among us this race is doomed.”

Funny how the race is doomed because I called Bossip black females bitches but not because black females have overwhelmingly turned their backs on traditional families in place of her current mating, or rather breeding patterns. I call them breeding patterns because black females no longer raise children but shallow vessels that go on to repeat her mistakes.
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No the race is doomed because violence is so second natured to black men that black men like you actually sit here and condone other black men murdering their children in place of blaming women for who they are sleeping with. TRADITIONALLY whne responsible men don’t want to be fathers or aren’t ready to THEY USE CONDOMS! They make it so that no woman can ever claim he fathered something that he didn’t. And you act as if this girl knew this man was a lazy useless murderer and just layed back and spread her legs for them. Hows about laying a mans uselessness on the mans shoulders instead of everyone elses. Everyone is getting tired of it.

Also seeing that the article points out that they were MARRIED I think your out of wedlock anger laced tirade against the black woman is irrelevant.

@ Eddie

You know I can actually appreciate your point. I really can and I see where you are coming from. It’s almost like saying the age old saying “if you play with fire expect to get burnt”

@What up Eddie! I checked your YouTube video out..Was that you spittin?

@ Sydney–

Yes, it’s true! I was there when she reminded him to put his child support payment in the mail once. He replied, “I will as soon as you give me the money and a stamp.” What was even sadder was he had to send it by money order. I was like “doesn’t it cost 40 cents to purchase a money order?”

SMH!

BTW–This is the same child (nephew) that we buried almost four years ago.

Cause of death you ask? Homicide.

We DO become a product of our environment.

@ME,

Shock horrow, she was married. Now that truly threw me off. In any event, female condoms cost between $2.50 and $5.00 and with a thorough disinfecting, can be reused. So now females have no excuse to have children with dead beats.

I said it before and Imma KEEP ON sayin it:

REMEMBER THIS STORY WHEN THE ISSUE OF GAY MARRIAGE/GAY ADOPTION COMES UP AGAIN. CHALLENGE THE BIBLE THUMPERS TO EXPLAIN HOW GOD COULD CONSIDER MARRIAGE SACRED AND EXCLUSIVE TO HETEROS, WHEN SHIT LIKE THIS IS HAPPENING!

For the record…..

Kigali is NOT a man!!!!

I find it funny how it’s assumed she is a he!

Her views are her views and…agree or not, I respect them.

Stereotype much?

IF YOU NEED TO TAKE SOMEONE TO COURT FOR CHILD SUPPORT YOU MADE A MISTAKE

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You clearly have trouble reading becuase the article says she never took him for child support. She applied for food stamps and Welfare – THE WHITE MAN – came after his scrawney black butt for the money.

You’re losing focus again. Not to mention you sound as ignorant as that wimp that ran from SMDH in that post last night. I think I’m done posting to you to. The fact remains thta the black man, as will no man, EVER be excused from supporting his child financially as long as the white man runs things – and thank God. Thank God for the level headed white man who understands responsibility is necessary. If its good enough for him, its good enough for you. There is really no need in me getting all risen up over something that will never happen anyway. Pay your child support and stop complaining or use a condom next time. Condoms have a 99.99% effectiveness when used properly.

For the record…..

Kigali is NOT a man!!!!

I find it funny how it’s assumed she is a he!

Her views are her views and…agree or not, I respect them.

Stereotype much?
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I never said Kigali was a man. SMDH said that in a post last night. But from his/her posts and the hate for the black woman in them I have no reason not to believe SMDH is accurate in saying that he/she is a man. I believe that Kigali is a man.

But the balls in your court. How do you know Kigali is NOT a man? Have you met him/her?

@eddie

“birth control and abortions FOR THE MOST PART (outside of the rape/incest/heath deal) are merely excuses for women to act like sluts…”

So what exactly are you saying, that birth control shouldn’t be used by sexually active people?

As far as abortions are concerned, that’s a woman’s personal choice, IMHO.

“MEN RUN AROUND STICKING THEIR DICKS WHEREVER AND I WANT TO TOO”

So are you saying you subscribe to this way of thinking?

OK, here’s the deal: We are humans, not animals. If you watch one of those documentaries on Animal Planet, yes, you will see the male beast impregnating as many females as possible because that is his innate nature.

We as humans have the brain power and ability to make choices. We have a conscience. We have knowledge. That goes for both men AND women.

I’m not going to let men off the hook with the whole “boys will be boys” excuse line — If you’re a man and you have a line of women bearing your illegitimate children, guess what, you also have a problem that you need to rectify. Control yourself. Use some sense and protection.

Did someone mention child support???????????

Damn! You just reminded me that if I EVER see my ex-husband on this side of creation, I’ma bust ‘em in his head to the white meat!!

I got a claw hammer under my seat with his name aaaalllll over it!!!

Bastid!!!!

Lol!!!!!!!!

@sydney

u dumb cunt!! u will confess soon!!

@ ME–

That was NOT directed primarily at you!!!

In reading some of the posts, I read where there’s reference to her as a man.

I was just pointing out the fact that she’s not.

I also pointed out the fact that it may be assumed she’s a man because of her views.

That’s all.

Carry on…………..

@ME,

Shock horrow, she was married. Now that truly threw me off. In any event, female condoms cost between $2.50 and $5.00 and with a thorough disinfecting, can be reused. So now females have no excuse to have children with dead beats.
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And male condoms are even less. You can walk into a clinic and get condoms for free! Maybe if black men don’t want to take care of their responsibility they should be investing heavily. Maybe if he invested more he wouldn’t have such high STD levels and wouldn’t be spreading them at the dangerous levels that he does. If the woman has to raise the child alone the LEAST he can do is step in financially.

OK, I’m confused. . .I was under the impression that the couple in question is unmarried. In fact, the children have the mother’s last name. Am I mistaken?

@Diva

Sista, that’s a horrible story. I am so, so sorry. . .

What a tragedy.

@Kigali

OK so if a woman does indeed sleep with a FLEA does that take aways the FLEA’s responsibility say b/c it is a flea. “Well you knew I wasn’t no good so you get what it is” All the blame cannot be placed on the female. That is the major problem, we always blame the WOMAN for the failures…I have seen people who were well humans and not say “fleas” act totally different when there is a child involved. Again all of the blame can’t fall on the woman! If a man is a flea shouldn’t something in HIM tell him ok now I have a child I may need to change? But no that doesn’t happen but the woman had better get it together now that the baby is coming. I bet if the single women started dropping the babies off at the men’s door with no forwarding address it would be totally different! I do not have children but if I did have one where I was not planning to oh I would be right there at the door like here you go! Well I take that back b/c I would actually be at the clinic…anywho…Society always expects the MOTHER to be the responsible one with low expectations of the father!

@ ME–

Actually, you have a point. In response to your question–no, I don’t know for sure. I can only conclude that from previous conversation where she’s let that be known.

On the same note–how do we know who’s what up in here??

**checking inside of panties**

Yup. I’m still a she!!!!

Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was just pointing out the fact that she’s not.

I also pointed out the fact that it may be assumed she’s a man because of her views.

That’s all.

Carry on…………..

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No problem but before I carry on there wasa question in there that you missed. How do you factually know that Kigali is a female. Have you met him/her? I don’t want to get anything started here but it would appear the only way you could factually know that is if you are Kigali or if you’ve seen id/birth certificate. How do you know so positively?

@me… no black woman… black man… just woman… man… of course the men have a responsibility rather a duty to raise their children… not just a financial responsibility… a child needs 2 parents not one… the problem is these retards keep having babies out of wedlock, and the courts are designed to destroy the family… my point is one of governmental interference as a result of poor judgement on the mothers part… I am talking about the degradation of societal values… women need to realize the power that they hold over men and start using it… women used to inspire men to be better than what the were… now they are too busy trying to be men and raising their men to act like boys (if the modern man can even be called that)… if it seems like I am absolving men of their duties… that is not my intent… I am merely asking women to hold themselves in better esteem… you have to realize I was raised by Smart Setters, United Negro Business Women, and very very classy, wonderfully strong black women… that taught me women and men are EQUAL but very different… and that a man should act like a man and a lady a lady… they taught me that while a man should be the head of his household… THE WOMAN IS THE NECK… AND THE NECK TURNS THE HEAD… so if you treat men like sperm donors that is how they’ll act…

@ ME–

Actually, you have a point. In response to your question–no, I don’t know for sure. I can only conclude that from previous conversation where she’s let that be known.
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Sorry – ignore my last question. I didn’t see this response.

Ok about the thread:

That bastard should pay dearly, and he is a coward for killing his own son…

As for child support I aggree with Eddies stance…If a man is doing his part, financially and emotionally for his/her child, the should be no reason for a woman to put a man on child support..

I beleive it takes two to tango…Sex cant initiate unless the niggas dick is hard..bottom line..I cannot place the full blame on the female when the man is laying down with her too…

omg. that IS despicable for ANY reason, but over 4G’s? may the little man rest in peace….

that poor mother.

@eddie

“women used to inspire men to be better than what the were… now they are too busy trying to be men and raising their men to act like boys (if the modern man can even be called that)…”

OK, why is it the responsibility of women to “inspire” men? Are men not the head of the community and of the household? Does it not take a man to raise another man?

There’s a bit too much being put solely at the feet of black women, who are already under tremendous pressure and strain.

Come on now. . .

Should there not be men who are teaching other men how to fulfill their responsibilities? I have breasts and ovaries — I have no idea what it’s like to be one of you!

This role reversal is killing us — Let us be women, please.

Thank you kindly.

Let’s see…pay the measley ass $100 or go to jail for life? $100 or jail forever? Where is the logic behind this? Clearly he was crazy from jump to think that $100 is more precious than his son’s life. What a jackass.

What part of the “FLEA” analogy don’t you women understand?

A “FLEA” is an unemployed, undereducated, (in all probability has a strong working knowledge of it’s local correctional facilities), and has the earning potential of a fast food burger flipper.

Why would any sane women allow themselves to get knocked up by a “FLEA”?…And how much in child support were you expecting? Oh, well, i’m out. Will read responses tonight. Ciao!

@ Sydney

I could not have said it better!

WELL ACTUALLY THE BOY DID KNOW HIS FATHER IF YOU WANNA CALL THAT ASSHOLE THAT WELL BETTER WORD SPERM DONOR AND HE WAS IN AND OUT THE BOYS LIFE THE LAST TIME HE DID COME AROUND WAS FOR HALLOWEEN TO TAKE HIM TRICK OR TREATING THE DUMB ASS JUST DIDN’T WANNA PAY HIS CHILD SUPPORT 4000 DOLLARS @ THAT SO NOW HE WILL ROT HIS SORRY ASS IN JAIL OVER 4000 DOLLARS I KNOW THIS MAY SOUND HARSH BUT I HOPE HE GETS WHAT HE DESERVE BEFORE HE COULD ASK GOD FOR HIS FORGIVENESS

“Female condoms are even cheaper than hair weaves and a full set.”
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**reminder to see Lhing Phung on lunch break**

This makes me sick to my stomach… that poor baby didn’t deserve that… there are some really sick monsters in this world!

And while sisters are taking care of children and are being asked to “inspire” and support black men, who’s taking care of them?

*crickets*

*more crickets*

*silence*

@Passenger 57,

This whole thing starts when black females, being so emotional and impatient, just cant wait until she is financially stable, and cant wait until the man is financially stable, to have children. Fact is we wouldnt be having this problem if black females had taste and sense. Here is a novel idea, because statistics show that men who were once married to the mother are more likely to be active in the childs life, why not these females wait until they are married? This is 2009, no mistake pregnancies if you arent an illterate imbicile.

Let’s see…pay the measley ass $100 or go to jail for life? $100 or jail forever? Where is the logic behind this? Clearly he was crazy from jump to think that $100 is more precious than his son’s life. What a jackass.
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That’s how dumb brothas handle their responsibility. They don’t get reasoning like what you just laid out here. They lack the intelligence to.

I have a friend whose childs daddy is in arrears to child support from all the times his sorry butt was unemployed and let the money build up instead of taking his dumb butt into court and letting them know he isn’t working so they would halt or lower the payment. He just chose to do nothing. So the money built up to almost $8000. Do you know he will not file his tax returns becuase he refuses to give her the money he owes her quciker than the little extra from the arrears that was added on to what he already has to pay every week?

This goes to the point you made in your response. If youre not going to get your tax refund anyway why not have it go towards a bill that you owe that will always be over your head and come back to hurt you later? But this fool would rather let the IRS keep the money than to send it to his child.

But thats how dumb brothas get down.

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And while sisters are taking care of children and are being asked to “inspire” and support black men, who’s taking care of them?

*crickets*

*more crickets*

*silence*
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Good point. Noone ever worries about inspiring the sista. She has to carry the weight of everyone else but never gets any recognition or uplifting for it. All she gets is dumped on even more for the so called MAN of her race and what he can’t or won’t do. But noone ever gives her any thanks or support. She is either carrying the broke black man or watching him carry a white woman once he isn’t broke while leaving her behind. She just gets no support or anything.

@ Marquis,

Do you really wanna know why so many black women have relationships with deadbeat, violent, wreckeless, dieases-infested black men??

Because those men are the ONLY men that will give the typical African American woman the time of day. Period. Stop rentedning that the average black woman (in terms of appearance, education, and social-economic status) has access to the so-called “good black men”.

Now explain to me why so many so-called “good black men” do not show the average black women any attention, please.

Because the truth is, MOST black men are not capable of providing for a family or protecting their mate and children. Yes, that includes the so-called “good ones’ who want to pretend like they have this great character when in reality they are just as color struck and racist as some whites. The REAL TRUTH is that for a lot of black women who are not “exceptional” are left to choose from the average black American male and we ALL KNOW what his profile looks like. And even for those of you average black men that don’t have a criminal record – I bet most of you who have kids, don’t have a viable source of employment with upward mobility, are not 100% diease free, haven’t been to a doctor since childhood, cannot control your sexual impulses, have a fetish for non-black or very light skinned women, etc.

So you are not a good man, you just may be good for a black man.

@Kigali – you know I don’t mind debating but you calling me an idiot in the Akon thread is totally uncalled for…I know you think that you are the only one in the world who can say anything right but that shit is foul! I have never disrespected you and I expect the same.

@ME,

“How do you factually know that Kigali is a female. Have you met him/her?”

Funny. I am a female because I say I am. How do you know that I ran away in that Kardashian thread? You really dont know unless you were in my room, saw me read a comment by SMDH and decided to not post but since you werent you dont know that I decided to leave, and she came after I left. If you are allowed to make judgements based on scant evidence or unreliable evidence, so can other people.

Typical black female hypocracy.

That idiot is just A trifling coward. He deserves a public hanging

@marquis

u could have spoke to sydney.lmao!!!

@Be,

My apologies. Sometimes I forget who I have rapport with.

Come on now. . .

Should there not be men who are teaching other men how to fulfill their responsibilities? I have breasts and ovaries — I have no idea what it’s like to be one of you!

This role reversal is killing us — Let us be women, please.
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This is so true. Role reversal isn’t the right description of what is going on within the black race. Role reversal implies that the black woman acts as the man while the black man acts as the woman.

These days the black woman has to lay the role of man, woman and head of household while the black man, for whatever reason – be it jail, death, flight or just doesn’t care, is just plain absent.

See how different that is from role reversal?

@sydney/marquis/kevin

i hear crickets from you.

Kigali (Channeling her inner Dr. Laura and Judge Judy for Bossip retards)

“This whole thing starts when black females, being so emotional and impatient, just cant wait until she is financially stable, and cant wait until the man is financially stable, to have children. Fact is we wouldnt be having this problem if black females had taste and sense.”
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So I guess this behavior is learned from the mother right?

What impact does the role of the Black father have in your opinion?

Kigali,

Your statements are so hyperbolic. Black women are no more emotional that non-black women. They have no more SEX than non black women. The problem is, the pool of men they have to choose from is FAR WORST AND MUCH MORE DAMAGED than non black women. This is why we see the chaos we see in the black community. Look at Bristol Palin – her baby daddy dropped out of school to get an apprenticeship and is going to marry her. This happens in lower income white communities all the time. And his MOMMA just got ARRESTED for drug possession. Yet he doesn’t just abandon his responsibility becuase he was raised by a heroin hillbilly.

Why don’t black men do that? Why is it always some excuse or some black woman’s fault that they barely know how to wipe their own asses? Black men are wreacking havoc on black women and children and the only thing other so-called “good black men” and their female groupies can say is “pick better mates”?

ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Where is the average black American female supposed to go to find these good black men? And then when she is there – why is it that the so called good man is more likely to pick another type of woman over her?

HANNIBAL: the venom you speakin will weaken your soul and kill you a violent agonizing death in the presence of the devil you praise.

@kigali – thank you..apology accepted.

Sorry I know yall having a serious debate..carry on.

@ME,

“How do you factually know that Kigali is a female. Have you met him/her?”

Funny. I am a female because I say I am. How do you know that I ran away in that Kardashian thread? You really dont know unless you were in my room, saw me read a comment by SMDH and decided to not post but since you werent you dont know that I decided to leave, and she came after I left. If you are allowed to make judgements based on scant evidence or unreliable evidence, so can other people.

Typical black female hypocracy.
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I don’t know anything for sure because I wasn’t in your room but all evidence points to you ran. It’s just too coincidental that you disappeared for the night as she appeared. Thats just my opinion but she seemed pretty sure you ran too like you had done it before. She called it. She said you wouldn’t come back and you didn’t.

Test

Lets see here;

Deep south? check
Ugly unemployed n*gga daddy? check
Ghetto ass name for kid? check….Ja’shawn?
having children without being married? check

Not passing judgement, just letting everyone know 6am is never wrong.

@7LADY

HAPPY NEW YEAR

<<>>>>> Bwahahaha!!!

Shall we play?

@Passenger 57,

Because those men are the ONLY men that will give the typical African American woman the time of day. Period. Stop rentedning that the average black woman (in terms of appearance, education, and social-economic status) has access to the so-called “good black men”.
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This right here brings a tear to my eye.

Well, if I may chime in, I think the main problem is, is that the black female has failed to reproduce good black men at replacement level. Because the black female has turned her back on the traditional family in place of her currect breeding habits, she hasnt provided quality future mates for black women. When black females decide to reestablish the traditional family by playing her role, losing weight, and the diva “cant nobody say shit to me” attitude, she will raise enough good black men with her husband so when her daughters are older they will have plenty of good black men to choose from. Black females have to be qaulity women, so she can attract marry and keep quality men so they can raise more quality men and women that can repeat this cycle. Then we will not be fighting over scraps.

Da*n, I’m trying to post that famous quote from Zora Neale Hurston about the black woman being the “mule of the world,” and it won’t post. . .

(Gazing out window after outfitting muscular body with black pants, medium black t-shirt, and gold-tipped snake skin boots)

Yes, that includes the so-called “good ones’ who want to pretend like they have this great character when in reality they are just as color struck and racist as some whites.

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One of the things SMDH said in that post yesterday that stands out to me is that not only is the black man a racist but he is the worst kind of racist because other racists are atleast hateful to what they are not. The black man is the only racist that is hateful to his own. I agree with her. A great deal of the racist hate the black woman feels is directed to her from the black man. Now that I think about it who is really more hateful to her than the black man? Who is really the biggest threat to her existence? When you think about it its scary and sad.

@ME

You made an excellent point. Perhaps “role reversal” is the wrong terminology.

Here’s the full quote from Zora Neale Hurston, by the way:

“Honey, de white man is de ruler of everything as fur as Ah been able tub find out. Maybe it’s some place off in de ocean where de black man is in power, but we don’t know nothin’ but we see. So de white man throw down de load and tell de ni**er man tuh pick it up. He pick it up because he have to, but he don’t tote it. He hand it to his womenfolks. De ni**er woman is de mule uh de world so far as Ah can see.”

@syd… you don’t get it… and I can’t explain… you see the role reversal but you don’t understand why it is there… or how it was put in place… GO READ THE WILLIE LYNCH LETTER (yeah it is an obvious forgery… but the methods and out comes are real)… you took my inspire comment as most others out of context… my intention is that a man and woman are supposed to complement each other… they are supposed to be your better half… make you better than what you are… not a wife raising her husband… but rather a wife/woman guiding her husband/man (because a marriage ain’t shit but a piece of paper)… to be a better man… if you stop looking for dick/sex and start looking for partner(s)… you minimize these problems… start with a good man make him better… not start with a flea and turn him into a man…

@Passenger 57

Well said!

I find it also as a result of a low pool of good black men to chose from, Black women are more willing to accept a relationship with married men…

@eddie

“because women are trying to act like men”

Are sisters trying to “act” like men, or have they been put in that position?

I attended a forum on relationships a few years ago, and I had what could be akin to an out-of-body experience because I let some deep-seated emotions come forth. The panel consisted of brothers — all professional, mostly married, and one single brother — and I said to them that all I want as a black woman is the ability to be a woman. The freedom to be feminine and to not have to worry about “taking charge.” I don’t want to be a “Strong Black Woman” — I know my place, and it’s not at the head of the household.

I don’t think I’m the only one who feels this way. . .

@ 6 am
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What deep south gotta do with this and a so-called “ghetto name”? That is irrelvant to the fact that someone killed their own child. It could have happened anywhere and to a Katie. Would that make the story less tragic. And, Katie’s parents Bob and Rachel could be married, would that than garner sympathy.

Ignorance: check and put a star by it.

Kigali Said:

Well, if I may chime in, I think the main problem is, is that the black female has failed to reproduce good black men at replacement level. Because the black female has turned her back on the traditional family in place of her currect breeding habits, she hasnt provided quality future mates for black women. When black females decide to reestablish the traditional family by playing her role, losing weight, and the diva “cant nobody say shit to me” attitude, she will raise enough good black men with her husband so when her daughters are older they will have plenty of good black men to choose from. Black females have to be qaulity women, so she can attract marry and keep quality men so they can raise more quality men and women that can repeat this cycle. Then we will not be fighting over scraps.

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Again, you are placing the responsiblity SOLELY on the black woman. And using words like “breeding habits” is just plain digusting. No one looks at a white mother with five chidren and says, “look at her breeding habits”. And the ONLY difference is that her mate MARRIED HER. And don’t give me that crap about beingmarried BEFORE having children because white folks are the main ones to get married while pregnant. White people from all social classes do this. When that stick turns blue, most white men immediately KNOW WHAT TO DO. They start making arrangements, looking for better jobs, etc. They know that there behavior has resulted in a child and they are committed to that child and that child’s mother. But a typical negro American male – yells and screams at her for getting pregnant, threatens violence, swears it ain’t his, quits his job cuz he’s “so stressed”, takes up with another woman, etc.

DO YOU SEE WHAT I SEE? I am not saying that black women are not at fault because they are too. They do not value themselves and have displaced loyalties. They are loyal to the worst types of black men – the damaged, racist ones that propagate media and pop culture. And then they are left to choose from the black men who just use black women for sex, money, a place to live, emotional support, etc.

@Eddie

“my intention is that a man and woman are supposed to complement each other”

Yes, I agree — This is one of the keys to a healthy relationship, but it’s not always occurring among us, and the blame doesn’t lie solely with black women.

“start with a good man make him better”

Does this go both ways? And I believe in the true meaning of “potential,” meaning if a man has “potential,” it means just that — He’s not there yet. I’m not sure how much “raising” I want to be responsible for in relation to the man who is supposed to be my partner. I’m striving on my own to be a better woman, and I don’t need a man to push me in that direction.

@syd… Are sisters trying to “act” like men, or have they been put in that position?

no doubt… you are right… they were FORCED into that position ( see willie lynch for details)… and have now in many regards adopted it…

I gotta make moves real fast… i’ll be back…

This is SAD…I hope this dude gets gang raped i in the joint every day the rest of his natural life!

@ passengar 57
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I totally agree. Black men are not taught to grow up make a career for themselves, not get a “job”, and get married, provide for a family, and raise a family. There is this “playa” mentality that has taken over our society. My husband and I talk to our son everyday and my husband tells him this is how you treat a black women. It is not how much money you make, it is how you chose to use it and take care of your family.

That is so sad. I am so tired of sorry ass people doing sorry ass shit and then using a sorry ass excuse for what they’ve done. I hope that Bitch gets his ass hole bust wide open numerous times while he’s in prison. No sympathy for that Nigga.

How can you do that to your own creation that God, you and another person created. That was his 2 year old son, who did not ask to be here. That precious baby will not have the opportunity to live life because of a sorry ass son of a bitch took that special thing from him.

Niggas!!!

Sydney

@eddie

“because women are trying to act like men”

Are sisters trying to “act” like men, or have they been put in that position?

I attended a forum on relationships a few years ago, and I had what could be akin to an out-of-body experience because I let some deep-seated emotions come forth. The panel consisted of brothers — all professional, mostly married, and one single brother — and I said to them that all I want as a black woman is the ability to be a woman. The freedom to be feminine and to not have to worry about “taking charge.” I don’t want to be a “Strong Black Woman” — I know my place, and it’s not at the head of the household.

I don’t think I’m the only one who feels this way. . .
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Ayo Sydney.. I feel you…Looking at the woman I have she feels the same way

I’m serious, Redd. . .I surprised myself when I spoke up like that because it felt cathartic. . .I’m a woman, not a male/female hybrid. . .I know my place, and I want the freedom and ability to assume it.

@eddie

Since you’re acknowledging that black women have been “forced” into their current position, that’s one step forward towards finding solutions to our current problems. I believe until the situation is reversed, our families will continue to suffer because we were not meant to carry the entire burden on our own — and be abused all the while. It’s a recipe for failure.

I BELEIVE THE CREATION, STABILITY, AND CONTINUITY OF THE BLACK FAMILY STARTS AND ENDS WITH THE BLACK MAN…

@JK,

And what does your husband tell your daughter? Judging by the black females that infest Bossip I can see why black men are players. These women aint about shit. I wouldnt want my son to touch most black American females with a 10 ft pole.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

And the “pimp/h*” culture is destroying us. . .Being playas or playettes is the style of the day and that leads to nothing but spiritual/emotional/even physical damage.

We need to return to our roots — We are known for our focus on family and community. We have been able to survive the worst atrocities because of those bonds.

@ hannibal
see see look at you at it again

@Sydney===> Thats why I wanna start my non-profit one day, to teach young men that never had fathers what it is and how to be a man…sumn like mentor and big brother programs…

I wonder why it is that black women are once again being bashed for the mistake of ONE man? I mean say what you will…the fact of the matter is at the end of the day…it was the father that took the child’s life, not the mother. Regardless of her poor choice in partners or whatever, this mother was attempting to live her life outside of the father (and according to an article, they never had a violent interaction nor disagreement) She did not even seek child support, the state did when she applied for Food Stamps…so what could of been his reasoning? The sad reality of this situation was the father did not want to take on the financial responsibility and resorted to taking the life of his own seed. Period!

I just don’t know why the mother would let that baby go with some guy that never came around before. A similar situation happened in my family where my niece’s father came from nowhere talking about can he take her for the day….my mother, who takes care of her, was like hell no, she don’t know you. And that was that. Parents need to be more protective of their children, damn….

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women. Thats about what they are good for. Compare that to black females who get pregnant and throw their futures away behind aint shit black men. The black man is very smart.

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Black women, please read KIGALI’S statement over and over and over. This is exactly why black women are DYING at the hands (and penises) of the average negro American male. She, a supposed black woman, is giving black men a PASS for being promiscuous, disease-carrying ingrates just because SHE doesn’t like the attitudes of some black women on the internet. BLACK WOMEN DO YOU SEE WHAT IS GOING ON HERE? Some of your fellow “sistas” and black male groupies, justifying your demise because you aren’t behaving in a way they deem approrpriate.

@Redd

I wish you the best with that venture, and I mean that from the heart. I think you really get it, and I really appreciate that.

ME

And while sisters are taking care of children and are being asked to “inspire” and support black men, who’s taking care of them?

*crickets*

*more crickets*

*silence*
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Good point. Noone ever worries about inspiring the sista. She has to carry the weight of everyone else but never gets any recognition or uplifting for it. All she gets is dumped on even more for the so called MAN of her race and what he can’t or won’t do. But noone ever gives her any thanks or support. She is either carrying the broke black man or watching him carry a white woman once he isn’t broke while leaving her behind. She just gets no support or anything.
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OMG ya’ll better preach!

@Passenger 57.

Must you bring up white folks everytime? Are you incapable of a response that doesnt include what white people are or arent doing? I will give you a second chance.

@ Kigal
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If you describe black men as such then your ignorace is truly astounding. There are a lot of things that I could say to you or in this event blog/type. However, I shall not. You come in different posts everyday to try and “stir up trouble”. I chose to ignore you when you act out like this. I don’t care what you think about black women, that is your personal choice, I don’t care what you say about black women that is again your personal choice. Your opinions on important subjects such as this one have no value to me. Your worth as a human being as no value to the world, especially when you sprout ignorance as you do on a daily basis. Knowing you from previous posts, you probably will get upset about this and write mean evil things about me. LOL. Yet, again I do not care. Thank you and try to have a blessed day and learn something worthwhile. Cause contrary to popular belief ignorance is not bliss.

I hear you loud and clear Syd, Im with you..We gotta keep our young black males out of jail..For Black males ages 25-29: 11,695 per 100,000. (That’s 11.7% of Black men in their late 20s.)

@Sydney,

There can be no pimps if there arent any hos.

I’ve been waiting for someone to hold the Child Support System alteast somewhat accountable. Anyone who’s ever had any dealing with them knows exactly how damaging their intervention can be when introduced to any family enviroment. Hostility, rage, ect….

I’m not in any way trying to justify what the brother did, but I’d be willing to bet that the way he was treated by Child Support agents played a huge role in it. They have no respect for you, even if your intentions are fair and noble.

Again, I’m in no way justifying his actions. I’m just suggesting that we re-examine a system that would drive a man to commit murder due to money he owes (or the state says he does anyway, some of the support amounts turn the non-custodial parents new families into second class citizens after the “monthly obligations” are met,) to the mother of his child.

Kigali, please. I brought up the DIFFERENCE IN BEHAVIOURS OF THE AVERAGE WHITE MAN COMPARED TO THE AVERAGE BLACK MAN.

So if black men do not want to be compared to non black men in terms of personal responsiblity and accountability, they are in NO PLACE to preach all this hyper-masculine bullshit about needing to be the head of the household.

You are either held to a standard that ALL men are held to, which is the ability to protect and provide for a family, or you are less-than and are treated as such.

Black men have no problem holding black women to the standards of non-black women – especialyl regarding things they can’t control like COMPLEXION and hari texture. But oh, the minute a black woman says “Hold up, why is it that a white man can get a woman pregnant and acts right?” she is somehow WRONG for doing that.

Now how about YOU create an argument that doesn’t involve insulting black women – your turn!

@Passenger 57
@JK,

Listen, dont get all emotional. A man, all men, most men will try to get it when they can. If there are enough women out there that are offering it, ofcourse a man is going to jump at it. Now a man will not treat you like a trampoline if you dont act like one. If you want to be a wife, you have to be wife material. No man wants to wife up a trampoline. Dont act like a trampoline.

typical jamacain. next story please.

@Red Tony,

Aw Tony. The brotha who never misses an oppurnity to miss an oppurtunity. The only force that keep children disciplined and well heeled are fathers. When the black female feels she has use for a father instead of repeating her mantra that, she dont need no body and she can do it her dam self, the father will be the force to keep the children in line.

@ATLien -

If this man was really concerned about providing for his child, why didn’t he do so outside of the justice system. There are plenty of men that can comply with court orders and if they don’t want to be in “the system” they pay the mother of their child on their own accrod. Better yet, how about he actually LIVE with is child so he can control the day-to-day finances and probably end up spending less money.

I know the child support system is messed up, by why are so many men caught up in it in the first place? The gov’t runs shit TERRIBLY, so why rely on THEM to make sure your child is being taken care of. No person belongs up in that mess, just like prison. But when you don’t act right, you end up in there so it’s pretty dumb to compalin about the outcome.

My parents were divorced and had a pretty messy separation but they NEVER had to go to the court to settle money. My dad took care of us WELL and never begrudged the fact that we were still his reponsibility eventhough my mother had custody.

It is possible. That system will never change, black folks need to get OUT OF IT.

@Kigal
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I agree, and that is why I chose to get married before having children. However, that is one’s personal choice, and those who chose to have children and not get married, that does not make them bad people.

And, as far as using the system to get child support. Many women have no other option especially when a man refuses to accept his responsibility and take care of his child. What is the woman to do, just sit there and raise the child money wise by herself while he trying to be a “playa” and buying shit for himself that he really don’t need.

Kigali, if no man wants to “wfie a trampoline” than why does the so-called “good black man” typically wife a non-black female WHORE?

If whores can’t be made into housewives, then someone needs to tell the six figure black man that he continues to make a HUGE mistake.

I know non black men who believe in “fresh starts” and “clean slates” and will seriously consider dating and marrying a woman with a “questionable” past. How do you think all these white college girls find husbands anfter sucking and screwing men and women and goats and shit? They can always turn a “new leaf”.

A person’s sexual past should not be a barrier to finding a healthy, responsible mate and having a future together.

Only brain-washed black women think like this because they have allowed insecure black men to infiltrate their psyche. So sad.

@ Kigali–

You typed “But if anything, it shows how smart the black man is. He has casual sexual relationships aint shit women.”

I understand your point.(At this point I would’ve sincerely hoped your were being sarcastic but unstanding your position with black females, I know you weren’t.) However–I must strongly disagree!

Let’s take the statics of black on black crime, homicide, prison population, unemployment etc.

If he is so smart as you say–why are those negative statistics so high for our black men?

From your theory–it would seem to me that if he was “so smart” to prey on black women in the fashion your suggested, why can’t he overcome the other obstacles I mentioned.

I’m not dogging my brothas out yet at the same time, you must know that you cannot take one form of what you believe is positive within the black male and leave the other (just as important issues alone).

I’ll check back later for your thoughts.

@ Passenger 57
KIGALI must be out of her rabbit ass mind!! Don’t praise a black man for being stupid and running game on your black sistas and their children. That’s ignorant!!!

Why can’t we uplift our race? True, some of us make very bad decisions in life but DAMN!!! Do you believe in redemption?

Sounds like KIGALI has some deep issues? I don’t think Dr. Laura or Judge Judy can help her. She needs a higher power.

This is sad. As a parent, I would have told the estranged father No, you can’t visit this child unspervised and would of directed him to family court.

A responsible, loving, caring, parent does not abandon his offspring. A loving father enjoys spending time with his son regardless of child support or a poor relationship with the ex. A father who abandons a child does not have the right to see his child on demand. The mother should of asked for court intervention.

Family court will not allow an absent parent to take a child unspervised for visitation. The courts will usually ask a third party that the child is familiar with to supervise the visit.

The made a foolish error. If a man did not care enough about the childs welfare, food , clothing shleter or anything else why send your child unspervised to visit a man he does not know.

The divorce rate is well over 50% and there are children who are abandoned everday because of the noncustodial parent not wanting to pay child support. Abandoment is a sign that the parent really does not care for his offspring so why subject your child to further abuse.

Children are not wise enough to make decisions for themselves. A mother has to make decisions that may seem unfair but sometimes it is in the childs best interest.

@ Passengaer 57
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I totally agree. I went to a predominately white college, and those white females were “out there”, yet at the end of the day “they changed their ways” and by graudation they were either engaged or married.

@ kigali
i see your still at it… useless i swear
still trying to make a point ny insulting otherss, if you were as educated as you would like to be you could still make the same points with insulting a whole race of women that you claim to be apart of… THATS HARD TO SWALLOW

This is ridiculous. Must EVERYTHING turn into a racial situation? I mean damn…this man killed his child to avoid child support.

White men AND black men alike have been known to commit heinous crimes to avoid responsibilities. Sheesh.

OH SNAP! SHEEEEEEEEEEE’S BAAAAAAAAAAACK!!!!

*runs out of thread*

People are again forgetting that this was not the first time he was allowed to see the child. And, I don’t give a damn if it was and the mother made perhaps a “poor choice” this is no way signfies that she is somehow responsible for what this monster did. Damn, it is so easy for people to throw rocks and say well I would have done this or she should havd done this. Shut the F up and sit down. Anybody could have said that would have done this and that but until you are actually in that particular person’s situation you don’t know what you would do. Everyone’s situation is different. Damn, someone got it right when they said Bossip is all about black women bashing.

@niasia

“I swear sometimes I wish I was not a black woman I really do”

It’s statements like this that break my heart. . .Sista, please don’t feel that way. . .Believe me, I understand, but we can’t allow that negative thinking to penetrate our minds and spirits.

@ JK

I totally agree it is all about bashing black women!

I hope he got family to put money on his books, because paying child support is now the least of his problems. What a dumb choice.

@niasia,

“Again why should all of the responsibility go to the FEMALE…”

Because when there is a pregnancy, one half of the baby isnt in the mother and the other half in the father.

@niasia

Why would you wish NOT to be in the skin you’re in? Is there another race you feel would suffice?

condoms slip off or taking the pill incorrectly. Again why should all of the responsibility go to the FEMALE…I just don’t get it!
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@Niasia

The reason I said that the woman should take the responsibility is because we end up catching all the bullshit in a failed relationship where there’s a child involved, all a man has to do is walk away or say “It ain’t my kid” and the woman ends up being stuck with the financial and emotional burden of raising a child..In most cases the woman is the sole care giver, I don’t nessacery see it as a woman getting dumped on but a woman protecting herself.

As a woman I’ll gladly take the responsibility for my body and my birth control, and part of taking control is simply making a man but on a damn condom..I have no problem taking charge because I know I don’t want a child.

I’m confused as to why there is a debate on this issue. This man is a criminally insane idiotic monster. From what I’ve read and heard on the news, this man was the woman’s estranged HUSBAND. Not a baby daddy, not a jump off, or anything of the sort. They were in a committed relationship that ended. That being said, he would have every right under the sun to see the son that belongs to him. If she denied him visitation, the police would have been called and she would have a whole other issue on her hands to deal with in full view of her son. No woman has a child to raise alone, and I’m sure that she thought that she was doing what was in the best interest of her child. This momma bashing that is going on here is ridiculous. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone learns from them. It’s just a shame that this mistake cost her the life of her child.

@niasia

i wish sometimes that dark black women wernt born.

@ jk i agree
but im normally called a hypocrite when i speak because imblack and married a white man. Fusck the fact that i married a man that had loved me like no other, i married a man that no other man can light a candle to when it comes to me, but regaurdless of whom i married and why im still a beautiful black woman with two dehrees and i dont like being stereotyped into the average “hoodrat”
every race has its share of loosers… blacks have hood rats and thugs, whites have trailer trash and psychos, mexiacans have eses etc etc etc, so why is the black woman always the worst species on here!!!!
the black female cant do any good!!

and of course you can ignore kigali, you can except someones opinion but there is a proper way to say everything, i have addressed her earlier on today around or before lunch… she must have been raped by a heard of mean rude “BLACK BITCHES”
BECAUSE HER WORDS REFLECT SUCH NASTINESS

“Because when there is a pregnancy, one half of the baby isnt in the mother and the other half in the father.”

Kigali, you MUST be a typical Negro American male who attended public school if this is your rational.

Black women are not having immaculate conceptions, moron. And the fact that women carry, birth, and feed a child is all the more reason why the MAN who helped create it should at least be somewhat responsible and no out somewhere making other babies.

The typical American negro male has no clue what responsibility means. He has been coddled by black women and so-called civil rights leaders. But no one thinks about the rights of black women to be happy and healthy. No one.

THIS IS NOT AN ISSUE OF BLACK AND WHITE.

The family courts are full of people of every race. I have seen Indian, white, hispanic, hindu, jews, and more white people than any other race in family court for child support.

It is not as simple as He or she should of chose a better mate. Relationships fail.

A man could be on his best behavior until you are pregnant and then he changes into a controlling, abusive, tyrant. When the relationship fails the woman ultimately has to shoulder the burden alone. No woman choses to raise her children alone. Sometimes it is the best choice for the child.

Many fathers who refuse to pay support stop seeing the children or child out of revenge and anger.

If you feel like your child is unsafe, you can file a protective order on behalf of yourself and your child. There are many women who fear for the safety of their child and the courts tend to ignore their pleas if the father is paying support but still has shown a violent history.

If you need free legal counseling their are court Liasons who are experienced in child support and visitiation and they can give you the proper information. Don’t ask your girfriends. If you feel unsafe don’t send your child on the visit, and file a motion to have the case heard by a judge, and asked the court for monitiored visits. If the father declines and does ot show up, then you know he had an alterior motive and was not interested.

As a mom myself, there is nothing that can separate me from my children. I need to know how they are, if they are fed, cared for, did they complete their homework. If they go out for a day without me, I truly miss them.

An absent parent who does not show interest in his child is a low life loser and never let your child go alone with him or her.

@ TIM
IM SURE YOUR MOM FELT THE SAME WAY WHEN THE BLACK WOMAN THAT YOUR FATHER CHEATED ON HER WITH LEFT HER PALE ASS!!!
GOOD NIGHT!!!

Kill that Ni@@a.

It’s not just about a woman taking responsibility for her birth control but taking responsibility for the type of sorry ass men she lays down with as well, some men are just sorry and no good point blank.

@Corperatecutieshayshay
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Just because you marry outside of your race and chose to speak on issues important to black women does not make you a hypocrite. The fact remains that you are still a black woman who faces issues that are related to again black women. Whoever said that need to get sit down somewhere.

And, Black women are looked down cause they are stronger than black men, and black men can not stand that shit. Really come on. Who is more likely to graduate from high school? Black women. Who is more likely to seek higher education and recieve a degree from an accredited college? Black women. Who is more successful in numbers in the career field? Black Women.

As a Child Support Officer, I find this story to be both tragic and appalling. First off, $4000 in back child support is not a lot. On average the cases I see everyday owe 10 times this amount. If you feel you cannot pay what has been ordered (usually by default because the father ignored the Summons and Complaint against him!) you only need to fill out financial docs and request a hearing to have a judge order a lesser amount. The truth is that Child Support Services would rather have you pay a small amount than nothing at all.

Black men if you do not want to pay child support, use protection! Otherwise look forward to having a percentage of your earnings taken, your license suspended and possible jail time for non-payment.

@ JK
I AGREE BUT WHEN I SAY IT ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE IN HERE

“And, Black women are looked down cause they are stronger than black men, and black men can not stand that shit. Really come on. Who is more likely to graduate from high school? Black women. Who is more likely to seek higher education and recieve a degree from an accredited college? Black women. Who is more successful in numbers in the career field? Black Women.”

AMEN!! We are the only race of woman who consistently has to be the strength of our men while getting no support in return! But everytime you turn aorund these apes who can’t even come up to our societal level are putting us down!!

@stephany

there are sorry men these black bitches choosing to sleep with the men

@syd… you are right but in order to reverse the situation you must first realize what lead to the circumstances… this may be hard to follow but…

Gemini62065 wrote

“She did not even seek child support, the state did when she applied for Food Stamps…”

child support is a tool of the state meant to further destroy the family… not just the black family… the family in general… people don’t dig deep enough or pay attention to detail… they just stop at this trifflin sp? fool murdered his child… they discount the fact that there was state intervention… not to say anyone other than this flea ass nigga is responsible… NO ONE IS TO BLAME FOR THIS CHILDS MURDER… I am merely trying to identify the circumstances of the situation leading up to the event in question…

SMDH….lmao. Keep giving Kigali the business, girl.

@eddie

“@syd… you are right but in order to reverse the situation you must first realize what lead to the circumstances… this may be hard to follow but…”

I’m listening. . .

It’s time to reverse the situation — In fact, it’s past time.

NO ONE IS TO BLAME EXCEPT THE FATHER…

What the hell does race have to do with anything? This piece of shit killed his child over money! I don’t care about anybody issue about race here, case in point their is a soldier who killed and raped his sister over the holidays and he was white. Does it matter that he is white or that he committed these heinous crime.

Damn Soy Sauce, you going hard. But that shit needs to be said.

CORPERATECUTIESHAYSHAY – Why do you bother entertaining fools? when you acknowledge stupidity you give it credibility. Carry and hold you head up.

@COREPERATE

YOU BOUGHT UP MY MOM FIRST CUNT. YOU SEEM TO KNOW ALOT ABOUT LIBRARY COMPUTERS DUMB ASS. YOU PROBABLY GOT MORE THAN ONE BABY DADDY TO

No it does not matter about color. However, ever post such as these usually turns to color, cause we have people in here always wanting to blame the black woman for the situation. Have you read all the comments to see how it got to this point?

@eddiedollars215…

child support is a tool of the state meant to further destroy the family… not just the black family… the family in general…

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Is that what you really think? Can you please provide some evidence of this? I’ve been working in this field for 11 years now and can’t tell you how many black men have repeated this ridiculous claim to me. Child support HELPS the custodial parent take care of the child’s everyday needs (food, clothing, etc…) by forcing the non-custodial parent to pay when he otherwise wouldn’t. This is fact. End of story.

What IS destroying the black family and has been doing so for decades is the transgressions of the black male who thinks it is his personal responsibility to overpopulate the world with kids he has no intention of taking care of. Yes, the black female bares some responsibility in this as she needs to stop having babies by men who have not shown her a strong committment or who clearly can’t financially take care of himself and therefore cannot support a child.

Black women PLEASE de-program yourselves. We have been hOODWINKED for generations and continue to be.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE wake up and smell the double standards. The violence that is going on in these black urban centers is really rivaling the Congo. Black women and children are being “murked” because black men have refused to take responsibility. They have been blaming everyone else and now that the “blame the white man” thing doesn’t work, they have turned their venom towayds US.

But the truth is, the more black women wake up, and ONLY guve attention to black men and men of other races who TRULY support us and our physical and emotional well being then the black man’s stock with non black women will PLUMMET!

That is what they are MOST afraid of. Us airing their dirty laundry poisons them to non black women who believe the myth that they are these amazing lovers – LOL! So once they start seeing black men as disease-infested baby makers who aren;t nearly as good in bed as they claim to be – those women want want them either.

We have a lot of power, black women, don’t waste it on these garbage men.

I know it’s bad, but why am I cracking up?

This blog is something else. . .

On a totally unrelated note, “Ain’t that some sh**” is one of my favorite “black folk” lines, and we do have some doozies, lol. . .

Her are a list of children killed by their fathers out of jealousy

Amy and Owen Philcox by the hands of their father Brianh He drove his children to a country lane and gassed them with exhaust fumes. They were white.

It is only two years since John Hogan responded to his wife’s request for a separation by grabbing their two children, Liam and Mia, and throwing them from a balcony in Crete.

Six-year-old Liam died where he fell. They were white.

At around the same time, Perry Samuel – another unhappily estranged spouse – babysat for his children Caitlin, five, and Aidan, three.

He asphyxiated both of them; their bodies were found in a bathtub. The judge in his case said the motive was malice against the children’s mother.

A few months before, Gavin Hall discovered that his wife was having an affair. Payback came in the form of drugging their four-year-old daughter Millie and then suffocating her with a chloroform-soaked rag as she put up a terrified, vain fight for life.

Just three years before that, Keith Young reacted to the news of his estranged wife’s pregnancy by a new man by taking their four children, aged from three to seven, to a beauty spot – and phoned their mother from his mobile so she would hear their screams as they died of suffocation.

And the list grows longer: the fathers, the killings, the horror.

Stop blaming issues on race and color. It is ignorant. Blame it on the abusive parent who committed the crimes, or the courts. Everyone has had a failed relationship. It is human. No one is flawless.

“What IS destroying the black family and has been doing so for decades is the transgressions of the black male who thinks it is his personal responsibility to overpopulate the world with kids he has no intention of taking care of. Yes, the black female bares some responsibility in this as she needs to stop having babies by men who have not shown her a strong committment or who clearly can’t financially take care of himself and therefore cannot support a child.”

AMEN!! SAY THAT GIRL!!

Child support system is for mfs who refuse to take care of their children. End of Story. How can it destroy a family, when there is really no such thing as a black family anymore. Damn, whoever wrote that dumb shit is ignorant.

@PASSENGER

LOOK AROUND YOU. WE AINT STUDYING BLACK WOMEN. YALL AT THE BOTTOM OF THE TOTEM POLE!!

@ GET THE FU*K
OH I WILL HGET RAW IN HERE DONT DOUBT ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO THE FAM AND MY HUBBY, I JUST DIDNT FEEL LIKE THIS WAS THE THREAD,(SORT OF) A YOUNG KID LOST HIS LIFE AND LEAVE IT TO KIGALI TO TURN IT INTO A BLACK WOMAN BASHING, WE WEREHERE TO GIVE OR OPINION ON THIS LOOSER OF A MAN! AND BECAUSE IN SO IN SHOCK OF THE CRIME… THATS ALL I WANT TO DO IS MALE BASH THE MAN RESPONSIBLE

SMDH aka SOY SAUCE – Who you calling a coon? LOL

Woman choose who they bed down with period, if the guy is just out get some cookie and she gives it up hey. But to any male Black or White that doesn’t not take care of his child(ren) is a piece of SHIT! If I can make ten babies I better be man enough to take care of them. In the end woman control their bodies, be selective ladies!

CORPERATECUTIESHAYSHAY – As I said don’t step down to their level, never!

As for the loser keep bashing, in fact i’ll give you the bat, pipe, 2 x 4, bricks, etc… but let me curb stomp him please.

I have to agree with some of the comments. I’m not male bashng but I have seen a large number of males complain to the courts that they are not working and can’t pay the minimum of $25.00 per month. That is sorry. I have seen some men incarcerated because of not making payments even when they are working. Some men have the mentality that they come first before their children. If you don’t want to support children then get a vasectomy or wear a condomn.

All you black females in here talking trash about black men. I have a list. Next time you see a wealthy eligible black man with a white woman, dont start crying.

ITS TIME TO STOP BLAMING EACH OTHER AND START COMTEMPLATING REALISTIC SOLUTIONS TO HELP OUR FAMILIES!!! THE COMMENTS ON THIS THREAD IS EVIDENCE OF THE CYCLE!!! IT TAKES A VILLAGE PEOPLE!!

@STEFANY

If black women were to “avoid” all the low-life black men out there, they wouldhave no choice but to date outside the race. The truth is this:

The ACTUAL number of black American males that are gainfully employed, intelligent, can hold a decent conversation, emotionally sound, NON COLOR STRUCK, family oriented, protecting, non violent, somewhat attractive, and disease free is EXTRMELY SMALL.

THIS is what these internet black men always fail to point out. The so-called “good black men” have some serious color complexes and hair issues that they like to pass off as “preferences”. So if the average black woman (medium brown to darker skinned) with natural hair or hair that is not naturally straight and LONG is ASSED OUT in the black dating world. Why do you think those are the majority of women “left behind” in these crazy ass communities.

It is time that we seriosuly address this and take it for what it is. The average black woman has a better chance of a white man appreciating her beauty than a Negro American male.

This is REAL talk.

“I’mma get you a pair of Nikes for a belated Christmas gift so your monkey ass can run”

Oh, no, she didn’t. . .

*looks again*

Oh, yes, she did. . .

I know in most situations the woman ends up getting the short end of the stick, even if she can get a sorry ass to pay child support 9 times out of 10 she still ends up being a single parent raising the child with no physical helf from the man, and the child still suffers emotionally and mentally.

@SMDH,

Listen dont be manipulative. If a black man rejects the black females triflin ways, dont accuse him of harboring some deep seated love for white women. If the black man rejects your bullshit, as he should, it doesnt have nothing to do with the white woman.

Now why are all these coons finding it so easy to get with these upstanding black females?

Stop having these black females think the white man is going to play Capt Save A Ho. The white man thinks youre too fat, too loud, and have too many coon children to get an invite to Christmas dinner.

Hey Sydney?? Isn’t this deja vu?!?! I come into a post to dig into Kigali’s faggot ass. As ususal he disappears and you appear..

.. could this be a well laid dastardly plan to make it appear that I am Kigali – a question that you asked in the post yesterday and again further up today???

If I am wrong forgive me however should I be right – it’s not gonna work boo.. Posters here KNOW I am not Kigali and have seen me go back and forth with him many many times!! Back to the drawing board!!!

I wish that black men would just do better by themselves and black women. When the black men finally choses to step up his game in this way, it will be a better day for some. However, I do not expect this to happen until Jesus walks the Earth again.

@Passenger 57,

And the black females failure to raise decent black men are the reasons why there arent many to begin with. You females raise them to be thugs and if they arent thugs you reject them abuse them, and complain that when they make their money they hook up with white women.

LMAO @ Tim.

Dear, sweet, single digit IQ Tim.

Black women are only at the bottom of the totem pole when dealing with black men. When black women know better, they tend to DO BETTER. When they are taken out of the brain-washed state they have been put in by morons such as yourself, they tend to do better.

I live in Los Angeles. I was at brunch with my husband Saturday morning (who happens to be a black MAN but nothing at all like the majority of you worthless bastards) and you would not believe how many black women we saw brunching with their non black boyfriends/husbands. I mean, it was really crazy. To the point where we actually started counting them. See, my husband is not insecure like the typical American negro male. He is not threatened by another black woman making herself happy and FREEING herself from the parasites. He has even suggested to a few of his black female friedns that they date out. He haseyes and he can see what is going on. He is also not color struck and loves natural hair. He is EVOLVED from the slave-thinking many of you are stuck in.

So anyway, we see all these black women looking happy. They are not reaching for their wallets to pay for a meal. They are not driving some male-with-a-felon-and-no-license in her car. They are HAPPY andm oving on and not looking back.

So keep hiding behind the black woman’s skirt and cursing her at the same time. Chances are you will have to beg some black woman for a job in the near future. You better PRAY she has mercy.

THATS THE PROBLEM THE VILLAGE INCLUDES ALL THE DONT KNOW HOW TO BE BLACK MOMMA STUPID CUNTS

@SMDH

I stand corrected, and I apologize.

I now see the two of you in front of me, and I’m just trying not to get any blood on my shoes. . .

@JK,

Why should the black man step his game up? You black females are wiling to be his bust it baby no matter how much dirt he got going on.

@ Kigal
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Why would I cry if I saw a wealthy black men with a white woman. I could give a damn, if he was a poor black male with a rich white woman or vice-a-versa. That’s how it is when you got your own. I don’t give a damn about that black man.

All of you fell for Kigali’s Bullshi*. I din’t even read her rhetoric because it is always the black womans fault even when a man murder’s his own child to avoid paying support. She is damaged and can’t empathize with a child being killed. STOP READING HER FILTH. YOU GIVE HER EXACTLY WHAT SHE WANTS.

@ Kigal
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I can’t speak for others, but I have never been anybody’s “bust it baby”, and true why would a man change if women run after him even if he is a piece of shit.

As for failure to raise a good black men. That is not true in all cases. My brother is 25 years old, works hard, educated, and no kids. And loves him some black women. As for my son I expect him to turn out the same.

However, you on some other shit, I really think you say stuff just to start controversy. But me I love my race and truly believe in my race, therefore the mindless comments you chose to make roll of my back like water.

Damn, dude needs to be put under the jail. I can’t believe a man would even contemplate murder to avoid paying support. That’s a sick man, very sick.

Black people, men and women, we’ve got to be more selective when choosing a mate, even more selective with whom we choose to bear children with. It takes years to really get to know someone. What’s the rush people? Take your time and get to know someone. Children can wait.

@syd… specifically black women were trained to take on the role of the male through slavery… first the male was broken (I’m sure I don’t have to elaborate… this man is a prime example)… with the male image one and the female left alone to fend for herself… she begins to raise her children in reverse… the male emasculated for fear that he may suffer the fate of his father before him… she raises him to be psychologically weak and dependent, but physically strong… and the female to be psychologically independent… thus leaving the female out front… and the man behind scared… this feat was further agitated by the so called women’s liberation movement (don’t jump on me too quick WOMEN ARE AND HAVE BEEN EXPLOITED/ CONTROLLED by men)… women were tricked into thinking that they were being liberated and could have it all… I am not one of those a woman belongs at home types (my mom was a career mom)… but the so called traditional family consist of a man… breadwinning and a woman… taking care of the house (more important in my eyes)… most businessmen are not capable of taking care of the household… hence the stay at home mom… one worker one parent raising the family… the so called liberation taught people that they could have it all… so now we have everybody doing what feels good… the men run around humping and doing whatever… I want to too… The men have careers and I want one too… which is find… but people fail to realize that something has to give… my grandmother was the have your dinner on the table when you get home type (not that she didn’t work or have a life of her own)… but she was very traditional… my mother not so much… she was a career mom and took on that role… diner was whatever I ordered with the money she left… or hot pockets or some shit… so today when I don’t look to her necessarily as the caregiver but as more of a provider… she’s confused… well she didn’t really care for me in the traditional sense (nothing wrong with that I think I turned out OK) she cared for me by meeting my financial needs… (in this example don’t read too far into this… hahahaha)

On another note–

I saw an episode of outrageous videos this week. There was a segment where a young man went into a convenience store with a one year old child. The hidden camera was positioned right at the beer cooler, undoubtly to deter theft. However–what it captured sickened me!!!!!!!

On the video, it showed the man stepping on, kicking, puching and finally taking the little one’s pants down and beating the tar outta him!

What was even sadder was once he slammed the little down he walked away only to have the baby get up and follow him.

Crying!

That shit broke my heart!

OK. Who’s to blame here? The sick bastard’s mother for him thinking it’s OK to abuse a child?

The baby’s mother? (She was out in the car. She didn’t realize this happened until it was shown on the news later on)

Society? Circumstances? The “hood?”

We can blame all of them all day every day but the person that went to jail was the one that needed to!

@PASSENGER

THATS GOOD HE TELLIN THEM TO DATE OUT CAUSE HE KNOW BLACK MEN DONT WANT YALL. PLAIN AND SIMPLE. YOU TALKIN ABOUT ONE DAY YOU SAW ALL THESE BLACK COUPLES AND YOU WAS SURPRISED. NO WONDER CRAZY YOUR ASS AINT NEVER SEEN IT THAT MANY BLACK MEN AND WOMEN TOGETHER. SOON YOUR LOW IQ HAVING ASS WANT SEE NO BLACK WOMEN WITH ANYBODY. YALL ALL GO BE LESBIAN. WATCH.

Here’s something for you ladies, I have a son who I Adore! He is my legacy and I will provide for him in any way possible. His mother took me to court for CS three months after we split, yes I was annoyed by it because I was already giving her money ($600 a month) to support my son. We have never had any problems in regards to me doing for my child but she was screwed over by other sons father who is construction worker. He makes 85k a year but somehow the courts have seen to it he pay $50 a month, yes $50 freaking dollars, this asshole makes 35k more than I do. But yet I still get his child the things he is incapable getting. So I don’t blame her for her reaction but I do blame the system that screws fathers that do provide without government oversight.

Kigali,

You are of no value to this conversation or any= convo for that matter. It doesn’t matter howmany ways you try to insult black women – you are a Negro American Male groupie. You are just as bad as the so-called black women you think are embracing the thugs. Your defense of the indefensible is down right laughable.

Even the most fervent supporters of “black love” admit that the black man in America is close to extinction. I suggest that if black women want there to be black men in the future for their daughters to date – they need to create those future black men with NON BLACK MEN. WOmen are the custodians of culture and we can ensure that our biracial children grow up knowing loving and embracing their black heritage. Or hell, we may even create more Barack’s for the furture Michelle’s.

We need to stop further damaging the gene pool by having babies with the typical american negro male. Even the so-called “good ones”. I propose that black women treat their wombs like gold and really take mating more seriously. Don’t leave your children to have to fend for themselves without a father or a seriosuly damaged black male father who will pass on his anger and self-hatred.

Guard your wombs and keep them away from 97% of black American males.

“THATS THE PROBLEM THE VILLAGE INCLUDES ALL THE DONT KNOW HOW TO BE BLACK MOMMA STUPID CUNTS”
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Let’s just hope that if and when (or in the case you might already be a father) you choose a BLACK WOMAN to mother your children, she’s strong enough in her character to know that when you refer to black women as cunts, that you are not referencing her.

Tim, please do us all a favor and go kill yourself. Seriosuly. Why would any woman want a man like you who can’t even use proper punctuation or spelling or make a coherent sentence.

You are of NO VALUE to any black woman so THANK GOD you don’t like them.

Now go watch some asian lesbian porn or something before you free internet access at the library expires.

LOL, seriously, you should be ashamed of yourself.

@1TRU

I AINT CHOOSING NO BLACK WOMAN. I DONT DATE YALL AND YOU HOPE I HAVE KIDS BY IT? DUMB DUMB BITCH.

@ tim
YOU JUST SHOW HOW SMART I AM, EVERYTHING I SAID YOU TURNED AROUND AND SAID THE SAME SHIT TO ME … HOW ORIGINAL
YOUR DEAD TO ME … BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEEPPPPPPPPPPPPP
DEAD!!!

@Passenger 57

I find your posts very interesting, and I wondered if you don’t mind me asking if you can share more of your husband’s thoughts on the dating prospects for black women.

@Diva

I saw that video, and it turned my stomach. Thank the Lord for the video, or else he may have gotten away from it. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. . .That was his girlfriend’s son, right?

@eddie

It sounds like you’re further acknowledging that this situation is not the creation of black women, but has roots in slavery and the historical degradation and subjugation of blacks in this country, right?

Shouldn’t men have a prominent role in re-establishing themselves at the helm of our households?

@ Kigali–

I’m waiting for a response from you from my 2:48pm post.

**drumming fingers on desk**

Everyone this is Bossip announcement….Tim is Gay and is afraid to come out. Let us help him. ROFL

BLACK WOMEN WEAR WEAVES. ONLY LIGHT SKIN ONES HAVE REAL HAIR. YALL TRYIN TO LOOK WHITE. WHY WOULD WE WANT A IMITATION BONIQUA WHEN WE CAN HAVE THE REAL REBECCA?

*Don’t feed the trolls*

@ Sydney–

You’re scaring me! When I saw it, you crossed my mind and I wondered if you had saw it!!

**shudders**

Lol!!!

In fact, it was her son but he wasn’t the biological father.

“AND HAVE BEEN EXPLOITED/ CONTROLLED by men)… women were tricked into thinking that they were being liberated and could have it all… I am not one of those a woman belongs at home types (my mom was a career mom)… but the so called traditional family consist of a man… breadwinning and a woman… taking care of the house (more important in my eyes)… most businessmen are not capable of taking care of the household… hence the stay at home mom… one worker one parent raising the family… the so called liberation taught people that they could have it all… so now we have everybody doing what feels good… the men run around humping and doing whatever… I want to too… The men have careers and I want one too… which is find… but people fail to realize that something has to give… my grandmother was the have your dinner on the table when you get home type (not that she didn’t work or have a life of her own)… but she was very traditional… my mother not so much… ”

Okay – so we have established in this speel what the womans role should be ot her amily.. However she is only able to carry out that role (mother, dinner on the table, blah blah) when the black male is out there carrying out his – such as working a good job and taking care of his woman and family!!

Yet its only pointed out what the womans role should be.. yet again the black male is completely absolved of not doing his part!! This is ocmically pitiful!! Again, I am so glad that only the black male, and not society, feels he shouldn’t have to answer for anything wrong in his race!! I’m so glad the white man who is in control doesn’t see him this way and will punish his black ass accordingly!!!

Sh*t is sick,

but

DAMN ya’ll take it too another level with these arguments

To all my strong Black woman keep your heads up so that you see a real Black man handle his. As long as you look down you will see only the least desirable. Peace, Happy New Year, God Bless and get ready for Jan 20.

@CORPORATE

LET ME PULL THE PLUG. THATS RIGHT DIE BITCH DIE. BEEP BEEP BEEP.

TIM IS GAY CAUSE HE DONT DATE BLACK WOMEN. TYPICAL DARK BUTT SLANG. ITS ALWAYS SOMETHING WRONG WITH US WHEN WE DONT DATE YALL. THATS WHY YALL SINGLE. TIM HAS A FINE NON-BLACK WOMAN.

@SMDH

YOU USE YOUR CHILD SUPPORT MONEY FOR THE WEAVE IN YOUR PICTURE?

@ TIM–

Now, I’m sure you know that I’ve read many of your posts from time to time and may have commented.

Actually, in hindsight, I haven’t. I usually just ignore you.

However–since you had to revert to the name calling, I feel the need to tell you that THE OLD 1TruDiva w/The PlatinumVocals would’ve typed something to the effect of–

You can kindly go crunch on my dead dog’s nuts but since I’ve left the hate in ’08, I’ll be nice by letting you know that it shouldn’t take anatomical knowledge for you to find your own ass to kiss!!!

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Damn–old habits die hard!!!

@ GET THE FU*K

I HAVE A BETTER ONE YALL EVER SEEN AMERICAN HISTORY X WELL WE CAN MAKE THIS LOOSER BITE THE CURB WITH HIS TEETH AND THEN STOMP THE BACK OF HIS HEAD!!! THAT SHOULD DO IT!!! NO MRE NEEDED!!!!

@ TIM IF YOUR SO AGAINST BLACK WOMAN WHY WOULD YOU NO DEGREE HAVING ASS SIT UP HERE AND PICK ARGUMENTS, YOU DONT WANT ANYONE COMING AT YOUR DUMD=B ASS BUT YOU SIT ON A BLOG SAYING DEMEANING SHIT, YOU SAY YOU DONT DATE US, HAVE YOU EVER IENTERTAINED THE IDEA THAT WE DONT DATE YOU INTERNET SITE CRASHING ASS!!!

@Kigali

You are an asshole! your reply to me was very sexist and stereotypical of gender roles in our society. YES the woman carries the baby…but that does not mean she should have all of the responsibility. Hey you know that should be a new defense in child support court “well I didn’t actually carry the baby I just put the sperm there…so why shoud I have any responsibility in this” you are ignorant and I see your only aim is to spew vitriolic things in order to rile up or offend!

@DAPRO

BLACK WOMEN LUV TO ARGUE ESPECIALLY ABOUT BLACK MEN. THEY LUV TO SIT ON BOSSIP AND COMPLAIN ABOUT US. THEY LUV US, BUT WE CANT RETURN IT.

@Diva

I remember when that video made the national news, then I think I actually saw the full video on the show you described (was it the MSNBC show?), and I was shocked. Just shocked. . .It was sick beyond belief. The fact that the child wasn’t seriously harmed after that vicious beating is a blessing.

@Passenger 57

Youre an idiot. You actually think you are going to do this without black men. How sad. When a man is single, he is free, when a woman is single she has no one. DO you understand those sexual dynamics? An older man can get what he can get well into his 40s. A 40 year old woman isnt getting shit. You are the ones that have to play by his rules. You dont want to have to compete with 20 yr olds. OK? So yes, keep giving these women the same bullshit advice. No man is going to want to deal with her mentality, and the white man isnt coming to rescue you. Your last hope is the black man. After him, there is NO ONE. You know it.

Please take a moment to calm down before you respond to me.

You know them niggas that looooooooove the other persuasions get heated when a sista puts them in their place and we want to at least comprehend your pitiful attempt at a comeback!

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@CORPERATECUTIESHAYSHAY

I have it at home and have watched it a couple of times. That stomp is just insane.

QUESTION-

How did a post about a sick twisted mofo turn into a debate about black woman????

Sisters on Bossip, don’t be baited and lose your head trying to argue with ignorance

It’s pointless, I know your worth in the world and more importantly “YOU” know your worth

my grandmother was the have your dinner on the table when you get home type (not that she didn’t work or have a life of her own)… but she was very traditional… my mother not so much… ”
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Why should a woman have to chose between being at home and being a good mother, why can’t she do both..I know a lot of womnen who hold it down on both ends, having a career and being a damn good mother..Hell, now days it almost take to incomes to make ends meet..It’s not like it was back in our grandmother day, shit cost a whole lot more.

Theres nothing wrong with being a house wife but in some ways it renders a woman powerlsess to not have an idenity or money of her own, and to soley depend on a man for all of her needs..Theres nothing wrong with working it builds charcter.

Syd–

It was MSNBC. Didn’t it break your heart?

@ Sydney & Dapro

There are a lot of black people who hate their own race. They use this site as their loathing station or trash dump. No one would listen to their mess face to face. They can’t wait to write their hate speech on blogs.

There are a growing number of parents killing their children, because of jealousy, visitation issues, and child support. I wrote a few of the stories in a earlier post. Those children were white.

If these people on her spewing all of this trash about black people were so concerned about the future of black children and were soooo sympathetic they would join a support group for advocates of women and children. They wouldn’t come on this site everday to write 6 pants rants of curses, sterotypes and filth.

@CORPORATE

YOU ADDRESS ME FIRST AND THEN I ATTACK BACK BLACK WOMAN

BLACK WOMEN WERE DOING THE NORMAL BLACK MEN BASHING FIRST. MOST DONT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE B/T A GOOD BLACK MAN AND A THUG. THEY ALL WANT THUGS SO YOU GET THUG BEHAVIOR.

@Sydney

My husband is a realist. He was raised by his grandparents who were well into their sixties by the time he was born. His grandfather was a trcuk driver who moved his family to Delaware so his grandson wouldn’t have to live in Brooklyn, NY. He taught my husband that a black man has an obligation to further his race and uplift his race in America. He SHOWED him this by not only being the father to five of his own children but by also adopting two neighborhood boys with no fathers. He ran a daycare center with all black kids and made sure that they all felt valued and loved.

He took care of his wife (she never had a driver’s license so he drove her to and from work everyday) and let hiskids know that his devotion was to her first and them second. If she wasn’t happy, they wouldn’t be happy either. He loved her and the way she looked despite her never being able to grow her hair pass an inch off her scalp. As she got older, he loved her more.

He taught him that a black man needs to first love himself and his APPEARANCE before he could love a woman. Love your kinky hair and your dark skin and your lips and your nose. If love doesn’t come naturally, force yourself to love it. Take time to REALLY examine why you find a white woman attractive. Really THINK before you act.

So my husband took all this with him and really lives by this mantra. He truly does love himself which is why he picked a woman who looks very much like him.
This is why I say that most black American men are worthless to most black American women. Even if they are “good” and well employed they do not love themselves and that lack of love will infiltrate your relationship and wreak havoc. He will cheat on you, he will blame you for his failures, he will accuse you of stealing his manhood. He will belittle you and praise non black women in your presence. He will show that he’d rather be with them and is settling for you.

Any man who says, “A white woman would not nag me. She would let me be a man,” is pretty damn damaged in my eyes.

Bossip needs to take up mone for this child’s funeral…I’ll send some money in…but not much

@Diva

Yes, it did break my heart — and it angered me beyond belief. What an absolute coward. It was so vicious. . .

@Shani

You’re right — There are a lot of trolls on this site.

@Passenger 57,

Youre telling tall tales about black females. The black female started wearing her outlandish weave and in fact she is the first to call you nappy headed if you arent wearing one.

“Emulating white women’s hair is what most black women do because they KNOW that is what MOST black men like.”

LOL. The black woman is so strong, so resilient, everyone wants her ass lips and skin color but she cant help but to wear some Asian ladies hair. Stop. It.

Please dont talk about the black man’s poor reputation. Youre reputation isnt any better. The black man is still portrayed as a strong, virile, athletic, big dick having bad boy. Females love that. The black woman’s reputation is that she is rude, loud, bitter, angry, got too much junk in her trunk, and is a baby momma. That doesnt appeal to any men. So the black man still has the advantage over the black female.

You may not get our economy but there are still lots of jobs, labor intensive, dangerous and male dominated, that bring in good money, and you dont need a college degree. Again, the man/black man, has that advantage.

Black females can significantly reduce transmission of STDs if she would take her strong indepdent black woman attitude and buy her own dam condoms. She can wear the female one or insist the man wear the male one. No excuses.

Man, I am so sick of hearing of this supposed “system”. If your ass pay child support than nobody would have to put you in this proposed idealized “system”. Come on for real, I am really suppose to believe this. Man, I am glad my parents made me go to college.

@1TRU

IF I SAW YOU. I KILL YOU TOO.

BLACK WOMEN TALKIN ABOUT BLACK MEN ON A BLOG. NOONE WANTED TO LISTEN TO YOU FACE TO FACE TOO

That’s why I keep shit close by.

Just for switch hitters like you!

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tim and haters luv tim–

You’re the same person AND you’re making this too easy!!

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Kigali

“When a woman is single she has no one” ok you are just sexist and stuck in the gender roles of 1950. I bet you believe in old maids and eggs drying up too don’t you! Why is that if a man is not married oh he is just waiting but if a woman is not married then something is wrong with her! let the GENDER roles of the 1950′s go people it is 2009! and if you are a female it is sad. In case you missed the memo women don’t stay home and cook anymore dear! And having a man doesn’t have to define you! Again I think you may be purposefully spewing vitriol!

@ Kigal
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Really, I mean really? Please don’t have no damn kids. Cause you are to ignorant. Yes, I said it, and if I saw you I would tell you to your face. The black man is not idealized, no one gives a damn about his ass, that is the problem. He rob, kill, make babies and all other kinds of shit. (Not all but a lot) And, yes there are some angry black women, they probably angry cause they heard this crazy shit you talking.

Child Support is a joke I can speak to that first hand

The system (it is a system by design) takes all cases and lumps them into one self serving machine

It should be broken down on a case by case basis

Men mean more to a child’s life than a simple check or money order

@Shani
We would be better organizing as a group as oppossed to arguing and calling each other names but I’ve come to expect that on Bossip

This thread is a bit too serious for me so I’m going to split

@Passenger 57

“So my husband took all this with him and really lives by this mantra. He truly does love himself which is why he picked a woman who looks very much like him.”

Sista, this says so much in few words. I have repeatedly posted an excerpt from Nathan McCall’s book, Makes Me Wanna Holler, in which he talks about the self-hatred of some black men, and how, in turn, they turn that hatred against black women. We are a reflection of our brothers, and if a black man hates his own reflection, then it’s nearly impossible for him to show true love and concern for the women who look like him. In truth, his despise has little to do with his target, but it is the target — the black woman — who suffers.

When I see some black men publicly belittle and demean black women, I immediately equate it with what it is — emotional and spiritual abuse — and we don’t really talk about the lasting repercussions of this prolonged dysfunction. If you keep telling me I’m worthless, and I don’t have a strong foundation to deflect those untrue statements, sooner or later, it’s going to seep into my psyche, and that leads to a new and destructive set of issues.

It’s a vicious cycle, and it has to stop.

Your multiple personality ass has got to be a bitter ass black man!

If you want social acceptance, you’re in the wrong place, son!

Please read the caption behind my name.

Help me to HELP YOU!!!!!!!!!

LMAO @ the typical black male that can’t even hide his weakness behind a PC. A BLACK woman stands up for herself and he cowardly switches up to make others think he’s got a rider up in this bitch!!!

To think you call US weak!!

GTFOOH! You’re beginning to pester me.

Troll!!!

“The black woman’s reputation is that she is rude, loud, bitter, angry, got too much junk in her trunk, and is a baby momma.”

As is the black male only lets add murder, rapist (especially white women) gun slinging, race destroying, baby abandoning, angry, bitter, violent, criminal record having, poor credit having, woman beaters, drug dealers and the list goes on and on!!!

Amen Soy Sauce- It’s true he is known for his dick and not much else.

**yawn**

Tell ya what, you ignorant waste of an orgasm–

I’m going to step out to smoke a Newport. That’ll give your monkey ass time to call your bitch and let her know you’ve been given your ass handed to you on a blog. Maybe between you two diseased infested asswipes, you can come up with a response.

Oh, that’s for BOTH Tim!!

Damn–this is one time your mother should’ve gulped!!

**throwing holy water as I exit thread**

Yeah this “black male insert insult” and “black female insert nonsense here” is part of the reason we’re failing to move forward

Instead of going at each other head we could advance further if we uplift instead of insult one another

@1TRU

YOU A DARK BUTT AINT YOU? THATS WHY YOU MAD. DONT YOU MEAN BOSSIP RESERVED FOR ALL THE LOUD, WEAVE HAVING, BLACK WOMEN THAT ALL THE TIME COMPLAIN ABOUT BLACK MEN. YALL GOT ALL THEM SITS FILLED UP.

@ EVERYONE
TIMIS ONE OF THOSE REAL UGLY ASS BLACK DUDES YOU SEE AT THE MALL STARING AT YOU ALL GAZEY EYED AND YOU FEEL SORRY FOR HIM.. HES THAT GUY, NEVER HAD ENOUGH REAL GAME TO APPROACH A REAL BLACK WOMAN SO HE SITS AT HOME AND THINKS OF REALLY CLEVER INSULTS, GOES TO THE NEIGHBORHOOD LIBRARY AND INSULTS US!! POOR THING… AND I DO MEAN THING YOU PROBABLY LOOK LIKE BIGGIE SMALLS MIXED WITH SHABBA RANKS. I WILL BE ABLE TO TELL BY YOUR RESPONSE IF I AM RIGHT!!!

@SMDH,

“As is the black male only lets add murder, rapist (especially white women) gun slinging, race destroying, baby abandoning, angry, bitter, violent, criminal record having, poor credit having, woman beaters, drug dealers and the list goes on and on!!!”

Yes but he can still get a black female pregnant and make you guys cry with a white chick on his arm. Check and mate honey.

Everyone,

“Tim” is a multiple and has changed clothes at least a few times in this thread to try to provoke a reaction.

I repeat, please do not feed the trolls.

@ TIM
I THINK YOU MEAN “SEATS”
SOMEONE GET THIS FOOL A DAMN THESAURUS/DICTIONARY PLEASE HES TYPING 1 SENTENCE AND CANT SPELL AND YOU WONDER WHY YOOU HAVENT DATED SISTA CAUSE WE LIKE MOFOS WITH GOOD DICTION AND SPELLING AND HIT!! SOMEONE WITH A REAL VOCABULARY!!! YOU ARE THE WORST I SWEAR!! YOU HATE WOMAN CAUSE YOUR MAMMA LEFT YOU WITH SOMEONE THAT MUST HAVE RAPED AND BEAT YOUR SOUR HEAD ASS!!!

@1TRU

THAT AINT YOUR BABY IN THAT PIC IS IT AND YOU SMOKING CIGS? I HOPE YOU HAVE MONEY SAVE FOR THAT LIL GIRL CAUSE MOM AINT GOING TO BE AROUND LONG TO SEE HER GROW UP. WHO WILL BE DISEASED INFESTED SOON? CANCER HAVING CAUSE SHE COULDNT PUT DOWN THE CANCER STICK.

@steffany… I’m sure my mother thought the same way… I’m not saying you are wrong in terms of two incomes… I am saying that is also by design… and like I said my grandmother had a career, founded one of the oldest organizations for black women and had many other accomplishments… she was merely MORE traditional… if people can’t see that almost everything in this world is meant to hold you down… I don’t know what to tell you… spend your whole life breaking your back… to make someone else rich… so you can afford a bunch of meaningless shit… that you don’t have time to use… because your always working… or commuting to and from work…

@ SYDNEY
I LIKE THAT
” PLEASE DONT FEED THE TROLLS

@CORPORATE

I AINT NEED GAME TO APPROACH A NON-BLACK WOMAN. THUGS NEED GAME TO ATTRACT BLACK BITCHES

@SYDNEY

YOU WOULD KNOW ABOUT MULTIPLES SINCE YOU ARE ONE.

dapro said:

Child Support is a joke I can speak to that first hand

The system (it is a system by design) takes all cases and lumps them into one self serving machine

It should be broken down on a case by case basis

Men mean more to a child’s life than a simple check or money order
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Child support is based on a formula. However, if the paying parent can prove financial hardship, the amount paid monthly can be lowered. Therefore, support, indeed, can be determined on a case by case basis. You just have to do the research and the work.

I agree, a man being in a child’s life is more important than a check. However, I think most of the men who have to pay court-ordered child support are probably not in the child’s life anyway.

@ ERM
WHAT UP I DONT KNOW WHAT YOU WALKED INTO

@Syd

Who should be feed cause I’m dying for a meal sweetheart?

@Niasia

I hear you. A woman who has to raise the child or children alone are by themselves. It is hard to get money from a man who refuses to pay. Some of them refuse to show up for court, they quit their job to avoid their wages getting garnished, or they move away without a forwarding address. ultimately it is the woman who will shoulder the burden.

The cost of rent, food, clothing, heat, electricity, phone and other utlities can leave a woman broke, and the children go without. How could a loving father not care if their children don’t have enough food. After all of this turmoil, the children suffer, becasue the mom is working and then comes home tired and most likely in a bad mood because of the stress.

If a man has little finances to offer, that shouldn’t stop him from being a father. They left because they didn’t want to be fathers.

A lot of times those children they abandon become succesful, sometimes rich and famous and then he becomes a proud parent. Trying to take credit for something he didn’t do. Some examples are Shaquille, Keyshia Cole, Chilli of TlC and Jay Z.

@Haters

“YOU WOULD KNOW ABOUT MULTIPLES SINCE YOU ARE ONE.”

Actually, no, this is it, little one. This isn’t my real name, so why on earth would I need to create other aliases for myself? I want my opinions attributed to one name only.

Thank you.

Hey hey Corp! I been reading this thread off and on for the past hour and um… LOL

WOWWWWW!

@ TIM
“I AINT NEED GAME TO APPROACH A NON-BLACK WOMAN. THUGS NEED GAME TO ATTRACT BLACK BITCHES”
WITH DICTION LIKE THIS YOU BITCH ASS NIGGA YES YOU DO!! GO GET A DEGREE BEFORE YOU START TELLING SOMEONE YOU HAVE A DATING PREFERENCE… I HAVE A PREFERENCE TOO ITS CALLED EDUCATED

My hands are starting to smell like shit from constantly handing your ass back to you!!!

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BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! *faint*

Hey 1Tru!!

@Da Pro

LMAO! Why did I just think of that McDonald’s commercial? You can’t have any of my 10-piece, bruh! LOL!

What would you like, sweetie? *putting on apron*

Hey Ermy!

LMAO @ Diva

Ladies, you have delivered some lines today, I must say. *taking notes*

@ Passenger 57
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LOL, that was to funny yet true. Especially about the part where he got to try to stop smoking weed to pass the drug test. I would be suprise if he got that far, just about ever black male I know has to have a black female fill out the application for him anyway.

HEY hey Sydnaaay!!! i know im comin in here late but i was working like a hebrew slave today

dapro said:

Child Support is a joke I can speak to that first hand

The system (it is a system by design) takes all cases and lumps them into one self serving machine

It should be broken down on a case by case basis

Men mean more to a child’s life than a simple check or money order
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Child support is based on a formula. However, if the paying parent can prove financial hardship, the amount paid monthly can be lowered. Therefore, support, indeed, can be determined on a case by case basis. You just have to do the research and the work.

I agree, a man being in a child’s life is more important than a check. However, I think most of the men who have to pay court-ordered child support are probably not in the child’s life anyway.
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Greeting family but I disagree somewhat, it’s a two way street

Some men are foul and don’t step up as a man

Some women are greedy or scorned and want to hit a man where it hurts most

The formula is based on a design that is outdated and out of touch, you can’t calculate the meaning of being a father by simple x’s and o’s

Problem is men are viewed(particularly black men) as numbers either by the correctional facility, credit bureaus or by their income

My worth to my children was calulated by the fact that she chooses not to further her life and I have so the system decided I should support her and not my children

The door is opened to laziness, content and living of someone else by allowing her to be supported by me

I would have gladly shared more of the parental burden but out of spite she tried her best to keep me from my girls

THAT AINT YOUR BABY IN THAT PIC IS IT AND YOU SMOKING CIGS? I HOPE YOU HAVE MONEY SAVE FOR THAT LIL GIRL CAUSE MOM AINT GOING TO BE AROUND LONG TO SEE HER GROW UP. WHO WILL BE DISEASED INFESTED SOON? CANCER HAVING CAUSE SHE COULDNT PUT DOWN THE CANCER STICK.
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First you type it’s not my daughter (which it is) then you type “her mom?”

I told you– you are making this TOO easy!

“They’re all gonna laugh at you!”

“They’re all gonna laugh at you!”

@Dapro===> I hear you dogg…I said the same thing earlier, this blame game is a microsm of the cycle..And yes I agree with your sentiment on the Child Support system….

Since when did money solve problems with parenting..yes we all need money but the emotional aspect of parenting is more important…

I know greatness when I see it Pro! You and Eddie..WE ARE LEADERS!!!

@ 1 TRU
GET YO LIL ASS IN THE CORNER!!!
HOW THE HELL YOU GONNA MUDER THIS NIGGA RIGHT IN FRONT OF US!!!
*looking behind my back wiping up blood and shit from the crime scene*

Whatever that is what is wrong now. If a man don’t want to pay child support, make his ass. Point blank. YOu can make him pay child support, there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Ermie ERM????!!!!!!!!!!!

Please excuse my rudeness!

Happy New Year!

**running out to wash hands**

I just dont see why everyone is getting mad. If it doesnt pertain to you, then why get mad?? Because we all know there are trifling females and n*ggas out there. I’m not defending them. *holding up hands like in a stick-up*

I know who I am. Know who I deal with. And what to stay away from.

This definitely isnt rocket science.

Is it?

@1TRU

DONT NOONE WANT YOUR TYPE. NOW MAKE SURE THAT LIFE INSURANCE IS RIGHT CAUSE YOUR DAUGHTER WILL NEED IT IN A FEW YEARS DARK BUTT

@SYDNEY

DONT TALK TO ME LIKE I’M SOME CHILD. YOU MULTIPLE STUPID CUNT

Sydney

@Da Pro

LMAO! Why did I just think of that McDonald’s commercial? You can’t have any of my 10-piece, bruh! LOL!

What would you like, sweetie? *putting on apron*
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LMAO…I was thinking of that commercial as I typed that

((drops to knees singing share your love with me))

Talapia sounds good with rice pilaf and broccoli

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**going to sit in the corner**

@redd… word… they don’t even get what I’m saying… they really think I’m on here trying to defend deadbeat dads… when nothing could be farther from the truth…

This is why I dont date men with kids. Never will. I dont care WHAT people say. If I was able to use protection for my 29 years then anyone could have done the same.

In first meeting….”So, how old are you”
“Where do you work” (if no real answer, I keeps it moving)
“Where do you live” (in the hood, eh, most likely there’s some issues along with that) NEXT!
“Do yo have any kids” (“yeah, I got 2″) RED X!! RED X!! If there arent mine, they are baggage in my life. No offense.

But it is what it is.

@Raquel26

“Always disrespectful, but when we date someone outside our race, we treat them with respect. How you gonna respect a white man whose ancestors done probably whipped your granny’s back, and treat a black man like shit and he will MOST LIKELY stand by your side.”

I believe the reverse is true as well — Black women have stood alongside black men for generations.

just about ever black male I know has to have a black female fill out the application for him anyway.
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WOW…I am so glad my father was in the house to lay the smack down on my brother when he showed an inkling of trying to smoke anything. He has filled out apps on his own and passed all the drug tests. LMAO but like I have been reading on here, it takes TWO (the MAN and the WOMAN) to raise productive members of society. When we first moved to Chicago my father smoked weed, hung out, (the typical “black male” thing) BUTTTTTTTTTTT, my mother told him he needed to get his act together if he wanted to keep his family. She was NOT domineering in any way but she didnt let him get away with treating her with ANY kind of disrespect and thats how she raised me. My father got his act together slowly but surely and in the process trained my brother how NOT to be. Mostly, children are the product of their environments.

When my brother was in HS and my father found out he was smokin and runnin with gangs..wooooo lawd it was ON! He kicked that butt into shape and luckily my brother is the man he is today. It takes BOTH parents.

I agree with some that say they have given up on black men in general, but I have to have faith that God would NOT let EVERY black man living be terrible. How else would the black family survive?

@1TRU

YOU AINT DONE NOTHING. IM TAKING ON ALL YOU DUMB CUNTS

@Passenger 57,

The chicken (head) came before the egg. These black men you decry are the brain child of triflin black female. Due to years of abuse, verbal, physcial, emotional, and maybe even sexual, and serious pyschological, emotional and physcial neglect, we have the modern black man created by the black female of the past three decades. She created her cycle of poverty by having children while she was broke, and dumb. She chose them man who was broke and dumb but for some reason she thought that he would become Bill Cosby when the baby came. Silly. Now that we have established that the black female is too incompetant to raise semi competant children, I need to go back to my older suggestion of arranged marriages. If she cant chose a mate, I will for her.

@SYDNEY

YOUR THOUGHTS AND MARQUIS AND KEVIN ROLLED INTO ONE.

@ Raquel 26
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Usually I am on the same page with you. However, today I have to disagree. For the simple fact that yes the “ladies” Kigal is referring to may not be who I am , however they are still a part of my race, which is a part of me. And, although we all have faults, even Kigal, I will still stand up for my sisters even the misguided ones. That is who I am.

@ tim
you sure “aint” spellig on us thast for damn sure

OK, on a side note, but piggy-backing on Raquel’s post, I really hate it when I’m asked if I have kids before I am asked if I’m married. . .Just a pet peeve of mine. . .

*carry on*

@dapro

“LMAO…I was thinking of that commercial as I typed that

((drops to knees singing share your love with me))”

LOL! Too funny!

“Talapia sounds good with rice pilaf and broccoli”

Mmmm, that sounds very good and healthy! (I love seafood). OK, give me 30 minutes, OK?

Redd

We have little girls fam so we have to set the bar high

I agree the system is broken but I will never excuse a brother from sending money.

Still …..The payment amounts tht are enterd are sometimes unsreasonable. The jailing of deadbeat mom’s and dad’s is probably unconstitutional but it goes on today.

Our country initially wouldn’t allow debtors prisons….for a reason.

“I couldn’t agree more and in some case the family is better off without the black man because sometimes he does bring the family down..”

But his money can only bring it up!! Kids don’tsupport themselves nor are they free.. All that other bullshit is just condoning a n!gger being shiftless and thats the problem with this race now.. In the past out foremothers took that I don’t need him attitude and its to the point now where the n!gger boy feels entitled to not have to answer for anything.. Nasw – letting his monkey ass off the hook today is not the answer!! Too much of that went on in the past and where has it gotten him or us for that matter?!?!?

ITS CRAZY IN HERE TODAY

@Stefany,

I dont know if you have noticed but i think black men and black children are better off without black females, especially black children. Black females abuse their children, their children are in the system more so than any other.

@CORPORATE

YOU CANT TALK BITCH

@ Kigal
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Who in the hell raised you. Cause I was raised by a beautiful black woman, and I finished college, law school, got married, and than had children. The same goes for my brother.

Again your opinions have no value in this conversation. To be able to argue effectively one must be able to see both sides of the story, which obviously you can not.

dapro said:

Greeting family but I disagree somewhat, it’s a two way street

Some men are foul and don’t step up as a man

Some women are greedy or scorned and want to hit a man where it hurts most

The formula is based on a design that is outdated and out of touch, you can’t calculate the meaning of being a father by simple x’s and o’s

Problem is men are viewed(particularly black men) as numbers either by the correctional facility, credit bureaus or by their income

My worth to my children was calulated by the fact that she chooses not to further her life and I have so the system decided I should support her and not my children

The door is opened to laziness, content and living of someone else by allowing her to be supported by me

I would have gladly shared more of the parental burden but out of spite she tried her best to keep me from my girls
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I agree it’s a two way street. I agree, you can’t calculate the meaning of being a father by simple x’s and o’s. My point was that if it’s a hardship it can be reduced, letting you know that support can be done on an individual basis.

Your support was calculated by a formula, not your worth. No formula can calculate your worth, don’t choose to view it that way.

I’m well-aware that the system is skewed, I’ve been there. I’m in it.

OR @ Sydney…ppl ASSUMING you have kids because you are a black female…

@raquel26… co sign… co sign…

@auntie ruckus aka condie rice aka SMDH… why waste my breath/finger tips… please don’t procreate…

@Erm

What’s up lady, I didn’t speak earlier. How’s my chi-town sis?

@Sydney
Looking forward to it beautiful, can I give you a hand with anything?

I own some rental properties in ‘transitional” neighborhoods where mommas have to pay the landlord in “trade” and little teenage girls are walking the streets trickin.

That nigga need to send money or get his wages taken, income tax return etc.

**1TruDiva has left the building**

@ JK

How old are u? U look like Freya.

WHat it do Pro? I’m ok. Hope all is well with you. This topic is pickin up heavy steam. lol

@1TRU

CANCER CIGS GO PUT YOUR BITCHASS IN YOUR PLACE, THE CASKET!!!!!!

No Kigali, we (as in black women) do not need your help. Why would we want to have anything to do with someone like you who calls the average black woman “a breeder” or “fat” or makes fun of her hair? I think you should continue to focus your attention on defending the indefensible black American male. You are actually doing us all a favor by revealing the type of thinking these manboys have. You are letting us know that black males are complately unable to do anything for themsevles unless a *PRISTINE* black woman has laid the foundation. Thank you, but we can take it from here.

Now, for all of the black women who are still waving that flag for “black love” but are single (not by choice) and are willing to make a few adjustments to meet a man of QUALITY, let’s talk. The rest of you who continue to black black women for the state of the so-called black community and say shit like, “I see why black men date white women, I would too if I were a black man,” you can go continue to massage the balls of your local black male. Please stop acting like you are an advocate for black women when your only advice is to “pick better mates, stop loving thugs”. When you know good and damn well that the average black male just USES black women because he cannot participate in society without her resources.

@Ermy

“OR @ Sydney…ppl ASSUMING you have kids because you are a black female…”

Yes, girl, yes. Well, I feel that is the assumption when the query about children comes before a question about my marital status, as if it’s a given I have kids out of wedlock. And then when I reply that I don’t have kids, I sometimes get these looks of surprise. It’s sad, actually.

@dapro

Thanks, sweetie, but I think I have everything I need. Just sit and watch your ESPN, or whatever you like.

I like playing hostess, lol!

@Mase

Not to jump to heavy in your business fam but what was the process of filing for hardship? Or that maybe a convo offline

@Pro

Hell yeah my nigga, of course….I love black women so much I made one..haahhah..But real talk..I beleive that bad female choices in men are from the lack of a stable father figure..what mental image does a woman have of a man? That equals their choice..

This blame game shit is for tha birds dogg, It takes two..you cant procreate without the other…bottom line

And then when I reply that I don’t have kids, I sometimes get these looks of surprise. It’s sad, actually.
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OMGGGGGGGGGGG ME TOO!!! ITS MADDENING!

what mental image does a woman have of a man? That equals their choice..
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SO true!

@JK… that is also part of the problem… I hear you but in reality… if I and ME/YOU are on our job… then we don’t have a problem… but if I or You aren’t doing what they are supposed to then WE have a problem… but WE only have a problem if what I am doing directly affects you… so if I have a problem and you are doing what you are supposed to… WE don’t necessarily have a problem… I have a problem… but you may be able to pick up my slack… or whatever my problem is may not affect you… so if YOU and I are doing what we are supposed to… WE don’t have any issues… however I do realize that’s in a perfect world… and the one we live in is anything but that…

@Erm

I’m good just trying to fight this weather. At least the streets are clear now. How was your New Years?

@Syd

I like that ((sits on couch Al Bundy style drinking a Guniness)

she wasn’t a jump off she was his x-wife and that was his child and because he was a selfish nicca he took his own child’s life

nothing surprises me when your dealing with black men-they will do anything to avoid responsibility

this is just the pot boiling over….and a bigger symptom of lazy no good for nothing jegroes who make babies they have no intentions of taking care of……

oh this is definitely their own issue all by themselves-everytime you uphold and/or condone a man for not supporting their child you are contributing to creating a monster such as this…

@Ermy

“OMGGGGGGGGGGG ME TOO!!! ITS MADDENING!”

I think I’ve actually had a few brothers say to me, you really don’t have kids? Like I said, it’s sad but it’s a reflection of so much, I think.

@Redd

Too tru my dude that’s the cycle that we go thru because of the blame game

@Bossip
I’m out peace to all, Erm be safe

Syd, as always I appreciate the love! When you decide to end that strike, he’s a lucky man!

I dont know if you have noticed but i think black men and black children are better off without black females, especially black children. Black females abuse their children, their children are in the system more so than any other.
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KILAGI

Are you serious?

Black men beingn in the system has nothing to do with absent black fathers as well, and you mean tell me that white people don’t abuse their children? What do you think Charles Manson was the product of, he had a young white trash mother, who was a whore and a durg addict, she abandon and abused him and look what he became, how about Susan Smith who drowned her boys so some man would accept her, what about Kaylee who’s all over the news now..How about Michelle Obama’s children are they better off without her?

If you really believe the shit you’re writing, then you really have a problem.

I think the discussion got away from the fact that this nigga killed his OWN baby for money.

He is a bitch because he should have put his childs life before his own ……..and killed mommie instead. I bet she was too tough for his bitch ass.

this piece of shit deserves to be skinned alive!! and he should have his eyes removed one by one so he can suffer, than if that wasn’t enough, he should get his ears, nose, penis, finger,(one by one) all cut-off… until he bleeds to death..

blame black women all day-when he has his day in court that judge nor jury is only going to sentence his azz to death or a lifetime in jail

lol-no my dear this dumb nicca will have to take the sole blame for this one alone

if a black man was so fugging smart and we black women are so ignorant or incapable of raising responsible black men-then that should be all the more reason black men should never engage in unprotected sex with us right?

LOL-everyday you keep hearing stories such as these when will black men realize the answer lies within them and looking for a scapegoat (black women) isn’t going to save them cause at the end of the day only “he” is responsible and will pay the penalty for his crime and “he” alone

@dapro

“Syd, as always I appreciate the love! When you decide to end that strike, he’s a lucky man!”

LOL! We’ll see. Have a good night!

@STEFANY

What Kigali meant to say is that when a black woman gets pregnant by the typical negro american male, she should just abort it because not even a life-changing expereince like becoming a father is enough to help a lot of these men straighten up. So even if you give birth to this fool’s SPITTING IMAGE – he will still be able to walk away and take no responsibility.

Ain’t that some shit? HIS SPITTING IMAGE. But that is because he HATES it because he HATES himself. He’d rather his child look nothing like him. Sick.

I just hope that the baby didn’t suffer!!! I hope that he didn’t even realize what was happening to him… and may the lord be with him at this time….(shaking head in disbelief)

@eddiedollars215…

I seriously beg to differ. The “system” does not enslave black people, we enslave ourselves. It is unfortunate that the black man (in most cases) must be FORCED to take care of his children. He would not become a part of the system if he stepped up to the plate to take care of the child he brought into this world. By not telling the mother of his children, “Look, regardless of the fact that you and I can’t make it work, I want to be an outstanding father to my child. Let’s come to an agreement on what he needs…” Instead, you don’t take the initiative so the county or state has to step in and FORCE you to do it. As a faithful taxpayer, I am glad to have them do so because I should not have to pay taxes to take care of the baby you made and don’t care about!!

My heart and prayers go out to the little boy who had to suffer because his daddy was too self to take care of his responsibility. Men need to step their game up and STOP MAKING BABIES and GETTING WOMEN PREGANT that they dont intend to be with, or intend to financially support the children of. It appauls me that our society has made use of the terms ‘baby momma’ and ‘baby daddy’ like it really means anything. He is the reason why condoms should be sold in vending machines at the club!!! The man who did this to his son is going to have to answer to the ultimate Father!

dapro

@Mase

Not to jump to heavy in your business fam but what was the process of filing for hardship? Or that maybe a convo offline
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You’ll have to go down to your local child support court and fill out a petition for child support hardship. You may have to make some calls before you go, speak to some people there, get sent left and right, but you get what you put into it.

@ Pro…Someone got shot around the corner from where I live on New Years. THAT is why I stay in during that time. We party INSIDE. lol…too many fools with guns now and days….Thanks and you be safe too…

@ Sydney…I’m not married but ppl assume I have children. Lawd why? I have seen like 4 chicks from my graduating class in highschool and they have like 4 and 5 kids and I just cant phathom how. I even saw these two guys who were in my senior class and they were like no kids? fa real? I’m like well dayum, just cuz i’m a woman doesnt mean I have to have spit out kids at random. sheesh. but on that note. I’m outty til manana. Good night everyone

Why all the black man hate on this blog? Hate that nigga!!!! Isn’t that what we tell white people?

We aren’t all triflin or great fathers. And yes the system enslaves MEN!! Ask a white father who can’t see his kid because he can’t send and extra $200 this month.

@ mase and DAPRO.

My boy lost his job and was locked up because the job he found didn’t pay what his previous job did (96k), It only paid 35k. He was refused a reduction because the judge told him he was willfully underemployed.

Fact IS truer than fiction. I know because I bailed him out when they locked him up on Thanksgiving Day.

Passenger 57, SMDH

OMG PREACHHHHHHHHHHHHH

But again, there are still some good black men out there just like there are black women that are not fat, loud, baby mama etc…

I actually laugh when TIM said ” Black women wear weave, only ligth sking girls have real Hair!

Firt, light skin women are still black unless i missed the memo. And light skin honey wear weaves too! Well, this is exactly the type of black man all women including the light skin ones and the non black women should avoid!

That is just heart breaking that poor baby. God Bless your family and rip your home now where you will always be loved. To the monster that did this may you rot in jail creep.

i am totally appalled at all of the people who are blaming the mother for this. she was trying to do the right thing by not withholding her son from his father like so many childish women do for even simpler reasons.there was no reason for her to believe that he would kill her son. why would that even cross her mind. this is the father’s fault and his alone. i’m sure she will live with the guilt the rest of her life anyway.

@ Richard, have you missed the hate towards black woman maybe!

@Richard

Why all the black man hate on this blog? Hate that nigga!!!! Isn’t that what we tell white people?

We aren’t all triflin or great fathers. And yes the system enslaves MEN!! Ask a white father who can’t see his kid because he can’t send and extra $200 this month.
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Child support is an entirely separate issue from child visitation. If you’re not being allowed to see your child, you can petition the court for visitation. It’s not contingent upon paying child support.

umm..I know I’m late to the party and I read these comments, but how did this get automatically turned into an issues of ‘black man’ and ‘black woman’ (i.e. racial). The way I see it, if you wat to stereotype along racial lines, I think you will find that african-american parents are far less like to murder their childrens statistically. This is not black thing, they many was obviously either disturbed or evil or both.

@Richard

The only time I know of court locking you up is if you pay nothing. Did he stop all payments entirely?

i am totally appalled at all of the people who are blaming the mother for this. she was trying to do the right thing by not withholding her son from his father like so many childish women do for even simpler reasons.there was no reason for her to believe that he would kill her son. why would that even cross her mind. this is the father’s fault and his alone. i’m sure she will live with the guilt the rest of her life anyway.
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@TRINNY

I’m not blaming the mother at all for the actions of this low life, the point i was trying to make is that women should be more careful in their selection of the type of men they have kids with..I’m sure this man was a loser from the start, that’s why I stressed birth control, I’m not blaming the mother.

@Stefany
@Passenger 57

I am anti choice. I am against abortion unless the mothers life is at stake, even if she is raped I dont think she should have an abortion. So no, the solution isnt abortion. Since women in the Western world chose men, they need to chose better men or stay childless. Thats it.

All this going back and forth is giving me a serious backache. Women need to not get pregnant and they have so many means to do that. Unless you start treating women as adults and making them responsible for when they get pregnant or not than they shouldnt be given that option.

All I hear from you women is, what about the men, what about the men? I doubt, if she wanted an abortion you would give two shits about a mans point of view. In fact you would say it wasnt the mans business because its her body and she makes the decision. Ok, it is her body, that means she needs to watch out for her own body.

I watch alot of TV. There is a new method of birth control that you insert in your body and it will protect against pregnany for 5 years. This will give black females enough time to get her education date, and when she is ready, get married and have that shit removed.

Do we have a deal?

it takes a man to raise a good man. Most of the time, men who are raised without their father don’t know how to be fathers themselves because they never have a role model! A mother can do all she can but raising a man is a man’s job!

@Mase

He paid. He even borrowed to pay in arreas but his payment was so high that he quickly got to the limit of 5k.

He paid over 5k in 6months to catch up but the judge locked him up because he didn’t pay 1000 a month but paid 2k then 3k.

She said he didn’t obey the order as it was written.

Fairfax County, VA

My cousin works for social service in Richmond, VA and said that even she thought they were pretty unfair to men.

Ok, I am out. My back is killing me. See you guys tonight. PST.

@Raquel26

“And not every one is the same. Just because I’m black doesnt mean that I am from the same creed. Feel me?”

This is true — Everyone who’s black isn’t “down.”

I think we have to be careful about the company we keep because your friends/associates are a reflection of what/who you represent.

@ Mase

She was doing her own thing with the money. Since a guy can’t come in her home and take him she uses the child as a bargaining chip. Trust me it’s done all the time.

Some women obey the law and some lie in court.

@Kigali

“even if she is raped I dont think she should have an abortion.”

So if I fall victim to a rapist, I should be forced to bear his child? How is a woman (or teenage girl, for that matter) who’s raped “responsible” for her pregnancy?

they need to chose better men or stay childless. Thats it.
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@KIGALI,

I agree, I made that point several times today, because whatever happens in a situation it always falls back on the woman, therefore the woman should be more careful in her selection..In a lot of cases you really have two unfit parents to being with the man and woman both.

@ Raquel 26
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To a certain degree I can understand what you are saying, and again to a certain degree I can agree with you on certain issues. I guess I should have been more specific. It makes me truly angry when all black women are generalized in one catergory/group. To say all black women are bad is wrong, and to say all are good again would be wrong. Stop the generalizations of black women, yes some are chickenheads and “hoodrats”, this is true yet sad. However, when one choses to lump all black women together that is when I take a stand.

@Syd:

For sure! My parents taught me that when I was younger. I didnt understand it at that time, but as I got older it made a whole lotta sense.

Like…I didnt hang with females who were promiscuous because I didnt want people to think that I was too. Same goes for anything else.

@Kigali:

This one I’ma have to disagree with you on. Being raped (in my opinion) gives the woman a right to have an abortion because I’m sure her goals werent to get pregnant from some ski-masked face and to have his child and love him just the same. This has always been a hard topic, though, I’ve said that if I was ever raped there was no way that I would have that child. I went to high school with a guy who was born from a rape and he ended up committing suicide. How would you tell your child this?

But then again….it doesnt fall too far from a man actually having consentual sex with a woman and then leaving her high an dry.

@ Kigal
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I hope you take your words to heart, please again don’t have any children. This would serve the world best.

@JK:

You have a point. I think people tend to lump people in categories because they really dont know. Which I can be guilty of. A woman who dates a man and he doges her….she then thinks and believes that all men arent shit. No……just the ones you keep picking arent shit.

But you are right though, because if a white person were to put us all in one category I’d be a little perturbed and stand up too.

@Kigali-

It’s called an IUD. It’s not a new method, it’s pretty old actually, been around a long time. And that is really only a method of birth control for women who have already had kids and are married or in a long-term monogamous relationship.

I’m glad Louisiana has the death penalty. Although being put on Death Row will probably keep him alive longer than just in a regular cell block where all the other inmates would f*ck a child-killer up.

I don’t blame the mother for wanting her child to have a relationship with his father- no matter what kind of “father figure” a kid has in his life, he’s always going to wonder why his real father left and why his real father doesn’t want to be around. I work with teens locked up in juvy in DC. Every single one of these kids’ dads left them or are barely ever around- and every single one still wishes he was around and wonders why he’s not. Even when these kids have never met their dad, even if they have another ‘father figure’ in their life..they are still, always, angry and sad about it. And their moms always try and facilitate a relationship if possible, because they know how much it hurts their kids.

With that said…the mom should have recognized that this dude was no good. And this dude obviously has some mental illness issues- she should have recognized that too.

@Raquel26

“Like…I didnt hang with females who were promiscuous because I didnt want people to think that I was too. Same goes for anything else.”

Exactamundo (or however you spell it, lol)

Same goes for gold-diggers, fight-starters, women with poor manners, slackers, etc., etc.

I’ve been witness to this child support drama up front. After my baby’s mother informed me she was pregnant I immediatly moved her in with me at my apartment. I then proceeded to find another job during the grave yard shift so I could work at building something with this female and our new baby. Well after the baby is born I started to become a whole bunch of new adjectives and the silly girl was wondering why I wouldn’t take her out. My only reply was I was tired from all the working and raising our child. Now from the time my son was born I made sure I had stroller, car seat, bunches of diapers and even bought the similac up unitl the time that I figured out she could of been getting it free the whole time. So she starts using adjectives to describe me calling me a weak nigga and a whole lot of other $hit I don’t care to repeat on Bossip. So I informed her she had to leave if she couldn’t respect me mind. But soon after I started getting the child support letters. So I quit my night job because it was back breaking and I was not going to let them stick me with an amount I wasn’t willing to pay. I continued to support my son emotinally, physically and financially. I was determined to make sure I continued to do that no matter which shenangians she pulled and I did. But I said this to say that not all black men are dead beat dad’s and some of us are willing to raise our children but a woman scorned is a woman scorned and if she can find away to hurt you in the long run just over you not wanting to have a relationship then that’s what she’ll do. I don’t have any felonies but the broad managed to get the police to my house on several occasions with stories of me abusing her. I don’t even hit women. All that said I WOULD NEVER KILL MY LIL ONE BEHIND ANY IGNORANT FEMALE. He’s all I got.

BLACK MEN CANT TAKE CARE OF CHILDREN SMH

I watch alot of TV. There is a new method of birth control that you insert in your body and it will protect against pregnany for 5 years. This will give black females enough time to get her education date, and when she is ready, get married and have that shit removed.

Do we have a deal?
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Daym why am i just reading this. Any “black woman” who tells other black women to use a form a birth control that stays in your body for five years just proved the fact that they are working for the eugenics campaign. Kigali are you sure you aren’t Margaret Sanger reincarnate? The world has been about violence and survival of the fittest for centuries. Life has never been about “get a job then procreate.” You are put here to procreate period. Ceasing to have children is not going to solve the problem by a long shot, as a matter of fact it would probably agitate the situation even more. Your chances of ending up in that 50-70% divorce statistic with screwed up kids is still high if you are waiting for marriage. Study your history and know who you are and where you came from so that you can respect yourself and teach your children the same thing and you will attract men on your level who deserve you, whom you have chosen, not the other way around. Knowing yourself is the key for anyone of any race to be successful. There is no doubt that Black Women and Men will rise to heir rightful place again. You kill me talking as if life isn’t about cycles, as if at one time the race roles were not reversed. There are various financially successful, famous, and rich people that come out of poverty and hardship. Kigali you need to be strung up for telling women to put some foreign product in their body for 5 years and put their chances of ever having kids at risk. You are officially on the hit list you angry african, and ive met some angry africans but your the angriest. No,no, no your skin may be darker but I dont think your black at all.

For most women living in single mother household and situations of poverty it would be more beneficial to form community networks with other women and men who are role models. It would be more beneficial to learn survival skills such as sewing, growing food and other domestic skills so that you can bring these resources to your extended family group. You don’t see Mexicans waiting to have kids and getting college educations when they come here. They have 10 million babies but they got 20 million people in their household performing their role. The women are babysitting and taking care of the home while the men and those who are old enough work to support the home.

This is truly a sad situation! But look @ this dude what would make a woman desire this cat any damn way? Ladies please choose your mates wisely because sleeping with the wrong cat could bring forth deadly situations such as this!

My prayers go out to the mother & her family! I 2 hope the beat then rape his punk azz in prison every single day!! Over some damn child support! Lazy, sorry azz chump!!

Kigali is a white male kkk member who has no life and is trying to pass off as a black women on Bossip a BLACK GOSSIP/NEWS SITE!

YOU ARE TRULY PATHETIC!!

@Purple,

I dont know what type of commune bullshit you are on but we live in a modern society and the traditional family works just fine. Poverty is feminized when single women have children. This has her children at a disadvantage.

Margret Sanger was an aboritonist. I am anti choice. I dont want women to get pregnant and then have an abortion. Thats very traumatic. How about she use birth control, do what she got to do, then she can marry and have children. That is such a sane idea, I dont even know why I have to defend it. So sad.

The black community’s problems are parallel to people of color all over this world. The circumstances may not be exactly the same but it is under the same umbrella none the less. Go to India, China, The Middle East, girl you will find murder, poverty, parent less children and all the other Ills that affect the Black woman you talk about. As a matter of fact I read something the other day that stated Indian children suffer more malnutrition than Ethiopians despite having the funds to take care of the problem.

@ Boo

Not to get into your business or anything, but did this woman show signs that she was a little vindictive while y’all were having unprotected sex in a “relationship”. Just like women are always told that “he probaby was a loser before he got you pregnant”, I usually find that men ignore obvious poor behavior in a woman for one oftwo reasons a)she’s really “pretty” and the man feels lucky to be with her or b) she is an easy lay and he is too lazy to deal with a woman of a higher standard.

So a lot of times these men cry “foul” when the woman shows her true colors and turns out to be a bitter, angry female. Then they want to not pay or pay only as much as they want to pay. But the truth is a lot of guys that claim the “nice guy” story didn’t really just get caught up, they were total aware of the type of woman they had a relationship with.

Did you happen to lead her to believe that there was more to your relationship than just raising a child together? Did you wine and dine her before the baby and felt that it was OK to stop doing that because you had to take a second job? And as far as her getting formula for free, that is not an automatic entitlement. Perhaps you should have encoraged her to breasfeed which is the BEST and cheapest way to nourish a child.

So, Kigali, you’re also saying that women who are raped should not be given the option of terminating their pregnancies?

@ Boo

Keep going strong for your son, brother-man, and you’re right – don’t let NO woman steer you from that.

I’m assuming that you were raised by either both parents or you had a STRONG woman to raise you and make sure she raised you up properly.

Keep your head up – your son will thank you for it in the long run.

Kigali,

Why do you keep proposing marriage for the typical black American woman? You must mean marriage to a non black man because black men do not want to get married to a black woman unless he needs her resources. So he marries her so she can feel good about herself when in reality she is better off SINGLE.

And your birth control advice has been heard before. Women across all cultures eventually get pregnant if they are with someone long enough. A lot of these women are not getting pregnant from a one night stand with a thug – they are in these dysfunctional ass relationships with DAMAGEd black men. Yes there are some of the Maury types who are whores but that is not what makes up the 68% of black children who are born to an unwed mother. Many of these women really do love these man and think that they can make them better by becoming a family. Black women are incredibly loyal, even to the current crop of useless black males.

No one is telling women of other races to shoot uptheir bodies with hormones. Birth control is not an automatic for not getting pregnant – condoms really are the BEST protection. And most people, regardless of race and class, do not use condom when they are in relationships. Perhaps these black men need to stop LYINGand acting like they are really care about these girls just to get some coochie. Perhaps these black men need to learn some damn IMPULSE control. Perhaps they need to find other ways to express their manhood that is not tied to their penises.

@Sydney,

I dont think rape victims should see abortion as an option. Why, after such a violent crime like rape would you then go and murder an innocent child? I think the government should develope a scheme where rape victims will be given financial assitance,educational services, job training, pre and post natal care, pyschological services, and housings in order to induce a rape victim to keep the pregnancy. If she doesnt want the child after birth, it should be given up for adoption.

Kigali acts like no other women or man on the planet are sleeping around and or making bad relationsip choices ecxept for BLACK WOMEN. SHE/HE HAS AN UNKNOWN CONTMEPT AND DEEP HATE FOR BLACK WOMEN , KNOWS NO OTHER WAY TO RELEASE THE PRESSURE EXCEPT FOR COMMING TO BOSSIP. OK,GUESS GETTING IT ALL OUT ON BOSSIP IS BETTER THAN YOU DONT GOING OUT TRYING TO SNIPER/KILL ANY OF US (BLACK WOMEN)

Kigali the traditional family is an extended family, I know I was correct in stating that your from Africa, as in from the continent type African so you know traditional family is extended family whether it is the common mother father child set up or mother brother grandma uncle sister cousin…you get my drift. Biological fathers are’t always in the home, Men go off to fight wars etc. The woman having to hold down the home in extreme times DID NOT start with this day and age even though we are living in extreme times. Im not going to argue semantics, western policies on legal marriage is semantics, period.

Don’t try to play coy, you already showed your true colors. Women should not be going to any doctor to be given these poison birth control medications. The main Part of that whole covert responsibility message your pretending to preach is about KNOWING THYSELF… sit down, buy a BBT thermometer and chart your daym cycle. Know when you are fertile so you can plan sex accordingly. If you are extremely fertile there are herbs that have been around since the beginning of time to curb fertility.
THAT is how you empower a Black woman to be responsible and love herself. Not by telling her to put her fertility in someone else’s hands. That is exactly where you start to loose your power especially as a woman. This may be a modern world but ain’t a muthaphuckin thing new that ain’t been done before. If a woman don’t know her body according to the moon she should be ashamed. Thats the type shyt we used to get taught. Old ways still home firm little girl.

Everything you don’t say shows just who you are to anybody that’s listening.

Somebody had to infiltrate the Panthers didn’t they. Your bullshyt tactics are nothing new.

How can you justify a black man kills his kid cause he is too damn selfish , yet you blame this on the mother! SMDH!!

@Kigali

“I dont think rape victims should see abortion as an option. Why, after such a violent crime like rape would you then go and murder an innocent child?”

You know, what you said was impossibly hateful even by your standards. It’s not about “seeing” abortion as an option — If you have suffered the tremendous trauma of sexual assault, why should be forced to be accountable for the result of a heinous crime?

Shani

I have to agree with some of the comments. I’m not male bashng but I have seen a large number of males complain to the courts that they are not working and can’t pay the minimum of $25.00 per month. That is sorry. I have seen some men incarcerated because of not making payments even when they are working. Some men have the mentality that they come first before their children.
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That’s it right there! A lot of these so-called men are not REAL MEN. They are nothing more than a manchild or Baby Boy (which I do blame a lot of that on their mama’s for not taking their titties out their mouths after they reach 18). They fail to realize that when a child comes along, IT AIN’T ABOUT THEM NO MORE! It’s about the child. Some men have a real problem with putting their kids or anything else before themselves. I find this to be a major problem with most of them.

its so so sad!!! that guy is crazy man. that cant be truth. a father killing his own child cause of child support? wtf

@Sydney,

She shouldnt which is why she should be giving handsome incentives to keep the child. She shouldnt have to raise the child if she doesnt want to. There are some people out there with big hearts who will take a child born out of that situation. Yes it is difficult, and unfortunately there aret enough women in this world with enough courage do to such a selfless act.

Shyt when the sun stop rising in the day and the moon stop coming out at night let me know….

@Kigali

“Yes it is difficult, and unfortunately there aret enough women in this world with enough courage do to such a selfless act.”

It’s not about being “selfless,” and until you have gone through the experience of being raped, you don’t know what it’s like at all. You’re judging women you know nothing about, and that’s not right.

@ Sydney & @ Kigali

There have been some reports of rape victims actuall having and keeping their babies.

But I have serious questions about that because what I would really like to know is: How is that woman treating that child? Is the woman taking out her anger on the child because she or he reminds the woman of the rape?

That can’t be healthy – for neither the Child OR the mother. I mean, you’ll have to be numb to NOT have any feelings about being raped and then to RAISE THE CHILD that was conceived from the rape?

That’s a whole nother ballgame right there. Me personally, I don’t think I could do it – but then again, who knows. That’s a very touchy subject – but at the same time, I have to commend the women who have because I’m sure they looked deep within themselves to ask God for forgiveness against that person who raped them.

That would be the ONLY way I could do it – with the help of God and the Church. I’m talking a WHOLE LOT OF HELP!

@MissBlaze43

Yes, you’re right, there are rape victims who choose not to terminate their pregnancies, but I can’t sit in judgment of those women who simply can’t make that choice, particularly after experiencing so emotionally and spiritually damaging as a sexual assault. That’s all I’m saying.

@Sydney,

You also have to consider that the vast majority of rapes are commited by men who are known to the victim. I understand how you have a hard time with what I am saying and I know it is a sensitive subject but you are imagining like these women are being raped by strnagers in dark allies. It is often times not like that at all. How about marital rape, or rape by a boyfriend?

@Sydney,

And I am not sitting in judgement of women who decide to not have the baby, but I am sitting in judgement of those who decide to keep the baby and my hat is off to them.

Kigali, I’m going to exit this conversation now.

Good night, all.

Kigali the matrix got you and you do not want to let go. How can you saw “We” live in a nuclear society. Yes it is a western concept but the BLACK COMMUNITY has been living in extended family archeotypes as far as I can go back into our history. What are you trying to get Black Women to do, Conform with the matrix or realize their identity so they can correct their mistakes. You CANT HAVE IT BOTH WAYS? Your rhetoric has me thoroughly confused, although im sure that is due to you being flat out confused your daym self.

Actually there is nothing Utopian or crazy about it. Every race of people has their fair share of eugenics practices and breakdowns in the family structure, even when the overall persona is of a married, united, front. And don’t try to make the economic argument because Black people not having the money is NOT the issue, the money is there.

Charting your cycle is very effective after you have learned your cycle. There are NO side effects to charting your cycle period unlike birth control. The worst side effect is getting pregnant which happens with birth control too, and common, i know several people with them “birth control” babies. And I highly doubt a woman who is knowledgeable enough and responsible enough to chart her cycle would be bringing any children into a phucked up environment. Just because you dont have a father dont mean your environment is phucked up, it means your starting at a disadvantage. Get it right. You are from Africa or somewhere real close.

@Kigali

I will add before I leave that rape is rape, whether it’s committed by a boyfriend, husband, or a complete stranger, the trauma is still immense.

girl you are an agent with that “charting isn’t safe”
putting your fertility in someone else’s hands is about the least “safe” thing you can do.
Now you are really starting to disappoint any thoughts I had of your really being intelligent beyond the smoke and mirrors…

western birth control is eugenics

Bye bye Syd, have a good one…i must retire soon also

@ Kigali

Many people can’t get with your level of thinking – but you’re right. Many of the black female elders do fill their daughter’s heads with these lies.

These are the same “pretty / cute” ones that Passenger 57 was speaking of. All that cutness and all that ass and titties can get you but so far.

Besides, I’ve been seeing a whole lot of brother’s gettin’ with them loud-mouthed, hoot-rat chicks. And I do mean the ones the the bullet wounds and money-stack tattoos.

Go figure.

Im remiss to understand how BC is better than what women have been naturally doing for ages by charting their fertility. girl you wrong. The daym BC is the problem.

Good night, Sydney.

there’s no words to say! The baby didn’t ask to be here so why hurt him! That’s so f…k up. how could you do a baby like that. May God have mercy upon his soul. Y didn’t he just kill his self. Please people pratice safe sex, because these are the things that happend you want to f….k, but when a child is conceived, now you want to bail out. i hope you get what you deserve in jail. don’t drop the soap, and if you do i hope you get it real hard….

@ PURRPLE

Thank you for bringing up hormonla birth control. And IUD’s are the worst, they pretty much perform mini abortions every month because they do not stop fertilization, just implantation. And there have been studies that show that women on hormonal birth control tend to make poor choices when it comes to relationships due to the abnormal levels of estrogen. That’s why these women are choosing such ppor mates – their brains are all screwed up.

I have been married for three years and have NEVER used hormonal birth control nor do I have any children. I chart my cycle and my husband and I use condoms when we are in the “danger” periods. Any other time we use nothing and I have never been pregnant.

These western birth control methods ARE eugenics and we will see the ramifications in the next 50 years. You can naturally avoid pregnancy without all that mess. I refuse to pump my body with that stuff.

Passenger 57

@ PURRPLE

Thank you for bringing up hormonla birth control. And IUD’s are the worst, they pretty much perform mini abortions every month because they do not stop fertilization, just implantation. And there have been studies that show that women on hormonal birth control tend to make poor choices when it comes to relationships due to the abnormal levels of estrogen. That’s why these women are choosing such ppor mates – their brains are all screwed up.

I have been married for three years and have NEVER used hormonal birth control nor do I have any children. I chart my cycle and my husband and I use condoms when we are in the “danger” periods. Any other time we use nothing and I have never been pregnant.

These western birth control methods ARE eugenics and we will see the ramifications in the next 50 years. You can naturally avoid pregnancy without all that mess. I refuse to pump my body with that stuff.
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Hats off and much much Respect and admiration to you Queen. That truly felt good to read your response. You didn’t have to use any fancy words, statistics or abrasive tactics for me to KNOW your head and heart are in the right place. It’s good to know there are other proactive Black women out there. Im glad to see you are in a committed relationship and proactively controlling your fertility without using harmful and dangerous eugenics methods. I salute you sis

And keep passing that message on Pass 57, that is the kind of life saving information our sistas need.

This is truly sick. A woman loses her 2 year old baby to a monster and she is to blame. Only a self serving, cold heartless person, can be so mean to turn this into a bitter battle and war of words over race and gender. The last time I checked, men and women of all races have committed crimes against their children over jealousy, money or fearful that their new spouse would not accept their children. Some people are not meant to be parents. They are unemotional and look at children as a burden.

This man has showed no interest in his son since birth. I think the mother should of not allowed her son an unsupervised vistit with this animal. A man who does not care for their children are pieces of shit. A mother shouldn’t let her child go with a stranger even if it is the biological father. They were not acquainted and she was not sure what his intentions were. Children are precious. You MUST put their safety first.

Don’t listen to some lame dude on the other line who has been absent for a number of years making promises he has no intention of keeping. This was a vicous plot and she should of had her guard up.

If he truly had a real interest in bonding with this child he would of asked the mother to allow him to visit at their home or a mutual place of agreement until he is familiar with his father. Not I’m picking him up and taking him to wherever. That is not what a responsible parent does. She ignored all of the signs, and that boy died at the hands of a beast. How sad.

Everybody knows I looovvee my ppl(BLACKS).. I am always asked “what could a black person do, to make you say fuk them” and this is the type of Black man that I am proud to turn on and reject…the type that won’t feed his own the type that will kill their own over child support…not at all a good thing…..

Clearly this guy has mental problems…it takes a lack of empathy for someone to do that and then spin a tale around it…
As for the mother i hope she doesnt blame herself to much, she must know that she did the right thing in trying to promote a relationship between her son and his father; its beyond unfortunate that he didnt deserve the chance she gave him…
Anywa God’s kingdom belongs to the children so he is in a better place now, might miss his mum but no one can hurt him again!

what a shame!!!

4k is worth killing your seed these days?!? i spent 4k on a vacation to aspen in december. trust me, i am FAR from balling. but 4k is nothing.

too bad this only perputuates the stereotypes of black males aroung the world.

hey True diva1.. yeah lady im on a late night run but i had to holla at you for my last time on Bossip! aint no runnning i just had it with the nonsense and accusations on here.. take care and i didnt get a chance to hola at nina knows and Brook .. can you get em love from aole anon says… i just cantdeal with the ignorance on here i dont play like that, but tell nina knows i said bye tell brooklynn thanks for the shout out .. she knew whats up as bad as i wanted to holla at her fine self! Keep up that pretty picture of your daughter and now i will join m daddy, braided, and the rest. Later!

Another one bites the dust with his ugly azz!!!! He’s going to get what he deserves as soon as he sets 1 of his rotten foot in the pokey!!! You better believe it!

Some of yall need to swap numbers and addresses or something with one another so that you can talk that way because this is NOT the platform for it!!! Just comment on the topic and keep it moving please this is NOT a chat room!!!!
SMDH!!

it is more than a shame that this child will never see manhood.

these people are making black people look bad, it is truly sad, SMH. hi 1TruDiva, HAPPY NEW YEAR’S

They found the childs’s body and his throat was slashed. The loser is on film telling reporters he is sorry for killing his baby. The mother was interviewed as well. She is tearful and said she wants him to die. She wants him to feel what her son felt.

Here is the link
http://www.wdsu.com/news/18417013/detail.html

He should fry!

Doesn’t even sound like the moms got any clue beforehand that her son would be better off without this guy in their lives.

$4,000 is not a lot of money. Really, this guy should get the electric chair, injection, or repeated kicks to the head.

What’s up Oshie

@Oshie
I used to mess around with this guy fron Louisiana when I was over seas and I was attracted to him and everything even though he was just an E-3 in the Air Force…but to make a long story short I wanted so badly at the time to settle down, but he kept saying he wanted to finish school (he was like 28 @ the time and I just didn’t want to wait on him cause I was in Georgia then) and he just didn’t seem to want to get married so I didn’t try to trap him or anything…I just let him go and although I tried I didn’t stay single for too long and when he came calling again I just didn’t answer…now I have a man (who actually looks like his older, shorter, balder brother) who goes out his way to be with me, wants to get married and welcomes children so U live and U learn. I’m not saying the other guy would have killed my baby, but he just wasn’t that into me the way I wanted him to be and I never lost any sleep…now if he had been a female…

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@Oshie
I used to mess around with this guy fron Louisiana when I was over seas and I was attracted to him and everything even though he was just an E-3 in the Air Force…but to make a long story short I wanted so badly at the time to settle down, but he kept saying he wanted to finish school (he was like 28 @ the time and I just didn’t want to wait on him cause I was in Georgia then) and he just didn’t seem to want to get married so I didn’t try to trap him or anything…I just let him go and although I tried I didn’t stay single for too long and when he came calling again I just didn’t answer…now I have a man (who actually looks like his older, shorter, balder brother) who goes out his way to be with me, wants to get married and welcomes children so U live and U learn. I’m not saying the other guy would have killed my baby, but he just wasn’t that into me the way I wanted him to be and I never lost any sleep…now if he had been a female…

They found the childs’ body and his throat was slashed. The loser is on film telling reporters he is sorry for killing his baby. The mother was interviewed as well. She is tearful and said she wants him to die. She wants him to feel what her son felt.

Here is the link
http://www.wdsu.com/news/18417013/detail.html

http://www.wdsu.com/news/18417013/detail.html

Here is the link where this beast is apologizing. The mother is interviewed as well. She says she wants him dead.

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Why didn’t his dumbass just kill himself, then he wouldn’t have to worry about paying child support or going to jail

BAN HANNIBAL! BAN HANNIBAL IP ADDRESS! BAN HIM! YOU DESERVE TO ROT IN HELL WITH YOU PARENTS!

That sick son of a bitch slit his son’s throat and put him in a bag. he tossed him away like a piece of trash.

I hope he gets the chair. The mother said she wants him to die. I tried to post the link of the video, but bossip won’t post it.

http://www.wdsu.com/news/18417013/detail.html

Doesn’t even sound like the moms got any clue beforehand that her son would be better off without this guy in their lives.

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I agree. The mother is 21 and this sack of shit is 22. She made a foolish error. She should of let him stay gone. Sometimes the child is better of never knowing a piece of shit like this.

Passenger 57

@ Marquis,

Do you really wanna know why so many black women have relationships with deadbeat, violent, wreckeless, dieases-infested black men??

Because those men are the ONLY men that will give the typical African American woman the time of day. Period. Stop rentedning that the average black woman (in terms of appearance, education, and social-economic status) has access to the so-called “good black men”.

Now explain to me why so many so-called “good black men” do not show the average black women any attention, please.

Because the truth is, MOST black men are not capable of providing for a family or protecting their mate and children. Yes, that includes the so-called “good ones’ who want to pretend like they have this great character when in reality they are just as color struck and racist as some whites. The REAL TRUTH is that for a lot of black women who are not “exceptional” are left to choose from the average black American male and we ALL KNOW what his profile looks like. And even for those of you average black men that don’t have a criminal record – I bet most of you who have kids, don’t have a viable source of employment with upward mobility, are not 100% diease free, haven’t been to a doctor since childhood, cannot control your sexual impulses, have a fetish for non-black or very light skinned women, etc.

So you are not a good man, you just may be good for a black man.

…And you’re not a sane woman…And you have the gall to accuse Kigali of racist generalizations regarding black women? LOL! I didn’t think it was possible, but your insanity (actually) surpsasses SMDH’s!!!!

So let me get this straight – These “AVERAGE LOOKING BLACK WOMEN” risks their health and financial futures by engaging in unprotected sex with thugs and losers because (by your skewed rationale) they can’t pull the average blue-collar black male, because they are color-struck? Does that even remotely sound logical? I guess in your world, the idea of choice and(or) mutual attraction only applies to you enlightened black females and not black men? If we act on an attraction with light-skinned sister or (God forbid) someone not black, we’re self-hating, shiftless, diseased, etc.? Sorry darling, but you sound like the ugly duckling who wasn’t asked to the H.S. Prom – GET OVER IT!

its so cold….

“The ACTUAL number of black American males that are gainfully employed, intelligent, can hold a decent conversation, emotionally sound, NON COLOR STRUCK, family oriented, protecting, non violent, somewhat attractive, and disease free is EXTRMELY SMALL.”

LOL! Spoken like a recovering “THUG-WORSHIPPING NIGGA HO”. What happen, Passenger? Couldn’t suppress that sweet tooth for than in and out of jail thug dick?

I saw this loser on tv when the reporter asked him why he killed his son. His lame answer was that he was stressed. Dude is nuts!!!

Passenger 57

“Black women PLEASE de-program yourselves. We have been hOODWINKED for generations and continue to be.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE wake up and smell the double standards. The violence that is going on in these black urban centers is really rivaling the Congo. Black women and children are being “murked” because black men have refused to take responsibility. They have been blaming everyone else and now that the “blame the white man” thing doesn’t work, they have turned their venom towayds US.

But the truth is, the more black women wake up, and ONLY guve attention to black men and men of other races who TRULY support us and our physical and emotional well being then the black man’s stock with non black women will PLUMMET!

That is what they are MOST afraid of. Us airing their dirty laundry poisons them to non black women who believe the myth that they are these amazing lovers – LOL! So once they start seeing black men as disease-infested baby makers who aren;t nearly as good in bed as they claim to be – those women want want them either.

We have a lot of power, black women, don’t waste it on these garbage men.”

Translation: You never got over having to go stag to your prom. Btw, what power? It sure hasn’t been all that effective when it comes to resisting the urge to let these losers fertize your eggs, huh?

This guy looks Kenyan. It’s another component that may be introduced to the discussion. African men who are new arrivals to the U.S. still have that mentality that women are second-class citizens and these men usually are resistant to U.S. laws imposing child support and alimony payments. Thoughts?

I can’t believe how many people are faulting the mother! DO ANY OF YOU HAVE ANY CLUE WHAT IT IS LIKE TO HAVE YOUR CHILD DIE? SHE DIDN’T THINK THIS ASSHOLE WOULD KILL HER BABY,SHE WAS TRYING TO HAVE HIM BE APART OF HER SONS LIFE HE MADE THE CHOICE TO KILL HIS OWN CHILD I’M SURE HE HAD THAT PLANNED OUT BEFORE HE CAME AND GOT THE BABY. STOP AND THINK BEFORE YOU START TO BLAME THIS LADY FOR TRYING TO DO THE RIGHT THING AND KEEP THE LINE OPEN FOR HER SON TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS FATHER.

@ Kigal
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You must be a loud, fat ass black woman. Since you keep describing all black women as such, the only sensible reasoning that I can come up with is either you are one or you were raised by one, hence the self-contempt. If you are truly even a black woman. Again, all I can say is what I have been saying, please do not have any kids and your opinions again have absolutely no value to conversation, being that they are ignorant in nature.

Hey yall. Thats wrong to fault the mother. Every time some shiggity go down with black people, its always blame it on the black woman nonsense.

This peace of trash deserves hard life in prison. Which I hope to god he gets. If dead beat fathers don’t want to pay child support, KEEP YOUR D@MN PEETA IN YOUR PANTS OR WEAR A RUBBER!!! Stop going around f*cking women you think looks good and impregnanting them and then you’ll be alright. Ladies, TAKE BIRTH CONTROLL or tell that n!gga to pull it out when he’s about to reach his Klymax. Sheeez! I’m sorry to hear about the little boy (God Rest His Little Soul) but this muthaf*cka needs to be severly punished for this. Please god make it happen.

there must be a condition for blaming everyone else except yourself for your own problems

when is it when a woman commits a crime does she blame a man and society agrees that it’s not her fault

we can never have a discussion on this blog about issues caused by black men because they refuse to take responsibility for their actions-hence the man who murdered his son

somehow we’ve changed the discussion to how it was the woman’s fault again and again….

just like jennifer hudson’s sister who most people on this site blamed her for the killings although “another black man” had committed the heinous crime

for me, no I don’t hate all black men I just don’t like niccas-if a black man doesn’t have his sh#t together I aint fugging with him-plain & simple all that being supportive and seeing his potential bullsh#t is out the window-because if I can pay my bills and take care of my kids, and have my own place to live, and a car-he should to no exceptions

and guess what, that’s my choice just like it’s black men choice to exclusively date “white women” to each their own I aint fugging with none of these trife niccas-black men have abandoned black women and their children long time ago-why continue to support someone who obviously don’t give a damn about you and yours

I pray they lock up all these-killers, rapists, dead beat dads etc. it will make our community a much better place any how.

I apologize in advance for the length of this post, but I came across a good commentary written by a brother, Jarvis DeBerry, in today’s Times-Picayune, timespicayune.com:

Child’s love answered with a knife

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

Jarvis DeBerry

I’ve often wondered what my father would have done if, like Abraham, he’d been asked to sacrifice his one and only son. According to Genesis, the Jewish patriarch was willing to kill his boy Isaac out of obedience to God, but God, being satisfied with the father’s willingness, called out to stop Abraham before he could plunge his knife.

I’ve imagined Melvin DeBerry pulling a Jacob and wrestling all night with God before even considering raising his hand against me. It doesn’t matter to me that he’s a deacon at his church. As his son, I’ve imagined him defiantly disobeying a divine order to kill me and me loving him all the more for that disobedience.

I know the arms-spread-wide love a boy has for his daddy, and because my father is who he is, I know the piggy-back kind of love a daddy has for his son. And then I read that Danny Platt claims he had “a whole bunch of reasons” for slitting the throat of his 2-year-old son Ja’Shawn Powell and allowing the toddler to bleed to death.
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“I’m sorry about killing my baby,” Platt reportedly said on his way to jail Saturday night where he was booked with first-degree murder. “I had a lot of pressure on me.” Then, he made his preposterous claim that his reasons for killing his child were numerous.

But apparently Platt’s reasons did not include the $4,000 in child support he owed the boy’s mother, Daniella Powell. “No, sir,” Platt answered when he was asked Saturday night if he killed the boy to avoid paying child support.

She was entitled to it, of course, but Powell says she wasn’t deliberately seeking it from her child’s father. She had applied for food stamps and for Medicaid for Ja’Shawn, and when she listed the father’s information, the state government rightfully sought payment from him. The state was deducting about $100 from each of Platt’s weekly paychecks. But we have Platt’s word that the forced deduction was not what Ja’Shawn’s murder was about.

Even if it wasn’t about paying back child support in particular, it’s clear that he was trying to get back at the baby’s mother in general. There is nothing Ja’Shawn could have done to his father to make Platt kill him.

In fact, to hear Ja’Shawn’s mother tell it, the boy adored his mostly absent daddy and, despite Platt’s infrequent visits, considered the man his protector and his enforcer. “I’m going to tell my daddy on you,” was Ja’Shawn’s threat to cousins who had crossed him. Such a threat indicates the faith Ja’Shawn had in Platt, a faith betrayed when his father knifed him to death.

I used to believe that I loved my father because he loved me. I used to think that I loved him not because he carried me around on his shoulders or let me sit on his lap to watch basketball games or showed me how to keep my center of gravity low to catch a hard-hit ground ball, but because he was there — day in, day out, no matter the circumstances. But Ja’Shawn’s gleeful reaction Friday night makes plain that a little boy will love a daddy who has done next to nothing for him.

Daniella Powell says Ja’Shawn said, “Oh, my daddy’s here” and ran to the door saying, “Daddy, daddy, daddy.”

“He was so happy,” she said.

And then the father raised his hand against him.

Because I am essentially an Isaac, the story of Abraham taking his son up a mountain to kill him has always made me shudder. But I understand that the thing that makes me uncomfortable is the same thing that gives the story such power. Killing his son (or his daughter, for that matter) is something a father just does not do.

Yet, Platt said, “I had a whole bunch of reasons.”

Every one of them undoubtedly evil.

Women need to be very careful who they have babies with….

I think the solution is black women and black men should cease procreating with each other. As a race, we are damaged beyond repair. Think about it, we’re the only race in this country without a true organic culture or value system. We can’t be repatriated in Africa, because our blood has been so diluted through two centuries of misegenation, that maybe it would be for the best if we mate outside of our bastard race and hopefully in a few generations we will breed ourselves out of existence. It’ll be for the best.

SHIT MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH BUT THE MAN IS HUMAN THOUGH…WE CAN’T JUDGE HIM

HE’LL HAVE TO ANSWER TO HIS MAKER FOR THAT SHIT

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What is this world really coming to??? It is sooo sad to hear what is becoming the “norm.” People aren’t thinking twice about taking a life, much less a young life. What a demond. I actually feel sorry for his soul:(

I agree awwwshadaapp!!!! African men who are new arrivals to the US are resistant to the fact that women are not 2nd class citizens. They feel it is ok to rape women if they feel rejected. I know two young african-american women who encountered this from two different african men.

@DARLING NIKKI:

Hey ignorant-you off to a Klan meeting now?You are completely disgusting and a racist.

two words. Punk Bitch.

he was on some other shit, he didnt have to pay if it was like THAT, DAMN, you killed your son over your warped azz way of thinking, he was on some real other shit, but this is nothing new, it is just the beginning, this type of shit has always been done and will be done til the end!!!He could have just quit working or went to jail, but he thought it best to pick the baby up and take him off and kill him.
Satan.